Wow. What a horrible dad. As a parent, why would you do that to your kid? He published a book at 14, that's incredible. You should be proud and encouraging your children. He's definitely jealous and that is so disgusting.
The second I read "I was so proud, I wrote around his age and could have been published" I knew we were in for it. That poor child, being undermined to assuage his parents' ego. Just disgusting.
When I was first dating my husband, (45 years ago!) he had just moved into a new apartment and was busy getting it organised and furnished. One day, he handed me some money and asked me to go for shopping for - and I quote: “whatever you think a women might be glad to find in a bathroom if she was a guest and didn’t have her own period stuff with her”. I think that was the day I decided he was the one for me.
If this man is that creeped out by a pad, let alone a tampon or any other product, maybe he shouldn’t invite any woman over ever. Also, pads aren’t only for blood, some woman use it for pee. Honestly she should be thanked, because they make good compact devices for toilet paper. And your husband is a good person.
@LA P I love this! Thank you for sharing such a lovely story with us. Seems he was trying to impress you, maybe thinking of ways to show you that you were/are the one for him too. Congratulations on 45 years & many, many more filled with countless beautiful moments to come.
THERE’S NO WAY HE’S SERIOUS?? No freaking WAY did he leave bad reviews on his son’s book without even reading it…that’s absolutely crazy 😭 In the words of Charlotte, how are you not EMBARRASSED 🗣️
I know right!! I'm writing a book at around the son's age, and I can't ever imagine my parents doing that. 😭😭😭 My mom and dad are always telling me how much they love the book--because they ACTUALLY READ IT That poor kid 😭😭😭
My thoughts exactly!! How dare a parent think that this is "good " for you're child!! They obviously weren't interested enough to bother reading it. How? HOW! CAN A PARENT BEHAVE LIKE THIS!! Shame on them!! Sounds like daddy is envious of his own son's ability to commit to his dream of being a writer.
Right, too bad the 14yr olds own mother didn't fully support him. I know she told her husband he was going a little too far, um, no, the father was way out of line!! I would be thinking in terms of divorce, what he did to his son, disgusting, and he hadn't even read the book. Completely jealous and insecure of his own child. That boy needs to be with someone who will love and nurture him. Writing a full book at 14yrs old is amazing, period! Just in case these comments find their way to this teenager. Way to go 14yr old, keep your head held high, you rock!!!!
My Dad once complained about a feminine product not being properly "wrapped' with toilet paper in the bathroom trash. My stepmom used a pad and some nail polish remover to take off her fushia nail polish the next day and stuck it on his steering wheel as a "that's what you get' kind of joke, during lunch. He worked construction. His buddies had a good laugh. This was early 1990's. My stepmom is an OG Queen!
If you were born in the 90s you’ve literally heard the story about 30,000 times it was a part of those email chain letters about that lady shoving shrimp in the curtain rods to get the house back after he cheated Jesus fucking Christ
@@Z-Ack - So sorry for your loss! Bless you for being okay with a perfectly normal bodily function. As a woman I can tell you that we’re made to feel ashamed and dirty for something we can’t help and are stuck with for the majority of our lives. On top of that we have to deal with the monthly hormonal upheaval, the bloating, discomfort, the painful cramps, the smell, the stickiness, the fear of leaking, the feeling of a literal flood gushing out of our bodies every so often at the slightest sneeze or movement some times. Periods are no fun at all. There’s an internet craze going around of men trying period simulators. Women going first and going “Meh, I feel it but hey” and men doubling over and screaming at the exact same setting. Always cracks me up because those men only get the tip of the iceberg and the most publicised part. Reading about a man who didn’t mind about the graphic part is wonderful. I hope you meet a wonderful lady soon and that you both make one another deliriously happy for many, many years to come. When you’re ready and healed from your loss. You’ve got this, and with your outlook on this one female bodily function, you’re off to a very good start.
Related to the period story - one time in college I went on a weekend trip with my boyfriend and some other friends (all male). On the way back, I got my period and they asked why I was in such a bad mood. I told them the truth and they said they would’ve preferred not to know. Like wtf, you asked. They all had sisters too. I guess some guys like to pretend it doesn’t exist
Side note: It’s not just normal but encouraged for young adults to have multiple things they want to pursue and to become uninterested with them quickly. It’s them exploring interests and figuring out what they want in life.
My dad could never understood that he also keept forcing his hobbies on me. Now that I'm an adult I'm a big disappointment because I'm not the daughter he wanted. He wanted a daughter that was into cars and could fix cars by herself.
Yes. Exactly right! This is called growing and learning. (Would dad prefer the son NOT show interest in anything?) This kid wants to try new stuff. Part of that process is learning which stuff he does not want to continue pursuing. Lesson learned.
My mom was kinda mad at me that I stopped playing violin. It just didn't interest me anymore. I started taking a liking to singing. Once, she even told me, "You can't sing the way you play violin." Years after dropping violin, pretty much anytime I was home, she'd want me to sing for church.
I just told my 22yo son about the period story. He said "the wife should have handed the used pad to her husband and said 'here can you do something with this?'" 🤣🤣🤣 I raised him right!
There are ways of being discreet with a used pad. I am a woman and don't want them left around. My roomate used to leave them just staring at you in the trash bin! Yuck
Agree. The only lesson that they'll be learning from this behavior is that it's best to have as little contact with you as possible to the fullest extent they are able as they start to have control over that. I only wish I had realized sooner how much my mom's attempts to drag me down were about her own insecurities and not about my actual aptitude for the things I tried or the extent to which I was "embarrassing myself."
As a published author who struggles with getting reviewers...that first story gives me PTSD. My parents threw all my work out when I was that age (I'm ancient, so I wrote stuff out by hand in notebooks). Put it in the literal trash at the curb to discourage me because they wanted me to pursue a career, a job, something that would pay my bills when I grew up. I get it...and I have a day job now that pays the bills. But my passion and my true love is writing...I now have 20 books out there both traditionally published by indie publishers and self-published because I get impatient waiting on schedules (type A personality). The idea that a parent would go on a pubic forum and trash your dream? That just horrifies me...I'm stunned that this "dad" had the balls to get on another public forum and ask if anyone approved of his actions. WTH? No. No one approves of this emotional and mental abuse.
Yeah and all because “it was going to his head.” First of. He is more then allowed to take pride in that. HE PUBLISHED A BOOK AT 14!!! That’s really impressive no matter the quality. He is allowed to brag just a little. Second: again he is 14, and 14 year olds aren’t the most mature people. Therefor the father should have done basic parenting and remind his son to not act like a jerk, if it even was that bad. Third: the internet would have done that anyway. Why did he feel the need to step in and do it first. If people read it, some people won’t like it, and some of those people will leave bad reviews. Why does a parent need to do it themselves?! Seriously this guy just pissed me off.
i’ve been rewriting my books that my parents and teachers threw away and wish i could publish them…. using my writing as my job is only a dream that’ll probably never come true tho… no publisher seems to like what I’ve written so far…
Are your books published under Sandy Lender? I LOVE to read! I read at least 2-3 books a week most weeks and I love every genre I’ve tried so far so I would LOVE to read your stuff and leave you some honest reviews. I’m sorry your parents were like that. My parents were the same but not about writing in particular although that was one of many. I totally get how much that hurts. It didn’t matter what it was, if it didn’t have to do with their religion and growing up to be a good wife and mother then the answer was no. But also, you can’t even speak to a boy let alone date one, but get married asap after turning 18 and fill the earth with your babies! They were horrible people then and they are still horrible people now. I think I actually hate them more now that I am an adult and have kids of my own with dreams of their own and I can’t imagine crushing any of their dreams from silly things when they were little up to my eldest just moving 2.5 hours away to finally have her dream job that she has been working her way up to since she was a teen. She is the head chef at an exclusive golf resort. She just turned 26 and I’m so proud of her! 😍 My parents would also do what this dad did and make me feel like I was never good enough. They didn’t have the internet to hide behind so they just said that shit to my face. My youngest is 15 now and I want to finally start a career for me now that I’ve raised all 6 of my kids to be amazing little humans, if I may say so myself, but no matter what I start looking into I never have the guts to actually pull the trigger on it because I hear their voices in the back of my head telling me what a failure I’ll be and that just because the kids are almost all grownup doesn’t mean anything because I still need to “take care of my husband and his needs” and I can’t be doing that if I’m going to school or working at a job. I still need to be home cooking and cleaning and “serving my husband” which is all rich coming from my mother who treats my dad like a slave and a bank. She never cooks, hasn’t in 30+ years, never cleans, she stopped that when the kids were old enough to do it for her, and sleeps in the living room in a recliner so I doubt she’s “serving her husbands needs” either. But I still can’t kick all those nasty comments about how stupid I am and how much of a failure I am or will be and what I should be doing instead. So, I’d just like to say I’m proud of you for at least giving it a shot! So it’s not paying the bills, YET, who cares?! You are writing and you’re getting published and you are Amazing! Give it time and you’ll just get better and better and eventually it’ll pay all the bills. Either way you didn’t let your parents or your teachers hold you back from reaching for your goal and that takes some serious strength! I don’t know you obviously, but I am SO proud of you! Keep up the amazing work and I will work on finding your books to read/review and try to get over my own parental issues while I’m at it. 🧡
“Didn’t realize you could take your frustration of not making it out on your own children…” It is good when this surprises people. There are a lot of people this fact does not surprise.
@@SingingSealRiana Yep, usually dads with athletics and being bitter their kid is better at a sport than they were, at least that's what it was in my case.
Yup. It's a clear privilege not to know that parents can be very destructive of their children... But I'm glad to hear Charlotte had pretty great parents.
Love how that first dad said he couldn’t write cos they “had early pregnancy and focused on their kid” and now he can’t even focus on reading the kids book.
wow, the period thing really hit home for me... my dad would throw a fit when I emptied my bathroom's trash because of the smell of the pad. So then I would throw it in the other trash can in the kitchen, but he would ALSO throw a fit because it was disgusting. A friend of mine, to whom I vented one day, said, wtf does he want you to do with it, swallow it?! I felt SO humiliated... I remember when I had really bad stomach cramps and my mom heated some water for a warm pad and after I finished using it (ON MY BELLY), I left it on the kitchen counter... He threw a fit, using a degrading word about my body, saying he didn't know where I put it and I left it there. This time I shouted back, telling him to respect me, until he started to go on about me moving out, so I shut myself in my room. Sorry for venting.
My mother had several articles published in newspapers decades ago. I developed excellent writing skills in college and wrote many research papers. I had several items published as well. I showed my mother quite a few pieces because she’s my mom and I wanted her to be proud of me. Not only was she not happy about my work but she told me my writing does not make me important. This has been decades ago but about a year ago my mother asked me why I no longer write.
Parents can be insecure bullies too. Some either want to live vicariously through their children doing something they did not have the talent to do, or if they have the talent, they don't want the competition. You might want to have that talk and start writing again if that is what you want to do.
Wow! That’s AWFUL! I am so very sorry that your mom wasn’t supportive and was a jealous bully and dream crusher instead! The nerve of her to say that to anyone, but especially her own child! How horrible! 😤 I hope if you do want to write again that you do in spite of your mom’s awful, deliberately tear you down comments. Maybe you can write what you’re interested in writing and not share it with her since you aren’t going to get positive, encouraging comments back? That’s a sucky situation to be in, but I really and truly hope you don’t stop writing forever because of your mom! If you’re still passionate about writing, then please do consider taking writing back up! Whether your mom is behind you or not, you can still do something that makes YOU happy! Obviously the pieces you had published were seen as something valuable to those places that published them or they wouldn’t have published your articles in the first place, and how dare your mom let her own jealousy lead her to crushing your excitement over getting your first articles published! I don’t know you if you still WANT to write or not, but if you do want to write again, I hope you do! 👩🏻💻👩🏻💻
As an indie author, I felt like screaming at that dad in the first post. Like, your kid put all that time and energy into a book, completing something that most people never manage to finish, and published it. That is a piece of him out there for the world to see. It is his art. He sounded pretty level-headed, taking neutral reviews and actually examining them, accepting that not everyone would be thrilled with his story. And you know the dad is jealous because he caveats his son writing a book with, "I would have been published, but we got pregnant." Just... I really hope the kid saw the post and realized that his dad is the worst human in his life.
Same the author in me cringed! It's hard enough to get legitimate reviews but to get fake mean ones from his own father to ego check him.....I couldn't have wrote a dweeb like him.
@@paveladamek3502 I believe he said he "dabbled in writing too at that age..." So, definitely implied he was young-ish too. & He made it sound like he CHOSE not to get published. He said something like "I could've been published too if I'd wanted to." DEFINITELY sounds like he doesn't want his son to be good or succeed where he couldn't. Which is just BS! We should ALWAYS want our children to be better than us!
The dad literally bragged about how he could have been published himself when younger (but he never was so I don’t see why he is trying to brag about that)
Yeah I grew up in a household where periods were supposed to be shameful and gross. Any used feminine item had to be tightly wrapped in lots of tp before disposal so you couldn't tell. My mother was out of town during my first period and my dad made me go into the store by myself lol. My husband has helped me deconstruct a lot of that shame actually.
i grew up like that too… my first period i didn’t know what was happening to me and i got screamed at for making a mess of the bathroom…. still can’t understand why i wasn’t told about what a period was before then just because my parents said we were “christian “…ugh..
What a wonderful husband and man! It's hard to find a man who understands women's anatomy, first off, then to also have that man show an understanding of periods enough to not be "disgusted" by talking about them or seeing period products. Then it is even more tough to find a man who understands the previous things to the extent where he is able to help/teach a woman that it isn't shameful or embarrassing. This comment has brought me happiness and somewhat restored my faith in humanity.
@@moniquebell8191 its NOT HARD just have standards and don't treat men like they are some halfproduct without brain... Majority of mem do understand what peroid is and how it works...
I am LIVID hearing what the father of the first story did! Cyber-bullying and constructive criticism are two entirely different things and this man is literally acting like a jealous brat! I’ve always loved writing stories so this hit close to heart, especially when my parents are so supportive of it (although we do disagree sometimes on the genres I “should write”). Hopefully the kid gets over the trauma and he keeps writing despite his father’s bullying!!!
After I'd had my second baby, emergency c-section, my period was so heavy I couldn't leave the house and I was going through maternity pads at an insane rate. My husband saw I was running low and said "I'll go get them so you don't run out". There was nothing else on the shopping list... just pads. So here he was, standing in the feminine aisle just staring at all these choices, and it was so overwhelming for him he forgot which ones I preferred. So he just stood there. A young couple was nearby (he said they were trying to decide on condoms; arguing over size haha). He overheard the young lady say "oh my god how embarrassing. His wife must be horrible to make him come here just for those". The guy said "I'd never do that for any girl". My hubby came home so humiliated and said "I'm never doing that again, we'll just have to make sure extra is included in the shopping so they're hidden". I was so sad that he'd been made to feel that way and I could see he was upset by it. The next week, he's like, f*ck them, you're my wife, you need me and I feel sorry that their relationship isn't one that they would help each other out in such a personal way if needed. He's been buying my pads with a "no f*cks are given" attitude, if I need them, without question for nearly 20 years. I pray for menopause every. friggin. month.! 😅
I find it amusing that those idiots had no problem discussing condoms in the store over 20 years ago, but were freaked out about a man buying pads for his wife who just birthed their child. I hope they kept using condoms and never reproduced.
YES MENOPAUSE!! I was more than happy when it - the Curse, Aunt Flo, Red Tide, Girl Flu, Ole Rag time, Red wings are back, Red wave, PMSing, Witchy Week, time of the month, Crampathon, FINALLY decided it was coming to an end. So very nice not having to deal with related problems anymore!! Guys that are unable to understand or even TRY to learn more about a Females natural monthly cycles are ones more likely NOT to appreciate , listen, or communicate politely with a woman.
Wait for real? I've never actually heard of anyone having TSS. A lot of women think it isn't real. I would love to know what the symptoms were. How did she know something was wrong?
TSS? oh goodness, that can be scary. so glad you're understanding. it should be the bare minimum, most know of male bodily functions so why do most not know of female bodily functions?
@@thamertanner5448 in answer My wife was throwing up, pooping and peeing all at once with a raging fever and her insides where on fire, crying in crazy ass pain barely able to move. Had to pick her up and carry her to car. I drove like mad to hospital where they took her in the back and started giving her meds in a rush. Turns out to be TSS she changed her tampon to natural chemical free ones and never had to live though it again. It scared the hell out of me.
@@SLAYQR Thank you for responding. Your wife is very lucky to have you. I've had ex's completely ignore me during medical emergencies and it's the worst and scariest feeling in the world.
When I’m any relationship, I have always acknowledged that woman is going to have periods and other biological situations going on. So we need to be real men and take care of the women we love. I buy tampons and pads for my wife and will do anything she needs, I feel zero embarrassment over anything that happens, that’s part of the relationship. I have a young daughter and when she starts having a period, I will never shame her by making her put a pad or tampon in a bag and in the trash, absolutely bad parenting. I collect all the trash in the house before putting the garbage out and I am a big enough man mentally to take care of business and my ladies (daughter included) regardless of any problems they have going on….
As a woman, I always wrapped mine in toilet paper before putting them in the trash; I don’t want to look at that mess either. 😊 But there’s no way to understand someone not wanting them in the trash at all. What would he propose she do with them?
You’re a decent person 😊 you can ask her to wrap it in tissue, though. Periods aren’t shameful, but it’s cleaner to wrap it up. My mom taught me to wrap any used products up. It doesn’t matter if you can see the tail end of some thing, just preferably no blood.
