GRWM: we're no longer trying to get pregnant... 😅
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2:45 taking a break from trying
6:21 good morning america interiviewed me....
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After losing twins at 22 weeks, I was placed in an exam room right next to a pregnant mom listening to her baby's heartbeat which I could clearly hear. This was one of the most hurtful days throughout this process, and I have never forgotten the additional hurt that caused. Please, doctors, wake up and treat losses with compassion. India, you are a shining star, keep that up and always stay true to what you want and need for yourself. Praying for you that grief passes soon! Thank you for bringing this to light!!!
I had to give birth to my little boy still born at 7.5 months in the normal maternity ward in a room at the very end of ward. Passing by all the new mums and watching all the mums in labour. Ud think in this day and age they would have somewhere separate
"you can respectfully hear my perspective, and have a different perspective [at the same time]". The world is sorely missing this life lesson that was drilled into me from a young age. I think we need to bring it back. Thank you.
I wish you luck on your journey and on your INTERVIEW!!!!!
We have really gotten away from this mentality… and I don’t understand it. Thank you for listening and being so kind ❤
India...I have never had a miscarriage, nor have I ever been pregnant, but I can honestly say, that you have support from people all around the world that you have never met before. The comments that people have made, WOMEN in particular, are disgusting and you should never have to read after going through something so hard. I am so sorry.
I can’t even tell you how much this message means to me 🩷 thank you for being a lovely human being that is kind an empathetic, even though you haven’t been in these shoes. You are a GEM!
I am the same. I am 58 years old and have never been pregnant but my heart does break when young women who want children badly go through these things. I do firmly believe that every single life has purpose including children who haven’t made it to birth before they are called home by God.
My children are now grown.... For my children, for my children's children, and for anyone now or in the years that follow, I sincerely hope your video is the catalyst for empathy and positive changes. Pregnancy loss is devastating and the grief involved is so deep and so real
You are such a lovely human being 🩷🩷🩷🩷
Thank you🩷 I'm sending you healing hugs
I am an interior designer who works solely in healthcare. This is something that I think is being implemented in new builds, but just wasn’t planned for in older construction, so some facilities use these alternate approaches you mentioned, like the different scheduling times etc. thank you for advocating and sharing your journey with others❤
your job is SO IMPORTANT. thank you for the work you do. I’m so grateful these changes are being made in new builds!!! ❤
As someone who had an ectopic pregnancy last spring and has been trying again since July (with no success), I totally agree with you. In general, I would love to see more empathy from healthcare professionals to women who have lost their babies. I understand they see a lot of them, but I don’t want to be treated like a number. This is my life that’s been altered forever. It’s an isolating experience. Thankful for women like you that speak boldly and share their stories ♥️ Praying for our rainbow babies in His timing 🌈🥰
EXACTLY! So well said. Thank you for sharing part of your story ❤
I agree it took me two years after my ectopic for my babies. I struggled and isolated myself for a long time while trying to figure out my place
I’m sorry you went through that! After my miscarriage I remember my fiancé and I were grief stricken and scared about what it could mean for future pregnancies and I understand that the OB (a male doctor) was trying to sound optimistic but at the time it really felt like being brushed off. “Oh it happens, we don’t worry until you have 3 or more”. Like IM SORRY? You want me to potentially go through this 3 times before you start to care?
I'm in my 50's and I remember very vividly hearing the devastating news and sitting in the waiting area surrounded by pregnant women. It's a massive gut punch. I don't know what it is about human nature that people have to kick you when you're down. It must give them some twisted thrill in the midst of their boring and hallow lives. Just keep shining. Congratulations of the GMA gig!
You are the SWEETEST!!!!! & thank you for sharing a piece of you story. I’m so sorry for your loss
The day after my 2nd loss they gave me a therapy session at my clinic w a PREGNANT therapist 😭 it was one of thee worst feelings ever.
I'm so grateful you shared that video, while I was sitting in the waiting room at my OB last month after the ER visit where we found no heart beat (12 weeks) I just sat in tears while 10 other women with big beautiful bellies stared at me. That room brought me so much joy in the past for my first baby and it will never bring the same joy again. My heart is with you and I know we will get our rainbows at exactly the right time❤
My daughter in law experienced this. After 12 week’s pregnant, the doctor couldn’t find a heart beat. It was DEVASTATING. Years ago my son at age 14, was in a car accident with his nine-year-old sister and stepfather. He was the only survivor out of that car accident so losing this baby was an extra round of grief for him. They had to do a DNC on my daughter-in-law to remove the tissue and that was extra traumatic. , they chose to not continue trying, which is heartbreaking for me as I do not have any grandchildren and now I never will. I don’t tell him that I don’t want to add to his burden. I actually thought all miscarriages were when your body flushes out the fetus, but I found out that sometimes, the fetus just does not continue to remain viable and it either has to be removed or your body will eject it naturally. I am so sorry for your loss. I am so sorry for your grief and your pain and I pray that you get your baby. All babies are gifts from God, they are all precious. ❤️
Yes!! Totally take this trip now! I think it'll help your mind and body heal. You're such a beautiful soul! You literally radiate love and light and I just know you're going to have your family one day. Much love from Canada 💗
You are the best 😭🙏🩷 so much love to you from Georgia !!!!!
