Hi! My brothers and I were all homeschooled, and I just wanted to share how well it works. We all took the US SAT in high school, and my mom kept a high school transcript. This is what most colleges want. None of us had a problem getting into college. One brother is an engineer, the other got his business degree, and I am working on my teaching degree.
@@bookworm4174 thank you for sharing this! Your comment will answer so many questions posted on this video. Would you be open to doing a video to share more of your experience?
@@AparnaJain1 I absolutely would! I know different states have different laws, and different colleges will have different admission policies. That does not have to hold us back. I have worked in a small Christian school, and I am currently a TA at a public elementary school. If I have children in the future, my first choice would be homeschool.
Me and my wife have been debating on this since the child was born. In India, there are some practical constraints coming our way to sort this out. We have tried for months in between and it's not too bad. But the amount of effort and energy we will need to put in, is what we are gearing up for. The child is just 3 right now, so we do have time. But please keep sharing content on this. Very few sensible Indians are there on the RUclips building content around homeschooling. So please share as much as you can around online resources, age appropriate curriculum, tools and techniques...will be super grateful..thanks
@@northshorelight35 Not sure why the lol, but the answer is simple. Growing up homeschooled, I was passionate about homeschooling my own children one day. That's still the goal, but I am unmarried and want to find a job that aligns with my passion for learning and my love of working with children. Teaching is fulfilling; if I can't teach my own, I can at least teach in other ways. A teaching degree can be used to teach online, privately, overseas, tutoring, starting a group to support homeschooling families, etc. I don't know for sure if I will use my degree in a public setting, but if I need to support myself, then at least I can make a difference for the kids I work with. As homeschooling grows, so does the opposition to it. It may one day be necessary for a parent to have a degree or be part of a co-op with licensed teachers.
I also don't send my kid to school...and he is 8 years old...super sharp,super intelligent, far ahead of his age...no bad habits...eat sprouts,healthy things,take proper sleep,brown belter in Karate...very good swimmer..he has time for everything in life ...I am glad to see his progress...he goes to tuition for 2 hours daily....and I teach him 2 hours in the morning...day time he just completes his homework.
@@GauravKumar-nn3gz that’s amazing to hear! This is one big benefit of homeschooling - using time efficiently! Getting proper sleep alone is a big winner in my books
Hello Aparna! Is it possible to connect over mail. I have a 10 month old daughter and I would want to be prepared to have her homeschooled. We live in Cary,nc.
For parents living in India: If you are interested in homeschooling, the best way is: enroll your child in any school which doesn't have high fee. Create a reason so that the child is allowed to come to school only for exams. You will get the school certificate and your child will get the skills and the knowledge. If you have like- minded friends interested in home schooling, let the children learn together at one place. Make a community of homeschooling parents and collaborate with each other for resources and ideas.
As an ex school teacher I greatly appriciate your move. By homeschooling not only you are saving tons of resources but not giving your hard earned money to school managements whose only goal is to make profits
@@hatebreeder999 thank you for the kind words. I have met many teachers who won’t send their own kids to school knowing the plight of these systems. We’re definitely saving the most precious resource- time. Spending it well with our kids and having an amazing time on this journey.
@@hatebreeder999 In America our tax dollars are funding the public schools whether we use it or not. However, as a homeschooler I honestly don’t mind. I’m fine with helping to cover schooling for those that can’t afford other options if it means the government keeps their nose out of how I choose to educate my children.
@@Analytical_Mind In USA, 82% of students are enrolled in public (government) schools dude. And still the quality of education that students get in these schools is very poor. Quality of education in private schools is better even though they spend less money per student compared to government schools in US. Atleast in US it is not greedy capitalism that is providing poor education, its the public (government tax funded) schools that is providing poor education. Even in india, im gratefull that my parents enrolled me in private school even though it cost them more money, the education I was able to get was way way better than gov schools in my city.
Finally, someone in the homeschooling world I connect with! I've been following homeschooling videos for months after reading a few books on the subject. But it seemed many influencers in this space do it for different reasons than me. Homeschooling was a logical consideration after reading many books myself on neuroscience, health, personal development and educational theories. I thought I'd find many like-minded people inspired by the same ideas, but I haven't. This video is the first that lists the same motivations as me. Thank you for sharing. I hope you share more on this topic.
You might like the podcast called “Schole sisters” - they talk a lot about educational philosophy. Also, Charlotte Mason homeschooling can be Christian or secular but follows classical understanding of education and puts the child first.
That's interesting... maybe you need to look for more of the Classical Homeschoolers? Not Classical Conversations. There are a core of a us who are really committed to giving our children the best education we can and not from a place of fear (fear of school, fear of the public, etc) but instead we know the potential our children have and that the local schools are not living up to that.
@@daniellemerrick6215 one of the reason is not being indoctrinated into the woke ideology like gender and sexuality. this is also a reason whether u like it or not. people dnt want their kids to be taken away from them and put on puberty blockers. its a serious concern for most millennial parents
Homeschool for good health.. Get good sunlight and nutrition. Learn geometry, trigonometry, algebra by application, not abstract textbooks.. It is lotta fun
yes you learn science and math. However skills like peer learning and sharing, team bonding, showing leadership to your team and public presentation can be achieved only via school. You can also do above things by enrolling into separate courses for each skill, but it will be expensive.
Not everything has a practical application though. Many of the useful science that exists today was discovered by people who were only trying to understand things, some based on observations, some on abstract ideas, but without any practical application in sight. So, understanding practical applications is nice, but abstract thinking and the capacity to draw information from "boring books" is also necessary
When traveling, teach your children to navigate, to plan, to learn about the places you're going through and your destination. Teach them about the history of the place. Teach them about the economics of the place. There's tons of learning to be had on a trip. Budgeting is a great lesson during traveling as well.
Aparna, I'm so impressed with your efforts. I'm hoping to employ the wisdom you shared to help my child with his School learning even though we can't move him to homeschooling at this stage of our life. Thank you.
@@supercrazydesi Thank you! It’s great to hear that you can supplement your child’s learning. Not everyone can or should homeschool. All of us are doing our best and I’m glad you’re finding a middle ground.
Yes, PLEASE tell us more about what your days and weeks looks like homeschooling! I love your organic, but still serious-about-education approach. This is so helpful!
@@amyevers6309 thanks for the kind words. I will make a series of videos asap. So many questions have come up on this video. Here are all the topics I will cover in detail in the future- Expectations Philosophy and teaching style Travel Gameschooling Playing vs creating games Movement Reading Writing Sports Competition Why no curriculum Empathy Brain development Foods and supplements Weekly schedule Embracing the imperfections Stay tuned!
Very much looking forward to these examples! Have been homeschooling for a few years but I want something more like real life & am hating everything that feels forced for them or me!
We need more homeschool content!!!!! Begging you! I am a first year homeschool mom of four - I took my two school age children (2nd + 4th grade) out of public school and I love this video of yours! Please make more 🙏🏼
Brilliant! I am also an Engineer, and I have been homeschooling my oldest since COVID, who also wants to be an Engineer. I get the most pushback from family and close friends. But I am staying on course. I am super proud of my family, especially my child, for our path. We do everything from music to language, math, coding, financial literacy, etc. I recently completed a Cybersecurity program. As a part of that program, I spent much time doing presentations. About a month ago, my child expressed interest in cybersecurity. One of our favourite things to discuss on our walks is new cyber events. I am amazed by how much my 9-year-old knows. I am super proud of you and your family for taking the Homeschool journey, and I thank you for sharing your experience to date. Cheers
This video is a Godsend, with very excellent information. Thank you for taking the time to thoughtfully address the curiosity and concerns us parents have with homeschooling.
This has really hit home! We’ve been homeschooling since my son was in 1st grade and he is now 12 years old. And I decided to take him out because of the pull of wanting to know more about my child and how they were developing and not relying on someone system to do it for me. I began to not know my child, how they were connecting with the world, what they were interested in and I seen very soon that once passed kindergarten where play is still incentivized that school became a mundane boring look at how to learn. And after telling that long winded start to our beginning of our decision to start this journey, I am here to say that i am so refreshed at your perspective on your reasons for going down this path and your persistent strive for pouring into your children this love of learning and not listening to the naysayers! I am absolutely over joyous in being able to look at homeschooling through your lens and wholeheartedly agreeing and understanding your whys! And I am thrilled to say that I agree with your message and hope that it reaches the masses! Thank you so much for your rebellious tenacity towards a better future for our children! -with much love 💗
Engineer homeschooling mom here, too. I find a ton of other engineer homeschooling moms and dads because we know what it takes to get into and get through engineering school, and public and most private schools are not preparing the kids to go to engineering school. It’s not that I expect my kids to be engineers, but I want them to have that option, and homeschooling gives them that opportunity better than any other option.
@@martharobertson7943 I feel exactly the same! They can be whatever they want but to love learning and doing hard things, the deck is stacked in their favor at home, especially with engineer parents.
This so resonates with me. I did my masters in CS at 40 after 20 yeas of doing my undergrads. It was amazing and I so loved going back to academics. I want my child to have that as an option and the way AI is shaping up, gobbling up knowledge is just not going to prepare them for the future engineering. Any time I say this, my son rolls up his eyes and says, I'm becoming a footballer :) . And I say, what if you ever get charmed by engineering and math. You can have the cake and eat it too , for now at least :)
@@JcakiiiiiI worked with kids until my oldest was 5. I quit my job to homeschool and be a stay at home mom. My kids are 6, 5, 3, and 2. I still send 3 and 5 yo to preschool. We’re on our second year homeschooling. My husband supports us financially. He’s a mechanical engineer. We’re definitely not rich and live in a house that’s too small. No family support around so “free time” for myself is harder to come by.
Absolutely love your video! This is something I want to do and many ask me how would I teach them to socialize and the reality is that some kids don’t even socialize at school and you provide the perfect example
@@Behavioralmuse thank you! Exactly! So many kids don’t socialize at school. In fact, some are better off at home away from the bullying and comparisons. Not a single parent I’ve met so far hasn’t felt this. Children getting into bad company is a hard ditch to get out of. It’s a real problem and we are trained to ignore it as a society.
I am a 11 grader and left school , because of these reasons, I am on an engineering path too, and engineers don't fit into schools , loved your insights ❤, I am preparing for some of engineering exams, love from India 🎉
Congratulations, you figured it out!! 😊 It is SO heartwarming and a RELIEF to hear of more & more parents personally investing in their children in their loving home. Signed, A SAHM who educated my kids all the way through. 1997-2017 🙌🎉
I was home schooled until high school, and I was ahead of my peers in most subjects when I went to public high school and I graduated college with honors. I was also a teaching assistant in a private school, charter school, and a home school hybrid. The home school hybrid was the absolute best experience. The charter school was horrifying because the first teacher I worked with was abusive toward the students, and me. The private school was ok but so boring for the kids. The home schoolers (in general, as not all were) seemed the most prepared for the real world.
@@sarahhernandez5425 you’re right. The teacher can make or break a child’s learning experience. So many commenters who disagree with me gloss right over the most important aspect of school. If the child has a terrible teacher, they won’t learn well.
I would love to see you make another video explaining some details regarding how you plan on implementing some of these things. I love the idea of mixing subjects and project based learning. It would be great to get some insight on how to do this!
Great breakdown! As a former teacher, I can back up everything you said. My kids are 1 and 2 and I plan to continue homeschooling them till they are grown. The potential of children is profound! And with homeschooling, you can actually help your kids to realize all that potential. My 2 year old has already learned all her letter names and letter sounds, numbers to 20, colors, shapes, days of the week, months of the year, and is learning Hebrew letters now. From birth to age 5 they are sponges for information and memorize so easily. This is the time to input all the key information that they will need later, so you can focus on higher order thinking, problem solving, and application later. Definitely give them as much freedom as possible to learn what they love. For the other things that kids need to learn/memorize, song and hands-on activities make it fun and easy for them to learn. My two year old is already learning to skip count by 10s and 5s (the foundation of multiplication) thanks to fun and catchy songs we listen to on a RUclips channel called Hopscotch. I also do zero screen time for my kids and my daughters have really good attention spans and sit for books for 30 min- 1 hour.
@@amykemper7629 amazing! Your kids are gonna thrive! No screens is so important for the first five years. You’re gifting them a real childhood. Well done!
