Dominique Blagojevic Right. I watched another video of Jordan Peterson. He basically said to nip any suspicious activity in the butt from the get go. You don’t have to be aggressive with it, but for example, you noticed your partner being too flirty with someone at a party. Talk about it because you ain’t trippin. Basically, like the older divorce lawyer, he said take no ish
We hurt ourselves way worst than men do. Because we have silent expectations and silent fantasies of how it's going to be and when it doesn't turn out that way. We are hurt and mad and want to blame the man. Well I'm looking at reality now. I'm working on seeing people for exactly who they are right now. Not who I want them to be. Stay in reality ladies. Because you can see his potential but he still has a choice.
You are Spot on!! I am so sick of women blaming men instead of looking at themselves, this is why women keep getting played over and over again....some women can have unrealistic expectations going in to a relationship, she already at the alter, only been dating for a week, love is a superficial fairytale for most grown behind women! Then she wanna get mad at the man because he does not fit in to her delusional love fairytale or she always claiming the weaker sex narrative with her hand out and being a panhandler instead of a boss!!
Men treat women how women allow. If a man tell you he is not ready for a relationship (but you are), and instead of a woman trying to change their minds, walk away immediately! Or expect and take whatever half as treatment you get, because he was honest with you and has already done told you!
Whenever a Man says he not looking for a relationship.. I ghost them so fast its as if they don't exist inches in front of me.. I believe being distant and cold is necessary gifts and weapons from God.. Protect your body if All he offer is" Sex and a uncertainty for tomorrow!
When a man says he doesn't want a relationship I've learn to walk away and leave him alone . That simple I've learn the hard way to listen to what a man says . You cut it off right then
Tasha Morris : yes me too I ignored the red flags 🚩 I learned the hard way really bad I got hurt physically and emotionally. No contact all the way forever . Never again .
Preach Sis! If my man doesn't want me, we both know where the front door is. He was abusive to me. I live in Florida, but have an apartment in Michigan, just in case he starts his abusive ways again. He sought a lot of help to convince me to come back, but I'll leave in a second if he starts his crap again. Im to old to deal with the crap
Lack of self-worth is at the root of ignoring red flags, having unprotected sex, and fantasizing about having a better relationship. Once a woman values herself more, loves herself more and sets boundaries to ensure the man has values that align with hers then the men she attracts will change and her experience in relationships will become more healthy.
Copious Lady I’m not sure why this is a response to my statement because I’m speaking in general. Maybe you didn’t understand what I meant. But okay I respect whatever it is you’re trying to convey. Be Blessed
I remember a grown boy tried to talk to me. He was very honest and said he also still mess around with his child's mom. I said thank you for your honesty and thanks but no thanks. That was our first and last conversation lol
I am 70 almost 71 an l heard you l have been married for 31 plus years an l still heard you at my age l still heard you plain an clear even l have learned something an l thank you
So ladies, we must get our pretty on, lose the weight, set our standards, close our legs, and be ready to move on when a grown boy's mask drops... when/if he is ready for a real relationship and wants YOU, he will govern himself accordingly. Until then... keep it moving. Stop getting your feelings hurt if you are not the one and BE GLAD you are dodging dusty bullets left and right. I guess it all goes back to the point that men will do all the things that a woman wants WITH SINCERITY when the woman that he considers THE ONE because just as soon as a man says chivalry is too much effort to give for one woman, it will flow like water in his actions when he is courting the woman he wants to be his wife.
Tony keep talking to the women. We as women need to change our mindset in regarding our worth and approach to dating. People just don't want to be real with themselves so they can grow. We have to stop doing the same things over and over expecting different results.
Women says they want men to be faithful yet want men who has options of multiple women,and complain about men cheating women re just delusional this days.
I was JUST able to say. "You DON'T deserve me", and I have accepted that I kept letting him in with all his manipulation and tactics. I pray for strength and conviction. To Love me and make sure a Man is continually trying to Earn me. And KEEP ME.
When a man tells I his truth (I'm not into labels, marriage is a governmental scam, I'm not interested in a relationship) Great!! HE'S telling the truth...move on IT'S not for U
Mr Gaskins you ask ‘What did I tell myself?”...I told myself that he is the prize... I told myself that he is the priority and I was an option...I told myself I was his yet he wasn’t mine and the more I served him he would choose me, whole heartedly, is becoming exclusive... It didn’t happen. When my well dried up - no more money etc. - he was gone. You operating in your calling Mr Gaskins is a blessing for me and many others. It’s effecting me in a pronounce way. Thank you. God bless.
Be blessed, I’m 23 years old watching this for the 3rd time . Cause I realize I didn’t listen when he said I’m too good for him and he needed to be a better man.
"What MEN Already Know!" Best video ever! Have already watched it twice! Go figure here I am previously married 25 years, now in my 50's dating AND "closer to the grave than the cradle" (ha!)... and I'm still listening, learning and growing! LADIES (and Gents)... Ya'll better get some of this while you're young... stop wasting time you can never get it back. When Tony "The. Man." is coppin' a lean AND preaching the TRUTH... you better LISTEN! Point. Blank. Peri-ooddd! Thank you Mr. Tony G. and BE BLESSED! 💚
Ladies take responsibility for yourselves! Tony teaching right. So many women believe the baby will change the man and make him love her more. Then when the man leave her and the baby she is left devastated.
LizzyLewis Because he never really loved the woman to begin with. If you know that you’re man is NOT treating you well, do you honestly think he’s going to treat you any better because you’re pregnant 🤰. That’s why some men ghost 👻. Stay focus.
