After learning 7 years of Psychology in United States, I finally found your materials to be a down-to-Earth that is general enough to be worldwide and personal enough to apply to Vietnamese culture, at least for me. Thank you for being here, I hope to utilise your materials wisely and compassionately.
I've been to countless psychologists, therapists, psychiatrists but none of them ever helped as you did Teal. From the bottom of my heart, thank you Teal
@@j.b7695 uuh? Sorry dude but I'm pretty sure we haven't. My pfp is actually a picture of a painting I own... someone actually looks like this irl?? That's crazy!! I mean the coincidence, damn.
Thinking like this really frees us from having to go too far to the other end of the pendulum. I'm a firm believer that trauma either represses or exaggerates what's already there. That's why two different people go through the same trauma and react and adapt differently based on their innate dispositions. Which is why I'm focusing on rewriting the toxic narratives and coping mechanisms in my favor. I still get to deploy my heightened sensitivity for the right people in the right ways and put boundaries in place for leeches and energy vampires. I still get to leverage my magnetism and allure to call in the right people and opportunities into my life instead of shutting it away and hiding it behind self sacrifice and self neglect.
I've known for a long time that although the emotional neglect of my mother left me with a lot of social handicaps, it has also left me as an incredibly strong person with a massive amount of self belief and faith in what I can do.
I like this spin on trauma. I never saw my trauma as something that I could use to achieve my purpose. It definitely makes my flaws feel less sucky now.
This is a very balanced, compassionate and accurate account. Healing from trauma has many challenges, one of the major ones is that it becomes part of our subconscious programming and thereby becomes part of the lens we see the world through so most people are not conscious of the impact it has had on their lives through developing presence and applying it to self-observation we can begin to take the lens of childhood trauma off and gain a broader perspective on the events and the effects it has on how we respond emotionally to life which directly affects what we create in our lives. I had sexual abuse at age 5 and 6...I didn't even begin to have memories of this until I was in my 40s because it became a program..a lens from which I created my reality and it was not a happy one and I was ill most of my life physically as well. but I've healed it and healed a lot of anxiety as well, it was years of work and I studied, but mostly worked with Spirit and developed my own techniques I now call "Power Attunements. You can heal from yours as well but it starts by understanding that you may not see the effects it has...
I’m 67 years old and just now discovering that the emotional trauma that I experienced when I was younger has been I think mostly responsible for the physical ailments from which I have suffered all my life. I guess I’m a slow learner. Good for you! Sounds like there may be hope for me yet.
@@whitebirchtarot I got a master's degree in social psychology and counseling in my mid-twenties, thought seriously about my abuse, then had three years of serious psychiatry in my thirties, attended years of self-help group therapy in my forties, afterwards thought of myself as the most together person I knew, when on the eve of my sixtieth birthday, I saw a pattern of abuse more severe, continuous, long-lasting, dangerous and destructive than I had ever imagined. I was in very severe denial, and the years since seem like a different life, in terms of how aware I now am. Thank goodness we finally did see it. Love and blessings to you!
Your timing and subject matter is impeccable and relevant as always 💫 I just realized a few days ago that my drawing/writing "talent" was born from my isolation based trauma as a child, and yet even though It was a shock to realize that, I also realized I'll never be able to stop drawing or writing. They may have been coping tools as a kid, but they are still my strength and joy even today! And I cant see that going away anytime soon ^.^ Thank you for the confirmation and further insight Teal!! Happy Saturday ♡
The self awareness I’ve gotten from your videos made me realize how my traumatic responses get the best out of me. I grew up just like bret but it’s hard to gain control of that response. I’d like to be able to channel it in the right direction or better yet turn it on and off when I want to lol.
I'm listening to this while in a lot of physical pain. I'm realizing that I have been ashamed of my condition and as such have been avoiding facing it. This isn't giving me relief, but accepting it is bringing me peace.
You're not alone. I had to accept that my disability was just apart of my life weather I liked it or not. Accepting it and that I shouldn't be ashamed of what I cant control helped me feel more empowered somehow, if that makes sense. Like I shouldn't blame myself for something I can't control. Lots of love.
I was not raised like Jane but Teal perfectly described who I am when she describes who Jane is. And I was just thinking that nothing brings me more joy then helping another succeed and being a part of that. I don’t need recognition I just need to see and feel the person’s gratitude and I can move on. It a bit like the show quantum leap. I may have revealed a lot about myself. I am kind of trying the selfish thing and it is very uncomfortable for me and not an easy endeavor.
👋 i hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness prosperity love and peace ❤️🕊️ all over the world 🌎 🥰🥰😇 I'm originally from Canada currently living in Key West Florida and you where are you from if i may ask?
I grew up being tossed around several different complex and volatile social climates, as an only child. Some of the adults had the tendency to take one word from what I said out of context and make it out like I was saying something horribly disrespectful to them even though I wasn't. I was a five year old. I also learned how to anticipate their feelings by developing a really good read on body language. So over the years I learned how to observe someone as to anticipate the wording I need to use to get a point across without setting off their defenses. To the point that I can talk to almost anyone about almost anything. Even under intense circumstances. Now my life has been going in a specific and very unique direction (it's "political" smashed with phycological operations) in which these skills are turning out to be extremely useful and it feels totally different to use these skills in a new context. And when I was a small child I wanted to be a spy or a detective so it all just seems to perfectly tie in to my original desires in life as well. It is so, so, beautiful that the very thing that wounded me turned out to give me just the skills I needed to get where I want to be. This whole thing makes me think of Chiron ✨💓
Thank you for making this video. I thought for the longest time that trauma resulted in nothing but negativity for me, but your video made me realize the strengths I gained as a result of the traumas I experienced, and how trauma isn't something that needs to be gotten rid of, but can be seen as something to inform our life decisions
I tell people allllll the time my SMA type 1 made me a wayyy better person than I would have been without it. What doesn't kill you CAN make you stronger. Hell, you're the living embodiment of this.
Part of my trauma is being ridiculed by my family. Which brought me here. It has also helped me stand by my beliefs and stand by my knowing to it is 100% up to me what I put in my body-and anyone trying to force anything into my body is 100% in the wrong. Thank you for this take.
