How to know he’s not ready?
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Listen!!!! I escaped to a shelter then a friends couch. I did it with 4 children. I made up my mind he was not going to hit me anymore in front of my children. It wasn’t easy but it’s possible with Gods strength.
Glamrocs Makeup Wow! Thank God you got out of that situation.
Marisha Lewis Amen
I so glad you're here to help us. Thank you. God is good.
Amen, that takes strength and courage but God is going to bless you for putting you and your children first. God bless you.
Cherlyrese Montgomery Thank you
Take aways... you will KNOW if he wants you because he will SHOW you in his ACTIONS. WITHOUT ANY QUESTIONS... if you are confused, or conflicted, the answer is NO! NEXT!
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That's my energy! And not just in the beginning the ENTIRE RELATIONSHIP!.. Or not!👋👋👋👋 bye!💃
Yup had to tell a guy that today, that because I'm confused the answer is no. He said he still wants to pursue me just because, I think he is just lonely.
@@aleecewhite3919 how long for you to realize that you were confused about how he felt? And then until you said something? I know I stayed too long. I needed to end it almost immediately just from my gut alone but I stayed thinking this is a nice guy.
@@danyelgarcia3689 We only been talking 3 months, but I knew after 3 weeks. Like, I said he still wants to pursue but we have an understanding that nothing is going tp happen between us for a long time until, I can feel God tell me it is safe to give him a chance. I don't talk with him everyday anymore, I told him that is too much and an emotional attachment is going to cause problems. We only talk 2 days a week now...Sorry I couldn't help you more, but I am still believing in Gods timing! Good luck, and I will pray for you
I’m so glad I’m 100% single, I can’t be putting up with all these games. No thanks I’ll just focus on me !
Shatara Smith Amen. Same here.
Women claim the don't have time for games but they are about games.
Shatara Smith yes me too I don’t have time
Same sis same! 😂
Take a break then jump back in. It's all about understanding and then doing things differently. Dating itself is a game..of gathering info and teaching people how to treat you while loving yourself.
Your peace is more important then driving yourself crazy trying to understand why something happened the way it did
LET IT GO!!!!
Amen!
DAVID ALICEA - Easier said then Done smfh!!!
I need help
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Hallelujah.
WORD UP !
When a man truly loves a woman, she will never have to question it! Everything he says and does will exude love!
Thank you 💗 I needed to hear this with tears in my eyes.
Omg everything he says is what my hubby is doing to me!!! Thank you!!!
Been in relationship for a longtime never knew what love is he got caught I left
Facts❤
Sometimes we see the mix signals and red flags but we go in hoping that it will change. Fear of being single and desperation cause some women to settle for less.
Sim Ham Jesus is my everything those red flags are shockers, though some men are so unstable that you can't trust anything they say, or possibly what they might do, but if you lean on Holy Ghost, and really take your time, He will reveal secrets because He is the Light. (A lot of men and women are not ready for relationships. Some font want to miss the opportunity, knowing they are not ready, nor interested, and are full of the devil.)
Sometimes the grown boy will not tell the woman shes not the one because deep down he knows she will find someone better and will be treated better because she deserves it.
Facts
Yep he knows she can do better that breaks their ego
Amen. ❤
Tony is a low key comedian.
Highkey lol
That "dragging you by your ponytail" was funny 😄 😆 🤣
He really is!
High key. 😂
Omg I die laughing at the things he says 😂😂
Children like peace. I wish my parents had separated many days.
I was telling this to someone today and she said she felt the same about her parents.
@Eternity With Christ my mom stayed to "honor her vowels". I doubt that's the real reason. But whatever...lol.
Oml yess
This when O made my decision it was over. I spoke with my grown cousins about there parents and I was floored that they wanted their parents to separate.
And children deserve peace. Too many parents dragging their kids up rather than raising and nurturing them to their highest self love.
