Why I'm Always So Calm

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  • @LanaBlakely
    @LanaBlakely  3 года назад +9812

    No matter how calm/not calm you are... what's something that just TRIGGERS you? I'll go first lol - when people don't take the time to properly read/watch/comprehend something (anything) and start asking questions that could've been answered had they just paid attention. Now you go.

    • @chaingangritesh
      @chaingangritesh 3 года назад +258

      It's easier said than done though 😞

    • @xsamix
      @xsamix 3 года назад +310

      ME TOO OMG it aggravates me when people ask questions that are common sense or just things that are kinda "duh" haha

    • @MerryOlSoulGigglesmith
      @MerryOlSoulGigglesmith 3 года назад +96

      I legitimately scream into a pillow from time to time.
      It really rather suggests i have some anger issues but better out than in.
      You Lana are a Massive help to me. Thank you.

    • @theresegonzaga9676
      @theresegonzaga9676 3 года назад +32

      same lana same

    • @umeshnathun2333
      @umeshnathun2333 3 года назад +64

      The main thing that restrict me to get rid of anxiety is some triggers, like certain situations,places & feelings.
      Now automatic chemical reactions happens in my brain through these triggers, it leads me to pattern of thinking & i grow anxious 😭😭😭😿

  • @annarosalyn7372
    @annarosalyn7372 3 года назад +20545

    When people assume that I’m boring because I don’t care about drinking and partying in college. little do they know that there’s more to life than recreational alcoholism.

    • @THEwildYNA
      @THEwildYNA 3 года назад +436

      Same for me.

    • @jonabobani1264
      @jonabobani1264 3 года назад +151

      👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

    • @letiziareis.
      @letiziareis. 3 года назад +700

      Exactly a lot of people think that you’re missing out on something but no I don’t think so I just like to stay at home 🤷🏻‍♀️

    • @SKumar-ki1yb
      @SKumar-ki1yb 3 года назад +297

      In France we say "fumes avant que la vie te fume", which means that we have to embrace our moment by partying etc... but i'd rather prefer to improve my behavior🤷‍♂️

    • @torryv3501
      @torryv3501 3 года назад +28

      Thank you!

  • @mcdepress0
    @mcdepress0 3 года назад +17533

    I try to be calm. I'm calm. But people keep crossing the line and testing my limits.

  • @Annisatisa
    @Annisatisa 3 года назад +7891

    Whenever Im stressed, I watch documentary about the universe. It never fails to make me realize how insignificant all these “earthy problems” I have 😌

    • @lavendermelon7889
      @lavendermelon7889 3 года назад +62

      Could you like suggest a few. And where can I watch it?

    • @naomiri3837
      @naomiri3837 2 года назад +17

      Lara Ackermann I love what you wrote here😍☺ i will try that too❤😌

    • @naomiri3837
      @naomiri3837 2 года назад +1

      Bist du aus Deutschland? Fällt mir grad so auf hahah

    • @Annisatisa
      @Annisatisa 2 года назад

      Naomi Ri yesss and I am certain that u will feel better afterwards 😊

    • @Annisatisa
      @Annisatisa 2 года назад +1

      Naomi Ri hahhaha nein, aber ich habe in Berlin gewohnen 😂 und ich kann auch Deutsch sprechen 😊😊

  • @miwako7601
    @miwako7601 2 года назад +3053

    U did not mentioned that Your environment plays the important role. I live with my family and every time i try to stay calm I ended up affected by my parents. Screaming, throwing things, it's stressing me out. The only way to stay calm is to move, to change your environment

    •  2 года назад +144

      When you can't do that I'd recommend staying somewhere where you can be at peace such as your room and a playlist of calm songs that's what I do

    • @welovemusic8542
      @welovemusic8542 2 года назад +54

      This is sooo true

    • @senben7116
      @senben7116 2 года назад +60

      totally agree, same as happening to me 🤦🏻‍♀️

    • @mellisabellaa
      @mellisabellaa 2 года назад +167

      true calmness is about not letting anything around you affect your state of being, if you just remove it you’re not letting it become an opportunity to develop your resilience. in other words if you’re letting yourself get affected by the exterior than you depend on your surroundings to feel calm instead of finding calmness from within.

    • @zhijhin8617
      @zhijhin8617 2 года назад +17

      I agree, I'll always try to relaxed before my anger takes everything but It's so difficult so I agree that a new environment will help a lot to change.

  • @JonPeacock
    @JonPeacock 3 года назад +5906

    People always ask me how I'm so calm. I don't think I'm calm so much as I think everyone else is constantly overreacting, lol

  • @MisterPol
    @MisterPol 3 года назад +3095

    I think this quote about calmness is quite good: "Be like a duck, paddling and working very hard inside the water, but what everyone sees is a smiling and calm face" - Manoj Arora

  • @peipeixi
    @peipeixi Год назад +901

    For me, human relations are so complicated. I try to stay away from people as much as I can. I find peace and calmness in being alone.

