GRWM: marriage fight, pregnancy journey and lots of crying lol
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comment below what it is that you want in 2024 and then LET IT GO FOR THE DAY!!!! Focus what you are grateful for today and take a second to scroll through the comments and see that you are not alone in having unfulfilled desires. you will get through this ❤️
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My husband was in the hospital in a medically induced coma from Sept-Dec of 2023. I had moments where I wasn't sure he would ever be home with me again. He is now but with some residual health issues. All I want is for him to fully recover and stay healthy. The 2nd most prevalent thing I learned throughout that time is how very much I have to be thankful for. God's plan is different than mine was and the most prevalent thing I learned is that His is better. I let go of my plan and continue to do my best to embrace His.
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Best wishes for you and your husband.
You are so strong and beautiful and fabulous ❤❤❤❤ he is so lucky to have such a strong woman by his side during this time. I hope he fully recovers as well !!!!! And I’m so so glad you are able to count the blessings you do have currently ❤ you are amazing !
I’m so blown away by the comments❤ thank you endlessly to everyone who shared such personal things in their lives. You are all so inspiring and fabulous strong, women!
I want to have a healthy baby. In the meantime I’m going to be working on being joyful and grateful for what I do have 💛💛💛 because I’m so blessed !?!?! 🩷🩷 Praising God in the valleys and on the mountain top ✨
I really love that you’re doing marriage counselling BEFORE your marriage is in trouble.
Yes !!! It’s so important 💛💛💛💛 it’s been amazing! We are happier than ever. Still things for us to work on of course, there is no perfect marriage. But we wanted to work on some things in our marriage before children. And I’m so grateful we have 🩷
I am currently experiencing an unplanned pregnancy where the dad does not want to be with me. I’m doing this somewhat alone and have been sulking around because all I ever wanted was to go through this with a partner and my child’s father. This video put so much into perspective at how although this is not how I pictured life and although it’s so hard, I have a baby on the way and some people desperately want that.
Thinking so much of you ❤
I was a single mom at age 20...but when my daughter was 12 I found the love of my life who not only loves me but loves my daughter ( and now her 3 children) as his own. It's hard as a single mom, but it's not insurmountable and it doesn't mean you won't find a partner. I dated but until I was serious I didn't introduce a man to my daughter and that's the best advice I can give. Unless and until you have had a discussion of marriage, don't bring anyone home. Keep your heart open though, because you never know what the future holds.
i'm sincerely praying for you! that even though your baby's father doesnt want to be around that you find a community, however small, to support you in this time & that while today is hard the future will bring some blessings your way. babies are truly a gift (coming from someone with two) even when they dont feel like it😉
Your going to be a great mom, keep on going, God put that precious life in your body because he knew you would be great. ❤
This is the sweetest comment. you are still allowed to be disappointed, scared etc. in going through an unplanned pregnancy without the father. Your feelings are valid. But of course also while being grateful for this blessing! 🩷🩷 you are going to be an amazing mom !!!!!! I’m beyond excited for you. You can do this !!!!!! There are a few single moms in my life and they are superheroes 🩷 so much love to you!
I cherish this advice & I'm so proud of you. I was raised by a single mom & that is true strength.@@pheenobarbidoll2016
I'm 51 years old & when I was 3 weeks old I had a strangulated hernia in my right ovary, the Doctors told my parents that I would never be able to have children. I had six miscarriages but ended up with three beautiful daughters 31, 19 & 18. Don't ever give up because God has you and will bless you with a beautiful baby someday!! I'm praying for the 2 of you because I know what wonderful parents you will make❤❤
I lost my left ovary and fallopian tube to a massive (thankfully benign) cyst just before COVID. This last Christmas, I suffered an ectopic pregnancy and lost my remaining tube after it ruptured. I am SO GRATEFUL for my amazing husband, family, and friends - I couldn't have gone through this without them.
I hope for healthy 2024, not just for myself but for EVERYONE.
THANK YOU, India, for being so transparent and open about your struggles. You and Daniel are going to be phenomenal parents 💕
I’m so incredibly sorry you have gone through all of that💔 it just guts me bc I know the pain of a ruptured ectopic pregnancy and I wouldn’t wish it on anyone ❤❤❤ I’m so thrilled you have an amazing group of loving people around you! What a blessing, truly. So much love to you !!!! You are INCREDIBLE and so inspiring
Maybe you will adopt one day. In the meanwhile, I'm so glad you have an amazing support system around you to lean on, however heavily. Many blessings to you. ❤
Hi! I have a question and I hope you don’t mind me asking. How long did it take you to get pregnant with one ovary and tube? I had the same experience, lost one ovary and tube due to a huge cyst.
I've never been pregnant or gone through the loss of a pregnancy, but you expressing your feelings of being left behind was so validating for me. One of my closest friends is getting married, and while I'm so happy for her I also can't help but feel so sad for myself that I'm alone right now. It's so hard to feel like your friends are moving forward in their lives but you're standing still. My lack of a partner is so small in comparison to the sadness of the loss you're experiencing, but I'm sending you love girl because I relate to that feeling you mentioned and I know it hurts 💜
i just wanted to say that i really relate to your comment and it made me feel so less alone. i’m in the same position as you; everyone around me moving forward and i’m just alone. thank you for sharing your perspective
@@emmejensen1725 I'm sorry you're going through this too. One day it'll all happen for us, but it's definitely sucky in the meantime
I feel your pain. It took me 3 and a half YEARS to get pregnant. In that time, I scared my husband so much with my "cycles" because I would be in so much pain without warning and my bleeding would be so heavy, I passed out twice and went to the ER once, and had to have a D&C just to clean everything out so I wasn't bleeding for more than 4 months straight at one point.