Anaudria UrFavorite Rapper girl…unsolicited snitching. They didn’t have to ask or nothing. Just volunteered all the dates, times, stores, addresses, sku numbers, and suggested retail values. 😆😭
Thank you. I’m too nice and naive. Men be taking advantage. I went and deleted all my contacts. I’m so vexed with myself and men. New fresh start for me. Thank you.
Be blessed bro your right no lies. When first came cross your video like 5years. I was a Grown boy , I was like by Tony period in your voice. You trippen. But now sents have change my mind& ways you speak 💯💯 truth. And lol Tony I got 65 year old uncle hey think he cat daddy and he married 40years. God gift to women. I went see him about some business sent he retired. And he told best part he miss about work is goen get his early morning blessing from another women so he go would go work 2hr early . And got heart monitor he have to wear. Thought to myself that moment I dont want to be a old fool I got mature& work on myself asap.
@C.J, Glad you're taking in this message. I used to think I didn't need coaching but boy was I wrong. I've learned do much from him and I can honestly say I've become a better women.
@ shaashaa we as men&women some time think we know it all. But we all have areas and ways we need to grow in. Some people just like lie to themselves. And have learn alot from bro Tony as while
This video got deep. Made me rethink everything I thought I knew about courting. Thanks for the new perspective 👏👏 You are telling the truth because my ex did all those things and was the most controlling and cheating man I've ever met.
I once had a guy tell me very explicitly to "Look deep before you leap!" I did not listen and it was 4 years of my life wasted and I couldn't blame anyone but myself! Wise up ladies! Listen to men about men, not women! Especially a certain type of scorned and bitter woman. NO!
@@true4585 Truth, truth, truth! Although we hate to accept it! Not accepting only allows us to fall in further delusion. I had to stop doing that to myself; it's not healthy or attractive 💅🏾
I here you! If you come to the “table” like a pan handler you get treated like a pan handler. But, if you come to the “boss” you get treated like a boss! Periard! Be blessed!!!
Thank you for sharing your struggles. Reality is monogamy is not without temptations. I tell men Im not faithful because of how I feel about him, Im faithful because of how I feel about myself, but your reason is better and inspiring...'I'm faithful to God.'
I wish I learned all this stuff before I started dating. Now one thing my daddy said was don’t do more than he doing and if I had listened my relationships would have turned out much better. Thanks big brother Tony!!!!
Recognize early how your man sees you. That is some wisdom Tony. That Michelle Obama panhandler analogy was the TRUTH!!!!! Thank you brother!!! BE BLESSED!!!!!
Exactly a man knows I literally had a 32 year old man tell me “yea I know I have a lot of growing up to do “ like dude what I felt like so you know that but you still continue to act childish. And that right there told me that I had to let him go.
That part! I realized when I met a man that told me he knew he had issues, yet he was doing nothing to do better! I then reflected and noticed there were a few men who’d said and shown the same but I didn’t listen. After that I took notice of everything people said and did.
So true! We are the strongest but we don’t know it until a grown boy forces us to be strong or die by their side. Thank you for your words. You are the brother manny of us don’t have. 👍🏼😊
Thank God I didn't get pregnant by him! Im praising the Lord. Going on almost a year of abstinence and my life has never been better. Will be gladly waiting for the Lord's divine timing and doing the work
Be blessed! Men know exactly what women want. I had a guy say to me I know what you want me to do but sometimes I dont feel like you deserve it or I just dont feel like doing it. I was blown away
Tammara Mencias woww! The fact that he could articulate that ! Smh I know some women (sometimes me) just think men can be plain dumb or blind and this is proof their NOT🤦🏿♀️
FACTS. Accountability is a hard pill to swallow. It comes with maturity & self awareness. A while back when I was young & DUMB, I dated a guy who told me three months into dating that he’s not over his ex. Me not wanting to hear that & because I had caught feelings said to myself “oh he’s just confused, I’ll be the distraction he needs to get over her.” W R O N G ‼️ I allowed that relationship to continue only for him to seriously break things off with me to go be with her. Boy was I devastated. Could’ve likely ended up in somebody’s hospital from being so hurt 😭. Looking back, I brought that pain upon myself. Granted he wasn’t honest from the very beginning, but he was honest. When a man says something he means it. I am a walking testimony to that fact. Y’all better listen to uncle Tony, he’s not just doing this for his health.... this is the real deal. I would NEVER play myself like that again. Through these videos I’ve seen the light, & the light I will continue to see. ❤️🙏🏾
Yeah I wasted 10yrs, but I was still doing me. Instead of just cutting his ass off like I did everyone else in my life, my dumb ass kept him around like he was a goddamn King or something. Now I just treat him like shit and laugh when he tell me “you’re just an asshole”. My response is “it takes one to know one🤣
Months ago, I had to put my nephew in his place for the games he plays. And low and behold, he stopped calling and I'm not trippin'. Therefore it's not just in dating they play games.
12:52 answer your question as a woman: After he told me he's not ready for a relationship: I told my no good best friend who listened and advised me to be there and maybe things will warm up and he'll see that I'm the one. I told myself that maybe he hadn't seen it in me yet, yet I was on my back the first night (first time and last time, following behavior again from a no good friend), and I knew he was out of a serious relationship, that this friend filled me in on before we connected, kind of grooming me to be with him, and I went with it, thinking that I would be special enough besides the circumstances (sleeping early, him fresh out of a break up)... I was wrong wrong wrong! I left that situationship broke, busted and disgusted. Truly. The quickest soul tie I ever created, and it's taking time to loosen. That was the biggest learning lesson that led me on this path to this channel and dumping all the friends that entertain the enemy. Thank you TG. Be blessed.
