COMING OUT STORY | BEING OUTED
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- A couple years ago, I found comfort in watching other's coming out stories. I began to gain confidence through these videos which eventually lead to me coming out of the closet. Never in a million years would I have ever imagined that I would be out of the closet, let alone posting a video like this for others to watch. Hopefully, like similar videos did for me, it can help others gain their confidence.
Feel free to shoot me a message on Instagram with any questions if you're going through a similar situation!
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Thank you for your story. I am 76 and have been with my husband for 58 years! Never officially came out and fortunately was able to live a happy and normal life. I wish you all the best for your future happiness.
Very true. Does anyones parents need to know? I wouldnt tell my parents they don't need to do.
God Bless years ago they would say here is Bob and his Friend...... Remember the movie That Certain Summer....
People like you make me feel hopeful. I'm 21 and have been "fully out" since I was 15 (aka when I was outed to my parents), but I have yet to found someone that I wanted to be in a serious relationship with (only twice, but beyond a few kisses and sex, the feelings weren't reciprocated). Growing up without anyone to look up to, it's very hard to imagine yourself in a happy monogamous relationship with someone, where I both love them and am loved back for who I am. In fact, It's hard just to imagine myself having any future at all, if I'm being honest.
58 year - Wonderful 👵🏽👋🏾🍃🦅🍃🦌🍃🦬🍃🌈💫🌈💫
wow I'm sorry but I'm happy for you and your husband. How cute!
I confided in my mother about my sexuality. By the morning she outed me to everyone after she said I could trust her. Now she has rewritten history and made herself the victim. Plus after my mom outed me they took me to the cemetery to purchase a gravesite because I was going to die. Then the family called me some homophobic words. To this day she at times says some really hateful things. That's is why I dont associate with my family and moved far away. She does call time to time she wants me to take care of her because she has a illness. Hell no I won't help her out. I've given my family a second chance amd they destroyed that to. She has money and is giving it all to my sister and wrote me out of the will. So let my sister take care of her. I feel nothing for my family. Ive made my own money and I am independent .
That's one of the potential reasons I haven't told my family
Daniel Cruz you should probably wait till you can move out and not depend on your family and just live your life how you want it’s sad but I guess it’s something to look forward too
Why should you tell others about your sexuality? Have you ever seen a straight guy coming out !!?
A true lover There could be many reasons I guess. Maybe your mom keeps talking about a wife and kids, so you have to let her know you’re gay. Maybe all your friends keep asking why you don’t have a girlfriend, it’s about being honest instead of lying to loved ones.
chris toey it’s super easy, just tell them that you are a red piller and you hate females cause they love conditionally and see us as an ATM machine
Hey Jacob congrats, Bill here, i am 62 now and was married to my x wife for 30 yrs and came out at 50. I too was worried about what ppl thought but nobody really cares now a days. I like who i am and my life. I wish u all the best that life has to offer, you deserve it.
Bill Mason Me too! Because I was heavily involved in sport- I was a youth cricket coach from my 16th until my 39th, went on tour with the Dutch national team under 19 for the international youth cricket tournament in Toronto and at the Bermudas, took my boys to England and Denmark may times and played on a high level myself- I didn’t quite fancy to out of the closet. I was even married for 29 years. In 2005 I left my wife, we divorced and at last I was free! In 2006 I met a wonderful man and this is the best what has ever happened to me. I’ve never been as happy as during these last 14 years (neither is he, I believe :)!).
Gary Lee, you seem to not be able to keep your mouth shut when actually you should. Wondering why you are so interested to comment on all these coming out videos.
Bill Mason .....bill, you deserved the best too. You came out too late, why. I guess you missed most of the best. I came out three months after I got married. I did not want that life.....it stinks.
@@Herziful,Gary Lee is getting it from everyone!
@@agustindejesus7398 ,then why did you get married in the first place to a woman??? Just curious.
Life is so much better out of the closet. I came out pretty young at 16 and it is the best thing I've ever done for myself! Now I'm in my 30s and wouldn't change a thing. Congrats man!
