Gen X Sucks At Being Aunties And Grandmothers - Must Watch
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- Опубликовано: 27 июл 2024
- GEN X SUCKS AT BEING AUNTIES AND GRANDMOTHERS -
In This Video A Black Woman Talks About How Gen X Are Terrible Aunties And Grandmothers And Can Not Take Care Of Their Nieces And Nephews If Asked To, This Got GenXiers To Respond To Her And Give Their Two Cents On This.
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Some women don't like being aunties, and don't want to be mothers and grandmothers... Why do some people think all women are obliged to be mothering someone?
THIS🎯🤌
@@KateeAngel that's not what she's saying.
I have 5 siblings and I've been an aunty since I was in my late teens. Then my siblings kept having babies over the years (although not excessively). I found it fun being an aunty in my teens, 20s and even early 30s because I had that playful energy that young adults are known to have. I didn't mind babysitting, playing with their toys and taking them on days out. But now I'm in my 40s and my siblings aren't finished yet, lol! My younger sibling has had a baby and my older sibling has adopted a little girl after unsuccessfully trying for her own for a few years.... I'm actually over it now, lol! I no longer want spontaneous babysitting requests, or expectations of buying birthday/christmas presents for the next 18yrs. So unfortunately, my younger sibling's baby and my older sibling's adopted daughter are getting the raw end of the deal from me (compared to the "fun aunt" that my nieces and nephews got when I was more playful). My new nieces/nephews are unfortunately getting the grumpy middle-aged aunty who has low tolerance for foolishness and will only give out presents if I feel like it. This new wave of neices/nephews also have access to mobile phones, so I won't be entertaining any random video calls/memes when they're bored either (sorry, not sorry kiddos) 🤷🏽♀️
Boom
Because they want free childcare
Why isn't she calling out grandfathers and uncles?? Women can be just as entitled when it comes to the labor of women, as men are. When you have a kid, the only one obligated to that child is YOU.
This the one girl 1️⃣ because she hoopin and hollering wasting all time of energy
I agree and disagree. Men should be called out but it takes a VILLAGE to raise a child. To even think it’s normal for one person to raise a child is CRAZY af!
I agree to an extent. Some mothers literally beg their daughters to have children and claim they can’t wait to keep them and once the baby is born, grandma is missing in action lol…my mom is like this and has to check her schedule to keep the grandbaby she couldn’t wait for my hubby and I to have lol
@@ForeverFaharithat’s 100% y’all fault for listening. My mother want me to be married with kids && I’m not doing either one. You should’ve chose different
@@user-lp2he1md6i Then maybe women should abstain from sex because people have their own lives to tend to. I don't have time to look after another person's child because of a goofy decision THEY made. Also, where are these fathers at?
Listen, if your mom left you with granny for weeks at a time. Why would you think they want to keep your babies?
Use common sense. She doesn't want ya'll😂
Don't act surprised w/ fake outrage. 😭😭
They are good for to be left alone. 😂😂😂
@@southernb3ll5319 why does the outrage have to be fake... she's having a conversation about how Gen X parents let Millenials down. What doesn't make sense about opening up that conversation...
This! They didn’t want kids when they had you so why would they want their grandkids? 😅
@@CambieSweets Honey, 🤷🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
Wait!!!! She wants the same mother that didn't want to watch her to want to watch her grandchildren?
Exactly, they don't think.
@@bunchielove6893 I just said the same thing. 😭
Ya know! Why would they even want that kind of neglect for their child?
She didn't think that through before she opened her mouth.
EXACTAMENTE!!!
5:48 This is where common sense should come in at. If someone doesn’t want their own children and drops them off with other people all the time. What makes you think they are going to take someone else’s children? Are they even fit to have someone’s children?
Gen X here, never told anyone to have a child, child free by choice. Don't expect childcare from me please.
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@Usualspec13 This right here. Never told anyone and never was told that _by_ anyone, either! I feel for her as it sounds like she might not have had good influences in her developmental years. She was led astray.
@@lynx70123 really great point about the influences, seems to be an expectation that child raising is solely women's responsibility
@@lynx70123 or just hot in the azz🔥
Hi. Gen X here, raised by Boomers. I was left to raise myself. My parents worked and were out spending money on themselves. NO ON owes you a thing. Now, I work 2 jobs. I barely have time to take care of myself and now you want to put babies back on my shoulders? And wait...where are the Gen X men? Why don't you hold them accountable. Thank you.
Same situation here with me! I raised myself, my cousins AND my sister once she came when I was 18! I AM TIRED OF KIDS!!! I have been raising kids since I was about 7 years old. I’m 44 now ( I am at the tail end of Gen X) and I am tired. I don’t have kids because I didn’t want to raise kids anymore! Let me live MY damn life!!! I don’t owe you a thing baby girl! Ask your uncles and your daddy.
Yep! I'm 47 and when I started raising my kids I'd already had to raise myself 😂 But luckily, none of my kids have or want kids, so I don't really have a dog in this fightv😂
My mom is gen x and she ain't getting no grandkids from me.
My mom is a boomer and she ain't getting no kids out of me. If my husband's family could accept that, so can she.
The village was a myth.
Thank you.
The village was definitely there for SOME raised by boomers and earlier generations but "The Village" wasn't limited to only grandmothers and aunties. It was other family members, friends, and neighbors that you trusted of course.
The village existed back in the days when most women were at home. In those times, mothers were at home, raising their children and taking care of their home. So the village wasn’t just your mom, grandma and Auntie’s, it was neighbors and friends as well. How many people today actually have trustworthy relationships with their neighbors? I lived in a neighborhood that was like that as a kid many of our neighbors were invited to my wedding, that’s how close we were. Now, I’m fortunate enough to be at home with my children. But I don’t know anybody on my street. I am with my children all the time. When I was working, my mother babysat for me. That’s it. The village doesn’t exist anymore, because now everybody is working outside of the home.
The village died when the nuclear family was introduced people did indeed and in fact help care for others people's kids in the past
@jillagnello5202 Funny how you didn't mention uncles, fathers, grandfathers, brothers, and men in general.
I’m GenX/Childless. It seems this is only the subject of folks who raised children alone. Now their children are in the same shoes.
**Notice Men weren’t mentioned?**
They probably need Maury Povich
The grandparents are still working and living lives of their own they don’t have time like the grandmas and aunties of the past.
Exactly. My parents and grandparents still had/have to work. They don't have the luxury of being just grandparents.
