12 False Signs Your Marriage Is Over and 1 True Sign | Paul Friedman
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- Опубликовано: 14 июл 2024
- Marriage "experts" who do not actually understand marriage publicly misinterpret various signs they espouse as dangerous to the health of your marriage. They warn you that your marriage is in great danger, then they sell you their marriage help course, or book... which usually does little to no good for you, your spouse, or your marriage. This common practice is discouraging to people who are afraid.
In this video, I present enough common sense analysis so you can make choices that will work, and not cost you an arm and a leg.
Helping marriages is not a vocation that just anyone should enter, merely because they have been "educated".
Work with a marriage help program produced by someone who openly discusses their methodology and philosophy. That will empower you to fix your marriage yourself. Isn't it logical that you should understand yourself, your spouse, and your marriage, well enough to not be dependent on some outsider?
The marriage help video here is anything but negative. The marriage myths I dispel here is done with compassion and understanding. You will be more comfortable when you are done, and hopefully, and sometimes, this will be all you will ever need to see the path to make your own a happy marriage.
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Finally someone speaking common sense.
Thanks for the work you do!
When the truth is there it is always common sense and I am blessed to share it with you and all 🙏
Amen!!!
I am working on shifting my thinking and strengthening my will power. I married my middle school love and best friend and we have remained that for all these years. We are going through something that seems bigger than ourselves and that scares me. But I am learning to love him unconditionally and to see all the good in my marriage despite all the downs we are facing. Some days is harder but I will continue to strive. ♥️ thank you for all the advice!
You're welcome. It would help you to have more condensed info as you will find in one of my books. If you are struggling with changing habits (and emotions, or anger, etc.) then get the course for women. And I am happy to see you not giving in to mundane challenges. Live in love.
Just found this guy yestwrday and I’m binge watching his videos. I’m definitely gonna get my wife on board with taking the courses and buy the book. I think this guy is the real deal. ❤
Thank you. There will come a time when my discoveries will be the mainstream. When marriages are filled with joy that happiness will spread.
Thank you for this.....marriage is super hard and we're about to throw in the towel. This helped me reframe a bit.
Same here
Everything requires work. We all grow, mature but I am totally in agree with this gentleman. Now days people don’t value or don’t even want to try. It’s easy to say I do, but nurturing is required n nobody wants to work at it.
Ah! This was what I thought, too when I was a divorce mediator before 2001. But I learned that marriage is the opposite of hard when you know what too do. Then it is all we dreamed of. 🙏
It isn't anyones fault, it is just that now I have "seen the light" and want to share it with the world!
Paul, your videos give me so much hope. My marriage is failing but your wisdom gives insight & hope.
Please go to our website and see our offerings themarriagefoundation.org/ everything can be truned around.
Paul, I want you to know your videos are awesome. Your wisdom and what you say makes a lot of sense. I want to take the course that you offer and I would love to read your book. I’m looking to purchase the book. I will get it soon. Thank you. I’m going to watch every video you have on RUclips thank you
What if a woman cheats emotionally?
No, that's not the end but you definitely need to devote yourself to creating your connection with her
@@TheMarriageFoundation love ya
Hi Paul I just want to say that this video was so vital at saving my marriage. I applied your principles and 1year and a half later my marriage is better than ever! Even after infidelity on my husbands part. I thank God for your wisdom and that doesn’t mean I agreed with everything but most of it like 95 % of your lessons. I don’t have to spell those things out on this platform because it’s irrelevant. It’s a personal conviction from the Lord and I stand firm in my faith principles from the Bible. Which I believe you have derived from the Bible most of your principles which literally does save marriages. Thanks for all you have done and are still doing. I often go back and re watch a lot of videos as a refresher when I feel like I’m going backwards or have a set back. I’m truly happy now and so is my husband and we are thriving. And you taught me how to love unconditionally like God loves. 🙏🏻😇God Bless you Paul and your ministry ❤
Amen 🙏 love is like a plant 🪴 needs to be taken care n love or it will die. I am totally in agreement with Paul. Love his wisdom. God bless him🙏🙏🙏 wishing more husband n ladies would listen n learn something.
