We're seventy plus. These are techniques we use in text and together. If you are healthy sex doesn't have to stop with age. Words and touch can build intimacy
Hi everyone :) My favorite takeaway is the first principle, giving a man a window into our feelings and thinking. This is the basis for all future steps. Without it, women won't get encouraged to send a voice message, a memo or anything mentioned in the video. No solid relationship without solid foundations :)
Great Video clip! Forgive me for butting in, I would appreciate your opinion. Have you thought about - Denaillor Wonderful Procedure (do a google search)? It is a good one off product for giving your partner an awesome hand job without the headache. Ive heard some super things about it and my buddy after many years got excellent success with it.
My favorite principle is the second one " use future pacing to draw men into connected experiences and feeling " I like it because it represent the feminin energy by allowing us to talk about our feelings and connect with our bodies and it needs
I've suffered so much with this truth. Before we broke up, my ex stopped liking me and finding me attractive. I thought I could spark his interest again by doing some of these fun, flirty forplay types of things. But nope. He was unrespinsive and it hurt so bad. Now I'm so hesitant to try being flirty again with someone else.
I posted in our group, how to keep things going, when separated. This was really helpful. This afternoon sent a pic of the envelope with sexy new clothes. It said “I’m here, let’z party.” Then a pic with the hot new items seductively arranged on my bed. He messaged me from work. Can’t wait to see those on you. I told him that I would get out of my quarantine PJ’s for him and send a pic wearing something tomorrow. I drew it out with a tease making him wait. Message from him just arrived. I’ve been dating unavailable guys. My new guy feels so different. I just have to avoid looking needy as I shelter in place. I can’t see my friends, work outside my home, or other activities to keep my life in place. He’s considered a first responder. I’m sheltering in place and he’s working. Hard to keep balance with me on ice over here. You Mat, have a tell. One ear gets red when you are talking about sexy topics. 😅
all your videos helped me grow emotionally with my new partner. Finally had a bf again after almost 10years! He came on the right time… Thank you so much!😊
I did that this morning. 😁 I thought it would be mysterious. Oooh, I acknowledged his wonderful actions that mean so much to me; #1) he asked me, if it hurt my feelings or angered me, that he needed some alone time at his camper at the Lake. I assured him, that it was fine with me. He asked me 4 more times, so that says to me, that he really, cared about how I felt about it. I thanked him, for it. #2) I thanked him, for his sincere apologizing for joking and hurting my feelings; he felt very bad, when he found out, that he hurt my feelings and he apologized, even after I'd told him, kindly, that I appreciated and accepted his apology.
Definitely principle numero uno for me ... allowing men to know the effect they have on me and them knowing and understanding my feelings. I have a tendency to forget this key principle because I’m so focused on their needs, wants and desires so I tend to push mine to the back burner and wonder why I feel so much frustration - this is key for me as this is one I need to create a mantra for to ensure I put this one into practise; the rest will inevitably follow suite. Thanks Mat.
I've always done these things before I even heard this advice. Not to trick or fool him but it's just the way I am. And I can tell you, this man knows what he's talking about. Men enjoy talking to me. I'll leave it at that. We'll, I enjoy talking to them too.
You are amazing and I just sent this texts and messages to my boyfriend and he was sound asleep but his cell phone vibrates and he saw my messages. You are so right, he was fully awake receiving my texts and he was so elated and he thought he was dreaming. It did bring a lightning bolt into his manhood. Lol... thank you so much :)
OMG Mat!! You are so right about the voice texts. I sent him one last night instead of my usual sexy tests. Let’s just say he got so turned on I’m sure he had to take care of himself!
I am so sexually advanced in technique and what I want I often think I can come across as intimidating to a new man. This helped me come back to earth with some ideas to get him warmed up better!
Hi Mat! My favorite take-away is using your voice in a message. We hide so much behind texts but I can see how a voice would resonate. I mean, who wouldn’t replay a voice message? 🙂 I also appreciate the future pacing idea of making a guy imagine... I think a text with an image of the past or future will make him respond quicker too! Thanks!! #MOC
This works if you already have a sexual relationship with a man. If you are beginning a relationship and it's stalling, this isn't working. Not having this conversation at this time.
