6 Simple Steps to Kiss Him Like a Goddess

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  • Опубликовано: 23 ноя 2024

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  • @Mat_Shaffer
    @Mat_Shaffer  2 месяца назад +8

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  • @janak8552
    @janak8552 4 года назад +1879

    I bet... If you get close to a guy's ear... And you whisper "I want you to kiss me" he's not gonna think twice... It's not about what you say ladies it's about how you deliver it

    • @laurab.9710
      @laurab.9710 4 года назад +113

      I literally commented the same thing, but kept it short with "kiss me".

    • @inspire734
      @inspire734 3 года назад +70

      Need to look him in the eyes first.

    • @jenniferdeck5163
      @jenniferdeck5163 3 года назад +73

      That's a really good idea, I wonder if I have the courage to try that...

    • @jungwoonisasheep1438
      @jungwoonisasheep1438 3 года назад +10

      Facts

    • @goodmorning2386
      @goodmorning2386 Год назад +5

      yup!

  • @ms.chiefmanaged2858
    @ms.chiefmanaged2858 4 года назад +4681

    Me, being single, working from home, absolutely not a guy in foreseeable future: ohh yeah nice recommendation, this is totally what I need.

    • @mrssmurf55
      @mrssmurf55 4 года назад +42

      Me too, 🤣

    • @ElizabetaDante
      @ElizabetaDante 4 года назад +27

      Ya me too. Everyone teaching how to kiss or touch. All my female group singles and locked 🔒

    • @ayahaunt6225
      @ayahaunt6225 4 года назад +16

      Mood. It does seem we are jobless.

    • @Love_1_9_9_9
      @Love_1_9_9_9 4 года назад +7

      Totally understand you buddy 😆

    • @Cccynthia97
      @Cccynthia97 4 года назад +4

      Same 😅🤭

  • @vardhinir6221
    @vardhinir6221 4 года назад +2270

    Starts at 3:28 🙂
    Step 1- invite him to initiative the kiss nonverbally.
    Step 2- once he initiates, meet him where he's at then slow him down.
    Step 3- Build the intensity of the kiss with different sensations.
    Step 4 - use your body to deepen the passion of the kiss.
    Step 5 - Guide him to kiss your neck.
    Step 6- Kiss all of his hotspots
    There you go! Enjoy all of your kisses☺

  • @TheAttractionTriggers
    @TheAttractionTriggers Год назад +764

    *Understanding how to kiss passionately is interesting, but let's not forget that consent, communication, and emotional connection are essential elements of any intimate moment.*

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Год назад +33

      Amazing Thanks for sharing!

    • @rosebelizaire6397
      @rosebelizaire6397 Год назад +30

      Who would kiss passionately without both consenting? I mean wth

    • @moonstar1126
      @moonstar1126 Год назад +8

      i don’t kiss unless it’s serious…❤😂

    • @daisysig
      @daisysig Год назад +11

      Isn't that understood if, by this point, you're in this situation....?

    • @ankundabrenda6452
      @ankundabrenda6452 7 месяцев назад

      ​@@moonstar1126🙄🙄🙄

  • @aminahganiyu4599
    @aminahganiyu4599 4 года назад +1502

    Look at me taking notes like I have someone to practice on 😭

    • @inspire734
      @inspire734 3 года назад +5

      Use your fist to practice on. I need to do video and show.

    • @rachelwhite9544
      @rachelwhite9544 3 года назад +8

      ditto, but mines for if i ever meet someone worth kissing like this :D

    • @nanaadwoa442
      @nanaadwoa442 3 года назад +4

      🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @conejita71mx
      @conejita71mx 3 года назад +3

      Same here!😂

    • @khaitsasarah943
      @khaitsasarah943 Год назад +1

      Heheheheheeh ohh 🤣🤣dear

  • @earcandiee5888
    @earcandiee5888 Год назад +374

    Kissing is so important. If that doesn't go well, not much else will. I had a first date with a guy back in 95 and I STILL remember our first kiss. Wow, was like being hit with lightning. We dated awhile but split up as he wanted marriage and kids right away, I didnt. I had to love him enough to let him go find his person.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Год назад +30

      It’s 100% possible to heal and create something new Earcandiee❤️

    • @TinTin-ir8wx
      @TinTin-ir8wx Год назад +11

      Love .. then why didn't u marry him ? Love, sx only wth lovers/spouse..

    • @cortneyozment7825
      @cortneyozment7825 8 месяцев назад +2

      You are not wrong on that one

    • @goingrogue6923
      @goingrogue6923 День назад +1

      This seemed true to me until I met my ex husband who was an amazing kisser, and we would literally kiss for hours without realizing the time. but I was to find out he was not that great in bed, even with seductive guidance. Fast forward to my current husband who doesn't kiss as passionate but OMG the man can make me cum just talking to me😮

  • @Worldgonecrazy2
    @Worldgonecrazy2 4 года назад +423

    The best kisses happen when thinking goes dormant and feeling rules.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  10 месяцев назад +6

      Thanks for sharing!

  • @heleneb8945
    @heleneb8945 4 года назад +687

    My best kisses have been when u haven't thought about what I'm doing, but rather let the moment guide me. Honestly... If I was to be thinking of my next move I wouldn't be enjoying it.... All my compliments have come when I've just felt the moment. If I have to be doing 10 different techniques in one kiss, it becomes all about showing off. My top tip for kissing : have intention behind the kiss. There.... Saved you another video.

