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Agoraphobe interview-Joel
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- Опубликовано: 3 сен 2022
- Soft White Underbelly interview and portrait of Joel, an agoraphobe living in New York City.
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Update: ive obtained my drivers license on March. I became a full-time truck driver in April 🙏 thank you all for the love and support. Please follow
Thats amazing progress, congratulations!! To go from housebound to out on the open road, you should be very proud of yourself. I hope your achievements are bringing you the joy you deserve ❤
Congratulations brother! That’s really cool. “Slow motion is better than no motion!” As I like to say.
I know it can be hard out here, where you can, try to take time to feel the love & express the love (to other people thru random acts of kindness etc) as you want to receive & experience.
For what it’s worth, I believe the love will come back to you many times over primo. 🙏🏾
Proud of you
@@donnacobb4027 Thank you 🙏🏼
great news, congrats.
I have agoraphobia and the fact that you put yourself in such a vulnerable place is admirable and shows your strength, congrats Joel👏
Thank you🙏
I have this, bipolar and ocd..I drink to self medicate which I’m going to AA to stop the drinking because I can leave the house..it’s just if I have to work somewhere, the panic sets in and I feel like I have to run out of the place, I can’t hold down jobs, I wouldn’t wish agoraphobia nor bipolar or ocd on my worst enemy and have to juggle all 3 is extremely difficult :((
@@musicandpoetry_8It’s tough, I know first hand. I haven’t been out the house for 1,006 days. Bipolar meds keep me down, not doing crazy things. But with those meds and anti anxiety ones life is in bed most of the time.
To all who watch this. And to all that are reading this, I thank u and I thank all who have supported me through this. I thank all that have helped me through all my hard times! i love all the people who are helping me and to all that are watching and supporting me through this I love u all and I especially to Kayla who Im truly grateful for reaching out to me today and giving me so much positive messeges and, for acknowledging my story and taking the time out of your day to reach out to me! I truly truly TRULY thank and love u. I know we have known each other for a short time but I feel very happy very special to speak with someone to connect it’s someone and to express my story to someone even if I just met! and to all the others that support me I thank you I thank u all I would also like to say thank you to mark for being there for me also there are not many people in this society who are there for one another and I just want to say I love those who are truly TRULY there for me thank u all and I love you all out there who support me it helps it truly helps a lot!!💯🙏❤️
Keep ya head up! We're all struggling out here. I'm having a tough time, too, lately. Youre right - society sucks! Made me feel less alone ✌️
I have crippling anxiety. Single. One blood relative left. Multiple health conditions. I’m quite content (yet saddened) to stay in my apartment for days on end. Thank you for sharing, Joel. You’re not alone in this. ❤️ Your story made me feel as though there is connection in our mutual traumas and afflictions.
Thanks for sharing your story Joel. I can relate on many levels. I enjoyed listening to you. 🤍
Thank you as well for taking the time out your life to watch my life history. I love the SWU family! Im sending blessings and prayers your way for you to get well soon 🙏💯
Thank you Katie! That means a lot🙏
Joel keeps insisting that he's unable to communicate, but from where I sit, he's an excellent communicator. What he lacks is confidence, and that likely stems from his lack of trust in virtually everyone. Hopefully he will find his person. Someone will make him feel safe and confident and be his best self. Chin up young person, and keep your eyes looking forward. Everyone one of us has a past that needs to stay a part of our history, not our present. All the best to you. Thanks, SWU for introducing us to him.
Thank you! Means alot to me! Honestly 🙏
He seems so wonderful!!! Yes the confidence is everything.
He's talking about what he's dealing with. Just like how if he called a 1-800 number to "vent". It's not a therapist that would report him for supposedly being crazy or anything bad. He can just speak and vent which is just what he needs! He knows his story will get out there to help others. Even if you have agoraphobia.. you will find coping mechanisms and ways to get there and make it happen. Awkward social communications of course. I understand that. I always dreamed and dreamed of moving to Cincinnati, working a desk job, living in a big apartment building, and no one knows who I am. I just live my life with my cats and I'm good. People to leave me alone! This was thoughts from back in the late 80s early to mid 90s.
I cried watching this. Took me back. Could take me back into it at any moment!
He actually stated in the very beginning he’s just now learning to communicate
I don't think he should rely on finding "that person", yet he should find that confidence in himself. It's there.
This is the thing with agoraphobia. I suffer from this too. At it’s roots, it really is an extreme lack of support that leads to feeling unsafe in the world.
And not knowing your identity and having experienced feeling extremely unsafe as a child.
That would make sense.
EXACTLY THANK YOU. I also suffer from this
Absolutely. He shouldn't live in NYC. I felt the same way there at times and in the metropolis I'm in now because there are too many people and some of them are bad. As you see from the news, people do randomly punched others in the face. A smaller city or just a town would be way better for him.
@Sarah Kell has nothing to do with a lack of faith. NOTHING AT ALL.
He could defiantly benefit from a service dog for emotional support. Therapist would be helpful too. Joel deserves to feel better. He really reminds me of someone with PTSD due his upbringing.
I agree, great point mentioning the service animal.
I've always felt more connected to animals than people, I can't imagine my life without my pets.
The bond you build with a dog, cat, etc is so strong. They're always there for you, they're always honest, they'll always have your back, they'll never lie to you or deceive you.
I hope he's able to find his way. And if you're reading this comment brother I suggest you go to an animal humane society in your area and give it a chance. Just go for a day and spend some time with the animals.
Keep your head up, life is tough and we all go through it. Some just hide it better than others
Definitely agree!