    • @lovetoeat3012
      @lovetoeat3012 Год назад +6

      Same ✌️

    • @vikram9377
      @vikram9377 Год назад +43

      its the comfort that kills you though, try to do things you dont wanna do

    • @rakshayadav123
      @rakshayadav123 Год назад

      Yes

    • @shanti2344
      @shanti2344 Год назад

      Same here

    • @kai06116
      @kai06116 Год назад +9

      i try to find peace by being alone but it make me feel very lonely and i hate it

  • @deejason_17
    @deejason_17 3 года назад +710

    Simplicity, humility, calmness and gentleness are very attracive

  • @PumpkinBread2
    @PumpkinBread2 3 года назад +3914

    LIFE is 10% what happens to you and around you, and 90% how you react to it.

    • @oklol5276
      @oklol5276 3 года назад +3

      Yesssss

    • @satya_diva
      @satya_diva 3 года назад +1

      u got 666 likes my homie

    • @cekiw_1885
      @cekiw_1885 3 года назад +9

      for me only 1% and 99% coz i dont give a shit about this life lol

    • @PrincessFunni
      @PrincessFunni 3 года назад

      I love this, thanks

    • @natebilamu2516
      @natebilamu2516 3 года назад

      Most definitelyyyy

  • @Someone-gj3go
    @Someone-gj3go 3 года назад +5001

    I feel like this channel is like a little fort where only introverts hang out in

    • @MasteringJohn
      @MasteringJohn 3 года назад +140

      A Fortress of Solitude, perhaps?

    • @LanaBlakely
      @LanaBlakely  3 года назад +351

      aw yes!!

    • @KirakiraProduction
      @KirakiraProduction 3 года назад +194

      Lol i’m an extrovert learning how to be an introvert with this channel. I think introverts have the key (or are closer to the key) to living meaningful and peaceful individual lives.

    • @Shg228
      @Shg228 3 года назад +76

      @@KirakiraProduction Girl same! I'm an extrovert but I feel like introverts have it all figured out. They are so chill and I need to be more like that

    • @ashlyreny590
      @ashlyreny590 3 года назад +3

      Hy yes

  • @yzkkoch479
    @yzkkoch479 Год назад +97

    This is so healthy to practice, instead of creating a bad habit. This habit can influence your surroundings especially your children.

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      @Lanablakely01 Год назад

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  • @didihadid6580
    @didihadid6580 2 года назад +39

    I work in a call center and I'm watching this video so I could apply this to my daily work. There are days that it so hard to deal with, because people take the anger they have on a very personal level. I'm a very understanding and caring human being but sometimes the insults and humiliations I get is too much. Hopefully I can get something from this because the stress and the negativity gets in to me and I want to avoid that and I hope other people who is watching this can get a lot from this too. Sometimes we forget to consider other people's emotions just because we are too frustrated.
    "Screaming and throwing things around doesn't magically summon missing objects."

  • @arnoldrogelio
    @arnoldrogelio 3 года назад +7021

    The vibes in this video is what I feel while reading books

    • @peaceful3607
      @peaceful3607 3 года назад +50

      I thought the very same thing! 📚

    • @SunshineRain20
      @SunshineRain20 3 года назад +20

      Definitely! I feel it too.

    • @natebilamu2516
      @natebilamu2516 3 года назад +20

      Lmaooo or after a meditation outsideee

    • @Dhivyaanjali
      @Dhivyaanjali 3 года назад +7

      The Guernsey literary and the potato peel pie society... Why do I remember this on seeing you🙂

    • @obsessedglenn
      @obsessedglenn 3 года назад +4

      I thought so too. This is amazing. She is amazing.

  • @brianarbenz7206
    @brianarbenz7206 3 года назад +1729

    "Screaming and throwing things around doesn't magically summon missing objects." That's so obvious, but why can't we realize it?

    • @exursix
      @exursix 3 года назад +71

      its most likely how anger kind of puts your mind on autopilot. you get blinded by anger and cant think about things that easily than being calm and not so worked up

    • @laraselters9185
      @laraselters9185 3 года назад +1

      Nothing wrong with being exicatble either though. It's kinda fascist to put the one mindset about the other.

    • @chhunheranhbill3575
      @chhunheranhbill3575 2 года назад +2

      My dad does that...

    • @JoshAmes1980
      @JoshAmes1980 2 года назад +5

      Some people are just addicted to how they feel when they rage. Recognizing that is the first step to getting over it.

    • @stephaniemartinez256
      @stephaniemartinez256 2 года назад +15

      Sometimes it's about releasing emotions, which isn't always a bad thing. Sometimes being "calm" in a situation isn't "real calm", it's bottled up anger. It's funny, but sometimes throwing a towel or whatever can calm me down. Breaking items or yelling loud and scaring people isn't okay, but the pent up energy from anger can be used up from singing or screaming into a pillow, and the destructive/throw things energy can be recycled into certain types of art and sports. It's just important to recognize when you're "releasing" emotions as opposed to egging yourself on and making yourself feel worse.

  • @doctorkermit5978
    @doctorkermit5978 2 года назад +90

    Listening to you for 10 minutes is the best meditation session I've ever had

  • @Smashachu
    @Smashachu Год назад +37

    I get the same thing, I talk to people for a living. I'm always getting the comment of ""your really chill". Like even when i'm trying to be energetic and feel like i'm talking really fast, i'll hear myself on a recording and think.. Dang i'm just a more expressive calm. I wonder if it's the crippling depression, who knows.