Tony a lot of us didn't get that information from our fathers and or mother's because she didn't know either. Well done keep on teaching it is necessary and heart felt.
1 Peter 3:7 - "Weaker Vessel" Some believe that a reference to women as “weaker” implies that they are lesser persons. But consider this example. A person has two useful containers. One is sturdy, the other less so. Is the second vessel somehow less valued because it is not as sturdy? Actually, the less sturdy one is usually treated with more care and honor than the sturdier one. Therefore, is a woman of lesser value because she has less physical strength than a man? Certainly not! The Apostle Peter uses the term “weaker vessel,” not to denigrate women, but to foster respect. Ex. Thermal container compared to a fine "China Tea Cup" hence the weaker vessel it means women are to be handled with tender care. Thats why this scripture also says assign women with honor!
Lily M Yes, Yes, Yes...so true. A family member told this to me when I was younger. “ A Weak Vessel”. Men are our protector, security for family, a provider, and our lover.
Tony, I messed up by introducing him to your video and we broke up tonight. I am feeling better than I thought I would...He basically showed me the "EGo" come back instead of the "HEART" come back and I am so grateful for your videos...I will be a better human being! He had to get out the way for my husband!! Bye Fernando!
The knowledge that we getting here is a total game Changer!!. Now we coming in armed and ready. There is no reason to date blind anymore, to feel used or to feel like a victim of love anymore. And it's all thanks to you Tony, thank you so much. Be blessed.
Between you, the “good for nothin’ grown a** boy” who mistreated me, and my acceptance of his poor behaviors due to so many reasons and poor examples of love and relationships, I’ll never allow myself to be mistreated by ANYONE again. I can say I’ve truly been delivered from these cycles of abuse. This is my season of self correction and self protection. Thank you, Tony.
Tony Gaskins, I really enjoy your messages. They are helpful. I’ve been married almost 12 years, and it’s has really been a learning lesson for me. So now, I listen to you to help me better understand a mans perspective of life, to ultimately better help me understand my husband. It’s a day to day experience. Please continue to do what you’re doing. Please don’t allow ignorance to frustrate you in the assignment God has given you. You know what He’s called you for, and stay the course. It’s a blessing to me for sure.
I used to be a woman like the woman you're describing when I was young. I expected ALL these expectations from my husband, and he treated me like garbage because I was acting like a weak woman who couldn't take care of or support myself, especially since I didn't work while we were married. After over 20 years of marriage, we separated 5 years ago this coming July, and I have learned so much. My expectations were 100% in the wrong place, and I am so glad I am watching your videos because I am intentional about my growth right now. Be blessed ✌🏽.
Tony-"When a man talking to another man he's telling his truth"...I found out how my now ex-boyfriend viewed me from his boy. The friend stated "he said you're just some mixed chic he's messing with"..that truth hurt me deep but gave me the information I needed to finally leave his grown boy a$$.
Come to the table, with a table✨ Ladies, it may cause some heartache, loneliness and acceptance there may not be any closure or sense made of the matter.. But we gotta be the change we want to see. In time they will soon come home, better men.
OMG!!!! Tony! I just started watching yesterday stayed up till 5am seen like 6 of your videos cooking, using bathroom I can't miss you talking under no circumstances all love Mr. Tony be blessed you and your family♥️
This is powerful. I hear you saying as women we often look for men to perform like a good man unconsciously knowing that we are teaching him he doesn’t actually have to BE a good man if we accept him ACTING like one.
😅 exactly remember if he can't keep his word move on...stop sleeping on the facts when it's in your face ladies 😎.. keep it simple..look past the body..go straight to the brain game🕵️
They tell themselves that the man will change his mind once he gets to know her and learn what she has to offer or bring to the table...this is how women think??? This was me...was! TG😇
When a man put a lie before the truth. Then he becomes questionable. The truth helps one to discover your inner piece. A lie is a dark soul that wants to remain hidden.
Here is one female that know what this man is speaking the truth & cares enough even at the cost of standing alone..Thank you for being so straight forth..!👍
I think we all need to humble ourselves and point the fingers at ourselves to grow individually so we can be the best partner for someone else. Love your truth brother..bless your ministry
It’s so interesting what you said about men not wanting to learn from you or hear you unless they perceive some kind of street credibility. I do sometimes see some resistance when I play your videos to my 22 year old son. So from now on I’m gonna say “Son I’m gonna play this video for (my daughter who’s 13) and I want you to be there to help and support me in preparing and educating ‘HER’ “ 🤣😂🙏🏾
Even though this video was created two months when I did not know who you were, and accidently came up on your page thru RUclips, I just want to say thank you for all this wisdom that you are giving us. Keep on doing what you are doing. I know that the Lord has blessed you with this gift to help so many of us, You are a young man that God has filled with wisdom. I will continue watching your videos. God bless you and your family Tony.
I will not talk about my ex in a negative way anymore. I wish him health and happiness. I forgave him, but I learned I had to forgive myself and take this wisdom and change my mentality and apply it moving forward.
RealTalkWithKizzyRock that would not shock me at all! Playing games and trying to be ahead of the curve with women like us that are learning the games they play... 🤦🏽♀️
Thank you Tony. You are so honest. I see myself has the boss. I’v been abstinence for over twenty years. I'm a single parent and my twin daughters are Twenty four years old. I committed to developing my career and myself. I'm not going to compromise my peace of my for a grown boy because I'm lonely. Thank you for your honesty and all the golden nuggets.
