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Congratulations on 100 videos! I look forward to watching them all!

Sorry just from the the titel, what for people like me that are autistic we (talking about meself but also autistic people) that wish they would be emotionele availeble but they dont have it because are brain works differently from none autistic person. Sorry for al the people here that date or is in relationship with some with autisme. But we want to be availeble emotionele but we dont understand the signs or how to open it up.

Your videos are so encouraging and enlightening! Do you have anyone you would recommend who teaches similarly to you, from a masculine perspective? Everything you share here is valid for any gender I think but I know your focus is more towards the feminine.

WOW did not realize until watching this that I have been seeking the attachment style I was used to..wantimg to feel nervous and anxious as a sign of there being more potential or something only because it was actually what I am familiar with...powerful. watching because I am talking to a new person but haven't felt that and worried it wasn't a good thing but it actually is..

I wish that the suggested videos at the end were linked so I could click on them. I would like to watch them.

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I really got a lot out of this. Thank you. I will say that when trying to find a partner in your late 50"s, the part about deep questions and love bombing early may not apply. We should be older, confident and mature enough to talk about deep feelings early on. I enter every date as if I have known them for years. It "weeds-out" those who don't know who they are or who do not know what they want or need in a relationship. So I am not looking for red flags. I am just being in a relationship right away and they typically realize certain things then disappear.

At 34 this is me. I want a strong relationship but only entertain my past type who I know has a dark past like myself & won’t love me correctly. I try to talk to nice men but something always turns me off or I feel I cannot relate to them so I back off. Working on myself

100 Episodes!! 🎉 Congratulations and thank you so much. You have truly made such a difference in my life ❤

This I don’t identify with….not my type,of unavailability

This is TOP quality content! Thank you!

Thank you for sharing Amy 🙏

Thank you for sharing your wisdom. I agree that we all hold our own inner feminine and masculine parts and according to Jung, it’s in a dynamic process of balance and imbalance. I hold a difference that we can attract a partner who are exploring both like us. When the two feminie parts meet it can be quite sweet and sometimes a bit chaotic, sure, almost like two women living together syncing their menstrual cycle. Or when the two masculine parts meet and have escalated conflicts and power struggles. And it’s ok, it’s part of getting to know each other and integrating parts within in us. That’s the fun part of growing together in relationships. Again it’s important to have the capacity to be aware , hold our parts, and discern if the other person can do the same.

I see myself on both sides of this . Manipulator and manipulated. TY.

I’ve seen so many people struggling in relationships with abusers unfortunately. Both men and women... I wish they all watched your video and realized what healthy relationship should be in reality. Thank you for telling these important things.

Wow, this is so insightful. I've done so much work to address these patterns over time, and now I can proudly say I'm to the point where, though I want to over-give, I can consciously stop myself. It's a bit painful, though. I tend to be attracted to relatively unavailable people, but I can stop over-investing and match their energy as I start being honest with myself. What I still don't understand is what I'm supposed to do when I'm overflowing with this urge to show affection. It does stem from feeling unworthy, but how do I stop the urge? Hobbies help but they're not enough. Making healthy meals and nourishing myself helps but it's not enough. I can suppress the urge to reach out and spoil someone who doesn't want to be spoiled, but then where does that energy go if it doesn't overflow and turn into grief? I spend far too much time thinking about them and it distracts me. That's my current work in progress.

I recently met someone like this, I couldn't stand it for more than six weeks... It's over now 😢

Extremely accurate description. I'm starting to acknowledge the wordless "feeling" of abandonment and loneliness. I had babysitters and a father who sanctioned abuse, then abused me emotionally himself. He had untreated issues, obviously. Thanks Amy.

It’s like being loved at arms length. I made it 4.5 years with one and finally gave up. I want someone who can comfort me when I need it, not change the subject to try to distract me. My dog died and all my partner could do was talk about himself/another subject so I wouldn’t cry in front of him. No thanks. I’m in therapy now to heal myself from my own unavailability and the things that kept me staying/hoping for my partner to change. My parents are still married, but it was an unloving/transactional relationship so it’s what I thought was normal. It’s very empty.

I ended a 9yr relationship this February. This video perfectly summarized why. Attaining my LICSW licensure this coming year after fearing I could never have the capacity to be a counselor again 3yrs ago. All these things are related.

Amy I'm not try to bash any info in this video because I have been this man I I figured out I was emotionally unavailable . But realized I have to change . I lost a gf because this. I always had a wall up. I'm trying to get better . To have a chance again with her.

unrelated but i have similar hair type and i am curious what you use to curl your hair....looks great 💜

I broke up with my ex two years ago. We were together 4.5 years. I loved him, but he kept our relationship stagnant and not progressing. I finally left him. He moved on right away into his next long term relationship, even though he continuously drove past my house for 6 months after. He never tried to communicate with me. I have felt regret since and haven’t been able to get over him fully for the last two years. I guess I left him hoping he would realized he loved me and wanted to be with me, but he didn’t. I can see my own wounds through this, but it doesn’t change how much I miss him.

Very helpful. Thank you!

I like the flower! :)

2:30 till 3:22 hit hard

Why do we say reptilian brain?

Healthy secure relationship, please. Healthy secure mature partner. That's all I want to manifest.

I have been noticing that since my husband died suddenly I am now experiencing fear of abandonment and attachment issues I never had before. I had a situationship for a few months and broke it off because I knew it was toxic and it’s taking me a crazy amount of time to move on! This explains a lot for me!

Your video really just helped my clouded confused mind. Thank you 🙏🏻

Thank you. Very helpful

Find it very vague.

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Going through divorce and realizing this is exactly what I have been dealing with all of my life helps me not feel so overwhelmed and feeling Hope.

This applies to anyone at any age. I am in my late 60's and still experiencing this...

I got involved with a emotional unavailable person I didn’t not want was going on until he pulled away from me without any explanation

In the case of the individual I am with, he comes across as really sorted but i find him resonanting with whatever you said in the video. He is clear that love hurts. And he doesnt want pain yet he wants me. Is there a way to conclude if a person is emotionally unavailable

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I've been with my guy for 6 years!! I'm so entrenched and its so hard to give up on him. Is there a difference between emotionally unavailable men and an avoidant?

I have a honest question ladies, why are men this way? Im often left thinking something is wrong with me, im often questioned, "why are you such a wuss" "stop acting like a women, be a man" "ben men dont act like this" Ive struggled in youth, school, home, and life in general with men and women alike bashing me for having empathy for womens needs and rights, i really do stuggle deeply trying to make people understand that its just my heart, its my kindness, and empathy that you see. Its never been an act, and when i was hurting and emotionally unstable i acted in ways that were foreign to me and to this day i still hear the talking behind my back and the way people treat me when i stick up for women or the vulnerable. I thought this is what real men were all about, but more and more in learning that the feelings i share aren't shared with members of my community. sidenote: I know right from wrong, but i just never could understand why i was different than these other men, ive lived a life chasing what i should have been, rather than who i really was. Im learning and ive taken steps to change everything, i left everyone behind, and the places im going now, are where my heart was ment to be all along. I just want to say to all women. You guys have made my life amazing, and even more than that, you are the glue which holds this world together ❤ i dont know where i would be without you amazing women, thank you all for existing, all of you! May you all have a happy holidays and i wish you all well on your journey!