What is Emotional Blackmail?

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  • Опубликовано: 15 янв 2025

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  • @SUP-BITCHES
    @SUP-BITCHES 5 лет назад +3475

    You guys should do why some people can't say no

    • @hasnain9654
      @hasnain9654 5 лет назад +203

      They are people-pleasers... They value people more than any other thing even themselves

    • @principleshipcoleoid8095
      @principleshipcoleoid8095 5 лет назад +106

      @@hasnain9654 value people over themself.

    • @NanasatoAi7
      @NanasatoAi7 5 лет назад +45

      @@hasnain9654 Lol that's me

    • @blackdiamondfaithytastic5567
      @blackdiamondfaithytastic5567 5 лет назад +48

      I used to not be able to say no and now it just comes out automatically

    • @minervaloves
      @minervaloves 5 лет назад +107

      They have been emotionally blackmailed by their parents.

  • @rubyslovatic2638
    @rubyslovatic2638 5 лет назад +1677

    I really don't do this but everytime I speak about my feelings I feel like I hurt people around me.

    • @thatonebraincell2453
      @thatonebraincell2453 5 лет назад +90

      Rubys lovatic how did you find out my personal life..? Though I actually feel really guilty to talk about my emotions

    • @yazhazdazspaz3662
      @yazhazdazspaz3662 5 лет назад +19

      Same

    • @novasters
      @novasters 5 лет назад +20

      Same...

    • @prxnce111
      @prxnce111 5 лет назад +39

      same here,but it's better to talk to someone about it than doing somenthing you will regret.....i have a friend that help's a lot with my problems....you should try to open up litle by litle...

    • @peachpaty8873
      @peachpaty8873 5 лет назад +66

      Do they make you feel bad about opening up, or do you just feel bad without a particular reason? Either way, you shouldn't be afraid to talk about your feelings to someone if they can make you feel better

  • @randommob2806
    @randommob2806 5 лет назад +1335

    I can’t count how many times I’ve experienced this in friendships and romantic relationships. Thank you for putting out this video. ❤️

    • @love_myself2721
      @love_myself2721 5 лет назад +12

      I have too and its terrible

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  5 лет назад +19

      Np! What were some of the common signs you've experienced?

    • @bigmacboi1667
      @bigmacboi1667 5 лет назад

      *Gimme chicken nuggets*

    • @ac0rps32
      @ac0rps32 4 года назад +1

      i cried a little while watching this because my boyfriend recently said that he would've killed himself if he broke up with me when my friends were concerned that i was hurting myself bc his drug addiction has been worsening so they talked to him and stuff and he kinda lashed out

    • @veloc.raptor9136
      @veloc.raptor9136 4 года назад

      Im sorry you had to experience it. its horrible of me to say but im glad im not you

  • @pinimorales2649
    @pinimorales2649 5 лет назад +1113

    Who else has been emotionaly blackmailed?

  • @osse1n
    @osse1n 5 лет назад +311

    If a person toys with your emotions, withholding something that you think you need, be brave enough to walk away.
    *Hold your head high and never succumb to someone’s manipulations.*

    • @abby9797
      @abby9797 5 лет назад +6

      O'SSÉIN - Master Your Mind With Me
      It’s not that easy

    • @caelenw6572
      @caelenw6572 5 лет назад +4

      Abby McCallum
      I agree, what if it’s your parents?

    • @alexabakhouy9607
      @alexabakhouy9607 4 года назад +1

      @@caelenw6572 Exactly

    • @bean7496
      @bean7496 4 года назад +1

      That person is my mum. It is impossible

  • @Ultimate5898
    @Ultimate5898 5 лет назад +555

    One of my ex friends use to do this to me, by saying stuff like they would hurt themselves or never find happiness again or guilt trip me into going to their house. It was a nightmare.

    • @melisah7350
      @melisah7350 5 лет назад +23

      my ex bff did that too and that was the reason i unfriended her she would even scratch me on my arms if i didnt listen to her and she would hold my neck tight if i wanted to hangout with other ppl and she would always bully me and tell me that im ugly and fat and no one will ever love me and stuff

    • @duolingoowl8181
      @duolingoowl8181 5 лет назад +16

      My best friend currently does and I genuinely can't escape Because she goes through with the threats.
      She emotionally manipulates me by telling me my boyfriend hurt her (he would only hurt someone if he needed to, he doesn't want a criminal record) or that my friends hate her so if she wants to hang out with me, I can't bring my other friends. Or do anything, really she has like some sort of leash on me

    • @duolingoowl8181
      @duolingoowl8181 5 лет назад +6

      Metaphorical leash I mean

    • @calimorale9880
      @calimorale9880 5 лет назад +2

      @@duolingoowl8181 how old are you more or less (the advice depends on that)

    • @duolingoowl8181
      @duolingoowl8181 5 лет назад +2

      @@calimorale9880 I'm,, 14 as of right now and she's been my friend since we were three years old, so basically since I can remember,,

  • @lauragadille3384
    @lauragadille3384 5 лет назад +539

    My family does this over and over again. I can't wait to get a job and move away from my family they are so toxic.

    • @baronsamedi5741
      @baronsamedi5741 5 лет назад +31

      Same here Bro. My family was built on lies and manipulation.
      It's hard to tell who is your friend and who wants to harm you

    • @anonymouslee2083
      @anonymouslee2083 5 лет назад +10

      This is pretty much my family's go to method.

    • @channandoyle9943
      @channandoyle9943 5 лет назад +32

      As someone who has experienced this, moved out and survived the toxic abuse I was subjected too. I can say that I promise it gets better! Stay strong too everyone who is going through this and remind yourself that you deserve the love and compassion. Moving out was the best thing I ever did and I know it was the right decision too make.
      Sending prays and love too everyone.

    • @saturnandtheplanets891
      @saturnandtheplanets891 5 лет назад +3

      Same, stay strong and you will get there. Parents are the worst for this.

