7 Subtle Touches That Send SHIVERS Down His Spine!

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  • Опубликовано: 23 ноя 2024

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  • @Mat_Shaffer
    @Mat_Shaffer  9 месяцев назад +24

    QUESTION OF THE DAY - what types of soft or subtle touch to you love to share with men?? Let me know in the comments!
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    • @kahalacromwell9741
      @kahalacromwell9741 8 месяцев назад

      Kiss to forehead, slap on the bum, thigh caresses, stomach and chest kisses, shoulder kisses, footsies, entwining yourself around him, massaging his feet and hand, holding him to your breast, rubbing your face against his gentle, blowing into his ear, nibbling his ear, just go with the way you feel. That’s all.

    • @ksisu1324
      @ksisu1324 3 месяца назад

      Tacing 😊my finger lightly down his spine

    • @deborahschultz8960
      @deborahschultz8960 2 месяца назад

      I really liked this video on touch.

    • @ksisu1324
      @ksisu1324 2 месяца назад

      Great video on touch

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Месяц назад

      @@deborahschultz8960 “So happy you liked the video! 😊 If you’re interested, I’m actually hosting a FREE live coaching course on love and relationships next month. It’s a beta launch, and it’s going to be packed with insights to help deepen your connections. Check it out and join us here: masteryofconnection.com/ 💖✨”

  • @marthahardie
    @marthahardie 8 месяцев назад +313

    During my late husband's final days with Alzheimer dementia, I would touch my forehead to his and he would smile. I had started this gesture with him before he became bedridden. He responded and I have to feel there was something sweet he remembered that made him smile. I cry when I write this.

    • @TahoeSnowbird
      @TahoeSnowbird 8 месяцев назад +27

      I am so sorry for you both. I believe he knew you were there and appreciated your caring for him. My late Mom who I cared for had Alzheimer for many years. I was the primary care giver. For years before she passed away she only recognized me as someone who took care of her. She didn't remember me as her daughter. But the days before she passed away, she recognized my voice as I whispered in her ears and squeezed my hand in acknowledgement.

    • @angelagraczyk2123
      @angelagraczyk2123 8 месяцев назад +13

      Blessings to you.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  8 месяцев назад +11

      Thank you for sharing!

    • @AngelinaRomero
      @AngelinaRomero 3 месяца назад +4

      This is so beautiful. i am so glad that you figured it out. Sweet

    • @MaryGoga-hp5zo
      @MaryGoga-hp5zo 2 месяца назад +5

      I cried when I read this. How sweet of you.

  • @IM-uh5tk
    @IM-uh5tk 9 месяцев назад +358

    2:06 feather-soft face caress
    3:04 neck nape graze
    4:18 fingers through hair
    5:21 surprise hug from behind
    6:27 gentle hand squeeze
    7:45 run your fingers up and down the spine
    8:43 forehead connection
    9:59 warmth of your breath

    • @ofirshalom3853
      @ofirshalom3853 9 месяцев назад +13

      Thank you! ❤❤

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  9 месяцев назад +15

      Thanks so much my dear!

    • @654Tennis
      @654Tennis 8 месяцев назад +5

      Doing the Lord's work, thank you! 🙌

    • @Mockduck2020
      @Mockduck2020 3 месяца назад

      That’s 8!

    • @Mockduck2020
      @Mockduck2020 3 месяца назад +1

      My last beau would get so mad if I touched his butt…some kind of Mexican homophobia he claimed but eventually I just became afraid to touch him.

  • @deborahortwine5283
    @deborahortwine5283 9 месяцев назад +280

    I am a very touchy-feely kind of person. Anytime I would walk past my late husband if he was sitting watching television or reading or whatever he was doing if I’m walking past him, I am touching him as I go. That would just grab his attention, thinking that I wanted something from him but I said no that’s just passing little love onto you, every time I did that afterwards, he just knew that here comes more love

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  9 месяцев назад +33

      YES that's so activating! He was lucky to have you as his partner :)

    • @GenRN
      @GenRN 8 месяцев назад +12

      What a sweet relationship.