#MOC I always walk away from your videos with the knowledge that I’m on the right path or learning a whole new different spin on how to touch my man’s inner feelings and making that connection with him on a one to one deep level of being open and excited on how we make each other feel by communicating our deep inner feelings as we grow as a couple and friendship level of being vulnerable which sometimes is such an exuberant feeling to share with someone. I absolutely love it thank you, Mat Shaffer, always learning on this path of enlightenment, oh yeah and taking that smile on my face with it priceless
Perhaps the reason why some people don't "get" it or don't "know" how to, is because they are trying to have a sextional relationship with someone without really loving that person. When people are in love the heart speaks much louder than the actions and the communication is heart to heart not "feelings" to "feelings"
Hello Mat, Jim's wife here. I'm curious about any other training that you have had in this area? You are a former attorney, but have you had any training in counseling? I am wondering? I do thank you for these informative videos. Using a voice text is easy and simple but can also be so powerful.
Mat, ohhhhhh how I wish I would have found you a long time ago! My favorite takeaways....voice texts and 4 steps to future pacing. My husband and I have been separated for 2 years and disconnected for a lot longer. I’ve been craving that connection and intimacy with him again, but nothing I’ve (we’ve) done thus far has gotten us there. If I would have seen this video 2 years ago, I would have been able to navigate building that intimacy and connection again. When you find yourself in that place, you become lost...you don’t know what to do or how to reconnect. You don’t realize...it’s really those simple gestures that bring that intimacy and connection back! Thanks for the video Mat! It was awesome!
Wow some really great pointers here. My bf asks me many exiting questions and he knows I’m turning him on. I have to take this into my thoughts and remember when I’m texting with him! Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts with us here.
I’m using your tips on my man serving in Syria. I leave him mushy several nights a week. It’s the most fun ever and pleases me to no end. Let’s just say it keeps us warm. Thanks Matt!
What if a man is in love with you and you work together/ and you’ve never touched. And the sexual tension is so powerful.and you are powerful. A spiritual connection. Actually, a love of my life. After the show was done,?we had a mesmerizing time. And he left with his friends.
Yes, I just tried the voice text. He loves it. I’m not ready to be romantic with anyone no time soon. Your cute tips seem to make the day beautiful for anyone. Thank you😊
I paused the Video to send him a message...lol...yes its on. No 4 works. I had this point last week and discovered he loves it when I say what he is to do...sexwise...
@@Mat_Shaffer thank you for your Videos. I have learned alot from you. Remember that time you talked about not behaving like his mother? I evaluated our relationship...and its true. I was always covering for him...telling him to do...etc...that was not healthy. Eg he hurt his calfs doing sports last week. When he called me about it, I felt sorry ofcourse and told him I wished him quick recovery. I let him deal with it..be a man instead of telling him do this do that which he is now doing on his own and the pain is almost gone. So thank you for your knowledge and time
I love your content on relationships, they’re so informative! Do you think you’ll ever make videos in your experience as an attorney? I’d find that really interesting, and I’m thinking about that field maybe
Two things: asking for feedback when you have revealed some of your desires to really engage him and get him to open up, and the voice texting! I usually just send funny voice notes to my girlfriends (typically after a few wobbly pops, ngl lol) but they are definitely an under used tool! Mat you made me laugh out loud with the manage himself in the bathroom comment too lol. #MOC
#MOC. Can you please make a video for those who are trying to date during the isolation? These techniques wouldn't be appropriate when you're looking for someone. It would be very helpful if you could help us navigate the new world of dating where you won't be going on a physical date anytime soon.
