Hmm, it’s dumbfounding how many RUclips videos bias this subject as the husband is not doing enough or not doing things just right to keep their wife interested, attracted and engaged. Believe me, as a man married 35 years to the same lovely woman, wives have plenty of things they need to improve on too.
Yes, this is true. Both in the marriage need to work on themselves. I've been married for 41 years and we are going through problems. No marriage is perfect. The point is how we think. Is it healthy or unhealthy. Right now my husband is very angry. Angry about everthing to the point where he is drinking heavily everynight. That enhances his anger even more. We've attempted to discuss this. I love him dearly. He says he's angry with me. I try to listen and understand. I apologize if I've genuinely offended him. I do have a stubborn streak. But this is not helping. So I try to understand his overall anger. What is causing it. Why isn't he happy? We don't have a typical marriage. I wanted to be a stay at home wife, but financial circumstances wouldn't allow it. I now work 48-50 hours a week so we can make ends meet. He is retired on Social Security. I know the economy is bad and many people are struggling out there. I've guessed part of it. He needs something meaningful to do. Every man does. I keep up my looks daily. I dress conservatively, but attractively. I cook when I can, and clean when I can, but now keeping up the house has fallen on him. And we have a small home. I get why he doesn't want to do it, but he expects me to do it now even after working 48 to 50 hours a week. This has gone on now for 3 months straight. I'm now walking on eggshells, because if I say anything now, it's taken out of context. We are not intimate. We haven't been for 2 years. I miss that closeness. I fear we are drifting apart now. So I wonder now if he wants out of the marriage. Does he feel trapped? Or is he just going through a hard time? He won't discuss his feelings with me. So the only thing I can do is be patient.
Amazing how full of shit this video is. I agree with the other response how it's always the husband's fault. The wife never has any accountability. Ridiculous video.
It's almost 7 years since we've been intimate. She doesn't even want to talk about it. I figured she doesn't love me and isn't interested in me anymore. But as soon as another woman says "hi" to me when we're out, she gets jealous. I don't understand it.
She misses the jealousy. Women are not particularly attracted to feeling one or two feelings, they want to feel cycles of emotional stimulation. She doesn't love you, she loves the way you make her feel. If you don't give her a roller-coaster, she'll get bored.
Shes protecting her investment. She'll divorce you down the road and take everything she can get her claws on (401K, house, pension, investments etc !!) Get rid of her now !!. Shes probably already started a divorce fund.
My wife is a dismissive avoidant. Your ways do not work for them. I do everything you say men should with their wives. She needs counseling and doesn’t see it.
Your wife being labeled by you, the man who promised to love her through thick and thin is lacking a husband who will treasure her. Become an ideal husband before you expect an ideal wife, Any complaining you do about her is a powerful erosion of happiness.
I've persevered for thirty plus years with my partner but I was the only one to do the research and the work needed. She just ignored the fact that we were growing apart. I always felt like she was holding something back in our relationship. I've just realised that she has "intimacy anorexia". Which is why she pulls back from throwing herself fully into the relationship. Her behaviour meets every single criteria spot on for this issue. Probably stems from the childhood trauma of her mother pushing her away. Trouble is that it is an addictive behavioural habit which she has absolutely no intention of breaking. In a nutshell, she's shutting off her ability to love and be loved.
Yes. It is not a set of behaviors but a disposition of the heart. An attitude, as you say. So I don’t have to feel bad if someone does not say “I love you” every time they walk out the door, or forget my birthday or our anniversary. I would trade ALL of that for the gentle hand of empathy. One flesh........
I needed this!! You’re so right about western psychology and therapy. Seen so many videos about women not having sex and all of that. This is the video i was needing. I’ve watched literally hundreds of videos and this is by far the best advice i’ve gotten. Even my couples therapist isnt giving me this. Thank you so much. Im going to change my thinking. Also, i think therapy should start immediately after the honeymoon. You need the tools from the start. My goodness, just great info.
Marriage is about "love" and "happiness". Broad terms when communication, reciprocation, affection, honesty, trust, contribution, and honor in conduct to each other ARE NOT mentioned in the beginning! You want love, you show it as you expect it, you want happiness? You pull your own weight and have your partner's/spouse's back in their time of need. It's called trust and respect!
Well, sure, but the basis has to be love and joy, and that is not taught. We must begin with ourselves and manifest those qualities in ever-increasing ways as we become more and more identified with our true nature; the soul Look at our articles and videos here themarriagefoundation.org/
You’re almost correct when you say there’s a lack of education regarding marriage in the western or more so in the American culture…. I would add more to that notion by saying that there is too much poisonous/wrong education in US regarding marriage. This negative “education” in US comes from the media, the tv series, tv shows, which provide plenty of bad examples where the idea of divorce, and happiness after divorce becomes the normality. And then the couple counselors are telling you that you have to do more , perhaps, etc…
Very gentle, very amiable, very special psychological speaker, so insight so much perfect speaker. God bless him, I seldom like on line speaker, but this gentleman is the best.....