As a guy with a mother and sisters, I’ve literally never understood dudes who freak out about tampons or pads. It’s not a big deal. I remember I asked one girl why she couldn’t wear a tampon all the time, I was young & ignorant, but her bf made a huge deal about me enquiring about periods. Fragile masculinity much?! I don’t get why so many guys think periods are Ebola or something. It’s ridiculous.
I'd bet this guy is squeemish about seeing blood. In a house of mostly females, my father did ask that we roll up the pads and wrap them in a tissue before tossing them in the trash can. Not so obvious that way, and less odor too. No biggie as far as I can see either way.
😂 did you really have to say, "as a guy with a mother and sisters", though It's not like these guys who make menstruation a big deal don't have mothers and/or sisters
@@georgenkansah659 I was making a point obviously. Considering I have many female family members and dudes I know do not, it makes sense. I apologize you can’t understand that. Thanks.
My daughter was very accomplished at a young age, and had a TedTalk at age 14. I cannot IMAGINE how much it would have hurt her confidence if I or her dad had done something like this to her. She's grown up to attend college and (Ivy League) Grad school, and is now a history teacher. So proud of her accomplishments.
I have four daughters, and each excelled in different areas. My youngest got picked up by Circ de Soleil training camp. It was absolutely amazing what she could do on the ropes and silk. She was six years old. I was seriously impressed with all my kids. Why would someone do that to their child.
MAN! As someone who loves writing and hopes to publish a book someday, that first story broke my heart - what if the teen had a Dickens level novel under his belt? That father is so bitter and jealous, I hope that young writer gets all the support from his mum instead
The mother isn’t any better by allowing it. This kid needs to find out what kind of parents he has, so when he makes it he knows better than to take care of them some day.
As a mom to a 14yr old boy... The very minute my husband (his dad) came to me and said he was doing this I would have stopped him dead in his tracks. The crappy"reviews" wouldn't have happened because I would have first tried to get my husband/his father to realize that is a horrible idea, he's basically cyber bullying his own son, and maybe he needs to look internally and see why he feels jealous of his own son. If that didn't work well... WW3 would have happened in our marriage/household... That little boy could have been the next-generation greatest author, but probably not now because his dad has legit made him question the child's own ability... Just sickening.
So, the fact that his son is proud to have his work published and is riding on cloud nine, means that his ego is suddenly overinflated🙄? Geez! I recently got a $60.00 tip from a guest of ours in the restaurant I work and it was so touching, unexpected and shocking that I told some of my co-workers. It wasn't to rub it into my co-workers' faces BUT the unexpectedly touching gesture truly touched my heart and I couldn't believe it. To this day, I still get warm.fuzzies when thinking about another's kindness. In sum, that is how the son must have been feeling.
That woman now has the perfect excuse to not have to hang out with her brother in law - who she doesn't get along with in the first place. "Babe we're going to bro for dinner" "Sorry, can't... Period"
You know she carried that pad out and threw it outside in the dumpster, that brother would have called her a savage or something terrible. I think he low key hates her.
Like was she supposed to bring i out to where her husband and husband's brother was and hold onto it in their presence till she could put it in a bin not in the brother's home? Like what a wild idea.
That dad’s got issues. He sounds like like the type where nothing the kid does is ever going to be good enough. It’s not tough love because he didn’t even read the book-he’s just bullying his own kid for no reason.
Truly! When I was that age and my mother read stuff that I wrote, she would tell me that I -should- have them published. I entered some competitions and did pretty well. Even with this all this support from my mother and some competition wins under my belt, I still didn't have the confidence to try to actually publish anything. That this kid stuck with it, wrote a book, asked to have it professionally edited, and the chutzpah to self-publish it is such a credit to his character and passion. It almost doesn't even matter how good it actually is. Adults publish garbage all the time (but also, what if it is IS really good?). That dad is truly, positively, absolutely the a-hole. The fact that he never even bothered to read it says everything. Wouldn't that be the first thing you do as a parent when a kid brings you a finished book they wrote? But then all the literal cyber-bullying? Complete garbage human.
The 14 year old writer hit hard for me, I wrote SO much when I was in middle school and finished a book myself and almost another one that I was really proud of, showed it to my family and was told not to waste time or effort on something that would leave me "living in a box on the street". Stopped writing at 15 and I've never picked it back up again. I'd be lying if I said I didn't blame my mother and her family for killing any ounce of creativity I had. Maybe I'd actually finish something for once if I hadn't been told I'd never succeed :/
Though not specifically about writing, my mom basically tore me down when I said I would like to be a teacher some day. I was like in the second grade and we had some kind of career day in school. I told her in the car ride home that I might like to be a teacher some day. First thing she said was “Good luck. Teachers barely make any money” basically shooting me down and saying a career isn’t worth anything if it’s not making tons of money. She discouraged me with that one line so much that I never even considered that career path again. I don’t even make a ton of money now but her words cut me deep
I used to write poetry since I was 9 or 10 years old. At first my family thought it's a cute hobby, like how you'll consider a pet doing tricks. When I wanted to pursue literature in college, that's when the negative reactions began. I had my poems published as part of anthologies here and there, wrote on Wattpad, and was doing well for myself as this was the only way I could cope with shit in my life. But the second they found that I was serious about poetry, it went downhill. Said it wouldn't pay the bills (which is fair) and discouraged it even as a hobby. I was pressured to write about God and traditional family values instead of what I focused on (which was mental health, my trauma, and social issues). Little comments here and there kept me feeling so down, I barely write anything anymore. I truly never wish this upon anyone. The moment your passion, something you value so much beyond yourself is viewed as "unimportant"- it feels like shit
Start writing again! Do it for yourself and not for them. Publish them but keep 🤫 so they don’t sabotage you. Once you grow big enough, show them how you succeeded…no thanks to them.
Not long after me and my boyfriend got together there was an incident where I bleed through my pad and on to the covers.. he Changed the sheets while I showered❤️ we have been together for 2.5 years now❤️
When I was 12/13 I participated in a writing contest. There was an event where the winners would be announced and my mom didn’t want me to go because she wanted to visit the grandparents that day and I overheard her telling my dad „it’s not like she’s going to win a prize anyway“. My dad went with me and I won first place out of hundreds of kids. My mom was very sorry and embarrassed. 😅
I wrote my first draft at 15, and my parents were so supportive. But I didn’t publish right away, and came back to it after a friend in college read it and said “it’s good for 15, but I bet you can make it better now”. When I first finished the draft, my dad emailed Brandon Sanderson (one of my favorite authors and a stand-up guy) asking about publishing. This is before Brandon really blew up, so he replied the next day with great advice: she’s 15, and it’s great that she has talent and passion, but like any tradesman has to go through an apprenticeship, being a writer takes years of practice and study. Over a decade (and a bachelor’s degree) later, and I’m working on my fourth draft of that novel.
I also loved writing when I was younger and wrote several (albeit terribly written) stories. I used to give drafts to friends and teachers for advice since my family wouldn't read it at the time. When I got older, I finished another book that my mom liked but I found flaws with it and didn't publish. Now one of my goals in 2023 is to finish writing one of my book and publish it. I don't want to become famous with it or whatever, I just want to have something I've written out there to fulfill that childhood dream of publishing a book.
I wish we knew his name I would buy his book read it and give him a great review because if he was able to ride an entire book with a parent like that on his back no matter how bad it is it deserves positivity.
This was pure envy. He made that lame comment about, "I could have been a successful writer, but my wife got pregnant!". He's basically blaming his son, before he was born for stopping him from writing. What bull crap! How could he NOT read his work? My son has schizophrenia, and writing helps him express his frustrations with the often cruel activity of his brain. I read his writing, even though it breaks my heart. It has helped me empathize with his struggles to cope with voices screaming at him. He's on medication now, and I am happy to see his writing is more coherent and often extremely observant of the world around us. He notices things I don't. I have encouraged him to keep his writing in folders, and maybe write a book about his life and experiences. If he does, I'll be that mom making fake accounts praising it for being "brilliantly insightful, a window into the mind of schizophrenia.".
@@LazyIRanch I would buy your son's book. My brother also has schizophrenia, well controlled by meds. I'm glad your son is doing better. You sound like a great parent.
I’m so grateful I raised my boys to understand periods. My two older buys keep pads and tampons in their bathroom for friends who may need them unexpectedly.
The first story really pained me... When I was around nine years old, I started getting interested in writing because of how all the books I was reading inspired me. I showed my parents a short story I'd written and after my birth giver read it, she told me was it terrible and that I should give up writing. She also mentioned how she could write so much better than me. She said this to a 3rd grader, and I cried for so long about it. I tore it up and didn't start writing again for five, almost six years. Now, at 25, I still have problems seeing my writing as good, even if the people I share it with say it is. Parents should encourage and nuture their kids' interests, not tear them down. It effects them so much.
@@poke-talia268 I write fantasy fiction short stories and currently I don't have them posted anywhere. I'm just.. a little afraid I guess to put them on like, Wattpad and getting terrible reviews
If others like your written work go ahead and get some of your stories out there I know the stigma from your mum may linger (she seems unsupportive which is sad in itself) but you have a talent and I guess it's a dream of yours too, I say go for it it's your life so live it. Sometimes we fail but always look forwards, we learn each and every day. Best of luck although I don't think you need much luck, believe in yourself.
You could look at r/writingprompts or other writer groups to post stories on, it may help. I've never seen anyone get dumped on in that subreddit because everyone understands it's writing exercises. If you want constructive criticism there's groups for that too
The monster who gave birth to me did the same thing for years. I was obsessed with books and writing but she’d always try to make me feel insecure, worthless and weird for it.
So I got a couple HILARIOUS period stories: 1. When I first started having a period, I was still learning how to tell when I was on it. I have an insanely heavy, long ass periods that last for two weeks (even when I first started). I was at my dad's and his brother was there. I was again still not familiar with my new functions, felt like I had to go to the bathroom, saw I had blood everywhere and came back out to see blood on my dad's couch. I was embarrassed and started crying cause I didn't want my dad to be mad at me. He wasn't, but my uncle turned me (mind you he was well in his thirties and i was freaking 12) and said "can't you control it??" 2. When my dad was married to his ex wife, I had a step sis at the time. There are two bathrooms in this apartment they had together, theirs and the "guest" which my step sis and me used. Okay we get periods yeah? So apparently it was disgusting and not fair to guests to have to see/"smell" our used pads/Tampons and the freaking ex-wife who is also someone that had a period tells us point blank, "Okay girls, since that is the guest bathroom, you shouldn't put your pads in the trash. If you have a used pad, etc, please put in the trash bin in the kitchen" 🙃🙃 So yeah no I can't control it (as much as I would love to, you know NOT HAVE ONE) and you want me to put my USED bloody Tampons in the KITCHEN trash?? Oh yes, let me do my monthly walks of shame for having a body that bleeds once a month. I did not consent to being born to deal with this shit lmao Also screw that dad and husband- the are both TA.
My dad gave me a speech a few times about how rude it is to put my used, wrapped tampons in the trash, in my own home, because if we happen to have a guest they could see it. I can confirm, this does damage.
ah yes, because a wrapped, properly disposed-of tampon is grosser than... *checks notes* digging through the bathroom trash can of someone else's house /sarcasm your dad has some weird logic 😂
Wow. I would be petty go their house and leave an unwrapped used one in the trash like week old roadkill. 😂 kidding. But like the other reply said how would one know if it was wrapped up and properly disposed of? That’s the creepy kicker.
I feel so sorry for any girl who ends up dating the guy in the pad story. Imagine waking up with ur period and cramps and a headache and he just makes u feel bad for getting blood on the bed
I had an accident once when I was with an ex, and I felt so bad. I was apologizing profusely, but he kept assuring me that it was fine. Yet, brought it up in a later argument complaining about how I didn't offer to buy him new sheets. Like, sure, ok, but just clean it? It didn't stain btw.
I hope he never takes care of a woman who can’t run to the bathroom, because she’ll need a pad to not pee on herself. Dude needs a reality check that a used pad>used toilet paper. She did her brother in law a favor when he, if ever, takes out that trash.
I think she needs a reality check, single men don't need to know that you have your period. Just use something to rap the used pad in. I did not even leave an unrapped pad in my own home and I live alone. That pad gets thrown in the garbage for strangers to throw away. It is all about having a bit of self respect.
When I change my pad I wrap it in the wrapper of the new pad so you don't see the used pad. I can see him being upset if he looked at trash can and there is a blood soaked pad in there but not mad to the point of saying it is disrespectful to basically use the trash can.
totally agree, you have to wrap the pad, no one is comfortable seeing sth bloody in their trash can, but it's obvious he just made a big deal out of it because they weren't on good terms
As someone who’s literally in the process of publishing my first book, I cannot express how devastated I would be if my parents did this to me. They’ve been so supportive of me through a 6 YEAR PROCESS (so I can’t even express how impressive it is that this kid finished it in less than a year!!) & have agreed to not read it because I told them I wasn’t comfortable with it. They don’t even care about what it’s about - they’re just proud of me for writing it! What a truly HORRIBLE father!! I hope with all my heart that kid isn’t discouraged because I know how hard the writing process can be.
At least your parents are supportive. My parents, particularly my mom, said that me writing a novel is a big waste of time because I don't get any money from it. :)
Yeah, this is really bad. My friend published a book and even though I already read the draft and I didn't like it that much, I still purchased her book, just to show support, because I thought as a friend/family you are supposed to do just that. Also Congrats on your book!
I started writing one and actually stopped for a while. I have been lazy or prioritizing other things. I feel discouraged because I feel it's really expensive to even get published.
First story, my father was like this. It took me way too long to figure out that my father did not want his children to be “better” than him. When he saw my newer home home I asked him what he thought and his answer was “disappointing”. I asked which part of all of it, he would not answer. That guys wife should tell her son. So messed up.
I had a bf in my freshman year of college who literally got so repulsed by me accidentally bleeding on his sheets while we were ~doing the deed~ that he literally shut down everything and left. Said he had to "go into work." I felt so bad I was already so anxious about these things so angry at myself so embarrassed. I hurried and washed his sheets for him while he was gone and tried to apologize over text and then apologized again later in person when I remade his bed etc. etc. Now like 6 or 7 years later I'm here knowing that I had endometriosis the whole dang time and bleeding is so freaking common for me there was nothing to be embarrassed for there was nothing I could have done. I just wish I could go back in time and shake some sense into both of us. Now I'm with a real man who is a ~warrior~ as Charlotte puts it, highly recommend 👌
Endometriosis warrior here too. I've been bleeding twice as much as most people for the last decade and it'd say the only benefit is that it cuts out all the stupid and ignorant people of your life. I'm not wasting my time on people who don't understand periods. Let alone endometriosis. Sorry for that story that clearly had an impact on you. Hope you're doing well. Cheers from France.
Pro tip for humans with periods or that bleed in general: pet cleaner for dogs is the best to get out those stains. 😊 Just wet it several times and let it sit until dry each time before putting it in the washing machine. Also works if you're a thicc girl like me and sweat too much walking your dogs to keep the stains away. Have never found anything else that works better. OH! I use Nature's Miracle Advanced for dogs, we always have some on hand cause we have 2 German Shepherds, but a whole bottle would last quite awhile for a home without pets only using it as a stain remover. Anyway, luff yews Charlotte! Agreed with all your opinions on these posts. 🥰
As a writer on the internet, one of my first lessons was to learn that negative posters, editors, and reviewers were not worth my notice. When challenged, NONE of them could point me to THEIR work.
Yea but what made it worse is that it's his own dad that dropped him to less than 2 stars. And with 6 reviews just from him. It'd be one thing if they were actually random people but he can't even get the support of "you're only 14. This is just your first book. Keep writing, get better, do more. You have a whole future. Yadda yadda" from his parents because mom knows and won't tell him even though she might want to and dad is the one putting them up there. Now he won't even get a fair start because the reviews are low and pointing out certain pages. And all because dear old dad is jealous.
Oof. That menstrual cycle story reminded me of another Reddit tale where this poor student who was experiencing cramps, messaged her professor multiple times via zoom needing to use the restroom and was ignored. Not wanting to make a mess, she left one final message before excusing herself to take care of business -- her grade was lowered as a result. (Yes, he admitted to seeing the messages, he just actively chose to ignore them.) Rightfully pissed, she spoke to the Dean, who (rightfully) was also pissed as this was a reoccurring issue with said professor. The Dean took care of it and the Professor was getting investigated (or fired, I forgot). Long story short, the student was BERATED by her father and brother for "putting the professor’s job in jeopardy” because she couldn’t “hold in” her period. Hold in ... her period. I can’t even. (Edited for spelling and grammar as I got a little heated, lol.)
I wish men would experience period once or twice in their life and bleed for a month and see if they can hold it in. 😒 THIS IS NOT A WOUND THAT YOU CAN JUST ADD PRESSURE TO STOP THE BLEEDING!
