How Do I Learn to Love Myself, Really? | The Mel Robbins Podcast

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  • Опубликовано: 26 окт 2024

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  • @melrobbins
    @melrobbins  10 месяцев назад +9

    Sometimes all we need is a little reminder to not be so hard on ourselves... If this video helped you in any way, then it would be awesome if you could drop a like and subscribe for future episodes coming your way!

  • @richardfinn1694
    @richardfinn1694 Год назад +74

    I was so going to skip this video today. I had a real rough mental health day yesterday. I was thinking this morning, "What does a 17 year hold possibly have to say about loving yourself". Especially to a struggling 51 year old man. Tears. So many tears watching this. "Why don't I just like myself" - So simple it sounds dumb. But guess what? It pointed out to me how much I don't like myself. How much I struggle with any kind of self acceptance. Thank you both so much for sharing this. By the way Mel, the way you sign off your emails always makes me emotional. Why would you believe in me when I sure don't.

    • @nadiae7653
      @nadiae7653 Год назад +4

      ❤️
      I hope you dont have too many hard days.
      Life is like an ECG. It’s ups and downs - we don’t want to flatline in any way right?
      Have a beautiful day. Not just a good day. Find the beauty in your day ❤️

  • @GlennSyndallius
    @GlennSyndallius 6 месяцев назад +1

    hahaha omg. What a great kid you have, Mel ! Incredible self confidence, self assurance, it feels like he has a great sense of who he is. He'll be a fantastic man in years to come. Congrats to Oakley for developing that, and congrats to you Mel, for being part of that development! That was a really fun video to watch, I've saved it in a watchlist for the future too. Already feeling a boost of self-love!

  • @mr12316
    @mr12316 8 месяцев назад +7

    I just love how from the minute her son started speaking, Mel looked so proud of him. It brought tears, good tears seeing her love for him.

  • @gretchenbillings1402
    @gretchenbillings1402 Год назад +51

    This young man is going places.. What an awesome mindset to have at 17..

  • @katekoger1794
    @katekoger1794 Год назад +41

    "There's nothing wrong with me" 🎤 drop! This was exactly what I needed to hear and didn't realize. I'm a single mom who's friends are all happily married. I love them I'm proud of them, but in all my life's effort to find a healthy relationship like them, I'm seeing how I've had a tiny inner voice whisper "there's something wrong" when there's not! My journey is beautiful and mine and when it's right I'll have my healthy relationship. Meanwhile, single isn't "wrong" 💗🤗 thank you!!! Keep being your amazing you!!

    • @xannaz9226
      @xannaz9226 Год назад +2

      This was the hardest concept for me. My inner self immediately pushed back. "Don't be ridiculous, nothing wrong with you?!" And out came the list of things I want to improve. I have a hard time not criticizing what I want to improve. Mom felt her job was always to tell me what was wrong, so I continue that. Working on it.

  • @cynthramir333
    @cynthramir333 Год назад +22

    Mel's proud mom's face is so lovely!! ❤️❤️❤️

  • @antje8303
    @antje8303 Год назад +26

    Oakley is a great example what we can grow up to be when raised in a loving, safe environment. My heart goes out to everyone, including myself who didn´t. Thats wy we shouldnt blame ourselves for learning self-love so late in life...its not our fault. We weren´t mirrored love as children.

  • @donayulia7500
    @donayulia7500 Год назад +3

    I LOVE YOU MEL... Thank you so much. Thank you OAKLEY. It's 4.55 am Indonesian time. Burst in tears and so happy at the same time

  • @xannaz9226
    @xannaz9226 Год назад +17

    Oh. My heavens what an advanced human Oakley is. Immediately I noticed his way of listening, it's uniquely reflective, not just for a teen but in any person of any age. Not only does he give the speaker full attention, but he is so authentic that you can see he is not in a hurry to give an answer, you can see the way he is very present with what is being said. Just fascinating, thank you for sharing this.

  • @nadagendeel8456
    @nadagendeel8456 8 месяцев назад +1

    Mel, this is one of the most raw and beautiful podcasts I've heard about self love ❤
    Auckly you are PERFECT just the way you are dear 🌷

  • @jonandermorousabiaga839
    @jonandermorousabiaga839 Год назад +15

    I really enjoyed listening to Oakley's perspective, he seems like and extremely humble and caring soul.

