Don't settle. Make peace with aging. Don't second guess decisions. Don't compare to others. Growth/maturity is intellectual and emotional. Extend grace, remove malice. Be yourself, don't suppress yourself ...who am I at my core? ...how am I being perceived? ...how do I love to be perceived? It gets greater later
@@captain_context9991 There are more domains to life than intellectually fueled conversation, and I appreciate that Ted-Ed hosts various events among a bunch of fields.
@@captain_context9991 you can take away something from anything. Just because you think you already know or have heard it before doesn't mean you can't take away a good message from it. Sometimes even the simplest things, if explained by in different ways, hit you differently. You never know what will grab you. But maybe that's just my view on life. I'm not one of those people who think I know everything or disregard advice from people taking the time to give it. But you do you.
I am 37 and finally realizing that I have to invest in my self and mental health or else it will be my Demise. I have made drastic changes and by sticking to them and not feeling guilty I am definitely looking and feeling better.
At a time where we’re being told (especially as women) that you don’t matter after 25 and you should live for a man, or your children:This conversation is so necessary! Well done Bevy! 👏🏾
Raised by narcissistic parents mandated that I be who THEY wanted me to be, so knowing who my authentic self was all but impossible. I became a people pleaser with no clue how to please myself. At 57, I am hoping to be ‘greater later’. Thank you for your insight.
I turned 24 about two months ago, and since then I’ve been questioning my existence a lot. And I’m so happy with fact that now that I’m finally discovering my true authentic self I feel at peace, my anxiety levels went DOWN. I feel like I’ve been set free and I have this strong and intense love for myself that I can’t even explain. I’m very excited for what is yet to come.
In the most perfect timing, this came to me. I am certainly at a point in my life where I’m choosing me. I’m rediscovering what I love and advocating for myself and making choices without regret. It’s liberating and as always a journey of unknowns but I am certain that I will live my life and not be miserable!
Exactly how I feel at...(Wait for it)...67 y/o! I pray it's not to late. That, (that boat) has sailed. No more people-pleasing Dee! Done. Period, full stop.❤️
For years I wasn't true to myself; I've found out, with new perspective, that I didn't love myself. My life spiraled with alcoholism (my respite from self,) married an abusive man and found myself serving six months after trying to defend myself. What did a 33-year-old divorced felon, living back with her parents have to offer? Turns out, everything! I've been sober for nearly ten months, I'm on track to law school, will be starting my internship with the public defenders office, have returned to writing and editing as my hustle, highlighting my incredible strengths...but most of all, I know me. I know my fears were navigating my life, my relationships and my motivations. I feared it was too late but now I know everything happened at the right time. Thank you for this! Please keep passing on grace.
@@yu-a9596 this is a great question the truth is all one can do is portray yourself how you wish to be perceived.. if you wish to be perceived as hardworking - work hard if you wish to be perceived as confident be confident !!
@@yu-a9596 be that person wholeheartedly Which will require being vulnerable. But also understand that some people may never perceive you in a way you may want them to but its ok. That doesn't define who you are.
Have you read her book. Better yet, please invest on the Audible version. You will jot be disappointed. Aa a 54 yrs young woman, after listening to her, I slowly started to climb out of my somewhat reserved shell. Her book was a definite boost for me. Have a great life.🙋🏽♀️
High five to this wonderful lady!🥰🙌 I'm 58 and will not settle! I love life too much! When I hand my life back to God at the end of my human journey, I want to hand back a life lived well and fully!🙌🙌🙌
I’m in a transitional point in life at 50 as I discover what I’m most passionate about…what’s next for me. Bevy’s talk was inspiring and right on time. Cheers to “It gets greater later”!
This IS MY FAVORITE TED TALK! I have never felt more at home with a speaker and learned more and felt like a speaker was more real and authentic with their audience. That is near impossible. How profound her wisdom and work is. And how achievable she makes us feel like it is!
This is amazing!! "Their wins have nothing to do with my worthiness, to thine own self be true! Nobody can be you but you, so you might as well show up, and show out!"
It has rubbed off on you ....truly ! I Love you and your Mom , Thanks for the confidence says this 52-year-old white man living in a camper in the VA parking lot because his roommate died 5 years ago. But you know what I have time to watch this now and I have time to learn things from people like you and apply them to my life when I see fit and I think my creator for that whom I've also gotten to know much better now that I have many reasons to talk to him everyday and no matter what happens I'll continue to take the time to learn and to speak with my maker . With honor and respect , A.V.W
One of the most honest Ted talk I heard recently, she's unapologetically cool & that's the quality I want in myself. Lately I've been contemplating & trying to achieve the things. It's really keeping me tossing and turning in night, I'm highly anxious but I'm trying my best to do because I know I'm never late
Its literally what she said tho, be rooted in the present, it took her 55 years to be where shes finallyu happy ! youll always be on time because youre the author of your own story, keep up the good work
Late bloomer her at 50. Still figuring out who I am. Been working everyone else's dreams so I really don't have one. I have recently felt a desire to travel, live from an rv and be free but no idea how to provide this financially. I am setting these intentions to the universe and jeering my eyes open for opportunities. Bless you all on your authentic journeys.
I hear you… being a natural “pleaser”, I have used all my talents, skills & time to help my husband, kids and even friends get what they want without never REALLY knowing what I want. At 42, I feel the clock ticking and realizing with every year, opportunities are “falling in my lap” very rarely. We have to make our own opportunities and remember that age gives us wisdom and power we didn’t have in our 20s or even 30s. We need to quit settling and USE what we’ve learned to make it happen ❤️❤️‼️
OUTSTANDING. Authentic. Replayed. Listened multiple times. Relevant. Action steps. Witty, clever, helpful, entertaining, enlightening. Would have loved to see her live! THANK YOU.
