The 5 Signs Your Relationship Is Over | Mel Robbins

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    How do you “know” if someone is right for you?
    The simplest answer: Only you can decide that.
    In this video, I share the 5 signs your relationship is unhealthy, or at best, not going to last. Don’t see yourself in these? That’s great!
    But if you do, know that even though heartbreak is painful, the pain of regret and time wasted can be worse. You are worthy of an awesome, supportive, and loving relationship, so get to work on loving yourself first. 🧡
    Bonus Sign #6: If you saw the title of this video and had a gut reaction, lean into that. Listen to what your intuition is telling you and do the work to prioritize yourself.
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  • @d0n315
    @d0n315 2 года назад +1651

    A doctor once told me
    *“Because you didn't want to lose them, you lost yourself in the process. If a relationship doesn’t help you become a better person, ending it does. Find yourself again and you will find happiness”*

    • @orls9068
      @orls9068 Год назад +15

      Thank you for sharing, so true too 😊

    • @theycallmekris169
      @theycallmekris169 Год назад +12

      I love this so so true!

    • @ektasaikia7153
      @ektasaikia7153 Год назад +7

      That's really a good piece of advice

    • @user-xg5mi5cb9p
      @user-xg5mi5cb9p Год назад +10

      My new motto:
      If a relationship does not help you become a better person, ending it does.
      Thanks for the Words of Wisdom

    • @architectofdreams73
      @architectofdreams73 Год назад +3

      Sounds like cliché fortune cookie nonsense. While this might apply to someone, this is not reliable blanket advice.

  • @jojopoeticstyle1224
    @jojopoeticstyle1224 2 года назад +935

    5 signs
    1. You don’t feel like you are yourself
    2. You’re consistently questioning how you should communicate ?
    3. Not knowing where you stand
    4. You’re starting to get annoyed
    5. You’re questioning whether or not you have the same values

    • @tony9305
      @tony9305 Год назад +68

      Holy crap these are all true in my case.

    • @karissamasilela-riba1809
      @karissamasilela-riba1809 Год назад +47

      Same here and I think I'm passed the denial stage with this marriage.. I'm a happy person normally but I feel so angry now al the time

    • @architectofdreams73
      @architectofdreams73 Год назад +25

      Number 5 is the only one that matter in a relationship. The others are all inwards and only you are responsible for those, not anyone else. Conversation and collaboration is key here. Stop blaming and get to work or gtfo

    • @litedawg
      @litedawg Год назад +15

      My life story for the past 6 months. I had friends and family tell me I seemed miserable. Walking on egg shells. Dreaded coming home from work every day as she worked from home and she hated her job. Broke up with her last week. It was awful , but I had to. I was losing myself and what was important to me.

    • @Ms.Tee65
      @Ms.Tee65 Год назад +8

      I can relate to all, time to move on.

  • @opinionatorX
    @opinionatorX Год назад +326

    For those who may be experiencing this means you most likely saw these things but found the one or two good things to hold onto. You most likely settled. It's time to let go.

    • @kristinm4005
      @kristinm4005 Год назад +20

      Yeah this is what Ive been doing and its just not enough. Thanks for pointing it out.

    • @eyeopen
      @eyeopen Год назад +3

      Wow i needed to read this

    • @opinionatorX
      @opinionatorX Год назад +2

      @@kristinm4005 Welcome. We've all been there. Find the strength to let it go or not make this mistake in the future.

    • @opinionatorX
      @opinionatorX Год назад +1

      @@eyeopen Hope you find the strength to let go.

    • @lisawest1556
      @lisawest1556 10 месяцев назад +1

      Yeah, I’m 35 years too late.

  • @elvinagabriell3100
    @elvinagabriell3100 Год назад +193

    4 out of 5 signs we had, we broke up 1 month ago, we had 5 year relationship. It still hurts so much but I have to be strong and I will get through this. I deserve someone who knows what he wants. I deserve better.

    • @marccowen9421
      @marccowen9421 Год назад +1

      How do you feel now 2 months on? X god bless

    • @elvinagabriell3100
      @elvinagabriell3100 Год назад +21

      @@marccowen9421 it’s been 4 months now, I feel much better. When I moved to his place in the Netherlands in January 2022, I gave up my job and being far from my family. I attended 2 Dutch classes, did the exam and processed the visa. With all the time, energy, effort and sacrifices I made, in the beginning of the break up it was really hard. It was the biggest heartbreak in my life because our goal was to get married. Now I’m working again, trying to build my career again. I’m letting it go, and feel at peace. Thanks for asking.

    • @marccowen9421
      @marccowen9421 Год назад +3

      @@elvinagabriell3100 Aw vie that’s so good to hear that you are rebuilding your self and your happiness and letting it go. Peace is what you want and have. Cherish it. Things will work out. I promise 🙏 are you still in the Netherlands or back home now? Xx

    • @elvinagabriell3100
      @elvinagabriell3100 Год назад +9

      @@marccowen9421 I’m back to Indonesia since we’re not together anymore, my residence permit in the Netherlands is withdrawn. I started working, being with family & friends here in Jakarta. Thank you 😊

    • @odugboelisha3634
      @odugboelisha3634 9 месяцев назад

      Oh, really so sorry for that. I'm hear for you

  • @janemmanueldeguzman5855
    @janemmanueldeguzman5855 2 года назад +604

    "You deserve someone that brings out the best in you" - This hit me hard...

    • @kelleyblack3420
      @kelleyblack3420 Год назад +9

      It is everything. That is when you know you are home.

    • @architectofdreams73
      @architectofdreams73 Год назад +5

      You deserve this? Sounds like entitlement and undue expectations with rules and compromises that only benefit you. You have to earn this, not just mystically be entitled to it.

    • @susanstebila8707
      @susanstebila8707 Год назад +1

      You are 👍 great, all so true ✨💁🏼‍♀️🤩😊

    • @adityasuresh6607
      @adityasuresh6607 Год назад +1

      most people get what they sow and people don't understand this.

    • @TheChihuahua83
      @TheChihuahua83 9 месяцев назад +1

      No person can bring out the best in their partner 100% of the time every day of their lives. All relationships go thru seasons, conflicts come and go

  • @x-2954
    @x-2954 2 месяца назад +150

    Being with my ex narc for the past 6 yrs. made me observe this very pattern. I think they wanted to feel very important in a way that is disturbing. Instead of building trust with their intimate partners, they destroy the trust that they built with you (in that case lying when they tried to put you in their pedestal). Once they have a committed partner, they can’t stand being loved authentically by one person. Instead they go on and prey on other women that is susceptible to their love bombing. My ex narc was a compulsive pursuer in a relationship. He would go back and forth to the women he were involved before or try to meet women in complicated situation so that going public isn’t an option while having you as their main supply. In the end they destroy the very person that loved them. They are like toddlers testing your love for them. Showing and telling them you love them isn’t enough, they will cheat on your face to make you feel inadequate even if you are more than they deserve. They want to test your love for them so they keep hurting you and when you have enough of their abuse, you leave. Then they tell you, ‘you never loved me because you abandon me’. Well in fact it’s their actions and narcissistic behavior that made you leave or in other cases they discard you and will give silly reasons of the discard. Mine would use, ‘she’s crazy’, ‘she’s a nega-star’, ‘she insults me’, ‘she cheated on me’ et al. So with this pattern of infidelities and emotional abuse (who knows what else) it’s better to walk away. I did walk away and is now rebuilding my life with our daughter. We are struggling financially because I’m not earning enough to provide for my daughter but now we get to laugh and bring with us sunshine every day. No lies, no abuse and no fake love. We only live once, forgive yourself and move forward but never forget the lesson that narc abuse taught you. That is to respect yourself to walk away from what’s hurting and destroying you. That you deserve a life of solitude, happiness and love. Hugs*** :) Additionally I got to know about my narc husband bad ways when I reach out to a private detective Metaspyhub@gmail. com for help he did a perfect work for me I can see everything he’s doing on his device.

