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Here's the problem with the Foster Care system...
These kids age out at 18 yrs old, they have no life skills, no coping skills on how to navigate the adult world.
I think there should be a transition house for ages 18-21, where the kids have to work, pay some rent & utilities and learn how to budget their earnings. So hopefully by age 21 they would have some understanding of the demands of maintaining shelter & paying bills etc.
some states (like mine) have systems like that but make you do all the work to get in, so normally the kids in the foster care system get a tiny taste of freedom and go down the wrong path instead of getting into housing.
I work with youth in these situations, and sometimes if they are under stated custody after 18, they are given the choice to keep working with a state worker under a program called "Fostering Connections" where they provide those supports. They are also given opportunity to go into a Transitional Living Placement where they are provided with housing and support but they have to work on their mental health, keep going to school, get a job or both.
These supports are available, but only if the person is willing to work and put their part in, sometimes it doesn't work that way and the person just stops caring and following through with the program and they fall into even more difficult situations.
And honestly, getting into transition programs is difficult AF, even with applying in advance and meeting criteria, sometimes there’s no room, there’s not enough funding, or just no availability all around.
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Completely agree, ngl this almost brought me to tears because alot of the way she reacted at first at least for me showed signs of someone on the spectrum too. Which I am as well. I was lucky because I had a good upbringing and parents and was able to get a good system in place to help me with managing my adult life. But I could easily see someone without the proper support end up like this.
I agree, that would be great for children aging out of foster care. Unless their foster parents have encouraged them to get a part time job, and an education while they are still under their care, these kids age out with no job skills, no life skills. They should be treated just like biological kids, and the foster parents should encourage them to get a part time job like they would their biological kids.
Leon, dude, I was a policeman back in the 90's. Half of our calls then were to deal with mental health issues. It was tragic. And still is. And I come from a country with state funded mental health services.
I used to cry a lot.
i bet man, don't wish the job on anyone but it's necessary and i appreciate the time you gave to it
I'm a hospital/emergency department social worker and I am the hand-off person for police when they drop off these types of cases at the hospital. Thank you for having empathy for people with mental health problems because many police officers (and just everyday citizens) have no idea what it's like to be a mental health provider in a society like this.
Thank you for your service!
As someone that deal with horrible mental issues, it's not easy, and the state doesn't care....
From Michigan here..
My brother is a sergeant in the police force currently… he has a young daughter as well. He will never go into too much detail, but given my past with addiction issues, not only has that made him a more compassionate officer, but he feels comfortable talking to me about some of the stuff he has experienced. I’ve often heard him mention how hard it is for him to go into homes where addiction or mental health is not prevalent and how heartbreaking it is for him to deal with these types of people, especially when children are involved. How sometimes it’s multiple times a week that he’s called to the same location with the same people. Unfortunately, there’s only so much that can be done…. The sad truth.😢
Far too many disclaimers on this one dude. Give a lil grace at the start but by the time she's "trying to keep her cool" she gets what she gets
I was in her exact same position at one point, being handcuffed in a hospital screaming. Thankfully for me, I was still under 18 at the time, so I went to an involuntary mental health place for a little bit instead of jail, but I can 100% empathize with her. She needs some kind of therapy for whatever she went through, fully put together people don't act like that, coming from personal experience. I just hope this isn't the end for her, that this arrest doesn't destroy the rest of her life, and that she can turn it around. Genuinely hoping for the best for her.
I love how they always say "I'm not doing anything!" Well, you are fighting the police Ma'am!
It’s crazy that prisoners get transitional housing, but foster kids are just left to flounder.
Don’t forget the illegals who are put up in hotels
crazy how many kids there are in the foster system while republicans force rape survivors to give birth
It's a sad world for sure.
These people get offered a lot of support. Most of them don’t want any guidelines though. It’s all the result of their bad families. But I will say that social services have been given orders to turn their attention away from these people, ands go after homeschoolers and parents trying to prevent their kid from mutilating themselves.
It's like throwing them in the ocean when they've never dipped their toes in water.
I believe the charge for yelling is disorderly conduct.
I almost commented that same thing.
& "disturbing the peace"
Exactly what i had in mind
his point was its not really helping when cop is saying "yo ima charge you w more shit bruh"
@@bugsbugsbugsbugsbugsbugsbugs hes exactly right. She probably already felt like they were itching to arrest her, and hearing that confirmed it.
I give that cop alot of credit for keeping his cool
I think he got off on it.
Shut the hell up 😂 @@susanbaldwin4152
FOR SURE.
Cop was an ass
I would say there is most certainly a charge for yelling. Disorderly conduct, threatening a police officer or public official, obstruction, disturbing the peace.........
As a former foster kid that aged out of the system i feel for her on you 18th birthday at midnight you are unceremoniously kicked out and letf to fend for yourself and it is absolutely ...absolutely brutal and i even tried to prepare and my actions were limited because of the restrictions that the state puts on you while you are still a ward to the state its a broken system
Absolutely it's a broken system.
There should be transition facilities that can provide housing for 18-21 year olds where there's staff who can help them get into college or find a job and save up enough money to live independently, while also teaching about financial responsibility so kids who've aged out of the system are not left high and dry with no support net of any kind. It's cruel. I know there are a handful of foster parents who are willing to provide that safety net despite no longer getting paid to foster but those are definitely few and far between. Foster kids already go through enough bull before turning 18, why make it worse? I've never be in the system but I have family members who have been foster parents. My aunt and uncle fostered multiple disabled kids that otherwise would not have been able to be placed with families (and they were taken very good care of, they were loved by my cousins as if they were blood siblings) and my cousin and her husband fostered siblings so they would not be separated, and ended up adopting them. None of them were in it for the money, they all had really good careers so didn't need the money. They did it because they wanted to provide a safe, loving home where these kids could thrive. I wish there were more people like them.
Keep sharing your story, help bring more awareness to this problem. Make some noise.
I wish you a long healthy adult life full of success, kindness, and love. ❤
That’s exactly what I was going to say and the woman that was with her. It’s her job to keep an eye on her. So why are you working with people in bad situations if you’re going to stand out there and take the piss out of her you turn 18 and you get kicked out. She’s got no family she’s got nowhere to live so she’s sleeping on the street tonight at 18th birthday spent sleeping on the street Yeah she is acting the fool, but people are just so quick to pass a judgement sitting in the ivory towers.
@@phaedrapage4217I wonder what the transition phase is like. Like does their case worker work with them starting a few years prior to 18 to help them develop a plan? Clearly there are holes and perhaps there should be more developed systems to help those who are not as successful at setting themselves up for success.
Understandable. But acting THIS way is never the option you're supposed to go. There's no excuse for this behavior or treatment of peace officers
I have a friend who takes care of four girls in the foster care system , she doesn't kick them out as soon as they turn 18 , as long as they are making an effort to transition to adulthood by working , or continuing education. She even helps them to get a car , apartment ,and whatever mental health care they need. I know many of these foster parents are just wanting an extra paycheck. It's so sad to see young people so abandoned and alone.
