I 'romanticise' summer dresses and never actually get to wear them! You're so right - your wardrobe should be a reflection of the way your life actually is, not how you dream it to be :)
I am a hijabi and I dress modest and I am still able to relate to you and have learned so much from you. You're such a classy woman and I say that not just because of how you dress but also because of your mannerisms and etiquette, you seem to be so respectful and congenial and you exuberate such calm vibes. Your channel is my jam when I need that sense of calmness in my life.
Me too! I love how she doesn’t spend a fortune and is so intentional about what she buys. I also watch chase amie who I think has a lovely style, but she literally buys every single item she wants nowadays, and every piece is top of the line. It’s just luxury haul after luxury haul. It’s just not my jam anymore. I admire Audrey and prefer to be more like her in the future!
I appreciate what you say about "fantasy" dressing. I am approaching retirement and am trying to navigate the overlap between having a naturally classic style whilst moving away from business casual. I never want to collapse into "retirement slouchy", or what I call "year-round bargain Caribbean cruise ship" which some friends seem to be doing. That is comfortable but so aging and kinda depressing. But I also don't want to look overdone or "office-y". Being very short adds to the challenge. Your channel really helps! Thank you!
As a retired woman, I've started wearing a lot more outfits in cotton knit. A lot of knit pieces actually have a fairly tailored look, like slim-leg pants and tops that are slightly fitted in the waist. I've even found nice cotton-knit jeans (from Appleseed's). Colors are important if you want to avoid a look that's too casual. I avoid navy because it tends to look faded fast, at least for me, so I stick to black and grays for neutrals. Black + white or black + pale blue is always classic; I like a lot of all black, top and bottom, for myself; it's a power look. I keep my accessories high quality and bold, like real silk scarves, large real pearls (freshwater, straight from the far east), bold cuff bracelets and collar necklaces, but only one major accessory at a time. Nobody treats me like I'm invisible.
@@edennis8578 Yes, ladies, retirement dressing can be tricky, and a great deal depends on where you live and your lifestyle. I live in a So Cal suburb, possibly the epitome of casual dressing. Honestly. very often you would be lucky if people dressed as nicely as those who are taking a cruise. And I love good cruise wear. One of my fashion ideals is picturing Norma Shearer on a 1930s cruise ship, classy yet casual. A bit of what I aspire to. Two more considerations are that I live in intense heat, over 100 much of the time and that my social life tends to be movies and casual restaurants, rather than cocktail parties and museums. So casual is our middle name, but I still try to look really put together and thoughtful.
As I grow older, I tend more to the "preppy" look: tailored clothes, neutrals with a pop of color, a nice dress, button earrings, pearls. Although I like black, I found I was wearing too much of it. I've substituted much of my black with gray.
@@NYEmma Norma Shearer on a 1930s cruise ship sounds lovely. Definitely something to aspire to. But, we have a home at a cruise port in Mexico, and that is NOT the look I see coming off the boats nowadays. 🙄
HAHA! "Year-round bargain Caribbean cruise ship!" My fashion fear is looking like Mrs. Roper from the original "Three's Company" show. That character looked like a walking casino...too many patterns and colors in one outfit. But I do like to do more with pattern and color as I get older. I'm approaching retirement and I think about having more fun with my clothes, but I ask myself always "Does this look like something Mrs. Roper would wear?" I try to keep the fun stuff in balance and proportion.
Audrey, this video really speaks to me. I went through all black and white phase in late 20's as I wanted to be perceived as chic and elegant. Then I got tired of it, started adding colors. Even for colors, I was still trying hard to be sophisticated and understated. I bought a lot of blue and turquoise items which don't suit my warm skin tone and I wasn't really excited to wear them. Now I am in 40's and during the last two years , I worked a lot more from home. I found that I really enjoy wearing red, yellow and they make me look energetic and happy. The funny thing is those colors were the ones I wore a lot when I was a child... I am finally back to my true-self and feel comfortable in my own skin. Like you said, I admire others from afar for things that are trendy , but stay true to myself with my style.
For me is letting my own culture to dress me. I was born and raise in a country and culture I still love and am proud of, but the traditional way of dressing is not one I feel confident on, so when I go home, I stand out and some times even get criticism, but I just decided not to let that bother me because at the end of the day the whole point of style is to be your own unique one. I see no point on doing exactly whatever everyone else is doing. I did that long enough to blend in and feel acceptable and now I recognize that the most important acceptance comes from myself. Great video 💕
We should all have our own style. I tend to buy clothes that are not tending. I want to be able to wear my clothes for at least a few years. We need to dress in what makes us feel good, not what the designers say we should wear for any given season. I don't care to look like everyone else. Choose your style and rock it!! Good video!
I finally discovered after moving from the cold North to the South that loose-fitting dresses were the best option for Summer for me. Before that I was concentrating on separates. So even though I have capris and shorts for the Summer it's much more comfortable to have nothing binding around my waist. And dresses can take you through the day looking nice, comfortable and ready for any event that comes up.
I feel the same for me! Give me a comfy, not too tight dress any day in breathable material! If it's colder, leggings, cardigans, etc., can layer on top it. If it's hot it's one simple item needed to feel so breezy...maybe some bike shorts underneath so less worries about cross-legged. Not that women HAVE to wear dresses or anything...just for me I find it gives me a feminine feeling (and I keep it in my loose, comfy, casual, kinda earthy style and my colors, textured, shapes) that feels like me. Once I sort it out even clearer what my ideal dress is I'm thinking of sewing it because I have some sewing skills and that'd feel like a special project.
I have stopped buying t-shirts that have a crew neck. The neck style made me feel like I was being choked even though the style was not actually choking me. I purchase t-shirts with open neck styles such as bow or V-neck. My neck now is free! :)
This is such a simple yet big change. I have felt the same lately, and not only does it feel better, it looks more flattering too (on me anyway). But they’re hard to find, especially a not too low scoop neck. Where do you get yours from?
I agree. Open necks flatter me more, but I also find that Tshirts with interesting necklines and subtle draping details transition from casual to business more easily. Same fabric, so it wears just as easily, but looks a little more elevated.
I have dark skin and when I wear orange I get so many compliments. Plus I’ve noticed wearing that colour makes me so happy 😀 . I’m currently going through a green phase and am searching for the perfect green dress. Ah, the fun of learning about personal style.
Not only your fashion advice is insightful, your manner of speaking is so soft and comforting, which makes watching you a true delight! I also appreciate how you don’t give adamant do-and-do-not advice, as many others do, but acknowledge how different things work for different people
After retiring from my corporate job, I stopped dyeing my hair to let the grays grow in. This totally changed my color palette. So, in addition to transitioning from “office” clothes to a casual chic non-Granny wardrobe, I am also slowly letting go of clothes that no longer complement my face and hair. It’s challenging but fun! I’m also shopping at thrift stores to save money and help support local charities. Your video on color analysis was very helpful!
@@karenrader2160 hi Karen. My complexion looks more tan now against my silver strands bcs it as if my hair were blond. I used to have medium dark brown (dyed) hair.
I've struggled with chronic illness my whole life and didn't buy many clothes through my teenage years (despite always loving fashion and style). I'm 22 now and these past couple of years I feel like I've gone back to what I loved about fashion as a kid and it's been a very healing experience, finally listening to my inner child! Something i feel like I had to learn was that it's okay to buy into some trends if it's in line with my personal style. Take advantage of the colours or silhouettes that are on the marked while they're there!
I agree! I have found that over the years (I'm much older than you are), if there's a style or color I like, I have to buy it when it comes in, because when it isn't in, forget about it. One of my favorite colors is a deep candy-apple red, but it's usually impossible to find. Last year, Land's End catalog had some pieces in that very color, so I certainly scooped them up while I could! The last time I was able to get something in that color was almost 30 years ago, believe it or not. I still have the dress.
Audrey! Over the past year and a half I’ve been watching your videos to help re define my style! I quit my job to be a stay at home parent, my wardrobe was business casual and maternity. I wanted to feel good at home and I finally figured out I love to wear Levi’s, cotton and linen shirts in the summer and wool or cashmere in the winter and my Keds/vans. It’s not that groundbreaking but it was so freeing to realize my current life’s wardrobe can be different than my past experiences
Omg I’m so with you on NO collared shirts, I have always HATED myself in button ups but kept trying to love them. I finally gave up, they’re just NOT ME, and it IS freeing. I also had a reverse revelation about color - I kept trying to wear colors as I do love color in the outside world and stylists are always admonishing people to ‘wear more color!’ but 90% of my clothes are black and navy and I LOVE IT. 😍 I’ll enjoy color all around me but not ON me. Your bottom line I agree with 💯: find what works for YOU!!!
I am so with you! I have tried to wear collared shirts but they just do not suit me. I've even tried wearing them as my third layer over a tee or tank but most of the time it just doesn't work. Stick with what we really love!
I can relate to so much in this video. The tunnel vision, the tailoring, the color, even the buying and dressing for the climate where you live. I think a key piece of this video is appreciation or admiration doesn't have to mean appropriation.
