AITA For Not Letting My Cousin Borrow My Wedding Dress ? - REACTION
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Hey ya'll! Today on my channel we are reacting to some posts on one of the spiciest reddit threads around, AITA.In this video, a woman asks if she is the the AH for not letting her cousin borrow her wedding dress, a father who asks if he was in the wrong for making a dad joke, and a diabetic woman who asked if she's the AH for not letting her pregnant sister in law steal her snacks.
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FAUX PA 😂
This was the best pun I’ve heard in a while! Faux Pa for the win!!
That joke just flew over my head. I had to rewind the video. 😂😂🙈 That was hilarious!
Thank you for making me a better person
Hey, what brand are the lights you have in the background
"Oh Dang"
Was all the words I could say 😂
Honestly for the bride I don’t think she should compromise. Her cousin didn’t know that was her dream dress until she saw a one of a kind dress that wasn’t hers. You shouldn’t let families walk all over you and a wedding is a personal thing. Her cousin should find her own thing and stop being so entitled to something that was never hers to begin with.
Yes! I agree
I inadvertently upset my best friend's mother, for kind of an opposite reason. I was a professional tailor at the time, and my BFF honored me by asking me to be Godmother to her daughter. I was thrilled, and asked her if I could make her christening gown and she was very happy about that. I made this very long, multi-tiered dress of fine white Irish linen accented with silk ribbon embroidery (her husband was Irish). I put a lot of time and love into it, and my bff was thrilled with the dress and had professional portraits made.
Her mother was angry, because all the children for the last 80 years had worn the same christening gown so it was "tradition". My bff hated that thing, it was old, yellowed and very plain. She never told me about that "heirloom" dress because she wanted her daughter to wear the dress her Godmother made that was better for photos. Later I altered the bodice to make it larger, and the little girl wore it until she was 6-7 years old for dress-up. I don't know if grandmother ever forgave me! Oh well.
Exactly!
100% Agree! My guess also is she knows her cousin and there's a reason she didn't let her copy it.
That cousin is so damn entitled omgggg
Honestly, have to respectfully disagree on the whole wedding dress debacle. Any family that's willing to freeze you and your mother out because you won't give them *your* things that you're saving for *your* daughter to potentially (and which was made by her dead grandma) use are petty a-holes that you are better off without. It's rare to see a more clear example of "you might not pick your family, but you do get to pick whether to spend time with them or not". If they want to axe her out of their relationship it sounds like their loss and she should most certainly not bend over to accomodate people who try to emotionally blackmail her like this.
I agree with you, what would stop the cousin from deciding to keep the dress after the wedding just cause she had worn it for the wedding and wants it for keeps now.
yes THIS
Absolutely agree! Being bullied by relatives is NOT ok.
Especially now that there is a stupid 'trash the dress' event. What's to keep the cousin from jumping into a lake in the wedding dress so the OP can never use it again? NTA NTA N.T.A.
Yeah, the family is trying to manipulate her with emotional blackmail. She doesn't owe anyone anything. Why is the family defending the cousin? The cousin sounds like a brat that has never been told no. If she gives in or compromises, this behavior will continue.
For the diabetic wife, she should just straight up tell her husband “so what you’re saying is you want me dead. I could literally die or end up in a diabetic coma if my blood sugar drops too low, but heaven forbid SIL or her effing Husband get off their effing asses and buy their own effing snacks. Good to know you like entertaining thoughts of me dead.”
Exactly, they are literally threatening her life. The SIL is pregnant not chained up in the basement starving to death. Why tf aren't they buying their own food? If they are they can get their own snacks. As someone with a life-threatening chronic illness I understand how dangerous things can get when people refuse to take your condition & needs seriously. That her own husband is doing this is beyond terrible & I'd seriously consider divorcing him over this.
I think there’s definitely something going on with the sister-in-law and husband, If he’s fighting for the sister-in-law so hard and not his own wife.
@@lexxphil the baby is his 🤭
well, Saying it like that makes it sound unreasonable and petty as hell, but the main point is true. Cutting the sister in law some slack for her being pregnant sorta counts as her being sick, is a nice thought, but ignoring the ops actualy sickness over it and being ingnorant of how that is putting her health and potentialy life in danger absolutly deserves to be called out . . . but in a way that actualy allowes conversation.
give them a book on diabetes and feed them only bread, bam them from water
UPDATE ON THE DAD JOKE:
My son found the post, and shared it with my daughter. This was after apologizing to her. She cried again.
So last week, we decided to have a father/daughter bonding weekend. Honestly, it was awesome. I took her bowling, to get a manicure, becoming Disney princesses(I looked awesome as Jasmine), and so forth. She loved it. I loved it. Everyone was happy. Then we decided to go out to eat dinner. “I’m starving, what do you want Maddie?” “Hi Starving, I’m not your daughter”. She had this biggest smirk on her face. She hugged me and I kissed her forehead. I’m sure she’d been planning this for weeks.
Best update ever
Best Update on the PLANET
That's so cute😊😊😊
She had that loaded and ready for the right opportunity and she got it. Best update!
❤ so glad to hear everything was good with all of you ❤️
With the diabetic vs pregnant lady, definitely NTA. Also, if you have to resort to sugar water TO NOT (potentially) DIE, and your husband doesn't care, then you should throw out the whole husband. Immediately.🚩🚩🚩
Absolutely my thought! Keep the snacks, put the husband out of the bedroom xD
Husband has past his expiry date.. bin it.
@@ddhaliana okay I laughed at that 😅 but absolutely agreed
Amen
I agree that she should put him back in the fridge and keep the snacks in the bedroom 😂👍
Like literally take him out with the recycling on Tuesday xD
I'm just baffled over the diabetic vs. pregnant woman. It's clear no one knows what diabetes is on that side of the family. It's not childish. If the BIL and SIL are not footing any of the bills or groceries and have the generosity of allowing them to stay in someone else's home, they shut up and accept what they get. Don't touch a diabetic's essentials. -_-
I'm more mad at the husband than anyone in this situation tbh. He straight up YELLED at the wife over this?! Even if you disagree, yelling in an adult relationship is super disrespectful, especially over something as stupid as snacks. More so when she's already doing so many favors for HIS family.
I Hope the wife starts farting on his pillows at night. He's the worst
@@kiraeckard7625 I’m wondering why he’s more concerned about the pregnant SIL than he is his wife
I would buy a lock box and keep my snacks in it in the fridge😊
I agree, my fiance is diabetic (type 1) and he puts his emergency snacks in the fridge, I am also currently pregnant and I would never dream of taking any of them snacks as just in case he needed them
And when did being pregnant mean you were 'kinda sick, in a way'?
I'm also diabetic and the snacks I keep around for low blood sugars have tons of sugar (hence why they work so well). The petty part of me says put those snacks back, let her keep shoving them in her greedy face and enjoy the sight of her ballooning weight. 😏😁
That last one said more about her husband than anyone else in that story. She has a life threatening condition that relies on her having emergency food, and not only will he not get it for her when she needs it, he then calls her childish for not sharing it with people who should be able to get their own food. Frankly, the husband and their guests are the ones acting like children. Grown ass adults feed themselves and don't throw tantrums.
It’s so maddening. I often replace any food or drink I’ve had after a pet-sitting gig, even though my family and friends say I’m welcome to anything in the house. I cannot fathom being so selfish as to deplete someone’s snack cupboard and not replace what I’ve eaten at least sometimes-never mind if that someone was a life-threatening condition. (And I am even more flabbergasted by what a wretch her husband is, sheesh.)
For the last story, the husband's attitude on the situation is sending red flags. The way he is dismissive on the fact, his wife has a life threatening disorder and these snacks are keeping her alive/healthy makes me question his love for her. Having a life threatening disorder myself, I cannot imagine being married to someone who is THIS dismissive on my needs that keeps me ALIVE. In this specific scenario, the husband is displaying trashy behaviour by prioritizing another woman's wants before his wife's needs. I would question his loyalty.
