I RELAXED MY HAIR AFTER 13 YEARS OF BEING NATURAL *emotional*
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- Опубликовано: 15 сен 2024
- Hey, y'all! It's been a while since I uploaded a new video and I am so sorry for that. But I'm back:)
In this video, I'm RELAXING MY NATURAL HAIR after being natural for 13 years omg! For everyone who watched for my natural hair content, I love y'all and I will get back to that one day but for now, I want to be relaxed.
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Thank you all so much for watching my video!!! As I mentioned in both my video description and the video itself, I am fully aware of the risks associated with relaxers. I live in the United States, there are so many harmful chemicals and carcinogens in many of the products we use as well as the foods we consume EVERYDAY! Considering that I've only used ONE relaxer in the past 13 years, the amount of exposure is minimal. I am simply sharing my journey, this is not a tutorial. If you decide to relax your hair do YOUR OWN RESEARCH and make your OWN decision.
Lol so you’re willfully bypassing this vital information pretty much because everything else has chemicals in it too?! Very logical…good for you 👍🏾
What relaxer did you use? I ask b/c I was always taught not to use heat or wash your hair directly after a perm. Your hair turned out amazing❤ I'm glad you got your desired result🫂 I love your length😊
Another product you can used is keratin but from colombia its called fit cosmetics amazon oil one step its keratin without the toxic chemicals in it way healthier than relaxers ! It leaves your hair so shiny and straight for months ♡ and once it wears off but not completely your hair is wavy ~
Your so beautiful
As long as you know you’re still beautiful with her without the perm you’re good.
A lot of us in the natural hair community can't even enjoy our hair, it's always protected. I applaud u for doing what makes you happy
It’s not “can’t” but don’t. Keeping your hair protected all the time is s choice, not a requirement.
@@BijinMCMXCright. most women say they're "protecting" it when they're really just hiding it. Most are in denial about how much they hate their hair because there is no other reason to have to have your hair hidden 364 days out of the year.
@@BijinMCMXClet's be honest. It's hard maintaining kinky hair that's why most of us hide it. I grew locs for that very reason
Amen sister
Thank you🩷
I actually think THIS generation of “relaxed” bw are going to have MUCH healthier hair, than we did in the 90’s, 2000’s. You got to consider, if you went natural and learned how to manage natural hair for over a decade or more, you have to have learned enough during that time about having a healthy hair regimen, to be able to do the same this time around for relaxed.
True good point
The bonds of the hair is broken down when permed so it doesn’t matter how great your routine is, the hair will break to some degree.
@@Godsgraceish that’s true about the bonds, but all hair breaks to some degree and that’s whether natural, or relaxed. It comes down to having the knowledge that relaxed hair needs different treatment to prosper than natural does, and thus making the proper adjustments to your regimen (since your bonds have been altered) that take this into consideration, in order to make sure you maintain healthy hair regardless.
😂😂no they aren’t they went natural because relaxers sucked trust me in a few years I’ll be sitting back watching all the women reminiscing on their natural days and how beautiful their hair use to be 😂… they grew their hair nice thick & long and just want to see it straight without the hassle. I get it!!! actually had a relaxer with mid back length healthy hair .. but it’s not the same type of hair.
I totally agree. I've found that to be true in my case. Instead of relaxing every 6 weeks, now I can easily go 12 weeks without any issues.
You know what, we both know you're gonna get some angry comments. But Hun, you do you. Nobody is living your life and going through what you're going through. So I'm here for you!💜
Yes, I’ve already mentally prepared myself for it😓 Thank you so much I really appreciate it🤍
@@KaylaJayxo You're welcome🥰
2nd & 3rd that!!! 😊
Idk why people get so mad about what other people do with their own hair or bodies like what??! Make it make sense
Let them get angry! People need to mind their business and worry about the hair that’s on their own heads!
I don’t understand how anyone can be angry about SOMEONE else’s hair being relaxed. Your hair looks beautiful by the way
I LITERALLY decided to perm my hair this week after being natural for 15 years and then your video pops up!! I was super nervous, but your video makes me feel better. My appointment is next Thursday, and my hair is past my bra strap. I just want to wrap my hair at night, wake up and go!! Your hair is GORGEOUS and so are you! Thank you for your transparency 🥰
Exactly wrap and go, I been natural over 10 years and I’m ready to relax my hair
I was thinking about relaxing hair again and I seen this video for how to do it at home. And watching it definitely persuaded me even more. It’s been an almost 5 year battle on debating to get a relaxer or not. Ima do it. F it!
Update:: I have NO complaints and my hair regimen is soooo much easier and less time consuming!!!👌🏽
This is how I’m feeling now my hair always been nice permed I got a deep conditioning every 2 weeks however I went natural for 3 years and I’m over it I just want to look like me again , my natural curl is amazing but I just want to wrap it unwrap it & go
My toxic trait is me thinking my hair would look this good relaxed 😂 beautiful results!
