I think my relationships go more like: 1. Attraction 2. Learning more about each other 3. Building comfort and trust 4. Realising I was just imagining it
1. Trying to learn everything about each other on the first date 2. Trying to feel and give comfort and trust without chemistry 3. Doubting stage 4. Attraction (delayed response) 5. He has someone else available
for me: 1. attraction 2. learning more about each other 3. comfort and trust 4. best friends 5. rejection on either side 6. doubting 7. distant and brocken
My first relationship went more of a no interest to friendship to attraction and then knowing each other and then partners. Then we broke up 8 months later and I became depressed now I'm getting gains. Still lonely af and depressed tho 😃👌
1. Attraction 2. Love bombing 3. I'm all in 4. I notice them becoming distant 5. I notice them not commiting 6.They blame me for being insecure and jealous and unstable, while chatting with others 7. I move on heartbroken
@@randoonyoutube I've been reading this for over 10 years, nothing like that happened ever, in my experience, after social media and online dating apps took over the society, women went only for that top 1-3 % of men and that's it, the baddie and/or money man that runs away and then women cry while saying the classic mistake: "all men are bad", childish mindset at its worst.
@@Cerenduil Sure sounds like you're projecting. You're portraying "women" as ALL women, meaning that you're doing the exact thing you're complaining about and assuming that the entirety of a half of a species is both unreasonable and delusional. How in the heck of 50% of 7 billion people could there not be a few "stragglers" that are actually good just trying to catch another good. In fact, the majority of people on dating apps are actually men because women typically fear and have been taught to fear online interactions and meetups more than men
1- attraction 2- learning more about them 3- building comfort and trust 4- actually going on dates 5- seduction 6- the honeymoon phase 7- the doubting phase 8- commitment and stability
@@ShnobbsReal I never got past 4 so to me you're doing great. This video is depressing! Those first few steps still seem insurmountable after decades, and they're telling me the hardest part is later on.
I never found the guy at frist attractive it was more like when he started talking to me and then I started like him. Then later I realised he was good looking.
same here, i always thought he was a "bad boy" but when i got to know him better i saw he was so far from what i expected him to be, he actually changed for me.
0:36 attraction 1:05 learning more about them 1:29 building comfort and trust 2:04 actually going on dates 2:32 seduction 3:07 the honeymoon phase 3:47 the doubting phase 4:33 commitment and stablity
I made this comment to serve as my reviewer for our mapeh class since our teacher said that the things mentioned in this vid are gonna come out on our quiz, I rlly didn't know this had lots of likes lmao y'all are welcome ig (yep that school year has already ended and I did great on that quiz :)
Stage 5: Still trying to know everything about her. Stage 6: Fall in love with her. Stage 7: Ask her to go out on a date. Stage 8: Get a polite but not clear rejection, so you still have hope. Stage 9: Try it one month later again. Stage 10: Get again a rejection but this time with a reason that Breaks your heart. Stage 11: Crying for days and weeks to never reach your dream woman...😭
i just wanna say: *its okay to not have a relationship like this! it’s ok to skip stages, it’s ok to not have a seduction stage or not do passionate/sexual things at all!! your relationship is valid regardless if it fits this specific mold !!* i love the video tho i just ;; i feel like it treats this as the only option which it’s totally not
I can feel you im Ace and the honeymoon stage is a nope for me. Even tho it might be cuz im in my first realitionship and me and my gf aren't together for very long i know that this stages is a big nope for me
What works for some people might not work for others there's no point comparing your relationships or friendships even to others if you are happy together
I think they are correct in the stages but they are not always in that order, sometimes I will skip straight to passionately sometimes straight to dating and being comfortable. Every relationship is different
What happens if I want a relationship but I don't like when they touch me in my oppnion I hate it , like what if I can't make a guy happy caus when wants to touch me but I don't allow it because it make some uncomfortable
@Some Rando Filipino @@Psych2go Yo. Recently got into a committed relationship with someone I had been "just friends" with for over two years before the stars aligned and I stepped up to the challenge with a wonderful woman. I think the video touched upon one thing that should be gone into more depth - how so many couples show themselves as perfect on social media. They're often not. I mean, certainly I am sure that there plenty of happy couples but the reality is that not every moment with your partner is going to be SQUEEE FOR THE GRAM worthy and really, it shouldn't frickin' be. Yeah I'll stick a cheeky little reference to when we had a "date" which consisted of us playing classic Doom in co-op mode and you better believe I'm proud to have someone who can do that with me, but seriously, the vast moments in your relationship should largely be for YOU AND HIM/HER/THEY/WHATEVER. The fact of the matter is that the best moments in your shared lives won't be the epic travels but more the little moments when you're just laying in bed reflecting. Holding her when she's feeling down and being willing to show your most vulnerable self to her with the knowledge that she won't think you're a wuss. I'm rambling but the truth is that you can be in a relationship with virtually everyone. We are nothing yet we are everything - a perpetual blank slate that will be defined by the next words written on it. So what words do you want written on you? Peace and happy new year.
@@ethanloch3802Bro.. That's incredible.. She may be just a figment of your imagination but well... Who knows? Depending on your mindset, it may just become a reality
I feel like these steps probably apply for people who are generally mentally and emotionally healthy. As a person with severe anxiety, depression, and a background of trauma, my relationships seem to follow a similar timeline but, for example, the "doubting" phase is constant and it's not because I'm with the wrong partner, it's because there are things I need to work through. Learning to trust is also very, very slow and the comfort of being vulnerable does not come until later. I'm also dating someone I became friends with first and became attracted to later. There may be a general pattern with human relationships, but there is no norm that everyone should follow or a way every relationship should look. Work on being your best self!
Lol. I just don't attempt relationships. I'd treat any woman I end up with like shit, so I stay single. Beyond that, I'm just stuck taking care of my actual family, mother, sister, brother for the foreseeable future. By the time I'd be free to pursue romance, and hopefully mentally ready for it, I'll be 50 at the youngest or 60 at the oldest. And it's not like anyone of us is attracted to old people. We simply remain attracted to our lover as they age. I'm not gonna WANT romance by the time I'm free to.
As a person with really low self-esteem, I went through the doubt stage through the whole relationship. But as the relationship progressed, I was more confident about myself and got through the stage. After year and half, it's easy to say that this stage is behind me even though it seems surreal. I have to say one thing though... I'm lucky. From my point of view it's hard to find someone who would accept you the way you are, won't rush things, and respect your fears and help you overcome them
I’m in that stage right now. I am the one going through it. I have an amazing girlfriend who is very understanding, loving, and supportive. Even after I have talked with her about this, she still is the same way. All I can say is that I am blessed to have her in my life. It does feel weird to be in this stage.
TALK to your partner if you're in the doubting phase. And if you truly love your partner, other couples on the internet don't matter and don't affect you.
This is where I am right now and I'm a little worried because he's great 😔 but yeah we're already in the midst of the "doubt" talk. On the flip of that I'm kind of glad to see that the doubting is normal- I don't feel so alone now.
Midnight Sarrow 160 my guess is the trait of obsession. Some ad gives you a hint. A second guess would be to point out that they have to make the stage of switching the year of their videos.
Depression: How long have we been dating? Over 5 years now? Anxiety: Pfft small number that is. I've been with him since the age of 10. goodness 1k likes?
Official Reviews that’s an oof, online dating isn’t for everyone. I personally handle online relationships very well! It honestly just depends on not only who you are as a person, but also what the other person is like!
When I first met my girlfriend almost 6 years ago in Gr10 of high school we instantly clicked as friends. It was the first time I wasn't as shy with someone before and we became the best of friends. Honestly I didn't know I was attracted to her because at that time I didn't think that I was anything but heterosexual (god was I wrong there heh). We know each other inside and out and really love each other dearly. I've been in love with her for 4 years before I got the confidence of telling her how much I love her. We recently celebrated our first anniversary ❤️
I'm in my first relationship right now, but with my boyfriend, I think the first time I started to have true romantic feelings for him was on our first date. Even though I was definitely starting to like him before that, I think that realization really set in as I got to know him better. Being attracted to someone's personality is definitely the most important part, and I'd say looks are just a bonus.
I had a girlfriend that pushed me into the 7th stage in less than a month. When I broke up with her, she started stalking me. It was crazy. Thank God for the support that I got.
