Wife is Not Affectionate Any Longer? (The One Dirty SECRET to Revive Intimacy)

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

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[@UrBigSisKey]

“There is nothing more threatening to a woman than a guy wanting to rush intimacy.” Spot on.

[@yosammy1746]

I bring in the money. I pay all the damn bills, I've helped my wife with her education, I take her to places because I want her to have an enjoyable life, I take care of my son even after pulling a 16hr shift, I sometimes work more than 7 days straight, and I get no intimacy at all. My wife is a stay-at-home mom. Considering a divorce and filing custody for my child after.aa

[@RespekfulFungus]

But it’s your problem. Every single creator like this misses the mark and are completely clueless.

[@AL-pu7ux]

For some people they’re just takers and don’t care

[@tobytuttle2790]

WOW this is what is happening in my marriage
I have been in love with my wife for 27years been married for 25 years
And I now know my wife is not in the same place as me
Geoffrey I'm so glad to have found your RUclips channel

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi Toby,
Happy you found my channel & the videos have been insightful for you.
If you’d like to learn more about your current situation, you can begin by joining our masterclass here.
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[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Thanks for tuning in folks! What did you find most eye-opening in this video? Leave a comment below!

[@ExpatEssentialsForItaly]

Every time I'm gonna hear someone say "Two steps forward and one step back", it's gonna remind me of your video! Very well explained. Thanks for sharing.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Nice :)

[@JillTherese]

Hahahah obligation really does kill the whole thing completely. Thank you for this!

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

It's the #1 killer!

[@MrLetGo]

I love how you articulated your message, I stayed intrigued throughout the video👍🏽

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Awesome man! What did you find most intriguing in the video?

[@shirazally6193]

Honestly, if only our partners could watch these videos ..

[@issabellakramer316]

LMAO right .

[@ridenacott]

Hey I'm here and I'm listening in fact I'm not going to send a 2 page email complaining :) I'm going to give it a shot

[@SIESA_SQUAD]

I am excited about the knowledge. Even when I look back to almost every time in my life time sex was great. All these things were present!

[@FriskyTendervittles]

@@ridenacott wow. She’s lucky you aren’t lead by ego and open to learning and growing

[@moustacheamore2237]

Haha yeah man..

[@AlyssaCotten]

The pursuer vs the withdrawer! Its so key to address!

[@CoachViva]

I agree that if the act of intimacy turns into an obligation, it's gonna feel like burdensome. It should come from the heart and be actually felt. Thank you for the video!

[@anisurfer84]

You address all the right problems. Every video hits the nail exactly on its head. It's like finding an answer sheet for your test. Not sure why I did not come across this before. Thanks.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Awesome! Glad it resonates with you!

[@DrJonTam]

Great tips and advice. Sustaining intimacy is really an art and so essential in a marriage. Thank you for this!

[@heatley1]

Actually it’s a science

[@RafaelEliassen]

This is really good advice for anyone who is struggling in their relationship, amazing work Geoffrey! 💛

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Thank you for your kind words and support, Rafael!

[@tanyaannn]

Great info Geoffrey!

[@fifis101]

Yep my partner and I have definitely had this issue for a long time and definitely has added significanty to our separation. One thing I'd be worried about is by building the anticipation it will also build the anxiety for performance (on both parties).

[@DhanaClarkson]

Intimacy is important in a relationship! Great information 👍🏽

[@TiidiiLivingwithSabrina]

That is excellent advice! The issue is not the frequency of intimacy it's more about closing that gap as you said.

[@TiidiiLivingwithSabrina]

Love your approach on rythm

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

@@TiidiiLivingwithSabrina Thank you! Glad to have confirmation from a female's perspective :D

[@UgoArinzeh]

Great video. thanks for sharing.

[@jimcostafilms]

I can relate to this problem.

[@jboy4023]

I don't know how to deal with the grumpy resentment. We are far down he list of failures. She is pressured. I am resentful. I feel like I have to do all the work to make things happen. Listening to your video makes since but it just seems like me doing all the work again. I'm just mad at this point.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi j boy,
Join me in my free masterclass to see how and why we grow resentful and what we can learn to do in order to build admiration.
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[@BenjaminPreston]

Great video!! Thanks for sharing.

