Husband Not Attractive Anymore? Before You Crush His Soul, Consider This.
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- Опубликовано: 23 авг 2024
- What do you do when you feel like you're no longer attracted to your husband?
If you feel like you are no longer attracted to your husband, do NOT tell him. At least not like that.
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There are two “worst” things that you can do when you no longer feel attracted to your husband. The first thing is to tell them. And the second-worst thing that you can do is not tell them. What do I mean? What are you supposed to do if you're not supposed to tell them, but you're not supposed to not tell them. Let me explain.
You're supposed to think about HOW you tell them.
Several years ago, I had a friend who was dating this guy, and they had started dating in winter. Summer came around, and it was time for them to start going to the pool with each other. So they did. And the first time they went to the pool together, he said to her, “You know, you would look so much better in that bathing suit if you lost 15 pounds.” Every woman watching this video just wanted to drop an elbow on that guy, right? Of course, you don't say that to someone! But how many times have you may have inadvertently said something similar like that to your husband, which automatically made him feel like he wasn't attractive, he wasn't good enough, and he wasn't loved?
You see, we DO need to address when we no longer feel attracted to our spouse. In this instance, we're talking about being attracted to our husbands. We need to address it, but not like that. Not in a way that will make them feel like they need to change how they look, how they act, or what they do for us to love them.
There's a different way to approach it that I promise will lead to much better end results.
Let's talk about it in this video.
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I need some help because my husband not only told me I wasn't attractive anymore due to my Wright gain buy he said as time went on his type changed and he wants to be with a Mexican woman with black hair and no freckles. I am white idk what to do. I can loose weight but not my race or skintone.
I went off birth control, and no one told me that it can stop attraction to your partner. So now I feel like I have an extremely low attraction and libido level towards my husband.
The day my wife tells me she is no longer attracted to me is the day I take a trip to the courthouse if you get what I mean
My wife was/is incredibly beautiful when i met her and married her and had two children and she's still my beautiful wife.
I can relate. My wife is still nice to look at in the morning after 21 years of marriage and with a teenage son.
That’s terrible…. My husband isn’t thin anymore but it’s what is inside that I love not his belly. The fact that he ignores me and is constantly on Facebook is what I am not attracted to anymore. I feel devalued :(( U are spot on!!
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@@bradsuing932 what is this?
@@bradsuing932 oh I’m not worried about it. If he don’t come around he can kiss my A$$!
@@ameliacarter7656 well, it is important to look into why is he more interested in FB than in yourself? Is there a cause that has made he loose interest in you? Because of all the things in the world I would prefer to share time and space with my wife instead of engaging in any other activity
This type of mature communication is essential to a healthy marriage. We're coming up on 10yrs and it was learning to approach difficult topics with curiosity and receptiveness to hearing hard truths that opened doors for us through some of the hardest things we've ever experienced. Don't give up on your marriage, take ownership of your needs and communicate them. Then be ready to partner, flex, and find compromises that show love and respect to each other. Can't advocate for this enough.
I’m a husband myself trying to get ahead before we get old and all this starts 😂😂
I feel horrible for saying this but my husband gained a lot of weight and I don't feel attracted to him at all. I love him as a person but I am not attracted to him
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He’s not your husband anymore.
What do you look like?
I never thought about looking at the physical attraction issue as a symptom to a deeper issue. After 20 years of marriage I have changed a lot. I'm no longer the same person I was and I'm no longer feeling connected to him for the same reasons I did in the earlier parts of our marriage. It makes me sad because there are parts of him that are so great. But then there's the parts of him where he makes me feel like I'm asking too much for him to put his phone down when I'm talking to him. It's hard to know when it's time to be done after you've spent so much time in life with a person.
Sometime a person gets caught up in the fear of the worlds weight (job, health, conditional love) when a spouse gets this way, I believe it would be best to communicate. That means listen to him. Men are so easy. If you give his world time and attention, you can direct him to do anything for you and your family.
The thing that never gets talked about is the fact that we all have influence of our attractiveness.
People can actually lose weight, improve their skin, and shape their body in a way to increase attractiveness.
Not being physically attractive is not a big deal because you can in fact do something about it.
Agree
You're a man.
I lost 40 pounds after my husband's affair and he still wouldn't touch me. I have gotten sick of it and now im eating again.
@@woolzem I send positive vibes that you will seek the role of Victor and not Victim. May Peace be with You.
Love hurts because you have heart.
You are awesome and you know it.
So shut down the pity party and rise up girl. Because a woman with heart, is a woman that good men want.
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I don't know about women but most men may not be attracted to their partners for more than very shorter period. Monogamy is so boring and this is why people (I think women too) dont carry the same excitement for their same partners over the life
I lost attraction for my husband because he is abusive and after menopause we lose the love hormone oxytocin.
