CAROLYN ALEXANDER I totally agree with that!! When "they try to punish you"!! that can get ugly! binding, viscious cycles all kind of things come along with a Man or woman trying to play God in the relationship!!!
Iyanla Vanzant...I LOVE YOU! When I hear people say that you are arrogant...they simply do not understand your journey and just how much you have been through to obtain the WISDOM and knowledge that you have about love and relationships. I respect you wholeheartedly and thank you for sharing your overflow with us! xoxoxoxo
I'm in a broken relationship and I want it to heal, however we both don't communicate well and easily get angry with each other which leads to disrespect and neglect. I'm so grateful for your advice and video. I am therefore willing to try and do my part for our relationship to work.
I had a problem with my boyfriend six months ago, which lead to our breakup. I felt so empty inside. Until a friend of mine told me about one spell caster called Dr Adanike that helped her also with the same problem too. So i quickly contacted Dr Adanike and I told him my problem and he did gave me instructions and guide lines of his spell casting.. And after 24 hours, my boyfriend gave me a call and he came back to me and told me he was sorry for everything that he made me go through.. now i am back to my ex boyfriend and we are living happily together.. thank you so much Dr Adanike for bringing joy and happiness to my life. WhatsApp her now with this number, (+2348027492333)
Everyone wanted to be told to leave the relationship 😂 That's why she said most people won't be willing to do the work. Even I would like to throw in the towel. But i think it's good to exhaust every option, because, as Iyanla always says in her show, we have patterns that need to be disrupted. If we don't identify, disrupt, and uproot the patterns that may be destroying our loveship...it will meet us again in the next loveship relationship. We have to do the work, if not for our current relationships, for our future relationships and for ourselves.
Thank you!!! I know you made this comment a yr ago but I'm listening now and ur right!! Ur comment gave me the courage to"do the work" for my next relationship!! Thanks again 🙂🙏
I agree I keep going through the same thing over and over again When I actually found what I asked God to send me in a man I didn’t know how to except the love this man is Clearly showing me…. My friend last night told me to leave it alone DONT go back it was my fault ….
after listening to your entire message I had so many questions on how to address a person that refuses to acknowledge their bad behavior and always called you too emotional. tThe end of your message was the answer that I needed plain and simple. Charity must begin at home. ln other words it starts with me doing my part and I will know when it's time to let go. Thank you for such great insight.
Yes my sister. I was there, stuck in my grief, wanting to let go one minute, the next not so much. It was driving me crazy! No! I was driving me crazy! Now, I am ready to do the hard work, healing work. I am so grateful to Holy Spirit guiding me to Breeny Lee’s channel on broken relationship healing. She suggested Iyanla’s ‘relationship autopsy’. POWERFUL! From there I am here. Ready to do the real work, not remaining stuck in my fantasizing the relationship. Now to part two. Thank you Iyanla for sharing gems! Thank you community. Your comments assist in the healing process as well. And to little Fonda, we can and will get thru to the other side, from darkness of pain to the light of joy.
I had a problem with my boyfriend six months ago, which lead to our breakup. I felt so empty inside. Until a friend of mine told me about one spell caster called Dr Adanike that helped her also with the same problem too. So i quickly contacted Dr Adanike and I told him my problem and he did gave me instructions and guide lines of his spell casting.. And after 24 hours, my boyfriend gave me a call and he came back to me and told me he was sorry for everything that he made me go through.. now i am back to my ex boyfriend and we are living happily together.. thank you so much Dr Adanike for bringing joy and happiness to my life. WhatsApp her now with this number, (+2348027492333)
Auntie Iyanla!!! This is sooooooo good and on time. Nothing in my spirit fought this lesson. It resonates sooooo high with me. And confirms so much!! Thank you so much!! 😘😘😘
I used to do this often & it helped me avoid fixing myself. If you really care about the person just being honest that you need distance to heal yourself is better for both people. Shows you care about them enough to let them know whats going on & yourself enough to work on you. I must say that some very broken one sided relationships do require a complete ending for the better. This has been my own experience. Good luck on your journey.🙏✨💜
i love how all your videos make me feel empowered to take action, to self analyse and reflect.. please keep posting more videos like this, you're definitely becoming one of my favorite channels here on youtube. thank you for sharing your wisdom
I love how her focus is on the spirit of the relationship and the responsibility falls on both individuals to maintain it and does not include material items.