I like the future pacing but also the voice text. I never do voice text but I can see how it could be effective. Definitely going to use some of these tips ^_^
I like how in depth you describe everything , that you provide examples and also thought about sharing us links to pages and telling is how to use the voice clip. I am really surprised with your hardworking and willingness to share with everyone. You are the best honestly. I took away a lot from this video but I like the suggestive tease/picture or video . Thank-you so much for sharing #MOC
#moc my favorite takeaway was 2 things. Giving him space to respond. That feels like it would let him know that I was comfortable enough with him - to wait . The second was not assuming he knows that I like him or what he’s doing. I interpret my behaviour or responses according to my “inside knowledge” haha. He needs to be let in on that
Mat , I think 🤔🥰 you are infectiously positive about everyone who takes your advice 🙂 🥰 having the healthy feelings should have in a healthy relationship 🙂🥰 💐 You want the best for us but there are too many men who live for themselves
Thank you for this. Do you have similar tips for connecting emotionally/intellectually via text? I’ve been with my partner for 6 years, and he travels a lot for work. He actually does future pacing while he’s away but if I don’t feel emotionally/intellectually connected, it’s hard to respond positively to him. I’d be more inclined to sexiness if he asked me what I was feeling or what I’ve been reading/learning FIRST. Basically, ask me about the books I’m reading, and I’ll be hot n ready after we’ve CONNECTED.
So what about when he is not a very romantic guy…I send him a sensual text but usually just get a lovey emoji in response because he just doesn’t flirt over texts? It’s just hard to know if what I’m sending actually makes an impact!!
Mat, I have just found you and now binged on your videos. Super enjoying learning I am doing the right thing and you have also given me quite a few suggestions in the videos I have watched. I am going to be a little more subtle having turned 60 this year. So many thanks.
You are a God send Matt. It’s kinda funny and cute how guys like knowing what we like haha it’s like reassuring little boys but actually women need reassurance need too. I’ve never heard of figure pacing ! How fascinating !! #MOC
Well I think This was a good way to get a positive or negative response. No response at all-I’m extremely intuitive but I thought I would try this to get some sort of feeling-I just got it-none!! He’s gone!!
High vibration messages between myself and an online date that Ive not yet met ! LOVE the idea of the voice message - gorgeous way to message - thanks Mat :)
Thanks Matt! These seem great in a further established relationship I’m having a lot of first dates these days and would love some tips on using these techniques with more subtlety during the getting to know you phase
Lol that's funny Because I Absolutely Love Matt's Voice!!! That's the first thing I was soothed by. His Voice is Awesome to me.❤️🤗 Love your voice Mat!!!👍
Hello Mat, hope you are doing well. This is Jennifer, from a small city HK. I am so lucky to be your audience lately and knowing more about how to have a good relationship, specially in sex with man. I listened and followed. It was great. Could I have a question for you? It’s really made me feel suffered.
Another fun thing to do is send snail mail spritzed with perfume and "sealed with a kiss" ... it's been one of the more fun aspects of the social distancing thing #MOC
These ways of flirting are new to me and feel I need to build up to it. I am on the safe end of things. The memes might be the best way to start? Less vulnerable. Thanks for providing insight to these ways of flirting. Things to consider :) #MOC
#MOC I tend to do a lot of these things you stated! The two that I find very interesting and something Im going to try out is to use voice texts to drive him wild and suggestive "tease" pic or "video". I have been told that my voice is mesmerizing (not sure what they had meant by that). So I am going to try this! I am a huge tease lbvs... That just comes naturally but with these techniques Im curious to now how much of an affect it will have on a man! 😊 Thank you for all of the great advice! I wrote them all down in my #MOC notebook!😉 Thanks again, Matt!
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We're seventy plus. These are techniques we use in text and together. If you are healthy sex doesn't have to stop with age. Words and touch can build intimacy
YES love this Naomi!! So beautiful! :)
Thanks for the tip. I am 63 at present.
I agree with naomi…we are in our 70s and love our sex life…dating only a few months.. but a real connection has sparked a great relationship
Texting is fun…and easy to set a mood for our next meeting😊….
He sounds like a airline pilot.. It's amazing!
👨🏼✈️😂
Lmaoooo he gt a good voice
He does sound like a pilot. I really like his voice!