I strongly disagree. The young age is for playing and fun instead of learning what everybody will be learning eventually. By spending time on learning these things, you are squeezing out the time your kids could have used to develop their imagination and creativity.
@@sophiamyambala1405I taught elementary school, so I was not very knowledgeable about preschool. I learned a bit from books by Maria Montessori, Charlotte Mason, Glen Doman, as well as books on child development and more specifically child brain development. The most practical information I got was from RUclips channels by moms (some of whom were former preschool teachers). I cherry pick from their ideas and add in things I think are valuable. One mom on RUclips would google preschool learning standards, identify ones her child was ready for, and then find ideas for activities for that standard on Google or RUclips.
Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom in homeschooling. I am creating my daughter’s 8th grade school plans and your video helped me to focus more on her strengths. Also, I will begin a portfolio for her as well. This will be her 1st full year of homeschooling. The timing was perfect.
@@desirehunter I’m so glad it helped. Wishing you well on your journey! I started writing my kids’ portfolio in notion and loving it. I’ll share a video soon about it.
Wow! I really like your outlook on homeschooling! Definitely different and refreshing from a lot of what's out there on the internet about traditional homeschooling! ❤
Hi thanks for this video. I'm now doing my PhD while sending my child to daycare and soon a toddler school. I can see that she is not 100% happy with her school but she is trying to understand that I'm trying to graduate. I hope to learn more from you and maybe see myself homeschooling my daughter too. We'll see! I would love to learn and dive in the joy of learning together. Keep the videos coming! Thanks this is such an engaging video.
@@FairuzHumam you do what you need to mama. This video is for everyone trying to do best for their children. I’ll keep making more videos so when the time is right, you can either homeschool her fully or reduce her days in the daycare. Every minute of intentional parenting counts a lot for a child. Good luck on your phd!
Feels like you so nicely articulated my thoughts. Sailing in the same boat. I read more so I am able to homeschool my child and spend time with him, it's so much fun.
You should make this into a system. This is sooo useful for so many other young parents. I have been thinking about this exact thing. Kudos to you both and kids. All the best
Eagerly waiting for next video on Homeschooling ! Please share more such as resources etc! This is the best homeschooling video I have seen so far, so underrated!! ❤
I don't know how I stumbled upon this video but I'm so glad I found your channel! I'm a retired engineer as well (ChE) and I've been homeschooling my kids since the very beginning. My oldest is now a tween. Thank you for this video, it has motivated me to keep at it and put the focus back on their interests.
In my household, i don't expect my kiddos to learn a lot in public elementary, middle, or high school. What my wife and i do is supplement our kiddos' education at home. I really like the social aspect of school & availability of sports because i think it does somewhat mimic what happens in real life as adults. I'm not against homeschooling, but i'm not totally against American public schools either. I just don't expect a whole lot from American public schools; whereas, a lot of other parents' expectations are different than mine.
@@jicalzad I feel the exact same way! Not against schools but I’m choosing homeschooling for its efficiency. You’re doing great by supplementing what schools aren’t able to provide because of their architecture 🙌
I can’t like this lovely woman plus this thunderous wisdom and insight enough. I have a 2+ years old who has come to remind us what our DEFAULT MODE should be. Thank you so much.
I deeply resonate with your views…. I am a passionate educationist, n using theatre as a tool for same, i believe education is to enable self learning…. Learning is joy❤️
We are brazilian / americans for the last 23 yrs . Kids were born in NY , never thought about homeschooling them . After 1 years in Florida we made a decision . We are starting our 2nd year of homeschool lifestyle . Its nerve racking but I love it …. Loved your video . Thank you so much for taking time to share with us . Following .
I don't have children yet, but if i do, this will be the way we do it. For the children that are already there in my life (nieces & nephews), I've shared knowledge through the project based method you spoke of. It definitely works. My nieces age 9 & 12 have hammer drilled through rocks and created fountains, milled lumber & created wall clocks, used circular saws & oh so many tools & techniques already. My nephew had done metal welding at age 8. If the adult leads well, the little ones will rise up to the challenge. Great video.
Yes💯 Excellent video! You explain what homeschooling is really all about & you are a refreshing voice in the homeschool space. Can’t wait to see you share more!
Also an Engineer, also homeschooling. My answer to socialization: Socialization from K-12 is incredibly different than socialization real life. Also what you said, sports, clubs, neighborhood friends, etc. My answer to me vs teacher: Its not me vs teacher, its me to my kid vs teacher + 30 kids to my kid. If were comparing me 1 on 1 with my child vs a trained professional 1 on 1 with my child, sure the teacher is better. If were asking if I could do better than a trained experienced teacher if I took his place in front of 30 kids, again sure, teacher is better. Me 1 on 1 with my kid vs teacher with 30 kids, im better, by a lot.
I cannot thank you enough for creating this content. My husband and I have two young children and have made the decision to give homeschooling a try. I had been searching for valuable content but was struggling to find someone I resonate with… until I found you! Thank you infinitely for inspiring me. I hope I have the good fortune to continue to learn from you.
problem solving and critical thinking skills are actually punished in today’s schools. example: there are multiple methods to do multiplication and one may work better than another for each individual - but unfortunately all kids are forced to do it one way. this can result in many kids assuming they’re just bad at math, or even “dumb” as i’ve heard students tell me. but the schools still insist on their -one- right way and do it differently than taught and you will fail, regardless if it’s correct. also schools often teach to regurgitate, not to think for yourself. this video speaks truth and is an inspiration. thank you.
Hi fellow engineer, just found your channel and I'm loving it! You shared so many concepts that resonated with me apart from homeschooling. For example, financial independence, minimalism, voracious learning, etc. You did mention you are not spiritual. I would say my journey into spirituality has increased in the last 3 years and it has brought big blessing to my family. Don't skip that one :) Please keep making this content, it's really good.
@@TheMir1977 we don’t structure too much. We follow the kids energy but there is usually a rhythm up- morning time is outdoors time, movement of body and working on skills like surfing, biking, climbing trees, swimming etc. Then after lunch, we play board games or the kids create their own projects. As they get curious about topics, we dive deeper in those areas. Then they create again. After dinner, we read books and the kids go to bed by 8:30pm. Some days are different- they don’t want to go out and just relax in the house working on their craft. We read to them everyday and once a day, the whole family gets outside and plays.
First, I love that you are exploring alternative solutions and the effort you put into sharing them so we can all learn from your research. You seem like a lovely, heavily invested mom who wants the best for her kids, so kudos to you. However, you seem to dismiss a lot in school as distractions and inefficiencies, but they make school for many kids also a lot of fun. The role models, the jokes, the struggles, the plays and the day-to-day connections are invaluable for character formation and not easily replicated in a home setting. I have never experienced schools as authoritative places and critical thinking was very well fostered there. If feel we need to do better for those who experience school as inadequate for learning & healthy development. And of course, schools should modernize. On a deeper level: even though I am not causing problems like bullying, loneliness, carelessness, inequality, substance abuse and (mental) health, etc. etc., I want to be part of the solution, at home, at school and in our economy, not only for my kids, but for all of them.
@@emilyoud5190 i’m very glad that you had a good experience at school. From my research and including my own experience that is not the norm but an exception and you’re right we need to work to get schools to be better for our kids and posterity. I volunteer my time to teach high school kids how to get better at finances and choose careers. I want all the kids to benefit, including mine. Of course, there are good things at school, but my aim is to look at the overall picture and the long-term effects of our choices on our kids. Do the pros that you list cover all the inadequacies of this system? This question needs to be answered on a case by case basis. Those are the thoughts I want to provoke with this video as I mentioned that not everybody has to pull their kids out of school. It’s also true that not many parents are asking this question in the first place.
I was homeschooled and I think it really depends on the family and where you are located. I had a fantastic experience with it and we also did lots of different classes and activities outside of the home. However, I know some people who were very isolated at home due to living in more rural areas. For me, it was amazing and I believe I received all of the benefits of homeschooling. If people can afford to do it and are willing to work with their kids it is a great option. I have my master’s degree now and did very well in every degree. I feel like I am a critical thinker and was given lots of opportunities, so I’m very thankful.
@@chloesodonis8313 absolutely agree. It depends on the family and how the kids are raised and nurtured. Same goes for schools. Some are incredible but some lack basic education philosophy like encouraging kids to care about the effort vs the outcome of grades etc. Love that you had a good experience
Wow 🤯 really interesting to see your approach. I agree with your assessment of the education system and it's failings, tests and grades are indeed a game when true learning should be the focus. Unfortunately there are many zealous parents who damage their children by focusing so much on traditional education based on grades and exams and excessive studying and homework. Rather than really preparing children for life; interpersonal skills, relationship building, problem solving skills, communication skills etc.
This is my second year as a homeschooling mom. You gave me a new insight when it comes to time spent on a subject. 20 mins learning and they are really just getting started. I will no longer rush or put a time constraint on my child to get through subjects.
So relatable. I left my job as assistant professor of electronics engineering at one of the top central universities in india just beacuse i felt i wasnt doing justice to my kids. If educations cant help me improve my life and then there is no point running in the rat race. As you mentioned schools dont teach actual real concepts of learning thats a bitter truth. I have been spending alot of money and energy in continuosly upgrading myself to learn memory concept, speed reading, diet nutrition fitness, active recall, spirituality medidation, improving relationships, and many more tools and i am eager to teach my kids all these concepts at very early age and i also resonate with the idea that my kids must be able to run an entire business by the age of 21. Because the real world works on rotation of money energy and resources. I dont find alot of traditional cirriculum fit in real world. Hats of to your guts to put this in public and spreading confidence in people who want to instill these odeas into their kids.
Thanks a lot! I couldn’t let fear stop me from saying my truth. There have been critics of this idea, but ironically they didn’t achieve much going to schools anyway.
I come from Finland. We have this PISA-thing. Still the kids do not learn life, how life is monetised and what money is. I am an engineer and truly see how tech torments humans. I teach my kid to see how the system works you.
@@OIOnaut what’s PISA? These are great lessons you’re teaching through kids. No school taught me about money. After making expensive mistakes, I read a couple dozen books on investing and money and finally I feel confident about my choices to grow the wealth I have earned. Great choice about teaching them about technology too. I worked at a big tech company and so many of our meetings were about how to keep the viewers hooked. This is one reason why I keep my kids away from screens as much as humanly possible.
Hi Aparna - your passion and excitement is contagious. We also homeschool (4 kids) and this is our 13th year. Your ideas about project based, unit studies, and child-led learning are all very inspiring. And you’re right, it’s so important to look into the pedagogy of a school or method. My two recommendations to you as a new homeschooling mom is that you can’t always rely on child-led learning to carry you through. Your kid doesn’t know what they don’t know - so don’t expect their interests to be varied enough of their own accord to try many things outside their sphere, wheelhouse, or comfort zone (e.g. my kids wouldn’t have heard or tried Shakespeare unless I introduced them to it - now a family favorite). And secondly, don’t be afraid to push them when they encounter hard things. It won’t always be ‘sunshine & roses’ in adult life. They WILL have to do hard, unpleasant things as adults all the time. Building a child’s willpower at a young age is a good thing. In other words, they shouldn’t be leading everything and/or backing away from things they don’t like or are hard. Take Shakespeare as the example - we begin in 4th grade with it and some of my kids struggled at first - but they’ve become amazing readers (partly due to this) and all thoroughly enjoy it. Not to mention rich literature, numerous historical, mythological, cultural references, vocab building, connection with past generations… benefits are huge. Most 9 year olds wouldn’t even know to choose to do something like this. Keep up the good work! You’re giving homeschool a good name!! PS our pedagogy is Charlotte Mason. Highly recommend checking her out if you haven’t yet. 🩷🩷
@@RopeSwingDreams I agree with you that kids don’t know what they know. I refer to various topics to get ideas on what to introduce next to them. I just leave the burden of following a curriculum out of their lives. I work hard in the background so it feels seamless to them, that way they can focus on the learning and have a good time. I also had a conversation about working harder with my daughter. She mentioned she didn’t like something and I let her know that life values those who create and solve unique problems(at least on a high level) so she’ll have to work on certain things even though she doesn’t like it, be stoic about the process and enjoy the parts she does. Striking this balance is an art and thank you for the advice. It validated the plans I already had for them 🩷
You are amazing, such a brilliant mommy! I needed to listen to something like that a long time ago. Yes, I need your encouragement... Just still, repeating this episode 2 or 3 times. 😊 We live in a country that doesn't fully accept homeschooling. Most people we know, including our community, are upset with us, and it's not even legal here. 😢" We have been homeschooling for the past four years, but I still feel that my son should take what they take in schools, even though I know that this is not right, but the environment has brainwashed 😊me regarding this issue, so I said that this video is very important to me, and the important point is that my son is now 11 years old, so the difficulty of dealing with and presenting ideas and games for his age has become more complicated, I think. Can you advice us on ideas that will help at his age?
