My password isn’t working bI keep trying this is becoming overwhelming & I don’t have a fb I have to make a fb to join the love groups I’m trying to stay off of social media not go back 😩
My godmother gave me this advice long ago. I took the advice. It got me ten years in a marriage without passion and genuine love on my part. You can’t fake love chemistry or attraction. I humbly suggest marriages need all three.
I tried this as well based on advice from an older woman. It was a disaster. Because when life kicked in, I could not pout into him the way he needed me to.
This makes so much sense. Often times we decide to go for the guy we wouldn't "typically" date because we've been hurt over and over again by the guys that ARE our type. However, the guy who isn't our type isn't getting what he needs and DESERVES from us on a consistent basis, so he becomes unfulfilled, and begins to search elsewhere for fulfillment. In the end, settling, is NEVER worth it!
My mother told me this… To choose a man who loves me more than I love him. The best advice ever because it’s true. My parents were married until my father died in old age and he treated my mother like a queen. And I am with a man now who treats me like a queen.
@@amerokeewiya1320 Like Dr. Phil Valentine teaches I stay in my role as a woman and allow my man to be the man. Some call it old fashioned but Dr. Phil Valentine calls it cosmic law and I follow that law.
Women or men have to first "Love" themselves before they can love anyone else. It gets back to what you have said before Stephen, they need to know and heal themselves.💜🦉
Trueeee. ! A person CAN NOT give out something they DONT HAVE INSIDE OF THEM (Love, Peace, Healed Emotionally and Mentally, Stability etc ). It has TO START with EACH INDIVIDUAL, just like Salvation is INDIVIDUAL
Mannnnnn, this topic is so on time that it is painful😣😒. Yall, listen closely to this message, listen to it again, write it down, memorize it, add it to your daily affirmations, and save yourselves a love lesson you DON'T want to learn any other way.💯👌
To all the dreamers out there, don't ever let the world's negativity disenchant you or your spirit. If you surround yourself with love and right people, ANYTHING is possible...
ALWAYS weigh your options. Who are u looking for? What are u looking for? Are u willing to give what they're asking for. Never settle. Know the difference between true love and infactuation. I know what I want and time waits for no one. THISSSS is my year for the remainder of my BLESSINGS FROM GOD. If the one u want isn't available ask God for GREATER. He DEFINITELY HAS IT.
One thing is for sure, you will reap what you sow. Treat people the same way you would like to be treated. To toy with someone's heart like that is an incredibly cruel thing to do. Ladies, if you do not love him wholeheartedly do not string him along just because you think he loves you more.
Yes, so true. A man who loves you more than you love him creates imbalance in the relationship. Everything will feel one-sided and someone's cup will feel empty. There is no way you can truly pour into a man that you don't love deeply & care for. Love is always reciprocal & mutual but a one-sided relationship doesn't meet the true meaning of genuine love. You cannot force a connection or the right fit. The magic happens when you realize love is when both cups feel full & overflowing, long before the magic happening elsewhere. Excellent video. Blessings & peace as always to you.
Mutual love, respect, kindness, trust, forgiveness and vulnerability is the key to a successful relationship. Add to it a commitment to one another and to God is the icing on the cake.
Literally EVERYTHING you said about this subject is ON POINT!!!! I have done this and everything you said happened. He loved me and was infatuated with me, he was nice enough and treated me great, he was not my type at all, but I grew to love him because I was told to pick a man that loves you more than you love him. I actually thought he should be soo happy to have a woman like me. So I think that mentality translated non verbally and he picked up on that. Not to mention now he's got women trying to figure out what it was about him that got me to deal with him. That new attention pumped up his head and he cheated! I did this multiple times with men because I was raised up hearing women say that you should always pick a man that loves you more. I was cheated on when I was younger and it really hurt me to the core. That's when I thought maybe I should listen to my elders and their advise to date a man that loves you more. I'd never be attracted to them but they were good looking enough... I never put 2 + 2 together the way you did in this video. I just always thought I built them up and then they received attention from women and so they cheated. Ok, ok...I get it now!!!!! Lol! Took me long enough :)
I made this mistake with my ex husband when I was in my early 20’s He was the guy that I thought was the nice guy and treated me like a queen until he didn’t. I had to realize I was told this my entire life by my elders, but it is the absolute worse thing to do! This is priceless information… I ended up in a terrible marriage for 10 years and it took me so long to remove myself from that toxic relationship. Thanks again for this Stephan.
Heal sis! I've been in a relationship over 10 yrs. Married 4 yrs and now divorce. There was red flags that I thought could be fixed but he wouldn't change and lied too much to the point I divorced on yr 4. I didn't want to waste anymore time then I already did.
This EXACTLY happened to me. After 13 years of marriage he cheated and we are divorced. I am now reading your book Love after heartbreak and healing from my own wrong decision. I have asked the Lord For forgiveness for my wrong in all of this. Thank you for your books.
Just because a person knows God does not necessary mean he or she will do the word of the true and living God. Many are not at the level of total obedience to Gods will and words for their life upon earth. We are spirits wrapped in flesh. Whose spirit the flesh expresses will make the difference. Those who have the Spirit of the truth and light of the world, will display their spirit of enlightenment, settings self discipline actions through boundaries.
@@veronicagivens2967 for everyone and not for a rarely cases knowing God , knowing what is allowed and what is forbidden , having the conviction what you have is enough for you look at who have nothing not the ones who have everything it's just a short life and no one will remain only the one and the only one who created us
This is very spot on!!! Happened to my parents. My dad stopped caring after marriage. True personality came out with additional new demands and needs!!!!! My mom never grow to love him... even after 34 years. Many divorce attempts from my mom, all failed due to resistance from my little brother. Now they are too old to live by themselves so they stick together. Then I've been seeing my female friends doing the same thing. Sad that not many people understand the consequences of settling without love!
@@MeetStephanSpeaks Thank you very much for all you have done to help people! I bought 4 of your books and finished 2, all helpful information. But to be honest, I prefer listening to your videos, as my favorite part is your laugh at those "I know you ladies are guilty of this" statements/sentences!
@@johnnychandler325 Sadly No! Resentment built up over the years has caused my mom depression. She would vent to us or talk bad about dad in front of us, eventually causing my little brother to be disrespectful towards dad. I spent years tolerating those 2 negative energies. Not a happy family to be proud of!
I think when they say a man who loves you more than you love him it’s about commitment. All it means it’s a man doing for you through actions and his time. Usually the woman already loves the man but the guy is going above and beyond to do what a man should. I think this is wayyy better than the one way love woman gives to men that absolutely do not reciprocate. However when a woman absolutely does not love a man she will usually stay away from him not go as far as Marry him.
I'm sorry, but it does work. Howevever getting and keeping a partner is 2 different things. Most men are physical and most women are emotional so a man that isn't so attractive will go the extra mile for a pretty woman and if a man stimulate our emotional & mental needs we will fall for him. You as the woman has to hold him and his attention though because he is human as well as he has to keep yours.