I mean it can… but first step is to have her hair type 😂. My cognitive behavioral therapy be working sometimes.
The thing is if u continue to treat ur relaxed hair like ur natural hair it will grow
@@DANISTEAA exactly. same methods just apply it differently.
It could, you just leave the product on longer, but be careful not to leave it on too long.
right.. this is false advertisement.. i'm mad i watched this , lol
You can definitely have healthy hair whether it's natural or relaxed. Some Black women have these rules when it comes to their hair that they aren't even enjoying their hair. Have fun with it. Color it, bleach it, texturize it, cut it, grow it, wear it big and curly, or full and straight, the options are endless. Take care of your hair (find a professional if it's in your budget) and have fun!
No you can’t have healthy hair when you relax it but you can maintain keeping it moisturized and keep it from breaking off but it will be damaged same when you dye your hair. But either option is beautiful and is up to the person to make but just don’t spread misinformation because some ppl will hunk they can relax it and do nothing and not experience breakage when everyone’s hair is different, but yeah relaxers are great especially for people that struggle to manage their own hair.
Agreed. You can. Moisturizing is everything!
@@bluebbgbluelove5900 you can have haelthy hair and relaxed. it is possible, i do. healthy bountiful, long and beautiful. it can be achieved
@@bluebbgbluelove5900i have healthy relaxed hair💀
I relaxed my hair after 18 years of being natural,and I can say with affirmation although the texture feels a bit different the energy is the same, I can still put my hair in protective hair styles its grown out all the way
to my lower back.I have relaxed my hair in a total of 3 times ,you don't need to do it regularly,just continue to mosturize your hair,I use hair milk ,honey, shear and cocoa butter,detangler, my hair has always been naturally bouncy and easily curls so even when I relaxed my hair that didn't change munch its just portrayed it self in a different light and it still continues to grow, it's all about how you care for your hair.
I love relaxers and how it makes your hair look and feel. You can do many versatile styles relaxed and the hair just lays better. My only issue is making it more safe for consumers and not being so toxic. You look beautiful your results came out great 🥰
you're literally gorgeous, watching videos like these are stressful and relaxing to watch.
Im transitioning to natural after being relaxed for 18 years and yall in the comments got me concerned lol but I'm excited to go to the other side! My one piece of advice is to get your relaxers professionally done, and don’t never skip a deep conditioner on wash day! Good luck with your journey! Personally I'm just loving the movement of black women doing what they want with their hair. I'm going natural now as I would love to get locs in the future but being relaxed again is not out of the picture for me forever, and thats the beauty of black hair!😊
Yasss the beauty of our hair. 👸🏽
Your hair is bomb, I relaxed mind after over 10 years, I was tired of the shrinkage. Being waist length and chin length at the same time, I thought I would regret it but nope, I love my relaxed hair. Enjoy your hair love and don’t listen to negativity. You can always go back natural if you choose to.
You’re so pretty btw, have a nice day.
I felt every bit of that chin and waist length at the same time 😮
Bra strap length seems more like it
@@jk9084she got a cut
waist length?!
Girl I feel the same way about my shrinkage hair😩
This is for anyone who is making the decision to texturize or relax their hair. This is simply advice from when l was relaxed and just a way to keep your hair healthy and prevent breakage.
1. Deep condition every wash (many other comments here explain why. But long story short. Moisturize is good for your hair and regardless of whether your hair is chemically straight or naturally curly, the need for moisture remains the same )
2. Protein treatments (I enjoy the brand Aphogee and when I was relaxed before it helped my hair to stay strong. If you don’t want to then you can find diy protein treatments like with mayo or just egg. I’d probably say use the treatment every 3-6 months or when you begin to notice breakage and thinning)
3. Trim your ends. You can try to ignore this when you’re natural because split ends are less noticeable with the fro, but split ends are 100x more noticeable with straight hair and will make your hair styles come out less cute, not to mention the breakage will climb up your shaft causing your hair to be a bigger problem which is the opposite of your goals
4. Don’t flat iron every single day. Heat damage is much more likely now that you are relaxed, you don’t need to give bone straight every time you go out. Make sure to wrap your hair and wear that damn scarf/bonnet. There are some cute hair styles that can last a good amount of time and look cute. Depending on the length of your hair you can try the cute legging curl hack for bouncy curls but rollers/flexi rods will work. Just use gel/mousse so your hair can hold the curl, sit under the dryer/or air dry/use hand dryer (low-medium heat not too close to the hair).
5. Don’t use relaxers too frequently, you don’t need to use one every week, month or even every 2 months. Between 4-6 months is a great time period to use it. Once again, there are a thousand cute relaxed hairstyles you can use that will hold you down.
