When I was 22 year old I met the man I thought I would spend my life with. We had a son and then 6 weeks later poof he was gone. He died unexpectedly in a skydiving accident. He left for work one day and never came home. Fast-forward 10 years, I got a second chance at a soul mate. I try to remind myself to soak it all in. Life is short, stop complaining about the little things. Hug him tight when he leaves for work every day, sniff his pillow when you make the bed, just pick up the stupid clothes on the floor and be grateful you have a hunny to wash clothes for! Just enjoy it all because it passes so fast!
Believe it or not, we men are watching too! Trying to figure out how to get our wives either back, or attract them again! I love my wife, and want nothing more than to feel like she still loves me! We'll see.❣️
I bought a small laundry basket for my husband to dump his “I’ll wear them tomorrow clothes”. It looks cleaner & he still gets his own pile. Happy medium.
“Bring back intimacy” is so cute. Unless you married an avoidant. If you do, from day one it will be a challenge. to find connection. I’m 64, and we are getting there. We are mastering the dance of desire, that is masked with fear, and anger.
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Not married yet, but almost kind of engaged and I love to learn already now 🤭🤭💕 thank your for the tips! 1. Learn each other's love language 2. "make out"/ kiss for at least 30 seconds daily 3. Write a love note/text once a week 4. Say thank you 5. Go the extra mile 6. Stop nagging and deal with it 7. Stop thinking about what he isn't doing and start thinking about what he is doing 8. Communicate 9. Pillowtalk 10. Prioritize date night
Wow just found this comment haha! Been married for almost 2years now and have a 3 week old daughter 🥰🥰 hubby and I are even more in love now than before ♥️🙏
The clothes thing was definitely a problem for a while. Ugh especially dirty socks. But instead of going around picking up after him I stopped caring. Eventually he ran out of socks and realized he needs to clean up after himself.
if my boyfriend runs out of clean underwear, he’d rather bare ball it until i do the laundry instead of doing a load himself. it really is frustrating.
I needed this right now. Just last night my partner and I were crying and talking about how rough things have gotten and how we need to pay more attention to us and our relationship and voilà your video is in my feed after having a great day together. The icing on the cake. Thank you so much. 🙏❤️
Loved this video! My husband is considered an essential worker and as you can imagine he has had a loooong week at work. So a few nights ago I made a cake, picked up dinner from one of our favorite restaurants, did my hair and put and dress on me and my 2 year old daughter. Surprise date night! He walked in and cried a little bit 🤣♥️
Been married 14 years. Prepare for marriage not wedding day. Date days.. love language..Put effort in your appearance. Marriage is about serving.. Also you get married for purpose. Do you know your purpose
Nice video, I'm still struggling with the end of my 7-year relationship. My significant other, who I considered to be the love of my life, left me a month ago, and I can't seem to shake the constant thoughts of him. Despite my efforts to bring him back into my life, nothing has worked, and I feel frustrated and hopeless. I've tried to move on, but my heart still longs for her, and I don't see myself with anyone else. I apologize for sharing this here, but I just can't seem to stop missing him.
It's hard to let go of someone you love; I went through a similar experience when my 12-year relationship ended. I tried everything to get him back, and eventually I had to turn to a spiritual counselor for assistance.
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My husband is the same with leaving his clothes on the floor, and I did the same I accepted it as one of his quirks. One day he had to work for a month out of the country so I was alone and to be honest I missed the dirty clothes on the floor, because it meant he wasn't there. And I realized one day he might not be here with me anymore and I'll miss the dirty clothes. So I embrace them.
Wow, this was a powerful message for me right now! I've been focusing so much on the negative aspects of my boyfriend I didn't even think how I would hate to do live without him
I've been married 13 years (really, really happily married) and I agree with most part of your video but picking up his clothes silently from the floor let me say I don't think is a good way, I think that with time this kind of situation may lead to frustration. What if he keeps doing it, and then he starts with another anoying thing, and you just keep "fixing" his mess? I think the secret of a good marriage is both doing their best to make the other person as happy as possible, so in your situation I would talk to my husband and say: ok, I clean the house and I do the laundry (he does LOT of other tasks at home every day) and just throwing your clothes on the floor makes me feel you don't respect the part of the job I do, plus I'm also tired, plus my back also hurts, so please stop, if you want we can put a bin there so you can throw your clothes directly there so I can take it for laundry next day. I don't know but negotiation with your partner and setting a deal makes the relationship cleaner. After 13 years I can't throw him anything cause we settle everything, even the smallest, and we make an effort everyday to make the other as confortable as possible. I think the key is that both of the partners achieve this thought: "she/he makes my life nice and easier, I'll go and do the same!"
Thank you for this! I didn’t quite agree with her outlook in the video on that, but some comments felt so aggressive about it being wrong. This makes so much more sense! 💕
not married yet, however in a relationship. and showing appreciation for your partner in any way possible is something that is very important for me to do. however, life is busy and sometimes this tends to get pushed to the backround. so thank you, Delilah, for these helpful tips and this overall beautiful reminder!
This was such a great video. Pillow talk especially is one of the most important in our relationship. When we go a few days without spending time intentionally looking in each other’s eyes and being close, we don’t feel that “oneness”.
I’m 23 now, but I had my baby boy just as I turned 21. I’ve been with my significant other for 5 years now. I really love this video, no one tells you how you begin to feel out of touch with your partner after all of the things you’ve been through together. Although we love each other greatly, we do experience a lot of these problems. It’s nice to see a couple similar in age talking about these topics. I’ve been watching your channel for a while now-just before Eloise. Your content always blesses my soul. I thank God for the messages you send in every one!💙
I’m getting married next month, and this is a nice reminder of some things to prioritize as we enter into this new phase of our lives! Thanks for sharing ☺️
Yup. On Clothesgate… I do think it can be a conversation of “I feel taken for granted when you leave the no clothes on the floor. I would feel loved if you didn’t.” But it can also be a way to make him feel loved and relaxed. In our marriage, my husband is the more neat one, but he does leave clothes out in the bedroom once he’s worn them because they’re not dirty enough to clean or clean enough to put away. In the end, it’s all about learning how to love each other. I love him by keeping the house picked up overall and not getting fussy about where he leaves his clothes. He loves me by having grace when I haven’t had time to get the house just so. It goes both ways.
I became bedbound for two years and my husband cared for me. When I first stepped out of my bedroom and back into the house it looked like a hoarders house. Slowly over time I declutterred but I never asked him to and I don’t ask him to do any tidying any more. I accept that he does not care if the house is tidy and I do - therefore I do the tidying. And I leave the things he cares about to him. And it works like a dream.