    • @-Vitalis-
      @-Vitalis- 5 лет назад +3

      Congratulations: you're part of the 0.000001% of today's youngsters population.
      The rest are fucking leeches, couch potatoes and delusional manchildren.

  • @alvinarosvar9598
    @alvinarosvar9598 5 лет назад +184

    Someone did this to me. I simply just said "Go on. I don't care" and they ended up didn't do it anyway

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  5 лет назад +26

      That's great to hear. How did the same approach work with other people?

    • @randyrichmondiii9021
      @randyrichmondiii9021 5 лет назад +3

      Yeah, I'm actually really curious

    • @soluu5484
      @soluu5484 5 лет назад +3

      I wish I was as strong as you!

    • @nemesisthescarletdemon6256
      @nemesisthescarletdemon6256 5 лет назад +2

      I do this too

    • @randyrichmondiii9021
      @randyrichmondiii9021 5 лет назад +4

      @@nemesisthescarletdemon6256 that's reasonable, it's pretty shitty for someone to threaten suicide as a way to get you to say or do something.

  • @adamabraham2537
    @adamabraham2537 5 лет назад +895

    Abusive mothers / absent fathers
    Please

    • @yassscx
      @yassscx 5 лет назад +7

      Adam Abraham Yesss !!

    • @midnightkookie5925
      @midnightkookie5925 5 лет назад +14

      Think they already did absent fathers

    • @RachelNicole
      @RachelNicole 5 лет назад +10

      Slide through to my channel I was raised as an only child by two narcs and I’d love to make more content to help other

    • @zuko5651
      @zuko5651 5 лет назад +4

      Adam Abraham yep my bitch of a mother will forever haunt me

    • @corrincorrin3055
      @corrincorrin3055 5 лет назад +5

      Adam Abraham absent mothers too maybe??

  • @nicoleharrington9086
    @nicoleharrington9086 5 лет назад +667

    Yeah, I've been through this and dealt with it on my own.

    • @tinks_workshop5645
      @tinks_workshop5645 5 лет назад +8

      SAME

    • @asrah14
      @asrah14 5 лет назад +14

      I'm coming out of a 7 year relationship which started to become toxic. My ex partner has been trying emotional abuse tactics, but I spotted them as soon as I saw them and called his bluff on them. He has since backed off a bit. But I'm coping with it alone too, as I don't have a huge support network around me and people seem so busy these days. I've not known who go turn to. I feel so, so proud of myself for setting strong boundaries and following them through, especially when alone. It does take incredible strength of character, I really hope you feel proud too and anyone else facing challenging situations like this alone ❤

    • @flightarrowbear
      @flightarrowbear 5 лет назад +4

      I know how it feels too. I feel sad we all had to go through this, but I’m proud of myself and you for getting through it.

    • @Sarah-lt2mo
      @Sarah-lt2mo 5 лет назад +9

      Yes, it's the same for me, and I dealt with it alone... i just borke up with him a few weeks ago, it was hard. At that time I really belived that he would kill himself if i leave, but i loved myself more than him to leave a relationship like this. Here's my story, if you have time, i think it's helpful if you're going through the same: ❤️
      At the beginning I felt that I'm the luckiest girl in the universe that he loved me and he wanted me. But a month passed and things started to go bad. First I learned that I'd been the resson why he had stayed home and not gone abroad University, because he loved me so much. Which was true. Later on he could tell me that he gave up everything for me (what I never asked, moreover, in the beginning I told him that I don't want him to give up anything because of me), and in return I don't give him anything.
      With this knowladge he put on me an extremely big pressure, but I told myself it didn't matter, I love him, which at that time was true.
      From my nature I'm very independent, I need a healthy amount of freedom and space, and an own, indipendent life apart from my relationship. I have many plans, I did summer school, I go to training lessons... But every time when I did something without him he told me I surely don't love him enough, because he wouldn't be able do anything without me. If he has freetime, he wants to spend it with me because this is love. Therefore he expected me to do the same.
      Now what he did awesomaly good at emotionally manipulating, is that he never said that he want me to do something, he never said that if I break up with him he'll kill himself. No. That's too easy, a maniuplator like this is an amatour. A pro is someone who makes you feel, not know!, that he would do something. He tells you that you're the love of his life and literally can't live without you. And he shows it.
      Therefore in an argument you can't balme him that he's blackamiling you, because he never told or asked you to do something! You're just making him feel this way with your actions, and if you don't behave differently, you're being ignorant towards his feelings, don't care and don't love him enough, what an insensitive person you are!
      When I wanted do something without him, he becomed depressed, when I wanted to meet a friend of mine who was a boy he nearly killed himself. He told me that I saved his life when I stayed on the phone for 3 hours, but also I was the reason why he wanted to kill himself.
      "You are the reason, you did this to me, why would you want to hurt me consciously? It's because you don't love me, right? You're like everyone else. You betrayed me. Or if you did this consciously, that's worse, because you're being absolutley ignorant towards my feelings and you don't care about me." He told me this, he told me I don't care about him while I was with him on the phone, at 1 a.m, and have been talking with him for four hours!!!, (and I have life), because he nearly killed himself. Oh right, because of me.
      And you know what was the case? I wanted to go to a party, without him, because I told him I need a little space. (Before we started dating, I was clear and fair, I told him that I was going to need independent programs, to avoid conflicts like this)
      So the outcome was that I didn't go to that party because of how a terrible person was I that I had even considared doing this to him. I convinced myself that originally I hadn't even wanted to go.
      Later on he convinced me that he's the only one who deserves me, my friends and family not worth it, I shouldn't spend my valuable time with them, rather with him. Because convinced me that he is the one who loves me truly, who supports
      me, my dreams, my goals etc. Oh, but when I told him that I need two days alone because I have two finish my essay, he again became depressed, and he told me he can't survive again if I do this to him again.
      I became depressed, lost my motivation to do anything, failed my exam, stopped compiting in athletics, and I missed my elementray school reunion, because I feared that if I tell him that I want to go there alone (i didn't want to bring him, it was a reunion, we never wanted to have there outsiders), he really wouldn't survive it because he needs me.
      He was constantly the victim, I was the monster, I was the one who didn't love and care about him enough. But please someone tell me that I didn't care about him when we didn't meet I was talking with him everyday!, minimum for 2 hours, I always asked about his feelings, I never cheated on him, I didn't even dare talk to anothet boy! (which was not healthy). I supported his goals, he became motivated, he did his exams extremely well, etc..
      So guys be aware, if someone tells you he can't live without you literally, it's not romantic but a red flag. He wants to posses you, own you. It's not a selfless love, they love you because they love the way you make them feel, and because of their insecurities they don't have any other skill than emotionally blackmailing to keep you in their life.
      I'm still processing the abuse that I had, and this video helped me a lot. Thank you❤️