I agree, women has to feel love and worthy for the right person, meanwhile lots of men will not go extra mile if they don’t love a woman and instead they will use them as friends with benefit..thats what happening now everywhere
I would beg to differ here because the two can hold each other's attention but in the long run it wouldn't be enough to hold the relationship together especially if they weren't in love and had a connection and were pouring into one another. ultimately that relationship would fail, because no one was receiving what they truly needed rather thanJust someone who wanted to hold they attention (place holder)until someone else came along to gain it ,or either was the right one for them.
The last I studied "Love" is a reciprocated commodity, experienced at its highest peak when each involved understands one's value. If there is a shortcoming in understanding the value of that individual it will usually be an imbalance in the expression of love...at least this is my perspective after much reflection of a failed marriage and divorcee,with hopes I will someday get the chance to express "love" again in covenant, due to me understanding my value as well as his. Again profound wisdom...I always enjoy your discussions Stephan... blessings 🙏🏾💪🏾❤️
Unfortunately, this happens A LOT in hypergamy. Women (in my age group) are literally told to settle for short, fat, ugly, or old just to gain financial security. “Make him fall in love with you, girl!!! Get the life you always dreamed of and be set for life!” Trust me, I’d rather buy a ventriloquist dummy and a dog before I settle for a man just because he loves me more and/or is financially secure.
I'm just not into big woman and I won't pretend I do because I will resent myself even further going into something I really don't want to and hurt her in the process of investing into her deeply, then all of sudden, pulling out
Life is too short to SETTLE FOR LESS and to be held responsible for someone's feelings of inadequacy and worthlessness Without COMMITMENT there's nothing and there can't be a relationship without RECIPROCITY. We're human beings and we are worthy of love, honour and respect. We're not tools to be used.
So true. TRUE romantic love is a two way experience 💞, both want to give & love the other person with the same desire & drive as the other person does for them. If ever you have to overly pursue someone in an attempt to wear them down into ‘loving you’ or vice versa, then it is so not worth it 🙏
Thank God I woke the Hell up and won’t be making any more bad choices in Men . I love myself too Much for this mess . I’m gonna remain Happy and single 😃 until GOD sends me Big Daddy ❤️❤️. Thank you Sir for being a blessing 🙏 and delivering the message .
I agree. Women don't settle. I know its fustrating at times to be single. At times we hope to love or expecting the person to change there ways. Then ended up with them for too long than you should. Then to break up or divorce like I did. The second time around I don't care for men to waste my time anymore early on. Life too short for this.
I am always impressed by your segments. 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿There are so many people who value the wrong things & trying to make a love connection, but instead end up making a mess! Halt! Go, heal your heart, then emerge w/a better relationship fitness.
Agree I want it equal! Not me loving him more or him loving me more, either way whoever is loving more will ultimately be the one to get hurt tremendously!
Unfortunately, I have to confirm... After divorcing my husband of 25 yrs... Relationship started the way you described and ended with abusive situation from my ex... So, really, girls, don't ever do this mistake! Not worthy... Not repairable (though we have 2 great kids)
This is sooooo true and relatable! I’ve been through exactly the things that were mentioned in this video. I learnt not to settle or date down again. Onwards and upwards!
Interesting video!!! I do agree that the love between partners shouldn’t be measured, if she is pouring into him and he is pouring into her there would be no need to measure their love because they would both feel loved and fulfilled. Measuring happens/comes about when someone is lacking something. I could be wrong but that my take… Thanks as always for your insight!
Its so relatable. I refuse to settle for less or think time is running out. I'm not settling for just anyone . I'm gonna wait until a man can reciprocate the same energy I give. I'm a 10 and im not boasting. Beautiful shape, pretty , great personality,intelligent. Most times when I'm in a relationship the guy is insecure of me even though I reassure constantly and im not promiscuous but im an attractive black queen with a wonderful body. Ill wait on God. Thank you for your word. They always return way after how regretful they are and how I was a great woman blah blah blah
That's what him loving you more is about. You already love him and he acts it out more. If "equal love" means that the woman is still doing the majority of the work, then him living more should balance the dynamic.
Wow! You are spot on! I’ve gone through EXACTLY what you spoke about…. Wish I heard this years ago before I married a man I wasn’t in love with 🥴… oh well though, I learned the hard way and it taught me so many valuable lessons! NEVER AGAIN THOUGH!! 🙅🏻♀️
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NObody can love YOU more than YOU love YOURSELF. Waiting for another to love you...you will searching for ever.. Stage your expectations after you realize your own worth.
I was in the same situationship... My friends and family told me I could grow to love him stupid me I stayed to try to make it work... Giving a man wife treatments without the commitment. I was still not happy felt as if I deserved more... Now I walked away and I'm heart brokened...
This is absolutely true! I did it I actually got married and we are in the process of divorce! After 6 years I had to walk away! I couldn’t keep watering dead flowers 💐! Love 💙 this channel bless up Stephan.
Your words hit home in alot of ways. For instance, I am going through what I call working on myself or choosing to live healthy. I've learned to pray for what I want knowing God will deliver in all areas of my life. However, God is lining people up in my life and showing me what healthy vs. unhealthy looks like. I am grateful and thank you for your message. 👍🏾
I thought I could "casually" date. Met a guy he was lovebombing me from the getgo like wanting to meet his family just after a month in. He was good looking and also creative. I wasn't really in to him but I enjoyed the attention and walks. As time went by, I wanted his attention and craved his love. He distant himself things got messy and we broke up. I ended with a Heartbreak for someone I wasn't even feeling that much.. even when we didn't have a real emotional connection. Now I'm working on me I knew this was not gonna last, I just wanted to see where it could go to Never gonna date someone again, whom I know won't work out when we differ to much on the basics (religion, kids, moving, marriage) Ladies don't do it! In the end you just get burned, at least I got
I Sooo Agree with this That's NOT fair for him and I Wouldn't even advise a woman to entertain a man who she isn't initially interested in by physical appearance. . . By character, personality, if he hasn't got those, the looks shouldn't matter. Only entertain men who are KIND, Charismatic, Genuinely Curious About You, That YOU find Attractive. If you don't find him attractive, remain polite yet set firm boundaries and stick to that and make that clear. Don't break his heart, to protect yours The first thought in my mind is that how would you feel if that were you? No one deserves to feel like they're not TRULY wanted from the man or woman who they want. By physical appearance, go for who you're attracted to who also attracted to you
Yep was in the similar situation. Now in process of divorce. No kids thank goodness. But just a bunch of co dependant behaviors on his side towards me I began to not like as well as lying to me. I discovered I was too comfortable with him all the yrs and not getting half of what I expected and ended up disappointed 😔. I just want to find a new love with no issues ,drama, and can return the same that I give.