It is so nice to know that the doubting phase is normal. My partner and I are coming out of the end of it right now, and it is very comforting to know that this stage was not a sign that we do not work as a couple. :)
Don't speak for everyone. I feel absolutely secure with who I am and I love being alone. I'm in a relationship because I want give love back and share my life with someone.
for everyone who is talking abt how single and sad they are, everything's gonna be fine, i was very sad after a being in a toxic and mentally and physically abusing relationship, but when i stoped looking for a relationship i got to know the most amazing and genuine human being and i love him a lot. it definitely changed my life so much and it happened so random. so don't worry, you'll meet that one person sooner or later and it will probably be when you'll expect it the least sending love to everyone
@@uen1857 ive been cruising single life on autopilot for years now. Im getting used to rot up in loneliness while litterally the rest of planet Are in relationships.
Clicked for the title, stayed for the comment section. You folks are genuinely awesome! - From a single male in his 3*-s, completely and utterly unaware of what "passion" and "excitement" are.
1.Attraction 2. Learning more about them 3. Building comfort and trust 4. Actually going on dates 5. Seduction 6. The Honeymoon phase 7. Doubts 8. Commitment and stability
@tångarine moth Step 11. watch your bestfriend fall in love with your crush, and support them 'cuz you are a good friend. Listen to Satisfied from Hamilton every day, and then you die alone.
@@violenceluvrrr step 12. stop wallowing in your self pity. recognise the reasons you don't have a partner and work on bettering yourself physically, emotionally and socially. Step 13. sign up to a dating app or go out there and meet new people. Put yourself out there to find a partner.
1. Learning more about them -typically when it's in a place we happen to talk about interests; work, online, mutual friend groups, etc. 2. Continuing to learn more about them. I.e. talking about our different interests. 3. Actually going on dates. 4. Building comfort and trust 5. Attraction 6. Getting serious -like talking about the future and feeling like we could be together. 7. Doubts -mainly worrying that I'm not enough (purely a me thing that wasn't caused by the other person. Though it has been caused by others before sooo) 8. Stability. -in that we are ably to get over anything together and feel like we basically are a pair. Like shoes, you need both.
I keep seeing relationship videos pop up in my feed and it’s psyching me out. I kinda messed around and fell in love my freshman year of college and I’m scared for the significant possibility that it’ll end, because he’s one of the most incredible people I’ve ever met and I didn’t know I could feel this much.
i feel like the stages are a bit different for me, for instance: 1. learn about them 2. build trust 3. develop attraction 4. recognize your love is unrequited 5. grieving period 6. recovery phase
I’ve got exiting news, IM ACTUALLY IN A RELATIONSHIP!!!! Edit: thanks for being so sweet I really appreciate so much!!. I hope your all having an amazing day keep your chin up :) x
@@Psych2go Yes. Thankfully most of the time these feelings don't last long for me, but, occasionally they'll last for awhile. It depends on how...attached? to the cause/source I am/was.
My boyfriend and I stayed in the first 3 stages for a year, we were both shy and slowlyyy getting comfy with each other, and now we’ve been dating for a year at this end of this month 💕
Right now, I think I'm between the "building trust" and the "seduction" phase, but I think we started that too early, and now we are building that kind of trust even more stronger. He gets me so well and understand what I'm going thru. I love him
2018: alone 2019: alone 2020: alone Me on 4th January 2020: alone still but has a dog to keep me company because relationships are not as strong as a pets love.
For me... Step 1: Attraction Step 2: Wondering if I'll ever hear from them again. Step 3: Accepting that I should just give up and move on. Step 4: Repeat.
same except i see my crush every day, but i dont talk to them and i only see them in halways, knew her from elementary but no sure she remembers me and probably doesnt notice me and to top it off, she has a boyfriend
The regular relationship works like that for me: 1. General liking 2. Approaching the other person, narrowing down the environmental distance 3. Getting to know them 4. Asking them out on activities, such as hiking, going to the movies, ice cream, looking for books A.K.A dates 5. Telling them what I like them for, attributes I like 6. Meeting them in the evening for a drink or for a walk 7. Asking them if they're comfortable with me coming up after some time of doing so 8. Watching series together at their place 9. Asking for a sleepover on the couch or in their bed, if they're curious enough, snuggling a little bit/just enjoying their proximity 10. Starting to touch their wrist or wind their hair 11. Kissing and touching 12. Getting to know the other ones body in further detail...🌷 13. The euphoric stuff 14. Rewarding them at some occasions such as an anniversary with a weekend in some hotel that is located somewhere interesting 15. Basically doing stuff together that you grew into doing together, travelling for holidays together. 16. Never got to this stage yet. Any tips? All my relationships held for 2 years and a couple months and they all ended on the same line 'It's not your fault, I don't feel it anymore. You've been ever so grateful to me, but I can't keep this up' Any initiative to be taken?
Sounds similar to many of mine. Usually they want it 'growing' in some direction. Be that a commitment to them (nope) or just see you working harder at life than you were at another time with them. For me, life is usually in a good space so I'm enjoying it. However when I'm pushing myself be that physically, mentally, spiritually, emotionally or financially they respond better. Some of that stuff our relationships might not see like growing spiritually but other women take notice who can see that. I just look at all my experiences as part of my journey experiencing life. Can't have tears if you don't have pleasure and smiles before. =)
You mention sexual exploration which is known to blind people to the truth of how they actually feel for someone. I’d choose celibacy so that you can filter out people who don’t actually like you all that much more quickly. It’s tough, but unfortunately, sexual activity tends to make people fall in love with out a real foundation
This made me feel so much better... We're in the 3rd year of relationship, been living together for a year and a half. Then the doubts came... And I thought that just having them meant it wasn't meant to be. I was starting to feel awful because I know I love him, so much. I thought no one had doubts in the relationships that were meant to be... But that's not true. And now I definitely know... He's the only one for me ❤️
I’m personally at Stage 0: not even being attracted to a single person atm Edit: managed to get to stage 1 for a bit but she didn’t feel the same so now I’m back at 0
We've started dating today, but we've already shared many intimate moments over the last month or so. I realize now that emotions and attraction come and go and are not true love. Love is an action, not a feeling. I accept that there are going to be days where I don't really WANT to be with her. But I don't view love as waiting for "the one". All that matters is that you have the same core beliefs and direction in life. If you are religious, then she needs to be. If you're an atheist, don't marry a Christian, because that will cause you two to fight and be pushing separate directions. Remember, relationships are supposed to be a MUTUAL EFFORT, not a "competition". You're supposed to go the same direction, not play tug of war. That's the whole meaning behind being unequally yoked. I personally am a Christian, and she is too. I'm not saying there aren't feelings of attraction, because there are. Whenever I hold her in my arms as we're watching a movie, I get much pleasure from that. It's very intimate, and I love protecting her and allowing her to let her guard down. In short, I've come to realize that love isn't about those feelings of infatuation. It's a part, sure, but love is primarily about sacrificing and giving yourself fully to another person, willing their good DESPITE their flaws, and a partnership. You two will be "coworkers" in the job of your choosing. Do you want to travel together and help the world? Do you want to raise a family together? Do you want to build a community? Now you have a partner to do that with. Edit: We broke up Friday.
@@djangelinfinity Well, thanks, but she broke up with me on Friday because she didn't feel ready for a relationship. Kinda feel like you should get that sorted out BEFORE going into a relationship, but whatever. She also did it over text. So, yeah.
@@djangelinfinity I'll be alright. I'll find someone who can actually distinguish between love and a crush eventually. This relationship taught me several things. 1: To get my life together, and start building a future for myself and my future wife and kids. 2: That I AM lovable, even with my mental illness. I have worth. 3: That I AM ready for a relationship, and to be a good boyfriend. 4: To be CERTAIN that my future girlfriend is ready to commit to a relationship before getting in one, no more wishy-washy mess. 5: That no matter how hard I try in a relationship, no matter how much I am willing to forgive, no matter how much love I give, there is absolutely nothing I can do if she doesn't want to fix it. It taught me that true love always involves some pain. 6: It gave me the confidence to know that I can handle it now, in a mature and healthy way. I now have confidence that I can use my will as a man for surviving, even during times that I don't want to. In short, I learned to trust myself, and I now know that when I say I will do something, I can trust that I WILL actually do it. That alone has reduced so much stress
I love all the couple comic drops. They represent a goal of finding someone who you can truly be you with, and I hope someday I can meet someone I can have that with. As always, this was an entertaining and informative video!