@@Adi-loul I hear you, you are treading difficult waters. Also, having self doubt is normal. People sending kids to school also have these thoughts. We want well being for our kids, so you’re on the right path. What subjects and topics are you planning to teach your son through games? There might be advanced games for his age, but my guess is projects will be more suitable. If they’re interesting to him, they’ll become the “play” and he’ll learn at the same time. Think of ways you can get him a real world internship(paid or unpaid). Once he has experience working for a real business, he’ll be able to go deeper into those concepts on the side. Hope this helps
So simple and easy to understand content And yet so much Empowering and Out of Box 📦 Hats off to you how well you have put it across to help others who wish to follow the same path 🙏🏻🙏🏻❤❤
Thanks for this video. I feel the same way about test and the curriculum. I subscribed because you really have a point on how you approached this youtube video. Thank you again..
Thank you for this video! You are reinforcing my innate desire to teach my own child this way. ♥️ I've been feeling bad because my 4 year old understands more about atoms, black holes, and bacteria than he does about counting numbers, and stressing myself over it because he's not learning the same exact way as his peers, but your video helped me a lot to calm down.
It sounds like you’re doing a great job! The Waldorf philosophy doesn't even bother teaching kids Math, Writing, Reading etc. till their milk teeth start falling. They're physically and emotionally ready as they grow a bit. No need to rush and match what schools are doing because their curriculums aren't data or science backed. Sounds like you're fulfilling his curiosity and doing your best. Keep going!
Thank you so much for this video! I taught in a large school district for 17 years & it was frustrating to watch the higher ups make policy decisions that they expected to fit every kid, but really harmed the majority of students. Especially after the pandemic, the student culture changed, apathy abounded, and the soft discipline policies tied the teachers’ hands so that it was difficult to get on with class. And all the useless district/state/federal testing…🤮. Staying sane in the classroom was like trying to fight back a wave. Both my husband and I knew we wanted to home school. It wasn’t until he changed to a job that enabled me to be at home and really start homeschooling. We are 8 months into the homeschooling journey; it was a rough start, but it’s not an impossible journey. ❤
I really appreciate hearing from public school teachers on this issue. The only sad aspect in your story is that many children lost a unique, creative, & rebellious (with a cause) teacher.
love this. problem solving and critical thinking skills are actually punished in today’s schools. example: there are multiple methods to do multiplication that may work better for each individual, but all kids are forced to do it one way. do it differently than taught and you will fail, regardless if it’s correct. schools often teach to regurgitate, not to think for yourself. this video speaks truth - especially about not equipping our kids to succeed in life - and is an inspiration. thank you.
I love the idea of homeschooling but even watching this video once again I got discouraged. We are a low income family so some of the ideas didn’t seem to apply to low income families. Matter of fact it seemed like it can be quite costly to home school if you apply some of the methods for a well rounded process and some of the dynamics that come associated with home schooling such as hiring a nanny so that you can have date night. Enrolling your kids with extra curricular activities such as gymnastics or swim lessons outside of home schooling to keep them active. Totally agree with these method and I see them as vital. All these things cost quite a bit of money and would not be realistic to fulfill on a low income☹️
You don’t have to hire a nanny, you can do date nights taking turns with other homeschooling parents. Try setting up a co-op. Classes can also be done with a work trade. Our gymnastics gym is short on coaches, so if a parent coaches the toddlers(it’s easy to learn and the owner trains parents for free), then the kids get free classes. So many ways to get creative. Think outside the box and your kids will learn these skills from you too. Wishing you well🩷
Love this! One of the best RUclips videos I've seen on homeschooling! You have a similar philosophy my family has. Wish you lived in S. Cali and could join our co-op 🙂
@@toniafisher68 thank you so much for the kind words. Aww that sounds so lovely. We would love to be part of a co-op. At the moment, what we have is a homeschooling group that meets every Friday for some activities, nature immersion and social connections. The rest of the week, we teach and play with the kids. I’ve also hired an amazing teacher to come over once a week to help us prepare our Montessori home environment, share ideas from her 15 years of experience and teach lessons to the kids. So far, the system has been working well!
I have started to look into homeschooling recently gievn the not so good education in Canada. I still dont think I can pull them out but may be complement at home more consciously. I have looking for indian perspective bcz most of the internet is full of either too Indian (Gurukul kind) or typical Christian perspective. This is such a nice and refresh balance. I wish I could ask you more practical tips of employing this.
I plan to make detailed videos about our exact process. Feel free to ask any questions here, and I'll create videos to answer those. Yes, and on my channel, I will not have any other agenda than what science and logic have shown us. The only necessary element other than those two IMO is empathy. Yes, you can get the best of both worlds by supplementing pieces of knowledge and projects while your kids go to school.
You have no idea how much each and word that you spoke resonate with me. Would you care to share what resources did you learn in your journey and what things you implemented from them and how did it help you teach yourself and your kids. That would be great
For thousands of years learning looked like apprenticeship. This was specialized for passing down and mastering skills. Academics makes little use of this now. It can be so challenging as a professional to get investment from professors or training at work.
When will they be introduced to structured work though? Because that is also needed in the real world, and knowing how to methodically learn a subject, and decipher many "boring" resources is also very useful. I think the ideal would be to cut school time by half or one third, but still have a structured curriculum that they should follow because that is also a necessary skill: following instructions, make the best of what is given, not to mention, if the curriculum is well made, it will be an efficient waynof learning things). Then, the rest of the time, homeschooling in the model you presented
Structured work has many meanings in people's minds. Most think of it as taking a list of problems(related or not), solving them, and checking a box that one chapter is done. In the real world, structured work involves solving problems by completing projects. As an engineer, I had to unlearn all the "structured work" of school and then think of breaking a problem down into small pieces, finding solutions for each, and combining them. I also had to learn that projects are never "completed"; work never ends; it is just abandoned to make room for higher priority projects. None of this thinking is part of school curriculums. It's very linear and does not integrate different pieces of a system together. That's why breaking things down into subjects isn't the best idea. Knowing all of this, when my kids work on something, it's far better that they understand the concept of problem-solving than solving unrelated questions line after line. In this journey, if and when they need "structured" work, they can always spend 20% of their time on it. 80% will still be used to solve a problem and create a product(physical or otherwise). From all the quality literature I have read, this is the definition of deep work.
I agree with you about cutting school time by a lot. They can do the linear stuff in schools and create solutions to real problems the rest of the time. It's still not ideal because the communication between these two pieces may be incoherent
@@AparnaJain1 problem solving is important of course, but I don't agree on many of the things you said: - school can also help problem solving, even if it's not with a real world type of problem. If you look at your book exercises as a problem YOU need to solve (and not go copy the solutions of) you will learn problem solving by searching, asking, comparing, breaking it down into smaller parts, etc. Math is very good for this. - The world is not made just of engineers and problem solvers. Even though we should all have this skill, it's not the only one needed. - I've seen people who are only interested in "getting things done", very "goal oriented people", who aren't able to go deep into a subject, pause, think, ask questions, spend time just gathering and processing information, exactly because they are so goal oriented, they just want to find an answer and proclaim it solve, they have no taste for the process of just learning and just thinking. That's why variety is key. And I see you discard school work very quickly, when it should always be part of that variety Typical school's problem is more about the child's mindset than the actual school system. If the kid has the right mindset, they will be able to develop all the skill even with a crappy curriculum
Thank you for this video! Just started homeschooling for a month now and wow my daughter who is 8 years has significantly improved in her attitude and her confidence. I focus on left and right brain activities related to brain wave states so that we don’t switch her brain waves to become too hyperactive or stressed. I am a sound therapist so I was able to understand her brian and mental functions better as well as incorporating her emotional creative side. She’s now become a piano player in less then 3 weeks and improved all her classes that she felt she struggled while in public school. So much to say but I am also documenting it all too. Great superb job Mom! 💚
@@itsleexiong thank you! Great work on your part too! You recognized what she needed, which was your expertise and not the need to stick to a social norm. It isn’t easy but, well done!
@ Thanks mama! Keep us on the updated so I can learn and improve myself as much as help to support my daughters growth. Teaching her has been a significant reflection and meditative experience 😅
This was such a great video. You made such a great decision. I gave up my dental career to homeschool our kids. Just subscribed. I also have a channel and would love to be friends and connect. Looking forward to watching more of your content.
Thoroughly enjoyed watching this video, as it resonates a lot more. I would love to see more home-ed videos, especially around how parents can have the right mindset and discipline to help their children thrive in homeschool setting.
I’m a 40 yr old neurodivergent woman who was raised by wealthy, active, involved, open minded parents who had me well in their 30s. But I still wouldn’t trade the wholesome experience of attending conventional school for anything else in this entire world! Even the negatives! Especially the negatives! And I wouldn’t do that to my children either. I have not decided for them which business they will start when they hit puberty. We are also at a stage in life where we are taking it easy. working because we like working, not because we have to. We love to spend time with the kids and enjoy being parents, but we don’t want to become teachers or educators to them. We do help them with studies and try innovative and engaging ways to teach them the things they don’t teach at school. We just don’t send them to 5 tuition classses and 3 extra curricular activities everyday. We let them be. its about them, not about us.
As someone who was homeschooled for a while, I resent my parents for it. School is not just for curriculum, it is also about surviving in a group/organisational setting.
@@ila.v my son has begged me to let him stay home. He loves the freedom of movement and choices at home. We travel the world and my daughter loves it. Yes, I favor homeschooling for the efficiency and wonder it brings, but I’m very open to change if my kids ask for it. There are plenty of opportunities my kids get for being in a group. We meet other homeschoolers regularly and may start a coop soon. Homeschooling doesn’t mean that there won’t be other kids around. It’s taking the reins in your hands and saying no to the inefficiencies of an authoritarian system.
@@AparnaJain1 If your kids prefer it, then it is good. I don't want to debate on positives and negatives as there are arguments for both sides. I was just stating my experience.
@@kvs819kids intuition is stronger than you give them credit for. If you read my comment, I already said that they will always have a say in this decision.
@@ila.vabsolutely respect your experience and it is shared by many too. This isn’t something I take lightly. If my kids want to experience school, they will have full freedom to do so.
Yes! Yes! Kis learn by living n not by sitting in a room. We r also a homeschooling family. My 6 yr old has taught himself about measurements, Geography, geology, volcanos, diff Eras, fossils, pre historic creatures, extinction, weather, plants, food chain and much more, because he loves Dinosaurs!😄 He could do this because he has lots of free time and freedom to learn. Kids are amazing.
Thank you so much for posting this video. I commend you for taking this step with your family, especially coming from (I would assume) an Indian/Hindi culture where grades and traditional education is an obsession for parents. You seem to be doing a fantastic job, and I look forward to learning more from you.
@@aaronandjessicaowulette1595 thank you for the kind words. You are absolutely right that the Indian culture makes grades everything above the happiness and well-being of some children. I’m trying my best to balance both world and your comment gave me a good idea for a future video on the topic.
I was taught english by Mrs Marwah, science by Mr Joshi, i still remember my grade 8 chemistry teacher, i fell in love with the library.I thank my parents for sensing me to school.We need schools , there are so many intl schools now that dont go through the regular exams , they have summative assessment.
You are able to sustain this lifestyle coz you jobs gave you the money and resources , some points are very valid and should actually be inculcated in school, btw there are 8 weeks or more off which is good to spend high quality time
I am glad that you had a great experience at school. Not all kids unfortunately get that. The socialization aspect that people talk about it’s very easy to forget about things like bullying and falling into bad company. Like I mentioned in the video, schools can be a great choice for some but that’s not true for all. I have some good memories from school but also some teachers were abusive. I’m successful inspite of that, not because. Some of my cousins are in their 40s, but still not on their feet schools did a big disservice to them. They were a much better fit for homeschooling so it’s not a blanket statement that we can make we need to protect our kids whether they’re in school or at home.
