You TRIGGER A Man's Emotions With Your Absence In THESE 5 Ways

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  • Опубликовано: 18 ноя 2024

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  • @crisxo
    @crisxo 20 часов назад +84

    Know the difference between a man who isn’t worth it and a man who isn’t perfect. 🙏🏽
    Thank you Stephen ❤

    • @Love2Love927
      @Love2Love927 19 часов назад +2

      Now that’s a whole meal !

  • @BatmanFan2.0
    @BatmanFan2.0 6 часов назад +17

    My bf ghosted me before we started dating. We were in the talking stage and went on one date, then he stopped reaching out. It broke my heart because I really liked him. I tried contacting him a few times, but his texts were dry and slow. So I stopped. One year later we cross paths and he starts to pursue me like never before. I gave him a chance (even though I was still hurt) because he was very serious this time. Eventually he apologized and told me he was immature and regretted what he did. We're three months into dating now, and I'm so grateful for this man. We both changed and grew, and now we work so well. God is so good.

    • @TeighlorB
      @TeighlorB 5 часов назад +4

      Love this for you ❤

  • @ZoeBranning
    @ZoeBranning День назад +141

    I am nobody's slave, doormat or property for anyone to use their manipulative games on and when i walk away I walk away for good. I am not obligated to stay for you to get yourself together. I don't allow a man to tell me he doesn't have what it requires to be a real man or he is unwilling to do the work to fix himself. I have standards and I don't have an attitude. You either learn to value me or you stay away from me. I told the truth.

    • @1trueloveforever
      @1trueloveforever 23 часа назад +11

      I could not have said this better . 👌👌👌

    • @ValJohnson-o8g
      @ValJohnson-o8g 21 час назад +9

      Speak the truth! I love what you said

    • @BabyGirl-uy6sb
      @BabyGirl-uy6sb 17 часов назад +3

      @@1trueloveforever

    • @BabyGirl-uy6sb
      @BabyGirl-uy6sb 17 часов назад +3

      ⁠I couldn’t either sis.🙌🏽

    • @RoseMoke
      @RoseMoke 17 часов назад +5

      You right

  • @jazzywithtea
    @jazzywithtea 17 часов назад +25

    He should’ve thought about this before he treated me like I was a nobody! Now that I pulled my energy back I know he’s feeling it because I was nothing but good to him! 😊

  • @Portia620
    @Portia620 8 часов назад +10

    Sooo true! They don’t want you but they don’t want others to have you! I said these guys are leaving their options open then that way they can go screw around and if they can’t find any better thing better come back to you. I said cut it off.!

  • @gabrielecarter7703
    @gabrielecarter7703 День назад +49

    I believe in true love, but people have to take the time to get to know each other on a personal level. I don’t want any unhealthy attachment.

  • @MiaZahabu
    @MiaZahabu День назад +28

    Thanks we learn we grow every day am gonna do much better in my next relationship. i’m preparing myself to receive the man that God has for me.

  • @TawandaClark-ii9ps
    @TawandaClark-ii9ps День назад +46

    Exactly..guys that play games should not be assuming that all the games they play will work, and the same for the females that play them.

  • @m3gh3ad
    @m3gh3ad 21 час назад +35

    Stephen, men literally don’t care if you walk away from them. It’s always “if that’s what you want” or “ if that makes you happy” etc etc. i have yet to experience a man who cared that I walked away.

    • @evemorrigan3120
      @evemorrigan3120 17 часов назад +7

      They never come back in a timely manner for me. It took them years to be like oh I think you're the one. I'm like bro ... years too late.

    • @kokhotoms1620
      @kokhotoms1620 Час назад

      Men do say those types of things when you walk away, "if thats what you want...then go ahead and go"! However some men in the long run, those same ones that act as if they can careless will try to come back to you in the worst ways later on when they realize that the "I don't care" attitude that they once had was pointless.

  • @cheekytitaable
    @cheekytitaable День назад +23

    7:00 definitely important to discern a man’s true intention and whether or not his heart is in the right place. This is where I think women struggle ( men in general too). Men themselves may not even know or understand what they really want or needs in a relationship or if they are worthy ( through action) of being in a deep relationship. Manipulating anyone in a relationship either by ignoring or doing anything to cause a reaction might yield false results.
    I appreciate that Stephen addresses these issues, lest women end up in unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships.