Exactly. My dad still works every damn day doing hard manual labor. It's not ridiculous for me to consider that fact when I want a babysitter. My family doesn't have the means to care for a new baby, so I know if I bring one into this world, it's MY responsibility. It's selfish as hell to look at other people trying to live their life and provide for their family and go "you should be taking care of mine to." NO GIRL. Your parents raised their kids. Their job is DONE. You wanna bring a new soul into this world, it's YOUR job to take care of it. I'm not your babysitter, I'm a functioning human being with my own goals and struggles. I don't have the time or energy to raise someone elses crotch goblins.😂
Mine were retired by the time l married and had children. But l was selfish with mine. I enjoyed motherhood to the fullest. Had everybody angry in the family cause we loved taking our kids on trips, to events, etc. 😂😂😂 Now we’re grandparents and we plan trips to see our grandchildren. Both families are in different states far away. Such a blessing 😂😂😂😂
And they shouldn't expect us to be there for them In their late stages because we are grinding out here too. Millennial here.
Everybody else raised us except our parents......and birthed 10.
GenX was the free range generation. Their parents were hands off, so they are hands off.
The drugs were keeping most Parents busy and the result are the Y's. Extremely confused
@@CAMICAZE007 Some, not most.
@@lynx70123 most. Yeah. Drugs being substance..yass. alcohol drugs. Ignorance..Most..is enough..
@@CAMICAZE007 I disagree that most parents were on drugs. Definitely _some_ were. We can agree to disagree.
@lynx70123 great 👍 the point Is Enough is Enough and not Drugs what's the 911..America is Crack Nation..where they Go?
Simply times have changed. Having children is a choice and the only person responsible for raising the children is you, there is no free village. As part of Gen X this is the lesson we learnt. Pick better partners and only have as many children as you can handle both financially and emotionally because if the relationship breaks down 9 time out of 10 it will be you who has to manage.
True-- even if you're a teenage -mom
This! Accountability!
I just don’t understand why a lot of people who have kids don’t seem to take into account their family dynamics before having kids. You should know if your village is a village you would want to raise your kid in before they even get here.
Just like the lady wearing the green shirt said....lots of these women have kids for government assistance (section 8 apartment). She didn't lie cuz I know women that have done it in my hometown. Lots of women are still doing it.
Just because I'm the aunt or grandmother does not mean I have to say yes to watching YOUR kids. Rather it's going to the store, club, knitting, or bingo...etc. I can do that on MY time & not cancel my plans to watch YOUR kids. Your village is what you make it, but the village can still tell you NO.
I choose to watch paint dry over babysitting somebody else's kids. Did that against my will as teen, and that's all the free labour may family will ever get out of me.
@@notyourfrind9415I can't with you😂😂😂, but I feel you
My mom raised 11 of us..She deserves to live her life...No..She is not obligated to raise anybody else's kids...She still does babysit from time to time but I'm so proud that she's now learning how to take care of herself..Shes such an inspiration..she has a fuller life then most ppl my age...Don't have kids if u can't raise them.
This was so respectful and beautiful to read 😍😍😍😍
❤❤❤ this! Recognising the sacrifices our parents made and appreciating that it’s their time to flourish and still love on the grandbabies.
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@@ONEOFAKINDSISTAH yes love on them on their own time. Not by force.
@@Sunny-tc3ul absolutely.
I'm a Gen X'er. I was raised by a single mom & she didn't have a village. If she had things to do, she would just leave us home. I'm a single mom of 3 now and I'm slowly creating my village. I work full-time and am creating a side hustle. I rarely will depend on my village unless absolutely necessary. I think it's the responsibility of the parents to care for the kids. If Grandparents help out, they are not obligated to do so & millenials should be careful not to take advantage. When my kids are grown, I wouldn't have a problem taking care of my grandkids. However, I might not always be home as I plan to travel when I'm older. Grandparents have a right to live their lives when their kids are grown. They have sacrificed in order to raise the next generation. It's time for the next generation to take over.
Get your partying out of your system B4 becoming a single mom or pick a man who would commit to raise his children with or without you
@@kennek1976 Yes, yes! Also stop at 1 kid if you know you are not the mothering kind👩🍼😒.
Exactly
THIS!!!
😂😂 ouch! The truth hurts, Sis!
@@user-of2co3ke5p or don’t have children period. Especially if you’re the mothering kind. They are the ones taking children out because of resentment.
Who is asking grandparents to raise the kids full time? I’m a married millennial with 2 kids and they barely see their grandparents. One set lives right here in town. I had a close relationship with my grandparents and I wanted that for our kids. And we haven’t asked them to babysit in years, the kids are 4 and 6.
The village can be other mothers and women YOUR AGE! This includes siblings, cousins, and friends you trust. It doesn't have to be limited to only grandmothers and aunties. "The Village" was never only about these women.
That’s what we have. I waited to have children because I knew I wouldn’t have any help. My husband and me have created a network of friends for us and our children thankfully…but I do agree with what the lady says. A lot of our parents were out living their life instead of bringing parents and still want to have freedom instead of placing value on their family legacy.
…just don’t expect to come live with me
Or she can woman up and do it herself like many many women have
AND the dad and his side of the family.
Again, why is the burden put on women to step up and care after other people’s kids. Once again, women as a collective are having to clean up the mess other people make. Why aren’t uncles and granpas held to the same standard?
Yes men don't want to pay child support for kids that's not theirs
🎯..am so tired of everyone expecting free labor from women..
Exactly. Nobody's going to guilt me into free labor. We ain't slaves no mo 😂
I'm a millennial raised by a Boomer. I was a latchkey kid too. The Gen X didn't grow up in the same world. They had less support AND in their senior years have less economic security. They ain't got the time to babysit. The truth is you can't demand parents to help. Have a conversation and create expectations based on who your parents are.
100% true.
Personally, I don’t think there should be any expectations of grandparents. If you have children, they are your responsibility. The grandparents are valued counsel and a dear relationship that the child will get to enjoy hopefully for years to come. But I have trouble with the word expectation. When I had my children, I expected to be the one raising my children. If I had to go to work, my mom would babysit for me. But that was only because both my husband and I were at work. Not because we were out having the time of our lives and pawning our children off on the grandparents. I was always fortunate that my mother couldn’t wait to be around her grandbabies. They brought her a lot of joy, as she did them. We miss her every day.
@@jillagnello5202…❤ so true. We were blessed at times too when our children were young. My husband and l had living parents who used to “fuss” at us for NOT letting our kids spend the night or a weekend. The grandparents should be a blessing, not an expectation. I used to send mine with their little suitcases, extra money, snacks and one time instructions 😂😂😂 Chile, l took helicopter parenting to a new level 😂😂😂
Exactly. Thank you!
