Once my boyfriend and I were apartment sitting for a friend and her psychotic dog who escaped after breaking his leash and collar. It was 2:00 am with no regular stores open so we found a porn shop and bought a a collar (it had bling on it but was sturdy) and a leash and recaptured the dog. It's one of my funniest memories
Oh man this is incredible!!!!! The day I turned 18 my friends took me to that shop and I met Kris years and years ago! We've stayed in contact ever since and I always loved coming in on his shift throughout the years! He writes poetry too and I have a pretty big collection of his little books he'd make. Finally getting some spotlight my friend! So happy for you!!!
Most mainstream people would judge him as a loser working in a porn store, yet he seems deeper and real than any dirtbag politician, priest, or corporate CEO. Very cool dude...
OK, You need to step off your "Morality" high horse. That you seem to hold a guy that has worked at a porn shop for more than a decade higher than a CEO or priest because he seems "real" is laughable.
Omg Kris! I know him, such a one in a million gem. It literally makes me so so happy to see him on here and how many people get to see how great of a person he is!
I thought this was going to be boring and almost didn't watch it. As soon as this gentleman started talking, he was so endearing. I hope he does find love. He is worthy of it! God bless him!
0:30 Multi generational households. Don't be embarrassed by that people. It's how life used to work and we are just going back to that and that's not bad.
Absolutely 💯 % 16years doing what he does, and with the public also...phew😅💥 I've been at my job for 18years...but I do NOT work with the public🤣and never will!🤣bless🙌this guy!
What a cool dude. Living with parents is not anything to be ashamed of, especially since it seems they get along. Most of the world embraces intergenerational living.
Yeah but he's been working in this field for 16 years. I'm sure they pay minimum wage+commission for every toy they sell but it's not a place to retire from.
Im a 6 figure professional and lived with my mom 5 years longer than I wanted because it made her rent easier until her retirement. Lots of reasons people still live with a parent... The Indian culture for example, kids are at home intil marriage, and then when the parents get old and can't fully take care of themselves they move in with the kids. I've already told my mother I'd build her an apartment on my property if she wants.
Rural Central Calif here: My dad accumulated a ton of rentals that I helped him maintain as I grew up. I had a window into 100's of hispanic families' lives, many multigenerational. There were tensions, but no matter how poor, they watched over each other and there was always food on the table. I befriended a wonan with Parkinson's and care for her. If not for me, I am sure her daughter would have dumped her off in the San Francisco Tenderloin district and have social services pick her up...while she lives rent free in her mom's fully paid house in Silicon Valley. Edit: One particular family lived rent free on a ranch. The 50's son was a foreman on the ranch. His mother, grandmother to his children cooked, washed for the family, grandkids. It gave her purpose. I was invited to eat multiple times with the family. There was always something on the stove and offers of something to eat and fresh tortillas as soon as you'd walk in the door. The grandkids were blessed with advice and old stories. She, healthy to the last day died in her sleep in the house surrounded by her family.
I agree! Seems loke a great guy with open minded and heart and general aspect of life. Also wish him AND everyone the best, I wish you and everyone the very best of life in every aspect! Good health and longevity and positivity and prosperity. Love and peace and hope 🙏😇
This dude is so cool. I'm 32 and struggling with life, mainly because I didn't achieve what I was aiming at academically. When I was 22 some traumatic events took place and my wiring became something like "don't ask anything from anyone, provide for yourself and leave as soon as you can". No children, fortunately. Wish I could get a job like this and be in peace with myself. I have a lot of self-loathing for not having dealt with things the way I should've... I let myself be beat. I just hope we can all find the peace and self-love we deserve. Take care guys
Ty for sharing! My solution was to turn off the tv/social media and start building discipline to do the things I wanted to do. Work read save money travel gym eat right. Leveled up irl.
Great interview. You can see and hear Kristopher’s stressful memories melting away as he provides vivid details about customers he’s dealt with. This is the first interview of a porn shop clerk for me. I liked the questions as well as the responses. Very well done!
Kristopher, Happy Birthday! Thank you so much for sharing your story. You had me laughing & reminded me of my first time going into an adult store. I was in college at the time & there was a rumor going around that one of my instructors had been caught shoplifting at our local "Adult Superstore," & had his photo posted as a warning. Of course we didnt believe it. Fast forward a couple of months, one of the girls in our group was getting married. We were looking for party favors, etc. Not only was the rumor a fact, but his picture was visible as we were walking in the door. There was this area on the wall near the register where they had pics of all the people that had been caught shoplifting. What was even funnier was that the pics were taken with a polaroid cameras & the lighting wasnt good, so it looked extra grimy. LOL. As for the types of people that go in there, thats such a weird question. We have (or had) 2 adult stores where I live, but I can assure anyone that they do not get the same customers, at all. Asking what types of people go in there is like asking a group of adults, which beer they prefer. For no reason, just to know. Some people are more creative, spontaneous & fun, while others are more uptight, fixed & serious. Some of the customers are people who actually have more serious reasons that they are there. We forget that it could be for medical reasons, dr/therapist recommendation, or because the person lost their partner. ❤ I was first diagnosed with depression when I was 13. Im sorry you know this pain. You have a pretty uplifting, yet laid back vibe & youre a wonderful conversationalist. Keep your head up!! I hope to see you again in an update 🙃
Hey Rochelle! You are absolutely right. (and that was a very funny story about your instructor shoplifting at the adult store. I wonder what they took?🤔) There are so many reasons we little humans do what we do, and when we need to do things at certain times of our lives. Love, loss whatever it is. Sexuality is not a bad thing nor is a expressing it
When I did my swu interview a cpl months ago it was an awesome experience. Mark is so cool and supportive. He still answers every text I send Quickly and he has helped me when needed. He's awesome. My video got age restricted. Go check it out. Brad. Childhood trauma. It's pretty good. All of his work is good
“TRYING TO LOVE MYSELF IS THE MOST KEY THING THAT I CAN DO”. (Not shouting this …but, putting it in CAPS just to accentuate and draw attention to it because this is SPOT-ON key advice for US ALL in this life!!!) We cannot truly love another unless we can love ourselves first. ❤️
@Baldie Da Beast sure, people not being content in their own body is sad but we're definitely social creatures who need some form of support from time to time.