Thanks for this. I just paused this video and messaged my husband to let him know how grateful I am for all his efforts. It's really the small things that matter. After 2 years of marriage I forgot all the sweet things we did for each other. We need to make a conscious effort to keep the spark going.
This video came at the PERFECT time ❤️ my boyfriend (soon fiancé 😉) were just talking about how we didn’t feel connected with one another. I’ll definitely be using these tips! THANK YOU
My husband love language is physical touch and he’s a kisser. I’m not so the kissing 30 seconds is a great idea! My husband so good to me so he deserves the kisses.
My husband and I do “Cheeseball Friday” and every Friday we send one another an incredibly cheesy text telling the other how we feel and what we appreciate about the other as well as how proud we are of each other. I look forward to these texts and even more so look forward to the butterflies in my stomach feeling when I see a text from him through the day💕 I always try to think of it this way: You never know how much time you have with one another and I’d rather spend that time blissfully in love and happy than holding a grudge. It’s best to let things go, unless of course it’s something that is going to build and build due to other underlining issues. That’s a different story of course.😊
I'm not married but I've been in a relationship for coming up on 3 weeks. We've had a tough go lately, and I absolutely loved this video. Thank you Delilah! I'd love to see more of these intentional videos on self growth/ spousal growth or family growth:)
It's funny how everyone in the comments is going off about their husbands leave their clothes around. I am just as bad as my husband with leaving my clothes on the floor. I dont mind picking up his clothes along with mine. I find great satisfaction from him coming home from work and having our room and house picked up.
SAME! Finally!! Thought I'd never find another person not mad about the clothes haha I really don't mind and if I'm truly honest with myself, I'm worse than he is about it!
I've been with my husband for 17 years, we married 7 years ago and our love just gets stronger. We do share love languages. We are finally having a baby, and I expect big changes. Looking forward to seeing us grow and get pushed to our breaking point, we really need this challenge. By the way, most people have more than 1 love language. My husband and I both have physical touch but I also have quality time and he has acts of service.
Interesting to hear your perspective. My husband and I have been married 30 years and are recently empty nesters. We are having lots of fun together rekindling and reconnecting. I’m focused on letting go of past stuff and paying more attention to him. He’s slowly coming around! ;)
The love notes suggestion really struck a chord, thanks Delilah. My grandparents, who have since passed, wrote each other notes in the last decade of their relationship and Im remembering how much they made my grandmother happy
Great video! These tips are key to keeping a marriage in tact and fresh. Been married for 38 years and are always working to keep things smooth. You've doing a great thing in summarizing and explaining the importance of emotional intimacy. Thank you! Wonderful to have come across your video!
Some of these feel like common sense, and then there are some where I went.....”oh yea, that common sense I forgot about.” So helpful and uplifting. Thank you
Downloaded this for when I need a reminder. I’ll also straight up ask him if he feels loved, understood and taken care of. That usually brings a healthy conversation of where we are at in our relationship
Generally good tips, but “stop nagging and deal with it” sounds like a real good way to build up resentment and hatred. It puts the burden of problem on one partner when both parties should participate in solving it. Whenever my partner and I have a disagreement, we have a “cool down” period and then discuss potential solutions together to address the problem. It’s worked for us so far and we’ve been together for 8 years. 💖
My wife and I traveled a lot when we got married! Disney’ cruise! Until we were in our‘late 20’s we started getting in adoption! We adopted two girls! Thank you 🙏 so w for sharing your story
Love those advices! My favorite is pillow talk because I do start them all the time! 😅 But for almost a year we didn’t have them in our bed because we are bed sharing with our baby. Although, we do them outside our bed now most of the time laying on a couch or even on a floor. 😅 The only thing I would add. Postpone a talk with husband when emotions are out off control or angry... something that might lead to a fight. Wait, ask husband to wait till calm down and then talk.😊
Great advice! I've been married two years and we lived together a year before that (I know, not super biblical, but we are growing in faith together). I absolutely love being married to my husband but in the very beginning, oh my gosh I thought our problems were insurmountable, but now I can't even remember what they were. And what changed was, I read The Surrendered Wife by Laura Doyle and it totally changed my nagging behavior and my own mentality about my discontentment, like you were saying. I really recommend it! She has a ton of practical tips for what to say in situations and how to approach things and she's such a genius.
I really needed to hear this today! I’ve been married almost 2 years now and my husband and I have a newborn. And I can definitely tell that the original “spark” has diminished. I will definitely be trying these to get that back with him. Just watching the video with each tip I could think of something he does for me or what I could do for him❤️ Love your channel and this style of video. Would love to see more sit down videos like this!
Few things I do to serve my partner/efforts I make for our relationship: - Cook his favorite meal for his lunchbox - Prepare his coffee every night for the next morning (he wakes up super early) - get him a magazine whenever I cross a bookstore - put on a dress : I know he loves it - saying thank you, for being part of my life - let him know that I will always be there for him and will support him
We're getting some cube storage for the clothes situation. I have a cube storage on my side I like to put my used but not dirty clothes, and we're getting one for him as well. He doesn't throw them on the floor, but he puts them on an empty bookshelf and it looks junky. The cube storage is a good medium between being organized and having easy access to the clothes. We do a similar thing with leftover containers. They sit on different shelves with dividers, partially stacked, with their tops under or on top. Finding your style of organizing is very important! My husband is very organized, and we were able to buy (mostly from goodwill) plastic drawers, dividers, baskets, for our items that work for us.
My husband and I do a lot of that already. We leave little messages on our mirrors for eachother (he’s definitely more consistent). I try to make him/buy him tasty treats whenever I’m out and about. We hug for at least thirty seconds as well a day as well. It’s the little things in life.
You know, we lived together unmarried for years and long story short I had a religious awakening and I came out and told him I need time to get to know Christ and to focus on Him and my relationship with Him first and foremost and that I couldn't stay in a relationship with a person where Jesus wasn't #1 in both our lives. He agreed with me, was all for it, even agreed we should stop being intimate until we were actually married. In that moment I was more in love with him than ever before because he was so willing to listen to me about something so many would have brushed off. To even agree with me and be willing to try. I was blown away and so thankful. I was ready to lose my best friend because I knew I needed Christ more. He told me he had been having the same feelings but just had no idea how to tell me. That was last Aug. We found a church we love, got married there, got baptized and now we are having our first baby together and we've both talked about how much more in love we are than ever. True, deep love. It's amazing. The Holy Spirit helped us save our marriage. A lot of your tips are things I had started doing as well once we did get married. Awesome video 🙂 you're awesome.
Carlie Flowers same thing happened for my husband and I. God is the glue and keeps me humble and accountable for my actions. I have a new found appreciation for men, motherhood, and family.