I’m 26 and have 5 little ones with my middle school sweetheart. He is my first and only everything. I think that is so precious and I do love him. We did have the kids quite young and that came with a lot of financial issues as well as immaturity. Now , both of us being 26 I feel so overwhelmed and frustrated with the relationship. In a way I want nothing else but to grow old with him, but on the other hand, I feel it in my gut that we aren’t going to make it. It saddens me to say the least, not only for my family and kids, but because how much time and love went into the relationship in the first place. I am at the point where I am praying 🙏🏽 every night for God to guide me in the right path, to show me the right way. I do try to be my best me, but I do fail at times and I know it. It’s difficult. 😪
Be always blessed, God bless your heart for being my strength, my company in hope during the most horrible time of my life... all my gratitude goes towards you. Dr Michaela Cirpa- Rimania.
This is my first video I've watched. I'm grateful for you and your wisdom. I'm broken and I have broken relationships. With family and those I thought were my friends. I'm sad. I need help with letting people go and not ALWAYS blaming me for them walking away. I always think I've done something to make someone leave. Where do I begin and how to I begin to deal with me and this issue? Thank you
1) Do Iyanla's personal inventory 2) confess and ask for forgiveness 3) PRAY for healing. Hope this helps. I am ready to DO THE WORK to heal my broken relationship.
My issue is discerning a broken relationship from a dysfunctional relationship. I’m willing to do the work for a healthy relationship not for continued dysfunction. Lord help me!!
Thank you, I'm going to keep listening and do the work.Im not in a relationship but it's good advice next .Tuesday is for me and my family . See you next week.
This is just a sign of just an abuser partner. I had to leave my ex thank God I got out of four years of friendship . He just brought up trash that needed to be left there.
Thank you for this.... It resonates perfectly. I am so grateful for your lessons. You are that favourite AUNT who is so wise and insightful. You hold my hand when I need it and whack me upside the head when I am being dumb. ((HUGS))
My relationship is so broken after 15 years. Haven't held hands or kissed in 10 years. We are in our 30's. No kids. Sex is blah. Husband went through long term sickness which turned into depression, I've been the bread winner for 9 years so I'm stuck.
Our marriage is in breakdown but it is not broken. I have faith that we can reconstruct our marriage. It will be a journey but I wouldn't want to go on this journey with anyone else but him. I recently confessed to him that I know I lack effective communication skills. I have to be open, because I have the tendency to shut down which is immature!
My Broken relationship is on life support with an Autism child in the middle we live together... how can i heal my relationship cause she means the world to me I don't do urgument but during a disagreement I just speak on what just happens no more no less but she gets extra ugly every time and bring up things that happens 6 years ago. Instead of going head to head with I rather say nothing and let her say what she have to say and call it a day...... I NEED HELP BADLY
I can recommend you to someone powerful who was able to bring back my ex wife and it works very fast and I believe he can solve your relationship problems 🙏🙏🙏
Thanks you for sharing your wisdom. Thank you for preparing this beautiful ministry. I'm in a dying relationship. I am in danger if becoming bitter if I don't put it in God's hands. God bless your ministry. ❤
I'm crying while watching this. Every single word you described about a broken relationship is EXACTLY TO THE LETTER what is up with my current SO. I've thought about ending the relationship, but I still love him. I'm just worried he doesn't anymore. But this video helped give me the resolve I need to try and reach out to him one last time.
Thank you and God bless you, am at a point that I absolutely don't understand anything about the real way of staying in relationship of promises that never manifested but is rather accused.
You will do my marriage because I’ll love my future husband so much that I’ll be ready to do the best to make it work and I trust your homeworks enough to help us do our best... Plus your helped me a lot in me trying to love and accept myself as a whole. I love you and I thank you p
Iyanla, you are America's mother! Your love and wisdom is SO powerful, it has the power to cure us from all hurt! I truly take pride in listening to your advice and I hope to grow to be just like you! THANK YOU!