  • @RobertaShaffer-j2c
    @RobertaShaffer-j2c 11 месяцев назад +4

    MEL!!! Your smile was from ear to ear watching your gorgeous son and his sharp mind! Oakley, what a guy!! I am 62 and man, did I learn from you watching this! I think you doing a podcast for younger people would be amazing! Thank you for your insight, your energy and your positivity. WE NEED THIS IN OUR WORLD!! Keep going on your journey. You are an example for us!!🙏

  • @brittanidavis4877
    @brittanidavis4877 Год назад +11

    Your son is absolutely amazing! I pray other young adults/ kids have the revelations he has had!

  • @adrianhayton9883
    @adrianhayton9883 Год назад +1

    Thank you for sharing.. recently I’ve been going through some intense inner work and consulted my counsellor I had in my life over the years. I’ve started re learn how to love myself after feeling empty and bewildered at life. I’m approaching 60 and a man, a caring man living in 🇬🇧. I’m challenging myself to be Authentic in all relationships, be open as possible and just be me! . Learn to love each foot step and feeling at peace with myself, yes accepting myself. Thanks again for sharing xx

  • @visionyouniversity
    @visionyouniversity Год назад +7

    To have this type of insight at 17 is remarkable!!!❤

  • @livingmy2.0
    @livingmy2.0 Год назад +7

    "There's nothing wrong with me" - nothing more true than this! 💛We find true happiness and self love when we understand that at our core and on a soul level that we are perfect and anything leading us to believe otherwise is just a layer of self doubt and conditioning that we need to uncover and work through to get closer to the core of who we are

  • @vickibazter3446
    @vickibazter3446 8 месяцев назад +1

    Dear Mel,
    THIS was so supportive and VALUABLE. Thank you.
    Dr. Gladys McGeary is 103 years old. She said she didn’t love herself until age 93! It is an inside job. I am going to consciously start now. ❤ [Your son is truly a delightful young man.]

  • @michellelilley9895
    @michellelilley9895 Год назад +5

    Thank you both for sharing!

  • @Dare2chance
    @Dare2chance Год назад +3

    He’s such an amazing young and way ahead of most 30’s-60’s

  • @sheilamoreno7180
    @sheilamoreno7180 Год назад +25

    The love and bond between you both is truly beautiful.. you are blessed and your son is a credit to you. All what he said she from his heart and I’m sure he’s helped many youngsters take a different view of themselves x
    Thank you 🙏

  • @ggbouvier9897
    @ggbouvier9897 Год назад +7

    Counting one’s blessings is so important! Get off the physical because that changes. I think most people can say they are a good person and just have to include themselves in that goodness. Also, the sixth commandment, Thou shall not kill, and that includes the words, thoughts and feelings we have towards ourselves. We are all fearfully and wonderfully made whether we want to admit it to ourselves or not!😊

  • @michelehiatt6249
    @michelehiatt6249 Год назад +11

    I love this! What a great person you are raising!

  • @hibiscusfreak
    @hibiscusfreak Год назад +1

    I need to binge on your channel. I'm so f***ed up 😅

  • @KD-yy6on
    @KD-yy6on Год назад +5

    Wow loved this pod cast your son is amazing thank you so much for sharing the deep connections of how he feels and such lovely advice as always love you mel x

  • @kellyrutherford5885
    @kellyrutherford5885 Год назад +10

    Wow. What a gift you and Oakley just shared. Can't hold back my tears. Thank you!!!

  • @cindybuntain9361
    @cindybuntain9361 Год назад +5

    Oh Mel I just got so tickled at your story about the perm. I love your authenticity. Your son is absolutely amazing! I can’t wait to share this with my now 13 year old grandson

  • @arianeelsammak5155
    @arianeelsammak5155 Год назад +3

    Oakley is so insightful! Thank you!

  • @taisiakat
    @taisiakat Год назад +5

    First thank you for the Instagram "There's nothing wrong with me" - That started a chain of events today, that brought me to listen to today's podcast instead of continuing with the back episodes.
    This was amazing, very very awesome. I definitely going to subscribe to the 5 day challenge... Love the HIGH 5 Idea especially. I've been working on adding love into my space - for me, for around me, for those I know, and don't know.
    Thank you - much love to your family, work and especially you!