[@TechMike10]

I am grateful to have found this video today. I am 100% in the position currently. You nailed it all. Instead of blaming or arguing about it I’m going to try the steps you gave. Thank you!

[@zjm4387]

Thanks Geoffrey, you knowledge really came at the right time & it's true relationship is patience no rush to get to the top of mountain before building a strong foundation of safety.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Yes yes yes! Take on step at a time and plant those seeds!

[@Billwilderment]

Fantastic! video, you are crushingit!

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Thank you so much for stopping by Bill!

[@sylvesterhandy2220]

This is me all the way I don’t know what to do I feel like Im living with a roommate

[@UgoArinzeh]

Thanks for sharing great tips and perspective.

[@DAVIDBIANCHI]

solid insight into intimacy.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Thank you sir! Thank you for stopping by :)

[@Darieth]

I'll be sure to share this with others. This is great info. Thank you

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Thank you Darieth! And thank you for tuning in!

[@WhosTheRealDookie]

To answer your question, the primary takeaway now on my mind after watching this one of your many good practical videos is: find the chemistry in rhythm. It makes so much sense. When you halt progression and take steps back, you are essentially giving your partner agency over the progression (my wife in this case). Also, your point about starting slow-I can see why starting very slow (comforting hand contact, etc), is the foundation on which she will then be willing to build upon with you, in that moment, as you’ve now created a pressure “blow-off valve” appealing to her safety and potential. Pressure in intimacy can absolutely instill anxiety which just furthers the chasm you explain, in the long run. Thanks for the great advice.

[@HollyLeeCoaching]

Great content, thanks for sharing your experience.

[@HollyLeeCoaching]

Christopher Aldrich happy to be divorced :)

[@HollyLeeCoaching]

@@christopheraldrich7773 that's pretty cool, congrats to you!

[@sebby2599]

My take away is to be patient with your partner in this rhythm process and to love the process without expectations of a product

[@leilaricciardo]

Very good advice!

[@theswcoaching]

Geoffrey, you clearly know your stuff about affection and intimacy! Thanks for this.

[@shirazally6193]

Great advice , as usual !

[@zenahussein2242]

My brother, the only one thing all people we don't know is safety, this knowledge help me to sort out my marriage 75%.

[@yoongis.tangerine]

idk why im here i'm not even married lmao very useful information tho

[@patriciajones6184]

If you are expecting sex on demand, your wife feels used. If you are affectionate with her all the time and telling her you love her she will feel safe and she will desire you

[@hussainamuhammad6508]

Hello I know of someone who helped me get my ex back and he can also render you help as he did mine too

[@hussainamuhammad6508]

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[@SocialConfidenceMastery]

Lots of confused husbands will find this helpful!

[@shender78]

This is the advice I have been searching for. Thank you!

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Love this, I am so thankful when people can find help from watching the videos that I create. Thank you.

[@jimbovillanda7659]

What a genius explaination!

[@JohnTube2K]

Want to try this but man…. My wife is totally grumpy working and frustrated with kids. Her mood swings are everywhere. Feel like she is taking it out on me sometimes. I try to so affection like you said but sometimes it hard, she’s just so grumpy sometimes. Anyways, will still push to try your points. Thanks for the video.

[@jacobsherwood1764]

So I pretty much agree but why do we have to do all the work I want to feel like she wants to engage it first too not just me

[@hoyle]

Thank you for this Geoffery. I do think talking/working with you Geoffery would be a useful exploration.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi hoyle,
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[@louisking9780]

Step to maintain long term intimacy is very helpful

[@crazeegrlproductions]

Great tips! I'm curious if the same or similar approach works when the roles are reserved. What happens when it is the man who is avoiding intimacy?

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

The process remains the same. I would like to invite you to check out my free 90 min master class and see how intimacy is destroyed in the relationship. And how to go about rebuilding it back in the relationship once again.
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[@sistasarita]

How do wives coach husbands to slow down, remove the pressure, and catch the rhythm without being critical/nagging?