This is exactly what made me pull back from putting in as much effort. Thank you so much for this clarity for our marriage. For so long I thought I was overthinking it when I wasn't. Sometimes I didn't know why but now it makes sense.
I hope it's not to late for me neither just pushed my wife away due to my Insecurities I was an asshole for An Entire Week no talking being angry being negative . Now that she seems like she is done I'm dying inside feel guilty and alone
I did realize One Thing . And That's just to change for the future and be a positive person . I talked to her and I took full responsibility for my actions . We are taking it Day By Day To be Stronger Then Ever 💪👌
Ok, what do ya do if your wife will not change, will not work on our marriage, nothing. I have been 200% for 3 years, been together 22years, I'm tired. Real tired
Shalom dear sir. I really enjoyed your down to earth heart chat about restoring a rocky marriage. Couples appear to not want to put in the work required for a successful marriage. Thank you for your encouraging thoughts.
Been married for 32yrs. Been wife her since we were 15 and I'm currently watching the marriage implode. It's like watching a sinking submarine waiting for the crush depth!!!!! Just all this wasted time
So far this video seems to be about fixing reparable relationships. Generally when man does not make wife feel loved enough to make effort to love back. If one is in a violently abusive relationship it is time to run. As brother you need to be prepared to accept him into your home until he can rebuild his single life. If STBex is violent enough, he needs to go to shelter specializing in abused spouses - and you need to be prepared in case she blames (and becomes violent toward) you.
My man has bouts of anger and negativity and wants to fight about the most trivial things. It's getting on my nerves and I'm losing all attraction. I feel like I'm on a rollercoaster. He wants to be around me all the time and I just need some space. He gets upset if I want to get things done or have downtime for myself after my physical job. I feel like his mother, not his wife.
My girlfriend of 7 years dumped me this past Mother's Day, said she didn't love me anymore. I know it's because I stopped listening to her and appreciating her and making sure she was seen and heard and validated due to problems in my own life. I lost the emotional connection that we had. I realize my mistakes and am working on changes and living my best life. We are still friends and will co-parent our child but I do hope that working on myself and rebuilding the emotional connection will reattract her.
I've made my mistakes with my wife, but I've been nothing but a sweetheart and she still fights with me and wants nothing to do with me and withhold sex so what can I do in this case?
What if after asking my wife if she is in love with me and her answer is I don’t know ? Do you see us growing old together and her answer is I don’t know I don’t think the way you do 😢..
Wow! You want an easy topic, don't you LOL... Start repeating "I am love, I am Joy" with ever deepening attention on your self, the soul, and you will knoow it. Words can in no way define love. You can only realize it...and you can! 🙏
Only love can replace fault finding/ Women sometimes say the same thing because it is hard to hear that we can improve ourselves, but with the proper use of will we can change our lives and our marriages.
If you do too much for her she says you do too much and if you don’t do that much then you avoid her and she needs another man so which is it. Stop blaming men and start to look into it being women wanting to soak their wild oats. 😊
I'm about to love on my wife ❤️ it was almost as if you were talking straight to me. You are so right.... I have to change some things because I have been a real dick lately. Thank you so much for your advice and my God bless you abundantly as well as your family 💯
Mine says she loves me. She said that she is in too much pain. Shoulders and hips. Stress from work and self-image after 4 kids that she has no drive at all. We still have intimacy, just not sex. I'm hoping we are okay.
Learning to love, unconditionally, is how to rise above the mind's inclinations, including bodily rebelion, which tend to control us. Most people love, but not deeply, from the heart, the soul. This is normal in a world that consumes us with "how are we doing" impositions, so we teach how to push the mind back and how to cultivate love from within. Then, as you learn these natural skills your love will be clear to her. At the same time we teach the rules of the marital road.... themarriagefoundation.org/ we want you to succeed!
Rhis is the issue with western thinking. Love as we think it should be is not how it always is. Marriage is not about live but a partnership. If you remember it is for better or worse rich or poor. It is work to be married.
It shouldn't be difficult. It's not difficult for me to be my best self, but it is becoming more difficult because of her indifference. I married a stranger. Here is her exact comment to me 5 years ago(after married 20 years) Out of nowhere I get: "You've changed since we got married." I ask, "How have I changed?" She says, "You never used to get mad." I ask, "What else changed?" She says, "That's all, nothing else." I say, "If that's the only thing that changed, I never used to get mad, you think maybe there is a reason for that?" Silence................
