After quitting video games 1 month ago, which I used to play for approx 7 hours a day for the past 15 years, I made more progress than I made in the last 5 years.
27m here, who has never had a girlfriend and wasted a lot of my time. Luckily, things have gotten better over the past two years. I graduated from college, which I thought was impossible, learned Japanese, saved enough to start a business, and went on my first date (still no girlfriend though). It’s been amazing to experience new things now. For anyone who feels behind, you never know what awaits you in life. Please don’t give up and start doing something that made your future self thankful right now. You’ll feel grateful later on.
im old now but years ago the women I met in my life all came about without trying out of the blue me being me when you become you stop worrying about silly stuff stand tall might not work for everyone but worth a try enjoying life is a big part of it
I’m 22 and I still don’t have a girlfriend. I’m going to graduate college next year in spring 2025 and I still barely made any close friends in college and haven’t joined any clubs or programs. I’ve made friends each semester but we were like friends just for that semester. After the semester ended, we barely talked. I’d reach out and we’d talk for a bit. But it was never the other way around. Right now I’m just trying to fix my diet and get in shape. I’m happy but just lonely you know. The only true friend I have is my car lol. She never lets me down. I saved money for two years and bought my own 2021 honda accord.
I’m 32, and it’s deeper than “Don’t be afraid to be behind in life.” There is no such thing as “behind in life.” It’s a trick, a shadow on the wall. To be behind, implies one is racing or competing with their peers and contemporaries, or at the very least judging one’s worth by comparing one’s material and social success with theirs. Do not live like this, it is a waste of life. Do not even think like this. Be allergic to framing reality like this. It is not only physically and spiritually exhausting, it is ultimately a worthless endeavor.
you are competing. If you want family and friends, you do have to compete. People caring about status and money doesnt make them bad people, and having these things yourself will in turn make your dating and friend pool a lot bigger. Money buys freedom and lessens anxiety.
@@Christian-ml9sx I have never once competed for status and money, and I have little of either. But I do have family and friends, and I have never had to compete for them. Caring about status and money doesn’t make someone a bad person. Whether someone is bad or good depends entirely on one’s actions and then on their reasons for those actions. If someone only cares about status and money, they can’t be a good person, but I wouldn’t call them bad per se, more like confused. Especially if they truly believe status and money will get them things that are truly valuable and meaningful, like love and friends, and will buy their freedom and happiness. Status and money can buy the appearance of these things. Appearances are deceiving, and a great many people are fine going to the grave surrounded by the convincing illusion they’ve made of their reality. Money doesn’t reduce stress, secure access to resources and social connection reduces stress. Money is a proxy. Freedom that has to be bought isn’t actually freedom, it is servitude. As far as your “dating pool,” I don’t like women so I have never had to compete for money and status in this regard. But for straight guys that want to date lots of women, you absolutely have to care about money and status, and that sucks for you, I’m sorry. I’d still say it’s not worth it, but that’s me. Do what you gotta do to get p**sy I guess, if that’s something you want out of life.
@@Christian-ml9sx That's a pessimistic mindset. I'd avoid people like you right away.! Only shallow people care abt your status/money or even how you look.
@@neilstarkweather8721there is truth to what he says. at a basic life level we do end up competing with others as part of Nature, but you can be mindful enough to lessen the competitiveness of it. Money does reduce the stress caused by money problems which can be some of the worst kinds of stress because you need it for food and shelter. Secure access to resources and social connection can help you get the money that you need. In this world we live in, you do need some money to have freedom in modern society, but you could go live in the country and denounce modern things like the internet to require less money.
I'm 45, worked for decades on my health, body, career and relationships. There is no wrong or right when it comes to this, everyone is on their own schedule in life, also, setbacks happen, the course changes and we fail (many times) - the goal is to keep moving forward, and, make the most of life and enjoy the ride at the same time. God's timing is perfect.
Yeah I agree with what you said about Gods timing. It’s like once you are just clear about going forward in life, and doing your best to be a good person and reach your personal goals, the universe or God starts letting you know you’re doing the right thing, and your circumstances will reflect that by meeting the right people or certain opportunities will unexpectedly come to you.
I'm 36 myself and if I could only give my younger self one piece of advice it would simply be that you're under no obligation to be the person you were five minutes ago.
@@jsonkody It is a barren wasteland riddled with fire, and ash and dust ... the very air you breathe is a poisonous fume. Not with ten thousand Men could you do this. It is folly.
Kinda going through this myself. I am 34 unfortunately, super ultra behind. I wasted years. Weed and video games. Lost everyone, burned all bridges but I always had other interests and hobbies that helped me. I am working towards changing my life too, I want a job I feel happy at, I will save all my money, find a good woman, God is with us all if we let Him. Thank you for your video, motivation and advice.
This feels like a Millennial dilemma bro. You’ve literally just described my life to a damn “T” and I’m 36. We were raised durian a time where we still got to experience analog technology and the crossover into the digital age. Its kind of difficult to verbalize how odd our mid-thirties are in this age, you know?
It's terrible, specially because some people of a certain ethnic group (won't say anything else..) wrecked our world with all that social media shit, Tinder, IG, Facebook, and so on...that has changed things in a way we don't even grasp yet, I feel It in the youngest generation a lot, but It also affects millenials, specially...women@@SmokeOnTheWater108
@@SmokeOnTheWater108 Same here my friend - about to turn 40 in a few month and i often thought about it being a millennial dilemma, since i grew up the same way you and Vekren described - experiencing the old times and progressively trying to live a life that got more fast paced by the years, trying to catch up to certain standards that - as i found out - weren't mine from the beginning - obviously feeling bad about not being able to catch up as fast as i would have liked or seen others do... Learning to live on my own terms and accepting myself as i am helped me a lot, as well as acknowledging that there are far more important things in life than being a high performer by any means, even if u feel like shit in the process and trying to keep up with folks you see online that only show the upsides but not the downsides of self improvement as well as unattainable standards. Be yourself and live your own life after setting your own goals - and keep in mind that you are not alone - we all struggle with the human experience and i sign every word Rob said in this video 💯 Stay strong, love yourself and help others to do the same ✌
30. no job no car no money no girlfriend/wife no kids no house i can call my own no friends I got left behind in life. When i should've been focused on finding work at a younger age, i was too busy playing video games and watch tv. I've had a total of 3 jobs in my entire life. Idk how to catch up at this point. No one cares to help. I don't know how to help myself. So im stuck in this bubble, where i hope and pray every night before i go to bed that i just simply don't wake up. I think i've given up on living because no matter how hard i want to try to get ahead, i just don't. I sit there thinking about what i need to be doing and it gets so overwhelming. So i lay down and ignore it, until the next day, when i unfortunately wake up again. And the cycle continues. Maybe tonight ill get lucky and succumb to the struggle and don't wake up. Please listen to this guy. Every word he says take it to heart. I don't want no one ending up where i am. This is pure hell.
