Just got engaged and am so glad my future inlaws are like the sweetest people ever. Future MIL sent me a long text about how excited she is and future FIL said “it’s about time, welcome to the family, daughter.” My fiancé and I have been dating for 8 years and have been nothing but sweet the whole time. Unfortunately for him, my family is insane.
LOL Same! My parents in law rock! My husband got the short end of the stick with a crazy lady. 16 years married and his parents have become the family I didn't know I was missing! Glad you found the same.
Same! My in-laws even favor me more than my fiance! They told him to listen to me, buy whatever I want, do all the cleaning... :)) He kept saying that it was unfair, but he was really happy that his family (and my family) like our relationship a lot!
My MIL used to compare me to her daughter and other daughter in law. Including everything I did was wrong, I drew the line when she compared my child (10yrs younger) to her daughters children. One year she made the comment about my children,food & home. I told her to go to her daughters house for thanksgiving dinner then. She couldn’t because they ALL went on vacation and didn’t invite her. The next year I cooked and I didn’t invite her and she called and cried. Her other son had moved away and her daughter didn’t invite her to dinner either. I didn’t feel bad about it at all!
Good for you! You are honestly a legend. Amazing comeback to an entitled mean MIL who think that she can abuse your kindness and insult you at the same time. You should feel super proud of this. Amazing truly amazing example of successfully setting boundaries from the start.
@@brendakrause5639 he thought I was being rude and took my food to his moms later. I heard her complaints about it later. That’s when I started not making the regular thanksgiving or Christmas dinner meals, we had Lasagna or Beef Wellington dishes I knew she didn’t know how to make and didn’t like.
My MIL is a nasty character. She likes to use Xmas to passive aggressively show people (mainly me) how much she hates them. Gifted me dirty used gardening gloves, used makeup, used underwear, etc. nicest gift I ever got was wine (I was 6 months pregnant). Anyway she lives a couple of hours away but the family all live in my city. She gives all the gifts to my husband in advance of Xmas for him to distribute. He came home with a sack of presents. So I swapped all the labels on them. Watching the fall out was hilarious. Particularly satisfying was watching people who would patronisingly tell me I should be grateful for receiving any gift losing their sh1t when they got dirty underwear as a present. I thoroughly enjoyed thanking her for the lovely luxury bath set she intended for her sister. Good times!
The baking one is almost similar to any kind of "art" - I handmade baby blankets for both my boyfriend's brother and sister when they were both expecting, both took me at least a month as they were quite intricate. His brother and wife looked more annoyed at receiving them and have never really mentioned it or used it which is fine. The sister on the other hand was in a worse financial position and was grateful I spend a month and a half of my free time to make her baby a gift. She took it everywhere and even showed it to her friends and rest of the family. Needless to say when both had their 2nd babies only the sister received another crocheted blanket. I'd never ask for anyone to purposefully show me their gift is used but you could tell who appreciated it more. I've learned to never make free crocheted/knitted items for ungrateful people!
It's hard work! Done with so much love and compassion. People don't understand that😢 my mom just passed away, and I have so much of her beautiful crocheting that I will hold dear to my heart and pass it down.
I'm glad the sister appreciated it! I crochet as a hobby, and while I've never made anything as large as a blanket, I know how time-consuming it is to crochet anything! Which is why I only gift things I crochet to family and really close friends. Anyone else has to pay.
So, i have some friends who are knitters and I i, being the token beader(necklaces) used to join in, but admit i didnt understand rhe "knit talk." One time though, I i understood them completely when they were discussing if someone was "knit worthy" before proceeding to invest weeks worth of time effort and energy in making a hand knitted item for them ..
I love that cake pop story. she did nothing wrong, didn't lie, didn't say anything, etc, and perfectly set it up so they themselves showed how petty and ridiculous they were being. 10/10 execution of revenge
I'm a florist by trade. This happened about 30 years ago. I was working at a new flower shop, and the manager didn't like me for some reason. And nothing I designed was, "Good enough to sell." She bullied me so badly that I came home everyday crying and with a migraine. But she really liked a girl named Cathy's work. But what the manager didn't know is Cathy couldn't stand her. So one day Cathy and I each made Identical arrangements, and swapped them. When the witchy manager came over to look at our arrangements, she started cussing me out again. " Why can't you do it like this one that Cathy made?" I looked her straight in her face and said, " So you like the one on Cathy's bench, but not this one on my bench? Because that's funny because Cathy and I switched arrangements just to see what you would say." " OMFG! "She blew a head gasket! I grabbed my coat, purse, and toolbox and walked out. I heard a couple of months later that the owner of the flower shop fired her because she was stealing money from the register, and all the other designers were ready to walk because of her.
Last one reminded me of a story that i read on reddit. The OP writes how her MIL always calls her the wrong name, she's named Sarah (or something similar) and MIL always calls her Susan or something like it. OP has corrected her many times prior to this story, but she's sick of it now, start pettyrevenge. OP likes to bake pastries (can't remember if it was her hobby or her job). So one day they're visiting and MIL says "I'll ask if Susan wants to bring cake for our party" OP overhears this and says "oh that would be nice !" So they go home, some time passes and the day of the party arrives. OP and her husband arrive to the party and MIL says "Where is the cake ?" and OP says "Oh you said Susan would bring the cake, i'm Sarah" ETA : As mintberryXoXo and Megha Ghosh have mentioned it indeed wasn't a cake but it was the turkey or pie for a thanksgiving dinner 😂🤦 my bad, makes the story even more epic though.
I remember this 😂I don't think it was a cake though I think it was a main dish like a pie or the turkey. Unfortunately there was an update that the boyfriend actually did not support the girl and blamed her for ruining dinner and disrespecting him in front of the family. She ended up leaving him. She said everyone's telling her that the guy's mother won but she was never in a competition with her so she doesn't care.
As a baker this just makes my blood boil. She worked for hours maybe days on her treats. I'm so happy she got back with the cake pops, showing she is over all better then Key. She is apart of the family and I would have picked her stuff over the others to make a stand. You don't disrespect people that took time out to bake or cook for you.
yeah this is horrible, i was fuming myself. I am not a professional by any means but my family has a lot of chefs/bakers (grandfather was a professional in a high class kitchen and raised mutiple grandchildren that way). I was always nervous to cook for my grandfather bc he was a big critic whereever he ate but he was always nice towards peoples abilities, even congretualating children on mere simple omlettes and the like. People dont have to be super good or unique while cooking/baking in their freetime and everyone should still be respectfull to the time and effort at the very least !
@@ShadowWolf1307 I'm with you on that. It takes years and care with thar art of cooking and baking. Even when people are starting out I will give them hints and how to make it to what they want it to be. Even now I'm still looking to do better. I never want to stop getting better at my craft.
Word! Even if she wasn't good at baking and the stuff tasted nasty, I would still eat a bit and say something nice (maybe not straight up lying about how good they are, cause it feels bad, but maybe the presentation or so), especially if nobody else touched it. I know how that feels and I'll never let someone feel like that, unless they deserve it.
My advice is don't ever bake for those people again. Ever. Next gathering, bring an entree, bring hamburger buns, bring ice. Anything but a baked good. Don't cast your pearls among swine!
I can relate to the cake pop story… My fiancés family will mot eat food I make. No clue why when they ask me to make stuff. Anyway.. one time I made pasta salad. My fiancé and I told everyone he made it. Everyone devoured it and even took leftovers! At the end of the party everyone was telling him how good it was and he told them I made it. They didn’t have much else to say after that…
are not clean? do you not wash your hands? is their a reason why they don't eat your food? why do you spend time with those people? your husband is so e. vi.l to lie to them.
Your husband is a keeper for standing up for you and doing what he did for you. Your in laws are insensitive jerks that had no right to treat you like that
I used to work night shifts. I had told everyone about it. A friend of the family would come by everyday to ring the doorbell to wake me up. Then would have a big laugh that I was sleeping during the day when people are supposed to be working. I had eventually threatened him that when I was working night shift I would start calling him to see if he was sleeping. It worked. Lots of people don't understand shift workers.
Truth. When I worked as a cook and was in culinary school, the kitchen always closed at 11, wouldnt get home until midnight atleast. So the ONE day of the week I did not have school or work, I was living at home, my dad would always comment how I used to get up early when the sun rose, and now I stay in bed until lunchtime. Before my culinary endeavour, I worked as a server at an old folks home. Shifts were 6AM to 2PM t days a week. At that time, I was getting up at 4:30AM-the dogs are not even awake to go pee outside and eat their breakfast….. Also had a friend in high school whose parent was a news anchor or weatherman, something where they worked the night shift on the local news station. They were very accustomed to peoples’ comments about why their “lazy” dad is sleeping at 2PM and why family time is from 6-8PM.
My mom and dad, both had to work night shifts once a week. Mom is a medical technician and dad is an engineer in railways. As kids if we were at home any day after their night shift, we would make sure that the house will remain silent and make sure anyone who comes to the house speaks in hush voices. Most people don't understand that people need rest on days after night shifts
My ex husband used to do that when he had anything to tell me about our daughter. He would laugh out loud at my bed head and bleary eyes. He made me so sick, I closed the bar I worked at every night and got home at 3 or 4 am. He worked 9-5. I started driving by his house every time I closed the bar and honked, laying on the horn and woo wooing. Hmm, he didn't think that was a bit funny. Idiot.
My ex mother in law told me that my job as a nanny wasn’t a ‘real’ job and when was I going to get a real career? I trained at a very prestigious and well known College for nanny training in the U.K. and I was making triple the amount of money that my then husband was making 😂 Not only that, but I was working 14 hour days, six days a week and doing the majority of the housework when I got home 🤷♀️ She REALLY hated me and I never really knew why. The final straw was when she told me that if I didn’t stop putting on weight, then I wouldn’t be able to carry her future grandchild! Her son said nothing, as usual, and not long afterwards I skipped out of there for good 😂🤣
@@samiam8443 they're saying that your story is an example of what everyone should do. Without a good income, many feel forced to stay in bad relationships
I'm glad her husband stood by her. That family sounds very toxic. I'm also hoping there is another update where they say they are not attending any more family events where they are expected to bring treats for ungrateful people.
It kind of seems like “Kay” is the one insecure about her own skills (since it sounds like OP was more professionally experienced in baking) so she felt the need to put down her SIL’s artistry. The family was either blindly agreeing with her (she is the “expert” after all) or just doesn’t want to upset her. Regardless, super gross and reminds me of an ex who felt the need to constantly “correct” things when anyone else had a conversation…
Hubby and I have five sons and I would NEVER think of doing anything remotely like this. The goal here is to have happy children, not control their lives. Personally I loved the story of the nurse. Evil genius. I would have announced it as a "very generous" wedding gift.
@@DatenkillerDeluxe not all of them. If my kids are happy, I’m happy. If they aren’t, I would take that unhappiness upon myself before wishing it on them. I actually do know one, however. She’s miserable, and is happy to spread that misery around.
@@annjohnson543 I believe they're talking about the MILs in the video not wanting anyone to be happy but themselves. Not all MIL in general 😆 Even so, I think some still do act horribly under the guise of "I just want my child to be happy" which to me is a terrible excuse lol
Right..!? Even I thought of the same idea... She should have just exposed her in front of everyone 💀🗿that would be more petty... Atleast for me it would be so good 😂😂
The in-laws/baker story: my daughter is 26. She is a professional chef and just got married in September to an amazing guy. We love her husband and he is amazing to her and is so good to her brothers and is just an all around good guy and we are super happy for them. Then there is his family. They do this kind of shit to her all the time. They ask her to bring homemade pies, homemade breads of all kinds, especially her focaccia bread, which is amazing! She ends up spending days in the kitchen before each holiday or other family event and then his mom will inevitably buy a store bought version of everything they asked my daughter to bring and everyone but her husband will eat the store bought and not touch the stuff she made!! Her hubby’s brother wanted to be a chef but “couldn’t” because he got his girlfriend pregnant and had to “get a real job” I know he is super petty and jealous of her getting to follow her dreams while he didn’t get to. I’m not sure if this is why her in-laws do this to her or what but every single time it breaks her heart Every single time I just want to murder them all. And they can’t seem to understand why they’re spending more and more holidays at our house now and why after 5 years of dating and nearly a year of marriage they are distancing themselves more and more, not only figuratively either.
I assure you they know why, but they pretend that they never did anything wrong to your daughter. If they are confronted they will deny it for as long as they can. Then when they see that your daughter will not be gaslighted by them, they will fake innocent and insist that what they did was not a big deal or that they were only joking with her and she is overreacting. Glad that your daughter is distancing herself these types of people won't ever change.
Shocked Pikachu face: My son and daughter law want to spend time with the nice fun in-laws instead of dealing with more of our petty games!?😮 Seriously did they really expect them to deal with that every holiday forever. Thank goodness they have your family. And now you guys get to enjoy her delicious food and not them 😝
Please tell your daughter to stop slaving away for her ungrateful in-laws and cut all ties with them she shouldn't be around people who don't appreciate and respect her.
You have more patience than I do I would be@t down anyone who did that holy f*CK I'm sorry for your daughter she's a couple years younger than I am and to be a professional chef is an amazing accomplishment I hope she knows her in laws suck and she is amazing to be so accomplished at 26
The nurse had the most effective vengeance I've ever seen. I would tell the guy, but that wouldn't make her suffer in silence for 30 years. That woman's a genius.
I was just shaking my head about the whole cake pop thing. I'm just glad that her husband supported her the whole time and loved what she did even the rest of the family didn't like it. She married the right brother :) Love your videos, Charlotte!! Thanks for giving me smile today.
I worked at a bakery deli for years. We did everything, cinnamon rolls, and donuts in the early morn, bread to sell fresh that day, cupcakes, several types of cakes including decorated birthday and special event cakes. On Fridays we also did 4 kinds of cookies. I was good at them although it took me quite awhile to get the confidence and feel comfortable decorating birthday cakes, eventually flowers ❤became my specialty. For some weird reason as soon as someone would compliment me tasting a cake I would bring to a family occasion, my momma felt the need to always say, oh yes both my daughters are excellent bakers…I mean Every. Single. Time. Often at the same event to each slice of the same cake. To my knowledge the only thing my sister made in the kitchen was a mess cleaning up her paint brushes and stuff…she is a fabulous artist. My sister and I weren’t competitive with each other at all but it was always apparent my mom felt the need to include her in anything involving me especially if I was receiving praise of any kind. However when my sister was being complimented on a recent painting my momma never said, oh yes, both my daughters are excellent painters. Finally for a few occasions in a row I volunteered to bring something other than dessert. At one event my momma took me aside to ask why I stopped making cakes for everyone. I said I felt that it was unfair that I always got to bring the dessert when maybe someone else wanted a chance to make dessert. She said everyone misses your cakes. No one does dessert as good as you. I said, momma both your daughters are excellent bakers. We made eye contact and that was enough. She understood. I went back to bringing dessert.