I would love to know how to hold in my period flow… would make life so much easier to be able to do that instead of having to abandon a full cart at the checkout, or sneeze hard & instantly be a mess while wedged in the drive through line at McDonald’s, or ya know…find out the morning after a romp that if the police were to barge in looking for a homicidal maniac they’d think you were it because it wasn’t all “good time fluids” in the wet spot (& everywhere.) I think I need to hear the mansplaining about holding in my period but I’m certain: neither father nor brother believes the clitoris exists on account neither have been able to find one.🤔
I grow up feeling disgusted about my own period because my mom told me so. Then I feel awkward around men because I dont know how they will react. At 12, I played with my brother, and my period blood suddenly showed up when I was sitting. My brother pointed it out, but he wasnt like allergic to it. My dad taught my brothers to be understanding that this is a normal thing since I got puberty. I love the men in my family for it. My mom however....😔
Is this what your grandma thinks as well? If so, your mom's views could have been perpetuated for generations. Not to mention other people's influence. And if she didn't have anyone like the men in your family when growing up, it just stuck and it's hard to unlearn. Obviously that doesn't excuse her putting those views on you.
Did some research. I have no idea if this is the book, but It's Only a Headache by Luke Schumacher Is a book published by a 14 yr old about 6 months ago which fits with the readit post, but no 1 or 2 star reviews, so if it's the same 14 yr old author, his dad took down the comments.
I feel the last story so much... I started to have my period at eleven. Aside from the fact that my mother refused to explain or teach anything or even talk about it, I had a hard time because of the pads disposal issues (i was the only one at home having periods). It's fortunate that I don't use them anymore. So my father berated me for putting them in the bathroom trashcan (it smelled "like a dead pig"), so i did what I did not know was never to be done, that is flushing them down the toilet (i thought it was like toilet paper). The pipes got blocked, and i was majorly berated. So I would put them in a plastic bag in my room (did not have a trashcan), and i would dispose of them in the outdoor bin at the end. Until my mother gave me a sermon about how unhealthy it was... I almost exploded, lost, but was given a sermon instead, for not being able to get my shit together. I got used to putting them in my pocket until I had the occasion to put them in a bag in my room. Moral of the story : please let girls throw away their very natural trash in the bathroom bin!
My mother hit me when I soiled my clothes and bed-sheets with blood. For years she called me unhygienic. Until my aunt noticed how strangely long and intense my periods were and told my mother to take me to a doctor. Turns out I was ill all those years, with severe hormonal imbalance that caused 3-week-long periods every month with highly running flow. Idiot.
Gotta love it when parents tell you what not to do instead of teaching you what to do. The bathroom trash can is the appropriate place for used pads. If your parents have another idea, they should frigging share it with you.
"Real men don't care" Truer words have never been said! My father was borderline proud when I needed him to get me some supplies (I was a teenager and mortified at the time) but he didn't bat an eye. His daughter needed what she needed and he was there. My husband is the same way. It's what bodies do.
Same with my hubby and dad. I actually had my first period when with dad. We were in Toronto (from Montréal) at his uncle’s funeral. Fun time 😂. I told him and he asked the receptionist for a pad. She gave me a HUGE one 😂. And had my aunt go get me a package. Hubby has also always just got me pads etc. never ever made a thing of it. Horrified his mom for some reason
I was so relieved that the first time I got my period mother was out and dad was there. It meant he knew what was happening. So I never had to have all the stress of trying to hide it from him as well as dealing with the period itself. Mother was more difficult as she tried to be helpful but had very odd habits such as keeping all the pads in her room, so I had to ask for them when I needed them. I realise as an adult that she was basically freaking out. Dad talked it all out with his brother whose daughter was older than me and suffered really badly, so he was much more chill. And the next day I had dance and drama and sport classes at school. You couldn’t make it up!
That dad is jealous. My parents did this to me in the realm of sports. I had an opportunity to play with a national team and they said, “ no because I should focus on school” later found out as an adult they said no because they were good at sports too and got pregnant young. It’s really shitty and I use to wonder what my life would be like if they allowed me to enjoy my sporting career
My mom did this to me but with singing, it sucks😕 I was really accomplished in high school and I was getting noticed, I likely could have gone alot further, but her total lack of interest and encouragement coupled with her comments regarding my voice (which EVERYONE said was incredible, just not her) made me even more self conscious, so much so that I don't even sing anymore.....she was a decent singer but married young, she didn't like any attention taken from her and if she couldn't be special than neither could I 🤷🏼♀️ I'm really sorry they did that to you, robbing you of your opportunity to shine, although I'd suspect you still outshine them with little effort 👍🏼❤️❤️❤️ Parents can be worse than enemies and jealous parents are the actual devil😡
I litterally got my period on the first date (at his place, we knew each other a little since before) with my now husband. And he just went " be right back", rushed out for like ten minutes (lived right by the store) and came back with a whole lot of different pads, tampoons and a fresh pair of knickers an stuff like that. That was the when I knew he was right one for me.
That is just awful. That dad did the same thing as my mom. Once I was all grown up and could see her for who she truly was, I simply asked her, “why were you so mean to me?” Her response was similar to the dad in this story. She said, “the world was going to be hard on you so I had to be harder” Wow. I hope this kid finds understanding and awareness that it wasn’t him and that his dad is toxic way before I did with my mom. I was in my mid 40’s before the “straw” broke and I was more free.
Yeah, my dad was the same way. It was honestly the most damaging thing to ever happen to me. As hard as the world and life is sometimes, the hardest part was having my dad as a parent. I can't help but wonder if that's how he wanted to be remembered by his kids. Because all of the good times are tainted by the rest of it. I can't remember him the way other people do. He was a weight holding me down, the source of all my doubts about myself, all my fears and anxieties. I've had therapy since then, and if he were still alive, I'd for sure be NC with him. I was already planning on it as a teenager. I hope our stories can be cautionary tales to other parents who are tempted to behave this way.
@@starlingswallow Narcissistic parent alert, for sure. My NPD father explained that he was “hard on me” to “toughen me up.” That is bs; he was hard on me because he had a personality disorder that meant he prioritized himself over everyone and everything else, and totally lacked empathy. Since I was merely an extension of him, and he was very keen to be perceived as strong and masculine, I-his daughter and only child-had to be a stoic. This “excuse” for cruel behavior is a dead giveaway that the parent is personality-disordered, IM(experienced)O.
I also had shi77y parents. Family is supposed to be there to hold you up, not tear you down. They are to support you in tough times, not punch you in good times.
This kid will hopefully survive the trauma of being cancelled and become a legend after he disowns his toxic parents. I haven't read the book, but to me he is a genius already.
@@dianaellul9345 Hmmm, my understanding was the mother is doing all the fake criticisms. That's bad enough to qualify as abuse and if the father is aware of the deliberate subversion of the kid then he's as guilty. Parents exist to mediate the intensity of experience for children, not traumatise them deliberately. I'd be calling social services or the equivalent.
@@lrowlands53 No, the mother was at best complicit. It's the father doing the fake criticisms. That said, the mother actually told him that he went to far, and the dad wants to "stick to his guns." So no. The mother is not nearly as bad as the father, if at all.
@@slsthewriter1299 I don’t see any point in defending the mother - this is not a feminist artefact is it? Witnessing and allowing her son to be abused - not protecting him from harm - is a failure to parent and a failure to exercise a duty of care. Neither is worthy of being a parent.
As someone who lived their entire childhood chasing after my mothers approval (which I was never good enough for) this cuts so deep. It still wasn't enough when I made it as a division 1 athlete and that's when I realized that no matter what i did it would never be enough. It was way too late at that point and the damage has been deeply set within me. I pray this child doesn't grow up with the complex I have.
Your mother is a toxic narcissist. You know this already. Have you grey rocked her yet? Kim, you are yours and your mother doesn’t deserve you. Please try to break ties if this applies to your life. Never carry her negativity, it’s hers not yours. 🙌🏼🤍
Unfortunately, this happens more often than not. One of my friend's sisters did the same thing. She always sought after their mom's approval, but the mother wouldn't give it to her. The sister is a practicing doctor now, but while in residency, she had a mental breakdown. Her mom basically, said, "I knew she wouldn't make it as a doctor."
@@addie-eileenpaige6460 So terrible to want your children to fail. I pray that this toxic narcissistic behavior stops here. Once the survivor understands what’s going on and breaks away, they will stop hearing that negativity in their head.
As a man....I hate seeing blood, mainly because I faint afterwards (rip 1st childhood goal to become doctor lol) But I thankfully got to the point where when I see blood on...generally assumable regions & on any seatables, I ask "pls tell me this is just period blood" (& then only faint if its not lol). So weird to imagine being disgusted/afraid of period blood, while it gives me comfort xDD
Did she wrap it up so you couldn't see the contents, yes we have periods, no can't help it but at least dispose of it covered I don't want to see someones dirty pad or tampons.
Since it was properly put in the trash....I want to know how the brother knew...did he go dumpster diving in there to check the contents of the trash like some kind of freaky weirdo?
The father who left bad reviews for his son's book is only using the "I have to keep his ego in check" excuse for emotionally abusing his son. Many abusers seek obtuse justification from on-lookers. When his son finds out, he may choose to delete his father from his life and rightfully so. His son is going to have to think carefully whether he wants his prospective children to be subjected to his father's presence. I seriously doubt whether this is the first, or last instance of emotional abuse. This man would do well to remember that his children will choose his rest home.
My dad brought me up alone. He gave me the 'period talk'. He bought my pads every month and there were pads all up on the bathroom ledge, there was a bin in the toilet were my used pads went and dad emptied the bin lol. He had to wash my bloodied sheets and clothes if I had an accident. Like.... It's just a period. Some men need a reality check!
I was raised by my father in at age 2 in the early 60's. He did the same thing! Brought home a book and bc I was too embarrassed to buy pads & tampons he would buy them for me. You and I were lucky to have such wonderful dads ❤️
My ex thought my period was disgusting and made me feel disgusted about it. My dad on the other hand although a highly awkward conversation after I asked my stepmother for tampons told me that I should have asked him straight away because it's just a period and he will go to the store and grab tampons for me no issue. I then met my current partner who is unfazed by my period and went as far as to go to the store and get tampons to keep at his place while we weren't living together. I'm now no longer disgusted by my own period anymore
Parents not supporting and praising their children really has an effect. Through years, I think I have made some pretty awesome achievements that deserve at least a “congrats, I am proud of you” but the lack of praise as a young child made me really disconnect from my studies. Even the teachers were concerned, how could I go from the top of my class to the bottom. It was not until 7th when I had these two really amazing teacher, that I realised I liked studying. When I recently confronted my mother about this in, why she didn’t praise me but constantly degraded and criticised me. Her answer was “if it is good then it is good, but if if something is bad then I need to tell you that so you should work on it.” So yeah, now I just ignore my mom when she gets in the mood of telling me everything that is wrong with me. It does wonders on a teenager’s self esteem…
I dont usually think people should split up over a disagreement, but getting uncomfortable over a period is a huge red flag. I wouldn't know what to do with that.
@@blueredbrick The brother was the one with the actual issues, but the husband blindly supporting the brother's illogical and childish reaction to a normal, adult thing, is terrible, too. I assume the husband doesn't make similar scenes in their shared home, or she would not have been surprised by his reaction here.
WTF! Some men are plain ‘tarded. This is why women are so damn secretive! My hubby loves everything I do…but ask him if I fart…ever! Some days I can’t wait for him to go to work! 🤭
I'm a romance author via Amazon/kindle. I've been publishing my own books since 2019. I'm 35 and I am still worried about bad reviews, but it's normal. But it's NOT normal when a father leaves terrible reviews on their own child's book!! Every author counts on reviews! Especially us indie authors! Good for him! Wow! Publishing at 14 years old! Keep going, bud! You are fantastic!!
@@Bxautifullove Oh awesomeness! My pen name is Faith M. Troyer I write mainly women's contemporary romance! And all of my books are in the Kindle Unlimited program and all but two are in paperback format. Thank you! 😊 I truly appreciate you!
I'm a 30 year old girl who's been writing my own novel for the past 10 years and I'm in awe of this 14 year old boy writing his own book in his own words, it's so brave and as a fellow writer and artist I couldn't be more proud of him no matter what the content sounds like. I am genuinely shocked and honestly terrified by his father's behavior and the fact that his mom knows what her husband is doing to their own child and being a silent partner in crime is much worse than an asshole of a dad. It goes against every maternal instinct there is. This sweet boy is going to find out the truth sooner or later and it's going to break his heart and destroy his relationship with both of them. It hurts me to imagine the moment he realizes what they've done to him. I'm not on this subreddit but I have a toxic mother myself and I refuse to let this slide so I'm going to try and find out where the book is published, buy it, READ IT and leave him the best review he's ever gotten, making sure he knows that I expect MORE BOOKS in the future. If anyone knows the name of the book please reply, I'm diving headfirst for this boy. He's earned it just by opening himself up and publishing the book.
I've been trying to write my novel for 20 years ahahah ... Every time I sat down to write I felt 'guilty' for not doing more productive and important things. That happens when you grew up with a tiger-mum: even if you're a full-grown adult, you still think things you like but are not immediately remunerative are not important.
I'm like, you girl, I'm 30, with a finished novel written along 12 years or so... And I'm terrified about the idea of publishing it. Let's see if someday I encourage myself...! I admire that 14 old kid too.
I agree with the hairstyle thing! You could do your hair in specific styles for different types of videos! Bratty hairstyle for petty revenge, slightly wavy for judgey videos, etc. I love the idea, Charlotte! ❤️
Good men aren't just okay with periods, they'll buy you pads. I remember the first time I got my period after I met my boyfriend. I felt SO awful but I needed pads and I was terrified to ask him, but I did, and he actually got offended that I thought he wouldn't go to the store for me.
My ex used to buy and keep tampons and pads (and other period stuff) at his place for me. He tracked my period too (mostly for himself) Never had an issue
Same! My (now husband) only asked for a specific picture, as he already knew that people tend to prefer a brand or type and he didn't want to be lost when choosing.
I hate the way women are body shamed for having periods. I often want to hit people in the face with this fact: did you know a human mouth contains 10 times more bacteria than a woman's private parts? Period blood is a waste product, yes. But it shouldn't be reviled so much when our saliva is "technically" disgusting in comparison to it.
Both those stories were heart wrenching. The son being torn down by his own parent because of jealousy is definitely a perfect example of people that shouldn't be parents. And then being so upset with your wife about her pad in the trash. That's a weird form of verbal abuse to me imo
The Dad in the first story is absolutely the Ahole! I was published in a magazine at 14 and my family was so excited for me. I can’t imagine them sabotaging me! The husband and his brother need to grow up!! If my husband acted like that to me, he’d be living with that brother! Thanks for great videos Charlotte! 💗💗💗
No, no, no. The woman should've just NOT CHANGED HER PAD AT ALL! That way, she could just keep bleeding & leak all over everything she sits on in the brother's new place. 😂
I’ve been working on being less embarrassed about periods. I’m now the person loudly opening my pad in a public bathroom with no embarrassment! I used to put my used pads in a ziploc bag in my purse at friend’s houses, which I don’t do anymore. It sad that so many of us feel a level of shame over having normal body functions. I hope I never pass that on to anyone.
As someone who writes a little myself, the first aita scares the living 💩 out of me for so many reasons, one I went through something similar with a family member a few months ago. People, please don't do that, no matter what, it hurts more than you may think and can destroy not only the ego. Also hands up for Charlotte for standing up for the kid
Yeah, no, bc unless you know where he keeps the bleach, peroxide or Lysol please don’t do that where he may brush his teeth and wash his face. Imagine the blood splashing on the sink, toiletries or toothpaste/toothbrush… the trash and another cup please if you’re at someone else’s home as a guest.
@@48mavemiss2 Sinks are where you wash dirty things though...Someone should be able to wash their hands and everything else at the sink. Even if you wear a pad or tampon you might still het some blood on your hands when you switch them for a clean pad or tampon. With your logic you aren't even allowed to wash your hands then??? Come on!!! As long as someone can wash things in a decent way, there is no issue with rinsing out a menstrual cup. You can even take some hand soap to give the sink a good once-over for good measure to make it really clean if neccessary. Most people can probablyne trusted to do this in a decent and clean way. The people you can't trust with this you can't trust with using your bathroom or even anything in your home because they are nasty. I am talking about the kind of people in Charlotte's video's about nasty people like horrible roommates, horrible dates and the nasty kind of Wallmart people.
@@48mavemiss2 sinks are where people wash their hands after pooping, after blowing their noses, after scooping up pet poop…rinsing out period blood is far less bacteria rich than that. You don’t smear your toothbrush in the bowl of the sink. So…yeah, cup rinsing in sink is a need. Dump the bulk of the stuff in the toilet, but then you need a water source to rinse the rest.
So one time when I was on my period in high school, we had guests over at home. I had left a pad in the trash can, which did not have a lid. Mind you, my mother picked out all items for the house. My mother approached me after a male guest had used the restroom and told me my pad was visible in the trash. I think it was just rolled up in the wrapper, no blood showing but she was so embarrassed. “What if he had seen it?” she asked repeatedly. I was just embarrassed she was making such a big deal about it. I get it; it’s a gross thing that naturally happens to us monthly but do we really have to be culturally demonized for it? 🙄
What if he had seen it? Well then he might have known that someone that used that bathroom had a period, if he even recognised what it was that he was seeing. End of the story.
He's never had a cut? Never seen blood in his life? I'd understand being mad if someone literally left actual blood on stuff in the bathroom but in the trash?? Where else should it go???? Unfortunately I understand her embarrassment because I was raised to be embarrassed by those kind of things as well, but guys should also accept they're part of the human race and so menstruation is part of Life
It's NOT a gross thing. It's completely natural. Our bodies reset after not getting pregnant. Society is so messed up. I hate that most people think it's gross...
