Weekly Q&A - Being Adopted | Babybellykelli
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- Опубликовано: 11 июл 2024
- This is in response to all the emails and questions I got after my last Q&A video relating to being adopted and how it affects me. It's pretty lengthy and unedited so you see everything that goes on in my house hold, lol. Also i say the same thing over and over again, luckily I some how didn't cry throughout the whole thing.
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Isn't it weird how even though adoption is so common, that it can still feel so lonely? I too feel lonely at times, but because of this video and you guys' comments now know that I'm not and that is an amazing feeling to finally experience at the age of 25 :)
It doesn't matter what your circumstances are, being adopted is being adopted and just as difficult from one person to another. Just because one's situation may seem more empty than another's, doesn't mean they don't suffer the same. :) Stay strong and thanks for the kind comment. Please feel free to stay in touch. I've decided to make Adoption Videos regular thing here :)
I know this vlog is a bit old. It's a shame that people have to comment negatively when you share your heart. It must be hard not being able to fill those holes in adoption. You're either the world best actress or truly honest. I think honest. 😀 your a breath of fresh air. Being adopted having all these questions and not knowing would be the worst. It must be so hard to have this and trying to set it aside.Thank you Kelli, live long, love strong.
:) Thank you
Thank you so much :) I'm glad that I can come off to people as a strong person, because i'm not all the time :) I really appreciate you taking the time to watch the LONG video though and especially appreciate this lovely comment!
I am so sorry to hear that you are having a hard time. I cannot imagine what being adopted at the age of three would feel like. If you ever need someone to talk to, I'm here! Hugs :)
Aw, you're very welcome! Thank YOU for watching and sharing part of your story :) It is always amazing when I get to talk to anyone who feels the same as me. You are gorgeous by the way! Hope that doesn't sound creepy :) But I bet your birth mother is as well :) Please keep in touch, I'd love to know how you're doing!
I would love to think that way and do most of the time. Thank you :)
Late to the party here...To the person that said don't you think its wrong to have your own children instead of adopt...Hater comment, period..NO WAY should you feel guilty for having your own children, biologically..GOD gave you that right..period..
melrose795 Thank you
Thank you so much. Wow, 5 years old! My cousin was adopted when he was 8 and I know how hard of a time he had with his adoption. My heart goes out to you! Please stay in touch! I'd love to know how you're doing :)
Helen. Thank you so much for your comment and your email. I am so sorry that I haven't been able to respond to you yet. I have read your email though and am anxious to write a reply :) Please be expecting one soon!
Thank you my friend :)
I almost killed him after I saw your comment! I didn't even realize it till you said something, lol. I'm kind of happy that he messed around with it, kind of made the whole video a little lighter :)
Recently found your channel. Love hearing your heart. My husband and I have adopted through the foster system but my children are ethnically different from us and I feel like I have gained more knowledge on how to help them in the future through you. My husband was also adopted. For what it's worth... you are such a beautiful woman! So so beautiful! I pray you find inner peace.
thank you!
I am so sorry for what you went through and are still going through. I can't imagine your situation and would dare to say that I understand how you feel. Everyone's circumstances are different and I hope that you can someday meet people that you feel like you can trust. I know that sounds difficult, but if you ever need to talk my email is open to you.
Thank you :)
Thank you so much! Any time you are in the area and up for a coffee date I'd love to have a long talk :)
Wow! How much you've grown since this video! Your so much more confident, which I guess is to be expected since you've been on RUclips so long! But I love going back to your older videos and seeing your growth! I almost wish I had a video library of myself and my family to see all the changes and to look back on memories! Love ❤️ your channel so much!!
Look at that sweet little baby!! Signing for "more", so smart. You're so strong Kelli. Living without those huge pieces of your life. Loving and mothering every day in the wake of what you've been through. More power and love to you! Thank you for wading through your emotions and making this for us.
all of my kiddos did signing :) It was so helpful. Thank you for this kind comment :)
This is really great! I really appreciate how honest and sincere you are about everything in this video, which by the way, is really hard to do when you're talking about something very personal. Keep up the great work!
I know this is an old video but I really enjoyed hearing your thoughts on adoption. I'm also an adoptee from Korea, I was abandoned at age 18 months and adopted at 2.5 years. My name and birthday are unknown as well, and I've struggled with that too. What you said about Ava really connected with me. No one prepared me for what it would be like to have a child and finally be blood related to someone and have someone look like you! I may vlog about that one day. It's truly powerful. If you ever need to talk to someone about being adopted, I'm here and I understand!