If girls night out is like for Bible study or doing art together then its fine. or something else that is enriching then its a good thing. But if its going to a bar or to gossip, than it is not lady-like and is bad for your self and your marriage.
I used to think humans were the most intelligent creatures in the world. But are we brilliant? This kind of video makes me think we must be taught about everything, including something that is supposed to be natural, like a relationship between a man and a woman. Think about it: in the days of our grandparents, the relationship rusted for a lifetime, but they didn't have this kind of teaching. Instead, they just approached relationships naturally and traditionally. How about animals? Who teaches them? There are monogamous birds and animals... Who teaches them how to live together for a lifetime? Either we are not as bright as we want to think, or something is very wrong with modern society.
Am starting to feel like woman always want what you don't have. If you have the money they want affection and all that stuff if you have affection they want money if you and that they want looks if you have the looks they want adventure they if you do have that they want dangerous if you have that they want the other.
Lol... its always the guys fault according to yet another expert. Why do you think we golf, play video games, go to the movies alone, get outside of the house second jobs? To minimize the time we have to spend with her! We are not attracting her? It's a two way street pal.
Some men feel like you and end up miserable, not hearing that their understanding of women and marriage is off. Others dig deeper and then choose to change.
Yeah, I get more enjoyment playing baseball, my guitar and bass, even painting the shed. We don't do anything together that is worthwhile anymore. And it's been like this for 20+ years. I don't bother asking her to do anything anymore, it's she's too tired, legs hurt, back hurts, tummy's upset, etc. We used to hike together---she won't keep up anymore---strangling behind and complaining. I can't walk that slow. It's no use, she and I share just about zero common interests. I have to pick up after her now, she won't even do that. I make the bed, feed that cats, clean their litter. Where did her energy go? Vaporized! Not fun, but it's for better or worse. Yes, it could be worse, but it could be better if she made any effort. She hasn't and she's not going to. Still, I'll be as good as I possibly can because I'm responsible for my behavior.
Confrontation is never a useful tool of communication. May I suggest you look into our course for men? I think you would do very well with it. themarriagefoundation.org/
@@Ken_oh545 I don’t think you should give up. I wrote my comment 1 year ago and today we’re divorced, I caught her having an affair and I have so many regrets, I should’ve talked to her earlier, maybe we would’ve split before all this happened. This was 2 months ago, now we split time with our daughter 50/50, I haven’t gotten over her completely, I think about her betrayal every day but I am so free now. I’ve gotten rid of the heavy, stressful part of my life and I get to keep my daughter the most enjoyable part. The other half the time I’m a bachelor. Take control of your life man, you will look back on this time and wonder why you waited so long.
All the women in this chat saying " Yeah, this is why I left or divorced him " . WHat did you do to make yourself attractive. Maybe you need to take a hard look in the mirror !
It is very difficult for anyone to look at themselves, men or women, its the toughest thing to do. Then remolding ourselves to be more marriage-friendly is harder still. Usually people don't come for help until their marriage is on the brink. Good news. We can help themarriagefoundation.org/reviews/
You can have a great marriage and it is not your fault because it isn't a competition but you as an individual can change the dynamics of your marriage themarriagefoundation.org/reviews/
I'll check more of your videos out, but I am NOT in a healthy situation. I'm convinced my wife is a full-blown covert narcissist and I just don't believe your program is helpful for that. I think there's an assumption that the other person--at some level--is self reflective and examines themselves, but that's not what I'm working with at all. Right now I'm just doing what I can to survive another year (5 kids). With Christ all things are possible, but I have to think someone at least has to repent before God can work most effectively in their life. Good luck with that. Just a bad situation for 25 years. I just thank God it's not actually me after all this time--if it was, everything would be fine bc I'm more than willing and have changed tremendously over my life and will change still
You married her and have chidren with her and are now labeling her....not good! Maybe it is you that needs the work? themarriagefoundation.org/reviews/
Thank you so much!!!!! I. almost lost hope of finding men who would understand this subject of making love instead of sex.. Such important teaching!!! God help us.. Especially the young generation so exposed to the cheap thing. ..
I get it now, I experienced this a few weeks ago. My wife is a bigger girl but I was so passionate about how I got to hold her thick thighs and just enjoy her. That wasn't just sex it was love making.
If the wife has bpd none of this advice will work. She hates herself so nothing you say or do will change her attitude. Sorry pal its not always the man's fault. The only option is to move on. Churches teach the same thing. "If the husband loves his wife like Christ loves the church his wife will come around" In most cases this is true but their are contentious and abusive women where this won't work and the Bible speaks of them as well.