Hello Iyanla, I am watching this video today. How do we heal our relationship? The video just described my situation. I want to save my relationship, I am 27, and we have been dating for over 6 years now we have 2 beautiful kids.
Thank you for your message, always spirit lifting and inspiring. This can be difficult but when you pray, the Holy Spirit makes it easy. God bless you Iyanla.
Been cheated on many times and forgave. Tried to keep my family together. Now, I’m so broken and needs courage to let go and heal. May God help me to be whole again.
thank you for this! I've been listening and reading a lot of your works about healing and moving on for a few years now and finding myself applying what I understand to my particular situation. this is where I'm still at in my life currently, working on the healing of relationships with family, extended family,etc. hearing this this morning helped me because I felt myself starting to doubt me and my position in trying to assess and mend what is still a complex relationship for the better but I'm now seeing I'm the only one doing any work.
Yes I am heading right now I don't have any of the loop I don't think no want to see me right now. I need company. I will like to meet up with you tomorrow afternoon if you want to come in the morning I can call you tomorrow or you can call me back. I apologize if I did anything to get any upset.
Iyanla, thank you so much for this video. I have been having relationship challenges that I have had no idea how to deal with. The prayer at the end gave me a really good place to start. I like what you said about not being lazy. I want to muster up the strength and the wherewithall to try "one more gin." You showed me how to do that. Thank you.
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Before I seen this i was ready to pull up on the other women and beat her down I know that's not smart but emotions can go crazy im gonna do the steps and pray and not make matters worse
It sure does sound like it and I'm liking it too. you took the words right out of my mouth I wanted to say that but I didn't. I sure would like to know though 😊
Hello I recommend you to Dr James do you need help to make sure your relationship is fully secured,no cheats, banishing third party,make your love think of you non stop,I advice you seek help from him
I like the way this Lady speaks, needed this now to begin my journey. Just separated, realizing that I may have not been the man she needed. So I ask for forgiveness! Don't know if the relationship will make it or not but now know I must do my part to heal and forgive both myself and her. We have known each other for 30 years and married for 28 years, two daughters who are now grown. I have prayed and ask God to be a comfort to her as He works on me. My feeling and emotional state is all over the scale, disappointment, anger, confusion, sadness, depression, love and yes still some hope. Don't know what to do or say anymore. I just know I need to work on me. Keep me in your prayers and Thank you for these words of LOVE! 💔
I was online listening to Iyanla on Tamron Hall Shop and learn about this "R Spot". I wish you come to my house to solve the bitter relationship with my relative. Yes, I apologized; I fast & prayed and sit and talked to one but no resolution.
Loved listening to you mam. I am so grateful to god that i came across this video of yours. Such a Soul healer you are. Your words have changed my thinking. Cant thank you enough. Thank u so much .
I love this episode. My main problem is the fact that my partner thinks that we don't have issues and it's all in my head. I have no idea what I am doing wrong. I asked so many times "Tell me, what I can do to make things better? What would you like me to change or work on?" the response is always the same: "I am happy" end of conversation. He doesn't communicate, lie...and usually gives me "the silent treatment" until I break down I go to apologize about something that it's not even my fault. My question is HOW to work on myself when I have no idea what I am doing wrong???