I am now 14 weeks pregnant.
I know it feels like it's never going to happen. I get that feeling from the absolute bottom of my soul. I also know a solid part of you won't believe me when I say this. It will happen when it's time. Process your feelings work through all the extra little things, and keep trying through it all. It will come when it's time, and only having one fallopian tube will make no difference. Sending all the positive vibes your way, and hoping for the best for your family in this new year. 🫂
You are an absolute gem, my friend. ❤❤❤❤ thank you for sharing some thing so personal and for your kind words of encouragement. It truly means more than you know! I am ecstatic to hear you are finally pregnant and I wish you a happy and healthy baby. 🎉
Do NOT think of yourself as being left behind. Think of yourself as being on a different journey! Most of my friends were getting married, at the same time I was taking time to figure out things for myself. I am SO glad that my path was not the same as theirs, because I learned so much about myself and my needs, both my own needs as well as my needs in a partner. If I hadn’t done that then I wouldn’t have been in the right place at the right time to meet my husband, both physically and mentally!
Take this time to strengthen your relationship with your husband. It sounds like there are things you are still learning about each other. Also take this time to discuss your parenting and what your relationship and life will look like when you have a child. I can’t tell, you how many couples I know think they have this all figured out, then when a child comes one or both parents feel like there needs aren’t being met or they feel their child’s needs are different than the other parent does. Everything happens for a reason, so don’t waste this time wishing but living and learning! ❤
This! So much this! One day, you will look back and be grateful for the process you are going through, even though it is extremely hard right now, you will be a much better wife and mom because of the trials and tribulations you have endured.
We have no way of knowing God's reasons or timing, but we know that He knows the desires of your heart, and I pray that He will bless you in His time and in His perfect way. ❤🙏🏻
Giiiiiirl u just slapped me in the face! Thank you for that! I truly needed to hear that from somebody my age! It’s sooooo easy to get into the chasing happiness loop! I just lost my mom in November/23 and everything seemed unfair in my life, but I deeply agree with you, “I have blessings beyond measure”. ❤
I’m so incredibly sorry for your loss Marina 💔 I hope you are able to find happiness in the NOW despite this life being messy and unfair 💛💛💛💛💛 so much love to you
@@indiabatson26 Thank you ☺
@@indiabatson26 thank you so much ❤️
Awe yes, love your "message". It's so true. I spent too many years wanting this or that. I'm 38, I had two miscarriages and just 10 weeks ago had to have a hysterectomy. All I ever wanted was children but somehow the surgery took so much stress off of me (that I put on myself!) And my husband and I are so at peace (only from God!) And absolutely love our life the way it is with our three labs.
And might I add, which is funny I'm watching this after the fact...I told my husband earlier on the way to the store that I love we are both at peace and that actually there are probably people with children (not that they regret children at all!!) But look at us and want our life / freedom at times.
This video made me bawllll 😭😭 I love that analogy. I never really thought about it like that.
What I want more than anything, is a healthy baby of my own to hold in my arms. After having an ectopic pregnancy and then a miscarriage a few months later, I'm right there with you girl. 💕
Oh sweet girl ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ so much love to you! You are not alone and you are so brave and inspiring ❤❤❤❤
You make me feel so much less alone. So many of my friends are pregnant and some are onto their second. Trying to get pregnant for a year now and I know it all just takes time. I feel absolutely so left behind, and I'm so thankful that if nothing else, there is a community here. Sending love to you ❤️
My goal: a partner that puts me first and not the side chick I find out about later. I deserve far better 🙂
YOU 100% DESERVE TO BE PUT FIRST BY A PARTNER PERIOD. I’m so glad you acknowledge that queen 👏👏
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Same 😑
India, I was told that I would never conceive. I went to three prominent fertility specialist in Florida and the news was consistently bleak. Although I was older, all my family members and friends had children, and there I was. . . childless and devastated. I prayed for 10 years before my son, Daniel came to pass, but the wait was so worth it (I was 35). He is a wonderful human being, a wonderful husband and father. The Lord will give you the desires of your heart, just dare to believe and don't lose hope. God's timing is perfect.
Wow I really needed to hear this video. I had a "downer" day today and discussed with my husband how heavy and burdened I felt. Thank you.💜
My desire is to be able to be financially stable for our kids. We've had a lot of financial hardships the past few years and I would love to just not have to worry or stress over the grocery bill or wanting to buy my kids some new clothes.. or have money to just take myself to a movie to have a mom break. I just want to stop struggling financial. Not to be "rich" but to not have to always over stress about every penny we do have.
Our life is full of love, joy, safety, and good health the majority of the time. For that I am immensely grateful because that is all that matters to me. 💕
I really appreciate you sharing this so openly 🩷 you are an incredible mom and your kids are so lucky to have you. I pray 2024 is a year of abundance for your family and financial freedom. keep taking it one day at a time. I’m so inspired by you and so proud of you friend ❤❤❤❤
I know that there are people who are in less-than-perfect relationships who want what I have, which is a single and “care-free” life! 💁♀️
100%!!!!!! I have a friend who is trying to get out of a toxic relationship and isn’t mentally ready to leave yet. But she 100% would love to be single and wordy free!!!!!