Complex-PTSD... i have the same symptoms, not easy to fit into a society where no one seems to care if you die tomorrow
Yes. Great point.
☝️
It’s interesting to me how I’m not seeing many comments about the relationships he had, and how it was almost glossed over in the interview - He was 14 (a child) dating a 34 year old. His parents signed over guardianship to her. If this was a young woman sharing this story, I feel like that would have been highlighted more. I can only imagine the ways that shaped his life. Those are formative years, and his guardian was also his romantic partner. I wish you the best for the future Joel, you have a good head on your shoulders.
Agree
I also observed that there was not much discussed about how he got into a intimate relationship with a 34 when he was only 14. I believe that this added to his issues around safety and security. There was no one there to point out how wrong this was or to keep him safe from ultimately a pedophile. In fact his family just handed him over to a child molester. I am so sorry that you had to experience the worst that society had had to offer at such a young age. You seem like a lovely person with good intentions and I hope that this interview will bring you lots of opportunities to grow and make social connections.
💯💯💯
You are 100% correct.
right, what a terrible woman for even thinking that was okay whatsoever. and for those who enabled it and let it happen. he was only a child and she took advantage of his vulnerability to understand the gravity of that. i think it would’ve definitely had a pretty big and harmful impact on him subconsciously and causes some issues for him
Mark help this guy out. Out of everyone you interview this guy CAN do super well with someone like you!
Faaaacts
What can mark do give him to Lima
word up, I think he can recover easily with a stable job. Maybe a work from home job and his dog walking.
It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men.
Interesting. Never heard that one.
One of my all time favorite quotes. It’s so true.
As someone with much experience with both, I must say that truer words have never been spoken! Building up our strong Cub is SO much easier than what it took to help my formerly broken Husband repair himself.
Dame !!!!
That's a good one dude 👌
Or women
Billions upon billions of people on earth.....yet....so many of us....literally dying inside from loneliness and a little understanding. Now that's baffling! Take the time to better others day- even if it's just a simple "hello"-
Much love SWU family. Hope you all are good this morning.
Good to see you T!!!
@@Gram72534 it's always good to see you too brother. 💪🏼
Good Morning to ya!👋😁 I think the internet has a lot to do with it. Being from the 80’s I remember how everybody came outside to socialize. All the neighbors would be on the porch. The Kids played in the park. The shop keepers knew everybody. Now everybody orders their stuff from the internet, kids stay in playing video games and basically everybody stays in the house on the internet. Even the people outside are just staring at their phones or texting. Nobody talks to each other in the streets no more. Ha! Remember when they said the internet was gonna bring everybody together.
@@myeyeswentdeaf6213 I miss those days. Life was simple, but people were better connected.
Detroit so happy to see you! I have been so worried! Been looking for you for months! Sending love from N.C.
I can identify with Joel when he said his dogs keep him from being lonely. I’m 33 and haven’t been in a relationship in 8 years but my 5 dogs keep me happy.
Yessss that is soo true. Animals make me so much happy!
A man's best friend :)
He seems like a really good guy. I’m so disappointed to hear he was taken advantage of by a grown woman at 14. He never got a chance to actually be a kid.
I really hope someone can just help him get some mental health help. He clearly has a passion working with dogs & can make a living with that passion. He just needs to get his mind right & motivated.
Leave NY! That place isn’t going to help you at all.
Joel, I hope you see all of these messages people left for you. You’re a good man, and you deserve happiness. Don’t ever feel like you don’t belong. Always know that there’s more good people in this world than bad, and that there’s always people who want to give others their love and friendship. I can only hope that you find peace and live a fulfilling life. We need more Joel’s in this world.
I also hope that Joel reads these messages, and especially yours, because it is so incredibly sweet. ☮️
I want to be his friend
I agree with your comment Joey sending love and hugs to everyone
You all are wonderful people. Thank you.
@@Jmotwa87 please don't stay inside. At least go find a duck pond. No people. Lol. Get some air,see if u can get therapy, u are not that same kid,let adult Joey help heal him. We love you! Sending hugs from all of us. Please do an update! We wish you nothing but, love & happiness.
Awww! Every time he tears up or cries, I feel so bad and start tearing up with him.
Me too. All it takes for me is when l am listening and their voice starts to tighten up. It's part of being an empath.
Me too..
Same, i hate how some may view it as unmanly, cos i rather a man cry in my shoulder than be at his funeral next week..
I reasonare with all these ppl even if i didnt have any experience they werent through, i understand them and reasonate with them.
Also, i want to wish you and everyone the very best of life in every aspect! Good health and longevity and positivity and prosperity. Love and peace 💚 ✌️
Because you're a woman w/a soft heart.
Me too...heartbreaking
You can see the anxiety in his body, you can still see that 13 year old in there still just longing for someone to trust. My heart goes out to you, Joel. I hope that you find that there are people on the planet that are true and want to be there for you on a real level.
Thank you🙏😊
How do you see anxiety in the body lmao?
@@keepgrinding8231 tense muscles and shoulders, fidgeting, etc.
Joel, you stole my heart! You said exactly what many troubled children go through. No structure, guidance. Joel when you said your mom said don't sell to a cop, instead of disciplining you, that really spoke volumes!! I'm sorry you still feel unaccepted but we can be your adopted family & friends. Thanks for sharing your story ❤️❤️
Thank you for not judging me and thank you for your kind words care!
@@joeldiaz7573 you are welcome & I hope you are able to connect with someone your age so you two can grow old together. Build a partnership in all areas of your life. Take care!
I absolutely feel you. I've struggled with agoraphobia since right after my dad died unexpectedly. I work part time so I'm not the reason my husband and kids don't lose their home but I validate your feelings... it's a huge struggle. And I've racked up so many bills with counseling that has never helped. I'll be keeping you in my heart, brother.