Thank you. I needed this. And I’m so glad you mentioned to start off small. I was about the do them all at once and felt overwhelmed. Pillow talk hit me hard ❤️
Thank you for making this video. I did not grow up with any healthy-marriage role models and its honestly terrifying to think about doing all this. Thanks for the advice
Thank you for this great thought-trough list. I'm married one year now and I don't feel like the spark has faded, but it's a good reminder to never sneakingly let it get to that point. And even if, I can still get it back. I tell my husband that I live him like 10 times a day. Seems exessive but I just need to because he does so much for me and I appreciate him so much.
as much as your vlogs bring me joy i absolutely love these sit down videos! you have such good advice and i really enjoy the mix of content on your channel
I've been working on setting goals (daily, weekly, or long term) and verbalizing them with my wife. I've made it a daily goal to text her throughout my work day and since she works night shift, the goal there is to call her in the evening before I get ready for bed. This has been working great and long term, my goal is to maintain it all. Oh, and I'm look at potential date nights and scheduling them with her. Thank you for these reminders. I really liked the pillow talk and sharing who we've been talking to.
This seemed very genuine and overall very sweet. Wow. That sort of voluntary service reasonability and empathy rare in in many modern marriages. Whatever kind of magic your relationship is founded on that feeds yalls trust and love its amazing and hope it stays strong and inspirational.
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I agree mostly with you. But I will never clean up after my boyfriend! No matter what it is. If it's not walking inside with dirty shoes or not leaving clothes lying around. I will not take the role of his mom. He's a grown up man, he can do that alone. I ask him, to pick them up once or twice, I do not nag about it. If the clothes pile up, I will not put them away for him. He does it eventually, without me telling him because it will bother him after some time too. The rest of your tips are definitely worth trying! 😉
I'm not married yet but almost engaged and I found this video really insightful. Your voice is so soothing to listen to, if you ever consider podcasting in the future that would be awesome. xx
Love this Video! I am not married but I am in a relationship. I suffer from OCD and it worsens my relationships and I worry all the time. I got better and I try to better my communication with him now.
My fiancé and I both leave clothes on the floor lol but we have moments we want to clean so it’s like... never mind I’m just an imposter. A teenager in an adults body and so is he. We just have moments it’s all clean and moments that we both just say forget it I’ll fold clothes when I’m dead. There is no happy medium lol. Chaos and cleanliness, it’s a slippery slope.
Loved your video! Great stuff! I think during the pandemic, we did one night a week with no electronics, no tv, no phones. Instead we would put on our record player, put on a good song, and cook with each other and just talk all about how our day or week went, sometimes do a little slow dance, or rock out to some great music and then talk about our future goals we would like to accomplish doing the next couple of months.😁❤️. Good luck everyone. Marriage is not easy but it is very rewarding. Oh! And the 30second kiss it really works! I started kissing the hubby for a few more seconds and he started put his arms around me. Love hugs from my hubby..😁
We always say thank you on everything and that is something my husband taught me while we were dating. I didn't understand why we had to say thank you for doing the dishes or making food because someone has to do it and it's for both of us, so why the need. But over time when one of us forget to say it (because we are tired from our newborn daughter), the other one remembers it in a sweet/funny/kind way and it even becomes a game or a joke. We have been saying thank you to each other I don't know how many times per day for more than 7 years and it's a great habit to have the fortifies our love
The clothes on the floor is such a conversation 😂😂😂 I intentionally bought a 4 compartment laundry basket with wheels🙂🥰 and it is working to keep clothes out of site. we both used to put the clothes on the floor not just him.
All of these are really good tips. Me and my boyfriend have been together going on 11 years, got together when we were 14. We also have two children. We do all of these and I feel closer to him with every year that passes.
I have learned also that, taking on 90 % of the relationship makes things so your not disappointed especially in areas that shouldn't matter, clothes, dishes, etc. Just do it, out of habit. Trust me, it comes eventually
This only should be done when your partner loves you back equally, or is equally willing to do the same. I feel like if you are in a negative relationship and your partner is not treating you right, you shouldn't do all these things. I mean yeah you shouldn't be together with that person, but if you are searching for ways to improve I don't believe that this is the best way in every relationship
Great tips. I will be watching it again with my husband 😂 We also have 2 little kids so I soooo understand what you are talking about! Thanks for the reminder ❤
We try to kiss each other goodnight every night and we kiss each other before he goes to work... I try to cook his favorite foods for him and he brings home my favorite takeout the nights I don't cook. It can be hard to keep up the excitement of being married after awhile but it's so worth it to keep trying...
Not married but in a LTR, my biggest struggle especially during lockdown times is remembering that the cleaning and cooking I do isn’t something I do for him it’s something I do for us and for me. He works and I’m laid off so we’ve both struggled with this idea that we do more than they do but making chores about me and my needs has helped a lot with that
Authentically Abigail it’s a guy thing I think. My boyfriend also does this, but I never pass his side of the bed so it’s “out of sight out of mind” for me lol
Get a separate basket for them! A “not quite clean, not quite dirty” basket. If they’re taking up space anyway, there’s space there for a basket, right? 😂
My boyfriend used to do this too haha :) the solution for us here was to get a ladder shelf kinda thing where he would put his clothes :) so they are on there instead of the floor :)
I am 72.5 years old, and grieving our relationship; have been for couple years. In that time weve et anything,everything come between us. So, today I asked myself/the Lord" What can I do about this?" Typed in "how can I win back the passion of my wife?" You were the first result; and thankful for the 10 items you mentioned. Keep up the good work!
Very nice. I already implement these things into my relationship with my fiance and so does he. It does make a huge difference. We were both in bad relationships before we found eachother. I think our past experiences make us that much more grateful for eachother. One line that I would add to this video is "We're friends first." It is important to be friends with your significant other. This will be important in the long term. It takes the pressure off and transforms a spouse from being superman or superwoman back into a person. I think this holds true for now as well while the world is in isolation.
My partner travels for work, so he’s gone a lot. And I’m pregnant with our first. I’m starting to get into the habit of leaving little notes in his backpack, sometimes I’ll leave an ultrasound picture with it and tell him his “girls love and miss him”. He works nights, so he sleeps during the day and I try to send him little texts often as well to wake up to. I just try to make sure he knows he’s still in my thoughts and is loved and cherished, even when he’s across the country. I feel like we’ve gone back into a honeymoon phase and it’s really sweet. We’re high school sweethearts
If you searched this video I highly encourage marriage on the rock by Jimmy Evans. I almost read the entire book (well listened on audible) in one day. Hands down the best marital advice I've ever gotten from a book.
Love love this! Being on lockdown definitely puts everything in a different perspective. I will make more effort and go the extra mile my husband is the best I'm so blessed .