My mom had twin girls when I was 12 and my older sister was 14. A few years later when they were like three my older sister left a used pad in the trash can without wrapping it up and my little sister who saw it was crying hysterically thinking someone in our house was bleeding to death. Needless to say ever since l I ALWAYS wrap my used pads and tampons up in toilet paper like little mummies and bury them under the rest of rubble in the trash can so as not to traumatize little kids.
Yeah and... So they don't fucking reek? Everyone SHOULD BE wrapping them up because no one needs to SEE or SMELL our used pads. It's like the countries that don't flush thier tp. I'm sure they don't just throw thier shitty used tp in the top of the trash can for everyone to look at and smell! Wrap that shit up and THROW IT AWAY where no one else needs to see or smell it, duh! I can't believe some people are acting like being told to wrap up your used products is wrong or a big deal- I would be horrified for people, my husband and son included, to have to stare at bloody used tampons in the trash and they both know what periods are AND are very supportive and wonderful- but no one needs to SEE or SMELL it, geeze!!
That first story broke my heart, I was 16 when I wrote a book that took me a whole year to complete. My mom told me she would read it until it was complete since I was talking a lot about it. So I stopped giving everyone spoilers and I finished the book ( 15 chapters) and gave it to my mom and even dedicated the book to her. Well, it remained on her night table for a whole year and she put things on top, she never finished the first chapter. I was so sad that I came to her room and took that book and I trow it in the trashcan and she never noticed. I stopped writing for five years and recently I started o rewrite the story and expanded the lore. If I finish the book this year I don't know if I should show it to her or not since no one in my family is really interested.
Don't show it to them, they are not worthy!!! You can tell them about but if you show them or try to get them to read it you will only be disappointed and hurt.
You don't need your mom's approval, do it if you want to and share it with people who would be as excited as you are about it. That's how things work ! It will boost your confidence as you will get support and hopefully benevolent criticism towards it. Be kind to yourself and enjoy your process, and if someday your mom changed her mind and wants to give it a shot it would be up to you to let her do so or not but in any case you should put yourself down because of bad parenting. Not your fault, keep it up !
I find it hilarious when men are so freaked out by periods. Like relax, we literally cannot control it. It's not like we're running around spraying blood at people. 😂 Or are we?
Imagine if you could do that to people that irritate you or scare you. LMAO Like the dinosaur from Jurassic Park. That would add a little excitement to the period talk for young ladies. lol
The story about the dad sadly reminded me of the woman who birthed me. She often would destroy my journals, paintings, and my writings when I was younger. She was horrible.
My dad wouldn't even allow me and my sister to SAY the word period or menstration. Our parents divorced the year before I got my first period and I stayed with dad. He made me go into the grocery store by myself with blood all over me to buy my first package of pads. It made me hate being a girl. It made me hate my body for becoming a woman. I was always really close to my dad and to know that there were things about me that he found so repulsive that he wouldn't even talk about it to me really affected me. I have two daughters now. One started menstrating and we were talking about it around my dad (I forgot he was there because mommy-mode) and he started going on about how "You shouldn't talk about stuff like that. No one wants to hear about that". I snapped back, "Yes, she does. That's why she's asking. That's why we're talking about it. Ya know, it's because I bleed out of my vagina every month that you even have grand daughters. The only reason you have me is because my mom had a bloody vagina. The only reason you're here to complain about menstration is because your mom had a period" Now anytime he asks me how I'm doing or how I am, I answer by telling him about my period. "I'm good but I have period poops so that's not fun." or "Pretty alright, even though my period the other week was kinda heavy" He stopped verbally complaining, but I can tell he hates it.
As soon as I heard " I dabbled in writing when I was his age and could've been published myself. But life got in the way with an unexpected pregnancy and our lives focused on him." Babe just say your jealous and trying to wreck your son's dreams the way "he" wrecked yours.
Seriously! I want to say, dude, have you read Stephen King's book / memoir called "On Writing"? For years he pretty much had a full time English teacher job (and young kids) and then wrote his books on the side, after he got home from work and on weekends. I think he even wrote at a makeshift desk in a closet until he made it big time and they were able to afford a house with an actual office where he could write. So, your son being born didn't prevent you from writing. YOU chose not to try. So you shouldn't punish your kid for giving it a go and actually finishing his task. As writer Elizabeth Gilbert once said (and it's a quote I try to remember about any project I attempt): "Recognizing that people's reactions don't belong to you is the only sane way to create. If people enjoy what you've created, terrific. If people ignore what you've created, too bad. If people misunderstand what you've created, don't sweat it. And what if people absolutely hate what you've created? What if people attack you with savage vitriol, and insult your intelligence, and malign your motives, and drag your good name through the mud? *Just smile sweetly and suggest - as politely as you possibly can - that they go make their own fucking art. Then stubbornly continue making yours.*" 😄
I remember when I started my period and my mom made me feel like I was disgusting and I could never tell anyone about this Horrible thing, specially men. It stayed with me. My current partner has made me understand that it is literally half of the world experiencing this, he is more understanding than an actual woman. People are so weird about periods idk why
Ya for real. He’s definitely looking for an excuse not to invite her over. Thought this was the perfect excuse. My parents went away overnight and hired a babysitter. She was my uncle (by marriage) sister. I had my period and in the kids’ bathroom (which she wasn’t even using and got to use theirs) I put my pad in the garbage. She told me it’s rude to do that. Like what?! It’s a pad. That’s a garbage. What else was I supposed to do? And why was she even in there snooping? This was 25 years ago and I’m still confused
Oh, c'mon ladies. Are you saying you've never seen a gross pad perched for all to see, on the top of a pile of other garbage in a public toilet, and thought it looked disgusting? We don't know how this pad was left. Was it wrapped up in toilet paper? We just don't have enough information to comment on this situation.
@@SC-tl3px when i was a child and periods were a new thing for me. But as an adult, never. Would you carry a used pad on your pocket or something during someone’s bday party?
My mom had a similar way of dealing with me, at points she would literally say "you're becoming too confident". I've had confidence issues my whole life. Lets your kids feel good about themselves.
The first story reminds me of when I was overseas teaching English and the teacher I was working with told me that one of her students who didn't speak English well had written a story in his native language (Ukrainian) then used Google translate to translate it to English. She said that while the translation wasn't that good, the ideas expressed were amazing. I read it and they were. I complimented him on what he had written and reminded him that he spoke English better than I spoke Ukrainian. The teacher told me he had always wanted to be a writer but had been told all through high school he was a lousy writer. I gave him a hardbound notebook and told him I wanted him to write whatever he wanted to in it because I thought he was a fantastic writer....to ignore the naysayers. At the end of the year, he wrote me a poem, in English, expressing his gratitude for my believing in him. Unfortunately, he was killed fighting in Ukraine against the Russians. I have his poem framed.
The book thing hit home for me. I wrote/published a book in my 20s and when my mom got a copy, she made issue with it because the dedication wasn’t about her. After some time past, she let it slip that she had “thrown the book away” because she couldn’t look at it anymore due to it being so “hurtful.” When I confronted her on how hurtful that was to me, she told me “it was okay as I gave it to the thrift shop.” Wasn’t like she threw it in the actual rubbish bin. Yes, parents can be like that. And if they are - I guarantee that is not the only situation that has happened. Also, with this story - why hasn’t the wife come forward to stand up for the son? Presumably she knows husband hasn’t read the book and with the reviews being public, the cyber bullying would be out front and center….
There's probably a good reason none of his hobbies stick. Jumping from one to another is normal but if it's excessive then I suspect the dad is the reason he thinks he isn't good enough to continue.
@@katrinascarlet5637 completely agree. Also, some parents have a distorted ideas of what is “excessive” when trying new things as a child. The kid is only 14 - it’s not necessary to only have one passion they plan to pursue.
@@take-the-cake Yeah, I would call what I did excessive but I was 16, had a job and no responsibilities so my mom didn't care what equipment I bought as long as a saved a bit.
@@take-the-cake right? I mean when i was a kid I did ballet, tap, gymnastics, piano, softball, wrote, learned japanese, and did art! Kids (and adults) can have a multitude of interests. Parents should encourage kids in all their efforts. Dad was 💯jealous and a gigantic Hole of Ass.
Omg. Wtf? My daughter (now in her 30's & a professional Paleo artist who teaches art classes at University) knows that I have her first drawings at age 2 of dinosaurs. She drew "stick dinosaurs, not stick people". They are my TREASURES, & are framed on my wall.
I can not wrap my head around the fact that the father did not read his son's book!🤯 Don't even get me started on the negative reviews of HIS 14YR OLD SON'S BOOK! 100% the A-hole & 100% jealous! The dad needs to check his ego!
The first one with the dad and the book was MIND-BLOWING INSANE!!! 😱 That dad is DEFINITELY both jealous and narcissistic!!! If my son had written a book I would be so proud and honestly, if I had a dad to my son that did something like this, I would highly consider to leave him and I would tell my son the truth!! 😭❤️ What a psychopath!!!
I'd probably say if I found out it was him: Next time I'll see you in your funeral for two (2) things 1) to make sure you're dead and 2) to shit in your grave.
Ugh, the dad who's son is a writer reminds me of my mother. My mother struggled in school and always said her own mother called her dumb. I was advanced in school because my paternal grandmother saw something in me and began teaching me to read at two. I was always tops so I was placed in a gifted program. I will admit I was probably cocky. I had a high opinion of myself. But enter advanced MATH. When I began struggling in math my mother made such a HUGE deal crowing about it, talking to my teacher, making sure I stayed after school every day, telling my friends parents and my family that I was doing poorly in school. She was constantly telling my father and younger brother that just because I had learned to read early I actually wasn't very bright and look, it was all catching up to me. I was so humiliated. Although I still did okay in my other subjects, the shine was off education for me and I literally refused to do math assignments or complete math tests. I was absolutely defiant about it and it caused me a lot of problems with authority and led to some pretty serious behavioral problems, fighting and classroom blow-ups. I stubbornly took Fs in math for the rest of my school career. Parents, you can really eff your kids up by deliberately and methodically trying to crush their dreams and spirit. But I suppose for some, that was the goal all along.
wth. that is so messed up. i think your mom was jealous of your success, and when she saw even a sliver of weakness, she took a sledgehammer to it. the actual definition of a bully. disgusting
7:09 hey there :) been bleeding 25 years. I must say that blood is still considered to be contaminated waste and should be disposed properly. *universal precautions* My mom taught me you can tell the difference between a clean woman and a dirty one… a clean woman will make sure it’s wrapped and no blood is exposed. I’ve never and would never leave raw blood just exposed in a trash can. Or anywhere for that matter.
WARRIORS LOVE BLOOD😂
Our body is also full of blood!!! 🩸🩸🩸
Blood buddies! ❤
i have never dated women, but i always assumed that women would not want to have sex while on their periods.
@@BlakeGildaphish76 some don't, some do. There's no rule.
BLOOOOOOOOOOOOD
Wow. What a horrible dad. As a parent, why would you do that to your kid? He published a book at 14, that's incredible. You should be proud and encouraging your children. He's definitely jealous and that is so disgusting.
At least read it so you can give constructive criticism. Wow, I’d be devastated if I was that kid.
Soooo disgusting. I feel awful for that kid. Some parents don’t deserve children!
That’s just pure evil. No wonder he never finishes anything, his parents probably tell him he can’t do anything well.
Yeah
I really wonder why the son "never finished" anything so far.. /s
The father is such an asshole and very very jealous!
The second I read "I was so proud, I wrote around his age and could have been published" I knew we were in for it. That poor child, being undermined to assuage his parents' ego. Just disgusting.
Yep, the "could have been published" surprised me, until the part where he admits to not reading the book. That screams jealousy.
And then he used being a parent for not publishing as an excuse, he's holding this against his child so bad!
And his wife, who made the cover. He also payed to have it edited. I just don’t understand this logic.
@@adamsmoberly yeah for real
That was definitely the point I flipped too 😂 bro can’t be outshined by his own kid 🙄
When I was first dating my husband, (45 years ago!) he had just moved into a new apartment and was busy getting it organised and furnished. One day, he handed me some money and asked me to go for shopping for - and I quote: “whatever you think a women might be glad to find in a bathroom if she was a guest and didn’t have her own period stuff with her”. I think that was the day I decided he was the one for me.
That's so thoughtful! I get why you fell for him.
If this man is that creeped out by a pad, let alone a tampon or any other product, maybe he shouldn’t invite any woman over ever. Also, pads aren’t only for blood, some woman use it for pee. Honestly she should be thanked, because they make good compact devices for toilet paper.
And your husband is a good person.
There's a keeper for sure! 👍
@LA P I love this! Thank you for sharing such a lovely story with us. Seems he was trying to impress you, maybe thinking of ways to show you that you were/are the one for him too. Congratulations on 45 years & many, many more filled with countless beautiful moments to come.
I pray I get to have that moment with someone soon 😔
THERE’S NO WAY HE’S SERIOUS?? No freaking WAY did he leave bad reviews on his son’s book without even reading it…that’s absolutely crazy 😭
In the words of Charlotte, how are you not EMBARRASSED 🗣️
I know right!!
I'm writing a book at around the son's age, and I can't ever imagine my parents doing that.
😭😭😭
My mom and dad are always telling me how much they love the book--because they ACTUALLY READ IT
That poor kid 😭😭😭
he didn't have time to read the book, but the dad DID have time to create multiple fake accounts and different reviews. Totally TA
They way you defended that 14 yr old writer and chewed out the bad parent. Your gonna be a good mama Charlotte! 😘❤
My thoughts exactly!! How dare a parent think that this is "good " for you're child!! They obviously weren't interested enough to bother reading it. How? HOW! CAN A PARENT BEHAVE LIKE THIS!! Shame on them!! Sounds like daddy is envious of his own son's ability to commit to his dream of being a writer.
Right, too bad the 14yr olds own mother didn't fully support him. I know she told her husband he was going a little too far, um, no, the father was way out of line!! I would be thinking in terms of divorce, what he did to his son, disgusting, and he hadn't even read the book. Completely jealous and insecure of his own child. That boy needs to be with someone who will love and nurture him. Writing a full book at 14yrs old is amazing, period! Just in case these comments find their way to this teenager. Way to go 14yr old, keep your head held high, you rock!!!!
@@valeriejohnston1021 I wonder if his mother even bothered to read his book.
The dad is a narcissistic a-hole
I don't think so, otherwise, she would've said something about his writing. She's just as bad as his bio father.
My Dad once complained about a feminine product not being properly "wrapped' with toilet paper in the bathroom trash. My stepmom used a pad and some nail polish remover to take off her fushia nail polish the next day and stuck it on his steering wheel as a "that's what you get' kind of joke, during lunch. He worked construction. His buddies had a good laugh. This was early 1990's. My stepmom is an OG Queen!
😂😂😂 YAS
What a badass 😎
Queen!!!!
Loving your step mom. Good for her !!!
If you were born in the 90s you’ve literally heard the story about 30,000 times it was a part of those email chain letters about that lady shoving shrimp in the curtain rods to get the house back after he cheated Jesus fucking Christ
"A brave soldier is not afraid of a bloody battlefield" says my husband every month. He's a keeper.
@@Z-Ack - So sorry for your loss! Bless you for being okay with a perfectly normal bodily function. As a woman I can tell you that we’re made to feel ashamed and dirty for something we can’t help and are stuck with for the majority of our lives. On top of that we have to deal with the monthly hormonal upheaval, the bloating, discomfort, the painful cramps, the smell, the stickiness, the fear of leaking, the feeling of a literal flood gushing out of our bodies every so often at the slightest sneeze or movement some times. Periods are no fun at all. There’s an internet craze going around of men trying period simulators. Women going first and going “Meh, I feel it but hey” and men doubling over and screaming at the exact same setting. Always cracks me up because those men only get the tip of the iceberg and the most publicised part. Reading about a man who didn’t mind about the graphic part is wonderful.
I hope you meet a wonderful lady soon and that you both make one another deliriously happy for many, many years to come. When you’re ready and healed from your loss. You’ve got this, and with your outlook on this one female bodily function, you’re off to a very good start.
[salutes your husband]
Mine too 😉 Married 9 yrs next month
Related to the period story - one time in college I went on a weekend trip with my boyfriend and some other friends (all male). On the way back, I got my period and they asked why I was in such a bad mood. I told them the truth and they said they would’ve preferred not to know. Like wtf, you asked. They all had sisters too. I guess some guys like to pretend it doesn’t exist
Side note: It’s not just normal but encouraged for young adults to have multiple things they want to pursue and to become uninterested with them quickly. It’s them exploring interests and figuring out what they want in life.
My dad could never understood that he also keept forcing his hobbies on me. Now that I'm an adult I'm a big disappointment because I'm not the daughter he wanted. He wanted a daughter that was into cars and could fix cars by herself.
Yes. Exactly right! This is called growing and learning. (Would dad prefer the son NOT show interest in anything?) This kid wants to try new stuff. Part of that process is learning which stuff he does not want to continue pursuing. Lesson learned.
For me it’s because I have adhd, I’m 27 and still struggle with this 😅😂
My mom was kinda mad at me that I stopped playing violin. It just didn't interest me anymore. I started taking a liking to singing. Once, she even told me, "You can't sing the way you play violin." Years after dropping violin, pretty much anytime I was home, she'd want me to sing for church.
The man sabotaging his son at 14 is so egregiously horrible. I feel so bad for the kid. 😓
Nothing can ruin your life like your parents.
I just told my 22yo son about the period story. He said "the wife should have handed the used pad to her husband and said 'here can you do something with this?'" 🤣🤣🤣 I raised him right!