Bottom line Men are about action, look at how they move because like my mama used to say "I can show you better than I can tell you"! If he wants you for his wife he will show you💯
ChefA Onthe1 Yesss ! A man that is serious will not leave ANY room for guess work! 😩😩😩 so true. Us as ladies have to be the one to stop dealing with them too. Bc they will continue to deal as long as we allow them!
Amen sis
What about the ones that “commit” but still cheat
@@justinenunley9385 lol leave !
Who wants to be cheated on? You don’t know what he is liable to bring back to your bed and body .
I’m gonna be honest, of course I want a husband but, I’m not settling until I feel in my heart/mind that I’m at peace that he’s “the one.” Until then, I’ll remain single & wake up in the morning with a peace of mind.
A man that is serious will not leave ANY room for guess work! 😩😩😩 so true. Us as ladies have to be the one to stop dealing with them too. Bc they will continue to deal as long as we allow them!
"It's going to be a chapter, but it's gonna be the best seller.." FELT THIS.
"He got a warm body, but he got a cold heart..."
If this ain't a muthafkn word
I've been in a homeless shelter.. You will get through it .
I was in a shelter, squatted in an empty house, then move to a room in my sister house. Now 16 months later I have a house and I leave for law school in a few months. It gets better.
@@wowzers6178 That's incredible OMG!!
If you don't mind tell me how you managed to elevate so i can follow your steps
We must always be willing to walk away! I had to do this 3 times in my life so far and it gets easier. I refuse to be a used up bitter woman.
So true! I leave EARLY and NEVER wasted more than a year with a toxic man. It is so empowering and liberating to make such a proactive decision.
Lara Srinivasan absolutely!!
Deidre Allen yess! A man that is serious will not leave ANY room for guess work! 😩😩😩 so true. Us as ladies have to be the one to stop dealing with them too. Bc they will continue to deal as long as we allow them!
Been there and I have done that many many times. I won’t even give u the chance to act stupid. U are gone!!
Another good one Tony. I believe if women would wise up the men would have no choice but to do better or do without. We have the power👌
Correct. So many women are so desperate though 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️. I pray that womankind can do better.
@@shereses.3298 Yes desperation seems to be the trend for many women.
You betta say that sis... Yes!!!
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I agree a 100%
"If you have to wonder if he is the one, then he's not the one". Thank you, Tony. We have a hard time hearing this absolute truth, but the truth makes us free. Also, I want to add that if any of us stayed too long and feel used up, instead of blaming the guy, take responsibility to have higher standards, require respect from the beginning. Take classes and watch many of Tony's videos. I want to also read the new book coming out that you and your wife have written. Thanks again for telling it like it is !
By age 14 I started encouraging my mom to leave my dad (I was too innocent/naive before then, I thought he was “working late” cause that’s what she told me).
He didn’t hit her but humiliated her and belittled her. We left him when I was 16, she had been married to him for 35 years, she was 56, had never worked outside the home, didn’t speak English, she didn’t know how to drive (and my dad had a lot to do with all of these things), but she left him. We had many, many hard times after that, but our home was healthy and peaceful, and her courage for leaving him (though I was daddy’s girl and it hurt) was one of the most important lessons she or anyone ever taught me.
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Sending you love and hope. Proud of the wise choices you and your mother have made. It’s never too late to live a peaceful life.
Beautiful
This is accurate I remember when my parents were together and I was a kid I kept asking myself why my mom and dad was together because they never showed each other love smh
Eternity With Christ I agree with this 100%
True
Never need a guy to tell you what he is CLEARLY showing you. We don’t need people to tell us it’s raining when we can clearly see raindrops. A kid knows when it’s thundering and lightning rain is coming. Those are the red flags. Thank God for the heads up . 😉
Tony this advice just saved a lot of people who are in toxic/abusive relationships.
I'm finna give LITTLE UGLY A CHANCE !! LOL 😅😅😅😅😅😅
ROSEMARY Williams I had to make sure I heard him right 😂😂😂😂😂
Lol
Tammy Slade facts
@Tammy Slade Tony didn't say fix him up.