For the last time this is advice, which can be taken or ignored. This is for folks who would like to retain length and thickness.
Love this advice as a relaxed woman with very healthy hair.
VERY, VERY good advice as an old hairstylist I appreciate you supporting her in her hair journey. Just remember if you use natural protein conditioners like rice water , fenugreek or cloves, shampoo them out lightly and continue with your moisturizing conditioners. The Struggle is REAL Sista’s Be always Blessed❤❤❤
These are all GREAT tips
I just got mines texlaxed with a mild relaxer. Wrap and go ❤️
💜💜💜💜💜
I've been natural around 15 years. I'm sitting here debating which method I should use to permanently strengthen my hair, cause I can't take it anymore. My hair is now butt length.. the longer my hair gets the more uncontrollable it is. Your results are beautiful
I am in the same place as you, My hair is very long and thick. And very uncontrollable.
You can both heat train your hair if you’d like it to be more manageable. That way it’s still full and voluminous and I think it’s a little more healthy than just getting a relaxer. But it’s your hair do what makes you happy
Get one of those rev air
@@beforefive1550 what do you do for hair
@@Mathola2013 I have a strict routine, first, deep condition my hair using a hair mask under the steamer for 30 minutes, then wash/blow dry/straighten my hair once a week. Every three days apply castor oil to my ends. BTW, I don’t have split ends, my hair is very healthy.
Love the results!! I started relaxing again almost a year ago after being natural for about 10 years and I don’t regret it at all! It’s easier to manage and now that I’ve learned how to take care of my hair properly I don’t have any problems with breakage, thinning, or anything like that (I mean even when I was relaxed as a kid I never experienced breakage, or thinning. I didn’t start having those problems until I went natural 😭) You can have relaxed hair and it be healthy! So welcome to the relaxed side sis ❤️😊.
Please share how you keep your hair healthy in that state
Same! The breakage and thinning happened after I went natural but also that's on me. At the beginning of my natural hair journey, I was so motivated but with time, I got hella lazy and just couldn't maintain it
Girl ignore these people they’re projecting their own hair insecurities big time. I have natural hair and wouldn’t relax it but I think you’re hair is beautiful! I’m not offended with what you CHOSE for YOUrself ❤❤
THANK YOUUU! ❤
Such a beautiful comment! People really need to stop shaming others for doing what’s best for themselves. ❤
Same!! I'm natural as well. Putting on my psychology hat.... Anyone who gets mad at someone for relaxing is not truly happy with their own hair. So they put on this facade of loving their hair, but internally are struggling because I believe they deep down miss some of the benefits of being relaxed. So they want you to continue to be on the journey with them as they struggle to love their own hair, while outwardly appearing they are happy with the decision.
Why else would you be bothered by what someone else does to their hair???? Chile, there are so many other major problems we can be concerned with.
@@quickpstuts412 SERIOUSLY!!
@@quickpstuts412 exactly!!! It’s the same when ppl get anything done to their bodies. They want people to struggle with them on their journey of their own perception of self. To soothe their own insecurities. No mama adult people can do what they want and change anything about themselves. Loool!
Your hair is so long and beautiful! You did an amazing job! I just relaxed my hair a few hours ago after being natural for 10 years. Life happens and hair should be the least of our concerns. ❤❤
I can totally relate to this video. When I relaxed my hair after being natural for like 10 years I cried lol I couldn't manage it after I got into a car accident and it seemed to be the right decision for me at that time. I ended up loving it after I had a chance to process the change. I remained relaxed for a few years and a year ago big chopped to go back natural. Life is a journey. This may be a forever change or not, but it's what's best for you. Your hair looks GORGEOUS and you're happy so that's all that matters!
Omg me too...i was natural 10 years and struggling after a car accident...i got a perm last week. My neck and back hurts too much for me to be spending hours on hair that will not be tame
I will never understand why the “natural community “ doesn’t consider relaxed hair as natural, but a protective styl with all the fake hair, or dying your hair is. Relaxed hair stil comes out of your head so to me, it’s your natural hair, processed or not. You really look AMAZING, your hair looks AMAZING the make up my goshhhh I need a tutorial on that 😍!
You miss the point. If the hair is processed- it is not natural. What you're referring to is someone's REAL hair that grows out of their scalp. Real hair can still be processed and therefore isn't in its natural state.
@@user-dv3kq3rm4h okay, but then we are clear that dyed hair is also not natural? Cut hair is also not natural (prosessed in a different way), and the list goes on. As soon as you do something to your hair it’s not natural. Why do we do this to our selves as a community? I really don’t understand. Such a waist of time. Even that this topic exists. But to be honest think it’s an American thing 😔. Where I’m from we don’t even have this in our vocabulary only if we use the American terms
@@Alouster No cutting is not processing, it's literally a grooming process no different to cutting your nails or shaving your legs.
