So wives just want to include their husbands in their psychological suffering? They don’t actually want their suffering fixed? They just want their husbands to listen to it but not try to fix and relieve their suffering? They just want to suffer together I’m asking honestly? It just seems like an extremely selfish mindset to put someone else through pain for any reason.
Although not on topic of the video the answer is that people cannot hear what they are not able to hear. Our minds are powerfully "protected" and it is difficult enough for one to change their own mind. Trying to help oneself gain control over their mind is the only useful help. Then, learning how to become one's heart is the greatest of all achievements
I really appreciate you reply Paul. I was asking this question specifically in response to 2:40-3:06 in the video where you say men should listen to our wives without trying to fix anything because wives don’t want anything fixed. And you said to be sincere about listening. I was being exactly on point of the video. It’s in this video. You didn’t really answer my question though. If I was complaining and blaming you for something but didn’t have any actual way to fix the problem would I not just be complaining about something I intended to complain about again? I would not do that to my wife or anyone else and I certainly would be ashamed if I did. Why can’t a wife show that same level of respect and dignity? I seems like a basic aspect of healthy relationship.
@@Shane46587great point. We have heard a woman, and sometimes use sex as a weapon. My wife and I are Mormon. She is way more into it than I am. Anytime I have touched her (sexually suggested)- even when she isclothed) she goes into defensive mode. She says " You know I don't like that. I am your wife-tesprct me." She also refuses to bare her nudity to me and only wants the missionary position. This has lead me to seek prostitutes. It's a tragedy.
Wow I've never heard a man say any of this before. My husband thinks only his needs and thoughts are valid. He's dismissive of me and regularly says horrible things and claims not to care what anyone thinks about him (he doesn't say it that nicely). Then later he acts clueless about why I don't want to be close to him and will complain about lack of intimacy. Ugh if I come to our bedroom after a hard day of work then cooking and cleaning, he'll say mean things about something as simple as the television. So I started watching television elsewhere and waiting for him to go to sleep before I go to bed so I don't disturb him provoking more venom. He wakes up and leaves the house really early in am, and now I work from home and work later than him. When exactly is the sex supposed to happen? Before he barks complaints or while we're sleeping??
You are drowning in a problem and cannot see that your marriage as whole can be amazing. Yet, that is the only solution, to heal your marriage from top to bottom. Use the course for women. It will be a life saver.
@@TheMarriageFoundation thank you. I need to decide if I want to continue first. 25 years is a long time to be in relationship with someone who hasn't demonstrated consistency to care about my needs. I've done my job as a wife and mother. My last child will be leaving for college soon and now it's time for me to reevaluate the future I want for myself.
The course will change your life. It is essentially a self-help course in the context of marriage and it will change everything about your life and marriage. You have everything to gain by trying and nothing to lose.
I've been going through this very same thing for years. It's eased but the damage has been done. I have no feelings for him. Could care less. I live my life and only surround myself with positivity. It doesn't include him.
Good stuff. Why do I feel like men are supposed to be door mats?
Only because you misunderstood. Men who are noble know how to love their wife. Keep watching!
So wives just want to include their husbands in their psychological suffering? They don’t actually want their suffering fixed? They just want their husbands to listen to it but not try to fix and relieve their suffering? They just want to suffer together I’m asking honestly? It just seems like an extremely selfish mindset to put someone else through pain for any reason.
Although not on topic of the video the answer is that people cannot hear what they are not able to hear. Our minds are powerfully "protected" and it is difficult enough for one to change their own mind. Trying to help oneself gain control over their mind is the only useful help. Then, learning how to become one's heart is the greatest of all achievements
I really appreciate you reply Paul. I was asking this question specifically in response to 2:40-3:06 in the video where you say men should listen to our wives without trying to fix anything because wives don’t want anything fixed. And you said to be sincere about listening. I was being exactly on point of the video. It’s in this video.
You didn’t really answer my question though. If I was complaining and blaming you for something but didn’t have any actual way to fix the problem would I not just be complaining about something I intended to complain about again? I would not do that to my wife or anyone else and I certainly would be ashamed if I did. Why can’t a wife show that same level of respect and dignity? I seems like a basic aspect of healthy relationship.
@@Shane46587great point. We have heard a woman, and sometimes use sex as a weapon. My wife and I are Mormon. She is way more into it than I am. Anytime I have touched her (sexually suggested)- even when she isclothed) she goes into defensive mode. She says " You know I don't like that. I am your wife-tesprct me." She also refuses to bare her nudity to me and only wants the missionary position. This has lead me to seek prostitutes. It's a tragedy.
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Wow I've never heard a man say any of this before. My husband thinks only his needs and thoughts are valid. He's dismissive of me and regularly says horrible things and claims not to care what anyone thinks about him (he doesn't say it that nicely). Then later he acts clueless about why I don't want to be close to him and will complain about lack of intimacy. Ugh if I come to our bedroom after a hard day of work then cooking and cleaning, he'll say mean things about something as simple as the television. So I started watching television elsewhere and waiting for him to go to sleep before I go to bed so I don't disturb him provoking more venom. He wakes up and leaves the house really early in am, and now I work from home and work later than him. When exactly is the sex supposed to happen? Before he barks complaints or while we're sleeping??
You are drowning in a problem and cannot see that your marriage as whole can be amazing. Yet, that is the only solution, to heal your marriage from top to bottom. Use the course for women. It will be a life saver.
@@TheMarriageFoundation thank you. I need to decide if I want to continue first. 25 years is a long time to be in relationship with someone who hasn't demonstrated consistency to care about my needs. I've done my job as a wife and mother. My last child will be leaving for college soon and now it's time for me to reevaluate the future I want for myself.
The course will change your life. It is essentially a self-help course in the context of marriage and it will change everything about your life and marriage. You have everything to gain by trying and nothing to lose.
I've been going through this very same thing for years. It's eased but the damage has been done. I have no feelings for him. Could care less. I live my life and only surround myself with positivity. It doesn't include him.