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  5 лет назад +9

      @@asrah14 Props to you for making that move. Are you currently able to find online support groups such to help? Dealing with something alone can be very tiring.

  • @titlespree
    @titlespree 5 лет назад +128

    That is why concealing your intentions/emotions from most people is important. When you reveal yourself to the wrong kind of people, their first instinct is to figure out a way to get something out of you, or to decieve you!

    • @misty56770
      @misty56770 5 лет назад +10

      this is why I'm so reserved...

    • @DkKombo
      @DkKombo 5 лет назад +7

      Yeah that's smart.
      They'll get to know the real me over time.
      Besides I don't even know what I want...

    • @tinylove1979
      @tinylove1979 5 лет назад +5

      I think it depends on the situation : I don't mind revealing my feelings as unless that person is a friend or loved one then they really won't be getting anything out of me that I don't wanna give. I'm quite strict with my boundaries.

    • @MikhaelAhava
      @MikhaelAhava 5 лет назад

      Good call.

    • @MyLalaSenpai
      @MyLalaSenpai 5 лет назад

      Mindprovement agreed

  • @TouyaYamamoto
    @TouyaYamamoto 5 лет назад +57

    If someone says "if you don't do it, I'll do this" I just "do it then, it will be your decision anyway"

  • @deea127
    @deea127 5 лет назад +237

    This helped me alot... I was emotionally blackmailing for years and I didn't even know it...

    • @jacklonghearse9821
      @jacklonghearse9821 5 лет назад

      Haha

    • @RKim929
      @RKim929 5 лет назад +36

      If you know it, you can fix it :)
      Been there too fam

    • @chapstickwarrior9277
      @chapstickwarrior9277 5 лет назад +47

      I've done this as well. Don't feel bad, we gotta work on ourselves.

    • @nekorina9011
      @nekorina9011 5 лет назад +27

      Deea At the very least you’re recognizing your mistakes, which is great on your part...so now you can work to fix them

    • @nutthemovie1367
      @nutthemovie1367 5 лет назад

      You: if u don't come over I'll kill myelfe!2!2!2!2!2

  • @christian8657
    @christian8657 5 лет назад +26

    I definitely was being emotionally black mailed for a long time with my ex.
    I felt so responsible and accountable for how that person felt, that I felt extremely broken when we separated. This was because I felt that I had caused the pain, when in reality I didn’t (not entirely) but I was manipulated into feeling accountable.

  • @onaxclii5554
    @onaxclii5554 5 лет назад +10

    My Dad would mess with my emotions by LITERALLY making me question my intelligence. But, he does this unintentionally. My sister was the only one who had the guts to bring this to his attention.
    Sister=MVP

  • @Olutman7
    @Olutman7 2 года назад +5

    This can and will be a tremendous help for others to explore their feelings in a new perspective. I was lucky enough to get back at the blackmailer, I found a small helper I liked talking about this man and my feeling of confusion being put into words helped me become confident, of course they have skills to solve but this is truly validating. Thanks dude

  • @rea8585
    @rea8585 5 лет назад +126

    I feel like all parents and children have a bit of emotional abuse going on. We know which buttons to push in order to get what we want. But it is also up to us to realize we are doing it and learn how to respect each other boundaries. Work in progress...

    • @rainpooper7088
      @rainpooper7088 5 лет назад +9

      Rea Kariz
      Well, a little bit of that is necessary for survival. If small children didn’t bawl in that obnoxious voice that is bound to stress out every adult in range, the adults might notice too late if a child is in dire need of help. So better safe than sorry, even if it is emotionally and physically exhausting. Adults however should know their boundaries as they have no right to behave like children, at least in the emotional regard.

    • @mainno3292
      @mainno3292 5 лет назад +1

      @@blutongu8888 wooah how did u get out?

    • @politereminder6284
      @politereminder6284 2 года назад

      Ummmm.... children don't "emotionally abuse" their parents

  • @pleasesubscribeaiming1mils267
    @pleasesubscribeaiming1mils267 5 лет назад +97

    Im in that current situation, this video really helped me THANK YOU!

    • @kriichan6100
      @kriichan6100 5 лет назад +5

      I hope you get out of this situation and are okay. 💕

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  5 лет назад +1

      How are dealing with it at the moment?

    • @pleasesubscribeaiming1mils267
      @pleasesubscribeaiming1mils267 5 лет назад +1

      Blocking them and also told them that i would sue them.😂

  • @ssebastos
    @ssebastos 5 лет назад +92

    I love this art style!
    And the video was very helpful.
    I've been in a situation like this multiple times but fortunately i have no more contact with those persons-
    But unfortunately they go in the my same school and im a bit scared actually-

    • @kit-kat1859
      @kit-kat1859 5 лет назад +1

      Same here fam...highschool has been hell the last 3 years because of people like this..now my trust in others has gone from 10% to almost non existent.

  • @redwillow6869
    @redwillow6869 5 лет назад +12

    emotional blackmail from parents is the hardest one.

  • @Brumselsprout
    @Brumselsprout 5 лет назад +152

    Can you do a video on how to focus on stuff? I have so much issues with focusing. I always zone out and forget everything. I procrastinate because it stresses me out and then I forget about it until it’s too late.