    • @deborahortwine5283
      @deborahortwine5283 8 месяцев назад +15

      @@GenRN it was, but he took his life just over 13 years ago, I don’t know why and I can’t question it because I’ll never know

    • @susanwalker3454
      @susanwalker3454 8 месяцев назад +2

      Love that

    • @susanwalker3454
      @susanwalker3454 8 месяцев назад +10

      I'm so sorry to hear that Deborah

  • @rebekahodell7186
    @rebekahodell7186 8 месяцев назад +159

    I was married 14 years to a man who hated touch and PDA would only like it during sex... now divorced and getting back into the dating world, your videos have helped me so much. I am realizing how being with my ex had me conditioned to hold back my touch. Im now dating a new man who LOVES touch and PDA ... i feel like I'm freee again and no longer holding back my urges to be affectionate and in return feel so wanted and nurtured myself! 🎉🎉🎉 im so happy now and wonder WTF i was doing in a touchless marriage for so long! Haha i love touch!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  8 месяцев назад +8

      I’m so glad this helped you!

    • @Angrymobs62
      @Angrymobs62 8 месяцев назад +12

      Dangerous marrying wrong person

    • @Erin-c7k
      @Erin-c7k 8 месяцев назад +5

      Same! I didn't even realize physical touch was one of my love languages, until I met my current boyfriend.

    • @juliechildress8905
      @juliechildress8905 8 месяцев назад +4

      I was in a similar situation while I was in my 20s. Touch is another form of communication.

    • @lillywitch978
      @lillywitch978 6 месяцев назад

      So happy for you

  • @carolinereidartist
    @carolinereidartist 9 месяцев назад +95

    A hug when you first meet breaks all the nerves you have in meeting a stranger

  • @joiluckadoo-villa9601
    @joiluckadoo-villa9601 9 месяцев назад +65

    I agree with all of these. Pay attention ladies bc the men send these messages the same way. I didnt realize my "friend" had feelings until he starting reaching for my hands across the table and looking in my eyes. We have always just been good friends.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  9 месяцев назад +5

      yeah so true... nonverbal communication is super powerful!

    • @andersnielsen6044
      @andersnielsen6044 8 месяцев назад +4

      Well a male would not be around you as a "friend" if he did not have feelings for you.. That is just not happening!

    • @shwa8920
      @shwa8920 8 месяцев назад

      One of my best male friends in college was 100% just a friend. Neither of us had feelings for the other one that were in the least bit romantic. We are both married with kids now and still the best of friends.@@andersnielsen6044

    • @a.d.b535
      @a.d.b535 3 месяца назад

      Yes Ma'am

    • @lmiller1413
      @lmiller1413 3 месяца назад +1

      Lucky you. Take him off the market

  • @KathyPricer
    @KathyPricer 6 месяцев назад +58

    My husband and I knew each other in high school. 25 years later, we ran into each other again in a 12-step program. We spoke a few times at meetings, basically just saying hi. I was newly sober and he had about two years of sobriety. At the time I had no thoughts about having a relationship with him. Not too long after we came back into contact, he was speaking very emotionally at a meeting about having just found out that his teenage son (whom he had not been able to see growing up, but had just started having contact with and getting to know)had recently been killed in a rock climbing fall. I immediately got up and went and sat down beside him and took ahold of his hand as a way to try to comfort and support him and just sat there holding his hand as he continued sharing. Powerful stuff - a little over two years later we got married. Now he's got 23 years and Ive got 21 years of sobriety. We've had rocky places in our marriage, but we have been best friends since that day and always will be.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  6 месяцев назад +2

      AMAZING love that share!!:)

  • @zensvlognotapro
    @zensvlognotapro 9 месяцев назад +52

    There's a healing power of a touch .😊🙌

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  9 месяцев назад +3

      I appreciate your opinion on this!

    • @zensvlognotapro
      @zensvlognotapro 9 месяцев назад +2

      @@Mat_Shaffer thanks I appreciate you too Mat . I learn something from you the Rise in Love 😁

  • @TheAttractionTriggers
    @TheAttractionTriggers 9 месяцев назад +59

    *True love comes quietly, without banners or flashing lights. If you hear bells, get your ears checked.*

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  9 месяцев назад

      Thanks so much for your feedback!