    • @Arwaa.M.Jarrin
      @Arwaa.M.Jarrin Месяц назад

      🤔Some men were created to be celibate. Celibacy is their test in the world. Because they're sensitive and emotional and because they are dependent on people and human emotions of feelings of love and loyalty, celibacy is their test and celibacy is their answer. Celibacy is their blessing and celibacy they think is their curse. And whenever an intelligent and wise man goes into a relationship and seeks love and happiness in this world from a woman, he ends up suffering so much through other reasons that he ends up emotionally and mentally breaking down and becoming depressed and dependent upon a man emotionally physically and eventually sexually.
      And many of them end up falling in love with younger boys after sexually being involved with an intelligent and emotional man who feels dishonoured and humiliated by the sexually serving their boyfriends and husbands.
      The answer is very simple. Celibacy...
      Purity. Piety. Chastity.
      Although for a person who is mentally and emotionally depressed and spends all his life crying weeping and wailing and being sad, the greatest nightmare of that person is to be single and chaste. But if they could suffer that pain of celibacy for 3 to 5 years, then they would find such happiness and such fulfilment in their lives and they would never ever have to go through the long part of seeking sexual pleasure from a woman and then falling in love with a man and then becoming a criminal to keep that man and then becoming a murderer and a monster and a weak person who is dependent on another person's love and has to destroy the universe and every religion and every law just to justify themselves and they're sick sexual sexuality.
      Although celibacy and Chastity is a word of fear and terror to men. These two words hold every honour, every friendship, every happiness, every power, every fulfilment, health happiness honour respect true friendships ultimate happiness and ultimate success in this world and the next for every single emotional and intelligent man.
      No man in the world suffered because of celibacy. No man in the world ever suffered because of chastity. No man was ever famed because he was celibate. No man was ever tortured because he was chaste. No man was ever tortured and humiliated and assaulted because he was pious. No man was ever killed murdered or framed for being celibate and chaste and pure.
      Celibacy will not kill you. You may think that celibacy and Chastity and the purity of the heart and thought might kill you but it will not. It will make you the best possible version of yourself. And never think that it is too late. Never think that you are too old or had too many sexual relationships and cannot become celibate and Chaste now. That is the greatest trick of the devil. Never ever back off from celibacy and Chastity -keep trying keep praying and keep praying and keep crying to God to give you the strength and the power and the ability to stay celibate and chaste no matter how old you are and no matter how many relationships you had.

    • @novenanasimiyu9447
      @novenanasimiyu9447 Месяц назад +2

      My current situation with my ex boyfriend. Everything you have said. Its now 1week and 2 days of no contact. I dated him for 7 years

    • @user-eq4il1jy6c
      @user-eq4il1jy6c 21 час назад

      I have been completely played and can't understand why.

  • @roseying6198
    @roseying6198 Год назад +244

    My partner was cheating on me while we were leaving together for 2 years. Although there were so many some red flag, but she never stopped telling me how much she loved me and want to spend the rest of her life with me. So I kept on believing her lies and shoving the red flags. . Never knowing that she was having an affair with a guy that I know and they both kept it a secret. I got to find out when I open up to a very good business partner. How I have been noticing some red flags and he advised me on what to do and to find out for sure if she is being faithful. It was then that I realized that she was having an affair with this guy and they were secretly making future plans.. I was so heart broken by this but still grateful that I did the needful to actually find out. It is really such a painful thing how people plays with ones emotions.

    • @ciaberhackeratgmailcom
      @ciaberhackeratgmailcom Год назад

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    • @phawtakhun3652
      @phawtakhun3652 Год назад +3

      So how did you get to find out?

    • @roseying6198
      @roseying6198 Год назад

      I employed the help of a professional, who helped me to uncover everything. here is the cn below,

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  • @fredseymour1224
    @fredseymour1224 3 года назад +3665

    The relationship might be over guys, but your life is just beginning!

  • @Dr.Yassine-As
    @Dr.Yassine-As 6 месяцев назад +20

    Because you don't want to lose your lover, you stay in this toxic relationship but trust me you need someone who deserves you who loves you so much and understand you

  • @joemac84
    @joemac84 Год назад +186

    Here’s the thing, you’re likely to feel one of these things in ANY relationship at one point or another. You can’t always trust your emotional state as truth, because feelings can change over time and sometimes it’s your perspective or things outside the relationship affecting how you feel

    • @McBrabus
      @McBrabus Год назад +32

      Precisely... but at some point in time, you need to talk about these things. The problem escalates when the other side does not offer much understanding or is unwilling to work on it.

    • @90charim
      @90charim Год назад +21

      I’m a over thinker and I’m trying to learn not to self sabatoge but it’s sooo hard

    • @zakosist
      @zakosist 11 месяцев назад +7

      I think you're right. And its mostly about the degree of it and how long it lasts/how often it comes up. Most of these seem like to me it would be normal in the early stages where you are still figuring things out. And especially if its also your first relationship, but maybe later too. But if there is an overall bad feeling of it that comes up often, you most likely should leave

    • @Dread7182
      @Dread7182 11 месяцев назад

      @@90charimI’m the exact same way, it’s hard :(

    • @erior9662
      @erior9662 10 месяцев назад

      Well said. I think in American society are too quick to walk away from everything, especially with the prevalence of these youtube faux expert channels.

  • @CherylMuir
    @CherylMuir 3 года назад +687

    "Any relationship where you have to twist yourself into somebody that you're not in order to keep the peace, it only starts a war inside of you." ❤️

    • @paulkane5254
      @paulkane5254 3 года назад

      I recommend you to a man who can bring back your ex within 3three days without delay ❤️❤️❤️

    • @paulkane5254
      @paulkane5254 3 года назад

      He was the person who helped me manifest back my ex three days ago with out delay 💯 💯💯

    • @paulkane5254
      @paulkane5254 3 года назад

      What saap him***

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      @paulkane5254 3 года назад

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    • @LeNoir2411
      @LeNoir2411 2 года назад +1

      This is what's going on with my friendship rn.. it feels like I'm the only one who reflects on my shortcomings and forced to do that while I've already been doing that.. while she do admits that she feels bad and hate herself, she keeps doing it, dismissing when i try to have a conversation about us.. i think she believes she's not at fault.. i love her so much.. she's the only reason I'm alive.. i got nobody else, literally.. but i am a piece of sht because I'm using her as an excuse to not die.. i don't wanna die.. but if our friendship is over ,i might really.. she's a good person really, but she also has her own inner battle ,the problem is ,she don't wanna face it and acknowledge it.. it's straining out relationship because i wanna change and be better for both of us but she don't want to bother and dwell deeper into her inner self .. i guess I'm just not good enough to bring out the best of her you know

  • @angelajones7918
    @angelajones7918 Год назад +231

    Answered the question about my 15 year marriage. I dread when my husband comes home. We have nothing in common and I’m tired of pretending to like the things he enjoys just to keep the peace. I’m becoming more argumentative and standing up for myself more often.

    • @lisah9709
      @lisah9709 Год назад +20

      Same, except for 33 years of marriage.!

    • @Jamesgeeee
      @Jamesgeeee Год назад +31

      And you will feel like this until you get divorced! I stayed 3 years extra in my last relationship because I didn’t want to hurt her and not have the conversation. Guess what? I broke up with her. It was very peaceful, and no arguing, and 9 months later, we haven’t talked in 8 months. I wasted those 3 years of my life for someone who I don’t even talk to anymore. Never again

    • @pameladavenport2649
      @pameladavenport2649 Год назад +3

      Hope yal.can work.thrunthings n find common ground n.have a revival be joined in spirit not flesh

    • @MortonLuvz2drum
      @MortonLuvz2drum Год назад

      Pretending. That's good to know. You just spent 15 years with the guy. But, I get it. I imagine you sitting there watching football, even though it sucks. What a waste of time. You don't need to argue. Go find something else to do. Or, click off the TV and jump on him like a cat. But, I can't give you good advice. I never re-married. I don't think I trust women at all anymore. Maybe because of the pretending? Well, that and the lying, drama induced, rage about nothing which always seemed to end up in my lap. Good luck.

