You're right about the introject controlling your thoughts, making you a version of them. Living their life, trying to appease them, whilst you become nothing and lose any concept of your real self.
He hurt me so bad every single day that I ended up not caring one bit what he thought. I lived the way I wanted as much as I could in his controlling world and I think that is why he ended up discarding me. Good riddance!!
I was the scapegoat of my family and existed only for them, thus explained my childhood, I felt like nothibg", while trying to exist to ppls projected versions of me (that were actually just them/ there own projected negativity) this describes it. (I still don't know how I survived lol)
They were on my mind 25/8 while I wasn't I didn't even exist to them. Saddest sad thing. Esp to get older and realize they quite literally* cannot EVEN think if others in general, 😂 and are extremely negative ppl, refuse to grow, learn, self refelct, be held accountable, change, grow, and project their own internal garbage' outwardly forever.... They get controlled by their demons/fear. They can only exist in 24/7 negative like a blackhole of trash. Which sounds harsh maybe but it's crazily true, it's the only function/how they operate. They refuse calmness peace, etc and only prey on kindness, because theyre evil soulless entities. It's insnae but the only safe route to deal w a blackhole is to get away. They never change. only GET WORSE with age. and more evil. Which does sum up our world" / world leaders.
Mine is still doing it. It's hard because you want their approval but you'll never get it... And have to accept that they will never get better @@ellejee74
@troymcdaniels-tm1dr yes!! Weird but true...my whole marriage I was honest with him but he constantly accused me of lying. At the end when I was trying to escape from him, I had to lie about my plans. Funny thing is is this is the only time he thought I was telling him the truth!!
Building Emotional Intelligence was a huge saving grace for me. Feeling my real emotions no matter how strange or uncomfortable. Not doing this kept me stuck and it took some time to realize it. I wouldn't say I'm fully healed, but it's definitely the right path.
One of his other main sources of supply was a woman with whom I had become very close friends. I still believe she had a good heart, but watching her turn into a different person under his control was devastating to watch, not just because I lost my good friend, but because my friend lost herself - and I think maybe even moreso than I did, because she really bought into the dog-eat-dog novella hook, line, and sinker. It was truly mind-bending to witness. As much as she ended up hurting me, I know she wasn't in her right mind, and I pray that she finds her way back to God and to herself someday. 🙏🏻✨️
@@liepa7768 Probably just leave her alone while she recovers. To me it felt like I touched evil and was getting infected with it. Had to withdraw a bit. I was social but not personal. I spent most times hiking alone, praying and healing. There are A LOT of triggers to face. I was able to point them out because I did my studying. She might appear abusive but simply going through triggers. It'll take a while, if she's seeking healing, to not react to those triggers. But she probably needs to self reflect if you're saying she's abusive. :(
@ being a people pleaser is not good. People pleasers are prey. Narcissists are predators. There is a third option. Being an Actual Functional Self Respecting Human Being
My spouse actually got mad at me because I didn't want to fight with him. I said why would I want to fight with you? That's not very loving. Just tell me what the problem is and we can work it out. Nope... he wanted to fight
I look right at the NARC i say why did you do that? He goes i did not do that! I said i was looking right at you. Yes you sure did do that. He gets LOUD and angry NO I DIDNT YOU MUST BE SEEING THINGS. 😂😂😂😂😂yeah ok buddy. 😂😂😂 😂
So many times I believe I'm a narcissist, because I have to match his energy just to stay. In my own skin, but then I'm the one confused. All the time and he's back to normal, peaceful, having fun laughing with the kids. It's all a big giant show.I need help to get out, please
That sounds familiar. I don't know where you are but contacting a women's centre can help. Is it right that you let him ruin your life and your children's life?
I reject the interjects on a daily basis with stoicism, honesty and discipline. Grannon is right; Narcs want to reprogram you in their own image of you. I refuse to go along no matter what they do.
Yes, and they don't help us at all. Peace officers Are crooked here in Houston, Texas? And almost every time they don't believe the wife and she goes to jail, I know I lived it
Yes, I had to do the career my narc mom told me to, I had to have the same distorted political views... You have to think and do the same things otherwise there's something "wrong" with you.