Sunni Nicole Aw, thanks Sunni.
This describes exactly how I feel even though I suppress these feelings on a daily basis. I am 20 years old adopted from China and I sooo agree that it sucks not knowing anything about yourself before your adoption, for me being 6 months. I feel like talking about these issues is not very mainstream. It is hard for me to talk to most people even my closest about these struggles since not very many people experience it themselves, and because I have had a great childhood with very loving parents who are well off financially well off, it is hard for people to see why I have so many issues. Sorry this response is kindof all over the place, but I am so glad I found this channel you seem like a very wonderful woman that is very beautiful inside and out, and I hope that I will be happily married with children of my own like you some day :)
dsghyjd I completely agree. My parents were pretty well off towards my highschool years (we were lower class when I was younger) so NO ONE understood me when I was older and having issues. I was also sexually abused when I was younger by a family member which made it worse, but no one understood. I truly hope that you know that even though you were blessed with a great life doesn't mean you don't have the right to feel pain, abandonment, or loss, because you have every right to and no one who hasn't gone through what we have will ever understand that.
I never thought how good I have it just knowing where I come from and having baby pictures and family history. I know this video is old but still, sending many hugs ❤
Both of my sisters were adopted. I can't imagine my life without them. Thank you for this video. A lot of the things you spoke of are the same things my sisters deal with. My parents always said their birth mothers loved them enough to give them up when they couldn't care for them and that my parents loved them enough to adopt so they have to sets of parents that love them. ps they're both older than me. I was an oops so I got to hear "mom and dad wanted us, they had to have you!". No one ever denied it. lol .
I can't believe someone got rude about that. Why the hell do they think that we owe anything and have to adopt just because we are adopted. Stupid! I am adopted and am mixed (black/white). My adoptive family is all white. I thought about adopting because I could relate to what a child would go through but I didn't. I couldn't afford it either and I would've been a single parent. I ended up having a daughter when I was 23. I kept her and besides wanting her I also couldn't imagine not knowing my parents and then not knowing my child as well. I HAD to have someone that looked like me....and she definitely DOES!! I can totally relate to what you said about breaking up with someone first and being bullied and not trusting! OMGosh, I think we ALL feel that way. Especially when we look totally different from our whole family!
I think that there should be a community for every adopted kid
I just found you, and I love you already. Thank you for sharing this and love watching your husband playing with your guys kids, a lot of fathers get home from work and don't do that. Thumbs up for the both of you.
Thank you :) That is so nice of you to say. I am very lucky to have a very involved father too my children :)
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Thank you for posting this my boyfriend was adopted from South Korea also and his a lot of the same issues which came a lot more into play 2 years ago when his sister decided to adopt from South Korea but I think having the bond with his nephew has helped him.
Thank you so so very much for this video. It really hits home for me and I'm sorry you went through this too. Honestly sadly it kinda feels reassuring to know I'm not alone in those feelings.
I'm a gay black man from South Africa. Desperate to adopt. I just wanted to say thank you so much for sharing your story. Also really glad that you & your husband & child seem so happy & like open & stuff. You seem to have scored big time in that respect (from the video). Wishing you love & light :)
Steven Lee I hope that you can have a successful adoption soon! I do not know the feeling of longing for children, but I have many close friends who struggle with infertility and adopting children as well. I recently donated my eggs to one of my best friends and she and her husband are currently in their second trimester from the use of my donation. My sister and her partner also struggle with having children too. Much love and luck to you on your journey!
Thank you for this video and your honesty.
I just started watching your channel starting with the newest and going backwards and I must say you seem to be in a much better place now. You seem so sad in this video. I am so sorry that people were rude to you over something like this. Thank you for sharing your story
I know this video is old but I'm new to the channel and just checking it out...you are very brave to get in front of a camera and share such personal stuff. keep being brave and strong!!💙
Thanks for sharing your experience. As an adoptee I appreciate hearing your honesty and it sounds like you've got lots of self awareness.
I'm 37 and I also am dealing with grief on a regular basis.
If you want to figure out your birthday some people have success using the ancient Indian astrology system, Vedic astrology. You can get what's called a rectification reading.
You would list major life events and the dates and an astrologer could very likely narrow down some dates, within a few days or so depending on how much information they can use from what you provide. Of course you might not get 100% success but it's an option to try.