Blessings to you for striving to love uncondtionally. That is the key, isn't it. 🙏
Lately, a lots of negative thoughts runs through my head due to my husband approah in handling an issue and i was really hurt by it.
But listening to these has really been helpful and changed my perspective and am going to really build on myself and do my best to make my marriage work. 🙏
Thanks for sharing!! You will inspire others to do the same 🙏
I feel every point, thank you for this video. I love my husband unconditionally. However we are apart now for 3 months and he has said it is over. No cheating, no fighting, no major issue - he wants to work on himself. There is literally nothing I can do, and I'd do anything for him. If the mind set of the person is, 'I'm done' how is there hope.
I don't doubt your contention that you love your husband but it did not manifest or he would not have left. The course for women is a viable option for you if you are still seeing each other. themarriagefoundation.org/
Same here. But mine is still braking to me gently. But I’ve noticed his distance n detaching emotionally n in the bedroom. ;(
Please, get the course and save yyour marriage and be happy! You can do this!
Thank you for these videos. My wife and I of 11 years are really struggling. I know it's been mainly me at the fault of this, but these videos are eye opening, and making me quite upset with myself. Which is good. Like how was I not seeing everything i was doing wrong, and in some case not doing things at all. This is the help I needed, and pray I'm not too late to rectify everything. I love her with all that I am, and cannot imagine life without her. Our song was always God Gave Me You. I still truly believe that.
You need to get the course for men themarriagefoundation.org/ then you can save your marriage
I'm not sure I agree with all of this, but I will say sometimes on other channels they basically tell you not to tolerate ANYTHING. Sometimes it's ridiculous, like jeez, you're never gonna stay in a relationship because you're never gonna find a PERFECT person. It's about learning about each other and LOVE . If you love each other, it's worth at least trying some of these ideas.
All they’re pushing is for the damn lawyers to make money! They don’t care about any family or saving any marriages! It’s how they make money.
After a quarter centruy of helping people with our courses and my books I can tell you that marriage is meant to be so happy it makes your toes curl 😀
I started following your advices since very recently. Its super hard and I keep getting verbal abuse and disrespect and lack of appreceation whenever I am just doing only 95 of what you advice. But I am learning. I have to be careful I am not just doing it to avoid being hurt.
ah ha, you are going about it from the back to the front... one must must have a clear path and take steps that are time tested. Look into our courses themarriagefoundation.org/reviews/ so you can have a great marriage and not just fix this or that
Very well explained, makes a lot of sense!
Happy New Year! 🎆🥂
Happy New Year to you too, and make your marriage into a hive of happiness thhis year and for always 🙏
Paul you are spot on about happiness. My wife talks about it all the time 😂
Thank you so much for this message. God bless you .
God Bless you, too 🙏
I really needed to watch this! Intentionally or not, our culture is very anti-marriage and I’ve been scrambling for sound advice! Thank you for this
A big help might just be the courses themarriagefoundation.org/ as so many of us simply had/have no idea of how great marriage is and how to achieve the happiness, love and harmony
You are very wise and are most definitely helping me improve my marriage of 36 years
I’ll leave it at that but I thank you!
I adore this gentleman. He gives us hope.
The highest wisdom is Love 🙏 Thank you !
...there is so much reason to hope when you have the manual and the tools you can do anything
Nice good advice when you mention be loved, will power, your free will ,lack of love, feel lonely for some people after 20 years of lack of been loved but you said you can change your life and future tank you. 🙂
Bless you for your efforts 🙏
I absolutely love your techniques! I agree with everything! You definitely give advice that works!