The stage manager story reminded me of something in my life a long time ago. A hospice nurse once told me that the last words of people she cares for at the end of their lives are never ever 'I wish I'd spent more time at the job I hated'. She told me this when I was miserable in my job. I took a different job that paid less and I was so much happier!
I hosted one of those make-up parties for my sister-in-law to help her out (cause I'm a nice person since I really kinda hate them). I invited ladies that were my friends and extended family, so she did not know them very well. When the presentation was done and we were all chit-chatting, the subject of kids came up and how challenging they are especially when you work full time, as we all did. SIL then proceeded to go on and on about her "3 tiresome kids" and doing her parties, then she said, "I don't consider anyone that has only one child to be a real mother." Apparently throwing that little dig in my direction for my one-kidness. However, what she didn't know was that literally, everyone there had only one kid, except my mom. The looks on their faces, well, any guesses as to how many purchases were made ?? A Big Fat Zero. Yes, instant karma is sweet.
Dang, gatekeeping motherhood. Those kind of people are mad that they have 3 hellish children to take care of and some people only stuck with one! Plus, I'm pretty sure even just having one child literally makes you a mother. I bet she calls woman who adopt children "not real mothers", cause they aren't blood related. Some people I swear.
And I consider anyone that has more than one kid and speaks like this SIL as jealous of those with one because they've realized too late that they're in over their head. Nobody forced them to have more than they could handle. 🙄 Kids in general are not easy, whether it's one or more. This comparison and belittling of those with one kid really needs to stop.
Sometimes the mother feels blessed to have at least one child because of her having trouble conceiving. My friend has a daughter. She did try for another baby but her baby was stillborn.
I work for a major Fortune 100 shipping company. A friend of mine told me that her job as a nanny was more important than mine because she was shaping young minds to make the world better. I explained that we do ship medical supplies and other lifesaving items around the world and I wasn't ashamed to work there. As you may have guessed, we're no longer friends.
I'm a proud dishwasher. To some, that's not a real job, but they forget that if not for us, we're why people aren't trying to eat soup out of their hands.
@@HighAsHeckPriestess you're making sure the food from the kitchen is safe to go into our bodies, and I know from experience it is a sweaty, non-stop, thankless task. I commend you.
If they kept refusing to eat what I brought, I'd just stop bringing anything, and when they asked why I didn't bring anything I'd say "why bother, y'all refuse to eat anything I bring anyway so I'm not wasting anymore of my time or money"! Call them all out on their petty bs!
What she choose to do was funnier but I agree I would Of said the same thing as you. What I don't get is why do they demand she bring something then refuse to eat it?
There is definitely an issue of some MILs that have a borderline emotionally incestuous relationship with their sons. I would not at all disbelieve some of it is like Charlotte said and they raised men they wish they could have had when they were younger.
That's hundred Percent true. My MIL does not have good relationship with my FIL. so she is so much attached to my husband. My husband don't take any decision by himself and he will tell every single thing to his mom. I think she feel so insecure that she just want to control everything in her son life and she has made me him like that.
I wouldn't even inform her. I would let them go to the theatre and realise then there are not tickets left. Then, I would tell them " Not real jobs have not real tickets. Enjoy your night". #pettyashell :p
This is called entiltement and using op. I think she was not considered as an equal to precious mama boy so MIL thought it is ok to scam her out of the tickets and then also show her in MiL eyes she may be at best a maid to her son , no respect at all. I think op should consider getting into such a crazy family.
@@elzbietabetlej4085 My future MiL told me I should give up work when I married her son, to be a good wife and mother to his children. I said I couldn't do that because I earned more than him. Silence! I called off the engagement soon after.
@@elizabethgrogan8553 good for you, it is important to be respected and felt to be equal to your significant other. Did your ex shared the views of his mother? Bc if you were not his priority, your happiness and well being too, then there is no point in going together through the life. Sometimes it is only MiL/ FiL thing as your spouse decides to side with you and cut the ties loose with his family if needed, but not every man is able to do it. Also - nothing is wrong in working even if you would earn less than him . No work is shameful after all.
I made a dessert once for Thanksgiving from a cookbook of my husband's grandmother's recipes some family member created and gave to everyone. MIL sat there in front of everyone taking tiny bites and saying, "This isn't how Momo made this," with every bite. Then looked at me shrugged and said, "Sorry. But this isn't how my mom made this." I said, "I made it exactly how it said in the book." She just shrugged. So I went and got the book and suggested she call her sister (who is the older sister and major b!tch and is also the one who made and distributed the recipe book) and told her that every copy needs to be collected since the recipes were written wrong by her sister. Then I handed MIL the cookbook and asked her to go through it and make any other "corrections" she thought were needed so I'd be sure to have the ONLY authentic copy in the family.
I spent all day making a barbie doll cake for my SO's niece (who was obsessed with Barbie) for her birthday. Everyone at the party was awestruck and was raving about how beautiful it was. My SO's sister, mother of said niece, put the cake in the corner and refused to serve it. No one tried it. I have never baked for her again and never will. Fool me once... you know the rest.
Did she save it because it looked so good? I made a cake once that had pretty roses and other fancy froufrou decorations. Then I didn't want anyone to eat it because it looked so good. This was when I was just beginning to make cakes that looked pretty and my older brother finally cut it so that everyone could have dessert.
My daughter works at our community theater and I occasionally get called in to help from time to time. Stage managers may not get love every single second but they sure as heck get mad respect. They deal with sick performers and nervous ones, loud ones that just don’t understand backstage voices. They bring in the food and drinks because dehydrated performers aren’t the best. They know who has extra eyelashes or tights and can fix a costume in three minutes or less. They are pretty dog gone awesome
Anyone who has done theater knows, or should know, how important stage managers/prop masters/stage hands/designers/costumers/makeup/light and sound people are to any production!
My most hair raising production was when our director decided to do the musical OLIVER. He brought in eight boys aged 10 to 14. Individually the boys were nice but when they were back stage all hell broke loose, pinching the little girls til they cried, messing with costumes and prop table. One night they were galumphing around upstairs. They started climbing up the scenery flats which collapsed on stage during the performance. I joked we should have renamed the production LORD OF THE FLIES. The worst offenders were kicked out of the show. One of the lead performers drank back stage and sometimes would forget two pages of dialogue. I wished we could kick him out too.
The baking story really gets me…not my SIL but my step sister. I used to make specialized cakes from home and had a nice little side business while my girls were young and I stayed home. I taught myself how to make elaborate cakes and cupcakes, created a great clientele and was very proud of what I could do. Now to the incidents…it was my grandmothers 80th birthday and I offered to make the cake since my dad and his wife were hosting the party. I made a cake big enough for the 25 guests that I normally would have charged around $200 for if it was ordered. My step mothers daughter thinks herself as quite a “baker”. I put that in quotes because her idea of baking is straight from a box or remoulding already made chocolate into other shapes, pouring sprinkles on top and calling them truffles…I show up with my cake in hand and they direct me to put it on the desert table with “the other deserts”. I specifically asked if any other cakes or deserts would be served and was told no, that’s why I made such a large cake. I put my cake down beside the 50 mini cupcakes and another smaller cake that my step sister had “made” and brought. My dads side of the family is very small so most of the party consisted of my step mothers family. When desert time rolled around, my cake was hardly touched. But my step sister eagerly put each of her store made cupcakes into each of her family members hands as they gushed over her “talent”. I also heard from the younger kids on their side that they weren’t allowed to have my cake because it looked “too rich”. (Sweet) Fast forward a few months and it is My fathers birthday. I asked if I could make My father his birthday cake and was told yes. This time I clarified in No uncertain terms that My cake would be the Only Cake or Cupcake or Cookie that would be served and was assured that was true This time. I showed up with my fathers favourite, carrot cake with cream cheese icing and went to set it down on the desert table were I got to see the FIVE PIES that my step sister bought. I’ve never offered or brought any desert to their home since then which was roughly 10 years ago.
The cake pop story reminds me of something that happened to me. I'm French but used to live in the US, and one time we were invited to that party, to which we could bring food if we wanted to. I made a savory cake, which everyone absolutely loves. At least on my side of the ocean. Nobody except my husband and myself had a helping of it. Made me bad. Fortunately some guy showed up, asked what it was and tried it. I thought he pitied me because I was 8 months pregnant and just sitting at the table, not able to go chat with people as much as I wanted etc. Well he actually loved it and came back for more, which made my day. But it always stings a little to think people just wouldn't give it a try just because it was not a dish they were used to. 🤷🏻♀️
Sometimes if people aren't sure what something is they just will not try it. I had the same issue at various potlucks. I tend to bring things like pineapple cheeseball or apple cake. Most of my co-workers didn't know what they were. Only a few people tried them at end of the night. They said they liked them, but I was getting depressed until that point because I thought I would have to take home completely untouched food.
I'm glad my dad raised me in the belief that if you want to have a say in a matter you have to try it first. Afterwards you can say your opinion. My inhibition level for new food is nearly non-existent. I don't eat still living animals (e.g. baby octopus), dangerous stuff (e.g. fugu (japanese pufferfish)) or some extreme crazy food (fried butter), but all other things are fair game. I didn't know exactly what a savory cake was, so I looked up some pictures and recipes. It looks delicious and I definitely would have come to you for a try. I'm from Germany and we have a saying that summarizes the problem you had: "Was der Bauer nicht kennt, das frisst er nicht." Meaning: "Some people won't eat anything they've never seen before." And I've talked to way too many people who came back from travelling all around the globe and who were appalled that they couldn't find their normal regional food in the foreign countries. I know, stupid!
I can relate a bit to the baker incident. Every Thanksgiving I would make pumpkin pies or other pumpkin desserts (pumpkin cake, pumpkin cheesecake, etc) for the in-laws. I made all from scratch--never used canned pumpkin--and all tasted very good--even husband approved. Cut to the dinner at in-laws' house. Mother-in-law would try a tiny piece of my dessert and complain it wasn't spicy enough or some garbage. Then nobody else would have any. Meanwhile, sister-in-law would brag on her store-bought apple and cherry pie from Kroger and everyone would eat a slice of hers and rave about them--and she DIDN'T EVEN BAKE THEM!!! I gave up trying to please them and just stopped bringing anything after a few Thanksgivings like this.
Agreed. I made homemade cheesecake but they ate the jello brand “cheesecake” from a box. Following year I spent $70+ on what they asked me to bring, arrived & found they needed exactly NONE of it because they bought every bit of it themselves & already had it set up tho this was hours before the dinner. But I’m the AH. 🙄
To the cake pop lady: Do not bake anything for those horrible people ever again. Ever. Don't waste your time, talent, and energy on the ungrateful. At the next gathering, bring something that's not a dessert or just bring drinks. Better yet, bring ice! 🤣
I think she (the wife) was another race because of the “return back where you came from” comment so it might’ve been racism. Tho that line could also mean from another city like how the op mentioned. If that’s the case, then maybe she was from the country side and the mother in law could’ve been discriminatory towards that. Honestly I can’t think of any other way why the mother didn’t think she was “good enough” when she was a goddamn NURSE.
I used to be a hair dresser. My dad along with most of my family said I didn't go to real school and I "just do hair". Mind you I was paying my own bills, raising a child on my own after her father passed. One day on my sisters wedding the hair dresser didn't show up. Guess who ended up saving all their butts? I thought hard about just leaving lol
I've heard this many times over the years "you just do hair" or "it can't be that hard" lmao. Their tune changes when I say cool, give me a trim then! I have my scissors 😂put them on the spot
I worked backstage at my local theatre when I was in high school, I did several productions, and even though they were smaller scale, I can vouch for the *job*. The stage manager was the busiest person there, and they had to fix it all, Know it all, and be able to communicate everything everybody else needed to do effectively, it was no easy feat. It was a great experience, I’d love to do it again someday. Love how the person pulled the ‘ol YOINK WITH THEM TICKETS!!!🙌🙌🤣🤣
Years ago I worked at the corporate office of a well known company and during the summer months we were extremely busy!!! It required a good amount of overtime! I worked there for about 13 years (they had some good perks too). Well, my EX-MIL (the devils evil sister) couldn’t stand me and told my husband that I wasn’t really at work but was a prostitute walking the streets. He believed her!!! When I got home after working overtime on my real job, as soon as I walked in all I remember is seeing hits closed fists coming at my head!!!! Yep, he literally beat me up because of his lying mother from hell! Oh, in case you are wondering... I’m HAPPY to say she’s dead and I’m no longer with that crappy son!!! Yes, I said happy!!!
I don't even like cake, and every year for 16 years I wouldn't and gratefully eatthe cake that my granny would make for my birthday with her. Because she spent her time making it. It's to respectful to acknowledge and appreciate the time that someone has dedicated to making something for you
The cakepop story is like the opposite of my friends and their cheesecakes. So both are AMAZING bakers and cooks. One is the daughter of the other's mentor. Anyway, when the mentor mom had her pupil's cheesecake, she said that they were just as delicious as her daughter's. Daughter tried it and was like "mom I know you love me and I know you know these are better. Don't worry, I will still make you my cheesecakes when pupil can't make hers." And that was it. I suppose this happens because my friends aren't garbage people like the cakepop family.
The Bribed Bride handled that perfectly! Not only does MiL have to hold in her rage toward OP lest she out herself as the viper that she is, but OP managed to make that happen without ruining her husband's relationship with his mother 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
In regards to the first story: I work in the arts and my dad specifically works in theatre so I decided that when anyone asks me what I’m going to do as “my real job” because “arts don’t provide real jobs”, I will always say it’s real enough to pay my bills and I don’t have a boring cubical job where I have to where stupid work clothes. (In my head, like you, Brian, the unpaid intern)
Regarding the “cake pop” story: Talentless or less talented people are often intimidated by more talented people, and will do anything they can to make them feel untalented. It can be so painful sometimes, especially if “acts of service” is one of your love languages, and so making things for others is how you express love. When people project their own egos onto others acts of love, it’s very crushing.