..it seems this young woman had an ally.. but absolutely refused to do any of the things you mentioned, so.. ya.
@@SunkissedMalice Unfortunately alot of these foster kids act out like this and are unable to find a family who can deal with this.
Yet you never knew what she went through to end up in foster care. The rage is definitely a sign of fear ! SAD !
And most foster parents don’t do it for the money! Electricity, heating oil, food, water bill, clothes shopping, sports, vacation… everything goes up with another soul in the house. Foster parenting is an act of love. My husband and I have been doing it for 24 years.
God bless your friend. That poor kid 😢 she probably developed that hard demeanor to cope with her awful life at the hands of an endless parade of uncaring fake parental figures in her life for who knows how long...too sad. For everyone involved.
No one should take joy watching ppl like her❤️🩹
You ever think of maybe she knows what she's gonna and she's trying to get Arrested because she has nowhere to go and Nowhere to stay.And that's her best option
Can you imagine how much energy it takes to keep up that much screaming & fighting?
Some know nothing more then conflict- they work on fight or flight and most likely fight is their way of life. They have no coping skills and never taught how to deal with
Maybe all is not lost for her…
_NO!_ No I cannot! And I'm a really active person!
Every time I see these women (and it's only women) I am kinda like, "Let's get 6 of them on the front lines"
I have had some good friends with absolutely terrible childhoods. It definitely messes with someone, but this is on another level. The only way someone like that changes is if they want to change themselves.
For me, as a broken disorderly child, I didn’t change until I burnt all my bridges at 18, did some time homeless, mom paid for 3 months to live in a tent at a camp ground, then two semesters in college before flunking and then eventually moved out to live with a friend and got my life on track. Now I despise who I used to be and ANY trait I used to exhibit. If someone acts like I used to I quickly end up hating them, some people need to hit rock bottom before they reflect and change. I’m a better person now but it’s a shame I caused my family so much pain to get here…
THANK YOU! My sister and I grew up in the same abusive household and suffered a lot of mental and bad physical abuse. She chooses to be a victim and demand life owes her and hasn’t worked since 2003 popping out kids left and right and leaving them with my mom so she can go abuse drugs and run with villains and get arrested. I too am messed up from it but I wanted a better life for myself. I deserve the best things in life but I work my ass off for them. She used to be my hero growing up and I wanted to be just like her but these past 30 years I don’t know who she is and avoid her like the plague. She isn’t trustworthy and isn’t even allowed in my home. As adults we can pick what life we want. Therapy helped me a lot.
@@McGriddy51095no matter how much pain you caused they still love you and believe me they are so very proud of you. Good job. You deserve a good life.
Here’s the thing even if they want to chat. Some people are literally incapable. I learned this in my special Ed’s classes some people are incapable of living a normal life and need help. To just survive
@@McGriddy51095 Good on you! That's a great attitude. If there were a way to respectfully tell you I'm "proud of you" without it sounding patronizing, well, you have that. Hopefully anyone you've put through chaos, will recognize your 180 degree change. Step up for them when they're in need, deliver calm & control no matter how bad the act is - you'll find your past won't morph into guilt as much. Hating your former self is an awesome way to look at it. You've got character & standards.
From all the people I know who ended up doing time, even the worst of them - back in the 80s/90s, people didn't typically act like this with police. It freaks me out to see people so arrogantly hollering at police, armed adults, without a care in the world. When the cops come, behave, wait your turn to speak, respectfully decline & request a lawyer. Don't resist. Back in "the day", you'd be in whatever condition the officers' tolerance rates were, not the law. Note I didn't say "good ole days" - having body cams now is an honest glance into the job. Lots of messed up people out there, and they're fertile as potting soil, lol!
At the end of the day she does have help with the monthly check, a case worker and other help. They mentioned her refusing to work and honestly would you hire her? There comes a point where you have to realize you fucked up and know when to just shut up for once and not dig the hole deeper.
Dang man thats so sad. The hell that police officer go through
Self regulation is the word. When someone goes the years of trauma even through childhood without treatment, self regulation, which is a skill that is learned in childhood development and helps us to calm ourselves down or listen to our emotions, is never built in these critical years from abandonment, neglect, and abuse. If never attained it may become difficult to learn later on in adult life. That is why she looks like she’s throwing a adult tantrum, because that is the only way she has ever learned to cope with strong emotions.
perfectly said - thank you for adding this.
💯 you said it perfectly 👌
Thank you!!! You explained it perfectly!!!
Well said.
She looks like she's throwing an adult tantrum because she's indeed an adult throwing a tantrum. "The only way she has ever learned to cope with strong emotions"? If she was 5yrs old, maybe. There are former Nigerian child soldiers with more self control. Empathize of course, but blaming this scenario on everyone but herself is quite naïve.
Wow, damn. I didn't expect anyone would be able to walk the line. You balanced entertainment with true empathy for a human. Well done, Mr. Lush.
appreciate that feedback, trying my best
@@LeonLush We are better than this. We don't need to re-post people at their lowest moment. This type of exposure can really harm this poor woman. Someone that did not have responsible parents and someone that has probably been abused? How would you feel if this was a family member?
On behalf of this channel, Leon and all fans here I'll tell you, this is how things go here. She made herself an example by her own actions. She obviously has some background trauma and crap she's delt with but nothing/nobody has stopped her from bettering herself soooo... Anyways, this type of content is what we watch and comment on. Bodycam stuff, funny shit, just greatness. Usually a common ground for everyone. Leon will be the first to say where, when, and what the bullshit is. You don't have to stay 😊 it's all good. Just don't pump fake when you leave, please
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You did nothing wrong Leon.
@@nunyabidness323 you realize he is reacting to it right? It was already posted.
I’ve worked with many young people and young adults over the years and the way she treats that police man is quite common. When speaking to them after they have calmed down they have admitted there was no reason, they were just angry and wanted someone to take it out on. I have felt so bad for the cops when they have been so good and understanding.
Officer was more than patient with this rude, disrespectful young lady. The social worker went above & beyond helping her with her errands. If people are willing to help you, don’t make them regret it by making bad choices like this behavior.
These New Mexico officers here handled this challenging situation very well, good thing police cameras are utilized.
I’m a Family Practitioner. She may be 18 years old, but she is developmentally 12, because her parent/parents didn’t model or teach her any skills. This breaks my heart.
That is true. This was sad to watch. I feel for her.
Thats what I was thinking, the cops obviously ignored the signs that she is mentally a child still.
@@Aloysius_OHareThey're not shrinks. It's not their job to diagnose mental issues.
@@didi012578 They're not shrinks but they're human beings.
