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I was once in a restaurant, and I was minding my own business when suddenly there was a loud belch from the table across from me and I glanced up to see this couple, I assume, on a date and the reason this became a core memory is because her boyfriend looked up at her and said "I love you so much." and that has just been relationship goals ever since.
What an awesome story!! I would’ve been cracking up!!
Charlotte's laugh is magical when people don't realize ladies need food also
Beautiful 😂
I love it! I’ll never forget the first time I farted in front of my ex. I thought the heart eyes/fart thing was a myth, but he proved me wrong.
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The fact that the husband's first reaction to seeing 20 missed calls is getting pissed off instead of concern that the wife might have an emergency is disturbing.
Especially since she had always followed the rule in the past. The boss should have understood, too.
Right?!!
And wouldn’t the boss know about the fire? And put two and two together and be like “oh maybe your phone is going off because I loved one thinks that you could be involved”
@@NotARealHomesteadYes and I mean isn't it proper to stop every process just out of respect for literal dying colleages, isn't that a major company emergency....? The only reason the phone call even went through in the first place is bc of the emergency mode. (If you get multiple calls by the same person it is let through bc of possible emergencies) Can you imagine being concerned about someone you love and that love being invalidated in like 10 seconds...
Especially considering they have a daughter…
That blind fiancé story is scary. What if she has an allergy? That is literal abuse. She HAS to eat the same thing? She HAS to eat what he TOUCHES? And then SHE is the bad guy for eating his food that wasn't touched?? Nah that is straight abuse and control.
I wish when she was confronted for being abusive she would have said, "Oh, then please let him know we are over because I would never want him, let alone anyone, to be in an abusive relationship" and hung up the phone. When people call you out of your name or character leave. Do not fight back. Leave. Leave disrespectful people and disrespectful people with disrespectful circles.
it might be that since he is blind he wants to experience the same thing and that she could discribe it to him. but still kinda psycho.
@@aredapebest comment award 🥲
@@vegatroniktvhe’s got an anxiety issue forsure. They might be able to work it out without outside involvement but your significant other should defend you
@@maepicnic2460 Thank you. I am always irked when I hear that anyone stays in a relationship where they are called out of their name. I choose respect and want all of us to too.
I used to work for Dupont. DuPont had an accident at a chemical plant that caused fatalities. I didn't work for the chemical business, I wasn't in the state where it happened, I wasn't involved at all. Soon after it happened, we received a company-wide message that 1) informed us of the incident 2) instructed us to report to our manager that we were safe through the company safety reporting system 3) as soon as practical, to stop our current task and contact our families to let them know we were safe as the accident was already making the news cycle.
The fact that this guys company didn't tell them of a major fire, didn't allow them to contact people to let them know they are safe and are punishing an employee for his phone ringing are huge red flags about the safety practices at that company. and this guy is a POS for being mad that his wife is more concerned for his life than his employer is.
ALL OF THIS!!! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Btw, I was your 100th like! I've never been that before, so I feel so cool! 😊👍🏻
And that is the correct response from the company! A friend’s husband was severely injured in a chemical explosion at our local Coca Cola plant several years ago (thankfully, he mostly recovered). When the explosion was on the news, she was justifiably extremely concerned! What if the OP’s husband had been in a similar situation?
Word.
I think the guy isn't telling the truth regarding the company getting angry with him. I think he's making that part up. I've worked for some companies that didn't care about their employees, and I've worked for places that required all digital devices to be stored for operational security reasons. And even then I still find it hard to believe the day a company that had employees die at one of their sites they would be angry for someone's phone ringing in their locker. I think he just flipped out at seeing 20 calls and is spewing some BS about work being angry to cover his bad reaction.
THIS. I'd love to know where the hell he works because that is absolutely bizarre protocol.
"bang him like a screen door in a hurricane" is honestly the best phrase I've heard all year 😂
SO VISCERAL 😂
Best comment EVER! 😂😂😂mic drop! Lol
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Best comment I've ever heard and read🤣🤣🤣
Never heard that saying before 🤣
I'm legally blind/visually impaired and I have several friends in the blind community and none of us act like that with our partners or with anyone. That guy clearly has control issues and other issues and the girl deserves better. I hope she can get out of that controlling relationship.
My husband and I always get different dishes and sometimes we use the bread/appetizer plate to share parts of our meals.
I have a blind buddy and he would never! He’s down to share food like we all regularly do. This is an odd story
I was thinking he probably has food related trauma. Like when you go to a hotel and the wait staff won't tell you what's on the menu save for what they think is "appropriate for you" or maybe he was in a special school with food insecurity. I've had family and friends try to trick me into eating things I don't want or lie about what's there to see if I "could tell."
I'm thinking it's something like that. People have very odd forms of cruelty they enact oh disabled people. A close friend of mine was told he had an ugly head, he'd freak out so bad if caught with nothing on his head. I had a friend regularly try to trick me into dressing and acting some ways on public. He might be dealing with something like that.
@@availanilaIt’s fair to give him the benefit of the doubt, and very kind. But I think his fiancee also needs to insist he get therapy or call off the wedding, because an issue like that isn’t something you inflict on other people. When your mental health issues require you to control the personal choices of others for your comfort and walk over their rights (to a sanitary meal for example), that’s a you problem, not everyone else’s problem.
@@availanilaThat's possible, but he shouldn't be taking that into his relationship. If that's why he wants her to order the same thing, he should come out and tell her that. There could be other solutions like maybe one of them could order for the table so the server won't know who's getting what. Or maybe they just don't go out to eat if he's that worried. His behavior, no matter the reason, was unacceptable.
@@lizajane2971 a lot of the kind of abuse disabled people face is hard to put into words especially to an able bodied world. He might not notice too, to him it could be an anxiety or fixation he can't explain.
Also, getting therapists that would be able to point out _that's_ what's going on is hard since there's a notable scarcity of therapists handling living with disabilities. Trauma with the added layer of going through trauma disabled isn't quite something understood by people not disabled. Also, it's venturing close to ugly laws expecting him to limit himself and those around him like that.
I taught my daughters that if anyone ever tries to shame them for what they eat, to look them dead in the eye and take a huge bite of their meal.
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I was never taught to do that But I do it all the time with my family and friends
That is kind of hot.😅😳😖
Sorry.
My fiancé and I purposely make sure we order completely different meals at restaurants so we can try each other’s food lol and that way we have more options
I loveeee that!
@@taylorgirls1184Thanks😊
Same. My husband and I have a tacit rule that if we each like the idea of the same item, we get that one and one more agreed upon so we can each try it.
Absolutely. My friends and I do this regularly. Just random plates in the middle of table and we try everything.
That's great as long as you both agree to it. If one of you don't, then that plate is off limits, or at least until you're 'invited' to try some.
That "blind" dude was using his condition as a bludgeon to control people.
Theworst bully I ever dealt with an older, wheelchair bound female. She was a master at using her disability to get what she wanted. She hated me because I wouldn't coddle her.
When she passed, her husband didn't seem very upset.
I'm a wheelchair user, I like to say being an arsehole is a choice not a disability, cos there are definitely people who use their disabilities to manipulate others. But then we are as boring and messed up as anyone else. FYI he is blind so you don't need air quotes, and I'm not bound to my wheelchair unless its by my consent! 🤣✌️
@amyt3949 We can't always control our physical condition, but we certainly control our behavior.
PS - Those "air quotes" have a name. They are called "quotation marks".
Why are you using quotation marks? Are you implying he was faking being blind? That's kind of a stretch, don't you think?
Also, asking to eat the same food in public is a weirdly specific thing to want to control. To me, it seems like he was paranoid about being poisoned.
@noxteryn - why are you upset about someone's use of quotation marks?
Or did you just want to show the world you know what they are?
@@monicasalyer8875
???
I am in no way upset. I simply asked you why you used quotation marks for the word blind, which you haven't answered, by the way. Why would someone brag about knowing what quotation marks are? What a weird assumption. Do you not know what they are? Do you perhaps not know how to use them? In the context you used them, you are implying that the man isn't really blind.
The most frustrating part of story 2 for me is that he wouldn't eat the food he touched. They had the same thing and he touched it, why can't he eat his own germs??? Proof that its all just a game to him. Anyone defending that behavior can screw off.
