1. A mature man is NOT a perfect man. He is a work in progress. 2. If a man is getting drunk and high, he's NOT mature man. 3. If a man is still going to a regular club or strip club, he's NOT a mature man. 4. A mature man will NOT be jealous, controlling, and insecure, but becomes confident. 5. A mature man will NOT expect you to pay your half for a date. 6. A mature is NOT going to expect anything in return. 7. A mature will NOT coerce you into the bed. He will spend more time getting to know you better. This was a great message. I'm taking notes and using this to improve myself as well.
I had a man who paid for everything for 20+ years. Every thing. I never had to work. Never paid for a date or part of one, lol. Cheating was never an issue. Nor abuse. He wasn’t perfect but he was worth his weight in gold. It’s very possible to find one, ladies.
@@sw-ri7bl There are BW who are housewives. There isn't anything wrong with that. Some men even TODAY would be insulted if a woman paid the bill. They take pride in being ABLE to take care of their family. However, this type of man is hard to find.
I stopped going to the club when one guy asked for my number and I gave it to him. Never heard from him at all. Ended up seeing the same dude at a different club probably a few weeks later and he asked for my number again 🙄. Had no recollection we had met before. That's when I realized guys in the club are a complete joke and I was wasting my time. That was in my mid 20s haven't been back since!
My godmother always said that you should never look for a relationship in the club. It saved me a lot of time because it was never my intention to entertain these men as potential suitors. Yet when I shared that advice with friends that were always looking for the "one" in a club setting, I was the hater. Well sis, tell me how that worked out for you?!?! (It didn't!)
Your wife is a true Queen., please allow her to give us some insight as well . It would be a blessing if y’all could both speak together as the epitome of a Queen & King... how powerful that would be.
Meet somebody who is on your level or better don't settle for less. You don't want somebody who is 15% with God and you are at 75% with God. And dont go by what they say go by what they do.
And “not being perfect” doesn’t mean what he says...... unless that’s what he says to his wife. I’ve told my wife I wasn’t perfect before but it was about dinner that I overcooked lol soooooooo stfu about what you don’t know
12:50 I just told an ex boyfriend today, that I would not marry him for these same reasons. I prayed on it Wed., by Thurs. God showed me that he wasn't the one and Friday, I told him no and why. Hours later, I ran into this video. Just another confirmation that I made the right decision. *** I felt the right answer was no when he asked but I just wanted to be absolutely sure. So, I went to God in prayer.
You made the right decision for yourselves that's great. You pray and asked God. Yes God will show you who people really are. I did the same thing last year i walked away from my ex i had enough and i feeling he wasn't the one for me i prayed and asked God he showed me. Im happy that i made the right decision for me. We have to put God first always he knows what's best.Congrats to you.👏👍
I prayed and repent about the error of my ways with ex finance Cam'. Then God showed me that he was cheating through the entire 3 and 1/2 years of our relationship we could not get married November of 2019. I guess my loyalty did not matter. I am still recovering and going forward. It has been at least 72 hours or more of no phone conversations or major texting. God is freeing me.
Ive been there also ladies in 2015 was engaged to get married to my ex and child's father.. Called it off 6 months before because I only wanted get married once and to the right person. Asked God for signs that it would be right or if it's not right definitely made the right choice 5 years later he still acts the same. I'm still single learning more about me and dating great videos. Hold strong Queens
As a woman I was never comfortable in the club scene...to rowdy...the atmosphere never felt right...I always knew it was not for me...I stopped at 23 yrs old
Leranda Brewer I agree. I went to a club for the first time with my sister and a friend and I hated the atmosphere especially the cigarette smoke. I told them we should leave so we left within 5 minutes of being there. That was when I was in my early 20s and now I’m in my late thirties and I have never been back since and don’t plan to go back!! I have heard too many bad things like Tony is saying happen in nightclubs. Good to know!! No thanks
Nobody is perfect in this world! We all have imperfections but you have to grow with each other, accepting each other flaws, compromising, and choosing to love each other. Maturity in character, stability, loyal, bring peace is a must!
I dated a man that was very chillvary (opening doors, pulling out chairs, ECT.) and was mean as a BULL DOG and the opening doors didn't last long and he wore the name of a Envangelist ...
Nikiti Rodgers me too and he later was a cheater and abusive. Tyler Perry new movie goes so in depth of the emotional roller coaster and I can’t wait to see it because it’s so true
@@AllThingsTiffanyTV Amen..i will also go watch it... I had to pray hard sis to forgive that mean man, and when I told him about his SELF, he would get smart..Just mean..but GOD.
@Dorcas Deroneth Right..i agree...he used his Pastor to get me, he knew me and his Pastor wife was close...but hunni, he was fake as they come..i just say, God was giving me a sign even when I talk to him on the phone that it was something about him wasn't right, but I kept on talking to him, why, I don't even understand why I did...but I learned from it...no more will I ignore red flags.....