I recently had youtuber Merriam Style do my body type analysis for me. Now I know as a Flamboyant Natural type, I look good in unconstructed long lines, blunt lines and non-fitting clothing. Getting typed changed the way I shop as I don't waste time and money now and It gives me a great sense of relief. And, I realize I look my best wearing my lines!
Me too! I'm a Merriam Sharpened Moderate, which would be a kibbe pure Dramatic. I have the smallest wardrobe I've ever had, but everything is in my lines, so I look the best I ever have.
I could listen to you all day. I’ve recently lost weight and found that I like to dress up a little more and with a different silhouette. So interesting from what I’ve considered “right” for me me whole life. I appreciate seeing your evolution and encouraging each of us to evolve in our own ways. Thank you.
I stopped buying pieces I don't absoltely love. I found myself buying pieces and thinking ... "that will be a great staple" etc. but not loving it. Now, I must love it. From basic t-shirts to my most expensive coat - it must Spark Joy. XO
I realised that I actually felt less eager to buy pieces of clothing but rather really giving more thoughts to what I wanted to buy. Thanks so much for your videos x
I’m going though a style change at the moment. I had some arthritis problems and was advised if I lost some weight it would help my problems. So… a year later I have gone down 2 sizes. I love the feel of being lighter and I feel fitter. I decided to alter all my clothes and it’s taken some time. …The thing is my style has changed I feel fed up with cross body hand bags - V neck cross over Dresses…and all those neutral colours..Nothing looks good - I knew what suited me before and I stuck to neutral colours…But now I feel a BIG change is coming I want to put some FUN in my wardrobe..add COLOUR…I feel a bit lost…I’m going to take another look at your videos on colour Audrey. Thanks Rachel
Excellent points! I went through the “I must only wear neutrals” phase because I was trying to find the unicorn of every item of clothing mixing with every other item of clothing. Here’s what I learned. I look dead in beige and grey. I’m a colour and pattern addict. Now I’m investing in colour again. Absolutely loving it!
Audrey you are so calm and compose....in this era of poppy colours I can easily relate with you because your dressing sense is so soothing and relaxing
I still have two items, a coat and a blouse I bought in London in 1978. They are still lovely garments and I never tire of them. I find it hard to throw nice things away, I think you’ve guessed that!
I appreciate the realistic and relatable content you share. I also love the way you use the word fantasize. You’ve made me realize that when shopping for clothes, I have fantasized my life into thinking I would wear something but in reality it just isn’t the true life I live. I too live in a hot climate (SW Florida) and would love some hot and humid weather outfit ideas that are classy casual if that is such a thing?💕
Audrey I’ve noticed that most of your blouses are peasant style. They look very nice on you and fit your personality and body type but I wonder if you, like me sometimes tend to get tunnel vision for a certain style like you did with the collar shirts but now with the peasant tops. Love your channel. Donna
My hair fell out from chemo and is now growing back a beautiful salt and pepper. I used to have long reddish brown hair and wore orange and neutrals really well. I get so many compliments about my new hair colour I won't be dyeing it again. So now I have to adjust my wardrobe to suit. I have found dyeing my clothes rather than replacing them is giving my style a new life. I agree about the collared shirts, I hate them too. I bought "basics" but rarely wore them. Give me a lovely printed bohemian top anyday
I love winter clothes but live in Alabama. Talbots had several Skorts for sale. I bought 5. I always coordinate a jacket . One to keep the sun off. Two because restaurants and offices are freezing cold in the summer.
I love skorts and wore them for years. I think they fill a certain summer niche for cool yet modest. I'm 73 and still have pretty good legs from slightly above the knee on down. But the top part of my thighs are now lumpy on the inside so I wear my shorts longer. I don't seem to see skorts that have any length to them. They usually seem teen-age girl short. Does anybody know of a source of skorts that might be slightly longer.
Thanks Donna. I went to the Talbots web site and immediately found two skorts that I dropped in my cart. Then I found their adorable espadrilles and dropped two pairs of them in my cart despite the fact that they don't come in narrow which is what I wear. I will wait, at least, until tomorrow before I press "order." I'm hoping that my blood will have cooled by then. :D
I had a big revelation recently that I don’t want to wear black anymore, which has been a staple in my wardrobe since forever. But since learning about Kibbe IDs and essences I’ve realised that even though my winter colouring can technically pull it off, black just doesn’t feel like me anymore, it makes me feel drab and heavy. I’m slowly switching out some pieces to navy, which I’m loving! And I’ve discovered I’m really drawn to lighter bright pastel colours, which I didn’t think I could wear with my high contrast colouring, but when I put them on they just feel so me! 🥰
Every capsule wardrobe or minimalist wardrobe I have seen has the requisite denim jacket, after years of buying them I realized I hate them, they fit my big bust and short torso awfully, they look awesome on others but I’ve instead focused on soft curve hugging knits with a little drape😊❣️
I constantly decluttered my closet (and house). It is always interesting to me that I keep finding things to get rid of. My closet has so much less now & easier to see everything. I packed away duplicates & really out of season clothes.
I enjoyed this video, thank you. For me living in a hot climate with brutal summers its always about fabrics. Soft ,light weight, breathable cottons or linens .
Totally agree! I've spent a lot of time in the tropics. Only linen and cotton really work there. Any kind of synthetic blend, even if high quality, gets just unbearable by noon. I can't even tolerate much silk. Linen rules - and is at its best in hot and very humid climates that basically steam the wrinkles out on an on-going basis throughout the day.
I feel the stuff about summer. I definitely love my style during winter time. I live in Houston and summers are absolutely miserable for me. I’m still struggling with summer style that I feel it’s true to me because of the heat. But lately I’ve been really into figuring it out. I hate wearing jeans and denim shorts I have a ton of dresses but even that I feel gets played out for me. I’m working on it!
It sounds like you have a ton of dresses but may not be crazy about them all or have had some a long time. Get some new cool comfy flattering summer dresses in a natural breathable fabric you love and you won't get tired of. Try white maybe red? Stay away from large loud prints. To distracting.
You might hear this all the time, but your voice is so soothing & comforting! I definitely agree with the items you're mentioning. I'm currently at the point where I have to really declutter/ pair down my closet, but I'm still holding onto everything... It's so much easier to go and declutter someone else's clothes lol. I do it for my sister all the time and growing up she'd have me select outfits for her. I'm still in the covid rut where I'm going out but still not that often as pre-covid.
Thanks so much for this great video. I liked what you said about a fantasy and know that is true in my case. I have purchased collared shirts but I never reach for them. I need to reflect on building a summer wardrobe that is utilized.
I've discovered capsule wardrobe few years back and liked the general idea, but examples I found online were a total miss for me: they were filled with denim, pants and colors that don't suit me. Thanks to your videos and blog posts I've started to work on my personal style and colour palette. One thing that surprised me in the proces was that grey should not be my base colour! I'm a cool winter type, and since I don't like black, I've built my wardrobe around white, navy and grey. But having grey as base colour ment that app. once a week I wore grey head to toe. I felt drab and sad. Since then I figured out that I love wearing all cream, green, petrol or cobalt outfits. Now I fell so much better.
I stopped buying pointy collared shirts, blazers, boxy jackets, and high heels when I realized I no longer like the way I look or feel in any of those things. Recently I came to realize how much I hate wearing deep v-neck t-shirts because the lines feel severe and not harmonious. Some of my favourite clothes of the past were among my now banned items, but I think it's normal that our taste and style changes over time. The nice thing about letting go of certain prescribed items is that it opens up more creativity and room for expression, as there are so many other choices out there. Soft and unstructured looks are much more my style now, and even dresses which I used to wear very rarely. Audrey I love your puffy sleeved gathered blouses. That is a look that expresses your personality much better than a generic tailored shirt!
I'm loving that blouse on you. I think we are the other way around. I love a crisp, vibrant orange but not really a huge fan of green!! I have also had a similar epiphany about collared shirts and jackets. Not for me but I love a wide leg pant or a flared skirt!! Its so exciting to discover what works for you!!!
I changed location/climates 6 months ago and it's been . . . a challenge 😜. I just didn't have items that truly kept me warm. I am skin-sensitive to most wools so the learning curve has been steep. Next winter I'll have a better feel for the items that will truly benefit both my personal "thermometer" AND my style. Thank you for all the help you provide here!
Audrey you have influenced my cold month wardrobe so much and I too have cultivated a beautiful sweater wardrobe based on your recommendations. However here in Kentucky, we experience all four seasons including extreme heat and high humidity. Maybe not for as long as you do in Charleston but enough time that I dread it instead of embracing it. Could you do a specific video on how to dress, style for a really hot and humid day and what to do with your hair in order to not look like you are not just having a bad day?
When my hair was long, I would put it in a simple French twist when it was hot and humid out. It took two minutes and looked great. If I wore my hair down, it felt like I was wearing a blanket!