Hey buddy, your message really struck out at me. I’m 41 and finally got the big house and the nice cars but it took 15 years of trying. I know that exact feeling when you wake up and you talk to yourself almost like a drill sergeant. Like here’s the deal Chase this is what we’re going to do, then you get online and it’s an overwhelming soup of information. You don’t know who is full of crap and who isn’t. The reality is, on the Internet, the best way to make money is sell people a dream package on how they can learn to make money online. Most of these people live very different lives outside of the camera. There are of course exceptions and we all know their names but it’s so rare and a lot of these people also are involved in illegal and illicit operations outside of what you see on the Internet that are making them that money. Start by just going for walks every day then just hit the gym two days a week for 25 minutes that’s it. Learning click funnels on you to udemy.com is not a bad waste of time and when you get some skills you can get on Upwork.com and apply for some quick and easy jobs. If you have any basic skills with building funnels or websites, you can charge lots of people that don’t have the time patience to learn these skills. If you have any extra money now is not a bad time even to get into Bitcoin and just hold it. Even if it’s just a couple hundred dollars, you’ll see just do a little bit of research with Elon Musk going to be heavily involved in the White House and Donald Trump. keep your head up man, it does get better. It just freaking sucks on the way there. You’re not alone then trust me there are hundreds of thousands of us that don’t know what the hell we are doing from moment to moment. I was a total nothing until I was around 29 when I got my butt in gear, and even then it felt like I was wasting my time. I know you don’t know me, but hopefully that gives you some idea. It’s low hanging fruit if you try the things above. You’d be surprised how much you’ll separate yourself by just trying out a couple of those things.. Just don’t buy into the hype. 99% of people are full of shit on the Internet.
if you feel left alone, i’m praying for you and think about you so as every single left alone soul…. my heart is so filled with hate i can only give love❤
Hey, I'm 30 and I was in your situation at 25, save for having a girlfriend. I was struggling ending my undergraduate degree and was seeing no hope for the future. Now, 5 years later I have all the things you said with a very good standard of living. If you told me 5 years ago I would've laughed at your face, literally. 5 years can do much, be smart and work hard once you figure out the right thing to put work into. I'm Roman Catholic and pray, but even if you don't believe I'll pray for you.
I think you are really lucky bcoz you working for your career even if you waste so much time earlier still doing what you love at age of 37 you are really lucky that you born in USA Because the place I live or were i born is very rigid they set line for every thing if i am doing what i love even i wasted so much time in my 20's people will judge you very badly you will even remain isolated and single the so called society here will never accept you just because you are a failure and you never does anything in your 20's😢
@@ankitch1542you’re even luckier because you’re starting in your 20s I’m 21 and I’ve started taking my life seriously. I woke up one day and realised I’m wasting too much time on pointless stuff, we can do this!!
24, trying to catchup currently. I see it all the time so I know people are gonna call bullshit. There’s been plenty of times lately where I feel stuck and have been to the E.R. for stitches or flushes because I tried to permanently end it but I can’t quite fully go through with it for one reason or another. Before today, I probably would’ve hung myself within the year because I felt like such a failure as a man. This genuinely opened my eyes to know that I genuinely got decades in front of me. You probably saved my life with this. Lol Genuinely, thank you. Thank you for that perspective shift.
From an experience I went through, nothing will save you from this pit unless you pay attention and read about religion, and here I am not a missionary or calling you to pagan or formal worship, but your arrival at the complete truth with evidence and the realization that this life is just a temporary thing, and that it is merely a test for what is to come, will make you You fight in life and do not give up easily. You will have a bigger goal. It will make you work hard in your work and professional life, and help people and yourself non-stop. You will feel happiness you cannot imagine. Read the Qur’an, the Bible, and the Torah, for example, away from the noise of imaginary conflicts Man was not created in vain or by chance Religion is not a drug or a cause of conflicts, as we are systematically convinced
Life advice, talking to girls can be a big downfall too. Play wow and make money, love yourself is the most important thing. If you can’t love the life you have nothing else will matter. You need to embrace whoever you are. Love that.
I’m 37 going on 38 and I too feel I have so many wasted years but the past is the past and the future is mine. Everyone has their own path and success is not always found in your young years. Everyone lives with different circumstances too. I love this video it hit hard. Mate you’re one amazing man. Instant subscribe. God bless you.
The opposite is much much worse, when you do a lot of things in your 20s, you have success with girls, and suddenly things go south and you find yourself in your mis 30s broke, without a proper job and you don't attract girls like before for no apparent reason. Even if you did a lot of effort to get your studies and stuff.. sometimes life is mean.
@@m.a.g.3920 the success I was talking about wasn’t success with women. That I’ve never had problems with. Pussy is expensive mate - and can be costly at any age. As for money it comes and goes.
Today is my 23rd birthday. I've been in almost the exact same spot you said you were, but I've decided to make some changes recently and I can see what you're saying. It's always encouraging to see people who've been in your spot, thank you, sir.
I'm 23 and for so long i've felt so far behind than my other friends and family and wasted my life from 21 to now been and feeling what you've been talking about, thank you
My grandpa always said to us ( so many times) : "its not the destination, its the journey that will determine who you are and where you are mentally and physically. The only person that has your best interest at heart is YOU". He tried to explain it and some of the grandkids understood it but me, i was one of the youngest, i didnt understand... but i never forgot it.
I’m going through the exact same process, its been tough initially and its going to take time, but I am already seeing benefits and I know it will be worth the effort. Get your shit together a day at a time, no one is going to do it for you, its necessary, your body is your temple, once you respect yourself life becomes much better and you start to live in an abundance mindset and exit the scarcity mindset. Your health and your hobbies is all that matters in the end.
Legendary Video Positive and realistic to the maximum extent Thank you man ❤ I am 28 years old I swear to God I have been kind of depressed the past few days and thinking about this very topic
I am 36, too. Just lost the only job I know to do, and I am going to school. Currently, unuployment lost all my muscles because I can not afford to eat healthy food anymore. Depressed? Sometimes, but I am still working my way to get better.
‘88 born here, keep your head up bro. Our lives are literally what we make it. We are young enough to still make things happen yet old enough to know what decisions got us to where we are. You know what to do because you know what hasn’t been working. Keep pushing forward and up, bro☝🏾☝🏾
Yeah I I have disabilities. Never worked and I only got my first job at like 30 my mom never really wanted me to work because of my mental problems. I want to catch up on life. I'm 35 now. I spent my life mostly isolated. I hope it's possible
That’s because you mom wants to keep you Infantized so that’ll you’ll look after her when she needs the help as she ages and all the stuff you’re trying to learn now she’ll expect you to learn it on your own after she passes.
@@streamingnowstreamingnow2568 no maybe a little bit i’ve started to get some life experience now. My mom just has anxiety disorders and she’s always been very overprotective of me because I’ve had a lot of childhood trauma and my dad abandoned me when I was little. She’s always been so afraid of me getting hurt. But I realize her overprotectiveness has held me back in a lot of ways. I’m starting to put myself out there. I have a lot of anxiety problems and I’m getting Therapy to get it under control.
@@streamingnowstreamingnow2568 I guess RUclips deleted my comment again, but yeah, you’re partially right. But my mom just has a lot of anxiety problems which I inherited and she was really afraid that I would get hurt because what my dad did to me when I was young and she’s been really overprotective of me getting hurt ever since.
Dont worry you are still have another 40/50 years to make it up. The main thing is forgive her, she was just being protective and scared. Just improve 1% per day you will get their at the end life is marathon take your time
I'm 33 and want to better myself but man my bad habits control me so much. One habit I have is I like to daydream in my own head issue is I daydream for hours which does me no good.
Soms kom je ineens pareltjes tegen op youtube op precies het goede moment. Zit al een tijdje in een fase waar ik binnen zit en alleen maar game, niet goed voor mezelf zorg etc etc. Ga nu weer naar de sportschool na 2 maanden niet gesport te hebben en voel me direct beter!
These are some very good insights - thank you! When I feel demotivated I try to tell myself that it is the journey and not the destination that is important. Although it's hard to live by sometimes, lol...
OH SHIT then u hit me with my favorite maiden song! Dude I heard it first back in middle school I thin, I'm 29 now and still everytime I hear it I get such a rush of feelings and need to dance and sing to it, no song hits me harder with the lyrics.
Lenin once said "There are decades where nothing happens; and there are weeks where decades happen" I think this fits here also pretty well. When fighting for the revolution don't forget to also fight for your personal revolution.