You don't need to be a shrink (odd way to call a therapist btw) to be compassionate towards someone who is obviously suffering. It's not that hard, even heartless people can see someone struggling with something. Cops are supposed to help people, descalate and what not. The cop who first arrived did nothing but escalate.
Sorry the use of the slang "shrink" offended you.
There's some guy out here right now who will try to fix her, and he will end up calling the cops too.
No one can say he didn't give a valiant try. She needed a place to stay, now shes got one for a bit.
This made me cry. She has no one and its horrible.
I worked in prison for a couple decades. I learned a very valuable lesson early in my career when I got aggravated and said “you act like you like living here!” The inmate replied, “miss, I used to live in a dumpster. This is better.” I swallowed my pride and apologized for my comment. That was the day I learned that there is so much more happening than we might see. I became a much better officer (and person) after that. I’ll never forget that inmate.
Respect to you sir.
Thanks for your service dude, next donut is on me
Thanks for your service
I know she’s 18 but she needed parents. It’s heartbreaking. I hope she finds some love kindness and patience in this world.
You can tell this young girl has been through a lot and is scared to be on her own. She has no one...poor girl. Her voice is breaking and you can tell she doesn't want to act that way but it's all she knows.
I’ve never been in this position but I’ve been close. Part of me feels bad for this girl. Mental health, bad parents, all of it is hard to deal with when nobody is around to care for you. It’s not an excuse to act the way she did of course, it’s just hard to not feel bad. Thing is, none of these mental health places actually help you either. You turn 18 and you’re on your own with no money or support. It’s tough. Especially as a woman. When I was on the streets I was rarely afraid of someone messing with me. For the most part I just roamed around alone. For women it’s different. I’ve seen how homeless girls get treated at shelters firsthand.
23:25 her voice looses prety much all hysteria when she says she'll stop resisting. Shew was 100% lucid and aware of all the bs she was pulling.
Totally agree.
She has no one. This is a total reflection of our foster system. This was so hard to watch. I feel so bad for this girl.
Because foster care isn’t the problem! The problem are the people who brought her into this world and then dumped her. No one is supposed to be raised by a government organization. There are some great foster homes. There are also some people who will spin out of control. The only thing we can do as a society is maintain boundaries so they can learn to function within them,
she has no one for a reason. sheesh
i feel bad for her too, but i feel worse for officers who have to deal with people like her and they are completely unequipped to. Then they look like the bad guys because they are asked to deal with grown babies.
We need to stop forcing people to have babies. Vote for reproductive rights.
@@macemaster that person was a child like 5 minutes ago, is STILL a child mentally, and if her foster situation was stable & healthy, she wouldn't be anywhere near this mess.
That was actually really hard to watch. Thank you for handling it with respect for all parties. Clearly she’s got some trauma. You can hear it in her cries
Still she can't behave like that. The case worker who should have explained what she needs to do and get her medical help. The police did all they could she should have been in an mental institution work at least the last 5 years...
@@michaw.2168 no one said it was an excuse. It’s just evident that she has trauma.
She’s not an adult, she’s a frightened child in an adult body.
Funny how an exact video of an 18yr old Black girl elicited racially hate filled comments. Even the title was triggering.
No that's a grown woman that is actively making these choices.
She has done this all her life if she had trauma this behavior isn't showing any signs of trauma at all. She knows if she does this she'll get her way especially if she was in foster care. People gave into her because they didn't want to get in trouble because of her lies and behavior. Come on people read the true signs she's a master manipulator. PERIOD.
I must admit I thought that too.
That first cop was PATIENT.
Unfortunately he did not see the easy resolution. Show empathy, offer to drive her to DSS if she leaves the vehicle, and explain he will have to arrest her if she doesn't step out.
Absolutely. Just bless him.
Way TOO patient. Way to treat her like the adult she is SMH. So tough until it’s time for accountability. Acting like a toddler
TOO patient. Maybe if we didn’t allow them to continue to feel they are getting somewhere with the disrespect, things wouldn’t escalate so much. Obviously the guy’s patience didn’t pay off with this woman.
I guess but, he was kind of a doucher about everything, The guy had 0 care or empathy
I agree that we need to use empathy in situations like these but we have to be careful that our empathy doesn't just become enabling. Constantly being lenient and understanding when things like this happen can lead to a viscous cycle and no actual growth.
Nailed it!!! ☝️☝️☝️
Exactly
Absolutely. I think the police had a history already with her and probably had interactions before she even turned 18. The time for leniency has passed with her and she needs to be held accountable. I appreciate empathy and am a very empathetic person, but this is not acceptable. This wasn’t just someone upset bc of a tough time, this was someone who fought against ANY authority from the social worker to the cops. She wants to control everything and hopefully will learn that’s not how life works.
Agreed. I absolutely feel bad for the girl and her circumstances, but her immediate and persistent toddler attitude toward the cop and having no sense of consequences with her later behaviour, both needed to be shut down, no matter the context. It's never going to get you anywhere in life, so better learn this now.
Agreed. It's true that you can't help someone who doesn't want help... But the way to make someone want help is to make sure they experience consequences for their actions.
I feel for everyone involved in this situation, and I think it went about as well as it possibly could have.
Thank you Leon for being empathic enough to recognize the difference between defiance and distress. I will always be a fan of your channel. Wish the cops had brought in a woman officer.
"Get away from me NOW." That always worked for me with cops.
Really? For me? The "talk to the hand" maneuver was way more effective.
Dude this is heartbreaking. The way she cried for her caseworker she clearly has no one. Someone in her life failed her and left society to pick uo the pieces.
Agreed! To me, it seemed that her behavior and refusal to get out of the car were coming from a place of fear. I can't even blame her because I'd be scared too. I hope she's doing well, wherever she landed.
if people would help anybody like her that is "allergic" to getting a job, we would all be broke in matter of seconds...:)))
They way she screamed for a caseworker but yetvrefused to cooperate with her caseworker. Its called entitlement.
@@Jpizzle925 Entitled for what?
That was the closest thing to a parent she has and this hurt
I'm a Social Worker and from what I heard at the beginning she's probably fresh out of foster care (or a group home) and now in the Independent Living Program. She'll get a check every month and a case worker to help her try to navigate adult life as much as they can. Seems like she's just feeling really lost and scared right now because the little bit of stability she had by being in the system is gone now and she was probably going to be on the street that night had she not been arrested.
Independent living program I was in told me one day to grab my stuff I’m leaving. My social worker dropped me off in a scary neighborhood with my few trash bags of belongings, in front of an apartment with crime scene tape across the door. I wasn’t turning 18 for another 5 months.
Thankful but also, I was nowhere near ready for that much yet I had no clue what I was doing. My emotional intelligence definitely wasn’t there and memories of that time make me cringe I was so irresponsible.
What can be done differently to help kids in these situations?
Oh, in that case, she can behave however she wants, forever.