    • @purpleplumtrinkets
      @purpleplumtrinkets 21 день назад

      The person I connected with a few months ago,made the bells go away ☺️

  • @MsGigi777
    @MsGigi777 9 месяцев назад +44

    Love this, Mat! Thank you for the reminder that men are not just about going straight for the ‘bread basket’ as you put it (I’m stealing that) 😆

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  9 месяцев назад +4

      HAHA steal away im glad it serves you!

  • @Musicisthelanguageoflove
    @Musicisthelanguageoflove 8 месяцев назад +30

    Matt is so right about a man's reaction telling it all. I went on a date with a guy who said in words he wanted a relationship and wanted affection from me. I touched his hand as we walked along and he freaked out, pulled his hand abruptly away, and felt so uncomfortable he had to go home, and just left me standing there....... He was still in love with his ex wife and was trying to push himself forward to move on when he wasn't really ready to. ..... But his natural reaction said it all to both himself and me.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Месяц назад +1

      Wow, that’s such a powerful example of how actions speak louder than words. Sounds like his reaction really did tell you everything you needed to know. 😬 It’s great that you recognized it and didn’t settle for less than what you deserve! By the way, if you’re interested, I’m hosting a FREE live coaching love + relationship course next month. It’s a great opportunity to dive deeper into these kinds of insights and join the beta launch! You can learn more and sign up here: masteryofconnection.com/ 💖✨

  • @noremac0123456789
    @noremac0123456789 5 месяцев назад +30

    This was heartbreaking in a way….I did all this and more but rarely if ever did I ever receive anything similar in return.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  5 месяцев назад +9

      Don’t give up on love sister!

    • @KimberlyPhillips-zv6bi
      @KimberlyPhillips-zv6bi 3 месяца назад +7

      I'm finding out those men are narcissists...

    • @lmiller1413
      @lmiller1413 3 месяца назад +3

      Same. Also says " get away" and push off in some way. He found it irritating.

    • @Sunshine-ms8ce
      @Sunshine-ms8ce 4 дня назад

      ​@@lmiller1413he's gotta another woman doing all that and loves it!!! I promise!!!! Don't be stupid like i was for awhile!😂

  • @HappyMonkey11
    @HappyMonkey11 6 месяцев назад +15

    My man was cooking dinner for me. I was stading off to the side, just observing him and washing dishes. I pinched his but ever so softly, and he LOVED it!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  6 месяцев назад +1

      Amazing! love hearing that!

    • @mistyblue5386
      @mistyblue5386 3 месяца назад

      And a little kiss 💋 there

  • @lindadeise4575
    @lindadeise4575 9 месяцев назад +17

    Thank you Mat again for your wisdom. I do know too my boyfriend also loves having his back scratched. He just melts ❤

  • @creepypisces83
    @creepypisces83 9 месяцев назад +71

    A squeeze of the bicep when your hugging or kissing is well recieved 😊

  • @annamassek9064
    @annamassek9064 8 месяцев назад +25

    I can’t wait until I can touch my man😊😮

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  8 месяцев назад +1

      Thanks so much for your feedback!

  • @Stacy-xw2eg
    @Stacy-xw2eg 5 месяцев назад +17

    My man was sitting in a chair outside I went inside and when I came back out I came up behind him and wrapped my arms around his chest and kissed his neck softly. And he placed his hands on mine and I could tell he loved it. Also have ran my fingers up and down the spine of my man he went crazy.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  5 месяцев назад +3