I'll pray for you too! Be strong! ❤️
I know how it is, Carrie. ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy) has helped me a lot, including meditation. Something to consider :)
Sorry for your loss, Carrie. My Dad (RIP) was my Bestie, everyone knew l was his sidekick. I lost him in 2013. I miss him a lot.
In the 80s, Elizabeth Kubler-Ross was very popular. I read her books and it helped me understand death & dying in my newly chosen career path in healthcare/hospitals. This information helped carry me through life and came in handy when my very healthy elderly family members started departing.
PS l talk to my Dad all the time. He sees me when l goof up and he sees me when l accomplish something unique. xo
Buy yourself the rescue remedy bach flower combination and drink half your body weight in h20 daily.
Carrie, i can relate so much to you. My Mom died tragically last September. Since then, agoraphobia has really hit me hard. Sending you much love and support 💗 We’re not alone in this even though it feels like it 🪷
These videos are therapy for the interviewee and the viewer.
Absolutely..
I've learned so much from watching these videos.
Alot about myself and even more about others.
Truly
well... i don't know that it's the viewer's place to speak for the interviewee and i think it varies. but this helped me.
I really, really like this dude. I wish I lived closer to him, I would love to be his friend and spend time with him, however he would be willing to accept that. I can see what a genuine soul he has
Hopefully this video opens up some opportunity for him, and the right kind of people will get into contact with him
Thank you very much! God bless you🙏❤️
I love him!!!
I dont have agoraphobia but i relate to Joel so much. Ever since i was a kid ive had crippling social anxiety. Im 27 now and its gotten better but man, i cant explain the physical discomfort it brings me where i literally want to crawl of my own skin and i avoid people at all costs. Its so lonely, i know. I feel for you Joel! Good for you for being so brave!
We had a work party last week and I made up some bullshit about a phone call and hid in the back of the warehouse for over an hour because I refuse to be around people if I don’t have to. I feel like crawling out of my skin too. My anxiety/insecurity is insanely strong.
@@ThatHoosierKid17 don’t forget eating in your car on lunch break or not eating at all just to avoid seeing everyone in the break room. -.-
@@ThatHoosierKid17 I feel that 100%. Always wanting to leave and escape, I would do anything just to get away for a moment. It’s an awful feeling!
Holy sh.t I’m not alone with this anxiety I feel on a daily basis!!!!! I hate feeling like it’s just me.
@@taysdad99 No!! don’t ever feel like you’re alone. There’s strangers all around us but trust me a lot of us deal with the same issue is just we don’t talk about it and we’re good at hiding it.
I just love him. He needs someone who makes him feel like family. Hes brave for this
What's so brave about this? He's just telling a story that is not uncommon on this channel.
@@mattacosta6475 yeah there’s a lot of brave people portrayed on this channel. That doesn’t make him less brave. Don’t you think it takes courage to be vunerable?
@@christineo7930 No, it does take vulnerability to be brave. Bravery, like so many other words in the English language have lost meaning because we attached them to meaningless situations or personnel.
Yes, he is brave for sharing his story. Being honest on a public forum opens one up to the possibility of criticism.
@@christineo7930 It most Definitely make him courageous to tell his story here.👍❤️
Joel - you’re not the same guy anymore. You don’t have to feel guilty about the things you did in the past because you needed to survive.
Yes Joel. This!
.....you need to live❤🌱
Hope he reads this comment. Forgive yourself Joel
@@theonetruevoiceoftheonetrueGod What exactly would persistent guilt do? You realize it doesn't actually stop people from doing anything, right? It just makes someone feel like crap, and other factors will decide if they repeat behavior. Anyway - we don't generally hold people accountable to everything they did when young or many decades ago - even in most cases where the act was rather bad.
Joel, I thought underage files were closed so they shouldn't be held against you unless you share the information.🤷
Joel, you never need to apologize for crying. You are a kind human with strong human emotions, and it’s okay to cry.
I suffered from agoraphobia for years. I couldn’t even go check my mail, sit on the porch. I was bedridden for months. I finally got on Lexapro and two years later I am a different person. It’s wonderful. Agoraphobia is just terrible.
I'm so glad you recovered.
congrats on your recovery! I suffer from agoraphobia and am considering to start lexapro but worried about its side effect esp the weight gain risks. may I know your experience re the weight part? I would be forever grateful and will pray for your continuous well being!!
@@ngodchat well it’s hard for me to say anything with the weight gain…I started it while I was 11 weeks pregnant so naturally gained weight, but was able to lose weight afterwards. I pray for your continued journey towards healing!!!
@@BeingBetter me too ❤️
Your comment I really related, I have suffered from this for a few years , can’t go to mailbox when I finally do it’s completely full, can’t do anything but lay on couch 24 hrs a day, I just reached out for help got put on lexapro 20 mg for three weeks now today was the first day I actually felt good positive I see a way out I see a future I can feel it , I’m coming out the darkness. I wouldn’t wish this on my worst enemy. Thank u for your comment
The companionship of dogs is an excellent way to feel a sense of fulfillment in life. If you depend too much on other people for your happiness you will never have the contentment you need.
Agree wholeheartedly. Genuine pure unconditional love, affection and loyalty. (Adopt don’t shop).
You cant marry a dog.
Bro! I was just fixing to say the same thing. My life changed when I got a dog, a bulldog to be exact, but I have had five close friends commit suicide, and I tried to get them to get a dog. I really believe they would still be here
John you’re absolutely correct.
