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No alcohol is perfectly fine, but a water only wedding is a new kind of hell I've never experienced
So true... at first I felt for the couple since my husband and I don't drink either and I also don't drink coffee, but he does and I'm a fiend for tea... when she read that part I was howling "at least get Juuuuuuuuuuiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiice!" in front of my screen!
Right? If you invited guests to your house, you would never only offer water… sounds like these people were raised by wolves! 😂
And not even soft drinks; just water? These people need a crash course in how to host. Water isn’t fun. No one looks forward to water at an event. “Ooh, I wonder what kind of water they’ll have!”
I can't drink due to health issues, but there would have to be something else other than water. Iced tea, coffee, juice, sodas, bubbly water... I wouldn't go to the wedding if it was just water only.
I've been to a Muslim wedding which was, of course, dry, but water only would mean I stayed at home. I can't stand the stuff.
My sister had a dry wedding for religious reasons. They had lemonade, fruit infused water, sodas, and a coffee/ dessert bar with 4 different types of coffee that the groom had selected raw beans and hand roasted the coffee beans himself. Everyone loved it and my sister put a lot of a care into making her guests happy. And after the reception a few non-religious cousins, my parter and I went went out for drinks.
Sounds amazing! A coffee bar is such a great idea.
@@ThatOneWeirdGal Ikr! If I ever get married I might just use that one, maybe even add tea too for those that prefer it over coffee
Alcohol is forbidden in my community as well. So is meat. Only for the wedding day. But then we have huge variety of food and deserts. Favoured water has been staple. Recently we had by cousins engagement, it was but more pompous. We had guava, cantaloupe and watermelon juice served throughout the ceremony. It was 2 hour long ceremony where parents and relatives have to promise cooperation in getting them married.
That’s the way to do it!
Gotta replace it with something exciting, not just water lol
Oh that coffee bar sounds like heaven! What a good idea 🙂
We did a dry wedding because my husband and I don't drink. I told anyone who wanted to drink that night that I understand if they didn't want to attend, but our wedding reception was going to focus on amazing foods, desserts, cool non-alcoholic drinks and a few fun suprises.
We had kids at our wedding, so I gave every kid a disposable camera and told them to take as many pictures as they wanted but when they were done to bring me the camera and they would get a special surprise. It was so much fun for the kids and when they brought me a camera, each child got a special mini wedding cake that had their name on it, that said, "thanks for helping me capture all these special memories".
For the adults we did a trivia game like bars have and gave out cash prizes. We also played the "newly wed game and picked out the oldest married couple and a coule who had been married 15 years. It was really funny. Everyone had such a good time.
Only a few of my friends decided not to attend, and like I said, no judgment.
One of them even told me they wished they would have come because they found out later how much fun everyone had. That was our idea... make the wedding fun because we wanted people to see that you don't need alcohol to have fun. Both my husband and I don't drink because alcoholism runs in our family and that is not something we wanted to tempt some family members (who would be attending) that are in recovery.
If you are going to have a dry wedding, be considerate of your guest and have lots of drink options. If you can't afford to host an event, don't invite so many people.
Your wedding sounds so amazing! And the camera idea for the kids is so adorable
It sounds like an amazing wedding ❣️
All of that could have happened WITH alcohol. Having an alcoholism problem with 1/4 of the guests is a great reason to not serve at a reception, but for normies who just don't drink it's polite to have drinks available.
The fact that your family are alcoholics made your decision wise.
Having drinks available doesn't mean your reception was good; usually the drinks are the only good part, but having a great reception + wine makes it the best ever.
I love this I’m sorry but I’m going to have to steal some of these ideas because I want to have as fun of a wedding as yours
There are other reasons besides religion that people choose not to have alcohol at weddings or other social functions; much respect for that decision and of course, simply don't attend if you feel alcohol is the bond that is needed to enjoy other people's company.
I made my aunt cry in a wholesome way at the reception to my wedding. She thanked me for inviting her since she's not "real family" since she was a foster kid. I told her that her name was my grandmother's last word, that she was part of the family, and not to let anyone tell her she wasn't. The last time she visited my grandmother, my uncle was like "Mom! Andi's here!" She sat up, blinked, and was like "ANDI!!" Then slumped back over. She never woke up again and passed away peacefully two weeks later. Apparently Andi didn't know about that.
I think my grandmother knew it was important that Andi finally had a mom who loved her to the end. Her sons all knew they had that all along. They didn't need her to remind them that they were loved and supported. Andi didn't have that kind of support system until her third mom. Two other moms had already decided they didn't want Andi so Andi needed my grandmother to remind her that she deserved to be loved. I think she chose to make Andi's name her last word because she knew Andi needed that the most.
Bless your grandmother, and bless your aunt. Sometimes just the simple things make a difference. Just knowing she is loved makes a massive difference to a person who can feel unloveable due to their circumstances.
Oh that is such a beautiful thing, what a blessed gift for you to be able to give to your aunt and your aunt to recieve. That is a true celebration of love, thank you so much for sharing 🙂
I’m not crying-YOU’RE CRYING! That’s a solid story that also moved me to tears, fosters can often feel ‘less than’ and yes, it’s often a prison they create for themselves, but not for no reason. It’s such a difficult existence and one they absolutely did not ask for; but it’s so heartwarming when these kids finally can make a lasting connection with someone who truly values them.
Omg you’ve also made ME cry! How beautiful!❤
I cried at this too, what a wonderful gift this was for the Aunt, God bless you both. X
Even as someone that believes in the "you don't need alcohol to have fun" philosophy, the idea of only serving water at a wedding reception is horrendous
Yeah, I don't drink, and I mostly drink water at home, but when I'm eating at a restaurant or a wedding I like to have something other than water to drink.
Right? I'm religious so Im against drinking alcohol BUT I'd have other drinks other than water like Lemonade or fruit punch or something
Right? I've been to several dry weddings because someone in the wedding party or close family was a recovering alcoholic. But there were several drink options for guests to choose from and everyone had a great time
Exactly! And with kids there, I was surprised that there wasn't even juice or tea for an option.
"You will drink WATER. And you will LIKE it!"
Um... nope.
Seriously... no juice? Punch? Soda?
Hmm...
Nope.
Hey y’all, my grandson came home from the NICU yesterday and is doing great!
That's amazing!! 🎉
Amen! So happy to hear that for your family, May God bless y'all all the days of y'all's lives. 🙏🏼❤️
That’s so amazing to hear❤
That's amazing, praise God🙌🙏
Awe what a beautiful comment to read 😢. Bless you and your family 😊
My wedding was dry, but we provided an Italian soda bar (pick whatever flavor combos you want--it's my favorite thing ever!) and several different lemonades and flavored waters. Everyone loved the variety and had fun trying different drinks. I've also been to winter weddings with big hot chocolate bars. You can get really creative on a budget (without making a nightmare water-only situation).
I've never heard of a hot chocolate bar,but it sounds delicious!
@@darcy5761 Same. I don't drink alcohol but don't mind other people drinking, so a hot chocolate bar would have been the best thing ever!!
You are the chosen one for that. If you are going to do a dry wedding, never spring it last minute and have more than water.
How did you organize the Italian soda bar? Was there a vendor that provided it? That sounds soooo good!
Oh, that sounds so fun! I love Italian sodas, so an Italian soda bar sounds like heaven.
My brother got married the week after my wedding. It was the first time we had seen them since getting engaged as they lived out interstate. I was thrilled that everyone was wishing them well too. We also got married on the same day as my husbands god parents anniversary so we gave them a big bunch of flowers at the reception. They were very touched. After I got all the photos back we sent them a photo of the 4 of us together. I do not have a problem with others sharing their love with us on our wedding day. I think it's great!