I had one of them in my life for 4 1/2 years and a year and 8 months later that view is definitely NOT still with me. My relationship with God is too strong.
This resonates so much with my past experience with my ex-husband. I even question myself if I am also a narcissist; I was so bombarded an traumatized that I felt I was starting to be his copy. I just want all this sick programming out of my head...
its kind of interesting how we now use the term ai model to better define abstract things that have nothing to do with ai itself yet still fit perfectly within the explanation to better define the concept
Unfortunately-I hate to say this-we are all living in this “dog eat dog world” como una telenovela. What sets you aside from toxic people is your heart, your empathy, your compassion, and your ETHICS TO DO THE RIGHT THING.😊
Dear Richard, thank you for adjucate me, I wish you all the best and hope you will be free in the future. Me and my daugther have exactly those experiences off witch you speak, but allso with the asperge syndrome. These are completing and amplify the narcissist and asperger syndrome. You are right and I am thankfull you make this all so clear to the world and the people who are dealing with those shit. Again thank you and I wish you all the luck you can muster. Bey
It can’t be more truthful reality that you have described about the nowadays workplaces. Many thanks for your continuing education but what can we do about it? The world is now run by the highly narcissistic leaders.
I was wondering why someone I have chosen to (attempt to) banish from my psychological world and life continues appearing in my dreams. This introject concept might serve as the beginning of an explanation. Nature is quite cruel. I can see how somebody who can't get somebody out of their head - who they hate and want nothing to do with - might be inclined to end their own life. Imagine not having any space from an unwelcome individual, regardless of all successful attempts at creating physical space.
I find visualization to be quite powerful for reclaiming psychic territory. I was suffering from the same problem, constantly seeing this person in dreams even after 13 years no physical contact and 9 years no online contact. Two days ago I received an email from him, from a new account. Subject: OMG Hi! - as if he had ran into me out in public. Ofc, this was not a random chance meeting, it was a manipulation. The content of the email was simply a photo of us as a couple 20 years ago. I felt reviled. Ofc no response is the only appropriate response, anything else opens the door to him. But I hate that I have to hide. I began to get a visualization in the shower. In my mind I put the photo in an editing program, split us apart and put us each into separate images. Next to my image I wrote: husband, children, God, life, happiness. Next to his below mine I wrote drugs, porn, lazy/slob, selfishness, satanism, death, loser. Then I felt maybe that was too mean, so I made another version for his, and wrote “???? Don’t know, don’t care, haven’t seen since 2012”. Which is also mean, I’m not going to send it with Subject: Fixed it for you, but it made it so clear to me how pathetic he actually is, especially to still be acting entitled to me. It was a painful few days, as I reflected on how wrong it was to be involved with this person in the first place. But I felt so much better today reflecting on my progress and the new positive people I met. Visualize separation. Visualize your values, make them your life.
Quite a lot of the "good" characters are essentially narcissistic wet dreams. Grand entrances where everyone instantly focuses on an individual in mundane settings. One character is the font of all knowledge and wisdom while everyone around them is clueless without the individuals input. All the "little people" instantly love this individual everywhere they go and their little worthless lives are instantly better through the individuals presence. They are training people to think like them through the screens and they are succeeding.
At 54, ive started doing the opposite of everything...if i would normally do or think this...then I'll do or think the opposite... early days yet, but im happier to not be my...old... perceived...introjected...me.
صل الصلاة الإبراهيمية وأفضل وقتها في الثلث الأخير قبل الفجر في الصلاة أو على السرير إذا لم تقم.. ابحث عن قصص نجاح الصلاة الإبراهيمية في قيام الليل الثلث الأخير واسأل الله اليقين، وتوكل على الله ابحث عن بكيل شملان والشيخ طارق خوالودة ومحمد حجازي واستغفار
How do you personally, Richard, differentiate whether it's the introject who says you're in a dog-eat-dog environment, or it is your own perception and it's very real????
