"Never beg a person to stay in your life. Anybody that wants to exit your life on any level, WELCOME the exit. In fact, light the sign up for them." This is so true and resonated with me.
Salty Siren I'm so sorry, they are calculating people who are decieved and continue deceiving, they help fill the cup of iniquity, in my opinion. Praying for you for the Lord to supply all your needs, in every area of your life and protection in Jesus name!
This was so powerful. Just got discarded last night. It hurt for about 3 hours, then I had to remember who I am. I thank God for my constant protection.
Same.... Discarded last night, but not really! I told him I'm single leave me alone. I'm living in a hotel because my family said as long as your with him we don't want you around. Got off work and the NARC was gone😂😂😂😂😂 Bye boo wanted you gone anyway💃🏿💃🏿💃🏿💃🏿💃🏿💃🏿
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Just recently experienced this last night(12/19/22); soon to be narc was ranting and using bible passages to try to backup his self-righteous behavior, then had the nerve to ask me to just tell him the truth-did I want to end the marriage or fight for it? I intentionally did not answer and hung up the phone.
Not only did my Next leave me but she was seeing someone for idk how long during our time together. Not even a week later (Thursday ) my replacement was posting pix of them on fb at the lake. Then last night she posted pix of them in Nashville. She swore to me they were just friends even earlier in the day last Thursday. If course I saw those pix and immediately sent them to her and said thanks alot for making this entire relationship a lie! My biggest issue, she got close to my kids, knowing she had no intent to stay...
@@misshicks3360work on your self worth. Do things you enjoy and be around positive people,places and things.Ask God for wisdom, guidance, strength and peace ❤ tonight go back into a toxic relationship it will be worser.
Even while married to him!! I told him to stop playing video games during all non work hours!! He planned his get away!! God's blessing 🙌 and protection over my life!!
Awesome!! I wanted to see him as he said he would call. He DIDNT Call. THUS, I didn't see him. When I realized that I was God. I was Floored. When he called to feed me BS...I was SLEEPING!! He texted me on Mother's Day. I was traveling. And none of these things what was any manipulation, no NC or anything. I was simply busy or I was being protected from him. Wow. It's a lot to hear all of this. I have been learning a lot. What's funny is I figured it out. I just didnt want to believe any of it. But I get confirmation every day. But I pray that God continues to Bless my Life and keep teaching and strengthening me. Its hard to know but my Soul is more important. Keep your heads up. And keep pushing through. Blessings.
Say that loud Jesus protected me.even when I was soooooo gone on this narcissistic person I couldn't let go so Jesus did it for me and I thank him for this .I still have thoughts of him daily but I no Jesus will get me through this it's a process but Jesus is always able
Thank you. I spent 23 yrs in that kind of situationship. I lost everything including myself. It’s true. I was not strong enough to leave. He left me for another woman. It almost killed me. But I know now God was saving me. It’s been 2 years and am still healing. Ladies please love yourself. I wasted so much time.
Rachel Beal 15 years left me for co worker almost 10 months ago it hurts but I now know I'm not the only one. Thank God for pastor and other RUclips videos
Rachel Beal I spent 17 years married to a narcissist and lost a lot too including myself. I have been divorced for 2 years and I am finally healing and discovering who God intended for me to be. I am happy to report that God will restore more than you lost and allow you to begin a new chapter full of abundance and peace. It only gets better from here!!! God will also redeem the time you have lost...your best days are ahead!!! Be encouraged!!
Rachel Beal I spent a total of 33yrs married and all together 43!!....3 grown children and grandchildren. God moved me to a new place and l learned who l really was and he could not take the real me. God brought me out l literally thought l was going to die from the pain!!! Now know it was Npd!! Today threw therapy and my church family l am healing from the trauma bonds l endured..... to god be the glory!! FREE TO BE ME!!!🙏🏽. Hugs!!
1-it becomes difficult to manipulate you. 2-when the victim has become unresponsive to their games. 3-the victim has a relentless support system, they recognize what narcissist is. 4-narc wants you to come crawling back to him. 5-the narc knows you’re going to dump them. 6-the narc has found a new victim. 7-when u have needs of your own that challenges the narc to support you. 8-God is protecting you!!! 👑👑💯💯💯
Thank you Pastor, i have spent the last 6 weeks since the breakup in a haze of confusion. I have finally realized that what he did to me was the best thing he could have done for me. I am strong, I am beautiful and I will survive.
Yes God did protect me. I refuse to beg a man to see my value. Our journey is over while my greater glory is coming. Dear Ex, thank you for leaving me!
In The Last Days Men and Women Will Become Lovers of Themselves...Proud, Boastful, Full of Pride....This is Why there Has Been an Explosion of Narcissism...Prophecy is Being Fulfilled....
Exactly what happened to me...I became ill, he dumped me. 8 Years and a home together. Turned out to be a blessing as I discovered he is a serial Cheater and I was being used.
Hey really sorry about that dealing with hand pain and it’s difficult alone sometimes w good family etc far away from me I’m very sorry you went through it with a narcissist to make you feel unwanted or used :/ best of luck and god bless 💕 it was a blessing things can only get better 💕💕💕
Kathie Dorion they are serial cheaters!!! I was cheated on by the narcissist in my life sooo many times and those are the ones I even know about. Also biggest users and liars! Glad you are free now🙏
glory yep! This just happened to me and thankfully it happened before I saw the dark side of him! He seemed charming and made me feel like I was his everything and that I was sooooo amazing! Then he had financial issues, I got a bonus at work and he got moody. I called him out on him being different. He said he had a bad day and the next day he ended it and ghosted! I did nothing wrong! He knew he was not superior to me and could not handle it!
TWO WEEKS IN: - Asking me to have his babies ( No) -Asking me for money for lunch ( I said no, we argued all day😂) -Asking me to leave my 10 year career to move out of state to be with him....and he was staying at somebody else's house (NO) Yeah, he got tired of me real quick😂
Sad thing is I know someone who instead of saying no to all of that they were yes yes yes. And got abused abuse e has an srrest record lost jobs and might now lose their xhild too for having stayed with this person qndveven allowing them around their child.
Two weeks in : -Said I was his soulmate -Introduced me to his kids -Allowed me to pay for his lunch -Wanted me to sell my home and move in with him on the other side of the state, pay half of his bills and help him raise his kids. -Directed an angry rage attack towards me because I pointed out some of his shadiness involving texts to an ex and odd social media activities involving other women. -He directed another angry rage attack towards me for refusing to pay for his kids' activities when on a "family" outing He got rid of me. A blessing in disguise for not complying to his every whim. I wasn't useful enough to him. I am so glad I still have my life intact and was not dumb enough to sell my home and move in with him. I thank God for this blessing every day. Beware of anyone who wants you to meet their kids too soon and who allows you to pay for their meals.
Your #8 when you said that God protects us fron the narcissist. I dumped him before he dumped me because of all the lies, cheating and deception. I started to see his true face. I told him to Man up and for once in his life be honest. Still continue to lie and turned everything around to make me believe that it was me who cheated. I prayed to God to send him a message thru a dream or church sermon. Within 10 days he came to my church and we had a guest preacher. The preacher's sermon was "Man up and take responsibility for actions." The preacher said that he was not going to preach that sermon, but he was prompted by God to do so. My heart jumped out of my chest, and i gave thanks to God. My ex normally works on Sundays and most cases he did not attend on Sundays. But he was meant to be there that Sunday. When the sermon was over, he flew out of the church. No contact for over 3 months now. I thank God everyday. I thank you for these videos, they are helping me in my healing process.
God is truly merciful, I have had similar incidents as well as dreams notifying me before he applies certain draining moves or deceiving me. It was really relieving for my nerves to feel his presence with me in hard times ❤️🙏🏻
@@glowinglight3525 God sent me all the indicators, the drama, the chaos, the confusion, all the red flags, but i ignored them. Afterwards He took off all the blinders and i truly saw the light. He saved me.
You are absolutely correct. Asking questions, and when you can’t be manipulated as easily. And also like you said the reaction, is what they thrive for.. they hate to be ignored. They will flew really quick. They hate the word no. They think they are being rejected. They also flee when you tell them exactly who and what they are. They also hate that you have a support system, family that love you. They don’t think clearly at all. They never think things through. They are manipulative demons. Never crawl back, turn your back and keep walking. I’ve experienced dealing with a demon like this...After the season of weeping, you will feel so amazing and rejuvenated. And they hate that you become conscious.
This explains very much why he dumped me. He wanted me as an option which I didn't want to. I asked questions, I fought against his ideas to make me as an option and every time I brought that up, he reacted with anger and ghosted me. He dumped me to jump in a new relationship right away.