That’s a great attitude to have.
This is quite normal in my culture, so I was confused with the question asked in this video.
If people genuinely care for the bride, no attention will be taken from her.
So it was super weird to listen to that. And frankly wedding is a big process here, 5 days. So people have plenty time for giving attention.
But I guess in American weddings the time frame is small, and people meet the extended family on rare occasions, so it’s obvious to feel bit jealous. I understand that part.
It’s amazing that you shared your day with such important people of your life.
That’s precious
My Husband and I got married on my Mum and Step-Dad's 34th Wedding anniversary, we obviously asked if this was ok with them and they were thrilled, it made our day really special. Every year we celebrated our joint wedding anniversary together, sadly we lost both of them (3 weeks apart) in 2020, so now we celebrate them still on our anniversary. X
@@purelightapologetics4930 exactly, I don't understand that whole "keeping the attention" thing on weddings, I would love to celebrate more love at my wedding! It would make it more beautiful. Logically you only have people that you love at your wedding, so their happiness can only add to yours! I wouldn't even mind someone proposing at my wedding! As long as they give me a heads up and don't do it at a crucial wedding moment like 1st dance or whatever.
As someone who is in recovery I can understand wanting to have a dry wedding, but only water isn't a dry wedding, it's a cheap wedding!
Yes because the booking of the large venue, the catering with a huge variety of professionally prepared food, the hosting of over 100 people, oh yeah they didn’t spend any money on that at all. In fact, they’re the ones who probably got paid.
Even lemonade and tea is cheap. Like just water I would leave and get something at a gas station lol
@@tommoore2012if you dont have money for a wedding, dont do a wedding. That is it
@@giovannamautone Show me where it says in the rule book of getting married that a wedding isn’t a wedding unless there is a wide variety of drinking options there and I will submit that you are correct.
Tbh bottled water isn't even that much cheaper than some cheap soda or juice or something, especially if you contract a caterer anyway.
Like i also mostly drink only water at home, but only serving water is just weird tbh.
We had a dry wedding and absolutely loved it. Instead of a cocktail hour we had warm cider and cookies and for our toasts we had Coke in glass bottles. When we told our DJ we were having a dry wedding he was a little concerned that people would be super awkward and difficult to get on the dance floor. After our wedding was over he said “I’ve never seen so many sober people having so much fun in my life”. 😂 No hangovers and no regrets.
was at a wedding where me and my date where amoungst the few sober ones and we opened the dancefloor after the bride and groom and spend the most time there, probably having the most fun out of the whole bunch . . . people gaslight themselfs that alcohol is needed. still not serving anything with sugar of caffein, nothing fun at all . . .
If I ever where to marry I would have a dry wedding, but gosh dam it serve something else!!!
That’s awesome!!!! Hey at least it wasn’t JUST water though lol!
The cookies sound like a really fun extra touch!
You still had something though, indicating that care was put into thinking’s about the guests, which I don’t think is the case in the post.
But also, cider does contain alcohol 😉
@@s.a.4358 Not all cider contains alcohol. Just hard cider.
As a person in recovery, girl, this gave me the ick. Not only is not serving alcohol normal but for a lot of people it's preferred, alcohol causes so many issues at weddings but you also have to get a private license to serve it in some places adding extra costs and time. Serving only water also gave me the ick, and you are 100% correct that it makes her a poor host. I've been to several weddings where there was a punch bowl which was great for kids and adults .
Yeah, I felt kind of disappointed by some of the things she said in this. The most fun I’ve ever had at a wedding was after I quit drinking. I had a blast dancing & catching up with old friends. The only bad parts of the night was seeing the awful effects of drinking too much alcohol & the intoxicated people around me not taking it seriously.
The maid of honor literally passed out at the bar, her dress was up around her waist & I was desperately trying to help her up, but she weighed twice as much as I did, so I was really struggling. When I tried to get help, people LAUGHED. I left shortly after that & drove a friend home, she was so wasted that she passed out in the middle of a sentence & I had to shake her awake when I got her to her house.
It left me with so many mixed feelings. I had a great night & was thankful I wasn’t making an ass of myself, but seeing those girls like that reminded me of times I had made a fool of myself in the past. I hate how every social gathering is expected to have a bar & how bizarrely acceptable it is for people to get so out of control.
It’s really really sad & I wish people would stop & think about why they believe they can’t have fun without consuming the 2nd most fatal drug in this country (#1 until the opioid crisis). Not only is it legal, it’s completely enmeshed in every celebratory occasion to the point that it’s seen as unacceptable & a faux pas to not provide it to your guests. Really, WTF?
Just because you have a bad relationship with alcohol doesn't mean everyone does. Just because someone doesn't want to go to a dry wedding doesn't mean they have a problem.
Yeah I love alcohol for social events but the idea that guests are entitled to it is super yikes. But then again I also don’t think guests should be entitled to a wide array of soft drinks either. Just serving water shouldn’t be that big of a deal.
Congratulations on your recovery, I know how hard it is after helping my friend through it. Sadly part of recovery is accepting other people have a different relationship with alcohol to you. Charlotte has her feelings and we love her. We don't always agree with some of her likes and dislikes, but that's what makes her unique. A lot of things youtubers say is for effect and humour, not always meant to be taken at face value. Unfortunately life is full of triggers and we have to just accept that we are always going to come across them in unexpected ways. I was raped when I was 20. It took a long time for me to get over it. I felt sick whenever the subject was even mentioned it. I couldn't even see a news headline without wanting to throw up. I'm 60 now and it's long in the past and mention of it doesn't so much as raise my pulse rate any more. But that's a me problem, not someone elses. I can now discuss it with empathy, compassion, experience and understanding. We all have our triggers and our recovery from our experience is personal, and what helps one person doesn't always help someone else.
@@LynetteTheMadScientist I don't drink, haven't for 30 years. Even I think just water is a bad idea. I do think it's weird that people think the bride and groom should pay for the guests drinks though. apart from a free coffee/tea station I've never seen an open bar. Then again I'm in the UK and a free bar is code for "How quickly can we drink it dry?". Apart from a bottle on the table for the toast the drinks (alcoholic and non alcoholic) are all a cash bar.
The amount of times op said “I’m married” compared the amount of times charlotte said “engaged”
It was making me nuts
Me too. Sometimes I don’t think she’s really paying attention to what she’s reading. Lol
The story with the frat wedding: The dad saying "they're just kids", no. If they are old enough to get married and have been in a frat/sorority, they are not kids. Looks like the parents just raised entitled brats.
Yes, and I'm sorry for the kind of parents these kids will be and for their kids too.
Right?! Kids don't get married lol that is an adult activity 😂
@@rake4396 generally, yes. But unfortunately, there are many states where children can be married with parental consent. However, in this instance, I don't think this was a 14y/o being married to a 24 y/o.
@@KellyDVance well with them being in frats and sororities yea...
My thoughts exactly.
We had a dry wedding. There is a lot of alcoholism in both our families, and it mattered to us to support these people's recovery. We offered coffee, tea, alcohol free cider and alcohol free champagne.
That's fine. But only water.. No.
That was very thoughtful and understanding of you - and the drinks on offer would have been a nice compromise and should have been enough to please everyone.
It's alright. In my country (South Asian) it's common because of the cultural stuff are taken seriously at weddings but they serve juice and stuff like yours! Not just water...
That was really understanding of you, and I think you did well to offer plenty of choices without tempting anyone. I hope everyone had a great time.