Processing refers to the molecular bonds of your hair being broken down by a corrosive chemical that does this- for example ammonium thioglycolate found in no-lye relaxers, sodium hydroxide in lye relaxers and peroxide used to bleach hair.- these are caustic harsh chemicals which alter the texture and thus process the hair which is someone's real hair but not their natural hair. These are all corrosive chemicals which break down the hair structure to make it straight and lay flat. That's not the same as adding a temporary rinse to your hair which washes out and doesn't alter the texture.
People can do what they want with their hair, but there's no arguing with science about how relaxers literally process the hair- which obviously means it's no longer natural, but yes, it is the hair that grows out your scalp and is still yours.
@@user-dv3kq3rm4h aaah oke, English is not my language, so when you say processed I thought you meant, like going through a process (I hope you know what I mean). But yes ofcourse, it’s a fact that if you use relaxer, your hair gets a chemical treatment. Still in my opinion, the whole debate over natural hair or not, and the underlying tone of the debate just don’t sit right with me. Let people live
@@Alouster I understand the source of confusion with the word process now. Yes, people can do what they want, but it's worth noting that relaxers are linked to uterine cancers and large fibroids in Black women and there is now a class action lawsuit against these relaxer companies. I think it's shocking that Black women have been sold this poison as a beauty product for all these years. Also the girls on the children's perms boxes didn't even have relaxed hair so they were selling us a lie!
I was relaxed for twenty years. I understand the convenience of going back to relaxers but the chemicals are harsh on the scalp and are causing illness in Black women and there needs to be a wider conversation about why Black women who know about this, are risking their health to have straight hair.
As a relaxed-natural- relaxed currently and girlie whose hair grows quickly because I try to do as little as possible to it;here's my advice to all natural to relaxed girlies: heat isn't a necessity unless it's how you prefer to wear it. Having some texture in your hair is important, I relax my hair at home and I've even bleached it and colored it and I've kept my hair. Very very little damage, but I do suggest getting your trims done professionally though. You can learn to safely relax at home and you can get help from a friend or family member. But if you're doing it alone at home. It's best to under-process your hair than to over process it. You can get a touch up in a few weeks,but if you overdo it, you'll lose some hair. I also take very good care of it and leave it alone. I wear lots of headscarves and satin lined caps to keep my hands out of it. I do try to go to a beauty school monthly to get a wash and flat iron though, it's nice to not always do your own hair and you can learn from the students and instructors about how to take care of it. Also invest your time into learning your hair. Just because it's relaxed doesn't mean you stop taking care of it. Also learn the best protective styles for your hair, even if you're like me and wear satin lined caps and accessorize yourself to still be the most beautiful version of you. Not everyone deserves to have access to you and your crown
I have my moments when I think about returning to relaxers when I’m frustrated with my natural hair but then I remember the horrific clumps of straight hair going down the drain as I rinsed out product… regardless I think we should keep our opinions to ourselves when it comes to what other people do with their hair/bodies/lives. I’m confident that a fully functional adult knows the potential risks and outcomes of their personal decisions. Let’s live and let others live. Just enjoy the video or move around, respectfully.
Even as someone with natural hair this was super satisfying to watch. Your hair is beautiful both ways! I loved the outcome 😍
Love the results!♥ Relaxed mines after being natural for 10 years. I loved my curls but I was ready to go back to relaxers. Now I'm contemplating going back natural because I miss my curls lol. It doesn't matter what others have to say. It's our hair and we can do whatever we desire with it!
Thank you so much, you are so right! 10 years? omg! How long ago did you relax your hair?
@@KaylaJayxo I know right. Last year in July.
All you needed was a good silk press . Or a lace front . It helps , I don’t even want a perm when I could wear a wig or silk press. Plus my curl pattern is so beautiful I’ll be sad if I ever permed it
@@LoveNaisa yep I feel ya but I did all that and still wanted a relaxer 😂 but that’s the beauty of it I can always go back natural if that is what I want to do😁👍🏽
You're so beautiful.😻 Honestly its okay to be free to do whatever you want to do with your hair. Its all in how you maintain it and take care of it whether you dye, bleach, perm, relax or silk press. Hair is versatile I'm pretty sure we all bear in mind the risks we take when it comes to our hair.
My hair is similar to yours, it’s been 10 years natural for me and honestly I feel like you fully convinced me now 😭 thank you!
I’m so happy you mentioned the condition of your hair pre relaxer was your fault some people never take ownership. Relaxed or natural hair, it’s your choice and your confidence was shining before and after. ❤❤❤
How can people be mad about hair that aint even on their head? You look great! Since having my baby-who am I kidding since pregnancy! my hair lives in a bun. Im on the verge of getting locs
I hope this won't come off wrong. But here it goes.