Interesting take on trauma. It’s so easy to get stuck in the negative side of it. Especially when I’ve spent years trying to heal it. I do believe we choose our families and have a blueprint plan for when we reincarnate here. You just reminded me that our traumas carry great gifts too. Thank you for that🙏❤️
I believe that, too - that we have a blueprint and choose what we are born into, but then when so much crap happened to me, I found it very difficult to accept. So I think I believed it in my head, but not in my heart and soul. I’m going to try to change that.
Thank you Teal. I really needed this. I have accepted my trauma but still feel a lot of resentment and powerlessness for the effect it’s had. This is a great mind switch of how to take your power back and having it work for you instead of against you. Looking at how it can help me succeed feels as if the negative aspects it’s had withers.
I feel exactly the same way too. Would love a more detailed video on how to do this process for those of us that find it difficult to identify the positives , we are not all as brilliant as Teal even if we’re smart enough to work on ourselves :)
I can relate so much! I still don't have a skill to tell these things to other people, who I see as stuck in their trauma, a bit ... Teal, you are GOLDEN!
I'm kind of blown away that you channeled me for your example. 😆 My middle name is Jane (also my mother's name, who was actually 16 not 15 when she got pregnant with me) Aside from my specific career choice in your story, you literally told me exact story. I am now a self empowered personal image consultant & soul support for many more than one individual (about 16000 so far). I work 1 on 1 with about 50 - 100 people at a time now... I am very aware of my trauma's role in assisting with my unique ability to support how people feel about how they are seen. Thank you for the acknowledgment. I am unbeatable because I have owned my truth. Side note, you visited me in a dream before your video about going out to energetically connect with some of your supporters/followers. I saw the video the day after the dream... another mind blown moment from you... 😆 you told me I had an extremely strong core & helped me clean up chemistry bottles & then we cuddled... lol... your fingernails were very long in the dream. I appreciate you Teal.
Thank you for explaining in detail the positive and not so positive aspects of what we can choose. Through my traumas I have learned so much and made changes for my soul. My life has not been boring and I am putting the puzzle 🧩 together through tears and joy.❤️❤️❤️
Dear Ms. Swan, very astute, which I say as a man somewhat older than you but with your same pattern of extreme physical, sexual and emotional abuse. The best time in my twenties was when I consciously focused on the abuse and its effects on me, and again, in my thirties, like your examples, I realized, with therapy in both cases, that I had been pre-molded into certain areas of expertise, like it or not. This is a lifelong venture, as I am still healing from the abuse decades later, and even having severe surgical procedures to correct the effects of the abuse. Aummmmmm! Namaste, Angel!
I love taking care of people. I love making my boyfriends life easier. I love doing domestic stuff. I love cooking and ironing and making sure my house looks neat and beautiful. If I were to say this infront of my friends I’d be shunned Immediately
Over the last few years I've been remembering my trauma, things from my childhood that I'd completely forgotten, I'm not entirely sure how I can use that trauma but I'll be dammed it I dont work to find out how it work with it. Thank you Teal, You've given me so many tools over the last couple of years and though not all are for me, you've given me more through your RUclips channel and through your books than any other source bar my wife. And to think I found you because I was trying to lose weight and you would help me with so many other things. You're a gift to us all Teal, keep being you.
teal, we literally can't heal trauma, while still in survival mode, working jobs we HATE, barely living paycheck to paycheck, stuck living with toxic family members who won't heal in this lifetime the imbalances in the money system needs to be rectified first, because it impacts survival level decisions. this world is geared to never let any of us heal
part of your trauma comes from everything you said. im saying this because i felt the same way until i burnt out and couldnt work any more. maybe healing your trauma comes from being able to depend on others so you feel what its like to not be in survival mode. its likely you've felt burdened by your family your entire life and it manifests as survival issues.
What if you thought about this and energetics and I only I’m gonna share from my perspective as this was my story certain subjects were brought to me at the time that I was to use them to assist what I needed to do and balance the word balance kept coming to me, and then realized that that was for me to balance my feminine energy and masculine energy, which I did not think was that imbalanced I had been living so heavily in masculine energy because I was living in survival mode and as I shifted and started balancing more into my feminine without consciously, even knowing that I was picking up, for example, shirts that had lighter colors just simplify it. I felt drawn to start painting. I’m just having the awareness of how I was living from survival mode and how that was me and my heavy masculine and using tools to balance that out was a step towards no longer living in survival mode that comes from within and not the external factors we live in survival mode due to our experiences in our traumas and needs to feel safe because we deep down. We feel very unsafe and then we overcompensate.
I’ve just arrived to more trust that my childhood was allowed to happen to bring some benefits. And this video is uploaded in sync, that feels so good. Thanks
На днях тоже об этом размышляла, и тут вышло видео от Тил. Все меняется, когда приходит понимание, что мы сами выбрали это воплощение и вместе с ним наши препятствия. Препятствия пробуждают сознательность.
This is exactly what's been going over and over in my head... like what if I heal my "trauma" (energetic imbalances) & lose my talents, gifts & unique purpose in this lifetime...
👍👍👍you are so right, we need to experience trauma to go our individual path and fullfill our purpose❤️❤️❤️and its obviously the choice and decision of the soul and not our personality or /ego😂my trauma and pain prepared me perfectly for my work with people in healing and counceling. every time it pops up i have to go deeper and deeper into my strengh and healing abilities thats real self empowering.
Brilliant, very empowering, watched it several times. I don't really know how exactly to heal my trauma, but watching this video is a guidance to the right direction.
@Teal Swan Brilliant wisdom. 🌟 Pity this isn't a required video teaching in schools and also to enlighten adults who have habitually locked in to their traumas, failed to really deep dive on themselves, and continue to blindly relate to life, .. like a military tank in a parking lot, plowing over others with nary a reflection at the wounds they inflict. It seems that half the population is still dealing with unhealed childhood wounds, and the other half are having to walk and tiptoe through others minefields. It comes out in so many ways, malignant narcissism, arrogance, authoritarianism, peacock syndrome, obsessive need for control over others. Without self reflection... many will go to their graves fully unaware of their impact on the world. And, here we are... 2022. Looks like self-awareness is low on the totem pole of addressing. Attention spans are reducing at rates that do not aid in healing. How many people will not go past the 10 minute mark of all the marvelous teachers like you Teal? Instead, they often hide behind religion, hiding behind the perfect clothes, the perfect image, the perfection syndrome being flamed and encouraged.. image verses content. Image wins out. Smugness is now fashionable. Arrogance is now endorsed. Ego has gone on full tilt mode. Their typical replies... I don't have time to look, to delve, to see. Machinations of the ego are the best at keeping people asleep. "Trauma? What trauma? I don't have trauma. Oh, I fixed that years ago! " hahaha. If only.