@collie8. Good points there Collie. It is real. The world is led for some pepole who are influenced by narcissistic leaders, glorified in the Press. Only, rather than lose your power to a false preacher/leader who tries to indoctrinate you against your better instincts, listen to that faint voice which cannot be silenced. It is + always has been there for you. It is your guide/guides/ angel. Give him/her the importance je/she deserves. You will make it out of the tunnel, believe me. Regain safe ground. Thanks for this question. Take care 🙏🎋🏡♥️.
@@spikestoyouThere's helpful step by step content on how to defy & remove the Introjects ✨ Self loving actions, walks in nature, creative persuits & journalling daily are really helpful & if you can, reach to God, universe & faith 🙏 to help release & grieve whats been lost; inclusive of yourself & who you thought they were ❤️🩹 It takes time; but you'll grow & rediscover more of your true essence along the way 💖
Yes, and they don't help us at all. Peace officers Are crooked here in Houston, Texas? And almost every time they don't believe the wife and she goes to jail, I know I lived it
Lately in the last 5 years, since my son has been about 17. He has been watching very violent sexual movies. Before that, he was held in high regard for being a pastor a doctric in theology against p***, yet he had pornhub on his phone laughs at everything, that's the most perverted. Even harder around my son'... Completely turning my son into him
@unomeecj Pray that he will revert back after going through the mill. See him as little as possible. Get on with your life. Reinvent it, sister. Bless you.
I was raised by a single mother narcissist. Before I I began to grow up at age 36 she made a weapon that destroyed her. And the most complicated thing in my upbringing was that one where I had to stop being that weapon in order to let me be myself.
I’m working on being closer to and a woman of GOD. I don’t want to be ANYTHING like my ex narcissist. He can live a negative life on his own. That’s not me.
I thike that god really dos not against god god said that if you don't keeped the word of wisdom then you body wish is you temple I if I send someexshual thing is hire on the web I don't showed that but tea the see ol of it and it is used against me
You're right about the introject controlling your thoughts, making you a version of them.
Living their life, trying to appease them, whilst you become nothing and lose any concept of your real self.
He hurt me so bad every single day that I ended up not caring one bit what he thought. I lived the way I wanted as much as I could in his controlling world and I think that is why he ended up discarding me. Good riddance!!
I was the scapegoat of my family and existed only for them, thus explained my childhood, I felt like nothibg", while trying to exist to ppls projected versions of me (that were actually just them/ there own projected negativity) this describes it. (I still don't know how I survived lol)
They were on my mind 25/8 while I wasn't I didn't even exist to them.
Saddest sad thing. Esp to get older and realize they quite literally* cannot EVEN think if others in general, 😂 and are extremely negative ppl, refuse to grow, learn, self refelct, be held accountable, change, grow, and project their own internal garbage' outwardly forever....
They get controlled by their demons/fear. They can only exist in 24/7 negative like a blackhole of trash. Which sounds harsh maybe but it's crazily true, it's the only function/how they operate. They refuse calmness peace, etc and only prey on kindness, because theyre evil soulless entities. It's insnae but the only safe route to deal w a blackhole is to get away. They never change. only GET WORSE with age. and more evil. Which does sum up our world" / world leaders.
Until you become the bigger narcissist than they were because they can pretend and you don't. Then they say you are the narc and play victim
@liepa7768 how do you do that, though?
Powered by negativity. Excellent description.
He caused drama and was very confrontational daily and yet claimed he wanted peace. 🙄
😂😂😂
My narc parent.....
Mine is still doing it. It's hard because you want their approval but you'll never get it... And have to accept that they will never get better @@ellejee74
What about when they say they just want you to be honest then when you are, they get mad?
@troymcdaniels-tm1dr yes!! Weird but true...my whole marriage I was honest with him but he constantly accused me of lying. At the end when I was trying to escape from him, I had to lie about my plans. Funny thing is is this is the only time he thought I was telling him the truth!!