  • @gabrielecarter7703
    @gabrielecarter7703 День назад +33

    God will bring me an original, I am good with that, period. I talk to God, and let him guide me. As human beings we are all flawed, only God is perfect. 🙏❣️👍

  • @gabrielecarter7703
    @gabrielecarter7703 День назад +35

    I agree totally with you Stephan, when I am done, it’s finished.

  • @patriciadavis608
    @patriciadavis608 23 часа назад +27

    Wow, I am in a situation right now that I know is not healthy but I'm having a hard time walking away out of fear of being alone. This video answered so many questions. I know in my heart what I need to do but I just can't bring myself to walk away because I know there are feelings involved, both ways. I keep praying for strength to do what is best for me.

    • @Daniellemarie10
      @Daniellemarie10 21 час назад +12

      I'm in the situation as well. I just walked away a week ago it's been very challenging. However before I decided to walk away I watched videos on no contact and how to walk away how to detach I started switching my focus sometimes people will take you for granted because you're too available because we love so much and so hard also you can still walk away even though you love someone and miss them I just switched my focus and focus on myself and start pouring all that love I was pouring into him on to me also focus on the lesson I realize it's an opportunity to grow this time apart and my lesson is to forgive not just him but forgive myself sending you prayers and healing vibes ❤

    • @patriciadavis608
      @patriciadavis608 15 часов назад

      @Daniellemarie10 💝💝💝

    • @amynne7849
      @amynne7849 5 часов назад

      ​@@Daniellemarie10Thanks a million for this!🌺🌺🌺💐💐💐🌷🌷🌷🔥🔥🔥🙏🙏🙏🙌🙌🙌❤❤❤

  • @gloriapearson64
    @gloriapearson64 20 часов назад +9

    Stephen you will always be someone I believe knows what to say. My last situation ended by ghosting. I'm fine with that. I find myself at peace again. It was an unhealthy situation. The love some of these men are claiming is actually infactuation

  • @user-fh1tr9zp3l
    @user-fh1tr9zp3l 8 часов назад +2

    A whole trailer load of info in a lil statement " the pereson who genuinely
    loves you will be the first to give up trying " AWESOME coach Steph

  • @TawandaClark-ii9ps
    @TawandaClark-ii9ps День назад +18

    A great first date is like going to the cafe shop, to the park, etc.

  • @Daniellemarie10
    @Daniellemarie10 21 час назад +9

    You have to go deeper talking to God is so important praying and figure out the lesson that God is trying to teach you ❤🙏

  • @gina86
    @gina86 15 часов назад +6

    I dumped someone and was feeling a big loss to the point of wanting to apologize and go back. Now I will have to let it burn for as long as it takes. I know he isn’t that good for me, but it’s just attachment conflict fighting with me.

    • @mariannaoosthuizen9639
      @mariannaoosthuizen9639 13 часов назад +6

      @@gina86 don't go back. You spoil your chances for the right man👞

    • @gina86
      @gina86 8 часов назад

      @ Thank you, I will keep going strong.

  • @TawandaClark-ii9ps
    @TawandaClark-ii9ps День назад +10

    Children should not be a "distraction" in a healthy relationship, because the parents would be able to make them fit in the way it completes the family as a whole.

  • @TawandaClark-ii9ps
    @TawandaClark-ii9ps День назад +11

    Attatchment wise..a person has to ask themselves why do one has such an attatchment to that person, because everyone has to learn to take accountability for their own behavior.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  День назад +2

      Well stated 🙏

    • @mariannaoosthuizen9639
      @mariannaoosthuizen9639 16 часов назад

      We have the Holy Spirit inside us to guide us woman. We just have to pay attention and LISTEN ❤

    • @TawandaClark-ii9ps
      @TawandaClark-ii9ps 13 часов назад

      @mariannaoosthuizen9639 It's not just a "woman" situation...