@@godforreal7355 I bet I can guess how you vote. Only the heartless can't see the human behind the actions.
@@mrtophat12 what? Life's like really hard. And when your life's all messed up, well you should be able to mess other people's lives up to make it fair! What am I saying that's wrong?
I am impressed with your level of empathy toward people in their worst condition. I know it's part of the show but it's also part of you.
I've been on a body-cam binge recently and have noticed this pattern of endless resistance.
Children often realize their lack of control but do whatever they can to make something not happen. Say they have divorced parents and it's time for a custody switch, the kid will use every excuse to stay. "Let me hug daddy/mommy first, let me find this, let me do that." subconsciously they know they have to, their just prolonging the inevitable.
Initially, I found this clip on my own (and laughed my ass off) but I really appreciate the nuance Leon brings to this situation. I watch these videos and constantly think "when has screaming/fighting/resisting ever solved a problem?" The answer is never but in body-cams it always seems to be their first instinct. To me it's clear that people like deja are mentally stunted, they haven't developed to a point where they understand consequences or implications; They think if they fight enough everyone will just throw in the towel, probably because the people in her daily life do exactly that, we're merely witnessing the first time someone didn't.
I wish I knew for a fact why people in these videos always make it worse for themselves but I can only provide my armchair psychologist observation. I wish deja the best, and thank you for making these nuisances slightly less insufferable.
I’m so happy you mentioned having empathy for her. It’s sad to watch a young woman in so much pain and have nowhere to go.
I can only imagine your empathy if it was a man in the exact same situation
So explain to me this. She is obviously in the foster care system based on what they've been saying I. E having a case worker and her being kicked out of the system when she's eighteen, She knew she would no longer have a place to stay or people to care for her when she turned eighteen. Therefore, an adult with a functioning brain would have figured out. Hey I should probably plan and prepare to be on my own. Therefore, an adult with a functioning brain would have figured out. Hey I should probably plan and prepare to be on my own when I turn 18.It is irrational to think that someone will keep caring for You when you don't want to take care of yourself
@@corngrohliothis is honestly so true, many teen boys that are like this are either forced to grow up or continue to be bad individuals. I feel for the boys who are forced to grow into men at such a young age. But it’s the same for women, grow up now or continue to be a nuisances. Both genders are equal, how you feel should be judged by their actions, not their gender.
@@DevonMacKinnon believe it or not, that sort of thing needs to be modeled. Having shitty parents and then getting bounced around the system isn't really conducive to teaching people how to be a grown up. Those kids have issues and baggage and need someone to help them work through it all while at the same time encouraging them to start spreading their wings. And being removed from your home - even if it's a shitty home with shitty parents - is it's own kind of trauma.
You said, "an adult with a functioning brain" and that's literally not even the same category as these kids. There's a whole science about how trauma rewires the brain and it may behoove you to look into that.
She had somewhere to go; out of the car lmao
That cop was insanely patient
Im Australian & our system is exactly the same with Foster Care etc.
I'm a 58yr old 1st nations Australian woman & was a part of what is known as the "Stolen Generation" taken by Government force from my parents because the Government believed they could do a better job raising me & my siblings within institutionalized care. We were made what is called "Wards Of The State" until we were 18yrs old & then tossed out on the streets with no teaching or training toward maintaining any life skills from the most basic to the most important.
We were not taught how to apply for employment or even how to seek training to put toward employment nor other life surviving skills.
Everything for me & many many other thousands of children that were put thru the systems all our life skills were self taught but there are thousands more that sadly don't have a clue due to mental health issues etc.
So I do have empathy for this lady & I hope she got that extra help she obviously needed.
PS: I'd like to know if this lady has mental health issues why didnt career meet police at the hospital to try & help resolve the situation?
From what I gathered her career just wanted to dump her at the hotel with a "Get out of my car & good luck"!!
I've seen this so much, and the police dealt with it well. I dont think he was bragging about additional charges, more like stress over the additional drama.
I think she reacted like that because she panicked; she had no where to go, she's 18 and most likely all alone. I feel sorry for her. She obviously needs help, not jail.
You can feel her desperation in the beginning… if she left that car, she’d be alone on the streets that night. If I had no home, no one, and no money, I wouldn’t want to leave that car either.
Me too man poor girl. Homelessness or jail, or sex work. The world is so cutthroat people in their bubbles pretend it not
She needs to get clean
@@floresgt3 I don't know if people are trying to pretend the world isn't shitty, I think everyone realizes it is and they're all just coping with it and dealing with their own issues. There are a select few who actively exploit how shitty the world is for the rest of us, fuck them in particular.
I dont. A man would never get away with this behavior. Almost every person that acts like this in these videos are struggling mentally. Idk why people are picking and choosing who to feel sorry for.
I was a case worker for 30 years, with most of those years working with high-behavior intellectually-impaired individuals. This video triggered so many horrible memories of what this population of people, and the amazing advocates/workers that spend their lives trying to help them in a system designed to hide their existence entirely, go through. This young woman needs help desperately and the best she gets here is "act like an adult". A window into the horrible world mentally troubled people in our country live in. Thank you for handling this with respect and putting the subject out there in a way that could start necessary conversations. That's why I watch you, you're one of the good guys.
so its people like you that treat everyone with kids gloves that we have to thank for all of this current lawlessness we have across western countries. . . .
if you treated everyone the same i would think you were doing a good job. however, im guess you have a stark gender and racial bias that almost always accompanies social workers in our current society.
So, you work in pseudo-science. Just say that. You're an enabler. This girl needs discipline and then she needs to be put on a plane to a third world country to dig trenches, haul water, and build huts for people who have none of the entitlements she enjoys.
She will come back a changed young woman. People in your profession are ding dongs.
@@erikschuster4293 you made up literally every trait you believe this person possesses and are calling them the reason why things are bad in the world... sure.
@@lapotato9140 in general, its probably the correct assumption. it shouldn't be, but it probably is
@@erikschuster4293 you're unrelentingly stupid
Watching this is hard for me. My husband and I had roommates who grew up in foster care and acted like this in their 20s. We tried helping them, we tried helping them get jobs, get schedules to help them, and they just kept giving up when something went wrong. We had to ask them to leave, it was draining us emotionally, mentally, and financially because they had others give up on them when they were kids.
At times I resent them for the pain they put on us, them making messes and not cleaning them up, having to be a parent to people I consider friends, them breaking our belongings and not telling us about it, waking us up at 3 am because they decided to get hammered and we have to spend the time we should be sleeping trying to talk them off an emotional ledge, housing them for years and only getting rent money twice.
I hope they are doing better.
I wish the cop would simply say...if you get out then you won't be arrested...cuz she clearly thinks she's already gonna be arrested if she gets out
IDK what's crazier the way this girl was reacting or the fact that things can get so bad that they need to have restraining devices like this because it's common enough they need it.
