8 things I wish I knew in my 20’s: relationships, money, habits & happiness
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My best thing I learned in my 20’s ( and I’m still working on?) is being happy in the NOW. Not waiting for the next “life event” to be happy 🫶✨
I am really trying to be happy in the now! It's very hard some days!
Something that I learned in my 20's is to choose happiness. I choose to find joy.
GO OFFFFFFF. YES !!!!!! This is so good. Don’t wait for it to come to you! Choose it NOW
In my late 20's I lost my dad. He was on his way to work, and he was in a crash, and I never saw him again. I learned tons. I learned how glad I was that I would always tell family I love them, and that I did it with dad. I learned that in some ways mom didn't feel grown up, because she and dad split up what chores they each did, and what bills each paid, and mom didn't know which bank had the mortgage on the house. So I moved home for a few years, and mom and I grew up together. We learned mortgages and insurance and all dad's stuff that he did. So keep learning for your whole life, and say I love you to your peeps a lot. I'm 56 now, and I can really say that even tragedy contains some hidden gifts in there that really help you get through.
I’m 25 going to be 26 years old this year and what I’ve learned that life is too short, so show the people you care about that you love them, and not everything is as good as it seems and not everything is as bad as it seems. I also learned to accept God into my life and I have never been happier, amen
Show people you love them 😭 and accept God 💛 so LIfechanging
One thing I've learned is "Take the leap". Don't be afraid and just try it, and, if you find you didn't like it, now you know and won't be left wondering! Don't be afraid to experience new things and discover other aspects of yourself!
This is SOOOOOOO GOOD 👏 lvoe this !!!!! Agreed
I just turned 29 myself. One thing that I have learned is there is no “perfect” timeline of life. We are all running at our own pace. And comparing ourselves to others is hard to not do, but doing so will not bring you peace. Remember the grass isn’t always greener on the other side and life is not a race.
The main thing I learned from my 20s is that no one is really worried too much about you, so don’t worry so much about what others think about you. This was hard for me to understand when I was younger, but everyone has their own life and is so preoccupied with themselves. Just choose what makes you happy, try something new, and just focus on the day that you are in, not the past or the future. Thanks for the video India!
I am 21 but I learned so much about myself and giving grace to myself and my healing process. I also have learned about not needing to rush into being successful having a house and kids and figuring it all out before 30. I have a lifetime to figure it all out knowing that it’s okay to be lost a bit. One step infront the other and do my best 😊❤️
I’m 30 and I’ll be 31 in June 🌈 and I would say 2 big things I’ve learned throughout my 20s is 1. Do the things you like and be proud of them! Don’t be embarrassed to admit that you like a certain book or music or activity because you’ll definitely find people that like the same thing. And you like it so keep doing it! 2. Accept your age and what comes with aging. I think aging is beautiful and we work so hard to work against getting older..but we are so be open to it!
In my 20s I learned that you are going to lose some friends and that’s okay! There is nothing wrong with you, you’re growing.
I learned that if you marry young, you don’t “miss out on your 20s” like everyone says. I never partied or did anything crazy and I got married a few days before I turned 21. People act like getting married young is a waste of your youth and that you should use your twenties to “just have fun”. I am having a blast! I have a never-ending sleepover with my husband and we get to do everything together and I am so glad I didn’t wait until I was older to settle down. And guess what? I can still go out with friends if I want to! You can still have friends and go out even though you’re married. It’s not a burden; it’s a loving commitment that I am so glad I made! ❤️
Could not agree more!!!!
I'm currently 23. One of the biggest things I've learned is that not everyone in your life is meant to stay in it
Im 23 too and Learning this hardcore right now
Just turned 26 3 months ago, it feels quite scary like I've left my last year of being "young" behind and now I've hit being a "real grownup" but have no idea how it works😂
First thing: it's oky to say no and start putting myself first.
Water and sunscreen are my best friends!
Not comparing my success to someone else's, every person's journey looks different!
I’m 31 next month, and the biggest thing I learned in my 20s (and still learning) is that it’s okay to move at your own pace in life. I spent a long time figuring out what I wanted, was a student for most of my 20s and am only just now able to move out from my parents home. But it doesn’t make me a failure compared to someone who became independent at 18.