Thank you! You've shared wisdom with us, for free, which might just have a life-changing impact for anyone who inplements these lessons. The "falling behind" and "ultra-productivity" traps are so easy to fall into, and it's always in retrospect people seem to realise that we each need to strike a balance in life that means we don't miss out on the memories, experiences, and relationships that are what truly make a rich life. You're still young, sir - keep on learning, growing, and reflecting! 🙌
This video may just have saved my life. I can identify so much with so much you've said and have often thought about giving up and ending it all because of the feelings of failure, hopelessness and being behind. Thank you so much for giving me hope. I am 32 and not too far behind you in age and never had a proper youth myself
Im 20 and wasted the past two years on doing some scam get rich quick schemes, and only 4 months of studying to get into a college before injuring myself and progressively got worse for 10 months. I herniated discs in the gym and couldnt sit down to study so i fucked around and didn't do anything for the last 10 months of the past 2 years. Im about to study to take exams and get into a uni at age 21 and i feel so behind in life. But your video was very helpful. I also got a good physiotherapist that makes me confident that i will get better and heal until the summer. Its hard to study because it still hurts when im sitting down but I'll try to push through
@@steve5123456789 I did very high intensity deadlifts, squats and leg presses. I wouldn't say that it was "ego lifting" it was just that in the program I was following it was told that I would be able to add 5-10 lbs every week to each lift which for me wasn't the deal. But I kept pushing for it because I thought there was something wrong with me if I didn't add it every week. I also bought into the idea of high intensity training which is kind of risky even if everybody preaches to train until failure.
@@steve5123456789If you are careful and not ego lifting you will be fine, just warm up before every workout, do stretches from time to time, eat properly. Always control your muscles and all
I'm really recognized myself in this story of yours,. I'm 25 now, and already missed a lot of times, but the things you've said make me believe I'm have future yet, have possibility to achieve some happiness yet. Thank you, Sir! Send you my regards from Russia)
Men dont start peaking until their mid 30s so you're right on time actually. Its women who have to get things done in their 20 since beauty is pretty much all they bring to the table, and that has an expiration date.
A purposeless life is an unhappy one. Even when you purpose requires pain and suffering, it enriches your life experience and gives you a true feeling of elation. You feel challenged before going to the gym, but when you leave, you always want to go back even if you are tired and worn. That's what its' all about.
Yeah and then you realize that immortal is nothing, you need to be at least top 1000 to be "different" from all others. And after you are top1000, you realize that it is absolutely worthless and you wasted 1000s of hours. Been there.
@@FireF1y644 I know what you mean, that's why being a dota player is a cult, a religion, a sacrifice to the al mighty all knowing one lord Gaben, he gives you he takes from you, this is a never ending journey to struggle and suffering which I enjoy ❤️❤️❤️
m/23 chronical ill since 2022 with severe long covid. Im falling more behind everyday and I cant stop it... I can only watch. Praise the opportunity to get a better version of yourself.
36 is still young. Many modern people live to 90 and even 100 years old. So you its not late if you are still alive. But dont thimk you should buold your kingdom here on earth.
@@marcelarbeiter4694 in think it depends on genetics, lifestyle, surroundings, sicknesses, wealth etc. But many people still living healthy life in 80s and 90s. My parents are over 70s still in very good health, may God take from my years and grant them to them. Many people born after 1980 might live very long if living healthy lifestyle and no sichnesses or other causes of death. It seems mid age is lot after 35 or 40. Of course depend on person also
@@BSell-b1q we spend pig part of our lives old but not useless. Sorry but you have world view of five years old. Mostly the young people are useless. When we are you we are living only for ourselves doing nothing for other people. But you can do good in any age. Many 60 years old are still totally living good life. Anyway we should not live for this life we will grow old and die soon. We should be seeking the eternal life.
This is the video I needed. I think being intentional with things is the key, being intentional with when to work and when to just relax and spend quality time with the important people in your life.
Put a management system in place for your life (how) rather than setting goals (what). Focus on what you do every day rather than the "destination" and enjoy every day.
Wooooahhh it's like message from universe. I'm a 23 yo woman and I'm nobody I'm also catching. I had many problems and severe depression in my teens and 20's.
Yep, you've summarized it well. What seemed like a brick wall turns out to be a paper facade - a lot of these obstacles are easy to overcome, so long as you actually try. It's a bit like cold water - the imagination of how it's going to be is far worse then the reality once you're in there. As for making that change - I think a guy has to hit a low point, where he's just over it. For me it was when I went to a speed dating event, and I was so paralyzed with anxiety that I got to the door of the bar, and then chickened out and drove home. That stuck in my throat, I couldn't live with being that cowardly, to the point that I had to try again - and the next time I walked through that door. From there it was all forward momentum, the spell had been broken. Everything I was afraid of, I started to face, until there was nothing left.
i'm 23 and never a video was so relatable to me, i'm struggling to find a job, while all of my friends are well paid in theirs, for most of the time i have this feeling that life has nothing more to offer, and no matter what i do this will not change because i already failed, as if when i turn 30 nothing more will matter,, a constant feeling of hopelessness, i'm terrible in talking with people in general, i feel like i would never be able to find a girl who's genuinely loving me, i've been trying to make progress by studying, going to the gym, and submitting my resume, and even through i still didn't get much progress i started to feel better, i just hope that in the end things work fine and that i start to feel hope for the day of tomorrow and life again
Last month I turned 18. I don't have much work experience. Because I'm at home most of the time. I've been off drugs and bad friends for about a year now (I still smoke cigarettes but I'm working on quitting). I went to the gym three months ago. Now I am thinking of training kickboxing to develop my self-defense skills.And my self-confidence I haven't done much but I feel like I'm on the The right way. ❤️
I agree, once you achieve a goal, it feels empty, I worked hard, saved my money, lived sensibly and bought a family home in my mid 20s, now I'm very grateful to God for my material successes, but it's just that, material. I expected to feel some burden lifted, but it's not how life is, I wish I'd spent more time enjoying life and having more virtuous goals, rather than material goals. But now I'm in a position where I'm restricted as I'm a slave financially to the world. It is worth it for my family, and that redeems it, my advice to anyone is don't be in a rush, like the video says, it's okay to be "behind" in life.
I rob, Im Marcelo from Argentina, im 44 and your video was really inspiring for me. Thanks! I have 3 little girls, one baby, a wife and a house, and sometimes I feel I need more because the media says that... what a fool... thanks once more, deeply reach me and make me think! Grettings from Argentina !
Thank you for your wise words I think that's what I needed, words that bring clarity, balance and hope to become the man of tomorrow. I'm 28 years old in few weeks I will have 29 years old I was a little afraid of not being able to accomplish some of the dreams that I cherish so ardently. Your video allowed me to see where I was stuck so a big thank you. 😌👍
My friend you are lucky, personaly I am 37 years old and I am signal 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢because I was diagnosed oligoasthenospermia so I can't have kids I couldn't talk to girls about this subject!!! Be grateful for what you have
I don't think you realize how much this helped me today. I've been feeling depressed about the decisions i've made and had lots of regrets, but this gave me hope that i can still become happy if i put in the work. God bless.
Live a good, clean, sober, moral life. Be in service to God and your fellow man. Find a job that doesn’t make you crazy and stay busy. Always have goals. Be disciplined and don’t use profanity. Commit to a good woman and to being a man of God. Peace and all my best to all of you.
So true - life's all about the journey. I've been playing WoW for 8 years, and I don't regret a thing. To be honest, it kept me away from some really bad decisions that my friends who didn't play ended up making, like getting into drugs etc... Now, I'm the only one doing something productive while they’re still caught in making poor choices.
I'm 33 and I can just approve what you're saying. And in my opinion it is the most realistic " if you're xy years old. Watch this video" these advices are absolutely important and really true. And yes it is true. Not everybody is going to be rich.