This is the way to do it 👏🏻 something else good to drink
One of my nephew's wedding was dry. We all had a ton of fun. There was sweet tea. The wedding and reception was on the lakeshore close to Nashville. There was music, dancing, lots of laughter at us old folks trying to wiggle, wiggle, wiggle.😂😂😂
Posts like this make me appreciate the small family wedding that I had. Attended by my grandmother, mother, and sister (dad got sick, brother had an issue with pumping his gas and had to go h9me for a change of clothes). Small family reception at FIL’s home. Celebrating 39 years this month. That’s what really counts.
My husband and I had a dry wedding. We don’t drink, and there were several people in the family who had a lot of history of getting trashed with spectacularly bad behavior at parties/weddings. We didn’t want that dangerous behavior at our wedding, and that’s without the generally bad behavior that comes with them.
We got called, borderline harassed, when people found out there wasn’t going to be booze. We got cussed out. We got cornered at family events. And ultimately, almost a quarter of the family didn’t show up SPECIFICALLY because there wasn’t alcohol.
We had other beverages, with plenty of options. They didn’t care.
So ultimately, it saved us a lot of money, and reeeeaaaally let us know where we fell on the priority scale in the family.
When I mentioned my wedding was going to be dry, my mum told me no-one would want to show up. I let her know that anyone who'd only come for alcohol, isn't someone I want to associate with.
Period!
The male cousins on my father's side, there's 6 or so, EVERYTIME there was a family get together, a huge fight broke out. Then their fathers would get involved trying to break the fight up. I didn't invite ANY of my cousins. We had NO fights. My reception was a huge success and I had a lot of fun.
We only invited people that we wanted to share our day with. I didn't care if people got mad that we didn't invite all the idiots. Those people didn't have to come.
So basically it turns out a lot of your guests have an alcohol problem that they don't even realise they have.
Sorry this happened to you. What's with people going to a wedding for the booze and not the couple??
the gift that kept giving. It's so great when you know who you can trim from your life and why. Win win
I knew a couple who decided to have an alcohol free wedding reception because they both had close family members who were in alcohol recovery programs. They did not want those close family members to feel like they should not attend because of alcohol being there. So, they told those people, but no one else. They did have alcohol-free beer, wine and champagne. Then the reception occurred. So many people acted completely wasted and made complete asses of themselves. The partners of those buffoons attempted to excuse the behavior of the buffoons, but then when the bride and groom announced at the end of the night that they were so happy that everyone enjoyed their alcohol-free evening, the crap hit the fan. it came to light that it was not alcohol that made their partners complete jerks, but they were just jerks all along. Alcohol had nothing to do with their behavior.
(btw-the MoH and Best Man had already packed up the gifts for the bride and groom, so that no one would be able to take back their gift for being exposed as an A-hole)
That's hilarious. The placebo effect. I've seen it before. So weird.
LOL...that is freaking epic on the part of the bridegroom. clever way to weed out future non invitees.
That’s an awesome idea! Love it!
Hahaha that's brilliant 😂
I love it! “Psych! Y’all made idiots out of yourselves! Bye!”
I went to a reception this month that had an amazing mocktail bar and coffee bar at other functions and EVERYONE LOVED IT. It is a wedding you can't be expected to just serve water at a wedding. It is a celebration!!!
As someone who has friends and family who struggle with alcohol, I have no problem what so ever with a dry wedding, but only serving water? Water? Only that? Insane.
Our wedding was alcohol-free, but we served alcohol-free beer and cider, and people were very happy. Don't serve just water, that's rude 😂
This. You can choose not to have alcohol at your wedding, that's fine, especially if you expect bad behavior from family members when drunk, but just plain water? Not even like, Mio or sparkling water?
This. I grew up around alcohol-free weddings, so it isn't a big deal to me. The first time I went to one with alcohol I was like "Wait, they can DO that?" Still, we had no alcohol at ours for numerous reasons, including cost. But we had punch, because what is a wedding without punch??? (Honestly, I'm just there for the punch and the cream cheese mints.) I cannot fathom a water-only wedding. That sounds like the saddest thing. It's like laying out a gorgeous gourmet meal but having saltines as a side or something. It just doesn't fit.
Hospitality for your guests is important. No alcohol is totally fine. Nothing but water makes you look cheap and disrespectful of your guests. It says you don't see them as worth providing beverages for.
I agree, it’s tacky and she is definitely a cheapskate.
Yeah, I get wanting to have a dry wedding, but just water, no juice or something. I don't drink alcohol and even I would think it would be very lame to not have some juice to drink.
I think it was less about they wanting a dry wedding and more about being too cheap to pay for alcohol and soda.
The alcohol free wedding can have so many other drink options that wouldn’t be outrageous. It doesn’t matter what you drink you are the host and offering options is part of it. Tea, coffee, punch, sodas…. Go to a big box store and buy bulk cheap. Even poor people weddings have this.
Absolutely !😊
Kool aid costs literal cents.
Exactly
I hate that people expect alcohol at weddings. You don't need it to have fun.
100%
I swear I'm on here just to condition myself to (1) not be a bridezilla, and (2) not be too disappointed if something goes wrong in my own wedding 6 months from now... Oh and also not to think about the wedding too much 😂
Thanks Charlotte for making these videos! ❤
It helps! Got married 2 weeks ago and these videos kept me chill. I was told I was a chill bride 😂
A wee bit of advice I got from my Mom; Don't sweat if something goes wrong at your wedding. No one will notice unless you make a fuss. Brush it off, your wedding will be beautiful no matter what and people will love celebrating you and (husband).
Yes! Keep that mindset! I was told by one of my residents in assisted living that no matter what, something WILL go wrong, it’s just inevitable with so many moving parts, but if you just mentally prepare for it ahead of time, you won’t be so thrown off when it does, and if you don’t make a big deal of it, nobody else will, either. People really don’t know how it’s “supposed” to go because each wedding is different, so most times they won’t even notice something is a little off, seriously! Now, at my wedding, the photographers messed up the timeline, my nephew wandered down the aisle mid-ceremony and nearly fell off of a ledge in full view of the entire wedding, with his dad (in the party) unable to retrieve him, and my husband stumbled over his vows. But guess what? Those aren’t the things I think of first when I remember my wedding, and I doubt our guests do, either.
Shit will go wrong. You just roll with it.
where i'm from it is customary to give wedding gifts in the form of cash in red packets, and some couples have resorted to inviting people they barely know to recoup the cost of their weddings
I have no problem with dry weddings. My brother's wedding had no alcohol, I was a brides-maid, and it was a blast. We toasted with sparkling cider. They made a point to have tea, coffee, soda, juice, etc, for all the guests.
An hour into the reception and half the bridal party had lost their footwear and was on the dance floor.
Serving just plain filtered water feels like a cheap cop-out.
My older sister ans brother in law had a dry wedding as they didn't drink. There were so many non alcoholic drinks avaiable was a blast!
@@abiv4469 Sure nobody was sneaking flasks... lol
😅I thought they were married
Who looks at peoples hands . Omg . People. Get over it
Yeah I went to a couple dry weddings and they at least had sodas, so I just mixed it with my flask contents 😂
While I’m def not one of those who doesn’t need alcohol to have fun, I’ll forever remember this dude who would go to one of our local gays bars every time the doors opened. He always went alone, never drank, and stayed from open to closing time. He was also 100% straight. He just loved to dance. The dance floor would be completely empty but there he’d be dancing the house down without a care in the world. I finally asked him one day what was up. He said the music was better at gay clubs, doesn’t like alcohol, and that he could completely let himself go to the music at a gay bar. I really liked that.