“ If he loves you you’ll know , if he doesn’t you’ll be confused”
Good way to say it.
V yes ma’am
Facts
Yup! and it's really just that simple
Yup!!
I had an older divorce attorney. He was like a little Italian dad. He told me not to put up with men's bullsh*t. That really stuck with me.
Dominique Blagojevic Right. I watched another video of Jordan Peterson. He basically said to nip any suspicious activity in the butt from the get go. You don’t have to be aggressive with it, but for example, you noticed your partner being too flirty with someone at a party. Talk about it because you ain’t trippin. Basically, like the older divorce lawyer, he said take no ish
@@MegaLadylove2012 what JP video is this? Thank you
@@j-tenn226 I wish. It must have been one of those weels, pop up videos, which is hard to find unless you happened to come across it
We hurt ourselves way worst than men do. Because we have silent expectations and silent fantasies of how it's going to be and when it doesn't turn out that way. We are hurt and mad and want to blame the man. Well I'm looking at reality now. I'm working on seeing people for exactly who they are right now. Not who I want them to be. Stay in reality ladies. Because you can see his potential but he still has a choice.
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You are Spot on!! I am so sick of women blaming men instead of looking at themselves, this is why women keep getting played over and over again....some women can have unrealistic expectations going in to a relationship, she already at the alter, only been dating for a week, love is a superficial fairytale for most grown behind women! Then she wanna get mad at the man because he does not fit in to her delusional love fairytale or she always claiming the weaker sex narrative with her hand out and being a panhandler instead of a boss!!
Men treat women how women allow. If a man tell you he is not ready for a relationship (but you are), and instead of a woman trying to change their minds, walk away immediately! Or expect and take whatever half as treatment you get, because he was honest with you and has already done told you!
Amen Sister!
Whenever a Man says he not looking for a relationship.. I ghost them so fast its as if they don't exist inches in front of me.. I believe being distant and cold is necessary gifts and weapons from God.. Protect your body if All he offer is" Sex and a uncertainty for tomorrow!
Facts
Exactly!
Great advice
Preach you will see me disappear quick ‼️‼️
Sex and uncertainty for tomorrow.
This is the first time I really understood what older women was talking about when they said, "A man will only do what you allow him to do."
When a man says he doesn't want a relationship I've learn to walk away and leave him alone . That simple I've learn the hard way to listen to what a man says . You cut it off right then
Tasha Morris facts i learned this last year and oh my what a lesson learned 🙌🏾
Tasha Morris : yes me too I ignored the red flags 🚩 I learned the hard way really bad I got hurt physically and emotionally. No contact all the way forever . Never again .
Preach Sis! If my man doesn't want me, we both know where the front door is. He was abusive to me. I live in Florida, but have an apartment in Michigan, just in case he starts his abusive ways again. He sought a lot of help to convince me to come back, but I'll leave in a second if he starts his crap again. Im to old to deal with the crap
@@mariac5294 good job taking care of yourself 💜
@Str8 Shooter makes me want to join a convent. You are so right
After my ex told me he didn’t want marriage but wanted a baby, I told myself to get the hell out and followed my instructions🤣🤣🤣. Be blessed
Same
Why do they want a baby and not marriage??
Yeah tony im one of the rare 1s im a 21 year old man and i don't have a father so the tips you give help alot appreciate it be blessed
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Awesome!! The fact that you WANT to learn and grow speaks volumes! I ❤
Okay now. King energy! 🙏💜
Thank you Young King because you can flip his advice for men or women. Keep growing sir🤴🏾.
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"If he is not ready to be a man he will run." So true. Listen Ladies! Be blessed. 🙏🏽
Be Blessed. Thank you for all your video's. They are very helpful 🙏🏽❤
Lack of self-worth is at the root of ignoring red flags, having unprotected sex, and fantasizing about having a better relationship. Once a woman values herself more, loves herself more and sets boundaries to ensure the man has values that align with hers then the men she attracts will change and her experience in relationships will become more healthy.
It’s like the old cliche, if you don’t value yourself he won’t value you
Not true at all
Very true
Tony is a comedian on the low😂😂😂
Mickema Miller true true !!! 😂😅😆
I was laughing too
He tells us the truth whether we want to hear it or not in his comedic way
Yes he is😂😂😂
True tea
I hate when individuals deflect. Just live in your truth and stop looking to blame others for your actions
Copious Lady I’m not sure why this is a response to my statement because I’m speaking in general. Maybe you didn’t understand what I meant. But okay I respect whatever it is you’re trying to convey. Be Blessed
Be blessed!
I remember a grown boy tried to talk to me. He was very honest and said he also still mess around with his child's mom. I said thank you for your honesty and thanks but no thanks. That was our first and last conversation lol
Go girl
I am 70 almost 71 an l heard you l have been married for 31 plus years an l still heard you at my age l still heard you plain an clear even l have learned something an l thank you
70 is young
Practice taking accountability. Self awareness is your strength.
Truth!!!
Shinel A word
Yes...its liberating
I read somewhere to “check myself first before checking someone else” and boy 😭😭 does that hurt 😔 😂
Exactly right when you check grown boys with boundaries they drop off real quick 👍😅
FACTS!🤣🤣🤣😒
Hello!
They sure do! 👋🏼👋🏼
Ladies, please remember there are men all over the world! Level up, travel and explore your options outside of the US 💅🏾
Word up..
Facts
Yes!!!!!
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Be careful!
