I'm a certified educator in the US. There's an important reason why teachers can't/ won't help kids in the bathroom. Unfortunately it leaves too much room for there to be allegations of inappropriate behavior on the teacher and so people stay away from it all together. I understand the parent's frustration because he's young and probably really needs help, but in certain states, all you need is to be accused to lose you certification/license Guilty or not 🤷🏿♀️
This was my first thought! Like, as a parent I wouldn’t want a teacher taking my kid into the bathroom to touch them under their clothes for ANY reason. And as a teacher, I would worry about the false accusations or suspicions I could leave myself open to if I did.
My son is in special education and in preschool they did help him with his bathroom routine at school. He was 4-5 and still in pull-ups. He is in kindergarten now and expected to use the toilet himself now.
This is what I thought too. I was thinking about how uncomfortable I’d be if my kid was in the bathroom with an adult that’s not me or her dad. That’s why I told her I couldn’t put her into school until she was potty trained, we’ve also never done daycare nor had a babysitter that wasn’t my mother or mother in law. (I have an SA past that makes me this careful)
Totally agree, i'm not in us, but i heard how easy it is to get accused of that, plus as a parent i am sure many of us wont want teachers doing that. I have twins and it's normal at that age to not be able to wipe good and they might get "stripes", that's why we have wash machines no?
To the mom with the 8 year old who and uses him as support since he was her “husband in 2 previous lives.”: Stop it. You’re abusing your child. This is some weird stuff and even if it was true and he was your husband in two other lives; you’re his mother in this one! I have some ideas about reincarnation myself, so it’s not that you believe or he was your husband in a previous life. It’s that you’re leaning on him as a support person and allow him to “take care of you”. She should just be like, “wow, that’s a cool thing to remember. But baby, in this life, I’m your mommy. And that means I take care of you.” Seriously, if anyone knows her, they should call someone. This seems unhealthy.
It’s total codependency. I once knew a woman who was so attached to her son that when he went off to the military, she made herself sick. Had a total mental breakdown and ended up in a wheelchair. She couldn’t get her legs to support her anymore. No walking at all. This went on for a couple years. Doctors have no idea what’s wrong with her. (Because it’s all psychological in my opinion) Then her dad dies. he owned a farm with horses out of state. ) she goes back to the farm, sees her horse, and gets on and rides it with no problem. A couple weeks of that and all of a sudden she can walk again MAGICALLY. Her son did his time in the military, came home and got married and pretty much every Facebook post is her and her son in the picture. No one else seems to exist. Not her three other younger sons, nor her husband-who adores her. There have been other women I’ve known and other sons in a similar all-consuming in love with your kid situation. So yeah. I’ve seen that scary level of dependency with a mother and son relationship before.
I finished reading the post, and the child is a girl! And mum assumes she is transgender female to male! I personally think that unless the child says themselves that the feel like they are the opposite gender, no one should push that onto them! And not say it just once, but constantly as they grow up! I think everyone goes through a phase where they are tomboyish or more ‘feminine’, it doesn’t always mean they are transgender!
@@katiep3027 Does this mother described in the video want to create a 21st century Norman Bates? Because this is how you raise a severely messed-up kid. Ew. I feel sorry for the wife of the guy that Four Little Birds described in this post. Her MIL is the stuff of nightmares! I have a sister I'm not very close to. She became extremely religious after she quit drinking in her 20s. She lives in rural E. Texas and her life is her evangelical church. She has four adult children but only her youngest son is close to her. In fact, he's never left home and he's in his forties. He is a good man; kind, intelligent, with a heart full of love. He's a historian (he got his degree online from Columbia Univ., I think) and he writes beautifully. The rest of the family has suspected that he's gay ever since his early teens. Not just his mannerisms, but he has a very close male friend for most of his adult life who also has no interest in dating women, and they take long camping trips at least once a year. He is also evangelical, so he's not allowed to be "gay". Of course we have never mentioned his sexuality to her since it's really none of our business. We just feel sad for him because he's never been allowed to live HIS life, he must be strictly obedient to his church's doctrine which is cruel, racist, and homophobic. He obviously doesn't feel that way himself, but feels he can't disagree. I really hope that when my sister passes, that he will feel free to choose to live away from these people. He deserves to be happy.
I have a coconut allergy and my mom tried to kill me. A few years ago, I went to visit my family for the holidays and my mom had made cookies and offered me some. I wasn't aware she had put coconut oil in them. When she tried to hand me a cookie, my quick-thinking sister grabbed it and yelled "There's coconut in that!" I was shocked, but all mom could say was "I just wanted to know if it was true." Mother of the year!
you should introduce your mother as the person who tried to kill you to everyone you know, because fuck her. i'm sorry you have a shitty mom, but at least your sister's got your back
I have a deadly shellfish allergy. My grandmother no longer eats shellfish at all. She doesn't want to hurt me by accident. I'm lucky to have someone who understands. I'm so sorry people are testing your allergies. No one should suffer for someone else's curiosity.
I lived for a few years near Milwaukee, where Dahmer lived. A true crime fan i know told me that once, she was wearing a Jeffrey Dahmer t-shirt in a grocery, and a woman approached her. "Dahmer murdered my family member." She never wore the shirt again. We need to remember that horrifying crimes happen to real people. They aren't just weird stories to feel cool referencing. Imagine being like, Hey, isn't cool that my kid dressed up like the guy that ruined your life? Aren't we edgy? 🙄
Agreed, dressing like a character from a horror movie that is fictional is one thing, example Freddy Kreuger but dressing like a real serial killer is just so disrespectful. I am a true crime buff but I don't glorify the killers, that's just weird.
Exactly. The difference between Leatherface and Dahmer is that one of them is fictional and one is real whose victims have family members who are still very much alive. These are the kinds of people who probably think dressing up as Hitler for Halloween is fun and harmless.
I really, really don't understand why very regular people identify that much with serial killers and think they're cool. Not just disturbed people but really ordinary/inside the norm ones
The spray bottle story reminds me of a Reddit post by a husband who would not get left alone by his wife during meetings while working from home. Or she would send the kids to bother him. It wasn’t anything important, just random stuff. He tried locking the door to the office while he was in meetings and she was furious that he was locking the family out. So he stopped, upon her promising not to bother him if the door was closed (meaning he was busy). She kept on doing it so he started spraying her with water and she complained it was embarrassing her to be sprayed while they were on camera in front of his coworkers because it was during video calls/meetings. He told her that as soon as she stops bothering him, he’d stop, lol. I think it was genius.
The grandmother in the peanut allergy story made me mad. My oldest developed a life threatening peanut allergy at 16, no symptoms before then and straight into anaphylactic shock even with spitting the food out and not swallowing any. She now reacts if she touches or uses anything someone has touched during or after eating peanuts. It’s so scary how so many people consider “ you’re being dramatic” or over exaggerating.
My cousin's daughter too. My best friend has a shell fish allergy and her wind pipe was closing up just from it being cooked in the house. She almost died while they tried to find an epi pen while on vacation. Now they cary one with her.
@@nleem3361 If they don't already do so, please urge them to carry both pens (usually they come in a pair). The medication only lasts a short time. Also pens can malfunction or someone might panic and use it in the wrong way. It's good to have a backup just in case.
Also ring for an ambulance after administering the first dose they can then advise when to give the second second dose. My daughter has heart problems but her cardiologist says you can sort any problems caused by the dpi pen meds but if they die you can’t. if tIt’s really not worth risking a life by delaying.
The mother should pick some poison ivy (while wearing gloves, of course) and keep it nearby when the grandmother visits. Then if she tries to "test" the child's allergy again, rub that poison ivy all over her arm! "Not all people are allergic to poison ivy so I'm just "testing" to see if you have an allergy to it." Maybe grandma would understand, but probably not.
My son did for tree nuts while in college as a pastry chef. Just one day using almond flour he stopped breathing. It was awful. Now everyone has to be super careful. Took a while but we finally got through to his in-laws how serious it is.
The story at the end was a legit Reddit post about a mother-in-law who babysat a 3-year-old who she absolutely adored but didn't believe in her peanut allergy. Her mother went to take a nap with the grandma babysitting and she had snuck homemade banana peanut butter cookies. She started screaming "SOMETHINGS WRONG WITH THE BABY" the mother rushed into the room, with her toddler scratching at her neck, closing and getting her with the epi-pen. Since then grandmother has been banned from the child!
yes I heard about that, what is up with mother in laws not believing in the allergy! Like why even entertain the thought of gambling with a child's life, it's totally heartless and irresponsible!
Regarding the at-home circumcision CPS needs to be called before they mess up that poor kid. What's next they break a bone and hubby does the surgery!?
I feel like the best place to start with would be to just ask the husband "would you allow a fellow dog breeder to cut anything on YOUR _____?" My guess is his answer would be a resounding 'heck no!' If you can't imagine someone doing it to you, don't try it on your baby...
Why do the circumcision in the first place? You will have no idea first if medically needed and I'm quite sure in the religions doing this it is also done by someone trained.
They could mess that poor boys genitalia up for life!!! It would be better just to leave him alone and let him be born how he is if they are that much against drs!! UGHHH that’s why these at home births get on my nerves I’ve heard of way too many deaths. I had a comepletely healthy pregnancy, in fact my son was SO HEALTHY he was born a whopping 10 lbs, my birth canal was too small and his shoulder got hung on something inside of me 😢 it was a horrific 3 hours of him crowning then going back in bc he was hung on something, some sort of pubic bone. My dr wasn’t the best but at least I was in a hospital or we both would have died!!!!
Ngl, that mom with the spray bottle for the obnoxious adults who won't respect their kids' bodily autonomy is genius. I wish my parents understood earlier just how much of a touch aversion I had and not forced me to hug and kiss all my family when we went to visit them at holidays and stuff. My dad is one of eight kids, they all got married and had at least two kids each. That meant there was over 30 people (including grandparents) I had to hug and kiss hello and goodbye to per holiday, with a *bonus* thank you hug and kiss at Christmas for gifts we received. Needless to say I dreaded visiting family as much I loved seeing them because of all that unwanted touching I was subjected to.
I don't have a big family, and I had a problem with inappropriate touching (and more, if you know what I mean). The issue I have is this: if she has the hand for a spray bottle, then why doesn't she have the mouth to just tell them to back off? If someone sprays them, they don't know why until she tells them anyway. It's aggressive, and only serves to piss people off. The person doing it doesn't have bad intentions, or they wouldn't be doing it in front of others. Just tell them that the child doesn't want to be hugged or kissed. Problem solved. Repeat offender? Tell the child it's ok to refuse to go near them.
@@jenx5870 Because some people never listen. Getting sprayed hurts their feelings and drives the point home. When a lesson stings we tend to remember it for a lot longer than a polite no.
@@jenx5870 Guess what, my parents did exactly that, and my dad's father didn't give a shit, he kept doing it. And my parents let us know it's fine not to go near him, wanna know what he did then? He lured us to him with promises of gifts, which surprise, works quite well on toddlers, it only stopped once we went pretty much No-Contact. If someone resorts to methods like spray bottles, talking has proven ineffective. These kind of people think they're entitled to affection from the kid, because they're an elderly relative, and little will convince them otherwise. So as someone speaking from experience, I approve the spray bottle! And they'll know what they're being sprayed for, they've been told multiple times.
"at home circumcision" New fear unlocked. So much ick. Just. No. Edit: I take it back. Thinking your son was your husband in multiple past lives is just DISTURBING. I hope that kid gets a good therapist.
No kidding. He could mutilate his baby for life. I can't believe noone is calling CPS. The baby will be scared for life and given that most men are very fond of their genitals, this will be devastating for life.
My mother, grandmother, and one of my sisters all have a shellfish allergy and it pisses me off when people told my grandmother during her life that they won't keep shellfish away from where other dishes are being prepared because it's time-consuming. It only happened on one or two occasions and even though we didn't get along that well, it still made me realize how truly stupid some people are.
My ex mother in law had a list of my food allergies (shellfish and pitted fruits.. really not that much, but I would get anaphylactic reactions when I was younger if anything even wafted towards my food I swear, thankfully it’s a little better now… or I’ve just learned to cheat the system lol) anyways, it was too much for Christmas family dinner to just make a small plate to put aside for me before all the shellfish and apricot sauce and plum shit came out, she just piled it all on my plate and told me it was cranberries and chicken… I’m not unconvinced she wasn’t trying to kill me. I walked out that year and we were divorced the next. Thanks, I’ll take my life over you guys. 🤦♀️
I travelled internationally for years. Having the nanny in coach with the kids was very normal in the Middle East. The poor Nannie’s weren’t allowed to discipline the kids but still expected to keep them quiet. It was infuriating.
My mom nannied for a wealthy American couple and traveled the world with them. They sat in first class and my mom and the kids were in business. She said it was great, the kids had a great time and neurotic mom wasn’t around to get them wound up.
Honestly it depends on the family and the country tbh. I’m Middle Eastern, Normally the nanny would tell the mom and she discipline them the first time and tells the Nanny what she can do about it without her. Then again not all families are the same. And of course not out-casting the poor Nanny to coach while the parents are in 1st/business.
My mom is the same with me but instead she thought I was her deceased sister. We don't talk much anymore now that my personality doesn't match her expectations :/
Yeah she definitely lead the mediums on to hear what she wanted to l, she also is 100% going to try to sleep with the kid, let's not pretend that's not why she is doing this
I totally dig the spray bottle idea. I don't have kids, but constantly ask people not to touch me. Maybe more effective to carry a spray bottle, I'd use something more effective than water though.
The dance class one made me a little sad. It reminded me of a family that used to come to the clothing store I worked at. Her mom once mentioned to me that her elementary school aged daughter danced 40 hours a week. This girl never came in with other kids, only her parents. She didn't touch or interact with the many toys and games we also had for sale. She always looked sad and tired. It hurt to know this about her. I really hope she gets away.
Yes but that child might have a brilliant and amazing future. And have lots of friends at dance or at school. You can't judge someone's parenting based on a 5-20 min shopping trip. You just decided a child needs to get away from her parents bc she looks tired after dance class and only comes into your store with her parents. Maybe the kid Fking hates shopping or your store. Maybe the parent really have to force her to get out and do stuff OTHER than dancing. Maybe the child Would RATHER be dancing 24/7. Some girls work hard bc if you don't as a child you can bet your sweet ass that the dream of being a prima is finite. It's hard as HELL to get accepted into a company. It takes choosing ballet or lyrical over all other stuff as a teen to become someone to even GLANCE AT as an option to gain a spot in a company. You and everyone that liked your comment are kinda fkd up. You think a child should leave parents off that ... Wtf
As someone who has always hated being touched by people I'm not close to i love spray bottle mum. Sometimes telling people to stop doing something just isnt enough. She is standing up for her kids when they are uncomfortable and thats a good thing
Same! I'm latina and latin people tend to be way to affectionate to the point it gets uncomfortable, as a child I always got disgusted when people grabbed my cheeks, squeezed me into hugs or started smooching my face like crazy, like I don't want your nasty saliva and smell all over me stranger! Thanks!
Yeah I mean esp bc adults carry way more illnesses & bacteria that a child's body is way more susceptible to! I remember reading an article a few yrs back about this, bc they were reporting children getting herpes from family/friends kissing on them. It's not okay!!!! They try to spread love but can easily spread other things!
@@honglian4530 Ew, seriously! I always despised this as a child, esp once I was a toddler! Like get AWAY FROM MEEEE. I actually feel like this brought back trauma. It definitely created a level of PTSD, & I can't imagine that I'm alone on this one.
I have a butt wipe story too. 🙈 I was a babysitter very long time ago, And I looked after 2 (wonderful and energetic) kid. I had to pick them up after school and kindergarten as their mommy had 3 jobs and couldn’t do this herself (she were a single parent at that time) The boy were 7,5 and the girl were 2,5. So you can imagine how much I surprised when the boy asked me to help him to wipe his butt. And yes their mommy expected me to do it as she does not think her boy are able to do it himself. I told the boy immediately I will not do it, I think he is a big boy and he must learn this because he will make himself embarrassed if he always must asks someone else to do it. He became very excited I let him to do it himself and told me he always wanted to do alone this as others classmates of his. Also I let him privacy to take a bath alone. His mommy always sent him to sleep with his sister at 7 in the evening ( she started housework and cook for the next day after they slept )but instead of this I downloaded his favourite science kid shows and told him, while I put his sister to bed he can watch that show alone and once lil sis sleep I will read him something else he likes like scientific stuff that he loves the most. He told me he loved the evenings the most with me. Also couple of months later I had a talk with his mommy and she told me she realised might she really can give him a bit more freedom but she get so much used to do everything always alone she didn’t realise what she is doing. I am glad she with all 3 jobs, housework school raising alone 2 kids she had a time to practice self reflection too. Seriously I have no idea how she did that but I am very proud of her.
Somehow, my chain-smoking abusive mother managed to cold turkey quit smoking while pregnant both times. Because as awful as she was, she cared enough to do that. My sister, also a heavy smoker, immediately quit when she found out about my surprise nephew. It's entirely possible without "stressing yourself". My sister said it was easy because she thought of her son.