Lol..... Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to flight504🙂
😂
Hi everyone :) My favorite takeaway is the first principle, giving a man a window into our feelings and thinking. This is the basis for all future steps. Without it, women won't get encouraged to send a voice message, a memo or anything mentioned in the video. No solid relationship without solid foundations :)
Thanks for sharing!! love that!
Wow, a great reminder. In a long term relationship it’s easy to forget these things are still important ❤️
It really is!thanks so much!!
You said it there gurl! Either we forget it or we take things for granted! I am.not going to let that happen! Mat is my idol
Such beautiful voice omg!
Listen to him with eyes closed...
Thanks for sharing!
1:05 principles
2:38 Future Experience Feeling Statement
3:50 Future Action Statement
4:05 Present Sensation Statement
4:40 Present Sensation Question
5:32 Sexy Questions
7:26 Multimedia
7:50 Voice Texts
9:25 Suggestive Photo
10:48 Sexy/Funny Memes
I hope it helps.
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Great Video clip! Forgive me for butting in, I would appreciate your opinion. Have you thought about - Denaillor Wonderful Procedure (do a google search)? It is a good one off product for giving your partner an awesome hand job without the headache. Ive heard some super things about it and my buddy after many years got excellent success with it.
My favorite principle is the second one " use future pacing to draw men into connected experiences and feeling " I like it because it represent the feminin energy by allowing us to talk about our feelings and connect with our bodies and it needs
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QUESTION OF THE DAY - What are your favorite playful ways to turn a guy on over text?
I would start with a meme or something and then start provoking him with sexy comments and let him wander with his mind... hehehe!
I text him a pic of what he is missing 🥰
Talking softly and moaning a bit to let him know I am impatient to have his hands on me.
Flirt by describing parts of a motor ! #moc
#moc I send a photo with a tilted head. Soft makeup. Pig tails and a crooked grin followed with ...😈
If he does not like you and thinks you are not attractive, then it does not matter what you do. Nothing will turn him on.
I've suffered so much with this truth. Before we broke up, my ex stopped liking me and finding me attractive. I thought I could spark his interest again by doing some of these fun, flirty forplay types of things. But nope. He was unrespinsive and it hurt so bad. Now I'm so hesitant to try being flirty again with someone else.
You are so friggin’ right 🧚🏻♀️
Then its time to move on
I think this advice is for couples who have attraction for each other. Find someone who likes you, then apply .
Thanks so much for your feedback!
I posted in our group, how to keep things going, when separated. This was really helpful. This afternoon sent a pic of the envelope with sexy new clothes. It said “I’m here, let’z party.” Then a pic with the hot new items seductively arranged on my bed. He messaged me from work. Can’t wait to see those on you. I told him that I would get out of my quarantine PJ’s for him and send a pic wearing something tomorrow. I drew it out with a tease making him wait. Message from him just arrived.
I’ve been dating unavailable guys. My new guy feels so different. I just have to avoid looking needy as I shelter in place. I can’t see my friends, work outside my home, or other activities to keep my life in place. He’s considered a first responder. I’m sheltering in place and he’s working. Hard to keep balance with me on ice over here.
You Mat, have a tell. One ear gets red when you are talking about sexy topics. 😅
And his pupils dilate! 😍
😂 Oh crap! 😊 I've been found out!
@@Mat_Shaffer LOL😝😉😏
@@tabithathewholistic yep i noticr that rvery time as well
all your videos helped me grow emotionally with my new partner. Finally had a bf again after almost 10years! He came on the right time…
Thank you so much!😊
I'm so glad! You are so welcome Maricel 🥰❤️✨
I did that this morning. 😁
I thought it would be mysterious. Oooh, I acknowledged his wonderful actions that mean so much to me;
#1) he asked me, if it hurt my feelings or angered me, that he needed some alone time at his camper at the Lake. I assured him, that it was fine with me. He asked me 4 more times, so that says to me, that he really, cared about how I felt about it. I thanked him, for it.
#2) I thanked him, for his sincere apologizing for joking and hurting my feelings; he felt very bad, when he found out, that he hurt my feelings and he apologized, even after I'd told him, kindly, that I appreciated and accepted his apology.