Such a well planned video! You addressed a lot of important questions. I'm a former classroom teacher so I'm confident in my ability to teach my kids, and I already have. My biggest concern is making sure that I get enough time to rest and recharge so I don't burnout in the process. I'm actively seeking out local resources to help with that. Thank you for this video!
Thank you for the kind words! Yes, it so important to wear our own masks before the kids. I’m grateful that both me and hubby are on the same page about it and we show up well rested for our kids.
I'm an ex teacher and Im home-schooling my boys. My 6 year old is reading at an 8 year olds level. My three year old reads at a 6 year olds level. They aren't pressured to learn. We do writing, colouring, crafts and have maximum play time. I wouldn't change a thing.
Hi Aparna, this is a beautiful and exhaustive video, touching upon all crucial points which are typically considered as reasons/excuses for not homeschooling (by those who can afford to). I hated my school life (and this is coming from an IIT-IIM graduate :P) but more than that I can also clearly see how ill-equipped current schooling systems are for future. I have been researching about homeschooling and landed on this amazing video! Thanks for this, me and my wife have similar plans of FIREing and hopefully we are able to incorporate homeschooling and other interesting aspects of your life!
@@sairams9497 wow! I know the IIT craze, I was part of the race. For me, getting a good degree was part of my escape from the society where women weren’t respected. But my kids won’t have that problem. The only way I can see them do hard things is if they develop a deep interest in learning. That’s the effort I am trying to make. Thanks for sharing your experience.
I don't appreciate your use of "reasons/excuses for not homeschooling." Being a single parent and having financial responsibilities is a real thing. Not everyone has money or can just change careers to homeschool their children. You should be more like the lady in this video and appreciate the nuances of life. I personally supplement my son's learning after he comes home from school which I'm able to now more than before since I'm not working dayshift and nightshift to make ends meet. Have some compassion for the difficulties of other people's lives.
My pediatrician says not sending kids to school is really bad! I homeschooled my kids till 1 Grade but my kids want to go school and learn with other kids! How are you going to incorporate communication and working in a group setting? How are they going to solve problems that involve different people! It’s okay to be at home but they have to work and socialize in office with many people! I want to know.
@@ikiraw21 pediatricians are not trained about what is best for your child’s education. this is opinion they’re sharing. You should take it with the grain of salt. It’s ironic that my pediatrician mentioned how her son school destroyed his confidence . If your kids want to go to school, then that’s a great choice for them. I am not saying that going to school is bad. What is not working for our kids? It’s just assuming that schools are enough for a child’s well rounded development and they will not create any damage. We choose homeschoolingfor its efficiency. if my kids show interest in going to school, I will be happy to send them and continue working on the growth and progress just like I was when homeschooling. At this time we meet other homeschoolers and work in collaboration with them. The best part is we hang out with mixed age kids. Same age setting is great for schools, but not for kids . Also, not all kids socialize in schools. Some do not like the overstimulation and some suffer from the bullying and constant comparisons.
Homeschoolers are not locked inside the house all day. My children spend more time out in the world around other people and real experiences homeschooling than when they were in the big school. We are able to use our time better. There is no waiting in line.. waiting for 30 other kids before moving on, etc. They would miss out on so much that they are doing socially if I sent them back.
So well articulated the topic. I don’t have kids but if I will in future, definitely going to try follow your advice. Btw I just discovered your channel and loved it. We need more finance-aware , health-aware and life-aware women like you in our society. Thanks for doing what you do❤
Been homeschooling my kids with a masters degree in education for the last 13 years, best decision ever. Every time we approach a new school year, we talk as a family and my kids always want to stay home and continue going because the safety of the schools now, the pressure, the stress, the bullying etc....
Great video! but there are some issues with this thinking. First of all, socialising doesn't just mean making friends, when I was in my school I had to be in different groups for presentations, projects, skits etc. and I used to be in groups where I don't know anyone, or maybe don't like anyone, but I have to be there, and I have to work with them. Children needs to learn how to deal with people they don't want around. They might have 50 friends and go to tennis club and meet new children but they are just hanging out with children who they want to be with, and thats not how it works in real life, whether you are in a job or business. After like 50 different group projects in my life, now I know how to work in a group, work with people. Second, less grade children become under-confident, high scoring children gets pressure, this is right but we can not just say lets not grade them, teach them how to deal with less marks, teach them how to handle pressure, teach them that the other person got good grades because he or she worked hard, and if you need good grades work harder, you like it or not people judge other people, whether you are a businessman or in job, you need to prove people that I can do better than others, then only we will succeed. You addressed all the problems and you are right, these problems are there with schools, but instead of backing off, teach your children how to fight their problems. Skills are important learning is important but so does facing "socialising" problems and solving them on your own. (I said socialising because I know they probably doing great with puzzles and academic problems). No hate, I am just a Master's student, I have no experience raising kids and all, you know better but I watched this video and felt like these issues might come. I might be wrong, if I am, please correct me.
@@anujgupta7006 thanks for sharing your insights. This video is meant to invoke thoughts around these topics and have a healthy debate. Like I mentioned in the video, kids have a lot of opportunity socializing outside of school grounds. We meet with a homeschooling group on a regular basis and kids of mixed ages are able to do projects together. Bullying is a real problem in many schools which is not worth the socialization you may get from schools. Parents have no control/knowledge about who their kids are exposed to. They say you’re the average of the five people you surround yourself with and in a school setting, I have seen terrible company affect kids on more than one occasion. Grading is an inaccurate way of showing the world what a child is capable of. It is also an incomplete system. Taking tests doesn’t build confidence. Humans get confidence when they achieve milestones and complete meaningful work. That’s why we’re focusing on building a project portfolio. Many top level universities want to see that more than grades anyway. I also mentioned that when the time comes and kids need to be graded because that’s the only way they can get into a uni or a company, I will be teaching them methods of acing their tests(eg active recall etc) Thanks for watching a leaving a thoughtful comment. I’ll leave some book links in the description that helped me understand children’s brains and psychology better and make these choices.
@@AparnaJain1 I did not feel confident about teaching them math or science in higher classes. Otherwise I was very interested ni homeschooling them. Yes, you are right bullies can cripple kids confidence.
@@amritavalan7962 You can hire teachers/tutors for higher-level subjects. We did that anyway even with schools because none of the higher level physics and maths etc was taught in schools properly.
I agree/ I am Designer in fashion and my husband is an Engineer. And it took my husband a while to understand that why i wanted to homeschool. But this homeschooling journey has an eye-opener to me and I see my children are more happy and I have three very close age. It’s not easy but as long as they are happy and I’m happy and they’re learning throughout the day I figure I must be doing something good and social is not all that. My kids are very social.sometime too much. 😊😊
Immediately jumping on the public school bandwagon. I'm talking about socializing. Sports, scouts, play. Pretty much everything outside of the classroom. Schools just provide proximity (affordability) to this sort of thing but it's not the only way. A friend of mine raised this kid like that. He made sure to provide lots of extra activities and everything worked out great. But he's honest with me. Said he could only do it because of his income. Every time he had to spend hanging out with his kid was a day he wasn't working
@@everythingisfine9988 socialization is the most generic go-to thing "outsiders," both well meaning and plain ignorant, speak about regarding homeschooling. Parents who choose to spend their days intentionally raising their children and taking on their education, generally, have included the socializing aspect into consideration when making the choice. 💜
You are as wise as I am. Lol. You are my best virtual mom friend. You need to give this speech every year at every public and private school at the conclusion of each school year. That way all the parents can have time to plan their exit from school and commence real education for their children.
Love this video and couldn’t agree more. I was “traditionally” educated in the public school system and now, as a homeschooling parent, I see all that I missed out on. Before having children I was a practicing attorney and because of that experience, I try to regularly bring elements into our homeschool to teach critical thinking and problem solving to my very young children. I would love to see more videos from you about how you homeschool!
Hi! My brothers and I were all homeschooled, and I just wanted to share how well it works. We all took the US SAT in high school, and my mom kept a high school transcript. This is what most colleges want. None of us had a problem getting into college. One brother is an engineer, the other got his business degree, and I am working on my teaching degree.
@@bookworm4174 thank you for sharing this! Your comment will answer so many questions posted on this video. Would you be open to doing a video to share more of your experience?
@@AparnaJain1 I absolutely would! I know different states have different laws, and different colleges will have different admission policies. That does not have to hold us back. I have worked in a small Christian school, and I am currently a TA at a public elementary school. If I have children in the future, my first choice would be homeschool.
Me and my wife have been debating on this since the child was born. In India, there are some practical constraints coming our way to sort this out. We have tried for months in between and it's not too bad. But the amount of effort and energy we will need to put in, is what we are gearing up for. The child is just 3 right now, so we do have time. But please keep sharing content on this. Very few sensible Indians are there on the RUclips building content around homeschooling. So please share as much as you can around online resources, age appropriate curriculum, tools and techniques...will be super grateful..thanks
Why are you getting a teaching degree if you advocate homeschooling? Where do you plan to teach? Lol
@@northshorelight35 Not sure why the lol, but the answer is simple. Growing up homeschooled, I was passionate about homeschooling my own children one day. That's still the goal, but I am unmarried and want to find a job that aligns with my passion for learning and my love of working with children. Teaching is fulfilling; if I can't teach my own, I can at least teach in other ways. A teaching degree can be used to teach online, privately, overseas, tutoring, starting a group to support homeschooling families, etc. I don't know for sure if I will use my degree in a public setting, but if I need to support myself, then at least I can make a difference for the kids I work with. As homeschooling grows, so does the opposition to it. It may one day be necessary for a parent to have a degree or be part of a co-op with licensed teachers.
I also don't send my kid to school...and he is 8 years old...super sharp,super intelligent, far ahead of his age...no bad habits...eat sprouts,healthy things,take proper sleep,brown belter in Karate...very good swimmer..he has time for everything in life ...I am glad to see his progress...he goes to tuition for 2 hours daily....and I teach him 2 hours in the morning...day time he just completes his homework.
@@GauravKumar-nn3gz that’s amazing to hear! This is one big benefit of homeschooling - using time efficiently! Getting proper sleep alone is a big winner in my books
Whats the cost of tuition per day
@@abcdefghi9 it's 800 rupees per month,2 hours daily and 5 days in a week...
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Hello Aparna! Is it possible to connect over mail. I have a 10 month old daughter and I would want to be prepared to have her homeschooled. We live in Cary,nc.
For parents living in India: If you are interested in homeschooling, the best way is: enroll your child in any school which doesn't have high fee. Create a reason so that the child is allowed to come to school only for exams. You will get the school certificate and your child will get the skills and the knowledge. If you have like- minded friends interested in home schooling, let the children learn together at one place. Make a community of homeschooling parents and collaborate with each other for resources and ideas.
Exam is optional until 10th standard as I know.
NIOS is a good option for homeschooling
Would you be able to recommend any in Bangalore? Thanks either way.
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My child has adhd. I did exactly this
As an ex school teacher I greatly appriciate your move. By homeschooling not only you are saving tons of resources but not giving your hard earned money to school managements whose only goal is to make profits
@@hatebreeder999 thank you for the kind words. I have met many teachers who won’t send their own kids to school knowing the plight of these systems.
We’re definitely saving the most precious resource- time. Spending it well with our kids and having an amazing time on this journey.
@@AparnaJain1 I wholeheartedly agree with you
@@hatebreeder999 In America our tax dollars are funding the public schools whether we use it or not. However, as a homeschooler I honestly don’t mind. I’m fine with helping to cover schooling for those that can’t afford other options if it means the government keeps their nose out of how I choose to educate my children.
I agree, education has come in grip of greedy capitalism. By taking such moves we can set examples for other to follow 🙏🏻
@@Analytical_Mind In USA, 82% of students are enrolled in public (government) schools dude. And still the quality of education that students get in these schools is very poor. Quality of education in private schools is better even though they spend less money per student compared to government schools in US.