Yup. Single carefree and loving it
I had two late pregnancy losses.. Still waiting for my rainbow baby. It's hard when everyone around me seems to get easily pregnant. Grateful for having a supporting husband and family.
Hang in there.. Trusting God's timing 💖💖
It’s amazing in your pain, that you’re giving so much inspiration to everyone. I love this and needed that reminder. 😢❤
My desire is a bigger home and more financial stability.
Lived in a rough household. No support, mental and physical abuse. Years later, found the love of my life. Got engaged. Currently saving money as a new nurse after years of clawing my way through the costs of living in Hawaii (born and raised as an Asian in Hawaii). People don't realize all of the locals as well as native individuals here on the islands are competing with greedy foreigners increasing cost and taking away the land, causing all of locals/natives to be driven out. *super complicated convo, I can go on and on* *not all foreigners are greedy!! Lol, we love respectful visitors*
I can finally breathe and make own money to have my own place. Going to marry the love of my life. Looking forward to travel, dreaming of owning a house on the islands. Lastly, lots of Hawaiian children running around on their native land❤ *fiancé is native hawaiian*
Love your content India✨️ Inspired me to rise up and be a stronger woman🤙 Sending lots of ❤ from Hawaii🌴
10:36 “We have to choose Joy now or we will miss on all the current blessings.” I absolutely agree that all we have is now, and I think there should be a fine balance between preparing for the future and building a better future, while living in the moment ♥️
India-I’m grateful for your guidance and bravery you shared today. It very much resonates with me. Keep being joyous girly- you deserve every ounce of happiness! 💗💗💕
Thank you so much for your kind words❤❤❤❤ so much love to you beautiful !!!!
@@indiabatson26 SO much love to you! 💗Your positive energy, along with raw/real emotions & discussions, is SO appreciated and needed more than you probably even (humbly) realize. You show so many people what it is to embody true inner & outer beauty. Sending you love and light!!💗💗💫
6 failed embryo transfers .. TFMR and chemical pregnancy .. still hopeful one day i will be a mother
You absolutely deserve it ☀️💛
Praying for baby dust for us both. Our stories are not the same of course but I feel for you sweet girl 💛💛 so much love to you !!!!!!! Praying this is our year
I found your channel because I'm new to the curly girl community. Like "discovered the waves last week" kind of new. All I have to say is I am so glad you popped up in my suggested. You genuinely brighten my day! The authenticity you bring to this platform is so refreshing. Praying for you and your husband as you walk through your fertility journey. As someone who walked through a very early pregnancy loss last year and is now a brand new mom, I can say with full confidence that God is in your story. Every single bit of it ❤.
After trying to conceive for 2 years, and now finally being 4 months pregnant with our first - the conversation about gratitude and recognising your blessings is a topic my partner would be hammering home throughout the whole journey. It took me almost the entire 2 years to really believe in it and understand what he was saying, and the minute I started to feel it - things started to fall into place. Genuinely feeling gratitude and appreciating all of your blessings, while putting yourself in the right positions to make your dreams come true (whatever that may be), and having faith in timing - the biggest lesson I have ever learnt.
I love your chatty videos like this the most ❤ Sending you all the baby dust!
Thank you… I’m in that line of people you mentioned… currently pregnant with my second girl, and feeling sorry for myself that I won’t experience having a baby boy. All the while I’m losing out on JOY - and that’s on me. Thanks for the reality check. Love you girl.
I appreciate you sharing this ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ your daughter is going to be AMAZING 🩷
I'm currently 6 weeks pregnant so I don't know what I'm having but currently I have 2 boys and EVERYONE including my oldest wants a girl! We want 4 kids so there's another chance after this one but I also have it in the back of my mind that I may just be a boy mom
What I really want is for my 19 month old son to start talking. He had a stroke when he was being born and was having seizures after which prompted the investigation and MRI. He was diagnosed with spastic hemiplegic cerebral palsy and epilepsy when he was 2 days old from the stroke.
But I am so thankful and grateful for his life and the fact he can move his body how he wants to and laugh and have fun. He is my miracle baby but I would die a million times for him to speak. He understands everything but he is so frustrated for not being able to communicate.
Praying for you and your sweet baby boy.
@@gottahavefaith2971 thank you! His name is Adrian.
My son, now 28 is an infant stroke survivor. He had multiple strokes at six weeks old. Both sides of his brain were hit. He lost his speech. He is my rainbow/ miracle baby. . Wishing you and your family the best.
@@robinluettke47 thank you for sharing your story. I hope you and your son are well. Your son is lucky to have you!
What I want is to know what I want. To know how to be happy.
I'm grateful to be surrounded by people who love and protect and support me, especially when I can't do that for myself.
I feel the same as you India! I lost my pregnancy at the same time you did, and I’ve had about 6 friends announce pregnancies since, and while I’m happy for them, I grieve for me and feel left behind.