I relaxed my hair 2 years ago after 6 years of being natural. Me being natural was partly influenced by my boarding school requirements deterring us from relaxers, partly due to the natural hair movement but mostly because of my hair texture 4b/a (confused still) in comparison to many of my peers. My natural hair was my identity back then, I had volume and length which many girls my age did not have.
Time skip to mid 2020 and I found it harder to manage my natural hair. For instance, taking hours on wash day or the process of detangling. 💀
I relaxed in early 2021 and my hair was healthy and still had volume, I loved it. I still relax to this day without any regrets whatsover, just lessons that I learn every now and then from my relaxed hair phases.
Later on, I do plan to chop it off and go natural or maybe have dreadlocks, or maybe keep relaxing.
Moral of the story is, if it brings you comfort and makes you happy, then do it. Are there going to be opinionated people? Well, yes.
Are there people who would discourage you from relaxing due to their experiences, yes. All I can say is, take your time in learning, keep doing your research, listen to your hair and most important, listen to yourself.
Your hair is GORGEOUS 🌼♥️.
Ps: This channel has just popped up on my explore page. I hope you have a beautiful journey ahead ♥️
Love it❤ a lot of people are natural for the sake of being natural and they’re unhappy. So you definitely have to do what makes u happy. ❤❤
Your results look great! I do keratin treatments because I don’t want to worry about overlapping the product. There are products now like Olaplex designed to minimize damage during and after the treatment. Your hair will be fine and looks gorgeous
I've been natural for 10 years and I tell you it's really a "trail and error" process I can't tell you how many times I had to start over because I was neglecting my hair and it got fragile and broke off(that was WITHOUT me putting harsh chemicals in my hair). I since then learned how to take care of my natural hair but trust me I can relate to this video so much
As long as you take care of your hair (relaxed or natural).. that’s what matters ! 💜💜 love the hairrrr !!
A lot of other women are going to bash you, but the whole point of the Natural Hair Movement was freedom of choice, especially in the workplace. Your hair looks beautiful 😉 For me, I like relaxers at Salons because they have different types for different styles instead of the strongest OTC relaxers.
Yessss exactly, freedom of choice! I'll go back to natural one day but I'm just doing this for now ❤
That wasn't the point of the NHM at all. It probably was for some but for the majority it was to encourage more women to go back to basics and create healthier hair and a choose of being free from being a slave of your hair.
Dont water down the natural hair movement cuz it sure wasnt for no damn perm ain’t nothing natural bout no perm 😂 the whole movement was against it since perm was made due to a european beauty standard cmon now
We definitely need to call it something else, like Black women’s hair freedom movement or something. The whole point of natural hair movement was exactly that, natural hair. I have no issue with what anyone does to their hair, but come on now lol
@@KaylaJayxo my hair as always been relaxed since a child and ppl will talk but idc, it a choice for anyone to relax their hair or not. And I think natural will be hard for me and my hair will hurt more than if it relaxed😅. By the way you look good sis do what best for you💕
Girl do you! I support it. I felt the same way being natural and heat less for 12 years. Then got the Dyson dryer, air wrap and a fancy flat iron and recently curling wand and I’m so ready for the fall to straighten my hair again. Cowashing and washing every week for hours is exhausting. I love switching it up too. Give the curls a break and allowing it to grow faster by straightening it… Your hair turned out very beautiful! ❤
I love my dyson hair dryer, how do you like the air wrap?
With all that hair I totally understand the struggle of maintaining in its natural state. Your decision makes total sense! And your results are beautiful. ❤
Your hair looks beautiful. I went back to relaxed about 4 years ago and it was the best decision for me.
Your hair looks amazing. I’m a natural but have no issue appreciating relaxed hair 🙌🏾
I did my second big chop in January after damaging my hair from bleach, and honestly I love how your hair turned out. Not going to lie, when I see people relaxing their hair after years of being natural and having beautiful hair growth I feel sad but your hair turned out amazing. You look beautiful.
I’m relaxed and it’s so easy. Every natural person I know talks about the struggle especially when they sweat. You look good and it’s your decision. Live for you and do what makes you happy.
After you detangled your hair it looked soooooo lovely 😍 , my opinion doesnt matter when it comes to your decision on relaxing your hair. Best of luck on your journey 🤍
Your hair is gorgeous! Just a tip from one healthy relaxed hair girlie to another: you should consider getting your relaxers done by a professional, and avoid adding any other chemicals such as dye for at least 2 weeks after a relaxer to prevent damage. :)
I so badly want to get a salon relaxer but the $250 scares me away. I purchased that barber mirror to put behind me to help prevent overlapping product. I relax 4 times per year
@@757Princess oh wow, my relaxers cost $75
Be careful which place to go to. Some will use too harsh of a relaxer and others wish to cut off too much.
