I am standing for my marriage. I wish I could afford your membership but my husband of 25 years has left me with two teenage children and no income. I am on social security and I’m barely making it from week to week. Thank you for putting out free content that even people in my situation can access. Bless you all.
@@vhenthesaiyz It is going well in so far as he is noticing the changes in me but he is still with the other woman and that really hurts. Yes, I do practice SMART contact. It's a part of me becoming the best me I can be.
FIRST I chose to tell my spouse that I was unhappy and that we were two roommates in the same home. SECOND: I arranged for therapy for myself to try to understand what is going on, what I want and to try to vent my anger and frustration in a safe place rather than on my spouse.THIRD: i research, research, research, research options and resources.
Cant say enough about this channel. Ive looked at quite a bit the past year and by far this channel and advice has been the best. Hope, faith, patience is what i hold onto
Love this! Legacy is soo important, it's more than family... it's faith, eternity, community, society. Working through issues, standing, reconciliation all develop character and Godly integrity.
Anyone who commits adultery has no integrity. It is not God's will to stay with a godless man or woman who lacks character. Nobody should stay with that. And to think _you_ have to change for them? Why? They should change for you! But they won't, and even if they do, it won't be genuine. A cheater is a liar first and foremost. They are a betrayer. They broke their wedding vows. From the moment they hopped in bed with someone else, that marriage was over. It is broken, and it isn't the betrayed spouse's job to fix it or t fix themselves! They did nothing wrong! God sees that. Who wants a legacy with a liar, a cheater, someone who does not love you enough to remain faithful? What kind of awful legacy is that?
Your information is such a blessing! I wish I would’ve found it sooner. My wife of 26 years of a marriage that I wouldn’t trade for anything left with my three kids, and served me divorce papers, seven months ago. I don’t know who she is right now but I’m standing for our marriage. I’m fighting for the woman that I knew the first 25 years and the covenant we have with God. It seems like most of the counselors that we have for ourselves and children in town are people that have been and divorced several times. I feel like they are pushing air all roads to lead to divorce because divorce is big business and usually repeat business. I love your commitment on your videos to do everything possible to save marriage. I truly believe that it has generational effects and I agree that it is so important for your kids to see you do the right thing, for their future relationships!
Once a spouse breaks their promise to you by committing adultery, the marriage is over. It's a _promise_ that they gave, an oath, and they broke their promise. They revealed their true nature. They won't change. It is who they are, deep down to their core.
What an awesome channel, I love how you guys have viewers leaving with a clear head and not more upset every video... Will not be listening to anyone else about fixing relationships
I know what you mean. My husband can see all the changes, says he loves me and that he is still attracted to me, compliments me on my intelligence etc but he is still with the other woman and refuses to entertain the idea that we could reconcile and put our family back together again.
Doing the Smart Contact. One day he talks like a normal person. The next day will be silence and act like he is mad at the world. I never know! He won't say anything when he walks in the door. Not even to our teen daughter. Sleeping in another room. I am standing in the gap and committed to saving our marriage. Even if he goes, I know I gave it my all.
That thing about "Is my spouse a good person doing a bad thing?". What if they've done this unfaithfulness six times? The last three times the worst. The VERY LAST time, the most lengthy and horrible, when I was down with undiagnosed Lyme Disease for two years, and couldn't figure out what was wrong. He's not seeing this last woman from this two year relationship he had with her during that time, but you wouldn't believe what I had to do to get them, especially her, to stop! She was horrid to me. I have all of her text messages and she thought he would never leave her. He is an experienced RNPA, Registered Nurse Physician's Assistant who had access to a whole hospital full of doctors who respect him, but he didn't even try to find out what was wrong with me, because he was having "fun" with who I thought were three male friends of his, but all along it was HER. So I don't know if he's a good person because he's done this so many times.
Sorry, dear, you are married to a man who doesn’t want to be married. The most disturbing issue is that you can’t see what’s in front of your face. Your horrible husband makes a good living. Consult with an attorney as to what your rights are and how to walk off with as much money as possible to take care of yourself. Collect as much evidence as you can if necessary.
Im trying to show my wife my improvement and personal growth. But i did sometbing to anger her and she has been ignoring me for a week now and i have no clue what i did.
Write a note or a letter. Don't text her, physically write out on a piece of paper or type it up and print it out. Tape it somewhere over night so she'll see it in the morning. Make it practical and sweet. This way, she'll read it, and she can't interrupt you. I know this was a long time ago but you can use this method in the future.
I really want to save my marriage, but my husband says he's in love with someone else. He wants to leave me for her. He says he still loves me but not enough. He said he doesn't want to come back because he doesn't want to go back to the same thing. We want to work things out, but at the same time, he doesn't want too bc of her.