@Tammy Slade OMG that is so true, but once u fix them up, some other woman start looking at him and he start feeling himself, and will leave you for someone else...true story, not mine but a friend.😁
Feed your mind and spirit to attract real love. Amen! Be blessed.
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Well spoken🙌🙌🙌❤❤
We had to stay in a shelter. I told my kid it was a hotel. He still talks about how much fun he had there.
Right! Men are natural born hunters! If they want something or someone they will go after them wholeheartedly until they get what they want! So if a man is not pursuing you, then you’re not the one! This concept was so hard for me to understand; this was several reasons why I was always making excuses for men! I was like oh he works a lot, he’s too busy, NO! The thing is, you’re just not what he really and truly wants! That is a hard pill to swallow, ESPECIALLY, when you really want a man, and he’s a good guy!
Those were the exact excuses that I was telling myself. I finally got fed up with making excuses for a man that really didn't want me and walked away.
Same here. Mine was the "warm body with a cold heart." I would never take that MF'er back or entertain another man who gives me anxiety and makes me doubt his words and intentions. Ever! Done.
I allowed myself to be drug through the mud by my pony for 8 years, but I've grown by leaps and bounds, and I'm so far past that now. Thank God and Thank you Mr. Gaskins.
Amen Bro Tony, used up like a piece of gum spit out after all the sugar is gone then put under his feet and stomped on. That's too much pain. Let's get up yall and start 🚶 away.✌
Latonya Bell well said Sister❤️
Be blessed. This is so true. Love yourself first. Don’t allow any Human being to be worth more than your peace and happiness.
Latoya Blackman Amen. Peace is a necessity.
Amen🙏
Yes, when I was old enough my sister and I both told my mom that we are better off being by ourselves. We love Dad, but we know she is not happy. 🥺👌🏾 Kids see it and feel the energy. 💯
Children know more than we think....see... And can figure it all out... Their logic make sense if u listen.. Children have the innocence we loose as we age... Ijs🤷
Amen!!!Amen!!!👏🏾🙏🏾👏🏾
Lmfao Tony Gaskins said “when they grow up cold 🥶, they don’t know how to be warm...”
Your women voices are hilarious 🤣
Exactly! 😂😂😂
Gurrrrl
Listen, he done told y'all na..you hear👂 the wisdom of a Man's truth.👂👀👏
This is one of the reasons why online dating does not work. We are swiping left on lil ugly when he could be the one. 🤷♀️ Dear lil ugly when you see me out and about, come say hi! 🙋♀️🙏💗😂.
Bibi Lafleur 🤣🤣
Lol
Oh no...poor lill ulgy
Bibi Lafleur yesssss bae!!! 😂
Bibi Lafleur...Gurl Bye!! 😆🤣😄❤️
I think the hardest pill for WOMEN to swallow is the fact that 99% of the men we meet, particularly black men, were never ever really interested in us for more than just sex. And we have to be honest about that. And so that makes us feel like we were never good enough to begin with. When in reality, a lot of black men are HURT themselves, and using women as a scapegoat. This was hard to hear, but it explains so much. Tony is constantly advising women to GET OFF THEIR BACKS because he knows most men only value what is between your legs. That could not be more true, as I have experienced that personally throughout the years. Next month will make a year since I've slept with anyone. I took away the very thing that most men value the most. If you want my time, you will have to get to know me WITHOUT that. Point. Blank. Period. I learned the lesson. Now I play the game by MY rules. Thank you Tony Gaskins!
Tony you preached this. He was living with me and when he went out I changed the locks on my house and packed all his stuff in tubs my daughter had from college and set them out on the front porch. I had asked him to leave but he wasn’t trying to go anywhere. Now I’m healing and doing the work taking it slow with a wonderful man that I met in the grocery store. Legs closed of course. 😉
A woman who walks away wins - @chloe_
I love Sister chloe_ 💎🌹💄💋! A feminine woman who truly loves herself and did her inner healing can swiftly walk away when love is no longer being served ❤!