I'm reclusive, in poor health and with no family...so you're saying that I should off myself? Real nice. Where do you people come up with your nonsensical evaluations about life?
I'm a long time subscriber, and watch many Soft White Underbelly videos. I was pretty sure that I was either going to be bored, or totally disgusted by this interview. OMG!!!! How wrong can a person be?? This is my favourite interview for ages!! Kristopher is so authentic (& by the way I hate that expression because by default, we should all be authentic, because we are simply ourselves) and I hugely enjoyed listening to some stories rooted in total reality, and not being told to paint a particular picture! Sometimes a bit of honesty, while also the chance to look at the "ridiculousness" of life, is all we need to get the cogs of the brain whirring! I loved this! Cheers Kristopher (& Mark)! Positive vibes & praters from Leeds, UK xx
I enjoyed your comment. Perhaps there's a learning lesson about expectations here. Perhaps that's one of Mark's reasons for the channel. I hope you have a smooth and productive day. -JB
I thought when I first started reading your comment that I was going to bored to death with your useless, childish review but “OMG!!!” ☄️💥🔥 I was right …😴
Heck yeah. Interviewer was pretty disrespectful on a subtle level, his biases really showed on this one which usually isn't the case. Wish the best for this guy
Before it even starts... I know for sure this dude has seen some shit. When I was strung out and homeless, I damn near lived in one. I'd pay the 3 dollars for a preview just so I could sleep on the floor... Yeah... I know... No joke. Proudly clean and sober over 5 years now. Got A good job. A savings account and roof over my head. You CAN get out if you want to. IF YOU CHOOSE TO.
I greatly appreciate Kristopher's candor, his lack of judgement toward others, and his thoughtful reflections. I'd love to know the origins of his diverse array of tattoos. No doubt, they too have stories to tell. Thank you for all you shared, Kristopher.
He seems so cool! I briefly thought about opening up an adult store, but I have no idea about running a business and the two shops we did have in two closed so I didn't think it'd be successful in my area. I love that he tries to make the shop a judgement-free zone and treats everyone with respect. There's nothing wrong with exploring your sexual pleasure as long as everything's consensual.
I never thought I'd say this about a person who does this work, but, this man is articulate, insightful and open. I hope he conquers his depression and learns to value himself. You took the high road here and gave us a good interview.
i was very unimpressed with this guy until the 13:30 mark where he commented on feeling sadness and being sensitive to other people's sad souls when they walk in the door.
I worked for a porn shop for two years in Los Angeles. I'm surprised he has lasted that long. There's no future in it. You meet a lot of interesting people though. But I had to leave after confronting a tweaker in the arcade rooms and the cops respond very late.
I did this for almost decade. It was funny, gross, pervy, and fun at times. I learned how to manage employees, buying from companies, counting deposits, writing paychecks, shipping and receiving, inventory, customer service....and it helped me be ready for jobs in the future. I just referred to the shop as a "gift store"
@@Essays4College I feel like the "clean up" has to be the grossest thing in a job like that (I couldn't do it. I wouldn't do it lol). Especially if it's a place like the one this dude works at that has peep/private shows, a theatre, glory holes... I I suppose if it's like the places where I live that sell adult stuff and weed stuff, but don't have any type of... Idk... "Venues" that this dude's store has, then yeah, I bet that's a cool ass/cushy job. I had a childhood friend who worked one of the adult vidya stores for $13/hr back when minimum wage was still $5/hr when we were in our late teens/early 20s; just adult stuff and weed stuff, and he had a blast.
@@thematriarchy2075 I meant listening my bad. Safety first for sure. That’s why I said my imagination goes wild cause I just listen and paint it out in my head
"Porn Shop Clerk interview-Kristopher" by Soft White (Oct 21, 2022) 5:45. Types of customer 6:35 Worst moments 7:008:20. Ppl just want to talk & someone to listen to u 11:36. Female coworkers 14:53
Nothing wrong with living with your parents. I make damn good money but I moved back in with my parents at 26 so I could save more money for a house. They were glad to have me back around but sad that I left 3 years later. I only live one city over lol
empathetic, introspective, articulate - this guy was one of your better interviews. I used to work at an adult theatre/bookstore myself back in the 90s, he wasn't kidding when he said just about anyone could walk through the door. you get all types. and all kinds of stories to tell 🤔
I'm slowly figuring out why I watch these videos and one part of it is that I'm judging "Would I hang out with this person?" THIS GUY!! I'd love to hang out with this guy! Maybe it's all the time I spent in retail, but his retail and life experience are both similar and opposite of mine in a way that just vibed with me. We could probably swap stories for days. lol Keep being awesome, bro! I'm rooting for you!
Every culture people live together, multi generations in one house taking care of each other. It's natural. The US is the oddball out in that regard. It's quite sad really.
A guy doesn't want to hear that a girl would feel safe around him, that's the typical "friend zone" crap that guys despise. You would be paying him a compliment more if you said you feel that he'd be the kind to pound you in the ass for hours on end and then drop you off in the ghetto instead of driving you home.