I saw a t-shirt once that said, "A Hard Man Is Good To Find". No I didn't buy it, but it had me giggling all day. This T-shirt shop also had a maternity shirt that said: "I Should Have DANCED All Night!". This was about 40 years ago, but I still remember that shop that had all those funny shirts.
Hahaha Charlotte getting upset about cake pops made my day. I also have that happened to me more often than not. I used to bring nice stuff for the family gatherings for my in-laws and my husbands family just for my food to remain untouched. My MIL once told me that she wouldn’t touch my food bc I would most likely poison her or something. Can’t remember exactly how she phrased it. And it pissed me the hell off. Recently I made cinnamon rolls for my daughters baptism but instead of putting them in a plate I actually wrapped them and served them in the.way a bakery would, and told my husband NOT TO SAY A WORD. They ate the whole tray and when I saw everyone enjoy them, I made a point to get up and tell my husband in a not-so-quiet voice, that I was gonna put the other tray in the oven. And I saw their whole tune change. Like, no more compliments, but rather rried to reel it back in and say stuff like, “I mean, they were a little dry,but good effort” and shit like that. It was hilarious. To me and my husband. It’s a crappy power play the whole not eating your food, specially if someone i their family already does that. In my case, my husbands cousin handles the baking in the family. I used to care so much. Now, I just enjoy life and those silly petty moments.
Thanks to stories like these, I thought all MILs were crazy. Then I was shocked when I married, to be treated so well, especially as an immigrant. But MIL always come to go on walks with me, they check up on me if I'm sick, they celebrate my birthdays, and for christmas I get too many gifts not to mention all the food they overfeed me with. We do different activities and every gathering just feels so warm. I feel like a grown child;; it made me really appreciate them for showing what a loving family is like. I'm really thankful to my husband and his family for making my life better. If I had overly controlling and obsessed in-laws, I don't know if I'd last too long haha. It was awesome for that lady to take the 10k and stay!
At the cakepop story, I remembered the 1st time I made a bigger amount of apple cake. My sister and her mother-in-law said, that they were horrible (I obviously got upset bc I baked all day and tried my best. My brother helped with the apples, but nobody else helped in anything). My sister said, that they were so bad, that she is doing me a favour and taking them out to the trash. I teared up and told her to let it bc my dad thought that it turned out well, so I had to make sure to bring some back to him. I took it back and after an hour or 2, I almost cried in joy. My dad ate almost all of it and even named it "worm-cake". I love him very much, bc he always respects and sees the better side in anything I make 🥰
I have been married for 28 years and I can tell you that the reasons my friends have all gotten divorced have to do with the fact that they did not communicate with their husbands about what their expectations og married life would be like. Finances, whether or not you're going to have children, what religion you'll raise those children with, even how close you plan to be to extended family. Whether you like it or not, when you marry a man you're marrying his family unless you make a conscious decision to not be around that family. Lwt's talk story as we say here in Hawai'i. When we were getting married, I just wanted a fun inexpensive wedding where everyone felt welcome. My mother-in-law jumped the gun and ordered the invitations. I knew I could choose to look at it one of two ways: she was imposing her will on us, or she was so excited she couldn't help herself. My husband told me to give him the word and he will have a talk with her, limiting her involvement, and we will send out our own invitations because it was disrespectful... But honestly it was one less thing I had to deal with so I was happy with it chose to look at it as her being so excited she couldn't help herself. (I even let her plan other things... And it turned out to be a beautiful wedding that we didn't have to pay a penny for.) I was happy to know that my husband would have my back in any future issues with her...but there haven't been any. She's been a dream of a mother-in-law. The point is my husband and I discussed that before marriage. My advice to all of you contemplating marriage is to sit down and discuss finances, whether or not you want children and how you will raise them, as well as how often you will see family and what's your boundaries are about that before you get married. It will save you so much heartache later.
It used to feel like my parents didn’t think of my doing Instacart as a real job. But after I paid mom to do my taxes she no longer bugs me about it. (She’s an accountant) I also used to struggle with thinking I’m lazy even though I’m actually disabled. But seeing my tax return made me feel better about myself.
Yes!! This!! 💯 💯 💯 I'm an independent contractor also, I've done Uber, lyft, instacart & Amazon flex. I stayed with Amazon cus it's less fuss with your car & more reliable pay but even with that I'll still get people who don't think of it as a job for some reason smh, it's ridiculous. I'm actually my own boss dearie, I pick my own hour's & don't have to worry about calling out if your sick or dealing with other coworker's BS, to me there are so many perks to this, granted there are a few drawbacks but for me it work's 🤷🏼♀️
That “cake pop family” is an entire rack of a-holes, and that includes her fiancé, bc he doesn’t seem to speak up in her defense (unless I missed something). I actually hope she thinks long and hard about marrying this man. It’s one thing when in-laws gang up on you, and your man defends you…but when he doesn’t, that’s a deal-breaker. She shouldn’t have to fight his entire family AND HIM TOO.
I'm pretty sure he did defend her. I got the feeling that the family hate on her specifically because she's his partner. Why would they prefer one daughter-in-law over another if not because they actually despise one of their sons? I don't know, I could be wrong, but that's how I interpreted the situation
Thank you, Charlotte and Charlotte's editor, for keeping the part where you spat a little. It's so refreshing to see a RUclipsr not clean her image to this idealized version of herself. Yes, people spit. It happens to everyone. Even RUclipsrs. Really, it's not that common to leave this kind of lil mishaps so thank you for staying honest and natural with us. ❤️
@@pamd3331 thank you, English is not my first language. And I couldn't remember the verb drool. That's what I meant to say. Not spit. Hahaha Yes, cake pops make us all drool haha
Nursing school is hard. My mom started it when I was a senior in high school I helped her study for it and it was something I knew I couldn’t do. People who go to nursing school and become nurses deserve a special kind of reward ❤
Ohh I just glanced at your channel! True Crime girl! Right up my alley! I'm looking forward to check out some of your videos tonight! 😘 Have a great day fellow TaterTot! 😀
First story: I’m a theatre tech myself. It’s an exhausting but rewarding job. The hours are all over the place and my sleep schedule is wacked, but I get to be paid to be a part of some awesome performances! And I get a pretty good view of it ❤. It is a real job, thanks for acknowledging.
I was stage crew at school and the amount of times that actors ask you to fix something that wouldn't have needed doing if they'd followed directions is infuriating. Like do you understand what a prop table is for? Don't ask me why your prop isn't on the table when you had it in your hands when I told you to put it on the table.
Ive had a tough weekend with my MIL. Charlotte, you have no idea what living vicariously through these posts did for my mental health just now. Love youuu!
I was a teacher for 10 years and loved it for about 8. Once I started hating it, I resigned, changed careers and now have a traditional 9-5 job, which I enjoy and like. I have respect for everyone who makes an effort to get income, whatever the job. I am especially happy for those who love their jobs, as I know how it feels to hate every minute of being where you are to get paid.
I love the story where MIL gave a lot of money to someone she hated. 30 years later she still has to deal with her. 😂 The only difference is I would have told my husband about the money, but I know he would have agreed with me to take the money, cash it, and still get married.
Much more juicy to keep the son blissfully unaware of his mum’s unnecessary drama, while MIL got her payback, in my opinion 😂😂😂😂! Proves to MIL how irrelevant she is….& serves her right.
The cake pop story is hilarious. My mom can be incredibly rude towards me and my adult daughter when it comes to cooking anything. I grew up taking cooking classes and had a catering business on the side as an adult. However, my mom hardly ever misses an opportunity to argue with me on the correct way to cook anything. When I prove her wrong she gets in a huff an walks off. I often have to comment that I'm the adult in the parent/child relationship.
Some unsupportive mother's feel inadequate if their child is a better cook and to drive the sword deeper, you were trained to cook and didn't learn from her. It is good that you stood your ground to defend your skills.
The funniest thing she does is claim that her version of my great grandmother's chocolate cake recipe is the better version. However, everyone likes mine better and when she makes her version everyone comments that the cake isn't as good. But she never quits and instead claims her version is the true recipe and mine isn't. (Btw - I got mine from my great grandmother's cookbook.)😂
@@klkclk22 my mother in law had several “family “ recipes that everyone absolutely loved but weren’t written down. After she passed away, I found similar recipes in different cookbooks and tweaked them until they were much like hers. Same with a few of my dad’s recipes. They might not be perfectly like the remembered version, but everyone enjoys them and all the wonderful memories that come with them. All the family appreciates the effort to continue with serving those dishes at family events.
The job thing got me!! I'm a house cleaner that makes AMAZING money and I don't have to work 24/7. My clients are amazing and I get to make my schedule so I never miss my kids events. I get told ALL THE TIME, by my mom, that I need to get a "real job". She's a teacher's aid that HATES her job... I don't understand 🤷🏼♀️
She's jealous, trust me. You're living happier, healthier and making good money. People like your mother are strict followers of the "misery loves company" saying. They try to bring down the others (sometimes they try to guilt trip you) because they weren't lucky/brave/good enough to follow another path that could give them more...and they have to shit on others that did it and made it. Best of luck for the future, Brooklyn!
Been married over 40 years and MIL has never made me feel welcomed. She has spread lies about me, picked on my looks or weight and much more. But the one thjng that sticks out is her getting out her scale when we visited to force me to weigh on it. I did it because I was raised to respect your elders. This always happened when hubby wasn't around....but sfter 20 years,he walked in on the scene of me being weighed and critiqued by my MIL. It was a great eye opener for hubby!
I've had people roll their eyes when I mention I bake my cupcakes from mix rather than from scratch. That's they way my mom always made them as it's a real time saver, and they're tasty anyways. So yeah, let's stop gatekeeping baking. As long as it tastes good!
I was blessed with an amazing mother in law that treats me more like a daughter than my own mother. But that's a long story for another day. (My mom is a textbook narcissistic gaslighter)
Same here, on the day I moved in with my boyfriend my mother kicked me out and caused a fight with me. My boyfriends mum greeted me at the door to my new house with a hug and a forehead kiss, told me to forget it and that she was my new family now and then we all went for a meal.
That is my bf's story, his mom is a gaslighter, on pain pills for life (back injury) and only calls when she needs something or has gossip to tell. Whereas my mother treats my BF like a son, buy him presents etc
Same here. :) I'm no contact with my narc parents but blessed with amazing future in-laws. We just got engaged last month and my future MIL literally squealed and bear-hugged me for a solid minute. Both she and my future FIL have treated me with more warmth and kindness in just over a year than my own parents managed in 30+. Some days I'm still just amazed by it all.
1st story... as someone that worked full time (and over 40 hours per week) as a server/bartender for 20+ years... can confirm. My mom was still asking when I was gonna get a "real job." Sigh. You can imagine her dismay now that I'm trying to turn my art and hobbies into a small business and talking about running for local politics (in our very red rural area. Sidenote, just voted in the midterms and on the back of ballot/local elections, we didn't have any independent or democrats running and half the seats were running unopposed). You can imagine her thoughts on my progressive views. Sidenote.. I'm finally diagnosed neurodivergent with cptsd.... I'm working through my past trauma and healing.... but still have a lot of trauma response where my mom is concerned.... just in case this sounded weird. But damn did I get triggered by that first story... fml IS my mother to a T! I'm sure too many can relate to this... so I'm gonna be vulnerable and leave this here... just in case someone else needs to know they aren't alone. Sending love, encouragement and solidarity to all...especially those that never felt 'at home' in their own family.
Hang in there, you can get better. The best thing that I ever did was stop caring what my family thinks of me. I'm LC/NC with my siblings. I love my mom but she took my stepdad's side over mine even when he was a crazy alcoholic and then bankrupted her and basically trapped her at home with jealousy and refusal to care for himself. But I have gotten to a place where I don't dwell on these things. You can too.
@@bcaye yep. That sounds very familiar. And I've made gigantic strides... this video just happened to come while I was already disregulated.... Being beurodivergent and letting my mask come down more and more has made things trickier... And the pandemic devastated us, financially.... so we are both having to rely on each other currently, which makes the seperation more difficult... But I'm making progress, coming up with solutions/ goals and working towards healing, re-parenting my inner child and learning the life skills and emotional resilience and intelligence that I was never taught/shown. Yay, progress. Yet even with progress, comes darker days. I think it's important that we have these discussions more. Thanks for your encouragement.
Back when we were dating, I was asked to bring a dish to my husband's thanksgiving. It was at the aunts house. I asked what to bring and they said some dish with meat. Well I had chicken in the house so I made a chicken dish. His aunt gave me a lecture on bringing the "proper food," for thanksgiving. The following year I brought forks. Never cooked for them again. We've been married for 7 years and laugh at this story now.
I got you beat. I attended a pot luck with all my bar employees. I brought a shrimp pasta salad. Basically just shrimp, macaroni, green peppers and onions. The employees huddled together and then confronted me saying "We don't eat no fancy foods. We like plain food." Good to know, I guess.
Your comment of I don’t understand why people think some jobs aren’t “real” makes me so happy. I’m a waitress and my family constantly says I don’t have a real job and try to get me new ones. I don’t want a new job! I love my job
Only reason I don’t consider my old jobs in retail and waitressing “real jobs” is because they didn’t pay a living wage and I was literally living paycheck to paycheck. That’s the only qualifier for “is it a real job” is that it needs to actually be a livable wage. Beyond that - who CARES!
My MIL has always been passive aggressive and rude about me since the day we met. I was pregnant with my 2nd child and it was unfortunately a very difficult pregnancy with complications. I had just been released from hospital and they had come for a visit. My husband got up at one stage and went to hang out the washing (I was essentially on no lifting and bed rest) we were sitting playing with my 1 year old, who doesn’t understand what your saying really, and she goes to him oh your poor daddy out there having to hang out the washing 😑😑 She knew full well of my condition but apparently even if it put my baby in danger I should have been the one hanging out the washing. This is only the tip of a very large iceberg with her!
Do not let anyone disrespect you in front your child even if the child cannot understand. Even if you were not pregnant, it’s ok for the man do do something around the house.