    • @rubyslovatic2638
      @rubyslovatic2638 5 лет назад +4

      I feel you so much!

    • @Brumselsprout
      @Brumselsprout 5 лет назад +4

      Rubys lovatic it’s so frustrating!

    • @user-gu8ic3eb1x
      @user-gu8ic3eb1x 5 лет назад +10

      You may have ADHD:ADHD (Attention-Deficit/Hyperactive Disorder) Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder is a common mental illness characterized by the inability to concentrate or sit still. The condition is, of course, more involved than these two symptoms.

    • @rubyslovatic2638
      @rubyslovatic2638 5 лет назад +6

      @@user-gu8ic3eb1x i have PTSD and depression and I know my brain won't stop spinning, but maybe they could do a video about focusing despite mental illnesses :) thank you for caring!

    • @Brumselsprout
      @Brumselsprout 5 лет назад +2

      Canxy_ Wonders maybe. Being unable to focus has always been with me but recently it has been a pain in the butt

  • @torissecret1936
    @torissecret1936 5 лет назад +1

    3:15 my girlfriend used to say this to me all the time. That if I didn’t exist she would’ve been dead by now. She told me that if we broke up she would cut herself again. It took me 3 years and many tears to realize that our relationship was toxic. She would abandon me a lot and never made any strives to better our relationship, even after she discovered how I felt. I really did love her, and I really do care about her, but I’ve finally realized that I need to care and love myself too. And that’s something I couldn’t do with her. We broke up a couple weeks ago, but I find myself thinking about all of the good times, I’m afraid that one day I’ll give in and go back to her. I don’t know what to do. *I’m scared*

  • @Kapusheeno
    @Kapusheeno 5 лет назад +8

    Totally out of topic but I just wanna say...
    This channel has really got me very interested in learning more about Pyschology so that's why this year I decided to take AP Pysch. Because of this channel I found smth that I'm actually interested in learning , this channel has really grown a lot on me. Thank you so much for inspiring me!😊

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  5 лет назад

      Aww. Thank you so much for your inspiring comment! It really inspires us too, to create more content for you guys

  • @Andrew-ze6kq
    @Andrew-ze6kq Год назад +1

    I've been dealing with the thoughts of emotionally blackmailing and manipulating someone and other people online for a couple years, because they wouldn't do something for me, or if they wouldn't respect me. It all stills haunts me to this very day, and it's left such a big impact on me. Great video.

  • @johnwilxn667
    @johnwilxn667 5 лет назад +6

    People will judge and hurt you until something happens to them and they realize what they've done to you.

  • @melaniec7043
    @melaniec7043 5 лет назад +2

    This video has brought to light a problem I had experienced but unfortunately neglected for a long time. I never acknowledged the wronging in the actions of a person I loved. Thank you so much for amazing helpful content.💜

  • @alfredkruse1517
    @alfredkruse1517 5 лет назад +8

    Moral of the story: Be a heartless monster who doesn’t give a damn if the other person threatens to kill themselves.
    Or you could just stay in your room all day away from all people to begin with.

    • @Theoriginalstarkittnd93
      @Theoriginalstarkittnd93 5 лет назад +3

      No. The moral is to see a professional if you know someone who is abusive.

    • @alfredkruse1517
      @alfredkruse1517 5 лет назад

      KawaiiKittyCatND 93 It was a joke but okay

    • @epicm999
      @epicm999 5 лет назад

      @@Theoriginalstarkittnd93 What do you mean? Alfred's advice is suiting me perfectly so far.

  • @choclatriy
    @choclatriy 5 лет назад +6

    Ok, this video is pretty damn useful, but can we talk about the animation? It's so fucking pleasing to watch! I love it!

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  5 лет назад +1

      Thank you so much for your kind feedback :) Would you like to watch more of this type of video from us?

  • @shkcvat
    @shkcvat 5 лет назад +50

    I’m guilty of doing these actions to my SO, of course with no intentions of hurting them. I love them dearly and truly wanted a future with them. For obvious reasons we aren’t together anymore, I know for a fact that they’re much better off without me in their life. My question is, how do we who are guilty of this, move on and overcome this toxic trait? I don’t want to bring this into any future relationships. How do I not go back to doing those things?

    • @kalinatankova3578
      @kalinatankova3578 5 лет назад +17

      Perhaps the key moments in this situation is
      1) to accept that your feelings are yours alone, and that you can't hold the other person accountable for how you experience the world
      2) to remind yourself that the other person is a living being with free will, and that if they aren't happy you should let them walk away and live their life
      It is great that you are striving to be better. Good luck out there.

    • @Bitzy
      @Bitzy 5 лет назад

      i used to do this too..

    • @kalinatankova3578
      @kalinatankova3578 5 лет назад +3

      @@Bitzy Well now you don't. That's what matters.

    • @Bitzy
      @Bitzy 5 лет назад +4

      Kalina Tankova
      yep, all i can do now is strive to be better :)

    • @Laura-sn8iy
      @Laura-sn8iy 4 года назад +4

      Notice that you alone aren't the problem. Your issue is fear of abandonment so it is fine to make it clear from the start that you are looking for long-term connections and that you will not let anyone close to you who poses the thread of abandoning you. You can set that as your boundary. Some people just love to play the abandonment card and trigger people who have an issue with that. Don't abandon yourself, too. You are a loveable person who doesn't need anyone in her life who tries to hop in and out of it whenever it's convenient.

  • @stardarkvr
    @stardarkvr 5 лет назад +10

    This is a very important topic, and I'm glad to see your video on it. However, it would be more helpful to include examples of Emotional Blackmail besides suicide and other forms of self-harm.

  • @flamepampas5197
    @flamepampas5197 5 лет назад +1

    I was once in an emotionally abusive relationship and this is exactly one of the things they did. I wish I was able to see this video before I was ever put into that mess but I'm glad I now know the signs of it.

