Chapter 6 of - ME MY MINE - MARRIED TO A NARCISSIST by RC Blakes

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    Chapter 6 of - ME MY MINE - MARRIED TO A NARCISSIST by RC Blakes
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  • @KrystleLaughter
    @KrystleLaughter Год назад +232

    I dealt with this for 10 years. It was literally hell on earth. I divorced him and have spent the last 3 years healing my inner trauma and what attracted me to him in the first place. I wrote a book about my experience called Love Yourself First and now I help other women through my books and RUclips channel.

    • @womanoftruth
      @womanoftruth Год назад +10

      Glory to God! Let the Lord use you Sis!!❤

    • @carterthegamernoob6128
      @carterthegamernoob6128 Год назад +6

      Congratulations 🎉🎊 happy for you sister pray 🙏🏼 for my cousin Sister Hector who’s going through this right now it’s been 26 years she’s separated moved out his house and he’s still controlling her with their daughter

    • @taradrew2631
      @taradrew2631 Год назад +11

      Hell on earth is right! 6 years here and I want to write a book about Religious Control and the Narcissistic. Lord Jesus, thank you for delivering me!

    • @kturn65
      @kturn65 Год назад

      Going to buy it Sis do u have a direct link so u can take my Money???

    • @Francie315
      @Francie315 Год назад +1

      Thank goodness that you got out! I just got out of hell dealing with a narcissist family member -not a spouse! And it was nothing nice! Just as you said, ‘hell on earth!’

  • @tati0201
    @tati0201 Год назад +114

    I just left mines after 18 years. March 1st 2023 I got my life back thank you Jesus!

  • @ministerkimberly
    @ministerkimberly Год назад +81

    It is so sad that SO many of us have a connection to this story. I pray for healing in EVERY life that has been changed, and that God restores every heart, every mind, every body and every soul. 🙏🏽🙌🏽

  • @emefalove8462
    @emefalove8462 Год назад +79

    Thank you for this Pastor Blakes. I didn't want to leave my narcissistic husband but I got to a point of having panic attacks and losing my hair from the emotional abuse and neglect. I decided I wanted to live and not die for him. I moved out in Nov-2022! Through much prayer, spiritual guidance by my church home pastor, my therapist, and YOU RC Blakes, I am healing from my PTSD and pain. Jesus has broken the chains that had me bound! I feel alive again and getting stronger every day. Praise God! Keep letting the Lord use you. You are making a difference!

    • @genevaross9897
      @genevaross9897 Год назад +1

      Yes. Absolutely.
      I am so frightened. I b had great faith, strength, admire a ton, and continue to abuse 33 years(more than 30÷years serving and supporting) and building three churches).
      Just now recovering from a near-deatg experience, still it continues, and getting help to make necessary moves.

    • @narcdiscardadvocate
      @narcdiscardadvocate Год назад +1

      Salute to you.

  • @Shunae1111
    @Shunae1111 Год назад +46

    I was married to one for 4 1/2 years and it was a living nightmare. I prayed and begged God to save me. I’m divorced now for two years and I been through several different stages of grief and healing. But my faith in God is getting me through my victory.

  • @elderjonathanwhite6633
    @elderjonathanwhite6633 Год назад +86

    I am separated from mines and getting ready to divorce her. Narcissist are under the Jezebel spirit and the worst ones are the ones that think they are Christian

    • @misguidedpearls7456
      @misguidedpearls7456 Год назад +5

      Amen

    • @Nursegurl82
      @Nursegurl82 Год назад +11

      I agree. It’s obvious that they have no fear of God otherwise they wouldn’t even be able to do the things that they do.

    • @amywaite4083
      @amywaite4083 Год назад +7

      That's what mine is like. He has said that I'm the one who has no walk with the Lord and that God gave him the wrong wife to help him through life. Goes to church every week since I left with the kids to live with family friends 4 months ago. At church he plays the victim.

    • @elderjonathanwhite6633
      @elderjonathanwhite6633 Год назад +3

      They always play the victim

    • @glowe1729
      @glowe1729 Год назад +5

      Mines has the nerves to be a Minister and hides in the church and behind close doors he is a monster and have everyone fooled and will get mad at me for going to church and getting payer.

  • @raewithgrace
    @raewithgrace Год назад +44

    You are totally describing my ex-fiance. The most disheartening part is that no one believed what I was telling them I was experiencing. I developed severe anxiety in that relationship to the point where I would get hives all over my body from interacting with that man. Thank God for giving me the courage to leave. Wouldn't wish it on anyone.

  • @pholoso8884
    @pholoso8884 Год назад +59

    I used to skip the song in the beginning but I actually sing along to myself for myself now... the healing that Bishop's teachings has done for me cannot be quantified. Thank you dear Sir, you are a father to many. God bless you and Mama Lisa!

  • @pinnakal1
    @pinnakal1 Год назад +58

    My heart broke but my soul healed. I was always having physical ailments when I was with him. I didn’t know what was happening. I stayed in a stressful state. adrenal fatigue.