  • @user-fh1tr9zp3l
    @user-fh1tr9zp3l День назад +8

    Only a person with divine wisdom and experience can deliver such
    Stephan this was so so uplifting
    Choice of dating spots can make a huge difference oh YES
    Let's all keep in mind we got to be in it to win it 😅

  • @sarahshaw1990
    @sarahshaw1990 20 часов назад +4

    No never too complicated. I resonate with you always

  • @Benevolent-41
    @Benevolent-41 20 часов назад +2

    Thank You Pastor Stephan... For preaching the Gospel according to Love... Hallelujah...And praise God... I agree with you... You can't make anyone want anybody they don't want... Hallelujah... The true marches on!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! One person's trash is another man's blessing... And when I really walk away... I have a habit of not coming back ever again no matter what... A miracle will truly be needed... For me to come again... God bless you Stephan... Keep breaking it down for those of us who are slow to get it.... And for those of us who are quick to catch it.... Catch what??? The point that's being made here today...🙏🏾

    • @QueenOfCallingSpades
      @QueenOfCallingSpades 19 часов назад

      Where do such foolish spirits arise from? What connection does this video have with the true gospel of Christ? Wayward spirit, return to where you came from. The gospel is not something to be trifled with.
      Do you truly believe that God will withhold justice for such mockery?

  • @SmashMaster
    @SmashMaster 10 часов назад +1

    Stephan, I’ve been following you for several years. Your videos resonate with me. I think we should all loo at what the Bible teaches us about relationships and humble ourselves before god and our fellow men and women.

  • @CreativeSoulsVibe
    @CreativeSoulsVibe 21 час назад +1

    You are sooo right! If only more people heard this and even more importantly, listened. It would save so many lives and people from prolonged profound trauma, pain and heartbreak ❤

  • @HalfSweetness
    @HalfSweetness День назад +11

    I'm listening, best friend. 💕✨️🙏🏽

  • @mashaido
    @mashaido 11 часов назад +2

    Love the new Background

  • @patriciaviii
    @patriciaviii 19 часов назад +7

    I got cheated on and I left him. Never looked back.

    • @lbrar7173
      @lbrar7173 17 часов назад +2

      Adda girl! I did the same.

  • @QueenOfCallingSpades
    @QueenOfCallingSpades 19 часов назад +3

    I found this quite calming to listen to actually 😊
    With that said, I cannot endorse the idea that chasing lust is easier than seeking love. A man who prioritises lust should be prepared to face the long term outcomes that comes with such choices. Love, by its very nature, demands sacrifice, and there is far greater dignity in experiencing rejection when reaching for genuine love than when seeking lustful moments. I would argue both pursuits, in their own way, reveal the essence of one’s character and shape the course of one’s own destiny. So, nothing to be played with.
    The bottom line is, your garden thrives where you choose to nurture it. One cannot labour for lust and expect to be compensated with love; life, and certainly God, does not work that way.
    I think it's perfectly fine for men to choose not to commit to serious relationships if they prefer to explore their options. However, it's equally acceptable for them to miss out on genuine or *true love* as a result.
    Life is short, and while biological clocks affect everyone differently, the reality is that the time spent on men’s indecision or avoidance can come with a high price to women. I suggest to women, find your peace, “settle” down if it suits you, and prioritise stability and your own happiness.
    Sometimes, pursuing the ideal of "true love" or waiting for the “Mr Right” can be more pain than it's worth. Let the man who you loved miss you indeed, go where *you* will be loved.
    *You deserve it*
    ♠️❤♠️❤♠️

  • @TawandaClark-ii9ps
    @TawandaClark-ii9ps День назад +7

    Guys have to make sure they are putting in the equal amount of effort, because he could very well be behabing in a way that may cause the woman to be stand offish.