  • @lilmacemacewheezyjr3780
    @lilmacemacewheezyjr3780 5 лет назад +4

    This is probably my favorite art style you guys have made, it looks so good!

  • @kriichan6100
    @kriichan6100 5 лет назад +1

    This hits deep. My 'best friend' (who isn't my friend anymore thankfully) always emotionally blackmailed and emotionally abused me for years. Everyone should see these types of videos because people don't realise how serious emotional abuse really is.

  • @Waynimations
    @Waynimations 5 лет назад +7

    Sometimes I catch myself emotionally blackmailing people and it makes me feel horrible thinking about it

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  5 лет назад +2

      What do you catch yourself saying?

  • @kapow8249
    @kapow8249 4 года назад +3

    Thank you for this video! This helped me realize I had an emotionally blackmailing friend.

  • @Elnor23
    @Elnor23 5 лет назад +13

    I just got out of an emotionally manipulative relationship.

    • @miael8394
      @miael8394 5 лет назад

      I'm sure it was difficult for you going through it and ending it. Could you share your experience with us?

  • @cassplaysminecraft1737
    @cassplaysminecraft1737 5 лет назад +13

    “I’m gonna drive my car off a cliff” me: “Okay, Bet, you win you can come over, I win I never see you again”

  • @chispychisp1690
    @chispychisp1690 5 лет назад +7

    I've delt with this when I was 15. My first boyfriend would say that he would either cut or kill himself if I ever decide to brake up with him. I was stuck in a relationship with him for a few years and during those years he would peer pressure me to do things I didn't want to do by either guilt tripping me or by other ways. I was basically molested until he eventually got tired of me. But afterwards, since I was by then used to just simply doing what he says and following "orders" I felt like I needed him back just because it was now strange to be my own person, that feeling of needing him back, I hated it, I hated that feeling Soo much I just wanted leave, disappear, or not think or feel anything. Luckily I had friends, actual friends and they helped me a lot.

  • @meincuriosity5250
    @meincuriosity5250 4 года назад

    You guys are doing great work spreading this information to more people. I was so used to emotional manipulation from my parents, I took it from my ex for 10 years. It took a lot of self analysis and a masters in psychology for me to realise this is not normal and to be able to break free. Keep up the good work

  • @honeythakur509
    @honeythakur509 5 лет назад +37

    I emotionally blackmailed someone close because of the fear of loosing them when they started avoiding me 😔
    I was behaving like a kid..

    • @arcaniumdragon2444
      @arcaniumdragon2444 5 лет назад +16

      Now you know, now you can fix it.

    • @honeythakur509
      @honeythakur509 5 лет назад +6

      @@arcaniumdragon2444 yes.. I'm working on me.. :)

    • @pepperpig649
      @pepperpig649 5 лет назад +6

      honey thakur I’ve emotionally blackmailed too
      But I’m gonna stop now it just creates even more problems

  • @NorthernLightsYouTube
    @NorthernLightsYouTube 4 года назад +1

    Sometimes, you even kind of know that the person won’t kill themself, but you don’t want them to think of you as a bad friend.

  • @stxrr_y4163
    @stxrr_y4163 5 лет назад +3

    0:21 my online friend does something like this where she makes me feel guilty if i wanna go to sleep, saying she’ll kill herself. she knows that i don’t like other people hurting themselves and she uses that to her advantage

  • @HavianEla
    @HavianEla 10 месяцев назад

    Thank you for this video. I have a sibling who constantly suicide baits, and while they have legit mental health issues I’ve gotten so much compassion fatigue over the years. Thank you, and I’ll pay attention diligently to what you have to say on the matter.

  • @lollipolita
    @lollipolita 5 лет назад +8

    Like a month ago I was on this kind of situation with a Guy I barely knew . He just Became my Friend like 2 days after we knew each other, the thing is that he had a lot of issues and I wanted to help him with them, and he misunderstood and thought I wanted him to be my boyfriend, even though we just met, so the thing is that he always said "oh because I´m not that worthy you don't want to be with me?" and I was like "no, you do worth it, but we just met and I'm not ready..." we were like that for like a week and I was emotionally exhausted. Face to face he pretended that nothing was happening but by text he was always rude... after that week i decided to confront him and ask him not to treat me like that... it didn't work, so I decide to end that one week emotional blackmail relation.
    It was my first time with a person that kind, it was hard to identify, and also not to feel guiltiness, but to end that relationship was the best decision.

  • @TiaNEVERTamera
    @TiaNEVERTamera 5 лет назад +1

    Dealing on your own/with a therapist is the best way

  • @dinocitotime5304
    @dinocitotime5304 5 лет назад +25

    My ex said if I didn’t date him he’d kill himself. I refused to date him did he kill himself?Biosh no

  • @Saltishh
    @Saltishh 5 лет назад

    Today, I've just finished my toxic relationship with a "best friend" of mine. This is what she does, she emotionally abuses me, she manipulates me. I've been through alot today.. And I'm trying to recover from that stress and pain. This was the first thing that caught my eye, weeks ago. I saw this, and looked upon my friendship. I saw everything wrong with my friendship. But, at first, I always knew something was wrong. I didn't do anything about it until now. This has set a great example for me. And, this may help others find out if they should.. Stop hanging out with someone, so they don't end up like I did. Thank you.

  • @nintendoug1738
    @nintendoug1738 5 лет назад +32

    My ex threatened to kill herself when I tried to break up with her on multiple occasions.

    • @Rickyrocks2020
      @Rickyrocks2020 5 лет назад +3

      Nintendoug that’s hot

    • @alius386
      @alius386 5 лет назад +1

      kinky

    • @AishaVonFossen
      @AishaVonFossen 5 лет назад +1

      Ugh, I've never had that in any of my relationships, but that's awful. I'm sorry, man.
      So how did that breakup go? Am I safe to assume she didn't actually go through with it?

    • @nintendoug1738
      @nintendoug1738 5 лет назад

      @@AishaVonFossen I talked (tricked) her into moving back to her hometown and with family.