I remember my first experience going to a porn store at 18. As I got out of the car, I tried to catch the door from closing as I forgot my wallet in the glove box as I knew I would be carded since I looked like 12. My little finger got smashed in the door. I stood there in the porn shop in a lot of pain looking at the magazines while sucking on my finger trying to stop it from bleeding. Never went back. lol
I understood him living at home at the age of 45 in Southern California because of the cost of living until he said he worked at a porn shop for 16 years. 🙄
Female here, was 20 years old, in 2006, worked at a porn/adult shop. Small town, Wendover, Nevada. I worked at the shop for 3 months. Plenty of stories within that time. And yes, everybody comes in! Didn't stay long, due to the boss changing my schedule without notice. Got canned lol. Makes me laugh though, its no longer a porn shop. Its now a smoke shop.
I worked at a porn shop briefly in my youth. What Mark didn't seem to get is that ALL types come in there, not just "perverts." Yes, there are guys who have trouble finding women, but there are also guys that are totally normal who just want to find something to rub one out to. And yes, women were rarer, but they came in as well, mostly to look at toys or bachelorette party stuff. It's like a liquor store, you get ALL types coming in to feed their vice, we just attach more stigma to sex, which Mark clearly does here.
@@ChubbyUnicorn Mark is attempting to get an interesting interview which would entail asking about "perverts" amongst regular porn shop patrons otherwise he could just interview a Walgreens clerk and get the same responses.
Exactly. People of all types and all walks of life enjoy sex and porn, so naturally, all kinds of people are likely to be found at a porn shop. I don't know why folks think that only "pervs" patronize places like this.
9:07 The stress in the job in Las Vegas was mostly from shoplifters. Lots of people try to steal tapes & DVD's. Plus, you get some drunks who want to get refunds, and the store doesn't give them, so they argue. Plus, misunderstandings. I knew a clerk who had to fix a guy's tape, then when he came in to return it the next day, the clerk said, "Did it work?" The guy was embarrassed as if asked if the video turned him on enough and yelled back, "Maybe you should mind your own business" and was ready to fight. He misunderstood the question.
As a young teen, I was in a large city. I remember seeing a porn shop on a busy street. A large sign hung on the side that said “Enter in Rear” with an arrow pointing to the parking lot behind the store. I didn’t get the double entendre for many years.
I could be wrong but I believe it's actually a law, or perhaps city ordinance, that requires them to have the entrance be in the rear of the building so children are less likely to stumble in. Every single adult store I've seen has had that same setup and I find it hard to believe they all do it for a cheap joke
I didn’t like the vibe mark gave at first when he said “you’re 45 and living with your dad?” Ugh, why does that mean a bad thing??? I wish my dad and I got along and spoke, he seems ti have a relationship with his father that most would wish they had
You do great work, Mark. Thanks for what you do. Any chance of doing an interview with a person who carries a “God loves you” or “Repent” sign with megaphone? Always wondered what their stories were. Thx.
I like the way he explains the people that go to his store is such an upfront and open way without seeming judgmental. I would think that after 16 years, one would be ok with people or not be able to stand them. In any industry. He was really great to watch and was really funny! His stories were great! Great interview!!! Cool guy! THX!
I was 18 when a friend took me to an adult bookstore. It was my first time. On the way he told me to watch out for the gays who hang out there, that sometimes they'll assault you while you're watching porn since the porn was being shown in an almost totally hidden booth. It was a genuine warning but consequently I was nervous af while I was viewing my first porn clip, so I couldn't enjoy it. I was glad when the clip was over (it was short, about 3 minutes). This interview reminds me of the movie Don Jon.
@@lindboknifeandtool Omg, you're the 2nd person that's told me that..I had to Google Giga Chad because I didn't know what they were talking about,lol..yes,that's me..I'm trying to grow a beard and long hair,and that's as far as I've gotten so far😁
Top of the morning Wes! Funny thing: I knew it was your comment without looking at the name by the time I finished reading it because of your emojis. Plus: I know your constant upbeat, positive nature by now. Big love coming at ya, my friend, at 5:50 a.m.😂💕👻💥✌
I speak to folks with nothing and folks with everything. This proves the value in listening to people from all walks of life. Remove judgement, open ears and open mind = priceless wisdom.
Can we normalize intergenerational living in the US? There is nothing wrong with choosing to (or having to, for economic reasons, care of elders, etc) to live with your family as an adult. We need to take care of each other more in this country and these silly stigmas only serve to isolate us.
I met this dude at OC Zine Fest less than a month before this video was uploaded. Took a few 35mm photos of him. Met him again at this year's OC Zine Fest and we traded stickers. It was nice to see him again.
I like this guy. I used to help a friend out at his job at a what we then called a "dirty bookstore" back in the 70s in Rochester, New york. Yes many stories and scary situations. The most uncomfortable were when we'd see a former teacher or a priest we knew come in. I'm gay but was never promiscuous and was dumber than a bag of hammers back then and I couldn't believe how randomly and anonymously people would have sex back in those booths. It still strikes me as kind of gross lol.
@@gianna5642 Lol. Well I can't say I was a voyeur and watched things but you couldn't help but hear things LOL and I heard a lot. You knew exactly what was going on in those booths.
I went to one of these places when I was 16 and the first person I saw in there was the assistant principal of my former middle school. I turned around and walked back out, didn't know what else to do, hahaha....
Respect Kris!! Never judge a person by his cover. I was just wondering how the life of someone working in such a place and I won't lie. I was building some profiling about you in my mind... and I was obviously very wrong. Thank you for sharing.