PS. I love how you stop and go help your kid during the video. He's adorable and seem like a good mom. I imagine that having your own children is healing for adoptees. Like you said, to have blood relations is really something nice to feel.
Thanks so much for this. It really gave me a lot of insight into issues that adoptees have. I only wish I had that insight earlier, so that I might have been able to help a high school friend/adoptee. He was a really good guy and friend, and everyone had a really high opinion of him... everyone except himself, causing himself so much self-loathing and self-destructive behavior. Really, really sad to see that. I just wish that I had been able to ease his pain a little.
Anyway, I want you to know that you are a beautiful lady (both inside and outside) and you are absolutely deserving of love, inner peace and happiness in every way.
Im just sending you my greatings all the way from Antwerp. Im sitting here studying and watching you video. Wish you all the best and you should be proud of yourself.
Thank you for sharing so honestly Kelli. I really enjoyed seeing your family in the background (your son is such a cutie!). I'm an older Korean adoptee (among the 1st wave to come in the 50's). I can say that our challenges have been much the same (probably most intercultural adoptees in general, no matter our age), so I hope that what I'm about to share is does not make you feel invalidated in any way. (I can honestly say that I can get what you're saying and TRULY understand.) Because of my age, I've had a lot time and opportunity to work through my emotional struggles and I have learned that I can reframe what's making me feel sad and hurt, which in turn can alleviate and resolve my internal struggles around it. So for me, I had to start looking for the "silver lining" so I could have a different way of looking at it; thus a different focus. Because I was often thinking from an angle of what I didn't have, then I always felt sad, empty, and/or at a disadvantage, and I was so tired of feeling disempowered. It takes lots of practice, but I promise we can start to change our emotions merely by thinking about our situations differently. So for instance, around not knowing my family history, I have the freedom of not being locked into their expectations or being fearful of medical conditions that may or may not affect me. Our minds are so powerful that we can easily perpetuate our own realities, whether it's positive or negative. Please feel free to contact me if you'd like to know more. Also, you have EVERY RIGHT, just like non-adoptees, to have your own biological child. In fact, because we don't have connection to anyone else who looks like us, I feel it's an especially important choice we should be able to make. Keep up the good work Kelli. You're a great mom and person!
You're very welcome. I do try to see the good and I am getting better at it...because I was sexually abused as a child by a family member it is a little more difficult at times, but we all have our difficult pasts that we have to learn to grow from :)
BabyBellyKelli I'm so sorry you had to go through that Kelli. :'( I can definitely tell you try to see the good for sure because you have such a good heart and come from a place of wanting to help. My reply was motivated by the pain you experience every day, as well as wanting to address people who were unrightly implying that you were being selfish by not adopting. I went through decades of daily pain also, and wanted to share what was helpful for me. I'm not sure that it would work for everyone, but wanted to share anyway, just in case. :)
Lisa Reed Guarnero The main thing I had to change and practice hard at was to shift my focus from what brought me emotional pain, and to give more energy and time to what I could be grateful for. Not that what makes us sad isn't at all valid or that we should never think about it. But to learn to give it less energy and time and to give more energy and time to what we have, and as you said, how we grew from the challenges in our lives. The trick for me was to discover how I benefited; like how the extreme abuse I experienced from my adoptive mother made me super strong, a good problem solver and someone who is passionate about fairness, compassion, and peaceful resolutions. It is super important to find ways to heal ourselves, and please keep in mind that it took me decades to get to where I am now. So in no way am I making a "You just have to..." statement.
I celebrate it on the 22nd which is the birthday that my adopted parents gave me :)
Wow! I found this video to be very inspiring. Even though you had a tough start and struggle with it a lot you seem to be an incredibly strong person. I really enjoyed listening to your story and I'm sorry that it is so hard on you but I think all of your experiences shaped you into the wonderful person and mother you are today!:) and also, kids can be so cruel. It's horrible that you were made fun of. You are beautiful! Thanks for sharing your story!:) -Kelsey (KelsN Trev on Facebook)
Pretty and confident. Nice video. Very honest.
great video, i have the same feeling that how can you trust someone if you cant trust your parents. My parents divorced and i lived with my mom (who is very loving) so i am not in the same situation as you. But i can definitely understand you because all my life i was having issues because of being left by one parent. I could never understand how one parent can leave you, and if one could that means the other might do the same thing. So i was very attached to my mother.
this video was so beautiful! I'm glad you were able to get it all out. I do have a question though, since you don't know your exact birth date, when or do you celebrate your birthday?