@@TheBlindGuitarSlinger my best friend committed suicide. He loved dogs but never had one, I have always thought if he had gone home and a dog had been there waiting for him and watching him and needing him he would never have killed himself.
2 minutes in and I can 100% relate to everything Joel is saying, this is a real eye opener for me this whole time I felt alone
@@ItsSauIGoodman I've never heard of anyone being born with agoraphobia. Something usually kicks it off so of course you gotta keep listening for the connection to it. Anyone/lots of people can relate to his childhood and not the phobia or vice versa.
I felt exactly 💯 percent the same, I'm one or two steps away. Longing for love. It's all bout rejection and being let down!
Mark asked him about it and he replied, "the phobia?" Because he didn't quite hear him, then he spoke about it in great detail.
@@ItsSauIGoodman that's what I think
I'm agoraphobic its hell on earth.but he didn't tell wat its like.i could sure tell the audience about it.i know this is how he feels but its nothing like I feel.
Agoraphobia is living hell. Joel, your interview made me cry. I really wish u the best and u are truly so strong. I'm still fighting the beast and i gotta say, it really turns u into a zombie. Couldn't sleep, couldn't eat, couldn't feel anything except 24/7 agony and fear. To anyone who struggle, remember, u are not alone and u can win the battle.
An agoraphobic friend from Greece
Thank you friend. That means alot to me 🙏
I'm agoraphobic too! I feel you! Stay strong!
These fears with anxiety can be treated by medication to make you feel more normal. I hope you can get the medication you need to be able to grow and venture out and enjoy life.
I really feel like Joel would benefit from living in a smaller laid back community where he could develop relationships with a core group of people. Maybe work at an animal shelter or grocery store where he can gain self confidence and help his community.
Also, a mentor to whom he could be accountable. I think that would help him with that guidance and structure he seems to desire. Someone to help him grow in self discipline and self confidence.
Thank you very much. My dream right there🙏😊🐾
@@joeldiaz7573 look for an intentional community!
Well said!
CBT and DBT therapy. He needs to get into a group for men.
@@joeldiaz7573 stay positive your a great person I can relate to a lot of the same stuff you struggle with
He is so absolutely right. He's not crazy. He's real. He's lived it
Wow..........just wow!!!......Joel THANK YOU for pushing yourself to do this video....... I hope u know how much you've helped ppl by telling your story...... including myself.... I suffer from severe anxiety n agoraphobia.. keep doing what u love with those animals... and phew watch out u going to have a lot of beautiful woman your age reaching out to u to hook up.... you r a good person, I can tell.
Much luv, xo..................❤️..............................❤️........................................❤️
100% ☺😍
Aww so true
I had bad agoraphobia from 20-32...no therapy helped. Never turned to meds... Best thing I did is embrace the fear rather than fear the fear. Stopped avoiding fearful things (everything) and looked forward to being scared. Thus the fear lost its power over time. It still comes back and tests me from time to time, even 20 years later, but Im in control now. It was like standing up to a bully rather than avoiding confrontation. Bro, you need to face your fear and go out, let the fear wash over you and stand your ground. The fear will pass over you like wave. Pinch yr wrist hard to ground yourself. You will never get better staying hidden away. Took me 10 years of self isolation to come to that realization.
It's been called a few things and now they call a very watered down version. CBT. I used the same thing from 17-32 to reprogram the reactions I would have.
I have lived agoraphobia before. I was in bed for 6 months or so. Also in recent times it was only until days ago that I went to a social event alone. It had been 3 years since I did that. Social anxiety has been real for over 30 years. Best wishes to Joel. I hope he can overcome. Hell I hope I can overcome. Social anxiety is hell.
Congrats on the social event alone! I’m sure it took a lot of work and courage, but I hope you were rewarded with a positive outcome. 🙏 ❤ just always know you’re a beautiful gift to any community
I have so many of the same experiences as this dude. From childhood arrests, adult prison, addiction, the lack of support and abandonment, right down to the dog walking. I cant physically cry for myself, but I tear up out of pure empathy while listening to some of these subjects. I wish this man all the best. He definitely wants better for himself.
Thank you very much! It’s ppl like you that keeps me going
Joel, if you're out there reading these comments I just want to say thank you for telling your story. It helps people more than you know.
Thank you!🙏
@@joeldiaz7573 May God bless you Joel. You are loved, you are strong, and you will succeed. Sending you lots of hugs and positive vibes your way. ♥️
@allykatt1849 thank you. God bless you🙏😊
The man who's channel this is, who is patiently letting people tell their stories, what an amazing thing you're doing. It's hard to look outside of youself in this crazy, noisy world, but these videos help me do that. Takes courage to sit up there and spill it all out to thousands of faceless people. I hope this young man finds the love and acceptence he deserves.
This kinda reminded me of my 1st psychotherapy session. I was reluctant and super nervous leading up to my appointment but I couldn’t stop talking once I sat down. It felt so good to let everything out and to express my feelings towards certain people in my life to another human. It’s been 11 years since, I still struggle greatly but I’m way better than I once was. I hope Joel finds the peace and support he needs to get better. 🤙🏽
i notice many parallels between what he deals with and my struggles. him taking this step to put himself out there on such a large platform is extremely admirable and takes a lot of courage. keep pushing through man, ur doing great 👍🏽
Thank you!
I hope the people that helped him in BootCamp see this and realize the wonderful impact they had on Joel and reach out to him.
What an incredible story. Joel, my husband and I absolutely adore your personality and accept you for who you are, who you were, and who we know you’ll become. YOU ARE AN INCREDIBLE MAN!! We relate so much to this. Thank you for having the courage to share your story. ❤️ We send you so much love and strength my friend.