Spot on. The husband is the A-hole here, as he's downplaying his wife condition and REFUSES to go out to replenish her snacks when the effing sister-in-law devours everything in the house. What kind of shite family did the OP marry into, FFS?
Honestly as somebody with eating problems who is constantly sick and has bad health, I completely agree with you, someone stealing my food is grounds for me to punch them and to hold a gruge for life, but this, my husband not defending me when I am clearly right, I would be giving him an ultimatum,and if he doesn't comply I am out the effing door.
Exactly, if they dont have kids, id advice her a divorce, she deserved better
Its obvious that he's a cheater
Exactly. I can't imagine that! A good husband would stand up for his wife when SIL eating the snacks could literally unalive OP, and also would make sure OP always had a supply/run out to the store when she's feeling woozy.
The first one boiled my blood. The audacity of “cousin”. The length they go to for her refusal is proof she shouldn’t do it. They are disgusting and she should be honored to be disowned from such a petty family
Sometimes, the trash takes itself out. That first one was a great example.
Exactly! She should be happy that that “family” doesn’t think she fits with them. And it’s this video or another from Char where it’s addressed that getting married doesn’t entitle you to other people’s stuff. Family and friends will offer and bend over backwards when someone they love is getting married- they usually are as excited as the bride! I know I was. But this is over the top and went too far. Dear Lord…
Yes, good riddance.
I saw this in Reddit. Honestly, the bride is NTA. It's her wedding dress, which means that it's her right to say no.
Plus it was her husband's mother and he said no. Respect their wishes.
Let's also not forget the husband, whose mother died, also said "no"...
my mom tailored her wedding dress into dresses for my dolls and a blouse for me, when I was a child. My mother is very much smaller than me and I could never have worn her dress myself, but these little pieces of her wedding dress still mean a lot for me and I will give my old plushy doll with her dresses to my daughter one day.
Exactly, you dont have to give a reason for not letting someone wear, AND ALTER, your wedding dress!! Its yours, no one has a right to it!
@@pinkarmadillomd Exactly! I think the husband should have the final word on this, and he was very clear about his wishes for it to be saved for his daughter. The cousin isn't even related, and is just being a spoiled brat.
This has got me thinking about the dress my mother wore in 1956 to marry my dad, and I wore for my 1st wedding. It's not white, not an obvious wedding dress, but I think it's charming. It's embroidered gold satin with tiny sparkling crystals on the bodice, off the shoulder with a full just below the knee length skirt. It looks like something Lucy would have worn in the 50s for a special night at Ricky's club.
I still have it, but don't have a daughter. I do have a niece I'd like to give it to, just for her to have it. She's already married, to a trans man who I wish my mom could have met. Momma was an advocate for equal rights for all people and one of her closest friends was a gay man. She would love her grand-son-in-law.
My niece is a professional actress who is now a theatre director. I'm thinking this sweet dress might be something she would love to use in one of her productions, or just to wear on date night with her husband. It would look so good on her, she's a beautiful woman who could be Kelly Ripa's doppelganger.
I have a feeling that my brother would be angry and think I was disrespecting our mother, but he'd be wrong. He quit talking to me 6 years ago when he joined the red hat cult, and also became very "religious", but not in a good way. He is ashamed of his beautiful, talented daughter and it breaks my heart.
I've decided now that his opinion doesn't matter. I want her to have this dress and I know my mom would want her to have it too. I need to stop worrying about what my brother thinks.
I got really low blood sugar when I didn’t eat enough while pregnant, but you know what? I bought my own damn snacks instead of expecting others to feed me. I hid them everywhere too. I’m appalled that 3 grown humans think that this is acceptable behavior to take snacks from a diabetic!!
Those aren't adults and should not be raising kids.
Can you imagine the entitlement those kids will have?
Hmm, maybe all of them eating them? Because pregnant woman eats a lot but not this much, like they probably all mad because they can’t eat these snacks anymore and say that sister in law ate them😂
Yeah pregnant woman can eat a lot but I doubt her husband didn’t help her
Exactly
@@lerasysak5299…………… yeah anyways that pregnant lady can buy her own snacks my brother used to go out with my mom and even make the snacks she wanted when she was pregnant with me lol pregnant women do need help, and kindness, but they aren’t useless my brother said u should’ve seen my mom sprint to the kitchen for pickle juice and ice cream 😭😭
As a diabetic I had a very similar incident with a former roommate, she would continually eat all of my emergency juice and snacks and then accused me of overreacting when I told her that I almost died the previous night because she ate all of my food. The most infuriating part was that she also had a list of medical conditions but deemed all of her health complications as legitimate and my diabetes was “just an overreaction”. So thankful I don’t live with her anymore.
I’m so sorry that you had to put up with such a narcissistic person like that. I hope everything is going better now.
The diabetic woman...WOW, if this is how her husband treats her - putting his brother and SILs convenience in front of your health - I would seriously consider moving out for a trial separation with marriage counseling. The fact that husband is not willing to protect her health by: 1) agreeing with wife re: snack location, 2) educating his brother and SIL, 3) going out to get a snack when she needs it, or 4) kicking his brother and SIL to the curb, tells me he needs a swift kick in the arse.
🙌🙌🙌
Because she DOES NOT NEED THEM. she just like to eat unhealthy. Simple sugar is the best when you are low
HEAR YEE HEAR YEE! ✋
Fast acting carb with protein so you don't bounce. That fast acting carb can be whatever you want, no one wants to try to measure out sugar when you are low.
Yup. I put up with a lot but a failure to be a decent human being to the person you have committed to earns my instant contempt and its hard to get back back my " time of day" without evidence of serious change of approach grovelling and appropriate addressing of the situation. in this case the remedies would be : 1) invite both butthurts to leave if they cannot withstand the idea that something that Is not theirs continues to not belong to them 2) invite both parties to leave if they are unable to plug their butthurt and apologise for the offence they have taken without even trying to communicate first with the person they felt had " offended" them and instead used the spouse as a mean of emotional blackmail and manipulation 3) make a point of addressing the spouses needs by tending to them without needing to be asked or question it, cause that is what a decent spouse does 4) apologise profusely in front of others and in private for allowing oneself to fail in their spousal role and defend the unit they had committed in creating 5) seek counselling to figure out how the spouse has reached a stage in life where the discomfort of others became more important than the ability of a person to exist.
I was pregnant not too long ago (9months) and we lived with my husband’s parents. I was eating snacks all the time but I’d buy them myself and if something was off limits I wouldn’t eat it period. Being pregnant does not turn you into an entitled piece of crap, but it does give pieces of crap an excuse to act out on it
As a teenager, I can confirm that we suck. Like a lot. That joke was so funny that I honestly would’ve laughed myself or tried my best not to laugh. Especially since he apologized so well afterwards, I think that dad wins best dad joke of the year and best apologizer of the year as well.
Also, lesson learned for the kid. My parents have 100% turned shit around on me like that and it was like "sorry yea , I did sound like a hole there" and then it was fine.
the clincher about the snacks one is that the husband won't buy her the snacks when they're out and she needs them and yet he's demanding to put them where someone else can take them. when your husband does not put you first, you really need to examine if you should be married to that person especially when your life could be on the line.
Also, it doesn't sound like the mooching brother & brother's wife are paying for any snacks, so where's 'sharing' come into it? And WHY are they living with them? Are they paying rent. Sounds like the OP should get out and run the eff away from her shite husband and his toxic family. FFS, don't breed with that AH.
I love these people using "share" as if there's any actual sharing going on. If they were eating her snacks, but then bringing her some to replace them, that would be sharing. Taking things endlessly without reciprocating isn't sharing; it's being a greedy turd.
Awesome point!
Amen
Yesss!!! This one has me angry 🤣 what grown up does this?