No comment regarding style, but just wanted to hop on here and say I love watching your videos, they are always so helpful and so well thought out, thank you for brightening up even the brightest day 😊
I found the same thing with repeating my linen button downs. I’ll never not wear them! Ever. But, I realized the same thing as you looking at my European pictures. I only now am going to add, if only a few, other styles. Subtle but different. Still adore neutrals. Saves money and do go with other pieces. But, adding a few fun things as you are.
Thank you!! I love your videos. I had my colors done and I am low contrast blonde. I’m a spring. Orange look great on me. Black is too saturated for a low contrast fair blonde. I’m so glad I had my colours done. It’s helped me with shopping so much!
I too have learned to purchase clothes for the summer..I donated over half my closet and am excited to make it more practical and realistic. I LOVE that white dress with the beige blazer. Thx!
I use to be very brand loyal and found I looked like an ad for their brand . Now I explore brands according to my style and purchase from whomever has what suits me best
Yes! I live in a tropical country and have had so many winter clothes until this year. I packed everything that I didn’t wear in the last years and sent to a second hand store. Now, my summer wardrobe is finally realistic as well as my winter one.
Thank you for your insight! I've recently hit a new decade in terms of age and intuitively I feel like my style has changed. I no longer love some of my current go to pieces. You validated my feelings...thank you!
I have found that a limited budget (whether real or self-imposed) magnifies focus on so much: need, versatility, quality and style alignment. Your channel introduced me to Alyssa Beltempo and between you guys and one of my daughters who is ultra planet conscious, my own focus and expenditure has altered hugely. It now better reflects the life I live, my priorities in this sphere and a more thoughtful sustainable, comfortable and stylish me. Thank you. PS I live in Ireland and also have an obsession with sweaters- but now generally only buy secondhand cashmere!!
Generally, on a No Buy program at present. Trying to use creativity over consumption, & shop my closet. More of a minimalist when it comes to detailing & style. The following things are definitely off my 🛍 shopping agenda: Collared shirts, sweaters or knits of any kind, patterned or colored tops outside standard palette (esp. in floral, busy, striped, checkered, gingham, plaid, or abstract), fussy/frilly/formal blouses or dresses, medium or heavy weight blazers or jackets, slouchy cardigans, denim jackets or jeans in any color, tapered trousers of any kind, flared pants, balloon or voluminous bottoms, low or medium rise bottoms. No more stillettos or sandals of any kind. 🤨 Even though everyone discourages it for an hourglass ⏳️ figure, I do prefer high crew necks, boat necks, turtlenecks, & solid/ruffle halter necks tops👍. V-necks, deep round necks, square, or even sweetheat necks tend to show off far too much cleavage for comfort😳. Tailored tops with waist definition are far more flattering for shape, esp. in soft, lightly drapey, body-con fabric. 👀On the look out for simple tank dresses & also dresses with full button fronts that can perform double duty as a topper layer. Interested in acquiring the lightest weight & longest length classic trench style coats too. Open to light summer weight linen, shorter structured blazers. Highly amenable to skorts too. Also block heel cap toe shoes, brogue or espadrille wedges, platform sneakers or oxfords, slim slip-on sneakers, ankle & below ankle booties, loafers, ballerina flats〰️esp. in nude are all on my radar. 💚 Bridget from Cali ☘️ (using my pal's YT acct)
Like you, I am a winter clothing junkie, while living in the desert. I have tons of boots, sweaters, jeans and scarves. Very little summer clothing, as it's just so hot, I don't want to think about it. I have allowed myself to buy more shorts this season, and it is helping. Thanks for a great video!
If you love sweaters but live in a hot climate I recommend carrigans. You can take some of those short sleeve shirts and transition them into the winter and fall.
I too have been trying to select pieces that fit the climate I live in. I also live in Charleston, SC but I grew up in Pennsylvania. I can totally can empathize with your love of sweaters! I'm taking your advice and I'm trying to lean into the Charleston climate, which translates to a seriously short winter and loooooong summers.
Good afternoon Audrey! Tunnel vision…great analogy of what happens…like with collared shirts! I have gone down that road and realized I need to get out of that box and search for other alternatives especially for our hot southern summers (I’m in NC and it’s hot 🥵 today!). And, I agree, what trends or colors can work for one person isn’t what will work for another! 💕
Hi Audrey. Loved this post. Post Covid years I now mostly work from home. I no longer have the need for office work wear. And when I go into the office my look is more neat casual more like a day out on the week end. So I stopped buying those pencil skirts and structured dresses coats and shirts. And as I am now also planning to semi retire in the next couple of years I suppose have to get rid of most of mg office wardrobe.
the fantasy vs reality point is enlightening to me. That's where I lack....I need to start buying more fall/winter clothes and stop with the summery stuff. Thanks Audrey!
It's really interesting to see your style evolve over time.. especially because I distinctly remember your "tailoring" and "orange" video.. both really spoke to me. It kinda gives me the perspective that my style will evolve over time.
🤣🤣🤣What you said about sweaters...Defines me too.And I must say I am also working on that obsession.I have always let being warm control my outfit choices.
What you said about fantasy and representation of the life you are leading, aplies to so many things! It spoke to me so deeply now that I have decided to pursue a second career and there are many things I like and enjoy and even love but I have to be realistic about where my life is right now and where I see myself in the future. Thank you so much and l truly enjoy your content. Love from El Salvador 💕
You look great in puff sleeves. 💕 And your color analyst was exceptionally talented. Like you, I’ve stopped buying things that need a lot of tailoring.😆
I’ve come to some of the same realizations. I have dozens of collared shirts but never feel like myself in them. My favorite tops are v-neck sweaters and collarless tops. I also have 11 silk blouses BUT RARELY WEAR THEM. Fall and Winter in Michigan makes them too chilly to wear. Then, in the summer, I don’t wear them because I worry about getting sweaty and them needing special laundry care. I’ve realized I like clothing that I don’t need to be precious with. V-necks tops and blazers are my go-to.
I always love hearing your personal style insights, Audrey! Thanks for sharing. ♥️ This year, I feel like I finally nailed down what I love about style and what feels true to me. I’d followed capsule wardrobe guidelines for so long and had a closet full of black, gray and navy that I honestly didn’t love. I did a color analysis this spring and have since purchased items in my recommended palette: cream, olive, rosewood, camel, burnt orange, teal…and feel so much more like myself. I also honed in on my dream style: feminine, polished and natural. It’s taken years, but was absolutely worth all the effort and reflection. Thanks for inspiring me!
Omg, you just helped me pick MY perfect palette! I think you must be an autumn like me! I always admired blush pink but it doesn't work for my skin tone and washes me out. Rosewood is PERFECT!! I already had burnt orange and olive in my wardrobe but now that you've helped me it out, I am EXCITED! Thank you!
Lots of great advice and ideas here! I’ve come full circle with collared shirts, lol. I didn’t buy them for years because all I could find were these styles where they are tapered at the waist - this looks absolutley awful on me. I also have learned that a collared shirt only looks good on me if it is a structured fabric (cotton) and style, and slightly oversized. So no more floppy silks or polyester prints, which I used to wear under a blazer for work and like many others, found that on photos they did nothing for me. I have also struggled with summer wardrobe and have just learned to branch out beyond crew neck tees and look for me creative tops.
Hi Audrey, I absolutely adore the white dress you are wearing in this video, it looks gorgeous on you. What brand is it please? Thanks for all your tips and tricks… I’m always learning ☺️
Audrey, great video! It is a challenge to be true to one’s own self. Last week my husband took me out for our 45th anniversary dinner and i was dismayed to realize my dress selection was all professional…I wanted a flouncy and fun summer dress…so I went out and bought one & it helped me realize I am too heavy with professional clothes…need some soft and feminine things. Thanks for being real!!
I totally relate to having tons of sweaters but very little clothing for summer! I have always hated dressing for hot weather but I recently realized that a large part of my dislike of hot weather stemmed from finding shorts uncomfortable. I have always struggled to find shorts that fit me. All of my denim shorts gap in the waist and squeeze my hips and thighs so tightly that it’s uncomfortable to exist in them. The denim shorts I can find NEVER have enough room in the hips and rear so the pockets sit weird on me and give off an overall unflattering look in addition to being uncomfortable. I always thought I just had to accept the discomfort because I wanted to wear denim shorts (since that’s what all of my peers wear) and I couldn’t find anything else. However, I graduated college recently and I’ve finally decided that I am not going to put up with uncomfortable shorts anymore, even if it means I don’t get to wear denim shorts. I recently found a style of super high waisted khaki shorts from Gap that are incredible! They reach my natural waist (which is super high up on my torso) and then flare out to leave room for my hip region. They are so comfortable and feel like a total game changer! I am excited for this new stage in my life where I prioritize my own comfort instead of wearing what I feel I’m “supposed” to be wearing.
Glad you found a solution to the shorts dilemma. I do have a suggestion: if you can afford it , buy at least one or two more while they are available. Gap doesn’t hold onto styles for very long. When something works for your body it’s just inevitable that you won’t be able to find it again!