      You’re fabulous! Thanks for sharing your thoughts and spreading the love. 💖

  • @AngelinaRomero
    @AngelinaRomero 3 месяца назад +5

    I love the advise to hug from behind. It is so powerful

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  3 месяца назад

      I love hearing from you! Your words light up my screen. ✨

  • @kendregab7328
    @kendregab7328 7 месяцев назад +9

    All these touches are amazing and totally relatable in relationship. My boyfriend loves it when I run my fingers through his hair especially after he gets his monthly haircut. He pouts when I forgot to do it when I see him it's very cute. He giggles and smiles the whole time. I also randomly grab his butt and he giggles( he's ticklish like me ). He also loves holding my hand with hand squeezes and I do it too especially when we are in a crowd since I'm much shorter than him he doesn't want to loose me. I also give him hugs from behind and front( he's taller than me by 6 inches so I feel like I'm hugging a tree). The slow back traces makes him giggle and melt when we're cuddling and definitely helps start foreplay when we're making out, along with the warm breath in his ear and fingers through his hair. It's my foreplay triangle I call it 😂 I agree the forehead connection is super deep and very connecting. I feel like that is the deepest touch out of all especially after a good emotional talk or activity. Thanks for sharing Mat 🤗

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  7 месяцев назад

      Amazing my dear so so happy for you

  • @loriengoedhart3898
    @loriengoedhart3898 9 месяцев назад +24

    These are all great tips, thanks Matt. One of my favourite parts of a man is his arms and I love to massage and feel the strength of his muscles. Tell me, what effect does this have for a man?

    • @rainbowgoddess777
      @rainbowgoddess777 9 месяцев назад +3

      Gemini's love it.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  9 месяцев назад +11

      YES massaging his muscles is very empowering and activating to his masculinity! It’s super hot!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  9 месяцев назад +2

      Haha I bet they do!!

    • @loriengoedhart3898
      @loriengoedhart3898 9 месяцев назад +14

      @Mat_Shaffer good to know. To me, there is nothing better than being wrapped up in a man's loving arms

  • @Conscious59
    @Conscious59 9 месяцев назад +13

    Oh my, these were all great tips! I filed them all under 'M' for Memory! Thank you Mat!

  • @robyncaddy8887
    @robyncaddy8887 7 месяцев назад +3

    Your videos are absolutely amazing Mat
    I was married for 32 years to a man who was emotionally unavailable no touch or hugs ever
    Now im with my younger man we are so affectionate with each other i realise how starved of affection until now
    Ps
    I left my ex 20
    Years ago
    Years ago

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  7 месяцев назад +1

      I’m so happy for you my dear!

  • @juliaweinberg7336
    @juliaweinberg7336 8 месяцев назад +4

    Once again Matt,
    Clearly, intelligently, thoughtfully, and sensually conveyed in such a heartfelt way!
    Wishing you continued success and I feel as though I found a new ally on What is for me, a new dating path after widowhood.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  8 месяцев назад

      Thank you for your kind words, they truly touch my heart!

  • @aspenbrooke515
    @aspenbrooke515 2 месяца назад

    100% on this! Atm, he's experiencing an oncoming illness, upper respiratory and he said he's never had this done before...the face around his sinuses and it actually opened his upper airways! He said thank you for this so I bent over, face touching his ear and whispered "you're welcome". He absolutely loves "Love Touch" ...LOVES IT ❤

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 месяца назад

      Thanks for dropping by and sharing your thoughts! So happy this hit the spot for you. 😉

  • @samantham7109
    @samantham7109 7 месяцев назад +1

    I have been married 26 yrs now ,learned a lot from your channel and it really works,it helps me to do n know better...thank you wish more women watch these vids n bond with their guy instead of talking most of d time ,i like to touch my hus whenever i pass next to him 😀 i can see that he likes those things❤

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  7 месяцев назад

      Thank you for your kind words, they truly touch my heart!

  • @cherylgolec8928
    @cherylgolec8928 6 дней назад

    I am so glad you’ve returned.

  • @pricesunbury59
    @pricesunbury59 9 месяцев назад +10

    A great video. Love the touching ideas. 🎉🎉

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  9 месяцев назад +2

      So glad you enjoyed it!!