    • @AishaVonFossen
      @AishaVonFossen 5 лет назад +1

      @@nintendoug1738 Ah, so she's back with her family and you're free of that emotional blackmail? Sounds like things ended well enough?

  • @squiggsmcdolphin9506
    @squiggsmcdolphin9506 5 лет назад +1

    This really made me take a look at myself. I used to do this kind of stuff to my ex a few years ago. I've been seeing a therapist for the past year and a half and I never realized I did this until now.

  • @shinocide
    @shinocide 5 лет назад +3

    this video was really helpful! Also that art style is awesome 💜

  • @jamiedodger2361
    @jamiedodger2361 5 лет назад

    Thank you so much for this video. It made me finally recognise and accept the fact that I was being held hostage emotionally by my friend and her gf and I cut ties with them last week. It stings, but I'm no longer being told that I'm responsible for someone's life and safety

  • @elementalalchemist0355
    @elementalalchemist0355 5 лет назад +49

    _my ex thinks he can still manipulate me-_
    _yes, he did that to me for 3 years.._

    • @elementalalchemist0355
      @elementalalchemist0355 5 лет назад +1

      @@ziqizhao9469 _I don't live in the same country as him and it's impossible for me to call the police_

    • @princesskenny360
      @princesskenny360 5 лет назад

      @@elementalalchemist0355 break up with him.thats what i would do

    • @elementalalchemist0355
      @elementalalchemist0355 5 лет назад +2

      @@princesskenny360 _I just put in the comment "my *ex*"_

    • @vintagedaydream262
      @vintagedaydream262 5 лет назад +4

      Just leave his ass on read and let him explode on his own

    • @Ndere0
      @Ndere0 4 года назад

      3 ? Ive been enduring it for 6 years :'))))))

  • @25.nayakasyahidah58
    @25.nayakasyahidah58 5 лет назад +2

    That moment when you found a video that is so good that you want to send it to your friends and family, but you can't, since they don't speak English.
    Btw, for those who are wondering, I'm Indonesian

  • @Marshy_Dreams
    @Marshy_Dreams 5 лет назад +6

    My ex-boyfriend used to do this to me a lot, now I have a lot of trust issues.

  • @somerandomguy7458
    @somerandomguy7458 4 года назад

    My grandma constantly does this when I don’t do what she wants. She cries, and gets my sympathy. She is very good at getting it.

  • @deez2174
    @deez2174 5 лет назад +8

    Drink water everytime she says "emotional" and "emotionally"

  • @wojciechdrozdek677
    @wojciechdrozdek677 4 года назад +1

    I'm having a situation like this currently, I belive. Whenever I say something negative about my father, he brings up the "I've been a looser all my life. All my life I've tried to change myself for better and it didn't work" narrative. Recently, he also started to accuse me of wanting to "destroy" him and of him commiting suicide.

  • @user-ce6od9dk5m
    @user-ce6od9dk5m 5 лет назад +3

    One of my “friends” threatens that if I don’t hang out with her she will tell my best friend that I hate her

  • @RuthOkeabia
    @RuthOkeabia 2 года назад

    I know someone who is getting blackmailed right now. But I can't stop it. If I try to stop it, things will become worse for her and for me and for other people. I'm helpless. And I hate it.

  • @simplenamed5173
    @simplenamed5173 5 лет назад +6

    Bruh, this boy ran into his room with a knife.

  • @vince_ahaha
    @vince_ahaha 5 лет назад +1

    Luckily I’ve never experienced, and I’m very happy about it. Thank you guys for teaching me about this

  • @mamicu_ti
    @mamicu_ti 5 лет назад +9

    2:00 I loved doing that to my dad when I was younger for no reason, then later I would get up and eat my fruits that my mom prepared for me lmao

  • @littleguy3389
    @littleguy3389 5 лет назад

    I wish I had seen this video sooner, it would’ve saved me from a lot of pain. Thanks for posting

  • @coachbahman
    @coachbahman 5 лет назад +32

    When spending time with someone costs you more energy than it gives you...
    That’s emotional blackmail.

    • @oldparchment3812
      @oldparchment3812 5 лет назад +1

      Really?!

    • @Max-bb7tu
      @Max-bb7tu 5 лет назад +7

      I’m just an introvert so spending time with practically anyone costs more energy than it gives me

    • @Nognamogo
      @Nognamogo 5 лет назад +1

      No its not. It could just be you're trying too hard and draining your energy that way.

    • @oldparchment3812
      @oldparchment3812 5 лет назад

      @@Nognamogo ooooh, san kyuu^^

  • @gemmahanley1716
    @gemmahanley1716 5 лет назад +1

    I was once. They said if I broke up with them, they would kill themselves. Didn't realise it was a form of abuse

  • @MsDakota7
    @MsDakota7 5 лет назад +32

    Does it qualify as blackmail if the person does it due to mental illnesses?

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  5 лет назад +11

      To the victim, perhaps.

    • @ferretrunner09
      @ferretrunner09 5 лет назад +42

      Mental illness isn’t a get out of free card for bad behavior. Most people with mental illnesses are quite aware of right from wrong.

    • @AishaVonFossen
      @AishaVonFossen 5 лет назад +4

      @@ferretrunner09 Yep, dido.

    • @lunadoggo9671
      @lunadoggo9671 4 года назад +6

      Yes. Mental illness should never be an excuse.

  • @pheeni9361
    @pheeni9361 5 лет назад

    Thank you so much for this video..
    I now have more understanding on a situation that happened to me years ago that still haunts me..

  • @gachaxy4215
    @gachaxy4215 5 лет назад +5

    This shows up in my recommendations just after a friend threatens to block me for wanting to be alone at the current time (and then does it). The scenario at the beginning with the two people on a phone call was something I identified with as she always wants to come over for a sleepover and sends me sad face emojis and messages until I say yes. My friend guilt trips me daily. She also gets me lots of nice presents which, while being nice, further makes me feel guilty. I don’t know if it is intentional or not half the time as she seems to know quite a bit about psychology (probably much more than me). I wonder if it’s all in my head. I wonder if it’s all that serious.

