I learned a LONG time ago that "people aren't always going to like you!!" I too, was a "people pleaser" and in return I was lied to, cheated on, turned away from by people believing lies about me, and taken advantage of!! As a result, I became angry, bitter and very negative!! I ended up walking around with an angry "dog face" all the time and it took me realizing "I" was the one I was angry, bitter and negative towards because "I" allowed myself to be put into these situations!! And once I heard about this quote, I learned not to give a damn about what others thought of me but more importantly, what I thought and believed about myself!! I've been happier ever since while those same people are still miserable!! It's all about having perspective, taking accountability for YOUR part, doing better and becoming a better person for it!!❤️🥰🙏🏼
I always say be selfish and say the things you want to say in every situation. If you dont say what you feel than you're not living the life you want to live.
I blame it on me being introverted and not knowing what to say or when in a conflict not knowing how to respond back for lack of fast thoughts' prefer to not confront to avoid looking like a fool. How ever I train my mind and body to like an mma fighter yet would never hurt a person unless it was self defense. I hate being introverted- makes me seem like a week person people can pick on 😔
My brother u r not alone, i was a very social as a kid very talkative and i could make friends very fast. But now I'm not even able to introduce myself without putting everything together first. I think we really care about the feeling of others getting hurt by words because we know how bad it hurts and most of the time we don't respond badly because we lay more towards the moral. But it's very possible to create an armor for the mind and never get hurt again. My brother i can recommend you David Goggins, go watch his videos it really helped me. I ran last time for 3 hours nonstop because of his ideas and mind tactics. His book Can't Hurt me, is another master piece one can benefit from very much. Stay hard brother! Nobody is gonna help you and me other than ourselves.
Hey man don't worry to much It'll just push us down saying we're weak , we're not worth it and so on... Wait ,think and move When someone disrespect it's not necessary to disrespect them ,it might be hurting but try to move from that place ,move from unnecessary problems face necessary struggles grow and you'll learn what I am saying I am also a work in process similar to you man so I know what you feel 🥺🥺 things change as you change So change better🥹
Hi guys, thank you so much for all your comments. If the background music is ruining the experience I'm sorry for that I thought it would be more inspirational. Here's The video without the music ruclips.net/video/qEY83oeIkAk/видео.html it's gonna show up as a suggested video on the corner The original source ruclips.net/video/AF0FMNs5Qqg/видео.html For more videos don't hesitate to smash those like and subscribe buttons, and ring that bell, See you next time.
I am in this situation and I feel so trap, I always want good for people around me and in the shame time I take my self down and down. I feel so conflict with my self. Everytime they show me disrespect to me. I feel I no longer want to move out from their circle but I feel so trap and numb I have not strength to do that. I feel I make them disappointed while they already made me disappointed 😞
Background music adds to the message, and induces more emotions while listening to it, which really makes it more inspirational and enjoyable. People who don't like it are really very few. Trust me.
Music is fine....but it's TOO loud.... it drowns out his voice.... and I LOVE....LOVE DR. PETERSON... he is brilliant and filled with wisdom.... I need to hear his message with softer music in the background.
Wish there was a City where all of us who really care about others and are nice and friendly would meet each other talk, marry and live the perfect life. But it's always the other way around. Introvert meets extrovert and good meets bad.
I have teeth but my words and truth even still have too much power they’re not able to handle it and that just tells me they’re weak... people who can handle trauma stressful events those are the people that will do big things not those who stay at the level they believe they belong... I’m going 📈
Came back to say that the music made me leave. Description says, stop being a people pleaser. Stand up for yourself, stop being too nice... Feels like the music is telling me to feel sorry for myself... Edit: I came across the comment with the link to the video without the music. Although I didnt think the music went with this video I still appreciate your time and effort making a video intended to help others!
My mother gossips I hate gossip I hate jugdement that is what she deos and the people who think like her always try to bully me saying I am ro kind and have to high moral for this world , I do say no I do say my opinion I love life and everything alive I can not please the narcississts in my family
I’m so sorry :( I hope you are doing better now and that you still stand up for yourself. That’s not a characteristic that we always see amongst children. Be well :)
I agree. I couldn't even make it through the first minute. I genuinely want to hear what he has to say. It's an audio of someone speaking. Why would you play music over it? It's too distracting. Nobody is here to listen to that music. We came to hear what he has to say. Please make a version without the music.
It’s a fine line my friends..always a fine line. Don’t be the guy at the bar telling you manifesto to anyone who’ll listen because that shit is lame as well...pick your spots
@@jonahnolastnameneeded3130 There is a weird trend going on around where people announce the year they watched a youtube video and now it's evolved into the month and even the time of day. It's mostly people who want to be heard but have nothing to say.