Yeah, what are the SIL and BIL “sharing”? Sounds like they’re just taking
If the husband wants snacks in the fridge, he can buy them or, the BIL can buy them and put them there. If my hubby yelled like that to me over same situation I’d divorce the jerk.
So, let me get this straight... Being pregnant is now an illness that can qualify a person as being "sort of sick" but being a diabetic that literally needs to monitor their sugar and intake, or they'll actually die is... irrelevant? I totally understand that a pregnant woman needs to make sure they're getting the right amount of nutrition as well, but how is it OP's job? Oof. That one pissed me off tbh like just imagining someone demanding my diabetic mom's drinks and snacks because they're feeling a bit peckish makes my blood boil.
It was properly a reference to morning sickness, pregnancy cravings etc., but still.
I was pregnant last year and I would never have demanded my diabetic father to give me his food!
@@martinaasandersen3775 if you have morning sickness you do not wat snacks with a high sugar content- you drink ginger or mint tea and eat something soothing for the stomach.
Maybe she has undiagnosed gestational diabetes and feels crappy and sugar just, low and behold, does the trick. Not saying that is the case, but it is extremely common.
@@SonOfBaldo which doesn't entitle her to eat snacks that belong to a diagnosed diabetic.
The one with the snacks made me want to cry... The person's not childish, WHAT THE HELL? If you're an adult and you want stuff, go buy it yourself, don't just assume you can eat whatever is in your sight like a vacuum, especially when someone else NEEDS it. It's not a matter of want, but of need.
Exactly, and they say "share", it's not sharing if you finished them. Your pregnant woman, your responsibility.
"She's 15" is not an excuse to be an a-hole to her dad. I've been 15 too, my dad adopted me and has been through hell and back with his family for marrying a divorced woman with 2 kids. I'd never say something so hiddeous to him, even in a fit of rage
Yep, same here, although I will say, having worked with high school aged children quite a bit, there is sometimes a filter that gets knocked loose every now and again.
The diabetic one is ridiculous. My dad is a type 1 diabetic and growing up everyone understood that we couldn't eat all the food that we kept specifically for his blood sugar going low. We were allowed to eat SOME but definitely not all. It can literally be a life or death situation. Her idiot family should know that. I'd be rethinking my marriage if that was my husband tbh.
Completely agree! My cousin started his battle with his diabetes through the 50’s as a child, and the whole family knew NEVER to eat Flyod’s cookies. (My Aunt had a special container special made just for him when his sugars would plummet.) My Dad said all the kids in the family kept cookies in their pockets just for him when they played together (and you didn’t dare eat them) as they understood it was a life and death matter for him!
Was about to say, even my 7 year old cousin understood why I couldn't give him the "cool snacks" he found while I was babysitting because, not only were they not mine, but they were meant for my type 1 roommate if their sugar was low.
Facts. Exactly what I ranted to my husband about lol. If getting me a snack when it's a life or death situation is an inconvenience then you are not cut out to be someone's life partner. It's clearly genetic because both men are terrible husbands, the other one won't help his PREGNANT wife by buying snacks? I would have filed for divorce THAT DAY.
honestly that was making me low-key angry! They are literally gaslighting her. And her husband is reinforcing it. What a shame of a husband! He of all people should understand the severity of his wife being a diabetic.
I didn’t grow up around type 1 diabetics, but my dad has a severe peanut allergy. To this day, peanut butter sandwiches need two different knives (1 for jelly, 1 for pb) in my house, so I understand the idea of setting aside food that is untouchable.
If I was diabetic and I had people stealing my snacks and my own husband yelling at me over it, I'd hide my snacks (F*** sharing they're mine) and get a new husband.
I'd leave, that is very toxic environment that no one needs to be in. My dh is diabetic type II and he has his snacks. I have high blood pressure and have my own. We respect each other's needs. The husband in that situation is over the line. The pregnant lady needs to go buy her own snacks and quit stealing snacks from someone with a serious life threatening medical issue.
Do. Not. Eat. The. Diabetes. Snacks.
I think sharing is only supposed to apply to things you don't need to live. For example, sharing could be playing with the blocks in kindergarten with another student. Sharing is not giving your EpiPen to someone else when you also need it. Sharing is for luxuries and fun things.
Ya, she shouldn't be wondering if she's the asshole, she should be asking if she should get divorced.
Agree re: the husband. What an effing tool.
A woman's wedding dress is hers to do with what she pleases! I had a beautiful, hand-made dress that I could have easily sold. My marriage ended in divorce, so I chose to use my dress on Halloween and stuff it full of straw. I turned it into a hilarious "scarecrow bride" on my front porch 🎃 The whole neighborhood got a big kick out of it, and it made me happy. So, again the moral of this story is that a bride's dress is HERS to save for posterity, use, sell, destroy, throw-away etc.
Exactly, there is no compromising here. Nobody has the right to anybody else's wedding dress. I am surprised Charlotte did not agree, but she admitted to be a doormat in another video🤣🤣🤣
When someone shows you their true colors, believe them! That diabetic woman needs to RUN not walk out of that relationship. Absolutely horrifying not to mention straight up abusive. I really hope she left him. Would love to see an update on that one.
The red flags hitting me in the face for that diabetic story, my girl if you are getting screamed at by your husband for keeping things you need to LIVE safe, it is time for some SERIOUS relationship counseling, or a new SO all together 😬
A divorce lawyer and a bottle of tequila! (Or whatever your favorite booze/vice is)
Skip the counseling go straight to divorce. If someone shows they genuinely don’t care about your safety they’re not worth spending all that emotional labor (plus the continuing physical danger) until when/if they do better.
That last story hits too close to home for me, my 3rd son was a type 1 diabetic, so we kept lots of different snaks for him. He died in 2018 at the age of 4, from complications to type 1 diabetes. So snacks are NOT just a craving, they are a life essential
*EDIT*
Wow! Thanks for the supportive comments. I really do appreciate it. Our family is doing well after some therapy and a lot of love. I still try to being awareness to Type 1. I don't find jokes about diabetes funny for instance "one bite will give you diabetes" or "That's a cup of diabetes right there" if I were to make jokes about cancer I would get death threats, yet diabetes always seems to be joked about, or never taken seriously because it's "your fault you have it." Which is not true. I feel like the husband in that story does think his wife's diabetes is her fault and a "consequence of her lifestyle" she really needs to reevaluate that
I'm so sorry for your loss!... The entitlement is unbelievable of the SIL. She has a husband that can buy her snacks. Sometimes you have to lay down the law and let it be known that it is your house and not theirs! If they don't like it then they can find their own place.
Biggest hugs. I'm so sorry
this probably wont mean anything to you but im type one as well and im so sorry for this. my life goal is literally to get rich (basic sounding ik) only so that i can donate to JDRF to try and find a cure. im trying to dedicate my whole life to finding a cure so things like this dont happen. im so sorry again, my heart goes out to you.
Yeah, that one struck home for me as well. Just the entitlement of some people is sickenning, and the fact that OP’s husband wasn’t supportive at all just shows how little he cares for her. Those snacks can be the literal deciding factor between life and death for her. I just hope they get whats coming to their entitled A-holes.
Yeah SIL is essentially saying she doesn’t care if OP dies as long as SIL gets snacks. It’s honestly sick and should not be enabled. If my significant other yelled at me for taking steps to save my own life just because it minory inconvenienced their family I would a leave.
I recall seeing that post about the dad joke in another RUclips video and the father had added another update. He said later that day (after the conversation where the daughter started to cry), the family was having dinner and she took the opportunity to make a dad joke back at him, which he found hilarious. It seems like they got through it okay.
I've been pregnant once and some cravings where really bad for me. This is how I went about it. I either bought all of my snacks or if it was something I knew I couldn't get I would ask someone if they were willing to sell it to me or to trade for something I had. I just wanted to taste it and get it over with anyways.