He controls what they eat ( with her paying! ), makes her prove that she got what he wanted her to get. Then wants her to eat it after he touches it even though he won't. smh
Yep, that’s the biggest red flag. Why won’t he eat food after he put his hands on it? Why does he want her to eat food he’s put his hands in?
There isn’t an answer to this that isn’t creepy. And every option other than it just being a control thing gets a lot worse.
The first time he told her that she had to order the same food, she should have told him off. Instead she let it go on for so long. I don't get why she would agree to marrying him and living like this for the rest of her life. I bet this isn't the only controlling thing he does!
He won't eat the food he touched, despite the fact that THEY ORDERED THE SAME THING! Both plates were identical, except one had his finger germs on it. If he thinks she should be fine eating his germs, why can't he eat them instead?
@@Zaft_K exactly! ITS HIS GERMS???
@@seeya205 Re: Why she went along with it? People unconsciously accept a little more crap from their loved ones with disabilities, on the theory that they have it so much harder than we do. Also, it's easier for some personalities just do take the path of least resistance if the other personality is a strong vehement one. Hopefully, Reddit helped her find her backbone.
The fact that the woman in the first post also ordered dessert makes her a legend tbh
The touching food story...if she gave in & ordered the EXACT meal he had, then he'd still have the same dish after swapping! So him throwing a tantrum & refusing to eat it means even HE didn't want to eat food he after he stuck his own hands in it!!
@hayleemariemills EXACTLY! It’s the same meal fgs! He’s such an asshole
@hayleymariemills EXACTLY! It’s the same meal fgs. What an entitled high maintenance drama queen of an asshole
Yes, he's an absolute asshole. First telling her what to eat, then touching her food to control her.
For anyone interested in the fire story: the person later came back to add an edit where he explained that she could have "Googled" the phone number. That's right. He never gave her the office number because Google never gives out the wrong number since companies rarely edit their pages.
Also, I understand corporations have a lot of issues with employees having their phones on them, this was an exception. As soon as they found out about the fire, they should have allowed ALL employees to contact their families to let them know they were safe.
On the blind person's story - regardless of disability, the fact that we may have one does not mean we are all nice people. People can have a disability and be an a-hole. Those two are not mutually exclusive.
The company policy was probably there for safety not productivity. If you work around flammables (chemical or petrochemical industry) phones are not electrically certified for electrically classified areas. They may generate enough spark or static discharge to cause a safety hazard.
Places like that also can’t just shut down fast, so they couldn’t have allowed everyone to go to their lockers all at once either necessarily.
I could be wrong in my guesses here, but if you work in a flammable area you do not take your phone out there or any electronic that isn’t specially designed to be rated for that area.
@@jiaswan22 But they could've just taken an hour of lower-than-usual productivity to allow employees back in groups to notify their family members that they're ok while also keeping some function of the place going. The fact they don't have some sort of procedure like that in place, and don't have a protected area to use a phone in case of emergency, is honestly baffling. Not to mention that in this case, the dude didn't even give his wife his work number. So many things are kinda wrong here.
Interesting, I assumed it was military
Also, if the wife thought that the husband was in the building that caught fire, there would be no point calling the office cause, the office is on fire. No one in a burning building is gonna stop to answer a call
@5Demona5 By the same token, he obviously wasn't going to be able to answer no matter what. If he's told her it's impossible to call him at work, no amount of exceptions is going to change that. They should have definitely had a system in place for emergency contact.
It reminds me of when a friend I had blew up my phone but didn't leave a message at any point. She just decided that I was supposed to answer because she was calling even though she knew was towards the end of my shift. I had to call her to find out what was going on. Wasn't an emergency. She just decided she was justified in calling me over and over for five minutes instead of realizing I was busy and to leave a message.
To all my peeps, a message to you that my younger self really needed to hear; how someone treats you in public says more about who they truly are than how they treat you in private. If they can't acknowledge your existence or treat you with the respect you deserve in public, break things off, especially if they try to minimize or invalidate you when to try to discuss your feelings on the public treatment.
Untrue. Many abusers pretend to be so nice or loving in front of others, and hide what goes on behind closed doors
Or vice versa. Some will treat you beautifully in public, where everyone else can see, but in private, it is a different story. Nobody really knows the whole truth of what happens when the doors are closed.
@@synthychemucyo9619this I agree with.. went through it,and it was horrible.. was beaten at home, but treated like a queen outside.. luckily I got out of it..and married my amazing husband!! Now 21yrs married..
@minnarosenqvistmr happy to hear you're in and have been in a much better relationship. Congrats on 21 years 👏🏾 and wish you many more happy ones ❤️
I absolutely agree. I'm going through this situation right now. Some people are clueless about social mores.
This is way worse than just a few red flags. The blind fiancé is saying she's a liar and Cannot be trusted. On top of that. He put someone else into their business by going and whining to his friend and then allowed his friend to berate her. The fact that he's controlling what she eats in public. It's like the least of the problems, but I'm gonna tell you it will get worse. I. Survived as severely controlling domestic violence situation. It's started with him just controlling what lip and eye colors I wore. It ended with me being trafficked, hogtied In front of his friends, Left me tied up on me. Occasion's even drugging me so I couldn't do anything when he was gone. If you let them control one little thing; if they fine pleasure and controlling that thing, then they have a control issue and it will grow. You can make all the excuses you want for someone like this and try to downplay it. But this control factor is a part of who he is and it will expand and get worse.. Very much worse..
I am horrified that such unspeakable things happened to you. Kudos on having the courage to come out of the situation.
And yet my situation wasn't so bad compared to others.
@@angelblsullivan5802 I can't even imagine. My worst nightmare was very tame compared to what you had to go through. You tell me there is worse out there?
@@akankshapatwari4167 No matter how bad it is, there is ALWAYS someone worse.
@@theoriginalbridgetconnors You are right world can be horrible .
The one with the fire: I saw an update the other day where the wife was never given the company/office number - so her literal only choice (aside from maybe driving out there) was calling the husband on his cell phone and hoping for the best...
I've never figured out what this dude does for a living. My mom is an academic teacher (they also have vocational classes, which are more remote from the office) at a Maximum Security prison in California. They aren't allowed phones or smart watches or anything. A lot of people leave their phones in coolers in their car most of the year (average outside temp in the 90's or 100's).
The guy was angry at his boss and took it out on his worried wife.
Let me tell you a story about a million phone calls. A dear friend was murdered by a schizophrenic man. Totally random. She was stabbed in the back and was gone in 2 minutes before anyone could get to her. On the news that night, her body was covered lying next to her car. Her phone was continuously ringing. It was her husband's frantic search for her. He knew it was bad. He knew it. He has never really dealt with his deep grief even after all these years.
Be glad you have someone who cares. I can tell you one thing worse: having nobody in your life who cares. Dude. You have NO CLUE what it felt like for her. You have really hurt her. Like really, really hurt her. Admit that you are angry with your boss (the type of boss that one would enjoy pushing fully clothed into a swimming pool). Stop lying that you cared about the 20 calls. Turn your phone off, ya moron. You can't use it at work. Why is it on? I think you proved you will never answer it. Turn it off.
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Exactly
PREACH! !!!
it does not matter how much they care, she wife knew his phone was not on his person and it would not be seen till after work.. btw lots of job does not allow cell pones on the floor.
@@dwbworld I think we understand that but most of us want to know is HOW this boss knows his phone was ringing incessantly since it was in a locker or employee's rest area? And knowing whose phone it was too? Okay, maybe lockers are assigned, but still. His ringer being that loud to not only go thru the walls of a locker and into a near by office?
Now, me thinks that the phone wasn't where it was supposed to be but on his person and even being on do not disturb mode, because it was several times consecutively, went thru as emergency. So after second to third time, why didn't you turn it off? Also, could have excused yourself to go to the bathroom (unless they physically check you to see you're not using your phone while there), to ask what's up by text.
Mil probably IS an almond mom and is jealous that OP can eat and ENJOY food and still remain skinny while she’s been in a constant state of hangry for the last 20 years 😂
Not hangry 😂😂😂😂…. Yeah sounds like MIL just needs a Snickers 😂😂😂
If a partner is upset that you don't eat the same thing they do at any point, whether it's just in certain scenarios or all situations, it's a control thing.