Bravo, Stephan. This video should kill this myth once and for all!! You give us all the reasons NOT to ever believe this myth will protect us from ending up in a painful relationship. We can all find love with the right person once we recognize our own fears and improve ourselves emotionally and spiritually.
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Hello and God bless, I just want to say that I so enjoy the advice Stephan gives, even though I am not in any type of a relationship, still the things he addresses are informative and in powering - thank you sir for such God given wisdom ...
It’s needs to also be considered that Narcassist’s will have you believe they love you more than you love them through the Love Bombing stage. This happened to me and 20 years later he was cheating and nothing like the man I thought I knew. I did however ignore all the initial red flags. I have learnt my lesson.
I have been talking to this dude and he would constantly do the love bombing and saying I have thinking about you all the time. So recently I told him chill with the extreme loving words: oh saying good morning beautiful them kind of the things. I told him time after time... no... men nowadays dont truly mean those words. But now he start to reduce texting and I know soon than later he will eventually stop messaging. Like they always do. What do you think about that?
@@lashandamatte I’ve have my radar alert to “love bombing” now. I’m looking for someone who texts reasonably and doesn’t go into overdrive in the first few weeks. I would also only continue with a man who respects my boundaries. If you have asked something of him and he is ignoring your request, that in itself is a red flag. Good luck 😊
You confirmed what I knew to be true, but I don't know what to do about it. I was madly in love with him. But after a few years it changed. We knew each other about a year as just friends. But have been in a relationship for almost 6. I still love him, but it's not like it was. He has even said he loves me more. He is one of the best people I have ever known. Kind and generous almost to a fault. I feel awful that I don't reciprocate his feelings. I don't want to lose him. But at the same time I don't think it's fair to him. Help!
I’ve come across too many individuals that are just so afraid to be vulnerable & put their heart in line. I can see right through them, I see them so guarded.. it just saddens me Took me a while to understand it was something they needed to fix within themselves not myself I’ll tell you one thing It’s hard enough getting through ONE date where you don’t feel your love & energy being reciprocated I cannot imagine what it must be like spending a lifetime with someone like that. Thank you for all the wisdom and advice you give the community Stephan 🙏🏼♥️ You are loved and appreciated brother
Thank you for saying this... It always bothered me to hear this "advice" because it comes from a place of fear and insecurity. If they love you more, you care less and there is less risk for vulnerability. Well, guess what? Love requires vulnerability on both sides, on a consistent basis. The minute people start getting defensive or entitled, the love dies, bit by bit. Why waste yours and the other person's time and energy like this? I used to operate on this advice, until I didn't and met the man I want to marry. I love this man so much, I would move mountains and I know he would do the same. If I chose someone who "loved me more", I wouldn't have met him. Don't even wanna think about that hahaha!
You’re speaking to my current situation. I walked away from two long term relationships. Men don’t approach me, but I meet lots of “takers” through online dating. I’m done.
Girl I feel your pain...going thought this online dating thing 😒😑🤨🤔😤 is a frustrating experience. I haven't dated in a long time just getting out of a long-term relationship/marriage and come into thus now....is a wake up call.
We all feel our feelings and know who we are REALLY into and those...not so much. We all know the person that we're like "ehhh they are ok" and the person that we're like "ohhhhhh this person gets my engine revved up!"
I came up with a saying of grow in love not fall in love because falling hurts. But when you say grow to love, that is different than growing in love. It implies that you have to get used to loving that person or grow to love that person. But when I am saying grow in love I am meaning as you get to know each other you become more in love with one another. Very interesting video. Thank you I'm only 7 minutes and 20 seconds in on this video so I need to watch the rest! I just had to share that thought.
Stephan - totally agree with your observations regarding men who love you more than you love them. And so true about the eventual backlash. Lived experience.
Wow this is so deep Stephan and very powerful I can relate to this out of my previous marriage I can see and understand clearly now what I didn’t see when I was married , thanks so powerful 🙏🏽
It may sound awful BUT love or marriage have timeline judging by the breakup we have seen lately. From those who manifested, those who prayed over it, those who fell head over heels, those who said they were soulmate etc. Y'all enjoy and appreciate when it's going well and when the time comes to end things take it as it was meant to be that way. May love and peace exist between all human.
I definitely agree with you feeling stuck I think i been feeling like this for a min honestly but due to past cheating w him talking to other women and being on dating apps but supposedly not done anything sexual it’s changed my feelings about the relationship and has changed how I love him.Idk rn things are hard idk if I can continue to feel how I feel cause it’s hard to move on when u feel the way you explained things
@@MeetStephanSpeaks I am its getting better day by day...I know I'm not ready to date nobody until all of these wounds are healed and new skin has formed...it would unfair to the next man to have to eventually put up with things he didn't cause...so I'm chillin for now...
@@ezebarbaraeze3770 I don't want that mofo....never really did...did you NOT pay attention to the video? #1 If truly wanted his ass I would STILL be in a loveless marriage #2 I damn sho wouldn't do Voodoo or turn to a witch doctor to make nobody want me...#3 Kick rocks barefooted then go play in traffic before addressing me...
This is exactly what happened to me. Now I am stuck in marriage where I am not willing and I cannot fulfill his needs. And on the top of that, I fell in love with someone else. Mad situation, which I hate to be in. It makes me very unhappy. Please, never do it.
Listen time to let it go. I've divorce after 4yrs of marriage. I was with him for 11 yrs prior to that. You can say he was my first love. Over the yrs things changed after we got married. Less affectionate on his end, very co dependant on me, and just flat out lying. I filed for divorce and waiting for it to be finalized. Don't stay in a marriage unhappy. I was so unhappy because things didn't go as I thought it would. At times I want to give up in love entirely cause I just get hurt out of it. But I pray to God to guide me the next journey to love because I can't do another heartbreak. I can't.
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Thank you so much. I'm in this situation, I started dating him about 3 months ago and last week he asked me to be his girlfriend. I was doubting about this since the day we met but still i said yes. Because a friend told me how much he likes me and all good things. Now I feel like he i can't give him what he wants and needs. So I feel trapped. This video helped me so much, I will have a sincere conversation with him now.
I’ve seen this on both sides! And currently know two separate married people in this current situation. Let’s just say the guy cheated and in the other marriage I hear almost daily that she’s not happy but feels she should stay because of the time spent together!
🌞Very good. Most get into relationships for various wrong reasons to keep from being single. You are right when you do that in my experience it doesn't last then someone ends up being the bad guy, I wish I would have had more awareness and really sought Gods advice instead of being lured by whatever wrong reason. Unfortunately finding real love connections have eluded me. But still have hope and began to understand to stop settling for less which may mean I will remain single for the rest of my life only having occasional moments...
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My sister has been with her husband for over 50 years and it is sad to watch the relationship play out. My brother in law has gone through hell because of her!
Listen Stephen I love life and live it from boots on the ground to high society! I love 💕 boots on the ground because it keeps me grounded! Still quietly trying to make a difference! Will be devoting private time to do humanitarian work sometime in Chicago with org I work for in my past but on voluntary basis some weekends this year! Maybe I will meet my Emperor that way also! Because I need a strong warrior! My male relatives are strong men!