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

The process is the same as how you would coach your partner into anything. 1) Discover why he's in such a rush, 2) Understand until you can say "I get why you feel, do and think that way". 3) Give your suggestion by acknowledging his POV, giving your suggestion as a question, and expressing your desires through praise (e.g. I understand where you're coming from. Can I tell you what's really attractive for me? ... "I find it so attractive when you take your time and really build things slowly during intimacy. Can't help but feel like I want you more during those times...What do you think?" Let that be the start of your dialogue.

[@cleopatrawf]

Good vid. Guys take note..

[@Hemepath]

Wow! I learned a lot! Thank you so much!

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi Jack,
What did you like the most?

[@kyletoboso757]

Thank you so much for this tips! ❤

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi kyle toboso,
Thank you for your support and comment.

[@arbitraryobjective4904]

Nailed the problem exactly

[@Orcabracer]

Maybe this is a super insensitive take but I have always assumed that the act of sex itself is generally immensely satisfying, for men and women. The honeymoon phase,vacations, or numerous other random times my wife seems to enjoy it more than I ever could. Yet there are other times where she seems bothered or extremely uncomfortable. It’s so sad to think that the capacity to want and enjoy great sex lies within all woman but all the prerequisites have to be met before they can.

[@heatley1]

Slow and steady wins the Race

[@sihlangubongani5075]

I don't subscribe easily to channels but with you I had to subscribe.
I will try to strategy for 8months. If fails I will have to exit my marriage and start fresh with less mistakes and will be able to build proper safety to a new woman and make her happy..
Though. I feel like you have put some much responsibility to men and women don't have to work at it. As men we want feel loved and wanted. Hence an outside woman make us happier because we feel needed more than our spouse.
I must say work is so brilliant 👏👌 I appreciate you

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi sihlangu Bongani,
Thank you for the sub and let me know how I can help.

[@ApriliaRacer14]

Update?

[@davidnduati9267]

So helpful.

[@hussainamuhammad6508]

Hello I know of someone who can help you he helped me get my ex back and he can also help you as he did mine too

[@hussainamuhammad6508]

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[@cairizzy]

yup. going through the since October 2020.

[@estebanmendoza6657]

Well I understand everything you are saying and I appreciate all the advice, but honestly is not fair, one way or another for both part. I been with my girl for 4 years the last two years it had been bad ,2,3,4,5 no sex. This is not normal for Any relationship. O had try logic conversation that end up in big arguments and settled for oh OK I will try more. I love her , I respect her and care for her, but I am going crazy, is no fair when you are faithful to the woman you love and she is not understanding you. I would gladly take any advice.

[@MN-vw2lo]

I wish I could have seen this video years ago, I feel like I might have already messed up my relationship. My only hope is that I can apply this affectively.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

It's never too late to start learning how to thrive in your relationships. Start now.

[@mannamedbanjo]

This makes 100% sense.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hey Scott,
Absolutely! Thank you...

[@aroldovillarreal7442]

How long is the cycle of this rhythm? A day? Weeks? Months?

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Aroldo -- This is where your foundations of emotional safety and psychological safety becomes crucial for you to diagnose this for yourself. My partner and I are both entrepreneurs, and there was 2 years where neither of us felt sexual because we were so exhausted, but once circumstances change, rythm changes too. No clear answer here -- but it's about whether you have created a culture where you can gauge this easily.

[@mast2312]

In this situation now. Really irritated and angry that I am trying to be more intimate and passionate with her than she is! I run the small businesses and always make time for my wife. But will this work even if she is not interested in being passionate? Cos I'm close to giving up

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi Mas T,
I invite you to my free 90 min master class to learn why intimacy breaks down in relationships.
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[@sandercoxj]

This issss my life in a nutshell. Things are getting better.