  • @SelfCareWithMilly
    @SelfCareWithMilly Год назад +8

    As a parent, these are the things that keep you up about. Thanks so much for sharing this personal conversation. I LOVE that you pointed out that it's never too early or too late to have a better relationship with yourself... It never ceases to amaze me that we can be so very kind to others but never do it for you. Thanks so much for sharing this testimony.

  • @freethymeliving_cookingupc7600
    @freethymeliving_cookingupc7600 Год назад +2

    Fantastic story of growth! Oakley, you are an inspiration!

  • @Rose77745
    @Rose77745 Год назад +2

    This was such a beautiful video Mel & Oakley. I can see the love you have for your son Mel shine through you as you speak to him, and also listen to what he is saying. I can also see the love Oakley has for you Mel, and how proud he is of you of how far you have come in your new journey to become the person you were always meant to be. He sees how compassionate you are, to not only help yourself, and your family, but he sees how much you truly mean what you say, to really want to help others see the beauty that life has to offer. You both are beautiful souls, and I know Covid was bad for many people, but sometimes it also means that it was something that happened only to end up with something good in the end. We all learned something from this, and from that it made us realize how short life can be and to cherish all the small things in life, and to learn to live in the moment, and appreciate the time we have with our loved ones, and to not take life for granted. Much love to you and your son Oakley Mel. ❤️🤗🥰😘❤️

  • @lauramaclean3630
    @lauramaclean3630 Год назад +5

    You are So proud of Oakley! I can see it in your face throughout your interview. He’s an amazing young man!

  • @VeganTrove
    @VeganTrove Год назад +1

    Oak is so lucky to have a parent who says positive things to him. I would have been thrilled if my mum ever said something she liked or loved about me

  • @Erica-en4ff
    @Erica-en4ff Год назад +3

    Love love love this! Thank you! ❤❤

  • @katerynaastratova1210
    @katerynaastratova1210 Год назад +2

    Thank you!!!❤️

  • @humbleguy5228
    @humbleguy5228 Год назад +4

    I just adore the way she speaks and how confident is she.

  • @milenastanojevic3385
    @milenastanojevic3385 11 месяцев назад +1

    I had a smile on my face the whole time! This is amazing! 💖 Thank you! 🙏

  • @ivethgomezgonzalez3286
    @ivethgomezgonzalez3286 Год назад +7

    I really love this podcast!!! so amazing!!!

  • @jenniferlufkin7850
    @jenniferlufkin7850 Год назад +5

    Omg Mel I'm already in tears and haven't even started to listen. I sent this to both my boys 16 and 18. I am momma bear for both and love them both differently. Thank you and Oakley for sharing.

  • @pamelajoy67
    @pamelajoy67 Год назад +3

    I love Oakley! What a great kid!

  • @EyestheColoroftheSea
    @EyestheColoroftheSea Год назад +4

    This is ...was AMAZING ...your son is so right on about the feelings, letting others make you feel bad about yourself ..There's nothing wrong with you😉😇🙏💝🙏.. Thank you for this session. Uplifting to see both of you together..😇💕😇real as it gets!

  • @cookingwithcamille
    @cookingwithcamille Год назад +4

    Your son is adorable and incredibly brave. I am saving this podcast for a certain young teenage lady in my life to listen to. Thank you for sharing this. ❤

  • @susancalhoun2614
    @susancalhoun2614 Год назад +8

    High 5’s to you and your adorable and impressive young man. So touched and changed by this beautifully crafted video. I will watch it repeatedly to keep its message fresh in my soul. Much love and gratitude for this message.

  • @cristinacoman2314
    @cristinacoman2314 Год назад +4

    Love this, I hope I can talk to my daughter like that when she is 17. She is just 4 and I already see her as a tiny teenager rolling her eyes and being sassy. This is wonderful, I am madly deeply love this conversation. I hope I can learn loving myself for me and for my daughter.

  • @estefaniaosores1408
    @estefaniaosores1408 Год назад +3

    Ok, let´s talk about Oakley´s lovely voice ,lol ,just love it.