I just had my first “exchange” with a narcissist; of course I thought it was a relationship😞 I was so puzzled as to why this man would treat me this way when I was kind and so undeserving of this but Rev Blakes it’s almost as if you know this man. You are “100” spot on! He hated when I asked questions and caught him in lies. He didn’t like it when I called him out and didn’t bow 🙇♂️ to his ego. My heart hurts but my mind thanks God for moving Satan away. Please keep doing what you do!!! You are a counselor!!! I am a witness… Thanks and God bless you!
Be strong and believe in yourself... Talk and speak healing kind words to yourself and over your life...this helps me!....like a I am love, strong, strength, resilient, honest, beautiful, prosperous, healed, whole and i am going to get thru this and i am elevated beyond my wildest dreams.
U r not alone. I was married to one we separated now. Seem he tried to work witchcraft to kill me. These ppl are very sinister and you need to run away from them. They will kill you. Time will heal you as also pray Jesus Christ is able. He totally healed me and gave me the wisdom to understand the situation. I was devastated now I am happy and free.
They don't love themselves. The root of narcissism is self-hate, low self-worth, self esteem and self belief. Once you truly learn how to love yourself, you are no longer attractive to them.
🙋🏽♀️ I can testify. God protected me from a narcissists. I couldn't do it myself even when I really wanted to leave. Here's the key u have to realise it when God has stepped in n hold on to him n never look back.
This hour, this day...5 years ago...he threw me away like yesterday's trash. I asked one too many questions. When we start getting smart and strong it begins the END. Leave before the creature destroys your soul! They are not capable of Love.
This is sooo disturbing to my soul. To know that there are people ( preferably men) make it an ambitious effort to seek and destroy potential partners . We are living in a very sinister world makes me scared to even date now. 💚✨
37 years in this situation, 10 years divorced and oh yes God did wrap his loving arms around me and protect me and still does daily. This video was just beautiful! Thank you.
I didn't have my dad growing up to teach me how to protect myself from this. I came back to Christ and have been praying for support in learning how to protect myself in dating, and on two occasions I was pointed in your direction. Glory to God! Bless you for your work in helping women.
32 years of marriage and she has left me for a friend. After just starting to read and listen about narcissism I’m seeing years of this behavior that I never recognized or paid attention too. What you’re saying is so familiar with what I now see and been experiencing! Wish I knew this sooner. Thank you. God bless.
Thank You For Sharing. After Meeting The Narcissists 4 Yrs Ago. I Honestly Thought That This Person Was Good For Me. Within Two Weeks This Person Started Belittling Me Ordering Demands.This Person Broke Me Down So Bad To The Point That I’m Having Some Health Issues.After I Didn’t Follow The Narcissists Order.His Demands His Discarded Me Like Trash 🗑.Its Been Four Yrs And I’m Still Trying To Get MySelf ToGether.They Are Very Dangerous Ppl.
They flip the script - lol As you’re catching onto them, questioning them, getting close to dumping them- they quickly flip the script & dump you to feel they have the power over the situation- lol 😂
Yes God had the narc leave me! When I realized my Ex was a Narco, I told God, "You have to get the devil out of my house." The devil left in about 3 weeks.
Puff Puff It’s so good to not have to deal with the evil demon anymore. I pray that all will go good for you, and that all good things will come your way now that your free from evil 🕊.
When the narcissist dumps you just remember that you stood your ground and this creature can no longer control you……time to expose them for who they really are and have no mercy whatsoever on them. 👍
When you become stronger , they get so angry or they go ghost on you . I just ask God to give me the strength to keep pushing forward ♥️. My batteries are burnt out , I am tired of being a puppet 🫀I am so glad I discovered you , this week was the most emotional week for me .
I love reason number 8. I feel very blessed that my narcissistic ex is out of my life now ! I have no more frustration, no more confusion and no more stress! I've regained my self respect and started to love myself. Praise the Lord that my nightmare has finally ended after seven years of mental abuse. And thank you for your prayer, Pastor 🙏
Thanks again Bishop! They also have a tactic to discard you by simply dragging us through the mud until we say ENOUGH! Not all will discard you first. Sometimes they will see just how much your willing to take to ruin yourself! It’s up to the individual to say enough is enough. And to see their value and their worth Love all that you do. Blessing 🤗💕
@@christinekleinschmidt4676 I got rid of pictures, all social media contact, and block phone numbers. If we had friends block them too. I accept no new friends too on social media.
Oh yeah! Questioning resulted in major defensiveness and sometimes rage! I was like , Why are you so upset by my question?? Yeah he knew I was seeing what was going on, and things went down hill quickly.
My current story told through his lips. Except I was the one who kept breaking up with him over a 2-year process, oddly he would return asking for another chance.. then finally through a series of events, he convinced me he had changed and was ready to marry in order to prove it. Shortly after marrying, he started trying to repeatedly control me and break me in ungodly ways. I repeatedly stood up to him and he couldn't take being told NO and being held to a place of real accountability. He fled!! 😂😂 I knew God was protecting me with the breakup. And it's only by God's grace that I'm still in my right mind, God strengthened me for the battle and for the exit. Being married to a narcissist produces drama and confusion that is utterly indescribable. I'll never understand why people just won't grow up and be healed.
Carla Monroe I left mines and moved after 3 years and engaged for 1.5 and he started dated his friends girlfriend of 4 years. I guess it was a desperate pick or maybe he was cheating with her prior to me leaving. They lack moral and will stop at nothing
@@dainty_des.. They ALWAYS have back up supply.. cannot be faithful for long terms. Whoever will feed their over inflated egos will suffice as supply to them. I am very sorry you had to experience this but at the same time I am glad you survived it because all certifiable narcs will say and do whatever they need to in order to get themselves "branded" inside your head and your heart. They systematically break you down through psychological mind games. They seek to own you mentally and emotionally. This is why when we try to leave them alone, they just do a little hoovering and wal-lah, we allow them back in... it's so HARD to just walk away because they have covertly trained us well.. and then once they are back in, they simply repeat their cycles of breaking us down further in order to render us into nothing but a complete and utter shell of a person, empty, hollow... just so they gain and keep complete and utter control over us. This goes on until we stop it. They seek to own us. We are prey to them. Nothing more, nothing less.. none of the nice things they do are real.. any nice thing they say, any nice thing they do is because they have wrong motives and hidden agendas that later benefits them.. they have a way of flattering you, doing really great things for you... and then taking advantage of the situation of trust that they put you in to. Nothing about them on a friendship/relationship level is real. Unfortunately, we fell in love with a mere image, an imposter. The psychological games and mind abuse leaves devastation upon the victims. Like you are doing now... it's time to forgive ourselves for allowing self to fall for and stay with someone who (looking back) really did nothing but reek havoc upon us. Real love would have never purposely and systematically done such damage.
Carla Monroe I find myself confused and questioning if I am a Narc but I am self aware, I self reflect, I have sympathy, I even grieved the relationship and lost weight and suffered heart break and had anxiety from it all. I moved out and went no contact but he’s been trying to reach out and keep in communication even with the new supply in his life constantly trying to message, FaceTime and call. Throughout the relationship he would mentally, verbally and physically abuse me and I would do the same. I’m trying to understand if it was a defense mechanism for standing up for myself but he has a history of physical abuse, i notice he rather club and spend time with me than his own children. He had a rotation prior to meeting me which i didn’t think much because he was a bachelor and now understanding Narcissim I realize it wasn’t normal and it’s a Harem and thought it was strange that he kept all his ex girlfriends and ex fucks around. Everything started to make sense and i ignored a lot of red flags due to my own insecurities and emptiness. I just wanted true love
They will dump you when you have a need. True Pastor Blakes! He dumped me when i was pregnant with our baby girl. It was the best thing that has happened to my child & I. The abuse stopped & I.was able to file a restraining order based in his abuse. God is good & knows what He is doing! Thank you Jesus! ❤
Mine did the same. I was 6 mos pregnant. Unfortunately the court believed his lies and didn’t grant restraining order. Awaiting divorce and custody. When he left, I didn’t allow him to pass back over my threshold. Love don’t live here anymore ... I’m free 🙌🏽
Very well spoken out about these individuals. I have learned so much about them. Suffered so much in my heart. I thought he was a king, but after his terrible behavior I discarded him. Now I am free from his toxic energy, and company, so I’m getting stronger. It’s taken some time but I know I am winning in my own life 💕
Same. I thought he was a king. I was in no rush and slow to trust. He asked me to marry him, introduced me to his family, took my children and I out on dates regularly, gave my teenage son his first job, was never over flattering, was a good provider, protector and father to his only child and to my 3 from a previous marriage. He even asked me to believe in him, trust him and asked me what he’d have to do to have children with me??? What changed? I finally submitted to the idea that he could be the one God created for me. All to break up with me 3 weeks later, but refuse to cut ties. Refused to let me go. Refuse to get his things from my home. Refuse to end it. Kept telling me that he was hurt and thought of me all the time in between blaming me for the breakup when I literally never did anything to him. I cooked and cleaned at my house and his, successfully worked a job and raised 3 wonderful children on my own while remaining supportive of him and his business endeavors. He never asked for money; just time. It wasn’t until the end that I saw all the tiny indicators. So smooth that I was questioning my own character; wondering what I did wrong. Even his mother and daughter are devastated. They morn the relationship because he sold them on the idea only to suddenly rip it away from all of us. Whaaaaaaat? The enemy is so very crafty. I thank God for the deliverance.