I assume that one does not leave his wife because of an illness but stays with her out of love. The vow is "in sickness or health" there are no "so she comes around" vows. If you want a great marriage you can still have one. themarriagefoundation.org/reviews/
It all the man's fault. Bs. I agree you need to always be bettering yourself. And she should always do the same for you. If she has stopped, it may just be her, not you
If your wife cheats and yyou have kids it is rough. Get the course for men and try to heal the marriage. If you don't have kids then get away from her, but lovingly themarriagefoundation.org/reviews/
Life is too much work when you approach it correctly. The benefits that come from the work in marriage are tremendous, happiness and love off the charts themarriagefoundation.org/reviews/
If you make your part better she will do more of the same. Did all those things it’s never enough for a modern woman. All the have is excuses and no accountability. You can’t think you know a woman as a man. Sorry you weren’t her first choice and she’s a victim of her own fate. Princesses. Nope all of us don’t think we’re great but some give and some take
Marriage is not about give and take, Its about love and give. You can blame society if you want. Or, you can learn about marriage (take the course for men or at least read one of my books) and get happiness into your marriage
Why is it always about what the women want. I swear EVERY single video is about what the women want and what a man should do and not do to change and please her. Just tell her to GTFOH!
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Hmm, it’s dumbfounding how many RUclips videos bias this subject as the husband is not doing enough or not doing things just right to keep their wife interested, attracted and engaged. Believe me, as a man married 35 years to the same lovely woman, wives have plenty of things they need to improve on too.
That's for sure. But you asked what you can do, not what she can do. I let wives know what they can do when they ask.
28 years for me
Yes, this is true. Both in the marriage need to work on themselves. I've been married for 41 years and we are going through problems. No marriage is perfect. The point is how we think. Is it healthy or unhealthy. Right now my husband is very angry. Angry about everthing to the point where he is drinking heavily everynight. That enhances his anger even more.
We've attempted to discuss this. I love him dearly. He says he's angry with me. I try to listen and understand. I apologize if I've genuinely offended him. I do have a stubborn streak. But this is not helping. So I try to understand his overall anger. What is causing it. Why isn't he happy?
We don't have a typical marriage. I wanted to be a stay at home wife, but financial circumstances wouldn't allow it. I now work 48-50 hours a week so we can make ends meet. He is retired on Social Security. I know the economy is bad and many people are struggling out there.
I've guessed part of it. He needs something meaningful to do. Every man does. I keep up my looks daily. I dress conservatively, but attractively. I cook when I can, and clean when I can, but now keeping up the house has fallen on him. And we have a small home. I get why he doesn't want to do it, but he expects me to do it now even after working 48 to 50 hours a week. This has gone on now for 3 months straight. I'm now walking on eggshells, because if I say anything now, it's taken out of context.
We are not intimate. We haven't been for 2 years. I miss that closeness. I fear we are drifting apart now. So I wonder now if he wants out of the marriage. Does he feel trapped? Or is he just going through a hard time? He won't discuss his feelings with me.
So the only thing I can do is be patient.
You can only ever change yourself.
Amazing how full of shit this video is. I agree with the other response how it's always the husband's fault. The wife never has any accountability. Ridiculous video.
It's almost 7 years since we've been intimate. She doesn't even want to talk about it. I figured she doesn't love me and isn't interested in me anymore. But as soon as another woman says "hi" to me when we're out, she gets jealous. I don't understand it.
Perhaps you can learn more about women and marriage so your not befuddled? themarriagefoundation.org/reviews/
Try 34 years in a sexless marriage. It’s not been easy!
@@tofty21 My heart goes out to you!!!
She misses the jealousy. Women are not particularly attracted to feeling one or two feelings, they want to feel cycles of emotional stimulation. She doesn't love you, she loves the way you make her feel. If you don't give her a roller-coaster, she'll get bored.
Shes protecting her investment. She'll divorce you down the road and take everything she can get her claws on (401K, house, pension, investments etc !!) Get rid of her now !!. Shes probably already started a divorce fund.
My wife is a dismissive avoidant. Your ways do not work for them. I do everything you say men should with their wives. She needs counseling and doesn’t see it.
Your wife being labeled by you, the man who promised to love her through thick and thin is lacking a husband who will treasure her. Become an ideal husband before you expect an ideal wife, Any complaining you do about her is a powerful erosion of happiness.
@@TheMarriageFoundation wow! You are so right about a man taking this approach.
I've persevered for thirty plus years with my partner but I was the only one to do the research and the work needed. She just ignored the fact that we were growing apart.
I always felt like she was holding something back in our relationship.
I've just realised that she has "intimacy anorexia". Which is why she pulls back from throwing herself fully into the relationship.