All the aggressive, Tony😁 but I get what you are saying and you are 🎯 My father told me don't let a man tell you twice that he doesn't want you! His dogging you out and treating you like dirt is him telling you that he doesn't want you. No one mistreats what they love like crap!
I am not going to stay where I’m not respected. I’m out. If there’s no respect, there’s no love. Don’t ever be afraid to walk away. Trust and believe the blessing is on the other side.
Yes I had to go to a Shelter it was the hardest thing but yet best the thing that ever happened to me and my children. The shelter had 9 mo program that I commented to that help me to start my process to healing. Mentally Spiritually Emotionally Physically and Finically. I became a Candidate for a Rehab home. That me and my children move in 1yr ago. Soon to receive my deed in the next couple of months 🤗 🙌🏽Yes my children said it was a hotel lol I was truly worried about them but they did a awesome job. Thank you! Coach Tony. Coming to be a Certified Coach soon 😊. Thank you for your inspiration and faithfulness. TBT.
“Twice a fool since Sunday”🤣🤣🤣.
No laying on your back for affection LADIES 💥💥
Preach sis
Word
So true women use sex for affection.....
Facts 💯
Tony talk about an eye opener!!!! I have been in a toxic relationship with a narcissistic Emotionally abusive grown boy for 5 years. I finally got A brain and got him out about 4 weeks ago. Going through a week point in my mind 3 days ago I found one of your RUclips videos I have watched several of them and I have to say you are amazing your words have given me the knowledge and strength to keep me on the right path of self love and growth. This Video in particular at this moment has really spoken to me. Hope to get to one of you seminars soon!
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Please watch rc blakes too - his channel is on RUclips
Stacy Roberts Happy God smile omg you! If you go back ! He will resent it.
Im so glad that i found you on RUclips.
I leave the toxic marriage 10 yrs ago i packed my clothes important papers and i drove with my daughters they were 2 yrs old and 6 yrs old i went from staying at my sister's house sleeping and old mattress but so thankful for her support
Hard work i was able to purchase my mobile home, my new car
Been able to take vacations Europe, Africa and Mexico
All this on 2010 i made the best decision in my life i don't regret
I start living life in good way
God is my strength i learned from all that
Never ever settle for less
Love yourself to the most
Walking away really is the hardest part ! Takes a lot of strength
The sad part is there are so many men beating on women and the women still stay because they feel Like they can fight back, lonely, or financially can’t survive alone. They put everything before their safety. 😢😢😢
'Lil urgly' is back ya'll 😂😂😂😂😭😭😭😭😭😭 I cannot
LOL IM WEAK!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Bl15 Grace 😂😂😂😂😂
Finisheddd 🤣😂😁
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We need constant reminders
21:08 this is saddest part, that’s the example we give our kids when we stay with these good for nothing grown boys! Whether they are their fathers or NOT. You are better off ALONE than staying!
Amen...
This is 100% . I,m not staying , been there wasted too many years but now i,ll rather start over and find real love , be Blessed Tony..
"We do better as humans, when we are reacting to what we've been given"....Thanks Mr. Gaskins, so DEEP, so TRUE!
I know someone who is waiting on a man been in jail 10 years don't know when he's getting out and he's dogging her out from jail she is stuck don't even wanna talk to another man.. Lord help her please🤦🤦🤦
Pray for her eyes to be opened because that's the only way she'll leave. It don't matter what anyone says to her.
Lord have mercy. Jesus please be an eye opener and deliverer, that's crazy. 10 years !!! Dang.
Tracy G yes you're absolutely right
That's crazy, wow 😳
don't be the concession stand keep your treats LADIES 💥💥
DON"T PLAY YOURSELF
In the words of Beyonce 👑✨🌹
Tony is the truth. Signed, sealed, and DELIVERT! lol
I’m afraid of starting over yes but I’m not having all those issues . But I moved on it’s hard believe me but following the videos n classes it’s coming along great
It's hard!