Thank you Pastor. Once again you have blessed us with truth. The golden nugget in this video was when you said, "when a narcissist dumps you, God is protecting you" Amen!!!!!!!!!
Narcissists are not comfortable & lose interest with people they cannot manipulate or control. I know this for sure! Church, work, family, & so on. No one will control me, hence people move on swiftly. Bye bye 👋 👋 cakes 🍰! 😂😂😂🤣
Well said... once you step back from the abuse and prevent their abuse and manipulation, they lose their sense of power and control. You are beginning the first steps of practising self love, narcissists are no longer attracted to you. Narcissists are self-hating and are attracted to other self-hating people like codependents.
Realisation...I’ve attracted narcissistic men my whole life!! The DAMAGE IS CRAZY. I’m bpd to so it’s worse..I’m learning though and tend to spot them from a mile off now and just disconnect quickly!!!
I have never slept soo well since I gotten rid of my discomfort. May my Lord and Savior continue to put the hedge of protection around me. Thanks Pastor and your family RESPECTFULLY. COMING FROM WEST PARK FL .
I've listened to this about 4x already I'll be listening to this all night. Going through a very painful break-up with a narcissist - it's draining in every aspect. I won't crawl back this time, hiis lying, cheating and narcissistic abuse won't be tolerated anymore not because I don't love him but because there was beginning to be no me...and someone has to love me and care for me, so it should be me myself and I with my dogs. I appreciate everything you're saying RC. God bless you.
Rev. Blakes; I have just discovered you! Your message on Narcissist is spot on. My covert narcissist wife has discarded me and you have explained things much better than the counselors and therapist I've talked with. It's good to hear a biblical explanation of all this. May God continue to bless you and your ministry!! Thanks!!!!
I'm not religious and I watched so many videos about narcissist but the way you explain in this video was the only video that made me feel better.I feel released,I feel free and strong after this video. Thank you
What type of stuff is this?? Saying they will find someone else to love them? All the while you were doing just that. Giving your time and that payed off in love.
Thank you Pastor for ALL of your teachings on Narcissism! God Bless you for helping all of us victims to learn their strategies and devious ways.. I'm from Paterson, NJ and have been saved for 24 years! Learning these things based on the Word of God only makes it much better! You are loved by many!
God Bless you Pastor Blake's! I'm going through this in this season of my life. This video has blessed me!!! I thank God for you and your wisdom that you share.
That was a powerful and much appreciated message, especially when you said the rejection of man is God protecting us when we're not emotionally/mentally strong enough to get out of a situation on our own. God bless you!
Thank you for making this video for all of us. I spent many years being with a narcissist. When I think back on our relationship I find everything you said here to be spot on. Our relationship was fine as long as I backed down, gave in to every threat (for example "Give up your career or I want a divorce",.... He kept my life going in circles for years by constantly keeping our home filled with his family, his parents, his sister and brothers, his sister in law (and her mother)..... He'd tell me things like, "You shouldn't feel like that" if my feelings or thoughts were not in line with his. When I started to stand up for myself is when we began to have relationship problems.Thank you for this it helps with recovery and learning to believe in myself again.
This is SO accurate. My ex husband said to me “he felt like an actor” in our relationship. I mean that’s textbook narc but At the time, I didn’t get it but it’s been 8 years now and it makes so much sense!! Back then nothing made any sense & I couldn’t connect the dots. Wish I had known the depths of narcissism as I was going through it. Healing is possible friends! Mans rejection IS God’s protection!!
Welp...married him...tied me up tight. I'm just smh hard here. After the affairs I had to walk away. OMG yes, I started asking more questions and his response was always, "why am I under interrogation?" Yep, I felt like a basket case. They will cut you off from all of your friends and family. This is a great post pastor.
God will heal you. You have to rebuild yourself by identifying yourself by what GOD SAYS OF YOU. Renewing of your mind 💜 some days will be hard, especially when the memories creep up and you look back and realize the truth... Don't let them get to you, keep going forward. Cling to God
Your comment just blew my mind! My husband, who just left our family out of the blue, would ask me the same thing. Why am I under interrogation or why are you interrogating me? Wow!! We were married for 18 years, together for 20 and he just left! I still pray for him, but I'm also keeping my head up. Honestly its like a big weight that has been lifted off me. stay prayed up and keep your head up so your crown won't fall.
Lord! This deserves an award!! You have described my life to the T....I was in a prison and god freed ME!!! God Bless your very soul Pastor Blakes 🙌🏽🙏🏽❤️. Bless God!!! Thank You!!
Thank you , and thank you, Pastor. You nail it all the time. Your preaching shouldn't be missed by a single woman living I this world.. You've explained the journey I've had in my life in a far better way. Thank God I'm still beautiful inside out. Your preachings are GOLDEN. KEEP IT UP PASTOR. MAY GOD BLESS YOU ALL THE DAYS OF YOUR LIFE..
Awesome word! There is a serious epidemic going on regarding this. I truly believe that when someone shows you who you are, don’t think twice, GO🏃🏾♀️. #breakingloosenow
I have watched many of your videos, but this one definitely struck a chord more so than any others. Two years of dealing with a narcissist and questioning myself. Wish I knew then what I know now! But it's ok, I've survived and learned the lessons I needed to learn. Many thanks, Pastor Blakes, for all that you and your wife do for us.
Hi, Pastor Blakes! 😊 I’m still recovering from a marriage that ended in divorce to a narcissist 1 year ago. Your wisdom and knowledge are helping me through the recovery and healing process. I appreciate you for doing this!😊💕❤️🙏
Michelle Rosario. Thats how it usually happens. Unless you work on yourself, you'll keep meeting them. Im still not dating and its been a year since my narcissistic relationship ended. Im enjoying loving me.
You truly said what I needed to hear. I am a strong woman but after taking care of my parents for 20 years, I wanted someone younger in my life. I wanted fun and companionship. Too bad it was a narcissist! He rejected me. Although strong, I was too nice to take the lead. God has protected me and I am blessed. I look forward to moving on and finding a good man in my life. Thank you.
Eva Jimenez Me too for 17yrs...divorcing him was the beginning of self love, blessings and peace. Hang in there...your life will improve tremendously!!
Eva Jimenez My divorce is final May 17: He always cheated,lied, abused me verbally and physically, belittled me and all that other crazy stuff they do. I’m still trying to get myself back up. I am feeling better though. I pray you are too. Love and Light.
Excellent! Unfortunately, I experienced a few of these not recognizing what they were and conscious of my vulnerabilities/weaknesses. I'm good now! I got this😊...please keep doing what you are doing, increasing awareness and educating those who are lost and struggling but wanting to find answers!
This is the most amazing and accurate video I’ve found about narcissism. I’m learning as I just got discarded by my narc husband, I begged and begged him to stay in my life. He would leave me or threatened me to leave me about once a week, and then he would pull me back. I was a wreck, I didn’t know what was going on.. I tried to talk with him but I couldn’t get emotional, I could even cry in front of him because he would call me “pathetic, weak, victim mentality, etc etc”. I prayed on my knees so many times for the Lord to help me and help my marriage but He answers in different ways. I became pregnant when I less expected and that’s when I needed of my husband the most.. but that’s when he discarded me for good. He did so in the most painful and cold way ever imagined. That happened just before Christmas (less than a month ago) and I’m so deeply hurt. I might start counseling next week, and hopefully keep finding sense to what I went through. I used to believe I wasn’t enough for him, that I was unworthy and I needed to work harder..but no, those were all lies that the enemy wanted me to believe.. I was so hopeless, and I still have days that are harder than others where I can’t stop crying, it’s hard to function and I can’t even sleep. This is the hardest thing I’ve ever gone through in my life but y’all please pray that God keeps lifting me up, that I surrender to Him everyday for his strength and his help. Thank you for this video, so real it brought tears to my eyes but also brought me HOPE.