[@MoEditz9]

What if she doesn’t want to be held at all

[@vidalmonroe7569]

Yes I have this problem

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hey Vidal,
This is definitely quite a common problem in a lot of relationships today.
But once you learn the right processes to rebuild trust & safety and ultimately revive intimacy, you will naturally re-attract her with your new self.
We can definitely help you through our Relationships Revival program. If you’d like to learn more about it, you can begin by joining our free masterclass here.
relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass
At the end of this masterclass, you will also get some information on how you can submit your application for the program.
And in case you’re curious as to how life-changing this program is, or how it is MILES beyond what other programs can offer, check out the links below!
Client Review Videos:
ruclips.net/p/PLQ8tvyhQlPzsNm-vC_g_8SWGcJRngefgU
Client Review Screenshots:
drive.google.com/drive/folders/1Gp8UpRV9uMlFx763BfuQnEqN930FQb7b?usp=sharing

[@RobParksJr]

Going through it now

[@CineOnSax]

Yes I can relate

[@vektorgekon4768]

Hello Geoffrey,
I was wondering if can you do a video on how to get your exwife back if she has already decided to move on with another guy. In other words, what would be the best way to approach this situation, and what would be the best way to win her back from her new guy.. I really would appreciate it a lot if you can provide some suggestions and advices. Thank you!

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi there! I do think you're approaching this with a completely wrong mindset. I would check out this one: ruclips.net/video/KPltaNJ66w8/видео.html

[@vektorgekon4768]

@@GeoffreySetiawan
Thank you so much for replying me back brother. I really appreciate your support and advice. I will check it out the video that you are suggesting me. Stay blessed!!!

[@ElooniaEloonia]

Why starting with toys when there’s resentment to resolve……?

[@stever2118]

I can relate

[@cryptoguy3928]

Ya Intimacy is gone I bought flowers and candles and put on some sexy music and only rubbed my wife's feet after I washed them first she allowed me to do this but then allowed the family dog to lay on her the whole time waiting until I was done then told me it was too much...she is cold as ice this is very painful I believe she is only staying due to the markets being down and knowing we will lose everything if we sell our stocks.

[@maryannjuralbar4126]

What if you’re in LDR?

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi MJ,
Same principles still applies when someone is in a LDR. If you’d like to learn more, you can begin by joining our free masterclass here.
relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass
At the end of this masterclass, you will also get some information on how you can submit your application for the program.
And in case you’re curious as to how life-changing this program is, or how it is MILES beyond what other programs can offer, check out the links below!
Client Review Videos:
ruclips.net/p/PLQ8tvyhQlPzsNm-vC_g_8SWGcJRngefgU

[@EnemyAce88]

How do I pry my wife away from her phone long enough to do this?

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi EnemyAce88, are you able to ask your partner about this? If not then learning the skills needed to be able to have these conversation is where I would tell you to start.

[@jhljhl2207]

I'm just getting pissed off watching these videos

[@KH-hs5xh]

When we got married there was no problem.
Now that her desire and our sex has stopped, it is the mans problem???
and it is him that needs to build it up for her???
What about her? Shouldn’t she do something?

[@sylvesterhandy5454]

This is so me

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

What parts?

[@slangtang6671]

When do women hold mens hands & walk with them like this? Maybe shes just not that into you bro. This is a bunch of work when you can find someone who is actually into you.

[@robn2171]

Lmfao. "When women hold men's hands?"
Sounds likes she's not that into YOU buddy.

[@xK27R]

Emigdila?

[@angelar3840]

Yes I agress

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi Angela Reising,
What was most eye-opening to you?

[@Ryuikari]

100 percent

[@melkerner]

Always the man's fault or responsibility. How about you hold Women accountable for ONCE!

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

We do. We have many women clients. Lol. And many of them have done their success interviews with me.
We just work with people who own their 100% of the 50%, so that it actually leaves you with something to do that is in your control.
If we just make videos blaming your partner for everything, what good does it actually do you? DOes it actually give you anything you can do that is in your control to remedy the situation?
The only thing that leaves is to LEAVE - and you don't need a video to tell you that.

[@DrfreshOP]

😢

[@giafach]

Watching this video after everything I’ve learned on the internet and therapy I can’t help but laugh. This video is for amateurs. If this advice works in your relationship you didn’t really have any problems to begin with. From a man’s point of view when a woman or wife turns off the switch to intimacy there’s nothing and no one that can turn it back on but her. It’s internally and wholly 100% her issue. Notwithstanding abusive relationships. I found so many errors and flaws and mistakes. I know these ppl are just creating content to make money but you’re misleading a lot of ppl with real problems

[@karenKristal]

I love how men think calling it 'intimacy' fools anyone😅

[@ApriliaRacer14]

“It’s” part of it.

[@BillyVatcher]

I can relate