Many GenXers chose to _plan_ for families, with many choosing to plan not to have children at all. Now, someone wants to guilt us into watching their kids because they failed to plan. Had they planned for their family, it's likely they would've waited until they were in a position to parent without guilting other people about _their_ responsibility.
I have several friends who are childfree by choice. We didn't avoid having kids to be responsible for someone else's. We help financially. That's the help I have the capacity to give.
This!!!
Gen X is living our lives and not worried about y'all poor decisions! Not obligated and won't be bullied into it either. I don't understand why these younger generations so sensitive 🤷🏽♀️
It’s not even about tradition because if it was the woman wouldn’t have kids in her circumstances in the first place. What she’s really mad about is that she wants to live an Instagram life but can’t do it with a kid in tow.
There you go💯. It's hard and inconvenient to be "outside" and lit with lil Tyrone Jr. and Tyrisha in tow messing up the flow.
she sounds like she’s talking to one person but making it a broad conversation lol . She’s way too passionate about this for it to not be personal
Loll 😂
Exactly!
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Bingo 😂
And she's not even talking about HER kids!! She needs to mind her business. I don't have kids and I'm sure as Hell not raising yours!!
Childfree Gen-Xer here. My Mom always announced she wanted grandkids but she would always hide up in her bedroom when baby nieces and nephews were around. I KNEW she did not want to be bothered. I didn't want to be bothered either. Bump them kids.
in that order.
I see where she’s coming from as someone who was dropped at grandmas a lot (for days at a time lol) but the world we live in at this point isn’t feasible for that given that a lot of people in gen x (and some boomers) still have to work and are retiring later and later. This is why we need to continue advocating for not only higher wages but more affordable quality childcare
@@MsSPrescott1 No. Just stop having kids you cannot fully afford. Children are huge expenses and time consuming. Make sure you have a husband, good job, housing and financial stability in your life before burdening yourself and others with children. Advocate for all that!
@user-of2co3ke5p 1. I don’t have kids. Just because I’m childfree doesn’t mean I shouldn’t advocate for better conditions for those with kids. 2. We should be advocating for these things BECAUSE children are expensive and time consuming. Society should adapt to the needs of the people if it doesn’t want to collapse. Wage stagnation and a failing economy is not the fault of parents and advocating for improvement should be something everyone does even if it doesn’t benefit them directly
@@MsSPrescott1 Baby mama or not my statement still stands. Yes, go ahead and advocate for those things.
Stop having kids you can’t take care of. End of story.
I don't appreciate this young woman’s attitude. Her first statement was her momma was born in the 50's and this issue doesn’t pertain to her, yet she has some serious anger towards Gen X. I am Gen X and I am a grandmother. I raised 2 kids on my own. I didn't live around family. I am still working full-time. No I don't want to babysit every weekend while my daughter goes out and party. If my daughter is working and I can help with the children, I will. But it will be on my time and at my convenience. After my children became adults, it is there time to build their lives. My job is done. Personally I am tired of the entitlement of these younger generations. I worked 2 jobs and went to school to provide for my kids and I sent them to school to be able to provide for themselves. NO, we owe you nothing more. Put your big boy/girl pants on and go out there and get it because NO ONE is going to get it for you.
Exactly! The entitlement is insane.
That part!👏👏👏👏
I am 38 now and my grandparents worked into their 70s so they were definitely working while they watched me as a child so my mom could work.
Same at 23 and for my 31 yr old brother. Grandmas always been a nurse until she retired. And she’d watch us after working 3rd shift so my mom and dad could work 1st. It’s laughable when he tries to talk about my moms grandma capabilities whom works 2 jobs the same shift as him!! 😂they act entitled and blind
Where was your father?
This is why I laugh that the Gen X and Boomers are shocked the child free movement is going strong. Cause it’s comical.
I'm '78 genX and I'm shocked that any members of the "get off my lawn" generation decided to breed at all. All this about the millennials starting the childfree movement is hogwash, late-stage genX started it.
GenX started childfree. Millennials took the credit.
It's not a shock at all. Gen X BW were 4B before there was such a thing. Plenty of childless Gen X and the birth rates have been going down since the 90s. Gen X bw saw how even more degenerate the black community was becoming, and the males were telling the world how we were b & h, stereotyping and putting others before their own. A lot of us, Gen X, globally saw and felt it and said enough is enough!
@AG-iu9lv well that's just not true 😂😂
@AG-iu9lv yes Gen X BW were 4B before there was such a thing. Some of us saw the degeneracy and lack of respect. The birth rates have been going down since the 90s
WE ARE STILL WORKING FULL TIME. If you want to take off for a weekend, you could offer to trade "free babysitting weekends" with another couple or trade date night babysitting with another couple.
We reared ourselves and our siblings (eldest child here, that was our reality). We reared you. We are ready to live our own lives for a change.
Or…..people can pay a baby sitter
Trade offs with other single moms/couples, yes. Single moms helping single moms that's a village. Make connections!
@@Laoriginal718 Yup!
I’m an older Millennial/Xennial. My grandmother watched me in emergencies/when needed, but not on her own initiative. My retired boomer parents are the same way. I can call them when a kid is sick or there’s a teacher work day and I can’t take off work to stay home. But they won’t really offer to just take the kids on a weekend or be regular child care. It’s fine, I don’t expect them to.
What DOES annoy me is when I hear my mom say to me (or to other relatives about me) “Oh, you live so far from us!” (It’s a 40 minute drive). “Oh, we don’t see the grandkids often!” Who’s stopping you? You’re retired and you have two cars. You can come get them after school any day you wanted to, but you never have. “Oh, it would be so nice if you sold your house and moved closer to ours!”. No thank you. I can’t afford the higher property taxes, it would double or more my work commute, and I’d lose the after school childcare it took me a 4-year waitlist to get that I know you won’t be the replacement for.
I agree with her. I call my mom a Facebook Grandma and she gets pissed. I do think there's a difference between helping and raising though
Simple. She can post pictures of her grandchild that she takes herself. Or stop being fake. Don't send her pics. Problem solved.
If somebody couldn't even raise their own kid what makes you think they would be willing wanting or able to take care a kid that's not even theirs. Let's put our thinking caps on.
The woman whos talking at 26:00 is spittin facts!! 👏
Theres 3 ways to look at it: A) the first woman expects grandparents to raise their grandkids. This is an issue because the only reason YOU were able to have kids, is because your parents made the sacrifice to raise you. When you call them for help financially or because you broke down or because you need some groceries, etc. Theyre STILL raising you. Now you expect them to do the whole thing again for your kids, when they were thinking this hard work would grant them some peace and relaxation. Its selfish and entitled to expect them to throw the rest of their life away raising more kids they didnt have.