Her behaviour meets every single criteria spot on for this issue.
Probably stems from the childhood trauma of her mother pushing her away.
Trouble is that it is an addictive behavioural habit which she has absolutely no intention of breaking.
In a nutshell, she's shutting off her ability to love and be loved.
Hope all works out for all husband's and wives!
For reals !! Ungrateful women to start off its me me me take take take entitlement entitlement … nagging
Yes. It is not a set of behaviors but a disposition of the heart. An attitude, as you say.
So I don’t have to feel bad if someone does not say “I love you” every time they walk out the door, or forget my birthday or our anniversary.
I would trade ALL of that for the gentle hand of empathy. One flesh........
desire is the enemy. Unconditional love is the cure
I needed this!! You’re so right about western psychology and therapy. Seen so many videos about women not having sex and all of that. This is the video i was needing. I’ve watched literally hundreds of videos and this is by far the best advice i’ve gotten. Even my couples therapist isnt giving me this. Thank you so much. Im going to change my thinking. Also, i think therapy should start immediately after the honeymoon. You need the tools from the start. My goodness, just great info.
Get the course for men, Ches, and let the couple's counselor go if you want to make super progress.
Marriage is about "love" and "happiness".
Broad terms when communication, reciprocation, affection, honesty, trust, contribution, and honor in conduct to each other ARE NOT mentioned in the beginning!
You want love, you show it as you expect it, you want happiness? You pull your own weight and have your partner's/spouse's back in their time of need. It's called trust and respect!
Well, sure, but the basis has to be love and joy, and that is not taught. We must begin with ourselves and manifest those qualities in ever-increasing ways as we become more and more identified with our true nature; the soul Look at our articles and videos here themarriagefoundation.org/
You’re almost correct when you say there’s a lack of education regarding marriage in the western or more so in the American culture…. I would add more to that notion by saying that there is too much poisonous/wrong education in US regarding marriage. This negative “education” in US comes from the media, the tv series, tv shows, which provide plenty of bad examples where the idea of divorce, and happiness after divorce becomes the normality.
And then the couple counselors are telling you that you have to do more , perhaps, etc…
I agree, however, keep in mind that right education is like a light in a dark room and dispels the nonsense conveyed by the misinformed.
@@TheMarriageFoundation indeed you are wise, I wish to learn the ways
Dude is clueless. Woman will.still be miserable. The true beta male. Guy was a toxic female in another life
After 30 years of marriage my husband has been a jerk so many times; you fall out of love.
Thank you for sharing. Very good info, practical & most important, it is genuinely honest straight.
Just found your channel. Hope it's not to late for us.
If you are that point then it would be a good idea to look at our courses themarriagefoundation.org/
I’m in your boat, a sinking boat, and I’m hoping the same. Hoping it is not too late.
any updates?? how did it go??
@@jt8713 she’s gone, said she’s in love again. 32 years gone.
@@josephrivera4233 sorry to hear man i hope you find happiness if you havent already
Very gentle, very amiable, very special psychological speaker, so insight so much perfect speaker. God bless him, I seldom like on line speaker, but this gentleman is the best.....
When a woman is ready to leave theres really nothing you can say to truely change her mind😢
In most cases, if she hasn't left yet, there is plenty you can do themarriagefoundation.org/marriage-course-for-men/
His advice is amazing. This is exactly how I felt before leaving my ex husband and filing for divorce.
It's works both ways too.
This is exactly what made me pull back from putting in as much effort. Thank you so much for this clarity for our marriage. For so long I thought I was overthinking it when I wasn't. Sometimes I didn't know why but now it makes sense.
He’s better off without you
I hope it's not to late for me neither just pushed my wife away due to my Insecurities I was an asshole for An Entire Week no talking being angry being negative . Now that she seems like she is done I'm dying inside feel guilty and alone
Changing one's self is a process that requires a plan and the proper tools.
@@TheMarriageFoundation Omg I'm like dying idk what to do anymore I don't know if I've lost her completely 💔
get the course. you need much more than just the videos here
I did realize One Thing . And That's just to change for the future and be a positive person . I talked to her and I took full responsibility for my actions . We are taking it Day By Day To be Stronger Then Ever 💪👌
Same
Ok, what do ya do if your wife will not change, will not work on our marriage, nothing. I have been 200% for 3 years, been together 22years, I'm tired. Real tired
No matter how hard you work on your marriage untill you work on yourself and do it correctly nothing will change.
Divorce her. Life is too short
Is it just me or did you just list three signs that she doesn't love you instead of four? Because I'm really interested in hearing number four
It happens, as I don't plan these talks, But, the main point of the video is that you can do something about it rather than be fatalistic.