😳 I was planning on trying that approach… it sounds sooo good! Especially since I loved my ex fiancé a lot MORE and the result was horrible treatment and cheating🥺🙈😔 Ahhh, I might need some coaching once I’m ready to date again 😅 I’m learning a lot from your videos. I appreciate the male perspective 🙏
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@@MeetStephanSpeaks Don't be sorry, brotha. I'm glad I caught your kind words before the edit. I'm doing the healing work, and this video provided great perspective, at the right time. God finds a way, to find us 🙏🏽 Thank you.
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In certain cultures, they actually do believe you get married first then grow to love each other together. And most of the times it's the husband 50 years later admitting he loved his wife more...at least in the beginning. So I don't know if the concept of "make sure he loves you more" is all that "off". There is something rooted in male and female psychology where it does and has worked that way throughout evolutionary history ("hunter/prey" psychology perhaps?). The woman in Stephan's story probably very much acted towards him that "he should just feel lucky" and he started the pick up on it and pulled back. That was a mistake on her part. She was supposed to still do nice things for him, give him affection/appreciation/support and value his presence in her life. You can still do that as a woman without coming off to a man as desperate.
I love this video......if I knew All this back then🤔.... .But its not too late to have a Great relationship.....I appreciate you Stephan....Much Love❤......straight out of Jamaica 🇯🇲
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Ladies if you are watching this and you are in that situation take my advice and end it NOW. Stephan knows what he is talking about. I end my relationship of 4 years on new years eve, because I just could not start another year in a stagnant relationship. In the beginning I know he loves me more.in fact I just liked him, then we moved in together in a roommate/ situations ship we split all the bills.so it wasn't a case where he was taking care of me or anything like that but he wanted more than I could give.i tried to end it several times but I felt guilty or sorry for him, I also realize he was using me to replace his mom.he was a mommas boy who expect me to do all the things his mom does for him...and then some..I DIDNT SIGN UP FOR THAT! Bottom line I had to choose me.and that's what I did.now am taking the time to work on me. I know when I am ready I will attract someone who is on my vibrational level in every way. Blessings to you Stephan ..keep inspiring.I love you. Good luck ladies..or gentlemen..all the best for 2022 and beyond.✌🏽🙏🏽
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I appreciate you that you always acknowledge God first. That is what we all must do and wait patiently . I realize that late . Thank you Stephen speak for encouraging the ladies and men.
One of the things I found most interesting about the points from this video, is when the man then cheats because he doesn't get what he truly needs from you and because you have grown attached, you are mad and start fighting the other women... I also noted the part where he does alot of things to make you jealous and I think that where the saying goes from men. " You must have some women around to make the woman jealous so she treats you like a king trying to compete with the other women to keep you." (I now truly understand it's stem) After listening to this, I can't make that mistake for sure.
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Good to be back!😁 I don't think you'd be doing yourself or the man any justice if you "settle" for a guy that loves you more than you love him. Worst advice ever! This could result in resentment for both parties. It's such a beautiful and fulfilling experience to love in a healthy way, and with good intentions & for all that to be effortlessly reciprocated ❣ Obrigado Stephan 😊❤
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Thank you Stephan! I was waiting for you to make a video on this topic. I couldn't have explained it better. I've been saying it for years, this statement is so wrong. A man should not love more than the woman or vice versa. I think that if one loves more than the other the relationship is deficient. To contradict me, I was told that the Bible says in Ephesians 5:22 Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the church... I do not think that this is what it means. I would love to hear your opinion on that.
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My password isn’t working bI keep trying this is becoming overwhelming & I don’t have a fb I have to make a fb to join the love groups I’m trying to stay off of social media not go back 😩
You really know your stuff, Awesome. Enjoy this day that the Lord has made !!
Thank you 😊
I love You Jesus, thank you for your Grace and Mercy !! 🦅💪🙏🏽
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My godmother gave me this advice long ago. I took the advice. It got me ten years in a marriage without passion and genuine love on my part. You can’t fake love chemistry or attraction. I humbly suggest marriages need all three.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.
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What you mean by without passion and genuine love?
I tried this as well based on advice from an older woman. It was a disaster. Because when life kicked in, I could not pout into him the way he needed me to.
This is apt
This makes so much sense. Often times we decide to go for the guy we wouldn't "typically" date because we've been hurt over and over again by the guys that ARE our type. However, the guy who isn't our type isn't getting what he needs and DESERVES from us on a consistent basis, so he becomes unfulfilled, and begins to search elsewhere for fulfillment. In the end, settling, is NEVER worth it!
You're absolutely right, thank you for sharing I appreciate your feedback ❤
Yes. You can sense & tell when someone is really into you or not.
To me I think the best feeling is to love and be loved
💯 Yes!
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My mother told me this… To choose a man who loves me more than I love him. The best advice ever because it’s true. My parents were married until my father died in old age and he treated my mother like a queen. And I am with a man now who treats me like a queen.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that!
Do you treat him like a “king” tho??? Are your efforts matched? Doubt it
Ya'll supposed to love each other equally.
@@amerokeewiya1320 Like Dr. Phil Valentine teaches I stay in my role as a woman and allow my man to be the man. Some call it old fashioned but Dr. Phil Valentine calls it cosmic law and I follow that law.
You deserve. I love you.
Women or men have to first "Love" themselves before they can love anyone else. It gets back to what you have said before Stephen, they need to know and heal themselves.💜🦉
Healing is definitely key!
Trueeee. ! A person CAN NOT give out something they DONT HAVE INSIDE OF THEM (Love, Peace, Healed Emotionally and Mentally, Stability etc ). It has TO START with EACH INDIVIDUAL, just like Salvation is INDIVIDUAL
Mannnnnn, this topic is so on time that it is painful😣😒. Yall, listen closely to this message, listen to it again, write it down, memorize it, add it to your daily affirmations, and save yourselves a love lesson you DON'T want to learn any other way.💯👌
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To all the dreamers out there, don't ever let the world's negativity disenchant you or your spirit. If you surround yourself with love and right people, ANYTHING is possible...
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ALWAYS weigh your options. Who are u looking for? What are u looking for? Are u willing to give what they're asking for. Never settle. Know the difference between true love and infactuation. I know what I want and time waits for no one. THISSSS is my year for the remainder of my BLESSINGS FROM GOD. If the one u want isn't available ask God for GREATER. He DEFINITELY HAS IT.
Indeed, it really helps when we embrace that ❤
Some aisles be fresh outta inventory though
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Mutual love with God's presence is the best. Blessings all.
One thing is for sure, you will reap what you sow. Treat people the same way you would like to be treated. To toy with someone's heart like that is an incredibly cruel thing to do. Ladies, if you do not love him wholeheartedly do not string him along just because you think he loves you more.