I’ve spent the last 3 months trying to get my hormone and thyroid health better, and I’m doing better, but I still have fear of going into the next pregnancy and having another miscarriage happen
You’ve just blown me away with your maturity, growth, and willingness to guide others along the way. I’ve been a follower for a little while, and I have to say that the world needs women like you who are strong in the strength of God and love for themselves and their families. Seeing your progress in your journey from a CGM RUclipsr, allowing us in on your marriage story, your struggles with acne and body image, and now trying to start a family and being real about marriage struggles empowers others who are looking for fellow lights in a dark world. Never stop sharing your light India! We all need each other.
I want to be able to have a better relationship with my struggling 16 year old son. I want him to know real strength and to find God’s plan on his life.
Thank you for sharing this! Almost 8 months TTC and feels like ill never see my positive. Have my first fertility dr appt next week so hopefully that will help. Sending love to everyone on this journey 💖
Sending love and prayers to you India, and everyone in the comments. My husband and I are in our mid 30's, and TTC for past 2 years. To my knowledge, I've never been pregnant. We are both working on getting healthier and hope to be blessed with at least one child before its too late to conceive. I've patiently watched and supported my friends having kids since I was in high school, and worry sometimes that I waited too long. We are just keeping our faith in God and hoping his plan aligns with our desires ❤
I just want you to know that it is so normal and valid to have dualing emotions. Especially when you've lost a baby, you're in a infertility issue with getting pregnant, plus having friends and family getting pregnant left and right, and you're sooooo happy for them and also so full of pain and sorrow because of what you've lost and want so deeply. Praying over you guys.
This is something that I truly needed to hear. My husband and I have been married going on 36 years and I still sometimes struggle with the past. I know I need to let some things go. Unfortunately there are things that happened that brings out those ghost that haunts me. I am a very, very grateful person and I know how blessed I am with my family and friends that surround me. God has been so good to me even when things have gotten tough I know that he is always there for me, but I’m also human and still struggle. I watched your one video about your miscarriage and it brought back so many memories of my three miscarriages. They were so emotionally physically and mentally draining. I’m 54 years old and those all happened in my 20s and early 30s but even though it’s been many years ago, that mental pain never goes away The what ifs especially. But your video really touched me and now, this video that you just did about marriage therapy has really made me think maybe that is a good idea for me and my husband because even though we’ve been together 38 and married 36 we still struggle at times in our marriage, I think that’s always going to be a given we both came from completely different childhoods And I think to this day, sometimes it affect our marriage. My husband is a wonderful man and an amazing husband and father, and I know God brought us together and he will get us through our challenges. I also believe a little extra help doesn’t hurt. We actually did marriage counseling back in our younger days and I’ll admit it did help us. Thank you for sharing. You are so beautiful inside and out. I started watching you for your hair tutorials and I have truly grown to love your channel. May God continue to bless you, your marriage and your future pregnancies.🙏♥️
As someone who survived two recurrences of reproductive cancer in my early thirties, I feel for you so deeply. Having said that, I am so happy for you that pregnancy is still a realistic option and I hope from the bottom of my heart that it happens for you ❤
I know how hard it can be to navigate the emotions of loved ones’ pregnancies when you’re struggling with infertility yourself. It’s perfectly normal and acceptable to feel envy and joy simultaneously!
You can experience multiple feelings at once 👏 this! Joy for them but also sadness for yourself . And that’s ok ❤ if you don’t mind me asking, are you able to have children after the cancer or is that not on the table for you ❤️ and if you don’t Want to answer I completely understand. So much love to you!! Praise God you have beaten cancer 🎉 you are so inspiring and incredible
Thank you so much India for sharing your struggles! I am dealing with the exact same thing you are. I want another baby but I’ve had a random health issue that has prevented it and all my friends and sister in laws have already just gotten pregnant. I have not been focusing on what I have but the next step that I want. Thanks for the encouragement! I’m praying for you to get pregnant soon! ❤
Oh it’s so so easy to focus on what we want next only and not what we have already❤ you are not alone!! praying babies come soon for both of us
You are 100% here. The quickest path to an unhappy life is comparison. We all have bad days but gratitude at minimum is the healthiest place to be.
You're exactly right so many want what the other has and forget the blessings they have themselves allowing that to steal their joy. I've learned over the years that no matter what I'm going to remember the blessings Jesus has given me and be joyful in that. Now that's not to say I don't have times where it's hard by no means saying that but I'm still joyful, grateful, thankful and blessed. I grew up with a really tough life with chronic illnesses and disabilities that have become worse overtime as my body deteriorates. I don't have a boyfriend or husband but maybe that's not what God has for me. No matter the physical pain I'm in I have a wonderful church family that supports me more than I could ever ask for and for that I'm beyond blessed. Praying for you India🙏
I love how you said we all want what each other has. So true! We need to start focusing on our blessings and what we do have and not what we don’t.
I am really struggling with the fact that I quit a great career that was a dream (but that took me away from home 90% of the month) to get married and live in a tiny town with my husband to now struggling to find employment/a job that brings me as much joy and satisfaction as the career I had. I want to have a job I love again and feel like I am making a difference like I used to. But until then I will focus on the blessing it is be home every night with my husband and for his financial stability that doesn’t require me to make x amount for us to survive.
Thank you, India! Been watching your channel for years and years and you're always so uplifting. I just had a baby a year and a half ago and he was born with a very rare birth defect to his skull. He's had two surgeries and counting and sometimes I get lost in the sadness and grief that comes with not having a totally healthy baby and everything we've faced and will continue to endure for and with him. I am so happy for those around me who have had healthy babies but I do get sad knowing that isn't what happened to my innocent perfect boy.