WOW as a wife married for almost two years I can relate to this soo much. We just recently noticed we do not invest as much as we used to. These tips will be soo helpful! Thank you very much. God bless you. Love all your content btw but this is one of my favourite videos. Live from Austria
A man right here, looking for this exact advice. I'm a single man, but got a dream of a girlfriend, and can't get enough of her. Today had the talk with her on what she's feeling seeing I've noticed a huge change in her body language. We have complications in our relationship cause of her x. They have kids together. Totally get along with her kids, just not him. Anyway ask what's up today and she says I don't give intimacy and she needs it in a relationship. Everything else is great I just don't do it cause I don't know it. Never had a girl I care for as much as her and my past relationships they have not showed intimacy with me. So was Totally clueless. Had ideas on what I have planned, but came here first pick and you nailed us. I am now watching for ideas to save me and her. Thank you for the advice and will be watching for more!!
Hi Delilah!! What a great video!! I’m 23 years old and have been married four and a half years as well, I have three children all under four and I’m a stay at home mom. Your videos are so interesting and entertaining!!
Some of the best advice what Delilah talked about is: every day when you wake up, think about what you can do for your spouse/partner, ask yourself what you can do to make them have a better day. The little things really do add up. And if you need something, always always discuss that. If you don't, you'll end up holding it in and resenting your partner for not meeting your needs (emotionally, physically, help with things, whatever it is.) And I've found that just doing little tasks for him so he doesn't have to makes him feel really loved and appreciated. Like, if he's laying down after work and worn out, I'll plug in his phone so he doesn't have to get up and do it, and he loves chocolate milk, so I'll make him some before he even asks for it and it seems to be a good way to show him I care. Just try to anticipate what they might need and try to do it before hand. For example, setting out his/her clothes in the morning (maybe this wouldn't work as well for a wife since most women don't want their husband choosing their clothing lol), do their laundry and hang it back up or whatever.
Thank you. Ive been married to my wife for 14 years and number 8 is imperative. Also dont hold resentment, communicate from the heart what your needs are, we all have needs. Try to hypothetically take up your spouses side in a disagreement and this will defuse or shorten arguments. we all have different upbringings and that should be respected. Our upbringing forms the way perceive things. The past is the devils playground . Look to the present and future. Fyi try this , power your phone off before you go to sleep and put it in another room. i did this for three nights and a saw a huge improvement in the quality of my sleep. On the fourth night i did not sleep good and i woke up and looked over and my wifes phone was on her night stand. since doing this i no longer have dreams that im at work all night long. And its gotten to where i noticed my sleep suffered one night where , my phone wasnt powered of and it was still in the next room. i just use a old phone for my alarm that is not connected.
This is amazing!! All of our babysitters have moved away so we have an “at home” date night once a week after we put our son to sleep! I look forward to it every week and we always have the best time! All of these ideas are amazing though. Thank you so much for making this video!! 💗💗
My wife leaves dishes out to dry- makes the kitchen look messy even when it’s clean. I realized 10 years in, if it bugs me- then I can dry them and put them away. She hates unloading dishes- so I do that. We discuss the household stuff and divide and conquer based on the items that are important to us. Recently we started alternating daily “mini dates”. It can be as simple as doing a yoga together, going on a walk, having a staring contest. But we alternate choosing what short activity we want to do together that day. It keeps us both feeling engaged and it’s fun to see what the other person wants to do on the daily.
I'm not in a relati9onship but I still enjoy watching such films. I find it very helpful for my future relationship. I have learnt that talking about emotions and everythingin life is very important in relationship. Thank you Delilah!
Thank you, Delilah, for this video!! Great tips! We have been married 5 years and it's so easy to just let life get in the way of your marriage. Thanks for these reminders!
Thank you for these tips. Since i gave birth we lost spark since im focused on my child so we always end up fighting I didnt know that he's trying to give love language while im not comfortable with it. Will take note of that next time
My wife and I will be celebrating 33 year anniversary tomorrow! Been together 35 years! In our marriage was intense with a lot of affection from her! She was so crazy about me! Abt intimacy! I miss that from her! I need and crave it from her!
When I was 22 year old I met the man I thought I would spend my life with. We had a son and then 6 weeks later poof he was gone. He died unexpectedly in a skydiving accident. He left for work one day and never came home. Fast-forward 10 years, I got a second chance at a soul mate. I try to remind myself to soak it all in. Life is short, stop complaining about the little things. Hug him tight when he leaves for work every day, sniff his pillow when you make the bed, just pick up the stupid clothes on the floor and be grateful you have a hunny to wash clothes for! Just enjoy it all because it passes so fast!
This...brought tears to my eyes. ♡
Truth!
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@@dominiquegray3494Thank you. You are wise, indeed.
Absolutely ❤
I know this doesn't relate but that sweater with your glasses and that extremely flattering haircut is just so beautiful on you😍
Thank you 😊
Olivia Madsen I totally agree!!
Believe it or not, we men are watching too! Trying to figure out how to get our wives either back, or attract them again! I love my wife, and want nothing more than to feel like she still loves me! We'll see.❣️
Me two,have u had any luck?
Haha i,m also watching bro
I feel the same way bro! Your not alone. I learned to put things away for my self worrying i will made her mad if I don’t. 😢
We got this kings 👑
I Second this! As a man we forget that women are completely different. We are to serve our wives! That means, protect, provide, and love!
I bought a small laundry basket for my husband to dump his “I’ll wear them tomorrow clothes”. It looks cleaner & he still gets his own pile. Happy medium.
Alyssa Kaye I love this!
I love this idea!
What if it still ends up on the floor next to his hamper??? 😅😅
Alyssa Kaye good idea!!!
I did this as well! I'm less irritated lol
“Bring back intimacy” is so cute.
Unless you married an avoidant.
If you do, from day one it will be a challenge. to find connection.
I’m 64, and we are getting there. We are mastering the dance of desire, that is masked with fear, and anger.
i'm not even married or in a relationship, but i'm still watching this :P
Girl same!
Haha same
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Not married yet, but almost kind of engaged and I love to learn already now 🤭🤭💕 thank your for the tips!
1. Learn each other's love language
2. "make out"/ kiss for at least 30 seconds daily
3. Write a love note/text once a week
4. Say thank you
5. Go the extra mile
6. Stop nagging and deal with it
7. Stop thinking about what he isn't doing and start thinking about what he is doing
8. Communicate
9. Pillowtalk
10. Prioritize date night
Has he asked you yet?? 🌸
Look into Karezza 😊
I wish I did know all of this 😢😢😢
I kiss my wife as much as possible in our day! I kiss her in the morning! I
All day
Wow just found this comment haha! Been married for almost 2years now and have a 3 week old daughter 🥰🥰 hubby and I are even more in love now than before ♥️🙏
The clothes thing was definitely a problem for a while. Ugh especially dirty socks. But instead of going around picking up after him I stopped caring. Eventually he ran out of socks and realized he needs to clean up after himself.
if my boyfriend runs out of clean underwear, he’d rather bare ball it until i do the laundry instead of doing a load himself. it really is frustrating.