It's stressful on the body. Or did you not know that withdrawal from anything is stressful on the body? And could potentially cause miscarriages or other complications because of the stress.
@@sheriknox2084 Yeah, they get funky with that. My mom drinks and smokes. She quit when pregnant with me and my siblings, but she sure didn't stop once we were actually born. It was pretty tough to live with how she behaved on those substances ngl. Parents r weird when it comes to thinking wuts too harmful and wut isn't with their kids sometimes
Good for them. However, some women have issues tied in with it, like severe anxiety. Don't judge people, when you don't understand what you're talking about. Seems like you've never been addicted to cigarettes, and therefore cannot justifiably judge someone else for something you cannot fathom. Also, withdrawal from nicotine if you are a heavy smoker can cause a miscarriage, and other issues to the developing baby. While it doesn't stress the mothers body too much, the fetus is a different story. And it sounds like they just went right back in to their addictions anyways....which second hand smoke for children is far worse than a fetus being exposed to nicotine and then only having the jitters for about a day after birth.
@@theknittinkitten2954 bullshit. The impact of smoking are worst then the stress if stopping to smoke. If jours addicted to something that withdrawal can be dangerous? Get medical help. Stupidity at its finest.
Also, one of my favorite stories as a mom. My oldest was 2 and I was trying to calm her down from a full blown tantrum. A young couple, with a pregnant mommy to be, walked by holding hands looking so sweet. I smiled at her as I slowly had to pull my child by her leg into a store. The look of horror on her face gives me joy. I'll never forget it. An older couple laughed and said "those are the days I DONT miss!" They also asked if I needed help.
@Tollish you just made my day! My younger brother used to throw temper tantrums. My mother would walk away. She always kept an eye on him, but not so he could see her. When he realized she wasn't watching. He'd stop, run over to her, and start up again. He finally figured out the tantrum wasn't going to work on her and stopped doing it.
@@fairygoth-mother7341 haha my niece used to do that bc my dad would buy her anything she wanted but when she was with me I told her she couldn’t get everything she saw and she would throw a fit and I would just walk away but I made sure I could still see her. The look on her face when she realized she was alone was priceless. After a few times. She realized I didn’t care if she threw a fit but she would still do it around my dad until he got upset and put everything back 😂😂
I am a pre-K teacher and usually we wipe kids bums or at least double check. Once they go to kindergarten then the teachers absolutely will not wipe bums but normally in pre-K we have a range of kids that are potty trained and not. Pre-K is usually considered 2.5-4 and they’re all in the same class, a lot of what I do with my preschoolers is double check or encourage independence. Many kids don’t get potty trained until right before kindergarten.
I *hated* kissing and being kissed as a kid and still hate to this day. My mom would be mortified that I wouldn't let her friends kiss me, or wipe it off my cheek, or just turn my head around for them to kiss my head instead of face. An argument that I though recently to fight against it that I wish I knew before: "I'm sorry I didn't let you put your mouth on my face" or "I'm sorry I don't want to put my mouth on your face" Make it just as weird as it sounds
I would frame it this way to people who don't grasp the concept that kids should be allowed to give or deny consent to be touched, kissed, etc just like an adult would: "If you met your spouse's coworker for the first time, would you want them to hug you or kiss your cheek? No? Then why would you make your child accept that from your relative/friend that is a stranger to them? It's the same thing, kids just don't know the words to express how they feel in the same way you do"
dude, as a mom, it is so true about people just not having boundaries with your children. My son was straight up having some sort of panic attack and my in laws would not bring him to us because they were like, "it's just a tantrum" (as if we don't spend time with him 24/7 and know the difference.) My husband had to go and pick him up out of their arms, much to the dismay of his family. When we held him and helped him calm down, we explained what him panicking looks like and what his tantrums look like, but they still didn't really get it. He also screamed one time in a restaurant, it wasn't even like a snooty place or anything, and one person in our family covered his mouth. We both shut that down real quick. It's one thing to shush, another to grab a kid's face
All these stories are darn good reminders of why I am childless. I don’t have the patience, maternal instinct and cash. Raising children is the most expensive and all-consuming job you will ever have. Congratulations to folks that raise children to become compassionate, mentally healthy adults.
Thank you for the kind words... it's even more of a challenge to manage that these days. I don't fault anyone for not having kids but it's shocking how many act like they're some kind of genius and everyone else is an idiot from that alone. Sure they made the choice that they felt was right for themselves, great, no problem there... but I mean I literally came across someone who said they shouldn't have to hear kids screaming on planes just because they were smart enough not to have kids and other people weren't. I mean... someone has to, right? Or there would be no more humans and all... so yeah, the venom some folks have for those who have kids is truly baffling.
@@BeeWhistler Bleh that's honestly as obnoxious as someone trying to talk me into kids. They didn't care that I had no desire to be a mother, though it was entertaining and sad to see their argument shift into making kids sound more like a retirement plan than anything else. I think both extremes are convinced their choice is the "superior" in some way, forgetting that it's more about making the right choice for yourself =/
It's good that you know this about yourself and that you aren't bringing another unwanted or unloved child into the world. The fact we are now forcing women to bear children is appalling and barbaric. It should always be by choice and desire.
I was a pack a day smoker when I found out I was pregnant. My doctor told me to wean off but I told him I had already quit. The moment I saw those pink lines, I quit cold turkey. I wasn't supposed to be able to have kids so I was so grateful I wasn't taking ANY chances! I didn't drink coffee and was scared to even eat chocolate bc of the caffeine. I was overly cautious but I have no regrets. My miracle is 14! ❤❤❤
To the mother who sprays adults with water when the adults are handling the kids without consent or when they're visibly uncomfortable is a damn genius lol. Don't tell your children to go hug and kiss somebody just because that person wants it. I remember hating giving people hugs and kisses when we saw them. It's just really awkward and it can get out of hand... I struggle to let my husband even touch me.
Right?! I thought that one felt out of place in this video, because it is so smart and just has to get the point across at some point. I also love that basically, her discipline is focused on the adults😂
That mom with the 4yr should of taken that as a learning moment for herself and taught her son to wipe better. When my son was 3 he went next door to the neighbors pool, came back home with all his clothes on backwards and inside out, he said they gave him his clothes and told him to go into the bathroom and change. He had been so used to me helping him get dressed that he didn't really know how to do it himself. Thats when you learn a lesson as a parent and say "oops, I need to teach them to do that and stop doing it for them all the time, my bad". I wasn't mad at the neighbors at all that they didn't help him, I was mad at myself for not showing him how in the first place and that I had put my son in that situation.
Totally feel u on this , it's a teaching moment to us as parents and the difference between a good and bad parent is u learnt and taught him rather than blaming others i.e the neighbors. My son is 10 and asked why I still cut his meat on his dinner and I was like oh wow why the fuck am I hahah 🤣so I stopped and obviously he did it fine he has had ten bloody years of watching me do it 🤣. Yes we are parents but We are human we are always learning ❤️.
That’s not the same as though as wiping properly. Yes we teach them, but we also must understand it’s a learning experience not just moment for them. Which means it takes time for them to remember all the steps.
@@48mavemiss2 but we also need to realize that preschool teachers are not allowed to wipe a four year old. (I'm a preschool teacher and when I started, I was told that we're not allowed to wipe them.)
Usually kids Tell You when they are ready & feel confident to "Do It Myself!" Sometimes they really aren't, but have seen other kids doing so & you get the "so-n-so does" then You have to decide weather to let them try & fail (in private) or succeed & cry in private about "My baby's growing up!" My sister has a SIL who waited 2 years TWO YEARS before allowing her son to go outside for fear of "airborne illnesses" (now an adult, he's fine, with help from caring relatives) It's sometimes hard to see when you're too close to the situation.
My problem isn’t the husband in a past life part. It’s the letting him act like a husband currently. People really do just use their kids to fill a romantic void a lot 😬
With that kind of nuts parent, Im inclined to believe that poor girl has been fed some bullshit by her mum to make her believe shes trans too - otherwise it wouldnt feed her narrative of husband
About the last post you read, I heard a Reedit story that was similar. The writer has a sever cashew allergy and asthma, and as a child would often forget his Epipen and his inhaler. While staying with his mother, he was given a granola bar (with cashews). Like you would suspect, he dent into anaphylactic shock. Then had an asthma attack do to stress, and ended up in a coma for about 2 weeks. After being released from the hospital, and missing his 10th birthday, he returned home to a surprise birthday/welcome home party. During the party, he overhears his OWN mother say his allergies and asthma are not real and he was faking the whole thing. Before he was able to eat any of the cake, he dropped his fork, which is probably the luckiest thing he ever did. While in the kitchen he heard screaming coming from the living room. He walked in to find his father screaming at his mom about dumping mixed nuts into the cake to prove that he didn’t have a cashew allergy. That’s right this woman tried to kill her son twice to “prove“ that he didn’t have a cashew allergy.
@@dynogamergurl mom and dad were already divorced at that time and the boy and his brother lived with dad. But the mother never did anything to hurt her kids till this point. And from my understanding, she threatened to take the kids away from the dad. Yeah that didn’t happen. In fact her boyfriend at the time broke up with her after seeing her crazy behavior at the party, the parents kicked her out and disowned her after they found out what she did to their grandchild, and she kind of fell off the face of the earth and they didn’t care to find her.
I remember that my daughter developed as allergic reaction to flowers. Goes into anaphylactic shock. Full blown. It was discovered while she was out of state, visiting my dad and his girlfriend for the summer at the age of ten after she hugged a bouquet of roses that her father sent her for her bday. I remember my dad calling in a panic and me saying to rush her to the hospital and his girlfriend was in the background saying, I kid you not; it’s no big deal. It’s just the chicken pox. She’s knows because her kids had had them!!! I yelled that my daughter 1)had never gone through the incubation phase and 2) was vaccinated against them and 3) don’t make me fly out there where I’ll make you regret not taking my baby to the hospital!! Sure enough I was right.
That last one reminds me of my grandma. When I was a child, I developed asthma, which was frequently triggered by her dusty old house when my sister and I were there visiting. Every night I would lay there wheezing and gasping for breath, but grandma thought I was faking because I didn't want to go to sleep. When I told her I couldn't breathe, she would give me a glass of water and an aspirin and tell me to back to bed. My sister told me years later, she used to lay awake listening to be sure I was still breathing, because she thought I might die. She finally mentioned these episodes to our mom, who promptly took me to the doctor who diagnosed me and gave me an inhaler. My mom had a few words for grandma (her former MIL).
Dang, that's awful. I'm glad you had your sister looking out for you. Everyone in my family and friends knew I had asthma as a child but I wasn't allowed my inhaler unless my mother gave it to me. I don't even remember if I had one at school for emergencies. When I coughed, wheezed and couldn't breath at night and all you could hear was "SHUT UP AND GO BACK TO BED!!" from downstairs like I was being a nuisance. Yeah, like, I can't breath mother.
@@roguetalowen Wow, that's terrible. I can't imagine knowing your child had asthma but withholding their medication. My sister was my protector. My grandma wasn't being malicious, she just thought I was faking and didn't really believe in illness or doctors. I'm sorry no one was able to protect you. It's an awful feeling to not be able to breathe.
Oh my gosh I’m so sorry you went through that. I have a nephew that had terrible asthma. On a couple occasions when my sister would check on him (which she did many times all through the night) even when he was way older, his lips were turning blue and his eyes were rolled back. She had to give him CPR while my brother in law drove them to the nearest hospital. They live way out in the country and it would have taken a lot longer to call an ambulance. She saved his life a few times. Nothing to fool around with. He is in his 30s now still has trouble.
@@lauraelliott6909 Thank you. I never even thought about being denied the medicine, more being shouted at. I've grown out of it now and only really need an inhaler if I get a bad chest infection, which is a relief. It does make me paranoid to the point i have to check my own children are breathing at night even though they haven't had any problems (except the youngest). I hope your Grandma eventually saw reason. I'm glad she wasn't trying to be harmful on purpose.
I am so sorry u lived like that & hope ur okay now! I'm temporarily staying with my grandma now a days & I swear they do it on purpose! Her house is SO dusty, stinks of mildew, black mold on so many things in closets, etc & has like dirt all over the carpets, but she won't let me mop, dust or even vacuum. I have severe dust & mold allergies due to my Lyme Disease & I have to clean when she's out & have a air purifier in my room. I just finally changed out the 60 yr old MATTRESS she had in this room bc she refused to admit it was falling apart & springs impaling me. Ugh.
The one with the 4 year old is soooo hillarious to me, and also so scary. When I was a kid, kids could only enter kindergarten (3yo to begin of elementary school btw. 6-7 yo) when their parents could promise that the kiddos reliably used the toilet & wiped properly. If that wasn't doable, no kindergarten spot. Of course, sometimes accidents happen (esp. if a kid very suddenly gets sick and has diarrhea before their parents can collect them) - but that was like handful of incidents per year or something. Sheesh... Also, the dog breeder is abusing animals.
4:20 potty training is actually really different from wiping. I work at a daycare around 3-5 they begin learning to wipe but they usually need some help and for an adult to double check after they poop because they're just not good at it. I do find it pretty weird a pre-k teacher wouldn't help as it's totally normal for 4 year olds to need help wiping. Edit: This comment has sparred some great discussions and I see some questions so I personally was a daycare teacher not a kindergarten one. At 6 when you go to kindergarten it is best to know how to wipe but it's not gonna be perfect and thats when the discourse gets more difficult. Also I am american and ages for these milestones might be different! Overall thanks for how reasonable the discussion has been in a youtube comment section yall. 🤣
(ENG not my main language sorry for any misspelling) I was looking for this ! I've worked at a daycare when I was a student and was taking care of 3-5yo kids. Except two or three (out of 35-40) NONE of them knew how to wipe without us helping of checking after them ! I was not trained or anything for that (I was 19, never took cared of a baby or kids before) so every time a kid was asking I asked a collegue who had been trained/had the small children caring diploma to do it but I would never simply tell a kid who's asking for help to just cope with that ...
Came here for these, only moms know this kind of stuff. People without children have no idea how the learning proces of trivial things actually is talking place.
Just commented this myself. Worked at a daycare as a trainee teacher, but pretty sure there was wiping. And for sure wipe my nephew, who’s 4. Niece never asks for help tho, she’s 5.
Mom groups are filled with crazies! I was in a local Facebook mom's group and the amount of times people were asking for medical advice from strangers online instead of calling their child's doctor was mind-blowing.
@@ravenmcmillan2926 Exactly....I specifically came to the comment section about this. It's best to get as much advice as possible from moms with testimonies, as not everything requires a Dr. Not to mention I can literally list easily a hundred times, where doctors effed up or were wrong & I knew more than them about my situation/illness/condition. That's nearly 1/4th or 1/3rd of my life's Drs visits! We tend to forget the amount of Drs who shouldn't be. Esp those who passed with D's, as in should probably have failed & not went on to be entrusted with lives, then there are nepatism Drs, ppl who paid their way through school, ppl who cheated their way through, or slept their way through, even...yeah. All still made it out & are DOCTORS. That's SCARY.
My grandmother left me in coach alone on a 13 hour flight after she got a free upgrade to first class. I was 15, but scared of flying, and my parents asked her to go on the trip purely to keep me company. We flew over a hurricane 🙃
Holy smokes, I would put my nanny and kids in a business or first class suite and sit in coach with my husband. Wtheck. Absolutely, if cost was is an issue, you do what will make the child more comfortable and relaxed. Whether that be to all sit in coach, or have the NANNY in a first class suite with the kids - so that your CHILDREN, who are unable to regulate themselves, are comfortable. A grown ass adult can handle flying coach. A mom, dad, and nanny all in coach can handle a rambunctious toddler. OR put your kids with you and your husband and let her at least relax in coach. Also- If u hate your husband-hire a hot 20 yo au pair from Czechoslovakia or Brazil or Sweden. Let them sit together in coach and book a first class suite for u and the kids or vice versa then when he leaves you for her you get REAL $$$. “Honey, if we’re this strapped for cash, why don’t you and Maria sit with the kids and I’ll fly coach, or you and Irena can sit in coach and I will handle the kids in the first class suite.” Then leave him with her on the beach with the kids so he “doesn’t have to watch them” and go get drunk and a massage and facial and mani pedi upon arrival. Men who cheat with Nanny’s PAY You and the kid, your hot new man, and the new homely nanny can fly first class all u want. 😂😂😂
My MIL would totally test the “allergy theory” if our daughter ends up developing one. She already says “no you’re not” when my husband reminds her that he’s lactose intolerant.
I feel like it's some weird subconscious instinct to prove their genes aren't different or "weak" and neither are their offsprings... it's so weird and fucked up.
@@BeeWhistler I mean if she's being a real butt about it, depending on how severe his lactose intolerance is, he could show her the results in the bathroom after eating her dairy. Maybe take documented pictures over the course of a month XD like "Since I'm tired of your s***, here's mine" XD
I had a 4-year-old in my preschool class who was in full on diapers and her parents saw no issue with it. And she didn’t have any mental or physical disabilities. One of the reasons I quit, I did not sign up for changing a 4-year-old’s shitty diapers twice a day.