B) she wants aunts that dont have kids themselves, to watch hers. This is a problem because those people likely have a reason theyre childfree and youre again, being selfish and entitled to assume that YOU should be allowed to rewrite their life plans so its more convenient on you.
C) she wants aunts with their own kids to watch hers. This is a problem because are you offering the same services? It theyre a parent to, then theyre dealing with the same struggles you are. Are you offering to take the kids off their hands every now and again? Because if not, its selfish and entitled to say youre the only parent that deserves a break. You cant expect a village but not play an active role in BEING a village as well.
No way she tries to paint this looks good for her. If people dont want to raise your kids, there are good reasons why. Also if youre having a kid, you have 9 months to talk to them about this stuff. If you are gonna want help in the future, you have time to ask their feelings on it. If they dont want to be a free babysitter, you better start saving, or mentally preparing.
Its not selfish to want control iver how you spend your time and life. It is however entitled to believe you should have say over other peoples lives based on your own convience.
The world is different now, and theres reasons why. Stop complaining and either try to change it on a large scale or get with the program. Shaming others for being responsible of their own time and energy isnt the solution.
I'm a Gen X and I helped my mother take care of my sisters who are millennials. After years of helping my mother take care of them I chose not to have any children. However my sisters have children and I would spend time with them. 7-10-2024(Wed)
Same! I was used in place of a father, and barely had a childhood so.... I'm good watching my nieces and nephew when I CHOOSE to
😂😂😂😂 l really didn’t understand her rant. This is that inner city ghetto lifestyle with no father in the home. Mom working two jobs and the grandmother (also unmarried) helping to raise the kids. We all don’t live like this. My parents (mom and dad) weren’t on call to watch my children because l was home with them. ❤❤❤
Ouuuuuu she is SPEAKING FACTS baby. I have a gen x sis. I'm a millennial. I help raise ALLL FOUR of her kids. I was a PERMANENT babysitter. No pay not even a thank you. She has yet to help me out with mine. My parents are no longer here, I've been raising mine ALONE. NO HELP. I pray to God I stay in good health bc my kids only have me. Man she didn't tell ONE LIE
Village🤔. Where is the dad and his side of the family? Friends, babysitters, other mothers, neighbors, etc?.
Lowkey a lot of Gen X didn’t even want to be parents, so being a grandparent or auntie is out of the question.
But on the flip side, if Gen X don’t want to support new millennial parents, they don’t get to ask “so when are y’all gon have kids?”
Being young and raising kids is tiring,stressful and draining. So the expectation that someone who has aged and who might not be at top health now, has to add stress ,noise, drop offs and pickups for a generation who'll not show appreciation and thanks because they feel entitled to help...
Being a grandparents doesn't mean they have to give anyone free and unlimited services.
People act like if youre an older women you gotta care, give,feed everyone.. forever... Doesn't sound appealing. Add trying to navigate through menopause (which is INSANE to your body and mind..) and whatever else..
Theres barely enough energy, focus and strength to deal with basic daily life but then you have to take from that or be told youre a horrible mother/Grandma for not running yourself dead for others..
We did spend every summer at our grandparents and they switched off family sides each year. This year with daddys mama and next summer with mamas daddys house. Spring break and all that. Thats not even an option today 😂😂
It's true, spent a whole summer with one of my aunts when i was a kid. lol
This rant sounds like a personal problem.
I’m a Millennial. It’s no one’s responsibility to be your village. Think twice before you have children. Having children is a choice. That’s why I don’t have them.
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This mentality is why society is suffering now. We all feel so detached failing to realize we need others to succeed in almost all aspects of life. Humans can only thrive when we support each other.
@@hypnotiqkush661exactly! I hate that in the black community we have to have this independent “get it on your own” mentality. You’re viewed as weak or less than if you require support 😂
The child's village is their mommy and daddy. Everybody else is just doing the parents a MAJOR favor by picking up the slack but as you see, you'll get a speech about how you're a terrible person because you won't take on the responsibilty of their children at their beck and call. 😂😂😂
@JapanKardash Exactly, the strongest communities understand they have to work together, or they will inevitably fail. The weakest communities work divided. I just hope we all begin to do better by each other so we can make a better future for those coming behind us.
I'm so sick of hearing these kids making children them looking back at the elders to raise them. This is absolutely ridiculous. I had my youngest the same time my 2nd oldest had h his first. We're both taking pictures with our newborns. So, she's telling me I'm supposed to just what, get rid of my own responsibilities, quit my job and career, to stay home and raise my grandchildren? Who going to pay my bills?
The freaknic, the club? What is she TALKING about? I was married and a mom since I was 19. I didn't even get my divorce intimate I was 44. Now, I'm 53 and still raising children, alone. He's deceased. Idk who are the floosies she's talkng about. I'm gen X auntie and grandma and I'm the one who EVERYONE dumped their brats on, many didn't even ask, most parents I never met, some, I did see, LOOKED AND SPOKE JUST LIKE HER UNGREATFUL AZZ. They like her: "can you watch Deshequan for 5 minutes" then I don't see a bch for a week. What is this chick talking about? No, I'm tired of raising everyone's kids. I raised my kids, siblings, grand kids, freaking neighbors even dropped their children off at my house and speed off. I'm done. If y'all keep dumping y'all kids at my house like that, I'm calling the state the very next time one of y'all do that. I know I'm not the only one where some baby momma sees you with your family, she decides to get her kids and literally drop them off at your house like y'all got some babysitting arrangement. What's crazy is these parents don't know me at all nor do they bother to introduce themselves.
Btw, many GenXers also raised ourselves. We were latchkey kids, responsible for cleaning and cooking, and babysitting siblings, cousins, our mom's single friend's kids, etc. We are freaking tired. There's nothing new under the sun.
SAY IT LOUD ENOUGH FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK!!!!!
Exactly. We raised ourselves, then raised kids, we're even taking care of our elderly Silent Gen parents now. We're done taking care of everybody. They're gonna have to take some personal responsibility and raise their own kids.
Gen X was the first generation that were college educated and worked full time PROFESSIONAL level jobs. Our mothers advised us to become extremely independent and we expect the same from our daughters. Our grandmothers were not educated and did not work outside the home. Some of our mothers had degrees, but most did not work full time jobs outside of the home.