Atleast in US it is not greedy capitalism that is providing poor education, its the public (government tax funded) schools that is providing poor education.
Even in india, im gratefull that my parents enrolled me in private school even though it cost them more money, the education I was able to get was way way better than gov schools in my city.
Finally, someone in the homeschooling world I connect with! I've been following homeschooling videos for months after reading a few books on the subject. But it seemed many influencers in this space do it for different reasons than me. Homeschooling was a logical consideration after reading many books myself on neuroscience, health, personal development and educational theories. I thought I'd find many like-minded people inspired by the same ideas, but I haven't. This video is the first that lists the same motivations as me. Thank you for sharing. I hope you share more on this topic.
@@brittanymeiling1 I felt like I was in the same boat! Glad to connect!
I will be making future videos as helping improve childhood is my passion. ❤️
You might like the podcast called “Schole sisters” - they talk a lot about educational philosophy. Also, Charlotte Mason homeschooling can be Christian or secular but follows classical understanding of education and puts the child first.
That's interesting... maybe you need to look for more of the Classical Homeschoolers? Not Classical Conversations. There are a core of a us who are really committed to giving our children the best education we can and not from a place of fear (fear of school, fear of the public, etc) but instead we know the potential our children have and that the local schools are not living up to that.
Could you please recommend those books, podcasts on homeschooling , neuroscience, educational theories to get some perspective
@@daniellemerrick6215 one of the reason is not being indoctrinated into the woke ideology like gender and sexuality. this is also a reason whether u like it or not.
people dnt want their kids to be taken away from them and put on puberty blockers. its a serious concern for most millennial parents
I have homeschooled my children for many years. I think this might be one of the very best videos I have EVER seen. Fantastic.
@@jacywade9315 oh this is so great to hear! Thank you for the kind words ❤️
thank you for loving your child enough to realize the disaster that is public education in america... women have destroyed it..........
“Don’t bring their school home, make home their school…”
Right! Because it’s not schoolhome, it’s homeschool.
I love it!!💖
Exactly! Leaving a problematic system and recreating it at home does not make any sense!
Homeschool for good health.. Get good sunlight and nutrition. Learn geometry, trigonometry, algebra by application, not abstract textbooks.. It is lotta fun
Do you have tips for application of these maths?
@@Jules-740I was about to ask the same question! 😅
@@Jcremome too. I need to know how.
yes you learn science and math.
However skills like peer learning and sharing, team bonding, showing leadership to your team and public presentation can be achieved only via school.
You can also do above things by enrolling into separate courses for each skill, but it will be expensive.
Not everything has a practical application though. Many of the useful science that exists today was discovered by people who were only trying to understand things, some based on observations, some on abstract ideas, but without any practical application in sight.
So, understanding practical applications is nice, but abstract thinking and the capacity to draw information from "boring books" is also necessary
When traveling, teach your children to navigate, to plan, to learn about the places you're going through and your destination. Teach them about the history of the place. Teach them about the economics of the place. There's tons of learning to be had on a trip. Budgeting is a great lesson during traveling as well.
We teach them all of this and more!
Aparna, I'm so impressed with your efforts. I'm hoping to employ the wisdom you shared to help my child with his School learning even though we can't move him to homeschooling at this stage of our life. Thank you.
@@supercrazydesi Thank you! It’s great to hear that you can supplement your child’s learning. Not everyone can or should homeschool. All of us are doing our best and I’m glad you’re finding a middle ground.
Yes, PLEASE tell us more about what your days and weeks looks like homeschooling! I love your organic, but still serious-about-education approach. This is so helpful!
@@amyevers6309 thanks for the kind words. I will make a series of videos asap. So many questions have come up on this video.
Here are all the topics I will cover in detail in the future-
Expectations
Philosophy and teaching style
Travel
Gameschooling
Playing vs creating games
Movement
Reading
Writing
Sports
Competition
Why no curriculum
Empathy
Brain development
Foods and supplements
Weekly schedule
Embracing the imperfections
Stay tuned!
@@AparnaJain1 YES, YES, YES! Perfect! Thank you!!
@@AparnaJain1looking forward to more videos on homeschooling, especially US based Indian family.
@AparnaJain1. Yes please
More videos on this …
Very much looking forward to these examples! Have been homeschooling for a few years but I want something more like real life & am hating everything that feels forced for them or me!
We need more homeschool content!!!!! Begging you! I am a first year homeschool mom of four - I took my two school age children (2nd + 4th grade) out of public school and I love this video of yours! Please make more 🙏🏼
Working on the next one as we speak!
@AparnaJain1 OH thank goodness! 😭 quality homeschooling content is honestly so so needed
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Thank you :)
Brilliant! I am also an Engineer, and I have been homeschooling my oldest since COVID, who also wants to be an Engineer. I get the most pushback from family and close friends. But I am staying on course. I am super proud of my family, especially my child, for our path. We do everything from music to language, math, coding, financial literacy, etc. I recently completed a Cybersecurity program. As a part of that program, I spent much time doing presentations. About a month ago, my child expressed interest in cybersecurity. One of our favourite things to discuss on our walks is new cyber events. I am amazed by how much my 9-year-old knows. I am super proud of you and your family for taking the Homeschool journey, and I thank you for sharing your experience to date.
Cheers
Thank you and thank you for sharing your experience
“What the hand does the mind remembers”. Kids learn best by doing Well done parent 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
This video is a Godsend, with very excellent information. Thank you for taking the time to thoughtfully address the curiosity and concerns us parents have with homeschooling.
This has really hit home! We’ve been homeschooling since my son was in 1st grade and he is now 12 years old. And I decided to take him out because of the pull of wanting to know more about my child and how they were developing and not relying on someone system to do it for me. I began to not know my child, how they were connecting with the world, what they were interested in and I seen very soon that once passed kindergarten where play is still incentivized that school became a mundane boring look at how to learn.
And after telling that long winded start to our beginning of our decision to start this journey, I am here to say that i am so refreshed at your perspective on your reasons for going down this path and your persistent strive for pouring into your children this love of learning and not listening to the naysayers! I am absolutely over joyous in being able to look at homeschooling through your lens and wholeheartedly agreeing and understanding your whys! And I am thrilled to say that I agree with your message and hope that it reaches the masses! Thank you so much for your rebellious tenacity towards a better future for our children! -with much love 💗
@@mommykate3911 thank you for the kind words! This message made my day 🩷
Engineer homeschooling mom here, too. I find a ton of other engineer homeschooling moms and dads because we know what it takes to get into and get through engineering school, and public and most private schools are not preparing the kids to go to engineering school. It’s not that I expect my kids to be engineers, but I want them to have that option, and homeschooling gives them that opportunity better than any other option.
@@martharobertson7943 I feel exactly the same! They can be whatever they want but to love learning and doing hard things, the deck is stacked in their favor at home, especially with engineer parents.
This so resonates with me. I did my masters in CS at 40 after 20 yeas of doing my undergrads. It was amazing and I so loved going back to academics. I want my child to have that as an option and the way AI is shaping up, gobbling up knowledge is just not going to prepare them for the future engineering. Any time I say this, my son rolls up his eyes and says, I'm becoming a footballer :) . And I say, what if you ever get charmed by engineering and math. You can have the cake and eat it too , for now at least :)
Same. Electrical engineer here. 🙋🏻♀️
Are you working full time and homeschooling? If yes, how do you manage? OP is double retired and seems well off (making things less relatable).
@@JcakiiiiiI worked with kids until my oldest was 5. I quit my job to homeschool and be a stay at home mom. My kids are 6, 5, 3, and 2. I still send 3 and 5 yo to preschool. We’re on our second year homeschooling. My husband supports us financially. He’s a mechanical engineer. We’re definitely not rich and live in a house that’s too small. No family support around so “free time” for myself is harder to come by.
Absolutely love your video! This is something I want to do and many ask me how would I teach them to socialize and the reality is that some kids don’t even socialize at school and you provide the perfect example
@@Behavioralmuse thank you! Exactly! So many kids don’t socialize at school. In fact, some are better off at home away from the bullying and comparisons.
Not a single parent I’ve met so far hasn’t felt this.
Children getting into bad company is a hard ditch to get out of. It’s a real problem and we are trained to ignore it as a society.
@@AparnaJain1I absolutely agree with you
i'm 19 years old and i'm SO PROUD OF YOU MAMA!. I hope to grow up to become a mother like yours!
@@itsybitsy8385 wow this is so heartwarming! Thank you ☺️
I am a 11 grader and left school , because of these reasons, I am on an engineering path too, and engineers don't fit into schools , loved your insights ❤, I am preparing for some of engineering exams, love from India 🎉
11 grader.....I am thinking u don't live in India
I think he is doing dummy schooling just like me@@kunwarvishalsingh5049
Love this!!! How you defined engineering as a parent. I finally found a relatable channel!!!
@@crystals6609 glad to have you here! I made this video because I couldn’t find anyone else talking about homeschooling from a logical perspective.
Congratulations, you figured it out!! 😊 It is SO heartwarming and a RELIEF to hear of more & more parents personally investing in their children in their loving home.
Signed, A SAHM who educated my kids all the way through. 1997-2017 🙌🎉
@@perspectiveiseverything1694 thank you! Would love to hear more about your experience and how your kids fared in their careers!
I was home schooled until high school, and I was ahead of my peers in most subjects when I went to public high school and I graduated college with honors.
I was also a teaching assistant in a private school, charter school, and a home school hybrid. The home school hybrid was the absolute best experience. The charter school was horrifying because the first teacher I worked with was abusive toward the students, and me. The private school was ok but so boring for the kids. The home schoolers (in general, as not all were) seemed the most prepared for the real world.
What homeschool hybrid program did you use? Thank you for sharing.
@@sarahhernandez5425 you’re right. The teacher can make or break a child’s learning experience.
So many commenters who disagree with me gloss right over the most important aspect of school. If the child has a terrible teacher, they won’t learn well.
Thank you for this perspective. What made you go to public school? Instead of graduating from homeschool.
I would love to see you make another video explaining some details regarding how you plan on implementing some of these things. I love the idea of mixing subjects and project based learning. It would be great to get some insight on how to do this!
@@jeniipop absolutely! I plan to make a few videos on these topics! Stay tuned
Great breakdown! As a former teacher, I can back up everything you said. My kids are 1 and 2 and I plan to continue homeschooling them till they are grown. The potential of children is profound! And with homeschooling, you can actually help your kids to realize all that potential. My 2 year old has already learned all her letter names and letter sounds, numbers to 20, colors, shapes, days of the week, months of the year, and is learning Hebrew letters now. From birth to age 5 they are sponges for information and memorize so easily. This is the time to input all the key information that they will need later, so you can focus on higher order thinking, problem solving, and application later. Definitely give them as much freedom as possible to learn what they love. For the other things that kids need to learn/memorize, song and hands-on activities make it fun and easy for them to learn. My two year old is already learning to skip count by 10s and 5s (the foundation of multiplication) thanks to fun and catchy songs we listen to on a RUclips channel called Hopscotch. I also do zero screen time for my kids and my daughters have really good attention spans and sit for books for 30 min- 1 hour.
@@amykemper7629 amazing! Your kids are gonna thrive! No screens is so important for the first five years. You’re gifting them a real childhood. Well done!
Hey, does being a former teacher help with creating a curriculum for your children or are you following a specific preschool plan?
@sophiamyambala1405 great question!
I strongly disagree. The young age is for playing and fun instead of learning what everybody will be learning eventually. By spending time on learning these things, you are squeezing out the time your kids could have used to develop their imagination and creativity.
@@sophiamyambala1405I taught elementary school, so I was not very knowledgeable about preschool. I learned a bit from books by Maria Montessori, Charlotte Mason, Glen Doman, as well as books on child development and more specifically child brain development. The most practical information I got was from RUclips channels by moms (some of whom were former preschool teachers). I cherry pick from their ideas and add in things I think are valuable.
One mom on RUclips would google preschool learning standards, identify ones her child was ready for, and then find ideas for activities for that standard on Google or RUclips.
This is the best video I've seen about homeschooling. Please share more about your routine, resources, what ages were your kids when you started?
Yes, I'm woking on a follow up video now.
Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom in homeschooling. I am creating my daughter’s 8th grade school plans and your video helped me to focus more on her strengths. Also, I will begin a portfolio for her as well. This will be her 1st full year of homeschooling. The timing was perfect.
@@desirehunter I’m so glad it helped. Wishing you well on your journey!
I started writing my kids’ portfolio in notion and loving it. I’ll share a video soon about it.
Wow! I really like your outlook on homeschooling! Definitely different and refreshing from a lot of what's out there on the internet about traditional homeschooling! ❤
Glad it was helpful!
Hi thanks for this video. I'm now doing my PhD while sending my child to daycare and soon a toddler school. I can see that she is not 100% happy with her school but she is trying to understand that I'm trying to graduate. I hope to learn more from you and maybe see myself homeschooling my daughter too. We'll see! I would love to learn and dive in the joy of learning together. Keep the videos coming! Thanks this is such an engaging video.
@@FairuzHumam you do what you need to mama. This video is for everyone trying to do best for their children. I’ll keep making more videos so when the time is right, you can either homeschool her fully or reduce her days in the daycare. Every minute of intentional parenting counts a lot for a child.
Good luck on your phd!
@@AparnaJain1 that's so heartwarming to hear. Thank you, Aparna!
Feels like you so nicely articulated my thoughts. Sailing in the same boat. I read more so I am able to homeschool my child and spend time with him, it's so much fun.
The best option is homeschool cooperatives. Parents rotate helping with classes so full-time jobs can be maintained.
Absolutely
You should make this into a system. This is sooo useful for so many other young parents.
I have been thinking about this exact thing. Kudos to you both and kids. All the best
very insightful and I can feel your passion into it. Keep on keeping on. I'm very positive your children will grow and achieve great things in life!
@@BoonPiulLIM-h9w thank you so much for your kind words and taking the time to give me feedback about the video.
Eagerly waiting for next video on Homeschooling ! Please share more such as resources etc! This is the best homeschooling video I have seen so far, so underrated!! ❤
I don't know how I stumbled upon this video but I'm so glad I found your channel! I'm a retired engineer as well (ChE) and I've been homeschooling my kids since the very beginning. My oldest is now a tween. Thank you for this video, it has motivated me to keep at it and put the focus back on their interests.
@@melissaallen8390 that’s so great to hear! I am sure your kids are thriving!
In my household, i don't expect my kiddos to learn a lot in public elementary, middle, or high school. What my wife and i do is supplement our kiddos' education at home. I really like the social aspect of school & availability of sports because i think it does somewhat mimic what happens in real life as adults. I'm not against homeschooling, but i'm not totally against American public schools either. I just don't expect a whole lot from American public schools; whereas, a lot of other parents' expectations are different than mine.
@@jicalzad I feel the exact same way! Not against schools but I’m choosing homeschooling for its efficiency.
You’re doing great by supplementing what schools aren’t able to provide because of their architecture 🙌
I don’t hear much support for schools in your video, though 💁♀️
I can’t like this lovely woman plus this thunderous wisdom and insight enough.
I have a 2+ years old who has come to remind us what our DEFAULT MODE should be.
Thank you so much.
I deeply resonate with your views…. I am a passionate educationist, n using theatre as a tool for same, i believe education is to enable self learning…. Learning is joy❤️
Well said!
This is great!
We are brazilian / americans for the last 23 yrs . Kids were born in NY , never thought about homeschooling them . After 1 years in Florida we made a decision . We are starting our 2nd year of homeschool lifestyle . Its nerve racking but I love it …. Loved your video . Thank you so much for taking time to share with us . Following .
I enjoyed your insight. I have been homeschooling for several years now, too, and it has been a blessing in many ways. Thanks for sharing!
I don't have children yet, but if i do, this will be the way we do it. For the children that are already there in my life (nieces & nephews), I've shared knowledge through the project based method you spoke of. It definitely works. My nieces age 9 & 12 have hammer drilled through rocks and created fountains, milled lumber & created wall clocks, used circular saws & oh so many tools & techniques already. My nephew had done metal welding at age 8. If the adult leads well, the little ones will rise up to the challenge. Great video.
Your nieces are getting a great upbringing. Thank you for sharing this knowledge with them.
You will love this video where I explain how to teach kids to code at home(show it to your neices) - ruclips.net/video/AKa1k1sHhSw/видео.html
Yes💯 Excellent video!
You explain what homeschooling is really all about & you are a refreshing voice in the homeschool space. Can’t wait to see you share more!
Also an Engineer, also homeschooling.
My answer to socialization: Socialization from K-12 is incredibly different than socialization real life. Also what you said, sports, clubs, neighborhood friends, etc.
My answer to me vs teacher: Its not me vs teacher, its me to my kid vs teacher + 30 kids to my kid. If were comparing me 1 on 1 with my child vs a trained professional 1 on 1 with my child, sure the teacher is better. If were asking if I could do better than a trained experienced teacher if I took his place in front of 30 kids, again sure, teacher is better. Me 1 on 1 with my kid vs teacher with 30 kids, im better, by a lot.
I cannot thank you enough for creating this content. My husband and I have two young children and have made the decision to give homeschooling a try. I had been searching for valuable content but was struggling to find someone I resonate with… until I found you! Thank you infinitely for inspiring me. I hope I have the good fortune to continue to learn from you.
You are so welcome! I am making more videos as we speak.
problem solving and critical thinking skills are actually punished in today’s schools.
example:
there are multiple methods to do multiplication and one may work better than another for each individual - but unfortunately all kids are forced to do it one way. this can result in many kids assuming they’re just bad at math, or even “dumb” as i’ve heard students tell me. but the schools still insist on their -one- right way and do it differently than taught and you will fail, regardless if it’s correct.
also schools often teach to regurgitate, not to think for yourself.
this video speaks truth and is an inspiration. thank you.
I don't like common core math at all! An incredible waste of effort for solving simple problems.
Hi fellow engineer, just found your channel and I'm loving it! You shared so many concepts that resonated with me apart from homeschooling. For example, financial independence, minimalism, voracious learning, etc. You did mention you are not spiritual. I would say my journey into spirituality has increased in the last 3 years and it has brought big blessing to my family. Don't skip that one :) Please keep making this content, it's really good.
@@vivianpena5041 thank you and glad it was helpful.
I don’t dismiss spirituality but religion is something I don’t agree except a few use cases.
Even I was thinking of home schooling my kid like 3 year ago and your videos have given me good insights.
Glad to help!
Thanks for this video. Especially the list of books and other tools mentioned in the description. I cant thank you enough for this! 🙏
You're very welcome
I am looking forward to seeing how you structure your day. Thank you so much for your insight.🙏🏻. This is a great video.
@@TheMir1977 we don’t structure too much. We follow the kids energy but there is usually a rhythm up- morning time is outdoors time, movement of body and working on skills like surfing, biking, climbing trees, swimming etc.
Then after lunch, we play board games or the kids create their own projects. As they get curious about topics, we dive deeper in those areas. Then they create again. After dinner, we read books and the kids go to bed by 8:30pm.
Some days are different- they don’t want to go out and just relax in the house working on their craft. We read to them everyday and once a day, the whole family gets outside and plays.
This was so good to listen to. I'm grateful for such content. You're so articulate and clear about the 'why' and the 'how'. I'm inspired.
First, I love that you are exploring alternative solutions and the effort you put into sharing them so we can all learn from your research. You seem like a lovely, heavily invested mom who wants the best for her kids, so kudos to you. However, you seem to dismiss a lot in school as distractions and inefficiencies, but they make school for many kids also a lot of fun. The role models, the jokes, the struggles, the plays and the day-to-day connections are invaluable for character formation and not easily replicated in a home setting. I have never experienced schools as authoritative places and critical thinking was very well fostered there. If feel we need to do better for those who experience school as inadequate for learning & healthy development. And of course, schools should modernize. On a deeper level: even though I am not causing problems like bullying, loneliness, carelessness, inequality, substance abuse and (mental) health, etc. etc., I want to be part of the solution, at home, at school and in our economy, not only for my kids, but for all of them.
@@emilyoud5190 i’m very glad that you had a good experience at school. From my research and including my own experience that is not the norm but an exception and you’re right we need to work to get schools to be better for our kids and posterity.
I volunteer my time to teach high school kids how to get better at finances and choose careers. I want all the kids to benefit, including mine.
Of course, there are good things at school, but my aim is to look at the overall picture and the long-term effects of our choices on our kids.
Do the pros that you list cover all the inadequacies of this system?
This question needs to be answered on a case by case basis. Those are the thoughts I want to provoke with this video as I mentioned that not everybody has to pull their kids out of school. It’s also true that not many parents are asking this question in the first place.
Heart touching 💘
I was homeschooled and I think it really depends on the family and where you are located. I had a fantastic experience with it and we also did lots of different classes and activities outside of the home. However, I know some people who were very isolated at home due to living in more rural areas. For me, it was amazing and I believe I received all of the benefits of homeschooling. If people can afford to do it and are willing to work with their kids it is a great option. I have my master’s degree now and did very well in every degree. I feel like I am a critical thinker and was given lots of opportunities, so I’m very thankful.
@@chloesodonis8313 absolutely agree. It depends on the family and how the kids are raised and nurtured. Same goes for schools. Some are incredible but some lack basic education philosophy like encouraging kids to care about the effort vs the outcome of grades etc.
Love that you had a good experience
@@AparnaJain1 Exactly! And thank you so much. ❤️
Wow 🤯 really interesting to see your approach. I agree with your assessment of the education system and it's failings, tests and grades are indeed a game when true learning should be the focus.
Unfortunately there are many zealous parents who damage their children by focusing so much on traditional education based on grades and exams and excessive studying and homework. Rather than really preparing children for life; interpersonal skills, relationship building, problem solving skills, communication skills etc.
This is my second year as a homeschooling mom. You gave me a new insight when it comes to time spent on a subject. 20 mins learning and they are really just getting started. I will no longer rush or put a time constraint on my child to get through subjects.
I'm so glad it helped. Letting them get into their own flow state is the real lesson. The material matters less :)
So relatable. I left my job as assistant professor of electronics engineering at one of the top central universities in india just beacuse i felt i wasnt doing justice to my kids. If educations cant help me improve my life and then there is no point running in the rat race. As you mentioned schools dont teach actual real concepts of learning thats a bitter truth. I have been spending alot of money and energy in continuosly upgrading myself to learn memory concept, speed reading, diet nutrition fitness, active recall, spirituality medidation, improving relationships, and many more tools and i am eager to teach my kids all these concepts at very early age and i also resonate with the idea that my kids must be able to run an entire business by the age of 21. Because the real world works on rotation of money energy and resources. I dont find alot of traditional cirriculum fit in real world. Hats of to your guts to put this in public and spreading confidence in people who want to instill these odeas into their kids.
Thanks a lot! I couldn’t let fear stop me from saying my truth. There have been critics of this idea, but ironically they didn’t achieve much going to schools anyway.
This approach will create and foster a generation or generations of phenomenal human beings thank you
Thank you!
I come from Finland. We have this PISA-thing. Still the kids do not learn life, how life is monetised and what money is. I am an engineer and truly see how tech torments humans. I teach my kid to see how the system works you.
@@OIOnaut what’s PISA?
These are great lessons you’re teaching through kids. No school taught me about money. After making expensive mistakes, I read a couple dozen books on investing and money and finally I feel confident about my choices to grow the wealth I have earned.
Great choice about teaching them about technology too. I worked at a big tech company and so many of our meetings were about how to keep the viewers hooked.
This is one reason why I keep my kids away from screens as much as humanly possible.
@@AparnaJain1 please tell us about the finance books you read
LOVED YOUR VIDEOS. MY 6.7YR OLD IS A HOMESCHOOLER AND DAMN SHE LOVES LEARNING. SHES FOCUSED, QUICK. SHE A THINKER,BEING AN INDEPENDENT LEARNER.
Great Decision APARNA, looking forward to see your Journey and learn from you 👍👌❤️
Definitely!