  • @brigettereissig5254
    @brigettereissig5254 Год назад +1

    Oh Mel! Beautiful Beautiful Beautiful!! Ur my hero and ur son is awesome!! Hi five!!!! I'm 42 and starting all over in life and I can honestly say that I love me...more than I ever have!! I was almost beaten to death in July by my now ex narc...he was my childhood friend...I went to the ER and he's facing 6 felonies...I'm a survivor who is now working and thriving and I have a family of coworkers...and I have an amazing group therapy and a therapist...but I love ME!! This girl has been thru a lot!! This girl has a whole lot of life to live still!! Hi five Mel and all of US!!!

  • @rubisantaella991
    @rubisantaella991 Год назад +3

    Wow wow wow. O is a natural 🤩! Awesome young man!! Really loved the podcast subject. I’m sending to my 13 yr old and hope she enjoys it as much as I did. Thank you 🙏🏼 🙏🏼 Mel. I’m so thankful for your podcast ♥️ and all that you share .

  • @anpe6524
    @anpe6524 Год назад +1

    What a gorgeous son! and with a beautiful voice and maturity, he is wonderful Mel, Gd bless you both!

  • @Lucky888B
    @Lucky888B Год назад +2

    beautiful

  • @marcumanderson
    @marcumanderson Год назад +6

    I love this interview so much!!!!❤❤❤
    I’m sharing it with everyone! Thank you Oakley!!!

  • @LaurenOliviArt
    @LaurenOliviArt Год назад +4

    This is beautiful! He’s a lucky young lad !

  • @jackiesmith2701
    @jackiesmith2701 Год назад +6

    This makes me think of my relationship with my 19 year old son. We both work hard on ourselves and try to make the world a better place everyday. Thanks to you both for sharing and reaching out. ❤And, good on you guys for watching this and for finding ways to love yourselves and others.

  • @cynthiavermeulen2995
    @cynthiavermeulen2995 Год назад +5

    Thanks for sharing Oakley with us. His profound expression of self love is inspiring. ❤

  • @annayoungblood2188
    @annayoungblood2188 Год назад +5

    You have no idea how I needed this!!! This is the best message I’ve heard in a long time. I’m 51 and don’t like mirrors and ya so much more but I’m working on self love. Thank you so much!!!

  • @magichappenswithyou
    @magichappenswithyou Год назад +8

    This is gold! Considering the craziness we are bombarded with on a daily basis, it is so damn important to be kinder towards oneself, no matter what the world says or throws at you. Your son's testimony is one of growth and awareness. There are so many valuable lessons both of you have gracefully shared with all of us. He is definitely growing into a lovely well-balanced young man. Both you and your hubby must be so proud!

  • @maianeilson7131
    @maianeilson7131 11 месяцев назад +1

    I fucking love that. Shared it with my son. High five!🙌

  • @danielletoth304
    @danielletoth304 Год назад +4

    What an amazingly aware young man, Mumma Bear, Dad & sisters have clearly nurtured him! Can only imagine how proud you all are of him! Thanks for sharing! 🙏🏽🌻

  • @joemartinezjr.6692
    @joemartinezjr.6692 Год назад +2

    Love your Mother and Father . Your blessed.

  • @jennysizemore9241
    @jennysizemore9241 Год назад +5

    Wow,is your son a replica of your husband. It is uncanny!! Anyways, thank you for sharing these very personal moments with Oakley with us all. I know this will help so many🙏

  • @tearstoneactual9773
    @tearstoneactual9773 Год назад +5

    Okay, that was really great, and something I need on this dark and dreary monday morning. I *wish* that I had had sucha relationship with my own parents. I never got to really know my mother, and my dad passed away a few years ago. It had it's ups and downs. Mel, you're an amazing mom and person all around. Oakley, you're an awesome young man. Mom and dad raised you right. You're gonna go far.

  • @juliesaint-pierre7588
    @juliesaint-pierre7588 Год назад +2

    vert good validating that i am a good personne is important

  • @mailorlee2
    @mailorlee2 8 месяцев назад

    The whole interview was beautiful but that ending was heartwarming. I have three boys and i love them so much. Praying to continue building a beautiful relationship with them for the rest of our lives🙏. Thank you, Mel.