That means you are hopeless. If tony didn’t make these videos you’d be another lost cause out here right lol y’all women need to take time to master self.. a lot of stuff he teaches is BASIC COMMON SENSE. But I guess that makes too much sense
Just subscribed cause you told me too. I never really thought about it.😂you have become somewhat of a “cyber dad” for me. I’m 26 and my dad died in 2013 and even when he was alive, my parents marriage was toxic and abusive af. Never ever had a healthy representation of real love so I have taken all your advice to heart and it worked! I have a MATURE but imperfect man. Hopefully my trauma from childhood to adulthood relationships doesn’t peek through and run him off but I thank you for giving me clarity. Idk if you’ll even see this but I just have to thank you in someway. You changed my life.😭
Northern Roots on top of what?? I definitely feel no ceiling nor barriers in my life.. definitely don’t recognize a superior being over me either lol stay on top of your legacy and stop trying to compete dummy
Good Topic.I’m not perfect, but I can say I have matured in so many ways. At times I find myself slipping back into my immature ways and having to check myself. I’m a 100% faithful man, but that took growth and discipline. I got on my knees in 2017 and prayed to God about it. My last relationship didn’t work out, I guess she didn’t understand that I was a work in progress. I hear you Tony ( Does she respect me and is she faithful?) That’s all I ask to Tony. I have morals and values but I am not perfect.
Tony Gaskins Thank you bro. I enjoy being here . It’s hard to find other male friends to have the same beliefs as you, spiritually and mentally, I’m learning from you daily, I ain’t afraid to say it, I had no father figure coming up, so these things were never taught to me.
Stuven mu thank you for the compliments.💫 and sorry I don’t have a lady, but I will continue to keep growing and learning as long as I have breathe in my body. May God continue to bless you and yours also.
My pending ex husband does have it all together as long as he only has to take care of himself. He is a narcissist and knew how to say and do all the right things. However, what I allowed were the red flags. He is also a pyschopath. Just because they look good, smell good and have a good job makes them good. That’s all apart of the game with a narcissist! I wasted 7 years of my life with this boy. Educate yourselves this is real and it had lasting effects depending on what kind they are. He was covert so nobody else sees it but the person in the relationship with them.
I can count the number of times I went to the club on one hand. First time was for my friends graduation, second time was after my graduation. Both times in 2019...The first time I was lucky. The second time left me traumatized. There’s nothing there for me and when I’m asked to go out to the club it’s just a no for me. It’s frightening as a woman we can’t even go out in the day time and not be safe. I’ll pass on the night time especially. People think I’m weird because I tell them “I’m not going out unless I have a purpose. I love my life.” (events, family/friends gatherings, etc)
Look what happened recently in Alabama. Now that missing woman is dead! I want to know why she left with them....why did her friends let her leave? Our world is so lost.
miraclenaddior it seems like that doesn’t happen until they get older. Most of my male friends/associates were DOGS...and this is while they have been married. But since they have gotten older (late 40s+) they seem to be settled and finally faithful.
@@LADILADY67 I think it's a maturity thing. Not necessarily age. Some young men are mature and faithful but I think the younger you go the less there are lol
Wow!! This really hit home.... My mother told me " women like you don't get married" it sound harsh but she wasn't coming from a mean place. She was telling me I'm looking for something that don't exist..... PERFECTION! My parents just celebrated 40 years of marriage. Thank you for this video!!
You're right, I'm not perfect so why am I looking for perfection 🤔 but I am very honest & loyal & I require the same. I am open for the greatness GOD has in store for me -> Be Blessed! 🤗
I’m so glad this video wasn’t live. I would NOT have been able to focus with all the commentary from the blessed tribe!!! We would have been too busy ROLLING! 😂😂😂😂
I started clubbing at 18-21 I stopped years ago when it got played out, I was tired of two stepping to lame music, hanging out with dramatic friends, fights and drunks. I knew it was no place to meet a guy. Really no place is good to meet a guy especially when they already have I'll intentions. I believe meeting a good guy is one of those things that happens out of the blue when you least expect it.
Tony you Real all the time and it takes self reflecting on my part. You right and I’ve been learning from your courses, videos and The Bless Tribe. Be Blessed
This right here... I am seeing a difference in my perspective since I’ve been listening to Tony. I recently met a man and I will tell you I am using this knowledge to weed out the real men from grown boys. I am seeing the difference between a man that is really interested in getting to know me and the ones that just want to get me in bed! I’m applying what I’m learning from Tony and I’m telling y’all it’s working!
I stopped going to the ratchet club at 23. But even after i would go out with girls and drink and regret it later. I just had to stop drinking all together. I rather go dancing at a lounge playing RnB but i haven’t found any good places to go in years. Dancing like they did in the Love Jones movie 😂
Be blessed! I don’t really care about the opening of doors for me, I don’t care who pays for the meals or if he buys a house. We are all imperfect. I just want him to be faithful, respect me and good with communication.
Tony....I am near tears (From Brooklyn, NY - you'll NEVER see that happen, lol) You inspired me No man is perfect - but I found it! The perfect FOR ME man. I just sent him the following message (we have been apart since Thanksgiving as I am house hunting!😄) THANK YOU BROTHA -you feed my soul Lawrence your not perfect (eventhough you may think so), we don't think the same way, we go about shit differently.... You don't see - that's what I like! I'm not wanting/looking for my parallel, then you would lack the same shit I do But....if you are a different size puzzle piece, together - we can make a whole picture You got to have what I don't to complete the picture You don't complete something by adding more of what you already got The difference and patience, allows me to grow, see things in a different light I I won't always agree or approve But....two different ways is better than one And because something is different, doesn't necessarily mean worse, doesn't imply better Different is NOT THE SAME Different -Could be better -Could be worse +Definitely not the same, tho I'm just saying
Thank u for the video Tony. Unr helping me as a single woman. My ex was/is a HEAVY drinker as well as cluber... I dont drink, dont smoke, nor do I go to clubs.... however, b/c I wanted him n my life and I tried to look past his behavior but deep down inside, I knew this was not someone or something I wanted to accept. It didnt settle well n my spirit. Months later, he left me for a MUCH younger woman (girl)
Big Brother you got me cracking up over here with the "listen to me now" 😂😂😂😂😂! 🐸 Be blessed! All the things that you are saying are things that we as women really know and some of us just want confirmation on it and others of us want to still go against it nonetheless your speaking truth. And quiet as it's kept it may appear that you're not speaking to the man but you are especially if they are secretly watching and never responding to your videos but they're there I'm sure of it.