He sounds cool ngl
And people sadly think their heavily intoxicated when their up their dancing up a storm and it sucks! We had a guy up who was dancing at our event full on going for it letting loose. He wasnt drunk only had 2 drinks but he said he absolutely loves dancing and that hes been kicked out of places before because they think hes incredibly sloshed when hes just out there having fun. I admired him
I used to do that when I was young and beautiful, I have a lot of gay friends and I often went with them to gay bars for that exact reason. The music is so much more fun and it was a more friendly and relaxed feeling, I am not much for alcohol, I get way too drunk way too fast and I love to dance.
@@lukasronnqvist4839 you can be who you are with no judgement regardless of sexuality. That’s what I’ve always loved about it. You also have much less to worry about in regards to getting drugged or assaulted.
That first story is very similar to announcing your engagement at another couple’s wedding event. It’s not about the ring, it’s about the timing.
But how long exactly? Like I understand not doing it the day of or at the rehearsal dinner. But now are people supposed to block off an entire 2 weeks before a wedding where they can't make announcements? No wait. How about just a whole month. No make it a whole year. Can't make announcements. Can't offend the bride
@@Alifirecat2 weeks is definitely not the same as an Year. She could have just waited 2 weeks. Not that big of a deal. They could celebrate after one celebration ended.
my palette is QUAKING at the idea of drinking JUST WATER and a rich meal and super sweet cake! I have no issue with a dry wedding… I had a dry wedding… but we had plenty to drink; sweet tea and sparkling ciders!
I didn’t serve alcohol at my wedding but I offered soda, juice AND water. We told everyone on the invitations if they wanted to drink alcohol they had to bring their own.
My best friend had a large outdoor wedding that was BYOB. It worked great because some of us ended up camping for the night where they got married
Now see, that is acceptable!
Yes, that's perfectly acceptable
Perfectly fine. You made a choice but also allowed others to make a choice based on their preference and knowing alcohol would not be provided.
My sister had a dry wedding because of the multitude of angry drunks on each side. They had sparkling grape juice for toasting, soda options, coffee, tea, etc. It can be done, I will admit missing a little champagne, but an all water wedding sounds awful.
(Heehee I'm your 69th like!! Who says you can't have fun and be immature without alcohol- some people just need funny numbers!!...I am not proud😂😂)
Sparkling grape juice is the absolute Best!!!✨ 🍇
Dry wedding. Had an ice coffee bar, sodas, good water, & teas. Friends and family could bring minis to add to their drinks but we planned for our wedding to last only a few hours 😂 we are not social people. Started at 4 and we left by 7, everyone left by 9. Lots of dancing and catching up happened and everyone enjoyed the food.
Wedding rings: I understand the one-track thing. I am similar in nature myself. I am not sure how it could have been any different no matter when the family was told. They lived in Ireland. Coming back would have caused a stir no matter what.
What I have an issue with more so is OP not making any effort during the rehearsal dinner to redirect the conversation back to the event at hand. If getting asked questions, keeping them to “yes” or “no” answers or outright saying something like, “I will be happy to talk about it later but at this time I am here for my sister.”. This would have made a much bigger impact on those wanting to discuss OP’s life and it would have shown OP’s priorities and loyalties. Actions speak louder than words.
As a "dry" person myself who did not serve alcohol at her wedding(I was 18), weddings are special and some sort of special drink should be served. Sparkling apple juice, sparkling grape juice in a tall stemmed glass(plastic for the children) would be much more festive than just water.
That's what I drank on my wedding day and so did the kids. Some guests had wine and beer, which is fine, but we didn't serve nothing but water! We had juice, soda, milkshakes, and tea/coffee.
We have sparkling apple juice in stemmed glasses for my kids at all our family celebrations - it was always my treat growing up at Christmas etc and often I have it too as I don’t drink very much alcohol now days.
I think if you’re gonna have a reception, you need to include everyone.
@@kiwibird1980 Another Kiwi here, we did the same with our kids. Now they drink wine and I drink the sparkling grape/apple juice. 😂😂
totaly agree, if your guests only come to get drunk, they kinda missed what a wedding is supposed to be about, and with lots f kids around not serving alcohol is very valid, but serving nothing interesting at all? sorry, but as much as I advocate that alcohol is not needed to enjoy oneself, tap water and dry crackers do not make a wedding
As someone who has been alcohol free for 26 years, I’m all for a dry wedding. With that being said, you are still a host of a “party,” and your guests deserve better than water. As a matter of fact, in less than three hours, my son is getting married and it’s definitely not a dry wedding.
Congratulations!
Congrats! And also yes this - OP even adressed that water is an everyday drink so like... why only have that? Like by all means have water there as well as the other drinks but not only water xD
Congratulations. May you son and your DIL be happily married. God bless.🙏🙏🙏
@@GubbiGap So is alcohol. Billions across the Earth have some kind of alcoholic drink every day. It does absolutely nothing to no one if there is none of it at a wedding.
@@tommoore2012 I don't know if I fully agree with that. I mean you're right that a lot of people do drink but I think you can do weddings with no alcohol and still have it be fun - I just think water only is horrible. There are lots of options for drinks with no alcohol so I don't see why that shouldn't be possible.
My husband and I were married in 2009. We paid for everything ourselves and we were young struggling parents to 2 children at the time. In order to cut costs, we provided the champagne for the toast, but all other alcohol was byob. We also provided soda, and juice since we also had children at our wedding. We were going to hire a bar tender, to pour the alcohol that ppl brought, however one of my bosses at the time, use to bar tend in college, and he offered to bartend at no cost! And then even gave us his tips as a wedding gift!! How thoughtful! My point is, even when you're on a very tight budget, you can still find a way to have a great reception!!
I had a dry wedding but we did signature drinks and mocktails. Like shirley temples, roy rogers, etc… and we still had a blast.
I was raised in a religious household where liquor was not allowed. However, weddings served punch, coffee and tea, maybe soda. I think she could either do a cash bar or mocktails - but just water is SO WRONG.
Same. Many church receptions with lots of non alcoholic drinks options.
it is not even that much cheaper, it is just cheap in the bad way
She didn’t even want to pay for someone to serve drinks, and I’m pretty sure the post mentioned her grandmother paying for part of the wedding?
Same for me. We don’t do alcohol at weddings at all since it isn’t consumed in our religion (Mormon) 😂 I’ve never had alcohol so maybe it makes parties funner but we serve lemonade, juice, sodas, etc. so I still think they are really fun but also a good way to reconnect with people, I love to chit chat.
The first story: I’m also a one-track mind kind of person and really bad at keeping up with people. (I think it’s part of some potentially undiagnosed ADHD.) I also moved abroad and got married. *However* I *absolutely* told my family when I got engaged and married. I even tried to arrange the legal ceremony around my parents visiting me. I also told them as soon as it happened.
I’m sorry but in the day and age of social media there really is no excuse for not telling important people about major life events (unless you have a legitimate reason not to, which was not the case here.)
Yeah, dude sounds classic ADHD, but um, why didn't the husband insist on telling the family earlier? They were, as couple, thoughtless.
I forget to call my parents often and tell them things. I have ADHD, but the outta sight outta mind thing is definitely a thing. However, I wouldn't forget to tell them something that important. It definitely seems like they did it on purpose
As someone with ADHD, I am aware that I can forget about something or forget to tell someone about it until way after the conversation (and then feel guilty for forgetting about it), but Im pretty sure I wouldn't have forgotten to tell my family about something this big!
I kinda got married and didn't tell anybody. My husband posted a picture of our certificate and my family found out that way. They were a little shocked, but some people just can't muster up the energy for those conversations.
@@socialnoob4853 sure, people have their reasons for not telling family, but you can’t then be surprised when they get uncomfortable or shocked about it like OP’s family did
I get the no alcohol wedding. My husband and I did the same thing but it was more of our religion and personal lifestyle choice but we still had a fancy punch, lemon water, hot chocolate, apple cider, etc. I would probably be the one who left to grab some kind of soda and bring back. We had family who wanted to drink so they left had a few drinks and then came back to see us off.