    • @MsKhamika
      @MsKhamika Год назад +3

      I'm sorry you had to go through that. But I believe that's what's going on with me I been married to my Narcissistic husband for 7.5 years together for 12 and I promise you I have had so much fatigue and illness from this man now that I know what I have been dealing with I don't like or love this man. He says to me he just want Peace I told him he would never ever have Peace even long after this toxic relationship is over. I sometimes beat myself up bc I stayed to long. But right now I am making myself an exit plan bc I have had enough of the devil 😈 his time is up and I am taking my power back.🙏🏾🙏🏾

    • @tmichele8922
      @tmichele8922 Год назад +2

      My physical problems turned into vitiligo

    • @privacy9175
      @privacy9175 Год назад +3

      We in the end take our power back. We've had a gut full of there Crap...Good luck too anyone taking my left over's. Srsrly. Good luck your going too need it...❤

    • @nikkyshamz2696
      @nikkyshamz2696 Год назад +3

      ​@@MsKhamika don't curse him. Let God deal with him

    • @pinnakal1
      @pinnakal1 Год назад +1

      @@tmichele8922 😢

  • @Nursegurl82
    @Nursegurl82 Год назад +44

    WAS married nearly 10 years to a narcissist. The hardest 10 years of my life. I can testify, everything Bishop Blakes is saying is 1000% accurate. I thank God for deliverance.

    • @myrnagordon3409
      @myrnagordon3409 Год назад +5

      Hey Tara, 10 years too! I left twice but came back. It’s the hardest thing I have ever done. It has taken all I have let in me to survive after filling for divorce. Glad you are free now ❤

    • @Nursegurl82
      @Nursegurl82 Год назад +4

      @@myrnagordon3409 hang in there & know you are doing the right thing. You can get through it ♥️

  • @cokolocs
    @cokolocs Год назад +29

    I went through this for over 20 years. Finally found the strength to walk away 3 years ago. I'm now trying to get through PTSD!

  • @misguidedpearls7456
    @misguidedpearls7456 Год назад +16

    I married one.
    I'm happily divorced now..
    You must never never never pick a spouse without God could cost your life or sanity...
    You will never ever forget it.
    You will grieve more than the love its so much deeper..
    Has derp long term psychological effects n most people u know will never understand..
    Lastly you will never ever go back to the old you
    And your entire view on life will change..
    Lastly the devil will use this against u
    Years even after you're free..
    Walking away doesn't end the impact..
    You must guard your life in picking a partner...
    This is a deep demonic thing
    Only God can save or heal you. It is a long process.
    You cannot come out the same..
    Be wise.

  • @terrywilson4017
    @terrywilson4017 Год назад +67

    I’ve been with mines for 25yrs and it’s about to come to an end🙌🏽🙌🏽

    • @bonitajolie9341
      @bonitajolie9341 Год назад +21

      Girl, get out and live your best life!!! I got out after 11 years, THANK G-D! Word of advice, try not to beat yourself up for staying as long as you did. The narcissist beat you up enough for two lifetimes already. ❤ Best wishes 🙏

    • @sarairochelle2740
      @sarairochelle2740 Год назад +8

      God bless u Sis in your new journey ❤️

    • @kellypolfleit3942
      @kellypolfleit3942 Год назад +8

      Me too 25 years with a covert narcissist. They had parental alienation on top of all the abuse, including emotional and mental

    • @MilaE
      @MilaE Год назад +11

      10 years of marriage and known for 12 . The lord said “Go” ✌🏽

    • @lisabowman877
      @lisabowman877 Год назад +9

      It took me 26.5, but I was out in my mind at least two years prior. God bless you. Stay safe as you prepare your exit strategy. 🙏🏽❤️🙏🏽

  • @Just.Chels333
    @Just.Chels333 Год назад +43

    I owe God my life ❤ 🙏🏾 He’s healing me from Narcissistic Abuse. I’m finally feeling like myself again. I have 3 boys by him. 😢

    • @carterthegamernoob6128
      @carterthegamernoob6128 Год назад +7

      Prayers for your sons and you added strength. Prayers that generations cruses will not be your son’s portion in Jesus Christ Name Amen 🙏🏼

    • @ericsennachie
      @ericsennachie Год назад

      Do your sons know or believe their father is a narcissist?

    • @Just.Chels333
      @Just.Chels333 Год назад

      @@ericsennachie my sons are 9, 6 & 4

    • @kw3036
      @kw3036 Год назад +1

      Having kids with the is the worse, I have 5 girls with mine smh! A nightmare that NEVER ends!

    • @KingdomWoman333
      @KingdomWoman333 Год назад +1

      I have two by two different narcs! I Thank God for deliverance every day!! I couldn’t believe I had a purpose after the last one but God! We can make it through anything ladies and gentlemen with Christ who strengthens us!!

  • @MTortillaKitt
    @MTortillaKitt Год назад +20

    The father of lies and confusion yes. 💯
    I’ve seen a narcissist unable to sleep due to a soul in torment. I’ve seen the eyes and face change the moment the spirit takes the wheel. It’s frightening. Thank you for this perspective Mr. Blakes. A valuable book you’ve written. ❤

    • @msmitchell2u
      @msmitchell2u Год назад +5

      Omg yes!! I thought I was going crazy when I saw his eyes and face change. Thank YOU for this

    • @MTortillaKitt
      @MTortillaKitt Год назад +2

      @@msmitchell2u my pleasure to share my experience and I’m glad it helped you. It’s a scary experiment. May god continue to bless and keep you.