I turned 25 in August. I stopped going to the club because I started to hate the hyper sexual attention I would receive. Also because of the type of crowd it attracts overall and the energy is reckless
we're not perfect beings ourselves, we shouldn't expect perfection.. Its consciously working on ourselves as men and women and respecting each other in the relationship to make it work.
I broke up with my ex-boyfriend 6 months ago. When we first started dating I thought that he had many redeeming qualities such as being disciplined and driven. He however lacked a strong spiritual foundation. In the early stages of our relationship God began working in me and transforming my heart, however he adamantly refused to open his mind and heart to message of Christ. He said that he believes in God, that’s it. Long story short, we broke up. He would never really get drunk on purpose and hardly ever went to the club. He was an okay young black man, living a relatively simple lifestyle. Sometimes I wonder if I gave up too soon, or was too unforgiving with my standards. Other times, I think That I absolutely made the right decision. While his values and morals were not deplorable, they still did not line up with what God was revealing to me through his word. Tony, after seeing this video I think it’s important that you speak on issues like what I just described and clarify the importance of being equally Yolked in a relationship, even if the person you’re in a relationship with seems to be wholesome. Grappling with ending my past relationship was one of the most difficult things I’ve ever had to do.
Wow, never even thought about some of these things. I’m using your examples to analyze myself as someone whose been single for 6 years!!! I got to snap back into reality...I have no clue what it’s going to be like to do life with another human being....”unrealistic/strict expectations*
Jasmine Ivory My struggle as well Jasmine. I had to make some adjustments with my thinking. I also held false expectations for a man. I needed a reality check and i appreciated it so much!
Right there with you both. I know I’m a handful and definitely a work in progress. This is one of the reasons I joined the Blessed Tribe to get others insight as well. Tony gives us the real each time.
Don't say forgive you for being to long in these video I love it with a passion . Tony Gaskins thanks so much for everything. Grace, mercy and peace be with you.
Thanks so much, brother Tony, for clearing things up and saving us Lol! For someone who didn't have a father or male figure and presence for that matter. Your videos are especially helpful and beneficial to us in particular. God bless!
Recently was in a relationship with the 1 in a 1000 type of man. We have love for each other but had to part our ways because of different long term goals. Chile somedays I feel stupid. But ten I remember my goals. Thank you for all the wisdom Tony, Im 28 and been learning from you for years now and I'll continue to take your lessons to heart!!
"Listen to me nah" if you don't want no truth...scroll pass this video but if you do, you better "Hear ME" I love this brother, he is the realest they ever made...this info is 💯right here!!!
This "risk management" that Tony mentioned is very overlooked in relationships by men and women. It's one thing to intend to be faithful but it really takes maturity to actively keep yourself out of situations/events that can make your fidelity difficult to maintain 😕. Married folks should not hang around members of the opposite sex alone....no texting...social media or dm's. No going to clubs/bars without your partner or drinking so much that you could put yourself in a compromising position. People who truly want to stay faithful will be proactive in eliminating as much temptation as possible.
This was for me. I have unrealistic expectations in what I want I want in a man... and Lord knoooows I’m far from perfection. I’ll be alone for the rest of my life with that mindset. Thank you for humbling me.
Tony as always your full of wisdom & insight. Glory be to God. I have to say though you have me straight hollering to the point of being breathless when you say " listen to me now!" & your voice gets very high pitched. You are so funny🤣🤣🤣😂😂😭😭 Be blessed.
Not gonna lie, I needed clarity on that point of offering to pay for the date bill. I appreciate you expounding on it here. I understand now that showing up ready and willing has nothing to do with the man not paying but everything to do with how I want to show up as someone who can’t be bought, deserving of respect, and not hung up on tradition that doesn’t guarantee a quality man anyway. Btw, I literally LOLd when you said walking too fast throws off your swag! And yes please to the podcast with your Queen. I can’t wait to hear her perspective on these topics as well!
Thanks for this. Nothing like hearing from a man's perspective what men are like and how to have realistic expectations. I especially like the part about being malleable. Single men and women both need to be malleable so that they can coexist. It's also key that men can be chivalrous and still cheat. Hard pill to swallow. Waiting on my mature man.
Tony, thank you for your honesty. This has been great information that I've not had anyone explain to me or even talk about. Especially being from a Jamaican background. Be blessed and thank you for sharing!
Good messages Tony keep doing what you do. Good information. But out of 10 people 2 people would adopt and understand what you're saying' but the other 8 people hear what they want and misinterpret what you're saying' and they are completely wrong of what you're saying, because you're not saying something the want to hear! So you just have to pray for people and keep pushing because people is going to be people, if you know what I mean'. you're doing a great job💯😇🤜🤛👍. Blessings to you, your wife and children🙌🙏
Lauren Luv circumstances help men mature. We have to be under circumstances where we have no where to go but in the direction of where we see in mind.. prime example, a lot of older men tell young guys about jail and the streeets yet young guys still do it.. then change the reality afterwards
I was hoping you would drop some knowledge today. Boy you didn’t disappoint🔥🔥🔥Yes, no one is perfect that’s for sure. Now I pay attention to what’s important in a partner character morals, trustworthy to name a few. I didn’t always, learned it the hard way.