This is actually genuine and practical advice that applies to people in the real world. Unlike all these "life gurus" who are inflating youtube by the thousands at the moment... This was great man 👍 Props
I'm 32. At 30 I was unemployed, had no goal but gaming in life, got bullied a lot and had a bad childhood. I was under the effects of anorexia again. Then I got angry and stood up. I wanted to be happy. So I have been fighting. I am working out, doing volunteering, enjoying my make-up as a man, learning social skills etc. I have my ups and downs. But I refuse to go back to the pit where I was at first. I just want a job, but I need to figure out what to do. Your videos are helping me immensely. So thank you monsieur.
I'm 20 in this November, I literally just started experiencing exactly what you're talking about, one good thing I have out of this is that I know which direction to take, as I'm writing this you described exactly that. This is a wonderful video for men stuck in the position where you felt stuck when you were younger, thank you so much
I thought I was behind because I got 3 associate degrees and couldn't decide what to do. I did talk to girls, went on many dates. Got my heart broken. Started my career at 26 in computer aided drafting. Went from oil and gas to now a senior level civil designer. Met my wife when I was 28. I'm 37 and we have 2 little ones a house, 3 vehicles (2 are paid off) and I have money saved. I'm looking at not retiring because I enjoy what I do but switching to part time as soon as possible.
This shit has wasted the golden time of my life, And I have a lot of regrets about this thing, I'm 25 years old now and I have nothing in life I'm absolutely zero😔🥺And I've been trying to get out of this shit for the past 2 months, i really love a girl and she's from US and she is so beautiful, I have no dirty or bad intentions or thoughts about her. I really love her with a true heart and I want her to become my future wife and we live a beautiful life together. But whenever I think about her , I have the some thought in my mind that, I have nothing, I am a zero person. and i think i will lose her, But I'm trying to get out of this shit and become a better successful and complete man So pray for me that I can live a successful and a better life with my love,, And thank you so much for making this video, it has given me so much hope and makes me feel like I'm not the only one in the world going suffering this.
Where can I sign this? I totally agree. 36yo guy here.Enjoy you life while you still can there is nothing more precious than happines and calm in a life.
Soon 38 here, fell hard three times in life, first time was in my teens, went from straight A student to failing over a third of my grades. Social life was next to zero due to a decade of bullying, dating life as well. Met a guy, became friends, he was toxic, almost murdered me twice because reasons. I was omw in recovering my failed grades but due to this guy I fell again, deep depression for about 6 years doing nothing with my life, could not even walk to the nearest store without someone in my family going with me. Once we got a kitty, my life started going up again at 26 years old, the following year I got accepted into a top university. Sadly I failed that too, it was my dream education and I failed it, fell again into a sense of loss. Dated some afterwards with almost no money, the only one I ever loved turned out to be a fucking sociopath. At 33 years old I got accepted into another university studying not my dream but a hobby field, graduated, now doing my master degree. Will life screw me over again? Likely, but I am so much stronger than I ever was and any setback in the future will be handled that much quicker without mental issues.
I'm 19 and already feel like I missed life for the last 5 or 6 years. That I felt for the first time a love a few months ago made me realize that I am behind. This video just gave me the advice I needed. So, thanks for that.
I'm 20 rn and this summer i realised how miserable my life was all this time, i mean, i had friends, but always had conflicts with them, i didn't listen other opinions on smth, i played games a lot, i had some hobbies like guitar or working out sometimes, but games were at the 1st place always, it was hard for me to start a conversation with someone, girls were also far away and fortunately i cnanged my mindset and stopped playing that much, started thinking what should i do next to have some decent life and i'm so proud that my mind is almost clear right now
glad to find your content. I was and am also a gamer and now 38 years old I realise i have got nothing to look forward to and missed out on so much in life.
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I’m 12. If you’re in your 5’s watch this…
Stop the cap 🧢. How comes you joined RUclips 17 years ago 😂
@@fhatylion7302 I was -5 mentoring -15s.
@@fhatylion7302Issa joke lol
Im 2, if your in your moms belly watch this
@@BARCABetterThanReal😂😂😂
Life is never linear, your story in your sales job shows this. Sometimes you make more progress in 2 years than you make in the last 10.
After quitting video games 1 month ago, which I used to play for approx 7 hours a day for the past 15 years, I made more progress than I made in the last 5 years.
@@weareeverywhere8851 oh wowww
@@weareeverywhere8851What did you do instead?
@@weareeverywhere8851what have you started doing differently that you made such progress?
Awesome man, much respect. I’m sure you can build an awesome life if you keep doing what you’re doing 💪🏻.
27m here, who has never had a girlfriend and wasted a lot of my time. Luckily, things have gotten better over the past two years. I graduated from college, which I thought was impossible, learned Japanese, saved enough to start a business, and went on my first date (still no girlfriend though). It’s been amazing to experience new things now.
For anyone who feels behind, you never know what awaits you in life. Please don’t give up and start doing something that made your future self thankful right now. You’ll feel grateful later on.
so you can speak fluent japanese now? did you go get a girlfriend in japan
@@ayoobi1691 he is a jav actor now
@LoserLotte1 you'll find her bro. Keep that positive attitude, and be the man you think your perfect girl would want.
im old now but years ago the women I met in my life all came about without trying out of the blue me being me when you become you stop worrying about silly stuff stand tall might not work for everyone but worth a try enjoying life is a big part of it
I’m 22 and I still don’t have a girlfriend. I’m going to graduate college next year in spring 2025 and I still barely made any close friends in college and haven’t joined any clubs or programs. I’ve made friends each semester but we were like friends just for that semester. After the semester ended, we barely talked. I’d reach out and we’d talk for a bit. But it was never the other way around. Right now I’m just trying to fix my diet and get in shape. I’m happy but just lonely you know. The only true friend I have is my car lol. She never lets me down. I saved money for two years and bought my own 2021 honda accord.
I’m 32, and it’s deeper than “Don’t be afraid to be behind in life.”
There is no such thing as “behind in life.” It’s a trick, a shadow on the wall.
To be behind, implies one is racing or competing with their peers and contemporaries, or at the very least judging one’s worth by comparing one’s material and social success with theirs. Do not live like this, it is a waste of life. Do not even think like this. Be allergic to framing reality like this. It is not only physically and spiritually exhausting, it is ultimately a worthless endeavor.
you are competing. If you want family and friends, you do have to compete. People caring about status and money doesnt make them bad people, and having these things yourself will in turn make your dating and friend pool a lot bigger. Money buys freedom and lessens anxiety.
@@Christian-ml9sx I have never once competed for status and money, and I have little of either. But I do have family and friends, and I have never had to compete for them. Caring about status and money doesn’t make someone a bad person. Whether someone is bad or good depends entirely on one’s actions and then on their reasons for those actions. If someone only cares about status and money, they can’t be a good person, but I wouldn’t call them bad per se, more like confused. Especially if they truly believe status and money will get them things that are truly valuable and meaningful, like love and friends, and will buy their freedom and happiness. Status and money can buy the appearance of these things. Appearances are deceiving, and a great many people are fine going to the grave surrounded by the convincing illusion they’ve made of their reality. Money doesn’t reduce stress, secure access to resources and social connection reduces stress. Money is a proxy. Freedom that has to be bought isn’t actually freedom, it is servitude.
As far as your “dating pool,” I don’t like women so I have never had to compete for money and status in this regard. But for straight guys that want to date lots of women, you absolutely have to care about money and status, and that sucks for you, I’m sorry. I’d still say it’s not worth it, but that’s me. Do what you gotta do to get p**sy I guess, if that’s something you want out of life.