I work everyday to remind myself how lucky we are that he is here. He is a medical miracle and we are so fortunate that he does not need daily medical intervention and that one day, facial scars aside, he will have a very normal life. He is my biggest blessing and I'm so proud to be his mom, even on the hard days. You will be a great mommy one day too and I hope that when that day comes, you have a healthy baby and can just enjoy the ebb and flow of becoming a mother.
I had 2 miscarriages.
I was devastated. Then i i got pregnant again. I was soo scared that i would lose another baby that i actually threw away all my baby shower invitations because I felt that i couldn't come home from the hospital to baby things and i lost another.
I had the baby shower.
I had my son.
I found outvmany of my friends had miscarriages also.
It happens.
Dont give up.
I love your channel.
India I really admire your honesty and attitude in general. I had a miscarriage in October at 12 weeks, we had seen her heartbeat, watched her grow and suddenly her heart stopped. It was jarring and all the emotions were so difficult to navigate. At the beginning it drove a wedge between my husband and I because we processed the grief very differently, but we had an honest conversation and it’s brought us closer together. I am also going to therapy and I might be pregnant again (haven’t taken a test yet, my period is 1 week late but I want to wait). One of my best friends gave birth in December and it’s hard to hold her baby without the sadness flooding back. I’m terrified I’m going to have more miscarriages and some nights I can’t even sleep, but I’m trying to stay positive. Thank you for sharing your story and for opening up to your audience, you definitely made me feel less alone during my miscarriage. I hope you get everything you wish for as you are a wonderful person ✨
PD just finished the video: I desire a healthy happy baby and also to start (and finish) a MD
When you said "I don't know if I am not making any sense or having a genius moment", it was so real and relatable. I feel like that most days :) You then followed it up with choosing joy, being present in your own circumstances and realizing that comparison is the thief of joy. You remembered to think about all of the blessings in your life........I was right there with you. You seems to have a very realistic life view and I look forward to following your journey. May the God who sees, continue to bless you and Daniel abundantly. Perhaps He will answer those prayers in ways you could never imagine or hope for. Great video girlie.
I'm also on my second cycle trying to conceive after a miscarriage, and at the same time my incredibly toxic pregnant sister found out and has sepnt every interaction since verbally attacking me and telling me I'm trying to have a baby to steal her attention, and telling me I can't try to conceive. We also have had two deaths in my family since my miscarriage. It's been a tough and strange time, but I have never been more grounded in the future and family I'm building with my husband. Anyway, this comment turned out more revealing than I maybe intended, but you have my heart and prayers and I'm just so sorry. I'm hoping for a happy, supported, healthy 2024 for both of our families, India!
Aww India, I really enjoyed this video. I could tell you are a mature self-aware individual who works on her self (not saying you weren’t great before) I hope I convey this in a complimentary way. I know you like to read and it shows lol.
Goal: I no longer want to “chase” happiness, I want to do things to fulfill me and that I enjoy. As a result of that, I hope that happiness is a by-product that just happens and not be so fixated as always wanting or needing to be happy.
I loved this question and everyone’s responses.
I think the sensitivity/bluntness thing IS a cultural difference. My husband is Dominican and they’ll call each other fat with no restraint 😅
I JUST LIKE DONT UNDERSTAND IT 😂😂😂😂😂 But I agree I think it’s definitely a cultural thing. I just need to toughen up and understand that it’s not personal.
Yepp same with my family . We’re Hispanic 🤣
@@indiabatson26 yes I come from Cuban ethnicity but I do notice it is generally a common Hispanic trait overall too. My mom is very much like that in the sense where she has no problem letting her kids know if they look a mess, run down, or smelled 🤣. Grandma was the same way. The way they saw it is they felt they absolutely had to let you know, because they cared, rather than have you go out and walk about all day smelling or looking horrible. In other words keeping it from you doesn’t really do you any favors. 😂 It’s just interesting to hear contrasting perspectives lol
I have been in the exact spot you are, girl. I had a miscarriage and suddenly everyone I knew was pregnant. I was happy for them, but felt that left behind feeling inside. I went on to have 2 children after that. Hang in there and keep that positive, grateful attitude. I’m praying for you!
From watching Tori and Chad for so long now, I cannot help but feel called to share this. You are in a season of waiting and there are so many wonderful and beautiful things towarn in that season. Also, though you're on a much more difficult pregnancy journey, when you do conceive, you'll have no doubt that it is by God's blessing. Keep your head up. Gods got you, no matter what season of life you're in. 🥹😇
It took my husband and I 6 years to get pregnant. We got pregnant by embryo adoption, so we essentially did IVF using someone else’s embryos. I now have a BEAUTIFUL son from that very special gift. BUT after never having a single positive pregnancy test from natural conception in my life, I got pregnant naturally when my son turned one. I now have two beautiful babies. The road to trying can be a dark one, but the light at the end is unmatched! I’ll throw baby dust your way and keep you in my thoughts!