Did he just say LIL Ugly at the 2:00 minute mark....I can NOT Brrreeeevve.... baaahahahahahaaaa!!!! 😭🤣😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
HAHAHAH ME TOO! Was looking for this comment!
Dimplez he did that’s Tony lol
I have my money put aside 💲💲💲and my rental car reservation 🚘ready for the self love retreat this year. I'm there.
That’s what’s up Sister! Let me look into that 🤓
@@cedtriciasgymjourney9614 I paid to go last year, then got my money beck. I'm not doing that this year.
Anointed Stilettos Yes Ma’ma! Definitely go. I’m in Seattle I will wait a little bit untill he’s in Cali for the August retreat.
@@cedtriciasgymjourney9614 I am excited about that retreat.
Wow! God bless you Tony. This is exactly what I’m going through with my 7 year relationship. Thank you for your message. You’re giving me the strength to keep pushing forward and to continue to move on.
These are facts Tony..If you're not being treated with love & respect consistently then leave because what you have is not what you need!! It's not worth it dealing with a cold heart, just to have a warm body lying beside you!
Tony, it is like you know me personally. This has been my story. His sister has used my Christian faith to try to keep me locked down (because she knows no woman can deal with her brother in long term).
But i am taking care of myself, getting new knowledge. Self Love and Christ love are what i need for now.
Thank you brother Tony. Keep up with your excellent work🙏🏾🙏🏾
You can do it, dont let anyone manipulate you, you deserve better 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
“Grown Boys” are always looking for a relationship
A relationship that only benefits them = a situationship... I'll pass!
“I’m over here talkin to lil ugly..” 🤣🤣🤣 I cant. You’re hilarious, Tony!!!
This is a powerful video!! Blessings to you Tony!! Your saving alot of women including myself with your videos. To all my sister's in the world. Please keep your heads up!!👑🙏🏾✊🏾🐃❤💋
AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! GREAT INSPIRING AMAZING STRONG POWERFUL POSITIVE WORDS OF WISDOM! GOD BLESS US ALL! GOD LOVES US ALL! SELF LOVE! BELOVED! LET YR LIGHT 4EVER SHINE BRIGHT! GOD IS WORKIN IT OUT! ON HIS GOD GIVEN RIGHT TIME! HOLD ON TO GOD ALWAYS! GOD IS ALWAYS WITH US! PRAY OFTEN AND DAILY TO GOD ALWAYS! GOD IS OUR EVERYTHING! GOD CAN HANDLE ANYTHING! GOD HAS US COVERED! GOD WILL SEE US THRU ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS!
BROTHER TONY this video today is such a complete answer of really understanding I really appreciate the logic behind really getting and moving on and realizing Men can be Grown boys but the enlightenment has helped me realize I need to always be in my POWER and make the steps to preserve ME .....GOD and I don't have time for the foolery ...BLESS YOU BROTHER
You have never lied!!! Preach!
😂😂😂😂😂 “Drug through the mud by her ponytail” 😭😭😭 Jesus take the wheel
That mall story is HILARIOUS 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣. You are too funny Tony and those impressions 😂
Thank you for posting again! We need the daily message Brother Tony
Nakoosha A yes!!
Love these videos.. I’m getting stronger every day. Stress-free
Tony, words cannot express how much I appreciate your work and everything you do for us, women who want to create a healthy and loving relationship with grown men!
May GOD Bless You and Your Family Abundantly and Richly in everything You do and in all areas of your lives IN THE MIGHTY NAME OF OUR LORD JESUS CHRIST! AMEN!!!❤️
You are helping so many woman out there Tony 👐👌
Thank you Tony. This was a WORD. you’re helping so many women not be lied to. Be blessed!
Now this is informative!
Wish I knew about you 4 years ago ...
Thank you 🙏 God bless you Sir 🙏🙏🙏
Bridget Smalls I be thinking that same thing
Right but better late than never.
This message was EVERYTHING!!!!
Brother Tony you have a great sense of humor. All jokes aside God bless you and this ministry. Too many kids are watching their mothers getting beat, suffocated, killed. ..It's time we fight the devil back by living holy and righteous the way God has called us to in Jesus name.