    • @Lanablakely01
      @Lanablakely01 Год назад

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  • @itsangelajane
    @itsangelajane 3 года назад +2224

    She is so elegant and feminine, and also her work ethic itself.

  • @krsextonart
    @krsextonart 3 года назад +2797

    As someone who suffers from an anxiety disorder with the constant feeling that everyone hates me, I appreciate this video so much.

  • @effinator
    @effinator 2 года назад +77

    There has been a significant shift in my life since adapting this type of mindset; none of this will exist 200-300 years from now, so do what makes you happy and don't take things too seriously. Great content! I am going to attempt a voice-over type video here soon and you incorporate it effortlessly!

  • @sopheas.4075
    @sopheas.4075 2 года назад +4

    A time that triggered me so much and still continues to trigger is when I am introduced to unnecessary mess inside the house, mess that's not even caused by me. Thus, why I'm here watching your video, thank you so much Lana for the great tips!

  • @lookitsann
    @lookitsann 3 года назад +1783

    *I think I’m just constantly torn between “every single little thing matters and will
    trigger my anxiety” and “literally nothing matters-we’re just a tiny piece of insignificant dust and none of this will ever be important in the grand scheme of things anyway”*
    THIS IS THE INSIDE OF MY HEAD, CONSTANTLY! finally someone gets it!

    • @auntyjasmine2566
      @auntyjasmine2566 3 года назад

      OMG ME TOO SIS

    • @mauve9266
      @mauve9266 3 года назад +9

      Chris Wyma but I feel like then I’ll use that to justify nothing mattering ever 😂

    • @EveArtie
      @EveArtie 3 года назад

      Me too!!!!

    • @Spiinellii
      @Spiinellii 3 года назад +1

      i guess im not the only one

    • @Alex-rl3kj
      @Alex-rl3kj 3 года назад

      This is me every time

  • @Allysoncociuba
    @Allysoncociuba 3 года назад +3305

    If your reading this... you are the most beautiful person! :)

    • @michellemugo8831
      @michellemugo8831 3 года назад +23

      Yes, mee😂✨

    • @beaglemit
      @beaglemit 3 года назад +62

      Being beautiful affects your life. Having that told to you all the time, stuff getting done for you. Everything is all good. Calm.

    • @xinshu6358
      @xinshu6358 3 года назад

      🙋

    • @Bioniking
      @Bioniking 3 года назад +3

      Nah

    • @DK-th5nt
      @DK-th5nt 3 года назад +19

      I would but I don't want to sound like some creep xD

  • @NiftyBankNifty
    @NiftyBankNifty 3 года назад +52

    Screaming and throwing things around doesn't magically summon lost objects?? You need to scream at the right pitch with some amount of authority. THEN throw things around. Its works for me all the time.

  • @swordsnorchids1997
    @swordsnorchids1997 2 года назад +2

    You're just so down to earth, sometimes I find it difficult because I tend to always look for better and more so often.

  • @madhavdaga
    @madhavdaga 3 года назад +1311

    Lana **gets in a fight**
    _"kindly shut up"_

    • @CANDIEELU
      @CANDIEELU 3 года назад +4

      😂

    • @lilbean2239
      @lilbean2239 3 года назад +7

      In wish i could like this comment but it has 666 likes 😕

    • @ahnrho
      @ahnrho 3 года назад +3

      The right words. Hah.

    • @aseema2408
      @aseema2408 3 года назад +2

      Lol

  • @ms.rainycloud8272
    @ms.rainycloud8272 3 года назад +2846

    why do people find being calm as weird? sometimes, they would literally laugh. what’s wrong with being calm?

    • @megapet777
      @megapet777 3 года назад +62

      Because most people are tards and dont appreciate how powerful thing calmness and quietness is. I'm by far the most calm person in my family

    • @Cookiedesigns254
      @Cookiedesigns254 3 года назад +127

      Because some people grow up in a toxic environment so seeing calm people is not normal to them

    • @resilententity470
      @resilententity470 3 года назад +7

      good question, if anything it should be the new norm!

    • @louielemon3098
      @louielemon3098 3 года назад +40

      They're just jealous on how you get to handle the most frustrating situations.

    • @1982A
      @1982A 3 года назад +7

      Blame on kardashian Family

  • @hm9779
    @hm9779 2 года назад +9

    I needed to hear this so much today…I feel so peaceful even when I’m supposed to be anxious I’m so grateful for this moment and I am happy to always be in this frame of mind ❤️❤️

  • @user-wk5rp3xr2d
    @user-wk5rp3xr2d 2 года назад +9

    I started recently to act more calm, and to change my perspectives, doing that made me realize how silly i've used to look when stressing out about small things, also, i'm experiencing much less anxiety and several anger last times, because i am choosing peace, day by day. By the way, sublime video, Lana.

  • @danicafayedelacruz6912
    @danicafayedelacruz6912 3 года назад +1577

    Her beauty, the cinematic skills, the way she talks, and THE BACKGROUND MUSIC. Is perfect this feels like a tv series.

  • @SuperSnooki14
    @SuperSnooki14 3 года назад +891

    I act calm but i have a mind with high anxiety.

    • @linzym.nunezc.1207
      @linzym.nunezc.1207 3 года назад +10

      Y e s.