T _ T true.
plus all other other things they need to have that can be pretty common
Ive seen numerous videos where this had to be used. They have even more harsh ones they can use also.
It’s both.
Yup, they come in different sizes
Just remember, it can easily be you in those restraints.
Love the laid back feel and setting of this video -- appropriate vibe since we're not ripping apart this young troubled girl. Best of luck to her
I think she should play hockey
I appreciate you sharing your take, giving others a chance to pause and hopefully think, reevaluate their judgement maybe. Some ppl deserve the hammer, but some really would benefit from some Grace, sympathy, and kindness. Thank you for sharing!
You approached this video really well, and I respect it a lot. Love your videos!
This is very sad. She's 18 and has nobody. She needs help.
Can be sad but sometimes when people are 18 and have nobody the person is a lost cause everyone had to leave for their own well being
I'm sure she would be grateful if you would sponsor her.
@@effaroundfindout requires substantially more than that, you stupid fuck, including the services your owners practically shut down.
@@effaroundfindoutI think empathy is way more needed than an attitude like this. People in the social services suffer from real shit that happened in their house when they were just an innocent child.
😭 she needs to learn that life aint fair.
This is absolutely heartbreaking. When he approached the car, you could tell she was trying really hard not to cry and the fear and sadness came out as anger. I couldn’t imagine not having the support of my parents even when I was 20. Who knows what she’s had to go through while in foster care through her life which makes her react like this. It makes me so sad 😞
The one person she trusted just wanted her out. That's reinforcing the trauma 😢
@@mandilynn47 Well maybe we should think about how she treated the one person she "trusted" who got to the point where she felt her only option was to phone the Police.
We have no idea what prior but it must have been a nice little chit chat with "someone she trusted". The case worker was so petrified of her that she was standing well away from the car and had to be asked by the Police Officer to talk to her.
@@xixXxxXxix 100% agree with you! I was just seeing it from her eyes because she is oblivious to anything anyone says.
Yes!!! I was just about to comment this. But after 2 damn paragraphs I just deleted it. I totally agree with u. Those with teenagers should be very familiar with her type of tantrum. Yes, she was wrong but she’s terrified and frustrated.
@@mandilynn47what was she supposed to do? She has things to do she’s of age. She can’t take her back, she can’t take her home.
Respect for handling this one with empathy
The man had the patience of a Saint
These kids age out of the foster care system and are totally on their own. They're supposed to figure it out. Sad. This girl is her own worst enemy.
No the USA is her worst enemy, 90% of the budget goes to the military
I know in my town, York PA if you turn 18 in foster care they get vouchers for renting a place, vouchers for home supplies (sheets, plates, utensils, irons, ironing boards, wash baskets, vouchers for clothes and they help them get a job. Hearing people say that they just kick you out isn't then norm in my town. I know about the vouchers because I worked with them during my time at Kmart.
You were right about trauma, especially early childhood trauma. Neglect, parent addiction/mental health issues, Physical, sexual, and verbal abuse. Growing up in the foster care system.
Can do unimaginable things to children and their developing brains.
I am not a doctor.
In her-I’m seeing the fight-flight-freeze response. It’s is a type of stress response that helps you react to perceived threats
Calming yourself can be very hard.
I have it. I have experienced it.
I have worked very hard, taking care of myself, my mental health included. This has been lifelong. I am 60 years old, have raised a family, have a great career. I was lucky to have a great support system.
I was salvageable!
She is salvageable!
The brain can train/retrain itself. She has to want change. She has to be committed to a lot of hard work. They’ll be a lot of ups and downs go by they become fewer - but they never go away.
I truly pray she gets the help she needs.
She also has the added burden of coming out of the system where at 18 they just cut off.
It’s going to be hard with no Family or Support.
im really digging the relaxed setup, nice to see the big man chillin
foster system at 18: " YOUR S.O.L." this sums it up perf
I don't think the reality of the situation is sugar coated for foster kids. They should be preparing when they are 17 and, if foster care is as bad as is always stated, then they should be celebrating they have freedom to be out of it.
@@mortimerbrewster3671what a retarded take
maybe she was booted out of care because she .... watch the video
@@unsheepled you're booted out at 18. Theres practically no preperation for it and unless you have somewhere to go, youre on the street
If you don't treat your foster parents like crap, most would keep helping you.
Also, there's Job Corps, they offer transitional housing and vocational training for ages 16 to 24 nationwide. But you need to be willing to work and stay off drugs. An attitude like hers won't make it in the program.
I actually feel guilty watching this. Like we’re an audience watching this girl at her lowest point.
Weird, I had that thought later into the video than I want to admit
Blame Leon.
I hope she gets help
@@galaxyride4944 Yes. Blame someone else for your actions. I agree.
@@galaxyride4944typical victim mentality
My mom worked my CYFD in New Mexico and she loved helping kids but I'm glad she doesn't have to deal with this anymore. There's a lot of bad parents in this state and these poor kids reap the mental gymnastics
God! I was in the ER dehydrated throwing up like every 60 seconds ( turned out I was septic) and there was woman next to me acting just like this and screaming for her husband for over 2 hours. I have anxiety already and this just made things so much worse. The doctor asked me if I wanted something for the pain as they tried repeatedly to get an IV in. I said no go give it to her! Watching this just brought that all back lol
This is Honestly sad as someone that grew up in the social services system I’ve met a lot of other kids that was beat up and neglected by there parents and now they turn out like this I don’t 100% blame her and I hope she gets the help she needs and Leon I appreciate you showing empathy and not joking about situations like this you’re awesome brotha
May I ask, as you have your self been in hard situations when you were younger, did you behave like this? And do you think having a hard life is an excuse to behave like this and cause other people problems? And if so where does it stop and when can you hold people accountable?
@@DagmaraPettit people will always have to be held accountable for their actions in my opinion, but that’s because I joined the military as soon as I turned 18 to give myself that fighting chance. It’s up to the kid on what kind of life they want to live when they grow up and for them to try to seek that help if it means counseling or finding an outlet to help. I still do therapy just so I can fight those demons but to each there own.
I understand what you’re saying but I guess I look at it completely different. My mom has hated me since the day I was born and made sure I knew it. She also made sure I knew what a piece of shit I was every single day. She destroyed any self-esteem, self-confidence, self-respect, etc. I would ever have. I’ll never be the person I was supposed to be bc of her abuse. I feel like she murdered a part of my soul. I would never act like this. Of course everyone is different and process things differently but I still don’t think it’s ever an excuse to lash out and abuse others. I think the childhood trauma/abuse I went through caused me to do the exact opposite- I know what it feels like to be abused, and bc I know that pain, I would never intentionally do anything to cause another person to feel that pain. Too many people blame their bad behavior on past trauma and use it as an excuse to justify their actions instead of taking accountability and working on getting better. Hopefully things work out for her and she gets her life together. It’s a sad situation.