It is so important to walk boldly in my truth. It's so freeing! 💜 1. Who am I at my core? 2. How am I being perceived? 3. How do I want to be perceived? I met Ms. Bevy at a restaurant and she has such a kind spirit.💜
This Ted has deeply resonated with me and where I am in my life at the age of 38. Bev is right, when you lead with grace in your heart and spirit, you become youthful again. When you truly ask yourself if you want half of the things that society is breaking their necks to have, you realize the answer is no. You remove so much pressure from yourself when you honor how you truly feel and go against the "status quo". I am so much more happier and fulfilled in my life now. The journey continues, and it does get "greater later"! Peace and Blessings to you all.
Wow such a good good talk. What hit home for me--suppressing oneself. I have took on so many identities to please others, I don't even know myself. No more suppressing myself, because I Am Good Enough As I Am.
Bevy shares her incredible experiences and insights transparently with us. The story in this Ted Talk resonates with me in many ways. You deserve our gratitude for your knowledge, courage, and the transparency you have demonstrated. You are simply divine.
30 seconds in and I kid you not, I got chills from hearing her talk. I don't know if its because the message is so relevant to where I am in my life right now but I 1000% needed and enjoyed this TED talk.
“Take a note, give a note. Their win has nothing to do with my worthiness.” That really resonated with me. Love it ❤️. Thanks a lot for sharing. God bless you.
Bevy and her talk embody grace, power and humility. Will listen over and over, everytime I need a pick me up, to laugh, and to remind me who I am. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and little brown Bevy with the world
This whole message is beautiful, and I’m glad Bevy shared her story. I’m a 31 yr old caregiver in all of it’s misery and glimpses of goodness, so I’ve definitely felt like a late bloomer. I’ve spent the past few years overcoming pessimism by incorporating positive thoughts constantly until I believe it, and I’ve fought fears that I never knew I have (partially due to my bf, but because of my choices too). I’m an over thinker, so even though I’m not as old as Bevy or others; I still get hard on myself for not being able to see myself clearly yet. I want to age like fine wine, and enjoy the rest of my life. It’s really okay for us to feel like late bloomers, and we’re right on time ❤.
it’s so inspiring yet very entertaining! I feel I needed to watch this. I’m only 26yo but I’ve felt like my life is about to end because I haven’t had many chances, but lately I’ve realized I need some inner healing and know myself better and I’ve been in that pathway since last year. gonna put those questions in practice to not forget who I’m looking for: myself. ❤️
You're on your way! Just keep staying positive. So 😍 proud of you for being willing to keep pushing through to the bright side in spite of what you've been through. You will make it! Self healing is the first step.
You got this. One thing that helps me is closing my eyes and seeing myself as a little girl, in those times where I felt hurt and sad and talking to my younger self and letting her know that all will be alright and all will work out. You got this. One day at a time. God bless you❤❤
I am passing trought the same situation i do not know what i like , what to study it's do frustrating i want to be happy and find the best version of myself discover the job that won't feel as a job... any advice?
This was SOOOOO GREAT I’m 40 and I started looking at my life in a somewhat unsettling approach feeling like I’m not where I would like to be at this point in my life after seeing this and listening to this TED clip has opened my heart and eyes to see my life different SELF LOVE is my main focus Thank you MS. Bevy
Absolutely the best Ted Talk that I’ve completely resonated with. And I completely agree with you. Many blessings to you on your path. The Universe is surely blessing you!! And I’ve said for years that life keeps getting better because we are learning about how much we are important first to help others after we have taken care of ourselves. Keep on Keeping on!!!
Wow! I loved everything about this TedTalk Bevy. At 58, I'm learning to be my authentic self. I'm still trying to learn what it is that makes me happy. I always knew I was a late bloomer. Thanks for this inspiring, real talk!
Ahhhhh I loved this so much. I turned 34 this year and I'm focused on reinventing myself. Seeing 22 yr olds on social media living their full dreams.... man it makes me feel like it's too late for me or I waited too long so why bother. This really spoke motivation into my spirit! 🙌🏾🙌🏾
Her stage presence is amazing. I felt carried along by her words, if that makes sense - she has great pacing. This was a very down-to-earth talk, which is how I think speeches on life advice should be. I'll definitely be listening to this one more than once!
The reason I really love this is because I believe envy is so dangerous. It is the main killer destroying a lot of people, esp. now on social media, and has caused much destruction within my own family. What a relevant topic she brings! Actually explaining where envy comes from and how to remedy that. Thank you, Bevy! ♥
Yes I loved how I felt like I was listening to my aunty drop knowledge and not my mom in her corporate work voice/persona. No code switching required loved that!
Very much needed at this time! 3 months ago I moved from one of the largest, busiest, well-known cities in the US to a small, slow city down south. I simply wanted to, and no one can understand the logic behind it. I love being adventurous, I love newness. I realized a few weeks back that it's time for me to do more self discovery, that it's time to relearn myself. We change ALL THE TIME. I'm at the cusp of something new and I'm intentionally taking time out over these next few weeks for self discovery. This was right on time💓
What an inspiring story for the people like me! It's never too late to change your path and find another way to your personal self-satisfying success! Thank you, Bevy!
I'm 39 and in a mental funk with very off days. I'm having these huge moments of reflection and trying to figure out so many parts of my life and the things I want to connect with about myself. I really needed this today.