Edit: just watched it and if a 4 year old IS potty trained then they should definitely know how to wipe their own asses. But if they're wearing diapers it's a different story. But speaking from experience some kids don't stop wearing diapers until they're 5. It was like that with my younger cousin and nephew when they were little and I had to help change diapers. My nephew is autistic but my little cousin wasn't. They just had potty training issues and didn't get the concept until they were a little older. Also if you didn't want to change diapers but still want to teach young kids I would have chose a different grade.
@@ehheeajeshika as I said very clearly, this child had no developmental disorders or intellectual disabilities, her parents just did not believe in discipline. I can deal with a 4-5 year old pissing themselves, I cannot deal with a 4 year old taking a dump in the middle of circle time on the carpet because she thinks it’s funny. You are the first and only person I have ever encountered who thinks that behavior is acceptable at 4 years old. I love kids, I do not love parents who don’t believe in discipline. This child got away with absolutely everything. But since the pay was “shitty” on top of it, I quit teaching all together and went back to flipping liquor bottles, where I make a ton more money and if someone shits themselves from drinking too much, I get to make THEM clean it up. Problem solved.
@@wickedwonka9155 fair enough I would be incredibly pissed off too. I should not have said anything because I clearly didn't know the situation. One of my pet peeves for parents is that they don't discipline their kids.
@@ehheeajeshika she WAS potty trained. She used the bathroom at home, but refused to use it at school. She thought it was hilarious when she would take a dump in the middle of the floor. Kid had zero discipline and was a holy terror and so were both her siblings. You couldn’t tell her “No.” or the parents would freak out. And as I already said, I left teaching to get people drunk and take their money, so picking another grade is a mute point. I taught preschool for ten years and never had a child in the 4-5 age range who refused to use the bathroom even though they knew how. I am not talking about autistic children or children who are slow learners because this kid was neither, she was actually very advanced for her age. She thought it was funny. That’s it. It was a joke to her and like I said - her parents let her do WHATEVER she wanted. If you think bringing a kid up that way is normal, more power to you, just keep a lot of baby wipes on hand in case the result is a kid shitting on the floor in the middle of a family gathering. I’ll be behind the bar counting my money and laughing. 🤣
both of my grandmothers did the peanut thing to me and then called me "dramatic like (my) mother" when i started violently puking my guts up and needed my inhaler. then, on both of these occasions, they finally decided to believe me but didn't think it was serious because it wasn't deadly and i don't "need" an epipen. and i didn't need one then but my allergy has gotten worse so i most likely do now and part of the reason i avoid both of them is because they might try it again as they've both repeatedly given me fish and other types of legumes for the same reason. and i wasn't even the only one. they basically poisoned my sisters, mother, and i on multiple occasions just to prove we were being dramatic, only to then turn around and say my mom was the bad mother smh.
My mother in law kept trying to give my daughter with life threatening allergies food that she was allergic to because she gave it to her other grandchildren so it 'wasn't fair' to miss out one. I felt it was more fair that she got to live.
did you call your mil a murderer? because that's what she's doing, trying to murder your child. i hate people who "test" and try to "prove" that someone doesn't have an allergy. its horrible
She should've made your daughter something different and if her other grandkids asked why tell them that she's allergic and it could kill her. It's actually very simple to do that.
@@NikkiScott1 you're missing the point, its not about being "fair", its about dismissing something because you don't want it to be true or because its just to much work to accommodate someone. grandma is either being lazy or murderous out of spite/ableism.
to the first one: I used to smoke before pregnancy and after doing the test I actually didn't stop right away either. I went down FAST and stopped about 3 weeks in. I did this with my doctors approval, because a hard withdrawal will stress the body and could impact the baby. it's basically choosing between two evils
Yeah but it sounds like you bothered to actually quit, meanwhile this woman had several children already and hadn't bothered to quit at any point during any of her pregnancies or in between them. That's a bit different than cutting back in a way that was safe for you.
My mom smoked until she was 8 months pregnant with me, then she said every time she picked up a cigarette she’d get very nauseous and eventually quit smoking completely. I said, you’re welcome, mom!
The one about the Pre-K teacher wiping the kids is one I have heard a lot about since my mum is a Pre-K teacher and had this brought up with her. While we understand that it may be frustrating that your kid isn't being wiped you, have to realise that the Pre-K teacher has a bunch of other students to watch. They do not have the time or the manpower to go in for each and every child to make sure that they are wiping properly. It is your job as a parent to teach them how to properly wipe.
There are also liability aspects, esp now a days. But, that's what the nurses & female teachers aides are for. Atleast that's what I remember having experienced growing up. 1 kid always needed her help & she was always available to help in case of emergency.
For the Jeffrey Dahmer one, I will just say this applies for everyone: it's ok to dress as an iconic horror character because they are purely fictional. It is NOT ok to dress as a real life serial killer because that's glorifying an infamous psychos crimes while simultaneously disrespecting the late victims and their living families. It's like your parading around trauma by dressing as the criminal that those whom were affected by it and are still alive hurting/haunted by the tragedy can never escape.
My MIL used to insist on grabbing up my young daughter in a huge bear hug the minute we walked in the door to visit, regardless of how many times I told her that my daughter just needed a few minutes to “warm up” to everyone first, before being overwhelmed with attention. My daughter finally got the point across herself. When she was a little over a year, learning to walk & wearing those little hard white shoes we used to put them in, my MIL grabbed her up, & my daughter kicked her in the head as hard as she could. To this day, the term, “I’m seeing stars,” still makes me double over in laughter. 😂😂
Haha, awesome! My FIL is the same, he squeezes you so hard, it really hurts! And when you tell him, he's like "oh come on!" and laughs it off. Maybe I should kick him next time.
I am on board with the water bottle! Oftentimes, family will ignore request to back off. Even argue or insist that "it's just a hug/kiss". You can even be considered rude for not letting them have their way. To all you new/younger Moms...never make your child hug or kiss people, not even relatives...not even your favorite Auntie. And never apologize for setting those boundaries for your children with family and friends. ☮️
Yes cause then they learn to confirm to any adult. It opens the doctor for child abuse. My friend who a social worker informed of this. Never did it to my kids.
I had seen some advice like that before my nieces were born, so I'm glad I didn't force affection on them because they were each so shy. But as they got to around 3 and used to me visiting, they started running to me and wanting me to feed them, help with PJ's, snuggle during movies and it was totally worth waiting for them to come to me on their own. Genuine love from a child is the sweetest, purest form of joy.
@@personincognito3989 the way it was relayed suggested that people were repeatedly refusing to stop. I wouldn't go around spraying everyone the first time. But if they are refusing to respect your boundaries regarding your child, then...oh well. Personally, I would try to avoid those people.
@@anonymouse6703 your relationship with them will be stronger. They have already established a trust in you because you let them have the time and space. And they will be less likely to be taken advantage of by others. Well done, Uncle! ☮️
In my country if we didn't hug and kiss our relatives when we saw them that's when it was an insult to that family member and highly embarrassing for the parents. We'd get a beating later that day or night
I started dance classes when I was around two, as most of my siblings had. However, until you're about five, the only routines we did were while dancing with cabbage patch kids dolls. Our dance teacher wanted kids to enjoy themselves. He had advanced classes (my cousin was in one), but it was truly too introduce kids to dance in a fun way. I cherish my memories there and I stayed on into junior high and even helped with younger classes.
There’s a post on reddit, a famous story there, of a grandmother who didn’t believe that her grandchild had an allergy the parents told her about. So she smothered her hair in coconut oil before bed as a moisturizing treatment and the child died. Allergies are serious. Don’t fuck with them.
What's actually even worse about that one is the fact the coconut oil does absolutely nothing for hair. So she literally did it for no real reason other than to try to prove herself right. Absolutely heartbroken for that child and her parents and twin.
i disagree that it does nothing for hair. the fatty acids make the hair quite shiny, but no you shouldn't be putting it on someone who is allergic to it..m
Charlotte, as a nanny myself the issue here is not to fly all together, what that mom needs to do is leave the nanny alone to do her job, put on some headphones and stay in her business class. There's nothing more disruptive for a child than a parent interfering on a kids routine or trying to "help", children act differently for parents and caregivers. Trust me, your nanny got it! Just sit back and relax.
@@mage1439 I didn't say all that. Ive been doing this long enough to picture how she is based on her description, when you see this all the time you kinda know what to expect from the person according to how they word things. Anyways, what I mentioned about being disruptive applys for ALL children, doesn't matter whos the kid or the mom, if you hire someone, let them do their job, everyone will be happier at the end.
Funny thing that happened to my sister while pregnant...she was a smoker before getting pregnant, pretty heavily. She tried to do the responsible thing and quit immediately upon finding out she was pregnant. 12 hours later she was convulsing on the floor and had to be taken to the ER, almost lost the baby. All the doctors told her that while they appreciated her wanting to quit while pregnant, she was too addicted to nicotine to go cold turkey and the stress of withdrawal was too much to put on her body and the baby while pregnant...which is what caused the convulsions and almost MC. Instead they worked with her and monitored a progressive quitting program in a method that wouldn't hurt the baby or her. It took a few months to completely get her off cigarettes/nicotine without risking the pregnancy (which was already high risk for other reasons.) By 6 months she was nicotine free and her baby was born completely healthy and at nearly 10lbs. But the amount of side-eye, judgement, and unsolicited vitriol she received while follow doctor's advice was unreal. So, take away...yes, smoking while pregnant is bad but don't assume you know you know the person's life or what their doctor is working with them on. If my sister had quit right off, both she and her baby could have died.
Your not supposed to quit anything cold turkey while pregnant. Even if you are a hard drug any doctor worth their salt is not going to recommend anything other than tapering off.
First class with a baby story -- We had enough miles to upgrade to first class we upgraded. My youngest was a baby. You know how first class seats are further apart. The gap between the seats is filled with a wide arm rest and the seat backs are just separated with a gap. My son was crying and squirming and flailing around as unhappy babies do. My wife was holding him and trying to calm him and I had put my plastic cup of coke on the arm rest. When my son kicked it, it flew all over the poor guy in the row behind us. This poor guy sprung for first class, only to be drench in coke. He couldn't have been nicer about it, but we felt horrible. I guess that could be a horrible mom and dad story.
On a Red Eye, Seattle to Atlanta & a young woman with a baby sat right next to me. Baby never made a sound but the 6-8 yr old two seats back & across the aisle screamed & caused constant chaos the whole flight. Attendants did what they could but the parents did nothing. There were some heated discussion on the plane by many adults.
@@katherinevalenzuela2696 The parents didn't really seem to care what their kid did, they were just resigned to it. That was 7 years ago, I wonder how that kid is doing in the real world.
I'm 42 and have a severe nut and egg allergy. To this day some of my family members are convinced I'm putting it on. Even after they've see what happens when I just touched the left over egg on a plate in the sink (I didn't know it was there) My whole arm blew up in massive hives and it traveled to my face! Breathing started to go funny (I'm asthmatic anyway) Had to go to emergency care. Thankfully didn't need my epipen as I caught it fast. I do however hate these entitled people who think it's an exaggeration. There are people who fake it as they just don't like something, it has muddied the waters for the genuine people. Oh and the smoking mum! What the actual f*** 😳
no comment about allergies not being taken seriously except to wonder if people just struggle to know the difference between allergies and intolerance? anyway - wanted to mention that I have a friend since our preteens (we are now in our 50's) and she smoked through both her pregnancies. I was horrified. She said the same thing - too stressful on her body to stop. never heard so much rubbish in my life. at least TRY to cut down. Good grief.
The smoking pregnant woman is actually not wrong my OBGYN said to cut down greatly but do not fully quit completely the added stress can cause a miscarriage. When I was younger my best friends stepmom quit cold turkey and went into premature labor fortunately she was far enough along that the baby survived.
My dad doesn’t believe I have a pineapple allergy. I have an epi pen and I ALWAYS keep it with me because I don’t trust anyone! My dad tried giving me a mixed drink one summer and luckily my sister in law was like NO THAT HAS PINEAPPLE IN IT! My dad got so irritated and rolled his eyes and said “oh come on, get over it!” I love my dad but he’s really ignorant with stuff like this.
As a mom who has a son with a severe peanut allergy I feel for that mom because I too have had family members try to”test” the allergy and it ended in me losing my ever loving mind on them.
Mom groups on Facebook are toxic asf. I have so many friends that left those groups simply because they got bullied for not giving their infants binky’s/pacifiers. Like, what? 🤣 They didn’t want their kids to become attached to binky’s and want them at 2-3 years old and suck their thumbs. It was literally insane.
Omg I only belong to one now, my kids are officially all grown now, but my moms group is one for the moms themselves and we care about and lift each other up Nd support each other so hard. I love them.
My eldest son never took to a pacifier. We put it in his mouth, he'd suck it for maybe two seconds then spit it out. I'm sure thinking "Hey, I'm not getting anything out of this. Where's the good stuff?" He did suck his thumb until he was about 6.
I agree with what you said about the serial killer thing. It’s different when it’s a fictitious person but when it’s a real person who committed horrible crimes, it’s not appropriate to dress up as them.
Poor baby whose mom forces her to go to a dance class. I had a similar situation, I was teaching a drawing comic class part-time. One of the requirements was for the kid to be at least 10 years old. But this one rich mom, forced her two young daughters (5 and 4 years old) to attend the class. They were definitely unfit for the class, poor baby was crying since she couldn't catch up with her older classmates.I told the front desk to refuse them for the next term. They weren't suitable for the class, they should attend other art classes that are more appropriate for their age.
The home circumcision - made me wince - reminds me of a case where it was done by a doctor and it went so horribly wrong, that they decided to do a gender reassignment. (Crosses legs Ouch) The child was one of twins and they thought it would be OK to bring them up as a girl. Child was traumatized and when they found out years later they went through gender reassignment, to reverse it but was left sterile obviously. It is something best left up to experts, because this doctor massively overestimated his own skill and underestimated the difficulty.
The home circumcision isn't what makes me mad. It's the fact that HER FUCKING HUSBAND MUTILATES DOGS! IN MOST PLACES IT IS CONSIDERED INHUMANE TO DO THAT! I'm about to bust a blood vessel.
My aunt did the same thing with me. She didnt believe I have a pineapple allergy, welp, lo behold she slipped pineapple into my drink one day at a family gathering. I was in my teens, lucky my mom had my allergy meds with her and handed me some, mom yelled at her SIL and demanded my dad take us home.
Charlotte, my best friend’s mother met my daughter when she was 6 weeks old. This was February 2021. She kissed my 6 week old newborn on the mouth. I almost smacked the schiesse out of her. I have never felt such anger in my entire life, and that woman still doesn’t know what she did wrong. She also told me I wasn’t losing my baby weight well, despite being aware of my struggle with anorexia and my not wanting to lose the baby weight because i’ve never been a healthy weight before. Thanks to her, i’m 79 pounds. I’m 5’3 if that gives perspective. Shes the worst person in the world
One time we were at dinner at my inlaws and my MIL's sister put some peanut butter on her FINGER and wanted to PUT IT IN MY BABY'S MOUTH "just to see if he liked it" - and I was appalled and said no, and thankfully she listened to me and respected me, but DANG - I was mad. Have kept an eye on him while we're over there ever since. I was disgusted. People have zero boundaries with other people's children and it bugs me to no end.
For the moms out there: in some places and school systems a teacher is not allowed to help your 4 year old wipe their butt. If the teacher tells you they can't, it's very likely that there is a reason behind it, and it may be against the rules.
In the UK at least, we are literally paid to wipe kids butts until they're 5 years old. It's part of the job. The only reason we would say no is if the kid wipes fine at home but asks us to at nursery (nursery is age 0-5 in UK). Some kids take longer to learn things than their peers and its our job to support them. Theres also background checks and if you fail you're mot allowed to work in schools so there's no reason they shouldn't be able to. If its different in US then thats kinda scary imo
Love the spray bottle idea. I just didn’t have people over or near my kid when I had a newborn because the amount of people who tried to put their lips on my babies was alarming. Total strangers thought they had a right to kiss my child 🙄
Oh, no, no, no, no NO! I'm a guy. Sympathy pain is a real thing. When you read the story of the idiots wanting to perform home circumcision, I, completely involuntarily grabbed my junk, curled up in a ball and yelled, "No!" I'm at work. In the middle of the day. Having some uncomfortable conversations with people I'd rather not speak to. Thank you Charlotte.
I'm an RN. I sincerely hope that was a joke post. I am generally unflappable, but I actually woke my son up screaming NO at my phone, and I never do that. I am a female, and I was horrified at the thought that anyone would be stupid enough to think that because someone could lop ears and tails off of an animal, they could circumcise a baby. That's why I think it's a fake post. At least I am praying it is.
Yeah, when even women are hearing it and trying not to freak out, it must be terrifying. My son had a hospital circumcision and that was enough of a challenge to clean and maintain until it healed. Some people shouldn't breed...