I needed this right now. Just last night my partner and I were crying and talking about how rough things have gotten and how we need to pay more attention to us and our relationship and voilà your video is in my feed after having a great day together. The icing on the cake. Thank you so much. 🙏❤️
Maddie Seigars God heard your prayers
Loved this video!
My husband is considered an essential worker and as you can imagine he has had a loooong week at work. So a few nights ago I made a cake, picked up dinner from one of our favorite restaurants, did my hair and put and dress on me and my 2 year old daughter. Surprise date night! He walked in and cried a little bit 🤣♥️
Callie Schmidbauer the addition of dressing your daughter is too precious! Love it!
Been married 14 years. Prepare for marriage not wedding day. Date days.. love language..Put effort in your appearance. Marriage is about serving.. Also you get married for purpose. Do you know your purpose
That’s an amazing every day win!!! Such a good idea. A+ for you putting the time and effort in doing such a good thing.
do that more often, thats the man of the house
Wife plans a surprise date night!… I can’t relate.
Nice video, I'm still struggling with the end of my 7-year relationship. My significant other, who I considered to be the love of my life, left me a month ago, and I can't seem to shake the constant thoughts of him. Despite my efforts to bring him back into my life, nothing has worked, and I feel frustrated and hopeless. I've tried to move on, but my heart still longs for her, and I don't see myself with anyone else. I apologize for sharing this here, but I just can't seem to stop missing him.
It's hard to let go of someone you love; I went through a similar experience when my 12-year relationship ended. I tried everything to get him back, and eventually I had to turn to a spiritual counselor for assistance.
Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counsellor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?
His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
he is father obah eze, he has great powers, he can help you.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive
Wow I just looked Father Obah Eze on the net he’s very legit thanks once again ❤
I feel like in 7 years with my husband my number one advice for other couples is to never stop dating and to communicate.
Not married yet but in a long term relationship, these tips are truly life changing ❤️
My husband is the same with leaving his clothes on the floor, and I did the same I accepted it as one of his quirks. One day he had to work for a month out of the country so I was alone and to be honest I missed the dirty clothes on the floor, because it meant he wasn't there. And I realized one day he might not be here with me anymore and I'll miss the dirty clothes. So I embrace them.
Wow, this was a powerful message for me right now! I've been focusing so much on the negative aspects of my boyfriend I didn't even think how I would hate to do live without him
I heard similar advice early on in my marriage and when I remember it it has a huge impact on how I treat my husband.
Ashley nicole this made me want to cry it’s so wholesome
I wonder how high the pile of dirty clothes got when he was gone for a month without you 😅
This is beautiful. Thank you for this
I've been married 13 years (really, really happily married) and I agree with most part of your video but picking up his clothes silently from the floor let me say I don't think is a good way, I think that with time this kind of situation may lead to frustration. What if he keeps doing it, and then he starts with another anoying thing, and you just keep "fixing" his mess? I think the secret of a good marriage is both doing their best to make the other person as happy as possible, so in your situation I would talk to my husband and say: ok, I clean the house and I do the laundry (he does LOT of other tasks at home every day) and just throwing your clothes on the floor makes me feel you don't respect the part of the job I do, plus I'm also tired, plus my back also hurts, so please stop, if you want we can put a bin there so you can throw your clothes directly there so I can take it for laundry next day. I don't know but negotiation with your partner and setting a deal makes the relationship cleaner. After 13 years I can't throw him anything cause we settle everything, even the smallest, and we make an effort everyday to make the other as confortable as possible. I think the key is that both of the partners achieve this thought: "she/he makes my life nice and easier, I'll go and do the same!"
Thank you for this! I didn’t quite agree with her outlook in the video on that, but some comments felt so aggressive about it being wrong. This makes so much more sense! 💕
OMG the quality and editing of this video it's so good! I love the extra effort you put in the intro
not married yet, however in a relationship. and showing appreciation for your partner in any way possible is something that is very important for me to do. however, life is busy and sometimes this tends to get pushed to the backround. so thank you, Delilah, for these helpful tips and this overall beautiful reminder!
Nobody is that busy…small things that take a matter of seconds count..no time is an excuse
This was such a great video. Pillow talk especially is one of the most important in our relationship. When we go a few days without spending time intentionally looking in each other’s eyes and being close, we don’t feel that “oneness”.
I’m 23 now, but I had my baby boy just as I turned 21. I’ve been with my significant other for 5 years now. I really love this video, no one tells you how you begin to feel out of touch with your partner after all of the things you’ve been through together. Although we love each other greatly, we do experience a lot of these problems. It’s nice to see a couple similar in age talking about these topics. I’ve been watching your channel for a while now-just before Eloise. Your content always blesses my soul. I thank God for the messages you send in every one!💙
I’m getting married next month, and this is a nice reminder of some things to prioritize as we enter into this new phase of our lives! Thanks for sharing ☺️
Yup. On Clothesgate… I do think it can be a conversation of “I feel taken for granted when you leave the no clothes on the floor. I would feel loved if you didn’t.” But it can also be a way to make him feel loved and relaxed. In our marriage, my husband is the more neat one, but he does leave clothes out in the bedroom once he’s worn them because they’re not dirty enough to clean or clean enough to put away. In the end, it’s all about learning how to love each other. I love him by keeping the house picked up overall and not getting fussy about where he leaves his clothes. He loves me by having grace when I haven’t had time to get the house just so. It goes both ways.
Yup, needed this!! The passed 8 months postpartum has not been kind to our relationship, unfortunately!
So sorry to hear! Have you come across the book Cupid’s poisoned arrow?
I became bedbound for two years and my husband cared for me. When I first stepped out of my bedroom and back into the house it looked like a hoarders house. Slowly over time I declutterred but I never asked him to and I don’t ask him to do any tidying any more. I accept that he does not care if the house is tidy and I do - therefore I do the tidying. And I leave the things he cares about to him. And it works like a dream.
Thanks for this. I just paused this video and messaged my husband to let him know how grateful I am for all his efforts. It's really the small things that matter. After 2 years of marriage I forgot all the sweet things we did for each other. We need to make a conscious effort to keep the spark going.
This video came at the PERFECT time ❤️ my boyfriend (soon fiancé 😉) were just talking about how we didn’t feel connected with one another. I’ll definitely be using these tips! THANK YOU
My husband love language is physical touch and he’s a kisser. I’m not so the kissing 30 seconds is a great idea! My husband so good to me so he deserves the kisses.