  • @betrix3000
    @betrix3000 2 года назад +1

    My issue is, when it's not used as a threat, just a known possibility and they actually follow through with it. Example:
    Me: I need to take some time for myself this evening.
    Friend: Okay.
    Friend: (self harms)
    Me: Why'd you do that?
    Friend: I missed you. It's hard to be away from you. But it's okay. You're back now!
    It's extremely hard, and I know it's not my fault, but still...

  • @anonymoususer6639
    @anonymoususer6639 5 лет назад +3

    If they would die because you wouldn't let them do some thing (this is referring to anyone's "friends") then they shouldn't be considered a friend.

  • @disneyprincessintraining2725
    @disneyprincessintraining2725 5 лет назад

    People used to do this to me a lot. Nowadays, when people try that or make threats to hurt themselves, I just tell them to tell me when they do it so I can watch. I’m a monster now.

  • @traygrimmobile586
    @traygrimmobile586 5 лет назад +3

    This vid has good animation

  • @_sunchildd
    @_sunchildd 3 года назад +1

    wooooow. i used to be so emotionally blackmailed holy shit. i’ve always known i was emotionally abused but never knew it went deeper. wow.

  • @Arctic_and_The_F0X
    @Arctic_and_The_F0X 5 лет назад +4

    I must know who did the artwork, it’s so cute.

  • @nessysparky6024
    @nessysparky6024 4 года назад

    They overstepped by boundaries, that I put in place and was comfortable with, and told me it’s love and it’s natural in a relationship and threatened to kill themselves multiple times, I left her three weeks ago and I’ve never felt more free

  • @athena9511
    @athena9511 5 лет назад +6

    What about a 'guilt trip' ?
    Is that also some sort of this abuse?

  • @BoothillIsCool
    @BoothillIsCool Год назад

    I just realized my own best friend was emotional blackmailing me but thank you for making this video I’ve learned so much!

  • @rain-nd3rj
    @rain-nd3rj 5 лет назад +10

    When my father is angry sometimes he says he will get divorce with mom and run away from home. He does it with me, my mom and my brother. Is that emotional blackmail?

    • @nashonholloway
      @nashonholloway 5 лет назад +1

      Just a loser with no boobs Yes.

    • @creeperYT9824
      @creeperYT9824 4 года назад

      Me too

    • @zebnemma
      @zebnemma 4 года назад +2

      Is that emotional blackmail? Yes. My BF used to threaten me that he would break up with me every time we got in a fight, but he never did. I told him that he can't say stuff like that because it's fucked up. But he didn't listen so I said I needed a break from him. I gave him another chance 1 month later and we are still together and he now understands what he did was fucked up. He has other negative tendencies that I hope we can sort out and he needs to listen to me when I tell him that something is unacceptable because I can't deal with a grown man that thinks that I'm nagging when I'm telling him that he's borderline abusive and doesn't take me seriously. I hope for the love of god he doesn't go back to his old ways because then I can't give him any more chances. And BTW your dad probably needs a royal scolding from your mom and your mom needs to either divorce him or atleast get away from him for a while just so that he knows that if he wishes for divorce so badly he might just get it. The fact that I'm even still with my BF is nothing short of a miracle because I was deadset 95% sure that I was gonna break up with him when we had the talk. So if anyone ever gets in the same situation that I was in I would tell them that their chances of making that relationship work is very slim. Maybe I'm just a pushover that gives people too many chances, maybe I should take my own advice instead of giving strangers advice. The future will tell if I made the right choice to give him another chance. Good luck to your mom and dads marriage but seriously your mom needs to do something dramatic to get your dads attention or else he will never get it into his thick skull that this shit is serious.

  • @skocznyszwab8467
    @skocznyszwab8467 5 лет назад

    The art is honestly adorable

  • @rivernichols8439
    @rivernichols8439 5 лет назад +3

    I would tell them to make sure the knife is sharp

  • @mariapaz6379
    @mariapaz6379 5 лет назад

    Me telling my baby brother if he doesnt clean his room i will stop loving him and will never talk to him in my life, worked like a charm every time.

  • @flamebro13
    @flamebro13 5 лет назад +16

    Can't have this if you never had a relationship ha.....
    Frick

  • @moppingpenguin7789
    @moppingpenguin7789 5 лет назад

    Understanding when you or someone else is doing this is a great way to improve your self.
    Ex: I used to be friends with every other kid in the neighborhood and often had to ask my mom to tell them I don’t want to play, and they mostly said “if you don’t play with me I won’t be your friend” not always towards me but I have a understanding of this for awhile.
    I’m no longer friends with any of them (reason is because I grew apart for them)

  • @eeeo2196
    @eeeo2196 5 лет назад +3

    Idk what it is yet till i finish the video but i’m sure it happened to me..
    thanks for educating us 😸
    Edit: yeah my mother 🤷‍♂️

    • @miael8394
      @miael8394 5 лет назад

      That's very sad to know. Could you share how was she exactly blackmailing you? And for what purpose?

    • @eeeo2196
      @eeeo2196 5 лет назад

      Mia El she used to threatened for leaving the house if something doesn’t happen the way she wants.. “even tho i wish she did” cuz I already live in a broken home that was n still this way even before i was born. n that a whole different this to talk about..
      also idk if this is relevant but she reminds me of the money she gives me n that i owe her.. which made me so humiliated n never take anything from her .. to a point where i stay hungry n not finding something to eat sometimes.. one time didn’t eat for a whole day.
      also idk if this is relevant as well... she makes me feel obligated only to not let me live my life n let me do a lot for her n buy things or anything to not to make me leave the house. n that has a past otherwise you’d think “ ohh she cares about you!” but no she doesn’t.. she’s so controlling n manipulative .. n when I started to set “fragile” boundaries she went crazy n was like if he OWNS me! .. it sucks n unfortunately i live in a country where parents are considered gods n goddesses n no one can say something bad about them n reach out otherwise ppl will look at you poorly..
      so basically if you got stuck with parents like mine who never talked to each other but through me for as long as I remember, then there is not way out for you. the best i’ve been able to do is to not talk to them at all .. cuz they never even make it easy for me to feel comfortable n safe n secure to talk n express myself growing up.. it’s just... some ppl are meant to just exist 🤷‍♂️ n never live

  • @tfpauliina
    @tfpauliina 5 лет назад

    I knew these all the time. Now I got prove this is not my imagination. Bravo.