I can definitely relate to all you say about difficult fertility journey and how hurtful other's happiness can be, even when we share that joy with them, it brings out the bitterness of seeing our dreams are not becoming real when we were hoping they were. But God's timing and ways are perfect. You and your husband are still adjusting to being a couple and maybe you needed this extra time alone to work on those differences you are telling us about. You are growing as a couple and will be ready to take on the challenge of parenting, when it is the perfect moment. All the things you described as differences are clearly rooted in the cultural factor. It reminded me of a comedian called Sebastian Maniscalco (you find it on Netflix) and he depicts in a very funny way how him (being raised in an italian family) and his wife ( an american), are so different in the ways they were raised and see some things of every day life. You can watch it together, I promise you'll laugh a lot! You're going to be OK, marriage is a beautiful journey and as long as you both have it clear that you want it to work, it WILL!
For me I want a partner who will always be there. I love this video. Thank you for your willingness to be vulnerable. I find that it is okay to be sad but don't stay in the sadness.
My heart goes out to you India. Sending you huge hugs from Dublin.
I’m still in the middle of watching this video. But I just wanted to say thank you, India, for being free enough to really share your experiences, struggles, and heart because so many people are also going through these same things and can feel alone or like they’re the only ones going through this. And often it’s not “okay” culturally to share these things. But our growth and overcoming happens in the messy dirt of our struggles and other experiences. My prayers and heart are with you as you go through this season. But take heart, my sweet, it is a season.
I want a husband and children. I’m 31 years old with 32 right around the corner and have had absolutely no experience with being in a relationship. I feel that God has me in a season of preparation like he did with Noah. Sometimes I get discouraged because I don’t see any sign that it’s going to happen for me, but my faith continues to say that I am the exception. Despite my lack of experience and credentials, I believe it will happen for me in God’s timing and I believe a child will happen for you in God’s timing as well, India. You are the exception! 🙌🏾
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I'm 40 and I've never been in a relationship. It's tough sometimes. You're definitely not alone.
You are not alone. I could have written EVERY SINGLE WORD that you wrote and it would not have been a lie! I am the exact same as you with my 32nd birthday coming up right around the corner and no real experience with being in a relationship at all, either. All I want is to be married and have a family of my own… it’s what I have always longed for my entire life.
It’s hard to watch everyone around you posting all their happy couple/family photos on social media and feeling the pain of not having that yet. And sometimes I fear that because I don’t have the experience of being in relationships that I feel like society expects you to have at this point in your life that no one would ever want to be with me…. Or that I’ll be too old to have kids by the time I meet that person (if I ever do)…
Anyways, now that I have written you a book, haha, thank you for being so open and vulnerable and helping me to see that I’m not alone and there are probably far more people than I would ever imagine that are in the same kind of situation and waiting for their dreams to become a reality ❤
I hope and believe God has good things in store for you and your time of patiently waiting will one day be rewarded with beautiful blessings.
I needed this.. newly wed with an 8 week old and my husband works 8pm-6am 4 days a week.. I am finding it extremely lonely to go to bed every night and so can’t sleep and just want to cry. Also dreading the thought of going back to a job I hate. Really needed to hear this right now, thank you ♥️💚
You reminded me to be grateful for what I have right now even if it’s not a lot. I’m having to get another job because my current job isn’t giving me work and I have someone I want to be with but he’s dealing with some troubling mental health issues that are keeping us apart. I’m not sure when things will finally get better for him and it just hurts my heart, but I know there’s a light coming. I’m also currently trying to finish my degree that I feel like I’ve been progressing through forever and would like to finally have a career. So thank you I needed this 💜💜💜
My main desire is to have a purpose and find out what it is.
This app is awesome and the info you are showing about women’s health is so very important. Many women don’t understand the critical need of this knowledge.
We've been trying to get pregnant for 7 years and 2 years ago we caught an ectopic before it ruptured. I still lost a fallopian tube. I want to either finally get pregnant or find the will to be strong enough to realize that a baby is not in the cards for us so I can try to move on and be happy instead of depressed.
I loved this video, India. Going through an ectopic pregnancy back in October of last year, I still have those moments where I cry over the loss. But your videos are so wonderful to watch and I appreciate sharing your view of life and your insights ❤
This video has so much truth and comfort, it really was something I needed to hear. I'm starting cosmetology school next Monday, and I am newly engaged to the love of my life! My goal is to complete school to get my license, which is 8 months long and do my apprenticeship for 12 months after school. After those two things I want to have my wedding at the end as a reward for all my hard work and starting my career. I've got a lot of hope for the future after my mother passed away back in Sept of 23. I was her full-time caregiver for the last two and a half years and I miss her deeply. But we talked a lot about hair school, so I hope she is proud.
Praying for your journey India. Thank you for sharing so openly the highs and lows of life and giving God praise through it all. You have a platform and are using it for His glory. I’m so thankful to have your example. And that you are willing to let us peek into your life.
I have honestly been so blessed this past year. I just want to grow and learn more this year, recovering from old things and past traumas, and get ready for new things to come!
So true! Try to enjoy the season you’re in…if you and hubby fight now over the cleanliness of the home wait until the baby comes! Lol (we lowered our standards for the house after kids😅) every season has its pros and cons. God has got you! I believe a baby is in your future but until then enjoy the free time you have. 😊 Enjoy being able to do what you want, when you want for the most part. Every mom later on misses that freedom and then you have to teach yourself to enjoy your season of no free time but lots of baby time! It’s always a learning process. (I’m typing this while my three month old is screaming at me 😂, how dare I do something that doesn’t involve him 😂)
I just got accepted into a school I feel God is calling me to 1200 miles away from home to complete my 3rd college degree. I'm 28 but I'm terrified to leave my family behind. I want to feel excited, thankful and hopeful about this incredible opportunity that God has given me because right now I feel terrified to leave behind all that I have and step into the unknown. I know that this is blessing but it's hard for me to feel that when the pain is overwhelming.