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Women typically show love to men more than they do to women, so it could balance the dynamic out.
Yes, so true. A man who loves you more than you love him creates imbalance in the relationship. Everything will feel one-sided and someone's cup will feel empty. There is no way you can truly pour into a man that you don't love deeply & care for. Love is always reciprocal & mutual but a one-sided relationship doesn't meet the true meaning of genuine love. You cannot force a connection or the right fit. The magic happens when you realize love is when both cups feel full & overflowing, long before the magic happening elsewhere. Excellent video. Blessings & peace as always to you.
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@@MeetStephanSpeaks Always enjoy your videos. Keep up the great work. ❤😘
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Whatever decision you make......we all need prayers and commitment to back it up......God knows best so don't give up
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Mutual love, respect, kindness, trust, forgiveness and vulnerability is the key to a successful relationship. Add to it a commitment to one another and to God is the icing on the cake.
You got me at..."when a man is not perfect or not worth it." Thank God for you explaining.
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Literally EVERYTHING you said about this subject is ON POINT!!!! I have done this and everything you said happened. He loved me and was infatuated with me, he was nice enough and treated me great, he was not my type at all, but I grew to love him because I was told to pick a man that loves you more than you love him. I actually thought he should be soo happy to have a woman like me. So I think that mentality translated non verbally and he picked up on that. Not to mention now he's got women trying to figure out what it was about him that got me to deal with him. That new attention pumped up his head and he cheated!
I did this multiple times with men because I was raised up hearing women say that you should always pick a man that loves you more. I was cheated on when I was younger and it really hurt me to the core. That's when I thought maybe I should listen to my elders and their advise to date a man that loves you more. I'd never be attracted to them but they were good looking enough... I never put 2 + 2 together the way you did in this video. I just always thought I built them up and then they received attention from women and so they cheated. Ok, ok...I get it now!!!!! Lol! Took me long enough :)
I'm sorry to hear about that and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏
Oh naw you best be attracted and turned all the way on with one you want to marry
"Loving more" presupposes that you love him fundamentally. So if you had to grow to love him to begin with, then you misinterpreted the advice
I made this mistake with my ex husband when I was in my early 20’s He was the guy that I thought was the nice guy and treated me like a queen until he didn’t. I had to realize I was told this my entire life by my elders, but it is the absolute worse thing to do! This is priceless information… I ended up in a terrible marriage for 10 years and it took me so long to remove myself from that toxic relationship. Thanks again for this Stephan.
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Heal sis! I've been in a relationship over 10 yrs. Married 4 yrs and now divorce. There was red flags that I thought could be fixed but he wouldn't change and lied too much to the point I divorced on yr 4. I didn't want to waste anymore time then I already did.
@@barbarap.2527 I totally understand. It was the same for me. It was a hard lesson but we learned it! 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
This video is so REAL! Don’t do it! It will not end well and the more you stay the harder it is to walk away and the more damage you do to yourself.
Absolutely!
This EXACTLY happened to me. After 13 years of marriage he cheated and we are divorced. I am now reading your book Love after heartbreak and healing from my own wrong decision. I have asked the Lord For forgiveness for my wrong in all of this. Thank you for your books.
Choose a man or woman who knows that GOD is watching them all the times
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Just because a person knows God does not necessary mean he or she will do the word of the true and living God. Many are not at the level of total obedience to Gods will and words for their life upon earth. We are spirits wrapped in flesh. Whose spirit the flesh expresses will make the difference. Those who have the Spirit of the truth and light of the world, will display their spirit of enlightenment, settings self discipline actions through boundaries.
@@veronicagivens2967 for everyone and not for a rarely cases knowing God , knowing what is allowed and what is forbidden , having the conviction what you have is enough for you look at who have nothing not the ones who have everything it's just a short life and no one will remain only the one and the only one who created us
This is very spot on!!! Happened to my parents. My dad stopped caring after marriage. True personality came out with additional new demands and needs!!!!!
My mom never grow to love him... even after 34 years. Many divorce attempts from my mom, all failed due to resistance from my little brother. Now they are too old to live by themselves so they stick together.
Then I've been seeing my female friends doing the same thing. Sad that not many people understand the consequences of settling without love!
Thank you for sharing. It definitely isn't an easy situation, but we need to focus on doing what is truly best 🙏
Is it better than being alone?
@@MeetStephanSpeaks Thank you very much for all you have done to help people! I bought 4 of your books and finished 2, all helpful information. But to be honest, I prefer listening to your videos, as my favorite part is your laugh at those "I know you ladies are guilty of this" statements/sentences!
@@johnnychandler325 Sadly No! Resentment built up over the years has caused my mom depression. She would vent to us or talk bad about dad in front of us, eventually causing my little brother to be disrespectful towards dad. I spent years tolerating those 2 negative energies. Not a happy family to be proud of!
I think when they say a man who loves you more than you love him it’s about commitment. All it means it’s a man doing for you through actions and his time. Usually the woman already loves the man but the guy is going above and beyond to do what a man should. I think this is wayyy better than the one way love woman gives to men that absolutely do not reciprocate. However when a woman absolutely does not love a man she will usually stay away from him not go as far as Marry him.
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Right. I don't get how people are misinterpreting this as being with a man they don't love. No, love is the baseline.
I'm sorry, but it does work. Howevever getting and keeping a partner is 2 different things. Most men are physical and most women are emotional so a man that isn't so attractive will go the extra mile for a pretty woman and if a man stimulate our emotional & mental needs we will fall for him. You as the woman has to hold him and his attention though because he is human as well as he has to keep yours.
I agree, women has to feel love and worthy for the right person, meanwhile lots of men will not go extra mile if they don’t love a woman and instead they will use them as friends with benefit..thats what happening now everywhere
An attractive man will go the extra mile as well.
Facts
Women like physical too, they just need extra warming up to release that aspect
I would beg to differ here because the two can hold each other's attention but in the long run it wouldn't be enough to hold the relationship together especially if they weren't in love and had a connection and were pouring into one another. ultimately that relationship would fail, because no one was receiving what they truly needed rather thanJust someone who wanted to hold they attention (place holder)until someone else came along to gain it ,or either was the right one for them.
The last I studied "Love" is a reciprocated commodity, experienced at its highest peak when each involved understands one's value. If there is a shortcoming in understanding the value of that individual it will usually be an imbalance in the expression of love...at least this is my perspective after much reflection of a failed marriage and divorcee,with hopes I will someday get the chance to express "love" again in covenant, due to me understanding my value as well as his. Again profound wisdom...I always enjoy your discussions Stephan... blessings 🙏🏾💪🏾❤️
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Unfortunately, this happens A LOT in hypergamy. Women (in my age group) are literally told to settle for short, fat, ugly, or old just to gain financial security. “Make him fall in love with you, girl!!! Get the life you always dreamed of and be set for life!”
Trust me, I’d rather buy a ventriloquist dummy and a dog before I settle for a man just because he loves me more and/or is financially secure.