I had Jamaican neighbors, and their food always smell so good until one day I just had to ask if they could give me or sell me a plate of their dinner. They were so sweet and after they found out I loved their food they started to give me plates here and there. I sent my husband to buy them some food ingredients or beers because I felt bad taking their food without giving them anything.
this is how you do it
Since when did a woman being pregnant mean they can overrule someone else's needs necessary for their health. Pregnancy is not a sickness.
Pregnancy is definitely not an excuse to be an asshole, I agree; and OP's husband is an idiot for sure.
But this has me thinking, outside of this reddit story's context, can pregnancy fit into the definition of sickness? I think so bc a lot of the time it changes a person's body for the worse. Hmm, I'd say pregnancy is usually worse than a cold.
Pregnancy is considered a temporary medical condition, bc it can cause side effects, but not a sickness in and of itself
@@acecat5575 thanks for the answer. I understand a social want for distinction but aren't a lot of sicknesses technically temporary medical conditions? This is probably sth I can google lol.
@@Tikachu I think technically it's not, since most sicknesses do not come with good things. Like if you get sick while pregnant you're more likely to get better from it faster since the baby in your womb sends cells to aid the mother in fighting said illness. Mothers get more health benefits when pregnant with a child. Did you know that pregnant mothers have a reduced risk of getting breast cancer and other types of cancers. They are less likely to suffer strokes while pregnant, they have easier periods after pregnancy, they have a reduced risk from MS, Mothers also get a boost in mood(most of the time there are always exceptions). Also apparently sex is better, I did not know that, nor did I want to. However that is what I found out through research. I did not know that at first. I gotta admit that is pretty cool.
@@PinkPanther45518 I've heard about the sex thing too! Yeah, that's pretty cool. I had forgotten about the healing super powers. OK, Ok you're making a great case for pregnancy but do the pros outweigh the cons? I mean yeah, a pregnant person might have a _reduced risk_ while pregnant but if they had developed either gestational diabetes, pre-eclampsia or had a preterm delivery then pregnant folks have a higher risk of heart disease, stroke, and diabetes after. Will staying pregnant keep these at bay then? That's an interesting thought.
Speaking of the postpartum, I think that should be included when weighing pregnancy's pros and cons. Seizures, chronic pain, pelvic floor issues, etc. Mental health abound. What's the point of a reduced risk if you feel like you're dying anyways?
Lol no, you're right. Despite osteoporosis, hair loss and uncontrollable vomitting, there are much worse things that could happen to a person and pregnancy can help people avoid them. Ugh, why can't pregnancy be flowers and sunshine will _still_ reducing my risk of disease/infection? 😭😭😭😭
I feel for the diabetic lady. In order to recover from a low, you need specific snacks with high sugar to default on; it’s maddening that everyone is basically pushing her to share/spend more on food that SHE NEEDS in order to avoid life-threatening outcomes.
I'm surprised, she's wondering if she's the asshole and not considering divorce.
Agreed the snacks aren’t for pleasure its for her health
@@madelinewhite813 but man, even if they were, SIL should get her own fucking snacks.
My monitor just told me my sugar is low, as I type this. Diabetes is so hard to control. I go into grand mal seizures if I go low while sleeping. Which is why I now have a monitor to warn me. Your brain isn’t always working when you’re low, and her having to search for something to bring it up, makes it that much more likely to kill her before she can eat. The fact that she’s having to defend how serious this is is appalling. We can do better as people.
@@sharonsimmons6427 Only your last sentence is wrong. Thousands of years and billions of humans have proven that NO, we can't.
Even just her having to hide her snacks is risky.
The Dad joke was pretty funny, very mild, considering the fact that he talked to her afterwards and WHAT he said she is lucky to have him and she will remember what he said to her in the evening... I think he is pretty amazing.
11:36 hell no I’d put a lock on the box of snacks. She’s an adult BUY YOUR OWN SNACKS 😂
First story: I do not feel like she(OP) should have to compromise something that was made for her just cause someone wants it. "No" is a full sentence! Why should she have to give her dress over even to copy to someone who reacted that way to being told no?!?!
I mean she could just send pictures of the dress and tell her here go copy it if you want. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Yes! This exactly! Someone so entitled that they DEMAND to "borrow" & ALTER someone's precious wedding gown is beyond reason. That the family would think that's not only ok but demand she comply as well? She is much better off without those "family" who think so little of her. Thanksgiving/Christmas etc. will be so much more enjoyable without people like that anyway. Plus her daughter does not need to be exposed to them either - I can imagine all her favourite toys will be required to be handed over to their children as well. Toxic people need to be cut off.
Her husband, the son of the creator of the dress also said NO, so that's it, no more discussion.
Cut off all those toxic family members.
Honestly, they sound petty as hell, so I wouldn't put it pass them off they ruin the dress on purpose after copying it...
If anyone thinks that person is the Ahole for not wanting their dress to be ruined are horrendous and need to stop acting entitled to other peoples possessions
Agreed
Thank you.
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completely agree, i dont why everyone was stuck up on the "dude wishes his daughter had the opportunity to wear his dead mom's dress" vs what was actually the point "spoiled entitled relatives cant take no for an answer have no respect"
them cutting her off is basically trash taking itself out
This! It belongs to her, not to the "family". The nerve her family members have! It's infuriating!
They're trying to guilt her into sharing--and quite possibly forever damaging, and/or never getting back--something that's special to her & belongs to her.
Personally, I'd disown the lot of them. What a bunch of entitled, grasping jerks. Better off without toxicity like that.
@Nonaya Bidness There's a big difference between a prom dress and a wedding dress IMO and I don't think it counts as "lending" when the dress will have to altered extensively. I'd compare the situation to lending someone a photo album that has lots of sentimental value when you already know they're gonna return it with the pages ripped and glued back together.
She can use the dress material for an entirely different dress (the daughter). Even without the daughter, the cousin has no right to the dress and the bride has every right to do whatever she wants with it, especially since it sounds like the major alterations required would pretty much ruin it.
Both my daughters deconstructed my wedding gown and I made their veils from the train. Both uniquely made to each girls tastes. They were gorgeous and had a piece of my dress. I’m honored they chose to include my dress in a beautiful way!
When my sister got married she did rough sketches of all of the gowns for herself and the bridal party, including the flower girls. A seamstress then turned those sketches into the most beautiful dresses I've ever seen (and had the pleasure of wearing). If the cousin really wants the dress then it shouldn't be too difficult to recreate it based off of photos. She doesn't need the actual dress to do that!
That was my thought! If you really want to compromise (I don’t think the Reddit poster should compromise, but if she decides she wants to), send some pics and let that be that. The bride’s dressmaker could totally work with that. No WAY would I send the actual dress to those entitled loons.
She doesn't want to pay for one, for what I can see
THIS exactly!!
As someone who has been pregnant 4 times and I NEVER took other peoples snacks. I lived in a house with several other adults and I never took their food for lunches, snacks, or any kind of food with out asking. It's flat out using a baby as an excuse for bad behavior and unacceptable. The fact that her husband took the SIL side and doesn't show concern for the health and welfare of his own WIFE might mean she may want to reassess her choice in spouse.
I thought it was very weird the way he got the SIL's side. I would be concerned of cheating too.
I couldn't had said it better my self.
Pregnant 3x and same. No way did I take other people’s food. How rude! And I’d say ditch the hubby
They provide a place for them to stay so I guess they are obligated to provide snacks as well. The husband needs to be kicked to the curb.
I agree, not only did he back his thieving SIL and his brother, but the fact that he won't get her snacks if she's out (especially since their guests are the ones eating them) is awful. I've seen my diabetic cousin when she has low blood sugar, how could you see your own spouse feeling ill and not want to help?
That last story really rubbed me the wrong way. If someone kept stealing my snacks and refused to replace them I'd be so incredibly irritated with them. I was pregnant relatively recently and I would be ashamed if I had been pilfering snacks from someone, knowing they hated it. Those two lousy husbands need to tell Mrs. Prego that she needs to get off her fat a** and procure her own stuff.