@@denisedorsey2889 Thank you for the tip about Gap not keeping styles around for long! Fortunately as soon as I realized they fit well I ordered 2 more pairs in that style hehe!
I so agree with breaking style habits. I recently relocated from the US NE coast to the US SE mountains. At the same time, I am changing lifestyles from office work to remote work, and soon to retire. I find myself transitioning out a lot of pieces that are too season-specific, as I would rather layer for warmth than have a large collection of heavyweight sweaters that are only good for a few weeks of the year. Also, while collared shirts and other tailored pieces still work, the cut and the way they are styled is different. The rural south is more relaxed than the metro northeast, but the fabrics and styling need to be more practical and durable. There aren't as many sidewalks and office buildings here, so the way I dress has to be ready for a walk through a yard or along a dirt or gravel garden path at some point in my day.
I'm now adjusting to a third region & country and can absolutely relate to how much time it takes to drop our old habits and see what you truly need in the new environment. I also try to keep away from trends at all times, it's unsustainable to try to hunt the ever changing fashion and I feel it's a trap :) One trend I can't run away from is high rise bottoms. Absolutely despise them but nobody sells middle rise anymore and I had to adjust my style!
Try Ann Taylor and banana republic and sometimes old navy and gap for pants. They often have midrise options if you read the details for fit on each garment. I hate hi rise as well as I am petite and a little short waisted and those fit me great. Keep looking. They exist. Good luck.
@@pappyone6062 thanks! I adjusted by using more leggings, and soft waste bottoms that can be just pulled lower. It's not that I can't find them, I just hate that I have to search and hunt 😁
@@annavetrova8200 yeah I get that. I have shopped there for many many years because I don’t like hunting either. Once I found what works in terms of fit I just stick with it. Haha
I'm a big cardigan fan. Somehow they go missing, so I buy about half a dozen each year. Pull on pencil skirts are now my favorite to wear but I still love wool. I found that I had to stop buying t-shirts as I had enough for four to five people. Doesn't include band shirts. I've stopped buying synthetic fiber with rayon being an exception. Polyester and such is another type of plastic. I've gotten rid of a few things, though I really lived them. My body has changed over time and many of my favorite pieces no longer flatter me and alterations aren't possible. I'm wearing a lot of slacks these days and those are a bit of a new thing for me. Before hand it was cords or velvet in a jeans style. I have a few colors but most of my wardrobe is black. I do dye my clothes so that they are the same shade of black. I sew or buy wing tip tuxedo type shirts and then wear them with a regular tie for the retro look. I'm a middle aged geeky goth. Most of my clothes, I been wearing for almost a decade and I love them. Most of my highest quality pieces I made as it allowed me to have complete control. Best fabric, best construction and fitted to my body.
Hi Audrey! It’s so funny you mentioned the collared shirt….I’ve never been a fan of that style. I know its a classic however it never felt like it was my style. i I much prefer an interesting silhouettes in either warm neutrals or bright warm colors colors over a white button up blouse. I’ve recently had my color palette determined and it really is SO enlightening!! My palette is warm and bright since I’m a Spring! Although pure white and black are always trending they’re just not best shades for me!👍. Having color analysis is so helpful and saves you from making mistakes. I really enjoy your videos! All the best!
A couple of years ago I stopped wearing jeans and clothing with straight lines, like mod style 60s dresses. I realized that they do not suit my tall, size 8 hour glass frame and make me look frumpy and wide. I opt for wrap dresses and long skirt sets now and I always feel put together. My sister is very rail thin and looks rather empty in a wrap dress or a line but looks amazing in jeans and also in straight line slip dresses. Honor your lines and you will always look beautiful ❤️
you have been i everysteps of my fashion journey. i also find my self looking at colors at the moment. I'm in that "boring slump". anything that sparks life, vibrant or fun is what I need now 😂
I live in the same city as you. I grew up here but I left for over a decade for work and returned in 2019 when I became pregnant. For the past 3 years I have had to relearn my style and I also had to shift the lifestyle I am buying for. I have also learned that I hate the color black on me. Navy is a better base neutral for me.
I have avoided neutrals in tops but never thot about the versatility factor! I used to use neutrals to “hide.” To me they don’t draw attention. But, I no longer want to hide and love color. However, neutrals mix and match well. I hadn’t considered that. This is my first video of yours and I love your style and delivery!
Oh, my, Audrey - I had an "aha" moment when you spoke of collared shirts and sweaters, because I have many of each. Too many. For the last few months, I've wanted to donate the collared shirts I no longer wear, because I'm also tired of ironing. I also have many sweaters - I love the ones I have, so I'll use your advice and make my wardrobe work for the life I have now. After all, how many charcoal cashmere sweaters does one person need?! ;) Keep up the great work!
I'm the same as you with sweaters, I just love them too much. Summer barely just started here and I'm already over it. I hate the heat and summer clothes, I barely own any, which is kind of a problem. I always wear the same black tank tops with jeans but I'm getting a bit tired of it. This year, I'm going to a beach vacation for the first time in 25 years and I've got almost nothing to wear 😥I've started to look around the shops a bit but it's all bold colours and prints 🙄
Ugh, the sweater buying urge when you live in a warm climate is REAL. I grew up in New England, and live in perpetual denial that Virginia just doesn't get that cold. I think you mentioned this a while ago, and I had to be really honest with myself that I had enough sweaters, but was wearing the same 7 things all summer because I hadn't invested in that part of my wardrobe.
Honestly, I turn to sweaters any time the temperature is below 70. I would be wearing sweaters in Virginia more than half the year 24/7. More than that in the evening even in May and September. If I lived in the city, that might not be the case, since city temperatures can be 30° higher than in the country. I experienced this myself when I visted New Orleans. The temperature was 90° officially, but 120° in the French Quarter- at night!
I have the same problem, in reverse. I live in an area that it’s warm enough for a summer dress maybe five days each year. I can hardly resist all the pretty summer dresses, but they do nothing but languish in my closet and leave me with guilt. I have lived here 10 years and am finally catching on that I am expecting my climate to act like the one I moved from and it’s somehow shocking and disappointing when it doesn’t. This year, I have accepted that this is my climate and I need light colored sweaters most of the summer and to stay away from the dresses. It’s been freeing.
It depends on where in the state you are but it certainly doesn’t get as cold I live in the mountains and it’s sweater weather from October to May and many evenings in the summer get cold enough to necessitate a sweater. When I lived outside of DC it was so humid that I had basically summer and winter clothing and almost no fall/spring stuff because as soon as winter was over it was unbearably hot and sticky
Hello, I just love your channel, the sound of your voice & charm. One major thing I have learned in the last year or so is to know your measurements. I am a petite 5'1 curvy lady. When you see a garment on a model, chances are they are 5'7 & above. That is 7" or more taller than I am. The garment is not going to look the same on both myself & the model. Now, when I look for a specific item to add to my collection; I try to find that item on a petite curvy frame similar to mine. This allows me to save money & time trying to have everything altered. I appreciate you & all of your advice. You are such a classy lady. Thank you 😊. Cheers 😉 🌷
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I 'romanticise' summer dresses and never actually get to wear them! You're so right - your wardrobe should be a reflection of the way your life actually is, not how you dream it to be :)
Same! I live in Minnesota and its usually freezing here lol
...or you work on changing your life to your dreams 😉
or alternatively, wear what you'd be most comfortable in.
Treat yourself. Just wear them on a normal day out.
@@henib6100 I like how you think!
I am a hijabi and I dress modest and I am still able to relate to you and have learned so much from you. You're such a classy woman and I say that not just because of how you dress but also because of your mannerisms and etiquette, you seem to be so respectful and congenial and you exuberate such calm vibes. Your channel is my jam when I need that sense of calmness in my life.
Exactly 💯
Same sis 💛💛🤍🤍🌹
So true, perfectly put👏
Me too! I love how she doesn’t spend a fortune and is so intentional about what she buys. I also watch chase amie who I think has a lovely style, but she literally buys every single item she wants nowadays, and every piece is top of the line. It’s just luxury haul after luxury haul. It’s just not my jam anymore. I admire Audrey and prefer to be more like her in the future!
Me too
"Not every trend is for me...I can admire it from afar." That sums up my wardrobe philosophy.
I appreciate what you say about "fantasy" dressing. I am approaching retirement and am trying to navigate the overlap between having a naturally classic style whilst moving away from business casual. I never want to collapse into "retirement slouchy", or what I call "year-round bargain Caribbean cruise ship" which some friends seem to be doing. That is comfortable but so aging and kinda depressing. But I also don't want to look overdone or "office-y". Being very short adds to the challenge. Your channel really helps! Thank you!