    • @shirlspark_stardust
      @shirlspark_stardust Год назад +4

      That was my husband never sleeps tormented by demons I left him for good

    • @MTortillaKitt
      @MTortillaKitt Год назад +1

      @@shirlspark_stardust God bless. You are safe now and working on loving yourself because God ordained it. Stay strong. ♥️

  • @phyllisgarnett9763
    @phyllisgarnett9763 Год назад +37

    Thank you for this information. I have been married to a narcissistic man for 35 years. The monster appeared when he lost his job. He play mind games. I open the blind he close it. I close the door he open it. I filed for a divorce last week. Afraid what he might do when he's served. Please pray for me and my family

    • @lovely6486
      @lovely6486 Год назад +9

      May our Great Protector protect you in every way🙏🏾Amen🙏🏾

    • @leeleejm2749
      @leeleejm2749 Год назад +3

      No weapon fashioned against you shall prosper 🙏

    • @1975Godmade
      @1975Godmade Год назад

      Get a therapist! And open up to anyone who is aware of Narcissist and do not with people who are not aware - at least not until the divorce is final. And be prepare for him to get ugly and your trauma bond to make you crave what you shouldn’t. Armor up bec this will be a newfound war. I married and divorce with no kids and only asked for my name change and it was WAR

    • @sagevoid
      @sagevoid Год назад +2

      If your instincts are telling you that you may be in danger for serving him with a divorce, then please see if you can find a program to help you get away safely. I understand your fear. Wishing you the beat!

    • @PyrPupMom
      @PyrPupMom Год назад +1

      Please be careful! Never be alone with him! Hide yourself and be safe!!!

  • @trumpeterswan4177
    @trumpeterswan4177 Год назад +29

    Mine would not leave though I asked him to move out, so I had to leave, best decision I ever made, God confirmed it over and over and took care of me faithfully.

    • @nmc1859
      @nmc1859 Год назад +2

      Same. Mine won't leave.

    • @trumpeterswan4177
      @trumpeterswan4177 Год назад +1

      @NM C happiness begins when you get away from them, try it for an overnight and see if you can tell. I did and I stayed away and he never followed me to get me to come back, confirmation that he didn't really want me there anyway.

    • @kw3036
      @kw3036 Год назад +3

      SAME, he would NOT leave! I had to leave and start from the bottom sleeping on my moms floor with my kids for a year but I did not care, I was determined! God blessed us with a apartment and after 2 years of living there, he blessed me with a house ❤

    • @amywaite4083
      @amywaite4083 Год назад +2

      That's what I had to do too
      I left with my 3 kids. God has been helping me every step of the way even though it's terribly traumatic

  • @cassondrad2280
    @cassondrad2280 Год назад +15

    Absolutely been there. My ex would "appear" to be calm and have it all together and I was the one who appeared to be unstable. It was a facade. I remember the day I left him because of all his lies, he made me think I was crazy, he was big time cheating on me and I had the evidence.
    But the day I packed my things and walked out, he said I couldn't survive without him because I needed him to be my communicator. I looked at him and Said, The Lord will provide. He was cussing me out calling me all kinds of names, his voice sounded like the devil. I knew me leaving was the best thing I ever did for myself. Soul ties was keeping me there. I had an awakening inside me and I knew everything was going to be just fine....Never looked back.

  • @demigaines5644
    @demigaines5644 Год назад +40

    I’m Looking Forward To This
    I Was In A Relationship With A Malignant Narcissist
    The Abuse Wears You Down Being Trapped In A Toxic Relationship.
    Being Married Is Even Worse.The Verbal Emotional And Psychological Abuse
    A Person Endures Daily.Narcissistic Abuse Is The Absolute Cruelest Abuse To
    Ever Endure.

    • @MYLIFENOW9706
      @MYLIFENOW9706 Год назад +7

      I agree, it hurts so bad and going no contact is giving me a chance to not only get my energy back but love me again … I had a heart attack and I think about it everyday the amount of evil I went through… the hard part is keeping all this stuff with him out of my head ,,, 🙏🏾 But GOD

    • @MYLIFENOW9706
      @MYLIFENOW9706 Год назад +4

      It was 5 years for me WHEW

    • @demigaines5644
      @demigaines5644 Год назад +4

      @@MYLIFENOW9706 🙏

    • @cristylovejones9437
      @cristylovejones9437 Год назад +5

      3 for me just left last week

    • @kellypolfleit3942
      @kellypolfleit3942 Год назад +5

      Good luck. We’re all going through this it’s soo hard ❤️

  • @QueenBee-fg1iz
    @QueenBee-fg1iz Год назад +38

    I was with my ex 17 years. We were engaged for years because something told me to wait. Found him texting and talking to another woman so I left. Found out recently he’s cheating on her now and she’s going through heartbreak. I pray for her and her kids everyday as I know exactly what she’s going through. 🙏

    • @carterthegamernoob6128
      @carterthegamernoob6128 Год назад +6

      😮 you’re a saint for praying 🙏🏼 for her and her children. God bless you all

    • @penelope9455
      @penelope9455 Год назад +1

      You are kind. I pray the woman he's now cheating on me with enjoys exactly what I suffered.