I absolutely Love your advice God bless you.thank's
I am blessed with the knowing and you are, too 🙏
God bless you 🙏
Wow! 😯 What an eye opener. 👍
and it just gets better and better the deeper you look 🙏
thank you so much for everything that you do
me and my partner arent married but our emotional bond & connection after 3 years really comes close
we have had some struggles for a while and this really helper us set things right
I know that you will be fine 🙏
Your teachings are so relatable, deep and very educative sir, you are really doing a great job thank you. 👍
So nice of you and my hope is that your marriage becomes heaven on earth instead of a rocky road 🙏
very good tips. If you had these messages translated into Spanish, many more marriages would benefit. not only Spanish, any other language would be a great blessing
I could translate for you!!! Just say so! ❤ anything to help each other. Gracias 🙏
Lol in the line of the DMV 😂yup 😅that’s how I am feeling
Get out of the line😀 into the love. It is always there for us 🙏
Great advice
We are blessed when we find the answers aren't we 🙏
Exactly what i needed thank you
I always feel blessed when I can help someone's life and marriage. You are most welcome 🙏
It's so hard to be quiet my husband doesn't even try to fix things he thinks he's always right he doesn't hear me I don't know what to do. I have to beg for attention I shouldn't have to it hurts
It hurts but that should inspire you to begin healing the marriage as a whole. if you have a problem don't be crippled by it, heal your marriage!
@@TheMarriageFoundation ty so much 💖 I listen almost every day I'm on disability right now and I'm trying to think better and be better I know I have to do it for me but I guess I thought my husband would be bye me but he's not
Thank You! ❤
Blessings 🙏
I have been in 2 marriages, neither one was "well run". My daughter told me I have horrible taste in men. She was correct. I am a shell of the person I used to be.
now you can learn. It is never too late for any of us and being married the right way is an amaxingly wonderful experience. For those searching we have a course for dating and finding your soulmate. I know it sounds corny but it is effective
Thankyou sir, really needed this. I’ve to be patient with him. I want him to be responsible slowly and he’ll always have my back
That's a good plan except for the expectations part
Thankyou for this found your videos thankyou paul 🙂
Blessings 🙏
Thank you for this as I so confused. It hurts and we’ve been married almost 28 years that I don’t want to just throw away!!!!!!
Don’t hun. Try. As long as there is no domestic violence or emotional abuse, it’s worth to try. Good luck❤
The whole world is confused about marriage as was I. But now we have the teachings we need. Be joyful! 🙏
I am not happy in my marriage, my husband keep talking to me in aggression an arrogant, when we go out he always upset with me he doesn't listen to me, he's always get arrogant on me, sometimes I wish I was not married to him. I don't believe that my husband loves me, he never allowed me to express myself, I walked out of the marriage, I am trying to come back home to my family but my husband doesn't decided to change. sometimes I felt like killing him. please tell me what to do.
Put aside what you have heard from other sources that concentrate on the problems, it is a good idea to look at our course for women to see if that fits your thinking. It has helped SO many! themarriagefoundation.org/
I need this course! I just want to disappear n crawl under a rock!
Pushing hope for you
The course will work for you. It always does! 🙏
I think you should let him watch this video
Thank you so much
Blessings to you 🙏
How do you not confront your husband when all of a sudden at 50 years old he starts chain-smoking?? He doesn't want to stop. He doesn't think he has any responsibility for my feelings. He has no responsibility as a spouse to uphold his health. I take care of mine! It's absolutely despicable when a spouse decides to go down a road of self-destruction and just ignores the wife who will have to pick up the pieces when he gets sick!
None of your let's call them complaints are based in love for him, only self-protection. This means that you run your marriage from your point of view, as most do, which means you don't practice the art of unconditional love. Try to understand that your marriage can be much more fulfilling for both of you if you shift your thinking.
N they don’t see it. It’s easier to blame the other partner. ;(
That's true and so we must learn how to be married so we don't fall into that trap 🙏
I can agree with this, but in some ways is hurtful to listen. I wasn't in marriage but in relationship in a promising way. Some therapist basically destroyed it by my hands. Being with her was only period in my life when I was feeling peace.
Therapists mean well but they are so ill-trained in marriage and end up doing so much harm. We are training many but it will be many years before we make a true impact
You are the best thanks stay safe healthy
Thank you and blessings 🙏
This is a really good perspective ❤ I am going to give it another listen but I do truly believe that the mind is the computer and habit is a major reason but we can reprogram the computer and replace bad habits with god w life lifting Success habits ♥️💪🏼
Yes, do try, but not blindly. Get the course so you have a definite path and "what to do's"
No communication no bonding no time all he does is work sleep and check his phone.. But with others he spent time communication and effort. Means he never really love us as family.