    • @KikiNation1
      @KikiNation1 Год назад +4

      Feel the same with my wife.

  • @Tina-si1gz
    @Tina-si1gz Год назад +66

    I’ve been married 46 years and this is exactly how I’ve felt at least 40 of those years. Past annoyed.

    • @amyproudfoot6611
      @amyproudfoot6611 Год назад +13

      Too , too long to feel that way .

    • @iamtlc4u
      @iamtlc4u Год назад

      You must be miserable.

    • @heather4089
      @heather4089 10 месяцев назад +9

      My aunt had a friend that was like that for almost 50 years. She decided to divorce and be in peace for her last few years and her kids exploded cause of it. Kids can be selfish and ungrateful sometimes. Well the lady got divorced and lived around 15 years more in happiness with her self.

    • @jamaicaboy544
      @jamaicaboy544 6 месяцев назад +2

      This is my worse nightmare

    • @muhammadsteinberg
      @muhammadsteinberg 2 месяца назад +1

      Next month will be 26yrs. Most of it filled with disrespectful behavior. Dealt with the nasty attitude, drama, and disrespectful to keep a two parent home for the kids. 1 school-age kid left and I just can't take it anymore. Made the dreaded consultation call....Looking forward to moving on!

  • @MrHydevsDrJekyll
    @MrHydevsDrJekyll 2 года назад +400

    The best relationship is with yourself. That’s where it all starts

    • @allangilbert5865
      @allangilbert5865 Год назад

      My wiener thinks so !

    • @maggyfernandez9125
      @maggyfernandez9125 Год назад +3

      So true

    • @silverlining6259
      @silverlining6259 Год назад +1

      ❤ 💯

    • @maggyfernandez9125
      @maggyfernandez9125 Год назад

      @@silverlining6259 it's so funny married. 14yr. Second marriage we fight all the time. I moved to Florida from my health n granddaughters n my daughter 3years ago. If I knew my life was going to be like this with him in Florida I would have never left new York cause he i Florida I have no place to go if I leave ,in NY I have plenty of places I could have went it sucks

    • @SingularityFe
      @SingularityFe Год назад +2

      Until the toxic partner breaks the relationship you have with yourself

  • @abijahjames621
    @abijahjames621 2 года назад +1145

    People cheat because they want something they can’t have. Doesn’t matter what their partner is like. They can be stunning inside and out. People get bored and then want to partake in something inappropriate to get a thrill by chasing someone else they know they shouldn’t. It’s like people who save up to buy a new car, are happy for a day, and then want to buy a new house. There will always be something more. There will always be something better. If you’re that kind of person, don’t be in a relationship. It’s super easy to not be in a relationship. It’s 2021. Screw a different person every day. It doesn’t matter. But don’t tell someone you love them and then chase after someone else. If you’re not happy, leave. That’s it. I really want to and thanks to *discreet phase resolution* for the phone evidence

    • @Karma-lc1bp
      @Karma-lc1bp 2 года назад +3

      I HAVE SEEN OTHER PEOPLE HERE BUT TRUST ME WHEN I TELL YOU THERES ONLY ONE PERSON HERE THATS ACTUALLY CAPABLE OF GETTING SOMETHING LIKE THIS DONE AND THATS *discreet phase resolution* , HE IS ABSOLUTELY OUTSTANDING

    • @Karma-lc1bp
      @Karma-lc1bp 2 года назад +2

      I HAVE SEEN OTHER PEOPLE HERE BUT TRUST ME WHEN I TELL YOU THERES ONLY ONE PERSON HERE THATS ACTUALLY CAPABLE OF GETTING SOMETHING LIKE THIS DONE AND THATS *discreet phase resolution* , HE IS ABSOLUTELY OUTSTANDING

    • @Karma-lc1bp
      @Karma-lc1bp 2 года назад

      I HAVE SEEN OTHER PEOPLE HERE BUT TRUST ME WHEN I TELL YOU THERES ONLY ONE PERSON HERE THATS ACTUALLY CAPABLE OF GETTING SOMETHING LIKE THIS DONE AND THATS *discreet phase resolution* , HE IS ABSOLUTELY OUTSTANDING

    • @Karma-lc1bp
      @Karma-lc1bp 2 года назад +1

      I HAVE SEEN OTHER PEOPLE HERE BUT TRUST ME WHEN I TELL YOU THERES ONLY ONE PERSON HERE THATS ACTUALLY CAPABLE OF GETTING SOMETHING LIKE THIS DONE AND THATS *discreet phase resolution* , HE IS ABSOLUTELY OUTSTANDING

    • @_zina9054
      @_zina9054 2 года назад +22

      To give you another perspective, I use to cheat and I did it out of insecurity. I never felt pretty enough for him or never felt wanted , I would seek men and knowing they wanted me made feel better. It wasn't about the sex it was about how I felt about myself, this made it worst I started to fell dirty after time. My bf and I would fight and I would go sleep with someone to feel like I was still wanted. I take accountability for my actions and I acknowledge that what I did was wrong , I'm just aware of why I acted this way. I found Christ and was filled with his love a love no man can replace, ever since then I don't seek men to fill that void , I lost myself completely but it was never about the other person , yes their actions made me feel insecure but they are not responsible for how I feel I know now that when someone makes me feel un wanted I love myself enough to walk away I love myself enough to not care if they leave me , I accept it and move on , yes it's been hard but I don't use my body anymore. That's why I would cheat.

  • @PlastiCityOf
    @PlastiCityOf 11 месяцев назад +31

    This video hits hard. I feel every point. Now it’s just about being brave enough to end things.

  • @dollyme03
    @dollyme03 2 года назад +20

    This was exactly my sentiment before and told myself "If you don't know where you stand, then YOU already KNOW where you stand".

  • @dahenry8888
    @dahenry8888 3 года назад +837

    1. You Dont Feel Like Yourself
    2.Youre Constantly Questioning How to Communicate
    3. You Think About How The Relationship is Going...No knowing where you stand
    4. You're Starting to Get Annoyed
    5. You're Questioning whether YOU have the Same Values

    • @joymae
      @joymae 3 года назад +24

      Thank you for summarizing for us Daisy!

    • @lizhullen5857
      @lizhullen5857 3 года назад +26

      So true finally left and never been happier. I am the old ME

    • @CrystalDatingCoach
      @CrystalDatingCoach 3 года назад +14

      You feel like Shit! You should feel good...happy.

    • @sr0716
      @sr0716 3 года назад +11

      I believe in a relationship it's important to have the same values in life. Very important to me.

    • @CrystalDatingCoach
      @CrystalDatingCoach 3 года назад +11

      @@sr0716 It's not complicated. If your happy. Stay. If your miserable. Leave. You deserve Happiness!

  • @kingab6865
    @kingab6865 Год назад +17

    All accurate. I just got out of an unhealthy, long term relationship. I realized that I could no longer be myself around that person. I was walking on eggshells to keep peace . It was hard to make the decision because after being in a relationship for over 2 years and making plans for the future ,there was a sense of huge loss ... loss of dreams that never came to fruition . And as most relationships that last for long, there is an attachment. I think I knew sooner that it's not going to work but I was too attached and too invested. Love truly is blind. It sometimes takes time to see the red flags even when they're waiving in your face.