Man that last one really hit home for me! I have overlapping chronic pain conditions that progressed to Epilepsy and three different kinds of seizures, and it took us YEARS to work our sudden low blood sugar drops out of nowhere were on e of the many contributing factors and find the right snacks that help with blood sugar but don’t trigger Migraines, and I would be SO PISSED if anyone I knew, much less “family” that was living with us and not paying rent to get back on their feet started taking multiple snacks meant for me and keeping my blood sugar up! I know it’s not the same thing as Diabetes and am not comparing our conditions, but just the idea that ANYONE would think this behavior is “ok” and the SIL being pregnant was akin to a “sickness” and SHE was the one that others should be “patient with” and basically catered to is infuriating! The OP and her ass of a husband are doing the in-laws a favor to let them stay there at all and now they think they are ENTITLED to STEAL food from a woman with DIABETES and literally needs those carefully picked pot she is to keep from dying is just horrible! And that they keep taking the food and don’t EVER replace or give the OP money is STEALING and NOT “sharing”! And for the HUSBAND to take his brother’s and SIL’s side multiple times and then her in his WIFE’s face YELL at her for protecting HER food that keeps her ALIVE is inconceivable to me! Not only is the OP most certainly NOT the A hole, but her “husband” is a verbally and emotionally manipulative piece of shit that clearly cares more about the pregnant SIL and than his own wife’s LIFE!! Ugh! Horrible! 😤😤 And as for the bride in the first place being bullied, badgered and emotionally and verbally blackmailed over HER wedding dress that her late MIL made just for HER wedding, that is also beyond ridiculous! Both families are toxic AF and I truly hope that both of those OPs can see that and continue to stand up for themselves and hopefully distance themselves from those entitled little shits going forward as those are VERY unhealthy situations! And the food stealing SIL in that last one “side eying” and then yelling over snacks that she does not even PAY for and therefore has NO right to getting her husband and BIL to help gang up on the OP who DOES pay for those snacks in her own home and NEEDS them to keep living as she has Diabetes, she will never ever change as long as people keep catering to her whims and she definitely is NOT mature or unselfish enough to be a good parent at all! I feel very sorry for the OP and the baby being born to such horribly selfish “parents”! Terrible situation, and again, if the OP’s own HUSBAND not only doesn’t see anything wrong with this messed up situation and gets in his WIFE’S face to yell at her and falls her “childish” for protecting what SHE pays for and NEEDS to live, he’s a horrible human being that will never EVER have his wife’s back for ANYTHING in their lives! Yikes! 😑😑
The dad suggested making it into a veil if she didn’t want to wear it. It actually isn’t relevant to this situation if the daughter wears it or not. It’s her wedding dress and it’s completely understandable that she would want to save it as is. It’s a huge favor to ask of somebody and you should never ask a question while already assuming a yes answer. Also just gauging the cousins personality from this situation, she probably would never agree to let the poster borrow her treasured family made custom wedding dress that she was saving for her daughter. So she’s also a hypocrite on top of being selfish and manipulative. I’m not sure them cutting off contact isn’t a blessing in disguise 🙏🥸
Yep...by what they sound like I would be happier if they did, noone needs toxic people in their lives.
I wanted to say the same. They want to save the dress, it is their right to do so. It does not matter whether their daughter will wear it or not.
Agreed. I don't think that person is the a-hole at all. It sounds like she hasn't titled cousin who expects everything to be handed to her and who's obviously a weirdly vengeful person for uninviting everyone to her wedding because she didn't get anything for free 🙄
completely agree, i dont why everyone was stuck up on the "dude wishes his daughter had the opportunity to wear his dead mom's dress" vs what was actually the point "spoiled entitled relatives cant take no for an answer have no respect"
them, cutting her off is basically trash taking itself out
I completely agree!
for the last story:
why even marry a dude that doesn't buy you snacks when your blood sugar is low? and defends people that steals your snacks that they didn't even pay for? #divorce
That guy is a no value man. She better leave before he might cause her death some day. I for sure wouldn't wait for that to happen.
Exactly! Even if she buys her own snacks, I agree with Charlotte. SIL has her OWN husband that has a job and can get her snacks. Already staying in someone else's house and taking advantage of their hospitality. Pregnancy isn't going to last forever!
EXACTLY. He sounds like an emotionally abusive partner.
Diabetic shock is so bad and dangerous. My dad was an EMT had calls for it several times for it
I also agreed with the divorce
As a reformed snack stealer, I still think she’s NTA. As someone who had full meals stolen from her when sharing apartments when I was living paycheck to paycheck and had to use coupons to even do that, I’m furious for her! I don’t have diabetes, but I have a disorder where I pass out EASILY if I don’t eat and drink enough because my blood volume DROPS which makes my heart rate DROP. And my food would just be gone. Still not over it. BRB gotta call my therapist.
One thing that got me about the snack stealing one.. is like OP stated they’re DIABETIC! they will *die* if they don’t have the proper intake. They NEED those snacks.
SIL will not die without those snacks. If she wants them so bad buy her own. Also find another husband because one that puts a baby(that isn’t born) above diabetic needs is um..
Not husband material.
The fact that the problem over HER dress was a thing just says a lot
Right? When someone feels entitled to something that belongs to someone else, it legit scares me
@@rustinstardust2094 It just shows how they were raised
Many of these situations are about people who are basically being abused by their family for saying NO to a request/demand. NO is a valid thing to say and should be respected, no matter how much the other party wants to hear "yes". These are just a lot of controlling and overbearing family members and I doubt this is the only time they've ever thrown a fit!
And I would be saying ,' not gonna. I'll go find a new family thanks. One who knows what respect is'.
I'm diabetic ,and never ever have anyone touched my snacks,like ever..this is the outmost disrespect that I've ever witnessed ! This man has no regards or concerns for his actual wife and cares more about his sil . It's actually concerning ,and I think he has some feelings for sil !! Why would he behave like this otherwise ???
As someone who's lived with diabetics their whole life, both my parents and my little sister, ik how serious it is when they say that they need little snacks like that throughout the day. It's something I always have to prepare for when they come visit me.
Ok, first of all, entitled people need to remember that "no" is an acceptable answer. "No, you cannot wear my wedding dress." End of discussion. Behavior beyond this response is manipulative, in other words, telling her that she's basically disavowed over a dress is manipulative and mean. She said no. Deal wit it.
The dad who tagged his 15yr old brat with the joke is absolutely hilarious. Teens sometimes need to be put in their place. Loved it.
Agreed! The 'request' to borrow the wedding gown was not a request at all. It was a demand, loaded with toxic drama for non-compliance. The 'no' should have been accepted and the subject dropped. The bride-to-be could have taken the high road and asked the owner of the 'dream dress' to come dress shopping with her in hopes of finding a similar dress. That would have been classy.
lol teens who are never stopped turn into the chick demanding the wedding dress.
I agree
@@kaivickers166 So true! It was probably the first boundary stake this cousin ever encountered.
@@kaivickers166 Ding Ding Ding!!! :D
I’m so over the “but it’s all I’ve ever wanted” argument. (In reference to the wedding dress). I know times have been hard, but the reality is that you don’t always get what you want, especially at the inconvenience of others.
When my daughter would get particularly whinny when she was younger I would always tell her "life isn't fair, get over it, and get on with it." The reality is this cousin is extremely entitled and is being enabled by the family. She is a spoilt brat who was very clearly never told the above. The lady with the dress should absolutely NOT compromise. There is NO compromising with entitled people. I agree with sending copies of pics of the dress and leave it at that. DO NOT send her the actual dress. Not even with someone you trust. That person can be overpowered by others. It's not worth the risk. If that's not good enough for the family, oh well.
You can also get married in a paper bag (or affordable wedding dress), so I don't see how the poster is costing the cousin thousands of dollars. If the cousin wanted, so could have picked something out for $200 at David's Bridal. Her decision to spend a ton on the dress was her own.