I’m so happy for you my dear!
Thanks Mat. You don’t know how much you helped me in my long distance relationship. Thank you so much!
Hello to whom it may concern I can recomend you to someone that helpedme get my ex back recently he can also help you just as he did mine too
Contact him on whtzapp
Happy to help!
Definitely principle numero uno for me ... allowing men to know the effect they have on me and them knowing and understanding my feelings. I have a tendency to forget this key principle because I’m so focused on their needs, wants and desires so I tend to push mine to the back burner and wonder why I feel so much frustration - this is key for me as this is one I need to create a mantra for to ensure I put this one into practise; the rest will inevitably follow suite. Thanks Mat.
Thanks for the beautiful share K Sio 🙏
I've always done these things before I even heard this advice. Not to trick or fool him but it's just the way I am. And I can tell you, this man knows what he's talking about. Men enjoy talking to me. I'll leave it at that. We'll, I enjoy talking to them too.
Thanks for sharing!
You are amazing and I just sent this texts and messages to my boyfriend and he was sound asleep but his cell phone vibrates and he saw my messages. You are so right, he was fully awake receiving my texts and he was so elated and he thought he was dreaming. It did bring a lightning bolt into his manhood. Lol... thank you so much :)
I’m so happy for you my dear!
OMG Mat!! You are so right about the voice texts. I sent him one last night instead of my usual sexy tests. Let’s just say he got so turned on I’m sure he had to take care of himself!
😂
No mobile phones! Get close, deep eye contact "Tell him what you want now!!"
Interesting perspective, thanks so much!
EXACTLY!!! ❤
This video is pure gold. I’m smiling!
Can’t wait to try more new things (as soon as stay at home order goes away!)
Wooh. Thanks Mat
Have fun!
Pure gold...
I am so sexually advanced in technique and what I want I often think I can come across as intimidating to a new man. This helped me come back to earth with some ideas to get him warmed up better!
Thanks for sharing!
Plz guide me I will learn some technique's from u 😢
Oh my god. I was so clueless. This video is so informative. I love it. Will try later.
Glad it was helpful!
Long distance relationship is going to benefit.. he's a 10 hour drive away... I love the voice clip idea.. speaking slowly and sighing alot
Thanks for Sharing!
This was super helpful and left me feeling empowered. I can’t wait to use these tips with my man.
Glad to hear it!
The present sensation question is amazing. I can feel how it invites a man in.
Glad you like it!
You have the best relationship coaching content that i have ever seen...keep up great 👍
Thank you so much, I really appreciate hearing that from you. 🙌❤️
idk why am i watching this when im single for a fact..but this is informative i must say.😅
Thanks for sharing!
I love flirting through texts! And memes are the best way to start the conversation and tease! Hehehe!
That's great!
Hi Mat! My favorite take-away is using your voice in a message. We hide so much behind texts but I can see how a voice would resonate. I mean, who wouldn’t replay a voice message? 🙂
I also appreciate the future pacing idea of making a guy imagine... I think a text with an image of the past or future will make him respond quicker too! Thanks!!
#MOC
Love that!
I like the parts about "flirting" and "teasing". I'm modest but good at using GIFS and playful comments. #MOC
You got this!
This works if you already have a sexual relationship with a man. If you are beginning a relationship and it's stalling, this isn't working. Not having this conversation at this time.
Exactly you got it Marnie Williams!
#MOC I always walk away from your videos with the knowledge that I’m on the right path or learning a whole new different spin on how to touch my man’s inner feelings and making that connection with him on a one to one deep level of being open and excited on how we make each other feel by communicating our deep inner feelings as we grow as a couple and friendship level of being vulnerable which sometimes is such an exuberant feeling to share with someone. I absolutely love it thank you, Mat Shaffer, always learning on this path of enlightenment, oh yeah and taking that smile on my face with it priceless
You are so welcome swanerly! 🙏
I cannot believe that there actually is a need for a video chat to tell people in love how to act or respond towards the person they love😮😮
Thanks so much for your feedback!