@@Christian-ml9sx That's a pessimistic mindset. I'd avoid people like you right away.!
Only shallow people care abt your status/money or even how you look.
@@neilstarkweather8721there is truth to what he says. at a basic life level we do end up competing with others as part of Nature, but you can be mindful enough to lessen the competitiveness of it. Money does reduce the stress caused by money problems which can be some of the worst kinds of stress because you need it for food and shelter. Secure access to resources and social connection can help you get the money that you need. In this world we live in, you do need some money to have freedom in modern society, but you could go live in the country and denounce modern things like the internet to require less money.
I fully agree, and those telling you otherwise are usually selling you a course
Just stopped by to say I wish I'd stop seeing thumbnails telling me "it's too late" 😂
Same here.
you should stop engaging with that type of conten and you will get less, you are welcome.
Its never too late if you are still alive.
Same, subliminal messaging
@Maximus_sapiens Oh is that how the algorithm works, enlightening thanks 🤯
I'm 45, worked for decades on my health, body, career and relationships. There is no wrong or right when it comes to this, everyone is on their own schedule in life, also, setbacks happen, the course changes and we fail (many times) - the goal is to keep moving forward, and, make the most of life and enjoy the ride at the same time. God's timing is perfect.
You said it perfectly!
@@SmartPhotoVault Cheers!
Yeah I agree with what you said about Gods timing. It’s like once you are just clear about going forward in life, and doing your best to be a good person and reach your personal goals, the universe or God starts letting you know you’re doing the right thing, and your circumstances will reflect that by meeting the right people or certain opportunities will unexpectedly come to you.
Naw
@@TommyZeus-i8n Your answer is awesome. Just better yourself! You need to tell this to Wheat Waffles! 2024
I'm 36 myself and if I could only give my younger self one piece of advice it would simply be that you're under no obligation to be the person you were five minutes ago.
As long as you don't loose your loyalty and honesty if you ever had one.
Same bro 🤦🏾♂️ I’m currently 36 since January and I felt that
❤39 I love this one
I thought you would say: "One does not simply walk into Mordor."
@@jsonkody It is a barren wasteland riddled with fire, and ash and dust ... the very air you breathe is a poisonous fume. Not with ten thousand Men could you do this. It is folly.
Never in my life I thought about getting advice from 36 y.o. guy with minecraft music in background but I love it.
I didn't know he used Minecraft music in his videos. Thanks for the incredible insight!
Don't sacrifice enjoyment in life for something that may not even happen.
not true
Kinda going through this myself. I am 34 unfortunately, super ultra behind. I wasted years. Weed and video games. Lost everyone, burned all bridges but I always had other interests and hobbies that helped me. I am working towards changing my life too, I want a job I feel happy at, I will save all my money, find a good woman, God is with us all if we let Him. Thank you for your video, motivation and advice.
This feels like a Millennial dilemma bro. You’ve literally just described my life to a damn “T” and I’m 36. We were raised durian a time where we still got to experience analog technology and the crossover into the digital age. Its kind of difficult to verbalize how odd our mid-thirties are in this age, you know?
It's terrible, specially because some people of a certain ethnic group (won't say anything else..) wrecked our world with all that social media shit, Tinder, IG, Facebook, and so on...that has changed things in a way we don't even grasp yet, I feel It in the youngest generation a lot, but It also affects millenials, specially...women@@SmokeOnTheWater108
@@SmokeOnTheWater108 Same here my friend - about to turn 40 in a few month and i often thought about it being a millennial dilemma, since i grew up the same way you and Vekren described - experiencing the old times and progressively trying to live a life that got more fast paced by the years, trying to catch up to certain standards that - as i found out - weren't mine from the beginning - obviously feeling bad about not being able to catch up as fast as i would have liked or seen others do...
Learning to live on my own terms and accepting myself as i am helped me a lot, as well as acknowledging that there are far more important things in life than being a high performer by any means, even if u feel like shit in the process and trying to keep up with folks you see online that only show the upsides but not the downsides of self improvement as well as unattainable standards.
Be yourself and live your own life after setting your own goals - and keep in mind that you are not alone - we all struggle with the human experience and i sign every word Rob said in this video 💯
Stay strong, love yourself and help others to do the same ✌
@@SmokeOnTheWater108same here bro I’m 35 and it seems like all us millennials have the same story
30.
no job
no car
no money
no girlfriend/wife
no kids
no house i can call my own
no friends
I got left behind in life. When i should've been focused on finding work at a younger age, i was too busy playing video games and watch tv. I've had a total of 3 jobs in my entire life. Idk how to catch up at this point. No one cares to help. I don't know how to help myself. So im stuck in this bubble, where i hope and pray every night before i go to bed that i just simply don't wake up. I think i've given up on living because no matter how hard i want to try to get ahead, i just don't. I sit there thinking about what i need to be doing and it gets so overwhelming. So i lay down and ignore it, until the next day, when i unfortunately wake up again. And the cycle continues. Maybe tonight ill get lucky and succumb to the struggle and don't wake up. Please listen to this guy. Every word he says take it to heart. I don't want no one ending up where i am. This is pure hell.
Hey buddy, your message really struck out at me. I’m 41 and finally got the big house and the nice cars but it took 15 years of trying. I know that exact feeling when you wake up and you talk to yourself almost like a drill sergeant. Like here’s the deal Chase this is what we’re going to do, then you get online and it’s an overwhelming soup of information. You don’t know who is full of crap and who isn’t. The reality is, on the Internet, the best way to make money is sell people a dream package on how they can learn to make money online. Most of these people live very different lives outside of the camera. There are of course exceptions and we all know their names but it’s so rare and a lot of these people also are involved in illegal and illicit operations outside of what you see on the Internet that are making them that money. Start by just going for walks every day then just hit the gym two days a week for 25 minutes that’s it. Learning click funnels on you to udemy.com is not a bad waste of time and when you get some skills you can get on Upwork.com and apply for some quick and easy jobs. If you have any basic skills with building funnels or websites, you can charge lots of people that don’t have the time patience to learn these skills. If you have any extra money now is not a bad time even to get into Bitcoin and just hold it. Even if it’s just a couple hundred dollars, you’ll see just do a little bit of research with Elon Musk going to be heavily involved in the White House and Donald Trump. keep your head up man, it does get better. It just freaking sucks on the way there. You’re not alone then trust me there are hundreds of thousands of us that don’t know what the hell we are doing from moment to moment. I was a total nothing until I was around 29 when I got my butt in gear, and even then it felt like I was wasting my time. I know you don’t know me, but hopefully that gives you some idea. It’s low hanging fruit if you try the things above. You’d be surprised how much you’ll separate yourself by just trying out a couple of those things.. Just don’t buy into the hype. 99% of people are full of shit on the Internet.
if you feel left alone, i’m praying for you and think about you so as every single left alone soul…. my heart is so filled with hate i can only give love❤
Hey, I'm 30 and I was in your situation at 25, save for having a girlfriend. I was struggling ending my undergraduate degree and was seeing no hope for the future. Now, 5 years later I have all the things you said with a very good standard of living. If you told me 5 years ago I would've laughed at your face, literally. 5 years can do much, be smart and work hard once you figure out the right thing to put work into. I'm Roman Catholic and pray, but even if you don't believe I'll pray for you.
Im 37 and Im feeling like Im in my early 20s, I wasted my 20s by the way, I was heavily into drugs and doing girls . Now Im chasing career
Same here brother
How is doing girls a wasted time? Many regret they didn't develop this hobby...😅
@@ondrej1893 "You can love girls, or you can understand girls, but you can never do both"
I think you are really lucky bcoz you working for your career even if you waste so much time earlier still doing what you love at age of 37 you are really lucky that you born in USA
Because the place I live or were i born is very rigid they set line for every thing if i am doing what i love even i wasted so much time in my 20's people will judge you very badly you will even remain isolated and single the so called society here will never accept you just because you are a failure and you never does anything in your 20's😢
@@ankitch1542you’re even luckier because you’re starting in your 20s I’m 21 and I’ve started taking my life seriously. I woke up one day and realised I’m wasting too much time on pointless stuff, we can do this!!