I don't drink alcohol, and so REALLY appreciated my cousin having some fun mocktails at his wedding. I also drank more water at the table during the reception than my (other) cousin had ever seen before *lol*. We were on a first name basis with our server before the third course. But fully agree with everyone--providing a variety of drinks isn't a matter of "too expensive". It's a matter of courtesy. Dry weddings are FINE, just 1)let people know, and 2) make sure there are mocktails, juice, sodas, coffee, tea and water. Some of the guests might be diabetics, needing sugar to maintain their insulin levels. Some of the guests might choose to not drink anything rather than just water, leaving them dangerously dehydrated. Some guests might need the caffeine or have other issues going on. And MOST ARE JUST GOING TO WANT SOMETHING OTHER THAN WATER. And that is fine. The point is take care of your guests, because it is a party for THEM, in celebration of YOU.
As a fellow dry wedding haver (price and venue restrictions), it costs PENNIES to buy a tub of country time lemonade mix and some 4C iced tea to throw into some few gallon beverage dispensers. That is what we did for ours.
EDIT: Our wedding was also super budget and SUPER casual, so we weren't trying to impress anyone.
This! Especially if, as they say they have a caterer, they can buy it for cheap in the big industrial retailer stores in bigger quantities.
Having some soda, juice, coffee or something will barely make a dent in the budget
EXACTLY! They're acting like it's so about money, but it's not. They're making a big deal over nothing and pushing their preferences on others. Weird.
I always thought of weddings presents for young couples as a way to help them set up their house for their new life, not as payment for the wedding reception. If the present was a tangible object, I’d leave it. I think I’d worry about cash getting lost. But abandoning your guests to get drunk in a limo is a great way to piss off a roomful of hungry guests
That used to be the case, and presents were all practical items for the household. Nowadays most couples already live independently, either together or with roommates, as well as having very firm opinions about what they want or do not want as a wedding present. It’s very far from the tradition.
yep me too, now it is to update something old at their house or to contribute to the honeymoon
I think that the intent has shifted a bit since so many couples are living together before they marry. I prefer to purchase something from a wedding registry, as I have no way of knowing if they already have a vacuum, desperately need a vacuum, or think that vacuums are dumb when you can just leave off your shoes at the door and wield a swiffer. Ha! Tell me what you want (in a wide range of prices) and let me decide what I can afford among the things I know you want and/or need. Whew. So much less stressful.
I've had the great pleasure of having 2 weddings! I was pregnant in my first, but there was copious amounts of beer and wine, along with non alcoholic options. My 2nd wedding was just a ceremony, without alcohol. We offered cake, water and sparkling cider! BUT, our invitation made sure to express so. We did meet at a restaurant afterwards, but I wasn't buying, so gulp it up folks. My husband was in AA at the time trying to get ahold of a alcohol issue. Just be honest. Folks are ok as long as they know what they're in for.
Dry wedding is bad enough, but I'd walk out of a water only wedding 🤣
My niece was adopted at the age of 9 and her birth mother was a drug addict and alcoholic. My niece is getting married next year and she's doing a dry wedding. Alcohol brings back too many traumatic memories. That being said, she sure as hell isn't just having water. That's just insane.
You prob don’t need to mention why she was adopted. Have some dignity for her sake
@@2okaycolamy guess is she mentioned the niece is adopted as to stated it wasn’t her sister the alcoholic one but bio mom. There is nothing wrong with being adopted, you’re making it weird on her behalf.
@@2okaycola thats the whole point though, you cant just leave out the crutial information. not mentioning that would mean, the kid lived all the time in terrible conditions . . . there is nothing wrong with being adopted, especially not, if it saved one from bs like that . . . wtf are you going on about dignity?! People like you are the only reason why some people feel inferiour for being fostered or adopted!!!
@@odasoto7419 as someone adopted, yeah, that comment is all shades of messed up
@@SingingSealRiana what is wrong about being adopted? Or saying someone is adopted? I see no issue with the truth. She said nothing about adoption itself, it was just a fact. What is so messed up about it?
My husband and I had a dry wedding. But we had juice, Lemonade, and iced tea. I've received several remarks on how my wedding was the best my guests had ever attended. Alcohol is not a necessity, but I would advise getting juice, soda, tea, etc.
Iced tea and lemonade? Now THAT'S a wedding I would love to be invited to! Great!, now I want some iced tea.
We had a dry wedding, because I didnt want my family of angry drunks to have any alcohol, groom's family was mostly LDS so they didnt drink either, so we held the reception at the church. I got so much push back. But we did have soda, punch bowls to go with our food, apple cider to have for the toasts and cake.
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With the water only wedding…YIKES.
I’m also someone who doesn’t drink, and cost of alcohol was something I was concerned about when planning my wedding. It was a smaller wedding, but we provided coffee and pop and planned to ask people to BYOB.
All this is to say, just because THEY only drink water doesn’t mean that they shouldn’t have something additional for their guests. Ugh 😭
Charlotte's voice lives in my head constantly when I want to say no and instead say....'ABSOLUTELY NOT!' 🤣
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for me it's the "Arre you not embarrraaassed?" LOL
@@KK-rj7ijyes! This in in my everyday vocabulary now 😂
@@KK-rj7ijsaaaaaaame!! 😂
SAME! 😂
My wedding was similar to the dry wedding in that we just don't drink. We also don't drink coffee 😅 And we had the ceremony and reception at a church. We aren't big partiers and neither are our families so we decided to have a morning wedding and do brunch for the reception. Best idea ever!! Food wasn't super expensive, we offered juice, tea, and water to go with the brunch that included French toast casserole, bacon, biscuits, breakfast casserole, and fruit. The brunch was a hit and none of our guests missed the alcohol, especially since it was an early wedding and more of a fun get together than party. We also didn't have music because the power went out after a big storm 🤪
As someone who gets light headed and headaches easily, something like soda or juice can help lessen the severity. Having only water just makes it seem miserable, especially when it’s hot or a long time before you get food
I broke up with my fiancé over an argument about alcohol at our wedding. His side of the family didn’t drink for religious reasons, he and l were moderate drinkers and my side of the family drank - some more than others. His mother was insisting on zero alcohol at the wedding - l had suggested champagne for the toasts and a glass of wine per person with the wedding breakfast as well as soft drinks for the non drinkers but, she was adamant it had to be a dry wedding. She also started insisting that we hold the wedding at a local community hall rather than the nice venue we had chosen and that she wanted 150 guests for their side of the family alone (NONE of whom were known to me), rather than the 60 total we had decided. My fiancé didn't stand up to her once and, it all came to a head after about 3 months of nonsense from her as it became obvious to me that, by marrying him, l would be effectively marrying HER and giving her complete control over our lives. I took great pleasure telling her that, as MY side of the family was paying for the entire wedding, any consultation l had with her was just out of courtesy and it wasn't her wedding to plan, that she had a daughter of her own to marry and was welcome to make as many decisions as she wanted over HER wedding when the time came. I told him l wasn't in love with his mother and had no intention of marrying her and walked away. Years later MY mother bumped into him at the supermarket, "pushing a trolley full of kids" so, l guess he found his happy ever after. Hopefully he AND his mother learned their lesson beforehand though.
Well done you. MIL too much input on the wedding and ex should have supported you. Who cares if he got his happily ever after. I hope you did.
I mean you give him big leap saying that he got happy ever after, you don't know 😁 no to say that you or I (totally stranger) wish him bad, I simply say you don't know maybe his mother find him 'good women' with believes like her, that she thought was great for him then decided about their wedding in community hall and had 300 people, bc for sure she also had big family, and now she and wife decide about his live, like I say it isn't me wishing him bad or something, but simply with how you wrote, this MIL was like that kind of person to make his live look like that... but maybe he is also happy with live like that so maybe in the end you are right he got is ever after...