This is definitely something I've thought about before, but not in the context of thinking that someone should stop doing what their trauma may have led them to, but rather worrying that healing would make everyone the same boring kind of blank slate. This is not something I want to see happen. I also thoroughly envy the people who's trauma have led them to do extraordinary things in life, especially at an early age without prompting and without having to know about the concept of healing at all, whereas I myself feel like a failure due to the conditions of my childhood. I hate how unfair life is, how some people are led to their ruin by their dysfunction and they never even had a chance of things going better, whereas some people just seem lucky in that everything lined up perfectly for them, and even their traumas ended up benefiting them. I know that this doesn't really align with the message of the video, but I just gotta be honest that this is how I perceive things right now. I'm very stumped by where life has led me, and also very bitter and very sad and disappointed.
I truly feel your pain but I also want to tell you something: it's never too late to embark on your healing journey. Who cares if others managed to turn their trauma into a powerful force without even knowing it? What matters in this moment is you and only you and your unique path. I have felt like you multiple times but since I have started working with a counsellor, peeling the layers, and digging deeper and deeper every single session, I am starting to understand that simple truth. You have the power to change your life and most importantly your outlook on life. And you can start now. It does not matter if you're 20, 30, 40, 50, 60 or even older. It is never too late. And it will improve your life for the better. Set the intention to meet the right healer for you whether counsellor, therapist or other type and the Universe will bring the right person into your life. Good luck. You got this.
Silje, I believe what you have is a good thing. That aknowledgment of unfairness.The fact it doesn't sit right with you. A lot of spirituality like Teal's is about finding ways to get back into the good feeling states. People don't even comprehend the mteanl gymnastics they do, or the pitfalls of leveraging certain IDEAS versus other ideas, in order to arrive at that place of feeling good. Make no mistake. You can heal by "just getting over it". You can discipline yourself into better feeling states You can use all sorts of new beliefs to counter beliefs that bring you pain etc Is it the same as aknowledging the pain you feel? No. My point being......what you expressed comes from the subtle belief other people are doing it right......in that you MUST see the good in bad things, since the spiritual communitty does etc..or you SHOULD have evolved past that in order to be in happiness...........You DONT. Why don't you? Because your feelings are valid. Your experience IS valid! No one out there is getting it truly right........they are just winging it and formulating opinions about what is happening. The Buddha used to think it was about the middle way. Now we know alignment has nothing to do with that. In 50 years time spirituality will be different again. But none of that will erase what you went through and that unfairness you perceive. As someone who has explored the theme of fairness and unfairness his whole life.....and who has sacrificed A LOT in the name of this ideal, in the name of service to what I feel are the forgotten people in the world (victims of what isn't working on a grander scale)....trying to find a spirituality that is TRULY inclusive and kind and is based on the truth of human experience............I'm here to cheer you on, on accepting your prespective as the one you should keep. Be a pioneer. Everyone in the spiritual communitty is scared shitless of aknowleding many truths and "elephants in the room". For example, for me, specially in the last month it was understanding i think the incarnation process itself is fucked. The problem was never us humans, or the 'bad' in the world - the problem is how our lives are set up. I'm not trying to proseletize or convince.........and of course I'd be facing a lot of opposition.......but I know there's a kernel of important truth to what I'm saying.................and I had many opportunities to just "get over it" and be happy...or to adhere to other beliefs in the spiritual communitty that see everything as "being well" etc I can shift my experience really fast if I want. Let me tell you what I'm finding out.........and this doesn't come from someone who is not ambitious, I'm very ambitious on many levels, lots of things I wanted to do with my life I didn't, that sometimes terryfy me as I get older - I'm realizing in my hierarchy of personal values........this commitment to truth, this desire to help the ones NOT being helped by our current paradigms, this disatisfaction with how things are...people getting stuck in karma....for not good reason....al the pain etc.......I'm realizing these values are more important to me than the happiness I feel I'm missing when I'm "bitter" like you. Meaning........maybe, the reasons why you are in the situation you are in....is actually because you VALUE somethinng that other people out there don't. For me, who knows many spiritual people and many modalities n teachings etc...........it's realizing this "happines at all costs" isn't creating the world I'd like to see. I value serving the people being left behind MORE than I do joining the spiritual cool kids (which I feel very enpowered to be able to choose If I wanted). I have no job, no relationship, no friends, a terrible relationship with the family I really dislike and who traumatized me, but my TRUE core values are coming to the fore. Maybe it's NOT fitting in with the lifestyle of others I "envy" have......maybe the reason why I'm not experiencing that....is because I truly don't want to on some level. I'd love to. In a fair world. Maybe I value creating a fair world more than creating my high vibe communitty etc. See where I'm going? Maybe I value answering plights like yours..........or ageism...........or all manner of other imbalances I see in the world MORE than I do enjoying myself like those other people. So it's about, yes, there's a bunch fo things I wanted to do, I dont know if Ill be able to..........and while I still work on those (I do believe everything IS possible ALWAYS, but it does take some flexibility from our human selves sometimes) even if I feel my trauma has irrevocably impaired me from doing so and have no clue how..........................STILL, there's a hierarchy to all these things i value....and maybe while I do want to experience a relationship ............this idea of fairness is more core to me thatn I realized.............AND, my pain IS helping me align with it. The bitterness IS the truth...IS the pointer to what i REALLY value. And so, maybe I haven't lost anything I TRULY value....the things higher up on the hierarchy of values are the ones that are triggered that bitterness or sadness. Anyway, I don't know if I made my point clear. But understanding my and others journey in terms of VALUES.....and how "how is the world telling me I shouldn't value what I actually value right now???" and including the spiritual communitty too. Your experience is valid and the pain and sadness ARE the truth. Your truth. They tell you what is really going on. I invite you to explore more along these lines; this has been helping loads the last month.....and it cfame through saying "f u" to sooo many teachings, sooo many "nice" people like Teal, sooo many happy people, so many things the world is telling me about what I should and should not be upset about. Big hug and all the best :)
I’m going through a difficult time right now myself, so I know what you mean. I can envision a world though where people’s gifts could be brought out by being loved, rather than abused when they were children. I don’t think we would necessarily be boring. I think there are many ways to bring out the best in people, hopefully not all of them involve trauma!