Absolutely the best and most inspiring presentation I've seen on TED Talk and the most timely message to get when I'm almost 55 yrs. Thank you, Miss Bev! 🙏
I love this and I love her! Her dreams are similar to mine. Her fears and beliefs are similar to mine. I'm getting older. I turned 40 this year. It messed with me sometimes. But! I also have this deep seeded belief that beauty and wisdom come with age. Most of the people I look up to, and respect the most are much much older than me. My dad also told me, all my life, "don't settle"... And there are so many times I feel like I have. But then my mama comes in my mind and tells me "you made your bed, now you gotta lay in it"... Isn't life just one life lesson after another?? I pray to get where she is one day. I pray to find my own "little brown Bevie" and discover who I am, not who I've created myself to be. Ok, I'm done. I just really needed to hear this right now. 💜
I so appreciated this talk Bevy Smith! God bless you! I will be 55 this October and I am definitely on my own journey as well. Thank you for your transparency and for not being afraid to be authentic!
Thank you for this. My professor sent me to this channel for an assignment and you popped up. Being as I believe in that things happen for a reason, you sure are that reason. I’ve been going through some tuff moments where I’m feeling when’s it gonna end or stop because I’m tired of feeling this way and coming across your video gave me a boost. I’m 37 and it’s ok that I’m not exactly where I want because what I’ve been through might just be what will place me to where I need to be. I just need confidence in myself and not just tell others to take the step they want/need, but actually do for me. I tell my mom things at times because I know she cares about those around be and I always get the same reply, “You can tell others what they need to hear for that boost, but why can’t you do that for yourself?” And she’s right. Why can’t I? So, I’m really glad my professor sent me here. You gave me inspiration for my next submission for class and I thank you for that since I needed a boost in myself.
This is a great talk Bevy. You’re a natural speaker and thoroughly entertaining. The message is so encouraging, feeds my hope. Thank you 😊 and wish you all the best
Thank you Bevy for your inspirational words. At 60 something I thought my life was over but when you said "it gets greater later" a light bulb can on. I plan to live the best days of my life. Thank you Bevy for speaking truth to me.
I’m 26 and don’t know why I felt my life was over, but I realized it’s how I was raised. I have to constantly face life in a beautiful yet enjoyable way! I haven’t been surrounded with many vibrant uplifting women, I’ve always seen women feel sorry for themselves and I fought against that because I always felt powerful and I’ve ALWAYS gotten kickback for not wanting to settle, this was definitely my confirmation
Bevy...you are an inspiration to everyone who is afraid of change, afraid to take a risk, afraid to express a different view. I have always lived my authentic life. Feisty, fearless! Thanks also to my own amazing Mom. Blessings and Love.💙💜💚🙏🙏
The more we work on our own selves, the more our circumstances and overall lives change. The more we grow and invest into ourselves, the more we will see a transformation, especially how we better communicate with others. You got this, I believe in you and invest into YOU! Best investment you can ever do is in yourself for your family, others, and your future! 💯% back guarantee return on your investment! Have a great day! 🚀🎉❤️
What an amazing talk! Truly authentic and down to earth. This hits home as I just turned 50 this year and realizing that being true to myself is so much more important than trying to impress anyone else. Finding what makes me happy & thriving despite what society "tells" us. Very powerful realization!
@37 years old I learned to live my authentic self at 35 this is blessing me immensely I’ve seen her on many things and didn’t know her background . Refreshing !
❤Love this! Love Her! That "where do you get your confidence from.." statement really hit me. I have a music video on my page and just because I am curvy someone assumed that I couldn't really love myself. I had someone comment that they admired my "vulnerability". I wasn't being vulnerable, I was being myself. Right on Bevy, don't settle❤
Inspirational for me!! Not talking about the fears of a career transition made me feel alone. Amazing to hear this and not feel like I’m the only one. I’ll also absorb the confidence as I strive to be greater later.
WOW 🤩.. I rarely catch TED Talks and realize “a little late to this party” 😂 This was INCREDIBLE and packed with POWER and TRUTH 🙌 I will be keeping on replay until it saturates my soul and every cell of my being! Thank you Bevy, you are fabulous and I love that you know it!!! 💎
Thank you for sharing your experiences and message. I'm definitely a late bloomer. 39 and still searching for who I am, more than ever. I feel like I've been on a hamster wheel searching for who I am, while playing it safe and conforming to society. Sometimes I feel like it's too late for me, but you gave me hope again. ❤
One day I'll be on TED talk, I know I am. I've hit rock bottom more times than anyone on this planet, I promise you my life has been worst than a rollercoaster ride. Battle drugs, Battle alcohol, battle myself. Learned hard lessons, learned to trust no one and started to put me first. At this present time, I'm at my lowest ive ever been yet. But I have no drug or alcohol problem, I'm a great mother to my 8 years old autistic boy. We are homeless but we have a temporary home. Regardless at what the devil might have sent me, I fought him no stop because there is no way I will stay down. NEVER! I come from an abbusif family, now I have only my son has family, only my son has a friend. I will build back up again. Watch me. I am now re discovering myself at 45 years old. Never give up. Keep pushing forward. You are good enough
I am so glad that I watched this. I am currently considering leaving a solid career with a good salary, a pension, and health benefits to pursue a path that aligns with my authentic self. I’m 42, and it’s time.
I used to be a muslim, I've never been peaceful, I've been a christian for 3 months now, my life is more peaceful, calm Jesus is changing me, I feel it
I just made a comment a moment ago.... And I have to leave another....... She was amazing. A great speaker...... She's absolutely great.... And I will listen and enjoy any more of her Ted Talks.
Extremely proud of my former classmate. She not only is a good friend, but has managed to make her presence known in the world..Salute sis! Love and am proud of you! Carry on!
I loved this talk. I’m glad she’s found herself. What I adore most is this beautiful comment section of 25+ y.o. Women speaking on their value and pouring into themselves. I’m 41 and …same. I wish we had a group.