    • @garimakilledar5810
      @garimakilledar5810 4 года назад +67

      Agreed. When there are real emotions and true attraction from both the partners everything just takes off.

    • @zanderhurtado1985
      @zanderhurtado1985 3 года назад +29

      Well yeah BUT it’s like everything. Like sales for example, you get the training, the rebuttals etc but once you get in front of the client you let it flow but now you’re equipped and all you learned comes naturally and then the client says how wonderful you are and how excellent and smooth everything went well yeah! That’s because you trained for it and didn’t just go at it. Same here, you get a little training and once you are there you let it flow and then he thinks you’re a Goddess. I’ve been testing some of the tips on such videos like this and OMG the guy I’m seeing now is extremely into me! And I’ve created the tension so much that our first kiss is going to be out of this world!

    • @sheilawaddy3184
      @sheilawaddy3184 3 года назад +3

      Totally agree

    • @meagant4155
      @meagant4155 Год назад +2

      @Helene B what type of intention? Like I want him to do this to me, or like I wanna explore, or like beyonce put it: to show him u appreciate him
      P.s. ik this was a long time ago

    • @heleneb8945
      @heleneb8945 Год назад +11

      @@meagant4155 I mean to have passion behind the kiss. If you really like someone you'll automatically have intention.

  • @RidingAGrizzly
    @RidingAGrizzly 4 года назад +838

    When you're done kissing his lips, plant a kiss at the corner of his mouth. He won't be able to resist the urge to kiss you again.

    • @bl0odytuness415
      @bl0odytuness415 3 года назад +17

      Thx bc this is mah first kiss I’m 14 eeek and I have anxiety 😰 *von just breath ur ok* oh yeah I talk to myself as well

    • @kenzawalker3881
      @kenzawalker3881 3 года назад +78

      @@bl0odytuness415 you’re not old enough 😭

    • @aubreycarter7624
      @aubreycarter7624 3 года назад +3

      So true.

    • @Itz_gabi13
      @Itz_gabi13 3 года назад +6

      @@kenzawalker3881 my first kiss was when i was 10......and a serious kiss not just a kid kiss.....

    • @Itz_gabi13
      @Itz_gabi13 3 года назад +24

      @@kenzawalker3881 u can’t say someone he/she isnt old enough to kiss cause its there moment not yours they choose when they wanna kiss for the first time and no one else!

  • @shannondoyle2694
    @shannondoyle2694 Год назад +80

    My partner was very shy when we first met. I ended up leaning in to kiss him because I could feel his nervousness. He was very happy that I did 😁

  • @jenniferyu2828
    @jenniferyu2828 4 года назад +567

    been single for my whole life never had a relationship never kissed anyone before ain't got a boy and yet here i am watching kissing advice when i got nobody for me to practice it upon lmaoooo
    anyways it's always good to learn and be prepared cuz who knows lmaooooooo

    • @faridafade1892
      @faridafade1892 4 года назад +3

      How old r u

    • @simranlawrence7994
      @simranlawrence7994 4 года назад +6

      🤣😂me too

    • @rosemarycalogero7017
      @rosemarycalogero7017 4 года назад +14

      Your first kiss will be amazing because Matt gave some incredible techniques. Also a kiss should never be rushed...

    • @caL-ls2st
      @caL-ls2st 4 года назад +4

      same😂

    • @aditidhepe3838
      @aditidhepe3838 4 года назад +10

      I can tolally relate to you..... Got nobody and yet watching this video🤪🤪🤪🤪🤪

  • @louannbristol8708
    @louannbristol8708 4 года назад +432

    My man and I are great kissers. He just texted me the other day how much he loves kissing me. Then he followed with this text, “No one can be a great kisser alone. Gotta have compatibility to make it awesome like us!” Here’s the real kicker I’m 65 and he’s 46 and our kissing and love making is ooh la la! Yes, I’m a cougar and damn proud of it!

    • @CrystalSicily
      @CrystalSicily 4 года назад +77

      You should be Proud. And why do Older women with young Men have a Label. "cougar" A 60 year old Man with a Girlfriend. 50,40,30 is Perfectly normal. Where there label??

    • @louannbristol8708
      @louannbristol8708 4 года назад +29

      Crystal Dating Coach we talk about that all the time! If he was older and I was the younger one no one would say much about it.

    • @anamesa3824
      @anamesa3824 4 года назад +6

      ❤❤❤

    • @superfun7380
      @superfun7380 4 года назад +9

      LouAnn Bristol Yes Girl!!!!

    • @carmelaaguila3688
      @carmelaaguila3688 4 года назад +6

      Hi LouAnn. Can I ask you how us women stay lubricated and wet even we are on our 40's? Please help. Its highly appreciated

  • @psychosocial474
    @psychosocial474 2 года назад +104

    1. Invite him to initiate the kiss nonverbally: smile and triangle eye gaze; open body language; licking your lips; allow to an akward pause in the conversation
    2. Once he initiates meet him where he s at and slow him down: if he kisses you aggressively, pull back and invite him to come in again, but softer
    3. Build the intensity of the kiss with different sensations

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 года назад +6

      Interesting perspective, thanks so much!