  • @enaalexis92
    @enaalexis92 2 часа назад

    When I first saw this, I wasn’t really listening as it was on in the background, after listening again, I’m like ‘ oh now I get it’ Thank you 😊

  • @dianaross1055
    @dianaross1055 13 часов назад +2

    thank you for the video 🤎 I needed to hear this 🤝🏼

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  8 часов назад +1

      I’m glad you enjoyed it

    • @dianaross1055
      @dianaross1055 8 часов назад +1

      @@MeetStephanSpeaks glad 🤗 and grateful you still my brother 🤗 I appreciate you always and forever 🤎 you is my beloved brother and teacher with truth thank you and I love you and your heart 🤎💟

  • @Keana43
    @Keana43 День назад +3

    Thanks Stephan I wish it wasn't this hard. Eventually us as people have to not fall to these crazy games people play.❤❤😢

  • @iizzyraymond863
    @iizzyraymond863 23 часа назад +10

    This is the video I have been waiting for to find closure… thank you so much.. I left a toxic marriage recently and my ex suddenly wants me back so bad, I met with him yesterday and could have sworn he’s changed but same doubts I have are ur focal points in this video and there couldn’t be any better explanation… God bless the day I stumbled over ur channel.. ❤

  • @Villanelle007
    @Villanelle007 19 часов назад +1

    Very thought-provoking and powerful. Thank you!

  • @Cindy_Love_2025
    @Cindy_Love_2025 День назад +3

    Wow… excellent quotes! 💯💯💯
    I love it!❤️❤️❤️
    I love that you’re always speaking the truth & sharing wonderful words of wisdom! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
    You’re a remarkable coach!👏🏼❤️☺️💯🌺
    If we’re not careful, we could be getting the wrong advice from people…
    As believers, if we’re not seeking the Lord first in prayer for answers or seeking godly guidance from someone who is lead by God… someone who will instruct us, pray for us & lead us back to God’s Word💯
    then it can be bad advice.

  • @dragoneyes1579
    @dragoneyes1579 11 часов назад

    As always love the message ♥️

  • @SistahJay27
    @SistahJay27 20 часов назад

    You nailed it! Thank you I found this information very helpful. Great video ❤

  • @dandraking2580
    @dandraking2580 21 час назад +2

    I just feel that he would rather be right than happy.
    He blocked me and i haven't tried to contact him.
    He blocked me because i called him out on his BS.
    At the time deep down, i knew my WORTH but i was in my emotions.
    It just hurts because he hasn't contacted me yet.
    Either way, i rather be happy.
    I hope hes right about what he wants but KARMA has a great way of showing the truth.
    So, good luck with your CHOICE
    I know my VALUE and WORTH and i don't have to smell that sh*t his choice has to deal with now.

  • @Ifeoma999
    @Ifeoma999 4 часа назад

    💯Great Video❣️🔥 I believe in True Real Love that only comes from The Most High ☀️🙏🏽 to have an experience of a Soul Connections. I think many men haven't grasped this divine concept of life despite him being "spiritual." He would question his own "faith" that's why he's discombobulated about a woman that's in front of him. He will self sabotage his own happiness without realizing it. Furthermore God give us grace and mercy however that doesn't necessarily mean that "Time" will last there is an expired date when he takes a true real love for granted...

  • @stayitive4343
    @stayitive4343 20 часов назад +3

    An insecure man will feel 'condemned' when you turn your back/No Contact especially if he is avoidant and uses silent treatment to manipulate/control/punish you.

    • @Love2Love927
      @Love2Love927 19 часов назад

      So very true !

    • @iRespectMen
      @iRespectMen 19 часов назад

      ​@@Love2Love927
      What if he ghosted you first and then you go no contact on him afterwards?

    • @Love2Love927
      @Love2Love927 19 часов назад +1

      @@iRespectMen That makes absolutely no sense at all. How can anyone go no contact on someone who ghosted him/her ? That person wouldn’t & doesn’t care anyway. Rite ?

    • @iRespectMen
      @iRespectMen 19 часов назад

      @Love2Love927
      Dismissive Avoidants?

    • @stayitive4343
      @stayitive4343 16 часов назад

      ​@@iRespectMenFor Men, they can feel they did something REALLY BAD for the partner to Not want to talk to them again. They may pursue for closure of you if you respond again ...as in they not that 'bad' or if NPD type 'Hoover' they want attention and not show care and see if you care or they may say you 'bad'. Dismissive Avoidant go back to 'man cave' and give you silent treatment if feel offended/frustrated. NPD type Dismissive Avoidant will do this and also 'control' with silent treatment if you seem 'needy'/'anxious' as they are not their for you/connection. Connection a major obstacle for Dismissive Avoidant even with Empathy. NPD type Avoidant...stay away/toxic...no empathy/manipulating/transactional.