Come to the table like a BOSS he’s going to treat you like a BOSS that’s a FACT! Be blessed 👑
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Tony, you completely transformed my life and I thank you so much! God definitely has a calling on your ministry 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
So ladies, we must get our pretty on, lose the weight, set our standards, close our legs, and be ready to move on when a grown boy's mask drops... when/if he is ready for a real relationship and wants YOU, he will govern himself accordingly. Until then... keep it moving. Stop getting your feelings hurt if you are not the one and BE GLAD you are dodging dusty bullets left and right.
I guess it all goes back to the point that men will do all the things that a woman wants WITH SINCERITY when the woman that he considers THE ONE because just as soon as a man says chivalry is too much effort to give for one woman, it will flow like water in his actions when he is courting the woman he wants to be his wife.
Tony, sad to say, we told ourselves lies and that’s the most dangerous lie of all. The lies we tell ourselves.
Lenea 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Please tell the T-R-U-T-H 💯
Say that. When we know better we do better. (Some of us)
Can you say that to the people in the back, please? Yes, yes, yes!!! Be Bless.
Tony keep talking to the women. We as women need to change our mindset in regarding our worth and approach to dating. People just don't want to be real with themselves so they can grow. We have to stop doing the same things over and over expecting different results.
Erica Pettway point blank PERIYAWWD *in my Tony gaskins voice* lmao
@@Ashley_Banks 😂😂🙌🙌🙌
Women says they want men to be faithful yet want men who has options of multiple women,and complain about men cheating women re just delusional this days.
Dasani605 that may be a true contradiction held by some, but thats not a general statement that can be made for all.
@@Ashley_Banks I've met females that at the end of the day don't even RESPECT men that don't have other women.
The last thing I wanna do is listen to a woman on how a man is...over a man.
Does that make sense
Have the confidence to leave.. Even in marriage! ✌
When a guy says he is not ready or keep ex's around ladies respond I AM NOT FOR YOU😂💥🤪 KEEP IT SIMPLE 😉 LADIES
It_isWhat_it_is True I shut the door real quick. I will wait on God best. All the best. I will not waist my breath. Been down that road.
I was JUST able to say. "You DON'T deserve me", and I have accepted that I kept letting him in with all his manipulation and tactics. I pray for strength and conviction. To Love me and make sure a Man is continually trying to Earn me. And KEEP ME.
Yes my ex is still kool with all his ex’s. It drove me Nutts he says I’m a good man why do we have to be enemies cause we broke up.. I left
MARSHELLE PAYNE
He had no boundaries.
When a man tells I his truth (I'm not into labels, marriage is a governmental scam, I'm not interested in a relationship) Great!! HE'S telling the truth...move on IT'S not for U
Tony please don’t switch up keep doing what you’re doing!! I’m 28 and you’re re teaching me the game from a MANS perspective!!
Mr Gaskins you ask ‘What did I tell myself?”...I told myself that he is the prize... I told myself that he is the priority and I was an option...I told myself I was his yet he wasn’t mine and the more I served him he would choose me, whole heartedly, is becoming exclusive... It didn’t happen. When my well dried up - no more money etc. - he was gone.
You operating in your calling Mr Gaskins is a blessing for me and many others. It’s effecting me in a pronounce way. Thank you. God bless.
Be blessed, I’m 23 years old watching this for the 3rd time . Cause I realize I didn’t listen when he said I’m too good for him and he needed to be a better man.
I felt this!!!
"What MEN Already Know!" Best video ever! Have already watched it twice! Go figure here I am previously married 25 years, now in my 50's dating AND "closer to the grave than the cradle" (ha!)... and I'm still listening, learning and growing! LADIES (and Gents)... Ya'll better get some of this while you're young... stop wasting time you can never get it back. When Tony "The. Man." is coppin' a lean AND preaching the TRUTH... you better LISTEN! Point. Blank. Peri-ooddd! Thank you Mr. Tony G. and BE BLESSED! 💚
Ladies take responsibility for yourselves! Tony teaching right. So many women believe the baby will change the man and make him love her more. Then when the man leave her and the baby she is left devastated.
LizzyLewis
Because he never really loved the woman to begin with. If you know that you’re man is NOT treating you well, do you honestly think he’s going to treat you any better because you’re pregnant 🤰. That’s why some men ghost 👻. Stay focus.
Lmaooo he snitched on his homeboy with no hesitation 😭
Anaudria UrFavorite Rapper girl…unsolicited snitching. They didn’t have to ask or nothing. Just volunteered all the dates, times, stores, addresses, sku numbers, and suggested retail values. 😆😭
Facts 😂😂💯💯
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No hesitation....ditto!
Yes sir! I'm holding myself accountable right now. Blaming other's is over. Starting with the man in the mirror, which is me!
There you go!!! Toby is “god sent “
Laquetia Mercer I’m right with you! Let me look at myself!
Be blessed. I’m 27 and still got so much to learn. Transitioning mentalities.
Sheraeseven1 also lady!
Thank you. I’m too nice and naive. Men be taking advantage. I went and deleted all my contacts. I’m so vexed with myself and men. New fresh start for me. Thank you.
Be blessed bro your right no lies. When first came cross your video like 5years. I was a Grown boy , I was like by Tony period in your voice. You trippen. But now sents have change my mind& ways you speak 💯💯 truth. And lol Tony I got 65 year old uncle hey think he cat daddy and he married 40years. God gift to women. I went see him about some business sent he retired. And he told best part he miss about work is goen get his early morning blessing from another women so he go would go work 2hr early . And got heart monitor he have to wear. Thought to myself that moment I dont want to be a old fool I got mature& work on myself asap.
That’s powerful there!! Thank you for sharing that brother!!