Thank you Iyanla, I really feel appreciative of your openness and honesty during your informational Inspirational guidance to begin a better Shannin I come to listen and learn how to fix myself in a healthier way I love your womanliness I love how you turn things inside out to teach me to self correct which I LOVE the most you are a tremendous HELP to what I've learned from my family up bringing only through mom and dads actions taught me without WORDS except for when I did wrong there was words and only then or if I asked questions only then were their words or when there was arguments between mom and dad or fist fights were there words spoken I learned mostly by what I seen not by words spoken directly to me the family was action based very little communication there's a total of seven four girls and three boys I am the baby however I've been leaned on by all my siblings none of them ever sat me down to have a conversation based on life standards values stability security love relationships the right way or wrong way learned by watching everyone's good and bad behaviors by my mothers first she spoke only to address her anger and sometimes her happiness by singing she could sing like a bird my dad left when I was 7 yrs old I learned what love was silently expressed by mommy my father wasn't there at all and my brothers told me to note date their friends that's it coming across your RUclips channel was no accident I AM GRATEFUL for any and all learnings teachings I feel privileged to know who you are ☺ I always come away from a episode with more knowledge into a better Shannin and your help in fixing Shannin's life 🤗 ♥
Hello Miss Vanzant, i hope you are doing great. I am a big fan of your work. I just left a relationship of 2 years. And besides all of the common feelings like sadness and anger there is one strong emotion that i feel which is feeling sorry. I feel so sorry for my ex, that i ended the relationship, i feel sorry for his heart, for our memories. And i dont know what to do about these emotions. There is a part of me that knows the relationship could have never worked. But still...i feel like i left a small boy out in the streets and it is my fault whatever he feels. Maybe you will read this and get back to the topic in any way. Thank you
I found you only yesterday and already I just adore you. Listening to you is like listening to a relative or friend who just always has the perfect words of wisdom. I'm here on RUclips navigating my way through many help videos about relationships and you've quickly moved to the top of my list. I'm ending a 15 year live-in relationship that is dead and it's so difficult to do. We have no children or shared assets but it still feels like getting a divorce and I'm broken inside but I know that it's time to move on. His addictions, lack of time shared, and lack of intimacy (not sex but real moments of love shared) are killing me inside. We only get this ONE life to live and I have to go live mine now. I still have to tell him I'm leaving and I just don't know how to do it. I'm not angry, resentful or any of this. I just need to move on but the thought of hurting him is killing me inside. He can't handle discussing feelings EVER. We don't even argue because we can't discuss. If I try, he stonewalls me. I'm so very thankful for the years we shared and I do own my part in things as well. I also did pray so hard for guidance that not MY will but the will of God be done and it seems that the more I do this, the more clear it becomes that it's time for me to go. I have no idea of how this will play out but I'll be soaking up all of the wisdom from you (and my therapist) that I can. Thank you!
BROKEN RELATIONSHIPS TAKE UP TOO MUCH EMOTIONAL REAL ESTATE
CAROLYN ALEXANDER yes they do
Ugh, Don't it.
CAROLYN ALEXANDER I totally agree with that!! When "they try to punish you"!! that can get ugly! binding, viscious cycles all kind of things come along with a Man or woman trying to play God in the relationship!!!
CAROLYN ALEXANDER That's true!
Iyanla Vanzant...I LOVE YOU! When I hear people say that you are arrogant...they simply do not understand your journey and just how much you have been through to obtain the WISDOM and knowledge that you have about love and relationships. I respect you wholeheartedly and thank you for sharing your overflow with us! xoxoxoxo
The end was powerful...sometimes the healing means letting go!
How you do that
I'm in a broken relationship and I want it to heal, however we both don't communicate well and easily get angry with each other which leads to disrespect and neglect. I'm so grateful for your advice and video. I am therefore willing to try and do my part for our relationship to work.
I had a problem with my boyfriend six months ago, which lead to our breakup. I felt so empty inside. Until a friend of mine told me about one spell caster called Dr Adanike that helped her also with the same problem too. So i quickly contacted Dr Adanike and I told him my problem and he did gave me instructions and guide lines of his spell casting.. And after 24 hours, my boyfriend gave me a call and he came back to me and told me he was sorry for everything that he made me go through.. now i am back to my ex boyfriend and we are living happily together.. thank you so much Dr Adanike for bringing joy and happiness to my life. WhatsApp her now with this number, (+2348027492333)
Everyone wanted to be told to leave the relationship 😂 That's why she said most people won't be willing to do the work. Even I would like to throw in the towel. But i think it's good to exhaust every option, because, as Iyanla always says in her show, we have patterns that need to be disrupted. If we don't identify, disrupt, and uproot the patterns that may be destroying our loveship...it will meet us again in the next loveship relationship. We have to do the work, if not for our current relationships, for our future relationships and for ourselves.
Thank you!!! I know you made this comment a yr ago but I'm listening now and ur right!! Ur comment gave me the courage to"do the work" for my next relationship!! Thanks again 🙂🙏
I agree I keep going through the same thing over and over again When I actually found what I asked God to send me in a man I didn’t know how to except the love this man is Clearly showing me…. My friend last night told me to leave it alone DONT go back it was my fault ….
after listening to your entire message I had so many questions on how to address a person that refuses to acknowledge their bad behavior and always called you too emotional. tThe end of your message was the answer that I needed plain and simple. Charity must begin at home. ln other words it starts with me doing my part and I will know when it's time to let go. Thank you for such great insight.