Then try to not date them and spend some time on yourself and yourself only :) I'm a grown woman and I never had a boy/girlfriend. I had multiple chances, but I simply refused to. I knew that I wasn't ready for such a bond and that it might hurt me or the other person. Do I feel good tho? Yes, I do. When I was younger I wanted others to validate me. But I learned that by time I am the only one who can do that job. Idk how the two months in yout life were, but it won't take you anywhere to pointlessly hurt other people, only because you've been hurt. Try to reflect on yourself first, maybe you weren't ready for a serious relationship? Idk where I heard this one but I'll say it anyway: "You can only truly love someone when you've learned to love yourself." Idk if that might help you. Keep your head up bro, the time will come.
Fred, traveling is the most effective way to lose your virginity. Girls really let their guard down. Because it is easier for them to not see you anymore. Which is also really sad, when you think about it.
Been with my man for 10 years. :) We went through all of these phases. He even proposed 3 years into our relationship and I turned him down. I wasn't ready. He proposed again last month and I said yes! Love is patient.
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I think mine goes more like: 1. ATTRACTION 2. Either I chicken out or somehow we build comfort and trust 3. I think about them constantly 4. Doubting phase 5. Eventual decline, crash and burn, and explosion of the relationship Thank you everyone for coming to my reenactment of... WWIII
Me and my boyfriend got together 3 days after meeting. (Speedy, I know but we given the environment we were in it makes more sense.) Our 6th month anniversary is coming up in 12 days. I've already entered the doubting stage. But through all this I can look at all the things we've been through together and still be really confident. I truly love him. We support each other really well and communicate openly. We've discussed marriage, kids, building a home, etc. We've even talked about what happens if we get to the point where we can't take care of each other anymore. (We're both chronically ill so this is a HUGE possibility.) Honestly I'm confident I'll spend the rest of my life with him. And so are tons of people in our lives. So, Sammie, baby, if you see this, I love you!💜 Edit: haha he left me
8 stages of dating: asking out, public embarrassment, pity dating, getting manipulated by your date, denial, realization, confirmation, watch your evil "date" suffer from withdrawal of not having someone to manipulate to do their chores. Never happened with a date but i know a lot of friends who have done this to me.
I have followed a lot of these stages with my current girlfriend as we've been together for almost 4 months and we have been taking things nice and slow and wait for the next 4 years to get married. Taking things nice and slow are important and then the love spark and feelings will come. We love each other very much she is a blessing in my life
for me id say i go like this attraction getting to know each other learning boundaries seduction going on dates learning about what hurts them and what makes them feel good emotionally worrying stage realizing ur both fit for each other and continue to date / or realizing it wont work out !!
You do what's important to you. Focus on your education first if you want. I know many people who are happy with the security it provides. Then later on they can give all their attention to dating 🙂
8 stages of dating: stage 1: meeting this super cute dude who’s so nice and respectful stage 2: getting flirted with stage 3: getting left on read a lot ✌🏻 dunno why but it makes me sad
Animated Sermons i mean i’m over it now but it definitely was rough, he was a very kind and loving guy but then cut the contact with me for no reason :/ couldn’t do something about it bc we didn’t live close
@@nyxusvfx Probably some other girl involved here Happened to me once. Girl was crazy about me. Initiated dates, kiss, sex. Then all of a sudden she is a ghost. Found out her ex came back.
If a guy really likes you he will make the effort. Dont chase someone if they are unsure. You can like people but love yourself more. The best advice I could give you, i hope it helps!
I heard of a 9th stage that accrues around 7years, this is where you seek that sensation of being new like when the relationship first started. And there are many ways to get through it and just as many for it to tear your relationship apart.
As a person who are in relationship, my suggestion is you should trust your partner , don’t too force the stress to your partner, and give some space to each other because we have health relationship not only accomplish with partner but also can do individual things like hang out with friend or project, the last thing I need to say is don’t restrict boy to have female friends, once I have a lot of friend like 2-3 groups I can join but all of them have female and my girlfriend do not approved me to join the group so I don’t have any friend right now .
for me is like 1 - friendship 2 - attraction. 3 - learning more about them. then some of those options a) rejection b) incompatibility c) learn that they are crazy, violent or psychopaths d) a liar, a cheater, indecisive, someone not trustworthy
Woww... this vid came in the right time! I've watched this before and at that time it was the honeymoon phase. Watching this in the doubting phase made me realise that it's normal. It is something that every couple is going to go thru. We've already been 5 going to 6 years together. I love him to bits now and i think im willing to change to accommodate him more. I'm just not sure on his part.
Stage 1: liking them or in my case being best friends with them due to social involvement Stage 2: being actual besties for 3 months Stage 3: starting to really feep close to them and just want to confess your love to them Stage 4: after a big build of trust and literally being so close to them to the point where you just want to say I love you Stage 5: getting to the point where you are scared to say the truth cuz you don't want to lose them as you have spend so much time and good memories with each other and you are just scared or losing and risking not seeing them again Stage 6: you say it's okay to let go of what's inside and just go up to them and say I love would you be interested? Stage 7: you get rejected and lose all the good times that you have had for the past 4 months and everything just becomes memories and you start to question you decisions. .... that was my last experience I didn't get rejected cuz of looks or me in total it's cuz of our environment and culture and the stress we had to end it for the greater good but damn it's just heartbreaking I have recovered that sort of breakup happened to me the past month and it was heartbreaking but it changed me to the better.
I gotten broken up with by someone that I didn't say I love you to, and I realized saying it would not have made a difference. He knew how I felt. The reason he left is because the relationship was getting serious. He would not have cared. It's easy in retrospect to blame yourself but you did nothing wrong.
1- attraction 2- learning more about them 3- building comfort and trust 4- actually going on dates 5- seduction 6- the honeymoon phase 7- the doubting phase 8- commitment and stability 9- waking up
Tbh I am not worrying about “dating” all my female friends are currently all in a relationship and most of them don’t even talk with their bf in person they only talk on ft and threw text etc.. and i honestly get so annoyed when they only talk about their “PERFECT RELATIONSHIP”💀🤦🏽♀️. I am slowly losing all my friends because all these “dating” trend that is going on . I feel like most of them just want to be in a relationship just because they feel like they need to be in one.
Hi, I've been there, but not everybody needs to be in a relationship, I stopped seeing those "boy crazy" friends and now I'm making new ones, we go to the movies, we have fun, and nobody is talking about relationshiphs, sometimes, you just need new friends, I hope you find them and I wish you happiness and a wonderfull day
How old are you? Are you in high school? In high school friendships are prioritized but adults tend to prioritize relationships and how would you know what their relationship is like at home? Or when they go on dates? You sound jealous and petty.
Im 9 months in and just started my doubting. I know I love him but oh boi never went through this before and jeez its hard. But he is always there to listen and give me support 💜
If you have a long term relationship that started very young, be prepared for a hard slog to keep it going. You're both going to change a lot over the years, especially through college, (don't even get me started on how tough long distance can be), but it's worth it to see the person they become. It's hard, having dated my person since I was 14, and just being split from them during college years, having to watch how much they're changing through the years. I don't know what it's going to be like, having to basically meet this whole new person after 4 years, but I think it's going to be worth it. So, for any young couples out there who want a future together, just know, you will both change. maybe not anything so drastic, but you will both change, hopefully into better people, who will love each other even more. I know that it's been worth it for us to keep going , and I hope it continues to be. It's hard, but definitely worth it.
The first couple stages actually happened for me when I was very young, mainly the second stage around 6-7, and I hanged around the first couple stages until we finally got into our relationship 6 months ago ❤
I just recently lost my longest relationship of 2 years to the doubting phase, I don't quite know why i clicked on this video but it's good to know that even though it hurts, it's one of the most common phases for things to fall through. I wish it could have gone a different way but, it is what it is.