Perhaps the reason why some people don't "get" it or don't "know" how to, is because they are trying to have a sextional relationship with someone without really loving that person. When people are in love the heart speaks much louder than the actions and the communication is heart to heart not "feelings" to "feelings"
My favorite takeaway from this is future pacing! It’s perfect for this time during Covid19 😊
Love that!
Hello Mat, Jim's wife here. I'm curious about any other training that you have had in this area? You are a former attorney, but have you had any training in counseling? I am wondering? I do thank you for these informative videos. Using a voice text is easy and simple but can also be so powerful.
Thank you so much! Many more informative videos to come, Don't miss it🙌❤️
I'm not cellphone savvy, I just learned how to make a video I can't wait to put this in action 🎉
Thanks for sharing!
Mat, ohhhhhh how I wish I would have found you a long time ago! My favorite takeaways....voice texts and 4 steps to future pacing. My husband and I have been separated for 2 years and disconnected for a lot longer. I’ve been craving that connection and intimacy with him again, but nothing I’ve (we’ve) done thus far has gotten us there. If I would have seen this video 2 years ago, I would have been able to navigate building that intimacy and connection again. When you find yourself in that place, you become lost...you don’t know what to do or how to reconnect. You don’t realize...it’s really those simple gestures that bring that intimacy and connection back! Thanks for the video Mat! It was awesome!
You are so welcome Erika Jimenez-Benjamin! 🙏
No need to make him turn on he has no time because he is busy with other women
Danke, für diese Offenheit. Endlich höre ich wie ein Mann fühlt und denkt!
You are so welcome Beatrice❤️ I hope it helps🙌🙏
@@Mat_Shaffer it definitely did !!☺️
Wow some really great pointers here. My bf asks me many exiting questions and he knows I’m turning him on. I have to take this into my thoughts and remember when I’m texting with him! Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts with us here.
Glad it was helpful!
This is literally word play combined with imagination omg 😂😂🌚🔥👅
😂
@@Mat_Shaffer ikr!!
I’m using your tips on my man serving in Syria. I leave him mushy several nights a week. It’s the most fun ever and pleases me to no end. Let’s just say it keeps us warm. Thanks Matt!
This is an inspiring story!
@@Mat_Shaffer yes he’s inspired several times weekly. Lol. Thank you 😊
What if a man is in love with you and you work together/ and you’ve never touched. And the sexual tension is so powerful.and you are powerful. A spiritual connection. Actually, a love of my life. After the show was done,?we had a mesmerizing time. And he left with his friends.
thanks for sharing! it's a great connection:)
Yes, I just tried the voice text. He loves it. I’m not ready to be romantic with anyone no time soon. Your cute tips seem to make the day beautiful for anyone. Thank you😊
You’re welcome 😊
Omg "manage himself" love it Mat!🤣
Thanks for the tips! 😉
I also laughed out loud at this lol
You're so welcome!
I paused the Video to send him a message...lol...yes its on. No 4 works. I had this point last week and discovered he loves it when I say what he is to do...sexwise...
Exactly you got it Sophia Murugi!
@@Mat_Shaffer thank you for your Videos. I have learned alot from you. Remember that time you talked about not behaving like his mother? I evaluated our relationship...and its true. I was always covering for him...telling him to do...etc...that was not healthy. Eg he hurt his calfs doing sports last week. When he called me about it, I felt sorry ofcourse and told him I wished him quick recovery. I let him deal with it..be a man instead of telling him do this do that which he is now doing on his own and the pain is almost gone. So thank you for your knowledge and time
#MOC my lightbulb moment was the using of voice message !! Omg yes !!! Powerful ! Thank you Mat 😊
You are so welcome
Mat I love all your videos and I learned so much from you. Thanks for this video.
Thanks so much my dear!
I love your content on relationships, they’re so informative! Do you think you’ll ever make videos in your experience as an attorney? I’d find that really interesting, and I’m thinking about that field maybe
Possibly!
Hi thnx hei ..
Now I'm actually thinking about Carly Simon and the song she sings ,anticipation
Anticipation is very exciting
Thanks for sharing!