@@firstnamekaty8830 definitely agree with you people must take responsibility of there actions. And every situation is completely different IE drugs, mental abuse, physical abuse and neglect. Growing up in the System I knew teenagers that would fight therapist, teachers and social workers because of drug abuse they were exposed to or other shit. And I’m talking about kids that were about to be 18. The system is fucked and I’m also very sorry you went through that
@@malcomb6823 I definitely agree with you too. And thank you for your kind words❤️ I’m sorry you had to go through a rough childhood as well. It’s not fair. No child should ever have to go through that kind of pain. It causes life long issues.
Doesn’t listen a million times over and doesn’t know why she’s getting arrested. What is actually wrong w/her?
Im f ing rolling everytime you say 'pump fake' 😂😂 idk why its so funny 😂
I’m glad you reacted to this with empathy. It very much seems like people forget that she is an actual human. I’m no expert, just reading between the lines, but it seems like she’s scared and trying to deal with being alone, homeless, no options. That’s a lot for any human being. Sleeping on a sidewalk, or in a park… Jesus, the government just slaps these kids into homes of varying safety, and spits them out when they meet the magic age of 18, complete with sudden understanding of exactly how the world works.
Having a video of her at her worst, for reasons none of us know, isn’t adding anything positive in anyone’s life.
Empathy is one thing. They showed her so much respect and she didn't take the hint. But, she really needs help
I'm glad there are people out there that see this the way I did. I watched it on another channel that specializes in "entitled teens" and "public freakouts", but I thought right away that this was probably a terrified kid lashing out. She was stubborn and acting out, and I don't even know how much I can blame the cops, but it was just so so sad. I have my kids back, and they know it. My parents had my back, and I knew it. Having no one at all, and who knows how she was treated for a decade at least, must be overwhelming. No one should get pleasure from seeing this person disintegrate like that.
i’m glad people aren’t laughing at her and poking fun, so many people like her need help. not jail. i hope things get better for her.
Seriously always love your videos, but this one was great way to start my morning. I love your open views and jokes, even though they can be harsh sometimes it makes it even better.❤
This whole thing was just sad to me. I have acted this same when I was a teenager and while it was happening I would be saying to myself "wtf r u doing????" but I had so much anger and so little care from others that I couldn't stop myself. Sad
This girl is different than the average drunk or high wacko. She is 18, alone, and mentally ill. If we don’t figure out how to help these kids, all our futures are grim. I’m praying for her.
Well done, Leon. I appreciate this video and hope to see more of this format. Please add the beautiful Mrs. Lush. I think you two together like this would be fantastic.
I am glad I saw your comment right after I posted. I dreaded reading them. For a first I'm glad there are so many good ppl still out there.
I was once her and its a nightmare. 51 now
That's true, but what is the solution? Everyone says they want to do something better or that we should do it a different way. But no one wants to be the one to respond or be able to respond 24/7. No one wants to spend hours deescalating only to do it a few hours later with someone else. No one wants to risk their own safety to deal with this type of person.
Everyone has empathy from afar where they are nice and safe and don't have to deal with someone like this.
It's easy to arm chair and say you would do this or do that, but what happens when the individual is 2x your size? Believe me, I worked on prisons for over 10 years, we would spend hours trying to deescalate... literally. Only to have them get physical at the end of it.
You can say you can provide them housing, but what happens when they abuse themselves or others? What happens when they destroy the nice things/environment you provide them? What will you do? What happens when you assign them case workers and therapists and the mental health people literally get assaulted and/or raped.
For all the help you will try to provide you will need to balance security. Security is never perfect and in those imperfections you will find inherent risks that can only be overcome with more security and more inhumane treatment.
She was likely abused in her household and then again in foster care by other residents and/or supervisors.
Funny how an exact video of an 18yr old Black girl elicited racially hate filled comments. Even the title was triggering.
Sorry, I know this is a tough one to watch, but have you even considered that this is how this woman controlled the people around her for years as a minor. Now she is finding out that it doesn't work as an ADULT. Time to grow up. Screaming at people like a maniac because you don't want to do what you're expected to do is not a mental health issue, it's a control tactic to get her way, and when she doesn't get her way from just screaming she begins to use violence. Sorry man, but she's playing you and all of us.
Our future is grim because we allow these kids to be entitled brats, no expectation of self discipline, respect for authority, no demand for adulting what so ever. We want everyone who acts out for not getting their way to be mentally ill. 95% are simply entitled who have never been forced to take the answer no .
Her reaction of "I only wanted to do something other than I was told and now it isn't right you're making me do what I was told"...is not mental illness, it's what we are raising as acceptable.
She wouldn't have been in any trouble if she simply got out of the car. All her hysteria is from her own choices and the consequences to HER choices.
Well...shit. I'm gonna pour a drink before I watch this. Never seen Leon this stoic before. 🍺
lol only happens once in a while
Love the relax set up feels like we are chilling watching together
Love,love your videos.They Crack me up.
You can't keep threatening, "This is your last chance..." and then NOT follow through immediately.
Cops really don't want to go hands on. I would probably give a lot of chances too.
Lol reminds me of how being a toddler mom is 😅🤦🏼♀️
EXACTLY!!!!! I was repeating that throughout the video after about the fourth time he told her to get out of the car. He asked her probably 15 times and the last four times was her “last” chance
I will say, her endurance was impressive.
Yelling and screaming that loudly, with that consistency, isn't easy.
She could have been a metal vocalist, no joke.
She’s 18. Energy fear and adrenaline are quite a combo.
As a former foster parent, this is 100% trauma. Any attention is attention, negative or positive, but this is absolutely heartbreaking that she has nowhere to go at 18 years old, I went through a nasty divorce in my 40s with a six figure job, and was terrified. I can only imagine how this baby feels
Jail isn’t the answer for so many ppl who get arrested
This poor girl probably has so much trauma and she just added to her list with this experience she put herself in. She needs a lot of help
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Not to mention how much its going to cost her to get out of it and then there’s probation. Which you already know she probably won’t be able to abide by all their stipulations. Hopefully not and she will get help. They really should have brought a female officer. She might have been able to deescalate the situation. Idk i have so many questions tho.
Maybe being locked up for awhile might help her. I wouldn't normally say that because, well jail sucks, but..... sometimes it can be enough to help get people some sort of skill set or into an educational program.
Yeah that was hard to watch. She's clearly a prisoner of her own mind.
@@whoathatsanicememe3093 😂😂😂
Jail is not the answer. I hope she gets the mental health care she needs.
not in 'Murica, she won't, sadly.
Jail is the answer. Actions have consequences. And if she isn’t unstable enough to be instituted, then she needs jail. You have no idea how much support is offered to these people - you see it in the video. If you are going to be a member of society, you have to stay within boundaries. This young woman is not. For many of these people, they choose to learn the hard way. But a savior complex does nothing to help these people, it just makes you feel good about yourself.