Those are sure signs that you need to trun your marriage around, and you CAN do it, bt not by yourself...if you knew "how" it would not have gone downhill Look into our course for women themarriagefoundation.org/system/
@@TheMarriageFoundationthank you.. I was about to change my thoughts of saving relationship to giving up.. Because if he verbally abuse me saying he can replace me easily with anyone else and I had no value as a woman though he cheated on me he will always say it's my mistake and he does love the woman he flirted with at work for so many months and till now he is not guilty at all
I am certain that you will be able to redirect everything by using the course. Don't give up. There is much hope for you, two.
Great talk! Thanks much! I have a request- I feel that 2years of Covid and people working from home 24*7 is causing a lot of stress in marriages. I know of 3 divorces in my circle and all are traceable to ‘familiarity breeds contempt’ in an indirect way. Wish some social scientists study that aspect as well.
If not COVID there will be something else. We must learn the "rules" of marriage and how to gain the greatest benefits of learning to love unconditionally. 🙏
Here with my notepad 📝
wisdom!
What if your heart isn't in it ? Do you fake it, or do you try to find real happiness?
Maybe u can put your heart in it.
The greatest gift is free choice and it opens all doorways to happiness. The greatest of all joy comes from practicing unconditional love. Use either the chapter on the mind in either of my books or the course for your gender to gain the knowledge you need and you will have joy
@@TheMarriageFoundation how ironic. I'm dealing with this again in my marriage...sometimes it feels like it will never get better but we are just growing further apart. I get this notification from my Bible app for the verse of the day... its Collosians 3:13: Forbearance one another and forgiving one another if any man have a quarrel against any:even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye.
Then I looked at my notification and I see I told someone that comment awhile ago. God is speaking to me....we need to forgive out of obedience and gratitude cause we have been forgiveness so great a debt of sin.
You are talking about 2 souls as soulmates. But what if you are not your husband's soulmate? My husband has an emotional connection with a co-worker and he said that he probably has "fallen in love" with her and has never felt like that with anyone else before. He said he wasn't unfaithful and there is no physical connection. I feel like there is no coming back after this now. I have bought your book and still trying to make out what I needed to do to make my husband fall in love with me again.
As I am sure you are receptive so the book will help you realize what you did not do in your marriage so that he sought elsewhere and you are already modifying your "ways". But, unfortuntely for most, by the time a husband has begun to leave, as has your husband, the solution is to learn to master your mind and at the same time learn to open your heart. That is a process and the very reason for us creating the course for women which systemitizes your efforts and is supported by our very special counselors. Read this themarriagefoundation.org/about/our-approach/ which will help you decide if you need the course. I think it would work for you and you would get your husband back.
I've been through what you're going through twice with the same man and married him twice. Truth! All the energy you're putting into him to love him, put that into yourself to Love yourself and you'll see clearer which way to go in your marriage with strength and confidence of knowing yourself better!
God help you through this while you stay faithful and God deal with your husbands unfaithfulness
Listen you don't have to do or not do anything for a man to cheat. They are always enamored with what they haven't had...once they get it, they lose interest
Thanks for your input but it's not going to help her with her marriage. Of course we must 'love' ourselves but we get married to swim in the joy of marital bliss. Learn the ways of marriage that bring you joy and you will see for yourself 🙏
I am wondering if he doesn’t do the course then how will he understand alot of the stuff you speak about? And so he might still want to leave even if I make the changes etc.
This is a question many of our students ask so I am glad to address it. The ones who take the course, and of course apply what they are guided to do, find themselves changing in ways they never imagines, becoming more calm and peaceful, more inwardly happy, and notice that sometimes for the first time in their lives they are happy no matter what is happening all around them, in the marriage and in the world. They change in ways that makes them more appealing, more loving, and so those who know them are more attracted to them, including their spouse...especiually their spouse.