Can I ask if he tried to małe changes or talk with his mom when you told about this things? Like he let you go simply?
Hmm
As long as you are good and have no regreds then all good.
I'm was so fortunate that nobody wanted to have say in my wedding, and I asked my parents and in lows if they want someone add or something, my parents said it is my decision so they are good with my list and IL actually said "this people you don't need to invide we are not that close to invite to weeding so cross them" (family friends for 40 years) it was actually funny 😂 bc most times the problem is that someone want to add guests.
We were paying for wedding so also there wasen't money talk here, we got after weeding gift - money from parents that totally make up for all but it was after so yeah.
Only thing I didn't have a say in and bc I let it go was hotel, my FIL choose hotel bc my husband family all was coming from far so he said bc my family all is around and we don't need to do anything for them as to give place to sleep, etc, he will pay for hotel for their side bc he thought it was fair like that, especially it was like 20+ people so he said he will pay for it and I left him to choose place bc it is his budged. (I won't hide I would find cheaper hotel then him, he knows this bc before he ofered to take care of hotel he asked if I looked into it, and I looked it was great hotels 3stars, like 10-15 minutes from receptorom on feed, but he thought that better would be something ever closer do he choose 4 star hotel 5 minutes on feed, the rooms I looked were like 200 and his were 250 maybe not big difference but with like 12 rooms it is quiet difference) I was happy I didn't have to think about it and had more money to put into decorations.
@@kerynmartin6454 Thank you. Sadly l did not. Apparently l'm not very good at choosing partners. I gave up trying almost 30 years ago. I guess you could say l'm content now that l've got used to it. 🙂
@@magdalenagabrowska8169 Thank you. The funny thing was a couple of weeks after we broke up, it was his birthday and as l already had a gift for him, l visited to give it to him. We were chatting and his mother came into the room and said, 'son's name' would YOU like a cup of tea? He actually answered her with, "No thanks. I'll make one for myself AND NIKI in a minute." I remember it SO clearly cos, l remember thinking, "if you'd done a bit more of that while we were together we would still be getting married in a couple of months." 😁 I'm glad your family and in-laws were nice and also helpful over your wedding. I hope you're still happy. 🙂
sounds like you dodged a bullet. glad you recognized it and got out ahead of time!
For story 1 - Charlotte keeps initially saying that the OP is only “engaged”, however my understanding is that him and his partner were MARRIED and hadn’t told *any* of his family about their relationship whatsoever. That’s my understanding at least (hence the wedding rings that the sister didn’t want them wearing). Someone please clarify this/ correct me if that’s wrong. Just getting mildly confused 😅
Also it does seem a bit of an a-hole move to not at least do a family phone call or come a few days in advance of the sister’s wedding events so that everyone could talk to OP about all the excitement surrounding him suddenly being married with none of them knowing and get to talk to the partner and everything Prior to the rehearsal dinner.
Yes, they aren't engaged, they are married. If OP didn't want to steal anyone's thunder, then why announcing anything? If they didn't feel the need to invite anyone, they could even have saved the info for later on. But no, OP decides his Sister wedding was the perfect time to let every one know...
They were married for like 4 months! I know my brother and I don’t talk everyday, he lives several states away and we haven’t seen each other since 2020 but I’m pretty sure he would mention if he got engaged or married.
@onecatshortofcrazy12 that's what makes me think that there is some background missing
I completely agree. That was a completely A-hole move. And also makes me wonder; why did he hide it his marriage in the first place then tell the family so close to the sister's wedding date
@@--julian_ I mean I get not talking to your family every day and maybe them getting married was kind of spur of the moment… but four months? Not buying it
We had a "dry" wedding, but we offered iced tea and a coffee bar. We had a blast! As long as you have family and good friends, it can be successful!!
After watching lot of your videos about wedding gifts and drama I am feeling so much blessed that I am an Indian Bengali. In our culture weddings are absolutely not about gifts. In our wedding invitation card it is always written that "Dont bring any gifts or cash, your presence and blessings are the only things we need in our special day". Thats all. And most importantly In our traditional wedding MIL(groom's mom) is not allowed to watch the main wedding ritual, she only can attend the reception and other rituals. So our weddings are MIL drama free. Our pisemosai ( aunt's husband) mostly throw tantrums about food, catering etc etc. 😂
My husband and I had a dry wedding...because that was the rule at the venue (church hall.) We had afternoon tea with sandwiches, cake and tea/ coffee and soft drinks. We toasted with white grape juice. Dry weddings can be done well, with a little thought.
Exactly. Nothing wrong with a dry wedding. It’s the water only that’s the problem.
@@anitas5817 Even at a kid's birthday party you would have options besides water (soda, juice, lemonade). Them choosing to go with only water kind of points to them doing it because they don't want to pay extra for drinks, rather than them being anti-alcohol.
As a sober queen (10 years on October 1st!), I understand the idea of a dry wedding. However, even with my own personal history, I’d never host a large event especially a wedding and expect everyone to adhere to my choice to remain sober. Then to top it off with only providing water to drink?! Wtf?! This story is a classic example of “If you can’t afford to have a large wedding, don’t have a large wedding!” I mean, come on! How did they think that was going to go over?? 😂
Congratulations, Sober Queen bestie! Ten years is fantastic! Keep it up.
Nah, anyone who gets angry about no alcohol at any party should reconsider their life choices. I drink alcohol, but I'm not going to have a fit over no alcohol at a wedding. Now, providing water and nothing else just screams cheap.
Happy 10 years!!! Get it!! 🎉
Yeah. No alcohol is fine. My family would revolt over no soda or coffee more than no wine or beer. There are so many non alcoholic drinks people like, lol.
Congrats to you!
It's so easy and elegant to make beautiful mocktails, iced teas and fresh juices. I would be horrified if I went to a reception and my only option was water.
"My fiancee and I don't really like sweets, so we're not having a cake or any other desserts at the wedding. It will save money and I don't think that's unreasonable. People don't need dessert." - Literally what the last bride sounds like.
My wedding was cash bar. My husband and I don't drink, so we made it a "you want to drink, you pay for it." No one complained. Also, we didn't force anyone to just drink water.
@@user-oy3yo7qe6oThat's so odd to me, hahaha, as I've never been to a wedding WITHOUT an open bar, and I've been to at least 7 in the past few years. However, when I think about who was getting married each and every time, the couple themselves liked to go out and have drinks with friends and such, or the family(ies) was/were known for being partiers.
Edit to add: none were close to being rich, either.
hm I kinda think u should pay for at least one drink for your guests...
I would be perfectly fine with a cash bar.
@@user-oy3yo7qe6oI have been to literally dozens of weddings and they have all been open bar. I wouldn’t be offended by a cash bar but I wouldn’t say it’s standard.
I got married a lot of years ago.(now divorced). It was a small wedding reception at the in-laws house. 100 guest. Best wedding gift I received and the only gift I remember was from Dwayne. He pulled me off to the side no card, just a five and ten dollar bill. He apologized and said that he's got. I gave him a man hug, did my best not to tear up😢 and made sure that his cocktail was full all night. HEY DWAYNE I WILL NEVER FORGET.
I agree on the telling about the wedding part. Me and my husband were in almost the same circumstance- Knew each other from/since high school and got married like 5-6 months ago and made sure to tell his family cause his step-brother (and a good friend of his) was getting married this year (which happened yesterday). I was sure not to draw attention and we made sure it wasn't a surprise and didn't take any attention from them.