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I'm just not into big woman and I won't pretend I do because I will resent myself even further going into something I really don't want to and hurt her in the process of investing into her deeply, then all of sudden, pulling out
U ain’t neva lied. The female usually ends up bitter & miserable af
you'll would rather share a broke good looking player ... sad
Life is too short to SETTLE FOR LESS and to be held responsible for someone's feelings of inadequacy and worthlessness Without COMMITMENT there's nothing and there can't be a relationship without RECIPROCITY. We're human beings and we are worthy of love, honour and respect. We're not tools to be used.
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Let The CHURCH SAY AMEN, and AMEN Again! 💯
Whether life is short or long, we still should not settle for less
So true. TRUE romantic love is a two way experience 💞, both want to give & love the other person with the same desire & drive as the other person does for them. If ever you have to overly pursue someone in an attempt to wear them down into ‘loving you’ or vice versa, then it is so not worth it 🙏
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Thank God I woke the Hell up and won’t be making any more bad choices in Men . I love myself too Much for this mess . I’m gonna remain Happy and single 😃 until GOD sends me Big Daddy ❤️❤️. Thank you Sir for being a blessing 🙏 and delivering the message .
You got this, I pray that you receive the man who is truly best for you, the man God has for you 🙏
I agree. Women don't settle. I know its fustrating at times to be single. At times we hope to love or expecting the person to change there ways. Then ended up with them for too long than you should. Then to break up or divorce like I did. The second time around I don't care for men to waste my time anymore early on. Life too short for this.
I am always impressed by your segments. 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿There are so many people who value the wrong things & trying to make a love connection, but instead end up making a mess! Halt! Go, heal your heart, then emerge w/a better relationship fitness.
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Thanks for doing this video. I never believed any of this. The love should go both ways equally.
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Agree I want it equal! Not me loving him more or him loving me more, either way whoever is loving more will ultimately be the one to get hurt tremendously!
Unfortunately, I have to confirm... After divorcing my husband of 25 yrs... Relationship started the way you described and ended with abusive situation from my ex... So, really, girls, don't ever do this mistake! Not worthy... Not repairable (though we have 2 great kids)
This is sooooo true and relatable! I’ve been through exactly the things that were mentioned in this video. I learnt not to settle or date down again. Onwards and upwards!
TQ Stephen ur such a wise an good man.we need more like u.I beleive a man also wants equal love an it be even . Unconditional love goes both ways .
I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏
Interesting video!!!
I do agree that the love between partners shouldn’t be measured, if she is pouring into him and he is pouring into her there would be no need to measure their love because they would both feel loved and fulfilled. Measuring happens/comes about when someone is lacking something. I could be wrong but that my take… Thanks as always for your insight!
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Its so relatable. I refuse to settle for less or think time is running out. I'm not settling for just anyone . I'm gonna wait until a man can reciprocate the same energy I give. I'm a 10 and im not boasting. Beautiful shape, pretty , great personality,intelligent. Most times when I'm in a relationship the guy is insecure of me even though I reassure constantly and im not promiscuous but im an attractive black queen with a wonderful body. Ill wait on God. Thank you for your word. They always return way after how regretful they are and how I was a great woman blah blah blah
That's what him loving you more is about. You already love him and he acts it out more. If "equal love" means that the woman is still doing the majority of the work, then him living more should balance the dynamic.
Wow! You are spot on! I’ve gone through EXACTLY what you spoke about…. Wish I heard this years ago before I married a man I wasn’t in love with 🥴… oh well though, I learned the hard way and it taught me so many valuable lessons! NEVER AGAIN THOUGH!! 🙅🏻♀️
The blessing is that you learned your lesson and you’ll be better off for it ❤ 🙏
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NObody can love YOU more than YOU love YOURSELF. Waiting for another to love you...you will searching for ever.. Stage your expectations after you realize your own worth.
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Nobody loves you more than your Creator
That's exactly what has happened to me! It's so true. It. Is. Not. Worth. It.
I'm sorry to hear about that and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏
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I was in the same situationship... My friends and family told me I could grow to love him stupid me I stayed to try to make it work... Giving a man wife treatments without the commitment. I was still not happy felt as if I deserved more... Now I walked away and I'm heart brokened...
I'm sorry to hear about that and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏
This is absolutely true! I did it I actually got married and we are in the process of divorce! After 6 years I had to walk away! I couldn’t keep watering dead flowers 💐! Love 💙 this channel bless up Stephan.
Your words hit home in alot of ways. For instance, I am going through what I call working on myself or choosing to live healthy. I've learned to pray for what I want knowing God will deliver in all areas of my life. However, God is lining people up in my life and showing me what healthy vs. unhealthy looks like. I am grateful and thank you for your message. 👍🏾
Glad I could help 🙏
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I thought I could "casually" date. Met a guy he was lovebombing me from the getgo like wanting to meet his family just after a month in. He was good looking and also creative. I wasn't really in to him but I enjoyed the attention and walks.
As time went by, I wanted his attention and craved his love. He distant himself things got messy and we broke up. I ended with a Heartbreak for someone I wasn't even feeling that much.. even when we didn't have a real emotional connection. Now I'm working on me
I knew this was not gonna last, I just wanted to see where it could go to
Never gonna date someone again, whom I know won't work out when we differ to much on the basics (religion, kids, moving, marriage)
Ladies don't do it! In the end you just get burned, at least I got
I Sooo Agree with this
That's NOT fair for him and I
Wouldn't even advise a woman to entertain a man who she isn't initially interested in by physical appearance. . . By character, personality, if he hasn't got those, the looks shouldn't matter.
Only entertain men who are KIND, Charismatic, Genuinely Curious About You, That YOU find Attractive.
If you don't find him attractive, remain polite yet set firm boundaries and stick to that and make that clear. Don't break his heart, to protect yours
The first thought in my mind is that how would you feel if that were you?
No one deserves to feel like they're not TRULY wanted from the man or woman who they want.
By physical appearance, go for who you're attracted to who also attracted to you
I’m so happy I’m out of that marriage now and I can decipher if it was Love or an attachment👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 surely it was an attachment
I'm sorry to hear about that, I pray that you heal from all that you have been through, and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️
Yep was in the similar situation. Now in process of divorce. No kids thank goodness. But just a bunch of co dependant behaviors on his side towards me I began to not like as well as lying to me. I discovered I was too comfortable with him all the yrs and not getting half of what I expected and ended up disappointed 😔. I just want to find a new love with no issues ,drama, and can return the same that I give.
Bravo, Stephan. This video should kill this myth once and for all!! You give us all the reasons NOT to ever believe this myth will protect us from ending up in a painful relationship. We can all find love with the right person once we recognize our own fears and improve ourselves emotionally and spiritually.
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Hello and God bless, I just want to say that I so enjoy the advice Stephan gives, even though I am not in any type of a relationship, still the things he addresses are informative and in powering - thank you sir for such God given wisdom ...