I agree with most of this but to be clear MOST black women always had to work outside the home as maids and caregivers (the help) back in the day. Most were not stay at home moms. Black women were never afforded that luxury on a mass scale no time in our history in the U.S. Just making that clear; most had no other choice.
Millennials are working professional jobs. That's why they need help?? And having a village is exactly how Gen X did those jobs, because they could drop the kid off at grandma's house or with a sister or whatever. They were not paying thousands for childcare, making them work even more to pay for it. If Millenials weren't independent and were just home, they wouldn't need help.
@@mandeanraje2300 The era of "free" help is over. This is why the child free movement took off. I'm child free for various reasons, but the biggest one is because my mother and sister refused to help if I would have had a child. They expected me to hire a nanny to raise my child, so I choose not to have a child.
@@redrock740 all of these things are true and I'm childfree as well, but the very fact that they're true is what OP is bringing attention to. I don't get how this is a rebuttal to what she said. Whether I have kids or not, it's okay to engage with the fact that Gen Xers are judging Millenials for not doing better than them, while not acknowledging that they had to have help to get to where they are, and that they are now in the position of who helped them back then. But they don't want to help and they also don't want you to feel some type of way about it? How sway.
My boomer mom was a professional wife I can’t relate
There’s no such thing as a village. Raise your own kids. Tf
And why are we talking as if cultivating a support system and curating a supportive environment as if they isn't ALSO the parents responsibility. If you want a village then put the work in to make one. Did they ask their friends if they would be willing and able to help and specify under what terms before having the kid? Did they ask Grandma grandpa, auntie and Uncle how involved they want to be? Did they make any mutually beneficial arrangements with local moms? When last have these bums done any mutual aid, community service, or even hosted a free communal dinner for THEIR friends with kids. Or watched ALL of their friends kids so they can catch a break- never? Oh okay.
They don't care about community and they don't give a flying fudge about a village. They want free childcare and round of them. It's simply not going to work
GenX Auntie here…. First, we raised ourselves then We helped each other - I was literally the breadwinner for a family of five because my sisters ex would not step up and take care of his kids. So I did. I helped financially, physically and emotionally for 25 plus years. Working two jobs six and seven days a week for most of those years. I still help those kids in there in their 20s. My two sisters (also gen x) and I also took care of two aging parents until they both passed way…. Gen X is tired…. I’ll still keep doing stuff to help, but I am definitely tired and do not have the energy to be watching children every day….
Facts! Raising nephews and nieces, looking after elderly and ill parents isn’t a joke.
Gen X is tired!
She's talking about a time when the grandmothers didn't work. The world is very different now. I work full time and work wonky hours, nights/weekends. And will be working til I depart this earth. So no, I don't have the opportunity to help with my 3 grandchildren very often.
Gen X here ... As we move from 1 generation to the next, we should be doing better as a people. If you can't afford children and can't find the time to raise them, you better get you a hustle and find the time!!!
Up until a certain age and for a period of time, I wasn't at my grandmother's house and even then my situation was a little different than most as my mother was in the military, so she would transfer to the new base and then send for me, but my grandmother raising me wasn't a thing and my mother subscribes to the same ideology, 'Your children, 98% Your Responsibility'.
Now, I don’t have siblings so I will never be an Auntie, and my oldest son (26) doesn't want children while my 16 yo better not want any until he's degreed up, house/ car / emergency funds up, and careered up. And I don't see myself being any different from my mom and her mom, and my sons know this.
Being a parent is a responsible.
Being an Aunt/ Grandmother is a privilege and even with that, there is something called wearing out your welcome.
Don't expect us to raise your children!!!
We have many of yrs to clock. Being your children's parent isn't one of them!!!
I’m a early 90s millennial with 2 Gen Alpha kids. My village is mainly Gen X grandparents ❤❤ so I cannot relate to not having any support with my kids. At the same time it’s not anyone’s responsibility to help support you and your kids. Family members do not have to do anything just because they are family. I thank God for the support and village that I do have 🙌🏽
I may get a lot of flack for this comment, but the people that are complaining about people not helping them with their kids are the ones that should not be having kids in the first place. This baby mama / baby daddy culture just makes the situation worse. If I CHOOSE not to have kids because of the responsibility, why would I turn around and try to watch someone else's kid for days on end? I'm not saying that I wouldn't mind helping watch a kid now and then, but it should not be a regular occurrence.
First sentence says it all🎯🤌.
Feeling entitled to someone else's labor when you have invested nothing into their life is absolutely unhinged
If they couldn’t/wouldn’t raise theirs, what make them think these same lil girls are gonna help raise any other children. It’s weird to even expect it.
Grandparents are an important asset of the village. Marriages need villages. The grandparents are usually the most trusted. All the people want are a few date nights abd and a vacation every three years or so lol
Gen X here. I spoiled my nephew and niece that I’m much older than. I’m the same age as the rest of my nieces and nephews. I also plan on spoiling my granddaughter that’s on the way. My children get the same thing I got. 1 weekend a month and 1 week a year. Plus whenever I just feel like grabbing her. So I can’t relate.
Gen X here. We watched all the little siblings and cousins...had to drag their little bad arses around w us so many of us didnt have kids til later bc we were living wild and free.
I was established in my career BEFORE I had my GenZ child. 90% of my graduating class all have kids who are within 5 years of each other. My mom assisted with pick up from school. She and my daughter had a wonderful relationship. I built a village of coworkers who were moms...friends whi had kids around same age...moms in activities my daughter was in.
The woman in the video really thought she ate. But she sounds like she may have some trauma w her own mama. Go heal and leave the collective alone.
I am so at peace if my lineage dies w my daughter. This world blows. Why bring more kids into this sh*t show?! But if she does have kids, those are my babies and I will assist...ASSIST but not raise my babies.
So, she wants people who couldn't raise their own kids to raise their grandkids? That makes no sense.
If she’s a millennial and the mom is Gen X, she was likely a teen mom and still has to work. Sis missed her party and now she’s mad. Nobody’s obligated to take care of your freaking kids. Get a grip. 4:46
I always took care of my one & only Grandchild. My daughter is a travel nurse & always on girls' trips out of the country .Then , i noticed she wasn't as appreciative as she should be . Sometimes, she would be rude and uncaring towards me . One , day , was the last straw . I told her she needed to experience what real life , dropping, picking up & finding baby sitters feel like . 😢. She said sorry , but it was toooooo late . Her Aunt , cousin & Mother in law & the Dad took over . Now , i just play with my baby when she visits 😅. # FAFO season 😂😂# anybody can get it 😅🎉
You daughter should have never had a child if she was gonna be a travel nurse. If she wanted to go on girls trips she should have thought about that before having a baby. Your daughter sounds irresponsible af.