Dw about my family we don't speak lol
THE FIRST 10 SECONDS IS WHAT I LIVE FOR!!! 100% made my dude watch it so he can see what makes my day way better. It's the little things.
So I used to work for a catering company, who also hired out waitstaff. I've worked a LOT of weddings. Both big and small. During a 3 week period in the summer, I worked 6 in total for some fast money. Long hard hours, but great pay. Honestly, I think my favourite wedding was the dry one. All the guests were lovely, made no big messes, partied just as long as alcohol included weddings, and we got to take home the sparkling grape juice afterwards. It was great.
EDITED: Wait, no soda or juice either? Okay, nah fam. That wedding will be the pits. I don't need alcohol to have fun, but I need sugar and caffeine to at least last long enough to get through dinner.
My daughters wedding was dry due to alcoholism in the grooms family. But only water?? 😂😂😂
@@jworth7203 right?! That's taking it too far 😂😂😂
I agree. I'm not a drinker, but only water??! Nope. I like to at least drink soda for the caffeine and taste! It is a wedding after all 😂
Not only did the first guy surprise his family with his marriage, he surprised them that he was in a relationship with his “best friend” of many years. I wouldn’t be surprised if he also wasn’t out to them and that was a surprise too
Which is probably why he handled it the way he did and heck as a gay man i would probably have handled it the same way, but we dont know his family dynamics.
"Went off to spend time with a friend... found out we loved each other... eloped... and then told everyone" . . . Is this any different than a person going to Las Vegas with friends, only to return home with a spouse?
From the start, this person comes of as "I don't talk to people" kind of a person. On top of this, he also moved far away from his family... so he rarely sees them in person. So, it's likely his presence _will_ attract attention from the people he rarely sees and almost never talks to as this is one of the few times they get to see him.
I remember going to a cousin's wedding and my aunt made a huge "scene" about seeing her brother for the first time in years. Of course... she's happy to see him, of course she wants to catch up with him and how his family is doing... it's been literally _years_ since she has seen him in person.
So, yes. He's not an asshole... what happened was a logical consequence of him not seeing a need to keep people informed of what is happening in his life while at the same time not seeing the people he loves (or who loves him) in a long time.
It didn't help that he waited for 3 or 4 months before telling anyone he was married. >.< Not an asshole, just thoroughly thoughtless person.
He stated that his mom had a feeling that there was more between him and this friend compared to others in High School, so I am pretty sure his family knew. I think he would have mentioned more of the dynamics pertaining to him not being out with them, if it effected their relationship. But he instead made a bunch of BS excuses on why he waited 4 months to tell them he was married, and he even mentioned his mom saying she was hurt to not be told sooner. If the dynamic was one in such he felt couldn't tell them sooner, than wouldn't it have made more sense to just wait until after the wedding?
@@aralornwolf3140 thoughtless = inconsiderate = asshole
@@mdlcrochet so a terrible sibling that doesn’t care about ruining special events for your loved ones as long as it’s what’s easiest for you.
For my wedding I really didn’t want to deal with my family and booze, so we had an afternoon reception and did coffee, punch and homemade apple cider :) but also put on the invite that it was a dry wedding so no one would be surprised
Last year I attended a wedding and there’s no reception and I was surprised it was a beach wedding. It’s the first time ever I attended a wedding without any food at all!!! I was so hungry after the wedding so my friend and just went to a restaurant to eat cause we were starving!!!!
I am Italian and can verify that this happens...I witnessed one of my Aunties doing this in the venue restroom. They never seal the card until the very end! 😂
I know this also as fact. My brother did this at a wedding. It also a running joke in our family.
Reminds me of Third Rock from the Sun. He put a stack of cash on the table at a restaurant and told the server this is your potential tip. Then he proceeded to remove and put back money as the meal progressed lol.
I had a dry wedding with a reception in a church. My dad was an alcoholic and had Korsakof's, alcohol induced dementia. We had fabulous food but had coffee, tea and pop available. We also had a candy table lol folks got a sugar rush and no one complained lol.
Candy was smart. Lots of AA meetings have a candy bowl that gets passed around. We also celebrate sobriety with cake. You probably knew this!
@user-oy3yo7qe6o no, but seriously. A person with a eating disorder is should go to different meetings.
I'm so sorry about your dad. I had a family member with Korsakof's and it's rough for everyone.
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My husband and I had a morning wedding with a lunchtime reception. There were quite a few kids attending, from babies to teens. We provided a champagne and sparkling cider toast, and non-alcoholoc drinks for the reception. A cash bar was available for those who wished to partake, though I don't remember seeing much more than a few beers or glasses of wine. Granted, this was over twenty years ago, but I think everyone had a good time.
For the last story, I was all for the couple having a dry wedding until they only offered water at the reception. If you have a dry wedding, at least have a little variety for other drinks. My aunt and uncle had to have a dry wedding to cut down costs, so to compensate for the guests they got icy coolers full of every kind of fountain drink you could think of. Even ones I didn't even know existed. It was the first time I've ever tried Peach Sprite! All of the guests had a lot of fun at the wedding, and afterward the adults went to the local liquor store on their way home. 🤣
Not drinking and only serving water are two completely different things 😅
Husband and I went to a really cool wedding that had a lemonade stand, smoothie bar, coffee bar and a coke float table on top of multiple dessert tables like ice cream sundae bar and a cheesecake factory table with all the toppings, we had so much fun without alcohol.
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The first story, is classic, 'he couldn't care less about his family', so his decision to override his sisters wedding was a direct 'f off' too everybody, especially his sister!
I also think they are a spoiled brat who has never been told no and loves to be the center of attention! They admitted that their family “fawns” over them when they are home so they knew exactly what they were doing!
I looked up the post on reddit. Apparently, you have to give three months notice of intent to marry in Ireland. So if they married in Ireland, dude and his best friend knew they were going to get married for at least 7 months prior to to announcing it to the family. And the brother's response to comments have been rather... condescending. His words "as someone who eloped and doesn't at all care for the pomp and circumstance of a wedding, would obviously differ from someone who wanted all the frills. I should have anticipated that." If you ask me, he's indeed a self-centered AH.
@@twstedbynature Yeah, I beleive he did it out of spite.
If you need to ask if you are an a hole, you are.
@@twstedbynature can you put some of his comments here if that's okay?
I understood the dry wedding… until they said no SODA! I don’t drink alcohol or coffee, but soda and juice is the way I spice up my liquid consumption. Not even having soda or juice is just plain cruel.
FACTS!!
Cruel lmao
I was like what about tea/coffee/juice?!
Right? Will they just have dry bread to eat as well?
My cousin had the cutest coffee bar at her wedding, many of the guests are sober so they got to have a nice fancy drink along with us alcohol drinkers and it was really nice for everyone involved. There are ways to cater to everyone.
Wedding Venue Coordinator here. Commenting about the dry wedding.
Weddings are costly and so is the alcohol. Full open bars (wine/beer/spirts) for 150 people can be close to $6,000 and bartender service is also a charge.
This being said, a wedding is a party for the guests to celebrate the wedding couple and to thank them for the invite and to show support with gifts (some of which gifts are expensive and generous) so therefore, the reception is to thank the guests.
Venues offer open bar packages that are cost effective that offer one or two alcoholic options and/or offer cash bars for signature cocktails. Some venues also let you buy your own non alcoholic beverages and sometimes byob to have for the reception also….but I can’t speak for the venue they chose as I do not know legalities and policies.
People tend to leave after the ceremony for dry weddings too therefore the couple is out all the money on food because caterers take a headcount prior and do not change that based on if people leave because they already bought and prepped the food, so really they would be losing more money based on the dry wedding.
