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Being Adopted From South Korea Part 1
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- Опубликовано: 14 июн 2012
- Hey this is just my experience being adopted at 5 months old from Seoul, South Korea and living in Australia with Irish parents. Any questions or feedback email me at helenogrady@live.com
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Also check out my 'Being Adopted From South Korea and Now Pregnant Part 2' video! Thanks for watching xoxo
• Video Heres a quick thank you and update :)
ALSO PLEASE CHECK OUT MY FELLOW KOREAN ADOPTEES BLOG Ra Chapman who's found her birth dad and is also acting in the new Aussie drama Wentworth which is so good -
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Helen, thank you for sharing your story and speaking to all the interracial adoptees out there who face similar challenges on a daily basis. My girlfriend is adopted from Korea (we live in the states) by German-Irish American parents and she wanted to thank you as well for sharing your experiences as she can connect to them on a personal level as well.
Couldn't help but smile at you resenting your mother for sending you to Oz High School. As someone who works at a Korean High School believe me, the kids call each other "fat" (piggy) and "ugly" (too many to name). They are brutal!
My ex is a Korean Adoptee. I know how much of a struggle it can be. The fear of abandonment. She was also adopted at 6 months. She would always use an analogy that when the fear of abandonment would arise it was like she was a twig standing in the middle of a desert. A single gust of wind would blow her away. She had a lot of the same issues you do. Rebelled with piercings etc. Recently she made a trip back to Korea to see it. It made a huge impact on her. It opened a lot of scary doors, too.
Hello! My name is Elizabeth!!!! I am adopted, native american, but since my parents are caucasian it's been a very similar trial throughout my life as yours! Recently, last September I gave birth to a baby girl too and am 20 years old! I've been thinking a long time about making a video expressing my story and feelings. You inspire me so much with all your videos and knowing I'm not the only one out there either!
Wow I'd love to hear more about her trip and it is so comforting to know other korean adoptees feel similarly. Thanks :)
20 year old male here adopted from Busan, Korea currently living in Michigan, USA
being adopted is a blessing because you are given this life living in a loving family and you might feel personal issue but it does not matter because you are given a chance to live with a family.
your life is filled with so much interesting experience
Thank you :) hope you both have happy lives :)
I do agree that supporting mothers where they live is important and it does make a difference, otherwise we wouldn't be involved. It's just that it would be naive to think that this would solve the problem. If I had the means and knew there was something I could do to help a mom keep her child I would totally do it. My son's mom didn't want to give him up, but there wasn't anything I could personally do. I can't imagine how devastating that must have been and she is a very brave woman.
Helen: I am going to share this with my wife, Tia, when she's home from work. She's from Pusan/Busan South Korea, an orphan of a South Korean lady and an American GI. Since she was 6 she's grown up in Texas and Kansas. She'll be excited to meet you, I believe. We're overwhelmed about how Creator God has kept us for where we are today. Pressing on, Kenny
I also want to apologize to you Helen, for using this forum to discuss my opinions. This is your story, not mine. Again I thank you for sharing with everyone. You are a very mature and brave woman for being so honest. I wish you the best.
Also, mlovmo, I don't mean any negativity towards you and your insight. It just disgust me to think that people would think that adoption is a selfish act of simply trafficking children into homes as some sort of trophy. We love our children.
It's hard to deal with 'who you are' questions...As Korean who've been brought to U.S. at 11 (with my parents), I faced similar social confusion and 'racism(?)'. I hope you will find many joys in your future and just enjoy life as it is. Those things should not be bothered with skin of your color or your origin.
Hi Helen! You are not alone! Adopted from Seoul, I'm 26 living in Michigan USA :))) always neat to hear everyone's story thank you for sharing.
Both my older sisters had been adopted from Korea. As a kid I thought I was too.
My heart broke when I realized I was just a white girl from the US.