Hey @Jean Lundi , just wanted to say I found your perspective interesting. Kudos on calling BS on the “positive vibes only” people - they make my skin crawl because all I can think of is how terrified they are of facing the stark truth that life in earth has been brutal to many for millennia. (One of the reasons I’ve loved following Teal is she is one of the few people to have called out the spiritual community on this). I also feel quite bitter and hateful sometimes and like you have long been convinced the entire process of incarnation and the way the Law of attraction works to worsen trauma is seriously messed up, and creates far more downward spirals than upward ones - would you expect a child that didn’t learn arithmetic to perform calculus, hitting him every time with a scale on his hand to make him get it right ? That’s what LoA feels like to me when it come to trauma - abusive rather than helpful. Anyways, well done on having the courage to reach your own conclusions. I’m doing the same in my life , however lonely it feels sometimes. Good luck from India! 🙂💜🌈
This video was exactly what I needed. Yesterday I recogniced my betrayal trauma. In one night, I went from feeling like Luke Skywalter to Darth Vader. Now I can appreciate the poise, elegance and power of my internal Vader. 😁
My understanding is we must embrace ourselves and our past, in awareness, seeking objectivity and acceptance to empower us to make our choices and move forward. Makes a lot of sense.
Either rid yourself of the coping mechanisms so you can do the opposite, or take the existing coping mechanisms and exalt them. Love it.... Adds a whole new dimension to the understanding of healing and its results.
Geometrically this topic brings to mind different forms of symmetry. Symmetry can exist on multiple different axes. Healing won't always simply flip you over the X-axis like what is often expected. It might flip you over a diagonal axis. It might rotate your energy rather than reversing it. etc.
Also Teal, thank you so very much for making these videos. For the last 7 years I go through a couple phases per year of watching them. They've been a great framework to help bring myself back together piece by piece. I recommend them to people all the time. You are truly excellent at breaking this stuff down and putting it into a palatable format. It is very much needed, as you know. If we can make our relationships great again, we can make the world great again.
This is a great thing to meditate on this weekend. I’ve found the gift in many of my bigger traumas in that they have positively impacted on life choice I’ve made, careers I’ve pursued etc. However this had mostly come to awareness after the fact, when doing a lot of shadow work over the last couple of years and I could see how I was positiviely influenced by them It would be interesting now to dig deep again and consciously choose which aspects I can draw upon for my next steps. And to really define some personal qualities that I have acquired from my traumas. There’s been a lot!
After learning 7 years of Psychology in United States, I finally found your materials to be a down-to-Earth that is general enough to be worldwide and personal enough to apply to Vietnamese culture, at least for me. Thank you for being here, I hope to utilise your materials wisely and compassionately.
I'm interested in Vietnam! (and perhaps Thailand even more so) I love bánh mì, haha! 😋
That's good to hear. Teal's word is divine and comes directly from God. She is the savior of humanity.
Mm I love this!🤞🏾💧💕💕💚😏 HAVE A GREAT TIME MY DARLING
me too !! so glad to see a Vietnamese here
Vietnamese too, i feel that
I've been to countless psychologists, therapists, psychiatrists but none of them ever helped as you did Teal.
From the bottom of my heart, thank you Teal
You look just like this girl named Michelle I’m sure that e we have met
99% sure you were no where near a psychiatrist or anything like this? Tripping but you do read well…that being said
@@j.b7695 uuh? Sorry dude but I'm pretty sure we haven't.
My pfp is actually a picture of a painting I own... someone actually looks like this irl?? That's crazy!!
I mean the coincidence, damn.
Teal Swan really is the savior of the planet.
Her teachings are the divine word of God.
I hope you are well on your journey to progression. I hope that one day you look back and marvel at your healing and growth. ❤
Thinking like this really frees us from having to go too far to the other end of the pendulum. I'm a firm believer that trauma either represses or exaggerates what's already there. That's why two different people go through the same trauma and react and adapt differently based on their innate dispositions. Which is why I'm focusing on rewriting the toxic narratives and coping mechanisms in my favor. I still get to deploy my heightened sensitivity for the right people in the right ways and put boundaries in place for leeches and energy vampires. I still get to leverage my magnetism and allure to call in the right people and opportunities into my life instead of shutting it away and hiding it behind self sacrifice and self neglect.
Good for you! I need to learn to do the same.
Yess👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 me too💞💞
I've known for a long time that although the emotional neglect of my mother left me with a lot of social handicaps, it has also left me as an incredibly strong person with a massive amount of self belief and faith in what I can do.
I like this spin on trauma. I never saw my trauma as something that I could use to achieve my purpose. It definitely makes my flaws feel less sucky now.
Me, too! Good luck. 💕
Kisses
They're not really flaws. They're protectors
The beauty of trauma is that it gives us the opportunity to evolve💫 thank you Teal🌈
I appreciate how gentle you are when you speak. It’s very calming when trying to understand complex and emotional layers of the human condition.
This is a very balanced, compassionate and accurate account. Healing from trauma has many challenges, one of the major ones is that it becomes part of our subconscious programming and thereby becomes part of the lens we see the world through so most people are not conscious of the impact it has had on their lives
through developing presence and applying it to self-observation we can begin to take the lens of childhood trauma off and gain a broader perspective on the events and the effects it has on how we respond emotionally to life which directly affects what we create in our lives. I had sexual abuse at age 5 and 6...I didn't even begin to have memories of this until I was in my 40s because it became a program..a lens from which I created my reality and it was not a happy one and I was ill most of my life physically as well. but I've healed it and healed a lot of anxiety as well, it was years of work and I studied, but mostly worked with Spirit and developed my own techniques I now call "Power Attunements. You can heal from yours as well but it starts by understanding that you may not see the effects it has...