  • @geraldinehughes4490
    @geraldinehughes4490 9 месяцев назад +15

  • @Stacy-xw2eg
    @Stacy-xw2eg 5 месяцев назад +6

    Thank you so much I am doing a lot of these but love to hear more about what men like and crave from a man’s point of view. When I am holding hands I will usually take my thumb and gently and softly caress his hand with it. Also you are walking and you take your arm place your hand gently on his back and give some gentle touches.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  5 месяцев назад

      You’re lighting up the comments section! Thanks for being awesome. 💖

  • @haveawonderfulday279
    @haveawonderfulday279 9 месяцев назад +5

    Thank you for this amazing video once again! 😊

  • @charlottecheverton9227
    @charlottecheverton9227 7 месяцев назад +1

    Thanks Mat, I also learnt & experienced breathe up the spine of my partner after giving him a relaxation massage , at the time I was a masseuse. I can’t recall his response now I think it was much appreciated…..too long ago! But worth trying again everyone😊

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  7 месяцев назад

      Amazing! love hearing that!

  • @neniaemat1079
    @neniaemat1079 9 месяцев назад +4

    Thank you for sharing 😊
    God bless you Sir ❤🙏

  • @marthaczaja5163
    @marthaczaja5163 8 месяцев назад +4

    ❤so timely!!! So excited!!!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  8 месяцев назад

      Thanks so much for your feedback!

  • @kerstinclarke7797
    @kerstinclarke7797 3 месяца назад +1

    Thank you fot that my hubby is in the military and when he gets back home i will do all of that

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  3 месяца назад

      You’re the best! Thanks for sharing your thoughts and lighting up the comments. 💖

  • @paulaa5752
    @paulaa5752 8 месяцев назад +3

    Eye kisses, touching/kissing palms and pulse points like neck, wrists and back of the knees for example.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  8 месяцев назад

      Thank you for sharing!

  • @thinkb4uspeak276
    @thinkb4uspeak276 4 месяца назад +2

    Matt - You’re a 5 Star Communicator!! Excellent and Real information - hope to use some or all soon!♥️

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 месяца назад

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  • @lex28lush10
    @lex28lush10 8 месяцев назад +2

    Wonderful vid. Thank you, Matt 🎉

  • @tanyaholstun2799
    @tanyaholstun2799 3 месяца назад

    Plus touching and caressing him in a certain way

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  3 месяца назад

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  • @rachelsmith5687
    @rachelsmith5687 8 месяцев назад +3

    I love this information thanks!😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊

  • @lydiahiby7543
    @lydiahiby7543 9 месяцев назад +6

    Another super video👏👏👏👏

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  9 месяцев назад

      so glad you enjoyed it!

  • @jazzqueen1
    @jazzqueen1 9 месяцев назад +3

    This is very useful video Matt

  • @Eden639
    @Eden639 14 дней назад

    Thank you this is a very nice and thoughtful video.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  11 дней назад

      Thank you so much! 😊 I’m really glad you found it thoughtful-it means a lot that it resonated with you. 💖✨

  • @SassyST
    @SassyST 4 месяца назад

    I dated a man once who shared with me how much he loved it when we were holding hands and I’d reach across my body to lay my free hand across our held hands …if that makes sense. It wasn’t even anything I thought about before doing it, I just never could get close enough to him. I wanted to be as close as possible without smothering or being over-the-top. He picked up on that subtle message and just ate it up. ❤

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 месяца назад

      Your comment is a breath of fresh air! Thanks for sharing. 🌸

  • @KELLY-m1w
    @KELLY-m1w Месяц назад

    This was a great video…I’ve done all but the back of the neck and the breath! Thanks for the insight!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Месяц назад

      So glad you enjoyed the video! 😊 Sounds like you’re already a pro - just gotta add that back-of-the-neck magic and breath for the full effect! 😜 By the way, if you're interested, I’m doing a FREE live coaching love + relationship course next month. It’s the perfect time to join the beta launch! Learn more and sign up here: masteryofconnection.com/ 💖✨

  • @Mel55151
    @Mel55151 9 месяцев назад +3

    What an awesome channel ❣️

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  9 месяцев назад

      Thanks so much my dear!

  • @kimwalker4390
    @kimwalker4390 9 месяцев назад +52

    Jesus gives the best advice.

  • @anac2314
    @anac2314 9 месяцев назад +2

    You’re so correct!!!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  9 месяцев назад

      Thanks so much my dear!

  • @revision_spirit5582
    @revision_spirit5582 8 месяцев назад

    Exactly what I needed to know this week. Thanks for sharing.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  8 месяцев назад

      I’m so glad this helped you!