Ps- Joel can you look into getting an emotional support animal? I feel like you would benefit tremendously from being able to take a support animal with you to places.
Thank you very much! It. Is people like you and your husband and, many more I've witnessed here that still exist. Makes me keep trying to push forward. Thanks for making my hope into a reality guys 🙏💯😊
Oh yes! This is a perfect suggestion!
This is the most touching and compelling interview I've seen. He's an insightful, thoughtful person who deserves help
Thank you🙏 That means a lot to me
i agree. i'm on the fence with this series, glad that it exists but wonder about the exploitation factor and the pimps and along with the empathy, the invitation (sort of, in some cases) for mainstream viewers to gawk. but this interview is so important and so badly needed. i agree, this is the most moving interview i've seen as well and restores my faith in the project.
My agoraphobia is fear or panic attacks where I'm "stuck" now 18 years later still have it and also can't be home alone. Drew Linsalata and his books have helped me tremendously. I am off meds now which is huge for me.
Have you ever tried Benzos? They have helped me alot!
@@umpire3446 I have tried Benzos, but as I have gotten older my doctor has weened the dosage because they lessen apparatus to breath.
My aunt just passed at 87 and when l was in my 20s, l remember hearing how (out of nowhere) my uncle couldnt leave her alone in the house at any time. She could go to the store but not alone and he had to drive her. She was Dx with agorophobia.
He worked and sometimes had to travel for his job. They had to find a live-in type of person and had several people through the years, nursing students and people that worked night shift. It was a deal for them, free rent and the only requirement was to stay with my aunt so she wasnt alone. My aunt cooked all the time, gardening and canning, was so motivated and busy. To this day l dont know where that problem came from. I have oftentime wondered if she always had it but it got worse when she stopped working + their kids grew up and moved out to be on their own.
I take maybe a half of 1 mg a day.
@@umpire3446 Research “Tolerance Withdrawal”…it’s a special kind of HELL beyond mere words and can often times last years! I was previously on Klonopin for over 15 years and have now been RX / Drug free for over four years yet still suffering due to protracted WD associated with Klonopin.
I understand 1million %, where he is. I have Agoraphobia, Anxiety, Panic disorder, ptsd. I can walk about 6 houses away from my house on my own, can't drive, or deal with crowds at all. My dog keeps my sanity, few friends. People don't understand until they walk in your shoes.
Stay strong Joel. You are not alone.
He is so sensitive and there is so much violence around. I wish him one day to be able to live near nature, in a small community where he will be easier recognised and valued. He is such a warm heart struggling to survive in such a cold world.
Joel - you are worthy! You sound like a very sweet, kind, gentle soul. I’m sorry this world was so cruel to you. It’s not your fault you were handed such a horrible childhood. Thank you for telling your story, I think so many can relate with you and find strength in your words. I hope you find love, you deserve it ❤️
He is ab😢solutely amazing and intelligent. Wonderful interview with a kind spirit. You can do this just take it one day at a time ❤
He does have such a kind spirit. It’s so magnetic. He’s genuine and so likable.
Joel, I am just at the end of your video as I write this and I am bummed it finished! You are a great communicator, your voice and the flow of your words really held my attention, and the topics you raised are so important. When I get a little emotional I find I'm lost for words, thank you for sharing your story. Kind regards from Australia!
Thank you that means alot to me!
@@joeldiaz7573 no worries mate
This one hit close to home. All I have are my 2 dogs. I work just to come sit at home and get the love they give.
Well this certainly was not what I expected. Joel just touched my heart! I hope he’s doing well and thriving and has found some peace
He’s so intelligent.. i feel for him, feeling like a prisoner in his mind. I hope he finds the peace and companionship he deserves ❤
Thank you!
I know the feeling, I have Agoraphobia as well. It's a nightmare. It changed my whole life.
I went through agoraphobic tendencies about 10 years ago that lasted on and off for years. I could go a week at a time without leaving the house or looking another human in the eye. I couldn’t even open the door to get packages off my porch sometimes. I’d just started feeling somewhat normal again with going out and then the pandemic happened 🙃 with therapy and healing I’m now able to go out and barely think twice about it.
I think also going a year or so with my choice of going out being taken away and social distancing really shook something in me and ignited me to really appreciate the outside world and connecting with other people. A great thing about mental illness and recovery is if you really work hard you can overcome a lot of your demons and live a [somewhat] normal life :>
You're giving me hope.
@@SR-xo9kl theres always hope. Some thing broke in me a few years back and I could barely leave the house. My heart rate would go up to 120 by just stepping outside my front door. Then the crippling anxiety would start.
I got therapy but the only thing that made a massive difference for me was an antidepressant.
I am now fine 90% of the time and I can start living again.
I am sending you all the healing energy your way ❤
@@MrsHouseTakeNewVegas Thank you, I was put on anti depressants but it hasn't helped me, I'm on a waiting list for therapy.
He's got such a huge heart, he's a fighter. Wishing lots of happiness finds your way Joel.
Sweetie-thank you for summoning the courage to join Mark on SWU. You are self aware and show deep compassion and empathy for human kind. I hear you on the structure and loneliness…. You took a huge step today sharing your story and I hope you are proud of yourself. May this act of bravery sow a a harvest greater than your wildest dreams. Always remember that you are precious. Xoxo
@HLR thank you very much, this means alot to me🙏
He seems so sweet!! Love conquers a lot. I hope he finds the connection he needs to be functional in the world. ❤️❤️❤️ Anxiety is a bitch!