What if the people you’re surrounded by judge you immediately for speaking your truth about something? and I mean always judge you when you first open your mouth because your opinion is intelligent
I like Peterson but you notice he had to go somewhere to get help I have found myself sorta in the same position where I tell others how they can fix their problem but sometimes don't take the same advice for mine
I am not going Alone to any party, Evan when I was younger, I didn’t went alone to a party, I am too shay , and introvert , it’s not my way, ! I protect my dignity, I prifair to stay alone in my house , and not doing stupid things . And not make laugh of myself.
you are wrong about being good and moral, you want to know me? I'm silent, distant, timid, and antisocial, you want to approach people with God's voice inside your head? Trie to be moral then, he will spill the fun anyway, besides your interpretation of good and evil is wrong, good and bad people are both aggressive and accretive, but if you can be neutral like me there wouldn't be a reason to wear a tie and call yourself moral just because your enough of the predicator that you can teach people values.
Please God keep this man alive for a long time cuz he's changing the lives of many...
I learned a LONG time ago that "people aren't always going to like you!!" I too, was a "people pleaser" and in return I was lied to, cheated on, turned away from by people believing lies about me, and taken advantage of!! As a result, I became angry, bitter and very negative!! I ended up walking around with an angry "dog face" all the time and it took me realizing "I" was the one I was angry, bitter and negative towards because "I" allowed myself to be put into these situations!! And once I heard about this quote, I learned not to give a damn about what others thought of me but more importantly, what I thought and believed about myself!! I've been happier ever since while those same people are still miserable!! It's all about having perspective, taking accountability for YOUR part, doing better and becoming a better person for it!!❤️🥰🙏🏼
Bravo 👏
This is like the principle of Peace through Strength.
Sivis pacem parabellum
I like that
@@gustavoalexandresouzamello715 q1
I always say be selfish and say the things you want to say in every situation. If you dont say what you feel than you're not living the life you want to live.
I blame it on me being introverted and not knowing what to say or when in a conflict not knowing how to respond back for lack of fast thoughts' prefer to not confront to avoid looking like a fool.
How ever I train my mind and body to like an mma fighter yet would never hurt a person unless it was self defense.
I hate being introverted- makes me seem like a week person people can pick on 😔
My brother u r not alone, i was a very social as a kid very talkative and i could make friends very fast. But now I'm not even able to introduce myself without putting everything together first. I think we really care about the feeling of others getting hurt by words because we know how bad it hurts and most of the time we don't respond badly because we lay more towards the moral. But it's very possible to create an armor for the mind and never get hurt again. My brother i can recommend you David Goggins, go watch his videos it really helped me. I ran last time for 3 hours nonstop because of his ideas and mind tactics. His book Can't Hurt me, is another master piece one can benefit from very much. Stay hard brother! Nobody is gonna help you and me other than ourselves.
Lack of self love also does this.
Same here
Don't worry everyone has a different experience that shape the way we are today
Hey man don't worry to much It'll just push us down saying we're weak , we're not worth it and so on...
Wait ,think and move
When someone disrespect it's not necessary to disrespect them ,it might be hurting but try to move from that place ,move from unnecessary problems face necessary struggles grow and you'll learn what I am saying
I am also a work in process similar to you man so I know what you feel 🥺🥺 things change as you change
So change better🥹
What a man hi is! Lots of pain on his voice anxiety! But his smart one we love him! He is our inspiration!!!💜
I love you God bless you richly
Jordan and Sam are truly inspirational guys.
Start to love yourself much more that you don't have to need anybody to like you more than you to yourself.
Thank you Dr Peterson I needed this
A message is clear: Think! But what does it mean to think? Jordan gets famous for this.
All the world is a stage, play your role and only reveal your authentic self to the inner circle.
Hi guys, thank you so much for all your comments. If the background music is ruining the experience I'm sorry for that I thought it would be more inspirational.
Here's The video without the music ruclips.net/video/qEY83oeIkAk/видео.html it's gonna show up as a suggested video on the corner
The original source ruclips.net/video/AF0FMNs5Qqg/видео.html
For more videos don't hesitate to smash those like and subscribe buttons, and ring that bell, See you next time.
Good job
Love the music
True….
i agree with all of this 100000%. Well said
Needed to hear this. I'm a very nice guy but definitely not a push over.
Be the CHANGE you want to SEE in the WORLD. STRATH in YOU...........................💞
Many people are pleasers is because they dont want to be left out and shoved to the side,I always be my true self regardless.
Just beautiful and sheer genius!
thank you so much for the work
I am in this situation and I feel so trap, I always want good for people around me and in the shame time I take my self down and down. I feel so conflict with my self. Everytime they show me disrespect to me. I feel I no longer want to move out from their circle but I feel so trap and numb I have not strength to do that. I feel I make them disappointed while they already made me disappointed 😞
Don't let anybody desrespect you. Man you're breaking my heart. Just move out from those toxic people. Move out move on.
As always very helpful, thank you Dr. Peterson
❤️
Background music adds to the message, and induces more emotions while listening to it, which really makes it more inspirational and enjoyable. People who don't like it are really very few. Trust me.
Music is fine....but it's TOO loud.... it drowns out his voice.... and I LOVE....LOVE DR. PETERSON... he is brilliant and filled with wisdom.... I need to hear his message with softer music in the background.