  • @flooower26
    @flooower26 5 лет назад +26

    AM EARLYY! yieeePleasee Replyy! 😱😱🌸🌸❤️😂

  • @leahmollink3517
    @leahmollink3517 5 лет назад

    One of the worst parts of this is the fact that it is so difficult to be your own person. I'm out of it now, thank god, but it set me so far back. You learn that your happiness is way less important. If you're in this situation, please listen to what I'm about to say.
    You need to leave, I know it is so difficult and sometimes it's so easy to get back there after you've left, but please. Leaving the toxic situation I was in has been the best decision I've ever made. I'm getting emotional about this while I type, that just shows how much if affects you. It's been almost five months now, and I've wanted to give in so many times but I managed to stop myself.
    He called me out of the blue the other day to say he was sorry and he missed me. I almost gave in then, but I'm so thankful that I didn't. After that phone call I spoke to the girl he's with so she understands that he is so toxic, he denied it and said I never meant anything to him. She's still with him but I've done my part in warning her and I need to leave that. This no longer had much to do with me and the relief I felt was immaculate.
    He manipulated me for about a year and a half and I'm so thankful that I managed to get out.
    When I was in that, I couldn't be a good friend, student or daughter because all I ever cared about was him.
    If you take one thing out of your day, remember this:
    THEY ARE NOT GOING TO CHANGE. No matter how many times they say they will, they won't. Remember that. I've been in some tough situations but nothing else I've experienced compares to that. Stay safe
    Be giving, be kind, but be giving and kind to yourself first. Don't let them be the dictator of your life.
    I'm not a professional but if you want some advice on this or just someone to talk to, reply and I can send me email if you'd like.

  • @AtukNakal
    @AtukNakal 5 лет назад +12

    Both of my wives blackmail me emotionally almost everyday 😥

  • @juancarlovillanueva
    @juancarlovillanueva 5 лет назад

    I've experienced this before with my so-called bestfriend and I am so glad that our friendship ended. I'm still on recovery and trying to avoid any negativities that possibly comes to my life.

  • @ataraxila
    @ataraxila 5 лет назад +6

    fight abuse with abuse
    Edited: donttakethisseriously

  • @theartystar
    @theartystar 5 лет назад

    Gosh, I like this art style so much! This lip sync, I can't- 😍🖤✨

  • @peachiitea1541
    @peachiitea1541 5 лет назад +5

    Uwu

  • @meghan9436
    @meghan9436 5 лет назад

    Awesome to see that you're making this sort of information accessible to young people. I really think that mental health and wellness should be a mandatory course component in grade school. It's been fifteen years since I graduated from high school and times have changed a lot, but the courses that I took at that time were absolute garbage.

  • @lolanirvana
    @lolanirvana 5 лет назад +2

    First! I know nobody cares, but oh well!

    • @roseditslunasofficialyoutu9250
      @roseditslunasofficialyoutu9250 5 лет назад +1

      No your not the page doesn’t update every second unless you reload it so it’ll have the same amount of comments and likes until you reload it so your not first there are comments coming in every second and even if you reload it RUclips puts your comment on the top but only for you, in reality your lost in the sea of comments

    • @lolanirvana
      @lolanirvana 5 лет назад +1

      @@roseditslunasofficialyoutu9250 regardless, I was relatively early, as I clicked as soon as I got the notification. I've been in the middle of a manic episode which means I haven't slept for days, so I was awake when the video was posted.

    • @roseditslunasofficialyoutu9250
      @roseditslunasofficialyoutu9250 5 лет назад

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    • @lolanirvana
      @lolanirvana 5 лет назад

      @@roseditslunasofficialyoutu9250 What was the point of that video?

    • @roseditslunasofficialyoutu9250
      @roseditslunasofficialyoutu9250 5 лет назад

      Ky Ethredge it’s an inside joke

  • @runningsrage5895
    @runningsrage5895 5 лет назад

    It really is annoying when you tell someone that your not in the mood to hang out but they force you to hangout with them anyways.

  • @apollon8395
    @apollon8395 5 лет назад +7

    6 views and 50 likes. RUclips you trippin'?

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      @angryavocadoassassin8691 5 лет назад +1

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    • @pandachips17
      @pandachips17 5 лет назад

      Yeah it takes a while for RUclips to register what views are fake. It’s a really weird process where RUclips determines if a video is popular enough to check the view count and make sure it’s correct

  • @freeboxboy
    @freeboxboy 5 лет назад +1

    I love this animation style! I hope i see this in the future 💞

  • @Loonaurtheworld
    @Loonaurtheworld 5 лет назад +8

    6 views and 59 likes lmfao

  • @sunsetkitty2932
    @sunsetkitty2932 4 года назад

    This seems to always happen to me.
    It's bullshit that no one should have to go through.
    Tired of being held responsible for others whatever, they're in charge of their own whatever. 😤

  • @rainbowzzzplayzzz
    @rainbowzzzplayzzz 5 лет назад

    I have and it took me months to notice. A friend, who I was near everyday, would say things to me that really hurt my feelings and played it off as a joke. If I confronted him he would tell me that it was my fault, and then say "Everybody says I'm so mean I might as well runaway / kill myself." and a couple of times he would try to fake running away after getting off the bus. He also faked having depression by making jokes about death and self harm.