Building Emotional Intelligence was a huge saving grace for me. Feeling my real emotions no matter how strange or uncomfortable. Not doing this kept me stuck and it took some time to realize it. I wouldn't say I'm fully healed, but it's definitely the right path.
One of his other main sources of supply was a woman with whom I had become very close friends. I still believe she had a good heart, but watching her turn into a different person under his control was devastating to watch, not just because I lost my good friend, but because my friend lost herself - and I think maybe even moreso than I did, because she really bought into the dog-eat-dog novella hook, line, and sinker. It was truly mind-bending to witness.
As much as she ended up hurting me, I know she wasn't in her right mind, and I pray that she finds her way back to God and to herself someday. 🙏🏻✨️
I got to know person who seemed to be a narc victim in the beginning, but she's so abusive that I can't tell anymore 😢
@@liepa7768 Probably just leave her alone while she recovers. To me it felt like I touched evil and was getting infected with it. Had to withdraw a bit. I was social but not personal. I spent most times hiking alone, praying and healing. There are A LOT of triggers to face. I was able to point them out because I did my studying. She might appear abusive but simply going through triggers. It'll take a while, if she's seeking healing, to not react to those triggers. But she probably needs to self reflect if you're saying she's abusive. :(
They teach children that being a people pleaser 24/7 is how one is suppose to navigate life.
To be fair all the kids who didnt become people pleasers became narcissists. So they are kinda correct
@ being a people pleaser is not good. People pleasers are prey. Narcissists are predators.
There is a third option. Being an Actual Functional Self Respecting Human Being
That's how narcissistic people control people my making people feel stupid in saying no
You are perfectly describing my ex. He's one of the top leaders in his field - highly respected by his peers. They don't even know him. 😔
Antony Fauci?
No wait, Bill Gates?!
DITTO 😂
My spouse actually got mad at me because I didn't want to fight with him. I said why would I want to fight with you? That's not very loving. Just tell me what the problem is and we can work it out. Nope... he wanted to fight
I look right at the NARC i say why did you do that? He goes i did not do that! I said i was looking right at you. Yes you sure did do that. He gets LOUD and angry NO I DIDNT YOU MUST BE SEEING THINGS. 😂😂😂😂😂yeah ok buddy. 😂😂😂 😂
🎉🎉🎉🎉 MOVING ON
So many times I believe I'm a narcissist, because I have to match his energy just to stay.
In my own skin, but then I'm the one confused. All the time and he's back to normal, peaceful, having fun laughing with the kids. It's all a big giant show.I need help to get out, please
That sounds familiar. I don't know where you are but contacting a women's centre can help. Is it right that you let him ruin your life and your children's life?
I hope you make it out soon. You and your kids deserve peace
Dude it’s never gonna end and eventually he will drag your kids into it as well. They have NO LIMITS ON DESTROYING YOU.
Ur command of the English language is amazing 😮😮😮
I reject the interjects on a daily basis with stoicism, honesty and discipline. Grannon is right; Narcs want to reprogram you in their own image of you.
I refuse to go along no matter what they do.
Wouw... FINALLY! I hear the matrix talk!👍🏼thanks Richard!✌🏼(not infected)
💯💯💯
local authorities are excellent examples . just challenge them on something and see
Yes, and they don't help us at all. Peace officers
Are crooked here in Houston, Texas? And almost every time they don't believe the wife and she goes to jail, I know I lived it
This is so accurate
Yes, I had to do the career my narc mom told me to, I had to have the same distorted political views... You have to think and do the same things otherwise there's something "wrong" with you.
I am definitely programmed to get away from him
that's every goberment in situation and specially evident in child social services .
"Brazilian Telly Novella"; that is quite a colorful description, Richard!! And... quite accurate, too.
I had one of them in my life for 4 1/2 years and a year and 8 months later that view is definitely NOT still with me. My relationship with God is too strong.
This resonates so much with my past experience with my ex-husband. I even question myself if I am also a narcissist; I was so bombarded an traumatized that I felt I was starting to be his copy. I just want all this sick programming out of my head...