@Wei Luo absolutely
11:57: OH HO HO HOOOOOOOOOO! 😂
Best way to handle the snack story is to lie “oh I just don’t buy snacks anymore, on a diet” 😂 that way her husband has to buy her snacks.
You know its not about snacks.
Her husband act like he wants her dead
The entitled, pregnant sister in law probably should have finished becoming an adult before deciding to become a parent. Here comes the next entitled generation!
*applause* the BIL and her husband should buy the pregnant SIL snacks and leave her alone
Yeah and the husband is also the Ahole for yelling at his wife for trying to take care of her medical condition and not standing on her side
That's a new definition of "sharing" - you buy snacks for yourself so that I can eat them all and leave none for you.
When they finally move out, the husband should go with them since he's not at all concerned about his wife's health and well-being.
Right, I agree!!
Totally agree. I wouldn't want to be with a guy, who doesn't give a frick about my life and well-being, and cares more over his entitled cousin, who for sure wouldn't die if she bought her own snacks.
Here here!!
LMAO!! The way the Faux Pa joke snuck up on her 🤣🤣🤣
Charlotte’s eyes getting teary eyed when talking about her stolen snacks at 11:45 😂 Queennnn
As a diabetic, the last story OP isn’t the AH. Taking the diabetes and pregnancy part out of the equation, what is preventing her from buying snacks of her own? Like seriously, snacks are like less than $5, she can buy her own snacks if she wants them so badly. Also I’d considered being diabetic is more “sick” than being pregnant.
Being diabetic is an actual illness. Being preggo is not. SIL & the Boys are proper arses.
Right? Even if she wasn't diabetic everyone else would STILL be major assholes here. That lady needs to really think about whether or not her relationship is entirely healthy.
Never been pregnant but I have had some wild hormonal rides. I need to be put in my place sometimes! I'll cry about it but the truth is, I know when I'm in the wrong, and I can't imagine morals just go out the window with pregnancy.
As a pregnant person, I agree that SIL is the ahole. It would be slightly more understandable if SIL developed gestational diabetes, but she should still be responsible for acquiring her own snacks regardless.
People are greedy, but it still baffles me how you can move into someone else's home and mooch off of them, and still eat a diabetic person's snacks. Then they expect more?!
But the worst part is the husband. You're supposed to have your S.O's back, especially when it comes to her health! Even if this wasn't a diabetic person's issue, she would have been in the right, but it's actually serious on a life threatening level. And all 3 of them are gaslighting her? Why is she married to this guy...
My thoughts exactly!!! 🚩🚩🚩🚩
Yas!!!
Baffles me
For the cousin to just assume that she could use the dress, that's ballsy. "Now I have to spend THOUSANDS having a dress made because YOU just won't GIVE ME YOUR DRESS!" The nerve of some people. "Oh, it will be a tribute." Sounded better in their head.
That last story Triiiigers me. I was in a similar situation. I was living with my sister and her family while I was pregnant. I had terrible morrining sickness threw most of my pregnancy. So there were few foods I wanted to eat, let alone could eat. I with MY OWN MONEY bought snacks. My niece apparently liked them also and ate them. It doesn't feel good coming into a kitchen knowing most of the food is inedible to you, you are hungry. But you are looking forward to the 1 item that actually doesn't make you want to vomit, and it isn't there.
To the Dad Joke: my family has always operated on the “don’t dish out what you can’t take” rule, which honestly made us into decent human beings 😅 So I wouldn’t be allowed to be upset if I told my stepdad “you’re not my dad” and then he cracks a joke like that later on. It’s sweet that it opened doors for communication, though.
This girl’s dad died. She was adopted. These are life experiences that if you haven’t had it then you can understand the pain and suffering that they caused and how those jokes will affect her in her life. My daughter died and the baby jokes affect me differently than they will affect someone who hasn’t lost a baby
Telling me that I’m being too sensitive by crying when people make them isn’t helpful to me and just makes you the asshole
It doesn’t matter if it was a good joke. It hurts people and that makes you the asshole.
This idea that people should just accept a bad joke and they shouldn’t dish what they can’t take is an antiquated idea based on forcing people to accept abuse. But if someone says something that they aren’t OK with that they are expected to take verbal beratement. That’s literally the point of that statement
We don’t know the full context of the story or why she said that to this man. We don’t know what’s going on in this child’s personal life or what trauma she’s currently experiencing and maybe there’s things going on in the background.
I do know that it’s high time for us to stop telling people to just take the joke
@@Lillpixeychic I was also adopted by my stepfather after a horrific life before him that doesn’t bear mentioning details. I see what you’re getting at, but even you made some grand assumptions by “calling me out” as if I don’t know what she’s going through. Everyone processes things differently, and the point I was raised to live by was that no amount of pain justifies you being an asshole. Even when I’ve been in horrendous pain (I’ve lost my own babies; I can relate), that never, ever gave me permission to lash out at other people. The girl may be a teen, may have gone through some things, but she still needed to learn that she’s not allowed to lash out and then get hurt when her own words are thrown right back.
At my house me and my husband constantly use humor sometimes dad jokes sometimes dark....my son has learned not to take anything said to heart unless we make him sit down to talk. To be fair my son had also inherited two generations of dark humor, often I am the one saying "Oh man that one stings kid!"
@@Lillpixeychic never say words like that that can never be taken back as kids that have low self esteem will replay those words when they are sad. I'm so sorry for your loss. Going through that is unimaginable
@@Lillpixeychic I do get where you're coming from and I can see what you are getting at. I just hope you're not getting upset at comedians who do not know your personal life or struggles. There are a lot of people who have all different kinds of humor and a lot of people even if they are in your family or friend group may make a joke that hurts you without realizing or knowing what you have been through. I get these jokes hurt and it's not the type of humour you want in your life cause I can see how it would just constantly bring up bad memories and bring back your trauma. I would just issue a bit of caution and patience. Not everyone knows what you're going through and a lot of people will not know what triggers you, if these traumas are still very prevalent in your life or open wounds it would be probably a good idea to avoid situations that could reopen these traumatic memories for you. I am in no way trying to be disrespectful. I may never understand what you went through since my traumas are no way the same as yours. However I know that it is wrong for me to take out my anger, sadness, frustration and pain onto someone else who may have not meant harm or did not know better. When I'm in a situation that is hard or triggering I know it is my responsibility to remove myself from that triggering situation or stressful situation. I understand wanting to hold people accountable if they mess up, I do think you should do that, I just don't believe in doing it in an aggressive manner. I would always support trying to handle issues or situations ammicably. However if this is a continued pattern of disrespect or outright disregard to your well being from a family or friend, then sometimes you need to be a bit harsh, and a bit hard on them to get your point across. I can support that as well.
My thoughts on the first one...if the cousin gets her way with this, she's going to use the same tactics over and over. Would you really want people like that in your life? Ew!
@Nonaya Bidness you may have a point. But asking someone to borrow their one-of-a-kind wedding dress, that will require alterations, is a big ask of someone you aren't close to. I don't think she was saying she was fat, just bigger chest and hips. I'll give you my reasons for thinking it's tactics: She was told no, and she must have told her family members who are now pushing the OP to lend her dress. They are going so far as to uninvite and threaten future boycotts if the cousin does not get her way. At the end of the day, does she want to wear someone else's dress so bad she is willing to possibly tarnish the memory of her special day with all drama? At this point, the repercussions of her actions will have a lasting effect.