This year my friends worked as theatre stage crew for our high schools fall play last semester and it was HELL for them. I was talking to one of them the next day in class and she was so damn tired. The meeting they were having was supposed to end no later than 6 o’clock but the director said there was too much work to get done so no one really got home until 9 o’clock. My friend kept talking to him throughout the meeting saying she had to go home to finish her homework as she was literally failing two of her main core classes (the ones that you actually NEED to pass in order to graduate) and he kept telling her this was more important and that she was needed there. She had already finished all of her background work and setting up the backstage working area. She had people cover for her and she snuck out of the meeting around 7:30 to go home. This was a HIGH SCHOOL production and they were only stage crew. So I can’t imagine what the real deal would be like as a stage manager.
Your take on work (4:05 - 5:45) is how everyone should look at it. Whether one is a lawyer, hairdresser, doctor, musician, or RUclipsr, if you're making a living, be proud of that, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
So glad I do not suffer from this situation. Not sure how it happened but through marriage I garnered the best MIL a lady could hope for! She is the sparkle in my diamonds and I love her to bits.
If I was that nurse I would have not only taken the $10,000 but also moved back to "where I came from" with the new husband, then technically you've done as she asked! 😊
Omg! All of these MIL’s deserve it! I have thankfully married into an amazing family! My MIL is so sweet and her sisters are also super sweet. I married into a sweet family. Since my mom passed 2.5yrs ago my MIL has now become just mom. The nurse one was epic and definitely the best one.
Also, volunteering when money is not tight is very rewarding. I had the same thing with a volunteer gig! My FIL knew that a place I volunteered at could get him primo seats at an international Show Jumping venue. But we had decided that the twenty seats we were given would make some underprivileged kids ecstatic (we were right). But FIL was furious when he found out that there weren’t any left, even thought general seating was $5.
I ❤❤❤ to bake, and after years of finding recipes and honing my skills, I can say I make some tasty treats! I post on Facebook because I'm proud of what I make. I hadn't met my SIL, although we were friends on Facebook due to living in separate states. I finally got the chance to fly out and visit her and a lot of the family. She picked me up at the airport, and we were chatting and getting along like we had known each other for years. She suddenly brought up that she has a chocolate chip cookie recipe that she loves and was wondering, maybe, if I'd like to bake a batch with her. OF COURSE I DO!!! She thought that maybe, since I post some fancier desserts on occasion, I wouldn't be interested. Her recipe was amazing! We had fun baking, watched The Great British Baking Show, and ate warm cookies from the oven. The trip was so much fun and I came home with a new recipe to keep. 😀
I freaking love that she kept the money and then still married the son. 👏👏👏 I would have done the same thing (I'd hope Id do the same). It's not enough money in the world for me to get rid of my person AND the icing on the cake is that I'd get to giggle to myself every time I saw mil and know she is fuming and can't say anything.... brilliant *evil maniacal laugh 😂
To the $10,000 girl who outsmarted her MIL. We bow to you. I hope you enjoyed the money! Please tell us you did 💵 The beauty of Charlotte taking the cake pops so personally. Potato Queen if there were a potato peel version of the Iron Throne I'd be at your feet 👑
I just lost my MIL to advanced dementia💔 but for 35yrs she was always one of my biggest cheerleaders whether or not I was on top of my game or down loooooow I miss her sigh
I’m so sorry for your loss! I’m going through this now with my soon to be MIL. She has almost end stage dementia but before it got too bad she was always so loving and kind to me. It’s been super hard lately because she thinks my fiancé is her husband who has passed away and he’s cheating on her with me. 😢
I’m a freelance writer and work from home. I typically work 6-7 days per week. My family doesn’t view what I do as a “real job” because I’m home. As a result and despite how many times I ask them not to, they constantly interrupt me all day. It’s annoying. It’s difficult sometimes to maintain a solid stream of thought so I can focus. I write a lot of medical articles which requires hours of research and attention but…it’s not a “real job.” They, on the other hand, do not work at all and do little around the house.
They interrupt you?! Do you all live under the same roof? Then move out. If they’re calling you, turn off the ringer during your working hours. If there’s an emergency - they should call 911 because you’re a writer, not a first responder. If they’re coming to your place, don’t answer the door. Silence your doorbell. If they knock and keep knocking, call the police and ask them to swing by your place because there are people at your door that you’ve asked to leave.
The worst part of the cake pop story is that they went on and on about how good they were until they found out they weren't Kay's, and then they just straight up lie. Sounds a bit like my family, except in my case, my husband can do no wrong, I can do no right, and "I'm lucky to have him." While I am lucky to have him, it's not in the way they mean it. I skipped right past petty to we no longer speak. Except for my mom. She's my best friend and the dream mil. My husband and her have a delightful friendship. I say toss out the toxic!
Coming from family that loves baking this last story made me really angry. Baking is awesome way to bond. My husband mentioned to me that my family always seem to do competition on baking during holidays 😂 But it's friendly competition, where everyone tries everything and discusses what was great any tips and recepies are exchanged so they can be reproduced. I would feel sad to loose this part of each gathering. People are weird. Keep on baking!
It sounds like FMIL and FSIL steered her into that housework convo so that FMIL could insult her. I think she got ambushed so that FMIL could state her opinion. This was really gross. I’m glad she canceled the tix and stuck up for herself. They will probably think twice before doing that again.
This hit me hard, far more than I was expecting. My wife lost her mother in May through C-19 in the end. However, there was 6 months of complications following a kidney transplant. Things went wrong in every flukish way possible, please if you’re up for a transplant the chances of history repeating itself are almost impossible. She didn’t go easily at all and she fought like a little good 'un. She was silly, intelligent, funny, wise, full of love, had a backbone of steel and incredibly generous. I’ve said before my in-laws almost lost Hazel (Wifey) so their bond was strong. They accepted me from the get go, we could disagree but not fall out. I was luckily enough to have the world's greatest wife and in-laws, still have the best father in law. Thank you for reminding me I’m luckier than I deserve.n
Can confirm that stagehand work is a real job. My husband stage manages for the local symphony and does rigging, load-ins and load-outs, and electrical work for our local performing arts center through the union. I occasionally work some load-ins and load-outs and work wardrobe for musical theater tours. We just did Hamilton and Lion King in the last few months. It is exhausting work, but it is super rewarding. Highly recommend joining your local IATSE for anybody who is interested in trying this kind of work. The rates are pretty good, depending on where you are.
I was the outsider for nearly 30 years under the tyranny of my mil and her mother. I divorced him and they both died. My ex has never even went on a date since we divorced. I’ve moved on and I’m very happy. I no longer get put down and scrutinized by someone else’s family. I’d shove some cake pops up their arses! Lol 😂 I love her pettiness!
Haha it's so true that people can hate you for doing something and enjoying it that they didn't do. Like me, I never got married and I seem pretty happy so they're constantly telling me what a failure I am because they're miserable in their marriages. They don't realize I can see right through them LOL and now I've learned a new term, cake pop is that like a soda? I have never had this before just regular cake and cupcakes so now I got to look it up LOL
Cake Pops are when you take unfrosted cake, crush it up, mix the frosting into it and squish it into round balls. A stick is then shoved in so it looks like a lollipop. In other words, they are made by ruining perfectly good cake.
I was in a relationship and his mom offered me 5,000 to leave I took it and still came to thanksgiving dinner 😂 she gave me the glare of death and I insisted on saying grace and prayed over the food and then proceeded to thank her for the 5,000 she gave me to leave her son 😂 because we were saying what we were grateful for ( which I also insisted on everyone saying what they were grateful for) 🤭 now I could’ve been the bigger person and could’ve also never took the money but then I would not have a great story to tell years later AND I WOULDNT OF MADE SUCH EASY MONEY TY MONA FOR YOUR GREAT CONTRIBUTION TO MY BANK ACCT I WAS GOING TO LEAVE YOUR SON ANYWAY I JUST WAS WAITING TILL AFTER THE HOLIDAYS 😊😂❤ BUT YOU PUT A BOW ON TOP OF A FANTASTIC YEAR! 😉
I love my 9-5 job. 😍 I did theatre at university and the hours were really difficult. Kudos to anyone who chooses to live and love that life so the rest of us can be entertained. DEFINITELY a “real” job!
6:15 Yup basically Mother's trying to mold their sons into the ideal man they could have had. Which leads to two things usually: Son's rebelling against the control, or Son's finding a woman who is opposing their Mothers (and in a way helping set them free)
As a Nurse of almost 20 years, I am amused by people who think it's not "good enough"!!! I have missed countless Christmases so that I can take care of other people's family members. I have to uphold a standard of care to maintain my license, which includes upgrades to my education on a regular basis. When you go to the hospital, sick and scared, or dying, who do these people think are going to rise to the occasion?? That's right, a freaking Nurse!! I won't have anyone saying anything about what a Nurse is or is not!! It's a bloody challenging profession, and not everyone could handle the pressure (especially working through a global pandemic).
These snobs see nursing as serving someone, hence being a 'servant', hence being a peasant! I could just imagine how they'd treat the nurses if they were ever hospitalized. They'd be the Karen patients from H.E.L.L.!
My job was not conventional either. I usually drove over 50 miles every day to pick up water or wastewater samples. That included. Running tests at the sample site, recording all needed data, flushing systems, changing out 150 cyclinders of gas, pulling sludge beds. And then when I got back to home lab making needed agar, titrates, one other medias for tests. Then running the more in-depth testing required on samples collected that day. Finishing tests that had to develop from1 to 4 days before completed and collated. Not to mention filing weekly and monthly required paperwork on all the samples from all the different places for state and federal EPA agencies. And believe it or not I loved my job. Doing different things on different days. And never knowing when something might pop up that may extend my daily work hours to 16 or more hours in a 24 hour time frame. Like having to pull a sludge pump that broke and put a new one in and then seeing if it was something I could fix. Don’t know how many times I said I work in water & wastewater management and some one said oh that’s just monitoring meters and opening and closing valves.
My father had a lot of power in the town I grew up in. So much so that at the age of 21 I could buy ANYTHING with a motor but was not allowed to buy/rent a house or get an apartment. While out on the "main drag" I met someone and over time became serious. When my dad found out that I had bought an engagement ring and had a special thing planned over the weekend. He told me to go ride with him. He was driving a Pantera (Serious bad ass car), we were in the car business so the car did not stick out as much as you would expect. I rode with him on a lot of cars when he was checking them out because I could hear stuff he could not... While on the test drive he asked if I liked the car. Hell yea this is great. He then said, This is a single guys car, a married guy could never have one like this. When we got back he said "So is this your car?" I said no Sandy (Not her real name) likes my old yellow dodge 4X4.... Looking back in longing reflection, I SHOULD HAVE TOOK THE CAR
Just got engaged and am so glad my future inlaws are like the sweetest people ever. Future MIL sent me a long text about how excited she is and future FIL said “it’s about time, welcome to the family, daughter.” My fiancé and I have been dating for 8 years and have been nothing but sweet the whole time. Unfortunately for him, my family is insane.
LOL Same! My parents in law rock! My husband got the short end of the stick with a crazy lady. 16 years married and his parents have become the family I didn't know I was missing! Glad you found the same.
AWE CONGRATULATIONS BESTIE!!! IM SO HAPPY FOR YOU!!!!!! I pray for a very long happy laughter filled marriage.
Congrats 🎂
Much ❤️ from Austria 🇦🇹
Same! My in-laws even favor me more than my fiance! They told him to listen to me, buy whatever I want, do all the cleaning... :)) He kept saying that it was unfair, but he was really happy that his family (and my family) like our relationship a lot!
You’re lucky. My ex mother in law hates me.
My MIL used to compare me to her daughter and other daughter in law. Including everything I did was wrong, I drew the line when she compared my child (10yrs younger) to her daughters children. One year she made the comment about my children,food & home. I told her to go to her daughters house for thanksgiving dinner then. She couldn’t because they ALL went on vacation and didn’t invite her. The next year I cooked and I didn’t invite her and she called and cried. Her other son had moved away and her daughter didn’t invite her to dinner either. I didn’t feel bad about it at all!
Good for you! You are honestly a legend. Amazing comeback to an entitled mean MIL who think that she can abuse your kindness and insult you at the same time. You should feel super proud of this. Amazing truly amazing example of successfully setting boundaries from the start.
Sound like her son and daughter didn't want her around either.
@@niagara6015 the daughter that she doted on put her in a nursing facility.
Great your husband supported you
@@brendakrause5639 he thought I was being rude and took my food to his moms later. I heard her complaints about it later. That’s when I started not making the regular thanksgiving or Christmas dinner meals, we had Lasagna or Beef Wellington dishes I knew she didn’t know how to make and didn’t like.
My MIL is a nasty character. She likes to use Xmas to passive aggressively show people (mainly me) how much she hates them. Gifted me dirty used gardening gloves, used makeup, used underwear, etc. nicest gift I ever got was wine (I was 6 months pregnant). Anyway she lives a couple of hours away but the family all live in my city. She gives all the gifts to my husband in advance of Xmas for him to distribute. He came home with a sack of presents. So I swapped all the labels on them. Watching the fall out was hilarious. Particularly satisfying was watching people who would patronisingly tell me I should be grateful for receiving any gift losing their sh1t when they got dirty underwear as a present. I thoroughly enjoyed thanking her for the lovely luxury bath set she intended for her sister. Good times!
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Love it!🤣😂😂
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Nice! 😂
😂 omg... best... story... EVER
The baking one is almost similar to any kind of "art" - I handmade baby blankets for both my boyfriend's brother and sister when they were both expecting, both took me at least a month as they were quite intricate. His brother and wife looked more annoyed at receiving them and have never really mentioned it or used it which is fine. The sister on the other hand was in a worse financial position and was grateful I spend a month and a half of my free time to make her baby a gift. She took it everywhere and even showed it to her friends and rest of the family. Needless to say when both had their 2nd babies only the sister received another crocheted blanket. I'd never ask for anyone to purposefully show me their gift is used but you could tell who appreciated it more. I've learned to never make free crocheted/knitted items for ungrateful people!
It's hard work! Done with so much love and compassion. People don't understand that😢 my mom just passed away, and I have so much of her beautiful crocheting that I will hold dear to my heart and pass it down.
Yeah, I get you--my moms handmade baby sweaters and afghans are incredible
I'm glad the sister appreciated it! I crochet as a hobby, and while I've never made anything as large as a blanket, I know how time-consuming it is to crochet anything! Which is why I only gift things I crochet to family and really close friends. Anyone else has to pay.