I am SCREECHING to a halt the introject or negative voice of my "father' in my mind and FLUSHING it daily/
Motivational quotes of wisdom. Thankfully.
its kind of interesting how we now use the term ai model to better define abstract things that have nothing to do with ai itself yet still fit perfectly within the explanation to better define the concept
Unfortunately-I hate to say this-we are all living in this “dog eat dog world” como una telenovela. What sets you aside from toxic people is your heart, your empathy, your compassion, and your ETHICS TO DO THE RIGHT THING.😊
Very well said! 🔥
Yes! The contagion. So spot on
Thank you for your insight
Dear Richard, thank you for adjucate me, I wish you all the best and hope you will be free in the future. Me and my daugther have exactly those experiences off witch you speak, but allso with the asperge syndrome. These are completing and amplify the narcissist and asperger syndrome. You are right and I am thankfull you make this all so clear to the world and the people who are dealing with those shit. Again thank you and I wish you all the luck you can muster. Bey
Good point.
This actually makes so much sense 😂😢 thanks for the reminder.
It can’t be more truthful reality that you have described about the nowadays workplaces. Many thanks for your continuing education but what can we do about it? The world is now run by the highly narcissistic leaders.
Sounds about right
I was wondering why someone I have chosen to (attempt to) banish from my psychological world and life continues appearing in my dreams. This introject concept might serve as the beginning of an explanation. Nature is quite cruel. I can see how somebody who can't get somebody out of their head - who they hate and want nothing to do with - might be inclined to end their own life. Imagine not having any space from an unwelcome individual, regardless of all successful attempts at creating physical space.
I find visualization to be quite powerful for reclaiming psychic territory. I was suffering from the same problem, constantly seeing this person in dreams even after 13 years no physical contact and 9 years no online contact. Two days ago I received an email from him, from a new account. Subject: OMG Hi! - as if he had ran into me out in public. Ofc, this was not a random chance meeting, it was a manipulation. The content of the email was simply a photo of us as a couple 20 years ago. I felt reviled.
Ofc no response is the only appropriate response, anything else opens the door to him. But I hate that I have to hide. I began to get a visualization in the shower.
In my mind I put the photo in an editing program, split us apart and put us each into separate images. Next to my image I wrote: husband, children, God, life, happiness. Next to his below mine I wrote drugs, porn, lazy/slob, selfishness, satanism, death, loser. Then I felt maybe that was too mean, so I made another version for his, and wrote “???? Don’t know, don’t care, haven’t seen since 2012”. Which is also mean, I’m not going to send it with Subject: Fixed it for you, but it made it so clear to me how pathetic he actually is, especially to still be acting entitled to me.
It was a painful few days, as I reflected on how wrong it was to be involved with this person in the first place. But I felt so much better today reflecting on my progress and the new positive people I met.
Visualize separation. Visualize your values, make them your life.
Think you've just summarised what's going on in the world
Thx
TV & Film are riddled with Narcissism & Narcissists.. i used to think they were fictional baddies😅
Quite a lot of the "good" characters are essentially narcissistic wet dreams. Grand entrances where everyone instantly focuses on an individual in mundane settings. One character is the font of all knowledge and wisdom while everyone around them is clueless without the individuals input. All the "little people" instantly love this individual everywhere they go and their little worthless lives are instantly better through the individuals presence. They are training people to think like them through the screens and they are succeeding.
I love it when I keep my own energy level. I'm just not going to be manipulated and it's just meh.
Ur ao right ong my ex and his inlaws i been threw this it aint fun yea hes so right about this i pray for the narrascrist
Conquer the introject! This reminds me of Scorpious in Farscape! He interrogated Criton and left his introject in his head!
"if"
At 54, ive started doing the opposite of everything...if i would normally do or think this...then I'll do or think the opposite... early days yet, but im happier to not be my...old... perceived...introjected...me.
@@RedEarthAA neat idea! Might include incorporate some of that!
Almost never heard anything this apt
Facts!!!!