  • @speciallion1135
    @speciallion1135 Год назад +7

    Thanks for that, I have just subscribed. Thankfully, I was blessed to be married to my beloved wife for 32 years, she died last year & I am now a widower. I was so blessed, because with retrospection, I was able to see, just how much we helped each other grow to be the best in our lives. The crux in any relationship, is to be authentic 100%. particularly communication, but all things, really. The other thing, is to know thyself & not rely on anyone else to fix you.

  • @stephanie5471
    @stephanie5471 3 года назад +333

    I’ve become obsessed with checking on the relationship (searching the internet for answers to my questions compulsively).
    And the big one for me is: I shouldn’t be feeling this way. I should feel happy, warm and fuzzy, not anxious, sad and irritated.

    • @sharon8276
      @sharon8276 3 года назад +23

      Literally ME. For my entire relationship. It's been almost a year and a half and the obsessive googling has only reduced in the last few months. I hate it. I don't think I've ever felt emotionally secure in this relationship for more than a couple weeks. I usually blame my anxiety but maybe it's actually a red flag I should be acting on

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    • @lisaylot5117
      @lisaylot5117 3 года назад +4

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  • @luthfimuhammad2036
    @luthfimuhammad2036 11 месяцев назад +19

    I'm at a rocky point at my relationship, and yet not a single one of those points apply, not one bit. Thank you for that, it makes me more determined to save it.

  • @vova_rn
    @vova_rn Год назад +9

    Absolutely love it!
    My wife and I were married for more than 14 years and most of the time it was difficult and stressful!
    I am a 56 year old man and I was physically abused and assaulted by my wife more than 3 times…
    Verbal abuse was like walking in the park…most of it in front of our daughter.
    My wife assaulted my daughter when she was 6 and a half years old.
    I was waiting for my daughter to be older and now she is 14 and I started working on divorce!
    Yes, I am not super healthy but even if I have a few good years to live without stress and drama, I will take a chance 😊

  • @wisdom-for-all
    @wisdom-for-all 3 года назад +1460

    Prefer not to say a relationship is over, say it is "complete". Some relationships are not meant to last forever 🖖

    • @Linda-bj3bb
      @Linda-bj3bb 3 года назад +19

      For a reason and a season?

    • @wisdom-for-all
      @wisdom-for-all 3 года назад +65

      @@Linda-bj3bb A general rule is: Do not worry because it is over; Smile because it happened. Also, sometimes 2 people have to fall apart to realize how much they need to fall back together. But know that you will not heal by going back to what broke you 🖖

    • @hadafoxer9563
      @hadafoxer9563 3 года назад +6

      True...

    • @Linda-bj3bb
      @Linda-bj3bb 3 года назад +11

      @@wisdom-for-all it's often good to try and fix what is broken. If you are successful great. If you not that's great too because then it's easier to discard the broken thing. At least you know that you have tried and it's impossible to mend it. 🎵 It's not over till its over🎶🎵why because often one person is not quite over the other person and the broken one needs closer.

    • @rizwantahir7116
      @rizwantahir7116 3 года назад +3

      @@wisdom-for-all there is nothing to smile at toxic relationships that end up being based on shitty Piper dreams, the start was selfish so was the end, no matter it's the husband or wife.
      It's all want, want, want no one has patience anymore and some relations just don't have it in them rather most relations these days

  • @robertbook1719
    @robertbook1719 3 года назад +504

    Number 1 sign your relationship is over... clicking on this video. She nailed it from the get go, this video only needed to be 10 seconds long

    • @jaylac6908
      @jaylac6908 3 года назад +34

      i know my relationship isn’t over but i watched this video to see signs in the future

    • @random-miranda9205
      @random-miranda9205 3 года назад +27

      I disagree. I clicked to see what I could do if my marriage showed any of those signs.

    • @melissahandgirl8060
      @melissahandgirl8060 3 года назад

      Yes

    • @adriannaa545
      @adriannaa545 3 года назад +17

      Disagree, I am in a happy relationship and I watch these videos out of curiosity to know what to AVOID

    • @cfaz6763
      @cfaz6763 3 года назад +2

      @@adriannaa545 exactly

  • @joywairimu2372
    @joywairimu2372 Год назад +15

    Signs The Relationship Is Over
    1. You don't feel comfortable being you.
    2. You're constantly questioning how to communicate.
    3. You think about where the relationship stands all the time.
    4. You're starting to get annoyed.
    5. You're questioning whether or not you have the same values.

  • @cremebrulee9329
    @cremebrulee9329 8 месяцев назад +16

    This gave me a total relief about the decision to leave a relationship. I had been wondering if I made a wrong choice and hurting myself saying that I was already past 30 and not married yet. Thank you very much Mel!

  • @KingKull1971
    @KingKull1971 2 года назад +90

    Comfort is the only issue when it comes to relationships. If you are uncomfortable then the relationship is over, or it never really started in the first place. The bottom-line is this; your relationship with your partner should feel like home.

    • @SingularityFe
      @SingularityFe Год назад +4

      It used to feel like home.

    • @KingKull1971
      @KingKull1971 Год назад +1

      @@SingularityFe does she make you feel like an unwelcome guest?😳

  • @jasonwilson3727
    @jasonwilson3727 2 года назад +706

    I'm 37 years old, handsome(by women's take), wise, and own two homes in Atlanta. If I as a man am supposed too give my life for my wife, me checking her phone is inconsequential. In marriage, you have no privacy. Any man that accepts less isn't a man. I'd rather be alone than be with a woman who thinks she can have a secret space in a marriage. Good video young bro but a wise man. The pride you take in your work is truly amazing and inspiring special thanks to all the team at *discreet phase resolution*

    • @abijahjames621
      @abijahjames621 2 года назад +1

      People cheat because they want something they can’t have. Doesn’t matter what their partner is like. They can be stunning inside and out. People get bored and then want to partake in something inappropriate to get a thrill by chasing someone else they know they shouldn’t. It’s like people who save up to buy a new car, are happy for a day, and then want to buy a new house. There will always be something more. There will always be something better. If you’re that kind of person, don’t be in a relationship. It’s super easy to not be in a relationship. It’s 2021. Screw a different person every day. It doesn’t matter. But don’t tell someone you love them and then chase after someone else. If you’re not happy, leave. That’s it. I really want to and thanks to *discreet phase resolution* for the phone evidence

    • @dawngargano9790
      @dawngargano9790 2 года назад +1

      I HAVE SEEN OTHER PEOPLE HERE BUT TRUST ME WHEN I TELL YOU THERES ONLY ONE PERSON HERE THATS ACTUALLY CAPABLE OF GETTING SOMETHING LIKE THIS DONE AND THATS *discreet phase resolution* , HE IS ABSOLUTELY OUTSTANDING

    • @dawngargano9790
      @dawngargano9790 2 года назад +1

      I HAVE SEEN OTHER PEOPLE HERE BUT TRUST ME WHEN I TELL YOU THERES ONLY ONE PERSON HERE THATS ACTUALLY CAPABLE OF GETTING SOMETHING LIKE THIS DONE AND THATS *discreet phase resolution* , HE IS ABSOLUTELY OUTSTANDING

    • @dawngargano9790
      @dawngargano9790 2 года назад +1

      I HAVE SEEN OTHER PEOPLE HERE BUT TRUST ME WHEN I TELL YOU THERES ONLY ONE PERSON HERE THATS ACTUALLY CAPABLE OF GETTING SOMETHING LIKE THIS DONE AND THATS *discreet phase resolution* , HE IS ABSOLUTELY OUTSTANDING

    • @neshyaayu7158
      @neshyaayu7158 2 года назад +2

      Person agree

  • @Marywhite-pd1hw
    @Marywhite-pd1hw 2 месяца назад +32

    A very fascinating video, this brings back painful memories which i have been enduring. My relationship of 5 years ended 3 months ago. The love of my life decided to leave me , I really love him so much I can’t stop thinking about him, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of him, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here , I really miss him and just can’t stop thinking about him .