I didn’t even know I was dealing with a narcissist until i did research and he had all the characteristics of one exactly. They are very sweet in the beginning and then they look for any reason to snap and then they start to accuse u of cheating all the time and then the put downs and name calling and then it goes to isolation where they don’t want u to even go out with ur friends cause that makes them feel “uncomfortable” and then u can’t tell them no or they give u silent treatment and explode with rage on u as if they are going to go nuts !!!!
I did tons of research on all the cluster b disorders , to the point I knew for sure my x was a mixed bag of all four. Some how I managed to get him to agree to be diagnosed . ( malignant) npd , aspd and hpd . Also has Dissociative identity disorder. Lord help him . Even prior to the official diagnoses I had already planned to leave .... diagnoses or not I’m done with the behaviors . He let me go with no fight . I had ripped his mask off and he knew it and the diagnoses just sealed the deal . I will say this if you find yourself pulling your hair out , trying to explain to an adult how to act ...... please please please walk away and let them go and let god deal with them . If your in doubt 2 Timothy 3
april9997 worst 16 years of my life , but it was also a blessing . It really makes you look at your own behaviors and question why do we tolerate this , and once your understand why everything starts to make sense . When you know better you do better and for me personally I’ve learned to listen to my intuition and trust that its alarm bells to get away from that person or situation immediately.
Jay T the best advice I can give anyone is trust your intuition ., the gut brain is your alarm to tell you something is off , don’t ignore it . Very much like the animal kingdom , they know to either fight or flight . www.hyperbiotics.com/blogs/recent-articles/gut-feelings-trusting-your-intuition
Angelique Grace I knew from the start something was off and didn’t listen to my intuition and after the hoovering I surrendered. Stayed two years and a half, left in January. He is proud to tell me all his exes have already called him to reconnect and one of them is moving in very soon. Last week he asked me if he could call me when finished with his new supply., I think I am the only person who took off his mask but yet it is all my fault. My eldest daughter stopped talking to me since I left. They don’t see it cause he is such a good guy. Feel very sorry for my 10 year old daughter, he told her he misses me. What a devil !
My narc husband discarded me 5 months ago and we are in the process of a divorce. I had a thought just the other day that maybe God was protecting me because I KNOW I would never have left him. You got to number 8 and I just started praying in gratitude. Thank you for this video
When you pray for peace, don’t be surprised when toxic people leave suddenly
Lmao frfr current mood..!
WOW ! Truth
I prayed to be closer to God on my knees crying and the next day an argument ensued between me and the narc and he broke up with me.
Chynadoll77 Cyn are you at peace now?
Jen A I definitely understand Love. Are you doing better now?
"Never beg a person to stay in your life. Anybody that wants to exit your life on any level, WELCOME the exit. In fact, light the sign up for them." This is so true and resonated with me.
Unspeakable Truth in my experience the malignant narcissist was the one without those things of stability.
RUN !!! GO NO CONTACT!!! THESE type of people are very dangerous...
Salty Siren I'm so sorry, they are calculating people who are decieved and continue deceiving, they help fill the cup of iniquity, in my opinion. Praying for you for the Lord to supply all your needs, in every area of your life and protection in Jesus name!
N.L Macklin Me too Amen!
Light the sign up for them... I like that
This was so powerful. Just got discarded last night. It hurt for about 3 hours, then I had to remember who I am. I thank God for my constant protection.
Same here!!!! It last for about 3 hours...Then something hit me and I was like ok...I’m stronger wiser and better than this....For over it quick!
Remember the narc never loved you.
Same.... Discarded last night, but not really! I told him I'm single leave me alone. I'm living in a hotel because my family said as long as your with him we don't want you around. Got off work and the NARC was gone😂😂😂😂😂 Bye boo wanted you gone anyway💃🏿💃🏿💃🏿💃🏿💃🏿💃🏿
SAME HERE ..DEY PROVOKE YOU
DEY OUSH YOU OVA D EDGE TO RAGE, 1st ..DEN DEY TAKE D UPPER HAND TO START A CONFLICT TURN D HOUSE UPSIDE DOWN BCOS DEY CAN DEAL WTH SMONES EMOTIONS ..CANT HANDLE D MESS DEY COSED CANT TAKE ACCOUNTABILITY FOR DER ACTIONS COS IF DEY DID IT WUDD MEAN DEM TAKIN RESOONSIBILITY TO FIX BUT DEY WANT DER MOTIVES AGENDAS OPTIONS OPEN ON D OTGER SIDE WTH DER WHORES & SIDE CHICKS SO DEY DIWNGRADE DEVALUE YOU..BE UNGRATEFULL SELFISH & GREEDY INDIVIDUALS ..DEY LACK OBJECTIVE CONSTANCY EVERYTHIN IS EITHER GOOD / BAD DEY ARE A TODDLER IN AN ADULT BOD..DONT WASTE UR TYM .2 DAYS BACK I REGISTERED A COMPLAINT FOR DOMESTIC ABUSE NARCISSISTIC ABUSE N EMOTIONAL ABUSE ..HE WAS CALLED DER TO INVESTIGATE ..NO USE .DS PEOPLE BCOME WORSE WTH AGE ..SO A DISCARD IS A BLESSING IN DISGUISE
GOD IS PROTECTING US FROM.SOMONE NOT WORTH IT
IV GONE TRU ALL DS WTH D NARC HUSBAND FOR 26 YRS SINC I WAS 18
KIDS HAV BCONE TEENS BUT NO SENCE WTH DEM YOU CAN NVA REASON RATIONALISE WTH A NARCISISTS SAY BYE TO DEM FOR GOOD GETTING BACK TO DEM IS COMIN BACK TO HELL
Just recently experienced this last night(12/19/22); soon to be narc was ranting and using bible passages to try to backup his self-righteous behavior, then had the nerve to ask me to just tell him the truth-did I want to end the marriage or fight for it? I intentionally did not answer and hung up the phone.
Absolutely don’t feel hurt when a narcissist dumps you. Feel BLESSED. God does have away of eliminating your obstacles. Love your info RC
Not only did my Next leave me but she was seeing someone for idk how long during our time together. Not even a week later (Thursday ) my replacement was posting pix of them on fb at the lake. Then last night she posted pix of them in Nashville. She swore to me they were just friends even earlier in the day last Thursday. If course I saw those pix and immediately sent them to her and said thanks alot for making this entire relationship a lie! My biggest issue, she got close to my kids, knowing she had no intent to stay...
Thank you ....you are so right!!!!
I still feel like a piece of unworthy shit
😩🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
@@misshicks3360work on your self worth. Do things you enjoy and be around positive people,places and things.Ask God for wisdom, guidance, strength and peace ❤ tonight go back into a toxic relationship it will be worser.
"You were never in a relationship... you were in an EXCHANGE"... THAT!
Oof...wow. yeah... that hit something!
Absolutely!
Absolutely not a relationship but a transaction. I feel RCB has to do a video on knowing the difference
Even while married to him!! I told him to stop playing video games during all non work hours!! He planned his get away!! God's blessing 🙌 and protection over my life!!
Facts
The Rejection of Man is the Protection of God!!! God Let your Will be Done. Amen
Amen❣️
Amen to that.
I needed to hear that.
Amen.Im a witness.He is my Better!
Yes!!!!!!
Rejection of man is a protection from God. Thank you Pastor!!!
Shi300 my friend is dating one.. I just told our other good friend.. he’s got to leave her.. she want leave him.
Awesome!! I wanted to see him as he said he would call. He DIDNT Call. THUS, I didn't see him. When I realized that I was God. I was Floored. When he called to feed me BS...I was SLEEPING!! He texted me on Mother's Day. I was traveling. And none of these things what was any manipulation, no NC or anything. I was simply busy or I was being protected from him. Wow.
It's a lot to hear all of this. I have been learning a lot. What's funny is I figured it out. I just didnt want to believe any of it. But I get confirmation every day. But I pray that God continues to Bless my Life and keep teaching and strengthening me. Its hard to know but my Soul is more important. Keep your heads up. And keep pushing through. Blessings.
Amen!!