It was a hair rinse .it's very safe to use after a relaxer...coming from a licensed cosmetologist
@@breewadley2284 thanks for clarifying! I’m 23 and not familiar with hair rinses. I just remember my hairstylist telling my mom that she couldn’t get color for a couple weeks after her relaxer.
Nah, that shine in your hair and eyes immediately after is undeniable! Enjoy being relaxed!
I love it! And when your hair is as long as yours is, being relaxed is definitely much easier to deal with. Very pretty! 🖤
Congratulations on your new look. I have been natural close to 15 years and I have had the thought of going back to a perm. My comment is, do what's best for you. Your hair came out beautiful!!! 😍
I have been considering this for a while. I recently cut off my locs after 5 years and have been natural for 10. Back when people were going natural, everyone was on the relaxed kick and you got ridiculed for being natural. Now, the generation is woke and you get ridiculed for getting a relaxer. Point is, do what makes you happy cause people are gonna run their mouth regardless! I love it!
Your hair looks great, Kayla 😊💕As long as you’re happy, that’s all that matters! 💇🏽♀️💖
Thank you so much🥲🤍🤍🤍
It looks so BOMB!!!! For you to have done a virgin relaxer you did a fantastic job!!!! I went back relaxed 3 years ago after being natural for almost ten years and I could not be happier. I literally love it here!!!!
Welcome to team relaxed and don't care about the negative comments! Your hair looks bombbb. My hair has been growing super fast since relaxing it. I can't wait to get to your length!
this makes me wanna relax my hair so bad! ur hair turned out beautiful 😍
Exactly
Me too lol
You’ve made me want to relax my hair now 😂 I might do it when it gets long like yours. Very easy to maintain.
I support you, sis whether you are relaxed or natural! I have been both and have gone back and forth with both SEVERAL times.
I am at the moment about 4 months in natural. All I can say is you do you. You look absolutely gorgeous either way.
SO BEAUTIFUL!!!!!! I’ve been natural since 2013 and I’m over being natural 😂. It’s too much work! And honestly my hair was healthier while being texlax. Imma texlax my hair on my birthday month 🥳!
Your hair is literally so beautiful and the results are immaculate ❤
Girl, I'm so glad I found this video. I had relaxed hair for most of my life; it was healthy and flourishing. I've been natural since covid. The only reason I did the chop was because I went 1 full year without a relaxer (I didn't feel comfortable doing it myself) during covid and things were looking scary lmao. I'm enjoying natural hair for now, but as a self proclaimed lazy girl, I look forward to the days where I can just wake up and go
I relaxed after being natural my whole life and learned that my texture is way too soft and fine for a relaxer so I’m pro do what works for you and what you can handle!! Im happy that you love your hair
Omg same. Hair is super soft and I have a schedule for protein treatments to keep my moisture/protein levels balanced. But it's also so puffy I feel like I can only wear twists and that's so boring.
@@metalbabee Just a tip I had to do protein treatments every 8 weeks when I was natural since my hair is fine and I still have to now that I'm relaxed, made a huge difference! I really like the aphogee two-minute reconstructor works great and you only need to leave it on for 2-5 minutes!
@@TP-rc3ji hey thanks, that's actually the same schedule I'm on and I use Aphogee. 😅 My hair is just extremely stubborn.
Your hair looks beautiful sis!!! Thank you for sharing. I really hope the negativity is at a minimum
Thank you so much🩷
At this point everyone is finding silly excuses to relax 🥴 I click on the these videos just to hear the rants at the beginning 🤣
Lol
Not everyone want to be natural
Nah girl you look gooooddddd,don’t let anyone tell you anything
Your hair looks beautiful regardless of what people say. As long as you're happy with how you choose to wear your hair, it's all that matters.
I had much of the same thoughts. I never ended to do my relaxed hair and always had it in a bun and relaxed my hair again for the first time in forever on March 30. Your length is beautiful. I wish I had retained more length during my natural stage but it is what it is. If relaxed works for you then do you! ❤
This video gave me the courage to do what I want with MY hair‼️ I'm gonna do a keratin treatment. The natural hair community talks pure $hit about them but at this point I don't care anymore ‼️ I enjoyed this video more than I should have😂
I’m right there with you sis! I’m getting an amino acid smoothing treatment soon
@@alexisedwards3000 must research that too👌
I love Keratin on my natural hair.. I’ve had so much growth from using them too x
No one is gonna bash you.. too many people will attack in the comments 😂😂I wish I could go back to relaxers however I know I will have regrets. You do what makes you happy. ❤
I had to mentally prepare myself for backlash lol. Thank you so much❤
So someone help me understand, you relaxed your hair because you weren’t taking care of it? This is a genuine question. And in the beginning you show how it looks because you haven’t taken care of it, wouldn’t a relaxer make taking care of it harder??