Shalom dear sir. I really enjoyed your down to earth heart chat about restoring a rocky marriage. Couples appear to not want to put in the work required for a successful marriage. Thank you for your encouraging thoughts.
Thank you kindly
Been married for 32yrs. Been wife her since we were 15 and I'm currently watching the marriage implode. It's like watching a sinking submarine waiting for the crush depth!!!!! Just all this wasted time
You can save your marriage! Use the course for women themarriagefoundation.org/reviews/
Very good information.
Glad it was helpful for your marriage!
Thanks sir very good it help alot
Thanks I came across your site, I need this so much to advise a very troubled adopted brother whose wife is violently abusive
So far this video seems to be about fixing reparable relationships. Generally when man does not make wife feel loved enough to make effort to love back. If one is in a violently abusive relationship it is time to run. As brother you need to be prepared to accept him into your home until he can rebuild his single life. If STBex is violent enough, he needs to go to shelter specializing in abused spouses - and you need to be prepared in case she blames (and becomes violent toward) you.
Thanks for the video, yeah, I’m about to walk away
What if it's the wife that's the issue and the husband is doing the work? What if she's doing all the stuff your saying the husband is doing?
The same ideas apply.
My man has bouts of anger and negativity and wants to fight about the most trivial things. It's getting on my nerves and I'm losing all attraction. I feel like I'm on a rollercoaster. He wants to be around me all the time and I just need some space. He gets upset if I want to get things done or have downtime for myself after my physical job. I feel like his mother, not his wife.
Sounds like what is "normal" so get one of my books to look for ways to improve your marriage
Exactly what my wife says. 😂
My girlfriend of 7 years dumped me this past Mother's Day, said she didn't love me anymore. I know it's because I stopped listening to her and appreciating her and making sure she was seen and heard and validated due to problems in my own life. I lost the emotional connection that we had. I realize my mistakes and am working on changes and living my best life. We are still friends and will co-parent our child but I do hope that working on myself and rebuilding the emotional connection will reattract her.
you need to use a process for change such as what you would have from the course for men themarriagefoundation.org/
1 - She has no time/interest for you.
2 - She goes out more without you
3 - She stops looking good for you.
4 -
I like this your the real deal on this stuff.
I've made my mistakes with my wife, but I've been nothing but a sweetheart and she still fights with me and wants nothing to do with me and withhold sex so what can I do in this case?
If your marriage is so far off that you are both unhappy you can revive it by using the course for men themarriagefoundation.org/reviews/
What if after asking my wife if she is in love with me and her answer is I don’t know ? Do you see us growing old together and her answer is I don’t know I don’t think the way you do 😢..
You can transform your marriage in this case with the marriage help from the course for men themarriagefoundation.org/reviews/
What if it’s too late?
It is rarely too late but it may be. Write to our counselors (it is free) and explain what is going on and they will tell you, honestly.
Could you do a video on love and what it is in general ?
Wow! You want an easy topic, don't you LOL... Start repeating "I am love, I am Joy" with ever deepening attention on your self, the soul, and you will knoow it. Words can in no way define love. You can only realize it...and you can! 🙏
Why is it always the guys problem
The problem is with the person who feels the problem and the solution is with the one who makes the right kind of effort.
It is always the same story. Guys are always at fault.
Only love can replace fault finding/ Women sometimes say the same thing because it is hard to hear that we can improve ourselves, but with the proper use of will we can change our lives and our marriages.
Exactly!!!
If you do too much for her she says you do too much and if you don’t do that much then you avoid her and she needs another man so which is it. Stop blaming men and start to look into it being women wanting to soak their wild oats. 😊
Saving my marriage one video at a time ❤ thank you so much
I love to hear that. Go for it!!
Thank you for your sharing your wisdom!
I'm about to love on my wife ❤️ it was almost as if you were talking straight to me. You are so right.... I have to change some things because I have been a real dick lately. Thank you so much for your advice and my God bless you abundantly as well as your family 💯
Boy I wish my husband would think this way! He won't do anything with me..
All love is unconditional, otherwise it is only approval. Some couples pledge to stay together for only 5 years; we have been married for 50+.
You arre right that true soul love is unconditional when we have gotten there. But most of us are not there and so consider yourselves blessed
Women will leave you in a heartbeat 😮
Men will, too. One must be educated to make their marriage work
😔 great listen Thanks
Mine says she loves me. She said that she is in too much pain. Shoulders and hips. Stress from work and self-image after 4 kids that she has no drive at all. We still have intimacy, just not sex. I'm hoping we are okay.