I bet this guy has seen everything. Learning to love yourself begins with forgiveness. If you can forgive yourself for the dirt you have done to you and the people around you. Then you learn how to respect and admire, the loved ones around you, facing your issues and not blaming everyone for the failures, gives you the power to change inside
To whoever is reading this comment,keep going, you're doing fine! No matter how slow your progress, each new week is filled with tiny steps forward. Be proud of yourself you got this.❤
i could listen all day to people like Kristopher, far better quality of interviewee than any Pimp you could have on your channel, not interested in anything a pimp has to say
Once my boyfriend and I were apartment sitting for a friend and her psychotic dog who escaped after breaking his leash and collar. It was 2:00 am with no regular stores open so we found a porn shop and bought a a collar (it had bling on it but was sturdy) and a leash and recaptured the dog. It's one of my funniest memories
Awesome story 🤣
Yeah, thanks!
How funny!
😂😂😂
shut up poo shit head ass this is the fakest story ever you lied
Oh man this is incredible!!!!! The day I turned 18 my friends took me to that shop and I met Kris years and years ago! We've stayed in contact ever since and I always loved coming in on his shift throughout the years! He writes poetry too and I have a pretty big collection of his little books he'd make. Finally getting some spotlight my friend! So happy for you!!!
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Book titles? I like to read some.
@@pienjopienjo9297 they are just little self made palm sized books. You'd have to go see him at work to get one. 🥰
@@sweetlygaming6127 damn. I have no way of getting to Chino CA. Thanks though. If someone has a copy, I'd love a sample.
Thank you 🙏🏾
As his friend, maybe tell him to get a new hat; he looks like a child at Burger King in that. It might help his love life too.
“Just because a guy walks into your store wearing a suit and tie, doesn’t mean jack shit.”
More honest words have never been spoken.
patrick bateman
@@eva-marialudanova6227 yo 😆
it DOES mean shit
Or in blue jeans and a black turtle neck shirt (Steve Jobs).
They’re probably a conservative politician
Most mainstream people would judge him as a loser working in a porn store, yet he seems deeper and real than any dirtbag politician, priest, or corporate CEO. Very cool dude...
He’s still broke
@@Doritsboobshadow 😂 A gay guy with a small man bun tried selling me a pocket a*s modeled after a guys a*s when I went there one time too buy poppers
OK, You need to step off your "Morality" high horse. That you seem to hold a guy that has worked at a porn shop for more than a decade higher than a CEO or priest because he seems "real" is laughable.
Mmmmmmmmmm so hot @@CJ-fs1zr
@@CJ-fs1zryou were literally buying poppers
Honest, articulate and humble. Who cares what he does for a living at least he’s true to himself.
Looks and sounds like an all right guy to me.
Amen to that.
Whats wrong with woking in a porn shop? Why would you even say this?
Society does. He can provide for himself.
But he’s a loser.
You can immediately tell this is a good dude. This is someone you’d be friends with for life.
Good dude? He works at a porn shop.
🤨
He got the joog on porn
No
Wow, sounds like you figured him all out from a twenty minute interview!🤣🤣🤣
Omg Kris! I know him, such a one in a million gem. It literally makes me so so happy to see him on here and how many people get to see how great of a person he is!
Love this!
Idiot!
Where is the shop? I want to go there.
@@EarthsGeomancer it's in walnut off the 60 freeway
@@owlsinjapan I live near there! Thanks!
I thought this was going to be boring and almost didn't watch it. As soon as this gentleman started talking, he was so endearing. I hope he does find love. He is worthy of it! God bless him!
Maybe one day I will thank you
Why would you think it would be boring??? The cashiers at overnight convenience stores have wild stories, much less this guy_
0:30 Multi generational households. Don't be embarrassed by that people. It's how life used to work and we are just going back to that and that's not bad.
I admire him for the simple fact that he has kept a job for sixteen years. That requires skills. He works with the public everyday.
Absolutely 💯 %
16years doing what he does, and with the public also...phew😅💥
I've been at my job for 18years...but I do NOT work with the public🤣and never will!🤣bless🙌this guy!
So many people can't even keep a job for 16 days.
I admire him for the simple fact that he is wearing that hat, in public.
He's like a librarian.... But for porn.
Not just any job at that , probably one of the most unique/odd jobs in the country.
What a cool dude. Living with parents is not anything to be ashamed of, especially since it seems they get along. Most of the world embraces intergenerational living.
Absolutely I’m 36 years old Anna female I haven’t lived with my parents in years last year I moved back home and I’m happy and so are they
Yeah but he's been working in this field for 16 years. I'm sure they pay minimum wage+commission for every toy they sell but it's not a place to retire from.
Im a 6 figure professional and lived with my mom 5 years longer than I wanted because it made her rent easier until her retirement. Lots of reasons people still live with a parent... The Indian culture for example, kids are at home intil marriage, and then when the parents get old and can't fully take care of themselves they move in with the kids. I've already told my mother I'd build her an apartment on my property if she wants.
Rural Central Calif here: My dad accumulated a ton of rentals that I helped him maintain as I grew up. I had a window into 100's of hispanic families' lives, many multigenerational. There were tensions, but no matter how poor, they watched over each other and there was always food on the table. I befriended a wonan with Parkinson's and care for her. If not for me, I am sure her daughter would have dumped her off in the San Francisco Tenderloin district and have social services pick her up...while she lives rent free in her mom's fully paid house in Silicon Valley.
Edit: One particular family lived rent free on a ranch. The 50's son was a foreman on the ranch. His mother, grandmother to his children cooked, washed for the family, grandkids. It gave her purpose. I was invited to eat multiple times with the family. There was always something on the stove and offers of something to eat and fresh tortillas as soon as you'd walk in the door. The grandkids were blessed with advice and old stories. She, healthy to the last day died in her sleep in the house surrounded by her family.
Nah.. this aint it. Grow wings and go off on your own..
Great character. Wise, humble and authentic. Wishing him the best
I agree! Seems loke a great guy with open minded and heart and general aspect of life.