As a retired woman, I've started wearing a lot more outfits in cotton knit. A lot of knit pieces actually have a fairly tailored look, like slim-leg pants and tops that are slightly fitted in the waist. I've even found nice cotton-knit jeans (from Appleseed's). Colors are important if you want to avoid a look that's too casual. I avoid navy because it tends to look faded fast, at least for me, so I stick to black and grays for neutrals. Black + white or black + pale blue is always classic; I like a lot of all black, top and bottom, for myself; it's a power look. I keep my accessories high quality and bold, like real silk scarves, large real pearls (freshwater, straight from the far east), bold cuff bracelets and collar necklaces, but only one major accessory at a time. Nobody treats me like I'm invisible.
@@edennis8578 Yes, ladies, retirement dressing can be tricky, and a great deal depends on where you live and your lifestyle. I live in a So Cal suburb, possibly the epitome of casual dressing. Honestly. very often you would be lucky if people dressed as nicely as those who are taking a cruise. And I love good cruise wear. One of my fashion ideals is picturing Norma Shearer on a 1930s cruise ship, classy yet casual. A bit of what I aspire to. Two more considerations are that I live in intense heat, over 100 much of the time and that my social life tends to be movies and casual restaurants, rather than cocktail parties and museums. So casual is our middle name, but I still try to look really put together and thoughtful.
As I grow older, I tend more to the "preppy" look: tailored clothes, neutrals with a pop of color, a nice dress, button earrings, pearls. Although I like black, I found I was wearing too much of it. I've substituted much of my black with gray.
@@NYEmma Norma Shearer on a 1930s cruise ship sounds lovely. Definitely something to aspire to. But, we have a home at a cruise port in Mexico, and that is NOT the look I see coming off the boats nowadays. 🙄
HAHA! "Year-round bargain Caribbean cruise ship!" My fashion fear is looking like Mrs. Roper from the original "Three's Company" show. That character looked like a walking casino...too many patterns and colors in one outfit. But I do like to do more with pattern and color as I get older. I'm approaching retirement and I think about having more fun with my clothes, but I ask myself always "Does this look like something Mrs. Roper would wear?" I try to keep the fun stuff in balance and proportion.
Audrey, this video really speaks to me. I went through all black and white phase in late 20's as I wanted to be perceived as chic and elegant. Then I got tired of it, started adding colors. Even for colors, I was still trying hard to be sophisticated and understated. I bought a lot of blue and turquoise items which don't suit my warm skin tone and I wasn't really excited to wear them. Now I am in 40's and during the last two years , I worked a lot more from home. I found that I really enjoy wearing red, yellow and they make me look energetic and happy. The funny thing is those colors were the ones I wore a lot when I was a child... I am finally back to my true-self and feel comfortable in my own skin. Like you said, I admire others from afar for things that are trendy , but stay true to myself with my style.
@jessica Yes, parents always know!
Wonderful … Your comments have really helped me.
For me is letting my own culture to dress me.
I was born and raise in a country and culture I still love and am proud of, but the traditional way of dressing is not one I feel confident on, so when I go home, I stand out and some times even get criticism, but I just decided not to let that bother me because at the end of the day the whole point of style is to be your own unique one.
I see no point on doing exactly whatever everyone else is doing. I did that long enough to blend in and feel acceptable and now I recognize that the most important acceptance comes from myself.
Great video 💕
We should all have our own style. I tend to buy clothes that are not tending. I want to be able to wear my clothes for at least a few years.
We need to dress in what makes us feel good, not what the designers say we should wear for any given season.
I don't care to look like everyone else.
Choose your style and rock it!!
Good video!
Ever since I was a teenager I was like this. I hated seeing ppl and I I'm the same thing.
I finally discovered after moving from the cold North to the South that loose-fitting dresses were the best option for Summer for me. Before that I was concentrating on separates. So even though I have capris and shorts for the Summer it's much more comfortable to have nothing binding around my waist. And dresses can take you through the day looking nice, comfortable and ready for any event that comes up.
I feel the same for me! Give me a comfy, not too tight dress any day in breathable material! If it's colder, leggings, cardigans, etc., can layer on top it. If it's hot it's one simple item needed to feel so breezy...maybe some bike shorts underneath so less worries about cross-legged. Not that women HAVE to wear dresses or anything...just for me I find it gives me a feminine feeling (and I keep it in my loose, comfy, casual, kinda earthy style and my colors, textured, shapes) that feels like me. Once I sort it out even clearer what my ideal dress is I'm thinking of sewing it because I have some sewing skills and that'd feel like a special project.
Same
I have stopped buying t-shirts that have a crew neck. The neck style made me feel like I was being choked even though the style was not actually choking me. I purchase t-shirts with open neck styles such as bow or V-neck. My neck now is free! :)
This is such a simple yet big change. I have felt the same lately, and not only does it feel better, it looks more flattering too (on me anyway). But they’re hard to find, especially a not too low scoop neck. Where do you get yours from?
I agree. Open necks flatter me more, but I also find that Tshirts with interesting necklines and subtle draping details transition from casual to business more easily. Same fabric, so it wears just as easily, but looks a little more elevated.
Same here.
I have dark skin and when I wear orange I get so many compliments. Plus I’ve noticed wearing that colour makes me so happy 😀 . I’m currently going through a green phase and am searching for the perfect green dress. Ah, the fun of learning about personal style.
Same here I always get compliments in orange
I am light I have one orange dress, and every time I wear it people notice it as the first time. cotton rocks
Not only your fashion advice is insightful, your manner of speaking is so soft and comforting, which makes watching you a true delight! I also appreciate how you don’t give adamant do-and-do-not advice, as many others do, but acknowledge how different things work for different people
After retiring from my corporate job, I stopped dyeing my hair to let the grays grow in. This totally changed my color palette. So, in addition to transitioning from “office” clothes to a casual chic non-Granny wardrobe, I am also slowly letting go of clothes that no longer complement my face and hair. It’s challenging but fun! I’m also shopping at thrift stores to save money and help support local charities. Your video on color analysis was very helpful!
What wonderful comments …..it’s kind of where I am.
Me too, but does turning gray necessarily change your color palette? Our skin doesn't change color. So confusing.🤔
@@karenrader2160 hi Karen. My complexion looks more tan now against my silver strands bcs it as if my hair were blond. I used to have medium dark brown (dyed) hair.
@@tphan3643 Same here. Light olive skin, natural brunette going gray. What colors do we wear??
I've struggled with chronic illness my whole life and didn't buy many clothes through my teenage years (despite always loving fashion and style). I'm 22 now and these past couple of years I feel like I've gone back to what I loved about fashion as a kid and it's been a very healing experience, finally listening to my inner child!
Something i feel like I had to learn was that it's okay to buy into some trends if it's in line with my personal style. Take advantage of the colours or silhouettes that are on the marked while they're there!
I agree! I have found that over the years (I'm much older than you are), if there's a style or color I like, I have to buy it when it comes in, because when it isn't in, forget about it. One of my favorite colors is a deep candy-apple red, but it's usually impossible to find. Last year, Land's End catalog had some pieces in that very color, so I certainly scooped them up while I could! The last time I was able to get something in that color was almost 30 years ago, believe it or not. I still have the dress.
OMG can I take a moment to admire your voice ‘cause it’s heavenly. Your voice is exactly how angels sound I think.
Audrey! Over the past year and a half I’ve been watching your videos to help re define my style! I quit my job to be a stay at home parent, my wardrobe was business casual and maternity. I wanted to feel good at home and I finally figured out I love to wear Levi’s, cotton and linen shirts in the summer and wool or cashmere in the winter and my Keds/vans. It’s not that groundbreaking but it was so freeing to realize my current life’s wardrobe can be different than my past experiences
Omg I’m so with you on NO collared shirts, I have always HATED myself in button ups but kept trying to love them. I finally gave up, they’re just NOT ME, and it IS freeing. I also had a reverse revelation about color - I kept trying to wear colors as I do love color in the outside world and stylists are always admonishing people to ‘wear more color!’ but 90% of my clothes are black and navy and I LOVE IT. 😍 I’ll enjoy color all around me but not ON me. Your bottom line I agree with 💯: find what works for YOU!!!
I am so with you! I have tried to wear collared shirts but they just do not suit me. I've even tried wearing them as my third layer over a tee or tank but most of the time it just doesn't work. Stick with what we really love!
I can relate to so much in this video. The tunnel vision, the tailoring, the color, even the buying and dressing for the climate where you live. I think a key piece of this video is appreciation or admiration doesn't have to mean appropriation.
I recently had youtuber Merriam Style do my body type analysis for me. Now I know as a Flamboyant Natural type, I look good in unconstructed long lines, blunt lines and non-fitting clothing. Getting typed changed the way I shop as I don't waste time and money now and It gives me a great sense of relief. And, I realize I look my best wearing my lines!
I had that done too! Soft Classic. It really does help to narrow things down and as soon I starting wearing my lines, it has been easy.
Me too! I'm a Merriam Sharpened Moderate, which would be a kibbe pure Dramatic. I have the smallest wardrobe I've ever had, but everything is in my lines, so I look the best I ever have.
I could listen to you all day. I’ve recently lost weight and found that I like to dress up a little more and with a different silhouette. So interesting from what I’ve considered “right” for me me whole life. I appreciate seeing your evolution and encouraging each of us to evolve in our own ways. Thank you.