    • @sharimontgomery4795
      @sharimontgomery4795 4 месяца назад +2

      what is a triangle eye gaze?

    • @cheeseypuff9819
      @cheeseypuff9819 3 месяца назад

      @@sharimontgomery4795looking at his eyes -> lips -> eyes

    • @patricksteinsen1147
      @patricksteinsen1147 Месяц назад

      ​@@sharimontgomery4795 the triangle refers to both eyes and the mouth, what you do is basically just switching from looking at eye1 to looking at the mouth and then back to eye2 (or eye1)

  • @Laycismom
    @Laycismom 7 месяцев назад +19

    I met my boyfriend on a dating app. We met 4 days after we started talking. After we had breakfast we went to put gas in his truck. While he waited, he came around and opened my door. He leaned in and kissed me like I have never been kissed before. He was definitely in his masculine energy! I had no thought of kissing him on our first date so I was pleasantly surprised. We have now been together 4 months and his kisses are still just as amazing as the first. 🥰🥰🥰

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  7 месяцев назад +2

      I’m so happy for you my dear!

  • @ruffledfur8415
    @ruffledfur8415 4 года назад +488

    But “HELLO SIR, I WOULD LIKE YOU TO KISS ME NOW!” Is how I always initiate

    • @sprigganpanda
      @sprigganpanda 3 года назад +25

      When you're already dating the guy it doesn't NOT work 😂

    • @megb8186
      @megb8186 Год назад +5

      😂😂😂

  • @VilteZiginskaite
    @VilteZiginskaite 2 года назад +86

    Am I the only one seeing him as one of the two robbers in home alone movie?:D

  • @sariahborjon9152
    @sariahborjon9152 4 года назад +60

    I was very open and he still didn't kiss me until I told him I wanted to kiss him and he told me oh men never really know 🤷🏽‍♀️ then he kiss me ,but some men are clueless.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 года назад +7

      very true haha... sometimes you just gotta take control :)

  • @mariarossi6719
    @mariarossi6719 4 года назад +247

    When the kissing is good, you can be sure the next stage will be pretty great. If not, best not to even think about taking it there!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 года назад +20

      oh absolutely agree with you there!! :)

    • @Wendy-mh9dx
      @Wendy-mh9dx 4 года назад +4

      Thats usually true💋

    • @gerryhurdelbrink3321
      @gerryhurdelbrink3321 3 года назад +9

      You are soo right. Bad kissers are a terrible sign.

    • @TinTin-ir8wx
      @TinTin-ir8wx Год назад

      ​@@gerryhurdelbrink3321 if I'm bad I m not sure. But wth full love, passion, feelings emotions wth full soul heart full into himslf I m supposed to kss, love..

  • @dianademers528
    @dianademers528 Год назад +6

    I've been in a long term, long distance relationship, we are going to meet for the first time next month. I can't wait to kiss him and have him kiss me. Thanks for the tips.

  • @rosemilan8390
    @rosemilan8390 4 года назад +144

    Thank you so much Mat for not only giving such good tips but also making learning them so entertaining with your energy

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Год назад +4

      Amazing! love hearing that @Rose Milan❤

  • @toni2017
    @toni2017 2 года назад +87

    I like the way you explain things! It's so emotional and clearly 🙂
    And really good to know!!

  • @maritamaltezaki8588
    @maritamaltezaki8588 Год назад +15

    You have a very gentle, descriptive and funny way to explain all these! I really enjoyed it!

  • @hoshie7906
    @hoshie7906 4 года назад +141

    lmao, I dont know why I pressed on this when I never even had my first kiss 😂😭

    • @Thejadyn
      @Thejadyn 3 года назад

      Same.

    • @Thenoobestgirl
      @Thenoobestgirl 3 года назад +6

      Gotta prepare!

    • @TinTin-ir8wx
      @TinTin-ir8wx Год назад

      Got touched.. I need his forgiveness.. I'm shit

    • @deryaguler7748
      @deryaguler7748 8 месяцев назад +1

      Well I'm curious lmao, did you get your first kiss yet??😂

    • @hoshie7906
      @hoshie7906 8 месяцев назад +1

      @@deryaguler7748 funnily enough no 🤣

  • @amritawhitman8112
    @amritawhitman8112 4 года назад +154

    Thanks for doing this video! I just recently discovered the series Outlander (a bit late to the party I know!). I think the points you made here about polarity and male and female energies was beautifully illustrated and played in Claire and Jamie's relationship. What you talked about here reminded me of their wedding night scenes, where you see them find and explore each other and bond with one another in the process. Interestingly, I read that scene in the book and that level of intimacy and connection is not written, so the actors and production team deserve a lot of credit for creating something very special and not easy to do with a camera crew in the room!

    • @AmalaHolt
      @AmalaHolt 4 года назад +13

      I literally watch that again and again! To remember for my next relationship. You can feel the passion, the equal male/female energy and the love and admiration in that scene!!

    • @juliemiller9760
      @juliemiller9760 Год назад +2

      @@AmalaHolt It was so exciting at first, but then the producers had to put a frantic sex scene in EVERY episode. . .EVEN at their DAUGHTER'S WEDDING! This is pure voyeurism!

    • @mrodriguez8767
      @mrodriguez8767 Год назад +2

      Hi my sister has recommended I watch Outlander too. I am really late to the game but am looking forward to it!