صل الصلاة الإبراهيمية وأفضل وقتها في الثلث الأخير قبل الفجر في الصلاة أو على السرير إذا لم تقم.. ابحث عن قصص نجاح الصلاة الإبراهيمية في قيام الليل الثلث الأخير واسأل الله اليقين، وتوكل على الله ابحث عن بكيل شملان والشيخ طارق خوالودة ومحمد حجازي واستغفار
It's a dog eat dog world, and I'm wearing milkbone underwear 😂😂😂 Sam Vaknin said that YOU are a narcissist 😂
Sooo true!
Facts 💯
How do you know all of this?
@@HodgesHodges-jm4md I think he's poured himself into life for about 30 lives worth or so....
Narcissists make it a dog eat dog world. This is the cannibals dog HAUS!
How do you personally, Richard, differentiate whether it's the introject who says you're in a dog-eat-dog environment, or it is your own perception and it's very real????
@collie8. Good points there Collie. It is real. The world is led for some pepole who are influenced by narcissistic leaders, glorified in the Press.
Only, rather than lose your power to a false preacher/leader who tries to indoctrinate you against your better instincts, listen to that faint voice which cannot be silenced. It is + always has been there for you.
It is your guide/guides/ angel.
Give him/her the importance je/she deserves.
You will make it out of the tunnel, believe me. Regain safe ground. Thanks for this question. Take care 🙏🎋🏡♥️.
@@jeanannedupratt7075 Bon jour, actually I am out of the tunnel and this was my respectful suggestion to Richard to incorporate what you said :) Salut
How do I fix this? It’s made me mentally sick. I feel so alone
Run.
@ I’m already out. My spirit and mind and heart have been completely shattered though. No idea who I am or what I want anymore
@@spikestoyou mindfulness meditation really helps. I like thich Nhat Hanh.
@@spikestoyouThere's helpful step by step content on how to defy & remove the Introjects ✨ Self loving actions, walks in nature, creative persuits & journalling daily are really helpful & if you can, reach to God, universe & faith 🙏 to help release & grieve whats been lost; inclusive of yourself & who you thought they were ❤️🩹 It takes time; but you'll grow & rediscover more of your true essence along the way 💖
@@beesknees5441an anwer worth GOLD. i agree totally.
Please help.
Yes, and they don't help us at all. Peace officers
Are crooked here in Houston, Texas? And almost every time they don't believe the wife and she goes to jail, I know I lived it
You should have treated your husband better!
@@CharlesBukowski-m1o Wow an answer from a real life McCoy. What a break ! I'm flabbergasted. 😊
So, narcissist hypersexualize? In what way?
💯😢
What do when courts are too?
Exactly, and the judge and the attorney and god forbid the counselor
@unomeecj yep--the whole lot of them
As is above, so is below, yea? If it’s this oppressive and ridiculous down here, wonder whats really going on in the heavens?
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Absolutely💯 SPOT on Richard💯🤌🏼✌🏼
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Lately in the last 5 years, since my son has been about 17. He has been watching very violent sexual movies. Before that, he was held in high regard for being a pastor a doctric in theology against p***, yet he had pornhub on his phone laughs at everything, that's the most perverted. Even harder around my son'... Completely turning my son into him
@unomeecj
Pray that he will revert back after going through the mill. See him as little as possible. Get on with your life. Reinvent it, sister. Bless you.
@@jeanannedupratt7075
Pray you and your son are able to stay far away from such who is lost in his sick demented mind.
I was raised by a single mother narcissist. Before I I began to grow up at age 36 she made a weapon that destroyed her. And the most complicated thing in my upbringing was that one where I had to stop being that weapon in order to let me be myself.
I’m working on being closer to and a woman of GOD. I don’t want to be ANYTHING like my ex narcissist. He can live a negative life on his own. That’s not me.
😂🙃🙃 THEY ARE RIDICULOUSSS
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I thike that god really dos not against god god said that if you don't keeped the word of wisdom then you body wish is you temple I if I send someexshual thing is hire on the web I don't showed that but tea the see ol of it and it is used against me