If you are asking this question is shows me that you have not done the course or are just starting, and maybe holding back. If you have begun then give it all you have to give. Nothing is dangerous or puts you at risk,. It is all guidencce to how one should be, anyway.
Blessings.
I confronted him and of course he got really mad. Now what should I do?
Take the course for women, of course
I caught mine watching porn on his cellphone while he thought I was sleeping n it was my first time watching that, and I swear, I’m still traumatized n heartbroken 💔 n he said is not a big deal that I’m just a controlling woman. 😢
It is hard to accept the mistakes and flaws of others and react with love instead of... but we must grow up and be love 🙏
I have questions. So my husband is suffering from sever alcoholism and I think he is tampering with drugs again, he has been cheating on me the past year which he doesn't know I know but he won't stop leaving. We have 3 children and I understand he is coping with the house fire we had last year and I have been really trying everything I know. He doesn't want to stay home with us and he gets so angry one time I was sick and breathing through my mouth and I was being put down. I'm reaching out cause you're someone who might be able to help who won't be bias.
Usually these kind of queries should got to our counselors who you can reach through our website but simply, be an ideal wife meaning loving kind, and never angry. I think the course for women would help your marriage in ways that cannot be foreseen.
Do you do premarital books or courses or seminars?
Look at our website to see our offerings , thank you
members.themarriagefoundation.org/
Can you link your book please.
I read your other 2 comments and suggest you use the course, it is quite late for the book
@@TheMarriageFoundation Where can I find this course?
Here you go themarriagefoundation.org/system/
I think mine is. He has deleted everything of mine in his phone. I went out with a couple of friends n i made the mistake of coming home in the morning. He wants divorce now😢😢. I was angry n tired of his verbal attacks. I dont know what to do
It isn't a good idea to get angry because that will make things worse no matter what happens. It IS a good idea to use the course for women and get yourlife in a more positive groove themarriagefoundation.org/
I've been married 30 years,,but 4 days ago my husband got mad at me about something ,,and has refused to speak to me since, he won't call or text or even stay in the same room with me. He's come and go to work and that's it. I know why he is mad. I don't feel it was something I owe an apology for,, so what do I do? I can't get him to communicate or talk about it. Should I just apologize and say I was wrong anyway? Just to get past this? He's done this 4x I can think of in 30 years. He is really really mad.
Your marriage is not functioning as it should, We don't give advice for momentary things but steer people to change the whole marriage into what it is mmeant to be themarriagefoundation.org/
What I learned from my Chaplaincy training days is that apologies are not necessarily about admitting fault but rather about restoring the relationship. Who’s right or wrong doesn't always matter because the main objective is to heal the rift in the relationship. I began applying this “technique” towards
my husband with mostly fantastic outcomes. Since doing so, I've noticed that my husband’s heart softened & he's holding less grudges.
It is better, much better, to not focus on one thing but instead focus on learning to love unconditionally as you learn to open your heart and control your mind. Then you will reap the long awaited rewards of marriage
hi Paul , I hope you are doing well . I have been married for 8 years ,I am 37 (male ) have a stable income and want a child , and my wife completely disagrees . I am not sure if i should leave not sure how the next wife turns up to be .. what is the way forward for me? or is this too much to ask? and give up the idea .. (as my wife says you cant have everything in life)
I would not dare answer your question because it would reflect only my own philosopies and your marriage must be a fusion of your's and her's
@@TheMarriageFoundation thanks Paul ,I really appreciate the contents that you make and it helped me look at my marriage positively , are you planning to do any video on this topic (where one spouse is not wanting a kid), i wanted something constructive and positive that why i look up to your channel
a deep subject, and one that should be thoroughly discussed before marriage... but, after, there are too many variables to cover the topic in a truely useful way
If you're already wondering how your next wife will turn out, then you've already decided you're not salvaging the one you have.
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What if you married the wrong person?
If you don't have children you can split with kindness. If you have children then you married the right person and need to learn how to be married usingg correct knowledge
What if I got married cuz of pregnancy?
Bringing a child into this world commits you to love your partner with all your heart, mind, and soul