It took me until the age of 40 to come out have been with my partner 20 years. Being Scottish and gay you had to keep that hidden in the 60's,70's and 80's. But it is the best thing I ever did was to be honest with myself,friends & family, so congratulations.
You're awkwardly cute and cool. I love that. ♡
He's so cute! This was a coming "OOT" story. All my Canadian friends, I miss you!
he looks like Madonna in 1984
Awkwardly? He is hot as hell! And nothing awkward about him!
@@tomdimartino7361 thanks I thought it was just me questioned that word.
@@eduardochavacano ha you mean she looks like him.
I’m so pleased to see such mature, eloquent young gay guys being so beautifully honest. Jacob, you have helped so many come to terms with their own hidden feelings. Thank you
I guarantee that in High School you weren’t the only one. Glad you are free from the shackles secrecy and fear place on people like us. Now you can live, love, laugh and be the man you were always meant to be.
Jacob, thank you for your story. I came out as bi to my parents when I was 31 years old. What I remember is dead silence. Several months later I wanted to talk to my Mother about it and she said that she doesn't want to talk. My close friends are not bothered about my orientation. Most of my colleagues at work knew. Several years later all of them have moved on to other jobs so my present colleagues don't know except for my supervisors. I came out to one of my current colleagues a few weeks ago and to her it was blip on the screen. No big deal. High school was not fun for me. Nobody knew my orientation. I suspect some of my classmates knew. I did not anticipate that my comment would be so lengthy. Thank you Jacob.
You are loved.
I am gay and proud my family already knew that I was gay. When I told my sister I cried she says that I love you I don't care what you are. I hope that you have a good life you are so sweet to tell everyone about you story ❤️
I'm so pleased you've come out. Your realizing that true friends don't care if your gay or not. I'm 62 and came out at 57. I grew up in a different time in rural Kansas. Coming out was the best thing I ever did. Only wish I could of come out at your age.
When I came out 40 years ago I couldn't even dream that there would be a time where people could come out to the world the way you have. When I see and hear stories like yours it helps me see how much the world has changed since my time of coming out. Have the life that I could only dream about, be happy (your kind of happy, no-one elses) and thanks for making an old queen happy for a moment.
Gregory Dewbery,we must be around the same age, this coming July 2020 My significant other and I will celebrate our 30th year together. Married 6 year's and I received a letter from Barrack Obama right after he legalized same sex marriage. I had wrote him ,Thanking him for doing so and he sent me a response. ❤
This video just appeared in my timeline. I'm glad that it did. As an elder gay who has been out for over 23 years, I am so happy that you are happy. We all come to that place in our own time, but when we get there, it is truly amazing. Keep shining your light and blazing a trail for those that will follow you!
Listening to your coming out story- when you shared that 22 people texted, you and your dad's friends started talking about you. I started to tear up. It brings me back to overcoming the "shame" I felt and the loneliness I experienced as I navigated my sexuality. I came out when I was 19 years old, and although people could guess that I was gay, I never came out and said it until I was 19. It was a bittersweet experience for me. My mother cried when I came out to her.
I'm out to my mum, little brother, big sister, 2 cousins, my aunt, and a few friends who were all accepting. I was also outed so this video resonated with me. Despite the fact that I am out to the persons who matter to me, and I'm at my most comfortable state in my life, I never stopped watching these videos because I love to hear different coming out stories. Thank you for sharing your story Jacob. You're incredible and I am looking forward to what's to come ❤❤❤
Everyone at my High School decided for me. They judged me and treated me accordingly. So I never got to become a social animal and hang out with friends because I didn't have any.
Nearly 30 years after graduating and I'm still haunted by the experience. I know only to well the mental health aspects you talk about.
Be grateful and appreciate that you are braver and stronger than you give yourself credit for.
Most handseome thing I've seen in a while...
he is not a thing, he is a person, but yes, I too would unreluctantly knibble on his ears
He is gay love sorry
that is sooo true!