Wow your answers to those adoption questions basically summed up a lot of issues I am having because I myself am adopted from South Korea. Just wanted to let you know how amazing it was to finally find someone with such similar emotions because my councillor helps but not entirely. Thank you for your honesty and I'd really like to email you coz I'm 18 and going through issues that u may have had too
We have a lot in common I was adopted 14 days after birth to catholic charities and then adopted again a month later in chicago suburbs but I was born in north side of chicago. I'm scared to have kids or adopt kids because I don't show affection easily. I have problems getting close to people and everyone tells me I always have my guard up. Like you I struggle with identity problems and i often change personalities around different people.to anyone thats adopting a kid please love them please be understanding be open minded let them express themselves let them have someone to talk to. My brothers and I whom are all adopted have lost ourselves to drugs because our parents are so conservative. We are good kids but we are damaged kids who needed more loving than the average kid and we never got that. We got a extremely judgmental "dad" who is never home and doesn't even seem like he wanted kids and a bipolar mom. For me the hardest part is my birth mom never told my birth dad she was pregnant with me its hard to think theirs some man who doesn't even know about his own daughter. To anyone else thats adopted I love you
Thank u so much for sharing!!! i can totally rely on everything u said and experienced as an adoptee. I am adopted. Also from korea. I was adooted when i was around 5 years... And my biggest dream is also to have a single baby photo. Wish u all the best!!!
Also..my mother had like 3 miscarriages and was unable to have children..so I'm glad to be her child because she was a fantastic mother (she died last year)
I'm a new subscriber but I wanted to say, you are incredible! Absolutely beautiful! I hate that you have this struggle that you're having to carry around. Have you done the genetic testing that's available now (I see this video was in 2012 and I don't remember if things like Ancestry was around then)? I'm not adopted but I had it done because I felt like something was missing and discovered that my lineage was completely different than I had been told. It helped me fill that void and find a peace that I needed.
thank you so much. I have done 23 and me and plan on doing an updated video on it and my adoption search soon when I can wrap my head around it :)
My God I totally agree with you you know I don't like to talk about my adoption and I was adopted by very very wealthy Jewish family and I never really got along with them in to this day I'm 25 I still can't have a normal conversation with them
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I'm also adopted. Thanks for sharing. I don't know what it's like to have a mother. I'm 27 now.
I'm getting very protective of you. We have a lot in common. I also don't like getting touched. But I'm loving. Weird, huh.
I empathize with you, Kelli. Please do know that it's very possible that your biological parents loved you deeply to enable you to find better life/opportunities than what they could afford you. Korea was a very poor country before the '88 Olympics that most Americans aren't able to comprehend, and there weren't many support options, if any, back then. I'm sure you've connected with Korean adoptee groups, e.g., KAAN, IKAA, KoreanAmericanStory.org, and perhaps you've viewed documentaries on Korean war and Korean adoptee stories on RUclips, e.g., Shelby Redfield Kilgore. I believe these help strengthen our inner peace. Was it a destiny for you to meet your parents, your husband, your child(ren)...? The Vey Best to you and yours!
I was in foster care for almost my whole life...I got put in care when I was just a baby....so I have no remembrance of my biological parents or why they had to give me up. But it was just one foster home after another. I had to carry all of my stuff in a garbage bag from home to home. In school all of the kids that had a home knew that I was a fists kid...so that troubled me...and I probably have more trust issues than you do.....there was this one set of foster parents that I loved. They took
I'm sorry you've felt this way :(. We are adopting our boys through foster care and I hope they never feel this way.
Tiffany Wheeler I hope so too!
I hope you read the Primal Wound. You'll be doing a great service to your kids and yourself. It's very likely they WILL have difficult feelings and it will help if you're conscious of that so you can support them in acknowledging the loss of connection and the grief that comes along with that.
They still have frequent contact with their birth gma/gpa, aunts, uncles, and cousins on their dads side and their bio siblings and I have contact with their birth mom/dad so I'm hoping that helps them have a sense of where they came from and who they are.