    • @QueenBee-fg1iz
      @QueenBee-fg1iz Год назад +1

      @@penelope9455 😂 I honestly did feel that way for awhile; however, I think,of her 6 year old daughter whose real father died and looks to him as a dad. He’s going to break her heart again. So sad. He’s already broken his two adult children’s hearts by giving her more attention and time than them. They are close to me and came to me broken hearted.

    • @penelope9455
      @penelope9455 Год назад +1

      @Queen Bee we have a little boy who is attached to the man and misses him dearly, while he pursues " other" interests, apart from phone calls & visits here and there. So, if a kid doesn't move either one of them, then something bigger and painful should. Mind you, we're still married, but he lives with her and wants me to join!! Narcissists are definitely the spawn of the Devil .

    • @QueenBee-fg1iz
      @QueenBee-fg1iz Год назад +1

      @@penelope9455 My ex spread lies about me to his friends so he could play the victim and said I walked out on him. He tried to tell that to his son’s mom, but she knows the kind of person I am and didn’t buy it. I get along with both his kids’ moms and they told me he’s trying to sleep with them too. He spends time with them when he comes to town to see his parents but all behind her back. He actually hid the new woman from his family for a year. He disgusts me now that he’s shown me who he is.

  • @marvahammonds6850
    @marvahammonds6850 Год назад +10

    They will also want you to admit to something you haven’t done that they accuse you of doing for example constantly saying you’re cheating on them when you’re not. They don’t let rest always trying to stress you out over nonsense. I told this person I will never admit something I didn’t do to appease him! Also they can’t handle being told NO!

  • @maromarkou
    @maromarkou Год назад +13

    I was married to one for 40 years.
    But God brought me out of the wilderness amen 🙏

  • @MsKhamika
    @MsKhamika Год назад +18

    I am in this mess with my narcissistic husband of 11 years married 7.5 years i really need prayers to get out of this and b4 i snap i have to get myself out soon real soon. I'm thinking of a plan. B4 the pandemic I really didn't know what a narcissist was I just thought that this man was different and mean 😢😢 it wasn't even like the first year we met it became later down the line 😭 I said lord what have I gotten myself into please help me out

    • @womanoftruth
      @womanoftruth Год назад +1

      What are you going to do? Where does it stand now? My heart breaks for you? Is it just you or do you have kids in the house too?

    • @QueenBee-fg1iz
      @QueenBee-fg1iz Год назад +1

      🙏 for you.

    • @nmc1859
      @nmc1859 Год назад +1

      Keep informing yourself, grey rock,and pray

    • @tmichele8922
      @tmichele8922 Год назад

      Prayers

  • @sarahpeyton3824
    @sarahpeyton3824 Год назад +9

    Living between calm & storm……OMG. Yes Sir

  • @ameliastewart8484
    @ameliastewart8484 Год назад +12

    Finalizing my Divorce after 16 years of marriage to a Narcissist

  • @patriciamitchell1924
    @patriciamitchell1924 Год назад +14

    I had dated one for 8 years and it was hard to get away from him but I did...Very controlling and unreasonable..I thank the Lord for removing me out of the situation..

  • @sanetbeyleveldt9233
    @sanetbeyleveldt9233 Год назад +8

    This was my life, 37 years of it! Seperated for 18 months and he still continues through settlement agreement. Some days are just too much. I am not going to give in to his unfair demands. there's reason why i am on my knees, TO PRAY AND ASKED THE LORD TO TAKE THIS BATTLE OF MY SHOULDERS AND FIGHT FOR ME🙏🙏

  • @peacefulself7848
    @peacefulself7848 Год назад +15

    I chose self love, my peace and truth.... than his habitual lies, betrayal, chronic cheating, demonic and dark energy, mental abuse & delusions, always daydreaming, never can get clarity or a straight answer! 🙄
    But, I'm praising GOD for New Beginnings as of April 17th! Truly GOD has protected me from this evil human.
    Hallelujah 🙌. Thank you JESUS 🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌

    • @youaremyreward8138
      @youaremyreward8138 Год назад +3

      OHHHHHH MY u hit it on the NAIL """ than his habitual lies, betrayal, chronic cheating, demonic and dark energy, mental abuse & delusions, always daydreaming, never can get clarity or a straight answer! """""

    • @peacefulself7848
      @peacefulself7848 Год назад +2

      What I always will remember after this traumatic experience is that the devil does not come as a monster.... he (the devil comes to steal, kill & destroy) he comes as a charismatic, nice-looking, smell good, good job, and his own house, but behind closed doors he is the most demonic monster ever imaginable! He will habitually lie and cheat, as well as betray you beyond your imagination!