@@katiejon17you are literally in every single comment thread telling those with empathy that they are wrong. What happened to you that you would criticize anyone empathizing?
@@katiejon17 You work for CPS, don't you.
@@MissaPality works for CPS most likely
I work as security officer at hospitals here in UK and we dealt with people like this all the time it's so mentally tiering just constantly been called to restraint them 12h shift we become cold it becomes annoying we stop feeling sorry for them. But we aware of every case is different it opens your eyes and mind for what's going on out there it's mental
I love laid-back Leon 😊 I really enjoyed your soft-spoken take on this sad situation, it was very nice to watch
Aging out of the system must be pretty scary honestly , especially when it sounds like they are just booted out when they turn 18
Unfortunately, when infants are born premature, cocaine and alcohol fetal syndrome it's truly what she is experiencing, and they have a problem self-soothing in stress situations and sometimes it continues to escalate. Mental illness is truly understated and it's truly heartbreaking that it's not a spoiled child here but someone dropped the ball taking the time to teach her to cope with stressful situation. My heart goes out to her and the police officers that have to deal with this without training in mental illness. I'm so sad!
I appreciate your compassionate attitude. This speaks well of you. I realise this is not about me, but it is important to my comment that some brief background is supplied.
I had a nightmare childhood where just about everything that could happen did happen. I would add to that a reflection. Sometimes, it is not just what your parents did that causes you a problem. It is what they failed to do, inculcate, or teach.
If the parents fail and the sociocultural moral doesn't pick up the slack, this girl is the outcome.
When I was 18, I was homeless and alone in London. I was a "nice girl" who had never caused any trouble. I went to the social services office and (politely, but desperately) asked for help. I was unceremoniously told that as I was 18, there was nothing they could do. I left to try and find somewhere warm enough to sleep for the night.
I am old now, so this happened in the 1980s. Thanks to God and a sense of humour, I survived.
I would never, in a million years, have spoken to a police officer like that or refused to leave a car when I had been told to. Perhaps you consider that I didn't behave this way because it was the 1980s, not c.2024. If you thought this, I would say...precisely.
There is a well-known saying that "It takes a village to raise a child." I agree, but I would add that."It also takes a village to ruin one."
I have no psychiatric qualifications, but I observe that this young woman is saying quite rational things. She does not appear to have some disconnect. However, like so many of these videos, she is yelling things that have clearly been aquired from todays culture.
There are many ways to ruin a child. In our current culture, we accept all except one: spoiling. This is a deviation from every age and culture. The word "spoiling" is just that - something has been ruined.
The US school system has radically changed. There are no longer punishments or consequences for bad behaviour. Teachers are being physically assaulted or fear it.
I am studying neuroplasticity. When an event occurs, neural pathways are created in the brain. The thought of an event is also supposed to create or fix a neural pathway. This makes sense because how we construct the event in our minds will have an impact on its ability to haunt or inspire us. For example, do I fixate on things done to me as a child or on the fact I survived it?
Neuroplasticity is about how the brain is structured by what goes in. If you learn a foreign language or to play a musical instrument, the brain has to have the capacity to absorb and retain new information. Knowledge, experience, and value construct our brain.
A book called _Generation Me_ by Jean Twenge cites an extensive cross-generational study. Many important matters have been discovered. Millennials (were) the most psychologically damaged generation in recorded human history, yet there is a twist. They scored very highly in all things related to self-esteem. They think they are superior to their peer group. They even scored highly in narcissism. It is, I think, accurately, assessed as being the result of soft, mainly female-orientated parenting. They have been treated like princesses without the incumbent responsibilities that come with such a position. They have been overpraised without having worked to warrant that praise. Bad behaviour has been morally revaluated as a mental health issue.
They have been spoiled, and it has made them unhappy, unable to cope with normal facts of life, and isolated.
Another interesting fact is it was discovered that our personalities are structured more by the generation we come from than the family that raised us.
The way meaning has been attributed to words and events has had a profound effect on the way such things are processed and experienced. For example, I live in the North of England. A very common term of endearment is the word "luv." The word is used by men and women of all ages. An example would be: "Do you want a cuppa tea, luv?" and so on.
In the local housing association, WOKE training classes were put on. There is a division in the sexes here. The women work in the office, and the men are electricians, etc. Only the women were sent on these courses.
One day, an electrician innocently used the word "luv" to a female in the office. The woman began screaming and screaming. She "didn't feel safe," she was fearing SA. He was bewildered and apologised, but it was no good. This screaming hysterical wreck couldn't be calmed down.
She even tried to get the man fired. Thankfully, it went through his management, and it was dismissed.
You might have worked out what happened here. The "training" classes had brainwashed this woman into thinking that if a man uttered the word "luv" he was about to r-word her.
Her brain had now been altered so that innocent words now held threatening associations.
There is evidence of social contagion regarding an issue that Can Not Be Mentioned. In a book by Abigale Shrier, it was noted that a "stunning and brave" girl was 70% more likely to have another "stunning and brave" girl in their friend group.
When we look at the mental health statistics for US Gen Z, it is alarming. 41% have been diagnosed with a mental health disorder. A whopping 60% is taking medication for one.
Now, let's take a glimpse of wisdom drawn from Western tradition:
"Do not mollycoddle your son. If you do, you will be forever bandaging his wounds."
~ Sirach 30::6
The statistical data on single parents is dire across every human marker. I reflected on the fact that women would have had to raise children alone without much money in previous generations due to men being killed in war. Why such a radical difference in the quality and outcome of parenting?
In days gone by the masculine parent was - you could say - superimposed into the cultural body of the society. Masculinity is now banished as " toxic," and the concept of the parental masculine is now considered by this nebulous term "the patriarchy." In one foul (sic) sweep, they have all but eliminated respect for men and erased them from the blackboard of history. This has thrown things out-of-kilter.
I believe the aim for a healthy society is for men and women to cooperate and, in a spirit of mutual respect, share their gifts for the good of the family, community, and world.
Young people should no longer be told that"strict" is a facet of abuse. Strictness must be just and orderly. Men are counselled not to take it too far and "make rebels of your children."
However, this "I know my rights" without the slightedt suggestion that "I know my responsibilities," can't go on.
The generations are in decline, and the reasons are obvious.
