Hey everyone hope this was helpful! Leave me a comment with your thoughts? Be sure to check out my brand new masterclass on the 3 Steps to Heal Yourself after a Toxic Relationship Ends (Warning: Spots are limited) 🗒 Here is the link to the MASTERCLASS! -> www.healyourheart.school/webinar 🎁 Download the FREE GUIDE! -> www.healyourheart.school/guide 💕 Apply For Heal Your Heart School Here! www.healyourheart.school/call
You give ineffective/poor advice, even if it is well intentioned. You, the way you move about in life, are, basically, a sitting duck for conmen like this: ruclips.net/video/Kn7GImMD1Eg/видео.htmlsi=KbUSXH0bWBA01umF
I haven't dated for 3 years. I started learning about healthy relationships this year, and have recently looked into healthy dating. When/if I feel the appeal of dating again, I'll definitely be booking Amy's course prior to joining the dating scene. I'm enjoying getting to know myself and learning to love myself in the meantime.
I quickly learned how to be a high value person. But let me tell you.. here you have to be extremely patient.. Whenever I find someone that I like they later on appear not to be emotionally available or not interested in me. Other people that show an interest towards me make it only and very sexual so I always cut these type of men off. Other guys that like me are genuinely boring because I’m quite adventurous, smart, looking for new experiences. I’m not seeking for a toxic man I just want someone with higher energy than mine. I gave some more time to the “boring” guys however it doesn’t work at all.. Always after a date with them I am extremely miserable and tired. Maybe my problem is that I am a high value woman actually? Maybe I should start dealing with the sexual bullshit many men start with and maybe I should pursue men more? Because whenever I feel someone disrespects my time I go back to focusing on myself and don’t try to “make him like me”. And maybe all of my friends that are in relationships for years did just that at the beginning? Maybe we should lower our standards at the beginning? I don’t know..
Dating as a high value person is a true test of patience! There's no problem that you've raised your standards :-) You are only looking for one high value match... don't focus on anyone that doesn't match that.
Hahahaha, this has been my life experience exactly!! Some men lust after me or they are too boring or they just want to start a relationship right away - I keep cutting them off and raising my standards every time, enjoying my best single life. Keep following your intuition - you have balanced feminine & masculine energy within and need a partner who can match that/be more in his masculine and be wildly alive with you! :-)
@londynskieporady428 I think you are right. Most women I know in relationships basically went ‘I want that guy’ those guys often didn’t know what hit them!! Not saying that that’s the way. But certainly a lot of women spin a story about being pursued, when really they did EVERYTHING except the ‘would you like to have a drink’ part. So yes, be proactive! I’ve just started trying to be for the first time in my life!! I basically asked a guy if he spoke English, his reply was ‘let’s meet for a drink tonight’ Sometimes you just need to give them an opportunity to connect.
For me, the greatest benefit has been introspection and acknowledging how I can contribute to the same choices, and attracting the same men resulting in the same issues. I realized I had to choose differently, based off Einsteins, definition of insanity, repeating the same pattern… I realized I had poor boundaries, low, emotional intelligence and communication skills… This is paramount in to selecting better options… However, they are more limited, but at least I do not abandon and love myself. I can meet all of my own needs and I don’t need somebody else to make me feel good. I keep my personal power and self-love. Though I have been guilty of the latter, I develop self compassion. You can’t do this, and I have confidence you can have true intimacy with emotionally available man.
I enjoy looking at and learning about the 50/50 rule graphic and the thin-film, flexible for movement, but non-permeable bubble to surround us to safely hold who we are.
At first i thought this was mumbo jumbo but as i concluded the video, the things You discuss and mention can only become manifest if A person has developed a deeper awareness of themselves. Also im always admitting to where i was at fault in any conflict that arises but have had exes in the past that were always hiding parts of theirselves and id end up becoming frustrated because when the other person does that, its very difficult to conect with them at a level that is inevitably needed in order for the relationship to endure over time. I ended up really enjoying this video and its validated Me even though i honestly didnt necessarily need it per se but it feels good that it happened
Great advice thank you. I feel that I’ve found a high value woman and this advice is very timely so that I can understand and appreciate her perspective.
Question - how do you know if a new person you're dating is showing up and aware of their shadow side versus showing just a small portion of their real selves? Some people are very good at seemingly being self-aware but I've been fooled by what they turn out to be down the road, and I"m regretting I've ever gotten entangled with them - and I wish I knew beforehand because I wouldn't have dated them at all!