24, trying to catchup currently. I see it all the time so I know people are gonna call bullshit. There’s been plenty of times lately where I feel stuck and have been to the E.R. for stitches or flushes because I tried to permanently end it but I can’t quite fully go through with it for one reason or another. Before today, I probably would’ve hung myself within the year because I felt like such a failure as a man. This genuinely opened my eyes to know that I genuinely got decades in front of me. You probably saved my life with this. Lol
Genuinely, thank you. Thank you for that perspective shift.
Hey man don’t give up. Keep fighting. I want to hear about your amazing story and successes one day.
@@devonmiller113damn sure gonna give my best and nothing less.
I hope you’re doing well man, I was in a somewhat similar mindset and this video really helped me out a lot. Be safe out there.
24 and in a similar position. keep fighting brother
From an experience I went through, nothing will save you from this pit unless you pay attention and read about religion, and here I am not a missionary or calling you to pagan or formal worship, but your arrival at the complete truth with evidence and the realization that this life is just a temporary thing, and that it is merely a test for what is to come, will make you You fight in life and do not give up easily.
You will have a bigger goal.
It will make you work hard in your work and professional life, and help people and yourself non-stop.
You will feel happiness you cannot imagine.
Read the Qur’an, the Bible, and the Torah, for example, away from the noise of imaginary conflicts
Man was not created in vain or by chance
Religion is not a drug or a cause of conflicts, as we are systematically convinced
Respect for minecraft music. I love your vids overall
Life advice, talking to girls can be a big downfall too. Play wow and make money, love yourself is the most important thing. If you can’t love the life you have nothing else will matter. You need to embrace whoever you are. Love that.
I’m 37 going on 38 and I too feel I have so many wasted years but the past is the past and the future is mine. Everyone has their own path and success is not always found in your young years. Everyone lives with different circumstances too. I love this video it hit hard. Mate you’re one amazing man. Instant subscribe. God bless you.
The opposite is much much worse, when you do a lot of things in your 20s, you have success with girls, and suddenly things go south and you find yourself in your mis 30s broke, without a proper job and you don't attract girls like before for no apparent reason. Even if you did a lot of effort to get your studies and stuff.. sometimes life is mean.
@@m.a.g.3920 the success I was talking about wasn’t success with women. That I’ve never had problems with. Pussy is expensive mate - and can be costly at any age. As for money it comes and goes.
I'm 27 glad to see your videos pop back on my homepage, keep up the work Rob, truly inspirational
Today is my 23rd birthday. I've been in almost the exact same spot you said you were, but I've decided to make some changes recently and I can see what you're saying. It's always encouraging to see people who've been in your spot, thank you, sir.
Well put together. Thanks for this video.
This so relatable to me maniyoo🤧🤧
Thanks for sharing this💗💗💗
I'm literally living your past at 26 and I'm very happy to have come across your video. It's like a future message to my current me. Thanks Brother!
I'm 23 and for so long i've felt so far behind than my other friends and family and wasted my life from 21 to now been and feeling what you've been talking about, thank you
My grandpa always said to us ( so many times) : "its not the destination, its the journey that will determine who you are and where you are mentally and physically. The only person that has your best interest at heart is YOU". He tried to explain it and some of the grandkids understood it but me, i was one of the youngest, i didnt understand... but i never forgot it.
I’m going through the exact same process, its been tough initially and its going to take time, but I am already seeing benefits and I know it will be worth the effort. Get your shit together a day at a time, no one is going to do it for you, its necessary, your body is your temple, once you respect yourself life becomes much better and you start to live in an abundance mindset and exit the scarcity mindset. Your health and your hobbies is all that matters in the end.
im 33 and i am still behind in life. struggling to have that peak in life
maybe the peak comes when you stop caring about the peak
Here's something i recently learned: "the greatest tragedy in life is not aiming too high and missing, but aiming too low and hitting"
I disagree. I aimed too high too often and ended up falling way lower than I would have been if I aimed low and gradually progressed after small wins
Some people aim so high they build an impressive rocket that blows up in their face on the launchpad. Destroying their life.
Legendary Video
Positive and realistic to the maximum extent
Thank you man ❤
I am 28 years old
I swear to God I have been kind of depressed the past few days and thinking about this very topic
tell me about it
@@MohamedAmine-jv7yw If u wanna talk or maybe play some video games, hit me up. I am also a soon to be physical therapist :)
I am 36, too. Just lost the only job I know to do, and I am going to school. Currently, unuployment lost all my muscles because I can not afford to eat healthy food anymore. Depressed? Sometimes, but I am still working my way to get better.
‘88 born here, keep your head up bro. Our lives are literally what we make it. We are young enough to still make things happen yet old enough to know what decisions got us to where we are. You know what to do because you know what hasn’t been working. Keep pushing forward and up, bro☝🏾☝🏾
Yeah I I have disabilities. Never worked and I only got my first job at like 30 my mom never really wanted me to work because of my mental problems. I want to catch up on life. I'm 35 now. I spent my life mostly isolated. I hope it's possible
God bless you my friend you are here for a reason and God loves you❤
That’s because you mom wants to keep you Infantized so that’ll you’ll look after her when she needs the help as she ages and all the stuff you’re trying to learn now she’ll expect you to learn it on your own after she passes.
@@streamingnowstreamingnow2568 no maybe a little bit i’ve started to get some life experience now. My mom just has anxiety disorders and she’s always been very overprotective of me because I’ve had a lot of childhood trauma and my dad abandoned me when I was little. She’s always been so afraid of me getting hurt. But I realize her overprotectiveness has held me back in a lot of ways. I’m starting to put myself out there. I have a lot of anxiety problems and I’m getting Therapy to get it under control.
@@streamingnowstreamingnow2568 I guess RUclips deleted my comment again, but yeah, you’re partially right. But my mom just has a lot of anxiety problems which I inherited and she was really afraid that I would get hurt because what my dad did to me when I was young and she’s been really overprotective of me getting hurt ever since.
Dont worry you are still have another 40/50 years to make it up. The main thing is forgive her, she was just being protective and scared. Just improve 1% per day you will get their at the end life is marathon take your time
I'm 33 and want to better myself but man my bad habits control me so much. One habit I have is I like to daydream in my own head issue is I daydream for hours which does me no good.
Maladaptive daydreaming. I have the same issue. Avoid listening to music because that's a bog trigger
I just realised this video has 800 views. I thought it had millions and i think soon it will. Very intelligent and honest insight. Good job
Only man that makes me feel really better.
Enjoyed that video so much👌👌👌👌
Really glad to hear this
@@robmulder Yes dude, i need to hear this. Im too caught up with what im not doing.
My boy I am also 36, same freakin story as yours. But I do believe in you, you will get everything you need to be happy❤
Soms kom je ineens pareltjes tegen op youtube op precies het goede moment. Zit al een tijdje in een fase waar ik binnen zit en alleen maar game, niet goed voor mezelf zorg etc etc. Ga nu weer naar de sportschool na 2 maanden niet gesport te hebben en voel me direct beter!
One of the best advice video for youth.
These are some very good insights - thank you! When I feel demotivated I try to tell myself that it is the journey and not the destination that is important. Although it's hard to live by sometimes, lol...
OH SHIT then u hit me with my favorite maiden song! Dude I heard it first back in middle school I thin, I'm 29 now and still everytime I hear it I get such a rush of feelings and need to dance and sing to it, no song hits me harder with the lyrics.