    • @fantasticvoyage2989
      @fantasticvoyage2989 Год назад +2

      I've been totally wanting to check that out, thanks for the reminder! I don't really watch TV, like at all, but it sounds like it'd be right up my alley! Historical adventure romance? Count me in! Maybe I should check out the books too...

    • @fantasticvoyage2989
      @fantasticvoyage2989 Год назад

      @annpommer52
      Oh, ok, cool, thanks!

  • @angeliquekok7846
    @angeliquekok7846 4 года назад +14

    I am divorced for 4 years ago. He was my first real love. Now i am 48 years old. 4 years no relationship, never kissed a man after my divorce. I have feelings for somebody, but he does not know that. I only know he likes me. So come on with your tips...greetings from The Netherlands

  • @taylort726
    @taylort726 4 года назад +84

    I am super reactive when a man starts to kiss me especially in the beginning, because this puts him even more into his masculine. Also, if im really into a guy my whole body trembles. You have to be like 80% feminine and 20% masculine. I have gotten feedback before that I was too verbal, but usually that was because I was uncomfortable and I was too much in my masculine and not trusting my feelings.

    • @ImranKhan-tj3dr
      @ImranKhan-tj3dr 2 года назад

      Hi
      😍😍😗😘😚💋💋💋💏💏👄👄❤❤🌷🌷

    • @TinTin-ir8wx
      @TinTin-ir8wx Год назад

      I wanna talk i need to express as usual I think m not sure but I doubt I m this type if wth him ever,, atleast my love talk my feelings emotions fr him overall mine fully I wanna b into him in his soul/chest.

  • @maryf5337
    @maryf5337 9 месяцев назад +6

    Will be using this lip locking advice tonight! 😊 Thank you!! I love your infectious energy.

  • @Rebeccajp25
    @Rebeccajp25 3 года назад +11

    I love that awkward pause before the kiss!!

  • @cynthiaquaile1747
    @cynthiaquaile1747 4 года назад +10

    You are opening my eyes to things I didn’t know about men. Mom never told me any of these things? I wonder if she knew? Most women don’t know any of this stuff.

  • @shewolf461cw6
    @shewolf461cw6 Год назад +6

    I love kissing. The way you kiss is going to make or break a relationship moving forward. I like someone that knows how to softly kiss me. If you shove your tongue in my mouth it’s over. I have never cared for French kissing. I like being playful and like you said building up the tension. I just found your channel. I like hearing a man’s perspective. 💕🐺

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Год назад

      I'm happy this resonated with you

  • @fatemehzahrasoltani5214
    @fatemehzahrasoltani5214 3 года назад +28

    There's an entire ocean staring at me during the whole video...😍

  • @bounaimwanissa9708
    @bounaimwanissa9708 4 года назад +58

    Who's listening and smiling hahaha

    • @TinTin-ir8wx
      @TinTin-ir8wx Год назад

      😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢

    • @TinTin-ir8wx
      @TinTin-ir8wx Год назад

      Dreaming of heaven in afterlife mayb..😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢

    • @kslolohoku2665
      @kslolohoku2665 2 месяца назад

      And totally imaging my first kiss with the guy I am in to.

  • @brynndockstader6549
    @brynndockstader6549 3 года назад +29

    Mat: I like to kiss a friend or a new date on the cheek. They are not expecting it and I think I think it makes them feel appreciated.

  • @brightpage1020
    @brightpage1020 9 месяцев назад +1

    Your videos help remind me how to practice the spirit of warmth and generosity in our marriage when it feels cold ❄️ or stingy. Thank you!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  9 месяцев назад

      I’m so glad this helped you!

  • @aquietgirlcalledsoph739
    @aquietgirlcalledsoph739 4 года назад +15

    Been kissed 3 times in my life (I’m 19 on Saturday) and it was the same guy each time but on two different occasions. Yeah he basically stuck his tongue into mouth 🤷‍♀️👀 I dated the guy for a month although it didn’t feel like a relationship.
    I’m now in a very much happier relationship with a guy from Sweden (I’m from England, I should have mentioned that) in December it will be 6 months for me and him. I haven’t seen him yet because of Corona, however, I’m thankful for this video because I’ll use these tips for when I go to the airport and see him when I’m able too 🥳☺️

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  10 месяцев назад +1

      Thanks for sharing!

  • @NewEarthUtopia
    @NewEarthUtopia Месяц назад

    I want to express my immense gratitude towards you Matt. You have helped me unlock mu gifts and start sharing magic to help other women to step inti their true power. I was in tge grouo coaching you did for light workers with Aaron Doughty and Victor Oddo and since July I have been sharing my voice loud and proud. I cant wait to help and inspire women like you do and to the extent that you do❤❤❤

  • @melissajohnson7750
    @melissajohnson7750 Год назад +17

    Thank you so much for this video. I practiced the techniques you shared in this video, last night.
    Me and my guy ended up having a night I don’t think either one of us will ever forget. I believe the kissing was the key from taking it from fun hangs to fireworks and insanely crazy connecting. Thank you ❤

  • @annpetersen4538
    @annpetersen4538 3 года назад +14

    This is the first time I'm watching your videos. You are cracking me up with your examples! Well done!!! I'm hooked now!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 года назад +1

      Yay! Thank you!