    • @Marywhite-pd1hw
      @Marywhite-pd1hw 2 месяца назад

      Interesting , how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how can i get in touch with her?

    • @Marywhite-pd1hw
      @Marywhite-pd1hw 2 месяца назад

      Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive

  • @-ZOMB
    @-ZOMB Год назад +42

    Feels like a one way battle. While I’m cuffed in question on what and how to do things better. I gotta accept that it’s over because she gave up on me already.

    • @lala5061
      @lala5061 Год назад +9

      If she gave up on you and you know u need to be remorseful for whatever u did or how u were, the question is, are u going to give up on you being better and showing her that? Or because u think she gave up already, are u going to do nothing if u want your woman back? Honestly, if u feel no remorse (not because it's over) and u don't think u need to change for yourself then u should just leave her alone because the only apology/remorse is the consistent changed behavior and that takes time u gotta stay seperated but still talk while u do this to see if u are actually progressing in your new mentality...Im not telling u what to do but I know my ex-spouse is living in delusion because he has committed an unforgivable act against me and he's talking about the future and things as though nothing happened and it's not over smh the man has not even tried to look at videos or any therapy he just what thinks he can do it with his own mind that he has now 🙁 that's why every time he says he's going to change its been 17 years and nothing has changed ...he has no remorse he just want to come back to this house to the family we created but I can't do that he has no remorse and he's not taking the time for therapy for his issues....I have been doing my own therapy by who I listen to online and Im a honest person with myself I didnt know exactly my issues but I know that its not just 1 person in the relationship that makes it the way it is its the combination of the 2 so Im changing not for him or us for me because I probably will not go back it's been 5 months and Im at peace so it probably is over for him unless he does what he's never done before and thats seek help...therapy is free online all u have to do when listening to the messages from authentic doctors and therapist videos on communication, trauma and healing etc is be honest with yourself when u hear things that u know are true about yourself or the way u do things and just take that in and make notes to try and change that...I don't know what u did but because u are commenting and watching this video it tells me u are in pain and u really want your woman...I hope it works out well for the both of u whatever that may be 🤗

  • @rdb0819
    @rdb0819 3 года назад +414

    If being with a certain person makes you feel like you’ve lost yourself, that’s all you need to know that it’s over

    • @CrystalDatingCoach
      @CrystalDatingCoach 3 года назад +7

      Yes. You should feel like you Found yourself!

    • @gregorycarlson6632
      @gregorycarlson6632 3 года назад +6

      Rod Boy1 : Excellent point, and so true!! As Don Henley so aptly put it, “After all the bad luck and troubles we’ve been through; how I lost me, and you lost you

    • @brandonyafanaro9710
      @brandonyafanaro9710 3 года назад +4

      I just got dumped yesterday. I went the through whole relationship losing myself . I tried ending it because my insecurities were so bad. Months later after some self work, he ended it instead because he started mentally checking out

    • @gregorycarlson6632
      @gregorycarlson6632 3 года назад +2

      @@brandonyafanaro9710 Sorry that happened to you Brandon.

    • @CrystalDatingCoach
      @CrystalDatingCoach 3 года назад +5

      @@brandonyafanaro9710 Don't ignore the Red flags. Don't think things are going to get better...they usually get worse.

  • @irishbadazz
    @irishbadazz 2 года назад +504

    Thank you so much for encouraging the whole world to do better and life, To make us stay positive and motivated in focus on our goals & dreams and stay away from negatively so we can prosper in life everyone on this video stay strong and safe May God bless you and your families. for relationship issue *discreet phase resolution*

    • @scania1982
      @scania1982 2 года назад

      There is no god. Religion is man-made.

  • @robertbrown8488
    @robertbrown8488 2 года назад +8

    I was already extremely pessimistic about the relationship I was in. Then I saw your video last night. 5/5 confirmation! You were spot on in very concrete terms. Extremely helpful. Thank you.

  • @blueskies7035
    @blueskies7035 Год назад +7

    "Chemistry is NOT compatibility." Wow... That is a brilliant and concise way to put it. I understood this, but didn't have the words. That realization, and stepping back, helped convince me to not step outside of my committed relationship, for a fling that had some sizzle but would have ended poorly.

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      @olabalu6597 Год назад +1

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  • @carotari4491
    @carotari4491 3 года назад +27

    2021 is being single ...am done with relationship I need to work on myself and make my parents proud

    • @MariaCurry
      @MariaCurry 3 года назад +1

      i honestly dont think you should make anyone else proud than yourself

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  • @coldsolider
    @coldsolider Год назад +6

    “But clearly you need to hear it”
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    @nelsonmurugu5631 Год назад +2

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  • @BlueMagic334
    @BlueMagic334 3 года назад +94

    I bursted into tears at the end. The wake up call I needed.

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    • @ElvisandAmy8
      @ElvisandAmy8 Год назад +2

      It was confirmation for me . I feel like I want to wake up OUT of this now without feeling like I’m in this dreadful nightmare
      I’m so afraid of starting again on my own . I’m so afraid but I’m being pushed - it’s over - he wants it Over too and I’m so scared

  • @craig3714
    @craig3714 3 года назад +50

    I don't feel comfortable being me , feel like I'm constantly walking on eggshells , everytime I speak up makes the abuse worse .

    • @hulkgreen6786
      @hulkgreen6786 3 года назад +3

      Move out it’s so liberating

    • @miss8122
      @miss8122 3 года назад

      why didn't you guys go somewhere together,im in a similar situation my bf wants to enjoy life without me why not do things together and have fun?

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  • @makinglovelast
    @makinglovelast Год назад +11

    These are so wonderful. Especially “you don’t feel like yourself.” Some people might not immediately go there. ❤

  • @jennifergroeneweg8727
    @jennifergroeneweg8727 Год назад +14

    I love how to the point you are! It's not what I want to hear, but needed it- thank you.

  • @pattylyons9645
    @pattylyons9645 2 года назад +37

    This was my relationship with my ex. You should feel as comfortable and like yourself with your partner as you do with your friends.

    • @christianasenibo9507
      @christianasenibo9507 2 года назад

      Absolutely

    • @phillip1050
      @phillip1050 2 года назад +1

      Patty such as actually happen to me also but i am happy i got over it. I hope learn from this video patty

    • @Brett580
      @Brett580 Год назад

      Due to your comments you sounded like a brilliant and intelligent person. ...... How are your doing?

  • @kendrathompson5207
    @kendrathompson5207 3 года назад +64

    Sign number 6 When you ideas about home cleanliness are widely different

    • @hilly8705
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      This is so real!!

  • @AZTECPLATOO
    @AZTECPLATOO 11 месяцев назад

    I really really needed to hear this, thank you. I was losing myself. It hurts but this is the right road

  • @annabanzon313
    @annabanzon313 10 месяцев назад

    Sign 1 is so important and telling. Something I never thought about.

  • @gempraised7350
    @gempraised7350 3 года назад +26

    Any relationship where you have to twist yourself in order to keep the peace.
    You will start a war inside of you.
    Very eye opening.

  • @shanmugapriyamohan6481
    @shanmugapriyamohan6481 3 года назад +155

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  • @darynadixon8759
    @darynadixon8759 Год назад +2

    This video brought me clarity on my thoughts and feelings over the past two years. Now I can concentrate on healing. and continue to love me! Thank you!

  • @loriayres4948
    @loriayres4948 2 года назад +13

    I can’t tell you how this is helping me in excepting the fact that our marriage really is over. I appreciate your direct style I know I will return again and again for your helpful advice

    • @Brett580
      @Brett580 Год назад

      While watching this video I came across your lovely profile. Lori, how are you doing?

  • @babbaruff1045
    @babbaruff1045 3 года назад +71

    My God, the pain of ending a relationship is just horrendous. I have been in utter turmoil wondering if I am in love? Sometimes I am and sometimes not. The whole thing has triggered depression in me.