Hi Aparna - your passion and excitement is contagious. We also homeschool (4 kids) and this is our 13th year. Your ideas about project based, unit studies, and child-led learning are all very inspiring. And you’re right, it’s so important to look into the pedagogy of a school or method. My two recommendations to you as a new homeschooling mom is that you can’t always rely on child-led learning to carry you through. Your kid doesn’t know what they don’t know - so don’t expect their interests to be varied enough of their own accord to try many things outside their sphere, wheelhouse, or comfort zone (e.g. my kids wouldn’t have heard or tried Shakespeare unless I introduced them to it - now a family favorite). And secondly, don’t be afraid to push them when they encounter hard things. It won’t always be ‘sunshine & roses’ in adult life. They WILL have to do hard, unpleasant things as adults all the time. Building a child’s willpower at a young age is a good thing. In other words, they shouldn’t be leading everything and/or backing away from things they don’t like or are hard. Take Shakespeare as the example - we begin in 4th grade with it and some of my kids struggled at first - but they’ve become amazing readers (partly due to this) and all thoroughly enjoy it. Not to mention rich literature, numerous historical, mythological, cultural references, vocab building, connection with past generations… benefits are huge. Most 9 year olds wouldn’t even know to choose to do something like this.
Keep up the good work! You’re giving homeschool a good name!!
PS our pedagogy is Charlotte Mason. Highly recommend checking her out if you haven’t yet. 🩷🩷
@@RopeSwingDreams I agree with you that kids don’t know what they know. I refer to various topics to get ideas on what to introduce next to them. I just leave the burden of following a curriculum out of their lives. I work hard in the background so it feels seamless to them, that way they can focus on the learning and have a good time.
I also had a conversation about working harder with my daughter. She mentioned she didn’t like something and I let her know that life values those who create and solve unique problems(at least on a high level) so she’ll have to work on certain things even though she doesn’t like it, be stoic about the process and enjoy the parts she does.
Striking this balance is an art and thank you for the advice. It validated the plans I already had for them 🩷
You are amazing, such a brilliant mommy! I needed to listen to something like that a long time ago. Yes, I need your encouragement... Just still, repeating this episode 2 or 3 times. 😊
We live in a country that doesn't fully accept homeschooling. Most people we know, including our community, are upset with us, and it's not even legal here. 😢"
We have been homeschooling for the past four years, but I still feel that my son should take what they take in schools, even though I know that this is not right, but the environment has brainwashed 😊me regarding this issue, so I said that this video is very important to me, and the important point is that my son is now 11 years old, so the difficulty of dealing with and presenting ideas and games for his age has become more complicated, I think.
Can you advice us on ideas that will help at his age?
@@Adi-loul I hear you, you are treading difficult waters. Also, having self doubt is normal.
People sending kids to school also have these thoughts. We want well being for our kids, so you’re on the right path.
What subjects and topics are you planning to teach your son through games?
There might be advanced games for his age, but my guess is projects will be more suitable.
If they’re interesting to him, they’ll become the “play” and he’ll learn at the same time.
Think of ways you can get him a real world internship(paid or unpaid). Once he has experience working for a real business, he’ll be able to go deeper into those concepts on the side.
Hope this helps
So simple and easy to understand content
And yet so much Empowering and Out of Box 📦
Hats off to you how well you have put it across to help others who wish to follow the same path 🙏🏻🙏🏻❤❤
Thanks a ton
Beautiful content
Waiting eagerly for the next videos on homeschooling ❤
Very soon!
Thanks for this video. I feel the same way about test and the curriculum. I subscribed because you really have a point on how you approached this youtube video. Thank you again..
@@cryptoadvice1707 thank you. I’m glad that these ideas resonated with you.
This video was so great! Homeschooling has been an amazing experience for us!
I am so glad it’s going great for you!
Thank you for this video! You are reinforcing my innate desire to teach my own child this way. ♥️
I've been feeling bad because my 4 year old understands more about atoms, black holes, and bacteria than he does about counting numbers, and stressing myself over it because he's not learning the same exact way as his peers, but your video helped me a lot to calm down.
It sounds like you’re doing a great job! The Waldorf philosophy doesn't even bother teaching kids Math, Writing, Reading etc. till their milk teeth start falling. They're physically and emotionally ready as they grow a bit. No need to rush and match what schools are doing because their curriculums aren't data or science backed. Sounds like you're fulfilling his curiosity and doing your best. Keep going!
Thank you so much for this video! I taught in a large school district for 17 years & it was frustrating to watch the higher ups make policy decisions that they expected to fit every kid, but really harmed the majority of students. Especially after the pandemic, the student culture changed, apathy abounded, and the soft discipline policies tied the teachers’ hands so that it was difficult to get on with class. And all the useless district/state/federal testing…🤮. Staying sane in the classroom was like trying to fight back a wave. Both my husband and I knew we wanted to home school. It wasn’t until he changed to a job that enabled me to be at home and really start homeschooling. We are 8 months into the homeschooling journey; it was a rough start, but it’s not an impossible journey. ❤
I really appreciate hearing from public school teachers on this issue. The only sad aspect in your story is that many children lost a unique, creative, & rebellious (with a cause) teacher.
Every point is apt thanks for sharing Aparna Keep posting homeschooling related videos also the projects that you have enrolled for your kids :)
Great insights, looking forward to more videos about homeschooling .
Coming soon!
love this. problem solving and critical thinking skills are actually punished in today’s schools.
example:
there are multiple methods to do multiplication that may work better for each individual, but all kids are forced to do it one way. do it differently than taught and you will fail, regardless if it’s correct.
schools often teach to regurgitate, not to think for yourself.
this video speaks truth - especially about not equipping our kids to succeed in life - and is an inspiration. thank you.
I love the idea of homeschooling but even watching this video once again I got discouraged. We are a low income family so some of the ideas didn’t seem to apply to low income families. Matter of fact it seemed like it can be quite costly to home school if you apply some of the methods for a well rounded process and some of the dynamics that come associated with home schooling such as hiring a nanny so that you can have date night. Enrolling your kids with extra curricular activities such as gymnastics or swim lessons outside of home schooling to keep them active. Totally agree with these method and I see them as vital. All these things cost quite a bit of money and would not be realistic to fulfill on a low income☹️
You don’t have to hire a nanny, you can do date nights taking turns with other homeschooling parents. Try setting up a co-op. Classes can also be done with a work trade. Our gymnastics gym is short on coaches, so if a parent coaches the toddlers(it’s easy to learn and the owner trains parents for free), then the kids get free classes.
So many ways to get creative. Think outside the box and your kids will learn these skills from you too.
Wishing you well🩷
@@AparnaJain1 ty!
Love this! One of the best RUclips videos I've seen on homeschooling!
You have a similar philosophy my family has. Wish you lived in S. Cali and could join our co-op 🙂
@@toniafisher68 thank you so much for the kind words. Aww that sounds so lovely. We would love to be part of a co-op. At the moment, what we have is a homeschooling group that meets every Friday for some activities, nature immersion and social connections.
The rest of the week, we teach and play with the kids.
I’ve also hired an amazing teacher to come over once a week to help us prepare our Montessori home environment, share ideas from her 15 years of experience and teach lessons to the kids.
So far, the system has been working well!
I have started to look into homeschooling recently gievn the not so good education in Canada. I still dont think I can pull them out but may be complement at home more consciously. I have looking for indian perspective bcz most of the internet is full of either too Indian (Gurukul kind) or typical Christian perspective. This is such a nice and refresh balance. I wish I could ask you more practical tips of employing this.
I plan to make detailed videos about our exact process. Feel free to ask any questions here, and I'll create videos to answer those. Yes, and on my channel, I will not have any other agenda than what science and logic have shown us. The only necessary element other than those two IMO is empathy.
Yes, you can get the best of both worlds by supplementing pieces of knowledge and projects while your kids go to school.
You have no idea how much each and word that you spoke resonate with me. Would you care to share what resources did you learn in your journey and what things you implemented from them and how did it help you teach yourself and your kids. That would be great
@@sohanagate3037 I share a few books in the description box. I’ll make a follow up video about the activities we do.
Pls send
For thousands of years learning looked like apprenticeship. This was specialized for passing down and mastering skills. Academics makes little use of this now. It can be so challenging as a professional to get investment from professors or training at work.
When will they be introduced to structured work though? Because that is also needed in the real world, and knowing how to methodically learn a subject, and decipher many "boring" resources is also very useful.
I think the ideal would be to cut school time by half or one third, but still have a structured curriculum that they should follow because that is also a necessary skill: following instructions, make the best of what is given, not to mention, if the curriculum is well made, it will be an efficient waynof learning things). Then, the rest of the time, homeschooling in the model you presented
Structured work has many meanings in people's minds. Most think of it as taking a list of problems(related or not), solving them, and checking a box that one chapter is done. In the real world, structured work involves solving problems by completing projects. As an engineer, I had to unlearn all the "structured work" of school and then think of breaking a problem down into small pieces, finding solutions for each, and combining them. I also had to learn that projects are never "completed"; work never ends; it is just abandoned to make room for higher priority projects.
None of this thinking is part of school curriculums. It's very linear and does not integrate different pieces of a system together. That's why breaking things down into subjects isn't the best idea.
Knowing all of this, when my kids work on something, it's far better that they understand the concept of problem-solving than solving unrelated questions line after line. In this journey, if and when they need "structured" work, they can always spend 20% of their time on it. 80% will still be used to solve a problem and create a product(physical or otherwise). From all the quality literature I have read, this is the definition of deep work.
I agree with you about cutting school time by a lot. They can do the linear stuff in schools and create solutions to real problems the rest of the time. It's still not ideal because the communication between these two pieces may be incoherent
@@AparnaJain1 problem solving is important of course, but I don't agree on many of the things you said:
- school can also help problem solving, even if it's not with a real world type of problem. If you look at your book exercises as a problem YOU need to solve (and not go copy the solutions of) you will learn problem solving by searching, asking, comparing, breaking it down into smaller parts, etc. Math is very good for this.
- The world is not made just of engineers and problem solvers. Even though we should all have this skill, it's not the only one needed.
- I've seen people who are only interested in "getting things done", very "goal oriented people", who aren't able to go deep into a subject, pause, think, ask questions, spend time just gathering and processing information, exactly because they are so goal oriented, they just want to find an answer and proclaim it solve, they have no taste for the process of just learning and just thinking.
That's why variety is key. And I see you discard school work very quickly, when it should always be part of that variety
Typical school's problem is more about the child's mindset than the actual school system. If the kid has the right mindset, they will be able to develop all the skill even with a crappy curriculum
Thank you for this video! Just started homeschooling for a month now and wow my daughter who is 8 years has significantly improved in her attitude and her confidence. I focus on left and right brain activities related to brain wave states so that we don’t switch her brain waves to become too hyperactive or stressed. I am a sound therapist so I was able to understand her brian and mental functions better as well as incorporating her emotional creative side. She’s now become a piano player in less then 3 weeks and improved all her classes that she felt she struggled while in public school. So much to say but I am also documenting it all too. Great superb job Mom! 💚
@@itsleexiong thank you! Great work on your part too! You recognized what she needed, which was your expertise and not the need to stick to a social norm. It isn’t easy but, well done!
@ Thanks mama! Keep us on the updated so I can learn and improve myself as much as help to support my daughters growth. Teaching her has been a significant reflection and meditative experience 😅
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This was such a great video. You made such a great decision. I gave up my dental career to homeschool our kids. Just subscribed. I also have a channel and would love to be friends and connect. Looking forward to watching more of your content.
@@TheChan7 thank you! You have a lovely channel too!
my wife gave us a teach career to homeschool our kids. I am still a teacher. I agree with everything you said because I see it in class.
@@AparnaJain1 thank you so much also!!
@@dariusward2007 that’s awesome. I have several friends who gave up teaching careers to homeschool.
Thoroughly enjoyed watching this video, as it resonates a lot more. I would love to see more home-ed videos, especially around how parents can have the right mindset and discipline to help their children thrive in homeschool setting.
My next video is exactly that, it will be up on the channel very soon.
I'm a math PhD doing the same with my 5 year old.
I’m a 40 yr old neurodivergent woman who was raised by wealthy, active, involved, open minded parents who had me well in their 30s. But I still wouldn’t trade the wholesome experience of attending conventional school for anything else in this entire world! Even the negatives! Especially the negatives!
And I wouldn’t do that to my children either. I have not decided for them which business they will start when they hit puberty.