Also, the friends you make in your 20s may come and go and it’s normal. Everyone is forging their own path.
Lastly, have fun, do things you enjoy and go to places you’ve never been!
Love yourself as much or more as you love your friends and family. I think sometimes “would I say that to my best friend?” “Would I be okay with my best friend doing that?”. Treat yourself like your loved ones. If you wouldn’t be okay with your best friend skipping meals and degrading herself, don’t do it.
Best thing I learned in my 20’s is it all works out in the end. The job, the boo thang, school etc. It may not happen right away but you will find out eventually why things didn’t work out for you that you thought you wanted. That’s all part of Gods plan
The most important thing I learned after a terrible and draining relationship was to learn to enjoy my own company. I genuinely love spending time by myself, going to the gym alone, reading, whatever! That has led me to finding a partner I actively want in my life and love being around without feeling scared of being alone and after taking enough time to realize what I want❤
I’m 26, so still some years to learn but this year in particular I learned to embrace who God made me naturally to be - how my body naturally works as a woman, the natural color of my hair I’ve spent years highlighting, etc. - and to just be content with who I am. I wear what I love and feel comfortable in even though it’s not “trendy”, I have color all throughout my home even though neutral everything is “in” and I don’t feel the need to run out and buy the latest hot products. I’m content with exactly what I have and I’m content with exactly who I am. Glad I learned this now, but still wish I would have learned this even sooner! It’s so freeing! Thank you for sharing!!
I turn 30 next month. Things I've learned: no is a complete sentence, thinness does not determine your worth, and time is precious (your time/ the time you spend with your family) don't waste one second ❤
21 here. One of the biggest things I’ve learned, and am learning is that my 20s are my years of exploration. I don’t have to have everything figured out, but rather I want to allow myself to experience. To learn and grow and change. My perspectives, my mindset, my habits and beliefs. Just allow myself to be in process and soak everything up without too much judgment on myself. 🫶🏽 Thanks India for this video, love you. 😊
I learned to stop trying to keep up with the Jones. Meaning stop trying to have what other people have. Be grateful for what you have and stop being jealous of others.
I am 53 with so many regrets. I so wish I had had someone like you in my 20s to look to for honest, open advice and support. Please keep doing what you do ❤️
Life goes on. Love that one! So true.
No one thinks about you as much as you think they do. So don’t waste your energy and time and don’t be concerned with what you fathom others might be thinking. You do you.
And always be kind. Empathy and compassion go a long way!
Maybe I learned this in my 30’s but self reflection. Huge!
I think one of the biggest things I’ve learned in my 20’s now 30’s is to truly soak up every moment because you never know when it may be your last with someone. I lost my mom 2 years ago unexpectedly and I beat myself up constantly for not soaking in more time with her
I spent my 20ies mostly searching for a "fix" for my childhood and teenager issues and - newsflash! - no object, person or career achievement helped. So towards the end of my 20ies I finally started to take care of myself and I wished I had done this much earlier.
I'm now in my 30ies and let me tell you - because I am more comfortable with myself and more aware of my needs , boundaries and feelings - the 30ies are a blast! 😊
Love this video!!! Thanks! I am 25 : halfway there! I have learned that my job does not define me as a whole. I love it, I am passionate about it BUT I am a lot of other things and I should not leave my job be my only number one top priority. I am also a young woman, a lover to my lover, a sister to my sisters, a girl to my parents, etc… It was not sane to allow myself to live only on weekends because what was important was to be dedicated to my job and perform well. I guess I had something to prove myself, professionally speaking, but it was also a lesson of prioritizing as a whole 😅 Love from France 🇫🇷 ❤
I learned the phrase "Why do you care?" I ask myself this any time I am feeling annoyed or emotional. It helps me to let the little things go and really identify the things that matter. Once I know what matters I can dig in and work on it without being distracted by the small stuff!
so much good advice! I would emphasize that what makes you different as a kid is often what makes you cool as an adult, and I'll add that the learning and growth in your 20's make your 30's less fraught and more fun ❤
In my 20s I learned that nobody is perfect and we’re all just doing our best. I need to give myself and others some grace.