❤❤❤amen amen 🙏🏾
Say that loud Jesus protected me.even when I was soooooo gone on this narcissistic person I couldn't let go so Jesus did it for me and I thank him for this .I still have thoughts of him daily but I no Jesus will get me through this it's a process but Jesus is always able
Thank you. I spent 23 yrs in that kind of situationship. I lost everything including myself. It’s true. I was not strong enough to leave. He left me for another woman. It almost killed me. But I know now God was saving me. It’s been 2 years and am still healing. Ladies please love yourself. I wasted so much time.
Rachel Beal
15 years left me for co worker almost 10 months ago it hurts but I now know I'm not the only one. Thank God for pastor and other RUclips videos
Rachel Beal I spent 17 years married to a narcissist and lost a lot too including myself. I have been divorced for 2 years and I am finally healing and discovering who God intended for me to be. I am happy to report that God will restore more than you lost and allow you to begin a new chapter full of abundance and peace. It only gets better from here!!! God will also redeem the time you have lost...your best days are ahead!!! Be encouraged!!
1 year in. Im out and still healing. Love ourselves more....self care ❤ is important
Thank you for sharing...I feel so foolish for spending 16 years with a narcissistic. But it’s comforting knowing I’m not alone.
Rachel Beal I spent a total of 33yrs married and all together 43!!....3 grown children and grandchildren. God moved me to a new place and l learned who l really was and he could not take the real me. God brought me out l literally thought l was going to die from the pain!!! Now know it was Npd!! Today threw therapy and my church family l am healing from the trauma bonds l endured..... to god be the glory!! FREE TO BE ME!!!🙏🏽. Hugs!!
1-it becomes difficult to manipulate you.
2-when the victim has become unresponsive to their games.
3-the victim has a relentless support system, they recognize what narcissist is.
4-narc wants you to come crawling back to him.
5-the narc knows you’re going to dump them.
6-the narc has found a new victim.
7-when u have needs of your own that challenges the narc to support you.
8-God is protecting you!!! 👑👑💯💯💯
Thank you for writing it down 💋
I love it when people summarize these
This man is so supportive and wonderful
Thank you Pastor, i have spent the last 6 weeks since the breakup in a haze of confusion. I have finally realized that what he did to me was the best thing he could have done for me. I am strong, I am beautiful and I will survive.
Thank you for the information.
Yes God did protect me. I refuse to beg a man to see my value. Our journey is over while my greater glory is coming. Dear Ex, thank you for leaving me!
Jessie C Love your not Dealing with a man your Dealing with A Demon aka Narc
Beautiful..
👏👏👏👏👏👏
Amen sister!
Thank you, next!
This is so TRUE. He enjoyed making me upset and then sit back and laugh.
Same here
Time to get your laugh too.
Get your life back, get it running, be happy, grow in your career.
When you establish your boundaries and become strong in your beliefs they dump you because they no longer can control you. Rejection is protection.
Spot On!!
Yes indeed
In The Last Days Men and Women Will Become Lovers of Themselves...Proud, Boastful, Full of Pride....This is Why there Has Been an Explosion of Narcissism...Prophecy is Being Fulfilled....
Amen
His rejection was my Divine Protection.. I was in a MANIPULATIONSHIP.
I felt this in my chest!
For real 😂🤦♀️
Love it! Perfect! Manipulationship😁
Exactly what happened to me...I became ill, he dumped me. 8 Years and a home together. Turned out to be a blessing as I discovered he is a serial Cheater and I was being used.
Kathie Dorion I gave 8 years just glad we didn’t live together. The day I said boy bye a woman moved in with him
Gracefully broken shameful
They do not like the attention on others, therefore they will 🏃
Hey really sorry about that dealing with hand pain and it’s difficult alone sometimes w good family etc far away from me I’m very sorry you went through it with a narcissist to make you feel unwanted or used :/ best of luck and god bless 💕 it was a blessing things can only get better 💕💕💕
Kathie Dorion they are serial cheaters!!! I was cheated on by the narcissist in my life sooo many times and those are the ones I even know about. Also biggest users and liars! Glad you are free now🙏
I love that part when he saids, the Narcissist see that you know your actually superior than him. Yeyyyyyyy👏👏👏👏👏
glory yep! This just happened to me and thankfully it happened before I saw the dark side of him! He seemed charming and made me feel like I was his everything and that I was sooooo amazing! Then he had financial issues, I got a bonus at work and he got moody. I called him out on him being different. He said he had a bad day and the next day he ended it and ghosted! I did nothing wrong! He knew he was not superior to me and could not handle it!
The rejection of man is the protection of God! I receive it!
Tina King God was protecting you. 🌻
Tina King Amen 🙏
Amen
Teach_🙌
TWO WEEKS IN:
- Asking me to have his babies ( No)
-Asking me for money for lunch ( I said no, we argued all day😂)
-Asking me to leave my 10 year career to move out of state to be with him....and he was staying at somebody else's house (NO)
Yeah, he got tired of me real quick😂
He had NOTHING to do but destroy your life because he doesn’t have one himself. 🤷🏽♀️
Sad thing is I know someone who instead of saying no to all of that they were yes yes yes. And got abused abuse e has an srrest record lost jobs and might now lose their xhild too for having stayed with this person qndveven allowing them around their child.
✅😂😂😂😂
Tack on to women, ride their backs, & become codependent ! Difficult to shake them ! But it can be done !
Samantha Roberts 😂😂😂😂😂
Two weeks in :
-Said I was his soulmate
-Introduced me to his kids
-Allowed me to pay for his lunch
-Wanted me to sell my home and move in with him on the other side of the state, pay half of his bills and help him raise his kids.
-Directed an angry rage attack towards me because I pointed out some of his shadiness involving texts to an ex and odd social media activities involving other women.
-He directed another angry rage attack towards me for refusing to pay for his kids' activities when on a "family" outing
He got rid of me. A blessing in disguise for not complying to his every whim. I wasn't useful enough to him. I am so glad I still have my life intact and was not dumb enough to sell my home and move in with him. I thank God for this blessing every day. Beware of anyone who wants you to meet their kids too soon and who allows you to pay for their meals.
Is like we were dating the same person
mine told me he loved me 2 weeks in, lied about his 3 baby mamas, and now after NC, hes hoovering...he did a 360 on me over night!!!
Your #8 when you said that God protects us fron the narcissist. I dumped him before he dumped me because of all the lies, cheating and deception. I started to see his true face. I told him to Man up and for once in his life be honest. Still continue to lie and turned everything around to make me believe that it was me who cheated. I prayed to God to send him a message thru a dream or church sermon. Within 10 days he came to my church and we had a guest preacher. The preacher's sermon was "Man up and take responsibility for actions." The preacher said that he was not going to preach that sermon, but he was prompted by God to do so. My heart jumped out of my chest, and i gave thanks to God. My ex normally works on Sundays and most cases he did not attend on Sundays. But he was meant to be there that Sunday. When the sermon was over, he flew out of the church. No contact for over 3 months now. I thank God
everyday. I thank you for these videos, they are helping me in my healing process.
God is truly merciful, I have had similar incidents as well as dreams notifying me before he applies certain draining moves or deceiving me. It was really relieving for my nerves to feel his presence with me in hard times ❤️🙏🏻
@@glowinglight3525 God sent me all the indicators, the drama, the chaos, the confusion, all the red flags, but i ignored them. Afterwards He took off all the blinders and i truly saw the light. He saved me.
N Ale what a testimony 🙏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
THANK GOD!
That's beautiful :)
The Rejection of Man is the Protection of God. Thank you Pastor. You're amazing and I'm grateful that God lead me to your ministry.
Rejection is ALWAYS a blessing.
Peaceful Dragon I had never thought of rejection as a blessing until now, what wisdom!
@@reginaowen5992 I love it and thank you Regina. I needed that.
@@yolostarr1822 Thank you.
PREACH
You are absolutely correct. Asking questions, and when you can’t be manipulated as easily. And also like you said the reaction, is what they thrive for.. they hate to be ignored. They will flew really quick. They hate the word no. They think they are being rejected. They also flee when you tell them exactly who and what they are. They also hate that you have a support system, family that love you. They don’t think clearly at all. They never think things through. They are manipulative demons. Never crawl back, turn your back and keep walking. I’ve experienced dealing with a demon like this...After the season of weeping, you will feel so amazing and rejuvenated. And they hate that you become conscious.
Wow! Thank you for your words of encouragement !🙏🏾❤
So true! I would rather be alone with God’s protection.
This explains very much why he dumped me. He wanted me as an option which I didn't want to. I asked questions, I fought against his ideas to make me as an option and every time I brought that up, he reacted with anger and ghosted me. He dumped me to jump in a new relationship right away.