Learning to love, unconditionally, is how to rise above the mind's inclinations, including bodily rebelion, which tend to control us. Most people love, but not deeply, from the heart, the soul. This is normal in a world that consumes us with "how are we doing" impositions, so we teach how to push the mind back and how to cultivate love from within. Then, as you learn these natural skills your love will be clear to her. At the same time we teach the rules of the marital road.... themarriagefoundation.org/ we want you to succeed!
Thank you Sir, indeed very good advice!
Rhis is the issue with western thinking. Love as we think it should be is not how it always is. Marriage is not about live but a partnership. If you remember it is for better or worse rich or poor. It is work to be married.
You can have love in a safe environment so don't be afraid of that. Learn to love unconditionally and you will realize what marriage is all about.
It shouldn't be difficult. It's not difficult for me to be my best self, but it is becoming more difficult because of her indifference. I married a stranger. Here is her exact comment to me 5 years ago(after married 20 years) Out of nowhere I get: "You've changed since we got married." I ask, "How have I changed?" She says, "You never used to get mad." I ask, "What else changed?" She says,
"That's all, nothing else." I say, "If that's the only thing that changed, I never used to get mad, you think maybe there is a reason for that?" Silence................
Thanks, marriage guy!
Is once a week too much for "girls night out?". Men get together at least once a week for sports. I want to understand, NOT spark a debate. Help!
If girls night out is like for Bible study or doing art together then its fine. or something else that is enriching then its a good thing. But if its going to a bar or to gossip, than it is not lady-like and is bad for your self and your marriage.
@@TheMarriageFoundation Thanks for responding. I wholeheartedly agree!
That is very bad
If you need the company of other people than your spouse once a week, you need another spouse
thanks you so much
Unfortunately everything said in this video is true. And unfortunately this speaks directly to some of us who have experienced this for real.
You CAN turn things around, don't give up themarriagefoundation.org/reviews/
I used to think humans were the most intelligent creatures in the world. But are we brilliant? This kind of video makes me think we must be taught about everything, including something that is supposed to be natural, like a relationship between a man and a woman. Think about it: in the days of our grandparents, the relationship rusted for a lifetime, but they didn't have this kind of teaching. Instead, they just approached relationships naturally and traditionally. How about animals? Who teaches them? There are monogamous birds and animals... Who teaches them how to live together for a lifetime? Either we are not as bright as we want to think, or something is very wrong with modern society.
There is a lot of selective thinking in your comment. Life is simple when you learn how to love and live in joy. Otherwise, it is pretty complicated.
Am starting to feel like woman always want what you don't have. If you have the money they want affection and all that stuff if you have affection they want money if you and that they want looks if you have the looks they want adventure they if you do have that they want dangerous if you have that they want the other.
Men are.... be kind, loving, and live in joy my brother. Marriage is awesome
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Lol... its always the guys fault according to yet another expert.
Why do you think we golf, play video games, go to the movies alone, get outside of the house second jobs?
To minimize the time we have to spend with her! We are not attracting her?
It's a two way street pal.
Some men feel like you and end up miserable, not hearing that their understanding of women and marriage is off. Others dig deeper and then choose to change.
Yeah, I get more enjoyment playing baseball, my guitar and bass, even painting the shed. We don't do anything together that is worthwhile anymore. And it's been like this for 20+ years. I don't bother asking her to do anything anymore, it's she's too tired, legs hurt, back hurts, tummy's upset, etc. We used to hike together---she won't keep up anymore---strangling behind and complaining. I can't walk that slow. It's no use, she and I share just about zero common interests. I have to pick up after her now, she won't even do that. I make the bed, feed that cats, clean their litter. Where did her energy go? Vaporized! Not fun, but it's for better or worse.
Yes, it could be worse, but it could be better if she made any effort. She hasn't and she's not going to. Still, I'll be as good as I possibly can because I'm responsible for my behavior.
It’s hard knowing she’s no longer into me.
Then change yourself so you are a better husband themarriagefoundation.org/reviews/
Well done Paul God bless you
God bless you, too
Thank you.
Thank you
Wish I had heard all this many years ago
Wish I could say it gets better. IT DOES NOT!!!
You're better off walking away while you still have your sanity.
You are better off healing yourself, and your marriage! Thats the truth
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wow amazing video thank you
Yeah...
The more I tell her how beautiful she is the less interest she has towards me.
Marriage is about developing a connection between soulmates, not just saying this or that. Unless she feels your love the words will be empty to her.