I’m 67 years old and just now discovering that the emotional trauma that I experienced when I was younger has been I think mostly responsible for the physical ailments from which I have suffered all my life. I guess I’m a slow learner. Good for you! Sounds like there may be hope for me yet.
@@whitebirchtarot There is totally hope for you and it doesn’t end when this like is over, the learning and growth continues. I’m 63 BTW
@@whitebirchtarot I got a master's degree in social psychology and counseling in my mid-twenties, thought seriously about my abuse, then had three years of serious psychiatry in my thirties, attended years of self-help group therapy in my forties, afterwards thought of myself as the most together person I knew, when on the eve of my sixtieth birthday, I saw a pattern of abuse more severe, continuous, long-lasting, dangerous and destructive than I had ever imagined. I was in very severe denial, and the years since seem like a different life, in terms of how aware I now am. Thank goodness we finally did see it. Love and blessings to you!
The timing of this is insane, I literally asked my guides about my trauma hours ago lol
Damn this is exactly what I needed to hear in this moment!! Synchronicity once again!! Thank you Teal! Youre amazing!! 💛
Your timing and subject matter is impeccable and relevant as always 💫 I just realized a few days ago that my drawing/writing "talent" was born from my isolation based trauma as a child, and yet even though It was a shock to realize that, I also realized I'll never be able to stop drawing or writing. They may have been coping tools as a kid, but they are still my strength and joy even today! And I cant see that going away anytime soon ^.^ Thank you for the confirmation and further insight Teal!! Happy Saturday ♡
very refreshing. Such a difference, embracing consciously, instead of being a slave to it.
The self awareness I’ve gotten from your videos made me realize how my traumatic responses get the best out of me. I grew up just like bret but it’s hard to gain control of that response. I’d like to be able to channel it in the right direction or better yet turn it on and off when I want to lol.
Jane is so like me. In fact I have NEVER met anyone who can emotionally regulate and hold space for others quite like me..
I'm listening to this while in a lot of physical pain. I'm realizing that I have been ashamed of my condition and as such have been avoiding facing it. This isn't giving me relief, but accepting it is bringing me peace.
Me, too. Do you think that those comments that say telegram me are scams? I got one of those once. I don’t trust them.
@@whitebirchtarot definitely scams!
You're not alone. I had to accept that my disability was just apart of my life weather I liked it or not. Accepting it and that I shouldn't be ashamed of what I cant control helped me feel more empowered somehow, if that makes sense. Like I shouldn't blame myself for something I can't control. Lots of love.
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Best video I watched on internet in my entire life🙌
I agree! 100%
Oh Teal, please don't feel your time is waisted. You help some many. I say thank you sister.
This *completely* changed my life. Thank you so so much teal. No amount of therapy has helped me as much as this video has
I was Jane and you put it so beautifully of the trauma that I experienced thank you for all of your work
Incase You'd Rather Read About It Instead: tealswan.com/resources/articles/trauma-healing-paradox/
We're not worthy, we're not worthy, we're not worthy
I was not raised like Jane but Teal perfectly described who I am when she describes who Jane is. And I was just thinking that nothing brings me more joy then helping another succeed and being a part of that. I don’t need recognition I just need to see and feel the person’s gratitude and I can move on. It a bit like the show quantum leap. I may have revealed a lot about myself. I am kind of trying the selfish thing and it is very uncomfortable for me and not an easy endeavor.
Aye aye! I am with you.
you made me cry with this episode teal
I love love your videos, I wait every Saturday Morning to see the new one.
Teal you are a blessing in my life, thank you 🙏❤️
👋 i hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness prosperity love and peace ❤️🕊️ all over the world 🌎 🥰🥰😇
I'm originally from Canada currently living in Key West Florida and you where are you from if i may ask?
I grew up being tossed around several different complex and volatile social climates, as an only child. Some of the adults had the tendency to take one word from what I said out of context and make it out like I was saying something horribly disrespectful to them even though I wasn't. I was a five year old. I also learned how to anticipate their feelings by developing a really good read on body language. So over the years I learned how to observe someone as to anticipate the wording I need to use to get a point across without setting off their defenses. To the point that I can talk to almost anyone about almost anything. Even under intense circumstances. Now my life has been going in a specific and very unique direction (it's "political" smashed with phycological operations) in which these skills are turning out to be extremely useful and it feels totally different to use these skills in a new context. And when I was a small child I wanted to be a spy or a detective so it all just seems to perfectly tie in to my original desires in life as well. It is so, so, beautiful that the very thing that wounded me turned out to give me just the skills I needed to get where I want to be. This whole thing makes me think of Chiron ✨💓
Thank you Teal, you have so much understanding about the human species. Great video, u are a powerfull women.
Teal, you are a blessing. There is no doubt.
Thank you for making this video. I thought for the longest time that trauma resulted in nothing but negativity for me, but your video made me realize the strengths I gained as a result of the traumas I experienced, and how trauma isn't something that needs to be gotten rid of, but can be seen as something to inform our life decisions
I tell people allllll the time my SMA type 1 made me a wayyy better person than I would have been without it. What doesn't kill you CAN make you stronger. Hell, you're the living embodiment of this.
This is amazing Teal!! Thank you!
So mannnnny people really needed this video and I’m so happy
Thank you blessed holy Teal Swan, for sharing your sacred divine word with us.
You are the savior of the planet.
Part of my trauma is being ridiculed by my family. Which brought me here. It has also helped me stand by my beliefs and stand by my knowing to it is 100% up to me what I put in my body-and anyone trying to force anything into my body is 100% in the wrong. Thank you for this take.
Interesting take on trauma. It’s so easy to get stuck in the negative side of it. Especially when I’ve spent years trying to heal it. I do believe we choose our families and have a blueprint plan for when we reincarnate here. You just reminded me that our traumas carry great gifts too. Thank you for that🙏❤️
I believe that, too - that we have a blueprint and choose what we are born into, but then when so much crap happened to me, I found it very difficult to accept. So I think I believed it in my head, but not in my heart and soul. I’m going to try to change that.
I am learning so much from you, I am in tears of gratefulness. Thank you Teal, much love 💕💕
Im again and again fascinated how well a new video fits into my actual lifesituation! THX
Thank you for explaining such a tricky , complexed situation, making it so clear and easy to understand. Teal, you are the best ❤️🙏
Yu really inspire me, you life journey is unscripted. Your work is of pure heart and sincere and you truely are an incredible person!!!