We are also at a stage in life where we are taking it easy. working because we like working, not because we have to. We love to spend time with the kids and enjoy being parents, but we don’t want to become teachers or educators to them. We do help them with studies and try innovative and engaging ways to teach them the things they don’t teach at school. We just don’t send them to 5 tuition classses and 3 extra curricular activities everyday. We let them be.
its about them, not about us.
As someone who was homeschooled for a while, I resent my parents for it. School is not just for curriculum, it is also about surviving in a group/organisational setting.
@@ila.v my son has begged me to let him stay home. He loves the freedom of movement and choices at home. We travel the world and my daughter loves it. Yes, I favor homeschooling for the efficiency and wonder it brings, but I’m very open to change if my kids ask for it.
There are plenty of opportunities my kids get for being in a group. We meet other homeschoolers regularly and may start a coop soon.
Homeschooling doesn’t mean that there won’t be other kids around. It’s taking the reins in your hands and saying no to the inefficiencies of an authoritarian system.
Kids know it only when they become adults. Do ask their opinions then and share with us in 10 years. Good luck
@@AparnaJain1 If your kids prefer it, then it is good. I don't want to debate on positives and negatives as there are arguments for both sides. I was just stating my experience.
@@kvs819kids intuition is stronger than you give them credit for. If you read my comment, I already said that they will always have a say in this decision.
@@ila.vabsolutely respect your experience and it is shared by many too. This isn’t something I take lightly. If my kids want to experience school, they will have full freedom to do so.
You just reassured all my thoughts about Home schooling. Loved the video! Thank you for explaining!
Glad it was helpful!
Yes! Yes! Kis learn by living n not by sitting in a room. We r also a homeschooling family. My 6 yr old has taught himself about measurements, Geography, geology, volcanos, diff Eras, fossils, pre historic creatures, extinction, weather, plants, food chain and much more, because he loves Dinosaurs!😄 He could do this because he has lots of free time and freedom to learn. Kids are amazing.
Exactly! So much time gets wasted in following the structure of a school. So nice to hear what a rich range of topics your kiddo is learning!
How to home school I had no idea about it but willing to do ma'am
Wow
Thank you so much for posting this video. I commend you for taking this step with your family, especially coming from (I would assume) an Indian/Hindi culture where grades and traditional education is an obsession for parents. You seem to be doing a fantastic job, and I look forward to learning more from you.
@@aaronandjessicaowulette1595 thank you for the kind words. You are absolutely right that the Indian culture makes grades everything above the happiness and well-being of some children. I’m trying my best to balance both world and your comment gave me a good idea for a future video on the topic.
I was taught english by Mrs Marwah, science by Mr Joshi, i still remember my grade 8 chemistry teacher, i fell in love with the library.I thank my parents for sensing me to school.We need schools , there are so many intl schools now that dont go through the regular exams , they have summative assessment.
You are able to sustain this lifestyle coz you jobs gave you the money and resources , some points are very valid and should actually be inculcated in school, btw there are 8 weeks or more off which is good to spend high quality time
I am glad that you had a great experience at school. Not all kids unfortunately get that. The socialization aspect that people talk about it’s very easy to forget about things like bullying and falling into bad company. Like I mentioned in the video, schools can be a great choice for some but that’s not true for all.
I have some good memories from school but also some teachers were abusive. I’m successful inspite of that, not because.
Some of my cousins are in their 40s, but still not on their feet schools did a big disservice to them. They were a much better fit for homeschooling so it’s not a blanket statement that we can make we need to protect our kids whether they’re in school or at home.
Such a well planned video! You addressed a lot of important questions. I'm a former classroom teacher so I'm confident in my ability to teach my kids, and I already have. My biggest concern is making sure that I get enough time to rest and recharge so I don't burnout in the process. I'm actively seeking out local resources to help with that. Thank you for this video!
Thank you for the kind words! Yes, it so important to wear our own masks before the kids. I’m grateful that both me and hubby are on the same page about it and we show up well rested for our kids.
I'm an ex teacher and Im home-schooling my boys. My 6 year old is reading at an 8 year olds level. My three year old reads at a 6 year olds level. They aren't pressured to learn. We do writing, colouring, crafts and have maximum play time. I wouldn't change a thing.
Hi Aparna, this is a beautiful and exhaustive video, touching upon all crucial points which are typically considered as reasons/excuses for not homeschooling (by those who can afford to).
I hated my school life (and this is coming from an IIT-IIM graduate :P) but more than that I can also clearly see how ill-equipped current schooling systems are for future. I have been researching about homeschooling and landed on this amazing video! Thanks for this, me and my wife have similar plans of FIREing and hopefully we are able to incorporate homeschooling and other interesting aspects of your life!
@@sairams9497 wow! I know the IIT craze, I was part of the race. For me, getting a good degree was part of my escape from the society where women weren’t respected. But my kids won’t have that problem. The only way I can see them do hard things is if they develop a deep interest in learning.
That’s the effort I am trying to make.
Thanks for sharing your experience.
I don't appreciate your use of "reasons/excuses for not homeschooling." Being a single parent and having financial responsibilities is a real thing. Not everyone has money or can just change careers to homeschool their children. You should be more like the lady in this video and appreciate the nuances of life. I personally supplement my son's learning after he comes home from school which I'm able to now more than before since I'm not working dayshift and nightshift to make ends meet. Have some compassion for the difficulties of other people's lives.
My pediatrician says not sending kids to school is really bad! I homeschooled my kids till 1 Grade but my kids want to go school and learn with other kids! How are you going to incorporate communication and working in a group setting? How are they going to solve problems that involve different people! It’s okay to be at home but they have to work and socialize in office with many people! I want to know.
@@ikiraw21 pediatricians are not trained about what is best for your child’s education. this is opinion they’re sharing. You should take it with the grain of salt.
It’s ironic that my pediatrician mentioned how her son school destroyed his confidence .
If your kids want to go to school, then that’s a great choice for them. I am not saying that going to school is bad. What is not working for our kids? It’s just assuming that schools are enough for a child’s well rounded development and they will not create any damage.
We choose homeschoolingfor its efficiency. if my kids show interest in going to school, I will be happy to send them and continue working on the growth and progress just like I was when homeschooling.
At this time we meet other homeschoolers and work in collaboration with them. The best part is we hang out with mixed age kids.
Same age setting is great for schools, but not for kids .
Also, not all kids socialize in schools. Some do not like the overstimulation and some suffer from the bullying and constant comparisons.
Homeschoolers are not locked inside the house all day. My children spend more time out in the world around other people and real experiences homeschooling than when they were in the big school. We are able to use our time better. There is no waiting in line.. waiting for 30 other kids before moving on, etc. They would miss out on so much that they are doing socially if I sent them back.
So well articulated the topic. I don’t have kids but if I will in future, definitely going to try follow your advice. Btw I just discovered your channel and loved it. We need more finance-aware , health-aware and life-aware women like you in our society. Thanks for doing what you do❤
@@neetudevi5171 thank you! Making these videos is hard work, but kind comments like yours make my day. 🩷
Elon Musk: ''I hated going to school. It was a torture for me".
That’s why he started a new type of school for his kids
Love this video and all the points you raised! Resonates greatly with us!
Glad you enjoyed!
It doesn't make sense that you only have 1.4k subscribers!
Thank you for the kind compliment
Been homeschooling my kids with a masters degree in education for the last 13 years, best decision ever. Every time we approach a new school year, we talk as a family and my kids always want to stay home and continue going because the safety of the schools now, the pressure, the stress, the bullying etc....
Thank you for sharing your experience. This is so validating. I agree, the cons in schools are overweighing the pros in many cases.
Great video! but there are some issues with this thinking.
First of all, socialising doesn't just mean making friends, when I was in my school I had to be in different groups for presentations, projects, skits etc. and I used to be in groups where I don't know anyone, or maybe don't like anyone, but I have to be there, and I have to work with them. Children needs to learn how to deal with people they don't want around. They might have 50 friends and go to tennis club and meet new children but they are just hanging out with children who they want to be with, and thats not how it works in real life, whether you are in a job or business. After like 50 different group projects in my life, now I know how to work in a group, work with people.
Second, less grade children become under-confident, high scoring children gets pressure, this is right but we can not just say lets not grade them, teach them how to deal with less marks, teach them how to handle pressure, teach them that the other person got good grades because he or she worked hard, and if you need good grades work harder, you like it or not people judge other people, whether you are a businessman or in job, you need to prove people that I can do better than others, then only we will succeed.
You addressed all the problems and you are right, these problems are there with schools, but instead of backing off, teach your children how to fight their problems. Skills are important learning is important but so does facing "socialising" problems and solving them on your own. (I said socialising because I know they probably doing great with puzzles and academic problems).
No hate, I am just a Master's student, I have no experience raising kids and all, you know better but I watched this video and felt like these issues might come. I might be wrong, if I am, please correct me.
@@anujgupta7006 thanks for sharing your insights. This video is meant to invoke thoughts around these topics and have a healthy debate.
Like I mentioned in the video, kids have a lot of opportunity socializing outside of school grounds. We meet with a homeschooling group on a regular basis and kids of mixed ages are able to do projects together. Bullying is a real problem in many schools which is not worth the socialization you may get from schools. Parents have no control/knowledge about who their kids are exposed to. They say you’re the average of the five people you surround yourself with and in a school setting, I have seen terrible company affect kids on more than one occasion.
Grading is an inaccurate way of showing the world what a child is capable of. It is also an incomplete system. Taking tests doesn’t build confidence. Humans get confidence when they achieve milestones and complete meaningful work. That’s why we’re focusing on building a project portfolio. Many top level universities want to see that more than grades anyway. I also mentioned that when the time comes and kids need to be graded because that’s the only way they can get into a uni or a company, I will be teaching them methods of acing their tests(eg active recall etc)
Thanks for watching a leaving a thoughtful comment.
I’ll leave some book links in the description that helped me understand children’s brains and psychology better and make these choices.
@@AparnaJain1 I did not feel confident about teaching them math or science in higher classes. Otherwise I was very interested ni homeschooling them. Yes, you are right bullies can cripple kids confidence.
@@amritavalan7962 You can hire teachers/tutors for higher-level subjects. We did that anyway even with schools because none of the higher level physics and maths etc was taught in schools properly.
@@AparnaJain1 Thank you so much. Was an eye opener. My boys are in G!0 and G9, I fear it is rather late for them. One is a CBSE candidate in2025 .
@@amritavalan7962do the best you can to supplement so they continue to love learning. It’s a lifelong effort so never too late. Good luck!
I agree/ I am Designer in fashion and my husband is an Engineer. And it took my husband a while to understand that why i wanted to homeschool. But this homeschooling journey has an eye-opener to me and I see my children are more happy and I have three very close age. It’s not easy but as long as they are happy and I’m happy and they’re learning throughout the day I figure I must be doing something good and social is not all that. My kids are very social.sometime too much. 😊😊
Just make sure they can socialize daily with other children. Or they *WILL* be weird
Many school kids don’t socialize. They are traumatized by the bullying. As I mentioned, my kids get plenty of socialization.
Please consider the number of "weird" kids coming straight out of the public school pipeline.😅
Immediately jumping on the public school bandwagon. I'm talking about socializing. Sports, scouts, play. Pretty much everything outside of the classroom. Schools just provide proximity (affordability) to this sort of thing but it's not the only way.
A friend of mine raised this kid like that. He made sure to provide lots of extra activities and everything worked out great. But he's honest with me. Said he could only do it because of his income. Every time he had to spend hanging out with his kid was a day he wasn't working
@@everythingisfine9988 socialization is the most generic go-to thing "outsiders," both well meaning and plain ignorant, speak about regarding homeschooling. Parents who choose to spend their days intentionally raising their children and taking on their education, generally, have included the socializing aspect into consideration when making the choice. 💜
You are as wise as I am. Lol. You are my best virtual mom friend. You need to give this speech every year at every public and private school at the conclusion of each school year. That way all the parents can have time to plan their exit from school and commence real education for their children.
Love this video and couldn’t agree more. I was “traditionally” educated in the public school system and now, as a homeschooling parent, I see all that I missed out on. Before having children I was a practicing attorney and because of that experience, I try to regularly bring elements into our homeschool to teach critical thinking and problem solving to my very young children. I would love to see more videos from you about how you homeschool!
Love that! We need more critical thinkers!