Exactly where i am now.
A lot of people don't want to do any kind of work😩. Even if it means they'll get a better outcome out of something.
Yes my sister. I was there, stuck in my grief, wanting to let go one minute, the next not so much. It was driving me crazy! No! I was driving me crazy! Now, I am ready to do the hard work, healing work.
I am so grateful to Holy Spirit guiding me to Breeny Lee’s channel on broken relationship healing. She suggested Iyanla’s ‘relationship autopsy’. POWERFUL! From there I am here. Ready to do the real work, not remaining stuck in my fantasizing the relationship. Now to part two.
Thank you Iyanla for sharing gems! Thank you community. Your comments assist in the healing process as well. And to little Fonda, we can and will get thru to the other side, from darkness of pain to the light of joy.
Try meeting a narcissist 😢
Nikki Sheffield that’s who she described
If you’ve watched enough Iyanla videos on RUclips, you will see that she has met a many narcissists
Try being raised by a Malignant narcissist 😩😩😩😩😩😩😩😩😩😩😩
I had a problem with my boyfriend six months ago, which lead to our breakup. I felt so empty inside. Until a friend of mine told me about one spell caster called Dr Adanike that helped her also with the same problem too. So i quickly contacted Dr Adanike and I told him my problem and he did gave me instructions and guide lines of his spell casting.. And after 24 hours, my boyfriend gave me a call and he came back to me and told me he was sorry for everything that he made me go through.. now i am back to my ex boyfriend and we are living happily together.. thank you so much Dr Adanike for bringing joy and happiness to my life. WhatsApp her now with this number, (+2348027492333)
Auntie Iyanla!!! This is sooooooo good and on time. Nothing in my spirit fought this lesson. It resonates sooooo high with me. And confirms so much!! Thank you so much!! 😘😘😘
I heard 2 mins in and decided to end my broken relationship right now
Toya Inabinet how are you doing now?
I used to do this often & it helped me avoid fixing myself. If you really care about the person just being honest that you need distance to heal yourself is better for both people. Shows you care about them enough to let them know whats going on & yourself enough to work on you. I must say that some very broken one sided relationships do require a complete ending for the better. This has been my own experience. Good luck on your journey.🙏✨💜
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I am having my relationship is broken right now because it's some one is in it
I have spent months researching saving your partnership and discovered an awesome website at Pavs Partner Pundit (google it if you are interested)
Sometimes the healing means that you let go ❤
i must say, you are the MOTHER in case you're not aware that I've always needed to turn to for guidance. I love you, and thank you.
i love how all your videos make me feel empowered to take action, to self analyse and reflect.. please keep posting more videos like this, you're definitely becoming one of my favorite channels here on youtube. thank you for sharing your wisdom
one chilled girl Also here!
I'm so happy to find this channel. :)
Yep sometimes the jig is just up, time to let go & stay separated.
I was crying seen your comment and started cracking up
I love u momma iyanla you speak Truth
2018 my best year ever. . I only do things I like.I Am happy Divorced and free. Thank you Iyanla
I love how her focus is on the spirit of the relationship and the responsibility falls on both individuals to maintain it and does not include material items.
I’m 26 and have 5 little ones with my middle school sweetheart. He is my first and only everything. I think that is so precious and I do love him. We did have the kids quite young and that came with a lot of financial issues as well as immaturity. Now , both of us being 26 I feel so overwhelmed and frustrated with the relationship. In a way I want nothing else but to grow old with him, but on the other hand, I feel it in my gut that we aren’t going to make it. It saddens me to say the least, not only for my family and kids, but because how much time and love went into the relationship in the first place. I am at the point where I am praying 🙏🏽 every night for God to guide me in the right path, to show me the right way. I do try to be my best me, but I do fail at times and I know it. It’s difficult. 😪
I understand your pain I've been in my relationship 14yrs with 4 kids and trust me it hurts soooooo bad
Be always blessed, God bless your heart for being my strength, my company in hope during the most horrible time of my life... all my gratitude goes towards you. Dr Michaela Cirpa- Rimania.