Cast not thy pearls before swine. Lol
So, i have some friends who are knitters and I i, being the token beader(necklaces) used to join in, but admit i didnt understand rhe "knit talk."
One time though, I i understood them completely when they were discussing if someone was "knit worthy" before proceeding to invest weeks worth of time effort and energy in making a hand knitted item for them ..
I love that cake pop story. she did nothing wrong, didn't lie, didn't say anything, etc, and perfectly set it up so they themselves showed how petty and ridiculous they were being. 10/10 execution of revenge
Love how BIL said Kay's the better baker after everyone loved OP'S cakepops and said they were the best Kay ever made.
@@blanchekonieczka9935My question is: why the heck does she keep making treats to bring??? I would have completely stopped.
@peggyrodriguez5406 that's an excellent question
I'm a florist by trade. This happened about 30 years ago. I was working at a new flower shop, and the manager didn't like me for some reason. And nothing I designed was, "Good enough to sell." She bullied me so badly that I came home everyday crying and with a migraine.
But she really liked a girl named Cathy's work. But what the manager didn't know is Cathy couldn't stand her. So one day Cathy and I each made Identical arrangements, and swapped them. When the witchy manager came over to look at our arrangements, she started cussing me out again.
" Why can't you do it like this one that Cathy made?"
I looked her straight in her face and said,
" So you like the one on Cathy's bench, but not this one on my bench? Because that's funny because Cathy and I switched arrangements just to see what you would say."
" OMFG! "She blew a head gasket! I grabbed my coat, purse, and toolbox and walked out. I heard a couple of months later that the owner of the flower shop fired her because she was stealing money from the register, and all the other designers were ready to walk because of her.
Good that you walked out lol
People don't quit jobs, they quit managers.
Karma's a bitch. Unfortunately, your former manager had to learn that the hard way.
Last one reminded me of a story that i read on reddit.
The OP writes how her MIL always calls her the wrong name, she's named Sarah (or something similar) and MIL always calls her Susan or something like it. OP has corrected her many times prior to this story, but she's sick of it now, start pettyrevenge. OP likes to bake pastries (can't remember if it was her hobby or her job). So one day they're visiting and MIL says "I'll ask if Susan wants to bring cake for our party" OP overhears this and says "oh that would be nice !" So they go home, some time passes and the day of the party arrives. OP and her husband arrive to the party and MIL says "Where is the cake ?" and OP says "Oh you said Susan would bring the cake, i'm Sarah"
ETA : As mintberryXoXo and Megha Ghosh have mentioned it indeed wasn't a cake but it was the turkey or pie for a thanksgiving dinner 😂🤦 my bad, makes the story even more epic though.
Lol!!!!!!
I remember that story 😂🤣😂
This pettiness is what i love 😂
nah that wasnt a cake, that was a whole thanksgiving dinner...even better hahaha
I remember this 😂I don't think it was a cake though I think it was a main dish like a pie or the turkey. Unfortunately there was an update that the boyfriend actually did not support the girl and blamed her for ruining dinner and disrespecting him in front of the family. She ended up leaving him. She said everyone's telling her that the guy's mother won but she was never in a competition with her so she doesn't care.
As a baker this just makes my blood boil. She worked for hours maybe days on her treats. I'm so happy she got back with the cake pops, showing she is over all better then Key. She is apart of the family and I would have picked her stuff over the others to make a stand. You don't disrespect people that took time out to bake or cook for you.
yeah this is horrible, i was fuming myself. I am not a professional by any means but my family has a lot of chefs/bakers (grandfather was a professional in a high class kitchen and raised mutiple grandchildren that way). I was always nervous to cook for my grandfather bc he was a big critic whereever he ate but he was always nice towards peoples abilities, even congretualating children on mere simple omlettes and the like. People dont have to be super good or unique while cooking/baking in their freetime and everyone should still be respectfull to the time and effort at the very least !
@@ShadowWolf1307 I'm with you on that. It takes years and care with thar art of cooking and baking. Even when people are starting out I will give them hints and how to make it to what they want it to be. Even now I'm still looking to do better. I never want to stop getting better at my craft.
I love to bake and would be LIVID if I brought something I'd made over to them and this happened. So good on her for doing this.
Word! Even if she wasn't good at baking and the stuff tasted nasty, I would still eat a bit and say something nice (maybe not straight up lying about how good they are, cause it feels bad, but maybe the presentation or so), especially if nobody else touched it. I know how that feels and I'll never let someone feel like that, unless they deserve it.
My advice is don't ever bake for those people again. Ever. Next gathering, bring an entree, bring hamburger buns, bring ice. Anything but a baked good. Don't cast your pearls among swine!
I can relate to the cake pop story…
My fiancés family will mot eat food I make. No clue why when they ask me to make stuff. Anyway.. one time I made pasta salad. My fiancé and I told everyone he made it. Everyone devoured it and even took leftovers! At the end of the party everyone was telling him how good it was and he told them I made it. They didn’t have much else to say after that…
I love it.
are not clean? do you not wash your hands? is their a reason why they don't eat your food? why do you spend time with those people? your husband is so e. vi.l to lie to them.
wow, that must have felt so heartbreaking, I am so sorry!! 💔 What an awful family to do that...
So glad you have someone to have your back against his family!! Bravo to your husband!!
Your husband is a keeper for standing up for you and doing what he did for you. Your in laws are insensitive jerks that had no right to treat you like that
I used to work night shifts. I had told everyone about it. A friend of the family would come by everyday to ring the doorbell to wake me up. Then would have a big laugh that I was sleeping during the day when people are supposed to be working. I had eventually threatened him that when I was working night shift I would start calling him to see if he was sleeping. It worked. Lots of people don't understand shift workers.
Truth. When I worked as a cook and was in culinary school, the kitchen always closed at 11, wouldnt get home until midnight atleast. So the ONE day of the week I did not have school or work, I was living at home, my dad would always comment how I used to get up early when the sun rose, and now I stay in bed until lunchtime. Before my culinary endeavour, I worked as a server at an old folks home. Shifts were 6AM to 2PM t days a week. At that time, I was getting up at 4:30AM-the dogs are not even awake to go pee outside and eat their breakfast…..
Also had a friend in high school whose parent was a news anchor or weatherman, something where they worked the night shift on the local news station. They were very accustomed to peoples’ comments about why their “lazy” dad is sleeping at 2PM and why family time is from 6-8PM.
My mom and dad, both had to work night shifts once a week. Mom is a medical technician and dad is an engineer in railways. As kids if we were at home any day after their night shift, we would make sure that the house will remain silent and make sure anyone who comes to the house speaks in hush voices. Most people don't understand that people need rest on days after night shifts
My whole family is on second shift because thats what my husband works and the kids are homeschooled
My ex husband used to do that when he had anything to tell me about our daughter. He would laugh out loud at my bed head and bleary eyes. He made me so sick, I closed the bar I worked at every night and got home at 3 or 4 am. He worked 9-5. I started driving by his house every time I closed the bar and honked, laying on the horn and woo wooing. Hmm, he didn't think that was a bit funny. Idiot.
@@dynodish Good for you! He deserved that lol. People who work 9-5 don't understand night work at all.
My ex mother in law told me that my job as a nanny wasn’t a ‘real’ job and when was I going to get a real career? I trained at a very prestigious and well known College for nanny training in the U.K. and I was making triple the amount of money that my then husband was making 😂 Not only that, but I was working 14 hour days, six days a week and doing the majority of the housework when I got home 🤷♀️ She REALLY hated me and I never really knew why. The final straw was when she told me that if I didn’t stop putting on weight, then I wouldn’t be able to carry her future grandchild! Her son said nothing, as usual, and not long afterwards I skipped out of there for good 😂🤣
Norland Nany = good money
@@fletch61 👍😃
Why it's so important to finish school and get a good job so you don't feel afraid to leave and maybe fall into poverty. Good income=independence.
@@gl15col ?
@@samiam8443 they're saying that your story is an example of what everyone should do. Without a good income, many feel forced to stay in bad relationships
The cake pop one was deliciously petty. Top tier. A story you tell your kids for YEARS
I was married to a family like that. Trust me, I find this story a perfect consequence for a family like this.
I'm glad her husband stood by her. That family sounds very toxic. I'm also hoping there is another update where they say they are not attending any more family events where they are expected to bring treats for ungrateful people.
Baylee Smith - Good play on words and rhyme. 😄
Like....where do I go to hire this person for cantering?
It kind of seems like “Kay” is the one insecure about her own skills (since it sounds like OP was more professionally experienced in baking) so she felt the need to put down her SIL’s artistry. The family was either blindly agreeing with her (she is the “expert” after all) or just doesn’t want to upset her. Regardless, super gross and reminds me of an ex who felt the need to constantly “correct” things when anyone else had a conversation…
Hubby and I have five sons and I would NEVER think of doing anything remotely like this. The goal here is to have happy children, not control their lives. Personally I loved the story of the nurse. Evil genius. I would have announced it as a "very generous" wedding gift.
You see, that's where it all starts...these MILs don't want anyone to be happy except themselves
@@DatenkillerDeluxe not all of them. If my kids are happy, I’m happy. If they aren’t, I would take that unhappiness upon myself before wishing it on them. I actually do know one, however. She’s miserable, and is happy to spread that misery around.
@@annjohnson543 I believe they're talking about the MILs in the video not wanting anyone to be happy but themselves. Not all MIL in general 😆 Even so, I think some still do act horribly under the guise of "I just want my child to be happy" which to me is a terrible excuse lol
That was exactly my thought! I'd even send her a thank you note for her generous wedding gift. 😂
Right..!? Even I thought of the same idea... She should have just exposed her in front of everyone 💀🗿that would be more petty... Atleast for me it would be so good 😂😂
The in-laws/baker story: my daughter is 26. She is a professional chef and just got married in September to an amazing guy. We love her husband and he is amazing to her and is so good to her brothers and is just an all around good guy and we are super happy for them. Then there is his family. They do this kind of shit to her all the time. They ask her to bring homemade pies, homemade breads of all kinds, especially her focaccia bread, which is amazing! She ends up spending days in the kitchen before each holiday or other family event and then his mom will inevitably buy a store bought version of everything they asked my daughter to bring and everyone but her husband will eat the store bought and not touch the stuff she made!! Her hubby’s brother wanted to be a chef but “couldn’t” because he got his girlfriend pregnant and had to “get a real job” I know he is super petty and jealous of her getting to follow her dreams while he didn’t get to. I’m not sure if this is why her in-laws do this to her or what but every single time it breaks her heart Every single time I just want to murder them all. And they can’t seem to understand why they’re spending more and more holidays at our house now and why after 5 years of dating and nearly a year of marriage they are distancing themselves more and more, not only figuratively either.
I assure you they know why, but they pretend that they never did anything wrong to your daughter. If they are confronted they will deny it for as long as they can. Then when they see that your daughter will not be gaslighted by them, they will fake innocent and insist that what they did was not a big deal or that they were only joking with her and she is overreacting. Glad that your daughter is distancing herself these types of people won't ever change.
Shocked Pikachu face: My son and daughter law want to spend time with the nice fun in-laws instead of dealing with more of our petty games!?😮
Seriously did they really expect them to deal with that every holiday forever. Thank goodness they have your family. And now you guys get to enjoy her delicious food and not them 😝
She should’ve made some other item that they didn’t ask for, that way we wouldn’t have a duplicate
Please tell your daughter to stop slaving away for her ungrateful in-laws and cut all ties with them she shouldn't be around people who don't appreciate and respect her.
You have more patience than I do I would be@t down anyone who did that holy f*CK I'm sorry for your daughter she's a couple years younger than I am and to be a professional chef is an amazing accomplishment I hope she knows her in laws suck and she is amazing to be so accomplished at 26
The nurse had the most effective vengeance I've ever seen. I would tell the guy, but that wouldn't make her suffer in silence for 30 years. That woman's a genius.
I was just shaking my head about the whole cake pop thing. I'm just glad that her husband supported her the whole time and loved what she did even the rest of the family didn't like it. She married the right brother :) Love your videos, Charlotte!! Thanks for giving me smile today.
I worked at a bakery deli for years. We did everything, cinnamon rolls, and donuts in the early morn, bread to sell fresh that day, cupcakes, several types of cakes including decorated birthday and special event cakes. On Fridays we also did 4 kinds of cookies. I was good at them although it took me quite awhile to get the confidence and feel comfortable decorating birthday cakes, eventually flowers ❤became my specialty.
For some weird reason as soon as someone would compliment me tasting a cake I would bring to a family occasion, my momma felt the need to always say, oh yes both my daughters are excellent bakers…I mean Every. Single. Time. Often at the same event to each slice of the same cake. To my knowledge the only thing my sister made in the kitchen was a mess cleaning up her paint brushes and stuff…she is a fabulous artist. My sister and I weren’t competitive with each other at all but it was always apparent my mom felt the need to include her in anything involving me especially if I was receiving praise of any kind. However when my sister was being complimented on a recent painting my momma never said, oh yes, both my daughters are excellent painters.
Finally for a few occasions in a row I volunteered to bring something other than dessert. At one event my momma took me aside to ask why I stopped making cakes for everyone. I said I felt that it was unfair that I always got to bring the dessert when maybe someone else wanted a chance to make dessert. She said everyone misses your cakes. No one does dessert as good as you. I said, momma both your daughters are excellent bakers. We made eye contact and that was enough. She understood. I went back to bringing dessert.
The stage manager story reminded me of something in my life a long time ago. A hospice nurse once told me that the last words of people she cares for at the end of their lives are never ever 'I wish I'd spent more time at the job I hated'. She told me this when I was miserable in my job. I took a different job that paid less and I was so much happier!
BRILLIANT
Less pay only works if you can adapt to it I have 3 kids less money is bad
I hosted one of those make-up parties for my sister-in-law to help her out (cause I'm a nice person since I really kinda hate them). I invited ladies that were my friends and extended family, so she did not know them very well. When the presentation was done and we were all chit-chatting, the subject of kids came up and how challenging they are especially when you work full time, as we all did. SIL then proceeded to go on and on about her "3 tiresome kids" and doing her parties, then she said, "I don't consider anyone that has only one child to be a real mother." Apparently throwing that little dig in my direction for my one-kidness. However, what she didn't know was that literally, everyone there had only one kid, except my mom. The looks on their faces, well, any guesses as to how many purchases were made ?? A Big Fat Zero. Yes, instant karma is sweet.