Yes ma’am he’s a sweet man
There's nothing wrong with keeping to yourself. But what's missing is self love and acceptance. With these two things you will flourish even living a solitary life. Relationships for some of us are overrated. You sound like you've got everything you need to live a fulfilling life. Some of us live perfectly contented solitary lives. For myself, I've learned through books how to love myself and to accept life as it comes to me each day. A person's expectations can be the cause of unhappiness. When a person's experiences have brought them distrust in others it's not a bad thing. What's bad is thinking we should be in a relationship. That causes loneliness. Accepting our choices can free us. You seem like you really worked hard to get to the plateau you are on and it seems like if you loved your life the way it is now without the drugs and problems you have learned to avoid... You could appreciate more how valuable your life is right now. You have everything you need to be happy and content with what you have right now. Congratulations. You've come a long way. Live in that space and allow love and appreciation to join you in every moment.
Joel did a wonderful job of communicating his feelings and fears. I have suffered with Agoraphobia fór probably 40 years now
how do u manage ? sending u love and prayers
I can feel how sad you are. I’ve watched many SWUB videos but this one has touched me the most. I’m so sorry for your hurt but know that you are not alone. Thank you for your strength and genuinely spoken words. ❤
I was completely agoraphobic for 6yrs I also battled with it for many yrs before that too, there's always a root and once that fear sets in a million more come with it but there is hope I'm no longer agoraphobic and have come so far but sadly it does lay dormant it's a coping mechanism sometimes the same as one turns to drink or whatever there escape is but as long as u speak to someone and get help as it is out there this should help, nothing is more powerful than the mind and when u learn this u also learn u can change your thought process. Good luck and don't give up to anybody who needs to hear this xxx
Also I never did have help or any encouragement from family which honestly could of changed my life the battle was all mine and the hardest one I've ever faced.#BeKind &help Others x
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The love for older women comes from the love he wanted/needed from his mother…
So sad and unfortunate.
He also said that he was 13 and his girlfriend was 34. What 34 year old would want to date a 13 year old??? Someone with some serious problems.
@@sinceunati I thought the same thing! On one hand I’m sure he was comforted by the love he was getting from these sick older ladies but at the end of the day it’s still abuse, it’s still an adult taking advantage of a child’s naivety. Very sad
And those ladies were pedophiles because he was wayyyy under 18 when they were messing with him.
@@sinceunati it was child abuse :(
Thought the same . Predators prayed on him.
I love marks subtle but powerful comments of reinforcement “you’re doing a great job” I’m sure he needed to hear that more than we know.
This man seems like he's an Empath and a very special person who deserves love. I would love to see him get the chances he deserves!
If anyone would like to know what a panic attack feels like coming from a person with panic disorder that led to Agoraphobia. 18 years now of not even stepping in my yard alone.
Think for a moment that feeling when you can't find something, your child left your sight, or your dog. Then you find them and you feel relieved instantly. People with panic disorder feel that scared all day, it doesn't end for us. 😔
That's scary.
Be blessed my friend and Star strong
Yeah. They're so draining.
Nannette , may I ask if this issue has resulted In heart issues for you ?
Yea it's definitely terrifying. I've had them since I was 18. I am now 50.
@@goldendc1665 no heart issues came first. I have mitro valve prolapse with regurgitation. Often people who have it also have panic.
Thank you for sharing Joel. You matter. Animals are amazing healers and companions. I hear you, I fear dying alone too. It's more common than you think. I've been agoraphobic, stemming from PTSD and have been living alone since 2016. It's crippling and so isolating. Every day is a new challenge to keep going, and not give up.
Hypnotherapy helped me MASSIVELY.
Pretty much back to being able to do everything without paranoia or that crazy level of fear. Hope this helps you in some way. 🤗💖
Very true I have been agoraphobic since 2017 and additionally now take zero RX drugs..don’t drink / smoke etc…”Go Figure”? I thought I would have a new lease on life after getting off both the Benzos and plethora of other RX drugs I was previously taking at the time..boy was I was wrong. The protracted WD from the Klonopin has been a living HELL beyond mere words…pure torture at times.💯
@@SKY-wt2pp thank you
@@Hitit123 The struggle is real. I am okay if a friend comes and picks me up, other than anxiety leading up. I'm weaning off one of my medications right now. First week's been hell with the nightmares. Sorry to hear you're going trough hell. Big squishy hugs.
Joel. My heart is so full of love for you. I’m sorry the world failed you so much. You’re such a good man.
Hi Joel- I can relate to your loneliness and being an introvert. I am 42 with no family that I speak with. It takes so much energy every day to work towards healing from my childhood. I have tried meds, counseling. What has helped me is hypnotherapy, mindfulness, nature walks and staying away from media. Florida is a beautiful place to be, people are different here. I wish you the best in your journey and for you to find your peace.
@positivevibes thank you very much for such caring words. Means a lot to me! I appreciate you guys accepting as part of your SWU family. I feel a lot of love here. Definitely gonna look into hypnotherapy!🙏💯😊
I feel so much for Joel, and when he started to tear up .. I teared up with him. So much love and respect for him. You are not alone. You are so admirable.
I have anxiety and panic disorder and they go hand in hand with agoraphobic tendencies. For those that go through this.. I see you, I feel you. ❤️ you’re not alone.
thank you 💜
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Wow! I have watched so many of these interviews now, all of them enlightening in some way. This one is so powerful Joel, you are a beautiful person who deserves your own compassion. Your delivery is wonderful and so honest, you are steps away from being a motivational speaker. I cried along with you Joel, and that is your strength, not being afraid to show your vulnerability will transform other’s lives. I’m sure that’s why you made the journey to see Mark. Those dogs are fortunate to spend time with you, and I’m sure they’ll never forget you either. ❤️ ps. EMDR is a fantastic therapy for PTSD, it can transform these emotions you’re having, I realise it’s not for everyone, but worth looking into?