Right now you're the momma I never had & I need your wisdom...Thank you so much...Ive been looking for this all of my life
Thank you lyanla it real to my spirit I would love to meet you and chat with you in the flesh 🌹🌹😇😇😇😇💜💜💜💜💜
This is my first video I've watched. I'm grateful for you and your wisdom. I'm broken and I have broken relationships. With family and those I thought were my friends. I'm sad. I need help with letting people go and not ALWAYS blaming me for them walking away. I always think I've done something to make someone leave. Where do I begin and how to I begin to deal with me and this issue?
Thank you
Wow...some of the best relationship advice I have ever heard in my life! Iyanla, you are awesome!
1) Do Iyanla's personal inventory
2) confess and ask for forgiveness
3) PRAY for healing.
Hope this helps. I am ready to DO THE WORK to heal my broken relationship.
My issue is discerning a broken relationship from a dysfunctional relationship. I’m willing to do the work for a healthy relationship not for continued dysfunction. Lord help me!!
For those in Narcissist relationships just RUN away secretly 💯
Your last step and how you described examples, was absolutely beautiful ❤
Thank you, I'm going to keep listening and do the work.Im not in a relationship but it's good advice next .Tuesday is for me and my family . See you next week.
This just made me realize I dont care anymore, im over it.
I'm curious, what was the end result?
I was willing but my partner/child’s father isn’t but this video is fulfilling
This is just a sign of just an abuser partner. I had to leave my ex thank God I got out of four years of friendship . He just brought up trash that needed to be left there.
Hi Iyanla , can you teach a deep course on healing with a focus mostly on men and the fatherless.
Thank you for this.... It resonates perfectly. I am so grateful for your lessons. You are that favourite AUNT who is so wise and insightful. You hold my hand when I need it and whack me upside the head when I am being dumb. ((HUGS))
So grateful for you ♥️
Thank you! This showed up in my timeline at the exact moment that I needed it again thank you God bless you
My relationship is so broken after 15 years. Haven't held hands or kissed in 10 years. We are in our 30's. No kids. Sex is blah. Husband went through long term sickness which turned into depression, I've been the bread winner for 9 years so I'm stuck.
I appreciate this talk very much. It resonates with me. Thank you 💕💕
Our marriage is in breakdown but it is not broken. I have faith that we can reconstruct our marriage. It will be a journey but I wouldn't want to go on this journey with anyone else but him. I recently confessed to him that I know I lack effective communication skills. I have to be open, because I have the tendency to shut down which is immature!
My Broken relationship is on life support with an Autism child in the middle we live together... how can i heal my relationship cause she means the world to me
I don't do urgument but during a disagreement I just speak on what just happens no more no less but she gets extra ugly every time and bring up things that happens 6 years ago. Instead of going head to head with I rather say nothing and let her say what she have to say and call it a day...... I NEED HELP BADLY
I can recommend you to someone powerful who was able to bring back my ex wife and it works very fast and I believe he can solve your relationship problems
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Thanks you for sharing your wisdom. Thank you for preparing this beautiful ministry. I'm in a dying relationship. I am in danger if becoming bitter if I don't put it in God's hands. God bless your ministry. ❤
Hello Iyanla thankyou for this Iam 22 from Western Australia I am a survivor of domestic violence with my father and his wife I am a singer songwriter
I love this advice. I will implement these techniques into my relationship starting today!! Thank you Ms. Vanzant
Ms.Iyanla is my SHERO!!!👐❤🦋❤🦋❤🦋❤💜
So true thank you so much.my friend and I spoke on this recently.
I'm crying while watching this. Every single word you described about a broken relationship is EXACTLY TO THE LETTER what is up with my current SO. I've thought about ending the relationship, but I still love him. I'm just worried he doesn't anymore. But this video helped give me the resolve I need to try and reach out to him one last time.
Thank you for this
Thank you and God bless you, am at a point that I absolutely don't understand anything about the real way of staying in relationship of promises that never manifested but is rather accused.
Happy New Year Iyanla Vanzant!!!