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1. A mature man is NOT a perfect man. He is a work in progress.
2. If a man is getting drunk and high, he's NOT mature man.
3. If a man is still going to a regular club or strip club, he's NOT a mature man.
4. A mature man will NOT be jealous, controlling, and insecure, but becomes confident.
5. A mature man will NOT expect you to pay your half for a date.
6. A mature is NOT going to expect anything in return.
7. A mature will NOT coerce you into the bed. He will spend more time getting to know you better.
This was a great message. I'm taking notes and using this to improve myself as well.
Thank you for summarizing it for us!!! ❤🤗
@@bre_s9164 You're welcome Sis 💛.
Thank you Annoited Stile. Tony Be blessed.
Thanks love!!
@@coachnatishamommatish185 💛
I had a man who paid for everything for 20+ years. Every thing. I never had to work. Never paid for a date or part of one, lol. Cheating was never an issue. Nor abuse. He wasn’t perfect but he was worth his weight in gold. It’s very possible to find one, ladies.
Well damn lol you never at least offered to pay? Lol
@@sw-ri7bl There are BW who are housewives. There isn't anything wrong with that. Some men even TODAY would be insulted if a woman paid the bill. They take pride in being ABLE to take care of their family. However, this type of man is hard to find.
Where is he now?
Love that!
@@888hereandnow I’d love to know too
I stopped going to the club when one guy asked for my number and I gave it to him. Never heard from him at all. Ended up seeing the same dude at a different club probably a few weeks later and he asked for my number again 🙄. Had no recollection we had met before. That's when I realized guys in the club are a complete joke and I was wasting my time. That was in my mid 20s haven't been back since!
Yes.... they are not their looking for a wife.... they looking for a good time for the night.
I’m so glad you told that truth!!
Hey
My godmother always said that you should never look for a relationship in the club. It saved me a lot of time because it was never my intention to entertain these men as potential suitors. Yet when I shared that advice with friends that were always looking for the "one" in a club setting, I was the hater. Well sis, tell me how that worked out for you?!?!
(It didn't!)
I met the most mature man I have ever dated inside the club.
Your wife is a true Queen., please allow her to give us some insight as well . It would be a blessing if y’all could both speak together as the epitome of a Queen & King... how powerful that would be.
This would be wonderful!
Yasss I totally agree!
I agree I been waiting for her to speak.
Yes I am in agreement Luevon💞
Yes come on wife!
Meet somebody who is on your level or better don't settle for less. You don't want somebody who is 15% with God and you are at 75% with God. And dont go by what they say go by what they do.
Right on point!
Amen!!
DAVID ALICEA 🙏🏿 Amen
Agreed!
DAVID ALICEA factssss💯
I love when Tony say "Lissen Nah", with his country accent. He is hilarious! 🤣
🤣🤣 you spelled that Perfectly
And when he starts to imitate women... *smacks lip "🙄Oh... so...🙄"🤣🤣🤣
Yeah I’m French and never been to the USA and the way he talks I know he’s from where Gucci mane is from. One day He said « skrip tease » 😆
Cheaters always say "I'm not perfect" as an excuse for cheating on their wife. Thank you for clearing up what "not being perfect" truly means.
Silver Forestt I hate that phrase🙄😒
Yup
Yet women always say “what one man won’t do, another will” as an excuse to cheat
And “not being perfect” doesn’t mean what he says...... unless that’s what he says to his wife. I’ve told my wife I wasn’t perfect before but it was about dinner that I overcooked lol soooooooo stfu about what you don’t know
12:50 I just told an ex boyfriend today, that I would not marry him for these same reasons. I prayed on it Wed., by Thurs. God showed me that he wasn't the one and Friday, I told him no and why. Hours later, I ran into this video. Just another confirmation that I made the right decision.
*** I felt the right answer was no when he asked but I just wanted to be absolutely sure. So, I went to God in prayer.
Proud of you, Always go to God first, What and who God has for you is for you!
You made the right decision for yourselves that's great. You pray and asked God. Yes God will show you who people really are. I did the same thing last year i walked away from my ex i had enough and i feeling he wasn't the one for me i prayed and asked God he showed me. Im happy that i made the right decision for me. We have to put God first always he knows what's best.Congrats to you.👏👍
I prayed and repent about the error of my ways with ex finance Cam'. Then God showed me that he was cheating through the entire 3 and 1/2 years of our relationship we could not get married November of 2019. I guess my loyalty did not matter. I am still recovering and going forward. It has been at least 72 hours or more of no phone conversations or major texting. God is freeing me.
Ive been there also ladies in 2015 was engaged to get married to my ex and child's father.. Called it off 6 months before because I only wanted get married once and to the right person. Asked God for signs that it would be right or if it's not right definitely made the right choice 5 years later he still acts the same. I'm still single learning more about me and dating great videos. Hold strong Queens
Men who like classical music also like serial killing😂😂😂😂😂😂
I was rolling😂😂🤣🤣
@@anointedstilettos Tony be having me rolling every video🤣😂
@@Ericadoeslife He really does. He says something every single video 🤣🤣. I love that as much as the actual topic.
Erica Pettway 😭
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Tony, you need to be a comedian on the side you stay crackin me up lol!
For real 😂
Correct!