I send my son with “man wipes” to school. Problem solved. The other mom’s started doing it too. The teacher REALLY appreciates it. They are flushable and the smell in the classroom is improved 😂
My ex-mil knew my daughter was allergic to cigarettes and there smoke but refused to no smoke around her despite her getting sick, having to use a nebulizer 3 times a day and being on medication all because the doctor refused to write her a personal letter explaining she should not smoke around her. Daughter is also allergic to peanuts, ex-fil took her to a bbq restaurant where they threw peanuts on the floor. She couldn’t go in, so she sat in the car while he went inside with the rest of his side of the family and ate. I was pissed at both situations.
Spray bottle makes sense to me. We live in a post Covid world and with all the germs out there I can understand why a parent would do this especially after she has said not to do it
As a child growing up in an overly affectionate extended family/friends/friends friends I can confirm I would have greatly benefited from the water spray bottle 😂
I had a parent who wanted to push me to be a young prodigy. Unfortunately I was actually a prodigy, so my entire childhood was filled with workbooks and extra classes and infomercial educational materials. I think it’s almost worse when they get what they want.
I'm sorry to hear that was your experience. I hope you are doing well now. My eldest is SUPER smart. In elementary they advised me that he should do AP classes. I asked him and he said he did not want to go that route and I listened. Thank you for letting me know I made the right decision in making it up to him to decide.
Mum groups on Facebook are legit the worst! It’s like an echo chamber of crazy advice while they all say don’t listen to the haters if someone dares points out something is dangerous. Also everyone is in a MLM and can’t imagine being a working mum (and very judgemental about it) as how could you leave your kids damn it. To make money Susan!
I had anaphylaxis to egg and growing up people would always make fun and not think it’s real, until you have an episode in front of them and it scars them for life 😂 I’m so glad I grew out of it by 14 🙏🏼 it’s crazy to me that adults would question if an allergy is real if they have an epi pen then it’s real! 🤦🏼♀️
I had a classmate in Peru who was deathly allergic to eggs. When we went out to eat, we'd ask if the food had eggs in it and more often than not they'd say no but lo and behold, it did. We tried to explain she was allergic but apparently food allergies aren't a thing there. After a few close calls, we finally explained "Los huevos son tóxicos y venenosos para mí" basically "Eggs are toxic and poisonous for me". We resigned to carrying benadryl and her epipen with us whereever we went.
@@ibsticky1 I’d dread still having the allergy now, I had a limited diet it’s surprising how much has egg in it! Back in the early 1989-94 we didn’t have epi pens so my mum had to carry around vials of adrenaline with syringes. I think I’d be too nervous to eat out in this day and age, some places seem to be so blasé about allergies because not every allergic reaction is anaphylaxis.
Many years ago I dated a guy who’s son was allergic to eggs! I had never heard of it before. The poor kid at the time the only cookie without eggs was Oreo, but he was also allergic to cocoa.
Many years ago I dated a guy who’s son was allergic to eggs! I had never heard of it before. The poor kid at the time the only cookie without eggs was Oreo, but he was also allergic to cocoa.
@@countycalling it’s surprising how much food has egg in it, I was also allergic to lecithin which I think is a derivative of egg. Every label had to be checked it was so annoying. The first time I ever had a real birthday cake was when I was 15. 😂
Regarding the 4-year old and wiping his own butt... I au-paired for a family with a 4-year old and he needed help wiping his butt. Not because he couldn't go to the bathroom himself or try and do it himself, they just don't necessarily have long enough arms or sufficient range of motion to do it properly themselves. I happily assisted because the reality is, not cleaning properly can lead to serious irritation and even infection. Helping kids while teaching them to do it properly is not a bad thing, it's the way they learn x
I get that but its not appropriate or even acceptable for a teacher to do that. We have SUPER strict rules about when and how we can touch the kids. It helps keep everyone safe and help the kids learn boundaries. But having a school nurse around to help would be a good idea.
I was a nanny. And I sat in coach… with the child. The parents were in first class. I honestly thought it was fine. I took care of the kid and was on the clock.
@@48mavemiss2 I'm sure she's asks them like most pre k teachers do when they come back from the br. Most the time teachers arent allowed to go in w/them, or touch them...
@@48mavemiss2 thats more Preschool. But no,I'll asked if they wiped well and if they tried their best. That's all that mostly matters. We do make sure they wash hands properly.
I'm a preschool teacher (in europe) and for us is normal having someone going to the bathroom with pre 4 your olds or 4 year olds, the children would usually tell you if they can do it alone or if they need help. It is absolutely normal that children that age dont know how to wipe themselves properly and need help. So... your judgement in this one was s little off!! but I loooove your videos I always have a blast listening to you, and its me go to everyday after work :)
I came to say this, was a lil disappointed with this judgement. I have a 4yo and she can't always reach to get it all so I do a lil checkback. My niece is the same age and also requires a check. 🤷🏼♀️
I live in Argentina and teachers are definitely NOT allowed to touch children in their privates for whatever reason. I remember there was a pre requisite for my sister's class that they should know how to wipe alone, so I guess it depends on the laws of each place
There’s too much child abuse that has occurred in daycares and schools in the US. I can’t fathom being comfortable with a teacher wiping a four year old’s butt. Teachers shouldn’t even be touching children at all. My husband taught at an elementary school for three years, and even if a child was throwing chairs, teachers are not allowed to touch the child to stop them.
Regarding severe allergies, I was an RN at a university health service and a student who had collapsed had been brought in. The physicians were only at the clinic during certain times and happened to be there when the student was brought in. The student was given an antihistamine and was feeling better but the MD recommended that she see a specialist. It happened again and was brought in but was much more severe and the doctor wasn’t there and her breathing became so bad that EMS was called. The parents were informed but they denied that she had allergies and was just wanting attention. During winter break the family went to Central America and were in a remote area and the girl had another episode. The mother called the clinic after they returned and apologized, stating that her daughter had almost died before they could get her to a hospital some distance away as they were in a rural area and had to drive her themselves.
as someone in their 40s I can 100% tell you the "be nice to {random relative you've never seen}" hugging and kissing is STILL with me. It still makes me feel gross. No, I don't know you. I don't like physical touch from those I *do* know. Stop forcing kids to hug/kiss/interact with people they are unsure of or uncomfortable with. Stop forcing your 2yo to somehow have the guts to say "no touch" to giant adults they don't know just because "they're family" and "they love you". I'm not talking about SA. that's a whole other thing. A child being "polite" does not mean forcing them to hug and kiss you! God this trend needs to die with this generation.
@cat maxwell i meant that its ridiculous that the mother would say that its ok for her daughter to dress up as a real muderer because other people dress up as a fictional murderer, when both are very different things, i probably expressed myself wrong because english is not my first languag
My mom was a kindergarten teacher for many years, and she NEVER helped the kids wipe their butts. She even had kids who would piss and shit themselves and she would tell them their parents need to bring spare clothes/go to the nurse, but she would never even touch the children to help them wipe. That is a lawsuit waiting to happen.
Ow wow, in the country I grew up in it's very normal to help them wipe there butt when there 4yr old. So I definitely understand this but it's new for me
As a teacher, I will tell you that you're 100% wrong. It is against licensing aka ILLEGAL in the state I work in (and most states in America) to be in the bathroom with a child that is 4+. A child must be 4 to be in Pre-k, they can get arrested if the state walks in and sees them doing so. The only exception is if the child is on an IEP (individualized education plan) and a changing table legally MUST be provided. Why on Earth would your mother risk going to jail at worst or getting fired at best, just because the parents are too lazy to teach their child. Loud and wrong finger pointing has never helped society progress, so please change that.
@@fakeidonthaveahandle Thank you! My sister is a teacher & my bro-in-law is a superintendent (different districts), so we talk about school & school policies a lot. I know one of the requirements for kids enrolling in public school is that they be fully potty trained (same exceptions for IEPs). I know they've recommended private schools/daycare for kids who weren't. Also, what teacher can leave the rest of their class unattended every time a kid wants help to wipe their butt?
"I don't understand why this person will not touch my child's asshole. If this person continues to refrain from touching my child's asshole, I will have to admonish said person until said person does, indeed, touch my child's asshole. I will not be silent unless and until my child receives a thorough and diligent asshole-touching." 😧
If I ever told someone my child was deathly allergic to something and, instead of making sure to NEVER have that thing anywhere near my child, they tried to intentionally expose them to it.... I don't care who you are or if we're related in any way, you will never come near my child again. Ever.
I agree with the water bottle. My mom asks the kids for kisses and hugs everytime, if they say no she accepts it just like everyone should when another human tells them NO. They almost never say no because they love my mom but i appreciate her respecting their bodily autonomy.
Your editor/editors are the absolute best. I watch your videos while I have my first coffee and the joke about not eating your mom and it being your dad's job had me choke on the sip I took...I wasn't prepared. 😂
My oldest was special needs and was in diapers till 5 but that was medical related. When she got out of diapers she was excited to do things for herself.
What do you mean, 'was' special needs? Those types of diagnosis don't just go away as the child gets older, unless they are just developmentally delayed, which isn't special needs.
My parents started watching Law and Order with me at 10 but no serial killers until I was older. Admittedly I do now watch a lot of crime shows and listen to the true crime podcasts, but I also really got into the cooking shows they raised me on too.
I’m baffled at them amount of “no they’re not allergic and I’ll prove it to you” stories I’ve heard (especially ones involving kids and grandparents.) What about having an allergy is such a big deal that people refuse to believe and try to prove it false??
My daughter doesn’t wipe well and prefers us to wipe her. She’s 4 and I told her. You can’t go to school (which she really wants to do) until you learn to wipe by yourself
It's funny because in the US where I grew up I feel like teachers won't help kids wipe themselves after they're potty-trained, but here in Italy where I work now we absolutely do help the kids wipe after they poop if they ask, up to age 5-6. (I worked in a pre-school last year.) So yeah, they should help, some kids just can't reach around fully and don't get clean otherwise 😅
In all of the schools I have worked, if the kids asks for help, we will help them or if they have an accident we will help them. We just don’t go in for every single time a kid goes to the bathroom.
That seems to be the case most places I have worked in Canada. Although usually we need permission still for helping to wipe and stuff. A parent would probably ask if we could help if their child asks for it.
The issue I see most is, liability. Some creepy ppl purposely work with children in this world, esp now a days. Growing up tho, I remember this 1 child had to go to a specific bathroom with a lady who would get called in to help bc he always had trouble in that area, & she would get called in ever so often for emergencies. She was like the poopy nurse. That's what female teachers aides should be there for as well.
My mom is a daycare worker, where she workers they have an age range of a couple months old to 5th grades (after school). They start pottery training in the 2 year olds and have to be fully potty trained before going into the 3s. You won’t believe how many parents she had to tell that doing at home is an essential part of the process. Kids are smart and know who they can push and who they can’t, they learn to potty train at daycare and not at home if they don’t help train them.
Yeah, if you have to say you are or aren’t something, you’re definitely wrong. Just like how “I’m not racist, but” is usually followed by something extremely racist, and if you have to say you’re a nice guy, you definitely are not
Totally. When I was a young military wife with children everywhere we had to move there was that mom. I learned that as much as I didn't like her I needed to be there for her child.
The smoking thing and the last one about the allergy got me. I understand it’s hard to quit smoking if you don’t want to quit, but if you want a healthy baby you have to quit the things that endanger their health. The allergy thing, omg, I still have friends and family members that don’t believe I can’t eat onions or red sauce even after witnessing me having poor reactions to both.
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I'm a certified educator in the US. There's an important reason why teachers can't/ won't help kids in the bathroom. Unfortunately it leaves too much room for there to be allegations of inappropriate behavior on the teacher and so people stay away from it all together. I understand the parent's frustration because he's young and probably really needs help, but in certain states, all you need is to be accused to lose you certification/license Guilty or not 🤷🏿♀️
This was my first thought! Like, as a parent I wouldn’t want a teacher taking my kid into the bathroom to touch them under their clothes for ANY reason. And as a teacher, I would worry about the false accusations or suspicions I could leave myself open to if I did.
100% I work in education, and at least where I work, our standards for Pre-K are that the students need to be potty trained before starting.
My son is in special education and in preschool they did help him with his bathroom routine at school. He was 4-5 and still in pull-ups. He is in kindergarten now and expected to use the toilet himself now.
This is what I thought too. I was thinking about how uncomfortable I’d be if my kid was in the bathroom with an adult that’s not me or her dad. That’s why I told her I couldn’t put her into school until she was potty trained, we’ve also never done daycare nor had a babysitter that wasn’t my mother or mother in law. (I have an SA past that makes me this careful)
Totally agree, i'm not in us, but i heard how easy it is to get accused of that, plus as a parent i am sure many of us wont want teachers doing that. I have twins and it's normal at that age to not be able to wipe good and they might get "stripes", that's why we have wash machines no?
To the mom with the 8 year old who and uses him as support since he was her “husband in 2 previous lives.”: Stop it. You’re abusing your child. This is some weird stuff and even if it was true and he was your husband in two other lives; you’re his mother in this one! I have some ideas about reincarnation myself, so it’s not that you believe or he was your husband in a previous life. It’s that you’re leaning on him as a support person and allow him to “take care of you”. She should just be like, “wow, that’s a cool thing to remember. But baby, in this life, I’m your mommy. And that means I take care of you.” Seriously, if anyone knows her, they should call someone. This seems unhealthy.
It’s total codependency. I once knew a woman who was so attached to her son that when he went off to the military, she made herself sick. Had a total mental breakdown and ended up in a wheelchair. She couldn’t get her legs to support her anymore. No walking at all. This went on for a couple years. Doctors have no idea what’s wrong with her. (Because it’s all psychological in my opinion) Then her dad dies. he owned a farm with horses out of state. ) she goes back to the farm, sees her horse, and gets on and rides it with no problem. A couple weeks of that and all of a sudden she can walk again MAGICALLY. Her son did his time in the military, came home and got married and pretty much every Facebook post is her and her son in the picture. No one else seems to exist. Not her three other younger sons, nor her husband-who adores her. There have been other women I’ve known and other sons in a similar all-consuming in love with your kid situation.
So yeah. I’ve seen that scary level of dependency with a mother and son relationship before.
I feel bad for the son.. he's either gonna hate his mom or become just as attached. That's the kind of MIL you want to avoid 100%
@@katiep3027 true, my husband and MIL are example of such scenario.
I finished reading the post, and the child is a girl! And mum assumes she is transgender female to male! I personally think that unless the child says themselves that the feel like they are the opposite gender, no one should push that onto them! And not say it just once, but constantly as they grow up! I think everyone goes through a phase where they are tomboyish or more ‘feminine’, it doesn’t always mean they are transgender!
@@katiep3027 Does this mother described in the video want to create a 21st century Norman Bates? Because this is how you raise a severely messed-up kid. Ew.
I feel sorry for the wife of the guy that Four Little Birds described in this post. Her MIL is the stuff of nightmares!
I have a sister I'm not very close to. She became extremely religious after she quit drinking in her 20s. She lives in rural E. Texas and her life is her evangelical church. She has four adult children but only her youngest son is close to her. In fact, he's never left home and he's in his forties.
He is a good man; kind, intelligent, with a heart full of love. He's a historian (he got his degree online from Columbia Univ., I think) and he writes beautifully.
The rest of the family has suspected that he's gay ever since his early teens. Not just his mannerisms, but he has a very close male friend for most of his adult life who also has no interest in dating women, and they take long camping trips at least once a year. He is also evangelical, so he's not allowed to be "gay".
Of course we have never mentioned his sexuality to her since it's really none of our business. We just feel sad for him because he's never been allowed to live HIS life, he must be strictly obedient to his church's doctrine which is cruel, racist, and homophobic. He obviously doesn't feel that way himself, but feels he can't disagree.
I really hope that when my sister passes, that he will feel free to choose to live away from these people. He deserves to be happy.
When i’m pregnant I am immediately buying a spray bottle and calling it “don’t touch the bump”.
I was lucky enough to not have people trying to touch my bump thru my pregnancy, but I probably looked miserable enough to get people to back off haha
do it, honey!
People didn’t come near me. My husband looks like he would beat you with your own arm.
they have ones you can put on your keychain, they come with that spicey water. ;)
@@taras.752 LMAOOOO ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT PEPPER SPRAY 🤣
I have a coconut allergy and my mom tried to kill me. A few years ago, I went to visit my family for the holidays and my mom had made cookies and offered me some. I wasn't aware she had put coconut oil in them. When she tried to hand me a cookie, my quick-thinking sister grabbed it and yelled "There's coconut in that!" I was shocked, but all mom could say was "I just wanted to know if it was true." Mother of the year!
Holy fuck dude. I cabby believe there's people like that out there. Some people should never have kids!
Your mom sounds like a real peach. You should have taken a nice bite.
you should introduce your mother as the person who tried to kill you to everyone you know, because fuck her. i'm sorry you have a shitty mom, but at least your sister's got your back
JFC 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
I have a deadly shellfish allergy. My grandmother no longer eats shellfish at all. She doesn't want to hurt me by accident. I'm lucky to have someone who understands. I'm so sorry people are testing your allergies. No one should suffer for someone else's curiosity.