  • @Peacealways247
    @Peacealways247 Год назад +5

    While with the narc, I got a job promotion he only said congratulations but not really sounding excited for me. My birthday came and my mom reached out to him to help bring my friends together he didn't. He mentioned this to me that he didn't know how to🤔. I recognize now, him watching me prior to the chase, because they do study their victims prior to, he thought I was by myself because he never saw me with anyone only to find out I had a WHOLE family at the same church. He then told others he was glad to now be with a good family...rriigghhtt, my parents told him up front what was expected. Bishop Blakes is so right about this behavior being demonic, it really is. They are sent to ruin/destroy. The behavior can be overbearing and you lose a lot of energy. When they want to go, it's hard to understand but its best that you let them go for YOU! Them leaving is the best gift for YOU!

  • @embermiller4356
    @embermiller4356 Год назад +21

    I married bad. With him almost 11 years. When he left, it felt like the house had been exorcised

    • @nmc1859
      @nmc1859 Год назад +5

      Ohhh I'd like it if he'd go ahead and leave

  • @carterthegamernoob6128
    @carterthegamernoob6128 Год назад +12

    Pray for my cousin Sister Trina Hector who’s married over 26 years. Her husband has been verbal and emotional and physically abused by him. In 2020 he put her and their daughter out the house made them move during covid19. They’re still married but they’re separated smh 🤦🏽‍♀️ my cousin needs deliverance from this evil man it’s ridiculous at this point 💯. We stop engaging with her about the situation because it’s draining and frustrating. These type of men know what type of woman they can mistreat and use.

  • @preciousjesus65
    @preciousjesus65 Год назад +15

    Thanks for the videos…im 20 years in and waiting for an apartment to become available so I can leave. Please keep me in prayer. God bless you and your family 🙏

    • @womanoftruth
      @womanoftruth Год назад +5

      If you want to leave just DO IT! I went homeless to leave mine. Be strong, courageous and trust the Lord!

    • @nmc1859
      @nmc1859 Год назад +2

      I want to leave too and am grey rocking till i get things in order. Dont wanna jump out of the frying pan and into the fryer

    • @womanoftruth
      @womanoftruth Год назад +1

      @@nmc1859 Pray for a strategy and follow it. Jesus will help you! Be fearless and ready to struggle as you recover but you’ll have Jesus, he’s all you need! I hope you have accepted Jesus as your lord and Savior, if not, I encourage you too, he loves you so much!

    • @daniellenicole9955
      @daniellenicole9955 Год назад +1

      Praying for you. Stay strong sis

    • @preciousjesus65
      @preciousjesus65 7 месяцев назад

      Thank you all for your prayers and such. I am just seeing them 9months later. I dont usually use my gmail acct. so I have to tell you all that my apt came available in Dec 2023. Praise Jesus! Much longer than they had said it would be, but God had it all worked out. I stepped out in faith and got involved in the church, serving and bible studies and he brought people around me to help me move. I never would have been able to do it alone! He knew that and He knew the right timing. He is so Faithful! While its not easy, I am out of my toxic marriage and free. Now I have to get thru the divorce…. God bless each of you. 🤗

  • @sarahpeyton3824
    @sarahpeyton3824 Год назад +9

    Teach Bishop! They will TRY everyday, every minute of the day to wear you down, even to the point of questioning yourself!

  • @corradotara1
    @corradotara1 Год назад +19

    RC Blake’s your channeling , witnessing , and discussing this kind of content within the context of spirituality is very pioneering and courageous. I applaud you for constantly displaying this kind of devotion to both god, people, and women in particular. Thank you god being a true wise man

  • @privacy9175
    @privacy9175 Год назад +4

    They hide behind God as far as l'm concerned.
    Satan is a liar and so is the Narcissist. Point Blank. I forgive but l don't Forget.
    Revenge Is All Mine.....God ✝️

  • @ohmilah6723
    @ohmilah6723 9 месяцев назад +2

    The way I screamed watching this video is crazy. I have been telling others but they can’t believe me because I come off as emotionally unstable therefore I’m the one with issues. This was so well put together

  • @operator026
    @operator026 Год назад +15

    I'm married to one I suspect. That is why I'm buying the book and will be attending tonight virtually.....If it's available. The event that is. Thanks RC Blakes!!

    • @nmc1859
      @nmc1859 Год назад

      I add dr ramani and dr les Carter to help explain what the disorder contains and how it shows up. Most times it 1000% describes how my husband acts. And it's good to understand why imo

  • @TamaraSimpson-xm9sj
    @TamaraSimpson-xm9sj Год назад +9

    Going through a divorce with one now and it's been a nightmare!

  • @melodythompson7755
    @melodythompson7755 Год назад +10

    They want others to view you differently . . Misrepresenting who you are.. . . . To your family and friends. . . Your on target bishop.