Thank you Teal. I really needed this. I have accepted my trauma but still feel a lot of resentment and powerlessness for the effect it’s had. This is a great mind switch of how to take your power back and having it work for you instead of against you. Looking at how it can help me succeed feels as if the negative aspects it’s had withers.
That’s exactly how I feel! This video helped me so much. Good luck to you.
I feel exactly the same way too. Would love a more detailed video on how to do this process for those of us that find it difficult to identify the positives , we are not all as brilliant as Teal even if we’re smart enough to work on ourselves :)
Thank you for your videos, Teal! It feels good to be reminded that pain can be valuable
My Trauma is definitely related to my strength’s and ability. If I didn’t go through what I did, I couldn’t do what I’m doing so well.
Perfect timing! I've been thinking about trauma lately
I can relate so much!
I still don't have a skill to tell these things to other people, who I see as stuck in their trauma, a bit ...
Teal, you are GOLDEN!
Dearest Teal, you are a my enlightened genius!!!! Thank you forever from Santiago, Chile
Thank you for your help and support 😊❤️💗🙏✨
… it’s that free will part for me…thank you for exploring these concepts in ways others are afraid to do so and vocalize 🙏✌️💕✨
This video came to me at the perfect time. Teal, thank you for helping us.
so refreshing, it's all happening FOR US
I'm kind of blown away that you channeled me for your example. 😆 My middle name is Jane (also my mother's name, who was actually 16 not 15 when she got pregnant with me) Aside from my specific career choice in your story, you literally told me exact story. I am now a self empowered personal image consultant & soul support for many more than one individual (about 16000 so far). I work 1 on 1 with about 50 - 100 people at a time now... I am very aware of my trauma's role in assisting with my unique ability to support how people feel about how they are seen. Thank you for the acknowledgment. I am unbeatable because I have owned my truth.
Side note, you visited me in a dream before your video about going out to energetically connect with some of your supporters/followers. I saw the video the day after the dream... another mind blown moment from you... 😆 you told me I had an extremely strong core & helped me clean up chemistry bottles & then we cuddled... lol... your fingernails were very long in the dream. I appreciate you Teal.
This is one of my all time favorite Teal videos. 💛
One of the best videos I have seen on trauma. Thank you Teal.
Thank you for explaining in detail the positive and not so positive aspects of what we can choose. Through my traumas I have learned so much and made changes for my soul. My life has not been boring and I am putting the puzzle 🧩 together through tears and joy.❤️❤️❤️
Thanks to the story lines that you chose, this video itself, very healing. Thank you so very much.
I shall take the stones that were thrown at me and make them the jewels of my crown. Thank you for being a vessel for this wisdom.
Beautifully said.
Dear Ms. Swan, very astute, which I say as a man somewhat older than you but with your same pattern of extreme physical, sexual and emotional abuse. The best time in my twenties was when I consciously focused on the abuse and its effects on me, and again, in my thirties, like your examples, I realized, with therapy in both cases, that I had been pre-molded into certain areas of expertise, like it or not. This is a lifelong venture, as I am still healing from the abuse decades later, and even having severe surgical procedures to correct the effects of the abuse. Aummmmmm! Namaste, Angel!
You are so fricking awesome Teal. Thank you for everything you do. Loved this video
Omg you don’t know how bad I needed this
I love taking care of people. I love making my boyfriends life easier. I love doing domestic stuff. I love cooking and ironing and making sure my house looks neat and beautiful.
If I were to say this infront of my friends I’d be shunned Immediately
Thanks Teal, I wish one day to go to one of your lectures.
Over the last few years I've been remembering my trauma, things from my childhood that I'd completely forgotten, I'm not entirely sure how I can use that trauma but I'll be dammed it I dont work to find out how it work with it. Thank you Teal, You've given me so many tools over the last couple of years and though not all are for me, you've given me more through your RUclips channel and through your books than any other source bar my wife. And to think I found you because I was trying to lose weight and you would help me with so many other things. You're a gift to us all Teal, keep being you.
Mindblown AHA moment watching this. I was actually thinking about this exact concept yesterday. Divine timing. Thank you 🤍✨
This is similar to one of my realizations lately.. If everyone's completely healed and self-realized there would be no reason for art.
I, too, find art, especially music, extremely healing. And think about it; most of the truly brilliant artists were very tortured souls.
Life would be art
I love that you brought in the ABC’s of trauma sequences!!!! Understanding family systems is the best ❤️❤️❤️
teal, we literally can't heal trauma, while still in survival mode, working jobs we HATE, barely living paycheck to paycheck, stuck living with toxic family members who won't heal in this lifetime
the imbalances in the money system needs to be rectified first, because it impacts survival level decisions.
this world is geared to never let any of us heal
But it is possible
If you wait for the world to change, you will never heal.
You can only change yourself.
@@kaishabruyere7829at least you are willing to have that thought!
part of your trauma comes from everything you said. im saying this because i felt the same way until i burnt out and couldnt work any more. maybe healing your trauma comes from being able to depend on others so you feel what its like to not be in survival mode. its likely you've felt burdened by your family your entire life and it manifests as survival issues.
What if you thought about this and energetics and I only I’m gonna share from my perspective as this was my story certain subjects were brought to me at the time that I was to use them to assist what I needed to do and balance the word balance kept coming to me, and then realized that that was for me to balance my feminine energy and masculine energy, which I did not think was that imbalanced I had been living so heavily in masculine energy because I was living in survival mode and as I shifted and started balancing more into my feminine without consciously, even knowing that I was picking up, for example, shirts that had lighter colors just simplify it. I felt drawn to start painting. I’m just having the awareness of how I was living from survival mode and how that was me and my heavy masculine and using tools to balance that out was a step towards no longer living in survival mode that comes from within and not the external factors we live in survival mode due to our experiences in our traumas and needs to feel safe because we deep down. We feel very unsafe and then we overcompensate.
I’ve just arrived to more trust that my childhood was allowed to happen to bring some benefits.
And this video is uploaded in sync, that feels so good.
Thanks
На днях тоже об этом размышляла, и тут вышло видео от Тил. Все меняется, когда приходит понимание, что мы сами выбрали это воплощение и вместе с ним наши препятствия. Препятствия пробуждают сознательность.