You will do my marriage because I’ll love my future husband so much that I’ll be ready to do the best to make it work and I trust your homeworks enough to help us do our best... Plus your helped me a lot in me trying to love and accept myself as a whole. I love you and I thank you p
Iyanla, you are America's mother! Your love and wisdom is SO powerful, it has the power to cure us from all hurt! I truly take pride in listening to your advice and I hope to grow to be just like you! THANK YOU!
Hello Iyanla, I am watching this video today. How do we heal our relationship? The video just described my situation. I want to save my relationship, I am 27, and we have been dating for over 6 years now we have 2 beautiful kids.
Thank you for your message, always spirit lifting and inspiring. This can be difficult but when you pray, the Holy Spirit makes it easy. God bless you Iyanla.
It simply impossible not to love her!! Love you, IYANLA!! 😍😍🤗🤗🤗
This is so great and relevant. I❤ all
Of The R Spot Videos but this one hit the sport today @2024 6 years later
Been cheated on many times and forgave. Tried to keep my family together. Now, I’m so broken and needs courage to let go and heal. May God help me to be whole again.
I love you teacher, mentor, and queen.
I recommend Dr Ehimare spellcaster to any one finding it hard to reconnect with their loved ones ,and fixing of broken relationship.
Come to Orlando for book tour!!!! ❤❤❤
thank you for this! I've been listening and reading a lot of your works about healing and moving on for a few years now and finding myself applying what I understand to my particular situation. this is where I'm still at in my life currently, working on the healing of relationships with family, extended family,etc. hearing this this morning helped me because I felt myself starting to doubt me and my position in trying to assess and mend what is still a complex relationship for the better but I'm now seeing I'm the only one doing any work.
Speak Miss Iyanla!!! Happy New Year and many blessings to you and your family ❤🎉🤗
Yes I am heading right now I don't have any of the loop I don't think no want to see me right now. I need company. I will like to meet up with you tomorrow afternoon if you want to come in the morning I can call you tomorrow or you can call me back. I apologize if I did anything to get any upset.
Iyanla, thank you so much for this video. I have been having relationship challenges that I have had no idea how to deal with. The prayer at the end gave me a really good place to start. I like what you said about not being lazy. I want to muster up the strength and the wherewithall to try "one more gin." You showed me how to do that. Thank you.
Just got my heart broken today by some one i dating and how can i heal my self and fix it...he were my new man and how he don't trust me
Your amazing, thank you, much love!
I’m doing what it takes to right my wrong I’m willing to fully engage in doing the wrk… we r not talking a bit more
Lord I’m the 2nd one it was all me I understand what I didn’t before ….
Wow this is very enlightening. I wish me and my woman watched this video long time ago. Broken relationships are hard from both ends.
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Before I seen this i was ready to pull up on the other women and beat her down I know that's not smart but emotions can go crazy im gonna do the steps and pray and not make matters worse
I am not sure what you mean by this. I am not in a relationship with a person right now I am single.
Who is that singing?? Is that Iyanla??
It sure does sound like it and I'm liking it too. you took the words right out of my mouth I wanted to say that but I didn't. I sure would like to know though 😊
Thank you sis
I look forward to your videos! You made Tuesday's so rewarding.
Omg! So on point!
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Thank God for you Iyanla...
This was realllly good. So much wisdom to gain. Thank you Iyanla❤
This is so practical I just love it !
Say whaaaaaaaaaaaattt!!! THE BEST INSPIRING VIDEO EVER when it comes to wanting and loving to save the relationship we’re in🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
This brought me to tears.
I'm so glad I found your r spot I love it all
I love you Iyanla i just love youuuu
This is really great advice....sheesh
I am in the second of the 2 relationships.
Is this to help or hurt a relationship... I’m sick uuuud... where her husband at
I like the way this Lady speaks, needed this now to begin my journey. Just separated, realizing that I may have not been the man she needed. So I ask for forgiveness! Don't know if the relationship will make it or not but now know I must do my part to heal and forgive both myself and her. We have known each other for 30 years and married for 28 years, two daughters who are now grown. I have prayed and ask God to be a comfort to her as He works on me. My feeling and emotional state is all over the scale, disappointment, anger, confusion, sadness, depression, love and yes still some hope. Don't know what to do or say anymore. I just know I need to work on me. Keep me in your prayers and Thank you for these words of LOVE! 💔
Hey Iyanla
How can I get hold of you?