Thank you very much @wolfy. I really appreciate your sincere kind words! Although I’ve never heard of it, I will look into EMDR!🙏💯
He says he can’t articulate well but I sit here mesmerized by this man’s powerful and insightful words. You never know what people are going through. 🙏
I'm 41 and have had agoraphobia for 7 years now, stay strong brother your not alone. I wish we could form a group or chat support system for us similar to NA or AA I believe it would be therapeutic. If anyone would like to do this or has a idea lmk. Ty for this interview we as agoraphobics needed this mark.
That will be super awesome! I totally agree. Thank you very much!🙏
I would be more than willing to start an online group for agoraphobia on Facebook. I am a retired RN and have previously had the phobia. Reply if interested.
That would be amazing!!! Good idea. I’m lease let me know if there is such thing.
@@Crystalblue58 I'm interested.
@@Crystalblue58 interested!🙏💯 This will be Amazing
I thought I would cry and I did.. .thank you for your very vulnerable and relatable story..your story and journey is very inspiring and God has hand on your life
I find it extremely fascinating to see how strong yet vulnerable he is. All the best Joel, you are an amazing human being.
Thank you❤️🙏
This hole video was beyond eye opening. I am also acrophobic and I'm autistic. Admitting to not getting out still hurts. I have therapy but staying inside for 2-3 years has not help. I do believe you are doing so great. Thank you for telling your story. It helps but I'm not sure if I even can get to that point.
I suffer from the same exact fears. I take meds, that help,..but OMG..the dog thing. I only am comfortable around dogs.
Don't worry about others or what they think. Keep it up.
Doggies don't lie. They tell you everything in their body language.♥️
It's a heartbreaking reality to see what the lack of proper love and guidance in our most formative years can do to a person. I see deep down a person who has the ability to push past this trauma and fight for a better life. I hope to see an update where Joel is surrounded by people who love him and living his life to the fullest. Mark, the platform you give to people to share their stories is truly incredible. You got this Joel!
Thank you 🙏 I appreciate your kind words
you can tell how much self reflection he has done. I'm only a couple years younger than him but he inspires me to do better. Wishing him all the luck in his future
Out of all your interviews, this was by far my favorite. And there are so many more dramatic stories than this- but he really plucked my heart strings. I can empathize with this man and would love to extend an invitation to dinner (we have a dog!) if the wind ever blew him to allentown again. He deserves to be seen, heard, and loved. As do we all.
Aww thank you very much. I just may take you guys dinner invitation after all. Please check out my Facebook for updates. I have been back in Allentown for a Week already and ran into my middle school friend who I happen to work for in his painting buisness 🙏😊 thanks to you and so many others here I do not feel alone and am beginning to go out more and trying to adjust and socialize. Would love to meet your dog I’m sure he/she will want to be my pal😄🐾
As someone who struggles with bad anxiety but watches and cares for dogs, I can relate 100% to this man. I used to be at level of agoraphobia but now I am better and can travel. Dogs bring out the best of us, they really do. We feel more comfortable around dogs and other animals than humans. I don’t doubt for a second that this man took amazing care of the dogs he watched.
Joels words touched me deeply. I stand with him in this war on humanity. I pray for the day where the many people like Joel, myself, and so many others that feel the same can build a community together. One where we rescue the animals experiencing the same. So many of us feel alone in the world as doing so keeps us safe. We need to come together so that no one needs to die alone. We can heal together. That world is coming. I hope to meet Joel there. Much Love
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You are correct lovlie Edie, the new and profoundly beautiful world is coming and Joel will be there with us both. Time to leave this age of pieces (greed, corruption, violence, tyranny) behind us once and for all, and slide into the golden age of aquarius, where all light workers like us will flourish in a world of love, blessings and care for one another. I honestly can't wait, but am living it every day. Spreading my heart like butter on a pancake each and every day keeps me sane and alive. Peace and love to all of us who care. Kisses 😘😘🇨🇦🇨🇦😘😘
@@shiningstar5919 , See you soon! Much Love
@Edie thank you for your kind words and Straight forward. Yes to build a community of animals and us will be a blessing to us all! I look forward seeing you there too! We got this💯🙏
@@joeldiaz7573 , I am thinking of you and our impending community. I think we'll all be coming together real soon. Exciting times! Much Love
This gentleman is way more articulate and intelligent than he is aware of. I suspect he did not get the stimulation he needed as a child. Many parents are not equipped for sensitive and/or intelligent children. He should try writing. It’s unfortunate that someone with such a passionate understanding of society and people doesn’t share that with others more often. There is more in store for this guy than dog walking. I’m sure of it
Agreed. He is not aware of his power from within.
Awwwwwww he really is a smart a sweet kind hearted man to see that all he wanted was guidance in live and he wanted his parents to show him that love and care that mom and dad could never give him 2 see that is heart breaking to me I have 3 kids my oldest is 11 n she is a handful but I love her and my 2yr old son and 7mnth old baby girl the same I would b hurt if my kids was to ever feel like I don't want them or love them......My Man U have a friend in me hope u are doin well n keep ur head up no matter what ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Keep on fighting Joel, you are great and well aware person
Joel, you are an amazing young man, you’re a better communicator then you give yourself credit for! A dog is a wonderful companion, I’m 71 and have had dogs all my life, dog spells God backwards. There are great online church groups that you could reach out to that would love to hear your story because several of them are lonely too. God bless you!!!!!