You raised him right
Good man
👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Heck yes!! That response would be iconic! 😂❤
There are ways of being discreet with a used pad. I am a woman and don't want them left around. My roomate used to leave them just staring at you in the trash bin! Yuck
as a parent, you do not, DO NOT, teach your kid "lessons" by pulling them down or traumatizing them!!!
Agree. The only lesson that they'll be learning from this behavior is that it's best to have as little contact with you as possible to the fullest extent they are able as they start to have control over that. I only wish I had realized sooner how much my mom's attempts to drag me down were about her own insecurities and not about my actual aptitude for the things I tried or the extent to which I was "embarrassing myself."
As a published author who struggles with getting reviewers...that first story gives me PTSD. My parents threw all my work out when I was that age (I'm ancient, so I wrote stuff out by hand in notebooks). Put it in the literal trash at the curb to discourage me because they wanted me to pursue a career, a job, something that would pay my bills when I grew up. I get it...and I have a day job now that pays the bills. But my passion and my true love is writing...I now have 20 books out there both traditionally published by indie publishers and self-published because I get impatient waiting on schedules (type A personality). The idea that a parent would go on a pubic forum and trash your dream? That just horrifies me...I'm stunned that this "dad" had the balls to get on another public forum and ask if anyone approved of his actions. WTH? No. No one approves of this emotional and mental abuse.
I'm sorry that your parents did that. Parents should NEVER squash their children's dreams.
Yeah and all because “it was going to his head.” First of. He is more then allowed to take pride in that. HE PUBLISHED A BOOK AT 14!!! That’s really impressive no matter the quality. He is allowed to brag just a little. Second: again he is 14, and 14 year olds aren’t the most mature people. Therefor the father should have done basic parenting and remind his son to not act like a jerk, if it even was that bad.
Third: the internet would have done that anyway. Why did he feel the need to step in and do it first. If people read it, some people won’t like it, and some of those people will leave bad reviews. Why does a parent need to do it themselves?!
Seriously this guy just pissed me off.
i’ve been rewriting my books that my parents and teachers threw away and wish i could publish them…. using my writing as my job is only a dream that’ll probably never come true tho… no publisher seems to like what I’ve written so far…
Sorry that happened but SO RELIEVED to read they didn’t kill your desire to write ❤
Are your books published under Sandy Lender? I LOVE to read! I read at least 2-3 books a week most weeks and I love every genre I’ve tried so far so I would LOVE to read your stuff and leave you some honest reviews. I’m sorry your parents were like that. My parents were the same but not about writing in particular although that was one of many. I totally get how much that hurts. It didn’t matter what it was, if it didn’t have to do with their religion and growing up to be a good wife and mother then the answer was no. But also, you can’t even speak to a boy let alone date one, but get married asap after turning 18 and fill the earth with your babies! They were horrible people then and they are still horrible people now. I think I actually hate them more now that I am an adult and have kids of my own with dreams of their own and I can’t imagine crushing any of their dreams from silly things when they were little up to my eldest just moving 2.5 hours away to finally have her dream job that she has been working her way up to since she was a teen. She is the head chef at an exclusive golf resort. She just turned 26 and I’m so proud of her! 😍
My parents would also do what this dad did and make me feel like I was never good enough. They didn’t have the internet to hide behind so they just said that shit to my face. My youngest is 15 now and I want to finally start a career for me now that I’ve raised all 6 of my kids to be amazing little humans, if I may say so myself, but no matter what I start looking into I never have the guts to actually pull the trigger on it because I hear their voices in the back of my head telling me what a failure I’ll be and that just because the kids are almost all grownup doesn’t mean anything because I still need to “take care of my husband and his needs” and I can’t be doing that if I’m going to school or working at a job. I still need to be home cooking and cleaning and “serving my husband” which is all rich coming from my mother who treats my dad like a slave and a bank. She never cooks, hasn’t in 30+ years, never cleans, she stopped that when the kids were old enough to do it for her, and sleeps in the living room in a recliner so I doubt she’s “serving her husbands needs” either. But I still can’t kick all those nasty comments about how stupid I am and how much of a failure I am or will be and what I should be doing instead. So, I’d just like to say I’m proud of you for at least giving it a shot! So it’s not paying the bills, YET, who cares?! You are writing and you’re getting published and you are Amazing! Give it time and you’ll just get better and better and eventually it’ll pay all the bills. Either way you didn’t let your parents or your teachers hold you back from reaching for your goal and that takes some serious strength! I don’t know you obviously, but I am SO proud of you! Keep up the amazing work and I will work on finding your books to read/review and try to get over my own parental issues while I’m at it. 🧡
“Didn’t realize you could take your frustration of not making it out on your own children…”
It is good when this surprises people. There are a lot of people this fact does not surprise.
I know!!! As a person who’s parents should never have had children … that made me think: right that’s not everyone
sadly, it is commen as hell
@@jessm.porthos That's what I was thinking 😅
@@SingingSealRiana Yep, usually dads with athletics and being bitter their kid is better at a sport than they were, at least that's what it was in my case.
Yup. It's a clear privilege not to know that parents can be very destructive of their children... But I'm glad to hear Charlotte had pretty great parents.
Love how that first dad said he couldn’t write cos they “had early pregnancy and focused on their kid” and now he can’t even focus on reading the kids book.
This!! Very good point!
Damn! 😲
Exactly!
The fact that he slipped that info in on top of it all has abusive narcissist vibes all over it
I'm also disgusted that he told his wife and she lets her son suffer...
wow, the period thing really hit home for me... my dad would throw a fit when I emptied my bathroom's trash because of the smell of the pad. So then I would throw it in the other trash can in the kitchen, but he would ALSO throw a fit because it was disgusting. A friend of mine, to whom I vented one day, said, wtf does he want you to do with it, swallow it?! I felt SO humiliated... I remember when I had really bad stomach cramps and my mom heated some water for a warm pad and after I finished using it (ON MY BELLY), I left it on the kitchen counter... He threw a fit, using a degrading word about my body, saying he didn't know where I put it and I left it there. This time I shouted back, telling him to respect me, until he started to go on about me moving out, so I shut myself in my room. Sorry for venting.
vent away girl!!!!
You shouldn't have had to go through that. I'm so sorry 😔💜
Many men are dumb and selfish for a very long time.
Fortunately, many women are very good communicators. But it does take time.
You deserve a more mature and loving father
I'm sorry that really sucks.
I got lucky being just RaisedRaised by my dad he was really awesome About all this stuff going up. Never feel ashamed 👏
My mother had several articles published in newspapers decades ago. I developed excellent writing skills in college and wrote many research papers. I had several items published as well. I showed my mother quite a few pieces because she’s my mom and I wanted her to be proud of me. Not only was she not happy about my work but she told me my writing does not make me important. This has been decades ago but about a year ago my mother asked me why I no longer write.
write again, dont let a bad parent define you!
Parents can be insecure bullies too. Some either want to live vicariously through their children doing something they did not have the talent to do, or if they have the talent, they don't want the competition. You might want to have that talk and start writing again if that is what you want to do.
The unmitigated gall of her to ask why you do not write anymore! 🤯 I swear, some people deserve to be smacked 6 ways to Sunday.😡🙄
please continue writing
Wow! That’s AWFUL! I am so very sorry that your mom wasn’t supportive and was a jealous bully and dream crusher instead! The nerve of her to say that to anyone, but especially her own child! How horrible! 😤 I hope if you do want to write again that you do in spite of your mom’s awful, deliberately tear you down comments. Maybe you can write what you’re interested in writing and not share it with her since you aren’t going to get positive, encouraging comments back? That’s a sucky situation to be in, but I really and truly hope you don’t stop writing forever because of your mom! If you’re still passionate about writing, then please do consider taking writing back up! Whether your mom is behind you or not, you can still do something that makes YOU happy! Obviously the pieces you had published were seen as something valuable to those places that published them or they wouldn’t have published your articles in the first place, and how dare your mom let her own jealousy lead her to crushing your excitement over getting your first articles published! I don’t know you if you still WANT to write or not, but if you do want to write again, I hope you do! 👩🏻💻👩🏻💻
As an indie author, I felt like screaming at that dad in the first post. Like, your kid put all that time and energy into a book, completing something that most people never manage to finish, and published it. That is a piece of him out there for the world to see. It is his art. He sounded pretty level-headed, taking neutral reviews and actually examining them, accepting that not everyone would be thrilled with his story. And you know the dad is jealous because he caveats his son writing a book with, "I would have been published, but we got pregnant." Just... I really hope the kid saw the post and realized that his dad is the worst human in his life.
Same the author in me cringed! It's hard enough to get legitimate reviews but to get fake mean ones from his own father to ego check him.....I couldn't have wrote a dweeb like him.
The dad's saying a pregnancy got in the way of doing what his son did....a pregnancy...at 14?
@@jontobin5942 Well the son is 14 and the dad may very well be 30, so at 16. He would still have been a teenage published author. Or so he says...
@@paveladamek3502 this. Either way he’s a sh*tty person
@@paveladamek3502 I believe he said he "dabbled in writing too at that age..." So, definitely implied he was young-ish too. & He made it sound like he CHOSE not to get published. He said something like "I could've been published too if I'd wanted to."
DEFINITELY sounds like he doesn't want his son to be good or succeed where he couldn't. Which is just BS! We should ALWAYS want our children to be better than us!
That dad is about to see his son write a book about how his dad destroyed his self esteem because he was jealous he couldn't become a writer himself.
I’d buy that book!
Yep. Dad just gave son some material
Definitely a narcissist.
Thought the same.
The dad literally bragged about how he could have been published himself when younger (but he never was so I don’t see why he is trying to brag about that)
Yeah I grew up in a household where periods were supposed to be shameful and gross. Any used feminine item had to be tightly wrapped in lots of tp before disposal so you couldn't tell. My mother was out of town during my first period and my dad made me go into the store by myself lol. My husband has helped me deconstruct a lot of that shame actually.
i grew up like that too… my first period i didn’t know what was happening to me and i got screamed at for making a mess of the bathroom…. still can’t understand why i wasn’t told about what a period was before then just because my parents said we were “christian “…ugh..
@@CaroleJ.VThey aren't decent Christians. Obviously.
Decent Christians don't use excuses to be jerk offs.
There is no shame in flushing a toilet full of crap that you just dumped so there is no shame in wrapping a USED, BLOODY, SMELLY period pad!
What a wonderful husband and man! It's hard to find a man who understands women's anatomy, first off, then to also have that man show an understanding of periods enough to not be "disgusted" by talking about them or seeing period products. Then it is even more tough to find a man who understands the previous things to the extent where he is able to help/teach a woman that it isn't shameful or embarrassing. This comment has brought me happiness and somewhat restored my faith in humanity.
@@moniquebell8191 its NOT HARD just have standards and don't treat men like they are some halfproduct without brain...
Majority of mem do understand what peroid is and how it works...
I am LIVID hearing what the father of the first story did! Cyber-bullying and constructive criticism are two entirely different things and this man is literally acting like a jealous brat! I’ve always loved writing stories so this hit close to heart, especially when my parents are so supportive of it (although we do disagree sometimes on the genres I “should write”). Hopefully the kid gets over the trauma and he keeps writing despite his father’s bullying!!!
After I'd had my second baby, emergency c-section, my period was so heavy I couldn't leave the house and I was going through maternity pads at an insane rate. My husband saw I was running low and said "I'll go get them so you don't run out". There was nothing else on the shopping list... just pads. So here he was, standing in the feminine aisle just staring at all these choices, and it was so overwhelming for him he forgot which ones I preferred. So he just stood there. A young couple was nearby (he said they were trying to decide on condoms; arguing over size haha). He overheard the young lady say "oh my god how embarrassing. His wife must be horrible to make him come here just for those". The guy said "I'd never do that for any girl".
My hubby came home so humiliated and said "I'm never doing that again, we'll just have to make sure extra is included in the shopping so they're hidden". I was so sad that he'd been made to feel that way and I could see he was upset by it.
The next week, he's like, f*ck them, you're my wife, you need me and I feel sorry that their relationship isn't one that they would help each other out in such a personal way if needed. He's been buying my pads with a "no f*cks are given" attitude, if I need them, without question for nearly 20 years. I pray for menopause every. friggin. month.! 😅
I find it amusing that those idiots had no problem discussing condoms in the store over 20 years ago, but were freaked out about a man buying pads for his wife who just birthed their child. I hope they kept using condoms and never reproduced.
They are probably dead as they are dumb enough to put it on their heads
Phew! I was sad when he let ignorant people get to him, but I cheered when he realized on his own how unhealthy and silly that other couple was!
YES MENOPAUSE!! I was more than happy when it - the Curse, Aunt Flo, Red Tide, Girl Flu, Ole Rag time, Red wings are back, Red wave, PMSing, Witchy Week, time of the month, Crampathon, FINALLY decided it was coming to an end. So very nice not having to deal with related problems anymore!! Guys that are unable to understand or even TRY to learn more about a Females natural monthly cycles are ones more likely NOT to appreciate , listen, or communicate politely with a woman.
YOUR. HUSBAND. IS. AWESOME. PERIOD!!!!! LOVE THIS FOR HIM AND FOR YOU!!!!!!!
I've been with my wife for 18 yrs. I know her tampon brand, sizes and have taken her to hospital with toxic shock syndrome.
Step up men!!
Wait for real? I've never actually heard of anyone having TSS. A lot of women think it isn't real. I would love to know what the symptoms were. How did she know something was wrong?
TSS? oh goodness, that can be scary. so glad you're understanding. it should be the bare minimum, most know of male bodily functions so why do most not know of female bodily functions?
@@thamertanner5448 in answer My wife was throwing up, pooping and peeing all at once with a raging fever and her insides where on fire, crying in crazy ass pain barely able to move. Had to pick her up and carry her to car. I drove like mad to hospital where they took her in the back and started giving her meds in a rush. Turns out to be TSS she changed her tampon to natural chemical free ones and never had to live though it again. It scared the hell out of me.
@@SLAYQR Thank you for responding. Your wife is very lucky to have you. I've had ex's completely ignore me during medical emergencies and it's the worst and scariest feeling in the world.
@Charlotte Dobre it would make my wife's Day if you said Hello to her (Kat)
When I’m any relationship, I have always acknowledged that woman is going to have periods and other biological situations going on. So we need to be real men and take care of the women we love. I buy tampons and pads for my wife and will do anything she needs, I feel zero embarrassment over anything that happens, that’s part of the relationship. I have a young daughter and when she starts having a period, I will never shame her by making her put a pad or tampon in a bag and in the trash, absolutely bad parenting. I collect all the trash in the house before putting the garbage out and I am a big enough man mentally to take care of business and my ladies (daughter included) regardless of any problems they have going on….
You're a real man
As a woman, I always wrapped mine in toilet paper before putting them in the trash; I don’t want to look at that mess either. 😊 But there’s no way to understand someone not wanting them in the trash at all. What would he propose she do with them?
THANK YOU!!
You’re a decent person 😊
you can ask her to wrap it in tissue, though. Periods aren’t shameful, but it’s cleaner to wrap it up. My mom taught me to wrap any used products up. It doesn’t matter if you can see the tail end of some thing, just preferably no blood.
Throw your daughter a period party!! It's the new wave, she'll love it.
As a guy with a mother and sisters, I’ve literally never understood dudes who freak out about tampons or pads. It’s not a big deal. I remember I asked one girl why she couldn’t wear a tampon all the time, I was young & ignorant, but her bf made a huge deal about me enquiring about periods. Fragile masculinity much?! I don’t get why so many guys think periods are Ebola or something. It’s ridiculous.
That girl should have asked her boyfriend why guys leave used rags or tissues by the bed every moment they have some "privacy".
I'd bet this guy is squeemish about seeing blood. In a house of mostly females, my father did ask that we roll up the pads and wrap them in a tissue before tossing them in the trash can. Not so obvious that way, and less odor too. No biggie as far as I can see either way.
😂 did you really have to say, "as a guy with a mother and sisters", though
It's not like these guys who make menstruation a big deal don't have mothers and/or sisters
@@georgenkansah659 I was making a point obviously. Considering I have many female family members and dudes I know do not, it makes sense. I apologize you can’t understand that. Thanks.
my theory? not many (or none at all) relationships when they were young...
My daughter was very accomplished at a young age, and had a TedTalk at age 14. I cannot IMAGINE how much it would have hurt her confidence if I or her dad had done something like this to her. She's grown up to attend college and (Ivy League) Grad school, and is now a history teacher. So proud of her accomplishments.
I have four daughters, and each excelled in different areas.
My youngest got picked up by Circ de Soleil training camp.
It was absolutely amazing what she could do on the ropes and silk. She was six years old.
I was seriously impressed with all my kids. Why would someone do that to their child.
Don’t be shy; share the link or title to the Ted Talk.
@@davidguidry657 It's probably TedX
@@EldeNice it was TedX Women
@@davidguidry657 ruclips.net/video/LOdyhEeYnJI/видео.html
MAN! As someone who loves writing and hopes to publish a book someday, that first story broke my heart - what if the teen had a Dickens level novel under his belt? That father is so bitter and jealous, I hope that young writer gets all the support from his mum instead
The mother isn’t any better by allowing it. This kid needs to find out what kind of parents he has, so when he makes it he knows better than to take care of them some day.
I want to buy this book now!!!
The mother was complicit and only cared when the kid cried. Red flags all around. My money is on toxic narcissists as parents.