Lenin once said "There are decades where nothing happens; and there are weeks where decades happen" I think this fits here also pretty well. When fighting for the revolution don't forget to also fight for your personal revolution.
Lenin destroyed marxism
Yo Rob, keep up all the good work!
Thanks man, going to post a lot of videos in the future
@@robmulder if you just turn 36 this year . That means your a Dragon and it’s a dragon year. Good year for you brotha. God bless
Thank you! You've shared wisdom with us, for free, which might just have a life-changing impact for anyone who inplements these lessons. The "falling behind" and "ultra-productivity" traps are so easy to fall into, and it's always in retrospect people seem to realise that we each need to strike a balance in life that means we don't miss out on the memories, experiences, and relationships that are what truly make a rich life. You're still young, sir - keep on learning, growing, and reflecting! 🙌
This video may just have saved my life. I can identify so much with so much you've said and have often thought about giving up and ending it all because of the feelings of failure, hopelessness and being behind. Thank you so much for giving me hope. I am 32 and not too far behind you in age and never had a proper youth myself
Im 20 and wasted the past two years on doing some scam get rich quick schemes, and only 4 months of studying to get into a college before injuring myself and progressively got worse for 10 months. I herniated discs in the gym and couldnt sit down to study so i fucked around and didn't do anything for the last 10 months of the past 2 years. Im about to study to take exams and get into a uni at age 21 and i feel so behind in life. But your video was very helpful. I also got a good physiotherapist that makes me confident that i will get better and heal until the summer. Its hard to study because it still hurts when im sitting down but I'll try to push through
How did you injure yourself? Do do think the gym should be avoided?
@@steve5123456789 I did very high intensity deadlifts, squats and leg presses. I wouldn't say that it was "ego lifting" it was just that in the program I was following it was told that I would be able to add 5-10 lbs every week to each lift which for me wasn't the deal. But I kept pushing for it because I thought there was something wrong with me if I didn't add it every week. I also bought into the idea of high intensity training which is kind of risky even if everybody preaches to train until failure.
@@steve5123456789If you are careful and not ego lifting you will be fine, just warm up before every workout, do stretches from time to time, eat properly. Always control your muscles and all
@@steve5123456789 avoid very heavy weights and if you already have a sore back lower the weights even more
I'm really recognized myself in this story of yours,. I'm 25 now, and already missed a lot of times, but the things you've said make me believe I'm have future yet, have possibility to achieve some happiness yet. Thank you, Sir! Send you my regards from Russia)
Your story is a really happy one, i really feel with you🍀
Men dont start peaking until their mid 30s so you're right on time actually. Its women who have to get things done in their 20 since beauty is pretty much all they bring to the table, and that has an expiration date.
Ugh. I'm so glad I'm a lesbian when I read comments from losers like this
Sad incel 😂 go cry
@@lucyferos205 Used-up foid found
Many women are probably 100x more intelligent, creative and useful than you, what a trash ass comment 😂 grow up serisouly
A purposeless life is an unhappy one. Even when you purpose requires pain and suffering, it enriches your life experience and gives you a true feeling of elation. You feel challenged before going to the gym, but when you leave, you always want to go back even if you are tired and worn. That's what its' all about.
keep grind on dota 2 you will reach immortal, i believe in you guys
when DOTA 3 comes out you can keep playing DOTA 2. I know because I'm still playing DOTA in Warcraft III
Yeah and then you realize that immortal is nothing, you need to be at least top 1000 to be "different" from all others. And after you are top1000, you realize that it is absolutely worthless and you wasted 1000s of hours. Been there.
@@FireF1y644 I know what you mean, that's why being a dota player is a cult, a religion, a sacrifice to the al mighty all knowing one lord Gaben, he gives you he takes from you, this is a never ending journey to struggle and suffering which I enjoy ❤️❤️❤️
m/23 chronical ill since 2022 with severe long covid. Im falling more behind everyday and I cant stop it...
I can only watch.
Praise the opportunity to get a better version of yourself.
36 is still young. Many modern people live to 90 and even 100 years old. So you its not late if you are still alive. But dont thimk you should buold your kingdom here on earth.
Depends on you're genetic. Bust mostly the quality of life decreases after the age of. 70, so you can consider the mid thirties as middle. Life
@@marcelarbeiter4694 in think it depends on genetics, lifestyle, surroundings, sicknesses, wealth etc. But many people still living healthy life in 80s and 90s. My parents are over 70s still in very good health, may God take from my years and grant them to them. Many people born after 1980 might live very long if living healthy lifestyle and no sichnesses or other causes of death. It seems mid age is lot after 35 or 40. Of course depend on person also
age 60-100 is basically non-life though. we spend most of our lifespan old, ugly and useless. its the harsh truth.
@@BSell-b1q we spend pig part of our lives old but not useless. Sorry but you have world view of five years old. Mostly the young people are useless. When we are you we are living only for ourselves doing nothing for other people. But you can do good in any age. Many 60 years old are still totally living good life. Anyway we should not live for this life we will grow old and die soon. We should be seeking the eternal life.
it depends on how old you look for your age
Wow that hits hard men im literally crying right now. Thank you so much for your true honesty that you share with us. God bless you and your family.
This is brilliant brother I'm proud of you
He had to overcome a bunch of hurdles to become successful. Todays people think opening an instagram account and an OF is "a bunch of hurdles".
This is the video I needed. I think being intentional with things is the key, being intentional with when to work and when to just relax and spend quality time with the important people in your life.
Put a management system in place for your life (how) rather than setting goals (what). Focus on what you do every day rather than the "destination" and enjoy every day.
Wooooahhh it's like message from universe. I'm a 23 yo woman and I'm nobody I'm also catching. I had many problems and severe depression in my teens and 20's.
I'm 32, and everything you said here just felt relatable. Thanks for sharing this strong motivational piece. There is really hope indeed.
Thank you much rob for these content, God bless you bro!
Yep, you've summarized it well. What seemed like a brick wall turns out to be a paper facade - a lot of these obstacles are easy to overcome, so long as you actually try. It's a bit like cold water - the imagination of how it's going to be is far worse then the reality once you're in there. As for making that change - I think a guy has to hit a low point, where he's just over it. For me it was when I went to a speed dating event, and I was so paralyzed with anxiety that I got to the door of the bar, and then chickened out and drove home. That stuck in my throat, I couldn't live with being that cowardly, to the point that I had to try again - and the next time I walked through that door. From there it was all forward momentum, the spell had been broken. Everything I was afraid of, I started to face, until there was nothing left.
i'm 23 and never a video was so relatable to me, i'm struggling to find a job, while all of my friends are well paid in theirs, for most of the time i have this feeling that life has nothing more to offer, and no matter what i do this will not change because i already failed, as if when i turn 30 nothing more will matter,, a constant feeling of hopelessness, i'm terrible in talking with people in general, i feel like i would never be able to find a girl who's genuinely loving me, i've been trying to make progress by studying, going to the gym, and submitting my resume, and even through i still didn't get much progress i started to feel better, i just hope that in the end things work fine and that i start to feel hope for the day of tomorrow and life again
Last month I turned 18.
I don't have much work experience. Because I'm at home most of the time.
I've been off drugs and bad friends for about a year now
(I still smoke cigarettes but I'm working on quitting).
I went to the gym three months ago.
Now I am thinking of training kickboxing to develop my self-defense skills.And my self-confidence
I haven't done much but I feel like I'm on the The right way.