This is such a great question, thank you for asking! The only answer is time. A person who is masking or covering/hiding their shadow can only do it for so long. It might take a few weeks or months, but you'll see cracks in how they appear: inconsistency of behaviour, actions/words not matching, inability to engage in healthy conflict or respect healthy boundaries. Does that make sense?
@@LoveByDesign It does. And that's what happened. The cracks and the inconsistencies. Twice in a row for me I really was too forward with taking people at face value when using the dating apps - to be specific - and its so apparent that a person can say they are literally anything - on an app, so getting to know someone off an app (as opposed to being in the world of dating generally) I believe is fraught with risks - I know now to still remain skeptical well past the time I have been allotting - give it 6 months to a year, before one can believe the 'real' person is showing up, not their filtered version - I've felt as though I've been 'duped' and it's a terrible thing to go thru because it feels quite disturbing to have put oneself into a situation where had I known, I NEVER would have ventured into it
With this video you create more harmful concepts in people's minds than we already have. If some person doesn't see my value this is his loss 🔥🔥🔥 not mine. Maybe you have a good idea there like "people, please value your time", but it is sunken in all another unnecessary dramatic information
Hi ☺️ the “unnecessary dramatic information” is research-driven strategies and tools that change people’s lives. Please don’t come onto my channel and post comments like this, simply move on and don’t watch my content. Thanks 🙏
Hey everyone hope this was helpful! Leave me a comment with your thoughts? Be sure to check out my brand new masterclass on the 3 Steps to Heal Yourself after a Toxic Relationship Ends (Warning: Spots are limited)
🗒 Here is the link to the MASTERCLASS! -> www.healyourheart.school/webinar
🎁 Download the FREE GUIDE! -> www.healyourheart.school/guide
💕 Apply For Heal Your Heart School Here! www.healyourheart.school/call
You give ineffective/poor advice, even if it is well intentioned.
You, the way you move about in life, are, basically, a sitting duck for conmen like this: ruclips.net/video/Kn7GImMD1Eg/видео.htmlsi=KbUSXH0bWBA01umF
i stopped dating 10 years ago yet find this so interesting
I haven't dated for 3 years. I started learning about healthy relationships this year, and have recently looked into healthy dating. When/if I feel the appeal of dating again, I'll definitely be booking Amy's course prior to joining the dating scene.
I'm enjoying getting to know myself and learning to love myself in the meantime.
I quickly learned how to be a high value person. But let me tell you.. here you have to be extremely patient.. Whenever I find someone that I like they later on appear not to be emotionally available or not interested in me. Other people that show an interest towards me make it only and very sexual so I always cut these type of men off. Other guys that like me are genuinely boring because I’m quite adventurous, smart, looking for new experiences. I’m not seeking for a toxic man I just want someone with higher energy than mine.
I gave some more time to the “boring” guys however it doesn’t work at all.. Always after a date with them I am extremely miserable and tired.
Maybe my problem is that I am a high value woman actually? Maybe I should start dealing with the sexual bullshit many men start with and maybe I should pursue men more? Because whenever I feel someone disrespects my time I go back to focusing on myself and don’t try to “make him like me”. And maybe all of my friends that are in relationships for years did just that at the beginning? Maybe we should lower our standards at the beginning? I don’t know..
Dating as a high value person is a true test of patience! There's no problem that you've raised your standards :-) You are only looking for one high value match... don't focus on anyone that doesn't match that.
Hahahaha, this has been my life experience exactly!! Some men lust after me or they are too boring or they just want to start a relationship right away - I keep cutting them off and raising my standards every time, enjoying my best single life. Keep following your intuition - you have balanced feminine & masculine energy within and need a partner who can match that/be more in his masculine and be wildly alive with you! :-)
@londynskieporady428 I think you are right. Most women I know in relationships basically went ‘I want that guy’ those guys often didn’t know what hit them!! Not saying that that’s the way. But certainly a lot of women spin a story about being pursued, when really they did EVERYTHING except the ‘would you like to have a drink’ part.
So yes, be proactive! I’ve just started trying to be for the first time in my life!! I basically asked a guy if he spoke English, his reply was ‘let’s meet for a drink tonight’ Sometimes you just need to give them an opportunity to connect.