    • @Haruki_chan
      @Haruki_chan 3 года назад +70

      It’s always funny when ppl think you’re always so calm but you know that in the inside you’re panicked af, your brain is on fire and analyzing everything

    • @iiiestullaiii2689
      @iiiestullaiii2689 3 года назад +1

      same (sad but same) ✌🏼😪

    • @jesuislapluie695
      @jesuislapluie695 3 года назад +1

      Your not alone. And you are alone like every one of us huhu
      ❤️

    • @junkfoodie21
      @junkfoodie21 3 года назад

      Omg same!!

  • @VirTaro
    @VirTaro 2 года назад +11

    I often feel like I'm the only calm person on the planet. Most everyone I know is always so stressed or angry. Always one second away from losing it.
    This video provided some much needed enlightenment. I never knew how to vocalize my perspective, but this really taught me a thing or two, and certainly helped me feel a lot less alone in my way of life. Thank you for that.

  • @radhasauloo.325
    @radhasauloo.325 2 года назад +15

    I’m glad I’m not alone on this. I’ve always been told why I’m so calm all the time that sometimes I feel so out of place and weird but I realized it’s because I choose peace, to have compassion for myself and others than allowing anger and frustration control me. It also starts within, when you learn to accept that things aren’t always going to be in your control and treat yourself with compassion and others.

  • @denisedeharenne1270
    @denisedeharenne1270 3 года назад +3034

    When I was on high school I used to not worry about exams or homework. I had classmates that lost their hair because of the stress of those times, classmates that would cry because of the frustration. I feel sad they had to go through all that and I remember a lot of people would say I was always chilled, and I like being like that! I do what she says, I pick the battles that are really worthy in my life, big decisions, mental health, never about exams which marks don't define me! I hope whoever is reading this can also start being like this, it's a little of inner peace and it's nice, but I still trigger sometimes mostly when it comes to racism, animal abuse or machismo, I'm not cool in those moments haha

    • @aphradite321
      @aphradite321 3 года назад +133

      You sound like a person I want to be around

    • @denisedeharenne1270
      @denisedeharenne1270 3 года назад +19

      @@aphradite321 have a nice day!

    • @NaraTam1121
      @NaraTam1121 3 года назад +168

      heyy not to sound rude and i really appreciate your way of thinking about life and exams but coming from a place where everyone really cares about your grades and academic things,, sometimes people cry not because of the frustration but because the results don't come out as expected and they've worked really hard on. I hope it isn't offensive to say this but 'cry like babies' just a bit disrespectful. Not saying anything like marks should determine who you are and stuff, but sometimes it is really painful to see that your hard work doesn't pay off and i hope you understand :) have a nice day!

    • @denisedeharenne1270
      @denisedeharenne1270 3 года назад +54

      @@NaraTam1121 yes you're right! I'm sorry. I had to drop out of college due to never being able to organize my studies. It was messing up my mental health and maybe I didn't care much in high school bc I didn't like anything my school was teaching me, but if your goal is to do things a certain way/getting certain results, it's hard to "just not care". Thank u. And I hope you have a great day too ❣️

    • @NaraTam1121
      @NaraTam1121 3 года назад +34

      @@denisedeharenne1270 awhh thank you and the whole reply was just hoping that you won't use the term 'cry like babies' since it sounds really bad while letting out your emotions is pretty normal,, just a small friendly reminder!

  • @claudiap.6838
    @claudiap.6838 3 года назад +953

    I had a fight with my mother. She can be SO toxic and mean spirited. So, she provoked me and I felt for it. I screamed and said so many mean things. I was trying to stay calm but what she said was so unnecessary and mean that I failed to keep my cool. My goal in life is to always control myself in all situations.

    • @mauve9266
      @mauve9266 3 года назад +103

      Parents (mums especially) can be hard to deal with

    • @chenrobyn8817
      @chenrobyn8817 3 года назад +6

      ❤️

    • @smileyface5350
      @smileyface5350 3 года назад +77

      Just stay away from her. Dont be around her. Talk about important things only. Also cancel anything that involved her. Just shut up when she angry or say nasty things at u.

    • @claudiap.6838
      @claudiap.6838 3 года назад +83

      Smiley Face you Just won’t believe what just happened. At this very second I have tears in my eyes. We just fought again and I’m living with her because I’m pregnant and I’m still at university. I need her help. She was mean to me again, I begged her to respect me, I will give birth at any moment now and did not want to fight, she said, you know what? Just pick your things and get out of my house.
      I came to my room now and begged Jesus to comfort me, to help me and seconds later I saw this comment of yours.
      Maybe it is a sign. and if it is, it is telling me to stay as far as possible from her, even if I’m still living under the same root.

    • @natureloverdude
      @natureloverdude 3 года назад +13

      @@claudiap.6838 Jesus is the way to go. 👍But don't forget to repent of all your sins! Could be you have unrepentant sins and unforgiveness.

  • @sterain61
    @sterain61 3 года назад +2

    I would so love to find someone as calm and mellow as you to spend the rest of my life with

  • @yamunasathyapalan1661
    @yamunasathyapalan1661 3 года назад +12

    As a person who is constantly battling anxiety... I FREAKIN LOVE THIS!