Facts 😂😂😂😂😂
Thank you Tony keep inspiring women God bless you.
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"You waitin' on this man that Jesus has not created." - Tony Gaskins ROFLOL!!!!!
He dont exist sis. He. dont. exist. Lol!
Shernice Harper 😒
Right?! lol
A marriage is a mirror. It truly shows people who they are.
Lmaooo he said men who like classical music also like serial killing & he was serious 💀 I don’t even think he knows he’s this funny
Anaudria UrFavorite Rapper hollering!
As a woman I was never comfortable in the club scene...to rowdy...the atmosphere never felt right...I always knew it was not for me...I stopped at 23 yrs old
Im the same way. Clubs are not for me stopped around the same age. Plus, I was never really a drinker.
I never went. I knew from the get-go that its not for me. I'm 22, but who knows what the future might bring
Sam here...just not my thing.
Me neither I stopped clubbing at 25 years old now I'm 40 years old
Leranda Brewer I agree. I went to a club for the first time with my sister and a friend and I hated the atmosphere especially the cigarette smoke. I told them we should leave so we left within 5 minutes of being there. That was when I was in my early 20s and now I’m in my late thirties and I have never been back since and don’t plan to go back!! I have heard too many bad things like Tony is saying happen in nightclubs. Good to know!! No thanks
Nobody is perfect in this world! We all have imperfections but you have to grow with each other, accepting each other flaws, compromising, and choosing to love each other. Maturity in character, stability, loyal, bring peace is a must!
Truth.
Yasss!!! ❤
DestinyB I think you said it better than our friend Mr. Gaskins did. I completely agree with your out look on a relationship.
Yes Big Facts
The last part (“bring peace is a must). You’re very knowledgeable, don’t settle Destiny❣️❣️
I dated a man that was very chillvary (opening doors, pulling out chairs, ECT.) and was mean as a BULL DOG and the opening doors didn't last long and he wore the name of a Envangelist ...
Nikiti Rodgers me too and he later was a cheater and abusive. Tyler Perry new movie goes so in depth of the emotional roller coaster and I can’t wait to see it because it’s so true
@@AllThingsTiffanyTV Amen..i will also go watch it... I had to pray hard sis to forgive that mean man, and when I told him about his SELF, he would get smart..Just mean..but GOD.
@@LilieAn1 Yes Lord, form of Godliness sis....started off reading the Bible together, then his Bible collected dust..
Same here, mine abused me in all aspects but believed in God, bought my bible, read the Bible at night...etc but there are Wolves in sheep’s skin
@Dorcas Deroneth Right..i agree...he used his Pastor to get me, he knew me and his Pastor wife was close...but hunni, he was fake as they come..i just say, God was giving me a sign even when I talk to him on the phone that it was something about him wasn't right, but I kept on talking to him, why, I don't even understand why I did...but I learned from it...no more will I ignore red flags.....
Everytime I watch you Tony, you make me believe there is still hope. Thanks 😊
Me too!!!...
T Lashai me toooo!!!!
That means you are hopeless. If tony didn’t make these videos you’d be another lost cause out here right lol y’all women need to take time to master self.. a lot of stuff he teaches is BASIC COMMON SENSE. But I guess that makes too much sense
Just subscribed cause you told me too. I never really thought about it.😂you have become somewhat of a “cyber dad” for me. I’m 26 and my dad died in 2013 and even when he was alive, my parents marriage was toxic and abusive af. Never ever had a healthy representation of real love so I have taken all your advice to heart and it worked! I have a MATURE but imperfect man. Hopefully my trauma from childhood to adulthood relationships doesn’t peek through and run him off but I thank you for giving me clarity. Idk if you’ll even see this but I just have to thank you in someway. You changed my life.😭
Thank you for subscribing and sharing that with me!! Bless you!!
Blessings to you! I’m in a similar situation and I’m happy to be here to learn all I can. 💜
Tony as long as women listen to you we'll stay on top.
Northern Roots on top of what?? I definitely feel no ceiling nor barriers in my life.. definitely don’t recognize a superior being over me either lol stay on top of your legacy and stop trying to compete dummy
@@larkford4460 I don't compete with anyone,and u stop calling people a dummy on the internet. Lol
On top of "who?" 🥶 never mind dont answer that...
AMEN! SO RIGHT! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT!
Good Topic.I’m not perfect, but I can say I have matured in so many ways. At times I find myself slipping back into my immature ways and having to check myself. I’m a 100% faithful man, but that took growth and discipline. I got on my knees in 2017 and prayed to God about it. My last relationship didn’t work out, I guess she didn’t understand that I was a work in progress. I hear you Tony ( Does she respect me and is she faithful?) That’s all I ask to Tony. I have morals and values but I am not perfect.
Thanks for sharing that bro!!
Tony Gaskins Thank you bro. I enjoy being here . It’s hard to find other male friends to have the same beliefs as you, spiritually and mentally, I’m learning from you daily, I ain’t afraid to say it, I had no father figure coming up, so these things were never taught to me.
@@jdilla7142 I can totally relate, we are all a work in progress
@@jdilla7142 you are awesome. I'm so glad that you can be so transparent. Your lady appreciates you, I'm sure 🤗 keep growing and learning.
Stuven mu thank you for the compliments.💫 and sorry I don’t have a lady, but I will continue to keep growing and learning as long as I have breathe in my body. May God continue to bless you and yours also.