  • @mariannaoosthuizen9639
    @mariannaoosthuizen9639 16 часов назад +6

    Immature guys play games. Mature men know how to treat a woman 👠

  • @lucymulbah6490
    @lucymulbah6490 23 часа назад +4

    Stephan, everything you are talking about is related to my current situations. The sex wasn't enough for me. I want more, but he made it clear to me that he doesn't want a relationship. I have tried cutting him off but my emotions is messing with my head. So now I have decided to date someone else but I'm still thinking about him on a daily basis. How can I deal with my feelings?

  • @CLAUDETTEBELFIELD
    @CLAUDETTEBELFIELD 21 час назад +2

    I am going to refer back to scripture that says he that findeth a wife findeth a good thing and obtain favor from the Lord. I agree that the woman needs to speak with the Lord, but has the man consulted God. Unhealthy attachments are never good, no, but have the man prayerfully gone before the Lord on how to approach the woman. Stephan, I can not say that I fully agree with your take. I agree that a woman does need to be opened, yes. But some responsibility has to be brought to the feet of that man. I am always prayful and very approachable. I am always ready for conversation. I do not feel that it is solely a woman's responsibility for initiation, especially if the man pushed the woman away. I am.opened for room for healing. I have done a great deal of it myself. You have to be truly led by the Lord and not everyone's advice because some ppl will lead you wrong. If the love is truly real, then the person is going to be there. I have been in the helping and social work profession for almost 30 years. I know how to handle ppl. I feel if the man is ready for that woman and ready for a serious conversation, then he just needs to pick up the phone. Simple.

    • @kalimbaayinde25
      @kalimbaayinde25 56 минут назад

      AMEN. These men stay gaslighting women to shift the blame to the woman. Nope.

  • @kashvibatra0208
    @kashvibatra0208 День назад +9

    Just wanted to say this, u r a gem Stephan 💎
    Ur girl will be lucky fosho🍀🤍

  • @gabrielecarter7703
    @gabrielecarter7703 День назад +1

    I understand the underlying issue’s.

  • @Luanaontherun
    @Luanaontherun 18 часов назад +3

    Celibacy videos, please ❤

  • @MariamaThomas-e9f
    @MariamaThomas-e9f День назад +1

    This is my situation at the and I decided to keep of but I love him so much

  • @gabrielecarter7703
    @gabrielecarter7703 День назад +1

    I have been on my own, without a partner in my life for a very long time.

    • @markycypress8484
      @markycypress8484 День назад +1

      Me too. It's getting harder and harder. I used to enjoy being single, now I can't enjoy anything on my own any more.

  • @georginaboateng205
    @georginaboateng205 23 часа назад +1

    Yes sir you said it all tfs

  • @SugarHigh-p3m
    @SugarHigh-p3m День назад +2

    OK I'M REALLY JUST STAYING AWAY!!!!

  • @leonardadriana3276
    @leonardadriana3276 11 часов назад +2

    Stephannnn❤

  • @Someone-tt1po
    @Someone-tt1po День назад +3

    How do you trigger his emotions with my absence? What are the 5 ways ? I didn't understand the how? Stephan.

  • @Portia620
    @Portia620 8 часов назад

    I agree their players they don’t want you dating or talking to anyone else but they’re definitely playing you and then you also got the bull crap people saying oh but I was in love with you and I was scared that I’m more fearful being away from you, but you’re the one to talk to them firstbecause you know you have friendships with certain people that you’ve dated was no real relationship. It was just talking you gotta be able to go on dates to really develop feelings and stuff I think for people.

  • @TomikaVerser-tq6jn
    @TomikaVerser-tq6jn День назад +2

    Because he accused me of so much lying, cheating talking about me and etc and I had to get EPO and I don't want to go through it but I'm not sure what to think about him after that

  • @darlene5848
    @darlene5848 18 часов назад +2

    I understand all this but I am 30 years older than a guy that idk even how it happened but I do love him and he loves me. He helped my daughter when she needed help. I just stayed in touch with him. The big problem he has a 5 year old daughter which is fine, but he stayed with a girl for a week and now the girl says she is pregnant by him. I just don’t think he thinks about the consequences and I sure do not want to catch anything. So I’m just going to let him go because I have 2 grandchildren to take care of and I need someone closer to my age that doesn’t want drama.