Yeah, same here! Neither of us were looking for romance when we met, I'd actually sworn off "such nonsense" years before. We were happy to be friends. I don't think I could say he & I ever really 'dated'--unless you count the one time he took me out for my birthday, but we didn't consider it a date (even though it felt like one).That event fell between the time we'd each realized we'd fallen in love, but before we found out the other felt the same way... By the time we did confess our feelings to each other, we knew this was it, we were already in it for the long haul. So the seduction stage came after the commitment. We got engaged three years ago, right before Christmas, got married the following May. We're still wondering when that "honeymoon stage" is supposed to end, we just keep on falling deeper in love...💕💑💕
it's alright to not have a relationship with others, what matters most is your relationship with yourself. At the end of the day, it takes time figure out what you truly want and it also takes time to find the right person.
I'm currently with my boyfriend and I get doubts now any then every once in a while. But they always go away when he's around me. He shows all the signs of loving me and the doubts go away. Sometimes I even just think about the good times in general or tell the doubts to stop. I think about all the good all the time and that's when I feel better when I'm not around him. 🙃😌😌😌
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@@ja8a8 Some people are just time travelers lol.
**cries in lonliness**
1- Liking them
2- Realizing they don’t like me
3- Trying not to cry
4- Cry
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Same here . 😉😐😭
I think my relationships go more like:
1. Attraction
2. Learning more about each other
3. Building comfort and trust
4. Realising I was just imagining it
1. Trying to learn everything about each other on the first date
2. Trying to feel and give comfort and trust without chemistry
3. Doubting stage
4. Attraction (delayed response)
5. He has someone else available
for me:
1. attraction
2. learning more about each other
3. comfort and trust
4. best friends
5. rejection on either side
6. doubting
7. distant and brocken
1: attraction
2: starting to know them
3: trust and comfort
4: 0 fkn dates
5: self doubts
6: rejection or loosing interest
7: depression
8: repeat
My first relationship went more of a no interest to friendship to attraction and then knowing each other and then partners. Then we broke up 8 months later and I became depressed now I'm getting gains. Still lonely af and depressed tho 😃👌
1. Attraction
2. Love bombing
3. I'm all in
4. I notice them becoming distant
5. I notice them not commiting
6.They blame me for being insecure and jealous and unstable, while chatting with others
7. I move on heartbroken
The most important relationship in life is the one with the person that you see in the *mirror*
Interesting.
That's either the statement of narcissist or a brilliant observation.
Is it me or the shadow person that watches me
@@somerandofilipino6957 Lol
What if youre a vampire
Stage 1: Attraction
Stage 2: Learning more about eachother
Stage 3: Building Trust
Stage 4: Meeting her boyfriend
Yeahhh that sure be getting me alot, almost makes me want to start drinking for some reason
@@gamingtexter1260no don't start drinking. Just focus on yourself and how you can improve. A girl will come along in no time.
@@randoonyoutube I appreciate it man
@@randoonyoutube I've been reading this for over 10 years, nothing like that happened ever, in my experience, after social media and online dating apps took over the society, women went only for that top 1-3 % of men and that's it, the baddie and/or money man that runs away and then women cry while saying the classic mistake: "all men are bad", childish mindset at its worst.
@@Cerenduil Sure sounds like you're projecting. You're portraying "women" as ALL women, meaning that you're doing the exact thing you're complaining about and assuming that the entirety of a half of a species is both unreasonable and delusional. How in the heck of 50% of 7 billion people could there not be a few "stragglers" that are actually good just trying to catch another good. In fact, the majority of people on dating apps are actually men because women typically fear and have been taught to fear online interactions and meetups more than men
"Stage 7, doubts usually start to creep in after a few years" Well I must be a speedrunner because the doubts creep in after a week.
LMFAOOOOO DEADASS
😂😂😂😂😂😂 I can relate to
i thought this was normal
I once was a world record speedrunner, i did 2 days long because she left and she used me to make a guy jealous. Now she regrets that
🤣🤣🤣
1- attraction
2- learning more about them
3- building comfort and trust
4- actually going on dates
5- seduction
6- the honeymoon phase
7- the doubting phase
8- commitment and stability
Keiko707 Ocean thanks
Thank you.
I only got up to 7, didn't get to 8 unfortunately.
@@ShnobbsReal I never got past 4 so to me you're doing great. This video is depressing! Those first few steps still seem insurmountable after decades, and they're telling me the hardest part is later on.
Thank keiko
Me: All I want are snuggles
But all I get are struggles
Oh! The pigeon meme! I only found out about that one yesterday. Cx
@@lauramays9296 Not the one I was thinking of but I'm sure it's got the dame feeling.
@@cooperhernandez6404 Aaah okay. :)
Your pfp
S p e e d w a g o n
Me: Enters a relationship
Also Me: *Jumps straight to the doubting stage*
All women ever be fricking around Like that.
@@anderstermansen130 Bruh
@@anderstermansen130 Bruh
@@anderstermansen130 Bruh
@@anderstermansen130 Bruh
I never found the guy at frist attractive it was more like when he started talking to me and then I started like him. Then later I realised he was good looking.
Exactly!
same here! for me it is the personality that matters first and how they make me feel. I never cared for "hot" guys
Its quite natural. As you see someone's face multiple times you become more accustomed to and comfortable with it.
same here, i always thought he was a "bad boy" but when i got to know him better i saw he was so far from what i expected him to be, he actually changed for me.
yeah EXACTLY 😭
Dating stages: exist
Me: can't relate
MOOD
Same here buddy
Yasss
You beat me too it!
Yup.. That's me... And probably you 2...dont worry bud... We're here 2
0:36 attraction
1:05 learning more about them
1:29 building comfort and trust
2:04 actually going on dates
2:32 seduction
3:07 the honeymoon phase
3:47 the doubting phase
4:33 commitment and stablity
thanks
or mgtow
Why isn’t this comment pinned
I made this comment to serve as my reviewer for our mapeh class since our teacher said that the things mentioned in this vid are gonna come out on our quiz, I rlly didn't know this had lots of likes lmao y'all are welcome ig (yep that school year has already ended and I did great on that quiz :)
@@chrollophylll good job mate proud of you! glad to see your still active .
Stage 1: Attraction
Stage 2: Learning more about them
Stage 3: Building comfort and trust
Stage 4: Finding out she already has a boyfriend
Mostly I can leave out steps 2 and 3. The easiest ones to talk to don't have their guard up because they already have somebody.
yep thats me but skip the two middle steps
Stage 5: Still trying to know everything about her.
Stage 6: Fall in love with her.
Stage 7: Ask her to go out on a date.
Stage 8: Get a polite but not clear rejection, so you still have hope.
Stage 9: Try it one month later again.
Stage 10: Get again a rejection but this time with a reason that Breaks your heart.
Stage 11: Crying for days and weeks to never reach your dream woman...😭
Put step 4 as step 1
Yep, as someone who went through these very same stages, I can confirm the credibility of this theory 😂
i just wanna say:
*its okay to not have a relationship like this! it’s ok to skip stages, it’s ok to not have a seduction stage or not do passionate/sexual things at all!! your relationship is valid regardless if it fits this specific mold !!*
i love the video tho i just ;; i feel like it treats this as the only option which it’s totally not
It’s liberal. They’re just pushing the agenda for fornication.
I can feel you im Ace and the honeymoon stage is a nope for me. Even tho it might be cuz im in my first realitionship and me and my gf aren't together for very long i know that this stages is a big nope for me
What works for some people might not work for others there's no point comparing your relationships or friendships even to others if you are happy together
I think they are correct in the stages but they are not always in that order, sometimes I will skip straight to passionately sometimes straight to dating and being comfortable. Every relationship is different
What happens if I want a relationship but I don't like when they touch me in my oppnion I hate it , like what if I can't make a guy happy caus when wants to touch me but I don't allow it because it make some uncomfortable
Yo, literally everybody in this comment section is single.
Are you going to leave a reply to all?
@Some Rando Filipino @@Psych2go Yo. Recently got into a committed relationship with someone I had been "just friends" with for over two years before the stars aligned and I stepped up to the challenge with a wonderful woman. I think the video touched upon one thing that should be gone into more depth - how so many couples show themselves as perfect on social media.