    • @ImranKhan-tj3dr
      @ImranKhan-tj3dr 2 года назад

      Hi 😍😍😍❤❤

    • @3dove37
      @3dove37 Год назад

      Yes, Mat, just recently found you. I really enjoy your vids and loved this one. Great info and entertaining! ❤️

  • @lindsay9042
    @lindsay9042 4 года назад +176

    Dancing with your dog was hilarious and so on point. I kiss my man passionately and entangle my fingers in his hair, then I slowly back off and lightly brush my lips against his and then go in for another “attack”. It drives him wild! He never knows what I’m going to do when I just give him that “I want you” look.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 года назад +12

      mmm that's the way to go Lindsay!! it's all about mixing it up :)

    • @melaniewhite444
      @melaniewhite444 4 года назад +7

      I have learned to do this for awhile now. I call it the “ art of surprise”! And use your imagination for the next stages. I have never seen men beg for more. Ha I love it!

    • @lucypalsgrove9210
      @lucypalsgrove9210 Год назад +2

      Yes, I playfully kiss mine teasely on the corner of his mouth and back off and then go for the bottom lips and then really kiss him while I am holding him . He loves it and it feels good for both of us.

    • @julierowe1732
      @julierowe1732 Год назад +4

      The clip of chickens was hilarious!

    • @TinTin-ir8wx
      @TinTin-ir8wx Год назад +1

      I wish if d dog kissd his lips full mouth passionately then agreesively as he said about sensation n intensity

  • @maureenmuller-jj7pf
    @maureenmuller-jj7pf Год назад +17

    Entering into a new relationship, and this is invaluable advice. Love it❤

  • @thecatisoutofthebag83
    @thecatisoutofthebag83 Год назад +19

    You are glowing, Mat! Love your energy! I can tell you are genuine, compassionate and driven to help us! Yay for you! 🎉🙏🏻💕

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Год назад +2

      Thank you so much, I really appreciate hearing that from you. ♥ :)

  • @ejackson9387
    @ejackson9387 4 года назад +16

    If he’s a bad kisser... tongue poking... HOW do you get him to change the way he kisses to this method...? WITHOUT hurting his feelings..? Thanks.😊

    • @CrystalSicily
      @CrystalSicily 4 года назад +21

      Say. "I like it when you move your tongue slowly" Even if he never kissed you like that. Now he knows that what you want. 😉

    • @PAU31090
      @PAU31090 4 года назад +7

      Just tell him. He either gets offended or he learns, but that's up to him, you can't control his choice.
      Either option is better than just letting a bad kiss continue, if you ask me.

    • @AmalaHolt
      @AmalaHolt 4 года назад +3

      By talking about it.. but in a non-aggressive, playful way.. if you want to get what you want.

    • @nunyabenni3617
      @nunyabenni3617 2 года назад +3

      You don't have to say anything. When he's not doing it right pull away then come back in and show him how it's done. Practice makes perfect.

    • @TinTin-ir8wx
      @TinTin-ir8wx Год назад +1

      ​@@AmalaHolt helping, supporting, caring, love

  • @AnabreseNeuman
    @AnabreseNeuman 4 года назад +26

    Great video! Loved the dog looking from the bowl to the human and back, nice one!

  • @librarising648
    @librarising648 4 года назад +51

    These tips are great. I'm not in a relationship right now (single AF after breaking a long term relationship) , but I'm sure these will come in handy one day. I haven't kissed anyone in over 2 years so just thinking about what it was like to experience a good kiss got me all hot and bothered lol. Now I just need to find someone to practice on.... and figure out how to do it safely given current circumstances 😂😅

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  10 месяцев назад

      wonderful thank you for that feedback!!

  • @DM-ls1qi
    @DM-ls1qi 4 года назад +25

    ❤️🐶..your dog prop scene was priceless! 😁Thx for sharing

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Год назад +2

      Glad you enjoyed it DM❤❤❤

  • @tarannumnirjon7828
    @tarannumnirjon7828 3 года назад +6

    I have been doing those things subconsciously whatever you have said in this video and got complements about being a good kisser.....everyone should follow this whenever they are kissing❤️❤️❤️...in my opinion, just go with the flow gently...that will drive him crazy...

    • @silviawambui4531
      @silviawambui4531 2 года назад

      I've been told I'm a great kisser a lot until i watched this video and I'm like yaaaaaaaaaaaaaas............ I'm a goddess

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 года назад

      I appreciate your opinion on this!

  • @michellesutton3945
    @michellesutton3945 Год назад +8

    I smiled like an idiot watching this cause I can’t waitttt for the next time I see him so I can do these

  • @louiselincoln
    @louiselincoln 3 года назад +55

    09:36 This had me in stitches! (Not least the look on your dog's face! 😂) Thank you for all the amazing content.

  • @monicasuyo1330
    @monicasuyo1330 Год назад +7

    great advice, Matt, I really enjoyed the video and I am really looking forward to trying out some of these tips, that I have never tried in quite the same way! 😘

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Год назад

      Thank you so much, I really appreciate hearing that from you. :)

  • @edenweaver1474
    @edenweaver1474 4 года назад +14

    Yes! I’m in orchestra and it helps me understand 10x better!!😆 THANK YOU

  • @Numenorean1
    @Numenorean1 3 года назад +11

    I used to date a guy that when I kissed behind his ears he would come completely undone. I absolutely loved it, and honestly miss it.