  • @theartistdyc
    @theartistdyc Год назад +6

    Thank you SO much Pastor Blakes for doing this video. I was married to a narcissist for 20.5 years. And was with him for 27.5 years. And everything you spoke on is ACCURATE! Every single word of it. I finally separated from my ex in 2018 and divorced him in 2021. I have since been in therapy and I am a LOT better and am continuing to heal daily. For many years, I didn't know what I was dealing with, the amount of constant chaos was unbearable. I didn't even know how to express what I was going thru with anyone because I felt like no one would believe me. It often times sounded crazy to me just to say certain things that I was living thru. Now I know what it was/is. But I praise God daily for bringing me out of that dark, toxic relationship/marriage. Thank you Pastor Blakes. May God continue to bless you and your wife's ministry. 🙏

  • @asuraybullock3093
    @asuraybullock3093 Год назад +13

    I've been knowing mine since 2001. I was 15. He's 4 years older than me. Dealt with each other for 5 years, then went our own way. Officially got together in 2013, married in 2016. This month, the 19 will be 2 months I left him. Glory be to GOD. If you know, then you know. Heart ache, the enemy in him tried to take me out.
    To get to my kids. BUT GOD🙏🏼
    Let's continue to give it to GOD and remember we are HIS daughters, and HE loves us dearly. Saty strong sisters. Pastor RC, you have gotten me through some rough times over the past year or so. May our FATHER continue to keep you, use you, and bless you. You are helping to guide and heal the hearts, minds, and souls of his daughters ❤

  • @sarahpeyton3824
    @sarahpeyton3824 Год назад +5

    The withholding of celebration is Intentional, deliberate….they just want to be celebrated!

    • @youaremyreward8138
      @youaremyreward8138 Год назад

      They intentionally sabotage your goals , you can't tell them your plans

  • @lifeyunique
    @lifeyunique Год назад +4

    You have to be comfortable with never trusting a narcissist. You must feel as though this person has dysfunction( evil). They want your trust that is their biggest goal, don't give it to them. Manage the situation don't let it manage you

  • @rhondathompson6592
    @rhondathompson6592 Год назад +10

    By God's grace, I'm still here! 🙏🙏🙏

  • @reckelgullett2651
    @reckelgullett2651 Год назад +8

    I would lock myself in the bathroom because I didn’t know who was coming home😢

    • @privacy9175
      @privacy9175 Год назад

      Don't ever lock yourself in a bathroom. Because if they get violent in there they can do damage too you like.. Draining you. Where's there is water that is enough too pull you down and you may never come back up..
      Remember ppl. Never lock yourself in a bathroom or Go in there too get away ❤❤

  • @tyishagibbons921
    @tyishagibbons921 Год назад +4

    Lord help me, pls get le to safety me n my children 💜🙏🏿💜🙏🏿 I trust you God

    • @marydaniels8991
      @marydaniels8991 Год назад +1

      I'm praying for you and your children for God to give you a way out and a peaceful life on your journey. PRAYING IN THE NAME OF JESUS!! AMEN!!

  • @pinnakal1
    @pinnakal1 Год назад +7

    It’s like you sat down with me and I told you my story!! 😢

  • @aquariusdesigns1113
    @aquariusdesigns1113 Год назад +4

    I have been in mine for 7 years married 6 I was deceived from the beginning, he knew he was sick and I didn't find out until about 2 yrs later he had to go on dialysis but at the time I didn't recognize it. I am doing just that isolating my mind and dealing with the calm through the storm, I am putting together an exit plan when our lease is up in 5 months, he is on home dialysis and always threatening to go back to his kid up north, I told him i can't wait. Now he is starting to gaslight saying he was kidding but he have said this more than once this time its serious for me. I need time to heal my soul and mind. My children hate that Im going through this. 😢I waited until 60 to marry and it's nothing idea about its really never been a marriage. 🙏🙏🙏

  • @carterthegamernoob6128
    @carterthegamernoob6128 Год назад +9

    Bishop Blake your message are so important and you are helping woman all over the world. Thank you 🙏🏼 because so many leaders are refusing to help women or men in the body of Christ Amen 🙏🏼

  • @julianixon953
    @julianixon953 Год назад +10

    Thank you so much, R C Blakes. What I could not explain is that you have given me the language for. May God continue to reign down his Holy Spirit on you in all your endeavours.

  • @sheberry8597
    @sheberry8597 Год назад +3

    This is so true. I had to learn the hard way to be unpredictable and never trust nothing about them. Let that chick think she won somebody special and thankful she took my ex in and off my hands. Big thanks to God and discernment and my obedience paid off❤

  • @October3074
    @October3074 Год назад +3

    Both of my parents were narcissistic. I cut them off; mother 23 years, father 11 years. Of course I'm the disrespectful one. Good riddance.

  • @melodyanderson7441
    @melodyanderson7441 Год назад +4

    Love your intro BISHOP..is that Dave Hollister? Amen 🙏 sounds Heavenly!

  • @magdamachado9467
    @magdamachado9467 Год назад +3

    Sadly, you just described my marriage. I was constantly walking on eggshells. I couldn’t do anything right. It put a tole on my self steam.

  • @natalieMd462
    @natalieMd462 Год назад +5

    After 7 years of dating and just one year of marriage, I left him while he was on a business trip. It was the only safe way to leave. My life and the abuse was something of a movie. I didn’t recognize myself any longer. God’s strength set me free.