I was online listening to Iyanla on Tamron Hall Shop and learn about this "R Spot". I wish you come to my house to solve the bitter relationship with my relative. Yes, I apologized; I fast & prayed and sit and talked to one but no resolution.
Story of my life and it ended badly.
Loved listening to you mam. I am so grateful to god that i came across this video of yours. Such a Soul healer you are. Your words have changed my thinking. Cant thank you enough. Thank u so much .
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Lady, You are a God sent!
I love this episode. My main problem is the fact that my partner thinks that we don't have issues and it's all in my head. I have no idea what I am doing wrong. I asked so many times "Tell me, what I can do to make things better? What would you like me to change or work on?" the response is always the same: "I am happy" end of conversation.
He doesn't communicate, lie...and usually gives me "the silent treatment" until I break down I go to apologize about something that it's not even my fault.
My question is HOW to work on myself when I have no idea what I am doing wrong???
Thank you Iyanla, I really feel appreciative of your openness and honesty during your informational Inspirational guidance to begin a better Shannin I come to listen and learn how to fix myself in a healthier way I love your womanliness I love how you turn things inside out to teach me to self correct which I LOVE the most you are a tremendous HELP to what I've learned from my family up bringing only through mom and dads actions taught me without WORDS except for when I did wrong there was words and only then or if I asked questions only then were their words or when there was arguments between mom and dad or fist fights were there words spoken I learned mostly by what I seen not by words spoken directly to me the family was action based very little communication there's a total of seven four girls and three boys I am the baby however I've been leaned on by all my siblings none of them ever sat me down to have a conversation based on life standards values stability security love relationships the right way or wrong way learned by watching everyone's good and bad behaviors by my mothers first she spoke only to address her anger and sometimes her happiness by singing she could sing like a bird my dad left when I was 7 yrs old I learned what love was silently expressed by mommy my father wasn't there at all and my brothers told me to note date their friends that's it coming across your RUclips channel was no accident I AM GRATEFUL for any and all learnings teachings I feel privileged to know who you are ☺ I always come away from a episode with more knowledge into a better Shannin and your help in fixing Shannin's life 🤗 ♥
Next one will be a good one
Mother Iyanla, thank you
May God make your life endless 🙏🏼 I’m grateful to meet you today 🙏🏼❤️
Hello Miss Vanzant, i hope you are doing great. I am a big fan of your work. I just left a relationship of 2 years. And besides all of the common feelings like sadness and anger there is one strong emotion that i feel which is feeling sorry. I feel so sorry for my ex, that i ended the relationship, i feel sorry for his heart, for our memories. And i dont know what to do about these emotions. There is a part of me that knows the relationship could have never worked. But still...i feel like i left a small boy out in the streets and it is my fault whatever he feels. Maybe you will read this and get back to the topic in any way. Thank you
Iyanla, I love you 10,000%
I found you only yesterday and already I just adore you. Listening to you is like listening to a relative or friend who just always has the perfect words of wisdom.
I'm here on RUclips navigating my way through many help videos about relationships and you've quickly moved to the top of my list. I'm ending a 15 year live-in relationship that is dead and it's so difficult to do. We have no children or shared assets but it still feels like getting a divorce and I'm broken inside but I know that it's time to move on. His addictions, lack of time shared, and lack of intimacy (not sex but real moments of love shared) are killing me inside. We only get this ONE life to live and I have to go live mine now.
I still have to tell him I'm leaving and I just don't know how to do it. I'm not angry, resentful or any of this. I just need to move on but the thought of hurting him is killing me inside. He can't handle discussing feelings EVER. We don't even argue because we can't discuss. If I try, he stonewalls me.
I'm so very thankful for the years we shared and I do own my part in things as well. I also did pray so hard for guidance that not MY will but the will of God be done and it seems that the more I do this, the more clear it becomes that it's time for me to go.
I have no idea of how this will play out but I'll be soaking up all of the wisdom from you (and my therapist) that I can. Thank you!
She hit on everything
She was talking about my relationship 😭😭