NEEEEVVVERRRRR COMB UR HAIR WHEN UR RELAXING IT OR TEXTURIZING IT!! It will come out, Omg girl the way I was screaming at my phone lmaoooo 😭😭
At some point I forgot this video was about your hair, cos you're so freaking beautiful 💜💜💜💜💫
The virgin application is easy and great it’s the touch ups that are rough but you got this sis! I relaxed after 8 years natural…I may go back 😅😅😅
I’ve been natural for double digit years as well and I know what you’re feeling!! When I get like that I generally will flat iron my hair to give my mind ARMS and hair a rest lol!! That being said idk why I started crying when you started crying!! But I’m soooo glad you made the right decision for you and I support you 1000%!! Btw the results were amazing you did a great job.
Girl i went natural twice for two years each time and my hair grew lovely and thick! It took to much time and energy to take care of my natural so yes i went back to relaxing and my hair is still healthy and long. I can tell you like it and you look gorgeous!
im sorry i dont believe u
This is so beautiful on you. I love seeing women with hairstyles that they can be proud of! ❤
WOW! ✨ your hair looks beautiful!! So shiny & healthy looking 😍 you did a great job!
I say no to relaxers since they’ve been actually linked to issues with fertility and what not amongst black women. There’s an on going suit.
I was going to say this same thing! My friend is actually struggling with fertility (can’t have babies) and has to be on hormones to avoid excessive hair growth in unwanted places, etc. I’ve been trying to warm people because black woman are obviously biggest consumer of these harming products. Be safe out here black queens ❤
Oh yes ma’am you did that!!! You and your hair are gorgeous! And the birthday hair was pretty. You have done a phenomenal job at retaining your length. Love it!
ooooweeeeeee its the buss downnnnnnn for me!!!!! i love it sistaaaaaaaa
Here from Brad Mondo’s video. I just wanted to share some love!! I love your transformation and everything about your energy! Keep shining! 🥰✨
This video is gonna go HELLA viral!!! ❤
Yeeessss
Look, I’m right here with you. I’ve been fighting it for at least a month now. I’m bra strap length now and the longer it gets, the harder it is to style. I love my curl texture but there are styles I want to wear and just can’t unless I get a relaxer. I don’t blame you.
Research heat training !!! Look up the glam twinz… there’s ways to be a straight haired natural … that way u can always go back to ur natural curls because I assure u if u relax you’ll want ur curls back. I’m growing my hair back out after a back cut .. but I plan to heat train half the year during the colder months an wear my coils during the hot months .. best of both worlds !!
@@SimplyMee..228 i familiar but I’m not really a fan of heat training tbh. Thanks for the suggestion though.
I love the results and your hair relaxed pretty fast. No need to leave it on long at all❤❤❤❤
As a long-term natural, I felt the first 1:30 min of this video in my chest!😢♥️
I finally hit my childhood long hair length again a few years ago. Whoo finally could do anything I wanted with my hair! I had fun with my hair. Well guess what. I’m older now. I’m tired. My arms are tired. I have perpetual bacne due to the hours of products constantly dripping down my back 😢
To motivate me to take better care of my hair, I decided to get a curly mullet shag cut. But wait, there’s more. Curly cuts in my city are upwards of $220. With a really good cut with a master stylist like $350+.
One 12 oz bottle of conditioner feels like chump change! Forget about deep conditioner! $22 for 2 uses?? And no, I don’t want to become a chemist and learn how to make my own haircare.🥴 I have other hobbies I’d rather tend to.
I don’t feel like the diva I am on the inside much of the time because my I’m not in charge of my look. My hair is.
I’m glad I happened upon your video! It feels freeing to explore alllll options! Ain’t that part of what we say makes Black hair so great? 👑
Gorgeous!!!! I'm so jealous because one of those braids you had after you brushed it out, is still more hair than I have on my head 😂
You got some serious shine going too! So glad you love it!
I was 13 years natural as well. I relaxed my hair earlier this year and I have no regrets you have to do what’s best for you. Forget what people say because at the end of day it’s about taking care of self. I love you hair it came out so beautiful ❤
The “angry” comments are not out of malice! Quite the contrary, it’s like seeing a beautiful person go get unnecessary face surgery, you just hate to see it! cause your hair is SO pretty, and I just haven’t seen any women able to prevent the ends breakage that happens after relaxers, ESPECIALLY if you continue to flat iron it
My hair never breaks and I have a relaxer and I don’t get heat put in my hair
Its not that deep. If she damages it she can just cut it off and grow it back, it is litterally just hair. You cannot compare a face surgery to relaxing your hair 😂
Please be careful about letting that relaxer run down your body. Protect your skin at all cost😊. Your hair is beautiful and so are you.