Wow this is so true!
Actually brought tears to my eyes lol
Dropping 💎 GEMS 💎 !!!
After hearing this I know I have a book in me 🙌🏿
It was a Sad Topic But when he said “ALL THE AGGRESSIVES”😂😂...I agree I’m done being Used up & Giving but being left Empty. I Love myself too much to be Drained. I’ve been doing Self Inventory for 2 years & STILL HAVE SO MUCH LEFT TO LEARN.
God Bless you brother Tony🌟
& I’m Dying about the Book Story😂😂
Thanks for this video. I left my relationship in December right before covid-19 came and I have no regrets . He wasn’t abusive but he switched up on me on top of everything else I was fed up with. I felt a storm ⛈ coming. I told him I was leaving he didn’t believe me , so I packed my stuff and left when he was at work
He came home to an empty apartment. I took everything I owned. Looking at that empty apartment made me realize he brung absolutely nothing to that relationship. Lesson learned
This man tried for a year to get me, I curved him for a year, then finally gave in. Courting was instant and very intentional- took me on a intl trip, spent money, had me meet his kids and family. it was a whirlwind of us bonding. It was going so well, then at a switch, within a few weeks he was distancing himself and seemingly disinterested. It hurt like hell but I cut it off cause he was trying to all of a sudden date me non exclusively. Men are so confusing!
I'm not about to play with Tony "lil ugly" lmfao I'm dead!💀🤣🤣🤣
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I am going to order your work book. I am so tired of living this way. I just keep getting myself into more hurt. I have turned away from God so many times just to open my legs and have soul ties with these men whom I truly don’t even know. Then I thought about what you said about a woman opening her legs and getting a soul tie and doing all of these new things with him and then not leaving. I never even thought to leave him. I honestly didn’t even think I had a choice. It was all about him and if he would leave me. I had no boundaries or standards. I ignored all of the red flags thinking it will be different with me because he told me so. Even staying with him when he isn’t emotionally available and wounded. I didn’t want to be alone so I stayed when I knew things would end badly. I really need to heal and go to the lord because I am a mess. I cant live like this anymore!!! Instead of trying to find someone to love me and buying alcohol, I need to invest in myself and work on myself because the things I’ve been doing keeps getting me in the same place. I want to change & need to change.
🤣🤣🤣🤣 lil ugly! He speaking the truth! I love this man! I pray that God continues to bless you!
Peace of mind is a must! Anything else is a waste of time. This was another banger🔥🔥🔥
Tony, your wife is blessed! I think you're a Godsend & a genius!
Never noticed that men set goals, then meet them - women don't approach goals the same way.
Thank you!
🙏🏿Be Blessed🙏🏿.
Just landed in PHOENIX I’m listening Tony
i like the word "slap crazy"...Too cool. be blessed!
Thank you very much for this message. Ive been going through with my kids dad and yesterday was my last straw with him and hearing this message truly clarifies everythg. Thank you.
I left an abusive family with my daughter for a shelter and Tony is absolutely right your kids will think it’s your own place or a hotel. She made friends the the other children. The shelter helped us to move out in our own apartment eventually. You may be in there for a WHILE but work hard and pray everyday. The day I decided to leave I packed a bag while they were away. God bless you Tony. I pray my experience helps a women who is debating on going. Go and be strong your children are resilient.
This is so true needed it !!! Better things ahead !!!
Be and Stay BLESSED!!!
Tiny is so funny but I enjoy the truth that he speaks.
That’s tony sorry for the mistake
Thank you Tony. Be blessed!
I SO appreciate all of your messages and continued support reaching out to us and giving your gifts. Thank you Tony. Much blessings to you 🙏🏻❤️
Blessed Tribe, Thank You.
Tony is telling you the safest way to walk out. AND.. DO NOT TELL HIM YOU ARE GOING TO LEAVE!!! MOVE IN SILENCE!!!!
All i can say is thank you Tony!!! Be blessed