Also wish him AND everyone the best, I wish you and everyone the very best of life in every aspect! Good health and longevity and positivity and prosperity. Love and peace and hope 🙏😇
Damn, I read "pork chop clerk" and got excited for an interview with a butcher.
He works with a different kind of pork.
More like a pork shop clerk my friend
Me too man. Me too
That's really funny.
Hit the bong one to many times this morning 😂
I would like to see more of Kristopher. He's very insightful, honest and entertaining. Thank you for having him on!
Same here
See more? ...you mean his dick?
@@sam_s_ No but now I see what's on your mind buddy...
This dude is so cool. I'm 32 and struggling with life, mainly because I didn't achieve what I was aiming at academically. When I was 22 some traumatic events took place and my wiring became something like "don't ask anything from anyone, provide for yourself and leave as soon as you can". No children, fortunately. Wish I could get a job like this and be in peace with myself. I have a lot of self-loathing for not having dealt with things the way I should've... I let myself be beat. I just hope we can all find the peace and self-love we deserve. Take care guys
I got what I wanted academically but in the end it didn’t do shit for me. I thought I would have a career. 15 years later, nope!
Change your environment fam
Try and find a therapist, THEN change your environment (as already stated)
Ty for sharing! My solution was to turn off the tv/social media and start building discipline to do the things I wanted to do. Work read save money travel gym eat right. Leveled up irl.
Thanks for sharing.
I admire this guy's humble attitude and his apparent integrity. The fact that he stayed at the same job for so long proves that.
Great interview. You can see and hear Kristopher’s stressful memories melting away as he provides vivid details about customers he’s dealt with. This is the first interview of a porn shop clerk for me. I liked the questions as well as the responses. Very well done!
Thank you 😊
Kristopher, Happy Birthday! Thank you so much for sharing your story. You had me laughing & reminded me of my first time going into an adult store. I was in college at the time & there was a rumor going around that one of my instructors had been caught shoplifting at our local "Adult Superstore," & had his photo posted as a warning. Of course we didnt believe it. Fast forward a couple of months, one of the girls in our group was getting married. We were looking for party favors, etc. Not only was the rumor a fact, but his picture was visible as we were walking in the door. There was this area on the wall near the register where they had pics of all the people that had been caught shoplifting. What was even funnier was that the pics were taken with a polaroid cameras & the lighting wasnt good, so it looked extra grimy. LOL. As for the types of people that go in there, thats such a weird question. We have (or had) 2 adult stores where I live, but I can assure anyone that they do not get the same customers, at all. Asking what types of people go in there is like asking a group of adults, which beer they prefer. For no reason, just to know. Some people are more creative, spontaneous & fun, while others are more uptight, fixed & serious. Some of the customers are people who actually have more serious reasons that they are there. We forget that it could be for medical reasons, dr/therapist recommendation, or because the person lost their partner. ❤ I was first diagnosed with depression when I was 13. Im sorry you know this pain. You have a pretty uplifting, yet laid back vibe & youre a wonderful conversationalist. Keep your head up!! I hope to see you again in an update 🙃
I cared
Depression at 13, that's called growing up.
Hey Rochelle! You are absolutely right. (and that was a very funny story about your instructor shoplifting at the adult store. I wonder what they took?🤔)
There are so many reasons we little humans do what we do, and when we need to do things at certain times of our lives. Love, loss whatever it is. Sexuality is not a bad thing nor is a expressing it
@@ManheimRoyal Beautifully worded, thank you ❤
And you think people care about your videos of stripping wood? And who cares about your “mommy milestones”, lol. Only you, I promise.
Happy Birthday Kris!!!!! It was an honor and a pleasure to watch your interview!!!!
Thank you
When I did my swu interview a cpl months ago it was an awesome experience. Mark is so cool and supportive. He still answers every text I send Quickly and he has helped me when needed. He's awesome. My video got age restricted. Go check it out. Brad. Childhood trauma. It's pretty good. All of his work is good
“TRYING TO LOVE MYSELF IS THE MOST KEY THING THAT I CAN DO”. (Not shouting this …but, putting it in CAPS just to accentuate and draw attention to it because this is SPOT-ON key advice for US ALL in this life!!!) We cannot truly love another unless we can love ourselves first. ❤️
Life is a lonely process. If you've got people that love you and you're healthy, you've got it all.
Are you lonely?
@@manikyum no, I'm very fortunate to have a wife, kids, and friends. Just trying to think of everyone else.
i needed this reminder today :,) there is much love in myself
@Baldie Da Beast sure, people not being content in their own body is sad but we're definitely social creatures who need some form of support from time to time.
I'm reclusive, in poor health and with no family...so you're saying that I should off myself? Real nice. Where do you people come up with your nonsensical evaluations about life?
I'm a long time subscriber, and watch many Soft White Underbelly videos.
I was pretty sure that I was either going to be bored, or totally disgusted by this interview.
OMG!!!! How wrong can a person be??
This is my favourite interview for ages!! Kristopher is so authentic (& by the way I hate that expression because by default, we should all be authentic, because we are simply ourselves) and I hugely enjoyed listening to some stories rooted in total reality, and not being told to paint a particular picture!
Sometimes a bit of honesty, while also the chance to look at the "ridiculousness" of life, is all we need to get the cogs of the brain whirring!
I loved this!
Cheers Kristopher (& Mark)!
Positive vibes & praters from Leeds, UK xx
I enjoyed your comment. Perhaps there's a learning lesson about expectations here. Perhaps that's one of Mark's reasons for the channel. I hope you have a smooth and productive day. -JB
Very much agree. Kudos to the channel. What a great interview, and a great idea to interview him.