Awww
I am adopted from Seoul, South Korea. I was brought to the states at 8 months. My 15 year old brother is adopted as well. We visited out foster parents 2 years ago in Korea. have you ever thought about seeing your birth mom? Im thinking about it but I feel like it would change my life
please dont apologize for using this to discuss your opinions, I love hearing everybody's thoughts on this so thank you :)
yeah thanks for your opinion! just great connecting with other korean adoptees and adoptees around the world! :)
I can completely relate to you when you speak about being teased. My adoptive family looks and are Hispanic, and I have a mixed racial look. I was teased by kids in my neighborhood called a "nigger". That's what I was referred to when people ask why I look different. I went through the piercing tattoo phase too. Well I still love it! I went through my bouts of anger and going to jail a few times. I finally got it together years later and I realize that everything happens for a reason....
First, thank you Helen for sharing your story. My heart was broken as I listened.
mlovmo, society should do a lot of things differently, but society isn't perfect. Even if society was perfect, people aren't. Women aren't required to attend classes or be psychoanalyzed before being allowed to become pregnant. This leaves children in homes that aren't safe environments, teenage parents who have no desire to be parents, or there are socioeconomic issues that leave them in desperate situations.
Oh and we adopted from South Korea. Don't know how to post a hyperlink, but if you search "Something beautiful half a world away" you will see a small video my wife made of our adoption story. Sorry that my comments were so rushed but I do have a three year old now, haha. If anyone has any questions comment on the video and I'm sure my wife would be happy to talk.
Hey Helen - just stumbled across you RUclips channel. There was mention on the fb groups about a lack of literature and films from Aussie KADs, so I thought I'd google. :)
Omg..my name is sara and im useing my bf youtube but I came across ur video and I started to cry I am an adopted korea...and I can relate to everything u been threw ...and its great to know that I'm not alone out here ...everything you have said spoke to me and how I felt all my life...
hi there from a korean adoptee in new jersey, you posted this a few years ago, but i'm just starting a vlog about my adoptee journey. hope you're well!
thanks for sharing your story. I am also adopted from south Korea. I was adopted in 1980 . I was adopted in the US.
I feel you. I am a black Brazilian Australian who was adopted from Brasil. I have lived in white first world Australia and I have lived in the favelas in Black and mixed Brasil. It's hard being a black Brazilian Australian. I know racism and I know what narrow minded people are like. Eu entendo o que você está dizendo.
Hugs Helen! Amazing :) Even I can't speak this freely yet...I hope this helps you as much as meeting you and others have helped me :) Love you!
Kelli
Awww thank you!!! Much love back and thank you for your kind words, it really made my day :D
no matter what you say or do....you will always be korean! remember where you came from....dont you ever forget that.....
I was adopted from Seoul Korea at the age of 6mos and I have a family friend whose brother and herself were adopted from korea as well! =) us 3 were adopted through Holt International.. Anyways if you want to know more let me know! =)
I hear you Seoul Sister!! x
Identity is so important to embrace. I think every person of ethnicity has this sort of journey living in a "foreign" land. I know I did. Thanks for sharing your story!
thanks for the video.. i was adopted and grown up in adelaide.. 37 yrs old now... dont know why i am interested in looking up adoption stuff now.. but yehs thanks for sharing your story... cant find anything on here bout other aussie adopted krns... i see this vid is 11 yrs old so dont know if u even use this chan anymore. saw ur other vid about the book.. i wish for you a beautiful life and just read it after getting it off ebay.. hope u are having a good life with your fam.
that's great to hear sara i'm really happy you could relate to :) please feel free to email me to talk more, sorry I'm a little caught up with being a mum but would love to hear from you :)
You're an angel
Google "TWINSTERS by Samantha Futerman." Adopted from South Korea, raised on different continents & connected through social media, Samantha & Anaïs believe they are twins separated at birth.
If you ever need someone to talk to please feel free to email me.