  • @h.h.3556
    @h.h.3556 Год назад +3

    I have been in a relationship for 20 years, with a narc and we also have a child. I'am thankfull God breaked my hart to heal my soul. I knew somthing wasn't right but I couldend put my hands on it. Afther the divorce i have been healing and prepaire myself to give and reseve healty love again. Whaiting on God's timing and asking Him for strenght and knowleage. Amen!

  • @JudyF261
    @JudyF261 Год назад +5

    I pray that God will deliver my love ones who are in such a marriage.
    ,

  • @SunShine-qq2jw
    @SunShine-qq2jw Год назад +4

    I was
    married to one, but I put him out on the street. I didn’t know he was a narcissus. But because I was a praying woman, I listen to the holy spirit, and he told me to take the toot that was so for his head and put him out. We lived a separated life until the Lord took him. I was faithful until death to the marriage. But we did not live together. Amen 🙏

  • @sheilahjohnnie4559
    @sheilahjohnnie4559 Год назад +5

    Blessings evening everyone else has a great night

  • @floridasunshine792
    @floridasunshine792 Год назад +9

    I'm not married to one, but I dated one for 7 years and we share a daughter together so I am interested in this one

  • @tiffaniegrier4628
    @tiffaniegrier4628 Год назад +4

    I went through this for years and was delivered November 2021🙌 GLORAY!!! I still have some anxiety and am learning how to regulate my nervous system normally now. I met the love of my life last year and am so grateful I had the courage to get away from narcissistic abuse to allow divine love in. ❤

  • @aliciasnow7866
    @aliciasnow7866 Год назад +4

    Good evening everyone from Alabama❤❤❤❤❤

  • @sarahpeyton3824
    @sarahpeyton3824 Год назад +3

    In the ROOM WITH THE RIGHT ONE! Absolutely!👍

  • @sarahpeyton3824
    @sarahpeyton3824 Год назад +5

    Post Traumatic Stress Disorder! My God…….

  • @mscandace4970
    @mscandace4970 Год назад +7

    I’m so scared with the greatest fear of GOD, that if I break covenant, that I’ll have to answer to my Father for not being strong and trusting Holy Spirit to work it out how GOD wants to work it out. Being married is tricky

    • @90charim
      @90charim Год назад +7

      God do not want you to be abused. God is love. Be scared of denying yourself and making someone before the almighty. He is the only king the only savior! May you find strength

    • @leeleejm2749
      @leeleejm2749 Год назад +1

      I understand where you coming from. I was like that when I was debating divorce mines. You have to pray and ask God what he think is best for you. I can say since my divorce, I've had peace.

  • @sarahpeyton3824
    @sarahpeyton3824 Год назад +3

    Let them GO!!!😂😅😊. Thank U, Thank U Bishop RC and Lady Blakes….❤️🏆💥🙏🏽. Luv u guys

  • @sarahpeyton3824
    @sarahpeyton3824 Год назад +4

    Hands down, Demonic

  • @aprilbmr
    @aprilbmr Год назад +3

    Thanks Bishop Blakes for this information.🙏🏾❤️ God bless you!

  • @naturalgirldiy
    @naturalgirldiy Год назад +3

    Thank You so much. God bless you. Emotional Vampire is definitely an accurate description. I used to use the term a lot before I discovered the true meaning of narcissism. It definitely feels like someone draining the life out of you.

  • @fallonbernard4499
    @fallonbernard4499 Год назад +2

    Never had bags under my eyes until I got into this. My mom is a narcissist and I cut her off many many times. Now I am married to one. SMH.

  • @blessedwoman6706
    @blessedwoman6706 Год назад +3

    This message is on point every thing Pastor Blakes said is absolutely true. I went through everything he said. I didn’t marry my narcissist ex but we were in a relationship for 8 years it was pure torture. I finally left him and I was so drained, exhausted and felt like I didn’t even know myself anymore. But thank God, I’m healed and moving forward in my life 🙏

  • @tiffanycalloway5299
    @tiffanycalloway5299 10 месяцев назад

    The climate of the house was cold on a summer day, and dark in the daytime!! I felt like my soul was raped!!! I am healed and delivered now, but if I would have seen any of this content sooner, I’d never! I pray someone going through is able to get out sooner than later! Bishop Blakes you continue to Bless me with your Videos! Thank God for you!🙌🏾

  • @leagueG5
    @leagueG5 Год назад +2

    This channel is a real blessing to my life.

  • @milagrosmonroy4939
    @milagrosmonroy4939 10 месяцев назад

    Good Evening Bishop Blake. I shared this video to a coworker friend who recently got a Divorce. Hopefully this video and others you have on your site will help her heal.

  • @lisabowman877
    @lisabowman877 Год назад +5

    I love the book review. I plan to purchase it. Thank you for loving us this way. ❤️🙏🏽🥰

  • @evabartlett7196
    @evabartlett7196 Год назад +7

    Greetings to all. Thank you RC Blake's Jr, for your awesome messages: I'm mindful of married to a Narcissist, prayers and scriptures.