I have trouble confronting my wife about these feelings. They’re clear as day and I do so much to let her know I care. Communication is a real issue
Confrontation is never a useful tool of communication. May I suggest you look into our course for men? I think you would do very well with it. themarriagefoundation.org/
@@Ken_oh545 I don’t think you should give up. I wrote my comment 1 year ago and today we’re divorced, I caught her having an affair and I have so many regrets, I should’ve talked to her earlier, maybe we would’ve split before all this happened. This was 2 months ago, now we split time with our daughter 50/50, I haven’t gotten over her completely, I think about her betrayal every day but I am so free now. I’ve gotten rid of the heavy, stressful part of my life and I get to keep my daughter the most enjoyable part. The other half the time I’m a bachelor. Take control of your life man, you will look back on this time and wonder why you waited so long.
@@Ken_oh545 Ken, that's exactly my life minus the kids!
Spot on
Thanks 💯
My wife works full time and says she wants to find a part time job.
It's time for you to improve your connection with her themarriagefoundation.org/reviews/
Very good
All the women in this chat saying " Yeah, this is why I left or divorced him " . WHat did you do to make yourself attractive. Maybe you need to take a hard look in the mirror !
It is very difficult for anyone to look at themselves, men or women, its the toughest thing to do. Then remolding ourselves to be more marriage-friendly is harder still. Usually people don't come for help until their marriage is on the brink. Good news. We can help
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Are women always right...and its the mans fault?
Men do think that, and women think the opposite. Learning how to bridge the gender gap is a challenge for both genders.
Mine is always on tiktok but yesh its always seems to be our fault. No wonder men arnt getting married anymore
You can have a great marriage and it is not your fault because it isn't a competition but you as an individual can change the dynamics of your marriage themarriagefoundation.org/reviews/
I'll check more of your videos out, but I am NOT in a healthy situation. I'm convinced my wife is a full-blown covert narcissist and I just don't believe your program is helpful for that. I think there's an assumption that the other person--at some level--is self reflective and examines themselves, but that's not what I'm working with at all. Right now I'm just doing what I can to survive another year (5 kids). With Christ all things are possible, but I have to think someone at least has to repent before God can work most effectively in their life. Good luck with that. Just a bad situation for 25 years. I just thank God it's not actually me after all this time--if it was, everything would be fine bc I'm more than willing and have changed tremendously over my life and will change still
You married her and have chidren with her and are now labeling her....not good! Maybe it is you that needs the work?
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Listen with 2x speed
or, calm down, be patient, and absorb what you hear😀
Thank you so much!!!!!
I. almost lost hope of finding men who would understand this subject of making love instead of sex..
Such important teaching!!!
God help us.. Especially the young generation so exposed to the cheap thing. ..
I get it now, I experienced this a few weeks ago. My wife is a bigger girl but I was so passionate about how I got to hold her thick thighs and just enjoy her. That wasn't just sex it was love making.
If the wife has bpd none of this advice will work. She hates herself so nothing you say or do will change her attitude. Sorry pal its not always the man's fault. The only option is to move on. Churches teach the same thing. "If the husband loves his wife like Christ loves the church his wife will come around" In most cases this is true but their are contentious and abusive women where this won't work and the Bible speaks of them as well.
I assume that one does not leave his wife because of an illness but stays with her out of love. The vow is "in sickness or health" there are no "so she comes around" vows. If you want a great marriage you can still have one. themarriagefoundation.org/reviews/
Sounds like they have nothing in common
It all the man's fault. Bs. I agree you need to always be bettering yourself. And she should always do the same for you. If she has stopped, it may just be her, not you
Marriage is very different than what you may think it is. I suggest you look deeper into marriage and what it is and what it is for.
@TheMarriageFoundation been married for 30 years
How about when the wife cheats on you. Do you continue to love her more over the beautiful innocent angels one has. 🤔
If your wife cheats and yyou have kids it is rough. Get the course for men and try to heal the marriage. If you don't have kids then get away from her, but lovingly
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@@TheMarriageFoundation thank you for responding. 😊
Sounds like too much work to me.
Life is too much work when you approach it correctly. The benefits that come from the work in marriage are tremendous, happiness and love off the charts
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Her girl friends are bad influence.....
That may be true but it is far from the big problem of not having learned how to connect from the heart
If you make your part better she will do more of the same. Did all those things it’s never enough for a modern woman. All the have is excuses and no accountability. You can’t think you know a woman as a man. Sorry you weren’t her first choice and she’s a victim of her own fate. Princesses. Nope all of us don’t think we’re great but some give and some take
Marriage is not about give and take, Its about love and give. You can blame society if you want. Or, you can learn about marriage (take the course for men or at least read one of my books) and get happiness into your marriage
Why is it always about what the women want. I swear EVERY single video is about what the women want and what a man should do and not do to change and please her. Just tell her to GTFOH!
You can complain about your wife and your life or you can do sssomething about both. It is up to you
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Thank you for your wisdom
You are very welcome🙏