Dang, gatekeeping motherhood. Those kind of people are mad that they have 3 hellish children to take care of and some people only stuck with one! Plus, I'm pretty sure even just having one child literally makes you a mother. I bet she calls woman who adopt children "not real mothers", cause they aren't blood related. Some people I swear.
"hold on just let me line up this shot on my foot real quick!"
And I consider anyone that has more than one kid and speaks like this SIL as jealous of those with one because they've realized too late that they're in over their head. Nobody forced them to have more than they could handle. 🙄 Kids in general are not easy, whether it's one or more. This comparison and belittling of those with one kid really needs to stop.
What a dumbass. Wow, people's egos are so out of control they simply self-destruct right before our eyes.
Sometimes the mother feels blessed to have at least one child because of her having trouble conceiving. My friend has a daughter. She did try for another baby but her baby was stillborn.
I work for a major Fortune 100 shipping company. A friend of mine told me that her job as a nanny was more important than mine because she was shaping young minds to make the world better. I explained that we do ship medical supplies and other lifesaving items around the world and I wasn't ashamed to work there. As you may have guessed, we're no longer friends.
I'm a proud dishwasher. To some, that's not a real job, but they forget that if not for us, we're why people aren't trying to eat soup out of their hands.
@@HighAsHeckPriestess you're making sure the food from the kitchen is safe to go into our bodies, and I know from experience it is a sweaty, non-stop, thankless task. I commend you.
If they kept refusing to eat what I brought, I'd just stop bringing anything, and when they asked why I didn't bring anything I'd say "why bother, y'all refuse to eat anything I bring anyway so I'm not wasting anymore of my time or money"! Call them all out on their petty bs!
Yes,this is exactly what i was thinking!
If they can't or won't appreciate hard work, then they don't get anything from me at all.
What she choose to do was funnier but I agree I would Of said the same thing as you.
What I don't get is why do they demand she bring something then refuse to eat it?
But then I bet they would complain how she didn't bring anything and was just there to enjoy everyone else's food for free 🙄
Honestly, I'd be that petty.
Yep .. do nothing .. show up looking fabulous and pig out .
There is definitely an issue of some MILs that have a borderline emotionally incestuous relationship with their sons. I would not at all disbelieve some of it is like Charlotte said and they raised men they wish they could have had when they were younger.
That's hundred Percent true. My MIL does not have good relationship with my FIL. so she is so much attached to my husband. My husband don't take any decision by himself and he will tell every single thing to his mom. I think she feel so insecure that she just want to control everything in her son life and she has made me him like that.
Yeah, it's like a reverse Oedipus Complex. #Creepy
Yikes, but true
Yup. I don't get it. My son is 21 and if he finds someone to love who loves him (and is good to him), I'll be so happy!
@@robj2558 It's called Jocasta complex (Jocasta was mother/wife of Oedipus)
The future mother in law absolutely deserved what she got. She tells op her job isn't real and then thinks she still deserves free tickets, hell no!
I wouldn't even inform her. I would let them go to the theatre and realise then there are not tickets left. Then, I would tell them " Not real jobs have not real tickets. Enjoy your night". #pettyashell :p
This is called entiltement and using op. I think she was not considered as an equal to precious mama boy so MIL thought it is ok to scam her out of the tickets and then also show her in MiL eyes she may be at best a maid to her son , no respect at all. I think op should consider getting into such a crazy family.
@@igeorgoudi 👍🤣👏 bravo! That would be total savage thing to do!
@@elzbietabetlej4085 My future MiL told me I should give up work when I married her son, to be a good wife and mother to his children.
I said I couldn't do that because I earned more than him. Silence! I called off the engagement soon after.
@@elizabethgrogan8553 good for you, it is important to be respected and felt to be equal to your significant other. Did your ex shared the views of his mother?
Bc if you were not his priority, your happiness and well being too, then there is no point in going together through the life.
Sometimes it is only MiL/ FiL thing as your spouse decides to side with you and cut the ties loose with his family if needed, but not every man is able to do it.
Also - nothing is wrong in working even if you would earn less than him . No work is shameful after all.
I made a dessert once for Thanksgiving from a cookbook of my husband's grandmother's recipes some family member created and gave to everyone. MIL sat there in front of everyone taking tiny bites and saying, "This isn't how Momo made this," with every bite. Then looked at me shrugged and said, "Sorry. But this isn't how my mom made this." I said, "I made it exactly how it said in the book." She just shrugged. So I went and got the book and suggested she call her sister (who is the older sister and major b!tch and is also the one who made and distributed the recipe book) and told her that every copy needs to be collected since the recipes were written wrong by her sister. Then I handed MIL the cookbook and asked her to go through it and make any other "corrections" she thought were needed so I'd be sure to have the ONLY authentic copy in the family.
dang, good for you!!!! 🔥👍
HOW DID SHE RESPOND?? I NEED TO KNOW PLEASE!!
I spent all day making a barbie doll cake for my SO's niece (who was obsessed with Barbie) for her birthday. Everyone at the party was awestruck and was raving about how beautiful it was. My SO's sister, mother of said niece, put the cake in the corner and refused to serve it. No one tried it. I have never baked for her again and never will. Fool me once... you know the rest.
Sounds like she was jealous
Excuse my ignorance but what is SO?
@@danivarius I took it to mean 'Significant Other'.
@@danivarius SO = Significant Other.
Did she save it because it looked so good? I made a cake once that had pretty roses and other fancy froufrou decorations. Then I didn't want anyone to eat it because it looked so good. This was when I was just beginning to make cakes that looked pretty and my older brother finally cut it so that everyone could have dessert.
My daughter works at our community theater and I occasionally get called in to help from time to time. Stage managers may not get love every single second but they sure as heck get mad respect. They deal with sick performers and nervous ones, loud ones that just don’t understand backstage voices. They bring in the food and drinks because dehydrated performers aren’t the best. They know who has extra eyelashes or tights and can fix a costume in three minutes or less. They are pretty dog gone awesome
And theater is chaos, so it takes a cool head and some serious organizational skills to keep everything running.
Anyone who has done theater knows, or should know, how important stage managers/prop masters/stage hands/designers/costumers/makeup/light and sound people are to any production!
My most hair raising production was when our director decided to do the musical OLIVER. He brought in eight boys aged 10 to 14. Individually the boys were nice but when they were back stage all hell broke loose, pinching the little girls til they cried, messing with costumes and prop table. One night they were galumphing around upstairs. They started climbing up the scenery flats which collapsed on stage during the performance. I joked we should have renamed the production LORD OF THE FLIES. The worst offenders were kicked out of the show. One of the lead performers drank back stage and sometimes would forget two pages of dialogue. I wished we could kick him out too.
The baking story really gets me…not my SIL but my step sister.
I used to make specialized cakes from home and had a nice little side business while my girls were young and I stayed home. I taught myself how to make elaborate cakes and cupcakes, created a great clientele and was very proud of what I could do.
Now to the incidents…it was my grandmothers 80th birthday and I offered to make the cake since my dad and his wife were hosting the party. I made a cake big enough for the 25 guests that I normally would have charged around $200 for if it was ordered. My step mothers daughter thinks herself as quite a “baker”. I put that in quotes because her idea of baking is straight from a box or remoulding already made chocolate into other shapes, pouring sprinkles on top and calling them truffles…I show up with my cake in hand and they direct me to put it on the desert table with “the other deserts”. I specifically asked if any other cakes or deserts would be served and was told no, that’s why I made such a large cake. I put my cake down beside the 50 mini cupcakes and another smaller cake that my step sister had “made” and brought. My dads side of the family is very small so most of the party consisted of my step mothers family. When desert time rolled around, my cake was hardly touched. But my step sister eagerly put each of her store made cupcakes into each of her family members hands as they gushed over her “talent”. I also heard from the younger kids on their side that they weren’t allowed to have my cake because it looked “too rich”. (Sweet)
Fast forward a few months and it is My fathers birthday. I asked if I could make My father his birthday cake and was told yes. This time I clarified in No uncertain terms that My cake would be the Only Cake or Cupcake or Cookie that would be served and was assured that was true This time.
I showed up with my fathers favourite, carrot cake with cream cheese icing and went to set it down on the desert table were I got to see the FIVE PIES that my step sister bought.
I’ve never offered or brought any desert to their home since then which was roughly 10 years ago.
I'd have tossed every pie into the trash, and not said a word.
@@Rickettsia505 was just going to comment this.
That is so unkind. 😢
Step sister suffers from a huge case of jealousy.
Carrot cake.
The cake pop story reminds me of something that happened to me. I'm French but used to live in the US, and one time we were invited to that party, to which we could bring food if we wanted to. I made a savory cake, which everyone absolutely loves. At least on my side of the ocean. Nobody except my husband and myself had a helping of it. Made me bad. Fortunately some guy showed up, asked what it was and tried it. I thought he pitied me because I was 8 months pregnant and just sitting at the table, not able to go chat with people as much as I wanted etc. Well he actually loved it and came back for more, which made my day. But it always stings a little to think people just wouldn't give it a try just because it was not a dish they were used to. 🤷🏻♀️
* made me feel bad
Dear, they simply have no courtesy nor any sort of food culture. Actual food culture.
What crazy people would refuse real French food?!
Sometimes if people aren't sure what something is they just will not try it. I had the same issue at various potlucks. I tend to bring things like pineapple cheeseball or apple cake. Most of my co-workers didn't know what they were. Only a few people tried them at end of the night. They said they liked them, but I was getting depressed until that point because I thought I would have to take home completely untouched food.
I'm glad my dad raised me in the belief that if you want to have a say in a matter you have to try it first. Afterwards you can say your opinion. My inhibition level for new food is nearly non-existent. I don't eat still living animals (e.g. baby octopus), dangerous stuff (e.g. fugu (japanese pufferfish)) or some extreme crazy food (fried butter), but all other things are fair game. I didn't know exactly what a savory cake was, so I looked up some pictures and recipes. It looks delicious and I definitely would have come to you for a try.
I'm from Germany and we have a saying that summarizes the problem you had: "Was der Bauer nicht kennt, das frisst er nicht." Meaning: "Some people won't eat anything they've never seen before." And I've talked to way too many people who came back from travelling all around the globe and who were appalled that they couldn't find their normal regional food in the foreign countries. I know, stupid!
I can relate a bit to the baker incident. Every Thanksgiving I would make pumpkin pies or other pumpkin desserts (pumpkin cake, pumpkin cheesecake, etc) for the in-laws. I made all from scratch--never used canned pumpkin--and all tasted very good--even husband approved. Cut to the dinner at in-laws' house. Mother-in-law would try a tiny piece of my dessert and complain it wasn't spicy enough or some garbage. Then nobody else would have any. Meanwhile, sister-in-law would brag on her store-bought apple and cherry pie from Kroger and everyone would eat a slice of hers and rave about them--and she DIDN'T EVEN BAKE THEM!!! I gave up trying to please them and just stopped bringing anything after a few Thanksgivings like this.
Why to even go there..??
wow, that is ridiculous! I am so sorry to hear that! 💔
Agreed. I made homemade cheesecake but they ate the jello brand “cheesecake” from a box. Following year I spent $70+ on what they asked me to bring, arrived & found they needed exactly NONE of it because they bought every bit of it themselves & already had it set up tho this was hours before the dinner. But I’m the AH. 🙄
To the cake pop lady: Do not bake anything for those horrible people ever again. Ever. Don't waste your time, talent, and energy on the ungrateful. At the next gathering, bring something that's not a dessert or just bring drinks. Better yet, bring ice! 🤣
How damn rich was that second mother-in-law to say being a nurse isn't a "real job" and then offer 10,000 for the nurse to leave??
Nursing is one of the hardest jobs out there
Seriously, healthcare is about as *real* as it gets.
So saving lives isn’t real!?!?!?
I think she (the wife) was another race because of the “return back where you came from” comment so it might’ve been racism. Tho that line could also mean from another city like how the op mentioned. If that’s the case, then maybe she was from the country side and the mother in law could’ve been discriminatory towards that. Honestly I can’t think of any other way why the mother didn’t think she was “good enough” when she was a goddamn NURSE.
@@arabelleproductions3682 Good point
I used to be a hair dresser. My dad along with most of my family said I didn't go to real school and I "just do hair". Mind you I was paying my own bills, raising a child on my own after her father passed. One day on my sisters wedding the hair dresser didn't show up. Guess who ended up saving all their butts? I thought hard about just leaving lol
You're an angel!
I've heard this many times over the years "you just do hair" or "it can't be that hard" lmao. Their tune changes when I say cool, give me a trim then! I have my scissors 😂put them on the spot
I would have left, depending on how well I liked my sister.
SpicyMayo, did that make them stop that nonsense?
Good for you-you took the high road. It doesn’t matter what others think about you. What matters is what you think about yourself.❤
I worked backstage at my local theatre when I was in high school, I did several productions, and even though they were smaller scale, I can vouch for the *job*. The stage manager was the busiest person there, and they had to fix it all, Know it all, and be able to communicate everything everybody else needed to do effectively, it was no easy feat. It was a great experience, I’d love to do it again someday. Love how the person pulled the ‘ol YOINK WITH THEM TICKETS!!!🙌🙌🤣🤣
Years ago I worked at the corporate office of a well known company and during the summer months we were extremely busy!!! It required a good amount of overtime! I worked there for about 13 years (they had some good perks too). Well, my EX-MIL (the devils evil sister) couldn’t stand me and told my husband that I wasn’t really at work but was a prostitute walking the streets. He believed her!!! When I got home after working overtime on my real job, as soon as I walked in all I remember is seeing hits closed fists coming at my head!!!! Yep, he literally beat me up because of his lying mother from hell! Oh, in case you are wondering... I’m HAPPY to say she’s dead and I’m no longer with that crappy son!!! Yes, I said happy!!!
That’s wrong on multiple levels, wtf
I don't even like cake, and every year for 16 years I wouldn't and gratefully eatthe cake that my granny would make for my birthday with her. Because she spent her time making it. It's to respectful to acknowledge and appreciate the time that someone has dedicated to making something for you
The nurse bribe story ending is perfect "MIL has suffered silently for almost 30 years"
I value to be this petty
The cakepop story is like the opposite of my friends and their cheesecakes.