I’ll most likely never go back to perms although I have entertained the thought. I just enjoy the versatility black women have on all sides whether relaxed, natural, or in between. There will always be haters and naysayers no matter what you do, but going natural taught me we don’t have to listen to anyone. We are free to do what we want and it’s fine. I think when people make up rules and regulations it’s like putting the chains back on. Your hair is beautiful, thanks for sharing your journey with us ❤
What people need to understand is relaxed hair is still Afro hair. It’s just in a relaxed state. She’s not doing anything to her “identity” relaxed Afro hair is not the same as straight European hair. It’s Afro hair in a straighter relaxed state but still Afro hair. The texture look and feel is still completely different.
I’ve really been thinking about getting a relaxer and this video was so awesome to watch! Your hair is beautiful both natural and relaxed!!! Ignore any hate that you get, you have so many of us in your corner 💗
I was relaxed for 30 years. Recently went natural due to my hair being damaged and having a chronic disease that causes hair lost. I enjoy being natural because I rediscovered what my hair looks like and I enjoy the versatility. My hair is so healthy and I really dont do much. Its actually low maintenance compared to being relaxed.
ABSOLUTELY STUNNING but I feel you could of gotten the same results when your natural virgin hair flat ironed or silk pressed either way relaxed not relaxed both you and your hair gorgeous!
I've been natural now for about 2 years. I'd never think of relaxing again. My hair is stronger now. When I need it straight, I just press it. But do what makes you happy. It's no one else's concern!
Edit; Your hair looks great!
This was a great video to watch. You're vulnerability is refreshing, and you seem genuinely warm and sincere. I loved watching every bit of your relaxer experience. I hope you enjoy it and continue to feel good about it.
Tbh I was so much more motivated to take care of my hair once I relaxed it a few months ago. I love being able to detangle, wash, and deep condition all in less than 2 hours.
I’m sorry I screamed laughing when you cut to yourself in the shower saying “this is so crazy” cause I would’ve reacted the SAME way! 😂 I just relaxed my hair for the first time since 2007, 2 weeks ago at jc Penny… I was on the fence right afterward (grief) but I LOVE it now ❤
HONESTLY ITS completely different having a relaxer as a CHILD then as an ADULT . Decided to relax after 10 years and i love it. I also cut it and i couldnt be happier !
Thats what I been thinking. My momma relaxed my hair and my hair was terrible, dry and broke off but also my momma DIDNT KNOW HOW TO TAKE CARE OF HAIR! she wouldnt keep up with the relaxer for me and she'd comb through and rip my hair dry. I always thought relaxer was terrible till I realized it was my mom fault lol. I am very tempter to relax my hair now that I am an adult and can take care of my hair properly
Another option is perm your hair to get a different curl pattern. Either loser or tighter curls. It’s done on all texture hair. This salon in Brazil specialized on texted hair perm. The chemical are safer and must be done by a professional. It’s not an at home project because of all steps and details that’s needed but results are good and risk are minimal compare to relaxer
Good for you. Ive been getting a relaxer for some time. I learned to continue to take care of my hair while relaxed. So instead of getting my hair relaxed every 4-6 weeks. I go longer. I get my hair relaxed 4 times a year and it works for me and my hair has grown. Some ppl can do once or twice a year. When getting braids I get something that braided to the scalp so my hair won’t break off. Good luck on your new journey.
I never understand why ppl care what others do to their hair lol. Worst thing that happens is it gets damaged and you just have to cut it off and start over. Its just hair and we should never get so attached to something as miniscule as it is, it looks really good
Girl i was emotional too😢 im still on the natural side, but any drastic change to the hair is like stepping into a new person❤ much love and you look amazing
Listen. I had to go back to relaxers. After moving across the country and my hair going to shambles because the water change and lack of a stylist I messed it up and then it was breaking like crazy because its so sensitive in the natural state. I do not plan on relaxing as often as I did when I was younger but I am definitely putting it back in the game!
I LOVE IT!!! Your hair is fried, dyed and laid all the way to the side! You are to funny to me. I enjoyed your video. I enjoy all the supportive comments below and the truth about being natural and not always enjoying your nature hair because its so time consuming and always in a protected style. My hair is short and I love short wash and go hair but the shrinks so much and I'm always having to use heat to stretch out my curls. I may look into getting a relaxer.
Your comment made me laugh so much🤣
Eu sou brasileira e por algum motivo o RUclips me recomenda vídeos do pessoal de outro país 😅, mas enfim... Fico muito feliz ao ver mulheres negras tendo a oportunidade de poder alisar seus cabelos por opção própria e não porque é "inadequado" usar o seu cabelo natural por conta de moda ou algo assim. Isso é libertador!
Why perm/relax the hair just to flat iron it and put it in a state that could have been already achieved in its natural state ?
As soon as I would walk outside it would poof up, my straight hair never lasted everrr I live in Houston it’s hot and humid. Now I can walk out in the rain and it’s still straight, does not frizz. There’s tons of reasons but I’m happy with my decision.