Verno, Препятствия пробуждают сознательность.
This is exactly what's been going over and over in my head... like what if I heal my "trauma" (energetic imbalances) & lose my talents, gifts & unique purpose in this lifetime...
👍👍👍you are so right, we need to experience trauma to go our individual path and fullfill our purpose❤️❤️❤️and its obviously the choice and decision of the soul and not our personality or /ego😂my trauma and pain prepared me perfectly for my work with people in healing and counceling. every time it pops up i have to go deeper and deeper into my strengh and healing abilities thats real self empowering.
The impact you are making is so profound...I loved the softness you showed in this video.
Brilliant, very empowering, watched it several times. I don't really know how exactly to heal my trauma, but watching this video is a guidance to the right direction.
Thankyou I needed to hear this 🧡🧡🧡 to be more conscious of both the limitations and benefits trauma can provide
@Teal Swan Brilliant wisdom. 🌟 Pity this isn't a required video teaching in schools and also to enlighten adults who have habitually locked in to their traumas, failed to really deep dive on themselves, and continue to blindly relate to life, .. like a military tank in a parking lot, plowing over others with nary a reflection at the wounds they inflict. It seems that half the population is still dealing with unhealed childhood wounds, and the other half are having to walk and tiptoe through others minefields. It comes out in so many ways, malignant narcissism, arrogance, authoritarianism, peacock syndrome, obsessive need for control over others. Without self reflection... many will go to their graves fully unaware of their impact on the world. And, here we are... 2022. Looks like self-awareness is low on the totem pole of addressing. Attention spans are reducing at rates that do not aid in healing. How many people will not go past the 10 minute mark of all the marvelous teachers like you Teal? Instead, they often hide behind religion, hiding behind the perfect clothes, the perfect image, the perfection syndrome being flamed and encouraged.. image verses content. Image wins out. Smugness is now fashionable. Arrogance is now endorsed. Ego has gone on full tilt mode. Their typical replies... I don't have time to look, to delve, to see. Machinations of the ego are the best at keeping people asleep. "Trauma? What trauma? I don't have trauma. Oh, I fixed that years ago! " hahaha. If only.
Yes! I’m so impressed with the intelligence of the responses to this video. You are so right. And it’s so sad.
This is definitely something I've thought about before, but not in the context of thinking that someone should stop doing what their trauma may have led them to, but rather worrying that healing would make everyone the same boring kind of blank slate. This is not something I want to see happen. I also thoroughly envy the people who's trauma have led them to do extraordinary things in life, especially at an early age without prompting and without having to know about the concept of healing at all, whereas I myself feel like a failure due to the conditions of my childhood. I hate how unfair life is, how some people are led to their ruin by their dysfunction and they never even had a chance of things going better, whereas some people just seem lucky in that everything lined up perfectly for them, and even their traumas ended up benefiting them.
I know that this doesn't really align with the message of the video, but I just gotta be honest that this is how I perceive things right now. I'm very stumped by where life has led me, and also very bitter and very sad and disappointed.
I truly feel your pain but I also want to tell you something: it's never too late to embark on your healing journey. Who cares if others managed to turn their trauma into a powerful force without even knowing it? What matters in this moment is you and only you and your unique path. I have felt like you multiple times but since I have started working with a counsellor, peeling the layers, and digging deeper and deeper every single session, I am starting to understand that simple truth. You have the power to change your life and most importantly your outlook on life. And you can start now. It does not matter if you're 20, 30, 40, 50, 60 or even older. It is never too late. And it will improve your life for the better. Set the intention to meet the right healer for you whether counsellor, therapist or other type and the Universe will bring the right person into your life. Good luck. You got this.
Silje, I believe what you have is a good thing. That aknowledgment of unfairness.The fact it doesn't sit right with you. A lot of spirituality like Teal's is about finding ways to get back into the good feeling states. People don't even comprehend the mteanl gymnastics they do, or the pitfalls of leveraging certain IDEAS versus other ideas, in order to arrive at that place of feeling good.
Make no mistake. You can heal by "just getting over it". You can discipline yourself into better feeling states You can use all sorts of new beliefs to counter beliefs that bring you pain etc Is it the same as aknowledging the pain you feel? No. My point being......what you expressed comes from the subtle belief other people are doing it right......in that you MUST see the good in bad things, since the spiritual communitty does etc..or you SHOULD have evolved past that in order to be in happiness...........You DONT. Why don't you? Because your feelings are valid. Your experience IS valid! No one out there is getting it truly right........they are just winging it and formulating opinions about what is happening. The Buddha used to think it was about the middle way. Now we know alignment has nothing to do with that. In 50 years time spirituality will be different again.
But none of that will erase what you went through and that unfairness you perceive. As someone who has explored the theme of fairness and unfairness his whole life.....and who has sacrificed A LOT in the name of this ideal, in the name of service to what I feel are the forgotten people in the world (victims of what isn't working on a grander scale)....trying to find a spirituality that is TRULY inclusive and kind and is based on the truth of human experience............I'm here to cheer you on, on accepting your prespective as the one you should keep. Be a pioneer. Everyone in the spiritual communitty is scared shitless of aknowleding many truths and "elephants in the room". For example, for me, specially in the last month it was understanding i think the incarnation process itself is fucked. The problem was never us humans, or the 'bad' in the world - the problem is how our lives are set up. I'm not trying to proseletize or convince.........and of course I'd be facing a lot of opposition.......but I know there's a kernel of important truth to what I'm saying.................and I had many opportunities to just "get over it" and be happy...or to adhere to other beliefs in the spiritual communitty that see everything as "being well" etc I can shift my experience really fast if I want.
Let me tell you what I'm finding out.........and this doesn't come from someone who is not ambitious, I'm very ambitious on many levels, lots of things I wanted to do with my life I didn't, that sometimes terryfy me as I get older - I'm realizing in my hierarchy of personal values........this commitment to truth, this desire to help the ones NOT being helped by our current paradigms, this disatisfaction with how things are...people getting stuck in karma....for not good reason....al the pain etc.......I'm realizing these values are more important to me than the happiness I feel I'm missing when I'm "bitter" like you. Meaning........maybe, the reasons why you are in the situation you are in....is actually because you VALUE somethinng that other people out there don't. For me, who knows many spiritual people and many modalities n teachings etc...........it's realizing this "happines at all costs" isn't creating the world I'd like to see. I value serving the people being left behind MORE than I do joining the spiritual cool kids (which I feel very enpowered to be able to choose If I wanted).