Also, DND and silent are two different modes. DND is designed to be overridden after a certain numbers of calls specifically in case of emergencies. Silent can't be overridden by multiple calls.
As an European, I confirm. When my mom or grandma tell me to say stop when I have enough food on my plate I always make sure to tell them a bit earlier than I want to, knowing 2 or 3 extra spoonfuls of food are going to keep coming after I say it.
Can we normalize supporting people who want to set boundaries and break away from controlling weirdos?!
Let's hope
The controlling weirdos are setting boundaries, just ones we don’t want to normalise or support.
My brother was like the woman in the first story. His metabolism was on fire! A doctor told him once that when he was sitting still he burned twice as many calories as the fastest runners did
Anyway, he married into an Italian family, and his MIL was from Naples. Whenever he went to her house, she was always telling him "Marty, you too skinny! Here, let me get you something to eat!" and she would pull out some meatballs, some wedding soup, sometimes lasagna, sometimes some other pasta plus bread. My brother would eat it all, but she was never able to put any weight on my brother!
That sounds like some kind of a competition where everyone wins.
MIL: Challenge accepted.
My fiance is an amazing cook. I'm 6'1" and got to 150 pounds because they've been fattening me up. I'm so grateful.
Darn I wish I had the metabolism of your brother. My grandparents are also from Napoli and it was the same thing except I did put on weigh quite easily. When I started loosing then my nonna was like you are skinny, but in fact I was still overweight
@Kachinawa it's not as good as it sounds. Having a fast metabolism puts you at health risks such as osteoporosis, low energy and more susceptible to illness.
You know that if last OP's wife was in a car accident, their first reaction would be to be annoyed by how many times she/emergency services would call him at work to notify them
Or their daughter. How awful is that.
The phone call story: I think more has to be said on the PSYCHO controlling workplace who has a DEADLY accident at one of their facilities and doesn't even consider that their employees family might need to be reassured???
I literally ended a friendship over food shaming… she was making so many comments on the food I bought and i ate. The last time, She did it in front of a friend i just met and I simply said i buy / cook what i want to eat. Last time i saw her, ended friendships right there. I do not need permission to… you know.. eat.
to eat or for that matter to enjoy your damn food. im sorry for your friend tbh bc if she feels this strongly enough to judge you to your face, imagine what she puts herself through every second of every day. that amount of self hatred cant be healthy. sheesh. but good on you for letting that go and choosing your own worth.
She seems insufferable... Who TF talks about other people's food like that??
I ended a 10 year relationship with my best friend over the exact same reason.
Paying the whole bill because you wanted a steak? Absolutely not!
Pay for your own food and mind your damn business.
yes, I would have just said "well, we can all just pay what we ordered ourself." just because the in laws ordered more expensive stuff lol
I read this story on Reddit, and apparently the OP and her husband offered to split the bill by each couple paying for what they ordered, and this suggestion caused crazy MIL to freak out even more. Turns out she expected her son and DIL to subsidize her dining out habits by ordering multiple expensive (but small volume) food items while son and DIL just got one simple, low-cost entree each, and then splitting the bill 50/50.
Controlling narcissists be controlling…
id force the inlaws to do ramadan
Separate Checks are separate for reason. Whenever I go to lunch as a group ordered my food so as not to be tied to the group. I'm not paying for your food.
The no personal electronics rule makes a lot of sense. I worked at a psychiatric hospital and we weren't allowed to even bring our phones into the building, because of patient confidentiality. If there was a family emergency, they would call the unit phone and was answered by the RN on duty. There were way too many incidents of staff taking photos of patients' diagnosis/treatment files and sharing them with other people.
In that case, by the 2nd or 3rd call from a worried family member or loved one would have had the person who answered phones telling people to call their damn families to check in.
Whoa wtf on that last part. Why are they taking photos of patients' info and who are they sharing them with?
Also, any work where you go to clean room (tech, pharma etc.), 'no electronics allowed' applys...made remote auditing during covid much harder as many places just were not ok to have phone/camera there as it could be safety hazard in numerous ways. 😅
@@heykaylc23 It's to make fun of them. 100% of the time. I work in Insurance and I've seen many Claims get shared around internally to make fun of the claimant. So far I've never seen anything external, but I'm sure it happens. They send the patient info to their friends to say something to the effect of "LOL look at this psycho"
Even then, tho --- the phones get put into a locker, right? So, if your phone is IN YOUR LOCKER, where it should be, why is the manager writing this dude up for it going off?
The MIL in the first story would have HATED my great-Aunt. she was 5ft nothing and looked like she'd snap if you hugged her too hard. No joke, she was built like one of those petite barbie dolls. And Yet She could eat like nobody I've met before or since. She was also the sweetest, kindest lady and I miss her so much.
Many years ago I worked with a really skinny guy that never stopped eating. He ate a LOT. I couldn't figure out how he didn't gain weight or even look like he just ate a huge meal. We joked he had hollow legs and was eating for two, him and his tapeworm 😂
This is what I say to ppl who insist that ppl who have trouble losing weight should just eat less.
It's not always about mass. Metabolism and hormones are different and the body is wild.
My friend had hormone and medication issues and her parents kept trying to put her on a diet that wouldn't feed a bird. She was much more active than me and under a lot more stress.
She needed healthier food, not abuse.
My Sicilian mom monitored everyone's plate. She knew who are what and how much. If you finished everything, you didn't have enough and if you left food on your plate, you didn't like it. There was no winning. 😊 Love you Mom, miss you every day.❤
I knew I was born to the wrong family
Oh god, mine isn't even Sicilian but she's of italian descent. Girl can NOT stay in her plate, but she's the first one to tell everyone to "mind their plate". My partner is rail skinny and he usually eats slow, she automatically assumes he doesn't like it.
Meanwhile me being a total Gremlin just eat whatever and do whatever bc at this point, winning is eating, she can grumble XD (Totally her fault for marrying a dude with Italian+Basque blood, Basque people are just a hard cookie to nibble)
My Mom, bless her soul, was born in 1913 and passed away in 2016. She lived through the depression and the ravages or World War II and the aftermath in Europe. Though she didn't snack on empty calories, mealtimes were important to her. If she told you that you looked good it was to be taken as compliment .To me it only meant I needed to lose 10 pounds LOL. Beauty really is in the eyes of the beholder.
@@adacircosta4550I hope her legacy and stories can be shared and passed on
A Sicilian mama here, I do the very same. (I don’t get upset when they don’t like it, I’ll just force them to stay until I make them something they like 😂)
As someone who grew up working with horses, I can honestly say that it is hard work! And I know how starving that lady in the first story felt, and she had every right to eat as much as she freaking wanted! That MIL needs to just mind her own freaking business.
Same! She should invite MIL to work one day with her!
Sounds like MIL ate more anyway!
Hence the phrase "you could eat a horse!!"🐎🐎🐎🐎🐎🐴🐴🐴🐴
This is literally me after only caring for my one horse. I can’t imagine more than that 😮
@@itz_addieRelatable 🥲🤣
She's absolutely going to be made out to be the bad guy in every disagreement because her family and friends are scared to not side with the disabled (blind) guy, something her (hopefully ex by now) fiance is and has been using to manipulate her into compliance for the entirety of the relationship
I am surprised that part didn't go into the red flags category, it's really the first thing that caught my attention. He uses his disability as a shield and acts like he should be absolved of every wrongdoing because of it. I get he has a hard life, but you can't just use that as an excuse to mistreat others and play victim.
The noticable difference between do not disturb and silent is that if you put your phone on do not disturb things that the phone deems important such as phone calls still go through. The point of do not disturb is to block less important notifications like Facebook or games. Silent is designed to well keep the phone silent. Notifications and calls do still go through but the phone doesn't react to them. No sound and no vibrate.
I totally agree. MIL is DEFINITELY not European. When I visit my parents or grandparents, they open the door already bearing snacks! In a Brazilian and Portuguese family, olives, peanuts, cheese, crackers seem to appear out of thin air when unexpected guests come over. If they are expecting you, it’s definitely a full spread. 🇧🇷🇵🇹🩰
Haha, true, i'm from Portugal🇵🇹
Can i come over😅
I can totally understand it. I'm italian 😂
I get it. My dads side of the family is German/Danish. My great grandmother is German and she would stuff us with deserts after a big a*s lunch/dinner. The way we had the friggin -itis and nap before we would drive home
Same in Spain.Whenever you come to anyones house the table full of food in an instant..I just love it.