  • @SyTheTarotEye
    @SyTheTarotEye День назад +1

    Facts!

  • @nicolebingham821
    @nicolebingham821 21 час назад +1

    35:17 Speak Stephan Speaks!!!

  • @phillenamccollum591
    @phillenamccollum591 12 часов назад +1

    Good grief what happened to just living and learning?❤️🙏🏿
    This is unreal AI stuff no one’s real anymore. Games games games.

  • @SuperLISSHA
    @SuperLISSHA 19 часов назад +1

    Facts

  • @Lizmadethis
    @Lizmadethis 22 часа назад

    okay with the man not believing hes ready- can you go into from a financial standpoint

  • @lbusanez
    @lbusanez 6 часов назад

    What if you told him already it wouldn't work but he keeps just calling evry 6 month just mean I said ot for real. There's still underlying issues even if I took him back as a friend he's still the same

  • @moniqueaugusta5311
    @moniqueaugusta5311 11 часов назад

    Amen 🙏🏽

  • @marijaprotulipacmarkovic7670
    @marijaprotulipacmarkovic7670 8 часов назад

    24:13 - 26:13 👏

  • @Jailene-24
    @Jailene-24 5 часов назад

    What are some good first date ideas?

  • @latonyamorgan1520
    @latonyamorgan1520 2 часа назад

    If he’s not a narcissist then yes he can wake up

  • @SugarHigh-p3m
    @SugarHigh-p3m День назад +1

    OK WHAT THE HELL IS GOING ON NOW and WHO THE HELL IS IT INVOLVED!?!?!?!!?!?????

  • @TomikaVerser-tq6jn
    @TomikaVerser-tq6jn День назад +4

    😢

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  День назад +2

      Why the sad face?

    • @TomikaVerser-tq6jn
      @TomikaVerser-tq6jn День назад

      He has said so much to hurt me, threatening me and more won't trust me or believe me it's just more than I can take especially when I love him but my life more..

  • @anjaxtv
    @anjaxtv 22 часа назад +2

    I'm truly starting to hate them.. they can never appreciate a good woman they want to bad girl 💯

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  21 час назад +3

      The right man will be able to appreciate a good woman

  • @Lea-d4z
    @Lea-d4z 18 часов назад

    👍🏿👍🏿

  • @BrookeLyn39
    @BrookeLyn39 21 час назад

    A man only has so much time.
    His equipment will not function early in the game.
    A woman will always function.
    Go figure.

  • @theresebengtsson2192
    @theresebengtsson2192 17 часов назад

    🥰🤗

  • @gabrielecarter7703
    @gabrielecarter7703 День назад

    I have not been dating anyone.

  • @iRespectMen
    @iRespectMen 19 часов назад +5

    Please make your videos shorter. Unnecessarily long

    • @believe-gj6ds
      @believe-gj6ds 17 часов назад +4

      @irespectmen Please make sure you go find those shorter videos. You don't control others actions and choices.

    • @iRespectMen
      @iRespectMen 17 часов назад

      @believe-gj6ds
      But you want to control mine 😏

    • @tess7798
      @tess7798 8 часов назад

      @@iRespectMen You are the consumer on RUclips and you need to shop around for videos of the right length with the right message for you. The creator or producer of a video values feedback I am sure, but obviously they make the decision that works best for them even if it means not making everybody happy

    • @iRespectMen
      @iRespectMen 8 часов назад

      @tess7798
      Ok 🤷

    • @kalimbaayinde25
      @kalimbaayinde25 54 минуты назад

      Thank you. Because it’s lies. 😂😂😂😂

  • @tamarapreyeprincesswaritim5382
    @tamarapreyeprincesswaritim5382 13 часов назад

    Stephen can we just get to the point! Since 2 hours?

  • @marylalrinawmihrangkhol2797
    @marylalrinawmihrangkhol2797 День назад +2

    😢