ZL Productions I agree...he’s really stunning...look at those eyes! 😁❤️
@@SeanShimamoto ❤️❤️
Similar story coming out it’s tougher growing up mixed race Islander & German(White) it’s tough my whole family & few friends disowned me and distanced themselves. I didn’t care much, as longs as I was happy and moved overseas for a better life and it’s been good so far!
William, those "friends" outed themselves as superficial and unreal. It is actually clarifying to find out the truth.
John Kimber I am human lol
John Kimber what ethnicity do I resemblance?
John Kimber Latino I wish
John Kimber 🙏🙏🙏
Thanks for sharing your story. I'm 58, and I remember just how difficult my own self-realization and coming out was...during a very different time in our world. Hearing you share your story is in itself a gift to others who come after you that "it's ok" and that there is an authentic life ahead. Aloha! Be Safe and Be Well! Alan
It's entertaining to hear positive coming out stories. It's also really important to hear them. Best to you Jacob.
Your story resonates with me. It took me years to come out and even now that I am out, it still feels like I'm not out. Conservative family. Conservative country. Hate crimes. I love your story and wish I could speak to you to help me boost my confidence etc. I am still worried that people will find out and their reactions so I don't feel that I am me yet even though my family has known for about 8-9 years. It is not a subject we ever talk about. It's not like reality. I feel like I'm back in the closet. I need help to find me and be me
Hey how are you? I hope You are ok? I'm sorry to hear this, i am from Philippines it is the same here we don't talk about it but they know me for Who I am, I am just concern to my nephews and nieces to explain who I am just because my sisters teaching them to call their uncle gay and which is me.. so Kinda Feel awkward to be around with them... But what you feel is totally valid you just have to let it go.. As long as your support system are ok with you, you will be good
Anyone who doesn’t like you for you, is not the right person for you anyway. BOOM💥
Omg, It's Damon from "Damon and Jo"!
Easy said, translated it means, if your Mom doesn't like you, it's the wrong Mom for you. It means coming out can cause breakups. That is exactly what people fear. Now you try to comfort somebody with "breakup is good for your".
Blah blah blah blah
ist easy for somebody on the outside to say this when they haven't experienced what somebody is going through, and even if you have everyone handles things differently because everyone is different.
@@williamreed5528 yep I get it! After watching lord knows maybe 200 coming out stories and while there is a blah blah blah side to these stories they serve a critical purpose to the one telling the story, their friends and family and those who are still clueless that gay people even exist in truth! (Oh he isn't really gay, it's just a phase!) [denial mind set!] Best !!
It's never easy to express for who you really are in this world because people will judge you, but at the end of the day it's you who know who you are. As long as you won't hurt anybody then feel free to be true to yourself and most important thing is ACCEPTANCE. So proud of you Jacob. Raise our flag 🌈 ☺️
Hey Jacob! I love how you were able to be so insightful and sensitive in telling your story. You listened to your inner feelings and saved yourself a lifetime of self-loathing and depression. Be thankful you live at this point in history; the future is on your side ... and vice-versa.
My mother found out before I was ready to tell her and when she confronted me with it I remember feeling terrified.
Things got really ugly between us for a while but in hind sight it was the best thing to happen to me because I no longer had to carry the weight of my secret and I felt free. Even though she was angry. Even though she kicked me out of the house. Even though our relationship was strained, I felt so free and happy that none of that mattered.
So happy you’re in a healthy place in life. Thanks for sharing your story. :)
Hope things get better and better with you.Sorry that you weren’t accepted by your mom.Some parents don’t realize how fortunate they are to be blessed with kids.What really counts is that you are free and happy and not hiding who you are.Maybe she will realize what she did was wrong and if she doesn’t it’s her loss,not yours.Been in your shoes before so I know what it’s like being rejected by someone who’s supposed to love you unconditionally.
You have to remember that you are not going to give your parents grandchildren Say goodbye to the family legacy and the family name. So for some people that's very important. Grandchildren for a lot of people is the icing on the cake. I never got married because I never found the right woman. But I saw the expression on my parent's faces when my brother would stop by with his kids. They would lite up with joy when the grandchildren showed up. So I can understand when parents are not happy with their gay children.