Have you come across the book Cupid’s poisoned arrow?
My husband and I do “Cheeseball Friday” and every Friday we send one another an incredibly cheesy text telling the other how we feel and what we appreciate about the other as well as how proud we are of each other. I look forward to these texts and even more so look forward to the butterflies in my stomach feeling when I see a text from him through the day💕 I always try to think of it this way: You never know how much time you have with one another and I’d rather spend that time blissfully in love and happy than holding a grudge. It’s best to let things go, unless of course it’s something that is going to build and build due to other underlining issues. That’s a different story of course.😊
I'm not married but I've been in a relationship for coming up on 3 weeks. We've had a tough go lately, and I absolutely loved this video. Thank you Delilah! I'd love to see more of these intentional videos on self growth/ spousal growth or family growth:)
It's funny how everyone in the comments is going off about their husbands leave their clothes around. I am just as bad as my husband with leaving my clothes on the floor. I dont mind picking up his clothes along with mine. I find great satisfaction from him coming home from work and having our room and house picked up.
SAME! Finally!! Thought I'd never find another person not mad about the clothes haha I really don't mind and if I'm truly honest with myself, I'm worse than he is about it!
Same:)
My husband is so messy and I have ocd lol. I'm in a constant state of distress but he's my soul mate 😅😭😭😭😭
I've been with my husband for 17 years, we married 7 years ago and our love just gets stronger. We do share love languages. We are finally having a baby, and I expect big changes. Looking forward to seeing us grow and get pushed to our breaking point, we really need this challenge. By the way, most people have more than 1 love language. My husband and I both have physical touch but I also have quality time and he has acts of service.
Interesting to hear your perspective. My husband and I have been married 30 years and are recently empty nesters. We are having lots of fun together rekindling and reconnecting. I’m focused on letting go of past stuff and paying more attention to him. He’s slowly coming around! ;)
The love notes suggestion really struck a chord, thanks Delilah. My grandparents, who have since passed, wrote each other notes in the last decade of their relationship and Im remembering how much they made my grandmother happy
Great video! These tips are key to keeping a marriage in tact and fresh. Been married for 38 years and are always working to keep things smooth. You've doing a great thing in summarizing and explaining the importance of emotional intimacy. Thank you! Wonderful to have come across your video!
Some of these feel like common sense, and then there are some where I went.....”oh yea, that common sense I forgot about.” So helpful and uplifting. Thank you
Downloaded this for when I need a reminder. I’ll also straight up ask him if he feels loved, understood and taken care of. That usually brings a healthy conversation of where we are at in our relationship
Generally good tips, but “stop nagging and deal with it” sounds like a real good way to build up resentment and hatred. It puts the burden of problem on one partner when both parties should participate in solving it. Whenever my partner and I have a disagreement, we have a “cool down” period and then discuss potential solutions together to address the problem. It’s worked for us so far and we’ve been together for 8 years. 💖
My wife and I traveled a lot when we got married! Disney’ cruise! Until we were in our‘late 20’s we started getting in adoption! We adopted two girls! Thank you 🙏 so w for sharing your story
Love those advices! My favorite is pillow talk because I do start them all the time! 😅 But for almost a year we didn’t have them in our bed because we are bed sharing with our baby. Although, we do them outside our bed now most of the time laying on a couch or even on a floor. 😅 The only thing I would add. Postpone a talk with husband when emotions are out off control or angry... something that might lead to a fight. Wait, ask husband to wait till calm down and then talk.😊
Great advice! I've been married two years and we lived together a year before that (I know, not super biblical, but we are growing in faith together). I absolutely love being married to my husband but in the very beginning, oh my gosh I thought our problems were insurmountable, but now I can't even remember what they were. And what changed was, I read The Surrendered Wife by Laura Doyle and it totally changed my nagging behavior and my own mentality about my discontentment, like you were saying. I really recommend it! She has a ton of practical tips for what to say in situations and how to approach things and she's such a genius.
I really needed to hear this today! I’ve been married almost 2 years now and my husband and I have a newborn. And I can definitely tell that the original “spark” has diminished. I will definitely be trying these to get that back with him. Just watching the video with each tip I could think of something he does for me or what I could do for him❤️ Love your channel and this style of video. Would love to see more sit down videos like this!
Did it get better???
Few things I do to serve my partner/efforts I make for our relationship:
- Cook his favorite meal for his lunchbox
- Prepare his coffee every night for the next morning (he wakes up super early)
- get him a magazine whenever I cross a bookstore
- put on a dress : I know he loves it
- saying thank you, for being part of my life
- let him know that I will always be there for him and will support him
What does he do for you?
I like your name!!! Is that your real name?! I've never met another victory!!!
We're getting some cube storage for the clothes situation. I have a cube storage on my side I like to put my used but not dirty clothes, and we're getting one for him as well. He doesn't throw them on the floor, but he puts them on an empty bookshelf and it looks junky. The cube storage is a good medium between being organized and having easy access to the clothes. We do a similar thing with leftover containers. They sit on different shelves with dividers, partially stacked, with their tops under or on top. Finding your style of organizing is very important! My husband is very organized, and we were able to buy (mostly from goodwill) plastic drawers, dividers, baskets, for our items that work for us.
My husband and I do a lot of that already. We leave little messages on our mirrors for eachother (he’s definitely more consistent). I try to make him/buy him tasty treats whenever I’m out and about. We hug for at least thirty seconds as well a day as well. It’s the little things in life.
You know, we lived together unmarried for years and long story short I had a religious awakening and I came out and told him I need time to get to know Christ and to focus on Him and my relationship with Him first and foremost and that I couldn't stay in a relationship with a person where Jesus wasn't #1 in both our lives. He agreed with me, was all for it, even agreed we should stop being intimate until we were actually married. In that moment I was more in love with him than ever before because he was so willing to listen to me about something so many would have brushed off. To even agree with me and be willing to try. I was blown away and so thankful. I was ready to lose my best friend because I knew I needed Christ more. He told me he had been having the same feelings but just had no idea how to tell me.
That was last Aug. We found a church we love, got married there, got baptized and now we are having our first baby together and we've both talked about how much more in love we are than ever. True, deep love. It's amazing.
The Holy Spirit helped us save our marriage.
A lot of your tips are things I had started doing as well once we did get married.
Awesome video 🙂 you're awesome.
Carlie Flowers same thing happened for my husband and I. God is the glue and keeps me humble and accountable for my actions. I have a new found appreciation for men, motherhood, and family.