3:26 Where’s the child’s father though ?? See the problem is y’all wanna be grown and make irrational, unstructured decisions and expect your people’s to clean up your mess. NO! Because respectfully that’s the bed you made for yourself.
This is my question. How come she's not talking about how she chose to have a child with an absentee man.
It's meant to be a village of united, natural families.. single mothers have hijacked that term to burden others with their responsibilities
Right cause we tired of helping and getting nothing in return fdk n they momma
Women hold women to a higher standards than men.
@@beautiful_wonderfullymade 🎯 I was thinking the same thing. That man and his family is part of the "village" too. Where is her dad? Can't he be burdened with the expectations too?
For me, the problem occurs when the older generation pressures the younger to have kids but then don’t want to support.
I clocked this early with my parents and have waited until I can 100% support myself and any kids by myself before I even consider having kids.
I knew that, despite the pressure, when it came down to it, my elders were all for themselves and enjoying their lives. Anything kid related would be me and my husband mostly on our own.
When I point this out when the “when are you having kids” convo comes up, it tends to either bring up defensiveness or inspire silence.
Either way, I’m not getting pressured into nothing.
Just became someone wants to be a grandparent doesn’t mean they wanna help you raise your kids. Tf
This right here people know they'll need outside help to raise kids they shouldn't have them.
@Laoriginal718 They have a point though why pressure your child to have kids if you aren't will to help out some especially if you got help yourself its why it best that these current generations just not have kids
@@purpleflows5680 😒 Ain't nobody "pressuring"🙄 ya'll to have out of wedlock kids. "If" so, it is "extremely" rare.
Its because the sense of community is dead
No it’s because ppl feel like their friends and family are designated free childcare providers.
45,first born daughter and child- free button
42 and child-free 🎉🎉🎉🎉
As a Gen X grandmother let me make this clear: I love my grandchild and would give my life for them, but I am NOT their parent. I absolutely raised my child as a single mother and struggled. I was young and dumb but I did it. My daughter is an older mom, (she waited until she was in her 30s), but struggles because she chose a bum to have a kid with, (he's literally homeless since they got evicted). She now expects me to take up the slack for him. Nope. I'm grandma, not dad. I have helped more than I should and now she expects more. I don't think Millennials are upset because we don't want to help, they are upset because they made a choice and can't handle it.
They want caretakers, benefactors, and nannies...not grandparents.
Do you expect your child to be a caretaker, benefactor or nurse when you are older or sick?
@@83npatNope.
If she can't take care of herself and her child, why on earth or any planet near it would I expect that she would have either the wherewithal, means, or constitution to do any of those things??? Like most Gen Xers, I am practical and pragmatic. I expect nothing from anyone, but most especially from those who have demonstrated they aren't capable. As always, I am prepared and I have made my own arrangements for my inevitable decline in the future.
You choose a bum to sleep with too. You should have been sharing knowledge with your daughter so she doesn’t make the same mistake but now y’all just got a family curse. No one was there to help you so now you feel the need for your daughter to go through the same thing. SMH
@@user-lp2he1md6i That's part of the problem. I not only served as an example of what not to do. I broke quite a few generational curses, to the extent that she thought she knew better and would show me how wrong I was in my advice. I obviously didn't know what was talking about when I gave her warnings and direction. She was bound and determined to prove me wrong. Her situation echoes buit is a little different than mine, btw. If she would have listened, should would not be in this situation. I'm SMH too
Your last 2 sentences sums it all up! They want to heavily burden their mothers cuz they royally screwed up. Guilt tripping, loud talking and embarrassment are the tools they use to "try" to get their mothers to fall in line😒.
I didn’t grow up like that. I married young. Had babies in my early 20s. Our youngest is still at home. I am tired. I didn’t have support from my mother. I never went to freak nick. I never went clubbing. I was too busy homeschooling our children and being a stay at home wife and a mother. So what is wrong with me? I am not excited about babysitting. I am tired. Now I am excited my husband and I get to enjoy each other for the first time without young children tagging along. I spent 29 years raising our children. I am tired. I want to go where I want to go, sleep when I want to eat. I don’t have to raise grandchildren. I get my grandchildren and go get them when I feel like it. 14:14 I like that lady she is right on point.
I genuinely dont understand the first ladies point... Your mom understood the responsibility of having a child, and chose to raise you herself instead of putting the burden on other people. Now youre mad that other people are encouraging the same thing?? You are the one that decided to have a baby. Your momma raised you because she knew thats what the job is. Now you expect other women who have chose NOT to have children, to raise yours? No 😂 thats not how it works. Bringing a human into this world is a full time commitment. You dont get to pop one out so you can play dress up, and then give them to someone else when you get tired of caring for them. If you cant raise your kid like your momma did, other women are NOT the problem.
errrrmmmmm... Where is the child's father??? He's supposed to help before aunty or grandma. Why no expectations for grandpa or uncle? We don't have a live when we have children, our children is our life until they move. Let's get things in the natural order. Not village, PARENTS first.
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It takes a village my ass. You have to consult the village BEFORE having the baby and take ALL of their concerns, feedback, and issues into consideration throughout the entire process. If you’re not doing that……that baby is the SOLE responsibility of Parents 1 & 2.
And I wouldn’t believe the village would help anyways. What if the village dies? Like…no.
Exactly
All of the audacity and entitlement she has her kids probably bad as hell 🤣
They're always the ones 😢
Like you're a grown adult trying to guilt-trip a senior citizen into providing free child care. You look crazy. Get a grip.
No one should be forced to take on a responsibility that they don't want.
However some Gen X seems like they don't do nothing except talk shit about Millennials 😢
She mixing up her generations. Cause if she is calling Milenial parents who are under 44 children. That's the first problem. I'm 45 on the cusp of Gen x and millennial. I helped with my siblings so I'm now child free. I'll send my nieces and nephews gifts but not my kids. I didn't lay down and make them so how is that my problem?
I’m CF Gen X and I enjoy being an aunty but I HATE when women expect me to spoil and coddle their kids the way they do. And I do treat kids waaaay better than I was treated.
But when a kid takes my things without asking I’m going to lecture them. I do NOT spank or physically punish them, but some mothers get enraged if I check their precious offspring in any way. One called me his “second mom” and I corrected him. “AUNTY. I’m an aunty.” Well his mom did NOT like that! She acted like I should’ve been honored to be called “mom”. Eeewwww!!!!