Good for you. It sucks that so many people live their lives trying to please others. Or trying to hide who they really are just to cater to people's judgment. I wish you lots of happiness and love in your life 😄🌈
@Felix ,GOOD! Stay Strong and Stay Well from Philadelphia, Pa. Never look back!
Today I've learned that being unpopular in high school has its advantages! No one gives a shit about my sexuality 🤣
And you won't have those disgusting friends from high-school who would try to keep up with you forever.
From one Western grad to another, thank you for sharing this. It is a tough realization, no matter what. All the best. x
It doesn't get more real and honest than this guy! I hope the happiest life for you!
Hlo can I have ur insta handle
It’s gonna be fine buddy. You’ll be fine. God bless.
I must be at least 15-20 years older than you, and the thing that struck me the most about your story is how it was almost precisely the same for me back in my university days. Some details were different of course, but I remember every single feeling you described like it was yesterday. On the one hand, it's always great to hear someone making this important journey. But on the other hand, it makes me a little sad to think things still haven't changed in all this time. I would've hoped by now people didn't have to go through the same crushing self doubt and fear of losing friends and family just because of who they are. Glad it's worked out well for you, you should be proud of yourself! :)
sounds like you have the greatest best friend...the kind of guy that was so impacted by you coming out to him that he needed to process it for an hour but then (I'm guessing) still loved and cared for you afterwards
I'm going to add to this because it's not always bad or sad when coming out. I'm a 66 year old man. My mother who I speak of was born in 1924 with a Catholic upbringing. I never thought of myself as coming out or being gay. We were told in those days many boys in their youth 'mess-about' with other boys and it's part of growing up and finding your sexuality. At some point a boy will move on to girls. So I waited and waited even thinking I was a 'late developer' and would get around to girls eventually. Dated the occasional girl at school but more because everyone else was. On leaving school at 16 I went to 'Men only' clubs and realised I wasn't going to change. By 17, I had my first love and when it ended I was crushed. I had no one to talk too properly and felt down and depressed. One day I was sitting in the livingroom and my Mother asked me what was wrong? At first I tried to deny anything but she insisted. Suddenly tears rolled down my face and I told her that I had loved a guy but it was now over and I missed him. She listened and we talked. She told me she would always be there if I needed to talk ever again. Later she told my sister who accepted me and when she married she told her husband who was equally open. When I asked her why she just said, she needed to know he was ok with it before she married him. I felt so much better knowing my parent knew but I never pushed the gay agenda to my mother or expected her to accept my gay lifestyle. I would never taking a guy back (except once or twice) or kiss a guy in front of her....wouldn't have done it with a girl either! She did meet my gay friends as well as the odd relationships or two and never judged me or them for being gay. Infact she got on so well with one of my exes that he use to visit her long after we were over, which was annoying for me! I never came out to my work colleagues because that's exactly what they were colleagues so not importent enough to come out too specificall, after all never did with my parent so why do it for them. But I never hid my lifestyle from them just never added the tag GAY. So I would tell them about my weekend as I went to a club danced all night with friends and me and xxx went back to mine at dawn, had breakfast and went to bed, we didn't wake until late Sundays! That's how I would describe my weekend if asked. I'm out to my family who can see me and my present relationship on my face book page should they want and his family are fantast. They are Spanish and I am older than his parents but they chat away with me in their broken English and I in my broken Spanish. Why because they know I care for their son and that's what counts to them. As it turned out my cousin who came from a religious upbringing has a daughter who is gay and lives in Australia with her wife and new baby. So things can and will change, being gay doesn't mean being alone or having a sad life. If I can have all of this during my life in an age of illegality for being homosexual, homophobia out and proud usually beating the shit out of some poor soul, clause 28 or whatever with Thatcher and Whitehouse. Then you must be able to with what's there today.
Never heard of this kid in my life but omg that video was so sweet and he's adorable.