I thought when I first started reading your comment that I was going to bored to death with your useless, childish review but “OMG!!!” ☄️💥🔥 I was right …😴
Gotta love his authentic and down to earth vibe. Very chill guy
As a long time sub u should know better by now haha
Love this Guy - Thank you for your down to earth unjudgemental service to a community that needs no judgement. Nice work.
This guy is so sweet. I hope he keeps working on himself and finding what he wants in life.
Heck yeah. Interviewer was pretty disrespectful on a subtle level, his biases really showed on this one which usually isn't the case. Wish the best for this guy
The guy who said 'money can't buy happiness didn't know where to go shopping'
I’ve been poor and miserable my entire life. I’d love to give rich and miserable a try ….
Money can’t buy happiness. Being broke can’t buy shit
Before it even starts... I know for sure this dude has seen some shit. When I was strung out and homeless, I damn near lived in one. I'd pay the 3 dollars for a preview just so I could sleep on the floor... Yeah... I know... No joke. Proudly clean and sober over 5 years now. Got A good job. A savings account and roof over my head. You CAN get out if you want to. IF YOU CHOOSE TO.
Well done my friend, very well done.
I’m so proud of you. good job.
I greatly appreciate Kristopher's candor, his lack of judgement toward others, and his thoughtful reflections. I'd love to know the origins of his diverse array of tattoos. No doubt, they too have stories to tell. Thank you for all you shared, Kristopher.
Bro is literally wearing an old school RuneScape red party hat😂😂😂😂
“I have really interesting stories” precedes to tell two boring stories
One of the best interviews I've seen on this channel!!! I can definitely relate to what this clerk is saying. Thanks for posting this.
He seems so cool! I briefly thought about opening up an adult store, but I have no idea about running a business and the two shops we did have in two closed so I didn't think it'd be successful in my area. I love that he tries to make the shop a judgement-free zone and treats everyone with respect. There's nothing wrong with exploring your sexual pleasure as long as everything's consensual.
don't be sad/depressed after a hookup than. Resisting depression isn't easy. There is a difference between love and sex. Hope you know that Wible.
Why tf would u do that u dumb cunt
@@thechronicphilosopher6166 what are you even talking about
This guy is pretty awesome and respectable. Seems like a good guy and a good work ethic
This is an underrated video and it’s been out for 2 days. Thank you Kris and Mark 🙏
I never thought I'd say this about a person who does this work, but, this man is articulate, insightful and open. I hope he conquers his depression and learns to value himself. You took the high road here and gave us a good interview.
i was very unimpressed with this guy until the 13:30 mark where he commented on feeling sadness and being sensitive to other people's sad souls when they walk in the door.
I worked for a porn shop for two years in Los Angeles. I'm surprised he has lasted that long. There's no future in it. You meet a lot of interesting people though. But I had to leave after confronting a tweaker in the arcade rooms and the cops respond very late.
What was he doing 💀
Lord have mercyyy
I did this for almost decade. It was funny, gross, pervy, and fun at times. I learned how to manage employees, buying from companies, counting deposits, writing paychecks, shipping and receiving, inventory, customer service....and it helped me be ready for jobs in the future. I just referred to the shop as a "gift store"
What's the grossest thing?
@@Essays4CollegeApparently the porn shop by me had a fucking glory hole so what does that tell you 😂😂😂
@@TipppedScales1015 LOL wow!
@@Essays4College I feel like the "clean up" has to be the grossest thing in a job like that (I couldn't do it. I wouldn't do it lol). Especially if it's a place like the one this dude works at that has peep/private shows, a theatre, glory holes... I
I suppose if it's like the places where I live that sell adult stuff and weed stuff, but don't have any type of... Idk... "Venues" that this dude's store has, then yeah, I bet that's a cool ass/cushy job.
I had a childhood friend who worked one of the adult vidya stores for $13/hr back when minimum wage was still $5/hr when we were in our late teens/early 20s; just adult stuff and weed stuff, and he had a blast.
" I just referred to the shop as a "gift store". So you were embarrassed.
A perfect interview and subject. This guy is perfectly warm and charismatic, not a product of his environment negatives at all.
Decompress is a great description, it builds up and relief helps so much.
This was one of the most interesting video you've made yet. I hope you have Kris back on because I'd like more tales from the Porn Shop!
Thank you hope to be back
@@KrisKaos13I enjoyed your interview. Do you work in California?
Thank you @soft white underbelly. I’m a trucker and I love watching your vids while I drive. My imagination goes wild with some of these stories
Always a good combo, driving a big azz truck and watching a video.
That worries the fu*k out of me
Pay attention to the mf road
Damn 😂
@@thematriarchy2075 I meant listening my bad. Safety first for sure. That’s why I said my imagination goes wild cause I just listen and paint it out in my head
this dude seems like a gem
Thank you
That's cuz he is
@@GrandpappyG thank you 🙏🏾
He is certainly not stupid.
@@paulsawczyc5019 thank you.
Thank you Chris and Mark for this interview, you have great vibez and helped me start off my day with self love
"Porn Shop Clerk interview-Kristopher" by Soft White (Oct 21, 2022)
5:45.
Types of customer 6:35
Worst moments 7:00 8:20.
Ppl just want to talk & someone to listen to u 11:36.
Female coworkers 14:53
He definitely understands people. Thank you, Mark!
I really like this guy! He is soft spoken and articulate and seems like a guy to have as a friend.
Nothing wrong with living with your parents. I make damn good money but I moved back in with my parents at 26 so I could save more money for a house. They were glad to have me back around but sad that I left 3 years later. I only live one city over lol
At 12:40 I was expecting him to say “sometimes it’s me” hahahahah
empathetic, introspective, articulate - this guy was one of your better interviews.