I love that you are so specific!!!!!
Thanks so much 김예린! 🙏❤️
Mat , you have amazing eyes! And I love your videos! Thank you 🙏🏻
Thanks so much!
Two things: asking for feedback when you have revealed some of your desires to really engage him and get him to open up, and the voice texting! I usually just send funny voice notes to my girlfriends (typically after a few wobbly pops, ngl lol) but they are definitely an under used tool! Mat you made me laugh out loud with the manage himself in the bathroom comment too lol. #MOC
HA thanks Sarita!!
The managing himself in the bathroom, I laughed so hard. 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Great suggestions.. and when did dating become so much work?!
EXACTLY!!! 😂😂😂
Are guys watching videos like this for us 🤔😂 I’m so single but binging these videos like I’m not
They most definitely are.
Thanks so much for your feedback!
You are a cornucopia of pleasures. Keep them coming. Haven't been mundane yet.
Thank you for your kind words! ❤❤❤
#MOC. Can you please make a video for those who are trying to date during the isolation? These techniques wouldn't be appropriate when you're looking for someone. It would be very helpful if you could help us navigate the new world of dating where you won't be going on a physical date anytime soon.
Thanks for the topic suggestion Stefanie Kraus - it's going on my list!
I like the future pacing but also the voice text. I never do voice text but I can see how it could be effective. Definitely going to use some of these tips ^_^
That's great!
Love the idea of sending a suggestive photo- like the handcuff image- that’s fun and unique! Thank you for the ideas! #MOC
You are so welcome!
I like how in depth you describe everything , that you provide examples and also thought about sharing us links to pages and telling is how to use the voice clip.
I am really surprised with your hardworking and willingness to share with everyone.
You are the best honestly.
I took away a lot from this video but I like the suggestive tease/picture or video .
Thank-you so much for sharing
#MOC
You are so welcome Delia G! 🙏
#moc my favorite takeaway was 2 things. Giving him space to respond. That feels like it would let him know that I was comfortable enough with him - to wait . The second was not assuming he knows that I like him or what he’s doing. I interpret my behaviour or responses according to my “inside knowledge” haha. He needs to be let in on that
Yes!
Being playful......is about opening up........hey it's about new discovery and horizons......✨️
Glad to hear that.
Mat , I think 🤔🥰 you are infectiously positive about everyone who takes your advice 🙂 🥰 having the healthy feelings should have in a healthy relationship 🙂🥰 💐 You want the best for us but there are too many men who live for themselves
Thanks so much my dear! Thanks so much my dear!
@@Mat_Shaffer You are welcome 🙂
Mat your videos are are always amazing it looks like I'm on the right side I'm already doing them, the chemistry in our relationship it's on 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
I’m happy this resonated with you!
Always tell him how much you appreciate him
Thanks for sharing!
So cute that men think they are in charge. Thank you for the hints!!!
Yes they are! Thanks 🥰
Thank you for this. Do you have similar tips for connecting emotionally/intellectually via text? I’ve been with my partner for 6 years, and he travels a lot for work. He actually does future pacing while he’s away but if I don’t feel emotionally/intellectually connected, it’s hard to respond positively to him. I’d be more inclined to sexiness if he asked me what I was feeling or what I’ve been reading/learning FIRST. Basically, ask me about the books I’m reading, and I’ll be hot n ready after we’ve CONNECTED.
My pleasure!
So what about when he is not a very romantic guy…I send him a sensual text but usually just get a lovey emoji in response because he just doesn’t flirt over texts? It’s just hard to know if what I’m sending actually makes an impact!!
Thanks for sharing!
Eyes so blue I can drown in them 💙
Aw shucks!
Just found you,Mat ...so now I know why I've been single for 26 yrs.😂thanks for the insight.
Thanks for sharing!
My favorite relationship coach! 👩💻
Thank you so much, I really appreciate hearing that from you.
He really knows what’s up😹
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Mat, I have just found you and now binged on your videos. Super enjoying learning I am doing the right thing and you have also given me quite a few suggestions in the videos I have watched. I am going to be a little more subtle having turned 60 this year. So many thanks.