It’s needs to also be considered that Narcassist’s will have you believe they love you more than you love them through the Love Bombing stage. This happened to me and 20 years later he was cheating and nothing like the man I thought I knew. I did however ignore all the initial red flags. I have learnt my lesson.
I have been talking to this dude and he would constantly do the love bombing and saying I have thinking about you all the time. So recently I told him chill with the extreme loving words: oh saying good morning beautiful them kind of the things. I told him time after time... no... men nowadays dont truly mean those words. But now he start to reduce texting and I know soon than later he will eventually stop messaging. Like they always do. What do you think about that?
@@lashandamatte I’ve have my radar alert to “love bombing” now. I’m looking for someone who texts reasonably and doesn’t go into overdrive in the first few weeks. I would also only continue with a man who respects my boundaries. If you have asked something of him and he is ignoring your request, that in itself is a red flag. Good luck 😊
You confirmed what I knew to be true, but I don't know what to do about it. I was madly in love with him. But after a few years it changed. We knew each other about a year as just friends. But have been in a relationship for almost 6. I still love him, but it's not like it was. He has even said he loves me more. He is one of the best people I have ever known. Kind and generous almost to a fault. I feel awful that I don't reciprocate his feelings. I don't want to lose him. But at the same time I don't think it's fair to him. Help!
It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
I’ve come across too many individuals that are just so afraid to be vulnerable & put their heart in line. I can see right through them, I see them so guarded.. it just saddens me
Took me a while to understand it was something they needed to fix within themselves not myself
I’ll tell you one thing
It’s hard enough getting through ONE date where you don’t feel your love & energy being reciprocated I cannot imagine what it must be like spending a lifetime with someone like that.
Thank you for all the wisdom and advice you give the community Stephan 🙏🏼♥️
You are loved and appreciated brother
Thank you very much I'm happy to hear that 🙌
Thank you for saying this... It always bothered me to hear this "advice" because it comes from a place of fear and insecurity. If they love you more, you care less and there is less risk for vulnerability. Well, guess what? Love requires vulnerability on both sides, on a consistent basis. The minute people start getting defensive or entitled, the love dies, bit by bit. Why waste yours and the other person's time and energy like this? I used to operate on this advice, until I didn't and met the man I want to marry. I love this man so much, I would move mountains and I know he would do the same. If I chose someone who "loved me more", I wouldn't have met him. Don't even wanna think about that hahaha!
You’re speaking to my current situation. I walked away from two long term relationships. Men don’t approach me, but I meet lots of “takers” through online dating. I’m done.
I pray that you receive the man who is truly best for you, the man God has for you 🙏
Girl I feel your pain...going thought this online dating thing 😒😑🤨🤔😤 is a frustrating experience. I haven't dated in a long time just getting out of a long-term relationship/marriage and come into thus now....is a wake up call.
It's understanding the difference between the man who's not perfect and the man who is not worth it for me
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We all feel our feelings and know who we are REALLY into and those...not so much. We all know the person that we're like "ehhh they are ok" and the person that we're like "ohhhhhh this person gets my engine revved up!"
You're absolutely right!
I came up with a saying of grow in love not fall in love because falling hurts. But when you say grow to love, that is different than growing in love. It implies that you have to get used to loving that person or grow to love that person. But when I am saying grow in love I am meaning as you get to know each other you become more in love with one another. Very interesting video. Thank you I'm only 7 minutes and 20 seconds in on this video so I need to watch the rest! I just had to share that thought.
I want to be with a man that loves me as much as I love him and not be a secret about it. We can be free to be together in love.
Stephan - totally agree with your observations regarding men who love you more than you love them. And so true about the eventual backlash. Lived experience.
I was surprised by this title. Glad to hear your perspective on it
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You're a great teacher. You're gifted and i appreciate you.
Wow but your laughter is contagious 🤣
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Wow this is so deep Stephan and very powerful I can relate to this out of my previous marriage I can see and understand clearly now what I didn’t see when I was married , thanks so powerful 🙏🏽
I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏
You are right Stephan especially about the dating down part. I have experienced this. Thank you for doing what you do🙏
My pleasure ❤
It may sound awful BUT love or marriage have timeline judging by the breakup we have seen lately.
From those who manifested, those who prayed over it, those who fell head over heels, those who said they were soulmate etc.
Y'all enjoy and appreciate when it's going well and when the time comes to end things take it as it was meant to be that way.
May love and peace exist between all human.
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Yes. And nothing wrong with that. Expiry dates exist that's why one should not waste their time with useless relationships
Stephan always drop us those good gems 💙💙
You are 1000% hands down correct. I lived this and to be honest I am now owning my part.
This is beautiful! It's my first time here and I got a good man talking good words...
I'm so happy you said that this is a mistake......I would not want to be with someone who is not giving me the same feelings that I am giving him
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I definitely agree with you feeling stuck I think i been feeling like this for a min honestly but due to past cheating w him talking to other women and being on dating apps but supposedly not done anything sexual it’s changed my feelings about the relationship and has changed how I love him.Idk rn things are hard idk if I can continue to feel how I feel cause it’s hard to move on when u feel the way you explained things
Oh because I was like what? That’s the WORSE thing EVER. I’ll never settle for anyone & it’ll never work as you stated.
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Great lesson. The religious people do get stuck. It would be a sin to leave, It is sad.
🙏 It definitely isn't an easy situation but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best!
Now you are preaching!! I am so happy to be finally DIVORCED after 19 years...please don't do it ppl...
I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏
@@MeetStephanSpeaks I am its getting better day by day...I know I'm not ready to date nobody until all of these wounds are healed and new skin has formed...it would unfair to the next man to have to eventually put up with things he didn't cause...so I'm chillin for now...
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@@ezebarbaraeze3770 I don't want that mofo....never really did...did you NOT pay attention to the video? #1 If truly wanted his ass I would STILL be in a loveless marriage #2 I damn sho wouldn't do Voodoo or turn to a witch doctor to make nobody want me...#3 Kick rocks barefooted then go play in traffic before addressing me...
This is exactly what happened to me. Now I am stuck in marriage where I am not willing and I cannot fulfill his needs. And on the top of that, I fell in love with someone else. Mad situation, which I hate to be in. It makes me very unhappy. Please, never do it.
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Listen time to let it go. I've divorce after 4yrs of marriage. I was with him for 11 yrs prior to that. You can say he was my first love. Over the yrs things changed after we got married. Less affectionate on his end, very co dependant on me, and just flat out lying. I filed for divorce and waiting for it to be finalized. Don't stay in a marriage unhappy. I was so unhappy because things didn't go as I thought it would. At times I want to give up in love entirely cause I just get hurt out of it. But I pray to God to guide me the next journey to love because I can't do another heartbreak. I can't.
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Hey Man , you are one of the most brilliant Man on this planet !!! Thank you for sharing this amazing incredible information!!! 💕💕💕💕
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I have no words. All I can say is thank you.