I cried off and on throughout this video. You are displaying so much grace and courage. Wise beyond your years.
You are a blessing to so many.
So much love to you friend❤ thank you for your kind words!
I'm with you sister... the ttc struggle, the worry of being viewed as a hysterical female, and the being sad but I can still be happy for others. Love what you are doing, thank you ❤
I saw the article about your interview today. 👏👏 I am so glad your opinions and ideas are being shared. Hopefully there is good that comes from this.
Thank you for watching and reading the article !!!! I am determined to make changes for women who will experience pregnancy loss in the future ❤
So happy your taking time for you and your hubby to heal and relax! You enjoy and unhook from life on that cruise!!
YES MAAM I PLAN TO ❤❤❤ thank you so much sweet friend🎉
India! YES!! I had an ectopic pregnancy which ended up being in an unknown location where I had to go to the oncology ward with cancer patients to receive two injections of chemo to kill off my HCG and had to take weekly blood tests until it dropped off in August of last year and then I had a miscarriage at 8 weeks and walked through a room of pregnant women then rode the elevator down with a full term pregnant mama after I found out I had one of three awful choices to make to end my pregnancy on Jan 31 and I agree with you 100000%.
I have an almost three year old beautiful little girl and I don’t have the time to process my emotions I have to show up for she and my husband fully and watching your videos makes me just sob and really process the whirlwind that I have been through so thank you for being so eloquent and open about your experiences 🙏🏻 💕
I have also been through this in 2021, found out i was pregnant but i was having pains in my side, i was supposed to be 4 weeks at that point and they couldnt see anythinfg but told me it could just be to early to see anything, i was back and forward from the hospital every 2 days for 3 weeks having scans and blood tests. Mine was also unknown location but i was having severe pain in my right side and hip, by the end of the 3 weeks i was in agony and the scans where agony, both my arms where bruised and sore from the constant blood tests. I remember how painful the blood tests where towards rhe end, i also had to have those 2 injections in my hips. Even after this i still had to go back every 48 hours for a further week for more blood tests to make sure my hcg was dropping, it was just such an awful time in my life and the worst thing about it was for those 4 weeks of being at the hospital every 2 days i had to walk out and see pregnant women walking in and out of the hospital happy after going for their scans and watch women leave the hospital wirh their newborn babies. Ofcourse you dont feel anything bad towards them but when your going through a sitatuon like this or experiencing a loss in an way its just absolutely painful and awful to have to see it every time. I remember by the end i just was wishing for it to be over sooner rather than later because you cant move on and heal having to keep going back and forward to the hospital and having to see newborns and pregnant women. I think their needs to be more compassion towards women like us because we are not just some one who has a medical problem we are also experiencing a loss as well as having problems with our health. Im so glad it worked out for you and you have a little girl x
I absolutely agree with you that there should be separate waiting rooms or different times of day for woman who are pregnant and those experiencing loss or having trouble conceiving. I fall in to the later category and have never been pregnant. I do have a beautiful adopted daughter and two step sons and I feel so blessed to have those children, now adults, in my life. I truly hope that everything works out for you. Have a great vacation and recharge!
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I agree with you.
You have a good chance of encountering someone that is pregnant or has a young baby in the next few weeks but you don't need to sit next to them while your mind is dealing with the (immediate) loss. My heart sank when you were telling what you were dealing with while in the office. I pray God will comfort you and your hubby and give you peace. 💞
My reproductive endocrinologist shares a clinic with a pediatrician, and after 6 losses in a row I can totally relate to what you mean about being there for a miscarriage follow up and seeing pregnant women/women with small children in the same waiting area. It's just that in that moment it's an especially hard thing to be around.
Well done for speaking about such a vulnerable time in order to spread more awareness about what it's like to experience pregnancy loss. And it's wonderful you and your hubs are staying self aware and taking a break as needed. It can be a long journey and you don't want to miss out on life in the meantime.
Oh wow, that would be rough. I even thought it was pretty insensitive that a couple brought their children to a fertility clinic. I know that may make me a jerk, but as I am waiting to talk about our inability to have children, I have to see this happy couple with their complete family grinning ear to ear.
Love your gracious response to the haters to your post about the other waiting room. Its completely understandable and those responders need to have a heart.
It’s a difference of opinion, not hating, and I hope we’re still allowed to have that. Segregation never accomplishes anything. It’s like staying home from school to avoid a bully, everything is still there. In this case, it’s more of a triggering by seeing pregnant people at a doctors office. Maybe I’m wrong, but I see pregnant women everywhere, the grocery store, gas station, Walmart, parks etc. I guess the logic doesn’t work out for me. And the logistics would be insane for doctors offices. What would they do? You’d have to create an entirely separate side. Look, I’m not discounting the pain. I’m just asking is this really an answer? Hiding from babies? Anyways, just another observation, this girl sure seems to not be mourning anything, pretty happy really. Really cashing in on this media attention and product placement. The whole thing just doesn’t smell right.