  • @LM-yr3yz
    @LM-yr3yz 3 года назад +285

    "You have power over your mind -- not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength" -Marcus Aurelius
    One of my favorite Stoics

    • @peaceful3607
      @peaceful3607 3 года назад +3

      Wisdom, justice, courage, and moderation. That's all we need!

    • @natebilamu2516
      @natebilamu2516 3 года назад +1

      Ouuuu

  • @ThorstenMerz
    @ThorstenMerz 3 года назад +575

    "You have power over your mind - not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.
    " -- Marcus Aurelius

  • @StephanieJD
    @StephanieJD 3 года назад +7

    oommmggggg I have never heard anyone else say that they would cry at the thought of separating food from their family and friends!!! THAT WAS MY WHOLE CHILDHOOD!! I couldn't even eat cereal without worrying the whole box was the family and I wasn't eating the whole family, therefore separating them and they would be sad!!!

  • @sailajadas5402
    @sailajadas5402 2 года назад +13

    The entire experience of watching this video and your vibe is so helpful.

  • @cephiso
    @cephiso 3 года назад +710

    I remember back then when my classmate told me that he wanted to be me because I was “stress-free” and “calm”, but little did he know there was a chaos in my mind lmao

  • @WerdoyMax
    @WerdoyMax 2 года назад +11

    Wow you have such a calming and gentle voice. Plus I loved how you introduced the sponsor within the dialog you were making. Thumbs up for that.

  • @theartofeste5070
    @theartofeste5070 Год назад +4

    I am calm to the point where like you said, people often think i am indifferent. I think the only situation that would mess with my head and make me panic outwardly is when i have late work for class and i dont meet the course deadline. Love your videos by the way, you tend to voice a lot of what i think. Great Job

  • @SandraintheCity
    @SandraintheCity 3 года назад +239

    I aspire to be as unbothered as lana

    • @cab91312
      @cab91312 3 года назад +9

      If by unbothered you mean not caring about worldly desires (like being liked, noticed, praised, materialism) then yes. But I would say things definitely bother her/concern her. For instance it bothers (not angers but bothers) her that some people can't accept her calm personality. Otherwise she wouldn't have made this video. It's important to care about things, but we need to prioritize what we truly care about which is what she intentionally strives to do and likes to talk about on this channel (which, by the way, she does well 💕)

    • @SandraintheCity
      @SandraintheCity 3 года назад +1

      Camille Baca wow you phrased that so well! But yes, that was sort of the meaning to my comment :) thank you for elaborating

    • @venusa4606
      @venusa4606 3 года назад

      Camille Baca h

  • @filipa8626
    @filipa8626 3 года назад +444

    I honestly can't tell how many times you post about something I was worried in that exact moment it's crazy

  • @NiyahStyles
    @NiyahStyles 2 года назад +8

    Such calming words that i feel like we know, but needs to be told to us every know and then, in a gentle reminding way like this.
    Thank you Lana

  • @mariamore8497
    @mariamore8497 2 года назад +6

    this video is so peaceful, honestly i think i already found my inner peace. i need to improve, but i love this energy.

  • @bananamamamia
    @bananamamamia 3 года назад +787

    Words of caution to all calm people out there. I was and still am “the calmest” among my groups of friends since I was in high school. When I was 27, I went to therapy and the therapist legit said my anxiety is higher than average. I was confused af. But then realised that being calm for me is a coping mechanism and me suppressing my emotions. I was so unhealthy emotionally. The same happened to my “calm” friend. So guys, I’d recommend going to therapy at least once just to see if you really are calm in a healthy way or not.

    • @ketkimehta4368
      @ketkimehta4368 3 года назад +57

      So true..i always tell people what's bothering me..a lot of people have said that i'm too straightforward..but i always felt like if i will hide or supress my emotions it will get worse

    • @mayanujaim
      @mayanujaim 3 года назад +65

      Being calm shouldn’t mean suppressing our emotions or ignoring them, we can be calm and still accept our emotions and manage them properly!

    • @CleoraAleise
      @CleoraAleise 3 года назад +2

      Ketki Mehta this is the one. Repressing emotions isn’t healthy.

    • @BonBonHassan
      @BonBonHassan 3 года назад +5

      @@ketkimehta4368 yeah I used to intentionally detach from situations when it was too much, now I’m learning to speak through things with someone I trust to confide in

    • @melmel7011
      @melmel7011 3 года назад +1

      Thank you for the comment because I just couldn't relate. I'm impatient and short tempered If I care about something that's not going my way. The only way to stay calm is if I consciously decide to disconnect from it.
      I'm a Scorpio too

  • @Charlie-Charlot
    @Charlie-Charlot 3 года назад +499

    *screaming and throwing things around doesn’t magically summon missing objects*
    Well yes but it makes me feel a little bit better 😅

    • @evaistheway
      @evaistheway 3 года назад +8

      But not nearly as better as knowing you have carried yourself with poise and respect

    • @Charlie-Charlot
      @Charlie-Charlot 3 года назад +17

      Kaz Kaffenberger nah this doesn’t work at all with me, I guess it has to do with my personality.