Also our fathers were often Vietnam vets, grandfathers were WW2 vets, on back and we had to deal with a lot of generational trauma. Along with having to raise ourselves because our mothers were working. A lot of us are just exhausted to our bones.
Gen X here, I'm 52 married raised 2 kids. Left college and Had my 1st at 23. My kids don't have kids yet, son is a newlywed daughter is still in college. I never left my kids with grandparents or Aunties for days. Unless it was a special occasion and they wanted to be there with their cousins. I worked full time, paid bills, daycare, private school and many extra curriculum activities. I don't know any women my age who are like what this lady is talking about in this video. P.S. I never ever attended a freaknik!!
What’s getting on my nerves is the Gen X are the people who keep bothering us about having kids and how they wanna be grandparents and all this bull but then when we fall to society pressures - they don’t want to raise the child because I’m gentle parenting? you don’t wanna help me raise my child because you’re busy ? you don’t wanna help my child because you’re still working? These were the conditions before the child was born. Then don’t be surprised when people say they don’t talk to their family members and they’re isolated. There is a reason and I’m tired of people trying to say times are different. They are different because we’re letting you guys know come help and instead of telling us no
I don't think they mean have kids as a single parent. You guys to choose good so you can have a built in support if you decide to have kids. Don't have kids expect people to raise it for you.
Have kids for you, not for anyone else
No one is obligated to help you raise your fkn kids. WHERE IS THE FATHER?
@@toogroovywavey136exactly
Wtf is gentle parenting? Is that the dame as permissive parenting?
Nope, get somebody else to do it! We’re working, looking after our elderly parents, and trying to maintain our health.
The reason why they want childless people to be their village is because they don't want to return the favor or help another woman with kids. Why not create a village with other mothers? That would make more sense. Just like married women, one single woman supports support instead of other married women.
Omg, Exactly!!! 👏 They could easily set up play dates with other mothers but they chose to seek out child free parents because they KNOW reciprocating the favor isn't what they want to do.
@@eveharris30 🎯💯👌
If she cared about community she would be making sure every elderly woman on her block was taken care of- instead she's trying to guilt trip a senior citizen into providing free child care because she thinks when she was younger all she did was have fun and be a floozy? This entitled lady has no respect and she don't give af bout no village lol.
She just wants free child care and she's not going to get it
They really do. So glad the topic isn’t Gen Z this time since everyone loves to ish on us 🙄
So?
If your mama didn’t even want to watch you, why would you think she wants to watch your kids. I think we’re seeing a group of grandmothers and aunties that didn’t even really want to be mothers and now that their kids are grown, they’re not going back. 🤣 Also Gen X on the older side is only 60 or so. Many of them still work and don’t want kids around in their free time. They don’t have to.
Support is great. But I feel like a lot of people take grandparents for granted and use them to shirk their own responsibilities.
Where are these daddies at? Also, why do people only come after the other family members who are women and not the male family members (e.g. Uncles/Grandfather/FATHER)? As a childfree 40 year-old woman, I don't like children and have no interest in babysitting.
@@saramatthews7159 They duck and dodge that question like they owe people money, lol.
@@user-of2co3ke5p lol exactly
Gen X here.. I had zero help with my kids, I had to pay for childcare.. I didn’t go out, I didn’t party, I never had a free weekend.. My sisters were childfree and barely helped.:
I have finally started putting my foot down about my time with my nephew. I love him him a lot and the same with my niece but I also want to enjoy time alone. It is tiring at work having to deal with people and I really need quiet to recharge. We as aunties and grandmas are more than likely working still. We are tired when we get home or we want to live our life and won't get the chance to retire like our parents and grandparents did. Life is hard for us too. Crazy how they are expecting aunties and grandmas but not men to do anything. When I was a kid the American dream was having a good paying job, a house, a good vehicle and a family. Three of those four things are not attainable today for this younger generation. I have friends in their 20's who tell me they wish they could have experienced the 90's. I always tell them nothing beats being a kid in the 80's and a teenager in the 90's. I had so much hope for my future and now that I am an adult it isn't what I thought it would be.
No one is responsible for other women’s children. Leave them with their fathers. I’m a millennial and my parents are boomers and they didn’t leave me with my grandparents or aunts for long periods as a child. They left me with family every now and then. I didn’t expect anyone to take care of my only child except me or I paid a nanny. The village is gone. There’s no more free labor by grandmothers and aunties. Don’t assume everyone had aunts and grandmothers watching them.
I'm a Xennial. I didn't get to see my grandmother but once every 2 weeks for a short visit with my parents (and we all lived in the same apartment complex!). And she wasn't a doting grandmother, either. She was the "kids should be seen and not heard" type.
It would have been wild for our grandmother to provide us with sets of clothes and other things like that, like the one lady in the video was talking about.
Gen X had plenty of help raising their kids, INCLUDING from their oldest daughters who had to sacrifice our freedom and youth and money to cover their responsibilities. They had no problem absorbing our lives so they could live, and now that we have children they've discarded us.
When she said Gen X is like a platypus “what did God make you for?!” 😂😂😂. I love her accent so much.
I'm Gen X and I mostly raised myself, my siblings & cousins..I was the oldest & thst experience made me not want to have kids. When I eventually had children, I was with them or I paid for daycare, sitters or swapped with other parents for babysitting.. I'm tired...
This is why we don’t have a community.
I'm 48 years old (GenX) and spent most of my life people pleasing and always sacrificing and being there for others & setting aside my goals. I took care of entitled male siblings while my mother let them do whatever they wanted. I started taking care of everyone's kids providing food, clothing, finances while taking care of my son and daughter. If someone needed a place to stay I was there. When my mother found out she had cancer I took care of her and lost two jobs because I had to take her to all of her appointments. Thank goodness my father helped me with my bills while I was her caregiver. After she passed away and left me money I shared with others while putting my needs last. Once I started setting boundaries and of course getting a lot of push back and at the same time having nervous and mental breakdowns they watched me hit rock bottom. I had to start cussing people out in a rage and cutting people off. Once I started healing my health started to improve. Relatives will run you into the ground if you let them. Another thing I am encouraging my daughter not to have kids. We are breaking generational curses. I don't care what relatives think. I have had relatives say that I owe the family to help and raise their kids. I sad heck no! I don't own anyone sh$t! I'm living my last half of my life on my own terms and I don't care what others think. No I'm not a good Auntie and I don't have to sacrifice or do anything for family or relatives. Most of my relatives can kiss my entire A$$! I could care less about these chicks whining on the internet and thinking the world owes them. My days of sacrificing for others is OVER!