  • @marillinevelez9756
    @marillinevelez9756 4 года назад +45

    I've never kissed him, but I dream about it.

  • @joannaprice3160
    @joannaprice3160 4 года назад +14

    I would like to see a video on how to keep a guy from French-kissing on the first date!
    I don't want to turn him on too much early on. I don't want to give him signals that I'm ready for sex when I'm not. I need more help letting him know I DON'T want to be too physical early on. Actually, I'm even afraid of inviting him to my home for coffee after dinner. If we end up on the couch, things happen that I don't want to happen.
    How do we let a guy know we like him, but do not want sex anytime soon? We need A LOT MORE HELP with that! Thanks

    • @jelatinosa
      @jelatinosa 4 года назад +5

      Verbal communication.

    • @catwoman4882
      @catwoman4882 2 года назад +7

      No French kissing or wet kisses too early in..that's a turn off too.. Don't put a stake on a cold grill..make it Hot so it will sear nicely..

    • @zazuzazz5419
      @zazuzazz5419 4 месяца назад

      You flat out tell him what you want. He’ll be taking notes. 🗒️

  • @aracelyd.6455
    @aracelyd.6455 4 года назад +36

    I’m not in a relationship yet but thank you for sharing this amazing tips 🧚‍♀️

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Год назад +1

      You’re welcome 😊

    • @TinTin-ir8wx
      @TinTin-ir8wx Год назад

      I'm dying..I'm corpse.. 😢 .. none but I'm alive corpse

    • @aracelyd.6455
      @aracelyd.6455 Год назад

      @@TinTin-ir8wx I hope you are well…

  • @meisorensen7995
    @meisorensen7995 4 года назад +46

    Can you make a 2020 version including masks and how to work with that?

  • @gracevalle5437
    @gracevalle5437 5 дней назад

    You helped me so much. My boyfriend loves when I doing it on the ear. Thank you 🙂.

  • @mara11333
    @mara11333 3 года назад +5

    Matt do you understand I am doing this completely through texting? Good thing I’m the older woman. As he begins taking long pauses and he hangs up purring I know he’s going to sleep wrapped up with me tonight though I’m 2,000 miles away. There’s a challenge. Never experienced or expected this with my young love. Guide me along Matt. You’re the expert! A year left overseas.

  • @sallytemraz8614
    @sallytemraz8614 3 года назад +5

    Currently you are the best coach on my list!

  • @jayahypnotherapy4559
    @jayahypnotherapy4559 3 года назад +16

    I love love love kissing, it’s like when u resonate the kissing just flows, great advice

  • @TinTinParksakaWestergaard
    @TinTinParksakaWestergaard 2 года назад +2

    I have been married for 19 years and we are still in love he cares for me like a princess

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 года назад +1

      Wow! I’m so happy for you my dear!

    • @ImranKhan-tj3dr
      @ImranKhan-tj3dr 2 года назад

      You are well come 🌹🌹🌹🌹🙋🙋🙋
      I love u so so much real and true ❤❤😍😍
      I like u really 🌷🌷🌷💍💍👧👧
      Well u merry me
      I make u so so happy every time I m alone single 😍😍😗😗😘😘😚😚💋💋💏💏👄👄💑💑💗💗💗🌷🌷🌷🌷

    • @TinTin-ir8wx
      @TinTin-ir8wx Год назад

      Long live love the nver mortal love.. forever..

  • @kathrinnikitin
    @kathrinnikitin 4 года назад +34

    Normally I get bored quite fast watching these type of videos but yours are very interesting and entertaining! You got a new subscriber😄

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Год назад

      Awesome, @Kathrin THANK YOU! 🙌🙏❤

  • @tanushreebishoi
    @tanushreebishoi 2 месяца назад +2

    2:36 God am so giddy..I've never had my first kiss 😂😂😂 just got nobody to kiss yet but am so excited 😂😂😂

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 месяца назад

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      @Mat_Shaffer  2 месяца назад

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  • @thomasdubois8772
    @thomasdubois8772 3 года назад +35

    This is so entertaining to me. I was initially trying to tell my friend (that happens to be a boy) that a French Kiss is definitely NOT the same as a cheek kiss or *La Bise*. Now I'm just finding ways to show him all types of kisses~

  • @kriskat8104
    @kriskat8104 4 года назад +2

    We're dating under social distancing circumstances. How to initiate kissing now? We've been dating for 6 weeks with just hand holding and hugs. Tension is certainly building! 😘

    • @trinapayan8820
      @trinapayan8820 4 года назад +5

      Kris Kat omg, kiss him already....that’s nonsense

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  8 месяцев назад

      Amazing! love hearing that!

  • @daisysig
    @daisysig Год назад +13

    Loved this one, Mat!! The definition of Polarity was so clarifying... love the concept that I'm the "conductor" because as a theatre artist I translate that to "director" and understand that it's not a place of overlording power but a place of creative encouragement. I love the comments about me guiding him to where I want him to kiss me. I've been shy about this.... not anymore.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Год назад +2

      Thanks for sharing!

    • @JobjobJob-f6e
      @JobjobJob-f6e Год назад +1

      @@Mat_Shafferwhy I didn’t find you 3 years ago????❤

  • @sandram6068
    @sandram6068 11 месяцев назад

    You are so fun to watch, professional and easy to understand. Specially for English as second language. Thank you for this !