  • @debosgoodmusic4969
    @debosgoodmusic4969 Год назад +4

    Thank you Mel for sharing your beautiful son with us. What a treasure ❤️❤️

  • @kimlinford3484
    @kimlinford3484 Год назад +1

    This was such a wonderful episode! I love your relationship with your son! You concentrate on the most important things. ( like not correcting about swearing). Your son is so smart to figure this all out! I can relate to what he was saying about thinking something was wrong with himself. When Covid hit I got to spend more time with my husband, working on things that I loved doing and not going to the doctors all the time!! I felt great. Just like your son! But I was 60! Better late than never! Thank you! I Love your show !!!!

  • @tareichadwick8270
    @tareichadwick8270 Год назад +5

    It’s so simple to love, accept and validate yourself when it is clearly explained and you understand, starting with the little things and you know you’ve got it when you don’t get upset with yourself with peoples unconstructed criticism. I Love Okleys explanation of forming a good habit is like building your muscles up...the easier it gets. On that note, I’m off to the gym. Thanks Oakley...Thanks Mel, Granny from Down yonder NZ. ❤

  • @indiandoc921
    @indiandoc921 Год назад +3

    This is fantastic 👍! The world will be a better place if everyone started loving themselves and kinder to themselves!

  • @louisecummins2876
    @louisecummins2876 Год назад +5

    Thanks so much, Mel and Oakley 🙏 That was awesome, I learned a lot from your lovely podcast today. Thank you for sharing 🥰

  • @joni8762
    @joni8762 Год назад +6

    That was so incredibly deep and beautiful Oakley. Those five simple words..”There is nothing wrong with you” and the helpful suggestions on how to love yourself. I learned so much today! Thank you 🙏 😊❤

  • @lindaford-themagneticwoman1429
    @lindaford-themagneticwoman1429 Год назад +3

    Love your podcast, Mel! You are a powerful communicator. My definition of self love is the ability to see myself as a flawed human being and still hold myself in high regard.

  • @annatorres2209
    @annatorres2209 Год назад +1

    This podcast should be in all schools m. Love you guys ❤️

  • @TatiaDee
    @TatiaDee Год назад +5

    Beautiful, truthful and heart-warming ❤️

  • @janekiceniuk1578
    @janekiceniuk1578 Год назад +2

    Thank you for not starting with self love. That topic makes me want to run from the conversation, sends my heartbeat into overdrive, tell myself to breathe. So much easier starting at self hatred, I can relate to that scenario.

  • @ZillionaireSecretOfficial
    @ZillionaireSecretOfficial Год назад +4

    Love you Mel

  • @elleyoung9644
    @elleyoung9644 Год назад +1

    Love you Oakley 👍

  • @deniselance5934
    @deniselance5934 Год назад +3

    OMG Mel. I so enjoyed this video. I needed this!!! Thank you for sharing this message. What a confident eye opener for me.😘👍

  • @PamScott-i3e
    @PamScott-i3e 5 месяцев назад

    Your son is amazing, and the way you look at him is the most adoring and loving look. I LOVED this session!

  • @rebeccagiovelli4881
    @rebeccagiovelli4881 Год назад +5

    Just beautiful!!! ❤

  • @joaoheep
    @joaoheep Год назад +3

    Jeans Story: 🎉wow he is super reflected🎉 loved it

  • @Dryuliahowe
    @Dryuliahowe Год назад +4

    Absolutely beautiful, thank you for a great conversation ❤

  • @VickiGagliardiLLC
    @VickiGagliardiLLC Год назад +4

    That was awesome! Thanks so much for sharing! Oakley is an amazing person. I think he gets it from his parents!

  • @joemartinezjr.6692
    @joemartinezjr.6692 Год назад +2

    Awesome mom

  • @ioanaancutaungur345
    @ioanaancutaungur345 3 месяца назад

    God, thank you for Mel Robbins, her podcast helps me so much, to get through all kinds of dark moments in my mind. I have the impression that I get lost in my mind sometimes and her discussions help me a lot to come back with hope and good spirits. Thank you very much.