My pending ex husband does have it all together as long as he only has to take care of himself. He is a narcissist and knew how to say and do all the right things. However, what I allowed were the red flags. He is also a pyschopath. Just because they look good, smell good and have a good job makes them good. That’s all apart of the game with a narcissist! I wasted 7 years of my life with this boy. Educate yourselves this is real and it had lasting effects depending on what kind they are. He was covert so nobody else sees it but the person in the relationship with them.
My ex was also I can relate to you! I'm trying to move on and forgive myself for ignoring the red flags?
My current bf is overt narcissistic personality . And a relative .
What were the red flags?
Same here girl. Exactly. I wasted 22 years.
I can count the number of times I went to the club on one hand. First time was for my friends graduation, second time was after my graduation. Both times in 2019...The first time I was lucky. The second time left me traumatized.
There’s nothing there for me and when I’m asked to go out to the club it’s just a no for me. It’s frightening as a woman we can’t even go out in the day time and not be safe. I’ll pass on the night time especially.
People think I’m weird because I tell them “I’m not going out unless I have a purpose. I love my life.” (events, family/friends gatherings, etc)
Look what happened recently in Alabama. Now that missing woman is dead! I want to know why she left with them....why did her friends let her leave? Our world is so lost.
Lol "pimp walk"..... we can't mess up your swag Tony😂😁
😂😂
Tony 😂😂😂 your impersonations of how and what a woman says is hilarious! You also have the gift of comedy 😂
Yes ,I totally agree.🤣🤣🤣It’s so funny
“You waiting on this man that likes classical music, but guess what serial killers like classical music!” I’m HOLLERIN!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I hear everything that you saying Thanks Toin
I cackled. I LOVE house music...nobody I've dated likes it. If I was to hold everyone to that standard I would still be a virgin. 😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂😂Tony too funny how he imitates women
Hotel Chronicles, Car Chronicle... Im here for it! Thank you Tony!! ❤
I need a man that’s 100% faithful
Me too. That's not unrealistic
miraclenaddior it seems like that doesn’t happen until they get older. Most of my male friends/associates were DOGS...and this is while they have been married. But since they have gotten older (late 40s+) they seem to be settled and finally faithful.
@@LADILADY67 I think it's a maturity thing. Not necessarily age. Some young men are mature and faithful but I think the younger you go the less there are lol
hippygirl2011 LET THE CHURCH SAY AMEN!!!
miraclenaddior Pray For One
I'm lol at the limp in yo pimp walk. Lawd haMercy
Tammara Mencias lmbo
Tammara Mencias 😂
😂🤣😂🤣okurrrr
Dead
Lol
Wow!! This really hit home.... My mother told me " women like you don't get married" it sound harsh but she wasn't coming from a mean place. She was telling me I'm looking for something that don't exist..... PERFECTION! My parents just celebrated 40 years of marriage. Thank you for this video!!
When you in a marriage you simply have to compromise
Inga04 and gain understanding. Selfishness is not an option when you become 1💯
You're right, I'm not perfect so why am I looking for perfection 🤔 but I am very honest & loyal & I require the same. I am open for the greatness GOD has in store for me -> Be Blessed! 🤗
Amen!!!!!😇
AMEN! SO RIGHT! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT!
No man is perfect, I understand that but some men think your supposed to wait until they're mature.
Mama Martin don’t do it
@@angiejordan2120 I swore to myself I wouldn't,and I did. 😟
They're free to think what they want. And we're free to refuse to accept what we DON'T want.
Simple.
@@lucrecepatrick9234 okay tell it👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 what they think has nothing to do with me.
Like most women think men supposed to be there while y’all are emotionally dysfunctional lol
Lol, "walking too fast will throw off your pimp walk"😂😂! Thanks Tony for the enlightening message; it was very helpful!
I was waiting for a video!! I feel like the topic you choose to speak on is always right on time!! 🙌
Thank you for your support!! #BlessedTribe
AMEN! SO RIGHT! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT!
This is the funniest video Tony has EVER made 😩😩😩😂😂😂😂 And the realest 💯 I swear!
Jasmine Ivory Yes👑King 🗣💯Truth and Funny at the same time😂😂
This was good. You're so right. A mature man is a work in progress. Just as I am a work in progress. Thank you!!!!
AMEN ! SO RIGHT! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT!
TG out here healing lives!
I’m so glad this video wasn’t live. I would NOT have been able to focus with all the commentary from the blessed tribe!!! We would have been too busy ROLLING! 😂😂😂😂
Lol I know right 😂
MY LORD....Tony, thank you! This is SO true! You are preaching and teaching!
I started clubbing at 18-21 I stopped years ago when it got played out, I was tired of two stepping to lame music, hanging out with dramatic friends, fights and drunks. I knew it was no place to meet a guy. Really no place is good to meet a guy especially when they already have I'll intentions. I believe meeting a good guy is one of those things that happens out of the blue when you least expect it.
Tony you Real all the time and it takes self reflecting on my part. You right and I’ve been learning from your courses, videos and The Bless Tribe. Be Blessed
H Cohane thank you for all the work you’re doing!! #BlessedFam
“Standing up against the wall in the dark and squeeze booty 😩🤣🤣🤣 y’all was out of pocket
This right here... I am seeing a difference in my perspective since I’ve been listening to Tony. I recently met a man and I will tell you I am using this knowledge to weed out the real men from grown boys. I am seeing the difference between a man that is really interested in getting to know me and the ones that just want to get me in bed! I’m applying what I’m learning from Tony and I’m telling y’all it’s working!