  • @laurab.9710
    @laurab.9710 4 года назад +42

    I always thought leaning towards his ears and whisper in a sexy tone, "kiss me" was good enough? Lol

    • @rafaelanarbaes7121
      @rafaelanarbaes7121 3 года назад +3

      It maybe is, it just depends on the situation lol

    • @juanitasews5782
      @juanitasews5782 3 года назад +2

      That would work for me!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  9 месяцев назад

      It’s 100% possible to heal and create something new

  • @brendakronberg345
    @brendakronberg345 Год назад +1

    My husband and I have been married for 45 years and have been separated for 10 years. I haven’t been seeing anyone. He has been dating others before we separated. This year we are getting a divorce. When I do start dating again, on the first date, maybe a kiss on the cheek or a soft, gentle kiss on the lips but I don’t want to hook-up with anyone after the first date. I guess I am just old fashioned at 65 years old. Am I wrong to have this attitude in 2023?

  • @Frankblueeyes
    @Frankblueeyes 4 года назад +4

    Guy here-
    As good as these tips were, I was more impressive with the musical terminology that was pretty accurate. Good work! :)

  • @medinaseaborn2227
    @medinaseaborn2227 Год назад +11

    Hi Mat!!! That is exactly how I impart my opinion on kissing, and sex. It is an art form, exactly like dancing together.

  • @sherrihurst3142
    @sherrihurst3142 4 года назад +208

    Nothing worse than a bad kisser.. such a turnoff

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 года назад +14

      AGREED!!!

    • @yamika.
      @yamika. 4 года назад +43

      Why do you have to judge a man by how well he kisses? The only things you should look for are love, respect, and a desire to spend your life with him, right?

    • @sonja1
      @sonja1 4 года назад +55

      I honestly don’t think there’s a bad kisser out there. It’s more that the style they like to kiss in isn’t compatible with yours. It’s all about chemistry and compatibility.

    • @consciouscrypto3090
      @consciouscrypto3090 4 года назад +34

      Kissing style can tell you a lot about a person. I've dated a couple men who were non-kissing kissers. Meaning they allowed me to kiss them, but didn't move their lips. They might jam their tongue into my mouth, but never did they give themselves, never did their lips suck at mine or engage at all. As I got to know them better, I found the same emotional withholding in how they related across the board. The kiss shows much about the emotional availability of a person.

    • @space935
      @space935 3 года назад +4

      What to do about sloppy kissers?

  • @annhatton2411
    @annhatton2411 3 года назад +5

    i haven't kissed a man in at least 15 years. if i get the opportunity to kiss a man i will let it take a natural course and hope that all goes well. i would never ask to be kissed.

  • @christeldevrindt3863
    @christeldevrindt3863 4 года назад +34

    First tease eachother,build tension and finally explore what he likes and defenitely lkiss his innerear,it drives him wild😘

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 года назад +4

      YES exactly!!

    • @inspire734
      @inspire734 3 года назад +1

      Strip tease or belly dance winds them up.

  • @LillianBrown-z2g
    @LillianBrown-z2g 27 дней назад

    I love how simple your steps are!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  26 дней назад

      Thank you! 😊 Sometimes the simplest steps lead to the most unforgettable moments. Have fun trying them out! 😘🔥

  • @paula-elizabeth
    @paula-elizabeth 4 года назад +29

    Wow Mat, Thank-you - I was giggling like a young girl all the way through!! - It’s The fun way you delivered the information that made me giggle!!🤭😁 I’ve heard about polarity and you gave a very clear explanation. It’s good to hear this from a man’s perspective. Best wishes to you. 👌🏽👍🏽👏🏽💫😃🌟🌈

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 года назад +2

      Glad you enjoyed it!

    • @TinTin-ir8wx
      @TinTin-ir8wx Год назад +1

      Granma here..me n also mom of grown up man 😢

    • @amandarosenberg3180
      @amandarosenberg3180 Год назад +1

      I watched this for new tips... but guess what?...you totally talked through my usual moves.... good to know I'm doing it right 😂😊😘💋

  • @raquelt5342
    @raquelt5342 4 года назад +53

    😂I can’t even with this video Mat!! Hilarious, good, and SO entertaining! 👏👏👏👏 you are the best!!!

  • @amankochar9116
    @amankochar9116 4 года назад +16

    Its soo difficult to kiss when in love never realised

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  9 месяцев назад

      It’s 100% possible to heal and create something new

  • @cattushi
    @cattushi 4 месяца назад

    Thank you so much, I'll definitely be trying this tomorrow with my partner! Splendid explanation for beginners!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 месяца назад

      You’re fabulous! Thanks for sharing your thoughts and spreading the love. 💖

  • @mariarossi6719
    @mariarossi6719 4 года назад +37

    That kiss you described with that woman sounds weird AF. Run, Mat, run!!!

  • @Songs-ls2pr
    @Songs-ls2pr 3 года назад +44

    Tastefully done. You’re awesome Mat. Love your advice ❤️

  • @sharonbiddle9901
    @sharonbiddle9901 4 года назад +17

    Wow thank you so much! I've never had kissed a man let have a man who I've wanted to kiss, but now that I do! definitely good to know!