Yes! I took care of my Mom for 13 years before she died. I also worked full-time and graduated college. These women and men better suck it up and take care of their own kids. Sending you love from California 💕 💗
@@Roses-Peonies ❤ Exactly! Raise your own kids or get on some strong birth control.🤣
Yep, I’m CF Gen X and am busy healing from aaaaall the generational trauma heaped on me. I’m also still deprogramming from people pleasing and neglecting my own needs. Plus many younger mothers really coddle their kids. Which is fine but you can’t expect everyone else to do that.
One ex friend buys her tween son every gadget he wanted but can’t keep up with rent so they get evicted every few years. I have a big house to myself and felt so guilty for not offering to take them in the last time! Thankfully my therapist said to call her before making that offer! I’m so glad I listened. Plus I’m still working myself.
@@FireSilver25 I'm with you. I'm also healing from a lot of past trauma and dealing with certain relatives that thought I owed them my entire life and that I had to help raise their kids. I understanding assisting with help when it comes to people but people actually think that you owe them just because we are blood related. I think NOT! If that says I'm a dead beat Auntie that is what I will be. I started choosing myself.
14:25 Being told to have a baby just to get gov't benefits is NOT a Gen X thing. That's a "you chose to listen to the wrong people" thing. I'm Gen X and not a single person EVER told me to do anything that stupid.
My mom works more than my granny ever did. Times are different. The economy doesn’t present the opportunity as much for grannies to granny. I’m glad she does help out when she can, my daughter loves the bond. As an autism mom it’s hard to trust anyone to keep my child so I appreciate the moments even if they are few.
Also the subject isn't "talked about enough" according to the op cause perhaps its not the general experience. Its her experience and maybe the circle of moms she rolls with who want to be in the streets all the time.
I’m Gen X; my aunts and grands kept us only in emergencies and if it was long term negotiations were done and payments made. My mom didn’t have the freedom to do vacations or take time off because she had kids. My youth was hard and this world is evil so I’m childfree by choice because I didn’t see how I could protect them; a lot of my generation is learning to calm their lives and heal because a lot of them were damaged. Emergencies only; that’s what I know of.
I feel like everyone is kind of missing the bigger picture: we should all be living with supportive community that helps when we need and we reciprocate. Now why don't we have that? It's not an individual problem, this is a systemic problem. All the folks saying no one owes anyone anything, we actually owe each other a lot. That's how you have a functional society, owing each other respect, curtesy, support, and shared values is the foundation of the social contract. Of course, being entitled and demanding does not help cultivate any of this, but these individualistic takes are misguided. She didn't say raise the kids, she talked about how when millennials ask for help, minimal help, they get denied. The more we care for, look out for and support each other the better a society we will live in. These conversations are part of that care, so folks can make better choices.
And yes, why the OP calling out the women but not the men?
As a millennial My mom and my daughter dad mom always come through. Happily This is not my problem.
It’s the mentality. “No one did it for me so why would I do it for you”. The fact that we have to look to outside resources for support rather than looking to the women and men we’re supposed to be in community with is disheartening. The way patriarchy and HWITE supremacy has suppressed our minds so much so that we deem it a “privilege” to show up and support our black mothers/fathers is unsettling. No, we’re not asking you to raise them but we shouldn’t feel like we’re begging or a IOU has to take place just to get you to show up either. 😕
@@JapanKardash EXACTLY. I'm looking at this comment section like huh?? Either they're saying "I didn't have it so I'm not giving it to you" or they're saying, I did have it and I don't want to give it to you. Either way, it underlines what she's saying, that Gen X parents let their Millenial kids down, and this is an example of it.
And then wonder why they no contact no village no reason to contact them 💁🏾♀️😊
Patriarchy and white supremacy have nothing to do with the fact that some people don’t wanna be bothered with the responsibility of taking care of kids. Raise your own kids and leave ppl tf alone.
@@SweetPea3313ain’t no village. No one cares if you don’t call. Especially if you’re only calling because you need a favor. F*** off.
@@Laoriginal718 It has everything to do with it, and you are showing proof of those ideologies with your very comment. Why do we have to move in individuality instead of unity. We actually raised our kids as a village until patriarchy and supremacy was beat, r@ped, and inforced upon us. Please be more self aware of your words and actions and where they truly stem from 💫🤎
Nobody owes you anything. As the first response said, Gen-Xers raised their siblings. When my father left my mom with us I had to get a job to help my mother, go to school and come home and cook dinner for me and siblings and take care of them until my mother came home from her 2nd job. So no, not helping anybody raise their kids. You opened your legs and got a baby now you're not free to party anymore. Stay home with your child. Better yet, have kids with men who you can leave your kids with.
You have to pry my son outta my hands and he’s 16 😂. I do wish we had a village so he can have relationships with others, but oh well. It’s me and him. I pay and have paid everything.
Gen X, born in 1978, and I'm not your average auntie. First of all, on good days, I can pass for 35 or 36. I got great-nieces and great-nephews by now. I was 11 when I became an aunt to my millennial nieces, and I "auntied" them when they were young up through graduation. Coming to my house for summers and weekends. That was happening to me in the late 1990s and Early 2000s when I lived on my own as a young adult in my very early 20s.
Now they have their own children who are tweens to young adults, and no I'm not babysitting my great nephew for the summer. My niece asked me. Nope. He misbehaves BECAUSE during their formative years, my millennial niece kept them away from family and didn't take advice on how she was raising them. Now he's 11 yo and bucking up against and you want relief - when we told you when he was a toddler that you were raising him to give you trouble later. All the kids are giving trouble because you didn't listen .It's come to fruition and now you want to get rid of him/them at every opportunity . So no, I'm not keeping my bad a** little great-nephews. And Gen X is not 1968. It's 1965- 1980.
I'M A MILLENNIAL AND I AM SO THANKFUL FOR THE WAY MY PARENTS AND BOTH OF MY BROTHERS HELP ME WITH MY CHILD!!! EVERY CULTURE HAS A VILLAGE BUT AS BLACK PEOPLE WE NEEEED OUR VILLAGE!!!
I'm Gen X and Raised in a Millennial decade. I was raised by my grandma and Gen X and Millennials are selfish. Gen X know Damn well they were in the streets partying and leaving us behind. Millennials will just have to face the fact that Silent generation and Baby Boomers were better grand parents. Millennials don't like to help. They want to keep they money food and favors for themselves. Gen X ain't going for that non sharing Sh!t while they keep their grandkids. Especially when they gave up stuff to their parents. Millennials will pay other people but not their mama or kin folks who got bills too. So both are at fault cause both gens want their way.