It is time for JC to take back the wheel.
im in my 60s ive grown allergic to work. terrible makes me break out. break out in a sweat
this is the funniest thing i’ve read all day
i got traumatized in my youth from 7 years of abuse and then some more as an adult by a former employer, after seeing no way out as shit gradually kept getting worse, after getting 0 empathy for health problems i had for years, after getting told i needed to work on not being sick so often and then 0 empathy when i needed heavy surgery which took me 6 months to recover from of which 2 months were in bed because my body was weakened to the point were it became dangerous, after getting 0 empathy when my gf was assaulted at home, was severely beaten and was choked so bad that i could hear her vocal chords were damaged when she called me after it happened and then got told to just finish my day as if nothing happened. not to mention the level of support i got or rather didnt get when she ended up killing herself because almost everyone in her life had abused her. i ended up suing them and i won, leaving them bankrupt, yet i still lost and get crippling anxiety and ST when getting in a situation that even vaguely resembles those years. and yes i've tried getting help but have yet to find something that works
nobody can read minds and you never know what someone has been through. even typing this down... and knowing how 'understanding' people can be
She didn't handle anything the right way but I can completely understand the feel of having no safe choice and being extremely lost. Having no place to go and no one that can help is the most terrifying place to be in life.
☝️☝️☝️ Yes, THIS. Well said, mad respect. 🙌
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Yes, she seems desperate more than anything else. Poor lass.
@@outlaw_80its actually not that well said, if she had a dad he wasnt present in her life adequately. Woman have maternal instinct which will make them say things like they understand that shes going through trama, which isnt actually true. Its likely she had a devouring mother which is a psychological term that describes what is happening on a wide scale today and didnt happen as much about 20 years ago and more. Its narscasistic compassion that allows this to fester with young woman and men, and modern feminism is one of the biggest roots of the problem, not classic feminism dont get it mixed up. It teaches woman that losing is scary, so they raise kids with a narscasistic participation trophy type attitude that causes these children to not understand real hardship. The situations of this video are extremely trivial and when you are raised by a devouring mother these small situations feel very very stressful for no reason, its no doubt shes stressed, but it doesnt warrant any compassionate response, she basically needs to grow up
Exactly! Also, that cop didn't handle it well. It almost felt likes he was enjoying the power over her. In the car she yelled 'predator' at him. I can understand why, I got the same vibe. Of course I can be wrong. Cops have a difficult job that deserves respect, but unfortunately there are some creepy apples amongst them too. With her having nobody on this earth, she has very good reason to be terrified like that.
@EllaGreenn shut up snowflake. How dare you maje this guy seem like a predator. He was called by the case worker after all options were exhausted. He also gave her 1000 chances and she was being everything but cooperative. He's literally just asking her to get out of the car.....
Im so glad you have the sensibility to show empathy with this situation. She definitely needs help from some form of past trauma. And you know when to be humorous. Your a g in my book leon especially because i work as a dsp for people with developmental disabilities theres not enough attention paid to it
seeing this was really crazy, the first 20 minutes are one reason why my school experience was so bad. In every single one of my classes in school, there was at least one kid like this and the teacher would have to spend the entire class trying to get the one kid like this to do something mundane.... whether it was as simple as asking a kid to move their foot or asking them to not speak during the lesson. I have so many memories of just every single class period almost daily just having teachers have their entire day taken up by kids that acted like this, triggered by the most random requests. I felt really bad for the teachers at these times, because good lord teachers are not paid enough. it would always escalate like this and the kid would be screaming and throwing things and acting like a feral animal. This isnt a thing that everyone experiences in school either, which makes me wonder what is going on in some places that breeds people with such horrible trauma
There are so many people like this in society and i just dont understand how it happens. My mom has MASSIVE trauma and she doesnt and hasnt ever acted this way.
Stepping out of the car meant being homeless and being forced away from the only help she thought she could get. I mean, shes fighting for her life here right? its horrible some times. I appreciate the empathy from you and others Leon, big time.
As she was crying for her case worker I wonder if she was really crying for a mom or dad that she never had. How lost and scared she must have been. The disrespectful and vulgar words coming out her mouth was just noise. I think she was a scared little girl that thought she would die if she got out of that car.
I feel for her, you know her life is currently a mess. She had nowhere to go and was stuck. Most get to just go home, she doesn’t.
I like the way that you handled this video.. She wasn’t just being that way to be hard to deal with.. clear trauma and mental issues and that one cop is just antagonizing her and she knows it and wants to control herself but can’t with him there and continuously doing that knowing it’s bothering her.. she is showing exactly how it makes her feel because she can’t help it.. my honest opinion as someone who has trauma and severe ptsd myself.. when something doesn’t feel right you can’t fake it no matter what situation you are in everything in you is telling you to protect yourself and get away by any means necessary.. the only way to have calmed her was to remove him and everyone just leave her alone a few mins so she could understand what’s going on and get out of fight/flight mode.. she really wasn’t given a chance and also who really knows exactly what happened before the cops got there also.. This and DV are the 2 areas cops need more training in.. How to recognize what’s really going on and treat it according to the person they are dealing with and not let ego, pride and “one fits all” mentality get in the way..
A church in our area created a house for girls who age out of foster care. Many of us had no idea they were left to fend for themselves.
That's gotta be a really stressful situation for a cop to go through.
Really! It's the cop your concerned about.
I think there's more to this than all these boo-hoo'ers know about. They're trying to make her the worlds biggest victim. Im sure she makes her rounds with the entire department with her friends stirring up trouble.
The fact that she started calming down once she realized that she was going to be in basically a straightjacket - it tells you that she really DID NOT want to be in that thing. She sounded actually terrified at the idea of being that heavily restrained. She absolutely had something horrible happen.
I have worked with children with behavioral problems or childhood trauma that go through the system and end up "aging out". I often wonder what happens after they are released from the sometimes locked facilities where they have been "housed" for most of their lives. They have nowhere to go, no one that cares about them and often end up on the street, I'm sure. It's really unfortunate with no clear answer sometimes.
Good thing Homeboy had a body cam. She tried to flip it at the end with his fellow officers. "You didn't see everything that happened up to then" Bet dude is REAL glad that those cams are mandatory.
I worked at a youth boot camp that also houses wards of the state until age 18. It was heartbreaking to watch the “bad” kids that have family get to go home for the Christmas holidays, while the homeless kids, that haven’t done anything wrong, stay at the facility with no family to celebrate Christmas.
Even inmates are transitioned back into society and provided with the resources needed to survive. These kids are given nothing but a boot in the ass. 😢
No, most have services available to them. Many are able bodied and capable of preparing to move out and working. They just have to do the work. She chose not to.
At some point you have to take accountability.
She’s old enough to vote.
Just stop.
Most inmates don't get any resources tho which is why like 75% end up back in prison. Most of them are let out on the street with no place to live, can't find a place to hire them, have no transportation etc. I mean maybe that's true for kids, but not adults. A lot of the adults get in trouble at 18 get out years later and are completely lost. I don't know very much about foster kids all over, but I do know the ones I've met do have resources. It's just on them to actually go get them. Still a sad situation regardless.
Please explain how any person is going to put up whit that. She did it yo herself period.
I know I feel so bad
I have no simpathy for her, she knew what she was doing, because of her statement, "ok, I will stop resisting"!!!