One of the hardest lessons for me to learn was to just say, "No, that's mine, you can't have it." Too many people just show up and act like if you can't properly defend your right to your own things, that those things now are up for grabs. No, no. No. That's not yours, and I don't have to seek approval for my choice to refuse to give it to you. Even if her kid didn't want to wear the dress, it was designed and made by a person who is no longer here, so it's valuable exactly as it is, even if it's never worn again. If the family is threatening to cut her off for not handing over her one-of-a-kind, highly sentimental, and irreplaceable wedding gown for them to cut apart and do god-knows-what with, then let them. There's no way for them to explain why they cut off a family member without sounding like entitled, spoiled brats, and I hope that choice haunts them in the startled and disgusted looks of everyone they ever confess this story to.
honestly, i loved the dad joke one- when i was around a few months old i moved with my siblings to their aunt and uncles house bc of CPS, and i've accepted said aunt and uncle as my parents (even though i am not realated to them in any way shape or form) so if my dad ever made that joke to me i would actually die from laughter-
As someone who grew up with diabetic parents, the sugar thing is real. I always thought it was weird how my dad kept like sugar packets like everywhere around the house and car until I saw what it looked like when he didn't have sugar on hand and his blood sugar dipped. Then I understood it was to avoid a medical emergency.
Wow, just wow on the snack issue. Even if she wasn't diabetic she has the right to purchase - and eat - her own treats.They can get their own. I am sure the regular food is all shared.
When I still lived with my parents (up until 25) I would start buying my own food and snacks, but my dad is a middle of the night eater and he would constantly eat MY food, snacks and cakes, that I bought for MY OWN money. Claiming that if it's in the fridge it was a free for all. Even my mom would yell at him. Luckily I finally moved out and got to eat everything I bought for myself. Even now at 30 I still hide snacks from my bf out of habit
My sister and her roommates do all of their own shopping and ask before eating things they didn't buy... its not normal to share food unless you take turn doing household shopping
Also wtf is with the husband going against his wife when she could potentially die from this shit? I'd say keep the snacks, ditch the husband, thats more of a red flag than the chinese oof.
@@isachan0o844 did you pay them rent? Cause I think if you live in THEIR house you can share YOUR snacks
Ok that "hi hungry im not your dad" would have made me piss myself laughing
That faux pas joke took me a HOT minute 😂 so good
I remember reading the wedding dress one on Reddit. It's so silly that OP's cousin/aunt/grandma are making such a drama over it when it's very likely the dress actually can't be altered to fit a different body type. Custom fit clothes tend to have very limited seam allowance, to say nothing of how the bust is likely constructed, you can't just wave a magic wand to change it to fit someone else.
To me it's pretty clear that a wedding dress is an incredibly personal/sentimental item. For someone to demand that you give it to them and then turn your family against you is gross and entitled. She's definitely not TAH. Last one was messed up. She needs to find a good divorce lawyer, her husband clearly doesn't care about her health or well-being, No one is entitled to your stuff. Period.
Totally agree. She can say no for the simple fact that it was her dress. Lots of people keep their wedding dresses for sentimental reasons, or don't want others to wear it. Also it's creepy that she wanted to look exactly like her on her wedding day anyway. Maybe it might be different if they were sisters or twins or something, but anyway no one is entitled to your stuff. Her family was wrong to cut her off for that. They are all the a-holes. If she didn't want to spend thousands then find a cheaper dress. Mine costed less than $200 (even with alterations) and was beautiful. Wore it to my destination wedding in Hawaii. Spending thousands on any wedding dress to me is just foolish
That dad joke was hilarious. I'm 29 now, but I probably would be hurt at 15. I was really sensitive (still a lil bit sensitive). Teenagers be emotional potatoes. 🥺 My parents and I talk smack to each other all the time! 😂
The dad joke was HILARIOUS 😂😂😂😂
Pregnancy = “sort of sick”?
Diabetes = freakin absolutely sick!!
It’s strange that the husband has forgotten what bottomed out blood sugar can do to a diabetic. Has he been fortunate to never watch her experience a seizure? Never seen her so disoriented that she’s combative and paranoid? If not, that’s because she’s been responsible enough to keep that from happening. Leave her 🤬 snack stash alone!!!
yep, this one set my blood boiling. Someone wrote in the comments here that she was being a bit dramatic about it and that just blew me away. Personal experience with a type one diabetic who did have a low blood sugar episode. It was 29. that was a one time thing, and once was enough. He was disoriented and combative just like you mentioned, and it was terrifying.
Worse than disoriented and combative:
1) When my mother was so out of it, she regressed to toddlerhood, and could not even speak a coherent word.
2) When my mother was so out of it, that I ACTUALLY CALLED 911 TO REPORT HER AS DEAD. I thought she was dead. I LITERALLY THOUGHT SHE WAS DEAD.
She was staring at the ceiling, not blinking, not visibly breathing, not moving, with her mouth just hanging open, and I thought she was dead.
The first responders were able to bring her around, with intravenous sugar-fluid and then, told me to FEED her. Specifically, peanut butter.
The people who say, "Just have those glucose tablets handy," forget that glucose is only the FIRST step, to raise the blood sugar. You still need to get something with fat and/or protein in it to KEEP the blood sugar up.
So, the husband must have been very fortunate, indeed, never to witness such an episode.
After that, if someone screamed at my mother about being selfish and childish about keeping her snacks handy, when we have to NAG her to eat, I would definitely say it's divorce time, because he clearly is hoping she'll die, so he can collect on the life insurance and/or inheritance.
Any family that abandons someone for something petty, even if they feel entitled to it, aren't worth pleasing anyway.
My dad died when I was 8 and I LOVE making dead dad jokes and so does my step father, it’s how I kinda bond over it🤣
Dad-joke dad is that wholesome kind of straightforward dad. Like he’s not great with words or expressing emotions but he will be there for every dance recital gdi.
I can't believe the owner of the dress was called "entitled" by the family. She IS entitled to things she paid for or things that were made for her! People ARE INDEED entitled to their own stuff! Cousin Twat Waffle, however, is entitled to NOTHING. This dress isn't just a dress and the cousin and other relatives need to understand that. Owner=NTA.
PS: Copying other people is super tacky.
If the cousin has photos of the dress, she can take it to a good dressmaker/tailor and have them copy it, but it will cost some $$. I used to be a professional tailor and did custom sewing from my home studio over 20 years ago. I was hired by a mother to make a fancy red velvet gown for her daughter to wear for a Christmas Madrigal. She brought me a Holiday Barbie so I could copy the Barbie dress! I like a challenge, and it turned out beautiful and they were happy. I really should have charged more than $200 for it though.
@@LazyIRanch I'm thinking half the reason for wanting to borrow the dress was because they didn't want to pay for anything in the first place.
Man I'm so sick of the "I'm pregnant so I can't be held accountable for my actions" thing! Just because you're pregnant doesn't mean you are clear of all responsibility. Others should be patient and understanding but never should they bend over backwards just cuz you done got knocked up, lady! Uhg!
This last story really made my blood boil…diabetes is serious. Not having snacks immediately handy can be life threatening. Being pregnant does not make you an invalid, so why doesn’t she also buy her own snacks ? THIS IS NOT YOUR HOUSE OR YOUR SNACKS! I COULD LITERALLY DIE!
And why is no one’s husbands helping? If my husband didn’t understand the importance of this or back me up we’d have serious issues moving forward
100% NTA for the first story. You have the right to save YOUR wedding dress for whatever you want. The family is being overly petty to BAN you from their lives over a freaking dress that is YOURS.
As a mom of 3 AND a diabetic, that SIL needs to realize she is an adult and can get her own snacks! If the BIL and SIL are saving on rent, then there should be the understanding of food sharing and cooking between the 4 of them. By the way, I cannot seem to get my 3 teenagers from eating all of my snacks, but alas they are my kids (not working married adults)!
Husband’s logic sounds stupid!
“MY Brother and Sister are MORE important than either you OR your diabetes problem! SERVE MY SISTER YOUR SNACKS, PEASANT!”
I’d force the Husband to sleep on the couch or in the car for his enablement and entitlement, what a jerk!
When we were little, Mom would buy us snacks to keep in the kitchen and then her own stash to keep in her bedroom. We still snuck in and ate her snacks because hers were better, but we didn't deplete her stash because we didn't want to get caught. If we got caught, she would hide them in another spot. Anyway, what I'm saying is you can try buying them snacks and keep a small stash for yourself in a hidden spot. Who knows? Maybe they won't find them.