I lived for a few years near Milwaukee, where Dahmer lived. A true crime fan i know told me that once, she was wearing a Jeffrey Dahmer t-shirt in a grocery, and a woman approached her. "Dahmer murdered my family member." She never wore the shirt again.
We need to remember that horrifying crimes happen to real people. They aren't just weird stories to feel cool referencing. Imagine being like, Hey, isn't cool that my kid dressed up like the guy that ruined your life? Aren't we edgy? 🙄
Agreed, dressing like a character from a horror movie that is fictional is one thing, example Freddy Kreuger but dressing like a real serial killer is just so disrespectful. I am a true crime buff but I don't glorify the killers, that's just weird.
👏🏼GET👏🏼BETTER👏🏼IDOLS👏🏼
People seem to forget that this shit really happened, it’s not just a fictional Netflix series.
I live near Milwaukee…the amount of people who think it’s okay to wear a Jeffrey Dahmer costume or t-shirt just in WI….is alarming.
Exactly. The difference between Leatherface and Dahmer is that one of them is fictional and one is real whose victims have family members who are still very much alive. These are the kinds of people who probably think dressing up as Hitler for Halloween is fun and harmless.
I really, really don't understand why very regular people identify that much with serial killers and think they're cool. Not just disturbed people but really ordinary/inside the norm ones
The spray bottle story reminds me of a Reddit post by a husband who would not get left alone by his wife during meetings while working from home. Or she would send the kids to bother him. It wasn’t anything important, just random stuff.
He tried locking the door to the office while he was in meetings and she was furious that he was locking the family out. So he stopped, upon her promising not to bother him if the door was closed (meaning he was busy).
She kept on doing it so he started spraying her with water and she complained it was embarrassing her to be sprayed while they were on camera in front of his coworkers because it was during video calls/meetings. He told her that as soon as she stops bothering him, he’d stop, lol.
I think it was genius.
amazing! 🤣🤣🤣
That’s abusive. On both sides.
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@@kristinheatherstarone6905 Not really... More like ammusive ;)
I think he needs new wife
The grandmother in the peanut allergy story made me mad. My oldest developed a life threatening peanut allergy at 16, no symptoms before then and straight into anaphylactic shock even with spitting the food out and not swallowing any. She now reacts if she touches or uses anything someone has touched during or after eating peanuts. It’s so scary how so many people consider “ you’re being dramatic” or over exaggerating.
My cousin's daughter too. My best friend has a shell fish allergy and her wind pipe was closing up just from it being cooked in the house. She almost died while they tried to find an epi pen while on vacation. Now they cary one with her.
@@nleem3361 If they don't already do so, please urge them to carry both pens (usually they come in a pair). The medication only lasts a short time. Also pens can malfunction or someone might panic and use it in the wrong way. It's good to have a backup just in case.
Also ring for an ambulance after administering the first dose they can then advise when to give the second second dose. My daughter has heart problems but her cardiologist says you can sort any problems caused by the dpi pen meds but if they die you can’t. if tIt’s really not worth risking a life by delaying.
The mother should pick some poison ivy (while wearing gloves, of course) and keep it nearby when the grandmother visits. Then if she tries to "test" the child's allergy again, rub that poison ivy all over her arm!
"Not all people are allergic to poison ivy so I'm just "testing" to see if you have an allergy to it."
Maybe grandma would understand, but probably not.
My son did for tree nuts while in college as a pastry chef. Just one day using almond flour he stopped breathing. It was awful. Now everyone has to be super careful. Took a while but we finally got through to his in-laws how serious it is.
The story at the end was a legit Reddit post about a mother-in-law who babysat a 3-year-old who she absolutely adored but didn't believe in her peanut allergy. Her mother went to take a nap with the grandma babysitting and she had snuck homemade banana peanut butter cookies. She started screaming "SOMETHINGS WRONG WITH THE BABY" the mother rushed into the room, with her toddler scratching at her neck, closing and getting her with the epi-pen. Since then grandmother has been banned from the child!
She should have been charged with attempted murder
Oh my god!!
yes I heard about that, what is up with mother in laws not believing in the allergy! Like why even entertain the thought of gambling with a child's life, it's totally heartless and irresponsible!
What the hell?? I would also bad her, stupid adult should not be around children. My goodness 😳😳😳😵😵😵
The audacity of the whole thing, but especially to scream that as though she can't possibly imagine what was wrong with the kid.
Regarding the at-home circumcision CPS needs to be called before they mess up that poor kid. What's next they break a bone and hubby does the surgery!?
I feel like the best place to start with would be to just ask the husband "would you allow a fellow dog breeder to cut anything on YOUR _____?" My guess is his answer would be a resounding 'heck no!' If you can't imagine someone doing it to you, don't try it on your baby...
U read my mind!!!!
Why do the circumcision in the first place?
You will have no idea first if medically needed and I'm quite sure in the religions doing this it is also done by someone trained.
They could mess that poor boys genitalia up for life!!! It would be better just to leave him alone and let him be born how he is if they are that much against drs!! UGHHH that’s why these at home births get on my nerves I’ve heard of way too many deaths. I had a comepletely healthy pregnancy, in fact my son was SO HEALTHY he was born a whopping 10 lbs, my birth canal was too small and his shoulder got hung on something inside of me 😢 it was a horrific 3 hours of him crowning then going back in bc he was hung on something, some sort of pubic bone. My dr wasn’t the best but at least I was in a hospital or we both would have died!!!!
@@tf3655 Why? Because...ICK!
Ngl, that mom with the spray bottle for the obnoxious adults who won't respect their kids' bodily autonomy is genius. I wish my parents understood earlier just how much of a touch aversion I had and not forced me to hug and kiss all my family when we went to visit them at holidays and stuff. My dad is one of eight kids, they all got married and had at least two kids each. That meant there was over 30 people (including grandparents) I had to hug and kiss hello and goodbye to per holiday, with a *bonus* thank you hug and kiss at Christmas for gifts we received. Needless to say I dreaded visiting family as much I loved seeing them because of all that unwanted touching I was subjected to.
I don't have a big family, and I had a problem with inappropriate touching (and more, if you know what I mean). The issue I have is this: if she has the hand for a spray bottle, then why doesn't she have the mouth to just tell them to back off? If someone sprays them, they don't know why until she tells them anyway. It's aggressive, and only serves to piss people off. The person doing it doesn't have bad intentions, or they wouldn't be doing it in front of others. Just tell them that the child doesn't want to be hugged or kissed. Problem solved. Repeat offender? Tell the child it's ok to refuse to go near them.
@@jenx5870 she probably has told them over and over again but it still happens so they get the water bottle. Just like my cat.
@@jenx5870 Because some people never listen. Getting sprayed hurts their feelings and drives the point home. When a lesson stings we tend to remember it for a lot longer than a polite no.
@@jenx5870 Guess what, my parents did exactly that, and my dad's father didn't give a shit, he kept doing it. And my parents let us know it's fine not to go near him, wanna know what he did then? He lured us to him with promises of gifts, which surprise, works quite well on toddlers, it only stopped once we went pretty much No-Contact. If someone resorts to methods like spray bottles, talking has proven ineffective. These kind of people think they're entitled to affection from the kid, because they're an elderly relative, and little will convince them otherwise. So as someone speaking from experience, I approve the spray bottle! And they'll know what they're being sprayed for, they've been told multiple times.
@@jenx5870 she probably has told them to stop. Would you rather her scream and cuss at them or would that be too aggressive too?
"at home circumcision"
New fear unlocked. So much ick. Just. No.
Edit: I take it back. Thinking your son was your husband in multiple past lives is just DISTURBING. I hope that kid gets a good therapist.
I hope someone called CPS for that child
No kidding. He could mutilate his baby for life. I can't believe noone is calling CPS.
The baby will be scared for life and given that most men are very fond of their genitals, this will be devastating for life.
Right
I think there’s a Reddit that calls them a Jocasta JustNoMIL. It’s enough of a thing to get a name, which is really disturbing.
The at home circumcision was so weird! And its also disturbing when you learn the guy docks dogs ears and tails for a living 🤢
My mother, grandmother, and one of my sisters all have a shellfish allergy and it pisses me off when people told my grandmother during her life that they won't keep shellfish away from where other dishes are being prepared because it's time-consuming. It only happened on one or two occasions and even though we didn't get along that well, it still made me realize how truly stupid some people are.
My ex mother in law had a list of my food allergies (shellfish and pitted fruits.. really not that much, but I would get anaphylactic reactions when I was younger if anything even wafted towards my food I swear, thankfully it’s a little better now… or I’ve just learned to cheat the system lol) anyways, it was too much for Christmas family dinner to just make a small plate to put aside for me before all the shellfish and apricot sauce and plum shit came out, she just piled it all on my plate and told me it was cranberries and chicken… I’m not unconvinced she wasn’t trying to kill me.
I walked out that year and we were divorced the next.
Thanks, I’ll take my life over you guys. 🤦♀️
easy fix. SERVE SOMETHING ELSE
I travelled internationally for years. Having the nanny in coach with the kids was very normal in the Middle East. The poor Nannie’s weren’t allowed to discipline the kids but still expected to keep them quiet. It was infuriating.
My mom nannied for a wealthy American couple and traveled the world with them. They sat in first class and my mom and the kids were in business. She said it was great, the kids had a great time and neurotic mom wasn’t around to get them wound up.
Honestly it depends on the family and the country tbh. I’m Middle Eastern, Normally the nanny would tell the mom and she discipline them the first time and tells the Nanny what she can do about it without her. Then again not all families are the same. And of course not out-casting the poor Nanny to coach while the parents are in 1st/business.
@@Kasoha4 I meant no disrespect. It’s dangerous to generalize.
@@kylasaundersmiller2286 I didn't mean any disrespect either, so sorry if it sounded that way. I was just sharing my experience is all so no worries!
Discipline means to teach, not punish.
Past lives mom scares me. She clearly has no boundaries, and I worry for that boy when he’s older.
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Im worried for that boy now 😪
My mom is the same with me but instead she thought I was her deceased sister. We don't talk much anymore now that my personality doesn't match her expectations :/
Yeah she definitely lead the mediums on to hear what she wanted to l, she also is 100% going to try to sleep with the kid, let's not pretend that's not why she is doing this
@@ConstantChaos1 Dear God. I hate that you’re probably right 😱 I hope someone calls cps on this whack job.
I totally dig the spray bottle idea. I don't have kids, but constantly ask people not to touch me. Maybe more effective to carry a spray bottle, I'd use something more effective than water though.
Lol! Vinegar would work wonders!
Lemon juice mixed with that vinegar
I suggest skunk spray :3
The dance class one made me a little sad. It reminded me of a family that used to come to the clothing store I worked at. Her mom once mentioned to me that her elementary school aged daughter danced 40 hours a week. This girl never came in with other kids, only her parents. She didn't touch or interact with the many toys and games we also had for sale. She always looked sad and tired. It hurt to know this about her. I really hope she gets away.
My girls take gymnastics and there’s a mother that wondered why her 3 yo wasn’t competition ready. They told her to find another gym
Yes but that child might have a brilliant and amazing future. And have lots of friends at dance or at school. You can't judge someone's parenting based on a 5-20 min shopping trip. You just decided a child needs to get away from her parents bc she looks tired after dance class and only comes into your store with her parents. Maybe the kid Fking hates shopping or your store. Maybe the parent really have to force her to get out and do stuff OTHER than dancing. Maybe the child Would RATHER be dancing 24/7. Some girls work hard bc if you don't as a child you can bet your sweet ass that the dream of being a prima is finite. It's hard as HELL to get accepted into a company. It takes choosing ballet or lyrical over all other stuff as a teen to become someone to even GLANCE AT as an option to gain a spot in a company. You and everyone that liked your comment are kinda fkd up. You think a child should leave parents off that ... Wtf
@@PhDofUselessNawlige no child should be dancing forty hours a week on top of a 30 hour school schedule.That's almost 3 full days of work.
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@@BeczaBotdon't bother, she's clearly a slave driver oops sorry I mean dance mom 😂
As someone who has always hated being touched by people I'm not close to i love spray bottle mum. Sometimes telling people to stop doing something just isnt enough. She is standing up for her kids when they are uncomfortable and thats a good thing
Same! I'm latina and latin people tend to be way to affectionate to the point it gets uncomfortable, as a child I always got disgusted when people grabbed my cheeks, squeezed me into hugs or started smooching my face like crazy, like
I don't want your nasty saliva and smell all over me stranger! Thanks!
Yeah I mean esp bc adults carry way more illnesses & bacteria that a child's body is way more susceptible to! I remember reading an article a few yrs back about this, bc they were reporting children getting herpes from family/friends kissing on them. It's not okay!!!! They try to spread love but can easily spread other things!
@@honglian4530 Ew, seriously! I always despised this as a child, esp once I was a toddler! Like get AWAY FROM MEEEE.
I actually feel like this brought back trauma. It definitely created a level of PTSD, & I can't imagine that I'm alone on this one.
I have a butt wipe story too. 🙈
I was a babysitter very long time ago, And I looked after 2 (wonderful and energetic) kid. I had to pick them up after school and kindergarten as their mommy had 3 jobs and couldn’t do this herself (she were a single parent at that time)
The boy were 7,5 and the girl were 2,5.
So you can imagine how much I surprised when the boy asked me to help him to wipe his butt.
And yes their mommy expected me to do it as she does not think her boy are able to do it himself.
I told the boy immediately I will not do it, I think he is a big boy and he must learn this because he will make himself embarrassed if he always must asks someone else to do it.
He became very excited I let him to do it himself and told me he always wanted to do alone this as others classmates of his.
Also I let him privacy to take a bath alone.
His mommy always sent him to sleep with his sister at 7 in the evening ( she started housework and cook for the next day after they slept )but instead of this I downloaded his favourite science kid shows and told him, while I put his sister to bed he can watch that show alone and once lil sis sleep I will read him something else he likes like scientific stuff that he loves the most.
He told me he loved the evenings the most with me.
Also couple of months later I had a talk with his mommy and she told me she realised might she really can give him a bit more freedom but she get so much used to do everything always alone she didn’t realise what she is doing.
I am glad she with all 3 jobs, housework school raising alone 2 kids she had a time to practice self reflection too. Seriously I have no idea how she did that but I am very proud of her.
this story scared me but it seemed to be a happier ending & i'm relieved! hope the children didn't have any issues as they grew older. 🙏
Somehow, my chain-smoking abusive mother managed to cold turkey quit smoking while pregnant both times. Because as awful as she was, she cared enough to do that. My sister, also a heavy smoker, immediately quit when she found out about my surprise nephew. It's entirely possible without "stressing yourself". My sister said it was easy because she thought of her son.
It's stressful on the body. Or did you not know that withdrawal from anything is stressful on the body? And could potentially cause miscarriages or other complications because of the stress.
So they cared enough when they were pregnant but then exposed their children's lungs to secondhand smoke through their childhood....???
@@sheriknox2084 Yeah, they get funky with that. My mom drinks and smokes. She quit when pregnant with me and my siblings, but she sure didn't stop once we were actually born. It was pretty tough to live with how she behaved on those substances ngl. Parents r weird when it comes to thinking wuts too harmful and wut isn't with their kids sometimes
Good for them. However, some women have issues tied in with it, like severe anxiety. Don't judge people, when you don't understand what you're talking about. Seems like you've never been addicted to cigarettes, and therefore cannot justifiably judge someone else for something you cannot fathom. Also, withdrawal from nicotine if you are a heavy smoker can cause a miscarriage, and other issues to the developing baby. While it doesn't stress the mothers body too much, the fetus is a different story. And it sounds like they just went right back in to their addictions anyways....which second hand smoke for children is far worse than a fetus being exposed to nicotine and then only having the jitters for about a day after birth.
@@theknittinkitten2954 bullshit. The impact of smoking are worst then the stress if stopping to smoke.
If jours addicted to something that withdrawal can be dangerous? Get medical help.
Stupidity at its finest.
Also, one of my favorite stories as a mom. My oldest was 2 and I was trying to calm her down from a full blown tantrum. A young couple, with a pregnant mommy to be, walked by holding hands looking so sweet. I smiled at her as I slowly had to pull my child by her leg into a store. The look of horror on her face gives me joy. I'll never forget it. An older couple laughed and said "those are the days I DONT miss!" They also asked if I needed help.
🤣😆👏👏👏yep love it.
Oh yeah. Been there. Rofl
@Tollish you just made my day! My younger brother used to throw temper tantrums. My mother would walk away. She always kept an eye on him, but not so he could see her. When he realized she wasn't watching. He'd stop, run over to her, and start up again. He finally figured out the tantrum wasn't going to work on her and stopped doing it.
Been there. 😆😆😆
@@fairygoth-mother7341 haha my niece used to do that bc my dad would buy her anything she wanted but when she was with me I told her she couldn’t get everything she saw and she would throw a fit and I would just walk away but I made sure I could still see her. The look on her face when she realized she was alone was priceless. After a few times. She realized I didn’t care if she threw a fit but she would still do it around my dad until he got upset and put everything back 😂😂
I am a pre-K teacher and usually we wipe kids bums or at least double check. Once they go to kindergarten then the teachers absolutely will not wipe bums but normally in pre-K we have a range of kids that are potty trained and not. Pre-K is usually considered 2.5-4 and they’re all in the same class, a lot of what I do with my preschoolers is double check or encourage independence. Many kids don’t get potty trained until right before kindergarten.