  • @GiselleSuarez
    @GiselleSuarez 15 часов назад

    I wrote my thesis on how touch affects trust way back in the early 90’s! Back when you had those printers that took forever to print, were super loud, and you had to tear the perforated sides of the pages. 🤣🙄💖

  • @AngelinaRomero
    @AngelinaRomero 3 месяца назад

    ok, you are simply amazing. I am sharing all of this wiith my new love interest.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  3 месяца назад

      You’re making me blush! Thanks for the lovely comment. 💕

  • @jacksns4
    @jacksns4 3 месяца назад

    Love your LONG HAIR❤️. As a big drive 73 yr old, past hippie craves hair.
    THANKS FOR YOUR INFO. AFTER 40 yrs married need spicing it up🔥

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  3 месяца назад +1

      You’re lighting up the comments section! Thanks for being awesome. 💖

  • @QueenOlson
    @QueenOlson 4 месяца назад +1

    Love it! Will do it! 👍

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 месяца назад +1

      You’re lighting up the comments section! Thanks for being awesome. 💖

  • @an1176ini
    @an1176ini 2 месяца назад

    Thank you, Mat! For all that info!😊🙏

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 месяца назад

      You’re making my heart smile with your kind words! Keep being amazing. 💖

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      @Mat_Shaffer  2 месяца назад

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  • @rebeccanestor4588
    @rebeccanestor4588 2 месяца назад

    This is sooo good!! Tysm!!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 месяца назад

      You’re making my heart smile with your kind words! Keep being amazing. 💖

  • @Joirychelle
    @Joirychelle 5 месяцев назад

    Such a great video, like a wonderful refresher😊 Thank you, Mat! 🙏🏽

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  5 месяцев назад +1

      I'm glad you enjoyed the video! Thank you so much😊

  • @Jennalucci
    @Jennalucci 9 месяцев назад +2

    Thank you!

  • @jolienwillowtree2248
    @jolienwillowtree2248 3 месяца назад

    it's so powerful, more of this

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  3 месяца назад

      Your comment made my day! Keep shining and being fabulous. ✨

  • @emilygomez4748
    @emilygomez4748 9 месяцев назад +4

    Thanks for educating us, Mat!

  • @southernrock-star500
    @southernrock-star500 6 месяцев назад +2

    It works if they don’t walk away from you when you’re trying to do all that.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  6 месяцев назад

      I appreciate your opinion on this!

  • @haroldstein3187
    @haroldstein3187 7 часов назад

    I’m a woman named Harriet, so I go by Harry 😊 (wouldn’t you lol)? I adore you and think you have great advice. Thank you!

  • @libbemerci
    @libbemerci 16 дней назад

    Great video.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  11 дней назад

      So happy to hear that! 😊

  • @portiawilliams3135
    @portiawilliams3135 7 месяцев назад

    Love these tips

  • @martasimmons8125
    @martasimmons8125 8 месяцев назад

    Thank you for the advice

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  8 месяцев назад

      I’m so glad this helped you!

  • @lauradardi5848
    @lauradardi5848 5 месяцев назад

    Amazing you are so right on!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  5 месяцев назад

      You’re a gem! Thanks for the sweet comment and for being here. 💕

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      @Mat_Shaffer  4 месяца назад

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  • @LifewithLava
    @LifewithLava 2 месяца назад

    He loves it

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 месяца назад

      That is awesome! I’m so happy for you my dear!

  • @Mariacorazon-p7d
    @Mariacorazon-p7d 7 месяцев назад +1

    lol when I’m handling a piece of paper work to a certain physician accidentally he touches my hands and said it tickles him and the other physician who’s interested witnesses it told the other physician no to do it again protecting me from his maybe flirting but at the moment I have no idea what’s happening or going on. Now being married to my late beloved husband of 54 years of married life in his loving ways he’s protecting me and kind of being jealous too 🙏🛐✝️📿🎶

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  7 месяцев назад

      AMAZING love that share!!:)

  • @smuccilicious
    @smuccilicious 2 месяца назад

    Excellent video

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 месяца назад

      You’re making my heart happy! Thanks for the sweet comment. 💕

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  • @KaraTowner
    @KaraTowner 2 месяца назад

    love these!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 месяца назад

      Thanks so much my dear!