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I agree, once you achieve a goal, it feels empty, I worked hard, saved my money, lived sensibly and bought a family home in my mid 20s, now I'm very grateful to God for my material successes, but it's just that, material. I expected to feel some burden lifted, but it's not how life is, I wish I'd spent more time enjoying life and having more virtuous goals, rather than material goals. But now I'm in a position where I'm restricted as I'm a slave financially to the world. It is worth it for my family, and that redeems it, my advice to anyone is don't be in a rush, like the video says, it's okay to be "behind" in life.
everyone thinks the grass is greener on the other side
I rob, Im Marcelo from Argentina, im 44 and your video was really inspiring for me. Thanks! I have 3 little girls, one baby, a wife and a house, and sometimes I feel I need more because the media says that... what a fool... thanks once more, deeply reach me and make me think! Grettings from Argentina !
Thank you for your wise words I think that's what I needed, words that bring clarity, balance and hope to become the man of tomorrow. I'm 28 years old in few weeks I will have 29 years old I was a little afraid of not being able to accomplish some of the dreams that I cherish so ardently. Your video allowed me to see where I was stuck so a big thank you. 😌👍
My friend you are lucky, personaly I am 37 years old and I am signal 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢because I was diagnosed oligoasthenospermia so I can't have kids I couldn't talk to girls about this subject!!! Be grateful for what you have
You are what you are cause you have been what you have been. Just live, learn and stop regret.
You are a person with a big and clean heart, but addiction is a different person than your beautiful self. I hope you live happy times❤
He still needs Jesus.
@@Anon74289 yas 👏
You are already rich man. You have a beautiful family. Thanks for the advices
This is the best advice video I've ever seen. I needed this . I truly thank you .
Rob god bless you, you were describing what my therapist told me yesterday. 😢 I am 24 and I got so much to live for!!
The wasted years reference hit me hard. I love that song and also connected that same message to it!
Great story, glad you share it with us.
I don't think you realize how much this helped me today. I've been feeling depressed about the decisions i've made and had lots of regrets, but this gave me hope that i can still become happy if i put in the work. God bless.
You.
You.
You are the best thing I will see today.
Live a good, clean, sober, moral life. Be in service to God and your fellow man. Find a job that doesn’t make you crazy and stay busy. Always have goals. Be disciplined and don’t use profanity. Commit to a good woman and to being a man of God.
Peace and all my best to all of you.
Jesus fucking christ I cant believe I was just inspired by the song wasted years and you mentioned that song here! God bless you.
So true - life's all about the journey. I've been playing WoW for 8 years, and I don't regret a thing. To be honest, it kept me away from some really bad decisions that my friends who didn't play ended up making, like getting into drugs etc... Now, I'm the only one doing something productive while they’re still caught in making poor choices.
I'm 33 and I can just approve what you're saying. And in my opinion it is the most realistic " if you're xy years old. Watch this video" these advices are absolutely important and really true.
And yes it is true. Not everybody is going to be rich.
Great video. Nice to hear some advice from a more experienced man who already walked the path that I walk right now.
This is actually genuine and practical advice that applies to people in the real world. Unlike all these "life gurus" who are inflating youtube by the thousands at the moment... This was great man 👍 Props
I'm 32. At 30 I was unemployed, had no goal but gaming in life, got bullied a lot and had a bad childhood. I was under the effects of anorexia again. Then I got angry and stood up. I wanted to be happy. So I have been fighting.
I am working out, doing volunteering, enjoying my make-up as a man, learning social skills etc. I have my ups and downs. But I refuse to go back to the pit where I was at first. I just want a job, but I need to figure out what to do.
Your videos are helping me immensely. So thank you monsieur.
u r 36 years old...u r talking like if u are an old man...when u be 56 u will say "thinks i wish i knew when i was 36"
Lol fax
Nonetheless, he accumulated some life wisdom and we should appreciate he is sharing it with us.
I'm 20 in this November, I literally just started experiencing exactly what you're talking about, one good thing I have out of this is that I know which direction to take, as I'm writing this you described exactly that. This is a wonderful video for men stuck in the position where you felt stuck when you were younger, thank you so much
I thought I was behind because I got 3 associate degrees and couldn't decide what to do. I did talk to girls, went on many dates. Got my heart broken. Started my career at 26 in computer aided drafting. Went from oil and gas to now a senior level civil designer. Met my wife when I was 28. I'm 37 and we have 2 little ones a house, 3 vehicles (2 are paid off) and I have money saved. I'm looking at not retiring because I enjoy what I do but switching to part time as soon as possible.
LOL good old WoW. I spent a whole year of my life /played. HAHAHA fun at the time when I was young.
Typing /played was one of the most confronting things we could possibly do, haha.
This shit has wasted the golden time of my life, And I have a lot of regrets about this thing, I'm 25 years old now and I have nothing in life I'm absolutely zero😔🥺And I've been trying to get out of this shit for the past 2 months, i really love a girl and she's from US and she is so beautiful, I have no dirty or bad intentions or thoughts about her. I really love her with a true heart and I want her to become my future wife and we live a beautiful life together. But whenever I think about her , I have the some thought in my mind that, I have nothing, I am a zero person. and i think i will lose her, But I'm trying to get out of this shit and become a better successful and complete man So pray for me that I can live a successful and a better life with my love,, And thank you so much for making this video, it has given me so much hope and makes me feel like I'm not the only one in the world going suffering this.
im similiar and 25
i love "wasting" time playing games, its what I like the most
but yheah, bad food and being too much introvert is a bad thing sure
Thank you brother, 33 and must shift my thinking. This is what I needed to hear.
Another great message and self reminder. very meaningful. Thank you.
Where can I sign this? I totally agree. 36yo guy here.Enjoy you life while you still can there is nothing more precious than happines and calm in a life.
Soon 38 here, fell hard three times in life, first time was in my teens, went from straight A student to failing over a third of my grades. Social life was next to zero due to a decade of bullying, dating life as well. Met a guy, became friends, he was toxic, almost murdered me twice because reasons. I was omw in recovering my failed grades but due to this guy I fell again, deep depression for about 6 years doing nothing with my life, could not even walk to the nearest store without someone in my family going with me. Once we got a kitty, my life started going up again at 26 years old, the following year I got accepted into a top university. Sadly I failed that too, it was my dream education and I failed it, fell again into a sense of loss. Dated some afterwards with almost no money, the only one I ever loved turned out to be a fucking sociopath. At 33 years old I got accepted into another university studying not my dream but a hobby field, graduated, now doing my master degree. Will life screw me over again? Likely, but I am so much stronger than I ever was and any setback in the future will be handled that much quicker without mental issues.
This is gold. Thank you. A lot of things I needed to hear..
I'm 19 and already feel like I missed life for the last 5 or 6 years. That I felt for the first time a love a few months ago made me realize that I am behind. This video just gave me the advice I needed. So, thanks for that.
I'm 20 rn and this summer i realised how miserable my life was all this time, i mean, i had friends, but always had conflicts with them, i didn't listen other opinions on smth, i played games a lot, i had some hobbies like guitar or working out sometimes, but games were at the 1st place always, it was hard for me to start a conversation with someone, girls were also far away and fortunately i cnanged my mindset and stopped playing that much, started thinking what should i do next to have some decent life and i'm so proud that my mind is almost clear right now
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Thanks for sharing your story, appreciate it. And the way you tell it is so honest and simple
We need more realistic, real vids like this as a counter point to all the wannabe ceo vids messing with young guys heads.
Thank you for such a thoughtful and meaningful video! Love the authenticity and your unique story, and how you want to help others!
glad to find your content. I was and am also a gamer and now 38 years old I realise i have got nothing to look forward to and missed out on so much in life.
Dankjewel Rob. Ik had dit nodig maat. 👊
I’m turning 38 n I just gave up drinking and smoking 🚬 and now living for the lord and be a better person everyday
I’m 38 and I think it’s funny that these vids are recommended to me.