I’m totally on the side of the parent using a spray bottle on people. Those people just won’t respect boundaries set by a child.
I mean we do it for animals and they learn, people should be a viable option as well. 😂
I *hated* kissing and being kissed as a kid and still hate to this day. My mom would be mortified that I wouldn't let her friends kiss me, or wipe it off my cheek, or just turn my head around for them to kiss my head instead of face. An argument that I though recently to fight against it that I wish I knew before:
"I'm sorry I didn't let you put your mouth on my face" or "I'm sorry I don't want to put my mouth on your face"
Make it just as weird as it sounds
I would frame it this way to people who don't grasp the concept that kids should be allowed to give or deny consent to be touched, kissed, etc just like an adult would: "If you met your spouse's coworker for the first time, would you want them to hug you or kiss your cheek? No? Then why would you make your child accept that from your relative/friend that is a stranger to them? It's the same thing, kids just don't know the words to express how they feel in the same way you do"
dude, as a mom, it is so true about people just not having boundaries with your children. My son was straight up having some sort of panic attack and my in laws would not bring him to us because they were like, "it's just a tantrum" (as if we don't spend time with him 24/7 and know the difference.) My husband had to go and pick him up out of their arms, much to the dismay of his family. When we held him and helped him calm down, we explained what him panicking looks like and what his tantrums look like, but they still didn't really get it. He also screamed one time in a restaurant, it wasn't even like a snooty place or anything, and one person in our family covered his mouth. We both shut that down real quick. It's one thing to shush, another to grab a kid's face
id agree if i hadn’t been tormented with one because i was too sick to get out of bed and go to school :/
All these stories are darn good reminders of why I am childless. I don’t have the patience, maternal instinct and cash. Raising children is the most expensive and all-consuming job you will ever have. Congratulations to folks that raise children to become compassionate, mentally healthy adults.
Yet you are still wiser and more self aware than dumb people who continue breeding
Thank you for the kind words... it's even more of a challenge to manage that these days. I don't fault anyone for not having kids but it's shocking how many act like they're some kind of genius and everyone else is an idiot from that alone. Sure they made the choice that they felt was right for themselves, great, no problem there... but I mean I literally came across someone who said they shouldn't have to hear kids screaming on planes just because they were smart enough not to have kids and other people weren't. I mean... someone has to, right? Or there would be no more humans and all... so yeah, the venom some folks have for those who have kids is truly baffling.
Amen to that.
@@BeeWhistler Bleh that's honestly as obnoxious as someone trying to talk me into kids. They didn't care that I had no desire to be a mother, though it was entertaining and sad to see their argument shift into making kids sound more like a retirement plan than anything else. I think both extremes are convinced their choice is the "superior" in some way, forgetting that it's more about making the right choice for yourself =/
It's good that you know this about yourself and that you aren't bringing another unwanted or unloved child into the world. The fact we are now forcing women to bear children is appalling and barbaric. It should always be by choice and desire.
I was a pack a day smoker when I found out I was pregnant. My doctor told me to wean off but I told him I had already quit. The moment I saw those pink lines, I quit cold turkey. I wasn't supposed to be able to have kids so I was so grateful I wasn't taking ANY chances! I didn't drink coffee and was scared to even eat chocolate bc of the caffeine. I was overly cautious but I have no regrets. My miracle is 14! ❤❤❤
To the mother who sprays adults with water when the adults are handling the kids without consent or when they're visibly uncomfortable is a damn genius lol. Don't tell your children to go hug and kiss somebody just because that person wants it. I remember hating giving people hugs and kisses when we saw them. It's just really awkward and it can get out of hand... I struggle to let my husband even touch me.
Yes! I came here looking for this comment
Right?!
I thought that one felt out of place in this video, because it is so smart and just has to get the point across at some point. I also love that basically, her discipline is focused on the adults😂
I feel the same way, because I have granny, that gives wet kisses and I was always like 🤢
@@Kayleezatko Oh god, not the wet kisses😭
And the relatives with the cologne and heavy perfumes...
Why is this a universal thing?
@@amysomething3370 Yeah. I´m from Chech Republic... I´m lucky nobody wears heavy perfume in my family.
That mom with the 4yr should of taken that as a learning moment for herself and taught her son to wipe better. When my son was 3 he went next door to the neighbors pool, came back home with all his clothes on backwards and inside out, he said they gave him his clothes and told him to go into the bathroom and change. He had been so used to me helping him get dressed that he didn't really know how to do it himself. Thats when you learn a lesson as a parent and say "oops, I need to teach them to do that and stop doing it for them all the time, my bad". I wasn't mad at the neighbors at all that they didn't help him, I was mad at myself for not showing him how in the first place and that I had put my son in that situation.
Totally feel u on this , it's a teaching moment to us as parents and the difference between a good and bad parent is u learnt and taught him rather than blaming others i.e the neighbors. My son is 10 and asked why I still cut his meat on his dinner and I was like oh wow why the fuck am I hahah 🤣so I stopped and obviously he did it fine he has had ten bloody years of watching me do it 🤣. Yes we are parents but We are human we are always learning ❤️.
That’s not the same as though as wiping properly. Yes we teach them, but we also must understand it’s a learning experience not just moment for them. Which means it takes time for them to remember all the steps.
@@48mavemiss2 but we also need to realize that preschool teachers are not allowed to wipe a four year old. (I'm a preschool teacher and when I started, I was told that we're not allowed to wipe them.)
@@TaraConway16 absolutely, preschoolteacher here, before you know you are in BIG trouble...1,2,3 years old okay, 4 years old nope😅
Usually kids Tell You when they are ready & feel confident to "Do It Myself!" Sometimes they really aren't, but have seen other kids doing so & you get the "so-n-so does" then You have to decide weather to let them try & fail (in private) or succeed & cry in private about "My baby's growing up!" My sister has a SIL who waited 2 years TWO YEARS before allowing her son to go outside for fear of "airborne illnesses" (now an adult, he's fine, with help from caring relatives) It's sometimes hard to see when you're too close to the situation.
My problem isn’t the husband in a past life part. It’s the letting him act like a husband currently. People really do just use their kids to fill a romantic void a lot 😬
With that kind of nuts parent, Im inclined to believe that poor girl has been fed some bullshit by her mum to make her believe shes trans too - otherwise it wouldnt feed her narrative of husband
Her, it's her daughter. Who she's labeled as transgender.
About the last post you read, I heard a Reedit story that was similar. The writer has a sever cashew allergy and asthma, and as a child would often forget his Epipen and his inhaler. While staying with his mother, he was given a granola bar (with cashews). Like you would suspect, he dent into anaphylactic shock. Then had an asthma attack do to stress, and ended up in a coma for about 2 weeks. After being released from the hospital, and missing his 10th birthday, he returned home to a surprise birthday/welcome home party. During the party, he overhears his OWN mother say his allergies and asthma are not real and he was faking the whole thing. Before he was able to eat any of the cake, he dropped his fork, which is probably the luckiest thing he ever did. While in the kitchen he heard screaming coming from the living room. He walked in to find his father screaming at his mom about dumping mixed nuts into the cake to prove that he didn’t have a cashew allergy. That’s right this woman tried to kill her son twice to “prove“ that he didn’t have a cashew allergy.
I dislike the expression, down pat. At least it's not down Patricia...
OMG
Hopefully someone called cps or something, or the boy lives with the dad now
@@dynogamergurl mom and dad were already divorced at that time and the boy and his brother lived with dad. But the mother never did anything to hurt her kids till this point. And from my understanding, she threatened to take the kids away from the dad. Yeah that didn’t happen. In fact her boyfriend at the time broke up with her after seeing her crazy behavior at the party, the parents kicked her out and disowned her after they found out what she did to their grandchild, and she kind of fell off the face of the earth and they didn’t care to find her.
I remember that my daughter developed as allergic reaction to flowers. Goes into anaphylactic shock. Full blown. It was discovered while she was out of state, visiting my dad and his girlfriend for the summer at the age of ten after she hugged a bouquet of roses that her father sent her for her bday. I remember my dad calling in a panic and me saying to rush her to the hospital and his girlfriend was in the background saying, I kid you not; it’s no big deal. It’s just the chicken pox. She’s knows because her kids had had them!!! I yelled that my daughter 1)had never gone through the incubation phase and 2) was vaccinated against them and 3) don’t make me fly out there where I’ll make you regret not taking my baby to the hospital!! Sure enough I was right.
That last one reminds me of my grandma. When I was a child, I developed asthma, which was frequently triggered by her dusty old house when my sister and I were there visiting. Every night I would lay there wheezing and gasping for breath, but grandma thought I was faking because I didn't want to go to sleep. When I told her I couldn't breathe, she would give me a glass of water and an aspirin and tell me to back to bed. My sister told me years later, she used to lay awake listening to be sure I was still breathing, because she thought I might die. She finally mentioned these episodes to our mom, who promptly took me to the doctor who diagnosed me and gave me an inhaler. My mom had a few words for grandma (her former MIL).
Dang, that's awful. I'm glad you had your sister looking out for you.
Everyone in my family and friends knew I had asthma as a child but I wasn't allowed my inhaler unless my mother gave it to me. I don't even remember if I had one at school for emergencies. When I coughed, wheezed and couldn't breath at night and all you could hear was "SHUT UP AND GO BACK TO BED!!" from downstairs like I was being a nuisance. Yeah, like, I can't breath mother.
@@roguetalowen Wow, that's terrible. I can't imagine knowing your child had asthma but withholding their medication. My sister was my protector. My grandma wasn't being malicious, she just thought I was faking and didn't really believe in illness or doctors. I'm sorry no one was able to protect you. It's an awful feeling to not be able to breathe.
Oh my gosh I’m so sorry you went through that. I have a nephew that had terrible asthma. On a couple occasions when my sister would check on him (which she did many times all through the night) even when he was way older, his lips were turning blue and his eyes were rolled back. She had to give him CPR while my brother in law drove them to the nearest hospital. They live way out in the country and it would have taken a lot longer to call an ambulance. She saved his life a few times. Nothing to fool around with. He is in his 30s now still has trouble.
@@lauraelliott6909 Thank you. I never even thought about being denied the medicine, more being shouted at. I've grown out of it now and only really need an inhaler if I get a bad chest infection, which is a relief. It does make me paranoid to the point i have to check my own children are breathing at night even though they haven't had any problems (except the youngest). I hope your Grandma eventually saw reason. I'm glad she wasn't trying to be harmful on purpose.
I am so sorry u lived like that & hope ur okay now! I'm temporarily staying with my grandma now a days & I swear they do it on purpose! Her house is SO dusty, stinks of mildew, black mold on so many things in closets, etc & has like dirt all over the carpets, but she won't let me mop, dust or even vacuum. I have severe dust & mold allergies due to my Lyme Disease & I have to clean when she's out & have a air purifier in my room. I just finally changed out the 60 yr old MATTRESS she had in this room bc she refused to admit it was falling apart & springs impaling me. Ugh.
The one with the 4 year old is soooo hillarious to me, and also so scary. When I was a kid, kids could only enter kindergarten (3yo to begin of elementary school btw. 6-7 yo) when their parents could promise that the kiddos reliably used the toilet & wiped properly. If that wasn't doable, no kindergarten spot. Of course, sometimes accidents happen (esp. if a kid very suddenly gets sick and has diarrhea before their parents can collect them) - but that was like handful of incidents per year or something. Sheesh...
Also, the dog breeder is abusing animals.
4:20 potty training is actually really different from wiping. I work at a daycare around 3-5 they begin learning to wipe but they usually need some help and for an adult to double check after they poop because they're just not good at it. I do find it pretty weird a pre-k teacher wouldn't help as it's totally normal for 4 year olds to need help wiping.
Edit: This comment has sparred some great discussions and I see some questions so I personally was a daycare teacher not a kindergarten one. At 6 when you go to kindergarten it is best to know how to wipe but it's not gonna be perfect and thats when the discourse gets more difficult. Also I am american and ages for these milestones might be different! Overall thanks for how reasonable the discussion has been in a youtube comment section yall. 🤣
I'm a mom of 4 & totally agree. Preschoolers needing help wiping isn't unusual at all.
Thank you I have a 3 year old and a 4 year old, one in preschool one in pre k the teachers definitely help them wipe
(ENG not my main language sorry for any misspelling) I was looking for this ! I've worked at a daycare when I was a student and was taking care of 3-5yo kids. Except two or three (out of 35-40) NONE of them knew how to wipe without us helping of checking after them ! I was not trained or anything for that (I was 19, never took cared of a baby or kids before) so every time a kid was asking I asked a collegue who had been trained/had the small children caring diploma to do it but I would never simply tell a kid who's asking for help to just cope with that ...
Came here for these, only moms know this kind of stuff. People without children have no idea how the learning proces of trivial things actually is talking place.
Just commented this myself. Worked at a daycare as a trainee teacher, but pretty sure there was wiping. And for sure wipe my nephew, who’s 4. Niece never asks for help tho, she’s 5.
Charlotte reading moms posts and started channelling her mother's Italian accent in her own cute way . 😂
Her mom is Romanian. I think it's her dad that's Italian
@@andromedayuyi9845 Her father is Romanian and her mother's Italian.
It's so annoying
So... Why she have a French name? Charlotte is definitely not an Italian name.
@@Sokew86 I would guess it’s because they just liked the name Charlotte.
Mom groups are filled with crazies! I was in a local Facebook mom's group and the amount of times people were asking for medical advice from strangers online instead of calling their child's doctor was mind-blowing.
Because everything doesn’t need a doctor and so good information nobody can teach anyone to be a parent
@@ravenmcmillan2926 Exactly....I specifically came to the comment section about this. It's best to get as much advice as possible from moms with testimonies, as not everything requires a Dr. Not to mention I can literally list easily a hundred times, where doctors effed up or were wrong & I knew more than them about my situation/illness/condition. That's nearly 1/4th or 1/3rd of my life's Drs visits! We tend to forget the amount of Drs who shouldn't be. Esp those who passed with D's, as in should probably have failed & not went on to be entrusted with lives, then there are nepatism Drs, ppl who paid their way through school, ppl who cheated their way through, or slept their way through, even...yeah. All still made it out & are DOCTORS. That's SCARY.
Doctors are not available when you “need advice”. Fever, call/go to the doctor, of course. Teething…… ask a mom. Overnight earache… ask a mom.
Maybe a mommy can do c sections.😂
Anyone who seeks information or news from Facebook is a moron. Facebook is not a good or reliable reference source. It's entertainment.
My grandmother left me in coach alone on a 13 hour flight after she got a free upgrade to first class. I was 15, but scared of flying, and my parents asked her to go on the trip purely to keep me company.
We flew over a hurricane 🙃
Holy smokes, I would put my nanny and kids in a business or first class suite and sit in coach with my husband. Wtheck. Absolutely, if cost was is an issue, you do what will make the child more comfortable and relaxed. Whether that be to all sit in coach, or have the NANNY in a first class suite with the kids - so that your CHILDREN, who are unable to regulate themselves, are comfortable.
A grown ass adult can handle flying coach. A mom, dad, and nanny all in coach can handle a rambunctious toddler. OR put your kids with you and your husband and let her at least relax in coach.
Also-
If u hate your husband-hire a hot 20 yo au pair from Czechoslovakia or Brazil or Sweden. Let them sit together in coach and book a first class suite for u and the kids or vice versa then when he leaves you for her you get REAL $$$.
“Honey, if we’re this strapped for cash, why don’t you and Maria sit with the kids and I’ll fly coach, or you and Irena can sit in coach and I will handle the kids in the first class suite.”
Then leave him with her on the beach with the kids so he “doesn’t have to watch them” and go get drunk and a massage and facial and mani pedi upon arrival. Men who cheat with Nanny’s PAY
You and the kid, your hot new man, and the new homely nanny can fly first class all u want.
😂😂😂
@spiceymayo8950 that’s kind of messed up. Did it damage your relationship with her?
My MIL would totally test the “allergy theory” if our daughter ends up developing one. She already says “no you’re not” when my husband reminds her that he’s lactose intolerant.
Yikes! And who would want to have to prove it? I'm not sure why so many people take this stuff so personally.
@@BeeWhistler Too true!
I feel like it's some weird subconscious instinct to prove their genes aren't different or "weak" and neither are their offsprings... it's so weird and fucked up.
Argh! Classic gaslighting, that is!
@@BeeWhistler I mean if she's being a real butt about it, depending on how severe his lactose intolerance is, he could show her the results in the bathroom after eating her dairy. Maybe take documented pictures over the course of a month XD like "Since I'm tired of your s***, here's mine" XD
I had a 4-year-old in my preschool class who was in full on diapers and her parents saw no issue with it. And she didn’t have any mental or physical disabilities. One of the reasons I quit, I did not sign up for changing a 4-year-old’s shitty diapers twice a day.