  • @nifr57gpr14
    @nifr57gpr14 Год назад +2

    This video brought a big smile to my heart! Thanks.❤

  • @AraceliQuiroz_
    @AraceliQuiroz_ Год назад +2

    Loved this !! 🙌

  • @kathybeach9627
    @kathybeach9627 9 месяцев назад

    Mel I can see the pride in your smile.
    He is an amazing soul.
    I see the beautiful relationship you have.
    I love my 3 children like this and have a great relationship with them but my 26 year old son ( in gaol atm for having a pub fight, sticking up for a mate) but also has bi polar adhd etc.
    He is the most amazing inspirational soul that I see greatness for in the form of mentoring youth of Australia that are traveling the wrong path and helping them turn their life around.
    “Son’s who can teach from experience” our children are our future. ❤️

  • @chiaraperry3932
    @chiaraperry3932 Год назад +2

    Great video. Oakley is awesome !

  • @daphnejackson841
    @daphnejackson841 Год назад +1

    Awesome... I love this... Great content and interview with Oak💯💯💯🔥🔥🔥❤️❤️❤️

  • @rayel4366
    @rayel4366 Год назад +1

    Thanks you so much for the reminders.. 🥰🥰🥰

  • @joemartinezjr.6692
    @joemartinezjr.6692 Год назад +1

    I'm always giving compliments. Beautiful Beautiful Family. Love you happy hour too God bless you both. All.

  • @tigre7739
    @tigre7739 Год назад +2

    Powerful Good Stuff!!! 😃🤘

  • @sejalmalik3284
    @sejalmalik3284 Год назад +4

    I love the podcasts related to loving yourself 😍

  • @joemartinezjr.6692
    @joemartinezjr.6692 Год назад +1

    Love you too .

  • @lunat4103
    @lunat4103 Год назад +4

    LOVE this ep ❤ his outlook is so mature and incredibly inspiring 👏 the apple doesn't fall far! Hope to hear and see more of Oakley in future eps 😊

  • @michelekelley8551
    @michelekelley8551 8 месяцев назад

    You guys ROCK!! Thanks for the tips! Putting them in to ACTION!🎉

  • @ChrissyMead
    @ChrissyMead Год назад

    Mel....I love how you're so proud and close with your son 💙

  • @joemartinezjr.6692
    @joemartinezjr.6692 Год назад +1

    Blessed

  • @kathleenwharton2139
    @kathleenwharton2139 Год назад

    You do what is Good for You..what is Best for You..what is Right for You.

  • @PriyaTilkar
    @PriyaTilkar Год назад

    Thank you for creating this podcast. I love everything about it. Learning so much from it ❤️. I love the way you are looking at your son when he is speaking specially in the beginning of the podcast, that is a look of a proud mama right there 😍
    Love you Mel 😘❤️😍

  • @d.m.junior6194
    @d.m.junior6194 Год назад +3

    This conversation is so important, especially for members in the LGBTQ community that’s been told they’re defective and wrong by society’s standards. 💙💙

    • @universaltruth2025
      @universaltruth2025 Год назад +2

      They seem to be getting a LOT of validation in this day & age as far as I can tell. 🤷‍♀️

    • @d.m.junior6194
      @d.m.junior6194 Год назад

      @@universaltruth2025 and for the amount of validation that we are receiving in certain circles there’s still host of extremely dangerous, dehumanizing, and destructive messages seeping the queer community still being propagated en masse.

    • @universaltruth2025
      @universaltruth2025 Год назад

      @@d.m.junior6194 I don’t see any evidence of that at all. I see the opposite. I see rainbow flags flying at every school. I see the school children getting a day of mufti to celebrate ‘diversity’ (ie LGBTQ etc) day. I see gay pride parades hosted every year. I see drag queens being paid to read stories to young preschoolers in libraries. I see that every other politician now seems to be gay or transgender. I see school policy around things like unisex toilets and pronoun use being changed to accommodate children who don’t identify as the opposite sex. I see the that LGBTQ people occupy many prominent media positions. I see movies made and characters included in popular series to represent the LGBTQ community. So no I disagree, I don’t think there is much evidence to say society views LGBTQ as defective or wrong - I think over the last few decades there have been many many attempts to make sure public policy is non-discriminatory and inclusive of diverse identities.