    • @samia6888
      @samia6888 3 года назад +6

      This is a normal part of grieving unfortunately that we need to go through after a break up but don't let that stop you from wasting anymore time on someone who isn't good for you or good to you. The pain will fade with time and work on yourself.

    • @Mistical1982
      @Mistical1982 3 года назад +5

      Same here. He loves me and is good to me, but I just don’t feel it. I keep wondering if my feelings will grow, but I’m so, so busy and can’t find enough time to spend with him. What will you do?

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  • @erinvaughn3739
    @erinvaughn3739 Год назад +1

    This all makes sense .. Even with a friendship .. I have a friendship that we reconnected after 12 years .. and she started doing all these .. Thank You for Sharing This ♥️

  • @cynthiaanyanwu23
    @cynthiaanyanwu23 Год назад +3

    The exact thing I'm going through right now 😭😭 it really hurts

  • @TheStylefanic
    @TheStylefanic 3 года назад +170

    I feel all these signs. He’s a jerk, was all just something I built up in my head. I’ve never been treated so bad in my life.

    • @cindyhill4864
      @cindyhill4864 3 года назад +13

      Get out as soon as you can. Good luck.

    • @thomasdouglas5701
      @thomasdouglas5701 3 года назад +1

      Hello Connie. How are you? Its nice to meet you, and I wish to get in touch with you.

    • @SatumainenOlento
      @SatumainenOlento 3 года назад +4

      You look so beautiful and happy on your photo. How could anybody dare to treat you badly??? They should fear losing you. I bet that you bring the sun to all who meet you. (Hope that this comment from a Sister helps you never to tangle yourself with a man who so clearly did not deserve you. I also got clear how much value any woman brings to a man's life. Wow! Total change of perspective.)

    • @thomasdouglas5701
      @thomasdouglas5701 3 года назад

      @@Michael-bf1dt Hey Michael. How are you? Greetings from LA

    • @lioydwilliams1850
      @lioydwilliams1850 3 года назад

      Connie Smothers, you are so beautiful,you deserve better

  • @danielcastillo4537
    @danielcastillo4537 2 года назад +7

    How come we don't always know when love begins but we always know when it ends.- Steve Martin

  • @tomisinojo2661
    @tomisinojo2661 6 месяцев назад +2

    Thank you for sharing this. You will never know how many people you have helped with this.

  • @lbdboncoeur4795
    @lbdboncoeur4795 Год назад +1

    so clear, so precise, so true. Thank you for your no BS human approach to helping people.

  • @hannarodrigez4863
    @hannarodrigez4863 3 года назад +37

    Honestly I thought my boyfriend and I were over soon but while watching this video I realized I overreacted over a small discussion.
    Relationships are hard work but sometimes the work is worth it

    • @emelielarsson3042
      @emelielarsson3042 3 года назад +5

      Yes!
      Reeeal hard work.

    • @dominus6695
      @dominus6695 Год назад +2

      @@emelielarsson3042 and it's really hard if the other person only sees their viewpoint and tries to bend and manipulate you into what they want FROM you instead of letting you be you xD

  • @PositiveMommaLife
    @PositiveMommaLife 3 года назад +61

    I’m single. Just validating why my ex and I are over.

    • @johncathy4086
      @johncathy4086 3 года назад

      I will just want to share my experience with the entire world on how i got my wife back and saved my marriage… I was married for 5 years with 2 kids and i have been living happily with my family until things started getting ugly with me and my wife that leads us to fights and arguments almost every time… it got worse at a point that my wife filed for divorce… I tried my best to make him change his mind & stay with me cause i loved him with all my heart and didn't want to loose my wife but everything just didn't work out… She moved out of the house and still went ahead to file for divorce… I pleaded and tried everything but still nothing worked. The breakthrough came when someone introduced me to this wonderful, great spell caster called Dr Anthony , Who eventually helped me out… I have never been a fan of things like this but just decided to try it because I was desperate and left with no choice… He did the spell for me and things really work out as he promise and my wife have a change of mind and come back home to stay with me and the kids. And promise never to hurt me again. we are living happily together all because of the help of Dr Anthony. If you are in need of help you can contact Dr Anthony for any kinds of spell, like good luck spell and Reading and many more on WhatsApp ‪+2...3..4..8..1..4..3..2..7..9..4..7..8‬, and he's into herbal medicine for any kinds of diseases or virus...

    • @victoriawilliams743
      @victoriawilliams743 3 года назад

      I know about the rhadjah-temple, he is a great born sorcerer, he have been into this spellcast work since over 30years because he was born a sorcerer, his gods have never failed him and I am a living withness and I strongly believe,he also cast spell for different purposes like......
      1- if you want your ex back.
      2- you want to be promoted in your office.
      3- if you always have bad dream.
      4-You want women/men to run after you.
      5-you want to be rich.
      6- if you want a child.
      7- you want to tie your husband or wife to be yours forever.
      8- if you need financial assistance
      9-herbal care
      10- if you are unable to satisfy your wife sex desire due to low erection
      11- if your menstruation refuse to flow.
      12- if your work refuse to pay.
      13- did your family deny you of your right?
      14- let people obey my words and do as I command.
      15- case solve.
      16-failing marriage..
      I advice you if you have any problem you can call or text him with this number.....(213) 493-7210

    • @Dime.Society
      @Dime.Society 3 года назад

      Me too, I checked every box. It’s done, I’m happy. It’s like a sigh of relief.

    • @MuhammadImran-ln4fz
      @MuhammadImran-ln4fz 3 года назад

      I am single 2 😍❤

    • @W42PZ
      @W42PZ 3 года назад

      @@johncathy4086 💯🔔🔚

  • @anon_ya
    @anon_ya 2 года назад +1

    GIRL you literally described my whole experience one by one

  • @kmduarte2005
    @kmduarte2005 Год назад

    Yep! I’m done!!
    Looking forward to being me and not feeling like shit about myself and how he treats me.

  • @andrewgage6942
    @andrewgage6942 3 года назад +25

    I've only been cheated on, relationships never lasted, been single for years, don't miss relationships and the stress that went with it

    • @koma7778
      @koma7778 3 года назад

      Did you cheat yourself?

  • @heidihurn9828
    @heidihurn9828 3 года назад +91

    I love being single and will never get involved with anybody again x

    • @squeezerD
      @squeezerD 3 года назад +2

      The way the dating is now a days man stay far away from marriage and good thing too. They will be happier and have a lot of savings in the end.

    • @harryjemes5435
      @harryjemes5435 3 года назад

      Have you heard of harry jemes him help me have a good relationship you can contact him on WhatsApp +234) )907896-6955

    • @nnamudifrank3608
      @nnamudifrank3608 3 года назад +1

      Not even with me?

    • @bighizacosmetics
      @bighizacosmetics 3 года назад +3

      Me too! I am so done with relationships!

    • @heidihurn9828
      @heidihurn9828 3 года назад

      @@bighizacosmetics your so much better off don’t need a man happier now than i have ever been no crap to put up with x

  • @cmotto.1
    @cmotto.1 2 года назад +1

    Wow my relationship is GREATafter watching this, THANKS!

  • @StrongFrances
    @StrongFrances Год назад +5

    All 5 here as well. Took 40+ years and just discovering that spouse is a narcissist. Too many of them in my life right now, but my spouse is the closest, and probably the most destructive. It's comforting to know that this isn't just my imagination, but what to do now. I point out the narcissistic behaviour more than I used to, but of course, it's always my fault.

    • @petekdemircioglu
      @petekdemircioglu Год назад

      Same Here. But We live in a Middle eastern Narco terror dictatorship where all men are severely Narcissitic and psychopathic and misogony and gender based Violence is the norm. He is the best and least of these you can find among 40 million animals. He accepted to see a psychiatrist at least for his narcissism. So I will give it one more chance if he sticks to theraphy. Men beat burn and forbid their wives from working Here. Mine is Narcissistic and emotionally abusive. And We have been put on a lot of stress by these psychopaths.