I stopped going to the ratchet club at 23. But even after i would go out with girls and drink and regret it later. I just had to stop drinking all together. I rather go dancing at a lounge playing RnB but i haven’t found any good places to go in years. Dancing like they did in the Love Jones movie 😂
TiffanyB TV Bahahaha in Love Jones 😭
Same here, I would always regret going out to drink too. Not a club person whatsoever but I like lounges with good food.
You are aware lounges are clubs...just more laid back.
Lee P. Yea you’re right now that I think about it... guess I’ll turn down invites to those as well 😌
Patrice Jones yea you’re exactly right 👌
Be blessed!
I don’t really care about the opening of doors for me, I don’t care who pays for the meals or if he buys a house.
We are all imperfect.
I just want him to be faithful, respect me and good with communication.
“And that’s why you was on ya byke” the way you say that kills me every time 😭
Tony....I am near tears
(From Brooklyn, NY - you'll NEVER see that happen, lol)
You inspired me
No man is perfect - but I found it! The perfect FOR ME man.
I just sent him the following message (we have been apart since Thanksgiving as I am house hunting!😄)
THANK YOU BROTHA -you feed my soul
Lawrence your not perfect (eventhough you may think so), we don't think the same way, we go about shit differently....
You don't see - that's what I like!
I'm not wanting/looking for my parallel, then you would lack the same shit I do
But....if you are a different size puzzle piece, together - we can make a whole picture
You got to have what I don't to complete the picture
You don't complete something by adding more of what you already got
The difference and patience, allows me to grow, see things in a different light
I I won't always agree or approve
But....two different ways is better than one
And because something is different, doesn't necessarily mean worse, doesn't imply better
Different is NOT THE SAME
Different
-Could be better
-Could be worse
+Definitely not the same, tho
I'm just saying
Thank u for the video Tony. Unr helping me as a single woman. My ex was/is a HEAVY drinker as well as cluber... I dont drink, dont smoke, nor do I go to clubs.... however, b/c I wanted him n my life and I tried to look past his behavior but deep down inside, I knew this was not someone or something I wanted to accept. It didnt settle well n my spirit. Months later, he left me for a MUCH younger woman (girl)
I love long videos 🙌🏾
Glenn Nesmith,RHIT me too girl!
I do too!
Thank you, #BlessedFam
M2👌
Big Brother you got me cracking up over here with the "listen to me now" 😂😂😂😂😂! 🐸 Be blessed! All the things that you are saying are things that we as women really know and some of us just want confirmation on it and others of us want to still go against it nonetheless your speaking truth. And quiet as it's kept it may appear that you're not speaking to the man but you are especially if they are secretly watching and never responding to your videos but they're there I'm sure of it.
I turned 25 in August. I stopped going to the club because I started to hate the hyper sexual attention I would receive. Also because of the type of crowd it attracts overall and the energy is reckless
The country life coach is so full of wisdom and comical!😭 God bless you & your family!
Tony, you crack me up, but for real, you've given me and probably others somethings to ponder. Expectations must be balanced, thank you!
we're not perfect beings ourselves, we shouldn't expect perfection.. Its consciously working on ourselves as men and women and respecting each other in the relationship to make it work.
Before entering a relationship, I think people need to learn too love on one another without thinking or having sex
I love your long videos and thank you so much for doing them.
I'm not going home with anyone from the club🤷🏾♀️
This is a WHOLE WORD! Thank you sir!
TG.. your timing is impeccable. I was literally thinking about this subject matter. Waiting on daily video and then bam!! Be blessed
You never cease to amaze me! You're on point, and because of that I appreciate the REAL talk!
Your wife is telling the truth...He will be a handful and drive a women crazy.....Love it
I broke up with my ex-boyfriend 6 months ago. When we first started dating I thought that he had many redeeming qualities such as being disciplined and driven. He however lacked a strong spiritual foundation. In the early stages of our relationship God began working in me and transforming my heart, however he adamantly refused to open his mind and heart to message of Christ. He said that he believes in God, that’s it. Long story short, we broke up. He would never really get drunk on purpose and hardly ever went to the club. He was an okay young black man, living a relatively simple lifestyle. Sometimes I wonder if I gave up too soon, or was too unforgiving with my standards. Other times, I think That I absolutely made the right decision. While his values and morals were not deplorable, they still did not line up with what God was revealing to me through his word. Tony, after seeing this video I think it’s important that you speak on issues like what I just described and clarify the importance of being equally Yolked in a relationship, even if the person you’re in a relationship with seems to be wholesome. Grappling with ending my past relationship was one of the most difficult things I’ve ever had to do.
The commentary in this video was so funny 😂
So grateful for this word. Thanks much. Will listen again.
Wow, never even thought about some of these things. I’m using your examples to analyze myself as someone whose been single for 6 years!!! I got to snap back into reality...I have no clue what it’s going to be like to do life with another human being....”unrealistic/strict expectations*
Jasmine Ivory My struggle as well Jasmine. I had to make some adjustments with my thinking. I also held false expectations for a man. I needed a reality check and i appreciated it so much!
Right there with you both. I know I’m a handful and definitely a work in progress. This is one of the reasons I joined the Blessed Tribe to get others insight as well. Tony gives us the real each time.
H Cohane yes! Every time!!
Thanks for sharing that! #BlessedTribe
Me to. Bless. You (3) yrs. Single.
No man no friend 3yrs I like it.
Lol. My guy got real calm and proper explaining. Bless your heart, Tony. You speaking truth.