Naw she’s a annoying entitled influencer lol
Hardly lol@@Rockymarciono731
I’m so glad to see genuine joy on your face! 💚much love and prayers for y’all.
GIRL. Can I just say your skin is looking absolutely amazing in this video. I know it has been a journey for you so just wanted to shout that out.
Also 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 on your good morning America news xxxx
Thank you so much!!!! not to be dramatic, but it’s honestly a compliment. I never thought I would get. So so grateful !!!!!
@@indiabatson26 ❤️
Thank you for bringing a light to this! I went through a loss and all those appointments after the loss in the regular waiting room was rough.
Sending you love and positive energy! Changes need to be made 🩶
Oh love, you’re so brave, strong and tenacious, an undeniable role model for this and future generations and a voice for so so SO many women around the world, thank you.
I’m in utter shock that you got hate comments from your other video. I too know that losing your baby is most certainly not a “pick yourself up and dust yourself off” circumstance, for many. And like you said, without those haters your message wouldn’t have travelled so far, so quickly and reached so many.
Have the best holiday ever! Turn off your phone, stand bare foot in the grass, you and Daniel just “be”, no one deserves it more.
Sending so much love ❤️
I completely agree about a different waiting room for those who've experienced pregnancy loss. We have rooms in hospitals where they take people to be informed of a loss of a loved one and nobody seems to have an issue with those. None of those people are told they should just deal with other people witnessing their grief or they're entitled for having a separate area.
I don't see how the other things you mentioned would work. People only have certain times they're available, and if they can't come in the afternoon or morning they shouldn't have to wait longer for an appointment.
As always I find your way of dealing with everything inspiring. Good for you for not giving those ugly people much of your time and responding in kind instead of hatred. I hope you and Daniel enjoy the hell out of your vacation. ❤
We had loss, infertility, after 8 years we had our little rainbow baby, and my heart is with you. We took breaks from the meds and trying for mental health AND physical health and I think it truly helps. Stress and grief are hard on the body, take time to HEAL, it's very good for your entire body, mind and soul. As hard as it is to choose to take a break, it can be so helpful (from experience) and you are WISE and you're an incredible mother even in this earliest season of motherhood ❤
Having had a missed miscarriage recently and also having to sit in the same waiting room as still pregnant women, I have to agree about how HARD it is to sit there on the worst day of your life and watch while others are having the best. I also had to walk through the waiting room immediately after finding out my baby had no heartbeat absolutely balling while walking past people waiting for their scans. Can’t have been nice for the people waiting and it wasn’t nice for me 😢 thank you so much for speaking out about your experience x
I completely understand everything you have been through. I lost my twins at approximately the same time you had your ectopic pregnancy. I went in for my first check up to find out I was pregnant with twin and that they stopped growing at 6 weeks. It’s very hard coming back for follow up appointments and having to see other women with successful pregnancies. It’s makes it even harder when you keep trying and you are unsuccessful at getting pregnant with each passing month. I’m not knocking anyone who can get pregnant and carry to full term. Congrats to each and every woman out there however for those who are as fortunate need to be able to be treated in a way to help us cope. I feel we dont get the same love and care to help us through our time of loss. Congrats on being able to getting an interview and being able to help others with your words and with everything you have been through. I throughly enjoy watching your videos!! You are such a joy and have helped me through my tough times❤
This video was the first time I saw the viral clip. Bravo to you for speaking what was in your heart and possibly being part of the change we see in clinics and practices. Been a fan for awhile because of your hair advice, but thank you for being even more relatable now. Good luck on the interview😊
Yes yes yes! My heart goes out to you, I've been there! 5 miscarriages, 100% agree separate waiting rooms, waaayyy overdue my goodness!
You are absolutely gorgeous inside and out!! ❤ sending lots of love and thank you for being such an amazing person to speak out for all of us ❤❤❤❤!!!
You are such a kind, genuine, and powerful woman. I aspire to live through my life experiences with the grace you have shown 🫶
Oh you are truly just too kind. So much love to you friend !!!
With all three of my pregnancy losses I’ve had to wait in the same exact lobby all the expecting pregnant women had to.. I do understand people saying we need to just get thicker skin and learn to be ok with it because I mean I believe we come out better and stronger in the end for having gone through that.. However. The GRIEF that you experience after losing your baby is just so unbearable. And there are no words to explain just how much worse that grief was in the moments I had to sit there next to others who were so blessed to not have to share that same grief. The women out there who can forever be ignorant in their bliss because they’ve never had a pregnancy loss. It just cuts so much deeper and the blow is so much harder and I would never wish it on my worst enemy.
During the duration of trying for my 2nd baby, we were 9 months in and nothing was happening so we took a break. I stopped tracking my cycles and even got on birth control for a cycle to see if it would help with my cycle. While still on that break (off of birth control) I got pregnant. Took us 13 months. That break was truly what I needed.