They're often not. I mean, certainly I am sure that there plenty of happy couples but the reality is that not every moment with your partner is going to be SQUEEE FOR THE GRAM worthy and really, it shouldn't frickin' be. Yeah I'll stick a cheeky little reference to when we had a "date" which consisted of us playing classic Doom in co-op mode and you better believe I'm proud to have someone who can do that with me, but seriously, the vast moments in your relationship should largely be for YOU AND HIM/HER/THEY/WHATEVER. The fact of the matter is that the best moments in your shared lives won't be the epic travels but more the little moments when you're just laying in bed reflecting. Holding her when she's feeling down and being willing to show your most vulnerable self to her with the knowledge that she won't think you're a wuss.
I'm rambling but the truth is that you can be in a relationship with virtually everyone. We are nothing yet we are everything - a perpetual blank slate that will be defined by the next words written on it. So what words do you want written on you?
Peace and happy new year.
Married 10 years and Demisexual, so I had the building trust phase first.
Welcome to club of singletons
In a long term relationship atm hahaha
1.) attraction
2.) learning more about them
3.) building trust
4.) waking up and realizing you’re going to die alone
@@ethanloch3802Bro.. That's incredible.. She may be just a figment of your imagination but well... Who knows? Depending on your mindset, it may just become a reality
Keep trying i was like you then i got into a relatioship
Relationships are harder than dark souls.
What about dating?
Yes
@@Psych2go Dating is a midgame bossfight. You are already pretty strong, but this fight makes You feel weak if You aren't prepaired
but the best part is that relationships are a two player game and you and your partner are actively working together
@@Someone-or8tp Press X to summon One True Love
I feel like these steps probably apply for people who are generally mentally and emotionally healthy. As a person with severe anxiety, depression, and a background of trauma, my relationships seem to follow a similar timeline but, for example, the "doubting" phase is constant and it's not because I'm with the wrong partner, it's because there are things I need to work through. Learning to trust is also very, very slow and the comfort of being vulnerable does not come until later. I'm also dating someone I became friends with first and became attracted to later. There may be a general pattern with human relationships, but there is no norm that everyone should follow or a way every relationship should look. Work on being your best self!
ratio.
same omg
Lol. I just don't attempt relationships. I'd treat any woman I end up with like shit, so I stay single.
Beyond that, I'm just stuck taking care of my actual family, mother, sister, brother for the foreseeable future.
By the time I'd be free to pursue romance, and hopefully mentally ready for it, I'll be 50 at the youngest or 60 at the oldest.
And it's not like anyone of us is attracted to old people. We simply remain attracted to our lover as they age.
I'm not gonna WANT romance by the time I'm free to.
Thank you for sharing it :)
@@Coreisus are you seeing a therapist for ur mental health? it may help
Dating stages: exist
Covid-19: "I'm about to end this man's whole career"
Literally, haven't seen her in a month
🥴
Haha
I haven't seen him in 2 months 😐
Joel Samsoondar Yeah same I started dating right before spring break so I haven't seen him.😞 Edit: I broke ip with him for other reasons so woooo. ❤️
As a person with really low self-esteem, I went through the doubt stage through the whole relationship. But as the relationship progressed, I was more confident about myself and got through the stage. After year and half, it's easy to say that this stage is behind me even though it seems surreal.
I have to say one thing though... I'm lucky. From my point of view it's hard to find someone who would accept you the way you are, won't rush things, and respect your fears and help you overcome them
I’m in that stage right now. I am the one going through it. I have an amazing girlfriend who is very understanding, loving, and supportive. Even after I have talked with her about this, she still is the same way. All I can say is that I am blessed to have her in my life. It does feel weird to be in this stage.
@@Matteo-df5up it will get better. And with girlfriend like yours... It would go away smoothly
@@Matteo-df5up how are you guys doing now?
@@Harry_irl it didn’t work out lol. 😬😂 But I’ll eventually find the right one in time.
If you truly had no self-esteem you would never get past or even to the dating stage..
TALK to your partner if you're in the doubting phase. And if you truly love your partner, other couples on the internet don't matter and don't affect you.
This is where I am right now and I'm a little worried because he's great 😔 but yeah we're already in the midst of the "doubt" talk. On the flip of that I'm kind of glad to see that the doubting is normal- I don't feel so alone now.
@@soulfullmystic if u wanna talk im here
@@userm180 Thank you so much 🥺💛
Thankfully, we moved through and beyond that stage. I appreciate your support 😊
Yeah this is hard.. I don't wanna hurt hin with my doubts.. he is hurt quite easally, which makes me doubt more..
@@soulfullmystic hey do you've any advice to get through it? Feels like I've been stuck with it for months now
8 is such a random number. But somehow this video justifies it perfectly.
Did you find the hidden stage?
@@Psych2go there's a hidden stage??
@@midnightsarrow160 Making your relationship official? idk
Midnight Sarrow 160 my guess is the trait of obsession. Some ad gives you a hint.
A second guess would be to point out that they have to make the stage of switching the year of their videos.
@@midnightsarrow160 sex?
Who's single here and trying to get ready for a relationship but cant find one?
No one?... Well i guess im still alone
I'm single but not Looking for a bf
Why it says 4 months ago when I just received a notification 😂
@@NoOne-bp4oe omg i just realized that
Me 😂
No you're not. I'm in the same boat.
I’ve never felt what it’s like to actually be in a relationship with someone before so this helped me understand a bit more
Depression: How long have we been dating? Over 5 years now?
Anxiety: Pfft small number that is. I've been with him since the age of 10.
goodness 1k likes?
Low self-esteem: I've been dating him for 20 years. Beat that.
Sooo three some?
@@hildab.h6112 Tf lmao
I read anxiety's sentence with Yodas voice
As someone who have anxiety since kindergarten, and now have MDD for 6 years. I can relate.
"(...) Physical touch is incredibly effective when it comes to building trust"
*Cries in social distancing*
Ya girl Sheila **cries bc I’ve been dating online**
@@foureyedcai8197 I know of friends who break up within a few weeks because they couldn’t handle online dating
Official Reviews that’s an oof, online dating isn’t for everyone. I personally handle online relationships very well! It honestly just depends on not only who you are as a person, but also what the other person is like!
Physical touch? I won't experience that ever again. I'm poor, 45, mentally ill, ugly, and I live with my mom in the middle of nowhere.
*cries in long distance*
When I first met my girlfriend almost 6 years ago in Gr10 of high school we instantly clicked as friends. It was the first time I wasn't as shy with someone before and we became the best of friends. Honestly I didn't know I was attracted to her because at that time I didn't think that I was anything but heterosexual (god was I wrong there heh). We know each other inside and out and really love each other dearly. I've been in love with her for 4 years before I got the confidence of telling her how much I love her. We recently celebrated our first anniversary ❤️
Aaah congratualtions! I'm happy for you both! That's such a sweet relationship you seem to have. 😊
all the best for you both!
When did she dump you
My god, that's such an adorable story 😭😭😭
Edit: I love how that second comment of mine got more likes, simply because I told someone off lmao
@@anderstermansen130 tf, get lost troll
I'm in my first relationship right now, but with my boyfriend, I think the first time I started to have true romantic feelings for him was on our first date. Even though I was definitely starting to like him before that, I think that realization really set in as I got to know him better. Being attracted to someone's personality is definitely the most important part, and I'd say looks are just a bonus.
I had a girlfriend that pushed me into the 7th stage in less than a month. When I broke up with her, she started stalking me. It was crazy. Thank God for the support that I got.
DAMN SHE IS A YANDERE FOR SURE
same, that relationship 4crashed and burned hard. turned out sex was the only common factor for us.
thats fucked up. glad it's over.
now that's what i call a speedrun
It is so nice to know that the doubting phase is normal. My partner and I are coming out of the end of it right now, and it is very comforting to know that this stage was not a sign that we do not work as a couple. :)
Most relationships now a days exist only because people are afraid of being alone and not love
You are correct. BTN relationship (better than nothing)
Don't speak for everyone. I feel absolutely secure with who I am and I love being alone. I'm in a relationship because I want give love back and share my life with someone.
Stfu
because people who are already in a relationship dont need this kind of information, they live it :)
Chris P. This has been true since the dawn of man. Traditionally, humans partner up for security and continuing the species.
Stage 1: Attraction
Stage 2: Learning more from each other
Stage 3: Waking up
*No one:*
*Me:*
"Cries in single"
Yep
Nobody:
Me: *wants to be single*
Everyone ya mean?
*Cries in not allowed Gayness*
I'd rather be single than go through another breakup!