Please do a video on all the knowledge you have on tailoring! What can be tailored, what can’t, etc. Love the content.
I stopped buying pieces I don't absoltely love. I found myself buying pieces and thinking ... "that will be a great staple" etc. but not loving it. Now, I must love it. From basic t-shirts to my most expensive coat - it must Spark Joy. XO
I realised that I actually felt less eager to buy pieces of clothing but rather really giving more thoughts to what I wanted to buy. Thanks so much for your videos x
I’m going though a style change at the moment. I had some arthritis problems and was advised if I lost some weight it would help my problems. So… a year later I have gone down 2 sizes. I love the feel of being lighter and I feel fitter. I decided to alter all my clothes and it’s taken some time. …The thing is my style has changed I feel fed up with cross body hand bags - V neck cross over Dresses…and all those neutral colours..Nothing looks good - I knew what suited me before and I stuck to neutral colours…But now I feel a BIG change is coming I want to put some FUN in my wardrobe..add COLOUR…I feel a bit lost…I’m going to take another look at your videos on colour Audrey. Thanks Rachel
Excellent points! I went through the “I must only wear neutrals” phase because I was trying to find the unicorn of every item of clothing mixing with every other item of clothing. Here’s what I learned. I look dead in beige and grey. I’m a colour and pattern addict. Now I’m investing in colour again. Absolutely loving it!
Audrey you are so calm and compose....in this era of poppy colours I can easily relate with you because your dressing sense is so soothing and relaxing
I still have two items, a coat and a blouse I bought in London in 1978. They are still lovely garments and I never tire of them. I find it hard to throw nice things away, I think you’ve guessed that!
I appreciate the realistic and relatable content you share. I also love the way you use the word fantasize. You’ve made me realize that when shopping for clothes, I have fantasized my life into thinking I would wear something but in reality it just isn’t the true life I live. I too live in a hot climate (SW Florida) and would love some hot and humid weather outfit ideas that are classy casual if that is such a thing?💕
Audrey I’ve noticed that most of your blouses are peasant style. They look very nice on you and fit your personality and body type but I wonder if you, like me sometimes tend to get tunnel vision for a certain style like you did with the collar shirts but now with the peasant tops. Love your channel. Donna
My hair fell out from chemo and is now growing back a beautiful salt and pepper. I used to have long reddish brown hair and wore orange and neutrals really well. I get so many compliments about my new hair colour I won't be dyeing it again. So now I have to adjust my wardrobe to suit. I have found dyeing my clothes rather than replacing them is giving my style a new life. I agree about the collared shirts, I hate them too. I bought "basics" but rarely wore them. Give me a lovely printed bohemian top anyday
I love winter clothes but live in Alabama. Talbots had several Skorts for sale. I bought 5. I always coordinate a jacket . One to keep the sun off. Two because restaurants and offices are freezing cold in the summer.
I love skorts and wore them for years. I think they fill a certain summer niche for cool yet modest. I'm 73 and still have pretty good legs from slightly above the knee on down. But the top part of my thighs are now lumpy on the inside so I wear my shorts longer. I don't seem to see skorts that have any length to them. They usually seem teen-age girl short. Does anybody know of a source of skorts that might be slightly longer.
@@NYEmma check Talbots. They cater to us mature women
Thanks Donna. I went to the Talbots web site and immediately found two skorts that I dropped in my cart. Then I found their adorable espadrilles and dropped two pairs of them in my cart despite the fact that they don't come in narrow which is what I wear. I will wait, at least, until tomorrow before I press "order." I'm hoping that my blood will have cooled by then. :D
I strongly recommend trying out retail detox, at least for one season to give yourself a chance to fall in love with what you already have ❤
I had a big revelation recently that I don’t want to wear black anymore, which has been a staple in my wardrobe since forever. But since learning about Kibbe IDs and essences I’ve realised that even though my winter colouring can technically pull it off, black just doesn’t feel like me anymore, it makes me feel drab and heavy. I’m slowly switching out some pieces to navy, which I’m loving! And I’ve discovered I’m really drawn to lighter bright pastel colours, which I didn’t think I could wear with my high contrast colouring, but when I put them on they just feel so me! 🥰
Every capsule wardrobe or minimalist wardrobe I have seen has the requisite denim jacket, after years of buying them I realized I hate them, they fit my big bust and short torso awfully, they look awesome on others but I’ve instead focused on soft curve hugging knits with a little drape😊❣️
I hate them too and I hate the idea of “must-haves” or itens that make you younger etc. lovely video, right?
Maybe a safari jacket would work better for you.
I constantly decluttered my closet (and house). It is always interesting to me that I keep finding things to get rid of. My closet has so much less now & easier to see everything. I packed away duplicates & really out of season clothes.
I enjoyed this video, thank you. For me living in a hot climate with brutal summers its always about fabrics. Soft ,light weight, breathable cottons or linens .
Totally agree! I've spent a lot of time in the tropics. Only linen and cotton really work there. Any kind of synthetic blend, even if high quality, gets just unbearable by noon. I can't even tolerate much silk. Linen rules - and is at its best in hot and very humid climates that basically steam the wrinkles out on an on-going basis throughout the day.
I feel the stuff about summer. I definitely love my style during winter time. I live in Houston and summers are absolutely miserable for me. I’m still struggling with summer style that I feel it’s true to me because of the heat. But lately I’ve been really into figuring it out. I hate wearing jeans and denim shorts I have a ton of dresses but even that I feel gets played out for me. I’m working on it!
It sounds like you have a ton of dresses but may not be crazy about them all or have had some a long time. Get some new cool comfy flattering summer dresses in a natural breathable fabric you love and you won't get tired of. Try white maybe red? Stay away from large loud prints. To distracting.
Thank you for the money saving tips all the time. 🥰 I’m sure Mother Earth will be thankful too if we stop buying so much new clothes. ❤️ 🌎
I totally identified with many points in this video, especially the need to limit and understand What an and can’t be easily tailored!
You might hear this all the time, but your voice is so soothing & comforting! I definitely agree with the items you're mentioning. I'm currently at the point where I have to really declutter/ pair down my closet, but I'm still holding onto everything... It's so much easier to go and declutter someone else's clothes lol. I do it for my sister all the time and growing up she'd have me select outfits for her. I'm still in the covid rut where I'm going out but still not that often as pre-covid.
Thanks so much for this great video. I liked what you said about a fantasy and know that is true in my case. I have purchased collared shirts but I never reach for them. I need to reflect on building a summer wardrobe that is utilized.
I've discovered capsule wardrobe few years back and liked the general idea, but examples I found online were a total miss for me: they were filled with denim, pants and colors that don't suit me. Thanks to your videos and blog posts I've started to work on my personal style and colour palette. One thing that surprised me in the proces was that grey should not be my base colour! I'm a cool winter type, and since I don't like black, I've built my wardrobe around white, navy and grey. But having grey as base colour ment that app. once a week I wore grey head to toe. I felt drab and sad. Since then I figured out that I love wearing all cream, green, petrol or cobalt outfits. Now I fell so much better.
I stopped buying pointy collared shirts, blazers, boxy jackets, and high heels when I realized I no longer like the way I look or feel in any of those things. Recently I came to realize how much I hate wearing deep v-neck t-shirts because the lines feel severe and not harmonious. Some of my favourite clothes of the past were among my now banned items, but I think it's normal that our taste and style changes over time. The nice thing about letting go of certain prescribed items is that it opens up more creativity and room for expression, as there are so many other choices out there. Soft and unstructured looks are much more my style now, and even dresses which I used to wear very rarely. Audrey I love your puffy sleeved gathered blouses. That is a look that expresses your personality much better than a generic tailored shirt!
I'm loving that blouse on you. I think we are the other way around. I love a crisp, vibrant orange but not really a huge fan of green!! I have also had a similar epiphany about collared shirts and jackets. Not for me but I love a wide leg pant or a flared skirt!! Its so exciting to discover what works for you!!!
I changed location/climates 6 months ago and it's been . . . a challenge 😜. I just didn't have items that truly kept me warm. I am skin-sensitive to most wools so the learning curve has been steep. Next winter I'll have a better feel for the items that will truly benefit both my personal "thermometer" AND my style. Thank you for all the help you provide here!
Audrey you have influenced my cold month wardrobe so much and I too have cultivated a beautiful sweater wardrobe based on your recommendations. However here in Kentucky, we experience all four seasons including extreme heat and high humidity. Maybe not for as long as you do in Charleston but enough time that I dread it instead of embracing it. Could you do a specific video on how to dress, style for a really hot and humid day and what to do with your hair in order to not look like you are not just having a bad day?
Same here!
When my hair was long, I would put it in a simple French twist when it was hot and humid out. It took two minutes and looked great. If I wore my hair down, it felt like I was wearing a blanket!
Hair up and flowy, (preferably linen but any breathable fabric works) loose, light clothes. Light as in weight and colour.