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  • @LJ-zk9iw
    @LJ-zk9iw 8 месяцев назад +1

    ❤❤❤ thank you ❤❤❤

  • @carlalagace7516
    @carlalagace7516 6 месяцев назад

    Thank ya amazing videos wow

  • @carlalagace7516
    @carlalagace7516 6 месяцев назад +1

    Wow your amazing

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  6 месяцев назад

      Many thanks! You are amazing too!

  • @taniamiller4572
    @taniamiller4572 8 месяцев назад +1

    When we're walking, he slides his hand into mine, entwining our fingers.❤❤

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  8 месяцев назад

      Amazing! love hearing that!

  • @dcrank0607
    @dcrank0607 2 месяца назад

    As a female, the fingers through my hair or fingers at the back of my neck gets had the same effect on me.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 месяца назад

      Thanks for sharing!

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  • @debigates3033
    @debigates3033 Месяц назад

    My man has amazing hair and I love to run my fingers through it and I had no idea that that was something that men liked, but I tell him all the time I love running my fingers through your hair….

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  26 дней назад

      You’re already ahead of the game! 😏✨ Trust me, men love that-there’s nothing like a gentle touch through the hair to send those shivers down his spine. Keep it going! 💆‍♂🔥

    • @Sunshine-ms8ce
      @Sunshine-ms8ce 4 дня назад

      Running my fingers through the hair on his chest, would take all my stress away and turn both of on!!! And he'd always rub my feet, yep,we headed for bedroom, gotta have some alone time.😂... RIP babe 😢

  • @christiesimmons8282
    @christiesimmons8282 Месяц назад

    If interested in someone would you want to be around that person all the time? What would touching his elbow do to him? Will he reaction to that touch?

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Месяц назад

      It’s natural to want to be around someone you like, but balance is key! A light touch on the elbow could get his attention and show interest. By the way, if you're interested, I’ll be part of a FREE live coaching love + relationship course starting next month. It’s a great opportunity to join the beta launch! You can learn more and sign up here: masteryofconnection.com/

  • @ulrikaa1581
    @ulrikaa1581 4 месяца назад +1

    ❤ How do you flirt with a co-worker, without being aggressive?

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 месяца назад

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  • @lmm8
    @lmm8 9 месяцев назад +4

    I'm curious what you would recommend when there is a large height difference, for example the forehead touch or touching the back of the neck? Wonderful tips and encouraging that I am on the right track with expressing my feelings without words. ❤🙏

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  9 месяцев назад

      I’m so glad this helped you!

  • @shannanigansbutnotevilshan4629
    @shannanigansbutnotevilshan4629 7 месяцев назад

    My fiance and I do 'I love you' with 3 hand squeeze

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  7 месяцев назад

      AMAZING love that share!!:)

  • @loveinautumn3978
    @loveinautumn3978 8 месяцев назад +3

    What if he's bald😭

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  8 месяцев назад +1

      Don’t give up on love sister!

  • @memememe1987
    @memememe1987 Месяц назад

    I as a female can say all this works on women or me too I crave this touch connection 11:49

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  26 дней назад

      Yes! 👏 Touch is universal-we all crave that connection, and it can feel just as magical for women too. 💖 Keep embracing those moments-they’re powerful! 😊

  • @janespitfire9884
    @janespitfire9884 8 месяцев назад +1

    Good info..thank you!! Ahh how about massage his inner thigh near the gonads?

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  8 месяцев назад

      ohh yeah thats a GREAT SPOT!!! :)

  • @ellenieellenie5941
    @ellenieellenie5941 2 месяца назад

    ❤❤❤❤❤❤ lovely soul you .

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 месяца назад

      Thanks so much my dear! You too!

  • @jessicakebschull2870
    @jessicakebschull2870 4 месяца назад

    I want to try the forhead touch but I am so short compared to my hubby it would turn very awkward, real quick! Lol...