Me to their home for three years. Then I Ruined a painting. Not on purpose I just accidentally Made it fall over. Without a hesitation they both brought me back into care. I was in foster care for my whole life. My grandmother brought me home and she promised me that she would never leave me. That was when I was 13 years old. I am 17 years old now but I still cannot fully trust her
Aww your son signed more
I totally got it when you said you *You didnt know your blood type*, and *Dont know the hospital you were born at*...cause I have no idea to this day..and Im 39 years old. Again, I get it when you are talking about relationships..there are a few problems there with that also. Did your parents change your last name right away? That time was very confusing for me...I was glad to take on their last name, but it was weird, cause bullys would make fun of my other name which was french, and they didnt know how to pronounce it, nor did they try. Family health history is another big one. Trust issues is another big thing...fear of getting close to anyone, anyone at all, specially a mate. Fantasy world is a big part of being adopted. HOW dare someone ask you *how come you didnt adopt because you were adopted*...how dare they?!?!?! I loved the line you said about having your *own lineage*...It is so important, you know they are part of you where other people weren't bloodlinely...you know what I mean...I loved this video. I'd love to have baby pictures of myself before 14 months...I'd love to know my birthday and how old I really am., and my blood type for sure.
Thank you so much for all these great thoughts. :): Didnt know how to email you...but I subscribed so I get to watch all of your videos now :) Thanx again, Nikki (not my birth name) lol
There are a lot of people struggle with their relationship with their biological parents. It's probably hard to be adopted but it's also hard to have to live with biological parents who doesn't love you unconditionally or understand you at all. (For example, my mom and I don't understand each other at all and my mother and her mother don't understand each other. I came all the way to a different country to be as far away as I could be from them.). Check out 23andme if you want to know about what you're susceptible to genetically. Having a biological parent doesn't help if you can't really communicate with them (my experience). Also you need to learn not to ever trust anyone too much. No one can ever understand anyone completely. I don't tell my mother (or anyone) everything about my life because I learned not to "trust" people with everything (she turns really mean as soon as I show her my vulnerable side) . I think you have to be responsible for what kind of information you give them (depends on their personalities) and don't be bitter about how they use the information. For me, I had to come to the realization that humans are naturally selfish. I think you should learn about psychology (&neuroscience) and maybe focus on the happy things that happened to your life. The only person who unconditionally loves me is myself. (Although my boyfriend says he loves me unconditionally, I don't know whether that's true even if my appearance & personality change completely. Everyone loves me for my "cute" face & happy & bubbly personality and I accept that). I used to wish when I was a teenager that I had "real" parents who I could connect to and love. I'm not trying to be mean. I just wanted to give people another perspective.
When do you celebrate your birthday?
It is not selfish not to adopt. Whether you were or not adopted. it is no for everyone and adopting because you were adopted would not be a good enough reason.
Sorry if this is out of line, but you mentioned some "deep seeded issues," might these be associated with a fear of abandonment? If so, do you have any problems with any uncontrollable anger/rage? My understanding is this may be apart of something called borderline personality disorder. Am I off base? Any insight would be greatly helpful to me personally. Thank!
I don't think that applies to me. I asked my husband and he says I definitely do not have uncontrollable anger/rage as I have full control over my emotions and can direct that at him at any time ;) but seriously, no, I do not have any of the issues you have mentioned except for the fear of abandonment which has gotten a lot better.
Thanks for that. I'm beginning to realize that the BPD might be more of a genetic predisposition that is compounded when that person undergoes early childhood trauma (like abandonment). And from what I saw in the few videos I watched of you, you definitely seem generally very happy, positive, in control of your emotions, and in a steady state, not what I've witnessed with BPD. I forget, but I think you mentioned that you were adopted before the age of 1?
Regarding the slim chance of finding your biological parents. There is a new type of DNA test, i.e., autosomal DNA, that was only developed about 3 years ago, that is quite a game changer in helping adoptees, orphans, or even FOUNDLINGS, to find their biological families. There are only three companies that offer the atDNA test, they are American, and not too many people from Asian countries have submitted DNA samples at this time, but all it takes is one family member to test and...
Dear sister BBKelli,
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and honest lifestory. Not knowing you, but we would like to say that We simply Love You sooooooooooooooooooooo much!
btw what is your Korean name? Wish you all the best! also with John...
Hong Gil Dong Sr Aw, thank you so much. It blows me away that there are people who care that much :) My korean name was Yang. Standard and given to me by the orphanage.
You are also a Korean and the sad thing is that you have to deal with being an adoptee with it's dillema's. We know exactly how difficult this is for you and other adoptees too. Really.Don't forget that there are people out there who loves Korean adoptees so much. Korean adoptees named :Yang" are special!