Agree with u about colors. In order to achieve a base closet, I had to go for more neutrals and classics.
No comment regarding style, but just wanted to hop on here and say I love watching your videos, they are always so helpful and so well thought out, thank you for brightening up even the brightest day 😊
I found the same thing with repeating my linen button downs. I’ll never not wear them! Ever. But, I realized the same thing as you looking at my European pictures. I only now am going to add, if only a few, other styles. Subtle but different. Still adore neutrals. Saves money and do go with other pieces. But, adding a few fun things as you are.
Thank you!! I love your videos. I had my colors done and I am low contrast blonde. I’m a spring. Orange look great on me. Black is too saturated for a low contrast fair blonde. I’m so glad I had my colours done. It’s helped me with shopping so much!
I too have learned to purchase clothes for the summer..I donated over half my closet and am excited to make it more practical and realistic. I LOVE that white dress with the beige blazer. Thx!
I use to be very brand loyal and found I looked like an ad for their brand . Now I explore brands according to my style and purchase from whomever has what suits me best
Yes! I live in a tropical country and have had so many winter clothes until this year. I packed everything that I didn’t wear in the last years and sent to a second hand store.
Now, my summer wardrobe is finally realistic as well as my winter one.
Thank you for your insight! I've recently hit a new decade in terms of age and intuitively I feel like my style has changed. I no longer love some of my current go to pieces. You validated my feelings...thank you!
I have found that a limited budget (whether real or self-imposed) magnifies focus on so much: need, versatility, quality and style alignment. Your channel introduced me to Alyssa Beltempo and between you guys and one of my daughters who is ultra planet conscious, my own focus and expenditure has altered hugely. It now better reflects the life I live, my priorities in this sphere and a more thoughtful sustainable, comfortable and stylish me. Thank you.
PS I live in Ireland and also have an obsession with sweaters- but now generally only buy secondhand cashmere!!
Generally, on a No Buy program at present. Trying to use creativity over consumption, & shop my closet. More of a minimalist when it comes to detailing & style. The following things are definitely off my 🛍 shopping agenda:
Collared shirts, sweaters or knits of any kind, patterned or colored tops outside standard palette (esp. in floral, busy, striped, checkered, gingham, plaid, or abstract), fussy/frilly/formal blouses or dresses, medium or heavy weight blazers or jackets, slouchy cardigans, denim jackets or jeans in any color, tapered trousers of any kind, flared pants, balloon or voluminous bottoms, low or medium rise bottoms. No more stillettos or sandals of any kind.
🤨 Even though everyone discourages it for an hourglass ⏳️ figure, I do prefer high crew necks, boat necks, turtlenecks, & solid/ruffle halter necks tops👍. V-necks, deep round necks, square, or even sweetheat necks tend to show off far too much cleavage for comfort😳. Tailored tops with waist definition are far more flattering for shape, esp. in soft, lightly drapey, body-con fabric.
👀On the look out for simple tank dresses & also dresses with full button fronts that can perform double duty as a topper layer. Interested in acquiring the lightest weight & longest length classic trench style coats too. Open to light summer weight linen, shorter structured blazers. Highly amenable to skorts too. Also block heel cap toe shoes, brogue or espadrille wedges, platform sneakers or oxfords, slim slip-on sneakers, ankle & below ankle booties, loafers, ballerina flats〰️esp. in nude are all on my radar.
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Like you, I am a winter clothing junkie, while living in the desert. I have tons of boots, sweaters, jeans and scarves. Very little summer clothing, as it's just so hot, I don't want to think about it. I have allowed myself to buy more shorts this season, and it is helping. Thanks for a great video!
If you love sweaters but live in a hot climate I recommend carrigans. You can take some of those short sleeve shirts and transition them into the winter and fall.
I too have been trying to select pieces that fit the climate I live in. I also live in Charleston, SC but I grew up in Pennsylvania. I can totally can empathize with your love of sweaters! I'm taking your advice and I'm trying to lean into the Charleston climate, which translates to a seriously short winter and loooooong summers.
Good afternoon Audrey! Tunnel vision…great analogy of what happens…like with collared shirts! I have gone down that road and realized I need to get out of that box and search for other alternatives especially for our hot southern summers (I’m in NC and it’s hot 🥵 today!). And, I agree, what trends or colors can work for one person isn’t what will work for another! 💕
I love the way you talk so much.
It's so elegant and calm
You look amazing in white and especially wearing these cute blouses!
Hi Audrey. Loved this post. Post Covid years I now mostly work from home. I no longer have the need for office work wear. And when I go into the office my look is more neat casual more like a day out on the week end. So I stopped buying those pencil skirts and structured dresses coats and shirts. And as I am now also planning to semi retire in the next couple of years I suppose have to get rid of most of mg office wardrobe.
the fantasy vs reality point is enlightening to me. That's where I lack....I need to start buying more fall/winter clothes and stop with the summery stuff. Thanks Audrey!
NEEEED that white dress wow!
It's really interesting to see your style evolve over time.. especially because I distinctly remember your "tailoring" and "orange" video.. both really spoke to me. It kinda gives me the perspective that my style will evolve over time.
I recommend summer knits in linen and cotton, they are nice to wear in early summer or early fall. We also have some extreme seasons in Korea
Korean linen garments are top quality. I bought a linen set from a Korean shop owner who sold imported Korean clothing in Saipan. Well worth it.
🤣🤣🤣What you said about sweaters...Defines me too.And I must say I am also working on that obsession.I have always let being warm control my outfit choices.
What you said about fantasy and representation of the life you are leading, aplies to so many things! It spoke to me so deeply now that I have decided to pursue a second career and there are many things I like and enjoy and even love but I have to be realistic about where my life is right now and where I see myself in the future. Thank you so much and l truly enjoy your content. Love from El Salvador 💕
I have a lot of sweaters, jackets, and coats which is crazy because I live in Texas and there aren't enough cold days to wear them all.
You look great in puff sleeves. 💕 And your color analyst was exceptionally talented. Like you, I’ve stopped buying things that need a lot of tailoring.😆
I’ve come to some of the same realizations. I have dozens of collared shirts but never feel like myself in them. My favorite tops are v-neck sweaters and collarless tops. I also have 11 silk blouses BUT RARELY WEAR THEM. Fall and Winter in Michigan makes them too chilly to wear. Then, in the summer, I don’t wear them because I worry about getting sweaty and them needing special laundry care. I’ve realized I like clothing that I don’t need to be precious with. V-necks tops and blazers are my go-to.
Thanks, Audrey. You always give great advise!! You have a very warm personality.
I don’t consider myself a regular viewer but always find myself finding my way back to your channel. You’re videos add so much value to wardrobe ❤️
I have an olive undertone too, and I also don’t love orange. But greens are my go to.
Thank you so much for your videos. I learn so much from you, even though I am much older than you I see you as my fashion mentor.
I always love hearing your personal style insights, Audrey! Thanks for sharing. ♥️ This year, I feel like I finally nailed down what I love about style and what feels true to me. I’d followed capsule wardrobe guidelines for so long and had a closet full of black, gray and navy that I honestly didn’t love. I did a color analysis this spring and have since purchased items in my recommended palette: cream, olive, rosewood, camel, burnt orange, teal…and feel so much more like myself. I also honed in on my dream style: feminine, polished and natural. It’s taken years, but was absolutely worth all the effort and reflection. Thanks for inspiring me!
that is so amazing! happy for you.
Omg, you just helped me pick MY perfect palette! I think you must be an autumn like me! I always admired blush pink but it doesn't work for my skin tone and washes me out. Rosewood is PERFECT!! I already had burnt orange and olive in my wardrobe but now that you've helped me it out, I am EXCITED! Thank you!
@@dkbuschur , Exactly she is an Autumn!!! They are also my color palette. Enjoy your day. Greetings from Arizona!!!
@@dkbuschur I’m so glad!! ♥️
Lots of great advice and ideas here! I’ve come full circle with collared shirts, lol. I didn’t buy them for years because all I could find were these styles where they are tapered at the waist - this looks absolutley awful on me. I also have learned that a collared shirt only looks good on me if it is a structured fabric (cotton) and style, and slightly oversized. So no more floppy silks or polyester prints, which I used to wear under a blazer for work and like many others, found that on photos they did nothing for me. I have also struggled with summer wardrobe and have just learned to branch out beyond crew neck tees and look for me creative tops.
Hi Audrey, I absolutely adore the white dress you are wearing in this video, it looks gorgeous on you. What brand is it please?
Thanks for all your tips and tricks… I’m always learning ☺️
Audrey, great video! It is a challenge to be true to one’s own self. Last week my husband took me out for our 45th anniversary dinner and i was dismayed to realize my dress selection was all professional…I wanted a flouncy and fun summer dress…so I went out and bought one & it helped me realize I am too heavy with professional clothes…need some soft and feminine things. Thanks for being real!!