Just from experience I can see both sides as weddings are costly but at the same time some guests give very generous gifts ($1000s of dollars) and it’s traditional to treat them to a good time and thank them. (At least some wine or champagne or something as wine is cost effective).
One quibble: Wedding gifts are not "payment" in exchange for the cost of the wedding. The idea behind wedding gifts is to participate in the blessing of the union, and to collectively celebrate and welcome *a new family* into the community by helping them establish/set up their home. It's like a barn-raising.
Yeah, this attitude of a guest getting their money's worth out of a wedding is weird, isn't it. It pops up a lot in the aita posts.
Exactly. Horrific that this is what weddings have become 😕 The gift is entirely optional, and it’s certainly not meant to pay for the price of the reception
In the traditional model where the bride’s parents pay for the wedding, the gifts still go to the couple, it’s not supposed to be transactional
Came here to say this.
Exactly! That's why we specifically told folks we didn't want gifts; we had established our household/family unit years ago, so we were good, and we just wanted them there with us. it just felt inappropriate for us personally, since we had all the things we needed, and we really weren't looking to do a cash-grab by milking our loved ones for extra funds.
Even if a couple already lives together, it's a good opportunity to get a full set of dinnerware, linens, etc. You're investing in quality household items they can start using to mark their new life together and take with them if/when they move, the kinds of things a couple that's mature enough to get married will likely appreciate.
As a teenager, when one of my mentors got married, I wanted to get her some jewelry, but my parents explained it needed to be a gift for both of them. So I picked out a fancy wall-mounted key holder with a beaten metal sun to brighten their home instead.
Alternately, my former coworker got married a couple months before they both moved to Europe, and they obviously weren't bringing much with them. So they set up a "gift registry" of things they would need to buy once they moved in, with the approximate cost of each item. I sponsored their coffee pot and tea kettle so they could be well-caffeinated ☕🍵
I had a sister in law that picked only food she liked for her reception. I tried to reason with her.. "have a variety because you have friends that are vegetarian and family members that might prefer beef over chicken." She said it was her wedding and she wants it her way. It was really funny when her vegetarian friends were mad at her. It maybe your wedding, but you should be considerate of your guests
That's just entitlement, people with such attitude how do they incorporate with family and what will they teach their kids.
@lelu810 you hit the nail on the head. She is now divorced. Her kids are spoiled rotten and not allowed in my house (this is my husband's decision as it is his sister, he actually hasn't spoken to her in over a year). He has completely wrote her off. It's sad, but her own spoiled behavior has caused this. I'm proud of my husband for standing up for himself and his family, and not subjecting us to their bad behavior anymore.
I absolutely agree. My brother in law served venison nachos and everything was stupid spicy. It was not appropriate for a wedding.
She sounds like the type of person who have a fit if they went to someone's wedding and they served no food that she liked. Like if one of her vegetarian friends had a vegetarian only wedding, she'd flip out.
It's fine to serve food that the bride and groom like. It's not fine to serve ONLY food that the bride and groom like. Good grief!
They weren't engaged, they got married...if my sibling surprised me like that before my wedding I would be freaking OVERJOYED and probably spend most of the mingling gushing about it 🥰
But maybe I'm different 🤷♀️
5:40 Charlotte, they were not engaged, they were already married. They've tied the knot 4 months before the sister's marriage. They basically eloped.
I’ve been to a dry wedding and a BYOB wedding. The dry one was for religious reasons and the BYOB was for financial reasons. I had no issue with either. If you can’t get through a wedding without alcohol, then don’t go. They aren’t required to offer it and you aren’t required to go. Some people brought flasks to the dry wedding which I thought was rude considering the reason for not serving drinks.
Yes, but ONLY water sounds disrespectful to me. Maybe it’s a cultural thing (I’m latina), but where I’m from, serving only water to your guests makes you a bad host, it’s like you’re being cheap.
@@anacristinafonseca8891 I don't think it's only a latina thing to not serve your guests only water and likely tap water at that. Probably unfiltered too
5:44
Not engaged fam. Married. They were married for four months and didn't tell anyone until two weeks before the wedding.
When my husband and I got married we did a courthouse wedding and then forgot to tell anyone in our family about it for nearly a year. We only remembered when his little sister announced that she’d eloped one weekend and upset his mother. Then we were like oh yeaaaa we also eloped.
Yes, weird how she keeps repeatedly saying they're engaged, then continues to read all the written comments saying he's married. Odd.
@@moimeself1088that drove me nuts. I almost yelled at the screen MARRIED.
Omg did my head in too how often she says engaged when they were married and the rings were wedding rings 😫
We had a dry wedding because #1 we were under 21. #2 we were poor, and paying for most of our own wedding, some people donated time and resources as their gift to us. #3, most of our family are Christian, and not only don't NEED alcohol to have a good time, some of them believe it's evil...so honestly it's best to avoid it. We had sparkling grape juice in our wine glasses, and all the guests had tea and punch available. Nobody complained, it was like a typical potluck at church, only with a wedding party as focus. Everyone (as far as I know) had a good time. 😊
Water only?! No soda, coffee, juice?! Umm, nope. I would definitely be to busy to attend that day.😅🤣😂
I don’t think the problem was that the wedding was dry. My favorite wedding I’ve ever been to was a dry wedding, and it was so beautiful, meaningful, and fun! The thing is, it’s just considerate of the guests to have *some sort* of beverage options! For example, the wedding I mentioned earlier had a coffee/hot chocolate bar. At the very least have some lemonade or something 😂. Heck, for a few dollars they could’ve gotten some of that instant lemonade powder and mixed it themselves!
This part!
I’ve been to dry weddings and they are a lot of fun and quite frankly a lot more sensible. A lot of the drama/fights/cheating at weddings takes place because people are drunk. Getting rid of the alcohol stops a lot of the drama .
agree, but serving nothing but water is a whole nother beast
@@SingingSealRiana agree.
I feel attacked 🤣 The only thing that I drink on the daily is water. And my husband only drinks milk 🤣
Anyone getting pissy about others 'outshining' them at their wedding is a literal child.
If I went to a wedding where the wedding party stopped to get trashed by themselves and were late and completely disrespectful to their guests, I would have taken MY gift back as well.
You're not wrong. Sis is DEFINITELY the a-hole! I'm not taking my wedding ring offafa for anyone for any amount of time. 0:25
I had a dry wedding and we had a blast. But only serving water is just cheap. I explained it to my husband as this is the first party we're throwing as a couple.
My husband struggles with alcoholism, so our wedding was dry. However, we provided coffee, teas (herbal teas I prepared myself along with green tea), mocktails, and cider. Serving nothing but water is a guaranteed way of making everyone miserable.
The story with them only wanting to serve water at their wedding. There are so many things you can do with that🤦🏽♀️. Have ice, fresh cut fruit, cucumber, slices, mint, maybe for the kids you can add syrup you know like a Mocktail bar😑. But just plain basic tapwater😀. I’m not an alcoholic and I would still be pissed off.
What I noticed the more I watch these types of videos is how we are so obsessed with the idea of having the spotlight only on ourselves. or even the idea of a limelight. I wouldn't feel so 'important' to blatantly tell people 'Hey, tonight is all just about me'
Water only at a wedding feels like a work meeting
As someone who had a “dry” wedding due to a family history of alcoholism, we had a variety of flavors of lemonade, coffee with flavor options, water of course, and for the toasts we had mini individual bottles of both actual alcoholic champagne and nonalcoholic sparkling cider so that everyone could enjoy a toast but there was no risk of anyone hogging a big bottle or overdoing it, plus everyone had a choice that respected them. Having a water-only wedding just because you don’t drink anything else just feels disrespectful to your guests…