As a mom to a 14yr old boy... The very minute my husband (his dad) came to me and said he was doing this I would have stopped him dead in his tracks. The crappy"reviews" wouldn't have happened because I would have first tried to get my husband/his father to realize that is a horrible idea, he's basically cyber bullying his own son, and maybe he needs to look internally and see why he feels jealous of his own son. If that didn't work well... WW3 would have happened in our marriage/household... That little boy could have been the next-generation greatest author, but probably not now because his dad has legit made him question the child's own ability... Just sickening.
I had a poem published in a poem book and my dad was the only person in my family who bought the book.
So, the fact that his son is proud to have his work published and is riding on cloud nine, means that his ego is suddenly overinflated🙄? Geez! I recently got a $60.00 tip from a guest of ours in the restaurant I work and it was so touching, unexpected and shocking that I told some of my co-workers. It wasn't to rub it into my co-workers' faces BUT the unexpectedly touching gesture truly touched my heart and I couldn't believe it. To this day, I still get warm.fuzzies when thinking about another's kindness. In sum, that is how the son must have been feeling.
That woman now has the perfect excuse to not have to hang out with her brother in law - who she doesn't get along with in the first place. "Babe we're going to bro for dinner" "Sorry, can't... Period"
Yeah and his brother totally used that excuse to make her stop coming at his place.He is either extremely uneducated or extremely petty
@@CyberWarezz05 mad cause the brother got her or he is gay
You know she carried that pad out and threw it outside in the dumpster, that brother would have called her a savage or something terrible. I think he low key hates her.
Like was she supposed to bring i out to where her husband and husband's brother was and hold onto it in their presence till she could put it in a bin not in the brother's home? Like what a wild idea.
Nice😏
That parent does not appreciate how amazing of a son he has. At 14 he WROTE A BOOK.
That dad’s got issues. He sounds like like the type where nothing the kid does is ever going to be good enough. It’s not tough love because he didn’t even read the book-he’s just bullying his own kid for no reason.
I wrote a report about horses once - front AND back of paper ! 🤓
@@myconfusedmerriment how do you find merriment in confusion 🤯
Truly! When I was that age and my mother read stuff that I wrote, she would tell me that I -should- have them published. I entered some competitions and did pretty well. Even with this all this support from my mother and some competition wins under my belt, I still didn't have the confidence to try to actually publish anything.
That this kid stuck with it, wrote a book, asked to have it professionally edited, and the chutzpah to self-publish it is such a credit to his character and passion. It almost doesn't even matter how good it actually is. Adults publish garbage all the time (but also, what if it is IS really good?). That dad is truly, positively, absolutely the a-hole. The fact that he never even bothered to read it says everything. Wouldn't that be the first thing you do as a parent when a kid brings you a finished book they wrote? But then all the literal cyber-bullying? Complete garbage human.
Right I'm 27 and could never ,I have 2 daughters4 and 6 and well always left them up and support them not be like this bad dad like wtf
The 14 year old writer hit hard for me, I wrote SO much when I was in middle school and finished a book myself and almost another one that I was really proud of, showed it to my family and was told not to waste time or effort on something that would leave me "living in a box on the street". Stopped writing at 15 and I've never picked it back up again. I'd be lying if I said I didn't blame my mother and her family for killing any ounce of creativity I had. Maybe I'd actually finish something for once if I hadn't been told I'd never succeed :/
The best revenge is success and living well. Start writing again.
It's never too late. Keep on writing!
Though not specifically about writing, my mom basically tore me down when I said I would like to be a teacher some day. I was like in the second grade and we had some kind of career day in school. I told her in the car ride home that I might like to be a teacher some day. First thing she said was “Good luck. Teachers barely make any money” basically shooting me down and saying a career isn’t worth anything if it’s not making tons of money. She discouraged me with that one line so much that I never even considered that career path again. I don’t even make a ton of money now but her words cut me deep
I used to write poetry since I was 9 or 10 years old. At first my family thought it's a cute hobby, like how you'll consider a pet doing tricks. When I wanted to pursue literature in college, that's when the negative reactions began. I had my poems published as part of anthologies here and there, wrote on Wattpad, and was doing well for myself as this was the only way I could cope with shit in my life. But the second they found that I was serious about poetry, it went downhill. Said it wouldn't pay the bills (which is fair) and discouraged it even as a hobby. I was pressured to write about God and traditional family values instead of what I focused on (which was mental health, my trauma, and social issues). Little comments here and there kept me feeling so down, I barely write anything anymore. I truly never wish this upon anyone. The moment your passion, something you value so much beyond yourself is viewed as "unimportant"- it feels like shit
Start writing again! Do it for yourself and not for them. Publish them but keep 🤫 so they don’t sabotage you. Once you grow big enough, show them how you succeeded…no thanks to them.
Not long after me and my boyfriend got together there was an incident where I bleed through my pad and on to the covers.. he Changed the sheets while I showered❤️ we have been together for 2.5 years now❤️
Keeper
Awh I know this is a year old but I hope your still together that's adorable
When I was 12/13 I participated in a writing contest. There was an event where the winners would be announced and my mom didn’t want me to go because she wanted to visit the grandparents that day and I overheard her telling my dad „it’s not like she’s going to win a prize anyway“. My dad went with me and I won first place out of hundreds of kids. My mom was very sorry and embarrassed. 😅
As she should
I wrote my first draft at 15, and my parents were so supportive. But I didn’t publish right away, and came back to it after a friend in college read it and said “it’s good for 15, but I bet you can make it better now”.
When I first finished the draft, my dad emailed Brandon Sanderson (one of my favorite authors and a stand-up guy) asking about publishing. This is before Brandon really blew up, so he replied the next day with great advice: she’s 15, and it’s great that she has talent and passion, but like any tradesman has to go through an apprenticeship, being a writer takes years of practice and study. Over a decade (and a bachelor’s degree) later, and I’m working on my fourth draft of that novel.
Aw that's such a nice story. And good advice too. I'm sure that novel is going to be great.
I also loved writing when I was younger and wrote several (albeit terribly written) stories. I used to give drafts to friends and teachers for advice since my family wouldn't read it at the time. When I got older, I finished another book that my mom liked but I found flaws with it and didn't publish. Now one of my goals in 2023 is to finish writing one of my book and publish it. I don't want to become famous with it or whatever, I just want to have something I've written out there to fulfill that childhood dream of publishing a book.
That's incredible! Good luck on publishing it!
Sounds to me that he was jealous he didn’t get the opportunity to publish himself. There is too many parents like this in the world. 🤦🏻♀️
3:36 😂😂😂 EMOTIONAL DAMAGE. Dad was a whole hater who had the nerve to criticize his work that he didn't even read! What a jerk
It’s horrible to hear parents try to mess with their kids achievements 😢 I’m sorry for people who go through this ❤
Right?! My kids are 20, 18 & 17.. I would never do anything like that! We’re supposed to be encouraging our kids and supporting them
it's a certain generation who do this, my parents are the same.... and now i'v adults kids myself,..., i don't understand neither....
I wish we knew his name I would buy his book read it and give him a great review because if he was able to ride an entire book with a parent like that on his back no matter how bad it is it deserves positivity.
This was pure envy. He made that lame comment about, "I could have been a successful writer, but my wife got pregnant!". He's basically blaming his son, before he was born for stopping him from writing.
What bull crap!
How could he NOT read his work? My son has schizophrenia, and writing helps him express his frustrations with the often cruel activity of his brain. I read his writing, even though it breaks my heart. It has helped me empathize with his struggles to cope with voices screaming at him. He's on medication now, and I am happy to see his writing is more coherent and often extremely observant of the world around us. He notices things I don't.
I have encouraged him to keep his writing in folders, and maybe write a book about his life and experiences. If he does, I'll be that mom making fake accounts praising it for being "brilliantly insightful, a window into the mind of schizophrenia.".
@@LazyIRanch I would buy your son's book. My brother also has schizophrenia, well controlled by meds. I'm glad your son is doing better. You sound like a great parent.
I’m so grateful I raised my boys to understand periods. My two older buys keep pads and tampons in their bathroom for friends who may need them unexpectedly.
*applause* Wonderful parenting right here! Thank you for this, many more parents need to follow your example.
Oh my god, that’s incredibly sweet.
Great Mom!!! ❤🎉
👏 👏
On behalf of the entire female population, THANK YOU MELISSA FOR RAISING A COUPLE OF “KEEPERS!!!” 🥰❤️🥰
The first story really pained me... When I was around nine years old, I started getting interested in writing because of how all the books I was reading inspired me. I showed my parents a short story I'd written and after my birth giver read it, she told me was it terrible and that I should give up writing. She also mentioned how she could write so much better than me. She said this to a 3rd grader, and I cried for so long about it. I tore it up and didn't start writing again for five, almost six years. Now, at 25, I still have problems seeing my writing as good, even if the people I share it with say it is.
Parents should encourage and nuture their kids' interests, not tear them down. It effects them so much.
What kind of works do you write, and where can they be read? 👀
@@poke-talia268 I write fantasy fiction short stories and currently I don't have them posted anywhere. I'm just.. a little afraid I guess to put them on like, Wattpad and getting terrible reviews
If others like your written work go ahead and get some of your stories out there I know the stigma from your mum may linger (she seems unsupportive which is sad in itself) but you have a talent and I guess it's a dream of yours too, I say go for it it's your life so live it. Sometimes we fail but always look forwards, we learn each and every day. Best of luck although I don't think you need much luck, believe in yourself.
You could look at r/writingprompts or other writer groups to post stories on, it may help. I've never seen anyone get dumped on in that subreddit because everyone understands it's writing exercises. If you want constructive criticism there's groups for that too
The monster who gave birth to me did the same thing for years. I was obsessed with books and writing but she’d always try to make me feel insecure, worthless and weird for it.
So I got a couple HILARIOUS period stories:
1. When I first started having a period, I was still learning how to tell when I was on it. I have an insanely heavy, long ass periods that last for two weeks (even when I first started). I was at my dad's and his brother was there. I was again still not familiar with my new functions, felt like I had to go to the bathroom, saw I had blood everywhere and came back out to see blood on my dad's couch. I was embarrassed and started crying cause I didn't want my dad to be mad at me. He wasn't, but my uncle turned me (mind you he was well in his thirties and i was freaking 12) and said "can't you control it??"
2. When my dad was married to his ex wife, I had a step sis at the time. There are two bathrooms in this apartment they had together, theirs and the "guest" which my step sis and me used. Okay we get periods yeah? So apparently it was disgusting and not fair to guests to have to see/"smell" our used pads/Tampons and the freaking ex-wife who is also someone that had a period tells us point blank, "Okay girls, since that is the guest bathroom, you shouldn't put your pads in the trash. If you have a used pad, etc, please put in the trash bin in the kitchen" 🙃🙃
So yeah no I can't control it (as much as I would love to, you know NOT HAVE ONE) and you want me to put my USED bloody Tampons in the KITCHEN trash?? Oh yes, let me do my monthly walks of shame for having a body that bleeds once a month. I did not consent to being born to deal with this shit lmao
Also screw that dad and husband- the are both TA.
Can we all appreciate how Charlotte posts everyday? That’s REAL hustle
PREACH
And at the exact time each day. "Discipline" is one out of manyyyy things we can learn from this woman!!❤️
It is on a whole new level of hustlemania!
Well said 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
The day she doesn't upload I wonder if she is ok.
My dad gave me a speech a few times about how rude it is to put my used, wrapped tampons in the trash, in my own home, because if we happen to have a guest they could see it. I can confirm, this does damage.
ah yes, because a wrapped, properly disposed-of tampon is grosser than... *checks notes* digging through the bathroom trash can of someone else's house /sarcasm
your dad has some weird logic 😂
Wow. I would be petty go their house and leave an unwrapped used one in the trash like week old roadkill. 😂 kidding. But like the other reply said how would one know if it was wrapped up and properly disposed of? That’s the creepy kicker.
Did he forget you can just replace the bag? It's not thay big a deal.
I would tell him that he is a huge sexist and that he doesn’t have to come over then
WTF 💀
I feel so sorry for any girl who ends up dating the guy in the pad story. Imagine waking up with ur period and cramps and a headache and he just makes u feel bad for getting blood on the bed
Yeah, he should probably date men.
Or no one at all.
I had an accident once when I was with an ex, and I felt so bad. I was apologizing profusely, but he kept assuring me that it was fine. Yet, brought it up in a later argument complaining about how I didn't offer to buy him new sheets. Like, sure, ok, but just clean it? It didn't stain btw.
I hope he never takes care of a woman who can’t run to the bathroom, because she’ll need a pad to not pee on herself. Dude needs a reality check that a used pad>used toilet paper. She did her brother in law a favor when he, if ever, takes out that trash.
I think she needs a reality check, single men don't need to know that you have your period. Just use something to rap the used pad in. I did not even leave an unrapped pad in my own home and I live alone. That pad gets thrown in the garbage for strangers to throw away. It is all about having a bit of self respect.
When I change my pad I wrap it in the wrapper of the new pad so you don't see the used pad. I can see him being upset if he looked at trash can and there is a blood soaked pad in there but not mad to the point of saying it is disrespectful to basically use the trash can.
totally agree, you have to wrap the pad, no one is comfortable seeing sth bloody in their trash can, but it's obvious he just made a big deal out of it because they weren't on good terms
As someone who’s literally in the process of publishing my first book, I cannot express how devastated I would be if my parents did this to me. They’ve been so supportive of me through a 6 YEAR PROCESS (so I can’t even express how impressive it is that this kid finished it in less than a year!!) & have agreed to not read it because I told them I wasn’t comfortable with it. They don’t even care about what it’s about - they’re just proud of me for writing it! What a truly HORRIBLE father!! I hope with all my heart that kid isn’t discouraged because I know how hard the writing process can be.
At least your parents are supportive. My parents, particularly my mom, said that me writing a novel is a big waste of time because I don't get any money from it. :)
Yeah, this is really bad. My friend published a book and even though I already read the draft and I didn't like it that much, I still purchased her book, just to show support, because I thought as a friend/family you are supposed to do just that. Also Congrats on your book!
I started writing one and actually stopped for a while. I have been lazy or prioritizing other things. I feel discouraged because I feel it's really expensive to even get published.
@@witchqueen1296 Well fuck that - I'm passing on some of my parental positivity to you!!
Congratulations! That’s a huge accomplishment!
First story, my father was like this. It took me way too long to figure out that my father did not want his children to be “better” than him. When he saw my newer home home I asked him what he thought and his answer was “disappointing”. I asked which part of all of it, he would not answer. That guys wife should tell her son. So messed up.
I had a bf in my freshman year of college who literally got so repulsed by me accidentally bleeding on his sheets while we were ~doing the deed~ that he literally shut down everything and left. Said he had to "go into work." I felt so bad I was already so anxious about these things so angry at myself so embarrassed. I hurried and washed his sheets for him while he was gone and tried to apologize over text and then apologized again later in person when I remade his bed etc. etc. Now like 6 or 7 years later I'm here knowing that I had endometriosis the whole dang time and bleeding is so freaking common for me there was nothing to be embarrassed for there was nothing I could have done. I just wish I could go back in time and shake some sense into both of us.
Now I'm with a real man who is a ~warrior~ as Charlotte puts it, highly recommend 👌
Endometriosis warrior here too. I've been bleeding twice as much as most people for the last decade and it'd say the only benefit is that it cuts out all the stupid and ignorant people of your life. I'm not wasting my time on people who don't understand periods. Let alone endometriosis.
Sorry for that story that clearly had an impact on you. Hope you're doing well.
Cheers from France.
Pro tip for humans with periods or that bleed in general: pet cleaner for dogs is the best to get out those stains. 😊 Just wet it several times and let it sit until dry each time before putting it in the washing machine. Also works if you're a thicc girl like me and sweat too much walking your dogs to keep the stains away. Have never found anything else that works better. OH! I use Nature's Miracle Advanced for dogs, we always have some on hand cause we have 2 German Shepherds, but a whole bottle would last quite awhile for a home without pets only using it as a stain remover.
Anyway, luff yews Charlotte! Agreed with all your opinions on these posts. 🥰
As a writer on the internet, one of my first lessons was to learn that negative posters, editors, and reviewers were not worth my notice. When challenged, NONE of them could point me to THEIR work.
It's a shame that the kid is only 14 and won't ever learn this. Can't build resistance to pain if you straight up stab them.
Dad's a coward
PREACH!
Yea but what made it worse is that it's his own dad that dropped him to less than 2 stars. And with 6 reviews just from him. It'd be one thing if they were actually random people but he can't even get the support of "you're only 14. This is just your first book. Keep writing, get better, do more. You have a whole future. Yadda yadda" from his parents because mom knows and won't tell him even though she might want to and dad is the one putting them up there. Now he won't even get a fair start because the reviews are low and pointing out certain pages. And all because dear old dad is jealous.
Oof. That menstrual cycle story reminded me of another Reddit tale where this poor student who was experiencing cramps, messaged her professor multiple times via zoom needing to use the restroom and was ignored. Not wanting to make a mess, she left one final message before excusing herself to take care of business -- her grade was lowered as a result. (Yes, he admitted to seeing the messages, he just actively chose to ignore them.)
Rightfully pissed, she spoke to the Dean, who (rightfully) was also pissed as this was a reoccurring issue with said professor. The Dean took care of it and the Professor was getting investigated (or fired, I forgot).
Long story short, the student was BERATED by her father and brother for "putting the professor’s job in jeopardy” because she couldn’t “hold in” her period.
Hold in ... her period.