This came at a time I really needed. My husband and I just had a major argument about when we want to have kids. He's currently in medical school and is going to residency in the summer. He wants to start trying fourth year when I'm basically 30 and I want to start trying at 28 which is second year. He feels like he is going to be majorly grinding and not be able to explore and have fun with his free time until maybe 3rd year and he wants to be able to enjoy that freedom before we introduce a child that, let's face it, does limit what you can do. Me, every day my desire to have kids gets stronger. I CAN table it it's what God wants, but I really really want to start having a family. My maternal instincts I guess are kicking in full swing. My line of reasoning is that because of issues with menstrual cycles I have been on BC since senior year of high school. I then was diagnosed with a sleeping disorder and am on medication that lowers the effects of hormonal BC aka the pill so now I have a hormonal iud. While I know plenty of women have gone through my journey being on BC for almost 10 years and have not had any issues conceiving, I'm so worried that if we wait for so long, it's going to be hard to. And I don't want ro have oir first kid at 32 because we waiting so long. But he doesn't seem to fully understand and feels I'm not thinking of what he wants in this whole plan. It's been so upsetting and hard for me to wrap my head around potentially waiting 4 more years to have kids. This has definitely come at a very opportune time..thank you for this 💛
Thank you for your positivity, India! I love watching your videos and following your life.
What I want is to be a little less stretched financially. I have two beautiful children that I now get to live as a stay at home mom, but things are super tight financially since I am no longer working full time. So I am hustling with side gigs and my husband and I are starting a business on the side. Trying my best to let it go and trust in God's good plans for our family!
India, in the slim chance that you see my comment (I'm late to the party, I know; been busy lately), I just want you to know that I shared your "MY 2023 FAVORITES..." video to a close of friend of mine who is into hair & skincare & also coming closer into the faith. I'm so glad to have found a haircare advisor (in you) who believes in Him. Thank you for being.
Praying for you 🫶🏻 as someone who struggled to get pregnant, I know that left behind feeling all too well. You’re not alone
You’re so strong India! I love watching your videos you are a blessing to me ❤. In Gods timing you will conceive and have a beautiful baby.
My goal is to be happily married and to use my art to share God with people. Thank you India for being so brave and sharing your thoughts and feelings with your followers here, you are such a blessing, you are so loved. I pray that God will give you a baby ❤️
My goal: a partner and a best friend. I feel like anyone I’ve ever been with has always been one sided. I’ve been the one to fight for them when they never did for me. In the end they always wanted someone that was never me. Honestly, if I ever have to deal with the one sidedness again it would crush me. I can’t be the one to do that anymore. I’ve always been terrible at making friends too. I guess the minuscule victory is it taught me what roads I won’t go ever down again. I’ve been told I’m an intense person and I suppose that’s true so for both of these I hope they can be happy with someone like me.
I want to be able to have balance and a sense of peace in my life and less drastic up and downs struggling with mental illness. I’ll go from being productive and maintaining friendships to complete isolation and struggling with basic everyday tasks like showering, brushing my teeth, and answering text messages. It’s hard to go through, and hard to explain to those I love most when I come back out of isolation. It’s an exhausting cycle.
The video and the comments have me SOBBING 😭
We're currently in the process of getting my son evaluated for autism, ADHD etc...the Big Appointment is on Tuesday. He's a sweet, brilliant, amazing boy, but the last few years have not exactly been easy.
More than anything I just want to be able to help him navigate life, be happy and feel better about himself, currently I feel like he's often miserable and I'm always just failing him. 😔
To get married and have a happy family!
Yes girl ❤❤❤❤❤ 2024 is your year
Same here, you are not alone. 33 and still unmarried.
Thank you so much for this. I needed this word of encouragement at exactly this moment. I have a loving and amazing boyfriend and for circumstances out of my control we are not able to have get married yet while it feels like ALL my friends and peers around us are getting married. The spectrum you explained couldn’t be more true and I needed this perspective.
I have a career, I have a loving husband and a beautiful little girl. I have all these things, yet, I cannot enjoy them the way I should. This month, I met with a therapist for the very first time. I've been diagnosed with PTSD, depression and social anxiety. My goal: to start the healing process so that I can finally feel joy again.
Thank you for sharing your journey. You're like the sister I never had. 🩷
I used to watch all your videos and then for some reason I stopped, I guess my depression hated your super happy "perfect" life .
And I will say, I just fell in love with you all over again.
You are such a wonderful person with such deep thoughts.
I truly hope and pray you get everything you desire in life 💜
wow, I was the same way. Started birth control in 7th grade for the same reason, I'm now 26..went off of it a little over a year ago.
Thanks for the reminder that I need to focus on where I’m at now and find ways to be happy with what I do have. Lately I’ve been caught in the cycle of if/when to have another baby. I truly want more kids, but don’t know when the time is “right”. Working and going back to school full time, while also taking care of my house and family is a lot. Then I start to panic that I’m “running out of time” and feel the need to start trying right now. Siiiiiigh.