Bevy you've just opened the hearts and minds of more people then you can imagine. What a lovely, heart warming authentic talk. Thank you for being honest about your past, that's not always easy but makes us like you even more. Wonderful. I could go on but hey, as you say *it gets greater later*
Almost 40& an empty nester. Rediscovering myself after my kids grew up, figuring out who ami am after a bad divorce put me down. Yes! This talk is awesome
Just spent three solid years doing this …realizing I’m a good person and I celebrate others accomplishments and they help me celebrate mine! Grace is a wonderful thing
She said so many things that resonated w me like age, being a solo traveler, architecture, museums and over all being a late bloomer. That's me. I'm reinventing myself and I couldn't be prouder.
This TED talk truly arrived at the best time! I recently found out that I was being perceived as colder and frightening than I though. All of my life I've been told to be cautious, so I took that to heart and I've been at my most guarded ever since. Now at 32 I've found that I am not perceived as I thought I was and that has made me feel more powerful, but that I do have choice as to how I want to be perceived. Knowing that I have nothing to prove and that all I got is my own life and what I get to do with it through my own choices. This talk made this whole lesson come full circle for me and it arrived just on time. Thank you Bevy!
This was so inspiring! I’m 27 and I feel like I have to have everything together right now since I’m in my “prime”. Trying to chase these unrealistic expectations and the constant pressure I put on myself has gotten me to the point where I don’t feel like myself anymore. I want to find my authentic self again. Like she said I just need to enjoy the ride of life, stay as present as possible, and never settle! As long as I’m breathing I have time to find myself. It’s a marathon not a race. Thanks for the TED talk!
I used to watch Ms. Bev on BET back in the day. Always loved her & often wondered about her. So refreshing to know that she has found her TRUE self, I discovered mine years ago & love me! 🙏🏾😋
I honestly cried while watching the last parts of the video. I've been feeling very down and insecure lately about my true self that I haven't fully found under all this sadness and how people around me may have figured their true selves already, but I realize that people aren't born on this earth to face everything at once by themselves and may not have found their truest selves either. So truly, it gets greater later.
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Don't settle.
Make peace with aging.
Don't second guess decisions.
Don't compare to others.
Growth/maturity is intellectual and emotional.
Extend grace, remove malice.
Be yourself, don't suppress yourself
...who am I at my core?
...how am I being perceived?
...how do I love to be perceived?
It gets greater later
Thank you.
Thanks a lot.
This comment should be pinned 👏🏾🫰🏾
The best comment 🤞🏾🙏🏾
@@chesityedwards8153 AGREED!! Even wrote it in my journal ❤
"I'm also not worried about my future because I'm firmly rooted in the present" - Bevy Smith
Your presents already 15 seconds gone
Yep, that was what she said in this actual video.
I think I've said something familiar before.
how do u plan for the future if u never think about it thooo??
Bevy you are incredible! I just quit my job. I’m 38. Not settling and running to my dream!! You are an inspiration!
“ Their wins have nothing to do with my worthiness. “
-Bevy Smith
Yeah, that line has really stuck with me…great line
Story:
8:24
Emotional growth:
9:04
Self-help ritual:
9:30
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Yea that's the poi I thought she said wings though lol
"When you remove malice from your heart, not only do you feel good, you look good" I love this
She’s a natural. This was a great Ted Talk. Truly worth every minute.
@@captain_context9991 There are more domains to life than intellectually fueled conversation, and I appreciate that Ted-Ed hosts various events among a bunch of fields.
@@captain_context9991 that’s top emotional management stuff… the top intellectuals get sidestepped by top emotional management daily
@@captain_context9991 seriously? Uh, sure
@@captain_context9991 probably not anything that would interest you
@@captain_context9991 you can take away something from anything. Just because you think you already know or have heard it before doesn't mean you can't take away a good message from it. Sometimes even the simplest things, if explained by in different ways, hit you differently. You never know what will grab you.
But maybe that's just my view on life. I'm not one of those people who think I know everything or disregard advice from people taking the time to give it. But you do you.
Oh my God! I’m a 46 year old woman starting a business. This is exactly what I needed at this time. Awesome 👏
Get It 👏
Bless your business!
How is your business venture going?
Yessss go be your best self. The world needs you🤸🏻♀️
Wherever you at now, you got this!
I am 37 and finally realizing that I have to invest in my self and mental health or else it will be my Demise. I have made drastic changes and by sticking to them and not feeling guilty I am definitely looking and feeling better.
38, and realizing the same
@@sunshinesunflowerz1647 I'm so very proud of you!
38 and same guys! Yay us!!! At least we got here ❤️
36, and same.
@@melssf7451 yay!! So proud of you ❤
At a time where we’re being told (especially as women) that you don’t matter after 25 and you should live for a man, or your children:This conversation is so necessary! Well done Bevy! 👏🏾
"a man is not a plan"
Blaming people (men) for your life shortcomings is not the answer. Do the inner work and hold yourself accountable to find your own life solutions.
@@Chery869 Not blaming men, not sure where you got that. Celebrating self-reliance.
@@Chery869 u obviously didnt read what she said u just wanna be combative
Indeed
Raised by narcissistic parents mandated that I be who THEY wanted me to be, so knowing who my authentic self was all but impossible. I became a people pleaser with no clue how to please myself. At 57, I am hoping to be ‘greater later’. Thank you for your insight.
Getting ready to turn 54 soon! I feel the same. Go for it!!
🙏🏼❤️
I can relate.
It's exhausting dealing with a narc mother!