YessSss that is Power. Thank u for sharing brother🙏
@C.J, Glad you're taking in this message. I used to think I didn't need coaching but boy was I wrong. I've learned do much from him and I can honestly say I've become a better women.
@ shaashaa we as men&women some time think we know it all. But we all have areas and ways we need to grow in. Some people just like lie to themselves. And have learn alot from bro Tony as while
Thank you for sharing. That's King mentality🤴🏾. Keep growing my brotha.
“He doesn’t see you as the one for him so he treats you as a wham bam thank you mam...”
Ikr smh but it's cold hard facts
Facts
Yep. Once women who are ready to learn come into contact with you...GAME OVER!
INFJ truuuuu
This is the unadulterated T-R-U-T-H
So true. He helped me to let go of a toxic relationship
I’ve been watching your videos for almost a year now and I’m only 18 years old, thank you for your content for helping shape who I am✨ be blessed!
THIS MAN HERE IS AWESOME..TONY IS MY DAUGHTER LIFE COACH AND SHE HAS COME A LONG WAY AND I CAN TRULY SAY..TONY YOU ARE GOD SENT..THANK YOU!!!!
We as women have to respect theses men when they say they not ready we can’t change men
This video got deep. Made me rethink everything I thought I knew about courting. Thanks for the new perspective 👏👏 You are telling the truth because my ex did all those things and was the most controlling and cheating man I've ever met.
Yesss girl! The perspective was real and eye opening. Only an idoit or wilfully ignorant person missed this wisdom that he just dropped.
@@SouthernSweetTee Realizing a lot of women don't want to be honest with themselves. That's why they be trying to come for Tony in the comments
Erica Pettway : yes true !!! 🙏
I once had a guy tell me very explicitly to "Look deep before you leap!" I did not listen and it was 4 years of my life wasted and I couldn't blame anyone but myself! Wise up ladies! Listen to men about men, not women! Especially a certain type of scorned and bitter woman. NO!
Sammie O.
This here ☝🏾 ☕️
@@true4585 Truth, truth, truth! Although we hate to accept it! Not accepting only allows us to fall in further delusion. I had to stop doing that to myself; it's not healthy or attractive 💅🏾
I here you! If you come to the “table” like a pan handler you get treated like a pan handler. But, if you come to the “boss” you get treated like a boss! Periard! Be blessed!!!
Lol!! Love it..."PERIARD"
Thank you for sharing your struggles. Reality is monogamy is not without temptations. I tell men Im not faithful because of how I feel about him, Im faithful because of how I feel about myself, but your reason is better and inspiring...'I'm faithful to God.'
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I wish I learned all this stuff before I started dating. Now one thing my daddy said was don’t do more than he doing and if I had listened my relationships would have turned out much better. Thanks big brother Tony!!!!
Recognize early how your man sees you. That is some wisdom Tony. That Michelle Obama panhandler analogy was the TRUTH!!!!! Thank you brother!!! BE BLESSED!!!!!
You giving women the Play book and they still won’t listen ‼️‼️‼️‼️
This woman "RIGHT HERE IS LISTENING" !!
You have to be ready and willing and looking to be able to listen and apply. It takes a lot of work on oneself first.
Im listening
Right
No men can have it “ALL” in a woman and still mess up
Exactly a man knows I literally had a 32 year old man tell me “yea I know I have a lot of growing up to do “ like dude what I felt like so you know that but you still continue to act childish. And that right there told me that I had to let him go.
He is not going to change because some woman will accept him like that. Be glad you walked away because he would have drug you through the mud.
That part! I realized when I met a man that told me he knew he had issues, yet he was doing nothing to do better! I then reflected and noticed there were a few men who’d said and shown the same but I didn’t listen. After that I took notice of everything people said and did.
So true! We are the strongest but we don’t know it until a grown boy forces us to be strong or die by their side. Thank you for your words. You are the brother manny of us don’t have. 👍🏼😊
Thank God I didn't get pregnant by him! Im praising the Lord. Going on almost a year of abstinence and my life has never been better. Will be gladly waiting for the Lord's divine timing and doing the work
Amen!
Be blessed! Men know exactly what women want. I had a guy say to me I know what you want me to do but sometimes I dont feel like you deserve it or I just dont feel like doing it. I was blown away
Tammara Mencias woww! The fact that he could articulate that ! Smh I know some women (sometimes me) just think men can be plain dumb or blind and this is proof their NOT🤦🏿♀️
FACTS. Accountability is a hard pill to swallow. It comes with maturity & self awareness. A while back when I was young & DUMB, I dated a guy who told me three months into dating that he’s not over his ex. Me not wanting to hear that & because I had caught feelings said to myself “oh he’s just confused, I’ll be the distraction he needs to get over her.” W R O N G ‼️ I allowed that relationship to continue only for him to seriously break things off with me to go be with her. Boy was I devastated. Could’ve likely ended up in somebody’s hospital from being so hurt 😭. Looking back, I brought that pain upon myself. Granted he wasn’t honest from the very beginning, but he was honest. When a man says something he means it. I am a walking testimony to that fact. Y’all better listen to uncle Tony, he’s not just doing this for his health.... this is the real deal. I would NEVER play myself like that again. Through these videos I’ve seen the light, & the light I will continue to see. ❤️🙏🏾
Amen sis! I went through the same thing. Tony got is preparing us for the real. We got this!!
Amen!
Tu Bella I’ve been there also. I learn from his messages
Glamrocs Makeup Facts‼️
Tony what women say to themselves is " I can change him. Nobody will love him like me. He will change for our love."
That's what I said and got my heart shattered into a million pieces. NEVER AGAIN! I learned the lesson. 😬
BINGO
YES I did in the past!