I just had my first “exchange” with a narcissist; of course I thought it was a relationship😞 I was so puzzled as to why this man would treat me this way when I was kind and so undeserving of this but Rev Blakes it’s almost as if you know this man. You are “100” spot on! He hated when I asked questions and caught him in lies. He didn’t like it when I called him out and didn’t bow 🙇♂️ to his ego. My heart hurts but my mind thanks God for moving Satan away. Please keep doing what you do!!! You are a counselor!!! I am a witness… Thanks and God bless you!
I was recently discarded! I’m struggling mentally and it hurts the education is helping but it made me look at me!
Breona Harrison good luck to you
Be strong and believe in yourself... Talk and speak healing kind words to yourself and over your life...this helps me!....like a I am love, strong, strength, resilient, honest, beautiful, prosperous, healed, whole and i am going to get thru this and i am elevated beyond my wildest dreams.
U r not alone. I was married to one we separated now. Seem he tried to work witchcraft to kill me. These ppl are very sinister and you need to run away from them. They will kill you. Time will heal you as also pray Jesus Christ is able. He totally healed me and gave me the wisdom to understand the situation. I was devastated now I am happy and free.
Hang in there. God is trustworthy to bring you through.
Hope you’re doing well you are not alone.
When they are done using you they will discard of you because they only love themselves.
They don't love themselves. The root of narcissism is self-hate, low self-worth, self esteem and self belief. Once you truly learn how to love yourself, you are no longer attractive to them.
Anime Otaku
Mine hated himself too
Correction. They don't have the ability to love anyone, not even themselves.
They love no one
And they do the SAME AND WORSE to the one they replaced you for ... it's SICK.
🙋🏽♀️ I can testify. God protected me from a narcissists. I couldn't do it myself even when I really wanted to leave. Here's the key u have to realise it when God has stepped in n hold on to him n never look back.
Narcs love to cross your boundaries and step all over it with no regard or regrets of apologies to you
This hour, this day...5 years ago...he threw me away like yesterday's trash. I asked one too many questions. When we start getting smart and strong it begins the END. Leave before the creature destroys your soul! They are not capable of Love.
Resist the devil and he shall flee!
Dtella55
summit yourself to God first
AMEN!!
“The rejection of man is often the protection of God”. Yes!! Preach on!! 🙌🏻🙌🏻
This is sooo disturbing to my soul. To know that there are people ( preferably men) make it an ambitious effort to seek and destroy potential partners . We are living in a very sinister world makes me scared to even date now. 💚✨
RudeModel Behavior I agree with you
@@tmichele8922 intentional abuse is just ugh! I can't even put to words !😥
RudeModel Behavior he fooled me for 8 years then his mask started falling 5 years in🤪
@@tmichele8922 really??? Wow babes im sorry you had to experience such a nightmare 😞..how are you feeling now ? Are you healing?💚
@rudemodel behavior it is real....
37 years in this situation, 10 years divorced and oh yes God did wrap his loving arms around me and protect me and still does daily. This video was just beautiful! Thank you.
I didn't have my dad growing up to teach me how to protect myself from this. I came back to Christ and have been praying for support in learning how to protect myself in dating, and on two occasions I was pointed in your direction. Glory to God! Bless you for your work in helping women.
Amen
I’m glad you found Pastor Blakes because I know I did! I found him about 2 years ago and got rid of my Narc ex husband and now happily married.
GOD LET YOUR WILL BE DONE 🙏🏽🙌🏾
emotionally. you're
addicted. to. them
yes. they. planed. it
I am 😩
I discarded him, I had a soul tie with him,had to pray to break it, they don't like when you discard them first, he is the worst man I ever met,pschyo
Me too 2 men like THAT! Nobody BUT God revealed them.🙏🏾❤🙏🏾
32 years of marriage and she has left me for a friend. After just starting to read and listen about narcissism I’m seeing years of this behavior that I never recognized or paid attention too. What you’re saying is so familiar with what I now see and been experiencing! Wish I knew this sooner. Thank you. God bless.
Narcissist are the worst set of human beings one can ever deal with. So draining..
Thank You For Sharing.
After Meeting The Narcissists 4 Yrs Ago.
I Honestly Thought That This Person Was Good For Me.
Within Two Weeks This Person Started Belittling Me
Ordering Demands.This Person Broke Me Down So Bad
To The Point That I’m Having Some Health Issues.After I
Didn’t Follow The Narcissists Order.His Demands His
Discarded Me Like Trash 🗑.Its Been Four Yrs And I’m
Still Trying To Get MySelf ToGether.They Are Very Dangerous
Ppl.
Demetria Gaines. me....2...
conchetta M. 😢
They are very dangerous and cause health issues due to their toxic behavior... Seek out a counselor that specializes in narcissistic abuse...
Stay strong 💓
@@princessfa1 Thank U So Very
Much
They flip the script - lol
As you’re catching onto them, questioning them, getting close to dumping them- they quickly flip the script & dump you to feel they have the power over the situation- lol 😂
This is the truth I just had this happen to me couple weeks ago 🤦🏾♀️
Me too...I was so confused and began to question if I was so terrible.
Exactly what happened to me last Saturday
Yes God had the narc leave me! When I realized my Ex was a Narco, I told God, "You have to get the devil out of my house." The devil left in about 3 weeks.
Puff Puff It’s so good to not have to deal with the evil demon anymore. I pray that all will go good for you, and that all good things will come your way now that your free from evil 🕊.
I said "You Man Child' had a similar impact.
@@sinceresong9907 definitely a man child
When the narcissist dumps you just remember that you stood your ground and this creature can no longer control you……time to expose them for who they really are and have no mercy whatsoever on them. 👍
When you become stronger , they get so angry or they go ghost on you . I just ask God to give me the strength to keep pushing forward ♥️. My batteries are burnt out , I am tired of being a puppet 🫀I am so glad I discovered you , this week was the most emotional week for me .
In love bombing stage they can fake and be helpfull
True
Buzzing Bee OH YES
God was protecting me! The soul tie wasnt very strong because I was gaurding my heart!
I guarded my heart as well. it wasnt until after the relationship was over that i understood why i never gave it that access to my heart.
KingdomChyld Moments -VERY WISE!
How to get rid of a narcissist:
Boundaries
Say NO
That’s deep! “They didn’t sign up to meet your needs.”
Preach!!!!!
You know who you are.
I love reason number 8. I feel very blessed that my narcissistic ex is out of my life now ! I have no more frustration, no more confusion and no more stress! I've regained my self respect and started to love myself. Praise the Lord that my nightmare has finally ended after seven years of mental abuse. And thank you for your prayer, Pastor 🙏
3 months free from a 2 yr narcissist. I feel God gave me a new LIFE. No MORE pain nor blame. Best thing ever happened was to LEAVE.
Jermetra Brown I’ve been married 2 years to him. I’m in therapy now and planning my exit. How did you do it? Did you have children with him?
Thanks again Bishop! They also have a tactic to discard you by simply dragging us through the mud until we say ENOUGH! Not all will discard you first. Sometimes they will see just how much your willing to take to ruin yourself! It’s up to the individual to say enough is enough. And to see their value and their worth Love all that you do. Blessing 🤗💕
They dont know to handle you .
Glenniyah Hickman I learned to talk calmly to them. This got rid of them
@@christinekleinschmidt4676 I got rid of pictures, all social media contact, and block phone numbers. If we had friends block them too. I accept no new friends too on social media.
@@KS-zv9lt shut uppp
@@KS-zv9lt yep...isn't that the truth
Exactly!
I welcome their exit. My Dad saved me from a narcissist
Oh yeah! Questioning resulted in major defensiveness and sometimes rage! I was like , Why are you so upset by my question?? Yeah he knew I was seeing what was going on, and things went down hill quickly.
My current story told through his lips. Except I was the one who kept breaking up with him over a 2-year process, oddly he would return asking for another chance.. then finally through a series of events, he convinced me he had changed and was ready to marry in order to prove it. Shortly after marrying, he started trying to repeatedly control me and break me in ungodly ways. I repeatedly stood up to him and he couldn't take being told NO and being held to a place of real accountability. He fled!! 😂😂 I knew God was protecting me with the breakup. And it's only by God's grace that I'm still in my right mind, God strengthened me for the battle and for the exit. Being married to a narcissist produces drama and confusion that is utterly indescribable.
I'll never understand why people just won't grow up and be healed.
Carla Monroe what do you mean told through his lips?
@@dainty_des meaning, the speaker in the video is telling my personal story through his mouthpiece.