Enjoy your vacation and hope you both get some healing ❤
thank you so so much friend. so much lvoe to you!!!
I totally agree it hurts so bad 😭I hope they start doing that change.
OMG! India! So proud of you. Not only for the TicTok blow up but you have handled something so difficult with so much grace and love. Sending you and your husband so much ❤️
Thank you for being a voice for all of us mothers who have angel 👼 babies ❤ we love and support you!
I think it's so admirable that you are listening to yourself and taking the time that you need to heal, physically and emotionally. I had a ruptured ectopic pregnancy last summer and took nine full months to grieve the loss and recover from the trauma of that experience. Even though I had conflicted feelings about discontinuing trying, especially, as you said, because it may take longer to conceive with only one tube, I'm ultimately so glad I took this time because I can now return to trying with a greater sense of peace, hopefulness, and excitement. And I can't overstate how helpful a wonderful trip with my husband was, so I hope your vacation offers you similar healing and respite. Wishing you both all the best.
The comments on that post were unreal. I’m grateful to you for sharing your stories and experiences. Just days ago I had a ruptured ectopic pregnancy, and because I had recently watched your video about what happened to you, it was fresh in my mind. I knew what it meant, I knew how serious it was, and I understood our pregnancy wasn’t viable. It just helped me to have a lot of clarity in a very chaotic and confusing moment. I had a similar experience of being brought into L&D to discuss my surgery and it was hard to have that around me at all, but thankfully the nurses were very courteous and moved us to a private room so we could wait without that all around us. I hope your interview goes great and that it promotes some positive changes.
Omgah I feel the exact same way.. they did my methotrexate injections on the POSTPARTUM floor for both my ectopic pregnancies.. (I’ve had two ectopics and an early miscarriage) and then I had to come back to the clinic where they discovered my unviable pregnancies and wait in a room with a bunch of healthy pregnant women.. so I just cried in the waiting room where ppl could see.. it was so uncomfortable.. thats a form of mental torture clinics and hospitals need to think about.. Like there I was laying in my hospital bed waiting for the chemotherapy shots to end my pregnancy meanwhile I hear newborn babies crying in the background. I just bawled my eyes out the whole hospital procedure. And with my second ectopic pregnancy, even though I had two rounds of methotrexate, my left tube still ruptured and needed to be removed. So I’m also down to one tube as well and am scared to travel while trying.
I resonate with so much of what you said ❤❤❤ I am so sorry for your pregnancy losses. Thank you for sharing some thing so personal! You are seeing valued and heard, and we can make a change together for those he will come after us!
so sorry this happened to you. that is such a heartbreaking experience 😣 ♥️ i hope that India helps create change so no more women will have to feel the way you did in the midst of an already impossibly painful time
Omg! You and your husband and my husband and I are literally going through the same thing! I’m the girl from your Instagram video on your miscarriage that commented about me also being in the same boat as you to the dot! Like date wise we are on the same page as you. And we also are taking a break (also 2 losses back to back, 4 overall 5 babies) and are going on a vacation too lol! And we will start trying again God willing during the summer. So this is crazy that what you’re sharing is exactly where we are at! Blessing to you and your future hun!
So sorry for the loss you have endured. I can’t even imagine the heartbreak after the first time to then go through it again. It never ceases to amaze me that people can lack empathy. It’s a sad commentary on the state of human beings these days. Sending love and thank you to all the other women you have helped by sharing your story.
As someone sturggling with infertility and treatments for years, I completely agree. Sitting in the waiting room watching happy couples glowing over ultrasounds is hard. I hope the best for you, thank you for sharing your story. ❤
That is one of the hardest things to comprehend…..
I think the first thing that needs to change is our world must understand the sanctity of life beginning at conception. If we everyone valued life in the womb then I think more people would have compassion for women going through infertility and pregnancy loss. I’m so sorry you’re going through this India, but God is definitely amazing and using all this pain for something greater than us. Just the simple fact that you can share your experience with so many other people and help other women going through the same is incredible. You got this! I’m praying for you 🤍
I totally agree!
I hadn’t seen your viral video before this video but I literally went to my 2 week post-op appointment today for my C-section. Baby was born on March 8th and he is my first baby after my missed miscarriage/still birth from October 2022. As I was sitting in the waiting room with my husband and 2 week old, I thought about every other woman sitting in there and what their stories might be because I was there just a little over a year ago sitting in that same waiting room after being told my daughter no longer had a heart beat and seeing all the pregnant women and newborns in the waiting room too. I don’t think anyone was there today for a loss but there was a beautiful couple there today that could have been there for loss or TTC. Either way, I worried about making them feel uncomfortable because I had my brand new baby there and remembered being there for my loss in October 2022. Needless to say, I 100% agree with you about having separate rooms for different moms.
My heart absolutely broke when I saw your last video. I wanted to come through the screen and give you a hug. I'm so glad just to see you smiling again. I hope you guys have an amazing time on vacation!