I can’t even.
(Edited for spelling and grammar as I got a little heated, lol.)
Couldn’t hold in her period WHAAAAAT?
I wish men would experience period once or twice in their life and bleed for a month and see if they can hold it in. 😒
THIS IS NOT A WOUND THAT YOU CAN JUST ADD PRESSURE TO STOP THE BLEEDING!
I would love to know how to hold in my period flow… would make life so much easier to be able to do that instead of having to abandon a full cart at the checkout, or sneeze hard & instantly be a mess while wedged in the drive through line at McDonald’s, or ya know…find out the morning after a romp that if the police were to barge in looking for a homicidal maniac they’d think you were it because it wasn’t all “good time fluids” in the wet spot (& everywhere.) I think I need to hear the mansplaining about holding in my period but I’m certain: neither father nor brother believes the clitoris exists on account neither have been able to find one.🤔
How the hell we supposed to hold it in though? Teach me the secrets lol
@@roll3886 There is no secret, you just don't.
I grow up feeling disgusted about my own period because my mom told me so. Then I feel awkward around men because I dont know how they will react. At 12, I played with my brother, and my period blood suddenly showed up when I was sitting. My brother pointed it out, but he wasnt like allergic to it. My dad taught my brothers to be understanding that this is a normal thing since I got puberty. I love the men in my family for it.
My mom however....😔
Is this what your grandma thinks as well? If so, your mom's views could have been perpetuated for generations. Not to mention other people's influence. And if she didn't have anyone like the men in your family when growing up, it just stuck and it's hard to unlearn. Obviously that doesn't excuse her putting those views on you.
Just don't repeat her stupidity with your kids. Shout-out to your awesome dad and brothers. 👍
Can we find out what book this is and where to buy it????? This kid needs all the support and success in the world! Screw his dad!
Great idea
Did some research. I have no idea if this is the book, but It's Only a Headache by Luke Schumacher
Is a book published by a 14 yr old about 6 months ago which fits with the readit post, but no 1 or 2 star reviews, so if it's the same 14 yr old author, his dad took down the comments.
I feel the last story so much... I started to have my period at eleven. Aside from the fact that my mother refused to explain or teach anything or even talk about it, I had a hard time because of the pads disposal issues (i was the only one at home having periods). It's fortunate that I don't use them anymore. So my father berated me for putting them in the bathroom trashcan (it smelled "like a dead pig"), so i did what I did not know was never to be done, that is flushing them down the toilet (i thought it was like toilet paper). The pipes got blocked, and i was majorly berated. So I would put them in a plastic bag in my room (did not have a trashcan), and i would dispose of them in the outdoor bin at the end. Until my mother gave me a sermon about how unhealthy it was... I almost exploded, lost, but was given a sermon instead, for not being able to get my shit together. I got used to putting them in my pocket until I had the occasion to put them in a bag in my room. Moral of the story : please let girls throw away their very natural trash in the bathroom bin!
God, I am so sorry your parents did that to you. They literally just didn’t give you any options-what did they expect you to do??
My mother hit me when I soiled my clothes and bed-sheets with blood. For years she called me unhygienic. Until my aunt noticed how strangely long and intense my periods were and told my mother to take me to a doctor. Turns out I was ill all those years, with severe hormonal imbalance that caused 3-week-long periods every month with highly running flow. Idiot.
@@neliaferreira9983 I’m so sorry
Sorry you went through that
Gotta love it when parents tell you what not to do instead of teaching you what to do. The bathroom trash can is the appropriate place for used pads. If your parents have another idea, they should frigging share it with you.
"Real men don't care"
Truer words have never been said!
My father was borderline proud when I needed him to get me some supplies (I was a teenager and mortified at the time) but he didn't bat an eye. His daughter needed what she needed and he was there.
My husband is the same way.
It's what bodies do.
I was in Walmart when a man came in looking for some products for his daughter..I made sure to tell him he was doing a good job..
Same with my hubby and dad. I actually had my first period when with dad. We were in Toronto (from Montréal) at his uncle’s funeral. Fun time 😂. I told him and he asked the receptionist for a pad. She gave me a HUGE one 😂. And had my aunt go get me a package. Hubby has also always just got me pads etc. never ever made a thing of it. Horrified his mom for some reason
I was so relieved that the first time I got my period mother was out and dad was there. It meant he knew what was happening. So I never had to have all the stress of trying to hide it from him as well as dealing with the period itself. Mother was more difficult as she tried to be helpful but had very odd habits such as keeping all the pads in her room, so I had to ask for them when I needed them. I realise as an adult that she was basically freaking out. Dad talked it all out with his brother whose daughter was older than me and suffered really badly, so he was much more chill. And the next day I had dance and drama and sport classes at school. You couldn’t make it up!
That dad is jealous. My parents did this to me in the realm of sports. I had an opportunity to play with a national team and they said, “ no because I should focus on school” later found out as an adult they said no because they were good at sports too and got pregnant young. It’s really shitty and I use to wonder what my life would be like if they allowed me to enjoy my sporting career
Wow, I am sorry that happened. They told you that themselves??
That’s SO messed up.
My mom did this to me but with singing, it sucks😕 I was really accomplished in high school and I was getting noticed, I likely could have gone alot further, but her total lack of interest and encouragement coupled with her comments regarding my voice (which EVERYONE said was incredible, just not her) made me even more self conscious, so much so that I don't even sing anymore.....she was a decent singer but married young, she didn't like any attention taken from her and if she couldn't be special than neither could I 🤷🏼♀️ I'm really sorry they did that to you, robbing you of your opportunity to shine, although I'd suspect you still outshine them with little effort 👍🏼❤️❤️❤️ Parents can be worse than enemies and jealous parents are the actual devil😡
It is haunting at times to wonder what could have been, is it not?
I litterally got my period on the first date (at his place, we knew each other a little since before) with my now husband.
And he just went " be right back", rushed out for like ten minutes (lived right by the store) and came back with a whole lot of different pads, tampoons and a fresh pair of knickers an stuff like that.
That was the when I knew he was right one for me.
That is just awful. That dad did the same thing as my mom. Once I was all grown up and could see her for who she truly was, I simply asked her, “why were you so mean to me?”
Her response was similar to the dad in this story.
She said, “the world was going to be hard on you so I had to be harder”
Wow. I hope this kid finds understanding and awareness that it wasn’t him and that his dad is toxic way before I did with my mom.
I was in my mid 40’s before the “straw” broke and I was more free.
Funny when we do the same thing to our parents, they will throw tantrum like kid.
Your mom sounds like a narcissist. 😮😢 She should have encouraged you!!!
Yeah, my dad was the same way. It was honestly the most damaging thing to ever happen to me. As hard as the world and life is sometimes, the hardest part was having my dad as a parent. I can't help but wonder if that's how he wanted to be remembered by his kids. Because all of the good times are tainted by the rest of it. I can't remember him the way other people do. He was a weight holding me down, the source of all my doubts about myself, all my fears and anxieties. I've had therapy since then, and if he were still alive, I'd for sure be NC with him. I was already planning on it as a teenager. I hope our stories can be cautionary tales to other parents who are tempted to behave this way.
@@starlingswallow Narcissistic parent alert, for sure. My NPD father explained that he was “hard on me” to “toughen me up.” That is bs; he was hard on me because he had a personality disorder that meant he prioritized himself over everyone and everything else, and totally lacked empathy. Since I was merely an extension of him, and he was very keen to be perceived as strong and masculine, I-his daughter and only child-had to be a stoic. This “excuse” for cruel behavior is a dead giveaway that the parent is personality-disordered, IM(experienced)O.
I also had shi77y parents. Family is supposed to be there to hold you up, not tear you down. They are to support you in tough times, not punch you in good times.
This kid will hopefully survive the trauma of being cancelled and become a legend after he disowns his toxic parents. I haven't read the book, but to me he is a genius already.
Only the father is toxic, the mother seems to think he's an arsehole.
@@dianaellul9345 Hmmm, my understanding was the mother is doing all the fake criticisms. That's bad enough to qualify as abuse and if the father is aware of the deliberate subversion of the kid then he's as guilty. Parents exist to mediate the intensity of experience for children, not traumatise them deliberately. I'd be calling social services or the equivalent.
@@lrowlands53 No, the mother was at best complicit. It's the father doing the fake criticisms. That said, the mother actually told him that he went to far, and the dad wants to "stick to his guns." So no. The mother is not nearly as bad as the father, if at all.
@@slsthewriter1299 I don’t see any point in defending the mother - this is not a feminist artefact is it? Witnessing and allowing her son to be abused - not protecting him from harm - is a failure to parent and a failure to exercise a duty of care. Neither is worthy of being a parent.
@@lrowlands53 read the article AGAIN.
As someone who lived their entire childhood chasing after my mothers approval (which I was never good enough for) this cuts so deep. It still wasn't enough when I made it as a division 1 athlete and that's when I realized that no matter what i did it would never be enough. It was way too late at that point and the damage has been deeply set within me. I pray this child doesn't grow up with the complex I have.
Same I'm 23 and I realized last year that my father is extremely toxic and I'll never be what he wants.
Your mother is a toxic narcissist. You know this already. Have you grey rocked her yet?
Kim, you are yours and your mother doesn’t deserve you. Please try to break ties if this applies to your life.
Never carry her negativity, it’s hers not yours. 🙌🏼🤍
Unfortunately, this happens more often than not. One of my friend's sisters did the same thing. She always sought after their mom's approval, but the mother wouldn't give it to her. The sister is a practicing doctor now, but while in residency, she had a mental breakdown. Her mom basically, said, "I knew she wouldn't make it as a doctor."
@@addie-eileenpaige6460 So terrible to want your children to fail. I pray that this toxic narcissistic behavior stops here. Once the survivor understands what’s going on and breaks away, they will stop hearing that negativity in their head.
Dang, same. To this day I still am brainwashed to chase that approval. Someday I will break out of it :\
As a man....I hate seeing blood, mainly because I faint afterwards (rip 1st childhood goal to become doctor lol)
But I thankfully got to the point where when I see blood on...generally assumable regions & on any seatables, I ask "pls tell me this is just period blood" (& then only faint if its not lol).
So weird to imagine being disgusted/afraid of period blood, while it gives me comfort xDD
Good for you, what a great attitude!!!
“Girls see more blood than boys.” - Ygritte, GoT
The brother freaking out about a properly disposed period product is definitely a reflection of why he’s single tbh
And lives alone
Fragile masculinity at its most fragile. Does he still think girls have cooties too? 😂
Since it was a birthday party, she should have taken it with her and handed it to him with a big smile. It was already gift wrapped.
Did she wrap it up so you couldn't see the contents, yes we have periods, no can't help it but at least dispose of it covered I don't want to see someones dirty pad or tampons.
Since it was properly put in the trash....I want to know how the brother knew...did he go dumpster diving in there to check the contents of the trash like some kind of freaky weirdo?
As a writer, that first story hit HARD!! That’s genuinely AWFUL!!! Like I am so happy my family supports me realistically lol 😆
be greatfull about it, thats very rare from what i have noticed... its sad but true (at least if you are serious about it)
Same, @Shayda, same. It angered me to hear that. Good luck with your writing. ❤️
I would divorce a dad that would do this.
Same here, I was FUMING.
Lucky!
The father who left bad reviews for his son's book is only using the "I have to keep his ego in check" excuse for emotionally abusing his son. Many abusers seek obtuse justification from on-lookers. When his son finds out, he may choose to delete his father from his life and rightfully so. His son is going to have to think carefully whether he wants his prospective children to be subjected to his father's presence. I seriously doubt whether this is the first, or last instance of emotional abuse. This man would do well to remember that his children will choose his rest home.
My dad brought me up alone. He gave me the 'period talk'. He bought my pads every month and there were pads all up on the bathroom ledge, there was a bin in the toilet were my used pads went and dad emptied the bin lol. He had to wash my bloodied sheets and clothes if I had an accident. Like.... It's just a period. Some men need a reality check!
What a gentleman! Let him know how grateful you are
You had you a good Papa!!
So wholesome 😭💕
You had an amazing dad. ❤️
I was raised by my father in at age 2 in the early 60's. He did the same thing! Brought home a book and bc I was too embarrassed to buy pads & tampons he would buy them for me. You and I were lucky to have such wonderful dads ❤️
My ex thought my period was disgusting and made me feel disgusted about it. My dad on the other hand although a highly awkward conversation after I asked my stepmother for tampons told me that I should have asked him straight away because it's just a period and he will go to the store and grab tampons for me no issue. I then met my current partner who is unfazed by my period and went as far as to go to the store and get tampons to keep at his place while we weren't living together. I'm now no longer disgusted by my own period anymore
I'm lucky I've never been with a man who acted like it was anything other than normal. I haven't been in many relationships though haha
As a teacher, I too often find parents and other adults are the worst stumbling blocks for kids
What is the worst block you have see? Also, is there any blocks that a lot of parents do without realizing it? I don't wanna be a block!! 😟
Parents not supporting and praising their children really has an effect. Through years, I think I have made some pretty awesome achievements that deserve at least a “congrats, I am proud of you” but the lack of praise as a young child made me really disconnect from my studies. Even the teachers were concerned, how could I go from the top of my class to the bottom. It was not until 7th when I had these two really amazing teacher, that I realised I liked studying. When I recently confronted my mother about this in, why she didn’t praise me but constantly degraded and criticised me. Her answer was “if it is good then it is good, but if if something is bad then I need to tell you that so you should work on it.” So yeah, now I just ignore my mom when she gets in the mood of telling me everything that is wrong with me. It does wonders on a teenager’s self esteem…
I dont usually think people should split up over a disagreement, but getting uncomfortable over a period is a huge red flag. I wouldn't know what to do with that.
Red flag. Lol.
@@blueredbrick The brother was the one with the actual issues, but the husband blindly supporting the brother's illogical and childish reaction to a normal, adult thing, is terrible, too. I assume the husband doesn't make similar scenes in their shared home, or she would not have been surprised by his reaction here.
@@ChrisMaxfieldActs I think they are lol-ing about the pun/irony "red"-flag 🤣
@@blueredbrick I was gonna say something else….I forgot! 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
WTF! Some men are plain ‘tarded. This is why women are so damn secretive! My hubby loves everything I do…but ask him if I fart…ever! Some days I can’t wait for him to go to work! 🤭
I'm a romance author via Amazon/kindle. I've been publishing my own books since 2019. I'm 35 and I am still worried about bad reviews, but it's normal. But it's NOT normal when a father leaves terrible reviews on their own child's book!! Every author counts on reviews! Especially us indie authors! Good for him! Wow! Publishing at 14 years old! Keep going, bud! You are fantastic!!
@@Bxautifullove Oh awesomeness! My pen name is Faith M. Troyer
I write mainly women's contemporary romance! And all of my books are in the Kindle Unlimited program and all but two are in paperback format. Thank you! 😊 I truly appreciate you!
I'm a 30 year old girl who's been writing my own novel for the past 10 years and I'm in awe of this 14 year old boy writing his own book in his own words, it's so brave and as a fellow writer and artist I couldn't be more proud of him no matter what the content sounds like. I am genuinely shocked and honestly terrified by his father's behavior and the fact that his mom knows what her husband is doing to their own child and being a silent partner in crime is much worse than an asshole of a dad. It goes against every maternal instinct there is. This sweet boy is going to find out the truth sooner or later and it's going to break his heart and destroy his relationship with both of them. It hurts me to imagine the moment he realizes what they've done to him. I'm not on this subreddit but I have a toxic mother myself and I refuse to let this slide so I'm going to try and find out where the book is published, buy it, READ IT and leave him the best review he's ever gotten, making sure he knows that I expect MORE BOOKS in the future. If anyone knows the name of the book please reply, I'm diving headfirst for this boy. He's earned it just by opening himself up and publishing the book.
I'm with you. If you get the name of the book, tell Charlotte so she can tell us!
I've been trying to write my novel for 20 years ahahah ... Every time I sat down to write I felt 'guilty' for not doing more productive and important things. That happens when you grew up with a tiger-mum: even if you're a full-grown adult, you still think things you like but are not immediately remunerative are not important.
@@OrontesRM same 🥲
I'm like, you girl, I'm 30, with a finished novel written along 12 years or so... And I'm terrified about the idea of publishing it. Let's see if someday I encourage myself...! I admire that 14 old kid too.
@@jerosiquier9985
Go for it, honey !!!
You truly do only live once !!!
I agree with the hairstyle thing! You could do your hair in specific styles for different types of videos! Bratty hairstyle for petty revenge, slightly wavy for judgey videos, etc. I love the idea, Charlotte! ❤️
Good men aren't just okay with periods, they'll buy you pads.
I remember the first time I got my period after I met my boyfriend. I felt SO awful but I needed pads and I was terrified to ask him, but I did, and he actually got offended that I thought he wouldn't go to the store for me.
Yup I have a woman at home and she needs period goods and I’m not embarrassed to buy them for her.
My ex used to buy and keep tampons and pads (and other period stuff) at his place for me. He tracked my period too (mostly for himself) Never had an issue
Same! My (now husband) only asked for a specific picture, as he already knew that people tend to prefer a brand or type and he didn't want to be lost when choosing.
Not only that but we’ll learn what else to get with them (meds, sweets/snacks, drinks) and keep that stuff on hand.
I hate the way women are body shamed for having periods.
I often want to hit people in the face with this fact: did you know a human mouth contains 10 times more bacteria than a woman's private parts?