His woman imitations are hilarious and on point 😄😁
I absolutely love your videos! When you add humor to the topics, you make it even more interesting to listen.
This is your calmest video ever! Almost soothed me to sleep. I like it.
Don't say forgive you for being to long in these video I love it with a passion . Tony Gaskins thanks so much for everything. Grace, mercy and peace be with you.
Thanks so much, brother Tony, for clearing things up and saving us Lol! For someone who didn't have a father or male figure and presence for that matter. Your videos are especially helpful and beneficial to us in particular. God bless!
Ayyyyy. I needed this! God bless you!
Recently was in a relationship with the 1 in a 1000 type of man. We have love for each other but had to part our ways because of different long term goals. Chile somedays I feel stupid. But ten I remember my goals. Thank you for all the wisdom Tony, Im 28 and been learning from you for years now and I'll continue to take your lessons to heart!!
I’m so curious what was the difference in yalls long term goals? It must have been something major for you and him not to work it out
I’m TIED of you with these “Women Impersonations” 😂😂😂 but you dead on point every single video
"Listen to me nah" if you don't want no truth...scroll pass this video but if you do, you better "Hear ME" I love this brother, he is the realest they ever made...this info is 💯right here!!!
Facts I appreciate all of your videos and quotes.
This is the EXACT message and sign I've been praying for.
Listen to me naaahhhhh, Hear me out naaaaahhhh 😂😂😂😂. Just know when Tony says that, your heart, ears and eyes are WWWIIDDEEE OOPPPEEENN!!!!
Lol I came across your comment just as he was saying what you wrote about😂😂😂
Gail Sylvester I hope it gives a little more punch to the message 😂 and that you listening up lol.
Yes... A man will open your door, but will still abuse you...PREACH Tony. Behind the scene, where no one is watching.
I cannot tell the difference between a good man who is imperfect and makes mistakes and a “grown boy” as you call it. That’s a fine line... lol
Yes that’s what confuses me too it is a really fine line. I guess you just have to know your dealbreakers it’s different for everyone
This "risk management" that Tony mentioned is very overlooked in relationships by men and women. It's one thing to intend to be faithful but it really takes maturity to actively keep yourself out of situations/events that can make your fidelity difficult to maintain 😕.
Married folks should not hang around members of the opposite sex alone....no texting...social media or dm's. No going to clubs/bars without your partner or drinking so much that you could put yourself in a compromising position. People who truly want to stay faithful will be proactive in eliminating as much temptation as possible.
“Ya feeling froggy…” 😂 😂 🤣 😝
This was for me. I have unrealistic expectations in what I want I want in a man... and Lord knoooows I’m far from perfection. I’ll be alone for the rest of my life with that mindset. Thank you for humbling me.
Tony as always your full of wisdom & insight. Glory be to God. I have to say though you have me straight hollering to the point of being breathless when you say " listen to me now!" & your voice gets very high pitched. You are so funny🤣🤣🤣😂😂😭😭 Be blessed.
Thank you for the insight. I’m always sharing all your videos
Not gonna lie, I needed clarity on that point of offering to pay for the date bill. I appreciate you expounding on it here. I understand now that showing up ready and willing has nothing to do with the man not paying but everything to do with how I want to show up as someone who can’t be bought, deserving of respect, and not hung up on tradition that doesn’t guarantee a quality man anyway. Btw, I literally LOLd when you said walking too fast throws off your swag! And yes please to the podcast with your Queen. I can’t wait to hear her perspective on these topics as well!
Thanks Tony! Stay on the long Video track...
Tony saying if you feeling froggy, he the man going to leap. lol 😂 you too funny in this video. God bless you Tony Gaskins.
Thanks for this. Nothing like hearing from a man's perspective what men are like and how to have realistic expectations. I especially like the part about being malleable. Single men and women both need to be malleable so that they can coexist. It's also key that men can be chivalrous and still cheat. Hard pill to swallow. Waiting on my mature man.
Great word. Be blessed.
Tony, thank you for this. Be blessed! 🙏🏾
Tony, thank you for your honesty. This has been great information that I've not had anyone explain to me or even talk about. Especially being from a Jamaican background.
Be blessed and thank you for sharing!
Good messages Tony keep doing what you do. Good information. But out of 10 people 2 people would adopt and understand what you're saying' but the other 8 people hear what they want and misinterpret what you're saying' and they are completely wrong of what you're saying, because you're not saying something the want to hear! So you just have to pray for people and keep pushing because people is going to be people, if you know what I mean'. you're doing a great job💯😇🤜🤛👍. Blessings to you, your wife and children🙌🙏
@reka johnson/lambert Well Said
Great message. Be blessed!
What helps a man mature? With age should come maturity, but that’s not always the case...
Lauren Luv circumstances help men mature. We have to be under circumstances where we have no where to go but in the direction of where we see in mind.. prime example, a lot of older men tell young guys about jail and the streeets yet young guys still do it.. then change the reality afterwards
Tony that voice its mad funnyyy😂😂😂
I was hoping you would drop some knowledge today. Boy you didn’t disappoint🔥🔥🔥Yes, no one is perfect that’s for sure. Now I pay attention to what’s important in a partner character morals, trustworthy to name a few. I didn’t always, learned it the hard way.
So much Wisdom!! Thank you Mr Gaskins, Be Blessed‼❤
Conflicts reveal someone’s character...
He told me he was a Christian have yet to see any substance but a great talker and wonderful eloquent prayers I am sure God heard.