I love your raw candor, be it sad, compassionate, silly goofball or series educational.
Also, your makeup is so soft and beautiful, it really compliments your face.
You are so, so kind! Thank you for your kind words ❤❤❤
@@indiabatson26 I am glad my words found you kindly. Hugs.
I had 11 D & C's for menorrhagia , without ever being pregnant. Followed by uterine cancer and finally a hysterectomy at 38. It was so hard and still is, every day I deal with it still and I am now 48. My desire to grow a baby was with me from my easiest childhood memory. I truely believed in my soul I was going to. Maybe another life was coming through. Who knows? Interstingly, my big sister is my polar opposite and had 5 kids and could get pregnant sneezing. With her being my big sister, I tell her she stole my baby genes. We can laugh at it, It helps. I wish that for you someday. Laughter even twisted laugh, help.
You have such a good point, I guess I never thought about it. You can’t really be upset at the woman in the waiting room for asking you when you were due, she didn’t know what you were going through, but if there was a separate room for you it wouldn’t have happened. When I had my hysterectomy 15 years ago, my doctor asked if I would be alright on the maternity floor for my post op stay. I asked why that would be a problem, and she said because for some woman that are having a hysterectomy, they either never had the chance to have children or maybe they wanted more, this was the end of that for them and being on the ward with woman who had just had a baby, and the nursery was difficult. For me personally I had two kids, when my youngest was born C-section I had my tubes tied, so my family was complete. I loved being on that ward. Again before she asked I never thought about it. The preferred place was for me to be on the maternity floor, because the nurses were better equipped to handle my needs, but if it was going to be a difficult for me she would put me on a different floor.
i love the idea of the Dr asking in advance & scheduling / coordinating accordingly. i think it also gives someone who may not have even thought about it like you, the opportunity to get an advanced warning of what could happen
I love everything about this video. It's so great to see you glowing again. Grief is a process with stages, but God is absolutely a part of that process and does amazing things through it and despite it. Good things are coming, girl!
I had only a portion of 1 ovary and was told I couldn’t get pregnant but I absolutely did. It wasn’t planned AND I was using a form of birth control and I had my miracle baby who will be 27 next month. Stay strong. You’re a beautiful woman inside and out. 😊
I’m so sorry for everything you went through but so thankful you can help be a catalyst for change! I hate how the medical system can mistreat women and this is one step forward ❤
Thank you for voicing this. It brought back my emotions from the day I found out I lost my first child at 9 weeks. Having to walk out of the office through a waiting room of visibly pregnant women with my dead child inside of me was one of the most emotional moments of my life. I hope for all women this can be changed.
THANK YOU for discussing your skin changes throughout your hormonal cycle!! I never had education on that when I was younger and I didn't even know that hormones could affect so much till my mid twenties when I did my own research. Its so good that you're openly talking about it ❤
Also, I have never ever been in your shoes in terms of the miscarriage but, I am here for you and fully support your decisions ❤
Thank you for being so vulnerable to share. I had never really thought about this, but I agree with you!
Thank you for listening ❤❤❤❤❤
My boyfriend an i are currently trying. We are following fertility treatments, as with my pcos, i very rarely naturally ovulate. I must say i am so happy they decided to separate the fertility clinic department from the obstetrics. It's really hard and emotional as a process, and having to look at beautiful pregnant belly while waiting to check wether the medication to help me ovulate this month worked of if we have to skip this cycle and try again next month would be horrible. Where i go, the section for miscarriages etc, is also separate, they even have a different entrance. I think it's better this way, but also had a friend (who had a miscarriage at 7 weeks) whose hospital had only one waiting room and she also found it to be quite cruel to have to wait with pregnant women.
After having two 2nd trimester losses back to back we had to take a break. My husband and I decided to wait a full year because we just couldn't take another loss so soon. I won't travel out of my state at all next time we are pregnant. We found a lot of peace in waiting and I desperately needed therapy after two extremely traumatic losses. Hang in there it can be so hard. Glad you guys are going on a vacation. Enjoy the time to reconnect with your husband
Sending all the love and prayers to you and all women who go through this. Pregnancy I know can be so isolating… I’ve never had a child but I know those close to me who do struggled with this… but the grief that comes with loss like this is unfathomable to me. I completely agree with you there should be other options.
My husband and I took a break after our second loss too and it was worth it. The pressure and the stress build up and I am always amazed at how much of a load comes off when we are not trying to conceive. Postponing it is so hard mentally, but it seems like it would be so much better to bring a child into the world when you're mentally in a good place. I'm so happy to hear that GMA is interviewing you. There should be so much more awareness of miscarriage and loss instead of sweeping it under the rug. We should be able to grieve without having to hide that we are grieving from the world. There are SO many people who are going through infertility, pregnancy loss, etc. and you probably know several even if you don't realize it. It shouldn't be so hidden in my opinion.