My brother used to be super insecure about food regardless of whether it was his or someone else’s. He always needed to check any plate set on the table and wouldn’t let anyone drink with ice because he heard a riddle about a lady drinking poisoned ice and decided that it was a premonition for him.
Turned out he has paranoid schizophrenia.
“Proceeds to sip big ice cubes near”
No shit! 😂
I have a brother just like that. He's also a paranoid schizophrenic.
oh man poor dude... glad he figured that out, hope he can do food now!
I traveled around the US for work for around six months and the work I did required a lot of physical labor - I ate quite a bit. We were in Allentown, Pennsylvania and I took myself to Waffle House for dinner as it was basically in the same parking lot as the hotel. I ordered the largest hash brown available (like a whole plates worth) with onions, jalapenos and cheese and 4 over easy eggs. The male manager found it appropriate to come over and joke with me about not being able to eat all of that and asking why I would order so much food when I was obviously alone. He then stared at me in complete disgust for the second half of my meal when he realized I was actually going to eat all of it in that one sitting - he didn't speak to me again before I left the restaurant. It was a win for me and I wonder if he still thinks about me 😂
That sounds like a normal 3 a.m. dinner/breakfast after a night of partying.
just went through another BC fire season. Standing, looking up the mountain, I said my grandchildren are up there. Someone asked did you phone? Even though I was worried sick, I looked at them like they were crazy and replied I'm not calling when they only have a few minutes to evacuate. Everyone was safe and sound and I was glad I didn't get told off for wasting precious time
As a german, i kinda can confirm that in family meetings, my grandparents either tell me that i eat too much or im hungering myself, there is no way in between 🙃
same. and either you are skinny in an unhealthy way or your butt looks like a horse's (my granddad used to slap on my butt when he thought it was getting bigger) and your face is either too thin and bony oder too round and looking like the moon. and other things, too. breast developement, style of clothing, a haircut they didn't like, features of my face that should look different so I could be more beautiful. uncles and aunts were also involved.
I can't even start to explain what that did to my body image. my male cousins never ever had to listen to comments like that, but my female cousin and I, we were never right. I started reflecting on that only a few years ago, now that most of the commentators have passed away or the contact has become less and less.
Why would you do that to a child/ teenager? So they have to suffer the way oneself did, because it's normal and everybody has to get along with it?
I hate these shaming structures so much. And as a child, no one takes you seriously, laughs at your frustrations and anger or is angry because you dare talking back.
My grandma:
"Kid, you got fat." and then at lunch "At least eat the meat. Do you want seconds? What about desert?" 🤣
My Nona was the same way.
"You don't eat all? You don't want more? Do you not love me?
" I can pinch an inch, no man will marry you"
Another German here and same. One time within 5 minutes I was told by my grandpa I should consider exercising more and my grandma telling me I look too skinny and I should eat more :D
True, my granny always worried that 3 Schnitzel per person weren't enough and my other grandma always asked if we want cookies or ice cream or chocolate and if we denied all, she always was concerned that we are sick 😂😂
unfortunately, a lot of jobs have the rule of no phones on the floor. We had an incident here where there was a mass shooting at FedEx and nobody could get ahold of loved ones because there were no phones allowed on the floor. Nobody could call the police and nobody could let their loved ones know they were okay. To this day, the rule still has not changed. They still dont allow phones on the floor even with what happened.
I saw this story when it hit Reddit, my take is the same as when it happened to me, what would 20 calls have done that 10 or even 5 wouldn't have? If I don't hear 5 rings I won't hear 20.
And I love Charlotte but im not sure how many friends she has who work in those types of jobs. There's many types of jobs where you are completely unreachable for hours at a time, and it used to be that way for many more jobs before the time of cell phones.
I'm 27 im not a boomer, I just can't imagine why she thought 20 calls would be more effective than calling local hospitals or doing literally anything else. If hes dead, hes certainly not going to pick up, so maybe call people who could tell you hes unconscious. Idk it just, TWENTY??
@@cassilac4510 You people from the US? I don't think that is a legal practice anywhere else in the world, therefore not really understandable for most people. Why do you allow anyone to treat you like that?!
When i startet working in a bakery they told us no phones, no watches on the wrist, no rings etc because of hygiene. so everyone keeps their phones etc in the locker, often not even take it out on break. If my parents wantes to call me they had to call the office or the direkt line into the bakery. No one had a problem with that. Normally thats not a safety-issue to have no phone...at least outside of america where we dont have mass-shootings ^^ @@cassilac4510
@@TheAlja yes USA & because it is usually fields that are medical or tech based, with sensitive info. The other option is manufacturing, a lot of places banned them in the early 2000s because of lethal accidents caused by phone distraction.
@@TheAljait's the land of the free. Where everything is perfect.
And why 20 calls? Because if you're hysterically trying to contact someone that might've died you make sure that someone has the chance to pick up the phone. OPs friends can't unlock his phone if he isn't in his best shape so they can't call the girl, but they can answer. And maybe, just maybe, they don't think about calling her or even know she exists since he has only worked at that hellhole for 6 months. Being written up because someone called you after one of your workplaces had a major fire? I don't think there has been a single day the last four or so years I haven't been thankful I don't live in the us.
My family is the same way. I had a miscarriage and I was diagnosed with PCOS one of the determining factors was bc I gained too much weight in a short time and it was bc I wasn’t eating or I wasn’t active. Apparently PCOS can affect your bodies ability use/make insulin. My parents basically tortured me for two years making comments about my weight to the point where I literally ate once a day ñ I would hide to avoid the comments they literally were mad at me for wanting a birthday cake this year saying I didn’t need any calories.
your parents are abusive sweety
I’m so sorry about this!!
@@MM-em6ly it’s fine. I can’t blame them for their views bc that’s all they know. However it’s why when I do not live with them I distance myself and why I’m working so hard to get into an independent living situation. To me as much as it hurts it’s just motivation
It is hurtful but it is necessary to distance yourself mentally if not physically. Just have a regular mental/sanity check where you keep reassuring yourself that what they’re saying and doing is not true and that, yes like you said as is mostly the case, they do not intentionally mean to hurt you. And that, as much as it might serve nothing, it does help a lot!! They do not mean to be the way they are and I’m so happy for you for knowing that and for knowing how to help yourself. I wish you all the best in life, kind soul ❤️
@@MM-em6ly thank you ik they mean well n love me and just want the best for me so I just hold on to that and love them from a distance. sending you love and well wishes darling 💞this thing they call life is hard asf sometimes
my grandma's birthday: the waiter asked her several times if she wants more cake "just one piece, it's your birthday, you deserve it" she politely said no. my uncle and I looked each other in the eyes and burst laughing when she told my niece, in the same second "come on, you have to eat more."
In a time before cell phones were a regular thing to have, there was a HUGE tragedy at my dad's work place. They had been adding on to the factory for a while, and that part of the building collapsed while my dad was at work. We were all in front of the TV, waiting anxiously for the phone to ring. News had gotten out that a few people didn't make it out. Hours went by, when the phone finally rang. It was our dad. I know DAMN WELL that if my parents had cell phones, my mom would have been ringing him every second of every minute to find out if he was okay, and that would have been understandable. It's a stressful situation when you don't know if your loved ones are okay. It honestly would have crushed all of us if my dad hadn't made it out of the building alive that night. I am grateful every day to still have him. ❤
The missed calls story: There are certain jobs that deal with highly classified info and they don’t allow outside contact (including cell phones). I know a couple of these type of companies in my area (defense contractors). When working at these companies, my assumption is there must be some sort of emergency procedures for situations like this. My guess is this guy didn’t know the procedure since he was only working there 6 months, or they told him and he failed to communicate it to his wife. In any case, he should not get mad at his wife because it’s actually his fault if he didn’t teach her the right way to get in touch with him during emergencies. That’s actually probably why he got into trouble and got written up because they expected him to communicate that information to his spouse. Definitely TA.
I know people who work for defense contractors and that's exactly right. IF he was actually written up (and that's a big IF in my mind), I'm sure it didn't happen the way he was implying. It would have been because he failed to follow some policy or protocol. Companies like that have official channels for emergency contact situations that are well documented.