I am done
I turned 24 about two months ago, and since then I’ve been questioning my existence a lot. And I’m so happy with fact that now that I’m finally discovering my true authentic self I feel at peace, my anxiety levels went DOWN. I feel like I’ve been set free and I have this strong and intense love for myself that I can’t even explain. I’m very excited for what is yet to come.
I wish you all the best!
In the most perfect timing, this came to me. I am certainly at a point in my life where I’m choosing me. I’m rediscovering what I love and advocating for myself and making choices without regret. It’s liberating and as always a journey of unknowns but I am certain that I will live my life and not be miserable!
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Exactly how I feel at...(Wait for it)...67 y/o! I pray it's not to late. That, (that boat) has sailed.
No more people-pleasing Dee! Done. Period, full stop.❤️
Im with you Sis 🙌🏾
Right there with you! Power on!
I'm so happy for you! I'm also trying rediscover myself, but without result by far, any advice?
For years I wasn't true to myself; I've found out, with new perspective, that I didn't love myself. My life spiraled with alcoholism (my respite from self,) married an abusive man and found myself serving six months after trying to defend myself. What did a 33-year-old divorced felon, living back with her parents have to offer? Turns out, everything! I've been sober for nearly ten months, I'm on track to law school, will be starting my internship with the public defenders office, have returned to writing and editing as my hustle, highlighting my incredible strengths...but most of all, I know me. I know my fears were navigating my life, my relationships and my motivations. I feared it was too late but now I know everything happened at the right time. Thank you for this! Please keep passing on grace.
"If you dream regardless of age, you will continue to be young."
I like this
I will never stop dreaming....big.
Absolutely!!!✌️💗
Exo-L?
"Haven't had a dream in a long time.
Seems the life I had, would make a good man, bad."
The Smiths
Loved this talk
1)Who am I at my core?
2)How am I being perceived?
3)How do I love to be perceived?
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Question : how do you make people perceive you the way you want to be perceived? :/
@@yu-a9596 this is a great question the truth is all one can do is portray yourself how you wish to be perceived.. if you wish to be perceived as hardworking - work hard if you wish to be perceived as confident be confident !!
@@yu-a9596 we have the same name and I wanted to ask the same question crazy right?!
@@yu-a9596 be that person wholeheartedly Which will require being vulnerable. But also understand that some people may never perceive you in a way you may want them to but its ok. That doesn't define who you are.
I’m in a transitional phase of my life at 51, and Bevy’s talk was just what I needed!
I’m turning 50 this year and I’m in transition also. We’ve got this💪🏾
Have you read her book. Better yet, please invest on the Audible version. You will jot be disappointed. Aa a 54 yrs young woman, after listening to her, I slowly started to climb out of my somewhat reserved shell. Her book was a definite boost for me. Have a great life.🙋🏽♀️
@@EvolvingwithEtta Her book is fantastic. I've read it several times, and the audio is just like sitting right next to her.
@@stanwilliams7932 Yes, I agree! I loved it!
Yes! Me too!
High five to this wonderful lady!🥰🙌 I'm 58 and will not settle! I love life too much! When I hand my life back to God at the end of my human journey, I want to hand back a life lived well and fully!🙌🙌🙌
Yes
But you believe in God so you have settled for accepting God despite the absence of any creditable evidence to the contrary.
Amen 👌
Yes! Love this comment!
Love how you put that! YES! ✨🤎
I’m in a transitional point in life at 50 as I discover what I’m most passionate about…what’s next for me. Bevy’s talk was inspiring and right on time. Cheers to “It gets greater later”!
Cheers Indeed!🍷🥰
Amen Girl
Yes, I am 50 and I feel the same way. 😃
This IS MY FAVORITE TED TALK! I have never felt more at home with a speaker and learned more and felt like a speaker was more real and authentic with their audience. That is near impossible. How profound her wisdom and work is. And how achievable she makes us feel like it is!
This is amazing!! "Their wins have nothing to do with my worthiness, to thine own self be true! Nobody can be you but you, so you might as well show up, and show out!"
Complimenting the other person and extending grace is something I'm glad I started doing
It has rubbed off on you ....truly !
I Love you and your Mom ,
Thanks for the confidence says this 52-year-old white man living in a camper in the VA parking lot because his roommate died 5 years ago.
But you know what I have time to watch this now and I have time to learn things from people like you and apply them to my life when I see fit and I think my creator for that whom I've also gotten to know much better now that I have many reasons to talk to him everyday and no matter what happens I'll continue to take the time to learn and to speak with my maker .
With honor and respect ,
A.V.W
Infinite love and peace to u Anthony. Stay strong
🙏🙏❤️❤️live your beautiful life!!
Thx you for your courage to share
One of the most honest Ted talk I heard recently, she's unapologetically cool & that's the quality I want in myself. Lately I've been contemplating & trying to achieve the things. It's really keeping me tossing and turning in night, I'm highly anxious but I'm trying my best to do because I know I'm never late
Its literally what she said tho, be rooted in the present, it took her 55 years to be where shes finallyu happy ! youll always be on time because youre the author of your own story, keep up the good work
Late bloomer her at 50. Still figuring out who I am. Been working everyone else's dreams so I really don't have one. I have recently felt a desire to travel, live from an rv and be free but no idea how to provide this financially. I am setting these intentions to the universe and jeering my eyes open for opportunities. Bless you all on your authentic journeys.
I think that's beautiful. All the good energy to you, Home Team, as you keep moving with that direction.
Same here…🤷♀️
I pray for guys that the universe will deliver your needs.❤️
I hear you… being a natural “pleaser”, I have used all my talents, skills & time to help my husband, kids and even friends get what they want without never REALLY knowing what I want. At 42, I feel the clock ticking and realizing with every year, opportunities are “falling in my lap” very rarely. We have to make our own opportunities and remember that age gives us wisdom and power we didn’t have in our 20s or even 30s. We need to quit settling and USE what we’ve learned to make it happen ❤️❤️‼️
I love how she speaks so naturally, like she's sitting with and next to you. One of my favorite Ted Talks
OUTSTANDING.