I just want you to know ..never give up...i lost three pregnancies back to back ...fast forward 10 years later..i have a 19 month old son... out of the blue after i thought there wasn't any chance... miracles happen every day! 😊
As someone who worked in an OB office and have seen the heartbreak. I’m so sorry that is something you had to experience. I’m praying for you and your family for peace and healing.
India, my heart breaks for you. After my second trimester miscarriage, I never wanted to try for kids. When my husband and I got married, we were not trying, and it just happened. But during both pregnancies, I had so much anxiety that I took a pregnancy test almost every week. I did not take time to heal mentally and grieve. The fact that you are both brave enough to openly state that you need this time to heal speaks volumes. You are such a beacon to so many women!!! My heart and prayers are with you through this entire journey. I believe God will give you what you and your husband need when His time is right.
Sending you all the love ❤️ ps. Your skin girl!! Wow😍😍
You are absolutely stunning! I'm obsessed with your eyes. 😍😍 But I'm sorry you had to go through all of this but THANK YOU for sharing your story and using your platform to bring awareness for those of us that can't do it ourselves. You are so strong. ❤️
I am currently pregnant and finding out Friday if it is viable or not. It’s not looking good and it will also be my second loss in a row. Hoping so much that we receive good news but regardless, I SEE YOU. You are so strong and I love how vulnerable you are with your audience. Enjoy your time off with your husband and wishing you the best on this journey moving forward. 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜
You go girl! Enjoy your vacation and time away. When you're ready hit it out of the ballpark.
India! I have followed you for years my heart breaks with you as you've shared your story.
I absolutely agree with more trauma informed & compassionate care. And know I am praying for your rainbow baby whenever you guys decide you're ready to try again ❤❤❤
I used to work for an OB/GYN and we did in-office US. We had a separate exit route for the distraught patients who had just found that their babe had passed…it didn’t make things easier but at least offered some dignity.
I had a miscarriage when I was very young and newly married, and it was very early (weeks), so I didn’t even know what was happening at first… bc I had no clue I was pregnant at all. We weren’t trying and in fact were trying to avoid it. I remember going to the hospital and the guy trying to tell me it was just a bad period (I had horrible endometriosis & bled to the point of becoming anemic and even passing out most months). I knew it was more than that but I was so sick I had no idea.
My point is this: this was a time in my life when I was too young and wouldn’t have been ready. And still it was a painful thing to go through. I can’t imagine wanting, trying and praying for it, only for it to end in a loss, and then having to sit there and watch others have what you hoped for hours and days after finding out. Any woman who can’t have compassion for that or takes it as you being against pregnant women is just completely out of line. ❤
Hey India! I've been watching you for years! I started out following your curly hair routine and loved it! But... I've been out of the loop for a little while. I just saw your story about your Pregnancy losses. Let me begin with telling how so, so sorry i am for you. It breaks my Heart for you, because I understand how hard it is to go through it, its very traumatic both physically and mentally!! Unfortunately, I've had losses myself. I've had 2 Ectopic Pregnancies. I almost bled to death with the first one. The first Ectopic I went through was very fast and scary. I didn't know i was pregnant and i thought that my late period and horrible cramps was just my Endometriosis acting up... Well within the next 6 hours I was in such horrible pain that it was making me physically sick. My husband drove me to the E.R. and as soon as we walked in, I looked at him and said "I'm gonna faint!!" That's all i remember until i woke up in a room about 10 minutes later. The Doctor came in pretty quickly and after i told him what had been going on, he sent me immediately to have an Abdominal Ultrasound. Almost as soon as she saw my stomach on the screen, she called for the Doctor to come the room asap! He looked again with the probe and told then told me that i was severely bleeding internally and that i needed emergency surgery! I was having an Ectopic Pregnancy that had ruptured my right Fallopian Tube causing the bleeding. I was in shock, i was in horrific pain, I was scared... I was alllll the emotions at once! They made a rather large incision that resembles a C-section incision, only mine is a little bit longer. Of course there was absolutely no way he could've repaired the Tube, it was completely ruptured! I was in the hospital for 9 days. The part that really hurt was that i had a room on the Maternity floor. We had been trying to get pregnant for 2 years without any success. It was sweet to hear the happiness and little cries around us, but made us sad because I had just gone through an absolute nightmare.... Fast forward 4 years and I had a 2nd Ectopic Pregnancy. But this time i knew i was pregnant. Super early pregnant, and when took my little at home test and it was positive i called my OBGYN immediately. He took blood and urine and did Internal Ultrasounds every other day. My HCG levels were rising, but not like they should've. After several more Ultrasounds he was able to see the start of my Fallopian Tube become swollen. I had to have another surgery to remove that Tube.... So we weren't able to have children of our own, but we have so many we "claim!!" Hahaha... We're the cool Uncle and Aunt!! We get to love on and spoil some pretty great kids, and then give them back to their Parents!! Hahahaha
After the 2nd Ectopic, my husband and i said that we were going to make peace within ourselves that we're happy together and are blessed with awesome friends and family who stood through everything with us in our fertility journey! I sure don't mean every day has been rainbows and glitter.... But it gets better day by day!