That's what I thought
Thank you Jordan 🙏🏼
You're welcome
Amazing, as always
Thank you for this
A link to the original would be nice.
One of the last lessons on the biblical series, q and a time, can't remember which
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Wish there was a City where all of us who really care about others and are nice and friendly would meet each other talk, marry and live the perfect life. But it's always the other way around. Introvert meets extrovert and good meets bad.
This city actually exists but not in this world, it's heaven😍😍😍
Yeah that exists and it is called your eternal home. Heaven. The wicked ones are in hell.
I have teeth but my words and truth even still have too much power they’re not able to handle it and that just tells me they’re weak... people who can handle trauma stressful events those are the people that will do big things not those who stay at the level they believe they belong... I’m going 📈
Never underestimate the power of words.
Ok video+ Please, turn down the music and link the reference to the original video in the description next time!
Would be great if we had direct access (as a pinned comment, or in the description) to a link of the original lecture.
Came back to say that the music made me leave.
Description says, stop being a people pleaser. Stand up for yourself, stop being too nice...
Feels like the music is telling me to feel sorry for myself...
Edit:
I came across the comment with the link to the video without the music. Although I didnt think the music went with this video I still appreciate your time and effort making a video intended to help others!
My mother gossips I hate gossip I hate jugdement that is what she deos and the people who think like her always try to bully me saying I am ro kind and have to high moral for this world , I do say no I do say my opinion I love life and everything alive I can not please the narcississts in my family
I really love the piano music. So much - wanna learn to play ! I didn't really hear JP properly
I love that: The (healthy) integration of "the shadow"
Learning that now too
I stood up for myself as a child. I GOT HIT SEVERELY! I make people LAUGH NOW! I cannot afford any more plastic SURGERY & PAIN!
I’m so sorry :( I hope you are doing better now and that you still stand up for yourself. That’s not a characteristic that we always see amongst children. Be well :)
I am ex people pleaser.
do not need the background music (too loud)
Literally rolled my eyes when I heard music. Unnecessary
I agree. I couldn't even make it through the first minute. I genuinely want to hear what he has to say. It's an audio of someone speaking. Why would you play music over it? It's too distracting. Nobody is here to listen to that music. We came to hear what he has to say. Please make a version without the music.
This reminds me of a novel by Dostojewski. I think the english name is „Doppelganger“ too. Goljädkin should really integrate his damn shadow
It’s a fine line my friends..always a fine line. Don’t be the guy at the bar telling you manifesto to anyone who’ll listen because that shit is lame as well...pick your spots
Great vid, but remove the music next time.
I've been weak all my life.
Maybe when the world, goes back to being the world, I'll start being less agreeable.
sorry for that. fu=k been agreable just be you, the world is the world
background music is too loud
Original Link button
2:53
Good job, I especially like the addition of the music 👍
3rd January 2021
7:55 a. m.
Why did you record the time you watched the video? If you don’t mind me asking.
@@jonahnolastnameneeded3130 There is a weird trend going on around where people announce the year they watched a youtube video and now it's evolved into the month and even the time of day. It's mostly people who want to be heard but have nothing to say.
@@sparksdrinker5650 I see
5th January 2021 8:09 p.m.
From what speech of His is this fragment?
What if the people you’re surrounded by judge you immediately for speaking your truth about something? and I mean always judge you when you first open your mouth because your opinion is intelligent
Leave them
Depends if that is your family or not
You’ve got to distance yourself.
So what. They are either stupid or fake.
@@ryanmehta5369 🙏🏼
What's music name ? I really enjoy it alongside with Jordan's speech
it's on youtube library
Stop trying to please us with the unnecessary piano music.
Haha
Hey man , can i find this picture , great work BTW .
How do you do this if your became a people please due to trauma? I didn't it for so long that I dont know how to.
Lets wait if someone have the answer
That piano in the background is unnecessary
Now I am focusing on something other else...........
What lecture is this from?
I know not one feel pity on my dead body (it's not like that)
I like Peterson but you notice he had to go somewhere to get help I have found myself sorta in the same position where I tell others how they can fix their problem but sometimes don't take the same advice for mine
No need for the music.
I am not going Alone to any party, Evan when I was younger,
I didn’t went alone to a party, I am too shay , and introvert ,
it’s not my way, ! I protect my dignity, I prifair to stay alone in my house ,
and not doing stupid things . And not make laugh of myself.
Would be nicer to focus on without the stereotypical motivational-video piano music
background music is lame
you are wrong about being good and moral, you want to know me? I'm silent, distant, timid, and antisocial, you want to approach people with God's voice inside your head? Trie to be moral then, he will spill the fun anyway, besides your interpretation of good and evil is wrong, good and bad people are both aggressive and accretive, but if you can be neutral like me there wouldn't be a reason to wear a tie and call yourself moral just because your enough of the predicator that you can teach people values.
Is this stolen content?
No it's not