I’m sorry for you , I believe that he’s going to find out the grass isn’t greener on the other side of the fence , I hope you can work this out . May God give you the strength and patience
@@kimberlyturner820 That lady's not disrespectful at all. It's the husband who's the problem. That girl found a good man who she loves, and that's good for her. But unfortunately it's at the expense of this poor girl here.
Please learn to respect yourself. Stop holding onto that dream, he doesn't want you, you just need to accept it and move on. If he doesn't want you, that means he's not good for your either. So stop giving him respect, forget about him. Life is too short to waste time, you need a good man who actually loves you.
I do have a question, if my spouse has left and is seeing/sleeping with someone else, am I to just wait patiently by myself? Even for years? This has always given me pause when I see this. More curious (thank goodness my wife has not left yet, I am terrified of it however)
Don’t quit because it’s difficult, nothing worth doing is ever easy. There’s also a difference between quitting and admitting defeat, but if your spouse is still there, they haven’t tapped out yet and you shouldn’t either.
Never listen to bitter divorcees who advocate divorce it's your marriage your family even the church is terrible at advising about this church is full of hard stoney hearted divorcees who believe in money 💰 not marriage and financial gain and not family
I am standing for my marriage. I wish I could afford your membership but my husband of 25 years has left me with two teenage children and no income. I am on social security and I’m barely making it from week to week. Thank you for putting out free content that even people in my situation can access. Bless you all.
What are you doing to save your marriage?
@@vhenthesaiyz everything recommended in the Marriage Helper videos and podcasts.
@@jenfar72 me too. And how was it? So you doing Smart Contact?
@@vhenthesaiyz It is going well in so far as he is noticing the changes in me but he is still with the other woman and that really hurts. Yes, I do practice SMART contact. It's a part of me becoming the best me I can be.
@jenfar72 Have you seen the Marriage Helper Facebook group? facebook.com/groups/783603618395431/
FIRST I chose to tell my spouse that I was unhappy and that we were two roommates in the same home. SECOND: I arranged for therapy for myself to try to understand what is going on, what I want and to try to vent my anger and frustration in a safe place rather than on my spouse.THIRD: i research, research, research, research options and resources.
Cant say enough about this channel. Ive looked at quite a bit the past year and by far this channel and advice has been the best. Hope, faith, patience is what i hold onto
Love this! Legacy is soo important, it's more than family... it's faith, eternity, community, society. Working through issues, standing, reconciliation all develop character and Godly integrity.
Anyone who commits adultery has no integrity. It is not God's will to stay with a godless man or woman who lacks character. Nobody should stay with that. And to think _you_ have to change for them? Why? They should change for you! But they won't, and even if they do, it won't be genuine. A cheater is a liar first and foremost. They are a betrayer. They broke their wedding vows. From the moment they hopped in bed with someone else, that marriage was over. It is broken, and it isn't the betrayed spouse's job to fix it or t fix themselves! They did nothing wrong! God sees that. Who wants a legacy with a liar, a cheater, someone who does not love you enough to remain faithful? What kind of awful legacy is that?
Your information is such a blessing! I wish I would’ve found it sooner. My wife of 26 years of a marriage that I wouldn’t trade for anything left with my three kids, and served me divorce papers, seven months ago. I don’t know who she is right now but I’m standing for our marriage. I’m fighting for the woman that I knew the first 25 years and the covenant we have with God. It seems like most of the counselors that we have for ourselves and children in town are people that have been and divorced several times. I feel like they are pushing air all roads to lead to divorce because divorce is big business and usually repeat business. I love your commitment on your videos to do everything possible to save marriage. I truly believe that it has generational effects and I agree that it is so important for your kids to see you do the right thing, for their future relationships!
In my humble opinion Marriage is a Covenant not a contract.
Once a spouse breaks their promise to you by committing adultery, the marriage is over. It's a _promise_ that they gave, an oath, and they broke their promise. They revealed their true nature. They won't change. It is who they are, deep down to their core.
@@mygirldarby AMEN!
What an awesome channel, I love how you guys have viewers leaving with a clear head and not more upset every video... Will not be listening to anyone else about fixing relationships
Praying to save marriage
It’s frustrating when you’re doing everything you’ve learned and you don’t see any movement…
There's still hope dear.
There's still hope dear.
I know what you mean. My husband can see all the changes, says he loves me and that he is still attracted to me, compliments me on my intelligence etc but he is still with the other woman and refuses to entertain the idea that we could reconcile and put our family back together again.