So do you not know your birthdate? You said you didnt know anything due to being left at a shelter so was just wondering. Sorry if it's a stupid question or I somehow misunderstood. If so though how did you choose what your bday would be?
Jeeze I asked too soon I see now you answered my question. Sorry
I was adopted from Seoul South Korea from a upper class Japanese american father and a italian american mother at 6 months, I have to say I really didn't have many problems growing up I've had a very privileged and wonderful life..my dad speaks korean so thankfully I grew up bilingual and with some culture..but I don't know maybe I don't have as many issues because one of my parents is asian. :s
I personally don't want to find my Birth Parents they Didn't want me then why would they want me now?
I have almost no chance to find my biological parents. When I was put up for adoption, where I was, you aren’t allowed to enter the agency. So they left me on the steps in front. Judging by my size and the fact the umbilical cord seemed new, they presumed I was put up for adoption the same day I was born. I waited a year, but found a family who flew across the world for me. I am from China, and I still have my Chinese name except it’s now a middle name, not my first and last. So I also don’t know if I’m fully Chinese or mixed.
First, I wanted to tell you how beautiful you are! Thank you so much for sharing part of your journey. I am adopted from Korea, too. I can definitely relate to much of your adoption journey, as well as being physically and sexually abused. I admire your courage and strength very much. People who are not adopted will never understand what we as adoptees experience and endure throughout our lives; we experience so much loss at such a young age, and the trauma we experience as a result of being adopted often plays out throughout the rest of our lives (not very articulately stated, I'm sorry! Haha!) I wish you the best in your personal journey. My adoptive family situation was very difficult, but I would not be who I am without being adopted either. I am going back to our homeland for the first time since being adopted to Minneapolis, Minnesota twenty-seven years ago. I just turned twenty-nine. If you're interested in going back, check out meandkorea.org. This organization offers tours for KADs (Korean Adoptees) every year for individuals, family tours, and Hapa or half Korean Adoptees, usually older KADs who were adopted because they are biracial (many of their fathers were American GIs and their mothers were/are Korean.) On a whim, I completed an application, and two of my friends wrote reference letters for me. I was one of twenty-six KADs selected for the tours. The tour lasts for ten days, and EVERYTHING is paid for except airfare and any personal experiences (souvenirs, goodies, etc. :).) I am still so humbly blessed and shocked that I was even accepted. The organization is able to fund all of us returning KADs in exchange for our journey to be filmed for a documentary by one of the largest Korean production company, KBS, to bring awareness to the "native" Korean people about the lives of KADs. I worry that this documentary will exploit us even more, putting our already emotional and often painful experiences out there when adoption is still so taboo over there, but many of us going think that this trip of a lifetime, the first time for most of us, is worth the price of being filmed when all room, board, and transportation is paid for. There are 220,000 Korean adoptees in the United States, Europe, and Australia, and many of us are returning to Korea to learn about our roots. I hope you are able to return, when and if you choose to go. :)
I grew up in the inner city around many KADs and people of color, and was in Korean dance for ten years. I can still read Korean, but can't speak for shit. Haha! Like you, I still feel so much disconnect to the Korean culture. There are many KAD groups on Facebook, if you're ever interested in connecting. Some people know a lot about Korean culture, and some have never tried Kimchi or seen another KAD in their life, so there is a wide spectrum of experiences. It is a wonderful support. I have met some amazing people who understand my emotions and feelings, who support the journeys we endure. Anyways, sorry for such a long message, but I just wanted to connect with you and thank you for sharing your adoption journey! ^_^
Brenna McHugh Wow, thank you so much for sharing your story and that website! i'll have to look into it! I can't even imagine what it woul dbe like to experience going back to Korea. Since I was 18 months old I feel like I did have a part of korea in me when I left there to come the states, and it feels weird that I've lost it. sometimes I wonder if that's why I can't truly feel like I fit in here. I hope you have a wonderful time in Korea! I will send my thoughts and prayers with you.
Thank you for responding! :) Thank you very much. I know, I felt like a stranger in my own family, disconnected from society, trying to be am individual and trying to be Korean and American, all while feeling like I was in limbo between both cultures.
You are a pretty girl and a beautiful woman:) For what its worth:)
I'm 50 and don't know my blood type. Who am I?
btw... why is it selfish to want to have your own children!? The only problem with being a vlogger is putting yourself out there. Opinions are like noses, everyone has one. You have every right not to want to adopt.
Maybe your biological parents gave you up because they loved you so much and couldn't give you the life they wanted for you.