Edit: just watched it and if a 4 year old IS potty trained then they should definitely know how to wipe their own asses. But if they're wearing diapers it's a different story. But speaking from experience some kids don't stop wearing diapers until they're 5. It was like that with my younger cousin and nephew when they were little and I had to help change diapers. My nephew is autistic but my little cousin wasn't. They just had potty training issues and didn't get the concept until they were a little older. Also if you didn't want to change diapers but still want to teach young kids I would have chose a different grade.
@@ehheeajeshika as I said very clearly, this child had no developmental disorders or intellectual disabilities, her parents just did not believe in discipline. I can deal with a 4-5 year old pissing themselves, I cannot deal with a 4 year old taking a dump in the middle of circle time on the carpet because she thinks it’s funny. You are the first and only person I have ever encountered who thinks that behavior is acceptable at 4 years old. I love kids, I do not love parents who don’t believe in discipline. This child got away with absolutely everything. But since the pay was “shitty” on top of it, I quit teaching all together and went back to flipping liquor bottles, where I make a ton more money and if someone shits themselves from drinking too much, I get to make THEM clean it up. Problem solved.
@@wickedwonka9155 fair enough I would be incredibly pissed off too. I should not have said anything because I clearly didn't know the situation. One of my pet peeves for parents is that they don't discipline their kids.
@@ehheeajeshika she WAS potty trained. She used the bathroom at home, but refused to use it at school. She thought it was hilarious when she would take a dump in the middle of the floor. Kid had zero discipline and was a holy terror and so were both her siblings. You couldn’t tell her “No.” or the parents would freak out. And as I already said, I left teaching to get people drunk and take their money, so picking another grade is a mute point. I taught preschool for ten years and never had a child in the 4-5 age range who refused to use the bathroom even though they knew how. I am not talking about autistic children or children who are slow learners because this kid was neither, she was actually very advanced for her age. She thought it was funny. That’s it. It was a joke to her and like I said - her parents let her do WHATEVER she wanted. If you think bringing a kid up that way is normal, more power to you, just keep a lot of baby wipes on hand in case the result is a kid shitting on the floor in the middle of a family gathering. I’ll be behind the bar counting my money and laughing. 🤣
@@ehheeajeshika right?! I’m glad I grew up in the 80’s before the world went crazy. I heard the word “No” frequently and often and I’m glad.
both of my grandmothers did the peanut thing to me and then called me "dramatic like (my) mother" when i started violently puking my guts up and needed my inhaler. then, on both of these occasions, they finally decided to believe me but didn't think it was serious because it wasn't deadly and i don't "need" an epipen. and i didn't need one then but my allergy has gotten worse so i most likely do now and part of the reason i avoid both of them is because they might try it again as they've both repeatedly given me fish and other types of legumes for the same reason. and i wasn't even the only one. they basically poisoned my sisters, mother, and i on multiple occasions just to prove we were being dramatic, only to then turn around and say my mom was the bad mother smh.
R they psychotic?
My mother in law kept trying to give my daughter with life threatening allergies food that she was allergic to because she gave it to her other grandchildren so it 'wasn't fair' to miss out one. I felt it was more fair that she got to live.
People who do not have severe allergies do not understand how bad they can be. It's scary when you can't breathe! Been there, done that!
did you call your mil a murderer? because that's what she's doing, trying to murder your child. i hate people who "test" and try to "prove" that someone doesn't have an allergy. its horrible
She should've made your daughter something different and if her other grandkids asked why tell them that she's allergic and it could kill her. It's actually very simple to do that.
shes a psycho
@@NikkiScott1 you're missing the point, its not about being "fair", its about dismissing something because you don't want it to be true or because its just to much work to accommodate someone. grandma is either being lazy or murderous out of spite/ableism.
to the first one: I used to smoke before pregnancy and after doing the test I actually didn't stop right away either. I went down FAST and stopped about 3 weeks in. I did this with my doctors approval, because a hard withdrawal will stress the body and could impact the baby. it's basically choosing between two evils
No exposure is best, but mild exposure is better than high exposure. Good on you mama.
Yeah but it sounds like you bothered to actually quit, meanwhile this woman had several children already and hadn't bothered to quit at any point during any of her pregnancies or in between them. That's a bit different than cutting back in a way that was safe for you.
You can have patches or gum you know…
@@redeye1016 are you talking about nicotine patches & gum? Because those are also harmful...
My mom smoked until she was 8 months pregnant with me, then she said every time she picked up a cigarette she’d get very nauseous and eventually quit smoking completely. I said, you’re welcome, mom!
I'm dying because Charlotte said booby so many times my 1-year-old starts chanting booby and pulling at my shirt. Thanks Charlotte LOL
The one about the Pre-K teacher wiping the kids is one I have heard a lot about since my mum is a Pre-K teacher and had this brought up with her. While we understand that it may be frustrating that your kid isn't being wiped you, have to realise that the Pre-K teacher has a bunch of other students to watch. They do not have the time or the manpower to go in for each and every child to make sure that they are wiping properly. It is your job as a parent to teach them how to properly wipe.
There are also liability aspects, esp now a days.
But, that's what the nurses & female teachers aides are for. Atleast that's what I remember having experienced growing up. 1 kid always needed her help & she was always available to help in case of emergency.
For the Jeffrey Dahmer one, I will just say this applies for everyone: it's ok to dress as an iconic horror character because they are purely fictional. It is NOT ok to dress as a real life serial killer because that's glorifying an infamous psychos crimes while simultaneously disrespecting the late victims and their living families. It's like your parading around trauma by dressing as the criminal that those whom were affected by it and are still alive hurting/haunted by the tragedy can never escape.
Remember when all the ladies were going crazy over Ted Bundy again?! 🤦🏼♀️🙄 I just lost hope
My MIL used to insist on grabbing up my young daughter in a huge bear hug the minute we walked in the door to visit, regardless of how many times I told her that my daughter just needed a few minutes to “warm up” to everyone first, before being overwhelmed with attention. My daughter finally got the point across herself. When she was a little over a year, learning to walk & wearing those little hard white shoes we used to put them in, my MIL grabbed her up, & my daughter kicked her in the head as hard as she could. To this day, the term, “I’m seeing stars,” still makes me double over in laughter. 😂😂
Haha, awesome! My FIL is the same, he squeezes you so hard, it really hurts! And when you tell him, he's like "oh come on!" and laughs it off. Maybe I should kick him next time.
I am on board with the water bottle! Oftentimes, family will ignore request to back off. Even argue or insist that "it's just a hug/kiss". You can even be considered rude for not letting them have their way.
To all you new/younger Moms...never make your child hug or kiss people, not even relatives...not even your favorite Auntie. And never apologize for setting those boundaries for your children with family and friends.
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Yes cause then they learn to confirm to any adult. It opens the doctor for child abuse. My friend who a social worker informed of this. Never did it to my kids.
I had seen some advice like that before my nieces were born, so I'm glad I didn't force affection on them because they were each so shy. But as they got to around 3 and used to me visiting, they started running to me and wanting me to feed them, help with PJ's, snuggle during movies and it was totally worth waiting for them to come to me on their own. Genuine love from a child is the sweetest, purest form of joy.
@@personincognito3989 the way it was relayed suggested that people were repeatedly refusing to stop. I wouldn't go around spraying everyone the first time. But if they are refusing to respect your boundaries regarding your child, then...oh well.
Personally, I would try to avoid those people.
@@anonymouse6703 your relationship with them will be stronger. They have already established a trust in you because you let them have the time and space.
And they will be less likely to be taken advantage of by others.
Well done, Uncle!
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In my country if we didn't hug and kiss our relatives when we saw them that's when it was an insult to that family member and highly embarrassing for the parents. We'd get a beating later that day or night
I started dance classes when I was around two, as most of my siblings had. However, until you're about five, the only routines we did were while dancing with cabbage patch kids dolls. Our dance teacher wanted kids to enjoy themselves. He had advanced classes (my cousin was in one), but it was truly too introduce kids to dance in a fun way. I cherish my memories there and I stayed on into junior high and even helped with younger classes.
There’s a post on reddit, a famous story there, of a grandmother who didn’t believe that her grandchild had an allergy the parents told her about. So she smothered her hair in coconut oil before bed as a moisturizing treatment and the child died.
Allergies are serious. Don’t fuck with them.
If it were up to me, anyone who was forewarned of a serious allergy and attempted to test it would be up for at least attempted murder.
I read that one, it was heartbreaking, and so much worse knowing the kid died a slow, painful death
What's actually even worse about that one is the fact the coconut oil does absolutely nothing for hair. So she literally did it for no real reason other than to try to prove herself right. Absolutely heartbroken for that child and her parents and twin.
i disagree that it does nothing for hair. the fatty acids make the hair quite shiny, but no you shouldn't be putting it on someone who is allergic to it..m
Charlotte, as a nanny myself the issue here is not to fly all together, what that mom needs to do is leave the nanny alone to do her job, put on some headphones and stay in her business class. There's nothing more disruptive for a child than a parent interfering on a kids routine or trying to "help", children act differently for parents and caregivers. Trust me, your nanny got it! Just sit back and relax.
Why do I get the feeling this parent is the kind to go and interfere with the nanny, irritate or upset the child, then get pissed at the nanny?
@@personincognito3989 you're the only naive one that knows nothing about this industry. Get away, troll.
@@mage1439 I didn't say all that. Ive been doing this long enough to picture how she is based on her description, when you see this all the time you kinda know what to expect from the person according to how they word things. Anyways, what I mentioned about being disruptive applys for ALL children, doesn't matter whos the kid or the mom, if you hire someone, let them do their job, everyone will be happier at the end.
Funny thing that happened to my sister while pregnant...she was a smoker before getting pregnant, pretty heavily. She tried to do the responsible thing and quit immediately upon finding out she was pregnant. 12 hours later she was convulsing on the floor and had to be taken to the ER, almost lost the baby. All the doctors told her that while they appreciated her wanting to quit while pregnant, she was too addicted to nicotine to go cold turkey and the stress of withdrawal was too much to put on her body and the baby while pregnant...which is what caused the convulsions and almost MC. Instead they worked with her and monitored a progressive quitting program in a method that wouldn't hurt the baby or her. It took a few months to completely get her off cigarettes/nicotine without risking the pregnancy (which was already high risk for other reasons.) By 6 months she was nicotine free and her baby was born completely healthy and at nearly 10lbs. But the amount of side-eye, judgement, and unsolicited vitriol she received while follow doctor's advice was unreal. So, take away...yes, smoking while pregnant is bad but don't assume you know you know the person's life or what their doctor is working with them on. If my sister had quit right off, both she and her baby could have died.
That isnt the same as getting pregnant over and over without attempting to come off cigarettes' in the time between these pregnancies.
You can take nicotine patches or gum. You don’t need to smoke, it’s disgusting and harmful. Patches are fine for going cold Turkey though
Your not supposed to quit anything cold turkey while pregnant. Even if you are a hard drug any doctor worth their salt is not going to recommend anything other than tapering off.
Tbh I'm gonna judge people for smoking pregnant or not 🤷♂️
@smoxthybweh cool keep itto yourself and pray you don't have an addiction
First class with a baby story -- We had enough miles to upgrade to first class we upgraded. My youngest was a baby. You know how first class seats are further apart. The gap between the seats is filled with a wide arm rest and the seat backs are just separated with a gap. My son was crying and squirming and flailing around as unhappy babies do. My wife was holding him and trying to calm him and I had put my plastic cup of coke on the arm rest. When my son kicked it, it flew all over the poor guy in the row behind us. This poor guy sprung for first class, only to be drench in coke. He couldn't have been nicer about it, but we felt horrible.
I guess that could be a horrible mom and dad story.
On a Red Eye, Seattle to Atlanta & a young woman with a baby sat right next to me. Baby never made a sound but the 6-8 yr old two seats back & across the aisle screamed & caused constant chaos the whole flight. Attendants did what they could but the parents did nothing. There were some heated discussion on the plane by many adults.
@@katherinevalenzuela2696 Well, that baby who kicked the drink is now a 19-year-old freshman in college so hopefully there won't be a next time.
@@tedthurgate lol. Nice. Congrats!!
Nah, that's just bad luck. You can only do what you can do, and babies are unpredictable.
@@katherinevalenzuela2696 The parents didn't really seem to care what their kid did, they were just resigned to it. That was 7 years ago, I wonder how that kid is doing in the real world.
I'm 42 and have a severe nut and egg allergy. To this day some of my family members are convinced I'm putting it on. Even after they've see what happens when I just touched the left over egg on a plate in the sink (I didn't know it was there) My whole arm blew up in massive hives and it traveled to my face! Breathing started to go funny (I'm asthmatic anyway) Had to go to emergency care. Thankfully didn't need my epipen as I caught it fast. I do however hate these entitled people who think it's an exaggeration. There are people who fake it as they just don't like something, it has muddied the waters for the genuine people.
Oh and the smoking mum! What the actual f*** 😳
no comment about allergies not being taken seriously except to wonder if people just struggle to know the difference between allergies and intolerance? anyway - wanted to mention that I have a friend since our preteens (we are now in our 50's) and she smoked through both her pregnancies. I was horrified. She said the same thing - too stressful on her body to stop. never heard so much rubbish in my life. at least TRY to cut down. Good grief.
The smoking pregnant woman is actually not wrong my OBGYN said to cut down greatly but do not fully quit completely the added stress can cause a miscarriage.
When I was younger my best friends stepmom quit cold turkey and went into premature labor fortunately she was far enough along that the baby survived.
My dad doesn’t believe I have a pineapple allergy. I have an epi pen and I ALWAYS keep it with me because I don’t trust anyone!
My dad tried giving me a mixed drink one summer and luckily my sister in law was like NO THAT HAS PINEAPPLE IN IT! My dad got so irritated and rolled his eyes and said “oh come on, get over it!”
I love my dad but he’s really ignorant with stuff like this.
As a mom who has a son with a severe peanut allergy I feel for that mom because I too have had family members try to”test” the allergy and it ended in me losing my ever loving mind on them.
Mom groups on Facebook are toxic asf. I have so many friends that left those groups simply because they got bullied for not giving their infants binky’s/pacifiers. Like, what? 🤣 They didn’t want their kids to become attached to binky’s and want them at 2-3 years old and suck their thumbs. It was literally insane.
Omg I only belong to one now, my kids are officially all grown now, but my moms group is one for the moms themselves and we care about and lift each other up Nd support each other so hard. I love them.
My eldest son never took to a pacifier. We put it in his mouth, he'd suck it for maybe two seconds then spit it out. I'm sure thinking "Hey, I'm not getting anything out of this. Where's the good stuff?" He did suck his thumb until he was about 6.
@@rolandhansen812 does he like chewing gum? I hate to chew gum.
@@lotstodo I actually have no idea. I'm not a gum person myself. That's mainly due to all my dental work.
Mine didn’t even want a pacifier, even as a newborn, and I got so much crap for not forcing him to take one. Lol. I still don’t understand.
I agree with what you said about the serial killer thing. It’s different when it’s a fictitious person but when it’s a real person who committed horrible crimes, it’s not appropriate to dress up as them.
Poor baby whose mom forces her to go to a dance class. I had a similar situation, I was teaching a drawing comic class part-time. One of the requirements was for the kid to be at least 10 years old. But this one rich mom, forced her two young daughters (5 and 4 years old) to attend the class. They were definitely unfit for the class, poor baby was crying since she couldn't catch up with her older classmates.I told the front desk to refuse them for the next term. They weren't suitable for the class, they should attend other art classes that are more appropriate for their age.
The home circumcision - made me wince - reminds me of a case where it was done by a doctor and it went so horribly wrong, that they decided to do a gender reassignment. (Crosses legs Ouch) The child was one of twins and they thought it would be OK to bring them up as a girl. Child was traumatized and when they found out years later they went through gender reassignment, to reverse it but was left sterile obviously. It is something best left up to experts, because this doctor massively overestimated his own skill and underestimated the difficulty.
I heard about that! I think that child eventually took his own life in adulthood.
Exactly plus ears and tails are not the same as that super tiny little bit of skin .....they are going to mutilate him.
Genital mutilation should be illegal. Being a religious practice is no excuse.
That was an insane case.
The home circumcision isn't what makes me mad. It's the fact that HER FUCKING HUSBAND MUTILATES DOGS! IN MOST PLACES IT IS CONSIDERED INHUMANE TO DO THAT! I'm about to bust a blood vessel.
My aunt did the same thing with me. She didnt believe I have a pineapple allergy, welp, lo behold she slipped pineapple into my drink one day at a family gathering. I was in my teens, lucky my mom had my allergy meds with her and handed me some, mom yelled at her SIL and demanded my dad take us home.
Charlotte, my best friend’s mother met my daughter when she was 6 weeks old. This was February 2021. She kissed my 6 week old newborn on the mouth. I almost smacked the schiesse out of her. I have never felt such anger in my entire life, and that woman still doesn’t know what she did wrong. She also told me I wasn’t losing my baby weight well, despite being aware of my struggle with anorexia and my not wanting to lose the baby weight because i’ve never been a healthy weight before. Thanks to her, i’m 79 pounds. I’m 5’3 if that gives perspective. Shes the worst person in the world
That’s horrible, does that woman understand boundaries because she’s crossed a lot of them.