3rd and 101% of us who are watching aren’t even in a relationship
101%? Who's the extra 1%?
@Rodman Channel I just saw this 👀 um
TIME TRAVELER
@Rodman Channel Dating can be a very confusing thing as well.
Hey we got a time traveler here
for everyone who is talking abt how single and sad they are, everything's gonna be fine, i was very sad after a being in a toxic and mentally and physically abusing relationship, but when i stoped looking for a relationship i got to know the most amazing and genuine human being and i love him a lot. it definitely changed my life so much and it happened so random.
so don't worry, you'll meet that one person sooner or later and it will probably be when you'll expect it the least
sending love to everyone
totally right
Underrated comment
Your words give me hope, to hopefully move on and find another human who fully appreciates me.
@@uen1857 ive been cruising single life on autopilot for years now. Im getting used to rot up in loneliness while litterally the rest of planet Are in relationships.
Until you start doubting eachother
Clicked for the title, stayed for the comment section. You folks are genuinely awesome!
- From a single male in his 3*-s, completely and utterly unaware of what "passion" and "excitement" are.
1)liking them
2)them liking me back
3) me getting scared and going back in my shell
1.Attraction
2. Learning more about them
3. Building comfort and trust
4. Actually going on dates
5. Seduction
6. The Honeymoon phase
7. Doubts
8. Commitment and stability
Thanks for putting this together Jerry. Did we miss any?
@@Psych2go yeah sliding into Dem DMs
step 9: realizing i’ll die alone
Step 10: watch as everyone has a relationship
@tångarine moth Step 11. watch your bestfriend fall in love with your crush, and support them 'cuz you are a good friend. Listen to Satisfied from Hamilton every day, and then you die alone.
No you are not alone
Well that's true everyone is gonna die alone cause no one dies for us or with us
@@violenceluvrrr step 12. stop wallowing in your self pity. recognise the reasons you don't have a partner and work on bettering yourself physically, emotionally and socially.
Step 13. sign up to a dating app or go out there and meet new people. Put yourself out there to find a partner.
this is your stage 9? - It‘s my stage 1
1. Learning more about them
-typically when it's in a place we happen to talk about interests; work, online, mutual friend groups, etc.
2. Continuing to learn more about them. I.e. talking about our different interests.
3. Actually going on dates.
4. Building comfort and trust
5. Attraction
6. Getting serious
-like talking about the future and feeling like we could be together.
7. Doubts
-mainly worrying that I'm not enough (purely a me thing that wasn't caused by the other person. Though it has been caused by others before sooo)
8. Stability.
-in that we are ably to get over anything together and feel like we basically are a pair. Like shoes, you need both.
Just how I work I guess
The 5 Stages of Love
1. *Denial*
2. *Anger*
3. *Bargaining*
4. *Depression*
5. *Acceptance*
😂😂😂
"Ne me quitte pas"?
☠☠☠☠☠☠☠
This is exactly how I found out I had a crush
😂😂😂
I keep seeing relationship videos pop up in my feed and it’s psyching me out. I kinda messed around and fell in love my freshman year of college and I’m scared for the significant possibility that it’ll end, because he’s one of the most incredible people I’ve ever met and I didn’t know I could feel this much.
I hope things get better for you Bella, doubts are the source of problems in a relationship in my opinion.
i hope things will work!
i feel like the stages are a bit different for me, for instance:
1. learn about them
2. build trust
3. develop attraction
4. recognize your love is unrequited
5. grieving period
6. recovery phase
Those are good tips! Thanks for sharing. Are there any other topics you’d like us cover on?
Crying so much I laughed at this.
I’ve got exiting news, IM ACTUALLY IN A RELATIONSHIP!!!!
Edit: thanks for being so sweet I really appreciate so much!!. I hope your all having an amazing day keep your chin up :) x
Leanella yayyy congrats!
QUEEN
CARRY ON FOR ALL OF US THAT ARE SINGLE!! YAAYYY!!! I'm proud of u
well good for you stranger
I just say this comment, I'm happy for you
There are stages of dating?
Me during the video: Don't get depressed, don't get depressed, don't get depressed, ah crap.
Are you okay now?
@@Psych2go Yes. Thankfully most of the time these feelings don't last long for me, but, occasionally they'll last for awhile. It depends on how...attached? to the cause/source I am/was.
Oh boy.. dont feel lonely, you still got yourself at the end of the day 😌
My boyfriend and I stayed in the first 3 stages for a year, we were both shy and slowlyyy getting comfy with each other, and now we’ve been dating for a year at this end of this month 💕
that's sooo sweet...
you guys still still together after 2 years right?
@@drishti_307 yes! We’re still together now!! (:
@@jewel2372 damn you guys are an inspiration to me personally as we also are taking it slow rn
@@arnavkmr3895 yes it’s okay to take things slow ! (:
@@jewel2372 this gives me comfort ❤️
Right now, I think I'm between the "building trust" and the "seduction" phase, but I think we started that too early, and now we are building that kind of trust even more stronger. He gets me so well and understand what I'm going thru. I love him
Stage 1: Single sided attraction
Stage 2: Never talking to them
Me
state 1: interested
stage 2: get to know them
stage 3: lose interest
@@nicolovespanda relatable
2018: alone
2019: alone
2020: alone
Me on 4th January 2020: alone still but has a dog to keep me company because relationships are not as strong as a pets love.
OML SO TRUE. Dogs are loyal til the end. Damn I wish people were like that a lil more nowadays. >:/
Animals are loyal and cuddly. I'm also alone, but hey at least, I got my bird...
My cat gave me so much love. I'm sad he doesn't live with me anymore but it can't be helped. I'm okay though. I'm glad you have your dog with you. :)
Three years straight. Now this is what's called "stable relationships" =)
I don't even have a dog ._.
For me...
Step 1: Attraction
Step 2: Wondering if I'll ever hear from them again.
Step 3: Accepting that I should just give up and move on.
Step 4: Repeat.
same except i see my crush every day, but i dont talk to them and i only see them in halways, knew her from elementary but no sure she remembers me and probably doesnt notice me and to top it off, she has a boyfriend
The regular relationship works like that for me:
1. General liking
2. Approaching the other person, narrowing down the environmental distance
3. Getting to know them
4. Asking them out on activities, such as hiking, going to the movies, ice cream, looking for books A.K.A dates
5. Telling them what I like them for, attributes I like
6. Meeting them in the evening for a drink or for a walk
7. Asking them if they're comfortable with me coming up after some time of doing so
8. Watching series together at their place
9. Asking for a sleepover on the couch or in their bed, if they're curious enough, snuggling a little bit/just enjoying their proximity
10. Starting to touch their wrist or wind their hair
11. Kissing and touching
12. Getting to know the other ones body in further detail...🌷
13. The euphoric stuff
14. Rewarding them at some occasions such as an anniversary with a weekend in some hotel that is located somewhere interesting
15. Basically doing stuff together that you grew into doing together, travelling for holidays together.
16. Never got to this stage yet.
Any tips? All my relationships held for 2 years and a couple months and they all ended on the same line 'It's not your fault, I don't feel it anymore. You've been ever so grateful to me, but I can't keep this up'
Any initiative to be taken?
Sounds similar to many of mine. Usually they want it 'growing' in some direction. Be that a commitment to them (nope) or just see you working harder at life than you were at another time with them. For me, life is usually in a good space so I'm enjoying it. However when I'm pushing myself be that physically, mentally, spiritually, emotionally or financially they respond better. Some of that stuff our relationships might not see like growing spiritually but other women take notice who can see that. I just look at all my experiences as part of my journey experiencing life. Can't have tears if you don't have pleasure and smiles before. =)
@@cre8gnr8nrg :) well said
@@Sona77. ye, kinda sad; but what can one do but leave them be
Damn, you got waaaay waaaay furter than me, how do you do it?
You mention sexual exploration which is known to blind people to the truth of how they actually feel for someone. I’d choose celibacy so that you can filter out people who don’t actually like you all that much more quickly. It’s tough, but unfortunately, sexual activity tends to make people fall in love with out a real foundation
This made me feel so much better... We're in the 3rd year of relationship, been living together for a year and a half. Then the doubts came... And I thought that just having them meant it wasn't meant to be. I was starting to feel awful because I know I love him, so much. I thought no one had doubts in the relationships that were meant to be... But that's not true. And now I definitely know... He's the only one for me ❤️
Anyone else LOVE this particular art style & animation?