So both are AMAZING bakers and cooks. One is the daughter of the other's mentor. Anyway, when the mentor mom had her pupil's cheesecake, she said that they were just as delicious as her daughter's. Daughter tried it and was like "mom I know you love me and I know you know these are better. Don't worry, I will still make you my cheesecakes when pupil can't make hers." And that was it.
I suppose this happens because my friends aren't garbage people like the cakepop family.
The Bribed Bride handled that perfectly! Not only does MiL have to hold in her rage toward OP lest she out herself as the viper that she is, but OP managed to make that happen without ruining her husband's relationship with his mother 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
In regards to the first story: I work in the arts and my dad specifically works in theatre so I decided that when anyone asks me what I’m going to do as “my real job” because “arts don’t provide real jobs”, I will always say it’s real enough to pay my bills and I don’t have a boring cubical job where I have to where stupid work clothes. (In my head, like you, Brian, the unpaid intern)
Regarding the “cake pop” story: Talentless or less talented people are often intimidated by more talented people, and will do anything they can to make them feel untalented. It can be so painful sometimes, especially if “acts of service” is one of your love languages, and so making things for others is how you express love. When people project their own egos onto others acts of love, it’s very crushing.
"Money comes and goes. Good men... Also do that."
I can't stop laughing!
I saw a t-shirt once that said, "A Hard Man Is Good To Find". No I didn't buy it, but it had me giggling all day. This T-shirt shop also had a maternity shirt that said: "I Should Have DANCED All Night!". This was about 40 years ago, but I still remember that shop that had all those funny shirts.
Hahaha Charlotte getting upset about cake pops made my day. I also have that happened to me more often than not. I used to bring nice stuff for the family gatherings for my in-laws and my husbands family just for my food to remain untouched. My MIL once told me that she wouldn’t touch my food bc I would most likely poison her or something. Can’t remember exactly how she phrased it. And it pissed me the hell off. Recently I made cinnamon rolls for my daughters baptism but instead of putting them in a plate I actually wrapped them and served them in the.way a bakery would, and told my husband NOT TO SAY A WORD. They ate the whole tray and when I saw everyone enjoy them, I made a point to get up and tell my husband in a not-so-quiet voice, that I was gonna put the other tray in the oven. And I saw their whole tune change. Like, no more compliments, but rather rried to reel it back in and say stuff like, “I mean, they were a little dry,but good effort” and shit like that. It was hilarious. To me and my husband. It’s a crappy power play the whole not eating your food, specially if someone i their family already does that. In my case, my husbands cousin handles the baking in the family. I used to care so much. Now, I just enjoy life and those silly petty moments.
Thanks to stories like these, I thought all MILs were crazy. Then I was shocked when I married, to be treated so well, especially as an immigrant. But MIL always come to go on walks with me, they check up on me if I'm sick, they celebrate my birthdays, and for christmas I get too many gifts not to mention all the food they overfeed me with. We do different activities and every gathering just feels so warm. I feel like a grown child;; it made me really appreciate them for showing what a loving family is like. I'm really thankful to my husband and his family for making my life better. If I had overly controlling and obsessed in-laws, I don't know if I'd last too long haha. It was awesome for that lady to take the 10k and stay!
I suspect she loves you because you are ADORABLE!
My first mother-in-law was great! too bad her daughter decided not to stay.
At the cakepop story, I remembered the 1st time I made a bigger amount of apple cake. My sister and her mother-in-law said, that they were horrible (I obviously got upset bc I baked all day and tried my best. My brother helped with the apples, but nobody else helped in anything). My sister said, that they were so bad, that she is doing me a favour and taking them out to the trash. I teared up and told her to let it bc my dad thought that it turned out well, so I had to make sure to bring some back to him. I took it back and after an hour or 2, I almost cried in joy. My dad ate almost all of it and even named it "worm-cake". I love him very much, bc he always respects and sees the better side in anything I make 🥰
I have been married for 28 years and I can tell you that the reasons my friends have all gotten divorced have to do with the fact that they did not communicate with their husbands about what their expectations og married life would be like. Finances, whether or not you're going to have children, what religion you'll raise those children with, even how close you plan to be to extended family. Whether you like it or not, when you marry a man you're marrying his family unless you make a conscious decision to not be around that family. Lwt's talk story as we say here in Hawai'i. When we were getting married, I just wanted a fun inexpensive wedding where everyone felt welcome. My mother-in-law jumped the gun and ordered the invitations. I knew I could choose to look at it one of two ways: she was imposing her will on us, or she was so excited she couldn't help herself. My husband told me to give him the word and he will have a talk with her, limiting her involvement, and we will send out our own invitations because it was disrespectful... But honestly it was one less thing I had to deal with so I was happy with it chose to look at it as her being so excited she couldn't help herself. (I even let her plan other things... And it turned out to be a beautiful wedding that we didn't have to pay a penny for.) I was happy to know that my husband would have my back in any future issues with her...but there haven't been any. She's been a dream of a mother-in-law. The point is my husband and I discussed that before marriage.
My advice to all of you contemplating marriage is to sit down and discuss finances, whether or not you want children and how you will raise them, as well as how often you will see family and what's your boundaries are about that before you get married. It will save you so much heartache later.
It used to feel like my parents didn’t think of my doing Instacart as a real job. But after I paid mom to do my taxes she no longer bugs me about it. (She’s an accountant) I also used to struggle with thinking I’m lazy even though I’m actually disabled. But seeing my tax return made me feel better about myself.
Yes!! This!! 💯 💯 💯
I'm an independent contractor also, I've done Uber, lyft, instacart & Amazon flex. I stayed with Amazon cus it's less fuss with your car & more reliable pay but even with that I'll still get people who don't think of it as a job for some reason smh, it's ridiculous. I'm actually my own boss dearie, I pick my own hour's & don't have to worry about calling out if your sick or dealing with other coworker's BS, to me there are so many perks to this, granted there are a few drawbacks but for me it work's 🤷🏼♀️
That “cake pop family” is an entire rack of a-holes, and that includes her fiancé, bc he doesn’t seem to speak up in her defense (unless I missed something). I actually hope she thinks long and hard about marrying this man. It’s one thing when in-laws gang up on you, and your man defends you…but when he doesn’t, that’s a deal-breaker. She shouldn’t have to fight his entire family AND HIM TOO.
I'm pretty sure he did defend her. I got the feeling that the family hate on her specifically because she's his partner. Why would they prefer one daughter-in-law over another if not because they actually despise one of their sons? I don't know, I could be wrong, but that's how I interpreted the situation
He did defend her. I think you are confusing the fiancé for the brother.
Thank you, Charlotte and Charlotte's editor, for keeping the part where you spat a little. It's so refreshing to see a RUclipsr not clean her image to this idealized version of herself. Yes, people spit. It happens to everyone. Even RUclipsrs. Really, it's not that common to leave this kind of lil mishaps so thank you for staying honest and natural with us. ❤️
And people drool when talking about cake pops. Fact.
@@pamd3331 thank you, English is not my first language. And I couldn't remember the verb drool. That's what I meant to say. Not spit. Hahaha
Yes, cake pops make us all drool haha
I thought it was hilarious and adorable, especially as she was talking about cake pops. Mmmmm cake pops.
@Johanna Kay I totally was thinking the same thing lol I thought it was perfectly adorable! 🤗
Nursing school is hard. My mom started it when I was a senior in high school I helped her study for it and it was something I knew I couldn’t do. People who go to nursing school and become nurses deserve a special kind of reward ❤
A+ nurse taking the bribe and not leaving. We love to see it
Thanks for keeping me company while I edit this morning 🥹😭❤️ perfect timing! 🥰 have a great weekend!
You too beautiful!
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This is awesome, because you’re both such amazing creators and I regularly binge watch each of you ❤
Ohh I just glanced at your channel! True Crime girl! Right up my alley! I'm looking forward to check out some of your videos tonight! 😘 Have a great day fellow TaterTot! 😀
I love your work, thank you for adding the chef’s kiss to already great content ❤
First story: I’m a theatre tech myself. It’s an exhausting but rewarding job. The hours are all over the place and my sleep schedule is wacked, but I get to be paid to be a part of some awesome performances! And I get a pretty good view of it ❤. It is a real job, thanks for acknowledging.
I was stage crew at school and the amount of times that actors ask you to fix something that wouldn't have needed doing if they'd followed directions is infuriating. Like do you understand what a prop table is for? Don't ask me why your prop isn't on the table when you had it in your hands when I told you to put it on the table.
Ive had a tough weekend with my MIL. Charlotte, you have no idea what living vicariously through these posts did for my mental health just now. Love youuu!
I was a teacher for 10 years and loved it for about 8. Once I started hating it, I resigned, changed careers and now have a traditional 9-5 job, which I enjoy and like. I have respect for everyone who makes an effort to get income, whatever the job. I am especially happy for those who love their jobs, as I know how it feels to hate every minute of being where you are to get paid.
I love the story where MIL gave a lot of money to someone she hated. 30 years later she still has to deal with her. 😂 The only difference is I would have told my husband about the money, but I know he would have agreed with me to take the money, cash it, and still get married.
That MIL got exactly what she deserved. The best part was that she couldn’t tell anyone what she had done.
Much more juicy to keep the son blissfully unaware of his mum’s unnecessary drama, while MIL got her payback, in my opinion 😂😂😂😂! Proves to MIL how irrelevant she is….& serves her right.
“If i like you, i will cook for you.” That entire thing is exactly how I am
The cake pop story is hilarious. My mom can be incredibly rude towards me and my adult daughter when it comes to cooking anything. I grew up taking cooking classes and had a catering business on the side as an adult. However, my mom hardly ever misses an opportunity to argue with me on the correct way to cook anything. When I prove her wrong she gets in a huff an walks off. I often have to comment that I'm the adult in the parent/child relationship.
Some unsupportive mother's feel inadequate if their child is a better cook and to drive the sword deeper, you were trained to cook and didn't learn from her. It is good that you stood your ground to defend your skills.
Let her do the cooking and *then* step in to critique the food, a la Sorted Food.
The funniest thing she does is claim that her version of my great grandmother's chocolate cake recipe is the better version. However, everyone likes mine better and when she makes her version everyone comments that the cake isn't as good. But she never quits and instead claims her version is the true recipe and mine isn't. (Btw - I got mine from my great grandmother's cookbook.)😂
I understand. I’m the oldest and I felt like I raised my 3 siblings and my mother. 🙄
@@klkclk22 my mother in law had several “family “ recipes that everyone absolutely loved but weren’t written down. After she passed away, I found similar recipes in different cookbooks and tweaked them until they were much like hers. Same with a few of my dad’s recipes. They might not be perfectly like the remembered version, but everyone enjoys them and all the wonderful memories that come with them. All the family appreciates the effort to continue with serving those dishes at family events.
The job thing got me!! I'm a house cleaner that makes AMAZING money and I don't have to work 24/7. My clients are amazing and I get to make my schedule so I never miss my kids events. I get told ALL THE TIME, by my mom, that I need to get a "real job". She's a teacher's aid that HATES her job... I don't understand 🤷🏼♀️
She's jealous, trust me.
You're living happier, healthier and making good money.
People like your mother are strict followers of the "misery loves company" saying.
They try to bring down the others (sometimes they try to guilt trip you) because they weren't lucky/brave/good enough to follow another path that could give them more...and they have to shit on others that did it and made it.
Best of luck for the future, Brooklyn!
Been married over 40 years and MIL has never made me feel welcomed. She has spread lies about me, picked on my looks or weight and much more. But the one thjng that sticks out is her getting out her scale when we visited to force me to weigh on it. I did it because I was raised to respect your elders. This always happened when hubby wasn't around....but sfter 20 years,he walked in on the scene of me being weighed and critiqued by my MIL. It was a great eye opener for hubby!
I've had people roll their eyes when I mention I bake my cupcakes from mix rather than from scratch. That's they way my mom always made them as it's a real time saver, and they're tasty anyways.
So yeah, let's stop gatekeeping baking. As long as it tastes good!
I was blessed with an amazing mother in law that treats me more like a daughter than my own mother. But that's a long story for another day. (My mom is a textbook narcissistic gaslighter)
You are truly blessed. I tried to be that sort of MIL. The moms of my 2 DILs however want to be the ONLY grandma.
Same here, on the day I moved in with my boyfriend my mother kicked me out and caused a fight with me. My boyfriends mum greeted me at the door to my new house with a hug and a forehead kiss, told me to forget it and that she was my new family now and then we all went for a meal.
That is my bf's story, his mom is a gaslighter, on pain pills for life (back injury) and only calls when she needs something or has gossip to tell. Whereas my mother treats my BF like a son, buy him presents etc
Same here. :) I'm no contact with my narc parents but blessed with amazing future in-laws. We just got engaged last month and my future MIL literally squealed and bear-hugged me for a solid minute. Both she and my future FIL have treated me with more warmth and kindness in just over a year than my own parents managed in 30+. Some days I'm still just amazed by it all.
1st story... as someone that worked full time (and over 40 hours per week) as a server/bartender for 20+ years... can confirm. My mom was still asking when I was gonna get a "real job." Sigh.
You can imagine her dismay now that I'm trying to turn my art and hobbies into a small business and talking about running for local politics (in our very red rural area. Sidenote, just voted in the midterms and on the back of ballot/local elections, we didn't have any independent or democrats running and half the seats were running unopposed).
You can imagine her thoughts on my progressive views.
Sidenote.. I'm finally diagnosed neurodivergent with cptsd.... I'm working through my past trauma and healing.... but still have a lot of trauma response where my mom is concerned.... just in case this sounded weird.
But damn did I get triggered by that first story... fml IS my mother to a T!
I'm sure too many can relate to this... so I'm gonna be vulnerable and leave this here... just in case someone else needs to know they aren't alone.
Sending love, encouragement and solidarity to all...especially those that never felt 'at home' in their own family.
Hang in there, you can get better.
The best thing that I ever did was stop caring what my family thinks of me. I'm LC/NC with my siblings. I love my mom but she took my stepdad's side over mine even when he was a crazy alcoholic and then bankrupted her and basically trapped her at home with jealousy and refusal to care for himself.
But I have gotten to a place where I don't dwell on these things. You can too.
@@bcaye yep. That sounds very familiar. And I've made gigantic strides... this video just happened to come while I was already disregulated....
Being beurodivergent and letting my mask come down more and more has made things trickier...
And the pandemic devastated us, financially.... so we are both having to rely on each other currently, which makes the seperation more difficult...