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 месяца назад

      Thank you for sharing your story. It takes courage to be open, and I’m here for you. 🌸

  • @MiahJacobs777
    @MiahJacobs777 9 месяцев назад +11

    Damn I watch all your videos and I just gotta say I'm a naturual. Lol. Not one thing you said I haven't done when being intimate/romantic.

    • @MiahJacobs777
      @MiahJacobs777 9 месяцев назад +4

      Just has to be somebody worthy of that kind of touch.

    • @MiahJacobs777
      @MiahJacobs777 9 месяцев назад +4

      For men that dont like public displays of affection, a gentle, squeeze of the wrist with 2 hands. Firm but noticeable. Quick tho so as to give him is space to be free to be himself in public... I call it a wrist hug. Lol

    • @jacksns4
      @jacksns4 3 месяца назад +1

      @@MiahJacobs777 me too. So reassuring.

  • @AutumnGold0706
    @AutumnGold0706 6 месяцев назад +1

    Is it alright to teach a man to do all these touchy feels to me?🤔

  • @azure-yu5vq
    @azure-yu5vq 2 дня назад

    Single me watching it at 3 AM in the morning xD

  • @Jackie-g2p
    @Jackie-g2p 8 месяцев назад

    I Love All of Matts segments !! Very very good advice !! ❤
    . Looking lil ghoulishly castaway 😂😂

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  8 месяцев назад

      Your kind words touch my heart

  • @shellsea9520
    @shellsea9520 2 месяца назад

    ❤ SUBSCRIBED

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 месяца назад +1

      Thanks so much my dear! 💖

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      @Mat_Shaffer  2 месяца назад

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  • @milenka7967
    @milenka7967 9 месяцев назад +2

    hi Jesus

  • @bernadettemacatangay5935
    @bernadettemacatangay5935 2 месяца назад

    Wow I learned to you I do this hhah

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 месяца назад

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  • @thien-anta3000
    @thien-anta3000 3 месяца назад

    Do your videos apply to gay couples ?

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Месяц назад

      Yes, the tips apply to gay couples too! Relationship dynamics and communication are universal, so the advice is relevant for everyone. By the way, if you're interested, I’ll be part of a FREE live coaching love + relationship course starting next month. It’s a great opportunity to join the beta launch! You can learn more and sign up here: masteryofconnection.com/

  • @lindascharf6833
    @lindascharf6833 2 месяца назад

    What do I do he. Has no hair😅

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 месяца назад

      No worries! Focus on what you love about him beyond looks. Confidence and personality are what really matter! 😊

  • @juliegarnier3568
    @juliegarnier3568 7 месяцев назад

    What if the man is bald?

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  7 месяцев назад +2

      Whether the man is bald or not doesn't change anything.

  • @patricewilliams2998
    @patricewilliams2998 4 месяца назад

    Im really short and hes tall, forehead touches adter a hug is hard 😂

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 месяца назад

      You’re fabulous! Thanks for sharing your thoughts and spreading the love. 💖

  • @e.watson6346
    @e.watson6346 3 месяца назад +1

    My guy is bald- I did rub his bald head.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  3 месяца назад

      Thanks for dropping by and sharing your thoughts! So happy this hit the spot for you. 😉

  • @Sandile1504
    @Sandile1504 3 месяца назад

    Please be quick n straight to point😤🙄🙄

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  3 месяца назад

      Thank you for your constructive criticism. It’s important to hear all sides, and I’ll definitely consider your points.

  • @wheredusktouchesdawn
    @wheredusktouchesdawn 7 месяцев назад

    Some of this feels a bit height prohibitive… there’s about a 9” difference between us🤷🏻‍♀️

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  7 месяцев назад

      I see. A big height difference might feel tricky, but it doesn't change how much you care about each other.

  • @lyse9585
    @lyse9585 9 месяцев назад +2

    💗💗💗

  • @Judy-n6i9f
    @Judy-n6i9f 2 месяца назад

    Have you got a unmarried brother that knows these things

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 месяца назад

      I don’t, but I can help with any questions you have!

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      @Mat_Shaffer  2 месяца назад

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