Authentic. Replayed. Listened multiple times. Relevant. Action steps. Witty, clever, helpful, entertaining, enlightening. Would have loved to see her live! THANK YOU.
It is so important to walk boldly in my truth. It's so freeing! 💜
1. Who am I at my core?
2. How am I being perceived?
3. How do I want to be perceived?
I met Ms. Bevy at a restaurant and she has such a kind spirit.💜
This Ted has deeply resonated with me and where I am in my life at the age of 38. Bev is right, when you lead with grace in your heart and spirit, you become youthful again. When you truly ask yourself if you want half of the things that society is breaking their necks to have, you realize the answer is no. You remove so much pressure from yourself when you honor how you truly feel and go against the "status quo". I am so much more happier and fulfilled in my life now. The journey continues, and it does get "greater later"! Peace and Blessings to you all.
Wow such a good good talk. What hit home for me--suppressing oneself. I have took on so many identities to please others, I don't even know myself. No more suppressing myself, because I Am Good Enough As I Am.
Bevy shares her incredible experiences and insights transparently with us. The story in this Ted Talk resonates with me in many ways. You deserve our gratitude for your knowledge, courage, and the transparency you have demonstrated. You are simply divine.
Well said!! I stand 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
30 seconds in and I kid you not, I got chills from hearing her talk. I don't know if its because the message is so relevant to where I am in my life right now but I 1000% needed and enjoyed this TED talk.
The hardest critic is one's self. Thanks for sharing how to do the work to let one's authentic self shine!! 👍🏽❤🔥
“Take a note, give a note. Their win has nothing to do with my worthiness.” That really resonated with me. Love it ❤️. Thanks a lot for sharing. God bless you.
Bevy and her talk embody grace, power and humility. Will listen over and over, everytime I need a pick me up, to laugh, and to remind me who I am. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and little brown Bevy with the world
This whole message is beautiful, and I’m glad Bevy shared her story. I’m a 31 yr old caregiver in all of it’s misery and glimpses of goodness, so I’ve definitely felt like a late bloomer. I’ve spent the past few years overcoming pessimism by incorporating positive thoughts constantly until I believe it, and I’ve fought fears that I never knew I have (partially due to my bf, but because of my choices too). I’m an over thinker, so even though I’m not as old as Bevy or others; I still get hard on myself for not being able to see myself clearly yet. I want to age like fine wine, and enjoy the rest of my life. It’s really okay for us to feel like late bloomers, and we’re right on time ❤.
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it’s so inspiring yet very entertaining! I feel I needed to watch this. I’m only 26yo but I’ve felt like my life is about to end because I haven’t had many chances, but lately I’ve realized I need some inner healing and know myself better and I’ve been in that pathway since last year. gonna put those questions in practice to not forget who I’m looking for: myself. ❤️
You are on the right path and I encourage you to continue being you the positive person that you are
You're on your way! Just keep staying positive. So 😍 proud of you for being willing to keep pushing through to the bright side in spite of what you've been through. You will make it! Self healing is the first step.
You got this. One thing that helps me is closing my eyes and seeing myself as a little girl, in those times where I felt hurt and sad and talking to my younger self and letting her know that all will be alright and all will work out. You got this. One day at a time. God bless you❤❤
Me too girl, me too 🥰
I am passing trought the same situation i do not know what i like , what to study it's do frustrating i want to be happy and find the best version of myself discover the job that won't feel as a job... any advice?
This was SOOOOO GREAT I’m 40 and I started looking at my life in a somewhat unsettling approach feeling like I’m not where I would like to be at this point in my life after seeing this and listening to this TED clip has opened my heart and eyes to see my life different SELF LOVE is my main focus Thank you MS. Bevy
Absolutely the best Ted Talk that I’ve completely resonated with. And I completely agree with you. Many blessings to you on your path. The Universe is surely blessing you!! And I’ve said for years that life keeps getting better because we are learning about how much we are important first to help others after we have taken care of ourselves. Keep on Keeping on!!!
Wow! I loved everything about this TedTalk Bevy. At 58, I'm learning to be my authentic self. I'm still trying to learn what it is that makes me happy. I always knew I was a late bloomer. Thanks for this inspiring, real talk!
"I learned how to be alone without being lonely". ❤
Ahhhhh I loved this so much. I turned 34 this year and I'm focused on reinventing myself. Seeing 22 yr olds on social media living their full dreams.... man it makes me feel like it's too late for me or I waited too long so why bother. This really spoke motivation into my spirit! 🙌🏾🙌🏾
This was perfect. One week before my 39th birthday, this is exactly what I need to hear. Thank you, Bevy!
I feel you on this one. 39 hits a lil different.
Her stage presence is amazing. I felt carried along by her words, if that makes sense - she has great pacing. This was a very down-to-earth talk, which is how I think speeches on life advice should be. I'll definitely be listening to this one more than once!
The reason I really love this is because I believe envy is so dangerous. It is the main killer destroying a lot of people, esp. now on social media, and has caused much destruction within my own family. What a relevant topic she brings! Actually explaining where envy comes from and how to remedy that. Thank you, Bevy! ♥
I loved her vulnerable honesty and relatable ness! Thank you, Bevy, that was eye opening and extremely entertaining and riveting.
Wow Bevy you did an amazing job!!! Representation matters and I’m sooo glad you showed up as your full authentic self! This was good!!!
Yes I loved how I felt like I was listening to my aunty drop knowledge and not my mom in her corporate work voice/persona. No code switching required loved that!