I’m only 21 sooo I’m just starting out 😂😂 but the best advice so far has been, Don’t waste time! And only spend your energy on things that bring you Joy. That’s been a game changer for me. ❤ I Love you India and all you other ladies! You’re amazing
This is such good advice!! If something doesn’t serve you then into the next 👏 do things that bring you joy! Life is short
@@indiabatson26 yes! Too short to waste it ❤️
i turn 25 in june. the first five years of my 20s have been insane and unconventional to say the least. i was diagnosed in January 2020 with leukemia. thankfully i finished treatment in 2022 and am now a cancer survivor :) the biggest lesson i learned is to practice gratitude ! everyday before i go to bed i list out at least three things im grateful for. changing your mindset to focus on what you have instead of what you don’t have is truly life changing !
Not realizing it when I was 20 but looking back (just turned 27) living on my own and being 5 hours away from anyone I knew was a huge growing up moment and figuring life out. Being able to be completely on your own was a huge valuable lesson that I really appreciate I had
Fully embrace and cherish those people who enhance your life. If there is someone who doesn't make your life better, you're better off without them. And create and maintain healthy boundaries!
Re: feminine hygiene. My husband has been very sick and was in the hospital and is now in a nursing center and will be there for some months. He’s an older guy. Anyway they have these briefs which are actually kind of like a diaper that I think all patients wear. Man, before I went through menopause I would GLADLY have worn one of those during my period. My flows were so heavy and I’ve made plenty of messes in my life.
Period underwear! They’re the best!!! I’m so thankful I learnt about them relatively early in life
I have found that life is not that serious!! Going through grad school has made me realize that if something can go wrong- it probably will and thats ok!! Life doesnt have to be perfect to be good!
My 20s (and most of my 30s) were such a hot mess! What I learned in my 20s is that I had a lot to learn about life. And that it’s okay to not have it all together right there and then, because I sure didn’t! I’m in my 50s now even though I’m much more comfortable in my own skin, there is always more to learn and to experience.
I’m 22 and the biggest thing I have learned so far in my 20s is that everyone is on their own timeline and I shouldn’t feel rushed to hit whatever milestones (boyfriend, house, marriage, kids).
I'll just say I'm past my 20's , my biggest life lessons so far don't sweat the small stuff, trust God and spread joy and love
The only way to get over something is to go through it. Feel it, don’t avoid it, don’t run from it… fully feel it and own it. It will feel better on the other side of it. Time heals all wounds ♥️
What I have learnt especially at work is that don’t quit because your boss is not being right with u just hold on and keep moving forward.
Sweet young lady, enjoy the journey!! You will learn a lot in every decade of your life and the things that seem big now will be the stepping stones of tomorrows learning. Your focus will change over time so stay true to you just like you did with all the tests you have made it past already.
Such wonderful advice 💛💛💛💛💛
27 almost 28 here and I have learned... 1) Don't not do something because its out of your comfort zone or not your normal... Always go for your dreams because you will regret it later if you don't. 2) Don't force friendships just to have a "friend", they aren't your friend if you are the only one putting in the effort and you will find your person (platonic or otherwise) eventually so just hold on!
India this video is so wholesome. I just love your genuine personality and I wish nothing but great things for you. Thank you for being a light on RUclips. As a young woman (24) navigating through this life it’s nice to be able to watch people like you letting us know to just keep going. ❤️❤️
I am a 26 year old mother. My son is 1.5. The one thing I would like to say is that if you're not 1000% ready to accept a baby in any way it comes (sick, disabled) do not have a child. My son was healthy until he was born. Birth injury and now has mild cerebral palsy. He is the light and love of my life. Don't think it can't happen to you.
what i learned in my 20s:
- it's easier (and cheaper lol) to live without make up, because noone ever asks stupid questions like "are you tired? / are you sick?" when you're all natural. And Bonus points the days that you do put on make up everyone compliments you SO MUCH lol
- Don't change yourself for anyone. Stay true to who you are and you will make friends / connections for life
- People don't remember about embarrassing things you did once.. so stop thinking / worring about it
You're precious!! BEAUTIFUL!! Lovely, sweet, radiant! And always so angelic.. Also you talk about everything!! That's really nice cause so many follow your guidance and advices... Nice!! God bless and may your dreams always come true!! 🙌😇🤗💕🌈😊💖
You will make it!!!! 🤗💕💖💕
The biggest thing I’ve learned in my 20’s so far (I am 24) is not settling. I was in a long term relationship with my ex since we were 17 and progressively through out the years together I found myself being less and less happy in every aspect of our relationship. It was extremely hard but we ended up breaking up a year ago and since then I’ve moved to a different state, have experienced so many new things and new adventures.