Yep! Biggest mistake a woman can make.
Yeah I wasted 10yrs, but I was still doing me. Instead of just cutting his ass off like I did everyone else in my life, my dumb ass kept him around like he was a goddamn King or something. Now I just treat him like shit and laugh when he tell me “you’re just an asshole”. My response is “it takes one to know one🤣
Months ago, I had to put my nephew in his place for the games he plays. And low and behold, he stopped calling and I'm not trippin'. Therefore it's not just in dating they play games.
12:52 answer your question as a woman:
After he told me he's not ready for a relationship: I told my no good best friend who listened and advised me to be there and maybe things will warm up and he'll see that I'm the one.
I told myself that maybe he hadn't seen it in me yet, yet I was on my back the first night (first time and last time, following behavior again from a no good friend), and I knew he was out of a serious relationship, that this friend filled me in on before we connected, kind of grooming me to be with him, and I went with it, thinking that I would be special enough besides the circumstances (sleeping early, him fresh out of a break up)...
I was wrong wrong wrong! I left that situationship broke, busted and disgusted. Truly. The quickest soul tie I ever created, and it's taking time to loosen. That was the biggest learning lesson that led me on this path to this channel and dumping all the friends that entertain the enemy. Thank you TG. Be blessed.
That is the truth sister. You loose your money --because you can not work when you are busy with a person.
Tony a lot of us didn't get that information from our fathers and or mother's because she didn't know either. Well done keep on teaching it is necessary and heart felt.
True
1 Peter 3:7 - "Weaker Vessel"
Some believe that a reference to women as “weaker” implies that they are lesser persons. But consider this example. A person has two useful containers. One is sturdy, the other less so. Is the second vessel somehow less valued because it is not as sturdy? Actually, the less sturdy one is usually treated with more care and honor than the sturdier one. Therefore, is a woman of lesser value because she has less physical strength than a man? Certainly not! The Apostle Peter uses the term “weaker vessel,” not to denigrate women, but to foster respect. Ex. Thermal container compared to a fine "China Tea Cup" hence the weaker vessel it means women are to be handled with tender care. Thats why this scripture also says assign women with honor!
Lily M
Yes, Yes, Yes...so true. A family member told this to me when I was younger. “ A Weak Vessel”. Men are our protector, security for family, a provider, and our lover.
SPEAK!!!!!!
I love your response.. This is perfect
Lily M great illustration
It’s the English language. You got it right dear. Just means delicate. Handle with care!
Ladies stop lying to yourself about the men you're dealing with! Pay attention to the signs
Teue
True
Be Blessed! I’m paying attention to red flags. I’m realizing though, the red flags are in myself. Thank you Tony
Tony, I messed up by introducing him to your video and we broke up tonight. I am feeling better than I thought I would...He basically showed me the "EGo" come back instead of the "HEART" come back and I am so grateful for your videos...I will be a better human being! He had to get out the way for my husband!! Bye Fernando!
The knowledge that we getting here is a total game Changer!!. Now we coming in armed and ready. There is no reason to date blind anymore, to feel used or to feel like a victim of love anymore. And it's all thanks to you Tony, thank you so much. Be blessed.
Between you, the “good for nothin’ grown a** boy” who mistreated me, and my acceptance of his poor behaviors due to so many reasons and poor examples of love and relationships, I’ll never allow myself to be mistreated by ANYONE again. I can say I’ve truly been delivered from these cycles of abuse. This is my season of self correction and self protection.
Thank you, Tony.
Kay Dubb 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾💕💕💕💕
I'm in agreement with you.
Amen
Awesome, so happy for you Sis!
Amen! Praise the Lord! Thank God for Tony Gaskins, a faithful man of God! God bless you all!
One think I’ve learn they going to do what they want until they decide to change.... BE BLESSED
Tony Gaskins,
I really enjoy your messages. They are helpful. I’ve been married almost 12 years, and it’s has really been a learning lesson for me. So now, I listen to you to help me better understand a mans perspective of life, to ultimately better help me understand my husband. It’s a day to day experience. Please continue to do what you’re doing. Please don’t allow ignorance to frustrate you in the assignment God has given you. You know what He’s called you for, and stay the course. It’s a blessing to me for sure.
You are called to talk to us ! Keep talkin. I've learned so much in a short period of time
I just turned 60. Still growing Bless you Tony 💜
Mr Tony your voice impersonations are always so funny!!😂🤣🤣
Don’t want marriage bc it’s a “trick of the government.”
Lawd these men are a trip! Lol
inspire me a guy actually told me thought 😂😂😂he said he didn’t want the cops to get involved 😂😂😂
I was thinking the same thing 😭and u have the same channel name as me🙌💖
OMG
inspire me They worried about losing half of nothing 😂😂😂😂😂
Kenisha Perkins lol, yes 😩😩
The gentleman I’m talking to saw me reading your book and said I’ve heard of him. I was like yes he gives godly guidance.
You don’t even know how much you’ve helped me heal, Tony. Thank you brother
Be Blessed!!! I'm a older woman and I needed to hear this message so much with starting over in dating Thank you 🙂 I'm sharing this with my daughter
I appreciate you so much Tony! Those of us who are really ready for change are listening! These videos are changing my life!
YES HUNNY 🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌
Life changing for real. I am thankful for him and his videos.
I used to be a woman like the woman you're describing when I was young. I expected ALL these expectations from my husband, and he treated me like garbage because I was acting like a weak woman who couldn't take care of or support myself, especially since I didn't work while we were married. After over 20 years of marriage, we separated 5 years ago this coming July, and I have learned so much. My expectations were 100% in the wrong place, and I am so glad I am watching your videos because I am intentional about my growth right now.