I need to chill tf out 🤣 and just let whatever happens, happen.
I personally never want to carry a child, but I feel for anyone who does and struggles. Wishing you all the best.
The cultural differences can be a lot. I literally get into arguments with my partner over differences in food, cleanliness, and emotional responses. We always figure it out in the end, but I didn’t think about these things before.
I feel you. It took us 3 years and 2 iui with hormones to convince.
Going through is so hard, but you get to know yourself better and be closer to your spouse. At lest for our couple.
I wish you the best of luck in your journey ❤
Such an inspiring video! I've recently been reading 'The Panic Years by Nell Frizzell', a book about women 25-40 and the societal pressure to have children, get married, have everything figured out. It's been helpful unpacking this feeling of pregnancy jealously we have as women that somehow we're less or that that baby could have been ours. I'm not sure I'm making sense but I've found unpacking this feeling really helpful!
I'm married with a loving husband and a successful career, an adopted sunshine of a dog and I'm very healthy! I do have the urge for a baby and my heart feels heavy with each friend getting pregnant especially as my husband doesn't want children. I know whatever happens will be the right thing for us and that we have so much more than so many.
I want to get fully organized and settled from moving into my house pre-third-baby. I feel like I’m always spinning my wheels. I’m letting it go and getting some whatever I get done today.
Luv the marriage stuff can totally relate. Made me laf 😂
Your attitude is inspiring, i know its not easy, but you're are so right about appreciating what you do have. Its so integral to living a happy life. Its so easy to see what others have and want that. But i always try to remind myself that i also cant see all the "things" that they have that i would never want. Everyone gets what they need. ❤❤❤
I’m about to turn 26 and I’m preparing to go back to school after having dropped out twice. I really want to prepare for a future where I’m educated and make money and don’t live paycheck to paycheck. It’s intimidating starting over… and doing it as a self sustaining independent adult with a full time job and bills etc this time. I want to better my circumstances but I know it will require putting in WORK!!!
You made total sense. You're very insightful. I love youre honesty. I van easily say that 90% of people would want to look like you. You are unbelievably beautiful ❤️
I just want to be able to get all this weight off and live life normallly
Having lost my younger sister to pancreatic cancer right before Christmas 2023, I want to find some way I can push for early detection for this awful, usually-discovered-too-late, cancer!! She had just turned 56 and had no idea this monster was growing inside her, wishing such a medical test would be offered to all in time to spare more lives. 😔🙏🏻
I want to be married! But I’m trying to enjoy the now and enjoy the wait and trust God’s timing!
I’d absolutely love to be in love and have a boyfriend, all in God’s timing 🙌🏼 thank you for being so honest and vulnerable with all of us India, so important to remind each other of what we are grateful for. I have been a subscriber for about 7 yrs now and love seeing your growth. Keep shining, Meg ✨🙏🏼🫶🏼
India, please take this information as you will. My sons have gone through major medical issues due to the things we eat, drink, breathe and rub on our bodies. There is a real connection to all of this that affects our medical issues. Please look in to this further as this may be affecting your ability to have children. I am not a “fanatic”, but my children have benefited from the changes we have made. One of my sons does not have to take medication for anxiety and depression any more, which is huge. I only want the best for you and Daniel! I am the mother of 4 beautiful children and two grandchildren and life doesn’t get any better. I am praying for your family!! ❤️☺️🙏🏻
"I don't know if I'm making any sense or if I'm having a genius moment" me, every time I try to explain my own break-throughs hahaha! Your point totally got across, India. I love how your channel normalizes struggling through life even when we do have priviledges.
I want a healthy baby too ❤
I’ve had 2 miscarriages and it seems like everyone around me is getting pregnant and are able to make it to full term with a healthy baby.
Your video was definitely the reminder I needed to be grateful for what I do have! A husband, pets, a job with health insurance, and a roof over my head. 😊
Thank you India!! This video definitely makes me know I'm not alone and i do hope things get better for you ❤❤
So So Smart going to therapy this early in your marriage it is truly wonderful you are doing that for your marriage and each other. Only great things can come from truly understanding the person you are married to, and that its a joint effort just amazing! Keep going it will help you so much in dealing with the loss you have already experienced and brings a higher level of joy and peace to those moments you internalize and remember as special. All my best to you India you deserve all good things!
I'm not a poem memorizer type person, but my grandfather bought a ceramic thing with a famous Danish poet's one line poem on it... I now own it. (Looking at it right now!) To know the quiet, super rural, salt of the earth, ethnically fully Danish Iowa farm man loved this says everything. From Piet Hein. Living is a thing you do now, or never -- which do you?
That’s so funny because my family vs husband’s family is the same way! It’s so tricky to navigate in-laws when you’re guard is down but need thick skin. We’re learning boundaries through the process though ❤️
This is why I love you 💜! Thank you for always being real
I adore you 💛💛💛💛💛💛
I’ve been struggling with FOMO lately too in a big way. I want to get engaged to my partner of 8 years and finally live together but it’s been SUCH a slow process. It’s hard seeing friends get engaged and married, even though I know I should feel happy and excited for them but I just feel so stuck in my own life. Thank you for reminding me to feel grateful for all the things I do have!
I hope you reach your goals this year, you truly deserve happiness!
I’m here for the Ted Talk! Thank you for your beautiful vulnerability ❤