There are companies that deal with making explosives and they want your phones locked up always, off in some places. I agree the guy got mad at the wrong person, but she knew how to call the office. When he didn't answer after a few calls, it would have been nothing for her to call the office and get any information she can legally have. His phone should really be off, but she could have avoided all that over worry a lot sooner. He shouldn't have yelled at her for really what is both of their mess up, but she could have found out without him getting in trouble.
@@SweetDeecoyI agree with you, they both messed up here. He should have had the phone off, but she already knew she couldn't contact him on his phone. Even if she wasn't told about alternative procedures, she could have done some simple research and contacted the company that way. I can understand him being angry, especially after he got in trouble, because he had no idea why she would be calling him, even if it was for an emergency. I think he should have reacted differently, definitely shouldn't have yelled at her. But this was definitely a mess up on both sides.
I’m guessing the reason he got written up is because phones are supposed to be OFF but he thought it was good enough to put it on Do Not Disturb.
I thought the most telling part of the story is that he doesn’t ask HER if SHE’s okay when he sees he missed 20 calls. When I miss 2 calls from someone I assume they need help.
@@carolynv8979right? First thought I'd have os someone had am emergency. He wasn't worried about his wife or child. Just mad. That's a whole problem in itself.
That first story was so sad the fact she had to hide the amounts that she SHOULD be eating from her mil, how dare she treat her daughter inlaw like that and the fact her husband doesn't put a stop to his mother's actions is even more disturbing
Also just for anyone feeling things over the first story- even if you don't have a crazy high metabolism and aren't skinny you can still eat whatever you want and no one else should have a say in what you do or don't eat. Food is energy for your body and everyone deserves to eat, skinny or not.
I have seen skinny people with horrible diets that thought they were healthier than an overweight person because they are skinny and I have seen overweight people that eat healthier. You are right that no one should have a say in what you eat. It's your body and your life!
My family has commented many times about what I eat. So the last few years I just don’t eat much in front of them. Now they’re all surprised “I don’t eat, I don’t eat enough”. Like really? It’s so rude to comment like that. Leave me tf alone.
There really is no middle.
I’m back at the gym now but not telling them because I just don’t want to deal with them anymore. Not their business
Unless you eat something that you will complain about, and someone is sick of you complaining about what you ate; nobody has reason to say squat about your menu choices. If they want to control what you eat, they'll arrange a menu for the table & pay for it all. Otherwise, STFU.
Food allergies & medical issues (not perceived health concern) excepted.
The MIL with the eating made me so mad! I have an eating disorder and it happened after someone told me not to eat so much. Now, after 4 years, I am still recovering from it and slowly putting my weight on.
I feel you hun, my dad would ask me how my weight was doing and my first bf would constantly comment on everything I touched. I'm a 17yr bulimic, 3yrs in recovery. I HATE eating in front of ppl, at home I take my time, eat slowly and only what I actually want. But infront of other's. . I try to find middle ground, it's so frustrating!! Ppl don't realize how much this can effect you. Remember we are all beautiful in our own ways, healthy is the personal goal, I wish you the best hun.
@@angelabarnes1675 Aww, thank you! Sorry about your boyfriend and his comments. I was 21 and now 25. I hate eating in front of people too and would rather eat alone when no ones around. I was always like this about eating in front of people even before my eating disorder as it made me uncomfortable.
It’s psychotic. I can’t imagine someone trying to police what I’m eating. Mind your own business lady. The MIL was probably just upset she had to be careful with what she ate or she gained weight. And watching someone without that problem being able to eat whatever they wanted made her jealous. It’s really weird to watch what others eat and obsess over it.
So glad you're recovering! ❤
People who have never suffered from an eating disorder have no idea how harmful or dangerous those little comments can be. One snide remark can send us into remission for YEARS. I still struggle with my relationship with food and my weight, but it's getting better slowly.
@@raimeyewens7518That and the money. These people have much bigger problems than judging what others eat, and in my experience they are very unlikely to ever get counseling for their problems.
I'm having a big problem grasping the idea that anyone, eating out, would expect their partner to eat the same as them. What was their purpose or reasoning behind such a bizarre idea?
seems like OCD. He seems to have to do "RITUALS" in order to quiet a voice in his head that says something bad will happen if he doesnt do the "ritual"
Deal breaker for me wtf
My thought based on reddit craziness was that when eating out, he didn't want people to see her eating a lot, so would deliberately order something small and force her to do the same. Then he'd touch it to make her eat even less or because he didn't trust that she wouldn't have slipped the waiter a note or something
It's gross and dumb but some guys get "embarrassed" when a woman eats a lot in public.
The big concern was his weaponizing his disability against her in order to control her behavior.
Considering it's just an issue when they're out, as she said when they're home he doesn't care but just when they're out eating. It's just a way of controlling someone, it's abusive. From his insults of accusing of ordering different food of thinking he's not as capable for some reason. He's clearly in some sense hurt being blind out in public and having a partner beside him who isn't. I'd assume he thinks, that she thinks she's better than him and he wants to control what the world sees of them together out in public in away. Just my guess though on the insults and only giving a damn when it's in public
@@alejandraalcantar679 I think you're on the money. It's about control and it stems from an insecurity about being lesser in public and not having as much power over her as he expects to have over his woman
After attending a funeral my family returned home, hungry.
No-one wanted to cook so my sister offered to run out to grab food.
She brought back sandwiches and sides for everyone except me. I got a small plain green salad.
The whole room went silent. Just to break the tension I used my funniest joking tone/voice/body language and said, "are you calling me fat? Haha"
She simply answered (in her judgy tone) yes.
I stopped talking and ate my salad.
After she left my mom apologized. Not her fault though. I went out for a chicken sandwich and fries.
Eff my judgemental sibling who humiliated me on purpose. Eff her!
Edited to add: yeah, I'm overweight but so is she. She has ALWAYS been judgemental of me and my health problems. She refuses to acknowledge that I got fat when I developed chronic illnesses and chronic pain.
I'm not sick because I'm fat. I'm fat because I'm sick and have mobility issues. 😢😢
It's hard to move when you're in a lot of pain. Those who have never experienced that can't understand. They get pain, but not THAT kind of pain. It's a whole other thing. Plus it makes you want to snack more to feel better. I get it. It's hard. I hope you're doing better now.
@@paulagoeringer9466 thank you. Unfortunately my chronic pain comes from spinal and joint issues that cause them to deteriorate. I won't get better. That's tough to accept for me, but for my sister, well, apparently I am malingering.
@@oregoncoastbeachcomber2060 it sounds like we're in the same boat. All we can do is try to ignore the pain as best we can. Not often possible, but I can dream. 😸
@@paulagoeringer9466 I'm sorry you're suffering in pain too. It isn't a life I'd wish on anyone. Not even people who judge me unfairly. I wish I could be ignorant of this kind of pain too.
Wishing you all the best and some good 'less-pain' days to enjoy.
On a side-note; a physical therapist got me set up with an at home neck traction system. It fits over a door so it's easy to set up and use.
Once my neck is stretched and relaxed after 10 or 15 minutes, a lot of tension in the rest of my body releases as well. It's incredible how much one's body tenses up with pain.
So I worked for a company where I answered the phones for nonprofit organizations and due to having access to sensitive info our phones had to be locked up. We couldn’t even have paper and pen…it really sucked if there was an emergency, they did provide a number that was to be called if there was an emergency however it was a voicemail box that rarely was checked. My mom had to get ahold of me due to my cousin having emergency surgery and she couldn’t until I went on my lunch break. She said she called that number 10 X i couldn’t believe that nobody gave me the message smh
What is is even more anger inducing about the last story, is that the guy admits in the comments that his wife didn't have his work number because he had never given it to her. He says she could have just googled the number...no guarantee that she would even get through let alone get to the right work site. He is absolutely the AH and I hope she realizes she deserves better.
More to the point In that situation I'd still not call the office after all it's on fire therefore I assume no one would be staying around to answer the phone !!
@@annied1827It was a different office, but the one not on fire would probably know where he was.