Period blood is a waste product, yes. But it shouldn't be reviled so much when our saliva is "technically" disgusting in comparison to it.
Both those stories were heart wrenching. The son being torn down by his own parent because of jealousy is definitely a perfect example of people that shouldn't be parents.
And then being so upset with your wife about her pad in the trash. That's a weird form of verbal abuse to me imo
The Dad in the first story is absolutely the Ahole! I was published in a magazine at 14 and my family was so excited for me. I can’t imagine them sabotaging me! The husband and his brother need to grow up!! If my husband acted like that to me, he’d be living with that brother! Thanks for great videos Charlotte! 💗💗💗
No, no, no. The woman should've just NOT CHANGED HER PAD AT ALL! That way, she could just keep bleeding & leak all over everything she sits on in the brother's new place. 😂
I’ve been working on being less embarrassed about periods. I’m now the person loudly opening my pad in a public bathroom with no embarrassment! I used to put my used pads in a ziploc bag in my purse at friend’s houses, which I don’t do anymore. It sad that so many of us feel a level of shame over having normal body functions. I hope I never pass that on to anyone.
I do that because it’s gross. Public restrooms are gross enough
Heyy people like you gave me the confidence to be the people like you😁
I would keep my used pads in a plastic bag in my purse if I was at a friend's or family member's house, too.
I misread. I never did that. That gross
@@RedK5 lol I’m not sure how it’s gross to make noise opening a pad. It takes forever to be quiet
As someone who writes a little myself, the first aita scares the living 💩 out of me for so many reasons, one I went through something similar with a family member a few months ago. People, please don't do that, no matter what, it hurts more than you may think and can destroy not only the ego. Also hands up for Charlotte for standing up for the kid
Kudos to the parents who announces literally everyone they know that their kid published a book and ask them to read the book and put a good review.
5:53 what’s crazy is cyber bullying is illegal in many states now. If that was real, that dad could actually go to jail if the kid pursued it.
Imagine how passed that brother would have been if she had a period cup instead of a pad and she would have had to rinse the cup in the sink. 🤣
Yeah, no, bc unless you know where he keeps the bleach, peroxide or Lysol please don’t do that where he may brush his teeth and wash his face. Imagine the blood splashing on the sink, toiletries or toothpaste/toothbrush… the trash and another cup please if you’re at someone else’s home as a guest.
He would not have known that it happened though.
@@48mavemiss2 Sinks are where you wash dirty things though...Someone should be able to wash their hands and everything else at the sink. Even if you wear a pad or tampon you might still het some blood on your hands when you switch them for a clean pad or tampon. With your logic you aren't even allowed to wash your hands then??? Come on!!! As long as someone can wash things in a decent way, there is no issue with rinsing out a menstrual cup. You can even take some hand soap to give the sink a good once-over for good measure to make it really clean if neccessary. Most people can probablyne trusted to do this in a decent and clean way. The people you can't trust with this you can't trust with using your bathroom or even anything in your home because they are nasty. I am talking about the kind of people in Charlotte's video's about nasty people like horrible roommates, horrible dates and the nasty kind of Wallmart people.
@@48mavemiss2 sinks are where people wash their hands after pooping, after blowing their noses, after scooping up pet poop…rinsing out period blood is far less bacteria rich than that. You don’t smear your toothbrush in the bowl of the sink. So…yeah, cup rinsing in sink is a need. Dump the bulk of the stuff in the toilet, but then you need a water source to rinse the rest.
So one time when I was on my period in high school, we had guests over at home. I had left a pad in the trash can, which did not have a lid. Mind you, my mother picked out all items for the house.
My mother approached me after a male guest had used the restroom and told me my pad was visible in the trash. I think it was just rolled up in the wrapper, no blood showing but she was so embarrassed. “What if he had seen it?” she asked repeatedly. I was just embarrassed she was making such a big deal about it.
I get it; it’s a gross thing that naturally happens to us monthly but do we really have to be culturally demonized for it? 🙄
Ikr my moms like that.
What if he had seen it? Well then he might have known that someone that used that bathroom had a period, if he even recognised what it was that he was seeing. End of the story.
He's never had a cut? Never seen blood in his life? I'd understand being mad if someone literally left actual blood on stuff in the bathroom but in the trash?? Where else should it go???? Unfortunately I understand her embarrassment because I was raised to be embarrassed by those kind of things as well, but guys should also accept they're part of the human race and so menstruation is part of Life
Isn't it great that that generation is going to be done with soon 😅 our kids and their kids will be so much better off
It's NOT a gross thing. It's completely natural. Our bodies reset after not getting pregnant. Society is so messed up. I hate that most people think it's gross...
My mom had twin girls when I was 12 and my older sister was 14. A few years later when they were like three my older sister left a used pad in the trash can without wrapping it up and my little sister who saw it was crying hysterically thinking someone in our house was bleeding to death. Needless to say ever since l I ALWAYS wrap my used pads and tampons up in toilet paper like little mummies and bury them under the rest of rubble in the trash can so as not to traumatize little kids.
Yeah and... So they don't fucking reek? Everyone SHOULD BE wrapping them up because no one needs to SEE or SMELL our used pads. It's like the countries that don't flush thier tp. I'm sure they don't just throw thier shitty used tp in the top of the trash can for everyone to look at and smell! Wrap that shit up and THROW IT AWAY where no one else needs to see or smell it, duh!
I can't believe some people are acting like being told to wrap up your used products is wrong or a big deal- I would be horrified for people, my husband and son included, to have to stare at bloody used tampons in the trash and they both know what periods are AND are very supportive and wonderful- but no one needs to SEE or SMELL it, geeze!!
That first story broke my heart, I was 16 when I wrote a book that took me a whole year to complete. My mom told me she would read it until it was complete since I was talking a lot about it. So I stopped giving everyone spoilers and I finished the book ( 15 chapters) and gave it to my mom and even dedicated the book to her. Well, it remained on her night table for a whole year and she put things on top, she never finished the first chapter. I was so sad that I came to her room and took that book and I trow it in the trashcan and she never noticed. I stopped writing for five years and recently I started o rewrite the story and expanded the lore. If I finish the book this year I don't know if I should show it to her or not since no one in my family is really interested.
Don't show it to them, they are not worthy!!! You can tell them about but if you show them or try to get them to read it you will only be disappointed and hurt.
Yeah I’d use a pen name & not let A SOUL know. F those haters & their jelly fillings!
You don't need your mom's approval, do it if you want to and share it with people who would be as excited as you are about it. That's how things work ! It will boost your confidence as you will get support and hopefully benevolent criticism towards it.
Be kind to yourself and enjoy your process, and if someday your mom changed her mind and wants to give it a shot it would be up to you to let her do so or not but in any case you should put yourself down because of bad parenting. Not your fault, keep it up !
I'm all about fine-tuning some lore. I'd read it!
Why consider showing to them, then? We're here. We buy books. We read. 😂😍
I find it hilarious when men are so freaked out by periods. Like relax, we literally cannot control it. It's not like we're running around spraying blood at people. 😂 Or are we?
Imagine if you could do that to people that irritate you or scare you. LMAO Like the dinosaur from Jurassic Park. That would add a little excitement to the period talk for young ladies. lol
Control periods? No
Control where it’s disposed? Yes
@@RedK5 she disposed of it in a garbage can, which is the proper place for it.
@@RedK5 i think it's much grosser to carry a used bloody pad with you than it is to throw it in in a TRASH CAN
@@ziggystarlust was it covered? It was probably on top
The story about the dad sadly reminded me of the woman who birthed me. She often would destroy my journals, paintings, and my writings when I was younger. She was horrible.
That's terrible. We don't speak of the people who birthed us.
@@nurafahz8096 I'm no contact with her for many reasons.
@@nurafahz8096 preach it ! I am very happy with the people that actually raised me into this person rn and thats all we should think about :P
My mum did the same. She thought my writing was 'unladylike' and throwing it away would make me 'act like a lady.'
My dad wouldn't even allow me and my sister to SAY the word period or menstration. Our parents divorced the year before I got my first period and I stayed with dad. He made me go into the grocery store by myself with blood all over me to buy my first package of pads. It made me hate being a girl. It made me hate my body for becoming a woman. I was always really close to my dad and to know that there were things about me that he found so repulsive that he wouldn't even talk about it to me really affected me. I have two daughters now. One started menstrating and we were talking about it around my dad (I forgot he was there because mommy-mode) and he started going on about how "You shouldn't talk about stuff like that. No one wants to hear about that". I snapped back, "Yes, she does. That's why she's asking. That's why we're talking about it. Ya know, it's because I bleed out of my vagina every month that you even have grand daughters. The only reason you have me is because my mom had a bloody vagina. The only reason you're here to complain about menstration is because your mom had a period" Now anytime he asks me how I'm doing or how I am, I answer by telling him about my period. "I'm good but I have period poops so that's not fun." or "Pretty alright, even though my period the other week was kinda heavy" He stopped verbally complaining, but I can tell he hates it.
As soon as I heard " I dabbled in writing when I was his age and could've been published myself. But life got in the way with an unexpected pregnancy and our lives focused on him."
Babe just say your jealous and trying to wreck your son's dreams the way "he" wrecked yours.
This^^^^
Seriously! I want to say, dude, have you read Stephen King's book / memoir called "On Writing"? For years he pretty much had a full time English teacher job (and young kids) and then wrote his books on the side, after he got home from work and on weekends. I think he even wrote at a makeshift desk in a closet until he made it big time and they were able to afford a house with an actual office where he could write. So, your son being born didn't prevent you from writing. YOU chose not to try. So you shouldn't punish your kid for giving it a go and actually finishing his task.
As writer Elizabeth Gilbert once said (and it's a quote I try to remember about any project I attempt):
"Recognizing that people's reactions don't belong to you is the only sane way to create. If people enjoy what you've created, terrific. If people ignore what you've created, too bad. If people misunderstand what you've created, don't sweat it. And what if people absolutely hate what you've created? What if people attack you with savage vitriol, and insult your intelligence, and malign your motives, and drag your good name through the mud? *Just smile sweetly and suggest - as politely as you possibly can - that they go make their own fucking art. Then stubbornly continue making yours.*"
😄
Also, how does having a kid prevent you from writing a book?
Answer: it doesn't
@@yorurei4047 Right on. Exactly. 😊
I remember when I started my period and my mom made me feel like I was disgusting and I could never tell anyone about this Horrible thing, specially men. It stayed with me. My current partner has made me understand that it is literally half of the world experiencing this, he is more understanding than an actual woman. People are so weird about periods idk why
Cause patriarchy
@@n.c.picturesI don't think her mom was in on the patriarchy.
Probably just a normal human being being tired of adulting.
I'm on my period right now and the only thing I hate about it because it's messy and stinky and makes me feel very grumpy all around. 😂
Misogyny…
And pregnancy. What is people's OBSESSION with pregnancy?
Excuse me? Was the brother like digging through the trash or something? 😂😂😂 dude is HUNTING for excuses to get OP’s wife to stay away lmao
Unless she left it bloody side up and visible, he may well have been digging in there. I'd advise OP's wife to say hell no to future visits!
Was looking for this comment!! 😂
Ya for real. He’s definitely looking for an excuse not to invite her over. Thought this was the perfect excuse.
My parents went away overnight and hired a babysitter. She was my uncle (by marriage) sister. I had my period and in the kids’ bathroom (which she wasn’t even using and got to use theirs) I put my pad in the garbage. She told me it’s rude to do that. Like what?! It’s a pad. That’s a garbage. What else was I supposed to do? And why was she even in there snooping? This was 25 years ago and I’m still confused
Oh, c'mon ladies. Are you saying you've never seen a gross pad perched for all to see, on the top of a pile of other garbage in a public toilet, and thought it looked disgusting? We don't know how this pad was left. Was it wrapped up in toilet paper? We just don't have enough information to comment on this situation.
@@SC-tl3px when i was a child and periods were a new thing for me. But as an adult, never. Would you carry a used pad on your pocket or something during someone’s bday party?
OMFG!!! Charlotte's face when she was roasting the Dad critiquing his son's book...Cue Sam Kinison: "Oh, demon, DEMON, oh, ooooooooooh!!!"
My mom had a similar way of dealing with me, at points she would literally say "you're becoming too confident". I've had confidence issues my whole life.
Lets your kids feel good about themselves.
The first story reminds me of when I was overseas teaching English and the teacher I was working with told me that one of her students who didn't speak English well had written a story in his native language (Ukrainian) then used Google translate to translate it to English. She said that while the translation wasn't that good, the ideas expressed were amazing. I read it and they were. I complimented him on what he had written and reminded him that he spoke English better than I spoke Ukrainian. The teacher told me he had always wanted to be a writer but had been told all through high school he was a lousy writer. I gave him a hardbound notebook and told him I wanted him to write whatever he wanted to in it because I thought he was a fantastic writer....to ignore the naysayers. At the end of the year, he wrote me a poem, in English, expressing his gratitude for my believing in him. Unfortunately, he was killed fighting in Ukraine against the Russians. I have his poem framed.
Oh my god, I was not expecting that ending wtf 😭 I’m so sorry, the poor boy…
Oh my lord this ended so sadly and abrupt, that really got me. Poor kid.
Nooo that’s not what I was expecting😢😢may his soul Rest In Peace.
omg that was not the ending i expected... rest in peace
Violets are blue
Roses are red
I fought the Russians
Now I am dead
The book thing hit home for me. I wrote/published a book in my 20s and when my mom got a copy, she made issue with it because the dedication wasn’t about her. After some time past, she let it slip that she had “thrown the book away” because she couldn’t look at it anymore due to it being so “hurtful.” When I confronted her on how hurtful that was to me, she told me “it was okay as I gave it to the thrift shop.” Wasn’t like she threw it in the actual rubbish bin.
Yes, parents can be like that. And if they are - I guarantee that is not the only situation that has happened. Also, with this story - why hasn’t the wife come forward to stand up for the son? Presumably she knows husband hasn’t read the book and with the reviews being public, the cyber bullying would be out front and center….
There's probably a good reason none of his hobbies stick. Jumping from one to another is normal but if it's excessive then I suspect the dad is the reason he thinks he isn't good enough to continue.
@@katrinascarlet5637 completely agree. Also, some parents have a distorted ideas of what is “excessive” when trying new things as a child. The kid is only 14 - it’s not necessary to only have one passion they plan to pursue.
@@take-the-cake Yeah, I would call what I did excessive but I was 16, had a job and no responsibilities so my mom didn't care what equipment I bought as long as a saved a bit.
@@take-the-cake right? I mean when i was a kid I did ballet, tap, gymnastics, piano, softball, wrote, learned japanese, and did art! Kids (and adults) can have a multitude of interests. Parents should encourage kids in all their efforts. Dad was 💯jealous and a gigantic Hole of Ass.
Omg. Wtf?
My daughter (now in her 30's & a professional Paleo artist who teaches art classes at University)
knows that I have her first drawings at age 2 of dinosaurs.
She drew "stick dinosaurs, not stick people".
They are my TREASURES, & are framed on my wall.
I can not wrap my head around the fact that the father did not read his son's book!🤯 Don't even get me started on the negative reviews of HIS 14YR OLD SON'S BOOK! 100% the A-hole & 100% jealous! The dad needs to check his ego!
The first one with the dad and the book was MIND-BLOWING INSANE!!! 😱
That dad is DEFINITELY both jealous and narcissistic!!! If my son had written a book I would be so proud and honestly, if I had a dad to my son that did something like this, I would highly consider to leave him and I would tell my son the truth!! 😭❤️
What a psychopath!!!
I'd probably say if I found out it was him: Next time I'll see you in your funeral for two (2) things 1) to make sure you're dead and 2) to shit in your grave.
Ugh, the dad who's son is a writer reminds me of my mother. My mother struggled in school and always said her own mother called her dumb. I was advanced in school because my paternal grandmother saw something in me and began teaching me to read at two. I was always tops so I was placed in a gifted program. I will admit I was probably cocky. I had a high opinion of myself. But enter advanced MATH. When I began struggling in math my mother made such a HUGE deal crowing about it, talking to my teacher, making sure I stayed after school every day, telling my friends parents and my family that I was doing poorly in school. She was constantly telling my father and younger brother that just because I had learned to read early I actually wasn't very bright and look, it was all catching up to me. I was so humiliated. Although I still did okay in my other subjects, the shine was off education for me and I literally refused to do math assignments or complete math tests. I was absolutely defiant about it and it caused me a lot of problems with authority and led to some pretty serious behavioral problems, fighting and classroom blow-ups. I stubbornly took Fs in math for the rest of my school career.
Parents, you can really eff your kids up by deliberately and methodically trying to crush their dreams and spirit. But I suppose for some, that was the goal all along.
As a mom, I just want to apologize for your mothers behavior. Obviously, your mothers mother was right and your mom is dumb.
wth. that is so messed up. i think your mom was jealous of your success, and when she saw even a sliver of weakness, she took a sledgehammer to it. the actual definition of a bully. disgusting
Hope that kid decided to keep writing. What an insane dad!
Just awful. I'm willing to bet that kid has a few really good books in him because of that man.
7:09 hey there :) been bleeding 25 years. I must say that blood is still considered to be contaminated waste and should be disposed properly.
*universal precautions*
My mom taught me you can tell the difference between a clean woman and a dirty one… a clean woman will make sure it’s wrapped and no blood is exposed. I’ve never and would never leave raw blood just exposed in a trash can. Or anywhere for that matter.
If that was the issue he would’ve had a different response to her asking what she should’ve done.