But I'm making progress, coming up with solutions/ goals and working towards healing, re-parenting my inner child and learning the life skills and emotional resilience and intelligence that I was never taught/shown.
Yay, progress. Yet even with progress, comes darker days. I think it's important that we have these discussions more.
Thanks for your encouragement.
@@bcaye What is LC/NC?
@@Angeldust271, low contact/ no contact.
Back when we were dating, I was asked to bring a dish to my husband's thanksgiving. It was at the aunts house. I asked what to bring and they said some dish with meat. Well I had chicken in the house so I made a chicken dish. His aunt gave me a lecture on bringing the "proper food," for thanksgiving. The following year I brought forks. Never cooked for them again. We've been married for 7 years and laugh at this story now.
I got you beat. I attended a pot luck with all my bar employees. I brought a shrimp pasta salad. Basically just shrimp, macaroni, green peppers and onions. The employees huddled together and then confronted me saying "We don't eat no fancy foods. We like plain food." Good to know, I guess.
@@dynodish I would gladly take the whole bowl. I love seafood. 🤤
Your comment of I don’t understand why people think some jobs aren’t “real” makes me so happy. I’m a waitress and my family constantly says I don’t have a real job and try to get me new ones. I don’t want a new job! I love my job
Waitressing, is to date, the hardest job I've ever done. And I've worked in emergency services for 10 years now.
Only reason I don’t consider my old jobs in retail and waitressing “real jobs” is because they didn’t pay a living wage and I was literally living paycheck to paycheck.
That’s the only qualifier for “is it a real job” is that it needs to actually be a livable wage. Beyond that - who CARES!
My MIL has always been passive aggressive and rude about me since the day we met. I was pregnant with my 2nd child and it was unfortunately a very difficult pregnancy with complications. I had just been released from hospital and they had come for a visit. My husband got up at one stage and went to hang out the washing (I was essentially on no lifting and bed rest) we were sitting playing with my 1 year old, who doesn’t understand what your saying really, and she goes to him oh your poor daddy out there having to hang out the washing 😑😑 She knew full well of my condition but apparently even if it put my baby in danger I should have been the one hanging out the washing. This is only the tip of a very large iceberg with her!
Do not let anyone disrespect you in front your child even if the child cannot understand. Even if you were not pregnant, it’s ok for the man do do something around the house.
This year my friends worked as theatre stage crew for our high schools fall play last semester and it was HELL for them. I was talking to one of them the next day in class and she was so damn tired. The meeting they were having was supposed to end no later than 6 o’clock but the director said there was too much work to get done so no one really got home until 9 o’clock. My friend kept talking to him throughout the meeting saying she had to go home to finish her homework as she was literally failing two of her main core classes (the ones that you actually NEED to pass in order to graduate) and he kept telling her this was more important and that she was needed there. She had already finished all of her background work and setting up the backstage working area. She had people cover for her and she snuck out of the meeting around 7:30 to go home.
This was a HIGH SCHOOL production and they were only stage crew. So I can’t imagine what the real deal would be like as a stage manager.
Your take on work (4:05 - 5:45) is how everyone should look at it. Whether one is a lawyer, hairdresser, doctor, musician, or RUclipsr, if you're making a living, be proud of that, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
So glad I do not suffer from this situation. Not sure how it happened but through marriage I garnered the best MIL a lady could hope for! She is the sparkle in my diamonds and I love her to bits.
Aww, that's awesome for you!
I've always been glad that my older bf is already an orphan, so I don't have to deal with his (stern) parents
If I was that nurse I would have not only taken the $10,000 but also moved back to "where I came from" with the new husband, then technically you've done as she asked! 😊
Omg! All of these MIL’s deserve it! I have thankfully married into an amazing family! My MIL is so sweet and her sisters are also super sweet. I married into a sweet family. Since my mom passed 2.5yrs ago my MIL has now become just mom. The nurse one was epic and definitely the best one.
Also, volunteering when money is not tight is very rewarding. I had the same thing with a volunteer gig! My FIL knew that a place I volunteered at could get him primo seats at an international Show Jumping venue. But we had decided that the twenty seats we were given would make some underprivileged kids ecstatic (we were right). But FIL was furious when he found out that there weren’t any left, even thought general seating was $5.
I ❤❤❤ to bake, and after years of finding recipes and honing my skills, I can say I make some tasty treats! I post on Facebook because I'm proud of what I make.
I hadn't met my SIL, although we were friends on Facebook due to living in separate states. I finally got the chance to fly out and visit her and a lot of the family.
She picked me up at the airport, and we were chatting and getting along like we had known each other for years. She suddenly brought up that she has a chocolate chip cookie recipe that she loves and was wondering, maybe, if I'd like to bake a batch with her. OF COURSE I DO!!! She thought that maybe, since I post some fancier desserts on occasion, I wouldn't be interested.
Her recipe was amazing! We had fun baking, watched The Great British Baking Show, and ate warm cookies from the oven.
The trip was so much fun and I came home with a new recipe to keep. 😀
I freaking love that she kept the money and then still married the son. 👏👏👏 I would have done the same thing (I'd hope Id do the same). It's not enough money in the world for me to get rid of my person AND the icing on the cake is that I'd get to giggle to myself every time I saw mil and know she is fuming and can't say anything.... brilliant *evil maniacal laugh 😂
I have never been able to say that I loved any of my jobs, including my current one, so props to anyone who is able to do what they love for a living.
"Money comes and goes. Good men...also do that" 😂😂
Never a truer word 😂
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To the $10,000 girl who outsmarted her MIL. We bow to you. I hope you enjoyed the money! Please tell us you did 💵 The beauty of Charlotte taking the cake pops so personally. Potato Queen if there were a potato peel version of the Iron Throne I'd be at your feet 👑
I just lost my MIL to advanced dementia💔 but for 35yrs she was always one of my biggest cheerleaders whether or not I was on top of my game or down loooooow I miss her sigh
I’m so sorry to hear ❤️
I’m so sorry for your loss! I’m going through this now with my soon to be MIL. She has almost end stage dementia but before it got too bad she was always so loving and kind to me. It’s been super hard lately because she thinks my fiancé is her husband who has passed away and he’s cheating on her with me. 😢
@@CharlotteDobre TYVM and tyvm for helping me smile DAILY! You are my Lucy!!!
@@hartleyb8356 TYVM and Im sorree also for you. It gets harder so sending positive energy to you friend!!! 🤗
I’m a freelance writer and work from home. I typically work 6-7 days per week. My family doesn’t view what I do as a “real job” because I’m home. As a result and despite how many times I ask them not to, they constantly interrupt me all day. It’s annoying. It’s difficult sometimes to maintain a solid stream of thought so I can focus. I write a lot of medical articles which requires hours of research and attention but…it’s not a “real job.” They, on the other hand, do not work at all and do little around the house.
They interrupt you?! Do you all live under the same roof? Then move out. If they’re calling you, turn off the ringer during your working hours. If there’s an emergency - they should call 911 because you’re a writer, not a first responder. If they’re coming to your place, don’t answer the door. Silence your doorbell. If they knock and keep knocking, call the police and ask them to swing by your place because there are people at your door that you’ve asked to leave.
The worst part of the cake pop story is that they went on and on about how good they were until they found out they weren't Kay's, and then they just straight up lie. Sounds a bit like my family, except in my case, my husband can do no wrong, I can do no right, and "I'm lucky to have him." While I am lucky to have him, it's not in the way they mean it. I skipped right past petty to we no longer speak. Except for my mom. She's my best friend and the dream mil. My husband and her have a delightful friendship. I say toss out the toxic!
Coming from family that loves baking this last story made me really angry. Baking is awesome way to bond.
My husband mentioned to me that my family always seem to do competition on baking during holidays 😂
But it's friendly competition, where everyone tries everything and discusses what was great any tips and recepies are exchanged so they can be reproduced. I would feel sad to loose this part of each gathering.
People are weird. Keep on baking!
It sounds like FMIL and FSIL steered her into that housework convo so that FMIL could insult her. I think she got ambushed so that FMIL could state her opinion. This was really gross. I’m glad she canceled the tix and stuck up for herself. They will probably think twice before doing that again.
“I feel like we don’t have to hate our jobs in this day and age” YES YES YES
This hit me hard, far more than I was expecting. My wife lost her mother in May through C-19 in the end. However, there was 6 months of complications following a kidney transplant. Things went wrong in every flukish way possible, please if you’re up for a transplant the chances of history repeating itself are almost impossible. She didn’t go easily at all and she fought like a little good 'un.
She was silly, intelligent, funny, wise, full of love, had a backbone of steel and incredibly generous. I’ve said before my in-laws almost lost Hazel (Wifey) so their bond was strong. They accepted me from the get go, we could disagree but not fall out. I was luckily enough to have the world's greatest wife and in-laws, still have the best father in law.
Thank you for reminding me I’m luckier than I deserve.n
Can confirm that stagehand work is a real job. My husband stage manages for the local symphony and does rigging, load-ins and load-outs, and electrical work for our local performing arts center through the union. I occasionally work some load-ins and load-outs and work wardrobe for musical theater tours. We just did Hamilton and Lion King in the last few months. It is exhausting work, but it is super rewarding. Highly recommend joining your local IATSE for anybody who is interested in trying this kind of work. The rates are pretty good, depending on where you are.
I love my mother in law. She is truly amazing person.
I was the outsider for nearly 30 years under the tyranny of my mil and her mother. I divorced him and they both died. My ex has never even went on a date since we divorced. I’ve moved on and I’m very happy. I no longer get put down and scrutinized by someone else’s family. I’d shove some cake pops up their arses! Lol 😂 I love her pettiness!
Haha it's so true that people can hate you for doing something and enjoying it that they didn't do. Like me, I never got married and I seem pretty happy so they're constantly telling me what a failure I am because they're miserable in their marriages. They don't realize I can see right through them LOL and now I've learned a new term, cake pop is that like a soda? I have never had this before just regular cake and cupcakes so now I got to look it up LOL
Cake Pops are when you take unfrosted cake, crush it up, mix the frosting into it and squish it into round balls. A stick is then shoved in so it looks like a lollipop. In other words, they are made by ruining perfectly good cake.
That cake pop story was petty gold, you should give small awards to the pettiest story that you react to in each video
I was in a relationship and his mom offered me 5,000 to leave I took it and still came to thanksgiving dinner 😂 she gave me the glare of death and I insisted on saying grace and prayed over the food and then proceeded to thank her for the 5,000 she gave me to leave her son 😂 because we were saying what we were grateful for ( which I also insisted on everyone saying what they were grateful for) 🤭 now I could’ve been the bigger person and could’ve also never took the money but then I would not have a great story to tell years later AND I WOULDNT OF MADE SUCH EASY MONEY TY MONA FOR YOUR GREAT CONTRIBUTION TO MY BANK ACCT I WAS GOING TO LEAVE YOUR SON ANYWAY I JUST WAS WAITING TILL AFTER THE HOLIDAYS 😊😂❤ BUT YOU PUT A BOW ON TOP OF A FANTASTIC YEAR! 😉
Yessssssssss 💜
7:55 oh so she gave her DIL a dowry, awe how lovely of her 😂😂
I love my 9-5 job. 😍 I did theatre at university and the hours were really difficult. Kudos to anyone who chooses to live and love that life so the rest of us can be entertained. DEFINITELY a “real” job!
I'm addicted to the petty. I cannot stop watching these at 2 am and cackling like a witch to myself.
6:15 Yup basically Mother's trying to mold their sons into the ideal man they could have had. Which leads to two things usually: Son's rebelling against the control, or Son's finding a woman who is opposing their Mothers (and in a way helping set them free)
As a Nurse of almost 20 years, I am amused by people who think it's not "good enough"!!! I have missed countless Christmases so that I can take care of other people's family members. I have to uphold a standard of care to maintain my license, which includes upgrades to my education on a regular basis. When you go to the hospital, sick and scared, or dying, who do these people think are going to rise to the occasion?? That's right, a freaking Nurse!! I won't have anyone saying anything about what a Nurse is or is not!! It's a bloody challenging profession, and not everyone could handle the pressure (especially working through a global pandemic).
These snobs see nursing as serving someone, hence being a 'servant', hence being a peasant! I could just imagine how they'd treat the nurses if they were ever hospitalized. They'd be the Karen patients from H.E.L.L.!
🤣🤣🤣 Jesus, I'm crying. This was so funny. This is honestly my favorite channel on RUclips. Unrequited cake pop love. 😅
I love you charlotte! I watch your videos every day and you are part of my routine! Thank you for being you!
I had a “non traditional job” and made more in a day than my 9-5 friends made in a week 🤷♀️
You never need to justify yourself to jealous people. Make them more jealous by being really happy.
My job was not conventional either. I usually drove over 50 miles every day to pick up water or wastewater samples. That included. Running tests at the sample site, recording all needed data, flushing systems, changing out 150 cyclinders of gas, pulling sludge beds. And then when I got back to home lab making needed agar, titrates, one other medias for tests. Then running the more in-depth testing required on samples collected that day. Finishing tests that had to develop from1 to 4 days before completed and collated. Not to mention filing weekly and monthly required paperwork on all the samples from all the different places for state and federal EPA agencies. And believe it or not I loved my job. Doing different things on different days. And never knowing when something might pop up that may extend my daily work hours to 16 or more hours in a 24 hour time frame. Like having to pull a sludge pump that broke and put a new one in and then seeing if it was something I could fix. Don’t know how many times I said I work in water & wastewater management and some one said oh that’s just monitoring meters and opening and closing valves.
My father had a lot of power in the town I grew up in. So much so that at the age of 21 I could buy ANYTHING with a motor but was not allowed to buy/rent a house or get an apartment. While out on the "main drag" I met someone and over time became serious. When my dad found out that I had bought an engagement ring and had a special thing planned over the weekend. He told me to go ride with him. He was driving a Pantera (Serious bad ass car), we were in the car business so the car did not stick out as much as you would expect. I rode with him on a lot of cars when he was checking them out because I could hear stuff he could not... While on the test drive he asked if I liked the car. Hell yea this is great. He then said, This is a single guys car, a married guy could never have one like this. When we got back he said "So is this your car?" I said no Sandy (Not her real name) likes my old yellow dodge 4X4....
Looking back in longing reflection, I SHOULD HAVE TOOK THE CAR