I'm at stage -10: realizing I'm going to have to live with myself all my life.
Relatable
Ouch same
1. Liking them
2. Learning more about each other
3. Building trust and comfort
4. New friend!
real stages:
1 liking someone
2 the person liking me back
3 me losing interest
For me is they start losing interest on me :(
You're the problem, I try to stay away from people like you. Smh
Fr
Maybe you’re lithromantic? I’m not assuming I’m just asking.
or kind of liking them cause you are brored
them starting giving you too much attention
losing interest
I’m personally at Stage 0: not even being attracted to a single person atm
Edit: managed to get to stage 1 for a bit but she didn’t feel the same so now I’m back at 0
Stuck at 3
Same
For me it’s:
Stage 1: first contact.
Stage 2: run away from my feelings back and going back to my comfortzone.
We've started dating today, but we've already shared many intimate moments over the last month or so. I realize now that emotions and attraction come and go and are not true love. Love is an action, not a feeling.
I accept that there are going to be days where I don't really WANT to be with her. But I don't view love as waiting for "the one". All that matters is that you have the same core beliefs and direction in life. If you are religious, then she needs to be. If you're an atheist, don't marry a Christian, because that will cause you two to fight and be pushing separate directions. Remember, relationships are supposed to be a MUTUAL EFFORT, not a "competition". You're supposed to go the same direction, not play tug of war. That's the whole meaning behind being unequally yoked. I personally am a Christian, and she is too.
I'm not saying there aren't feelings of attraction, because there are. Whenever I hold her in my arms as we're watching a movie, I get much pleasure from that. It's very intimate, and I love protecting her and allowing her to let her guard down.
In short, I've come to realize that love isn't about those feelings of infatuation. It's a part, sure, but love is primarily about sacrificing and giving yourself fully to another person, willing their good DESPITE their flaws, and a partnership. You two will be "coworkers" in the job of your choosing. Do you want to travel together and help the world? Do you want to raise a family together? Do you want to build a community? Now you have a partner to do that with.
Edit: We broke up Friday.
I love this comment, thanks bro
@@djangelinfinity Well, thanks, but she broke up with me on Friday because she didn't feel ready for a relationship. Kinda feel like you should get that sorted out BEFORE going into a relationship, but whatever.
She also did it over text. So, yeah.
@@cadenorris4009 Damn, sorry bro
@@djangelinfinity I'll be alright. I'll find someone who can actually distinguish between love and a crush eventually. This relationship taught me several things. 1: To get my life together, and start building a future for myself and my future wife and kids.
2: That I AM lovable, even with my mental illness. I have worth.
3: That I AM ready for a relationship, and to be a good boyfriend.
4: To be CERTAIN that my future girlfriend is ready to commit to a relationship before getting in one, no more wishy-washy mess.
5: That no matter how hard I try in a relationship, no matter how much I am willing to forgive, no matter how much love I give, there is absolutely nothing I can do if she doesn't want to fix it. It taught me that true love always involves some pain.
6: It gave me the confidence to know that I can handle it now, in a mature and healthy way. I now have confidence that I can use my will as a man for surviving, even during times that I don't want to. In short, I learned to trust myself, and I now know that when I say I will do something, I can trust that I WILL actually do it. That alone has reduced so much stress
@@cadenorris4009 NICE
I love all the couple comic drops. They represent a goal of finding someone who you can truly be you with, and I hope someday I can meet someone I can have that with. As always, this was an entertaining and informative video!
I’m pretty much over dating. I’ve been hurt to much and at this point hurting other girls is almost a way of healing.
That sounds twisted but tbh...it's darkly true in a sense.
Then try to not date them and spend some time on yourself and yourself only :) I'm a grown woman and I never had a boy/girlfriend. I had multiple chances, but I simply refused to. I knew that I wasn't ready for such a bond and that it might hurt me or the other person. Do I feel good tho? Yes, I do. When I was younger I wanted others to validate me. But I learned that by time I am the only one who can do that job. Idk how the two months in yout life were, but it won't take you anywhere to pointlessly hurt other people, only because you've been hurt. Try to reflect on yourself first, maybe you weren't ready for a serious relationship? Idk where I heard this one but I'll say it anyway: "You can only truly love someone when you've learned to love yourself." Idk if that might help you. Keep your head up bro, the time will come.
whatta loser bo, seek help
Step 1: Approach the girl
Step 2: Get rejected
That sums up my dating life, I’m 32 and still a virgin 🙆🏻♂️
Fred, traveling is the most effective way to lose your virginity. Girls really let their guard down.
Because it is easier for them to not see you anymore. Which is also really sad, when you think about it.
Just hire a hooker at this point
Fred ... make a list of everything you want in a girlfriend and put it out in the universe ✨ you will meet her in a few months
I only got up to stage 7.
Virginity ROCKS
Been with my man for 10 years. :) We went through all of these phases. He even proposed 3 years into our relationship and I turned him down. I wasn't ready. He proposed again last month and I said yes! Love is patient.
"Where did you meet your date?"
*laughs in fOREVER ALONE*
lol. Keep us posted.
Greetings my profile pic comrade
@@Cheemsburbgerz man of taste
update?
Stage 1: Liking them
Stage 2: Them liking me back
Stage 3: Waking up from my dream
This channel is beyond a doubt the most realistic, most relatable and most appropriate source of resources to guide u through life. And just the most amazingly relaxing narrator of all time. Such a pleasure to listen to any of these videos. 3:31
I think mine goes more like:
1. ATTRACTION
2. Either I chicken out or somehow we build comfort and trust
3. I think about them constantly
4. Doubting phase
5. Eventual decline, crash and burn, and explosion of the relationship
Thank you everyone for coming to my reenactment of... WWIII
Me and my boyfriend got together 3 days after meeting. (Speedy, I know but we given the environment we were in it makes more sense.) Our 6th month anniversary is coming up in 12 days. I've already entered the doubting stage. But through all this I can look at all the things we've been through together and still be really confident. I truly love him. We support each other really well and communicate openly. We've discussed marriage, kids, building a home, etc. We've even talked about what happens if we get to the point where we can't take care of each other anymore. (We're both chronically ill so this is a HUGE possibility.) Honestly I'm confident I'll spend the rest of my life with him. And so are tons of people in our lives. So, Sammie, baby, if you see this, I love you!💜
Edit: haha he left me
Was it an unforseen deal breaker?
You're gay 🤢🤮
waitt why did he leave you 😭
THE WHIPLASH IS CRAZY
8 stages of dating: asking out, public embarrassment, pity dating, getting manipulated by your date, denial, realization, confirmation, watch your evil "date" suffer from withdrawal of not having someone to manipulate to do their chores. Never happened with a date but i know a lot of friends who have done this to me.
depression when I realized that we’re in the doubting stage and didn’t even get the seduction phase because we’re long distance
I have followed a lot of these stages with my current girlfriend as we've been together for almost 4 months and we have been taking things nice and slow and wait for the next 4 years to get married.
Taking things nice and slow are important and then the love spark and feelings will come.
We love each other very much she is a blessing in my life
Stages of tinder dating:
1. Slide into dms
2. Meet up
3. Sex
Alternative 2: left on read
4. Blocks you .
4. STD...AIDS...or cancer
5: *dies* bc of the disease.
6. Get back to life since these stages are made up
When you've never been in a relationship, but watch the video anyway🤷😂
Gotta be prepared 💪💓💘
Haha! Loving those emojis! :D
I'm sure many of us could relate. You got 51 thumbs up already :)
Makes sense
@@Psych2go holy crap, now I'm at 210! Thank for your reply💕
@@lauramays9296 thanks 😆
I’m single and it’s 5 am and I haven’t slept yet. :|
I feel it :(
Felt that
Xx_BubbleGum_xX •-• me too lol 😅🥺
to everyone in this thread: you good bro?
Idk. :•
for me id say i go like this
attraction
getting to know each other
learning boundaries
seduction
going on dates
learning about what hurts them and what makes them feel good emotionally
worrying stage
realizing ur both fit for each other and continue to date / or realizing it wont work out
!!