The approach you spoke about don't always work, speaking from experience (even with the best tone of voice).
I’m tired of it all honestly. His behavior is turning me off.
For reference, what is he doing?
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Agree the behavior
I actually think it's the opposite....he is smothering me and being too clingy and it's a turn off
I think he wants to bond but if it is too much you all just need to talk communication is the key to a good relationship drop those egos and work it out
Ive just binge watched a tonne of marriage guidance vieos. Most of them made me feel like im to blame to becsuse he pushed me into marriage i went along with it. But your the one unpicking things and making it make sense thankyou
This is 100% spot on and accurate.
1)physically 2)intellectually 3)emotionally 4)spiritually. What about success/status. Is it ok to reduce a partner down to a success/status object?
You have to view your husband as a leader and an alpha. Once you stop seeing him that way it’s over.
lol no i want an equal not a leader-men arnt meant to lead imo; most physical attraction i ever felt for my partner is when i saw them as an equal..if you devalue yourself then you are not owning your power and will suffer in the relationship. Vast majority of men are not fit for any sort of leadership role and the ones that seek to be "alpha" lol are the worst of men.
If he doesn't want to act like one then what
Then his male role models need to get involved. "Hey Bro , your lady is really hot. You better step up your game. Be the most manly man you can be !" etc.,etc.
Would help if he got off the couch and initiated anything
Not everyone wants a leader or an alpha. A lot of us want an equal.
Too late, I’ve told him…
I told mine too.. he literally let him self go these past 2yrs.
I tried to listen carefully (lol right?) but one reason I DIDN'T hear, is that something changed in HER. Maybe his kind words weren't good enough anymore or his cards and notes didn't measure up. Who knows what (unspoken) changes are happening inside of her?
Thanks for not saying....wait for your husband to scramble around for the solution.
My wife choose the direct way to tell me, without telling me what she wished for herself or me. I cannot improve/change anything which I don't know what is, and she's not doing anything to solve it in her ball court.
What if we were never physically attracted at all, but emotionally attracted …and then he betrayed me so now he’s not attractive at all
I believe you SHOULD tell him that you're not currently attracted to him. If he is reasonable, he will discuss it with you. People should stop being so sensitive and more honest. I don't want "sweet little lies". Keep it real!
@@dianapennell383 Hubby inbthe relationship here. And you are 100% correct. If my wife told me that, I could deal with it. Rectify the situation, myself, whatever works needs doing, or at least have it out in the open that it's over.
But what I get is "i don't have time for you." "I dont have the room for you anymore." But she has time and room for tiktok, FB, messaging people from work at all hours, bit no room for the guy sitting beside her.
That's the worst. I'd rather know one way or the other, not endless limbo.
I'm not married but my partner is bald and it really turns me off. I know that he can't help it but i can't help the lack of attraction. Especially since he has a head shape that is not very flattering and i get attention from attractive men. It sounds harsh but it is true and i do turn them down and stay faithful
Trying licking his bald head and see if it taste like candy.
@@myballsitchsomethingfierce6319 more like oil
Men will always sleep with you but very few will commit. Don’t confuse the two. Look up Dating at your age on RUclips and watch the train wreck. Stop seeking other mens attention.
@@neomaja3102 in well aware of what's out there and I see the videos and comments of what these boys that are my age really think. I don't seek their attention, i just get it. Like i said, i stay faithful but i relate to the feeling of losing attraction. You tried tho
Is he rich?
Why is this video got two thumbs down the video hasn't even started yet.
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What's the point of that marriage be friends
Its a really great one. What if im not even sure if i still want to make the approach. There is so strong of thie resistance is not supporting me to go for the steps. It seems like every one of my approaches is an perfect opportunity for him to convince me im the one should to be blamed. Which i have already found out we are already so far away on the mindset level.
Spend more time together, do more chores around the house, go for walks together, hit the gym and diet…I’ve done it all it doesn’t work. The big thing you never mentioned is emasculation. Women over yrs of a marriage can emasculate their man and eventually think about them more like a friend or partner and not a lover.
This all just seems like so much work for the woman! Geesh!!
Wrong . Tell him it's not fair to him.
...Why is the emphasis here on her telling him what she needs from him? Why isn't she also in turn asking him what he needs from her? What is this one-way street nonsense?
I'm not attracted to mine anymore but it's his karma so I don't care anymore
I agree
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We used to be happy and adventerous before then she start getting cold stop having s*x with me. We something have s*x but it feels like an obligation to her. She just lie down and let you do then stand up and go to sleep. I'm a good dad and responsible dad but her action makes me feel inadequate.