Be blessed ✌🏽.
Be blessed!!! Men already know and be acting like they don’t have a clue. The truth finally!!
That's a form of manipulation.
MANNNN PROTECT TONY AT ALL COSTS. Point blank periodttttt!
Wow wow wow, this is eye opening. Thank you!
I've seen men in their 30s and 40s who can't get it up but still want to act loke they're great lovers.
I know one 51
Word up..
Old and young have erectile dysfunction for many reasons,drug use, alcohol abuse and medication such as blood pressure medication
Fruit Cocktail I guess they remember when they were
Tony-"When a man talking to another man he's telling his truth"...I found out how my now ex-boyfriend viewed me from his boy. The friend stated "he said you're just some mixed chic he's messing with"..that truth hurt me deep but gave me the information I needed to finally leave his grown boy a$$.
You made the right decision leave him alone set your standards don't settle for less. God bless you.
Come to the table, with a table✨
Ladies, it may cause some heartache, loneliness and acceptance there may not be any closure or sense made of the matter.. But we gotta be the change we want to see. In time they will soon come home, better men.
OMG!!!! Tony! I just started watching yesterday stayed up till 5am seen like 6 of your videos cooking, using bathroom I can't miss you talking under no circumstances all love Mr. Tony be blessed you and your family♥️
Sideria Holmes same!!
he really is the dad i never had, so honest and aside from my mom, his guidance is sunshine. he’s changing so many lives. 💯
Its 4am now lol. Be blessed 🤍
You're so right and this coming from a woman who has fell for it all. I'm listening!
This is powerful. I hear you saying as women we often look for men to perform like a good man unconsciously knowing that we are teaching him he doesn’t actually have to BE a good man if we accept him ACTING like one.
Deep!!!
this is a hard pill to swallow but I needed this medicine. thank you Tony
😅 exactly remember if he can't keep his word move on...stop sleeping on the facts when it's in your face ladies 😎.. keep it simple..look past the body..go straight to the brain game🕵️
It_isWhat_it_is True period
Be blessed, you are truly helping me as a single Christian women of 7 years, who really don’t know what’s going on out here.
They tell themselves that the man will change his mind once he gets to know her and learn what she has to offer or bring to the table...this is how women think???
This was me...was!
TG😇
When a man put a lie before the truth. Then he becomes questionable. The truth helps one to discover your inner piece. A lie is a dark soul that wants to remain hidden.
GinjaSnapz 🙌🏾
"You haven't even sniffed the ring" it's funny how Tony says it but its the absolute truth. BE BLESSED 👍
Just treat them with indifference and watch them not know what to do.
a guy took me out for ice cream. then got mad that i wouldnt sleep with him loool. i had to laugh because the heck?!
Be blessed 🙌 I am 62 year old and what you are saying is true 👍I try to tell my lady friend for years they don't want to here me
Here is one female that know what this man is speaking the truth & cares enough even at the cost of standing alone..Thank you for being so straight forth..!👍
You have taught me so much from a distance, and I’ve been applying my new knowledge. Thank you!
I think we all need to humble ourselves and point the fingers at ourselves to grow individually so we can be the best partner for someone else. Love your truth brother..bless your ministry
absolutely
It’s so interesting what you said about men not wanting to learn from you or hear you unless they perceive some kind of street credibility. I do sometimes see some resistance when I play your videos to my 22 year old son.
So from now on I’m gonna say
“Son I’m gonna play this video for (my daughter who’s 13) and I want you to be there to help and support me in preparing and educating ‘HER’ “
🤣😂🙏🏾
Even though this video was created two months when I did not know who you were, and accidently came up on your page thru RUclips, I just want to say thank you for all this wisdom that you are giving us. Keep on doing what you are doing. I know that the Lord has blessed you with this gift to help so many of us, You are a young man that God has filled with wisdom. I will continue watching your videos. God bless you and your family Tony.
Men know what they be doing! Tony I'm with you about snitching I'm telling on every body😂😂😂
Exactly
DestinyB 😂😂🤣😂😂
😂😂 That ain’t right.
Lol😂😂😂🤣🤣
I have stopped telling because women are starting to hate me. Women do not want to hear it 🙈
I will not talk about my ex in a negative way anymore. I wish him health and happiness. I forgave him, but I learned I had to forgive myself and take this wisdom and change my mentality and apply it moving forward.
Alexis Matthews Yes n Yes!! When you let go and wish truly wish them the best!! It’s like A weight has been lifted! Keep pressing forward Sister!!
I think alot of men follow this channel but edited their name as Mary, Sarah, Catherine Jane, Betty Sue, Margaret Jean and Barbara Walters 😂😂
RealTalkWithKizzyRock yep 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@janellebentley2002 They are responsible for the thumbs downs. 😂😂
RealTalkWithKizzyRock that would not shock me at all! Playing games and trying to be ahead of the curve with women like us that are learning the games they play... 🤦🏽♀️
@@ericabostwick4033 Okkkkk!!!! Say that sis! Lollll!! Foolishness
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Thank you Tony. You are so honest.
I see myself has the boss. I’v been abstinence for over twenty years. I'm a single parent and my twin daughters are Twenty four years old.
I committed to developing my career and myself. I'm not going to compromise my peace of my for a grown boy because I'm lonely. Thank you for your honesty and all the golden nuggets.
Definitely true l learned to walk away from anyone who is not interested in being in a relationship l have no time to just entertain you✌🏾 be blessed