    • @EllyJellyBean99
      @EllyJellyBean99 3 года назад +20

      I think you're right Charlie.
      I think some people look at life through a lens of emotions and intuition, their thoughts are scattered. Holding these emotions inside can be damaging if you just pretend they aren't there when they in fact are and can be incredibly strong. To these people it would be inauthentic and would likely cause a bottling of emotions which would then only have to resurface at a later date.
      Others in our society are more logically minded people who take a methodical approach on life and their thoughts are linear. They are less impulsive and therefore to them they see the logic in the situation such as 'getting angry won't help me to find the charger'. The emotionally driven of us takes the emotion and that's how we decide what to do in a situation. It's about how we make decisions in life, based off what we feel or what is logical and we're all on this spectrum somewhere of how much weight we give to one over the other.
      I've done a lot of self-development over the years and I think I've come to realise that you can change yourself and make life better by altering the way you react to things and your conditioning but you cannot change the core of your essence. I find the Myers-Briggs test to be a great indicator of your true essence and by removing things that take you further away from this and working on the weaknesses of your character you'll likely get to the best place for you as an individual 🥰

    • @Charlie-Charlot
      @Charlie-Charlot 3 года назад

      EllyJellyBean99 that’s true, what mbti personality are you ? I’m ENTJ apparently

    • @Charlie-Charlot
      @Charlie-Charlot 3 года назад

      Scarlet Baxter honestly I don’t find the ENTJ type to be really accurate for me but I took the test 3 times now and I get the same results each times. Sometimes I feel so much different than most people I know that I fear I can’t relate to any type in particular

  • @nilimakhaling
    @nilimakhaling Год назад +1

    hey there lana! thankyou so much for this video. apparently, i was going through a rough time and i knew I had to be calm because i needed to. this video was exactly what i needed. thankyou. you are a blessing to the community

  • @yahayanatasha
    @yahayanatasha 2 года назад +6

    I always relate and learn something new when I watch you on RUclips Lana. Thank you for being 'you'.

  • @nunanusta
    @nunanusta 3 года назад +430

    We're just spiritual beings having a human experience

    • @honeybunnybunny1958
      @honeybunnybunny1958 3 года назад +18

      Yep! This is not our actual home we are actually aliens to earth we are temporary residents here

    • @serenitybeats1677
      @serenitybeats1677 2 года назад +2

      @Truth is here maybe you arent

    • @M_K_M_K_M_K
      @M_K_M_K_M_K 2 года назад

      “I am not my body, I am not my thoughts”

  • @rndmkt
    @rndmkt 3 года назад +744

    Be like water not coke bcos when water get shaked it stays the same, however coke will explode

    • @khwanyothwe9610
      @khwanyothwe9610 3 года назад +4

      Randem Kt owo nice quote

    • @seven0570
      @seven0570 3 года назад +8

      Good analogy

    • @antartico0
      @antartico0 3 года назад +23

      We found new Socrates

    • @chlo.ech0
      @chlo.ech0 3 года назад +36

      And even though coke tastes better, water makes you feel better in the long-term

    • @natebilamu2516
      @natebilamu2516 3 года назад +4

      Ouuuuu that hit home niceeee

  • @sohaalykhan_
    @sohaalykhan_ 2 года назад +6

    everything in this video feels so calm .. i mean her setup, her voice, her teachings, her background HAHAHA ❤️

  • @withlabrador8959
    @withlabrador8959 2 года назад +3

    Growing up I was always that rambunctious energetic kid who would blurt stuff out to gain attention. As I've grown older and matured, I am now the exact opposite haha. The calmness I can have in certain situations almost surprises myself when I think about it, but one of the most rewarding benefits to this in my life has been seeing people not for what emotion they project or an action they do, but for who they truly are. To look beyond their actions and words and appreciate them in an intentional way. Being someone who doesn't say much in a room full of friends, my silence speaks louder sometimes, so when it does come time for me to speak, people listen intently because they are aware that I will not just blurt stuff out to be "apart of a conversation", often times, silence speaks louder than words. With that being said, that's not to paint myself as this perfectly calm dude who never gets bothered by others or myself, its more so in agreement with what Lana Blakely said beautifully, I choose my battles well. Being calm consistently can become part of your lifestyle but its for sure a habit that is developed consistently over time. Learning form mistakes, realizing what you prefer about your own reactions/presence and then tweaking it to what suits you personally. I loved the video! I just discovered your channel but I gotta say, this is one of the first times I've been able to relate to a RUclipsr so well. Thank you.

  • @errorABX
    @errorABX 3 года назад +247

    So basically.... whenever ever we're having emotional reaction about something....stop for a moment and think about that reaction logically by either having verbal conversation with your self or simply thinking it....then it helps you to whether reacting on particular situation is rightful thing or not at all :)

    • @luckycharm1212
      @luckycharm1212 Год назад +9

      Actually we need to feel the emotions in our body as physical sensations and recognize what emotions we're experiencing. We need the emotions to pass on its own. Then comes the step of logical thinking. If we don't process our emotions we will never know what our triggers are and how to make peace with them.

  • @SphexYT
    @SphexYT 3 года назад +3584

    I think I've fallen in love.

    • @suruchigupta6639
      @suruchigupta6639 3 года назад +143

      or maybe you're overreacting..