Carla Monroe I left mines and moved after 3 years and engaged for 1.5 and he started dated his friends girlfriend of 4 years. I guess it was a desperate pick or maybe he was cheating with her prior to me leaving. They lack moral and will stop at nothing
@@dainty_des.. They ALWAYS have back up supply.. cannot be faithful for long terms. Whoever will feed their over inflated egos will suffice as supply to them.
I am very sorry you had to experience this but at the same time I am glad you survived it because all certifiable narcs will say and do whatever they need to in order to get themselves "branded" inside your head and your heart. They systematically break you down through psychological mind games. They seek to own you mentally and emotionally. This is why when we try to leave them alone, they just do a little hoovering and wal-lah, we allow them back in... it's so HARD to just walk away because they have covertly trained us well.. and then once they are back in, they simply repeat their cycles of breaking us down further in order to render us into nothing but a complete and utter shell of a person, empty, hollow... just so they gain and keep complete and utter control over us. This goes on until we stop it.
They seek to own us. We are prey to them. Nothing more, nothing less.. none of the nice things they do are real.. any nice thing they say, any nice thing they do is because they have wrong motives and hidden agendas that later benefits them.. they have a way of flattering you, doing really great things for you... and then taking advantage of the situation of trust that they put you in to.
Nothing about them on a friendship/relationship level is real. Unfortunately, we fell in love with a mere image, an imposter.
The psychological games and mind abuse leaves devastation upon the victims.
Like you are doing now... it's time to forgive ourselves for allowing self to fall for and stay with someone who (looking back) really did nothing but reek havoc upon us. Real love would have never purposely and systematically done such damage.
Carla Monroe I find myself confused and questioning if I am a Narc but I am self aware, I self reflect, I have sympathy, I even grieved the relationship and lost weight and suffered heart break and had anxiety from it all. I moved out and went no contact but he’s been trying to reach out and keep in communication even with the new supply in his life constantly trying to message, FaceTime and call. Throughout the relationship he would mentally, verbally and physically abuse me and I would do the same. I’m trying to understand if it was a defense mechanism for standing up for myself but he has a history of physical abuse, i notice he rather club and spend time with me than his own children. He had a rotation prior to meeting me which i didn’t think much because he was a bachelor and now understanding Narcissim I realize it wasn’t normal and it’s a Harem and thought it was strange that he kept all his ex girlfriends and ex fucks around. Everything started to make sense and i ignored a lot of red flags due to my own insecurities and emptiness. I just wanted true love
They will dump you when you have a need. True Pastor Blakes! He dumped me when i was pregnant with our baby girl. It was the best thing that has happened to my child & I. The abuse stopped & I.was able to file a restraining order based in his abuse. God is good & knows what He is doing! Thank you Jesus! ❤
Is he supporting the child though
Mine did the same. I was 6 mos pregnant. Unfortunately the court believed his lies and didn’t grant restraining order. Awaiting divorce and custody. When he left, I didn’t allow him to pass back over my threshold. Love don’t live here anymore ... I’m free 🙌🏽
Very well spoken out about these individuals. I have learned so much about them. Suffered so much in my heart. I thought he was a king, but after his terrible behavior I discarded him. Now I am free from his toxic energy, and company, so I’m getting stronger. It’s taken some time but I know I am winning in my own life 💕
Why are there so many out here?.
Share your experience with us.......
Same. I thought he was a king. I was in no rush and slow to trust. He asked me to marry him, introduced me to his family, took my children and I out on dates regularly, gave my teenage son his first job, was never over flattering, was a good provider, protector and father to his only child and to my 3 from a previous marriage. He even asked me to believe in him, trust him and asked me what he’d have to do to have children with me??? What changed? I finally submitted to the idea that he could be the one God created for me. All to break up with me 3 weeks later, but refuse to cut ties. Refused to let me go. Refuse to get his things from my home. Refuse to end it. Kept telling me that he was hurt and thought of me all the time in between blaming me for the breakup when I literally never did anything to him. I cooked and cleaned at my house and his, successfully worked a job and raised 3 wonderful children on my own while remaining supportive of him and his business endeavors. He never asked for money; just time. It wasn’t until the end that I saw all the tiny indicators. So smooth that I was questioning my own character; wondering what I did wrong. Even his mother and daughter are devastated. They morn the relationship because he sold them on the idea only to suddenly rip it away from all of us. Whaaaaaaat? The enemy is so very crafty. I thank God for the deliverance.
When he gets rid of you, what a huge blessing
“Queens ask questions only Kings can answer.” that’s how I ended up here king! Thank you so much for the wisdom 🙏🏾🕊
Thank you Pastor. Once again you have blessed us with truth. The golden nugget in this video was when you said, "when a narcissist dumps you, God is protecting you" Amen!!!!!!!!!
Narcissists are not comfortable & lose interest with people they cannot manipulate or control. I know this for sure! Church, work, family, & so on. No one will control me, hence people move on swiftly. Bye bye 👋 👋 cakes 🍰! 😂😂😂🤣
Well said... once you step back from the abuse and prevent their abuse and manipulation, they lose their sense of power and control. You are beginning the first steps of practising self love, narcissists are no longer attracted to you. Narcissists are self-hating and are attracted to other self-hating people like codependents.
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You sound like a dousche bag
@@NarcSurvivor self hate this, little brain dead dummy...I'm not attracted to a little weak man ....icky
@@theresam.bhikes3583 Why are you so bitter? Seek God for internal healing.
Realisation...I’ve attracted narcissistic men my whole life!! The DAMAGE IS CRAZY. I’m bpd to so it’s worse..I’m learning though and tend to spot them from a mile off now and just disconnect quickly!!!
They pray on loving caring people. Keep loving. Keep being caring. Your King is out there.
I have never slept soo well since I gotten rid of my discomfort. May my Lord and Savior continue to put the hedge of protection around me. Thanks Pastor and your family RESPECTFULLY. COMING FROM WEST PARK FL .
I've listened to this about 4x already I'll be listening to this all night. Going through a very painful break-up with a narcissist - it's draining in every aspect. I won't crawl back this time, hiis lying, cheating and narcissistic abuse won't be tolerated anymore not because I don't love him but because there was beginning to be no me...and someone has to love me and care for me, so it should be me myself and I with my dogs. I appreciate everything you're saying RC. God bless you.
It’s difficult too focus after being with these individuals. 💯
I thought I was going insane
@@usedabusedandmisunderstood8205 Man, they take you on a ride of your life!!!!
Rev. Blakes; I have just discovered you! Your message on Narcissist is spot on. My covert narcissist wife has discarded me and you have explained things much better than the counselors and therapist I've talked with. It's good to hear a biblical explanation of all this. May God continue to bless you and your ministry!! Thanks!!!!
I'm not religious and I watched so many videos about narcissist but the way you explain in this video was the only video that made me feel better.I feel released,I feel free and strong after this video. Thank you
The wisdom in this video is absolutely amazing this deserves an award.
Narc told me he's going to find another woman that'll make him feel loved. I said GOODBYE!
What type of stuff is this??
Saying they will find someone else to love them?
All the while you were doing just that.
Giving your time and that payed off in love.
Good bye
Thank you Pastor for ALL of your teachings on Narcissism! God Bless you for helping all of us victims to learn their strategies and devious ways.. I'm from Paterson, NJ and have been saved for 24 years! Learning these things based on the Word of God only makes it much better! You are loved by many!
God Bless you Pastor Blake's! I'm going through this in this season of my life. This video has blessed me!!! I thank God for you and your wisdom that you share.
There is HEALING in sharing, maybe you should consider sharing your story with us...
1. More difficult to manipulate you.
That was a powerful and much appreciated message, especially when you said the rejection of man is God protecting us when we're not emotionally/mentally strong enough to get out of a situation on our own. God bless you!
"This explosion of narcissism is real."
You made a statement there, which is powerfully true, Sir.
Thank you for making this video for all of us. I spent many years being with a narcissist. When I think back on our relationship I find everything you said here to be spot on. Our relationship was fine as long as I backed down, gave in to every threat (for example "Give up your career or I want a divorce",.... He kept my life going in circles for years by constantly keeping our home filled with his family, his parents, his sister and brothers, his sister in law (and her mother)..... He'd tell me things like, "You shouldn't feel like that" if my feelings or thoughts were not in line with his. When I started to stand up for myself is when we began to have relationship problems.Thank you for this it helps with recovery and learning to believe in myself again.
This is SO accurate. My ex husband said to me “he felt like an actor” in our relationship. I mean that’s textbook narc but At the time, I didn’t get it but it’s been 8 years now and it makes so much sense!! Back then nothing made any sense & I couldn’t connect the dots. Wish I had known the depths of narcissism as I was going through it. Healing is possible friends!