Me: *SORRY BUT, EDUCATION FIRST*
Yeah talk to your parents when you are old enough for education
Unironically the patrician's choice.
Good man - and a smart one at that.
Nerd.
@@helio3928 no shh!!! 😰
You do what's important to you. Focus on your education first if you want. I know many people who are happy with the security it provides. Then later on they can give all their attention to dating 🙂
8 stages of dating:
stage 1: meeting this super cute dude who’s so nice and respectful
stage 2: getting flirted with
stage 3: getting left on read a lot ✌🏻
dunno why but it makes me sad
Mary Berry
Wow I have no idea what you’re talking about
Must be rough?
Animated Sermons i mean i’m over it now but it definitely was rough, he was a very kind and loving guy but then cut the contact with me for no reason :/ couldn’t do something about it bc we didn’t live close
@@nyxusvfx Probably some other girl involved here Happened to me once. Girl was crazy about me. Initiated dates, kiss, sex. Then all of a sudden she is a ghost. Found out her ex came back.
If a guy really likes you he will make the effort. Dont chase someone if they are unsure. You can like people but love yourself more. The best advice I could give you, i hope it helps!
Hi Marie, sorry you had to experience such. I'm Williams and if you wish we can get to know each other. Thanks
no one:
literally no one:
me: using her voice just to calm me
Wow that really is noone😂
Jayson Marvin Holgado actually i do too 😂
And I'm playing Piano to calm me
I heard of a 9th stage that accrues around 7years, this is where you seek that sensation of being new like when the relationship first started. And there are many ways to get through it and just as many for it to tear your relationship apart.
*This makes me sad. I'll never even get to the first stage.*
As a person who are in relationship, my suggestion is you should trust your partner , don’t too force the stress to your partner, and give some space to each other because we have health relationship not only accomplish with partner but also can do individual things like hang out with friend or project, the last thing I need to say is don’t restrict boy to have female friends, once I have a lot of friend like 2-3 groups I can join but all of them have female and my girlfriend do not approved me to join the group so I don’t have any friend right now .
Ah, depression. That friend of mine who was always by my side, especially in my lowest moments when nobody else was.
@Indigo Fenrir how do u only have 16 likes?! This was the most genius comment I’ve EVER seen
for me is like
1 - friendship
2 - attraction.
3 - learning more about them.
then some of those options
a) rejection
b) incompatibility
c) learn that they are crazy, violent or psychopaths
d) a liar, a cheater, indecisive, someone not trustworthy
My relationship went as this: he added me on snapchat. We clicked immediately. Started dating 3 days later. Still going strong
Woww... this vid came in the right time! I've watched this before and at that time it was the honeymoon phase. Watching this in the doubting phase made me realise that it's normal. It is something that every couple is going to go thru. We've already been 5 going to 6 years together. I love him to bits now and i think im willing to change to accommodate him more. I'm just not sure on his part.
Aww! What a charming animation.
Loving your videos, Psych2Go.
Thanks for the kind words! Is this one of your favourite styles?
Wait why is this comment 5 MONTHS AGO?
So many time travelers here-
Pilar Medina yes!!! ♥️♥️♥️
@@Psych2go I like all of them, they are either artsy and simple, or really detailed and colorful! Both are good :)
1. Liking someone
2. Trying to figure out if she likes me back
3. Realising that it's just another illusion born from lack
Stage 1: liking them or in my case being best friends with them due to social involvement
Stage 2: being actual besties for 3 months
Stage 3: starting to really feep close to them and just want to confess your love to them
Stage 4: after a big build of trust and literally being so close to them to the point where you just want to say I love you
Stage 5: getting to the point where you are scared to say the truth cuz you don't want to lose them as you have spend so much time and good memories with each other and you are just scared or losing and risking not seeing them again
Stage 6: you say it's okay to let go of what's inside and just go up to them and say I love would you be interested?
Stage 7: you get rejected and lose all the good times that you have had for the past 4 months and everything just becomes memories and you start to question you decisions.
.... that was my last experience I didn't get rejected cuz of looks or me in total it's cuz of our environment and culture and the stress we had to end it for the greater good but damn it's just heartbreaking I have recovered that sort of breakup happened to me the past month and it was heartbreaking but it changed me to the better.
I gotten broken up with by someone that I didn't say I love you to, and I realized saying it would not have made a difference. He knew how I felt. The reason he left is because the relationship was getting serious. He would not have cared. It's easy in retrospect to blame yourself but you did nothing wrong.
I’ve been with my girl for about a year now. I love her so much. She’s so honest with me.
Gd for u m8
1- attraction
2- learning more about them
3- building comfort and trust
4- actually going on dates
5- seduction
6- the honeymoon phase
7- the doubting phase
8- commitment and stability
9- waking up
Tbh I am not worrying about “dating” all my female friends are currently all in a relationship and most of them don’t even talk with their bf in person they only talk on ft and threw text etc.. and i honestly get so annoyed when they only talk about their “PERFECT RELATIONSHIP”💀🤦🏽♀️. I am slowly losing all my friends because all these “dating” trend that is going on . I feel like most of them just want to be in a relationship just because they feel like they need to be in one.
Hi, I've been there, but not everybody needs to be in a relationship, I stopped seeing those "boy crazy" friends and now I'm making new ones, we go to the movies, we have fun, and nobody is talking about relationshiphs, sometimes, you just need new friends, I hope you find them and I wish you happiness and a wonderfull day
What is love to you?
How old are you? Are you in high school? In high school friendships are prioritized but adults tend to prioritize relationships and how would you know what their relationship is like at home? Or when they go on dates? You sound jealous and petty.
Im 9 months in and just started my doubting. I know I love him but oh boi never went through this before and jeez its hard. But he is always there to listen and give me support 💜
If you have a long term relationship that started very young, be prepared for a hard slog to keep it going. You're both going to change a lot over the years, especially through college, (don't even get me started on how tough long distance can be), but it's worth it to see the person they become. It's hard, having dated my person since I was 14, and just being split from them during college years, having to watch how much they're changing through the years. I don't know what it's going to be like, having to basically meet this whole new person after 4 years, but I think it's going to be worth it. So, for any young couples out there who want a future together, just know, you will both change. maybe not anything so drastic, but you will both change, hopefully into better people, who will love each other even more. I know that it's been worth it for us to keep going , and I hope it continues to be. It's hard, but definitely worth it.
Ok, we’re all single and can’t relate, but look at this glorious art style!
The first couple stages actually happened for me when I was very young, mainly the second stage around 6-7, and I hanged around the first couple stages until we finally got into our relationship 6 months ago ❤
I just recently lost my longest relationship of 2 years to the doubting phase, I don't quite know why i clicked on this video but it's good to know that even though it hurts, it's one of the most common phases for things to fall through. I wish it could have gone a different way but, it is what it is.
I got a girlfriend recently and I'm so happy with her.
normal people: have these signs
me: fell in love with my best friend, and are now together ._.
Yeah, same here! Neither of us were looking for romance when we met, I'd actually sworn off "such nonsense" years before. We were happy to be friends.
I don't think I could say he & I ever really 'dated'--unless you count the one time he took me out for my birthday, but we didn't consider it a date (even though it felt like one).That event fell between the time we'd each realized we'd fallen in love, but before we found out the other felt the same way...
By the time we did confess our feelings to each other, we knew this was it, we were already in it for the long haul. So the seduction stage came after the commitment.
We got engaged three years ago, right before Christmas, got married the following May. We're still wondering when that "honeymoon stage" is supposed to end, we just keep on falling deeper in love...💕💑💕
Same here
Same, is it bad that we both skipped too seduction stage or is it not just us? 😅
Teresa McMurrin for some, the honeymoon stage never really ends..
Heck yeah brother!
I can’t imagine myself in a relationship with anyone ever
And your name perfectly simulates that.
Neither could I.
That’s okay. You don’t have to.
it's alright to not have a relationship with others, what matters most is your relationship with yourself. At the end of the day, it takes time figure out what you truly want and it also takes time to find the right person.
Same lmao
I'm currently with my boyfriend and I get doubts now any then every once in a while. But they always go away when he's around me. He shows all the signs of loving me and the doubts go away. Sometimes I even just think about the good times in general or tell the doubts to stop. I think about all the good all the time and that's when I feel better when I'm not around him. 🙃😌😌😌