My guy has just been so mean to me so many times that like mentally I’m so checked out and he says he will stop blowing up on me but he always does it
And now several years in, I’m just dead inside
Don't allow anymore to make you feel this way. Start to respect yourself and get out
What is ur advice for the husband who’s wife says I’m just not in love with u anymore and they have lost there attraction to u and u have been really good to her and supported and helped her. They nitpick every thing u do. But never address there foughts
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You don't simp, cut your losses and divorce her. Move on with your life don't waste your life pleasing and chase a women who is probably disgusted by you. the more you try and beg her the more she thinks your low value that she can do better. Move on
Good advice.
And as you indirectly hinted at, it SHOULD apply to both genders (theoretically).
FACT: in general (and yes, there are exceptions, however, they are exceptions), women (particularly western women) tend to be extremely direct and harsh when they express to their man, their dissatisfaction about him.
Women feel as if they have a license to mouth off ("women's prorogative" or entitlement) and to speak whatever is on her mind, at any given moment. Even when it hurts others (low social skills and, an absent brain filter).
On the other hand, men are forced to have to walk on eggshells when expressing their needs to their mate, or else, serious penalties can come down the road by her withholding sex, ignoring him, and or stripping him of all his hard earned possessions in court and taking his kids away. Sick. What kind of moral compass is that? Destroying families and robbing their children the right to be raised by a father and a mother.
FACT: Woman also have a harder time accepting positive criticism, even when a man emotionally cushions his statements by perfuming them with lots of sweetly scented words. Childish.
FACT: men are more willingly work on their relationship, even if he isn't "feeling it" at the time. He knows his feelings can change for the better. But when a woman ain't "feeling it" no moe, look out. Her willingness to work on the relationship goes out the door and everyone (especially the kids) pays the price for when she selfishly decides to terminate her marriage.
As I said, there are exceptions. There are some high quality women who don't do this, but they are becoming more and more the exception.
I say all this with kindness.
No it is not a fact that men more willingly work on their relationship. Ask couples, lots of couples.
If a man isn't feeling it for his wife, he looks at porn, other women, coworkers, he flirts, he uses thoughts of all of these and secretly jerks himself off and gives up on his wife. Most men can't be bothered to find out how to make their wives cum, have an orgasm, be aroused, etc. Ask the women of men who say their wives won't have sex with them. They give up on sex with their husbands because their husbands can't be bothered to work on their relationship. You are not accurate when you say men know their feelings can change for the better, men give up and seek pleasure elsewhere like I said above. If men were willing like you said they would care enough to make sure that their women/wives enjoyed sex and had orgasms. Believe me, if their husbands gave them orgasms every time they had sex their wives would want sex all the time like I do.
Its not all the woman's fault, couples like you describe don't know how to communicate with each other about their sex life and intimacy.
Reading your comments above sound like you have a chip on your shoulder towards women, I hope you get to a place where are comfortable enough with women to discuss their sexual pleasure with them. Honest, open communication is such a gift to have. It makes life enjoyable and happy.
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My wife has not been attracted to me for a year not sure what to do anymore
Get another wife
Have you asked her? If so, are her suggestions reasonable?
We get into the same fight as things are getting close to get together every time it's been going on like this for a year it's a horrible feeling to be unloved unwanted and not able to work things out, we go on trips out to dinner and it's always her rejection that upsetting and then she fights for weeks
And she tells me to act normal how do you act normal when the person you love rejects you and pushes you away for a year
Do what you can to feel better with yourself, read, new hobby, exercise, eat healthy, dress nice to Your standards, be positive, nice & polite. If you value and love yourself it is more likely people will see your potencial and value.
My husband has told me multiple times about my body not being his preferred type.
He said he doesn’t like my stomach or my breast.
How do I get past him not being attracted to me physically
Start working out.
Have you talked to him about it? He honestly might not realize he's saying things that hurt you.
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It’s literally his face 😭
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You realize you just blame the guy in this video and assume the woman isn't just shallow
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I need to catch up at the end of each day
Why are people so offended with being told to lose weight? Why be so sensitive about it? Just go lose some weight. There are a plethora of ways to do it.
I wonder the same.. I'm naturally skinny and why it's OK to tell me to gain some weight but offensive to tell someone to lose weight!?
🤷♀️ there's a plethora of medical issues that contribute to weight gain & a struggle to lose weight.
@@PrudenthermitThere are medical treatments for those issues.
Je ne fais pas d'attraction non je te cherche rien que de véritable amour que j'ai senti pour vous pas d'autres personnes ni autres non je certifie que seul vous que je sant l'amour ni quoique soit ok merci je comprend bien certain
NO such thing as love love is evol only opportunity
Pay attention young men don't fall for this trash. stay single. focus on yourself and only yourself nothing else matters. look how the ladies suffer, drop this garbage from your life. Keep you focus, never on relationships
You sound very toxic and the type of man both men and women should stay away from because of bitterness and toxicity.
@@dearbrave4183 feminist and masochist ruined the society young generations don't want to get married some even considering being single and just fool around. Another reason in financial issues
Mgtow.