Awesome, thank you!
You are a God send Matt. It’s kinda funny and cute how guys like knowing what we like haha it’s like reassuring little boys but actually women need reassurance need too. I’ve never heard of figure pacing ! How fascinating !! #MOC
I appreciate that!
You have a new subscriber 🙋🏻♀️😉
Yay! Thank you!
Well I think This was a good way to get a positive or negative response. No response at all-I’m extremely intuitive but I thought I would try this to get some sort of feeling-I just got it-none!! He’s gone!!
Thanks for sharing!
Hi, Love this so much😘really works for us. Thank you so much.
I’m glad to hear everything worked out well.
High vibration messages between myself and an online date that Ive not yet met ! LOVE the idea of the voice message - gorgeous way to message - thanks Mat :)
You are so welcome!
Omg ! Thank you so much ❤ I suck at communication and I really love my man and want to make it . We’re soulmates but don’t know how to communicate 😭😭
You're welcome ❤
Cool but in my opinión and Experience bit too much in First dates
iwill run away instantly yaay guys dont like to be chased
Thanks Matt! These seem great in a further established relationship
I’m having a lot of first dates these days and would love some tips on using these techniques with more subtlety during the getting to know you phase
Thanks so much my dear!
Hello Mat. I love all of your advice they are really helpful. I wonder if you could give advice on how to write a love letter to a guy? Thanks Emma
Great suggestion!
Thank you Matt cuz my hubby working down south I’m back home it’s really lonely this is amazing thank you so much
You're very welcome:)
Aaah yes voice texting...I am going to do that
Awesome!
Mat I love you and the way you talk and explain .
Awwww shucks! 😊
@@Mat_Shaffer Did I say something wrong ? 😆😏 Anyways thanks Mat you are the best .👍🏼
In a long distance relationship, how often should you do this?
Keep the lines of communication open, be patient with each other, and continue to prioritize your relationship.
Lol that's funny Because I Absolutely Love Matt's Voice!!! That's the first thing I was soothed by. His Voice is Awesome to me.❤️🤗 Love your voice Mat!!!👍
I so appreciate you saying that - that was so sweet of you!
Perfect. Just what I needed.
Thank you.
You're welcome!
This is awesome. I can't wait to use these techniques today❤
Glad you like it!
Hello Mat, hope you are doing well.
This is Jennifer, from a small city HK.
I am so lucky to be your audience lately and knowing more about how to have a good relationship, specially in sex with man. I listened and followed. It was great.
Could I have a question for you?
It’s really made me feel suffered.
Thank you for watching I’m happy this resonated with you!❤️
Matt you're a geek, in a very good way.
Thanks!
Another fun thing to do is send snail mail spritzed with perfume and "sealed with a kiss" ... it's been one of the more fun aspects of the social distancing thing #MOC
Love it!
Definitely going to take these tips on board Thankyou Mat 😊
You're welcome! ❤️
Wow mat am so grateful every day l listen to your videos they motivate thanks
Happy to hear that! ❤
you almost never blink
I appreciate your opinion on this!
These ways of flirting are new to me and feel I need to build up to it. I am on the safe end of things. The memes might be the best way to start? Less vulnerable. Thanks for providing insight to these ways of flirting. Things to consider :) #MOC
You got this!
These are my types of videos 😍
glad you enjoyed it :)
#MOC I tend to do a lot of these things you stated! The two that I find very interesting and something Im going to try out is to use voice texts to drive him wild and suggestive "tease" pic or "video". I have been told that my voice is mesmerizing (not sure what they had meant by that). So I am going to try this! I am a huge tease lbvs... That just comes naturally but with these techniques Im curious to now how much of an affect it will have on a man! 😊 Thank you for all of the great advice! I wrote them all down in my #MOC notebook!😉 Thanks again, Matt!
You are so welcome Chelsey Sorah! 🙏
Wow! Love your videos!
LOVE THIS Mat! Thanks
You're so welcome!