I used to work at an adult theatre/bookstore myself back in the 90s, he wasn't kidding when he said just about anyone could walk through the door. you get all types. and all kinds of stories to tell 🤔
I'm slowly figuring out why I watch these videos and one part of it is that I'm judging "Would I hang out with this person?" THIS GUY!! I'd love to hang out with this guy! Maybe it's all the time I spent in retail, but his retail and life experience are both similar and opposite of mine in a way that just vibed with me. We could probably swap stories for days. lol Keep being awesome, bro! I'm rooting for you!
I think I got more out of this interview than many of the addict ones. This dude seems super cool and no-judgment attitude is fantastic.
He seen it all just about whatever gross thing you can think of there is something there for that individual.
Living with your dad at 45 is now understable where I am given the rising cost of living, rent and even house prices. No shame in that.
Every culture people live together, multi generations in one house taking care of each other. It's natural. The US is the oddball out in that regard. It's quite sad really.
Wow, Kristopher is such an open, honest, and articulate man with an interesting story to tell.
I love his energy I would feel safe around a guy like this
Thank you
A guy doesn't want to hear that a girl would feel safe around him, that's the typical "friend zone" crap that guys despise. You would be paying him a compliment more if you said you feel that he'd be the kind to pound you in the ass for hours on end and then drop you off in the ghetto instead of driving you home.
@@KrisKaos13 subscribed
This is proof that ANYONE can have an interesting life and work a honest job.
I remember my first experience going to a porn store at 18. As I got out of the car, I tried to catch the door from closing as I forgot my wallet in the glove box as I knew I would be carded since I looked like 12. My little finger got smashed in the door. I stood there in the porn shop in a lot of pain looking at the magazines while sucking on my finger trying to stop it from bleeding. Never went back. lol
Wussie
😳
It was a sign
@@Nomatterwhatclub5150 Yes, I believe God may have been trying to tell me something. 🙂
@@TheJust22az Same thing happened to me my first day of marching band practice... yeah. God works in mysterious ways. lol
Very well spoken man.
He seems like the kind of person you could go for a beer with, and have the best evening!
Did that today was great with friends.
@@KrisKaos13 nice x
I understood him living at home at the age of 45 in Southern California because of the cost of living until he said he worked at a porn shop for 16 years. 🙄
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Gina even people with good jobs are struggling to get a house in southern Cali.
“I don’t like your job so you actually deserve to not own a home”
Female here, was 20 years old, in 2006, worked at a porn/adult shop. Small town, Wendover, Nevada. I worked at the shop for 3 months. Plenty of stories within that time. And yes, everybody comes in! Didn't stay long, due to the boss changing my schedule without notice. Got canned lol. Makes me laugh though, its no longer a porn shop. Its now a smoke shop.
I worked at a porn shop briefly in my youth. What Mark didn't seem to get is that ALL types come in there, not just "perverts." Yes, there are guys who have trouble finding women, but there are also guys that are totally normal who just want to find something to rub one out to. And yes, women were rarer, but they came in as well, mostly to look at toys or bachelorette party stuff. It's like a liquor store, you get ALL types coming in to feed their vice, we just attach more stigma to sex, which Mark clearly does here.
I thought Mark seemed pretty judgemental. after all the types he's interviewed, he seemed to have a negative, narrow view of porn shop patrons.
@@ChubbyUnicorn Mark is attempting to get an interesting interview which would entail asking about "perverts" amongst regular porn shop patrons otherwise he could just interview a Walgreens clerk and get the same responses.
@@Mia-qt4th nope.
Exactly. People of all types and all walks of life enjoy sex and porn, so naturally, all kinds of people are likely to be found at a porn shop. I don't know why folks think that only "pervs" patronize places like this.
Nailed it. Sometimes I’m unimpressed with his interview techniques
Had a job just like this for almost 5 years. Not a bad gig tbh. You see all walks of life, and lots of hilarious stories.
It sounded okay at first, but the weirdos that come in!
@@Cinnamun52 you’re probably the weirdo that comes in
@@Cinnamun52 you’re probably the weirdo that comes in
@@creepnasty5370 yeah I saw you too 😆
This was very informative liked how he said empath, twin flame, & nonjudgmental. You will find them when your not looking
Such a comforting voice! Have a nice day Kristopher and Mark! X
Mark, idk if anyone has ever told you this or not but you have the cutest laugh I've ever heard, lol. 😊
i don't know if i've every been hammered from being in the line of sight of a gay tsunami shock wave quite so hard.
😊😂
Knowing this guy exists makes the world seem a lot cooler. Love this guy, wishing him the best ✌️
This guy needs a pay rise.
😂 You know what you’re right I do.
Great to have a light-hearted interview every once in a while.
9:07 The stress in the job in Las Vegas was mostly from shoplifters. Lots of people try to steal tapes & DVD's. Plus, you get some drunks who want to get refunds, and the store doesn't give them, so they argue. Plus, misunderstandings. I knew a clerk who had to fix a guy's tape, then when he came in to return it the next day, the clerk said, "Did it work?" The guy was embarrassed as if asked if the video turned him on enough and yelled back, "Maybe you should mind your own business" and was ready to fight. He misunderstood the question.
As a young teen, I was in a large city. I remember seeing a porn shop on a busy street. A large sign hung on the side that said “Enter in Rear” with an arrow pointing to the parking lot behind the store. I didn’t get the double entendre for many years.
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I could be wrong but I believe it's actually a law, or perhaps city ordinance, that requires them to have the entrance be in the rear of the building so children are less likely to stumble in.
Every single adult store I've seen has had that same setup and I find it hard to believe they all do it for a cheap joke
@@johnalddrumph456 that's where the "double" comes in...it is a true fact, as well as a cheap joke. 😉
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I didn’t like the vibe mark gave at first when he said “you’re 45 and living with your dad?”