  • @CrystalDatingCoach
    @CrystalDatingCoach 3 года назад +332

    Are YOU crying more than laughing?? NEXT!

    • @thomasdouglas5701
      @thomasdouglas5701 3 года назад

      Hello there. How are you? Its nice to meet you, and I wish to get in touch with you.

    • @MuhammadImran-ln4fz
      @MuhammadImran-ln4fz 3 года назад

      Hi
      How are you sweet lovely friend
      Single here 😘😘😙😙😍😍😍😍❤❤💑💑💑💑🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹

    • @neilo.hislop950
      @neilo.hislop950 3 года назад +2

      For me, that's just stress and a side order of depression.

    • @CrystalDatingCoach
      @CrystalDatingCoach 3 года назад +5

      @@neilo.hislop950 OK. We all get Stessed and depress...but our Partners should be making us HAPPY not bringing us down. Encouraging not Discouraging.

    • @johncathy4086
      @johncathy4086 3 года назад +1

      I will just want to share my experience with the entire world on how i got my wife back and saved my marriage… I was married for 5 years with 2 kids and i have been living happily with my family until things started getting ugly with me and my wife that leads us to fights and arguments almost every time… it got worse at a point that my wife filed for divorce… I tried my best to make him change his mind & stay with me cause i loved him with all my heart and didn't want to loose my wife but everything just didn't work out… She moved out of the house and still went ahead to file for divorce… I pleaded and tried everything but still nothing worked. The breakthrough came when someone introduced me to this wonderful, great spell caster called Dr Anthony , Who eventually helped me out… I have never been a fan of things like this but just decided to try it because I was desperate and left with no choice… He did the spell for me and things really work out as he promise and my wife have a change of mind and come back home to stay with me and the kids. And promise never to hurt me again. we are living happily together all because of the help of Dr Anthony. If you are in need of help you can contact Dr Anthony for any kinds of spell, like good luck spell and Reading and many more on WhatsApp ‪+2...3..4..8..1..4..3..2..7..9..4..7..8‬, and he's into herbal medicine for any kinds of diseases or virus...

  • @gianabarahona
    @gianabarahona 2 года назад +9

    my heart needs to except what my brain already knows 💔

  • @lindycarimbocas1039
    @lindycarimbocas1039 2 года назад +1

    Every thing you say is perfectly true. Thanks Mel!

  • @DemiBernice
    @DemiBernice 3 года назад +18

    Wow. My relationship is actually stable and legit. I'm just overreacting.

    • @jerrypeter6478
      @jerrypeter6478 2 года назад +1

      Hello, beautiful woman with a beautiful smile,how are you doing,how's your family,how's the weather over there oh my god you are looking very beautiful,your beauty is making me going crazy right now,I want to know more about you

    • @DemiBernice
      @DemiBernice 2 года назад +14

      @@jerrypeter6478 fuck off

    • @emilyb1438
      @emilyb1438 2 года назад +2

      Me. Too. But it’s just beginning (of the committed part), and it’s only my second relationship. So I’m questioning EVERYTHING. First was a decade ago, so I have not a clue how to go about this. But I do know this. When I’m not questioning everything and overreacting, it’s FUN.

    • @katrinakaye7997
      @katrinakaye7997 Месяц назад +1

      Don't second guess yourself. If you're questioning it over and over, there is something wrong. Pay attention to how you truly feel, and be honest with yourself.

  • @cac7865
    @cac7865 3 года назад +55

    I'm single but still watching this

    • @FreedominLove711
      @FreedominLove711 3 года назад +3

      Take notes for the future

    • @carmichaelmoritz8662
      @carmichaelmoritz8662 3 года назад

      i'm never single for long .

    • @johncathy4086
      @johncathy4086 3 года назад

      I will just want to share my experience with the entire world on how i got my wife back and saved my marriage… I was married for 5 years with 2 kids and i have been living happily with my family until things started getting ugly with me and my wife that leads us to fights and arguments almost every time… it got worse at a point that my wife filed for divorce… I tried my best to make him change his mind & stay with me cause i loved him with all my heart and didn't want to loose my wife but everything just didn't work out… She moved out of the house and still went ahead to file for divorce… I pleaded and tried everything but still nothing worked. The breakthrough came when someone introduced me to this wonderful, great spell caster called Dr Anthony , Who eventually helped me out… I have never been a fan of things like this but just decided to try it because I was desperate and left with no choice… He did the spell for me and things really work out as he promise and my wife have a change of mind and come back home to stay with me and the kids. And promise never to hurt me again. we are living happily together all because of the help of Dr Anthony. If you are in need of help you can contact Dr Anthony for any kinds of spell, like good luck spell and Reading and many more on WhatsApp ‪+2...3..4..8..1..4..3..2..7..9..4..7..8‬, and he's into herbal medicine for any kinds of diseases or virus...

    • @johncathy4086
      @johncathy4086 3 года назад

      @@carmichaelmoritz8662 I will just want to share my experience with the entire world on how i got my wife back and saved my marriage… I was married for 5 years with 2 kids and i have been living happily with my family until things started getting ugly with me and my wife that leads us to fights and arguments almost every time… it got worse at a point that my wife filed for divorce… I tried my best to make him change his mind & stay with me cause i loved him with all my heart and didn't want to loose my wife but everything just didn't work out… She moved out of the house and still went ahead to file for divorce… I pleaded and tried everything but still nothing worked. The breakthrough came when someone introduced me to this wonderful, great spell caster called Dr Anthony , Who eventually helped me out… I have never been a fan of things like this but just decided to try it because I was desperate and left with no choice… He did the spell for me and things really work out as he promise and my wife have a change of mind and come back home to stay with me and the kids. And promise never to hurt me again. we are living happily together all because of the help of Dr Anthony. If you are in need of help you can contact Dr Anthony for any kinds of spell, like good luck spell and Reading and many more on WhatsApp ‪+2...3..4..8..1..4..3..2..7..9..4..7..8‬, and he's into herbal medicine for any kinds of diseases or virus...

    • @ritaranee4787
      @ritaranee4787 3 года назад

      World is ending and people are still agonizing over petty things and whether to reproduce or not....lol

  • @lorielandstrom752
    @lorielandstrom752 Год назад +1

    Thank you! You answered all my questions!

  • @donnaweaver5950
    @donnaweaver5950 9 месяцев назад +1

    Thank you so much ! Great video, very straight forward

  • @Cal157
    @Cal157 3 года назад +6

    Listening to this and admitting I have 4 and she has the other sign is frightening. Such a difficult decision but 1 I have to make to actually keen my sanity.

  • @krispeashey6874
    @krispeashey6874 3 года назад +30

    She is correct on all points my ex turned into a different person then the one i fell in love witj

    • @harryjemes5435
      @harryjemes5435 3 года назад

      Have you heard of harry jemes him help me have a good relationship you can contact him on WhatsApp +234) )907896-6955

    • @user-lx7ul5ft7y
      @user-lx7ul5ft7y 3 года назад +1

      Sure but it takes two two make and
      break.

    • @janetvedal9024
      @janetvedal9024 2 года назад

      Every problem have a solution, Life is all about happiness
      Let me recommend you to someone who helped me get back my lover without delay

    • @janetvedal9024
      @janetvedal9024 2 года назад

      Text on WhatsApp for directives

    • @janetvedal9024
      @janetvedal9024 2 года назад

      +.2.3.4.8.1.0.8.2.6.4.6.8.4

  • @steveco1800
    @steveco1800 Год назад +5

    3:30 really was spot on for me, the whole video makes me feel so relieved and happy to have made the right decision. Thanks, time to move on 🙂

  • @nataliepil1921
    @nataliepil1921 2 года назад +7

    yes, I can say that it has been a while since I started feeling emotionally drained after having constant episodes of questioning (how to communicate). It felt like everything I was gonna say would end up as a misunderstanding so I closed and isolated myself for some time. I felt like it was the n2 and the n4. When at first you both put a lot of effort into smth and then you end up seeing that you are doing more than the person you are with that is when the pain and realization hits. And when it does hit you change the way you treat them.