Gosh, I just wrote a whole BOOK on here!! Hahaha... But, I just wanted you to know that you're not alone. I'll pray that wherever your fertility journey takes you, that you'll find happiness and love!! ❤
I'm so sorry for your loss.. 💔
I love you so much ❤️
I pray for you to get all the strength in the world to deal with this.. I hope your trauma heals..
Thank you for sharing the video here. I hadn't seen it. I agree 1000%. This should be the standard of care. There is always a way to make it happen. My kids are grown and i never had pregnacy loss but I hope for my daughter in law, daughters and nieces to not have to go though that in the dr office. So glad your voice is being heard!❤ Good Morning America is my favorite! Can is say, your make up enhances your natural beauty so well. Love the blush and your eyes. I struggle with finding the right colors for my face.
It was so incredibly hard to sit in that waiting room for my blood draws for my HCG being around pregnant women knowing that my baby was gone. I just kept my face in my husbands shoulder. Yes he came with me to all my blood draws.
You are so strong to be able to be around pregnant friends right now. I had a late miscarriage (I was almost 14 weeks) in December and just fond out a friend of mine is pregnant and while I'm so happy for her I broke down crying. And I HATE that I did. I'm still far from being okay. I almost broke down at work because I thought about how I had planned to name my son Michael after both my father and brother who have passed away and he's in heaven with them. I don't know how to be okay with my son being gone.
I am so sorry for your loss. ❤
I agree about seperate waiting rooms! My sister in law had to have a d&c and had to go to the labor and delivery section…..where laboring women or ones who’ve just had a baby are and she didn’t have kind nurses 💔
Cruises are so relaxing. You can do everything or you can do nothing. We try to cruise once a year .
We’ve been all over the world on cruises. We have 18 under our belt and the 19th booked for October. We like the bigger ships of Royal Caribbean because there is so much to do.
Enjoy. After all your trauma, you deserve some downtime.
You are truly as always a beautiful women, soul, and inspiration. Wishing you so much healing and joy from Vegas! ❤❤❤
Love you, India!! And love your perspective! Struggling with infertility and 100% agree with you! Thank you for giving us ladies a voice!! You go girl!! Good Morning America will be lucky to have you!
I went into labor at 5 months, 6 months and 8 months delivered still born babies. Being in the hospitals delivery unit and being rushed out of a room because you no longer have a living child in order for you to be admitted for the couple days they keep you after having a baby and hearing all the infants around crying and you’re walking out empty-handed and brokenhearted. There should definitely be a separate place area for loss no matter how far along you are! May God wrap his hands around you and heal you and your husband.
I think when people say "yeah its normal, everyone goes through this or pick yourself up and stop crying about it or someone has it worse" are people that were taught to suffer alone. From my experience...being alone leads to depression which could lead to ending yourself....and thats for any gender. When i lost my daughter at 21 weeks and i gave birth to her and she never took her first breath....i wanted to end my life...but i had a child and a husband and i picked myself up....talked to my husband about what we experienced but overall i learned to share my story without crying...to show people my life without shutting people out. I learned from losing my daughter to be open.
My heart goes out to you, having lost my first born full-term during an emergency C-section. The pain is the same. The hopes and future dreams we had for our little one will never happen. The nurses gave me a book EMPTY ARMS by Sherokee Ilse. And told me just ignore anything in it you don't like ...but go on reading. I found this book so very comforting and educational. I couldn't put it down and referred to it many times, especially when my arms literally ached for that lost, beautiful baby. Take comfort to in Psalms 139:15-16 in the Bible and know that the future holds promise.
A vacation sounds like a good idea. I didn’t have any trouble getting pregnant. I had trouble STAYING pregnant. It is so stressful on your entire being-mind, body, and soul. You take care of you. Take care of your marriage, and take care of your husband. Sending you love and keeping you in my prayers! 🩷
I had emergency surgery in October and lost my right ovary/fallopian tube. I was told that my left ovary would pick up the slack and I would still ovulate each month. Since then, I've monitored my ovulation with Inito and tracking my BBT, so far I have ovulated each month. Wishing you the best and lots of healing.
first of all im so so sorry to hear you lost your right ovary and tube. im SO THRILLED to hear your left ovary is kicking it into overtime!! this thrills my soul for you! so much lvoe to you friend
@@indiabatson26 I hope yours does the same for you, enjoy the trip and the chance to reconnect! ❤️
My cousin tried for 3 years, gave up and got pregnant a month later. Take time to heal and enjoy your time off. Praying for you🙏❤️
My aunt had 2 ectopic pregnancies and has had trouble conceiving and everything that goes with it physically and mentally. She just had her first baby born a month ago. There is hope, even if it doesn't work out the way you want it to. Hope everything goes well for you!