That was quite a shock to me I will say! Pretty sure that wouldn’t happen every time 😂
For me, the greatest benefit has been introspection and acknowledging how I can contribute to the same choices, and attracting the same men resulting in the same issues. I realized I had to choose differently, based off Einsteins, definition of insanity, repeating the same pattern… I realized I had poor boundaries, low, emotional intelligence and communication skills… This is paramount in to selecting better options… However, they are more limited, but at least I do not abandon and love myself. I can meet all of my own needs and I don’t need somebody else to make me feel good. I keep my personal power and self-love. Though I have been guilty of the latter, I develop self compassion. You can’t do this, and I have confidence you can have true intimacy with emotionally available man.
This is the best dating guru Ive ever found and I'm 45
Thank you! 🙏 (although I'm not a guru lol)
@@LoveByDesign hehe well whatever you are you changed my life
I enjoy looking at and learning about the 50/50 rule graphic and the thin-film, flexible for movement, but non-permeable bubble to surround us to safely hold who we are.
At first i thought this was mumbo jumbo but as i concluded the video, the things You discuss and mention can only become manifest if A person has developed a deeper awareness of themselves.
Also im always admitting to where i was at fault in any conflict that arises but have had exes in the past that were always hiding parts of theirselves and id end up becoming frustrated because when the other person does that, its very difficult to conect with them at a level that is inevitably needed in order for the relationship to endure over time.
I ended up really enjoying this video and its validated Me even though i honestly didnt necessarily need it per se but it feels good that it happened
Your content is amazing and so helpful to me. I can tell you are walking in your purpose. Please keep going! ❤
Oh thank you!! I'm just about to start posting again 😊
I'm loving your content. Thank you Amy ❤
So good, thank you!❤️
You are so welcome!!
When you explain, I'd really like if you'd give examples. Thank you Amy.
Have you written a book or course as I learn better by reading. Thanks
Not yet! It's in the pipeline 😊
Great video, i have learnt a lot
Esther Perel is amazing. I wish we had some more of these resources long ago, but now is also good!
I am learning. Thank you.
Learning and growing, nothing more beautiful than a flourishing human, discovering themselves, and falling in love again.
Great advice thank you. I feel that I’ve found a high value woman and this advice is very timely so that I can understand and appreciate her perspective.
I’m so glad to hear this!
Discovered you this week n love your content …
I'm so glad to hear this! ❤️
hello, I'm new to your channel I love it. Question. How do I know if I'm avoidant?
I'm enjoying your channel, thanks so much!
So glad to hear it Liz! 😊
Question - how do you know if a new person you're dating is showing up and aware of their shadow side versus showing just a small portion of their real selves? Some people are very good at seemingly being self-aware but I've been fooled by what they turn out to be down the road, and I"m regretting I've ever gotten entangled with them - and I wish I knew beforehand because I wouldn't have dated them at all!
This is such a great question, thank you for asking! The only answer is time. A person who is masking or covering/hiding their shadow can only do it for so long. It might take a few weeks or months, but you'll see cracks in how they appear: inconsistency of behaviour, actions/words not matching, inability to engage in healthy conflict or respect healthy boundaries. Does that make sense?
@@LoveByDesign It does. And that's what happened. The cracks and the inconsistencies. Twice in a row for me I really was too forward with taking people at face value when using the dating apps - to be specific - and its so apparent that a person can say they are literally anything - on an app, so getting to know someone off an app (as opposed to being in the world of dating generally) I believe is fraught with risks - I know now to still remain skeptical well past the time I have been allotting - give it 6 months to a year, before one can believe the 'real' person is showing up, not their filtered version - I've felt as though I've been 'duped' and it's a terrible thing to go thru because it feels quite disturbing to have put oneself into a situation where had I known, I NEVER would have ventured into it
Great video
This is great!!!!
Thank you so much! 🙏
After your video I just want to stop dating.
If that’s right for you honour that ❤️
With this video you create more harmful concepts in people's minds than we already have. If some person doesn't see my value this is his loss 🔥🔥🔥 not mine. Maybe you have a good idea there like "people, please value your time", but it is sunken in all another unnecessary dramatic information
Hi ☺️ the “unnecessary dramatic information” is research-driven strategies and tools that change people’s lives. Please don’t come onto my channel and post comments like this, simply move on and don’t watch my content. Thanks 🙏
@olgapuma1977 I don't see anything harmful in this video, maybe you missunderstood sth? I found it helpful and healthy :)