My first thought was "don't you want to love, why would you put a ceiling on the love you give"? We are made to love
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I've been here and its so true. The tables can turn
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Thank you so much.
I'm in this situation, I started dating him about 3 months ago and last week he asked me to be his girlfriend.
I was doubting about this since the day we met but still i said yes. Because a friend told me how much he likes me and all good things.
Now I feel like he i can't give him what he wants and needs. So I feel trapped.
This video helped me so much, I will have a sincere conversation with him now.
I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏
I’ve seen this on both sides! And currently know two separate married people in this current situation. Let’s just say the guy cheated and in the other marriage I hear almost daily that she’s not happy but feels she should stay because of the time spent together!
It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus should be on doing what is truly best 🙏
@@MeetStephanSpeaks Absolutely
🌞Very good. Most get into relationships for various wrong reasons to keep from being single. You are right when you do that in my experience it doesn't last then someone ends up being the bad guy, I wish I would have had more awareness and really sought Gods advice instead of being lured by whatever wrong reason. Unfortunately finding real love connections have eluded me. But still have hope and began to understand to stop settling for less which may mean I will remain single for the rest of my life only having occasional moments...
Try changing your focus from dating to learning and you will start to see positive results in your dating experiences!
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My sister has been with her husband for over 50 years and it is sad to watch the relationship play out. My brother in law has gone through hell because of her!
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🌞I finally went ahead and purchased, "The Man God Has For You". Thanks
My pleasure ❤️
My pleasure ❤️
Listen Stephen I love life and live it from boots on the ground to high society! I love 💕 boots on the ground because it keeps me grounded! Still quietly trying to make a difference! Will be devoting private time to do humanitarian work sometime in Chicago with org I work for in my past but on voluntary basis some weekends this year! Maybe I will meet my Emperor that way also! Because I need a strong warrior! My male relatives are strong men!
My heart is out of my chest just by reading the title..
🙏 Don't be triggered by the title, be sure to watch the whole video to learn more about choosing a man who loves you more than you love him.
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I always comment b4 I listen... that's how much I love being here... Thnx Stephan
❤ 🙂 Thank you! I appreciate hearing from you!
Here every moment you upload an insightful video....fan appreciate from Lagos, Nigeria.
Glad to hear that and thank you for watching, I appreciate your response ❤ 🙌
Love is not real when it’s from a married man.
Most definitely!
Avoid at all costs!💯
😳 I was planning on trying that approach… it sounds sooo good! Especially since I loved my ex fiancé a lot MORE and the result was horrible treatment and cheating🥺🙈😔 Ahhh, I might need some coaching once I’m ready to date again 😅 I’m learning a lot from your videos. I appreciate the male perspective 🙏
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This message definitely applies to men as well... Just reverse everything and you have my last relationship.
Absolutely!
@@MeetStephanSpeaks Don't be sorry, brotha. I'm glad I caught your kind words before the edit. I'm doing the healing work, and this video provided great perspective, at the right time. God finds a way, to find us 🙏🏽 Thank you.
Mr. Stephan Speaks you have done it again. Wow wow wow thank you so much for this information. May God keep blessing you for these videos 🙏🏾❤️
Thank you very much I'm happy to hear that 🙌
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In certain cultures, they actually do believe you get married first then grow to love each other together. And most of the times it's the husband 50 years later admitting he loved his wife more...at least in the beginning. So I don't know if the concept of "make sure he loves you more" is all that "off". There is something rooted in male and female psychology where it does and has worked that way throughout evolutionary history ("hunter/prey" psychology perhaps?).
The woman in Stephan's story probably very much acted towards him that "he should just feel lucky" and he started the pick up on it and pulled back. That was a mistake on her part. She was supposed to still do nice things for him, give him affection/appreciation/support and value his presence in her life. You can still do that as a woman without coming off to a man as desperate.
I love this video......if I knew All this back then🤔.... .But its not too late to have a Great relationship.....I appreciate you Stephan....Much Love❤......straight out of Jamaica 🇯🇲
❤ 🙏 You're absolutely right, it's not too late to have a great relationship!
I clicked this so fast! The African women who braid my hair told me this, but I just could not agree with it. I should very much be in love as well
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I needed too hear 👂 this it’s like you made this just for me 💁🏽♀️because we as in women all have different situation
Glad it was helpful 🙏
I don't know if I agree with this. Hard to tell.
Ladies if you are watching this and you are in that situation take my advice and end it NOW. Stephan knows what he is talking about. I end my relationship of 4 years on new years eve, because I just could not start another year in a stagnant relationship. In the beginning I know he loves me more.in fact I just liked him, then we moved in together in a roommate/ situations ship we split all the bills.so it wasn't a case where he was taking care of me or anything like that but he wanted more than I could give.i tried to end it several times but I felt guilty or sorry for him, I also realize he was using me to replace his mom.he was a mommas boy who expect me to do all the things his mom does for him...and then some..I DIDNT SIGN UP FOR THAT! Bottom line I had to choose me.and that's what I did.now am taking the time to work on me. I know when I am ready I will attract someone who is on my vibrational level in every way. Blessings to you Stephan ..keep inspiring.I love you. Good luck ladies..or gentlemen..all the best for 2022 and beyond.✌🏽🙏🏽
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My grandmother told me this when I was younger 🎁🌞
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I appreciate you that you always acknowledge God first. That is what we all must do and wait patiently .
I realize that late . Thank you Stephen speak for encouraging the ladies and men.
My pleasure ❤
One of the things I found most interesting about the points from this video, is when the man then cheats because he doesn't get what he truly needs from you and because you have grown attached, you are mad and start fighting the other women...
I also noted the part where he does alot of things to make you jealous and I think that where the saying goes from men. " You must have some women around to make the woman jealous so she treats you like a king trying to compete with the other women to keep you." (I now truly understand it's stem)
After listening to this, I can't make that mistake for sure.
I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏
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Good to be back!😁
I don't think you'd be doing yourself or the man any justice if you "settle" for a guy that loves you more than you love him. Worst advice ever! This could result in resentment for both parties.
It's such a beautiful and fulfilling experience to love in a healthy way, and with good intentions & for all that to be effortlessly reciprocated ❣
Obrigado Stephan 😊❤
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Thank you Stephan! I was waiting for you to make a video on this topic. I couldn't have explained it better. I've been saying it for years, this statement is so wrong. A man should not love more than the woman or vice versa. I think that if one loves more than the other the relationship is deficient. To contradict me, I was told that the Bible says in Ephesians 5:22 Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the church... I do not think that this is what it means. I would love to hear your opinion on that.
Stephan is like a free therapist 😅
Thank you very much I'm happy to hear that 🙌
You got me with that title! Man! I thought what in the hell! haha
Glad you are addressing this type of mindset!
Wishing you a happy weekend.
lol, 🙂 thank you for watching, may you have a happy weekend as well!