While I do agree with your point, if she already knows she can't contact him at work, she should have tried looking up a company contacts number instead of blowing up his phone. I know panic and Terror dont help, and it would have been better for him to provide the number. But she is not completely blameless in this situation. Neither one handed it well, and the boss definitely didn't handle the situation correctly.
@@kamparker9726no absolutely not she did the right & he's an asshole. A life & death situation comes before possibly breaking a phone rule. Stop dick riding a corporation who's policies are harming the emotional & physical wellbeing of their family. She did nothing wrong. Any normal human would do that just say you don't love anyone enough
@@kamparker9726exactly… if there’s a fire or something dangerous is going on, did she expect him to go through fire and ignore safety protocols worldwide about forgetting about belongings and getting to safety so he can retrieve his phone in case she calls? Like… what was the thought process there?
When my brother died, my roommate was gone and I couldn't hear the phone from my bedroom. My parents called for over an hour, then called a person they knew at the college to come wake me to answer the phone. But they weren't angry with me, just devastated their son was gone and they had to tell all of their daughters.
Sounds like the job and the employees in the last story have inflated phone issues to the point that when their employees have been killed in a fire, they still don't want calls from the dead and injured employees loved ones trying to find them. That's a dark and terrible workplace.
Im really sorry you lost your brother. I know this comment is a month old but it made me sad to read, and i thought id be nice if you knew. Hope youre doing okay.
4:10 MIL sounds jealous AF!!
Charlotte laughing so hard you can see her uvula wiggling is epic!
Fun fact : If you watch paintings from centuries ago all the people have round faces, curves, not a bone visible. That's because being what we now dim to be "a bit fat" was the goaled body type, showing you were rich enough to eat well and even more. It was a show of health. So they "photoshopped" themselves to look fatter. It was not fashionnable being skinny because skinny was for the poor. It's just as dumb now that it was then to judge others to not be what YOU think is "what man/woman should be like"
It was a show wealth and status, too. It’s always about what’s less attainable for the "poors". Back then it was having excess of food, nowadays with a fast food chain on every corner, it’s about having access to good quality food and having time to exercise. The rich always want to separate themselves from the plebs.
I’m glad someone else said this so I didn’t have to!
Whenever someone comments on my weight, i just laugh and say ‘yeah because i have money for food”
I'm Italian (for context). Growing up my Grandmother would make huge amounts of food and it was typically seen as the more you ate, the healthier you were (not saying that's correct but it is what it is). If you finished your plate or went back for seconds my Grandfather would say "God Bless". I could not deal w/that MIL!
5:09 ohmigosh that pizza line made me spit laughing!😂🤣
Watching this again, its just too hilarious. "Can I just exist?" 😂😂😂 "Give me the dang cheeseburger"
My mom is an almond mom. The way I have started to love myself almost at 30 is depressing. My entire life was full of diets (since I was like 9) and she telling "dont eat all of that, just this and that", "why are you eating again, you ate like 2 hours ago", etc... And also sending a bunch of "health articles". It caused me to have a very bad eating disorder, I never lost weight because I have hormonal problems and other issues. Sometimes I spend weeks barely eating and drinking a lot of water, other times I cant stop eating but I end up throwing up. Now I love myself more and more everyday, and basically had to tell her that if she didn't stop with the comments, I was going NC with her.
Imagine letting your own unresolved food issues potentially destroy your relationship with your son and his wife.
The last story hits a bit close to home due to a near miss last winter when the chemical plant my brother works at literally exploded. My dad was working at a nearby quarry that ended up being evacuated due to the toxic nightmare raining down from the skies in the whole surrounding area. They both ended up being completely safe, but I don’t think I’ll ever forget what that day felt like.
“Screen door in a hurricane “ reaction face made me cackle😂😂
About the first story: When I was a teen, I was quite skinny, and had been all my life. Very very fast metabolism. Heard all the jokes cuz I ate like this girl in the story, I snacked all the time, I ate more than any male that I ever dated and more than most grown men I knew. My mom used to literally have to give me protein shakes before school every day - the whole Rocky thing with raw eggs and wheat germ - just so I wouldn't lose weight while at school (no snacks at school). I had guys tell me they wouldn't ask me out to dinner because it would cost too much (I didn't care). Maybe it was because I ate slowly and gracefully (was taught to), so no one ever really attacked me about it, but I don't remember anyone ever being so rude as this woman and all those in-laws. It is never your place to police someone's eating unless you know there could be a real medical emergency as a result. It's just not. You do NOT know what may be the story behind it.
Me too. 5'7" and 100lbs soaking wet. If I showed up to friends' houses near meal time it was one of two reactions - 1) hide the food, it's her, or 2) hey, do you want this last pork chop, I don't want to store it.
I grew up with a father who worked at one of the huge petrochemical plants near Houston, Texas. The plants are ENORMOUS. Employees would park in a secure parking lot, then go wait for the company tram or bus to collect them and drive them a mile or more to the actual plant. In the very early 2000s when cell phones really gained popularity, all these plants (Exxon, Shell, Chevron-Phillips, Bayer, to name a few) instituted policies banning cell phones inside the plant. You had to leave it in your car, and if you were caught with it in the plant, or if it was found in your locker, you'd immediately be fired and escorted off the premises. You be lucky if your phone was given back immediately because they had to search it to make sure nothing about the plant was on it. All of the plants use proprietary methods, technology, chemicals, etc. in their manufacturing processes. A lot of what they make is highly toxic and explosive. Those proprietary parts of the plant are strictly guarded against industrial espionage and sabotage. It wouldn't take much for an enemy of the US to pay for simple photographs of the layout of one of these plants, making it easy to cause a massive explosion that kills millions of people. Dad retired 10 years ago, so they could have changed the rules, but I hope not. We've lived through several serious explosions on the Houston Ship Channel, and we feared for dad's life every time. Accidents due to plain human error are bad enough without also worrying about easy sabotage stemming from lax security.
My mom built HVAC systems until maybe 2 years ago. Because of proprietary reasoning, you can not have your cellphone on the floor. However they had an emergency phone line for her building. It was literally called The Bat Phone. As in it had better be an emergency. The number is only to be given to an emergency contact and/or immediate family.
True. I'm kinda on OP's side here. Yes, he shouldn't yell at her for worry about him. But he can literally can get fired over this.
and yet it's not OP's Wife's fault for him not understanding how the do-not-disturb function of his phone works.
I work somewhere similar, but I make medicine and deal with confidential info. Can't have phones because I work in a sterile environment, but also the walls are made of metal to prevent incoming calls, so nobody gives away confidential info.
Idk. She’s concerned. If both can’t handle this situation, they need serious conversation to stay together or not.
People have very different views of my eating habits depending on when they met me. I'm known as either "barely eats anything" or "she eats all day" 😂 My forever favorite reaction I had from someone was "I've never seen someone so small consume so much" 😂😂😂
I do have a fairly fast metabolism, but I exercise regularly and try to eat healthy to not let myself go as I do require regular feedings throughout the day since I'm always hungry 😬
I LOVE ordering food at restaurants to have leftovers. Especially at diners, so I have an awesome breakfast the next day!
My daughter once had dinner with her male counterparts while on a business trip. They happened to pick one of my favorite restaurants. A rib joint. Much to their amazement, my skinny but athletic daughter proceeded to devour a full rack of beef ribs. Those are the ribs from the front leg, all the way back. Needles to say, her dinner companions were amazed. They were even more amazed when she topped that with a bowl of banana pudding. I couldn’t have been more proud.
I can't believe she would be so concerned with the daughter in law meals. If it were me I would let my husband know I will not be spending anytime with these freaks.
She's obviously jealous of the skinny DIL.
@@loosilu Might not be jealous of DIL being skinny, but definitely jealous of DIL being able to actually eat food, let alone enjoy it.
I have a feeling if MIL was fat, then she would be far, far worse to deal with than what OP describes, because she'd be absolutely miserable and would make sure OP was too.
Also, she was quoted as saying something like OP "made FIL and BIL feel uncomfortable" with how much she ate, which means that MIL probably isn't eating a lot herself (whether by her own rules or her husband's, we don't know enough to say which).
I hadn't thought of it...but they ARE freaks.
It's actually is to your advantage.. you can catch up on movies while your husband deals with the freakazoids.
If perchance you decide to eat with them again, I'd order a bunch of food and chew every bite 20 times while staring at MIL. She will go crazy and placed under a 5150 72-hour psych hold. Then, eat to your heart's content.