Mans rejection IS God’s protection!!
Welp...married him...tied me up tight. I'm just smh hard here. After the affairs I had to walk away. OMG yes, I started asking more questions and his response was always, "why am I under interrogation?" Yep, I felt like a basket case. They will cut you off from all of your friends and family. This is a great post pastor.
God will heal you. You have to rebuild yourself by identifying yourself by what GOD SAYS OF YOU. Renewing of your mind 💜 some days will be hard, especially when the memories creep up and you look back and realize the truth... Don't let them get to you, keep going forward. Cling to God
Sounds like you have a lot to offer the rest of us...you have valuable information that could help some one...think about it.
Your comment just blew my mind! My husband, who just left our family out of the blue, would ask me the same thing. Why am I under interrogation or why are you interrogating me? Wow!! We were married for 18 years, together for 20 and he just left! I still pray for him, but I'm also keeping my head up. Honestly its like a big weight that has been lifted off me. stay prayed up and keep your head up so your crown won't fall.
22:42 God is protecting you 🙏🏾. Thank you R. C.
"The rejection of man is the protection of God." This is true!
Lord! This deserves an award!! You have described my life to the T....I was in a prison and god freed ME!!! God Bless your very soul Pastor Blakes 🙌🏽🙏🏽❤️. Bless God!!! Thank You!!
Shirley Madiva , me too!! I am so happy I found this video. It confirms what I already know. Thank God I got away from this evil person!!
When you know, you go!
Rachele Gilbert Amen! I like that one.
When you go,,, go quiet and fast, and stay no contact!!!!
Rachele Gilbert yea last year the 1st time I know abt the narc ,I left n never come back
You still leave with a broken heart, because you were in love with there lies. They used you, and never loved you from the beginning.
That need to be on a T-shirt. Lol.
Boy oh boy you said a mouth full
Thank you , and thank you, Pastor. You nail it all the time. Your preaching shouldn't be missed by a single woman living I this world.. You've explained the journey I've had in my life in a far better way. Thank God I'm still beautiful inside out. Your preachings are GOLDEN. KEEP IT UP PASTOR. MAY GOD BLESS YOU ALL THE DAYS OF YOUR LIFE..
2024...every thing you've said here Sir is true and makes so much sense. Thank you for your teachings always. ❤
Awesome word! There is a serious epidemic going on regarding this. I truly believe that when someone shows you who you are, don’t think twice, GO🏃🏾♀️. #breakingloosenow
I have watched many of your videos, but this one definitely struck a chord more so than any others. Two years of dealing with a narcissist and questioning myself. Wish I knew then what I know now! But it's ok, I've survived and learned the lessons I needed to learn. Many thanks, Pastor Blakes, for all that you and your wife do for us.
Hi, Pastor Blakes! 😊 I’m still recovering from a marriage that ended in divorce to a narcissist 1 year ago. Your wisdom and knowledge are helping me through the recovery and healing process. I appreciate you for doing this!😊💕❤️🙏
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Michelle Rosario Thank you. I’m so sorry to hear that you encountered another one. I pray for your healing along with mine.
Augusta Yarteh Thanks!
Michelle Rosario. Thats how it usually happens. Unless you work on yourself, you'll keep meeting them. Im still not dating and its been a year since my narcissistic relationship ended. Im enjoying loving me.
Nzuri Asante ❤
You truly said what I needed to hear. I am a strong woman but after taking care of my parents for 20 years, I wanted someone younger in my life. I wanted fun and companionship. Too bad it was a narcissist! He rejected me. Although strong, I was too nice to take the lead. God has protected me and I am blessed. I look forward to moving on and finding a good man in my life. Thank you.
Listening… smiling…. Saying “THANK YOU LORD” EVERYTHING you said l can relate to, Thank you God for saving me 🙌🏽
Sad to say I married one and now I filed for a divorce.
Eva Jimenez Me too for 17yrs...divorcing him was the beginning of self love, blessings and peace. Hang in there...your life will improve tremendously!!
@@lg8wood Thanks
Me too! My divorce is final in May. We will be fine!
Eva Jimenez My divorce is final May 17: He always cheated,lied, abused me verbally and physically, belittled me and all that other crazy stuff they do. I’m still trying to get myself back up. I am feeling better though. I pray you are too. Love and Light.
I really need to watch this Everytime I'm feeling down confused,Lonley or
Just having a bad day.
Excellent! Unfortunately, I experienced a few of these not recognizing what they were and conscious of my vulnerabilities/weaknesses. I'm good now! I got this😊...please keep doing what you are doing, increasing awareness and educating those who are lost and struggling but wanting to find answers!
This is the most amazing and accurate video I’ve found about narcissism. I’m learning as I just got discarded by my narc husband, I begged and begged him to stay in my life. He would leave me or threatened me to leave me about once a week, and then he would pull me back. I was a wreck, I didn’t know what was going on.. I tried to talk with him but I couldn’t get emotional, I could even cry in front of him because he would call me “pathetic, weak, victim mentality, etc etc”. I prayed on my knees so many times for the Lord to help me and help my marriage but He answers in different ways. I became pregnant when I less expected and that’s when I needed of my husband the most.. but that’s when he discarded me for good. He did so in the most painful and cold way ever imagined. That happened just before Christmas (less than a month ago) and I’m so deeply hurt. I might start counseling next week, and hopefully keep finding sense to what I went through. I used to believe I wasn’t enough for him, that I was unworthy and I needed to work harder..but no, those were all lies that the enemy wanted me to believe.. I was so hopeless, and I still have days that are harder than others where I can’t stop crying, it’s hard to function and I can’t even sleep. This is the hardest thing I’ve ever gone through in my life but y’all please pray that God keeps lifting me up, that I surrender to Him everyday for his strength and his help. Thank you for this video, so real it brought tears to my eyes but also brought me HOPE.
God is using you to set people free from their lies!! Thank you for sharing your thoughts.❤️
I didn’t even know I was dealing with a narcissist until i did research and he had all the characteristics of one exactly. They are very sweet in the beginning and then they look for any reason to snap and then they start to accuse u of cheating all the time and then the put downs and name calling and then it goes to isolation where they don’t want u to even go out with ur friends cause that makes them feel “uncomfortable” and then u can’t tell them no or they give u silent treatment and explode with rage on u as if they are going to go nuts !!!!
I did tons of research on all the cluster b disorders , to the point I knew for sure my x was a mixed bag of all four. Some how I managed to get him to agree to be diagnosed . ( malignant) npd , aspd and hpd . Also has Dissociative identity disorder. Lord help him .
Even prior to the official diagnoses I had already planned to leave .... diagnoses or not I’m done with the behaviors . He let me go with no fight . I had ripped his mask off and he knew it and the diagnoses just sealed the deal .
I will say this if you find yourself pulling your hair out , trying to explain to an adult how to act ...... please please please walk away and let them go and let god deal with them .
If your in doubt
2 Timothy 3
april9997 worst 16 years of my life , but it was also a blessing . It really makes you look at your own behaviors and question why do we tolerate this , and once your understand why everything starts to make sense . When you know better you do better and for me personally I’ve learned to listen to my intuition and trust that its alarm bells to get away from that person or situation immediately.
Sounds like you have a lot to offer the rest of us...you have valuable information that could help some one...think about it.
Jay T the best advice I can give anyone is trust your intuition ., the gut brain is your alarm to tell you something is off , don’t ignore it . Very much like the animal kingdom , they know to either fight or flight .
www.hyperbiotics.com/blogs/recent-articles/gut-feelings-trusting-your-intuition
Thank you😇😍
Angelique Grace I knew from the start something was off and didn’t listen to my intuition and after the hoovering I surrendered. Stayed two years and a half, left in January. He is proud to tell me all his exes have already called him to reconnect and one of them is moving in very soon. Last week he asked me if he could call me when finished with his new supply., I think I am the only person who took off his mask but yet it is all my fault. My eldest daughter stopped talking to me since I left. They don’t see it cause he is such a good guy. Feel very sorry for my 10 year old daughter, he told her he misses me. What a devil !
Hey Pastor Blakes! I finally realize that I met/married/divorced a narcissist. Now, I’m on the road to healing. Love ❤️ you for sharing this!!!
I thank god the narc I was seeing discarded me. I’m healing from this. I loved him and he used me. God is with me
My narc husband discarded me 5 months ago and we are in the process of a divorce. I had a thought just the other day that maybe God was protecting me because I KNOW I would never have left him. You got to number 8 and I just started praying in gratitude. Thank you for this video