    • @elMore1107
      @elMore1107 3 года назад +22

      Nah me too

    • @klee06able
      @klee06able 3 года назад +13

      Me too

    • @christian_kansas
      @christian_kansas 3 года назад +12

      i don't think i've fallen in love, i've definitely fallen in love. (why did this have to happen again, s**t)

    • @ayoubkhiro4184
      @ayoubkhiro4184 3 года назад +35

      Simps

  • @dlimimohamed543
    @dlimimohamed543 Год назад +1

    It took me almost 20 years of work to attain your awareness to keep calm and get out stress as Quick as necessary.
    Your philosophy is woderful ..

  • @peoplefactified9391
    @peoplefactified9391 3 года назад +5

    Her voice is so soothing

  • @RickUrl
    @RickUrl 3 года назад +166

    "The universe is vast, and we are so small. In the end, there is only one thing we can truly control.
    Whether we are good, or evil." (Oma Desala)

    • @user-qp4bk6xe5x
      @user-qp4bk6xe5x 3 года назад

      My opinion, we might have good or evil thoughts; but will we go for doing these evil thoughts or not?

  • @xtraroyce
    @xtraroyce 3 года назад +381

    i resonate with Lana so much as a fellow introvert. in our society its like we have to make friends, interact with people, show energy. but most of the time i just want to go to my room because people are so exhausting

    • @sanjanatatikonda9156
      @sanjanatatikonda9156 Год назад +2

      I totally relate it’s so nice to know there are others that feel the same way:)

    • @PennPearson
      @PennPearson Год назад +1

      Exhausting. Yes. When I was young, human contact seemed to be worth the price I paid in stress and fatigue, but as I've gotten older, that's less true.

  • @brendhaoliveirabre
    @brendhaoliveirabre 2 года назад +26

    i’m applying this on a daily basis and it’s been so so helpful. this was life changing for me, thank you so much Lana

  • @horanghaeeeehehee2827
    @horanghaeeeehehee2827 2 года назад +5

    u're the actual definition of mature for me, thank you so much for inspiring my life 🥺❤

  • @user-yh8li2tm8g
    @user-yh8li2tm8g 3 года назад +120

    I'm naturally like this too and people seem to perceive me as emotionless. which i'm far from. I'm just not reactive.

    • @alyxms5826
      @alyxms5826 3 года назад +1

      Word

    • @samanthasteell
      @samanthasteell 3 года назад +7

      Yes! My parents always think I'm either not listening or i dont care just because I don't say much or react. My sister is the exact opposite; she is the definition of drama queen, she is loud, gushing with empathy and warmth and talks your ear off. It makes me look like a robot when actually I feel and understand so deeply.

  • @vaishnavihangma276
    @vaishnavihangma276 3 года назад +563

    Listening to you is managing my stress somehow

  • @medha8584
    @medha8584 2 года назад +3

    This video was very soothing. I am also a calm kind of person and I stay calm almost 99 percent of the time but still there are days when no matter how much I try I do get affected by my surroundings... earlier I used to feel guilty at these moments where I couldn't control my emotions but now I accept being not calm all the time...

  • @Alexis.Pineda
    @Alexis.Pineda 2 месяца назад +1

    It is most likely that genetics, culture, environment, and upbringing, have a giant role in our identical mindset. I agreed with every point you mentioned and I hope more people will adopt this calm mindset. Great video Lana.

  • @AnaVictorinoChannel
    @AnaVictorinoChannel 3 года назад +925

    I can relate to this Lana.

    • @andyc6752
      @andyc6752 2 года назад

      Hey it's you

    • @andyc6752
      @andyc6752 2 года назад

      My sister watches you

    • @mpajonas7023
      @mpajonas7023 2 года назад

      yea, most other lanas confuse me a little bit too

  • @Richardsondx
    @Richardsondx 3 года назад +15

    haha I love the title on the thumbnail "The art to care less". I just spent 10 minutes reading the comments , can we all agree that there are a lot of gems here?

  • @lucykemp6814
    @lucykemp6814 Год назад +2

    Just watched this video, it was the first one to come up when I googled how to be calm. The whole aura of this video is beautifully calming. :)

  • @redpanda146
    @redpanda146 Год назад

    you're so mature😭 With that mindset you can get whatever you want and have peace with yourself. I admire that mindset so much and im here throwing tantrum.

  • @jonycas2000
    @jonycas2000 3 года назад +41

    Okay but the real MVP's are those sound effects perfectly placed

    • @LanaBlakely
      @LanaBlakely  3 года назад +19

      Ok this is the best compliment

    • @jonycas2000
      @jonycas2000 3 года назад +6

      @@LanaBlakely ahahaha thank you!

  • @maxinnecarmona5566
    @maxinnecarmona5566 3 года назад +81

    That's true, sometimes it can be taken as indifference, like I don't care about anything. And is not like that, in my case is more about stoicism.

  • @krissy_n5732
    @krissy_n5732 2 года назад +3

    Love you Lana. Literally just discovered your channel a few minutes ago and have watched 3 of your videos so far, and can i just say that your editing skills are so fire and your content in general is definately something i can binge watch all day. Keep the content coming!😍

  • @miaah_papayaa
    @miaah_papayaa 4 месяца назад +2

    cinematic and masterpiece. love how you’ve put these concepts together into such a beautiful message

  • @Winterdays01
    @Winterdays01 3 года назад +179

    I’m literally a stress ball. I cannot relate. 😅

  • @parthrathi2537
    @parthrathi2537 3 года назад +33

    I’m usually pretty calm and collected, but one thing that starts getting on my nerves is being in a situation where I have to talk to people I don’t want to.