😂
I grew up with a mom who would tell me that I wasn't allowed to eat after 6pm because it was too late and that it's not good. My body needs it, especially because I'm on a few different medications that require me to keep a balanced diet. But because of her, I struggle to do that, or just. Eating anything, really. It's incredibly toxic and that MIL needs to learn how to be quiet
I worked with horses for many years in my teens to mid 20s and I can confirm, you can literally eat whatever you want all day every day and you will not gain any weight at all! I had prominent muscles all over my body just from the daily work and I also ate like an absolute monster 😂 me and my colleague wore a Fitbit for a week and we were averaging like 40-50,000 steps a day and that’s not including the calories you’ll burn while riding. Working with horses tends to be long hours and usually 6 days a week so you’re constantly moving for like 12-15 hours a day 🐎
The boyfriend that is blind has way more issues than not being able to see. Woof.😒 He's a control freak and she needs to run.
Yes, he does. That would have ended on our first date, though, because I would have stabbed him straight thru the hand with my fork. It seems like a natural reflex when someone goes for your plate. (Or that's what I would have told him while he bled.)
@@emasters8619 🤣🤣🤣
If he can't change, yeah
And, all other red flags aside, why wouldn't he accept to switch plates? He touched it, he can eat it, should not have been a hard decision at that point.
@@thebroken0wastakenHe doesnt deserve the chance to change. That behaviour is insanely toxic. Not using insanely as slang here meaning "very". I mean literal insanity. The fact that he made a big dramatic move by staying at the friend, getting the friend to call HER abusive? No way, f that dude that is WAY WAY too far. Bye. He can go into therapy and figure out why hes such a narcissistic pigheaded child.
My mom was the "unbuttered air popcorn" mom... from old 80's Weight Watchers days. And that was only when doing homework. We were not allowed to snack between meals. "Women" were supposed to be skinny if they wanted to be successful.... and "better than men".🙄 This started when I hit puberty and got large boobs at 10 y.o.... and has never stopped. "Do you really need to eat that??"
So sorry that you had to deal with that
Sounds like my mom. My mother had me actually join weight watchers along side of her at 10 years old.
@@vanessacooks8870 Same! Although I didn't "join"... I had to do it with her at home. I was lean and athletic... I just had 34 C boobs at 10. Those darn girls just continued to get bigger as I got older. By the time I was 16... I was 5'4", 115lbs, and a 36DD. I know now that I was not fat then, but because of my chest and muscular thighs from running... my mom considered me always on the brink of getting fat.
@@animelover7208 Such is life. You learn a lot of coping skills. It wasn't until my 50's that I figured out my mother is a narcissist. Now I'm working hard at changing core belief systems, thought processes, and habits that are not really mine... all those coping skills that no longer serve me as an adult.👍
Are we related?!?
Long lost sibling?
Lol sounds like my mom 😂
When we had dinner at my former MIL’s house, you had to dish yourself small portions to save room for the second portions you were forced to have 😂
In Spain, a friend and I ordered a lot of food. It was our last day and we wanted to try different dishes. The server refused to bring out some of our dishes, bexause she said we were ordering too much.
Also in Spain, I eat my dinner very early, compared to Spanish people. I was working/living on a farm up a mountain. I walked an hour to the nearest cafe on my days off. I'm not the slimmest person, but I am fit and burn a lot of calories. Every time I tried to order local food they would refuse me as they believed the course was too much for that time of day. So I always ended up with burger and chips. I think they assumed I was American.
The woman with the blind boyfriend is in an abusive relationship. That’s some weird controlling behavior and gaslighting
The “no cell phone at work” thing is a common rule for people who work at secure facilities.
My family member’s ex worked at a psychiatric facility and wasn’t allowed their phone while working. If my family member had to reach them during a shift, they’d have to call multiple desks to find them (they were assigned to units semi-randomly so that patients/inmates couldn’t set anything up with them).
Sure. I have worked at secure facilities where we weren't allowed to have phones, but given the circumstances, he should have been understanding, and instead of attacking her verbally, should have told her that he was sorry that she was concerned, that he cares about her. Then he should have talked to his supervisor about the circumstances and gotten an exception to this policy for this one day. It's unjustified to deny someone a promotion because their spouse called on the day of an emergency like that.
@@theedgeofoblivious Oh, don't get me wrong. He was BANG out of order for flipping out. I was just addressing Charlotte's misunderstanding about secure facilities that don't allow cell phones or personal phone calls.
Yeah I live near a major government laboratory and the people I know who work there aren't allowed anything that can be plugged into a computer. No phones, no vapes, no flash drives, not even a rechargeable calculator. Government security is taken very seriously.
I work in a prison...no cellphones allowed on the property. Did the wife call the work number??? He went too far but maybe the promotion thing screwed with his head.
My husband works at a warehouse, and when he first started, he could not have his phone on him and had to keep it in his car or locker. Granted, I don't know the consequences of having your phone out on the floor, but it's a rule. He gave me the number for the office/front desk if anything came up.
I'm on OP's side with this one, because 1) the wife knew not to call his phone, and 2) She had the number for the office/front desk.
I will never get tired of the Honorable Judge Charlotte!
Story one. I think the reason MIL has such an issue with what OP eats is because OP doesn’t gain weight, which makes MIL jealous and self-conscious. So she draws attention to an issue that doesn’t exist in order to feel better. How do I know this? Because my mom does the same thing
Something to add to the last story: in one of his comments he said his wife could/should have GOOGLED the office number and call that. So he didn't even give her the office number to call in case of something happening!
I get what you're saying, but obviously she never asked for it either.
I just don't get the issue people are having with looking up a phone number. It's not like she had to find an actual phone book & flip through hundreds of pages.
Right, just call the office while fearing the worst-case situation. 😢
@@norabunyard5798 A) you’ve obviously never been in a panicked state where you don’t think - if you were you’d know the last thing she’d think is, “oh I better google his work number”.
B) I’ve never once thought about asking for my partner’s work number - why would I, if he needed to contact me he would, even then, my own work number isn’t saved, I have my bosses text number, if I want to know something I’ll text him and he’ll reply when he is free…..that’s how most people do things in the modern world, we rarely have a work number saved, not to mention that she’s never felt like she’s needed to call before, so why would that even be something she thought she’d need to do.
C)He could of given her the number, but didn’t, so why is the onus on her?!? D) He got mad at her before he even called to see what was wrong, a lot of people have their partners number saved as emergency contacts, he didn’t even consider that as a possibility - that she could of been injured and emergency was trying to call HIM! E) the first words were “why the f*ck did you call”, not “are you okay? What’s wrong”……you know the normal empathetic response that most people have when they get 20 missed calls from a loved one, it’s not like she’s ever done that before! F) are you seriously trying to justify his actions! No, there’s no excuse! He was the AH pure and simple
@@norabunyard5798Right, because in a life or death situation we’re all so calm and rational. 🙄 Get tf over it dude. Anybody would be lucky to have someone care for them that much.
@cristyvega9935 I find it incredible that people have no control over their emotions. I've been in some horrible situations & had to look numbers up. It's really not that hard for mature people to do.
GTF over yourself.
With the last story, she was probably in a panic, and wasn’t thinking about his phone, not being accessible or that she should probably call the office. Panic makes you not think straight.
Maybe she was thinking there is a fire I can't call the office even if she was given a number to call which she wasn't apparently he said she should have googled it. However my logic would be the building is on fire there would be noone staying in a burning building to answer the phone 🙄
soooo I remember reading this story (or listening on Smosh) AND the dude admitted in the comment that he never gave her the office number but that she should have googled it 🤣🤨 on the asshole scale, he's high
@@annied1827 and she knew his phone was not on his person calling would result in no answer
@@TheMiissPeche I also first saw this story on Smosh!
That comment about your mom, I am dying! I'm Romanian too and that's my mom as well. Glad to know it's an universal experience haha
3:30 I don't care if folks comment on how much i eat anymore. It's taken me years to be comfortable not caring but I i tend to do 2 meals so my meals are larger and if I'm hungry I'll eat it 🤷🏼♀️
Someone commented how i need to savor my "good metabolism" while I'm young and I smiled and told her oh no i was morbidly obese as an 18 year old and have spent years to improve my health (with exercise and what/how I eat) and now I PROPERLY eat and am healthy.