I have no job, no relationship, no friends, a terrible relationship with the family I really dislike and who traumatized me, but my TRUE core values are coming to the fore. Maybe it's NOT fitting in with the lifestyle of others I "envy" have......maybe the reason why I'm not experiencing that....is because I truly don't want to on some level. I'd love to. In a fair world. Maybe I value creating a fair world more than creating my high vibe communitty etc. See where I'm going? Maybe I value answering plights like yours..........or ageism...........or all manner of other imbalances I see in the world MORE than I do enjoying myself like those other people.
So it's about, yes, there's a bunch fo things I wanted to do, I dont know if Ill be able to..........and while I still work on those (I do believe everything IS possible ALWAYS, but it does take some flexibility from our human selves sometimes) even if I feel my trauma has irrevocably impaired me from doing so and have no clue how..........................STILL, there's a hierarchy to all these things i value....and maybe while I do want to experience a relationship ............this idea of fairness is more core to me thatn I realized.............AND, my pain IS helping me align with it. The bitterness IS the truth...IS the pointer to what i REALLY value. And so, maybe I haven't lost anything I TRULY value....the things higher up on the hierarchy of values are the ones that are triggered that bitterness or sadness.
Anyway, I don't know if I made my point clear. But understanding my and others journey in terms of VALUES.....and how "how is the world telling me I shouldn't value what I actually value right now???" and including the spiritual communitty too. Your experience is valid and the pain and sadness ARE the truth. Your truth. They tell you what is really going on. I invite you to explore more along these lines; this has been helping loads the last month.....and it cfame through saying "f u" to sooo many teachings, sooo many "nice" people like Teal, sooo many happy people, so many things the world is telling me about what I should and should not be upset about.
Big hug and all the best :)
I’m going through a difficult time right now myself, so I know what you mean. I can envision a world though where people’s gifts could be brought out by being loved, rather than abused when they were children. I don’t think we would necessarily be boring. I think there are many ways to bring out the best in people, hopefully not all of them involve trauma!
Hey @Jean Lundi , just wanted to say I found your perspective interesting. Kudos on calling BS on the “positive vibes only” people - they make my skin crawl because all I can think of is how terrified they are of facing the stark truth that life in earth has been brutal to many for millennia. (One of the reasons I’ve loved following Teal is she is one of the few people to have called out the spiritual community on this).
I also feel quite bitter and hateful sometimes and like you have long been convinced the entire process of incarnation and the way the Law of attraction works to worsen trauma is seriously messed up, and creates far more downward spirals than upward ones - would you expect a child that didn’t learn arithmetic to perform calculus, hitting him every time with a scale on his hand to make him get it right ? That’s what LoA feels like to me when it come to trauma - abusive rather than helpful.
Anyways, well done on having the courage to reach your own conclusions. I’m doing the same in my life , however lonely it feels sometimes. Good luck from India! 🙂💜🌈
This video was exactly what I needed. Yesterday I recogniced my betrayal trauma. In one night, I went from feeling like Luke Skywalter to Darth Vader.
Now I can appreciate the poise, elegance and power of my internal Vader. 😁
You are really amazing Teal
Your teachings are on another level, there's nothing to say... Holy wow.
Teal Swan is an absolute Genius!!
Teal is correct as always. Thank you for all you do Teal!
I feel so connected with your last videos
Wow! This is wonderful! Thank you🦋🦋🦋
My understanding is we must embrace ourselves and our past, in awareness, seeking objectivity and acceptance to empower us to make our choices and move forward. Makes a lot of sense.
Thank you , my mind is officially blown .
thank you so much. for everything. thank you!!! you are a blessing!!!
Your videos hit home and get better every Saturday as I make better sense of them. XO :)
This broke me open. Thank you, Namaste🙏
Trauma does make us extraordinary, but we must actively accept or at least accept, appreciate and embrace to maximize the benefit for sure. Cheers.
Excellent video!! 🔥💯
Teal’s work is absolutely outstanding. She is so intelligent that is beyond this life. Thanks 🙏❤️
Either rid yourself of the coping mechanisms so you can do the opposite, or take the existing coping mechanisms and exalt them. Love it.... Adds a whole new dimension to the understanding of healing and its results.
Geometrically this topic brings to mind different forms of symmetry. Symmetry can exist on multiple different axes. Healing won't always simply flip you over the X-axis like what is often expected. It might flip you over a diagonal axis. It might rotate your energy rather than reversing it. etc.
Needed to hear this ❤️
Love you Teal… ♥️ Incredible as always
Oh wow! Excited to watch it !!! ❤️
YOU have a good week, Teal! Thank you so much for this. I love you💚
so powerful! thank you so much.
Thank you, Teal. I honestly have to look deeply at this before I can make a comment. But thank you for putting this out there.
this is such an amazing video..its crazy how right u are about this...thank u
Also Teal, thank you so very much for making these videos. For the last 7 years I go through a couple phases per year of watching them. They've been a great framework to help bring myself back together piece by piece. I recommend them to people all the time. You are truly excellent at breaking this stuff down and putting it into a palatable format. It is very much needed, as you know. If we can make our relationships great again, we can make the world great again.
I have always felt that the trauma I experienced was meant to bring purpose to my life and to help bring purpose to other's lives
Very interesting and valuable perspective, thank you!!
I loved this video so much and thank you for making our energy positive. All the love to you
This is a great thing to meditate on this weekend. I’ve found the gift in many of my bigger traumas in that they have positively impacted on life choice I’ve made, careers I’ve pursued etc. However this had mostly come to awareness after the fact, when doing a lot of shadow work over the last couple of years and I could see how I was positiviely influenced by them
It would be interesting now to dig deep again and consciously choose which aspects I can draw upon for my next steps. And to really define some personal qualities that I have acquired from my traumas. There’s been a lot!
Absolutely! I’m doing the exact same thing.
Wow... Thank you... So so much ❤💗🌿 Teal 🙏✨💗