I'm adopted from Seoul Korea. I don't have any Korean adoptee friends, not many Korean friends. Nice video :) this is an old video, any updates?
I'm a Korean adoptee, and I don't know anybody else adopted from Korea, but I do know a lot of people adopted from China 😀
Adopted around 3 months from seoule south korea. :)
No argument there. I basically agree with you....it's just that it MIGHT be better to put at least as much effort into supporting mothers where they live as we put into sourcing and acquiring "cute little thangs" from less-fortunate places.
I'm not Korean or adopted but I wish I had your accent. Its beautiful! and so are you ;D
This experience is shared by any Asian living in the western world, adopted or not.
I really like your video. I know how you feel I'm adopted from china and I have a sister who is also adopted from china
Hey Hellen! I was also adopted from Seoul Korea when I was 5 months old from Holt International Adoptiona agency. I am 27 and live in Pennsylvana. I'd love to get to know you and talk to you about being adopted!
I'm not so certain (international) adoption is such a great idea. It's a good second option; Society should emphasize supporting mothers where they are, so that moms don't have to give up their kids to another family in the first place. Adoptive parents are mostly adopting kids for the right reasons, but I've seen some adoptive parents of Korean or Chinese kids who do it because they think the kids are just "cute little things," not thinking that they are actually raising ADULTS not dolls.
You are a beautiful girl and very intelliegent. The real parents give as much as they can, but when you grow anough Life wants you to rescue yourself alone; solve the problems alone, because that is how this world realy turns around. Being honest to yourself;taking responsibility for your own actions, setting up goals in life;shareing your feelings and analyzing what happend-what you did-what other did-what you will change and decideing - doing...are the basics any adult should know.SendingLOVE
Continued... Many cultures don't support domestic adoption. I know that for the most part South Korea is one of these countries. That means that these children would end up in an orphanage until they age out. Once they age out their opportunities are limited. This is in a country that is a better case scenario. Without international adoption in other cultures, children continue in the cycle of poverty, HIV/AIDS, trafficking, prostitution and slavery that haunts developing countries.
Its crazy knowing that my name use to be Park Jeong Hwon
Aww thank you so much Kelli your videos are amazing and inspired me to talk freely
Awww. Hi KAD sister! I'm in Colorado, USA!
nice be who you wanna be!!!!
Thank you very much :)
I had a similar experience growing up being adopted by white mother. I was teased n called the same names from MOSTLY from black ppl..I didn't know anything about racism.
I'm adopted. please help me stop thinking that my biological parents didn't hate me. I'm also korean
I'm adopted from Korea, but I live in the states...
+Kimi Sorensen Me too.
+Kimi Sorensen I was adopted from Korea too
Adoption is a blessing but I'm 50/50 on SK cutting back or outright refusing to let non asians adopt their babies. If the adoption parents I have met the mothers had severe OCD. Treated the child as an object to control to keep away from everyone else even when the adoptee is now fully grown adult. There is a pont when to let go and let them live their lives. bumped into a SK adoptee in public and speaking korean to her and her white mother looked at me in shock and pulled her away.
You seem well balanced and you are pretty which makes u beautiful. God bless u.
I am looking for 2 adoptees who I know live in Florida and they are brother and sister. I think they might be in their late 20's now. If anyone know them please send them to this page!
In America there are countless social programs offering financial support and non-profits offering counseling/financial support yet there are over 1.2 million abortions so far in 2012 and 400K in foster care. You can't make people want their children. My wife and I are huge advocates for these programs in a couple of countries. There is an effort. Also, maybe I'm just being sensitive, but assuming that people think of their adopted children only as "cute little things" is very offensive.
hi there! i French, was adopted from Seoul.. That's an interesting vid u got there. I would'nt dare to make one about me, or should i say, us.
We're about 200k. Not as a comunity (except for some asociations). I don't have any adopted korean as friends, i met so few people from there. i coan blabla a lot here.