I’m now 24 but so far I’ve learned that I want to be only my authentic self and confident in who I am. This person I am now is who I’m meant to be and I seriously admire her. I don’t need to be embarrassed or have fear of judgement for my music tastes or hobbies and other interests.
Don’t stress your 20s your 30s are going to be so much better. Growing up is not a trap, it’s so rewarding.
i am going to turn 20 in next 13 days but i am so grateful for all the lessons i learnt in the past few years one of them is to always take care of yourself first, physical, emotional or mental its so important and never ever dim your light for someone else to shine bc at the end of the day people will come and go you have no control over that but the only person you'll have is you so love yourself and focus on your career trust me it'll pay off. 💕
Thank you so much for this! I’ll be 21 in March, and I think the biggest thing that I’ve learned in my 20s so far is that I need to do it scared. I need to do things that will be good for me but that might be difficult scared, because if I don’t I won’t do it at all. I’ve gotten some cool opportunities because I did it scared! I’ve also learned that I don’t have to follow trends if I don’t love them. I am a skinny jean wearing and side part rocking gen zer! But I do like that cargo pockets are in 😁
One thing I learnt (and I learnt the hard way many times) is to listen to your gut and tune into what you actually want! ❤
perhaps a bit too late... but see your 20s a your workshop phase/the pilot phase of your life. To try explore things and fail! Not to have things figured out. I regret a bit than I didn't use my 20s to try things and fail like a pilot phae.
What I would like to know in my 20's but didn't, is how to stop thinking about what others think of or about me and start setting boundaries. I still struggle with those and I turn 51 in June. It's not worth it, guys! It's a huge stress for your mental and physical health! Not worth it at all! The sooner you realise that the better for you.
Setting boundaries is MASSIVE! So much easier said than done 😭
@@indiabatson26 yeah! That's why it's crucial to realise the importance as earlier as possible in life. After that, it's a non-stop effort, but things get better day by day, year by year.
I’m in my late 20s. My biggest lesson was that you can’t make people believe things. You can scare them into saying they do, you can scare them into pretending. But the pretence will never have the same power as the actions of someone who actually believes and it will also distort the original meaning of those beliefs. You can share your opinion but you can’t make people listen and you can’t make them accept your ideas!
I learnt this when I became chronically ill and could no longer attend church, it gave me space to think for myself for the first time in my life. I eventually realised the type of christianity I grew up with is a cult (the BITE model of authoritarian control is what to search for more info). There’s things I still believe, I believe there’s a Creator, I believe everyone carries the image of the Creator and that I should love others as I love myself, but most of the stuff I so strongly defended and evangelised isn’t stuff I truly believed. I was just scared of hell and scared of being wrong, I wanted to be sure I was doing the right thing!! When my husband and I got together we were on the same page but we had no idea I was in the process of leaving and he was in the process of joining. When he began following “complementarianism” our relationship became abusive overnight. I know he changed because he was scared, I could tell and he’s told me. He doesn’t even believe it! He’s just scared that the people who do are right. But I can’t change his mind and get him back any more than 20+ years of indoctrination could make me believe things. My only option is to accept that this is what he’s chosen and leave. He’s forgotten my humanity. So that’s what I’m trying to do! I want to get out before I turn 30. I hope he starts listening to his conscience again instead of his fear and I hope my 30s will be better! They will be. I’m far more at peace with myself and with the uncertainty of life.
29 turning 30 this year. Don’t overextend your credit! I regret it so much it makes being a sahm so stressful while trying to make money anyway I can while my husband tries his best.
hi! I learned two important things:
1- You are NOT going to find a GOOD partner in parties and going out.
2- Be nice: with yourself and with others.
Please continue doing these kinds of videos! They are my favorite too!😊
29 here! I turn 30 in a few months 😅
Something I learned in my 20s is to not place my value in achievements or anything else but in who God says I am. It is so freeing! I no longer put myself in a "box" or label myself.