  • @maxieneandrei4536
    @maxieneandrei4536 Год назад

    Miss, you've articulated everything I've been thinking. After hearing your words, I no longer felt like an alien and alone, knowing that at last, there was someone else who felt and behaved the same way as I do.

  • @StephenOshea
    @StephenOshea 3 года назад +1

    yes reading can really help in expanding the mind so much . learning from others life experiences can shape our thoughts

  • @darleneannbrasales1293
    @darleneannbrasales1293 3 года назад +68

    RUclips really know I need this right now. Only youtube knows me.

  • @Starliet
    @Starliet 3 года назад +34

    *We Introverts always stands apart but are still together!💜 That makes us Special than others!💜*

  • @Beachbaberealty
    @Beachbaberealty Год назад

    Thank you for helping, my anger issue gone worse from last relationship, narc person and it really effects everyone else and everything around me after that abuse. I have no patience anymore. I have been trying to be calm and learn how to be not too stressful.

  • @roku3758
    @roku3758 2 года назад +1

    It's been a year but I just realized that every single time I watch this and finally think to myself to realize that I could be getting something done right now I just need to turn on this to remind myself that because I have a horrible memory and I want to try to work on being able to do that on my own but thank you

  • @ddjgaray
    @ddjgaray 3 года назад +38

    Watching this also made me calmer for some reason lol

    • @LanaBlakely
      @LanaBlakely  3 года назад +8

      Haha, glad to hear :-)

    • @ahmedabdulai9852
      @ahmedabdulai9852 3 года назад +2

      @@LanaBlakely yeah she has a calm energy in her videos. Very well made

  • @syndicateisreal6360
    @syndicateisreal6360 3 года назад +48

    "There's no need to get too worked up when things don't go your way.... " Lana Blakely.

  • @syl4072
    @syl4072 3 года назад +2

    this is the most beautiful video ive ever seen in my life. thank you for bringing peace to the world.

  • @lynnsiyfayne9032
    @lynnsiyfayne9032 Год назад +1

    I found your channel not very long ago. And i really love your content. You have the solutions to lots of people's problems. I'm trying to be the better version of myself. And your channel is the best solution to that. I'm grateful that RUclips recommended me your videos.

  • @woodsandcoffee
    @woodsandcoffee 3 года назад +141

    Yes!! Thinking about your response before you respond will change your life! Is it really worth getting upset over? Will reacting cause me to feel upset? So key to living a peaceful life. Love your videos by the way. They give me a TON of inspiration for my channel!

    • @LanaBlakely
      @LanaBlakely  3 года назад +9

      Yes this definitely changed my life and relationships!

    • @niara6
      @niara6 3 года назад +2

      I do tend to get upset over small things, i don't know how to cope up with that.

    • @woodsandcoffee
      @woodsandcoffee 3 года назад

      Niara R looking into a mindfulness practice might help!

    • @ayanita761
      @ayanita761 3 года назад

      @@niara6 same here

  • @mr.gamewatch7547
    @mr.gamewatch7547 3 года назад +23

    “The ideal man bears the accidents of life with dignity and grace, making the best of circumstances.” -Aristotle

  • @julianterris
    @julianterris 7 месяцев назад +1

    I meditate 30mins every morning, and I find that gives me a little buffer. Placing your hand over your heart creates cohesion which is powerful. The peace it generates helps me focus.

  • @unstoppable2920
    @unstoppable2920 3 года назад +2

    I find myself lucky to see your videos..it makes me more calm in life and also there's a lot for me to improve..thank you😇

  • @missfish11
    @missfish11 3 года назад +45

    people have told me that they'd appreciate seeing me angry because it seems so opposite of me because when something upsetting happens i try to react in an understanding way most of the time. thank you for making this video

  • @Believer-lz7jf
    @Believer-lz7jf 3 года назад +32

    I'm calm. I'm beautiful. I'm grateful.✨✨✨✨

  • @munafmahmud
    @munafmahmud 2 года назад +2

    Your voice is litteraly so calm

  • @willyferrer1750
    @willyferrer1750 Год назад +1

    watching this makes me calmer than ever

  • @umeshnathun2333
    @umeshnathun2333 3 года назад +29

    Suppressing feeling, its very hardest situations specially for anxious person. And age by age as it grows, we feel lack of patience, being judgmental & having OCD. Day by day now I'm getting panic attracts. I wish i could get rid of all these things easily 😭. Emotional and mental pain hurts more than physical pain.

  • @cccsss123
    @cccsss123 3 года назад +17

    constantly repeat "it is what it is" in your mind when something goes wrong and move on

  • @Maria-xi2rh
    @Maria-xi2rh Год назад +3

    This was a great help. Thanks! I feel calm. Your voice, your vibes, your words and everything about you is so soul soothing, Thank you so much!

  • @thornados4969
    @thornados4969 3 года назад +2

    I can feel the calmness while watching you.