  • @sallybroessel2210
    @sallybroessel2210 4 года назад +13

    One guy I was kissing recently said he thought our kissing was good, but I didn't! I didn't say anything however.

    • @Wendy-mh9dx
      @Wendy-mh9dx 4 года назад

      Ive experienced that you dont wana hurt his feelings.

    • @sallybroessel2210
      @sallybroessel2210 4 года назад +2

      @@amyis486 Ya, I don't like a French kiss right off the bat, because I think a French kiss is very personal

    • @inspire734
      @inspire734 3 года назад +3

      @@amyis486 maybe he was reptilian shape shifter.

  • @amandahyatt7825
    @amandahyatt7825 3 года назад +15

    First date tonight with a guy I met online a few weeks ago, it was going great and we just clicked and were comfortable with each other.
    We ended up going to my car to keep talking because everything closes early right now, he asked about a half hour into our conversation on the car to kiss me. It turned into a two hour talk and make out session, it was amazing, and he was a complete gentleman, never tried going past kissing.
    He told me that I was a great kisser and asked me on a second date before he even got out of the car.

  • @kpayge5490
    @kpayge5490 4 года назад +19

    Matt!! The Sahara dessert line with the slight Bronx accent I am literally lolling!!! xoxox Matt!

  • @BeannCooley
    @BeannCooley 3 месяца назад

    Have yet to kiss him but am looking forward to the first kiss. We are miles away from each other and are building a wonderful relationship and getting to know each other better. We will meet each other soon

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  3 месяца назад

      Thanks for dropping by and sharing your thoughts! So happy this hit the spot for you. 😉

  • @chrissyw.7500
    @chrissyw.7500 3 года назад +12

    So so great! Thank you again for such awesome tips...cant wait to practice these techniques!🖤💜

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 года назад +2

      Happy I could be of help.

    • @ImranKhan-tj3dr
      @ImranKhan-tj3dr 2 года назад

      Hi 💋💋💏💏👄👄❤❤😍😍🌷

  • @lorenasanders7103
    @lorenasanders7103 Год назад +2

    Hi Matt. Your video sure made me smile listening to you. Thank you for the tips. I will try them

  • @sallybroessel2210
    @sallybroessel2210 4 года назад +17

    I don't like a French kiss too early in a relationship. If a guy tries to put his tongue in my mouth the first thing, I think it is a turn off, because a French kiss is more intimate, and I don't like it the first thing. After we have kissed some, we can get in to it slowly, and if I know I like the guy, then yes I can enjoy a French kiss very much. but I don't like just a quick in and out of the tongue. I like more of a long, deep, exploring experience.

  • @bernadettemacatangay5935
    @bernadettemacatangay5935 2 месяца назад +1

    You so funny I like your explanation so I learned lots I’m laughing by my self while I’m laughing

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Месяц назад

      So glad you enjoyed it!:) Many more to come! By the way, if you're interested, I’ll be part of a FREE live coaching love + relationship course starting next month. It’s a great opportunity to join the beta launch! You can learn more and sign up here: masteryofconnection.com/

  • @cpntexas9294
    @cpntexas9294 4 года назад +8

    What about French kissing? I try to initiate. He doesn’t know how to.

    • @Wendy-mh9dx
      @Wendy-mh9dx 4 года назад +1

      Some ppl dont like to. Ask him? He may not know how you may have to teach him🌹

  • @janedepacaquibo6678
    @janedepacaquibo6678 4 месяца назад +1

    absolutely right...thank you for the informations.....❤❤❤

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 месяца назад

      I’m glad you found the video helpful! If you're thinking about dating again, our 'Are You Ready to Date Again?' quiz can help you determine if you're ready. Give it a try! 😊 mat-nlcmdzyq.scoreapp.com/

  • @raffaellacolomo7669
    @raffaellacolomo7669 4 года назад +5

    This is your best video ever, mat! I was nearly chocking when i saw the hens hahaha! I'm liking your content more and more, even the background is really attractive

  • @littlemisswowzers7188
    @littlemisswowzers7188 2 года назад +2

    I LOVE these tips. I'm 34 and ur giving me more ideas 💡

  • @lisalombardo6753
    @lisalombardo6753 3 года назад +7

    I scored 💯 on these techniques. Thanks for validating my moves! 😉😎💋

  • @sophiasummer7339
    @sophiasummer7339 3 года назад +2

    The matrix example was hilarious!!!! 🤣🤣😂😂

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  9 месяцев назад

      Thanks so much for your feedback!

  • @CrystalSicily
    @CrystalSicily 4 года назад +55

    While kissing...touch and caress the nape of his neck. Drive him wild!!

  • @user-fi6dc8dw9f
    @user-fi6dc8dw9f 24 дня назад

    This guy is great. Stands out in a cluttered space of lower quality

  • @donellaphillips3188
    @donellaphillips3188 3 года назад +4

    your view of kissing with the polarity and the connection is so beautifully conveyed! nice! :)

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 года назад +1

      Thank you so much 😀

    • @3dove37
      @3dove37 Год назад

      @@Mat_ShafferI agree! So well done. You explain it so well. Thank you. ❤️

  • @teezieweezie
    @teezieweezie 10 месяцев назад

    jus had my first ever kiss with a guy im chronically interested in and i appreciate this advice. gonna try some of this out next time i see him!