One time we were at dinner at my inlaws and my MIL's sister put some peanut butter on her FINGER and wanted to PUT IT IN MY BABY'S MOUTH "just to see if he liked it" - and I was appalled and said no, and thankfully she listened to me and respected me, but DANG - I was mad. Have kept an eye on him while we're over there ever since. I was disgusted. People have zero boundaries with other people's children and it bugs me to no end.
For the moms out there: in some places and school systems a teacher is not allowed to help your 4 year old wipe their butt. If the teacher tells you they can't, it's very likely that there is a reason behind it, and it may be against the rules.
In the UK at least, we are literally paid to wipe kids butts until they're 5 years old. It's part of the job. The only reason we would say no is if the kid wipes fine at home but asks us to at nursery (nursery is age 0-5 in UK). Some kids take longer to learn things than their peers and its our job to support them. Theres also background checks and if you fail you're mot allowed to work in schools so there's no reason they shouldn't be able to. If its different in US then thats kinda scary imo
Love the spray bottle idea. I just didn’t have people over or near my kid when I had a newborn because the amount of people who tried to put their lips on my babies was alarming. Total strangers thought they had a right to kiss my child 🙄
I have to say Charlottes editor is severely underrated
Oh, no, no, no, no NO! I'm a guy. Sympathy pain is a real thing. When you read the story of the idiots wanting to perform home circumcision, I, completely involuntarily grabbed my junk, curled up in a ball and yelled, "No!"
I'm at work. In the middle of the day. Having some uncomfortable conversations with people I'd rather not speak to.
Thank you Charlotte.
I'm an RN. I sincerely hope that was a joke post. I am generally unflappable, but I actually woke my son up screaming NO at my phone, and I never do that. I am a female, and I was horrified at the thought that anyone would be stupid enough to think that because someone could lop ears and tails off of an animal, they could circumcise a baby. That's why I think it's a fake post. At least I am praying it is.
Yeah, when even women are hearing it and trying not to freak out, it must be terrifying. My son had a hospital circumcision and that was enough of a challenge to clean and maintain until it healed. Some people shouldn't breed...
🤣this made me laugh so hard. lol
@@jenx5870 also - can we please stop lopping ears and tails off animals too? isn't that illegal? it is here. People are crazy
I send my son with “man wipes” to school. Problem solved. The other mom’s started doing it too. The teacher REALLY appreciates it. They are flushable and the smell in the classroom is improved 😂
those things actually work?? writing this down holy shit ✍️ 🤯
Flushable wipes might flush but they are a major problem in sewerage systems.
@@carolerooney407 that is true....but better than having a stinky classroom all day & noone able to learn.
@@BellaIsMyBaby they can put them in a lined trash can
My ex-mil knew my daughter was allergic to cigarettes and there smoke but refused to no smoke around her despite her getting sick, having to use a nebulizer 3 times a day and being on medication all because the doctor refused to write her a personal letter explaining she should not smoke around her. Daughter is also allergic to peanuts, ex-fil took her to a bbq restaurant where they threw peanuts on the floor. She couldn’t go in, so she sat in the car while he went inside with the rest of his side of the family and ate. I was pissed at both situations.
I need to carry a water spray bottle at family gatherings 😂
That's a brilliant idea. With my family, I may need to upgrade to a fire extinguisher.
Spray bottle makes sense to me. We live in a post Covid world and with all the germs out there I can understand why a parent would do this especially after she has said not to do it
As a child growing up in an overly affectionate extended family/friends/friends friends I can confirm I would have greatly benefited from the water spray bottle 😂
The Italian accent, that's what she said and the don't eat your mother's that's your dad's job psa have me crying right now 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Her editor is great. The personality and sass just compliment Charlotte so well.
@@erikarussell1142 it's so good. I commented before I got the no microphones were injured part and I about choked to death!
@@tracisr lol she's always sooo funny.
The water bottle thing had me howling 😂 It is actually a problem especially with newborns! You can make a baby very sick 😢
I had a parent who wanted to push me to be a young prodigy. Unfortunately I was actually a prodigy, so my entire childhood was filled with workbooks and extra classes and infomercial educational materials. I think it’s almost worse when they get what they want.
It's 100% worse, and I feel for you. But there's also the added annoyance that they get to win in these situations.
I'm sorry to hear that was your experience. I hope you are doing well now. My eldest is SUPER smart. In elementary they advised me that he should do AP classes. I asked him and he said he did not want to go that route and I listened. Thank you for letting me know I made the right decision in making it up to him to decide.
Honestly, I tend to think every prodigy is just this
Mum groups on Facebook are legit the worst! It’s like an echo chamber of crazy advice while they all say don’t listen to the haters if someone dares points out something is dangerous.
Also everyone is in a MLM and can’t imagine being a working mum (and very judgemental about it) as how could you leave your kids damn it.
To make money Susan!
Definitely the worst. Theres a term for these types of parents: mombies.
😂the wiping butt portion was freaking hilarious. I laughed so hard as I too have a 4 year old. However, she knows how to wipe. 😂🤷🏾♀️
I had anaphylaxis to egg and growing up people would always make fun and not think it’s real, until you have an episode in front of them and it scars them for life 😂 I’m so glad I grew out of it by 14 🙏🏼 it’s crazy to me that adults would question if an allergy is real if they have an epi pen then it’s real! 🤦🏼♀️
I had a classmate in Peru who was deathly allergic to eggs. When we went out to eat, we'd ask if the food had eggs in it and more often than not they'd say no but lo and behold, it did. We tried to explain she was allergic but apparently food allergies aren't a thing there. After a few close calls, we finally explained "Los huevos son tóxicos y venenosos para mí" basically "Eggs are toxic and poisonous for me". We resigned to carrying benadryl and her epipen with us whereever we went.
@@ibsticky1 I’d dread still having the allergy now, I had a limited diet it’s surprising how much has egg in it! Back in the early 1989-94 we didn’t have epi pens so my mum had to carry around vials of adrenaline with syringes. I think I’d be too nervous to eat out in this day and age, some places seem to be so blasé about allergies because not every allergic reaction is anaphylaxis.
Many years ago I dated a guy who’s son was allergic to eggs! I had never heard of it before. The poor kid at the time the only cookie without eggs was Oreo, but he was also allergic to cocoa.
Many years ago I dated a guy who’s son was allergic to eggs! I had never heard of it before. The poor kid at the time the only cookie without eggs was Oreo, but he was also allergic to cocoa.
@@countycalling it’s surprising how much food has egg in it, I was also allergic to lecithin which I think is a derivative of egg. Every label had to be checked it was so annoying. The first time I ever had a real birthday cake was when I was 15. 😂
Regarding the 4-year old and wiping his own butt... I au-paired for a family with a 4-year old and he needed help wiping his butt. Not because he couldn't go to the bathroom himself or try and do it himself, they just don't necessarily have long enough arms or sufficient range of motion to do it properly themselves. I happily assisted because the reality is, not cleaning properly can lead to serious irritation and even infection. Helping kids while teaching them to do it properly is not a bad thing, it's the way they learn x
I get that but its not appropriate or even acceptable for a teacher to do that. We have SUPER strict rules about when and how we can touch the kids. It helps keep everyone safe and help the kids learn boundaries.
But having a school nurse around to help would be a good idea.
The "Please do not eat your Mom" killed me. Great video, I’m laughing for two hours straight :)
I was a nanny. And I sat in coach… with the child. The parents were in first class. I honestly thought it was fine. I took care of the kid and was on the clock.
Well, you know that's different. Having a responsible adult with the kid is fine.
Pre-k teacher here, we do not wipe for them. They must learn self help skills. Thank you for the support!
Do you check if they are clean, flushed or washed their hands?
@@48mavemiss2 I'm sure she's asks them like most pre k teachers do when they come back from the br. Most the time teachers arent allowed to go in w/them, or touch them...
@@48mavemiss2 thats more Preschool. But no,I'll asked if they wiped well and if they tried their best. That's all that mostly matters. We do make sure they wash hands properly.
@@joanfrederick9176 it's about being a community and knowing how we are different and the same.
I'm a preschool teacher (in europe) and for us is normal having someone going to the bathroom with pre 4 your olds or 4 year olds, the children would usually tell you if they can do it alone or if they need help. It is absolutely normal that children that age dont know how to wipe themselves properly and need help. So... your judgement in this one was s little off!! but I loooove your videos I always have a blast listening to you, and its me go to everyday after work :)
I came to say this, was a lil disappointed with this judgement. I have a 4yo and she can't always reach to get it all so I do a lil checkback. My niece is the same age and also requires a check. 🤷🏼♀️
It’s definitely in rule in the US that teachers are not allowed to wipe butts. Not sure if it’s every state but I know quite a few do not allow it.
I live in Argentina and teachers are definitely NOT allowed to touch children in their privates for whatever reason. I remember there was a pre requisite for my sister's class that they should know how to wipe alone, so I guess it depends on the laws of each place
There’s too much child abuse that has occurred in daycares and schools in the US. I can’t fathom being comfortable with a teacher wiping a four year old’s butt. Teachers shouldn’t even be touching children at all. My husband taught at an elementary school for three years, and even if a child was throwing chairs, teachers are not allowed to touch the child to stop them.
Regarding severe allergies, I was an RN at a university health service and a student who had collapsed had been brought in. The physicians were only at the clinic during certain times and happened to be there when the student was brought in. The student was given an antihistamine and was feeling better but the MD recommended that she see a specialist. It happened again and was brought in but was much more severe and the doctor wasn’t there and her breathing became so bad that EMS was called. The parents were informed but they denied that she had allergies and was just wanting attention. During winter break the family went to Central America and were in a remote area and the girl had another episode. The mother called the clinic after they returned and apologized, stating that her daughter had almost died before they could get her to a hospital some distance away as they were in a rural area and had to drive her themselves.
as someone in their 40s I can 100% tell you the "be nice to {random relative you've never seen}" hugging and kissing is STILL with me. It still makes me feel gross. No, I don't know you. I don't like physical touch from those I *do* know. Stop forcing kids to hug/kiss/interact with people they are unsure of or uncomfortable with. Stop forcing your 2yo to somehow have the guts to say "no touch" to giant adults they don't know just because "they're family" and "they love you". I'm not talking about SA. that's a whole other thing. A child being "polite" does not mean forcing them to hug and kiss you! God this trend needs to die with this generation.
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Omg the Freud coming out from the wall had me howling 😂😂😂
Bravo editor!
I think if that mom had reworded it; “should I let my 10yr dress up as a real life cannibalizing sexual saddest”, she’d have saved herself some time.
And she still had the audacity to compare dressing up as dahmer to dressing up as a fictional character from a slasher movie
The saddest what?
@@SoulFlames. not sure that’s audacious, but ok.
@@neliaferreira9983 😂😂 *sadist. (Autocorrected)
@cat maxwell i meant that its ridiculous that the mother would say that its ok for her daughter to dress up as a real muderer because other people dress up as a fictional murderer, when both are very different things, i probably expressed myself wrong because english is not my first languag
Charlotte I just found you recently and I adore you and how you SHRED the awful and entitled…continue your noble work Queen 🤩🔥👏🏻❤️
YOUR FACE WHEN YOU SAID GREAT BEYOND HAS MADE MY DAY CHARLOTTE
My mom was a kindergarten teacher for many years, and she NEVER helped the kids wipe their butts. She even had kids who would piss and shit themselves and she would tell them their parents need to bring spare clothes/go to the nurse, but she would never even touch the children to help them wipe. That is a lawsuit waiting to happen.
Ow wow, in the country I grew up in it's very normal to help them wipe there butt when there 4yr old. So I definitely understand this but it's new for me
But you ofcourse have to learn them. You don't need to make your child think that there is always someone wiping their butt.
As a teacher, I will tell you that you're 100% wrong. It is against licensing aka ILLEGAL in the state I work in (and most states in America) to be in the bathroom with a child that is 4+. A child must be 4 to be in Pre-k, they can get arrested if the state walks in and sees them doing so. The only exception is if the child is on an IEP (individualized education plan) and a changing table legally MUST be provided. Why on Earth would your mother risk going to jail at worst or getting fired at best, just because the parents are too lazy to teach their child. Loud and wrong finger pointing has never helped society progress, so please change that.
@@fakeidonthaveahandle Thank you! My sister is a teacher & my bro-in-law is a superintendent (different districts), so we talk about school & school policies a lot. I know one of the requirements for kids enrolling in public school is that they be fully potty trained (same exceptions for IEPs). I know they've recommended private schools/daycare for kids who weren't.
Also, what teacher can leave the rest of their class unattended every time a kid wants help to wipe their butt?
"I don't understand why this person will not touch my child's asshole. If this person continues to refrain from touching my child's asshole, I will have to admonish said person until said person does, indeed, touch my child's asshole. I will not be silent unless and until my child receives a thorough and diligent asshole-touching."
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If I ever told someone my child was deathly allergic to something and, instead of making sure to NEVER have that thing anywhere near my child, they tried to intentionally expose them to it.... I don't care who you are or if we're related in any way, you will never come near my child again. Ever.
I agree with the water bottle. My mom asks the kids for kisses and hugs everytime, if they say no she accepts it just like everyone should when another human tells them NO. They almost never say no because they love my mom but i appreciate her respecting their bodily autonomy.
Your editor/editors are the absolute best. I watch your videos while I have my first coffee and the joke about not eating your mom and it being your dad's job had me choke on the sip I took...I wasn't prepared. 😂
My oldest was special needs and was in diapers till 5 but that was medical related. When she got out of diapers she was excited to do things for herself.
What do you mean, 'was' special needs? Those types of diagnosis don't just go away as the child gets older, unless they are just developmentally delayed, which isn't special needs.
let's just say the editor was in a great mood while working this video. Man I laughed a lot
Charlotte and the editors really outdid themselves with this one I was wheezing the whole way through lol!
My parents started watching Law and Order with me at 10 but no serial killers until I was older. Admittedly I do now watch a lot of crime shows and listen to the true crime podcasts, but I also really got into the cooking shows they raised me on too.
I’m baffled at them amount of “no they’re not allergic and I’ll prove it to you” stories I’ve heard (especially ones involving kids and grandparents.) What about having an allergy is such a big deal that people refuse to believe and try to prove it false??
I feel like allergies are just so much more common nowadays and older generations don't understand where they have come from.
My daughter doesn’t wipe well and prefers us to wipe her. She’s 4 and I told her. You can’t go to school (which she really wants to do) until you learn to wipe by yourself
This one made me laugh more than any other vid of yours Charlotte! That disclaimer about not eating mothers 8:03 (that’s your dad’s job) sent me! 😂
It's funny because in the US where I grew up I feel like teachers won't help kids wipe themselves after they're potty-trained, but here in Italy where I work now we absolutely do help the kids wipe after they poop if they ask, up to age 5-6. (I worked in a pre-school last year.) So yeah, they should help, some kids just can't reach around fully and don't get clean otherwise 😅
I think it has to do with people doing inappropriate things to kids in bathrooms. Some places are more relaxed than other places on bathroom rules.
In all of the schools I have worked, if the kids asks for help, we will help them or if they have an accident we will help them. We just don’t go in for every single time a kid goes to the bathroom.
That seems to be the case most places I have worked in Canada. Although usually we need permission still for helping to wipe and stuff. A parent would probably ask if we could help if their child asks for it.
The issue I see most is, liability. Some creepy ppl purposely work with children in this world, esp now a days.
Growing up tho, I remember this 1 child had to go to a specific bathroom with a lady who would get called in to help bc he always had trouble in that area, & she would get called in ever so often for emergencies. She was like the poopy nurse. That's what female teachers aides should be there for as well.
So kids have infections or burned skin?
Circumcision story and reincarnation story: call CPS
My mom is a daycare worker, where she workers they have an age range of a couple months old to 5th grades (after school). They start pottery training in the 2 year olds and have to be fully potty trained before going into the 3s. You won’t believe how many parents she had to tell that doing at home is an essential part of the process. Kids are smart and know who they can push and who they can’t, they learn to potty train at daycare and not at home if they don’t help train them.
I meant partly not fully, I didn’t catch that I put fully.
I've often seen that when people say 'I'm not a bad mom' they most definitely are...
Yeah, if you have to say you are or aren’t something, you’re definitely wrong. Just like how “I’m not racist, but” is usually followed by something extremely racist, and if you have to say you’re a nice guy, you definitely are not
Totally. When I was a young military wife with children everywhere we had to move there was that mom. I learned that as much as I didn't like her I needed to be there for her child.
@@caljones RIGHT! I used 'often' for the mom case, but with the 'nice guys' I'd say 'they are *NEVER* nice'
The smoking thing and the last one about the allergy got me. I understand it’s hard to quit smoking if you don’t want to quit, but if you want a healthy baby you have to quit the things that endanger their health.
The allergy thing, omg, I still have friends and family members that don’t believe I can’t eat onions or red sauce even after witnessing me having poor reactions to both.