Oh my god... I can‘t believe you said you were ashamed of being asian... i would kill to be asian. You are blessed to be asian and to look like you do and talk in that beutiful accent. You are amazing.
You wouldn't have wanted to be Asian before. It's just probably after the halluyu wave in which a lot of people started recognizing us.
DrCalviny Ha I swear... I hadn't heard of that :) No offence but you dnt know me. I dont mean to sound mean. I love everything about asia. My school is 60 or so percent asians. I get bullied for being white by alot of people. However, I love asia and wish I fit in more. I love the culture & food. I love mandarin, korean and japanese. I'm not fluent but I can speak a little bit of japanese. I'm good at korean & chinese. Thanks and hope this clears things up :)
Korea and stuff I used to be the only asian in school back before and most asians only immigrated to north america around late 90's. So when I say before, I mean before the general mass of asians came in. As an asian at that time, we got bullied by all the white kids just because we looked different.
I smell something along the line of "You should be grateful." And the fact that we have to say "We are grateful" every single time we mention we are adopted and people having to feel like they *need* to explain why adoption is a blessing when they never were a part of it nor experienced it. It's part of Adoptism. You don't know what kind of family the person was adopted into nor their circumstances... so saying something like that shows a lack of understanding.
hii (:
im adopted from south korea too, i was adopted from korea to denmark.
it would be nice to have some other korean friends around the world, so feel free to write (:
Thank you :) wow were you adopted at 11? Hope you are enjoying life and have become not so socially confused like I definitely was too and only slowly seeing things clearer :) and quality of life should definitely not be bothered by skin colour and origin, couldn't of said it better myself haha :)
I Also Loved Your Story....Inspiring To Say The Less .....Thank You
hey nice to meet you!! :) sorry i've taken so long to reply I've been busy being a mum and you can see my beautiful daughter Tiah in my video i just uploaded :) i hope you've had a beautiful life in Denmark it looks like an amazing place!
You are neither ugly or fat. You are a very beautiful young woman. I wish you nothing but the very best for your future.
Are you pregnant now was it fun getting pregnant how's the baby
So my main fear is those parents with OCD will install those same psychological disorders into their kids. To me personally the worst adoption parents are the ones who do not teach the child the language.
im adopted from south korea : )
Well For Sure...Your Not Ugly.....Beautiful .....Forgive Me For Being..Forward .....
Actually you are thousands. Past 60 years Thousands Koreans have been adopted.
Lovely to meet you sorry about the late reply I have been so busy being a mum!! I have uploaded a video of my beautiful daughter (also called TIah but with a H) looking forward to hearing from your wife and you :)
I feel people for the most part are people. I have been lived in Brasil, America and Australia. There are good and bad people all over this planet. It's very hard to say 1 is less racist. Australia is more ignorant than America and Brasil when it comes to blacks because there are not many blacks in Australia. In Brasil and America people know what's racist and what's not because of the history but they still choose to be racist.
Anyone adopted that has Instagram?
Continued again..I know plenty of domestically adopted children with issues...some extreme. Again, it isn't a perfect world. International adoption is a necessary solution to a worldwide problem. Though we didn't necessarily adopt to solve a problem. God led us to adopt before we were even married. Those who adopt for the wrong reason are a very small exception to the rule. There are more that have children for the wrong reason than those who adopt for the wrong reason. Anyway, God Bless!
big shame of south of korea i do not feel myself korean and no french hopefully i am not american...
Despite all ur problems, u have to see the things for what they are , u are a incredible beautiful girl, u live in a nice country ; ur life could have been much worse
Wow what an amazing mix of culture that's awesome, yeah I believe Australia is one of the least racist countries, especially compared to some of the places of Europe but have you had many problems being a black Brazilian? I hate how judgemental some people are just because of our skin pigment, they represent such a minority though and I know the majority know you're great :)
every single adoption video i've seen is of an asian girl... no asian guy or non asian adoptee...