I totally relate to having tons of sweaters but very little clothing for summer! I have always hated dressing for hot weather but I recently realized that a large part of my dislike of hot weather stemmed from finding shorts uncomfortable. I have always struggled to find shorts that fit me. All of my denim shorts gap in the waist and squeeze my hips and thighs so tightly that it’s uncomfortable to exist in them. The denim shorts I can find NEVER have enough room in the hips and rear so the pockets sit weird on me and give off an overall unflattering look in addition to being uncomfortable. I always thought I just had to accept the discomfort because I wanted to wear denim shorts (since that’s what all of my peers wear) and I couldn’t find anything else. However, I graduated college recently and I’ve finally decided that I am not going to put up with uncomfortable shorts anymore, even if it means I don’t get to wear denim shorts. I recently found a style of super high waisted khaki shorts from Gap that are incredible! They reach my natural waist (which is super high up on my torso) and then flare out to leave room for my hip region. They are so comfortable and feel like a total game changer! I am excited for this new stage in my life where I prioritize my own comfort instead of wearing what I feel I’m “supposed” to be wearing.
Glad you found a solution to the shorts dilemma. I do have a suggestion: if you can afford it , buy at least one or two more while they are available. Gap doesn’t hold onto styles for very long. When something works for your body it’s just inevitable that you won’t be able to find it again!
@@denisedorsey2889 Thank you for the tip about Gap not keeping styles around for long! Fortunately as soon as I realized they fit well I ordered 2 more pairs in that style hehe!
@@tessam11 Good for you!
I can relate so much with sweaters… love them, got tones of them but nothing to wear for summer.
I so agree with breaking style habits. I recently relocated from the US NE coast to the US SE mountains. At the same time, I am changing lifestyles from office work to remote work, and soon to retire. I find myself transitioning out a lot of pieces that are too season-specific, as I would rather layer for warmth than have a large collection of heavyweight sweaters that are only good for a few weeks of the year. Also, while collared shirts and other tailored pieces still work, the cut and the way they are styled is different. The rural south is more relaxed than the metro northeast, but the fabrics and styling need to be more practical and durable. There aren't as many sidewalks and office buildings here, so the way I dress has to be ready for a walk through a yard or along a dirt or gravel garden path at some point in my day.
May be you can do a video on that topic - what is worth tailoring - easy fixes and difficult alterations
I'm now adjusting to a third region & country and can absolutely relate to how much time it takes to drop our old habits and see what you truly need in the new environment. I also try to keep away from trends at all times, it's unsustainable to try to hunt the ever changing fashion and I feel it's a trap :)
One trend I can't run away from is high rise bottoms. Absolutely despise them but nobody sells middle rise anymore and I had to adjust my style!
Try Ann Taylor and banana republic and sometimes old navy and gap for pants. They often have midrise options if you read the details for fit on each garment. I hate hi rise as well as I am petite and a little short waisted and those fit me great. Keep looking. They exist. Good luck.
@@pappyone6062 thanks! I adjusted by using more leggings, and soft waste bottoms that can be just pulled lower. It's not that I can't find them, I just hate that I have to search and hunt 😁
@@annavetrova8200 yeah I get that. I have shopped there for many many years because I don’t like hunting either. Once I found what works in terms of fit I just stick with it. Haha
I'm a big cardigan fan. Somehow they go missing, so I buy about half a dozen each year. Pull on pencil skirts are now my favorite to wear but I still love wool.
I found that I had to stop buying t-shirts as I had enough for four to five people. Doesn't include band shirts.
I've stopped buying synthetic fiber with rayon being an exception. Polyester and such is another type of plastic.
I've gotten rid of a few things, though I really lived them. My body has changed over time and many of my favorite pieces no longer flatter me and alterations aren't possible.
I'm wearing a lot of slacks these days and those are a bit of a new thing for me. Before hand it was cords or velvet in a jeans style.
I have a few colors but most of my wardrobe is black. I do dye my clothes so that they are the same shade of black. I sew or buy wing tip tuxedo type shirts and then wear them with a regular tie for the retro look. I'm a middle aged geeky goth.
Most of my clothes, I been wearing for almost a decade and I love them. Most of my highest quality pieces I made as it allowed me to have complete control. Best fabric, best construction and fitted to my body.
Hi Audrey! It’s so funny you mentioned the collared shirt….I’ve never been a fan of that style. I know its a classic however it never felt like it was my style. i I much prefer an interesting silhouettes in either warm neutrals or bright warm colors colors over a white button up blouse. I’ve recently had my color palette determined and it really is SO enlightening!! My palette is warm and bright since I’m a Spring! Although pure white and black are always trending they’re just not best shades for me!👍. Having color analysis is so helpful and saves you from making mistakes. I really enjoy your videos! All the best!
Hello Andrey , I am Thai and I living in Thailand , I loved your personal summer style ,I have followed you already for 4years ago.
I love listening to your calm and soothing voice, and your tone is lovely
I’ve learned,like you said, that my closest was a fantasy land which I’m in the process of rectifying. So glad I found your channel. 💜💜💜
Hi Audrey,
Hi the cream lace dress looked beautiful on you 💐
Thank you for this insight. I love how you approach your closet with awareness. I agree on orange color. I intuitively avoid it.
A couple of years ago I stopped wearing jeans and clothing with straight lines, like mod style 60s dresses. I realized that they do not suit my tall, size 8 hour glass frame and make me look frumpy and wide. I opt for wrap dresses and long skirt sets now and I always feel put together. My sister is very rail thin and looks rather empty in a wrap dress or a line but looks amazing in jeans and also in straight line slip dresses. Honor your lines and you will always look beautiful ❤️
you have been i everysteps of my fashion journey. i also find my self looking at colors at the moment. I'm in that "boring slump". anything that sparks life, vibrant or fun is what I need now 😂
I live in the same city as you. I grew up here but I left for over a decade for work and returned in 2019 when I became pregnant. For the past 3 years I have had to relearn my style and I also had to shift the lifestyle I am buying for. I have also learned that I hate the color black on me. Navy is a better base neutral for me.
That white dress!!!! Cool and beautiful!!!
I have avoided neutrals in tops but never thot about the versatility factor! I used to use neutrals to “hide.” To me they don’t draw attention. But, I no longer want to hide and love color. However, neutrals mix and match well. I hadn’t considered that. This is my first video of yours and I love your style and delivery!
Oh, my, Audrey - I had an "aha" moment when you spoke of collared shirts and sweaters, because I have many of each. Too many. For the last few months, I've wanted to donate the collared shirts I no longer wear, because I'm also tired of ironing. I also have many sweaters - I love the ones I have, so I'll use your advice and make my wardrobe work for the life I have now. After all, how many charcoal cashmere sweaters does one person need?! ;) Keep up the great work!
I'm the same as you with sweaters, I just love them too much. Summer barely just started here and I'm already over it. I hate the heat and summer clothes, I barely own any, which is kind of a problem. I always wear the same black tank tops with jeans but I'm getting a bit tired of it. This year, I'm going to a beach vacation for the first time in 25 years and I've got almost nothing to wear 😥I've started to look around the shops a bit but it's all bold colours and prints 🙄
Ugh, the sweater buying urge when you live in a warm climate is REAL. I grew up in New England, and live in perpetual denial that Virginia just doesn't get that cold. I think you mentioned this a while ago, and I had to be really honest with myself that I had enough sweaters, but was wearing the same 7 things all summer because I hadn't invested in that part of my wardrobe.
Honestly, I turn to sweaters any time the temperature is below 70. I would be wearing sweaters in Virginia more than half the year 24/7. More than that in the evening even in May and September. If I lived in the city, that might not be the case, since city temperatures can be 30° higher than in the country. I experienced this myself when I visted New Orleans. The temperature was 90° officially, but 120° in the French Quarter- at night!
I have the same problem, in reverse. I live in an area that it’s warm enough for a summer dress maybe five days each year. I can hardly resist all the pretty summer dresses, but they do nothing but languish in my closet and leave me with guilt. I have lived here 10 years and am finally catching on that I am expecting my climate to act like the one I moved from and it’s somehow shocking and disappointing when it doesn’t. This year, I have accepted that this is my climate and I need light colored sweaters most of the summer and to stay away from the dresses. It’s been freeing.
It depends on where in the state you are but it certainly doesn’t get as cold I live in the mountains and it’s sweater weather from October to May and many evenings in the summer get cold enough to necessitate a sweater. When I lived outside of DC it was so humid that I had basically summer and winter clothing and almost no fall/spring stuff because as soon as winter was over it was unbearably hot and sticky
Hello,
I just love your channel, the sound of your voice & charm. One major thing I have learned in the last year or so is to know your measurements. I am a petite 5'1 curvy lady. When you see a garment on a model, chances are they are 5'7 & above. That is 7" or more taller than I am. The garment is not going to look the same on both myself & the model.
Now, when I look for a specific item to add to my collection; I try to find that item on a petite curvy frame similar to mine. This allows me to save money & time trying to have everything altered. I appreciate you & all of your advice. You are such a classy lady. Thank you 😊. Cheers 😉 🌷