Thank you. I needed this. And I’m so glad you mentioned to start off small. I was about the do them all at once and felt overwhelmed. Pillow talk hit me hard ❤️
Thank you for making this video. I did not grow up with any healthy-marriage role models and its honestly terrifying to think about doing all this. Thanks for the advice
Thank you for this great thought-trough list. I'm married one year now and I don't feel like the spark has faded, but it's a good reminder to never sneakingly let it get to that point. And even if, I can still get it back. I tell my husband that I live him like 10 times a day. Seems exessive but I just need to because he does so much for me and I appreciate him so much.
So helpful! I have only been married 3 weeks and it's so helpful to know these things early on
Congrats!!!🎉🎉
as much as your vlogs bring me joy i absolutely love these sit down videos! you have such good advice and i really enjoy the mix of content on your channel
I've been working on setting goals (daily, weekly, or long term) and verbalizing them with my wife. I've made it a daily goal to text her throughout my work day and since she works night shift, the goal there is to call her in the evening before I get ready for bed. This has been working great and long term, my goal is to maintain it all. Oh, and I'm look at potential date nights and scheduling them with her. Thank you for these reminders. I really liked the pillow talk and sharing who we've been talking to.
Thank you. I wish I had watched this before my 15-year relationship ended 😢. We'd still be together
This seemed very genuine and overall very sweet. Wow. That sort of voluntary service reasonability and empathy rare in in many modern marriages. Whatever kind of magic your relationship is founded on that feeds yalls trust and love its amazing and hope it stays strong and inspirational.
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I agree mostly with you. But I will never clean up after my boyfriend! No matter what it is. If it's not walking inside with dirty shoes or not leaving clothes lying around. I will not take the role of his mom. He's a grown up man, he can do that alone. I ask him, to pick them up once or twice, I do not nag about it. If the clothes pile up, I will not put them away for him. He does it eventually, without me telling him because it will bother him after some time too.
The rest of your tips are definitely worth trying! 😉
I love that last line "never ever stop dating your spouse" love that!
I'm not married yet but almost engaged and I found this video really insightful. Your voice is so soothing to listen to, if you ever consider podcasting in the future that would be awesome. xx
Love this Video!
I am not married but I am in a relationship. I suffer from OCD and it worsens my relationships and I worry all the time. I got better and I try to better my communication with him now.
I am 13 years old but I just love to learn for my future😁💙
Sorry ,I am portuguese so my english isn't the best 😅
I'm also portuguese, your english is perfect 😄
I love to watch these videos too for my future! It’s all good! 😀
Never apologize for your second-language! ;) I am Brazilian and I moved to Canada, I used to apologize too, but don't do it
Your English is good, I'm learning Portuguese
I think most wives can relate to husbands leaving their clothes on the floor 😂
Vain of my absolute life. 🤦🏻♀️
Actually my Boyfriend is annoied by my Clothes on the ground
OMG yes! :D why do they do that ?! Cannot
Hack: My fiance really wanted a vacuum robot. Now he has to pick everything up, otherwise it will eat everything up :D
My fiancé and I both leave clothes on the floor lol but we have moments we want to clean so it’s like... never mind I’m just an imposter. A teenager in an adults body and so is he. We just have moments it’s all clean and moments that we both just say forget it I’ll fold clothes when I’m dead. There is no happy medium lol. Chaos and cleanliness, it’s a slippery slope.
Loved your video! Great stuff! I think during the pandemic, we did one night a week with no electronics, no tv, no phones. Instead we would put on our record player, put on a good song, and cook with each other and just talk all about how our day or week went, sometimes do a little slow dance, or rock out to some great music and then talk about our future goals we would like to accomplish doing the next couple of months.😁❤️. Good luck everyone. Marriage is not easy but it is very rewarding. Oh! And the 30second kiss it really works! I started kissing the hubby for a few more seconds and he started put his arms around me. Love hugs from my hubby..😁
These are really real. I too have learned these things in my long term relationship and they are huge game changers. Solid advice.
We always say thank you on everything and that is something my husband taught me while we were dating. I didn't understand why we had to say thank you for doing the dishes or making food because someone has to do it and it's for both of us, so why the need. But over time when one of us forget to say it (because we are tired from our newborn daughter), the other one remembers it in a sweet/funny/kind way and it even becomes a game or a joke. We have been saying thank you to each other I don't know how many times per day for more than 7 years and it's a great habit to have the fortifies our love
The clothes on the floor is such a conversation 😂😂😂 I intentionally bought a 4 compartment laundry basket with wheels🙂🥰 and it is working to keep clothes out of site.
we both used to put the clothes on the floor not just him.
All of these are really good tips. Me and my boyfriend have been together going on 11 years, got together when we were 14. We also have two children. We do all of these and I feel closer to him with every year that passes.
I'm not even married but I LOVE this! It's so important to be intentional in the way you live your life!
I have learned also that, taking on
90 % of the relationship makes things so your not disappointed especially in areas that shouldn't matter, clothes, dishes, etc.
Just do it, out of habit. Trust me, it comes eventually
This only should be done when your partner loves you back equally, or is equally willing to do the same. I feel like if you are in a negative relationship and your partner is not treating you right, you shouldn't do all these things. I mean yeah you shouldn't be together with that person, but if you are searching for ways to improve I don't believe that this is the best way in every relationship
Great tips. I will be watching it again with my husband 😂 We also have 2 little kids so I soooo understand what you are talking about! Thanks for the reminder ❤
I want to do these things, and I know it sounds selfish, but I'm afraid of pouring my heart back into him and this marriage and be met with nothing💔
We try to kiss each other goodnight every night and we kiss each other before he goes to work... I try to cook his favorite foods for him and he brings home my favorite takeout the nights I don't cook. It can be hard to keep up the excitement of being married after awhile but it's so worth it to keep trying...
Not married but in a LTR, my biggest struggle especially during lockdown times is remembering that the cleaning and cooking I do isn’t something I do for him it’s something I do for us and for me. He works and I’m laid off so we’ve both struggled with this idea that we do more than they do but making chores about me and my needs has helped a lot with that
My boyfriend does that exact thing!! “I’ll wear it tomorrow” LIKE NO
Authentically Abigail it’s a guy thing I think. My boyfriend also does this, but I never pass his side of the bed so it’s “out of sight out of mind” for me lol
I do it as well, and I'm sorry 😅
Get a separate basket for them! A “not quite clean, not quite dirty” basket. If they’re taking up space anyway, there’s space there for a basket, right? 😂
My boyfriend says the same thing 😭
My boyfriend used to do this too haha :) the solution for us here was to get a ladder shelf kinda thing where he would put his clothes :) so they are on there instead of the floor :)
Not married, but in a relationship for 6,5 years...so that's helpful, thanks!