  • @haitiqueen0119
    @haitiqueen0119 2 года назад +22

    Lets face it, some people are just not relationship/marriage material. No sense in holding on to people who have no concept of loyalty whatsoever! It doesn't matter if it's a partner, a childhood friend, family, people should respect you. Start building relationships with yourselves first and foremost. A better you will attract better people in your life, people who will appreciate and respect you for the person you are☝

  • @vernefits1953
    @vernefits1953 Год назад +4

    Thanks Mel for the advice. You are fantastic

  • @MsChristin1982
    @MsChristin1982 Год назад +3

    Thank you! I really needed these tips! I didn't even realize!

  • @audreyc2940
    @audreyc2940 3 года назад +17

    Still hard as hell to finish a relation. The hardest thing in life. Because you cant stop loving a person you imagine havingnchildren with and everything

    • @hulkgreen6786
      @hulkgreen6786 3 года назад +1

      If they are being idiotic you put them in their place and slam the door on their faces ,put your foot down

    • @angelinacarlson7628
      @angelinacarlson7628 3 года назад

      After a year of Broken marriage, my lover left me with one kid, I felt like ending it all, i almost committed suicide because he left us with nothing, i was emotionally down all this while. Thanks to a spell caster called Dr Aisha which i met online who brought my Lover back to me. On one faithful day, as I was browsing through the internet, I came across several of testimonies about Dr Aisha Some people testified that she brought their Ex lover back, some testified that he restores womb,cure cancer,with any kinds of sickness, she is the best spell caster that can help you with any kind of problems like cure disease, Reading, Win court case spell, get Visa spell, get a job spell, promotion spell ,Lupus , HIV cure etc...you can inbox her on WhatsApp
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    • @W42PZ
      @W42PZ 3 года назад

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  • @whitemagnolia4684
    @whitemagnolia4684 2 года назад +11

    totally agree, but i need to say here that trauma can put unnecessary thoughts and fears in your head and you need to be able to recognize when it's your trauma talking and adress this with your partner. from there you can see if you are both willing to work on the relationship. I am watching this to make sure I'm not delusional for believing I have found a good partner for me, not because I'm thinking about breaking up.

    • @kikikarrie4158
      @kikikarrie4158 Год назад

      How are u know. Im having same thoughts with i

  • @Jmitch767
    @Jmitch767 Год назад +5

    When a toxic relationship ends it’s awesome 👏

  • @boniloisasanpedro984
    @boniloisasanpedro984 Год назад

    I have been watching quite a bit of relationship advice in you tube but this is the one that gave me the clearest quide so far. Thank You.

  • @phoenixmode6909
    @phoenixmode6909 3 года назад +33

    Wow. All of these signs were there. For a decade, maybe. After 36 years and three kids, I saw all of these. Thank you, Mel. This is confirmation that I did the right thing by calling it, telling him my why (we'd already had multiple attempts over the last 20 years trying to 'fix' it, to no avail), by leaving physically (Is already checked out mentally and emotionally anyway) , and by finally filing for divorce. I'm finally beginning to feel like the real me now. I've got "me" back. I'm moving forward and growing more. I'm actually happy, relaxed and excited for the future. Thanks Mel! 🌻❤️

    • @mariaandy6084
      @mariaandy6084 3 года назад

      I want to testify how doctor ojiezele help me get my ex back contact him now+2348064539246

    • @lioydwilliams1850
      @lioydwilliams1850 3 года назад +3

      Laurie Smith, you deserve better

    • @MsAldil
      @MsAldil Год назад +2

      How are you now

    • @standground7956
      @standground7956 Год назад +2

      @@MsAldil She most likely won’t tell the truth, she can’t admit that the grass wasn’t greener. 36 years and three kids, it’s tough for her in the market. She’ll say she’s happily single or just letting some guy who’s not her husband, have his way with her.

    • @williamconrad6561
      @williamconrad6561 Год назад +1

      Wow. Just throw away 36 years. Good luck in the dating market. You will need it. Who would want to wife that up?!

  • @moiramacintosh5169
    @moiramacintosh5169 3 года назад +9

    I'm happy and at peace now ,I have found my true identity I can and I will live my life 🙏💗💓

    • @JackAnthony-tj8ko
      @JackAnthony-tj8ko 2 месяца назад

      Hello I am so sorry if this sounds weirds but you wrote such a nice and wonderful comment. I can tell your very positive person, if it's . Okay with you l'd love to be friends❤

  • @NiaDinero
    @NiaDinero Месяц назад

    Needed this! I deserve someone who brings out the best in me

  • @wallijay
    @wallijay 2 года назад +2

    Thank you so much for making this video.

  • @childrensmagicalworldkidsw8278
    @childrensmagicalworldkidsw8278 3 года назад +4

    Spot on ! I already knew my relationship was over but clicked on the video as always curious what Mel is going to say! You could not be more right here !

  • @mamuchaexpress
    @mamuchaexpress 3 года назад +54

    I had to learn this lesson the hard way. I wish I had seen this video years ago. I'm glad it confirms I made the right decision all those years ago.

  • @maryloudelossantos1624
    @maryloudelossantos1624 Год назад

    As always, all your messages are superbly remarkably the best!

  • @nataliemanukyan1671
    @nataliemanukyan1671 2 месяца назад

    Wow resonates 100 percent. Just started following you & so grateful for your valuable advice.

  • @anandram7063
    @anandram7063 2 года назад +3

    Thank you madam for this nice video,
    Finally after 11 years of struggle and tears ,I have filled a PIL in court . praying to God may this Christmas be happier than last year.

  • @Georgia-Vic
    @Georgia-Vic 2 года назад +5

    Thank you Mel!... I'm currently single.My last relationship was 4 years ago, I've grown and i am healthy now! These words of wisdom I'm cataloging so that I'll be ready when I meet the right Lady for me!😐

  • @mikiorioda7726
    @mikiorioda7726 8 месяцев назад

    Thank you so much. This really helped

  • @jennarepino663
    @jennarepino663 Месяц назад

    Thank you Mel, this is just what I needed to hear, I've been googling all over the place what's going on but this 5 min video told me and assured me of everything I need to know to know to make the next steps towards what's good for me, and what I deserve. Thank you for the point-blank facts ❤

  • @j.m9189
    @j.m9189 3 года назад +5

    Oh no Mel, I am just watching .I have been happily single for 6 years and it's been the best decision I had taken since my last relationship ended in 2014.I just wanted to work out on myself ,purge , love me and do what I want .I sleep like a baby, I roll in my bed, nobody snoring, nobody scratching me with long toenails.This woman is good.Oneday maybe I will find someone new .

  • @arshpreetkaur3831
    @arshpreetkaur3831 3 года назад +11

    1 year of abuse, hundreds of youtube video advices and this is what i was looking for , it's soo clear , concise and relatable thankyou soo much mam❤️❤️

    • @akilekator2022
      @akilekator2022 3 года назад

      Arshpreet Kaur Thank you @paulcrackit on IG you’re a great person. For iCloud,google lock, location and WhatsApp tracking Via Alvinmarcelo77@gmail.com he’s honest.

    • @youniquechicboutique3493
      @youniquechicboutique3493 Год назад +2

      I'm sorry you had to go through that situation but happy you are currently out of it

  • @monicautrilladeneira397
    @monicautrilladeneira397 Год назад

    Mel, thanks so much!

  • @cierarosemore4322
    @cierarosemore4322 Год назад

    Thank you this was easy to understand and straightforward