Ugh, why does that mean a bad thing??? I wish my dad and I got along and spoke, he seems ti have a relationship with his father that most would wish they had
I really enjoyed this interview. What a cool dude!!!
Thank you I hope you have a pleasant day
Hope that guy starts his own channel, could of listened to him talk about that stuff for ages. What a gem of a dude.
Kristopher I felt your energy watching this video, wishing you the best! ✨very humble being.
Great guy for the job! Nonjudgmental, assertive and seemingly empathetic. Helps that he has a big presence. Cool dude
You do great work, Mark. Thanks for what you do. Any chance of doing an interview with a person who carries a “God loves you” or “Repent” sign with megaphone? Always wondered what their stories were. Thx.
Great idea! I saw one of them the other day at the park and couldn't work up the motivation to go and talk to them
This would be very interesting
Oh hell yeah
This!
That would be awesome
'love exists but not for me, yet.' don't give up kris
I like the way he explains the people that go to his store is such an upfront and open way without seeming judgmental. I would think that after 16 years, one would be ok with people or not be able to stand them. In any industry. He was really great to watch and was really funny! His stories were great! Great interview!!! Cool guy! THX!
Never judge a book by its cover. But by all means judge a DVD at a porn shop by its cover.
I was 18 when a friend took me to an adult bookstore. It was my first time. On the way he told me to watch out for the gays who hang out there, that sometimes they'll assault you while you're watching porn since the porn was being shown in an almost totally hidden booth. It was a genuine warning but consequently I was nervous af while I was viewing my first porn clip, so I couldn't enjoy it. I was glad when the clip was over (it was short, about 3 minutes). This interview reminds me of the movie Don Jon.
Watch 8mm. With Nicolas cage
You know it's 2022 when LA porn shop clerk sounds traditional - cool guy
Kristopher, you're a kick-ass guy! Thanks for your interview, just keep being you, bro!💥💫
Wishing you the very best,my guy🤟✌🤞
Dude if that’s you in the profile picture you’re a giga chad. Greek god bone structure. Jeeze Louise 🥵
@@lindboknifeandtool
Omg, you're the 2nd person that's told me that..I had to Google Giga Chad because I didn't know what they were talking about,lol..yes,that's me..I'm trying to grow a beard and long hair,and that's as far as I've gotten so far😁
Top of the morning Wes! Funny thing: I knew it was your comment without looking at the name by the time I finished reading it because of your emojis. Plus: I know your constant upbeat, positive nature by now. Big love coming at ya, my friend, at 5:50 a.m.😂💕👻💥✌
@@wesleyAlan9179 Now I HAVE to Google giga Chad...wtf🤔
Co-signed.
Be still my metal chick heart!🖤
Cheekbones to die for. 😮
Most relatable person interviewed yet for me!
I speak to folks with nothing and folks with everything. This proves the value in listening to people from all walks of life. Remove judgement, open ears and open mind = priceless wisdom.
Yes
Lol my son worked in a porn store and he said it sucked his soul. Had to quit kudos to this guy for sticking with it
Truthfully speaking it can wear down the soul a lot I’m surprised I still have one. Lol
Can we normalize intergenerational living in the US? There is nothing wrong with choosing to (or having to, for economic reasons, care of elders, etc) to live with your family as an adult. We need to take care of each other more in this country and these silly stigmas only serve to isolate us.
Had an uncle that lived with his mother to help her with transportation, housekeeping, etc in the 50's and 60's before it was common like now.
Yes!
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So sad that there are so many lost souls in this world. Our society needs a revival.
Cool dude... the whoopee cap is killin' me though 🤣
I met this dude at OC Zine Fest less than a month before this video was uploaded. Took a few 35mm photos of him. Met him again at this year's OC Zine Fest and we traded stickers. It was nice to see him again.
I like this guy. I used to help a friend out at his job at a what we then called a
"dirty bookstore" back in the 70s in Rochester, New york. Yes many stories and scary situations. The most uncomfortable were when we'd see a former teacher or a priest we knew come in. I'm gay but was never promiscuous and was dumber than a bag of hammers back then and I couldn't believe how randomly and anonymously people would have sex back in those booths. It still strikes me as kind of gross lol.
garbage plate
I would imagine a place like that in the 70s would be way more wild then now. Tell us more lol
@@gianna5642 Lol. Well I can't say I was a voyeur and watched things but you couldn't help but hear things LOL and I heard a lot. You knew exactly what was going on in those booths.
Why are you lying you was back there being a wild booty bandit
I went to one of these places when I was 16 and the first person I saw in there was the assistant principal of my former middle school. I turned around and walked back out, didn't know what else to do, hahaha....
Respect Kris!! Never judge a person by his cover. I was just wondering how the life of someone working in such a place and I won't lie. I was building some profiling about you in my mind... and I was obviously very wrong. Thank you for sharing.
You’re welcome thank you for watching
I like his honesty!
The dad getting busted by his kids is stuff from a Tarantino movie. I thought it was gonna turn violent but it was hilarious xD
I bet this guy has seen everything. Learning to love yourself begins with forgiveness. If you can forgive yourself for the dirt you have done to you and the people around you. Then you learn how to respect and admire, the loved ones around you, facing your issues and not blaming everyone for the failures, gives you the power to change inside
To whoever is reading this comment,keep going, you're doing fine! No matter how slow your progress, each new week is filled with tiny steps forward. Be proud of yourself you got this.❤
i could listen all day to people like Kristopher, far better quality of interviewee than any Pimp you could have on your channel, not interested in anything a pimp has to say
He seems so nice and wise .
I LOVE SW interviews. please do more and longer ones
Omg! I just realized i've watched more than half of the video before i've noticed that funny red hat on his head 😂