She was gobsmacked and I finished my meal cheerfully 😂
I don't see why he was so upset she took his food when they literally had the same food. She got the untouched food and he got the food he touched. I teach my 3 and 5 to not to touch food they are not going to eat 😂
Eww, I hope he washed his hands before he touched her meal.
Exactly! I guarantee you if I asked my preschool students right now, they’d all say “only touch food that’s yours and that you have room in your tummy for”. They’ve been taught about boundaries and we’re working on their eyes not being bigger than their bellies: they know that they are always welcome to second helpings if they’re still hungry but not to be too overzealous to avoid throwing food away since no one else can eat it once it’s been on their plate.
Because the whole point was that he wanted to be in control and it probably gave him some sort of sick satisfaction
@@megangordon8115 I definitely agree with this. I noticed it was about 'policing' her and what she eats. Its all about him wanting to have the control over her.
I married into an amazing Russian family, 21yrs ago,and I've been treated better then my own family treated me.. Now my mil is one of the best in my life!! She is an amazing grandma to my kids and i love her so much! She even made my wedding dress for me, as she's a designer and seamstress.. she is so talented!!
That story with the blind partner is absolutely absurd…. If you touch my food without my permission, I might actually fight you 😂😂😂 let alone smear your fingers around “just to check”
PLEASE always eat as much as you can possibly eat while in their presence forever just to be as petty as possible 😂❤
Last time I was at my in-laws house they made me my own pizza and literally sat there telling me to eat more 😂 they made it special for me and wanted me to enjoy it. ❤
They made pizza for everyone but they accidentally put mushrooms in the sauce not knowing I was allergic so when they found out they felt so bad they made me my own special pizza lol they’re too sweet 🥰
As to that last story, I used to work at a state prison, and all of the circumstances he outlined as to why he couldn’t have his phone fit right into that narrative. However, as someone else commented, I was always accessible by office phone. However, a corrections officer wouldn’t have that luxury. And, it is very difficult to reach a CO when they’re on duty. She may literally not have known who to call.
@4:20... lol! "screen door in a hurricane" lmao!
“You look like you have a tire around your waist” NOOO!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣
My mom told me about an incident when my dad was out to sea (military-type job). Their ship caught on fire, causing everyone onboard to jump ship. She saw it on the news and couldn't directly contact him. He was okay, thankfully, but my mom didn't know that and tried her hardest to reach anyone at the base for information. If my dad had reacted the way the guy did in the last AITA post, my entire family would've been pissed off at him. Seriously...that woman deserves better.
The first story: My sweet mum was abused by her in-laws (and by my father) about food and weight. She was 5’7” and barely 110 lbs and they were hideous from the inside out and I want to go back in time and, and, erm, snarl 😖 Yeah, I just triggered myself 😖
1st story, i used to eat small portions when i was young because i was sitting a lot and health conditions, but i was a little plump. Now, i eat big portions but has normal body because i burned more calories than i eat. Many of my relatives are happy for me because i am super healthy now and i am eating a lot. 😂😂
Last Story: I work in childcare and we have to lock up our phones too. Can’t even have an Apple Watch. If you need me, call the front office. 😅
He is using his blindness as cover for control issues. If I was blind I’d probably be paranoid too. But this doesn’t excuse it. His Blindness may explain it, but it doesn’t excuse it.
My blind friend is not paranoid in the least. That guy is straight-up controlling and creepy.
Another thing I noticed is why it only the food he wants to eat and not hers? like she could pick her own food and he copy hers, if he is sooo worried! His ass needs to go!
You nailed my thoughts perfectly!
@@Jinx369Facts! Blind or not, he's a asshole! And so is his Friend!!
I live in a town with a lot of language schools that teach English so there are a lot of students around. A few years ago there were a few of them in a restaurant who were cheering on a very slim young woman (18 or 19) who was eating her third main course. It turns out that she was a competitive cross country skier and had to average a huge amount of calories a day just to break even. She was half my size, but could eat twice as much.
My partner's family laughs at how much more i eat than my partner, and that i often finish his food. Its become a running joke.
3:22 CAN ATTEST TO THIS!
Since starting my current day job a year and a half ago, I’ve lost a LOT of fat weight, gained muscle weight, as it is a VERY physical job. You do an insane amount of walking / speed walking DAILY (about 10 miles, give or take), and there is quite a bit of heavy lifting. I actually have a bit of a cut to my biceps now, which I’ve NEVER had in my life before. Nothing crazy, but it’s there.
However, I eat heartier NOW with the workout I get daily BECAUSE of my job.
I used to never be able to finish an entire meal before. I can easily now because by the end of a shift day, I’m usually hungry AF. Even after having a good lunch. And my body CRAVES proteins.
On 9/11, coincidentally my husband was flying across Pennsylvania for a work trip. When all the planes started going down, and then the one in PA, I calculated that it would have been close to where his flight would have been at that moment. I was already upset seeing everything unfold, but that was when I started to panic. I had no way of contacting him to see if he was ok. I called his boss at the office, crying, and asked if he knew anything or if he heard from anyone on the trip. He hadn’t yet. I asked that when he did to please ask my husband to call me immediately. The plane finally landed somewhere in Ohio and they were all stuck there for 5 days until they could rent a car and drive home. However, the point of my story is, that when my husband finally called me, he didn’t reassure me that they were all safe. Instead I was yelled at for overreacting and disturbing his boss while at work. (Mind you, his boss was a very nice guy and was not annoyed I called in a panic.) Needless to say, I was stunned by his reaction and have never received an apology. It turned out that their plane was only 5 miles from theUnited plane that went down. We are still married, but some things change a relationship forever.
I'm not sure what to say...
While I'm not one to tell anyone to stay or leave their marriage however
9/11 was a MONUMENTAL ordeal that affected EVERYONE in the nation! I was crying from worry for friends in
New York, friends in other states were worried about me as one of the planes were supposed to hit Atlanta...everyone was worried about EVERYONE everywhere!
How moreso, a wife of her husband?
Just seems very red flaggish, Sweet Potatoe!
I'm sending positive vibes!❤❤
That's just... awful.
In the summer of 2000, my sister moved to Vermont. But for years before then, she'd lived in Jersey City, NJ, and took a PATH train into Manhattan to work. She changed trains at the WTC at about 9 every morning. On 9/11, I called her, sobbing with relief that I *knew* she was in Vermont and safe. She was distraught because she had so many friends that might or might not have been killed, and the phone lines were completely jammed. Trying to reach a loved one during a mass disaster like that is terrifying, and YES we panic because we don't know. Anyone who gets upset over a loved one panicking is the ahole.
Fat shaming makes me so mad! I’m a really small petite woman and I never understood why other skinny women think it’s ok to shame others for their size. Even if it’s a health concern - I’m not healthy at all (I’m underweight).. maybe just leave people alone about their weights.
Btw, I loved her response with the steak! Forgot to put that in. 🔥 play.
Yeah, as someone who has suffered from an ED, telling people the obvious about their weight isn't helpful. If it's really a medical problem, they need professional medical help. Other people insulting what you look like more often backfires.
Idk if this story can even count as fat shaming though, because the OP isn't even fat! Sounds like MIL has some serious body issues herself that she unloads onto every female she encounters. If this couple ever have daughters, they need to stay far, far away from this woman.
Because obesity it a choice and a sign of poor impulse control -sincerely, a formerly obese person.
Not just fat shaming, but every kind of shaming of someone's body size (maybe we could call it size shaming?).
I'm a larger women (right between normal weight and overweight) and I was an extremely skinny kid until about mid puberty.
My size has always been commented on negatively and that can really frick up someone's mind.
i get uncomfortable when people comment on my size. i'm 5ft 1, and borderline underweight, and people tell me how jealous they are and stuff and i'm like, thanks? i don't and can't take it as a compliment. how am i supposed to respond? "yeah i know" and sound selfcentred. i never know how to handle it i just smile awkwardly and change the subject.
I love (Judge) Charlotte's AITH reactions. I think they're my favorite, especially when using the gavel or grabbers.
I think i just saw your Uvula dancing inside your throat when you laughed at the 'screen door in a hurricane' phrase