Exactly. She’s pregnant not poor!
She can get her own snacks. I would if I was pregnant or not!
Mother of 2 and a diabetic as well. I say keep hiding the snacks and even get a little refrigerator for the bedroom and put the snacks in there.....and make sure the bedroom door squeaks a lot in case SIL goes exploring for said snacks. Hubbie needs to be more understanding with his wife and know that when low blood sugar hits, the nausea alone makes you feel miserable.
Low blood sugar can also trigger a stroke or coma in some patients too. Maintaining blood sugar levels on top of weight gain/ loss is important.
Low sugars really mess you up. I walked directly into a brick wall when trying to find a teacher to help me get into my locker to get my sugar tablets. That's a lucky story, I only got a few bruises. A diabetic family friend was traveling for work by himself, apparently felt a low sugar coming on and returned to his hotel and checked back in, seeming normal enough to staff. He went into a diabetic coma in the room and passed away before anyone figured out where he was, because he was supposed to be driving further on.
I would've lost it at them if that was me. It's literally a life or death situation. I would've threatened to kick them out for stealing, even just snacks and made my husband sleep on the couch.
"she's gestating a baby, not turning into one" pls this was so good💀
I love when the trash takes itself out.
Cousin, aunt, granny are mean and entitled, so no loss there. I hope OP didn't previously like them.
Now for the last wife to throw out those three people.
As a pregnant woman, I can honestly say it is not okay to eat someone else's snacks. If you are adult enough to make a baby, you are adult enough to buy your own snacks. Also, pregnancy is not an illness! It's a blessing.
#1. NTA! She should not be guilted into ANYTHING!!!
You're right. Your sister-in-law's feelings are much more important than my life.
Am I the only one that thinks it's strange that OP's own husband is more concerned with the pregnant SIL having the snacks for comfort than his wife OP that the snacks would literally save her life. His priorities are way off to the point I would wonder if there was something else at play there with OP's husband and SIL. 🤔
I also thought that...
@@BeautyandtheBarista seriously think the husband could be SIL's child's father or they are at least having an affair.
@@Lozza2993 was definitely getting the affair vibe... but the kid being his would be a big twist and also really awful. But that's why he feels obligated to house them
When I was pregnant I would bring snacks to my parents house to visit instead of eating all their food. It’s apart of being an adult you should be able to take care of yourself and your baby.
Love the fact everyone, in her family taking the cousins side, says She's selfish BUT ignoring the selfishness and entitlement of the cousin. Say No, they're not family. If your daughter wants to wear it great. If not future grandkids or their spouses. Never to the cousin.
For that last story: tell them you’ll start putting snacks in the fridge again once the SIL and BIL start doing the same. They’re literally stealing at that point if they don’t start contributing, and that’s without addressing the concerns for the OP’s health. If they truly want to share, they shouldn’t have any issue with contributing to the snacks. If they wanna freeload, they’ll keep throwing a hissy fit.
Personally I feel the dad joke was great specially with him going to her later to talk .. I think it was a wonderful thought provoking joke that shows a lesson on how words can hurt people like her hurting him a little . I would have turned it into a quick life lesson .
As an adopted child who has had this said to me when I was a kid…
I’m still not ok
It’s not funny to tell dead baby jokes to the mother of a dead baby
So why tell jokes like this to an orphan?
So insensitive
@@Lillpixeychic She's not an orphan though? Orphan means you lost both your parents
If you have to go apologize for what you said, it’s not ok that you said it!
@@Lillpixeychic that’s exact point I’d be doing my best to teach her with this . Not to be hurtful but to show how much not thinking before you speak or words in general can hurt very much . At this age she is old enough to get it when explained it was a teachable moment and to let her honestly know he was hurt but understood I’d never do this without explaining the lesson nor would I to one too young to understand that
Not okay in my mind. She is a young girl full of hormones who is clearly still processing the grief of loosing her biological Father and probably said that so her living Father would get hurt. I think she wanted to know if he cared about her the way a Father should. Yes it was immature but she’s still a child. He is a grown man who should have said “Those words really hurt me. I understand you are processing your emotions but I love you as my own daughter. That will never change. Not with you yelling at me, not when you rebel, not even when you’re all grown up.”
I’m happy to hear he apologized later but I too remember a horrible thing my Father screamed at me when I was a teenager trying to care for him through his mental illness… He told me very young that he never wanted to have me and I didn’t think he loved me. So I got very upset when I tried so hard to care for his needs later on because I thought I loved this person who didn’t love me… I didn’t think I was good enough for him so I screamed at him one time while trying to get him to take his meds. In return he told me more calmly after “I love you. But I will never like you.” And I ran out of the room sobbing… Years later I understand that mental illness can create a childish component in certain cases. And I know he didn’t mean it. He apologized and we both cried. But all of it hurts still. Turns out my Father didn’t want to have a child because he knew I had a huge chance of genetically getting his schizophrenia… So everything he said was in worry I’d turn out like him…
Some situations leave both individuals hurting. But either one of you or both of you must step up and be the mature one in order to let things work. I will always love my Father as I’m sure this girl and her Dad both feel as well. But love can be complex and simple all at the same time. That’s partly why bonds are so special.
I don't think the first lady with the wedding dress is an A-hole. All she did was deny someone from borrowing something very expensive and sentimental to her. The fact she wants to keep it for her daughter is besides the point. The way the rest of the family is acting re-enforces her decision in my mind. They are bullying and emotionally abusing her. I wouldn't want to have a relationship with those types of people anyway. Very strange family dynamic.
I remember a previous Charlotte video where someone wanted to borrow a woman's heirloom jewelry piece and everyone was supporting her when she said no, so I don't understand why this would be any different. 😕
It bugged me the cousin claimed the poster was “costing me thousands of dollars” by not giving her the dress. Eff off, it’s not your family’s responsibility to save YOU money. 🤣. The rest of the family are probably pissed because the cousin is costing THEM money for the dress.
@@JadeLeaf1980 Yeah, that whole side of the family seems selfish and entitled. As Charlotte says, "the world don't owe you crap" (or something like that). LOL
@@JadeLeaf1980 Also makes me wonder why no one else in the family is offering her a wedding dress if she seemingly can't afford one. Or is it that she feels entitled to get not just any old dress but a very expensive fancy one for free?
@@inspiredby624 I'd say entitled with the way she's causing drama, and sounding like a spoiled brat about the whole thing. She sounds to me, like she's throwing a tantrum and tearing a family apart over a DRESS. So, that reinforced that thought for me😊
@Nonaya Bidness I would literally have to grow up in the same bedroom closer than life itself with a cousin to lend then something that sentimental and dear that is going to be passed to my child...... Especially since one wrong breath could permanently ruin it for my child to not even have the chance.......
My husband and kids (adults) make that type of "dad jokes" alllll the time!
A piece of the dress can fit into that old mantra," Something 'Old', Something new, Something borrowed, Something blue.
Our daughter used my wedding dress for her prom, she is more classy than myself so I have no doubt that she would not want to wear a red ballgown on her wedding day. Still, I would not have shared it with anyone else and if family are willing to get silly/petty over a dress then you're better off without them in your life. I can imagine they're the kind of people who 'call dibs' on baby names and then demand you change your dogs/hamster/snakes/goldfish or even your toddlers name as that's what they wish to name their unfertilized egg. smh
I've been pregnant twice. It's not "being sick". I was also perfectly capable of buying my own snacks. There's a BIG difference between WANTING a snack and NEEDING one in order to not, y'know, die.
When I ask somebody "oh, can I possibly borrow something of yours?" and the person says "no" or more politely "I am not really comfortable about it" I just say "ok, understand" and arrange/buy etc my own thing??? Why do people think it is an obligation to do favours? On top of that, she managed to get the whole family to bully her into borrowing that dress???
I will never understand.