❤ I agree I had a ruptured ectopic and it was days before the hospital finally gave me an ultrasound. They just kept sending me home saying your having a miscarriage you'll be fine. My mom after 3 days of me being in insurmountable pain took me to the ER and I demanded a ultrasound where they found the ruptured ectopic and that I was hemorrhaging I had to stay on the labour and delivery floor for 3 days while I recovered after the surgery. I'm blessed that a Dr finally listened to me and God allowed me to go on and live and have 2 bueatiful boys.
2 points:
1. I completely agree with taking your baby-moon equivalent pre-pregnancy. After pregnancy loss, during my subsequent pregnancies my bubble of distance-from-hospital grew progressively smaller as the months progressed.
2. At my hospital, after a c section, for about an hour you go to a sort of emergency room like waiting place just outside of the surgery area, there are just curtains between patients. The woman beside me was sobbing painful cries, and it sounded like she was totally alone. These were my very first moments with my son. I don’t know if her baby was in the NICU or was even alive, maybe adoption, no idea. But it felt so wrong to celebrate my son with my husband amid her pain, so we stayed quiet for her sake. That’s another situation where she should have been given a more private space where she didn’t have to hear the sounds of new parents and their new babies when she was really obviously in such pain. I asked the nurses if we could do anything and I think their impression was that we were bothered, but really I just felt gutted for the woman who was suffering alone. Just another area in this field where all pregnancy outcomes could be better served.
My kids pediatrician s office has a sick side and a well side. So separate waiting rooms is totally a thing. And ur damn right it is compassionate care and trauma informed care. And the fit gaps you mention about days in the week or AM vs PM is the bare minimum.
Hey India, so I never had your specific struggle, but I did have problems with yeast infections for a year as a newly wed, and I felt so alone, like the only woman in the world with a broken body. Stress I think is so so bad for our sexual and reproductive health. You are doing the right thing and you are not alone 😘
I just wanted to mention you looked gorgeous your eyes really stood out in this video ❤️. But I completely agree, despite never being pregnant before and never tried to get pregnant yet I can only imagine the pain and sadness of a loss while simultaneously seeing other women getting to experience that joy in front of you. I’m glad you didn’t take any hate to heart and the choice to respectfully disagree with others even if they can’t with you.
Praying for you precious India and your husband! May you both have peace that surpass understanding. Love you India
I am a former infertility patient, had several miscarriages and IVF failures, I totally understand that you need an emotional and physical break right now. Makes sense to me. Follow your heart and what makes sense to you. Don’t listen to others, do what you need to do. I pray for you and your husband, may God give you strength and peace through this journey. God did bless me with 2 beautiful baby boys and we got our family. God is great and keep hopeful. He will bless you with a baby and you will get your family.
I saw your message about the waiting room on insta, I think, and AMEN, SISTER! I feel this so deeply from my past. My story is almost opposite of yours - missed miscarriage and then ruptured ectopic (I was in hemorrhagic shock and in very bad condition). I was so grateful to be alive after, that my perspective on life and marriage and children was very different after that experience than before - I understand loss changing your way of thinking. I wish you happiness, whatever that turns out to be.
I'm so sorry, and I wish there were better words that really conveyed the depth of feeling. Wishing you all the best.
We took a break before we did IVF and I am so glad we did. I learned to Rollerskate and went on our first trip to Disneyland. It was COVID or to Sandals. I did not travel outside of the U.S. at all while pregnant with my twins. I saw my family in another state or we did a staycation 20 minutes from our house. I was not happy to postpone trying but it gave me the time I needed. Our babies weren't born until 2 years after our loss.
My left ovary always ovulated and my right ovary like never did. I called it the lazy ovary. I didn't have a left tube after my ruptured ectopic and we checked via ultrasound each month no matter how much clomid, letrozole, and gonal f I tried my left would just ovulate two eggs and my right would do nothing.
New subscriber ❤ praying for y'all and yes take time God will bless you with a baby in his best timing.
Girl. I know. Walking into that waiting room and thinking to myself, "Nobody knows that I'm losing a baby right now. Like, right now." It's surreal. And it's sad. It's heartbreaking, and when the heart breaks, it heals differently in grief and is never really the same.
Living the same thing right now, had a miscarriage in nov 2023 which then led to a burnout at work , and now im changing careers and travelling so im taking a break also.i get what you mean by “missing out on fertile months” and pushing further having a child to your later 30s , i feel the same , but better to heal ourselves first then the magic will happen :)
I agree with you about the travel. After my 19 week missed miscarriage I was diagnosed with anti phospholipid syndrome, and will have to be on lovenox in future pregnancies. The idea of being away from my doctors at all really freaks me out.
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I experienced a miscarriage years ago, but I agree with you. It was hard sitting in the doctor's waiting room with all the pregnant women and those with their babies for me too.
Not even going to lie the time you dont try and just live in happiness is the time where most will get their blessing and i see yours coming soon ❤
I had a missed micarraige and needed at D&C also. I remember on my way to theatre and going past rooms that women were obviously having c-sections as there were new Daddies outside holding their newborn babies.
I felt it so sad to see how different the situations were. It was so upsetting and hard!