Thank you Larry. That means a lot. I will be searching for these virtual church groups. It will be nice to have good ppl to talk to from time to time! Absolutely 🙏😊
Fuck the church Bunch of wolves in sheeps clothing. Predatory people in the church fuck em all
He reminds me so much of my brother, & it breaks my heart. I hope he finds peace, & that someone gives him the chance he deserves. What a great man he is.
Thank you! That means a lot to me! Honestly!🙏😊
It really stood out to me when he was talking about those who disciplined him in the boot camp and how he knew they cared about him because of that. Discipline comes from a place of love and care.
You’re not missing much Joel, most of the world is just out for themselves looking for another victim. Just focus on carving out your slice of this pie and don’t worry about what other people think… great interview guys…
i’m sorry you feel that way, but this is completely inaccurate.
This guy's entire existence is enabled by workers who do engage with the outside world, nevermind the delivery $$. This kind of life is goofy and unsustainable
@@apatisk Yes, i agree, and the irony of his comment.. 🤦🏻♀️
This ain't helpful at all, all this comment serves to do is pile on the anxieties and fears of what's outside.
I get you're probably trying to relate and show empathy or provide comfort but if you zoom out, feeding into those anxieties and reaffirming them is damaging af.
@Sarah Kell can't coddle everyone for every anxiety in a sociopathic capitalistic society. Gotta cope somehow and survive. Sad reality for many with far greater trauma
I had agoraphobia for 4 years. I finally overcame it last year.
How? It’s a constant struggle for me
@@joannm5981 I have many videos describing how I overcame it on my RUclips channel. I also did an interview on Soft White Underbelly.
It was a huge struggle and continues to be somewhat, because I have traces of issues left from it like being afraid of highways and bridges. In a nutshell you must keep trying, you must never give up trying.
Being Better, I am so happy for you.
Interesting subject! Way to go, Joel, for coming to tell your story. That was super brave and took a lot of courage. You're not giving yourself enough credit as you did great. I rarely leave my home, but I have parrots instead of dogs to keep me company. Lol
All the best from Canada 🇨🇦
@SoftWhiteUnderbelly, your channel is growing super fast! I love to see the numbers climb. When I first started watching, approximately two years ago, I think you had around 1.7 million subscribers. Now you're close to four million. Way to go. 👏 🥳 💐
I wish him the best and I hope he finds the love and support he deserves. He seems such a nice person. I hope to see a follow up soon.
I think you are a wonderful person. A kind, intelligent, articulate, fun person. Please see that in yourself. You are well worth loving, liking and simply saying hello too. - dogs well they are the absolute best !
Thank you very much for your kind words of encouragement. This really
means a lot to me. Honestly 🙏
Thank you for sharing your story , feel I’ve fallen into your mindset since the pandemic and my wife getting cancer but I’m so lucky I need to be strong for my wife and my boys and try my best to push on even though I want to quit
You are completely correct in your views ( based on your experiences) on how the systems work. All designed to create poverty, suffering, and extreme pain. Your voice your energy is needed outside of your room. People like you, people like me see the same corruption. You are not alone.
This one really hit home. My whole entire heart goes out to you, Joel!! A LOT of us are out here with the same sentiments...you are NOT alone!!!
Thank you soo much! That means so much to me! Honestly! I really didn’t know that so many others like me suffer from this or similar. I now see that I am not alone anymore. Thank you family!🙏
@@joeldiaz7573 thanks to you I just found out that there are so many suffering from agoraphobia and social anxiety, I've been suffering on my own for years
Joel, you’re such a likable person. You are interesting, compassionate, reflective. I find you to communicate well. I feel like building confidence and not having fear that situations will turn out like they have before are the areas of growth for you from the little I observed in this video. We all have areas to improve. Human connection is so important.
I don’t live in New York but understand what you mean about society. So much about this country is not acknowledging the humanity in each of us. Just know that you are worthy. You have so much to offer. You are loved. Not having support is so very hard, and some people don’t understand how that feels, how alone and isolating that is. You’re really tough to be who you are today. I hope you are proud of who you are because good character matters so much. Thank you for sharing your experiences in life.
Much peace and love.
Love these ones pertaining to psychological conditions. So informative. Thank you for sharing Joel.
My pleasure!😊 Thank you for listening and watching 🙏
Joel, thank you for teaching us & helping me to understand myself better. I never noticed a link between agoraphobia and the need for structure! Wow! Best of luck to you, Joel! Sending love and blessings from AL! 🤗🙏✌💟
When Mark told him he’s communicating well with him right now & he replied that he has to because he wants the video to be good & help people, I felt that. He did a great job!
I love you Joel! ❤️ I’m agoraphobic too. I’ve been housebound for years. I have so much anxiety and c-ptsd. I’ll be praying for you and keeping you in my thoughts.
@Sophie Petal thank you so much for your kind words. Thank you keeping me in your prayers🙏 I too will be praying for you to get well! anxiety nor c-ptsd is no joke and I’m confident we all will better ourselves. Mark is an Incredible kind Soul. I love all you guys! Honestly 🙏😊💯❤️
Therapy...talking with a doctor and exposure therapy has helped me.
Was actually diagnosed with PTSD today, from my childhood.
Im agoraphobic - silent torturous killer...
RUclipss about it for my social life apart from my daughters and grandbabies. Its life. Its ha rder than people imagine.
Love this guy. Big heart and he’s so right about this society.
Booya Tony in dee house
Thank you Tony 🙏😊
I'm praying for you, Joel! Thank you for sharing your story. You are extremely bright. I admire your business integrity and love for animals.