Doing the Smart Contact. One day he talks like a normal person. The next day will be silence and act like he is mad at the world. I never know! He won't say anything when he walks in the door. Not even to our teen daughter. Sleeping in another room. I am standing in the gap and committed to saving our marriage. Even if he goes, I know I gave it my all.
I watched MH's video, The Secret Third Push the other day. Maybe that is what you could be facing?
I am standing firm on learning the skills to save my marriage. Also, lots of prayers too.
This hit hard I have felt every emotion they mentioned in this video
Thanks.
Walking through this right now.
You guys do amazing work and should be proud, Thank You
That thing about "Is my spouse a good person doing a bad thing?".
What if they've done this unfaithfulness six times? The last three times the worst. The VERY LAST time, the most lengthy and horrible, when I was down with undiagnosed Lyme Disease for two years, and couldn't figure out what was wrong. He's not seeing this last woman from this two year relationship he had with her during that time, but you wouldn't believe what I had to do to get them, especially her, to stop! She was horrid to me. I have all of her text messages and she thought he would never leave her.
He is an experienced RNPA, Registered Nurse Physician's Assistant who had access to a whole hospital full of doctors who respect him, but he didn't even try to find out what was wrong with me, because he was having "fun" with who I thought were three male friends of his, but all along it was HER.
So I don't know if he's a good person because he's done this so many times.
Sorry, dear, you are married to a man who doesn’t want to be married. The most disturbing issue is that you can’t see what’s in front of your face. Your horrible husband makes a good living. Consult with an attorney as to what your rights are and how to walk off with as much money as possible to take care of yourself. Collect as much evidence as you can if necessary.
He’s not a good person
Do you really think he wants to change.!! If he doesn't he wont.
Dang.
Definitely not a good person, WAKE UP! You need to leave him. In fact you should have left him a long time ago.
Hoping we make it to this next workshop.
Great and helpful information
Im trying to show my wife my improvement and personal growth. But i did sometbing to anger her and she has been ignoring me for a week now and i have no clue what i did.
Write a note or a letter. Don't text her, physically write out on a piece of paper or type it up and print it out. Tape it somewhere over night so she'll see it in the morning. Make it practical and sweet. This way, she'll read it, and she can't interrupt you. I know this was a long time ago but you can use this method in the future.
I really want to save my marriage, but my husband says he's in love with someone else. He wants to leave me for her. He says he still loves me but not enough. He said he doesn't want to come back because he doesn't want to go back to the same thing. We want to work things out, but at the same time, he doesn't want too bc of her.
I’m sorry for you , I believe that he’s going to find out the grass isn’t greener on the other side of the fence , I hope you can work this out . May God give you the strength and patience
Such a disrespectful lady. Why do us women do this to one another?
@@kimberlyturner820Is she married too? If not she hasn't broken her covenant and if it wasn't her it'd be someone else.
@@kimberlyturner820 That lady's not disrespectful at all. It's the husband who's the problem. That girl found a good man who she loves, and that's good for her. But unfortunately it's at the expense of this poor girl here.
Please learn to respect yourself. Stop holding onto that dream, he doesn't want you, you just need to accept it and move on. If he doesn't want you, that means he's not good for your either. So stop giving him respect, forget about him. Life is too short to waste time, you need a good man who actually loves you.
I do have a question, if my spouse has left and is seeing/sleeping with someone else, am I to just wait patiently by myself? Even for years? This has always given me pause when I see this. More curious (thank goodness my wife has not left yet, I am terrified of it however)
Thanks for sharing this important video
Amazing insight!
Truth is I hear what the spouse is saying. But the actions goes to show the complete total opposite👍🏾
What happens when there is literally nothing left to work with, and I literally mean nothing!
I am just too tired. I am not sure if our marriage worth saving.
Don’t quit because it’s difficult, nothing worth doing is ever easy.
There’s also a difference between quitting and admitting defeat, but if your spouse is still there, they haven’t tapped out yet and you shouldn’t either.
Just remember how Diamonds are created under millions of tons of pressure.... stay blessed
Don’t give up
What if I don’t have anything to talk about business related
Beautiful
Jordan is a coward! Kimberly, if your husband cheated, I'd like to see what you'd do! 😒
Never listen to bitter divorcees who advocate divorce it's your marriage your family even the church is terrible at advising about this church is full of hard stoney hearted divorcees who believe in money 💰 not marriage and financial gain and not family
What guarantee that spouse will come back after limerence relationship
Thanks it helped save my broken marriage try it @Albert
@@PatHughes-rb4qz what worked for you?
He took her back when she was pregnant, sorry but no.
How old is this guy again? Why is this a running joke
What on here is a "running joke"??
Exactly doesn't make any sense
He always claims to be 149. He's said it on many videos. That, I would guess, is the running joke.