  • @sheilahjohnnie4559
    @sheilahjohnnie4559 Год назад +5

    I've never been married I asked God sending me a believer Faith in you Lord don't send no one with one thing on there mind like sex a mindset of God

  • @andreiamcquitty8160
    @andreiamcquitty8160 Год назад

    Glad I came across this video! I’m trying leave mines 😢😢

  • @712djames
    @712djames Год назад +2

    I really enjoy your messages!! I purchased your latest book via Audible! I know the content is great but I can't get past the voice they used. I wish you would have read it ☺️ Now I have to purchase the hard copy bc I can't take the voice 😂😂😂 Holy Spirit help me!!!
    Praise God for you and your wife , keep doing great works!!

  • @monicacalais9169
    @monicacalais9169 Год назад +6

    This is spot on Bishop. 💯

  • @georgiagreenoutnabout6228
    @georgiagreenoutnabout6228 3 месяца назад

    Good Lord, Pastor Blakes, I am married to one and it is as if you know him. I knew for many years something was wrong with him but never really knew what was terribly wrong with him until about 3 years ago when a friend introduced the term narcissist to me. I have to watch this video again and get your book, thanks for sharing.

  • @sarahpeyton3824
    @sarahpeyton3824 Год назад +2

    Good Evening Bishop RC & Lady Blakes! Everyone! Happy Thursday🖐🏼

  • @Dr.Mahadrasjethwani_MD
    @Dr.Mahadrasjethwani_MD Год назад +1

    Married 32 years to a complete Dark Triad Narcissist each Narc is different and the mental side emotional anguish I dealt with it is only God that got me out. I am forever changed, and each moment of the minute I fight to live.

  • @sincerelysean7147
    @sincerelysean7147 10 месяцев назад

    This video is extremely helpful but also heartbreaking. Everything that was mentioned is what I've been going through for the last 14 years. I didn't even know I was dealing with this very topic until I started seeing a therapist. If anyone is going through any part of what was mentioned, please talk to someone. 🙏🏽

  • @prettypeyalimon6097
    @prettypeyalimon6097 Год назад +3

    Thank you Pastor RC Blakes ❤❤❤❤❤ You are such a blessing to many of us💕💕💕💕👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙏🏾🙏🏾 God bless you

  • @sarahpeyton3824
    @sarahpeyton3824 Год назад +3

    I can quote this story without the book! IT BLESSED ME GREATLY!

  • @sarahpeyton3824
    @sarahpeyton3824 Год назад +3

    ALWAYS ON GUARD…ALWAYS

  • @kimlondon6036
    @kimlondon6036 Год назад +1

    Thank you for the valuable information

  • @EstraNaomi
    @EstraNaomi Год назад +5

    Jesus! Can’t wait!!

  • @gugumkhwanazi9482
    @gugumkhwanazi9482 10 месяцев назад

    Powerful, powerful. The biggest blessing ever. Thank you pastor RC BLAKES and LISA BLAKES. God protect you. We are going higher. ❤QUEENS are born, old or young. I'm in, I'm one of them.

  • @hannekejeuk9915
    @hannekejeuk9915 Год назад +2

    Thank you for praying for me

  • @sandradudley8962
    @sandradudley8962 Год назад +2

    Pastor Blake’s, you sound like you were living in my house; before my divorce. Wow!

  • @chrisblack5795
    @chrisblack5795 Год назад +4

    Its been more than 10 years being divorced after discarded...only now can I put words to what he did to me...each video watched...cant even finish them...takes 3 trys and the vifeos are 12 minutes long....the info is exactly what I lived with and its hard to swallow how evil these people are. The last thing I need is ti buy a book on it...will never read it....same for domestic abuse....my first failed marriage....

  • @lolachlih3136
    @lolachlih3136 Год назад +1

    Everything your speaking about is on point i wasn't married to my ex narcissist for 8 years but he did put me through so much to the point it broke my spirit down emotionally and mentally ,is very exhausting glad i finally had the courage to leave and free of him for 2 1/2 years now and still healing ❤

  • @Geekygirlsjournal
    @Geekygirlsjournal Год назад

    Thanks for sharing this

  • @marshaonyoutube
    @marshaonyoutube Год назад

    Please, please, please pay attention to this wisdom. I am a living witness and can attest to everything Pastor Blakes has said about being married to a narcissist. It is extremely difficult and takes a lot of work to overcome the abuse.

  • @maryamgutti
    @maryamgutti Год назад +1

    Let them go as far as they can 🙏

  • @kingdomchyldmoments4081
    @kingdomchyldmoments4081 Год назад +1

    Thank you for this 🎉❤

    • @kingdomchyldmoments4081
      @kingdomchyldmoments4081 Год назад +1

      David said yea wait till you see me tomorrow I’m gone dance even harder!😂❤🎉 yes yes

  • @Queenajb100
    @Queenajb100 10 месяцев назад

    Wow. You just deacrubed my husbans and my lifw to a T! Thanks for the information. Mostly you and your wife, pray for me.

  • @Medietos
    @Medietos Год назад

    Yes , the malignant narcissistically disturbed one is definitely influenced by the adversaries of man in how they suppress humanity, destroy by stress, intimidation, gaslighting, negating them, diminishing them, not celebrating their achievements and not even even birthdays and despite the victim struggling will ill health.