I am 72.5 years old, and grieving our relationship; have been for couple years. In that time weve et anything,everything come between us. So, today I asked myself/the Lord" What can I do about this?" Typed in "how can I win back the passion of my wife?" You were the first result; and thankful for the 10 items you mentioned. Keep up the good work!
Wow! This is so sweet.
Very nice. I already implement these things into my relationship with my fiance and so does he. It does make a huge difference. We were both in bad relationships before we found eachother. I think our past experiences make us that much more grateful for eachother. One line that I would add to this video is "We're friends first." It is important to be friends with your significant other. This will be important in the long term. It takes the pressure off and transforms a spouse from being superman or superwoman back into a person. I think this holds true for now as well while the world is in isolation.
My partner travels for work, so he’s gone a lot. And I’m pregnant with our first. I’m starting to get into the habit of leaving little notes in his backpack, sometimes I’ll leave an ultrasound picture with it and tell him his “girls love and miss him”. He works nights, so he sleeps during the day and I try to send him little texts often as well to wake up to. I just try to make sure he knows he’s still in my thoughts and is loved and cherished, even when he’s across the country. I feel like we’ve gone back into a honeymoon phase and it’s really sweet. We’re high school sweethearts
That was a good one. You have inspired me to rekindle the spark in my marriage
If you searched this video I highly encourage marriage on the rock by Jimmy Evans. I almost read the entire book (well listened on audible) in one day. Hands down the best marital advice I've ever gotten from a book.
Love love this! Being on lockdown definitely puts everything in a different perspective. I will make more effort and go the extra mile my husband is the best I'm so blessed .
WOW as a wife married for almost two years I can relate to this soo much. We just recently noticed we do not invest as much as we used to. These tips will be soo helpful! Thank you very much. God bless you. Love all your content btw but this is one of my favourite videos. Live from Austria
A man right here, looking for this exact advice. I'm a single man, but got a dream of a girlfriend, and can't get enough of her. Today had the talk with her on what she's feeling seeing I've noticed a huge change in her body language. We have complications in our relationship cause of her x. They have kids together. Totally get along with her kids, just not him. Anyway ask what's up today and she says I don't give intimacy and she needs it in a relationship. Everything else is great I just don't do it cause I don't know it. Never had a girl I care for as much as her and my past relationships they have not showed intimacy with me. So was Totally clueless. Had ideas on what I have planned, but came here first pick and you nailed us. I am now watching for ideas to save me and her. Thank you for the advice and will be watching for more!!
Hi Delilah!! What a great video!! I’m 23 years old and have been married four and a half years as well, I have three children all under four and I’m a stay at home mom. Your videos are so interesting and entertaining!!
This is really good. I hope your marriage is as strong as your good information! Peace
I love this, and perfect timing for my marriage! I am trying to be more "girlie" and upkept for him.
Thank you for this video! Marriage is so important and I love to see how strong you two are together! ❤️💪🏽
Some of the best advice what Delilah talked about is: every day when you wake up, think about what you can do for your spouse/partner, ask yourself what you can do to make them have a better day. The little things really do add up. And if you need something, always always discuss that. If you don't, you'll end up holding it in and resenting your partner for not meeting your needs (emotionally, physically, help with things, whatever it is.)
And I've found that just doing little tasks for him so he doesn't have to makes him feel really loved and appreciated. Like, if he's laying down after work and worn out, I'll plug in his phone so he doesn't have to get up and do it, and he loves chocolate milk, so I'll make him some before he even asks for it and it seems to be a good way to show him I care. Just try to anticipate what they might need and try to do it before hand. For example, setting out his/her clothes in the morning (maybe this wouldn't work as well for a wife since most women don't want their husband choosing their clothing lol), do their laundry and hang it back up or whatever.
Thank you. Ive been married to my wife for 14 years and number 8 is imperative. Also dont hold resentment, communicate from the heart what your needs are, we all have needs. Try to hypothetically take up your spouses side in a disagreement and this will defuse or shorten arguments. we all have different upbringings and that should be respected. Our upbringing forms the way perceive things. The past is the devils playground . Look to the present and future. Fyi try this , power your phone off before you go to sleep and put it in another room. i did this for three nights and a saw a huge improvement in the quality of my sleep. On the fourth night i did not sleep good and i woke up and looked over and my wifes phone was on her night stand. since doing this i no longer have dreams that im at work all night long. And its gotten to where i noticed my sleep suffered one night where , my phone wasnt powered of and it was still in the next room. i just use a old phone for my alarm that is not connected.
Intimacy depends on happiness, and happiness requires intimacy. Once one or the other is lost, it's very hard to recover both.
This is amazing!! All of our babysitters have moved away so we have an “at home” date night once a week after we put our son to sleep! I look forward to it every week and we always have the best time!
All of these ideas are amazing though. Thank you so much for making this video!! 💗💗
My wife leaves dishes out to dry- makes the kitchen look messy even when it’s clean. I realized 10 years in, if it bugs me- then I can dry them and put them away. She hates unloading dishes- so I do that. We discuss the household stuff and divide and conquer based on the items that are important to us.
Recently we started alternating daily “mini dates”. It can be as simple as doing a yoga together, going on a walk, having a staring contest. But we alternate choosing what short activity we want to do together that day. It keeps us both feeling engaged and it’s fun to see what the other person wants to do on the daily.
I'm not in a relati9onship but I still enjoy watching such films. I find it very helpful for my future relationship. I have learnt that talking about emotions and everythingin life is very important in relationship. Thank you Delilah!
I'm a husband and i appreciate your tips.
Your style and style of your house is amazing! And thanks for your advice! I almost stopped doing such things, so right now I'm writing a love note.
Thank you, Delilah, for this video!! Great tips! We have been married 5 years and it's so easy to just let life get in the way of your marriage. Thanks for these reminders!
I’m a husband watching this, thank you!
Thank you for these tips. Since i gave birth we lost spark since im focused on my child so we always end up fighting I didnt know that he's trying to give love language while im not comfortable with it. Will take note of that next time
I’m on a similar boat. I changed a lot after giving birth and things we used to do I no longer enjoy. It put a real strain on the marriage
I’m getting married in August and want to go into it as prepared as possible, this was so helpful! 💗😘
look up Erotic blueprint, that's also a "love language"
Good luck 👍 💓
My wife and I will be celebrating 33 year anniversary tomorrow! Been together 35 years! In our marriage was intense with a lot of affection from her! She was so crazy about me! Abt intimacy! I miss that from her! I need and crave it from her!
20 years of marriage here, this is very helpful ❤
This video is SO relatable and helpful!! Thank you for being candid and sharing this. Can’t wait to try it!
Thank you for this video ! Something I’ve been wanting to hear for the past 2 years of a broken relationship.
Please become a councillor 💕