Very much needed at this time! 3 months ago I moved from one of the largest, busiest, well-known cities in the US to a small, slow city down south. I simply wanted to, and no one can understand the logic behind it. I love being adventurous, I love newness. I realized a few weeks back that it's time for me to do more self discovery, that it's time to relearn myself. We change ALL THE TIME. I'm at the cusp of something new and I'm intentionally taking time out over these next few weeks for self discovery. This was right on time💓
What an inspiring story for the people like me! It's never too late to change your path and find another way to your personal self-satisfying success! Thank you, Bevy!
" I am right on time because it gets greater later " I love it! Shows if you just continue to work hard on what you love to do, your time will come 💛
When you said “ Little Brown Bevy, I love her” it made me tear up. I felt that 🥰😍😘
Girl thankh you!!! It us def getting greater, later!!! I'm 60 and stepping into a new attitude!!!
One of my favorite talks for sure. Bevy just keeping it real!
I'm 39 and in a mental funk with very off days. I'm having these huge moments of reflection and trying to figure out so many parts of my life and the things I want to connect with about myself. I really needed this today.
Absolutely the best and most inspiring presentation I've seen on TED Talk and the most timely message to get when I'm almost 55 yrs. Thank you, Miss Bev! 🙏
I love this and I love her! Her dreams are similar to mine. Her fears and beliefs are similar to mine. I'm getting older. I turned 40 this year. It messed with me sometimes. But! I also have this deep seeded belief that beauty and wisdom come with age. Most of the people I look up to, and respect the most are much much older than me. My dad also told me, all my life, "don't settle"... And there are so many times I feel like I have. But then my mama comes in my mind and tells me "you made your bed, now you gotta lay in it"... Isn't life just one life lesson after another?? I pray to get where she is one day. I pray to find my own "little brown Bevie" and discover who I am, not who I've created myself to be. Ok, I'm done. I just really needed to hear this right now. 💜
40 too and getting there;)
I so appreciated this talk Bevy Smith! God bless you! I will be 55 this October and I am definitely on my own journey as well. Thank you for your transparency and for not being afraid to be authentic!
Thank you for this. My professor sent me to this channel for an assignment and you popped up. Being as I believe in that things happen for a reason, you sure are that reason. I’ve been going through some tuff moments where I’m feeling when’s it gonna end or stop because I’m tired of feeling this way and coming across your video gave me a boost. I’m 37 and it’s ok that I’m not exactly where I want because what I’ve been through might just be what will place me to where I need to be. I just need confidence in myself and not just tell others to take the step they want/need, but actually do for me. I tell my mom things at times because I know she cares about those around be and I always get the same reply, “You can tell others what they need to hear for that boost, but why can’t you do that for yourself?” And she’s right. Why can’t I? So, I’m really glad my professor sent me here. You gave me inspiration for my next submission for class and I thank you for that since I needed a boost in myself.
This is a great talk Bevy. You’re a natural speaker and thoroughly entertaining. The message is so encouraging, feeds my hope. Thank you 😊 and wish you all the best
Thank you Bevy for your inspirational words. At 60 something I thought my life was over but when you said "it gets greater later" a light bulb can on. I plan to live the best days of my life. Thank you Bevy for speaking truth to me.
I’m 26 and don’t know why I felt my life was over, but I realized it’s how I was raised. I have to constantly face life in a beautiful yet enjoyable way! I haven’t been surrounded with many vibrant uplifting women, I’ve always seen women feel sorry for themselves and I fought against that because I always felt powerful and I’ve ALWAYS gotten kickback for not wanting to settle, this was definitely my confirmation
"At my core, i like to authentically connect with people "...i love the vibes hier and i resonate too... thanks for the amazing talk Bevy....
Her book Bevelations is so inspiring and helpful. She's the auntie I always needed
Bevy...you are an inspiration to everyone who is afraid of change, afraid to take a risk, afraid to express a different view. I have always lived my authentic life. Feisty, fearless! Thanks also to my own amazing Mom. Blessings and Love.💙💜💚🙏🙏
The more we work on our own selves, the more our circumstances and overall lives change. The more we grow and invest into ourselves, the more we will see a transformation, especially how we better communicate with others. You got this, I believe in you and invest into YOU! Best investment you can ever do is in yourself for your family, others, and your future! 💯% back guarantee return on your investment! Have a great day! 🚀🎉❤️
Only for the rich. Life is a pay gate. If you don't have the coin, you simply cannot join.
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What an amazing talk! Truly authentic and down to earth. This hits home as I just turned 50 this year and realizing that being true to myself is so much more important than trying to impress anyone else. Finding what makes me happy & thriving despite what society "tells" us. Very powerful realization!
@37 years old I learned to live my authentic self at 35 this is blessing me immensely I’ve seen her on many things and didn’t know her background . Refreshing !
❤Love this! Love Her! That "where do you get your confidence from.." statement really hit me. I have a music video on my page and just because I am curvy someone assumed that I couldn't really love myself. I had someone comment that they admired my "vulnerability". I wasn't being vulnerable, I was being myself. Right on Bevy, don't settle❤
Awesome. Thanks for sharing.
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I adore her spirit, just hearing her talk gives me confidence.
Inspirational for me!! Not talking about the fears of a career transition made me feel alone. Amazing to hear this and not feel like I’m the only one. I’ll also absorb the confidence as I strive to be greater later.
WOW 🤩.. I rarely catch TED Talks and realize “a little late to this party” 😂
This was INCREDIBLE and packed with POWER and TRUTH 🙌
I will be keeping on replay until it saturates my soul and every cell of my being!