So many of these resonate with me too!
Enjoy every moment dear India!
I’m in my 40’s. I would tell my 20 year old self to just breathe and enjoy it.
Only a year into the 20’s 🙈 but accepting that you don’t need to have it all figured out has been a hard one to overcome
A nice one! Hope you have a happy weekend, India!❤
Thank you so much for watching 🙌
Your new house is stunning loved this video can you tell me where you got the nice sweatshirt that you are wearing. Thanks
I would advise to take your education seriously and get a career started, as well as finding the right one, so that by the time you're 30 you can enjoy your family and dont have to hustle so much
I stopped with smoking cigarettes in my twenties, one of the best decisions I made.
Friends. The toxic relationships that you've carried from teens to your 20s. Let them go. You can grow and move on without them. Embrace yourself and jump into your 30s with no one weighing you down.
Try not to care what others think about you
Isn’t this the truth!!!!! And you get better at it every year you age I think
Love this content! ❤
Biggest thing I learned is to stop comparing my life to others my age.
39 going on 40.
Your best video ever! : )
Lucky you. 😂 Its my birthday Sunday 1-28 i will be 58 going by way to fast. No worries im MTF 😂😂. Now I look back and wonder where did all my years go? Enjoy being young is my advice. 60 is around the corner now thats scary. I remember being in highschool like it was yesterday. Lol
ps I've been a follower for a year or so. Your pretty eyes are amazing.
I love this advice!!! To enjoy being young and be grateful! I’m so grateful to age too, not everyone gets so much time here with loved ones. Counting every year a blessing 🩷
@@indiabatson26 hi thanks. My Dad is 86.5 now. Going strong. Mom passed away on 11-8-23 it's the worst. Tears never stopped the month after. I'm better now and remember her every day. She was 82. Her body was worn out and weak. Had enough. I'm in WA about 40 minutes from Seattle.
Yes we need to go back *towards* collectivist culture-not this “main character energy”. We need a balance of self care and taking care of others. It’s always the extreme that’s in pop culture
Main lessons: God's THE priority & be careful who you kiss 💋 😅
Baby girl! ❤ I love you ❤❤❤
Never leave the house without water! Get a cute water bottle or cup and stay hydrated ❤
Fold your dishes
I’m sorry 😂
me: watching this when I have 359 days before I turn 30 😂
I just turned 19 but im hoping i can learn some wisdom as early as possible😂
To have more self worth when it came to men. Xxx
Awesome
Make sure to teach your kids properly outside of the education system so they don't have to say I wish I knew that in my twenties.
Yes !!!! I hope to teach my future kids things I didn’t know 😍
@@indiabatson26 stay well, all the best in the years ahead.
Best thing I learned is to wait to have sex until married.
The lesson? Life gets so much better in your thirties!
OMG CANT WAIT 🎉😍😍
Well, I call bull*** on this one. It's not a rule for everyone.
I'm happy that it's there case for you, for me my 30ies are a nightmare, my 20ies were normal life, ups and downs. But normal.
30ies are lost health, lost family members and lost job.
Better not to wait for "better 30ies", better to concentrate on your life NOW. It might get worse, life is not a Disney movie
The question wasn't what is a rule for everyone. It was what are some lessons you learned in your life that may be uplifting or helpful for others. Sorry that wasn't the case for you but no need to explode in my comment with negativity. @shoszannah
@@holliegallagher-zate601 it's not negativity, it's a different perspective regarding your comment. Concentrating on the present time because life can be different and you never know what's in the future is not negative.
It's a comment section, we can share different perspectives.
I told you I'm happy for you.
In my 20ies I would prefer not to listen all the time to this catch phrase , so I commented for someone like me to have a different view!
Don't get so worked up because someone is not agreeing with you, we can't be all on the same page and it's ok. That's life :)
You don't look 30s at all.
Aww thanks babe! 🫶 I’m so grateful to age. Not everyone gets to make it to their 30’s 🩷
@@indiabatson26 You're welcome. Yeah. You're a very beautiful lady. How old are you, if you don't mind my asking?.
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Not to move to another city for a guy!