Thank you Bevy, you are fabulous and I love that you know it!!! 💎
"I learned how to be alone without feeling lonely" that's the goal.
i’m only 5 minutes in and her story telling and aura is just so refreshing. she’s breaking chains just by existing. gon girl!!
Thank you for sharing your experiences and message. I'm definitely a late bloomer. 39 and still searching for who I am, more than ever. I feel like I've been on a hamster wheel searching for who I am, while playing it safe and conforming to society. Sometimes I feel like it's too late for me, but you gave me hope again. ❤
Love her honesty and grace. This is what I needed to hear as I close in on my 50th trip around the sun in about 8 months.
Wow, what a Ted Talk! 👏 Her story, her message including her examples of presence was absolutely delightful
One day I'll be on TED talk, I know I am. I've hit rock bottom more times than anyone on this planet, I promise you my life has been worst than a rollercoaster ride. Battle drugs, Battle alcohol, battle myself. Learned hard lessons, learned to trust no one and started to put me first. At this present time, I'm at my lowest ive ever been yet. But I have no drug or alcohol problem, I'm a great mother to my 8 years old autistic boy. We are homeless but we have a temporary home. Regardless at what the devil might have sent me, I fought him no stop because there is no way I will stay down. NEVER! I come from an abbusif family, now I have only my son has family, only my son has a friend. I will build back up again. Watch me. I am now re discovering myself at 45 years old. Never give up. Keep pushing forward. You are good enough
You've got this ! ❤️
Later is Greater ! Late bloomers Rock! .. don’t settle! Great lines from a great Talk! Thanks Bev!!
I am so glad that I watched this. I am currently considering leaving a solid career with a good salary, a pension, and health benefits to pursue a path that aligns with my authentic self. I’m 42, and it’s time.
I used to be a muslim, I've never been peaceful, I've been a christian for 3 months now, my life is more peaceful, calm Jesus is changing me, I feel it
Islam is peace Allahamdulilah I’m happy to be Muslim, I can’t imagine my life as a none Muslim person. Sorry Islam wasn’t for you
“Getting greater later”... This is wonderful to know!
I just made a comment a moment ago.... And I have to leave another....... She was amazing. A great speaker...... She's absolutely great.... And I will listen and enjoy any more of her Ted Talks.
Listening to this as I work on a report at work, I appreciate everything that your saying!! You have a gift for sure!
11:52 great talk, great questions
Who am I at my core?
How am I being perceived?
How would I like to be perceived?
Extremely proud of my former classmate. She not only is a good friend, but has managed to make her presence known in the world..Salute sis! Love and am proud of you! Carry on!
I was immersed at Bevy's first word. How fantastic. Such an inspiring message. Thank you Bevy.
I loved this talk. I’m glad she’s found herself. What I adore most is this beautiful comment section of 25+ y.o. Women speaking on their value and pouring into themselves. I’m 41 and …same. I wish we had a group.
"Greater Later!" Just turned 55 yesterday, so I'm puttin' on the seatbelt 'cause I'm ready for that ride! 🎉✨🙌🏾
Bevy you've just opened the hearts and minds of more people then you can imagine. What a lovely, heart warming authentic talk. Thank you for being honest about your past, that's not always easy but makes us like you even more. Wonderful. I could go on but hey, as you say *it gets greater later*
Almost 40& an empty nester.
Rediscovering myself after my kids grew up, figuring out who ami am after a bad divorce put me down.
Yes! This talk is awesome
You’re still young
Loved this talk. She is a force of nature. Love her
Just spent three solid years doing this …realizing I’m a good person and I celebrate others accomplishments and they help me celebrate mine! Grace is a wonderful thing
Bevy is a whole vibe, I took so much from the talk. 🔥🔥
She said so many things that resonated w me like age, being a solo traveler, architecture, museums and over all being a late bloomer. That's me. I'm reinventing myself and I couldn't be prouder.
Wow she OWNED that talk. Wow. I just love her, love her talk, so engaging and funny and cuts right to the core. Amazing!!!!
This TED talk truly arrived at the best time! I recently found out that I was being perceived as colder and frightening than I though. All of my life I've been told to be cautious, so I took that to heart and I've been at my most guarded ever since. Now at 32 I've found that I am not perceived as I thought I was and that has made me feel more powerful, but that I do have choice as to how I want to be perceived. Knowing that I have nothing to prove and that all I got is my own life and what I get to do with it through my own choices. This talk made this whole lesson come full circle for me and it arrived just on time. Thank you Bevy!
She is so funny and speaking facts 🤣❤️ , love this energyyyy
This was so inspiring! I’m 27 and I feel like I have to have everything together right now since I’m in my “prime”. Trying to chase these unrealistic expectations and the constant pressure I put on myself has gotten me to the point where I don’t feel like myself anymore. I want to find my authentic self again. Like she said I just need to enjoy the ride of life, stay as present as possible, and never settle! As long as I’m breathing I have time to find myself. It’s a marathon not a race. Thanks for the TED talk!
27 too! But prime age can happen any time tbh, although I feel like for our age our prime is between 27-35 for “early late young adulthood” lol.
I needed this. "It gets greater later." Thank you, Bevy.
I used to watch Ms. Bev on BET back in the day. Always loved her & often wondered about her. So refreshing to know that she has found her TRUE self, I discovered mine years ago & love me! 🙏🏾😋
Congratulations. You did that! You go girl!
You made me smile, giggle, and laugh. Thank you.
I honestly cried while watching the last parts of the video. I've been feeling very down and insecure lately about my true self that I haven't fully found under all this sadness and how people around me may have figured their true selves already, but I realize that people aren't born on this earth to face everything at once by themselves and may not have found their truest selves either. So truly, it gets greater later.