One thing I've learned in life is that when you are young, mostly during your high school and college years, you want to be liked and you worry about what people think about you. Then when you get to middle age.....your forties and fifties you don't care what they think......When you get to your seventies and eighties you discover they weren't thinking of you at all.
Jacob you are truly a terrific guy and someone your parents should be very proud of.
I love that the first time ever you came out, it was because you thought it wasn’t fair to your mom.❤ I respect people who love their own family. 😊 Wish I’d find someone like that one day.
The hardest time we have in our life can become our biggest strength
Thank you my little Canadian brother. You did a great job on your story and I'm so happy for you. You seem like a wonderful person and you'll make someone a very happy man. You'll be in my prayers.
Proud of you! Take what’s rightfully yours. Your life, love and identity. I‘m one of those „typical“ mummies who knows her children better than they know themselves... just like i knew my son was gay wayyyy earlier then he outed himself to me. That was at the age of 18... now he‘s 27... i‘m proud of him like i‘m proud of all you guys living and loving your life because you only have this one life and because nobody should ever be afraid or ashamed of loving the person you want to love, no matter what! Make your life extraordinary, Jacob! I‘ll be cheering for ya... Greetings from Germany 🍀
Your story brought back my own memories from 30 years ago. Seems like yesterday. Thanks for sharing.
Enjoy your youth.
I cant tell you on how proud of you on coming out!!! You are young but yet you are on the right path and direction.....I came out when I was 14 and it was tough for me. My parents took me to a shrink because she thought that it just was just a phase.....but it wasn't. She's has been happy for me ever since!
Be yourself, be honest to everyone including your family, and first and foremost be HAPPY and PROUD!!! There is a saying that goes......I dont care what you look on the outside, it is what is on the inside that counts. I AM proud of you on coming out and I salute you :)
Hey Jacob! I really felt every word in this video, I’ve gone through a very similar journey of learning I need to be honest with myself and everyone I care about because pretending to be someone your not can really affect your mental health. I recently came out on Facebook a few months ago and I’ve never been happier! Feeling like I can be who I am proud to be means everything. Thank you for sharing your journey with us here I’m sure it has helped so many other ppl still struggling inside the closet. Btw you’re so f cute!!
Good for you, Jacob! I hope you have a long, happy, and PROUD life! Congratulations!
Be happy that your first experience was a real, true, deep infatuation (“crush”) and that you felt heartbreak- I remember being exhilirated- it felt so exciting and so oh sooo right! - also clearly somebody did something right in raising you so that you could feel that in the first place with someone else- and you will be much less likely to fall into unhealthy relationships throughout your life. So It’s been like 4 years since you posted this, and I clicked and now am commenting-
so I hope you are doing amazingly well especially since you seem so down to earth and also because you are canadian (not gonna lie, my bias is real 😂)- and you’re totally someone I’d be attracted to- you fit my type - so there’s that
I'm a straight female but I'm watching coming out videos lol instead of studying. Good for you for coming out and being your true self. Hi from Ontario and damn, your Alberta accent is strong.
I always said "I have to live my normal, not everyone else's". Thanks for the story.
Really enjoyed your video. I came out decades ago at 33. My only regret is not doing so earlier. I watch coming out stories like yours once in awhile to see if the process is getting easier for our youth. Très fier de toi.
Dan Gagné Well it might have been good you didn't. I came out at 15. This was in the 90s. Didn't end good.
My partner came out at 15 also to crazy religious parents and that didn’t go well either. He moved out at 16 and still has a strained relationship with them almost 20yrs later.
Dan Gagné all religious written word, has been written by man! Many religions stem from judaism ✡️! The Koran doesn’t always get proper translation into English! There are compelling arguments against those commonly used phrases from the Bible “ Man shall not lie with man” etc.
Dan Gagné many of these religions didn’t exist until 1000 years after Christ died! Meanings of words change over time! In the English language to say I like that, instead people have said... that’s hot, that’s cool, that’s rad, it’s the bomb, it’s off the hook, it’s off the chain, that’s mad hot, that’s banging, countless other terms! So imagine trying to translate a book from 1000 years earlier from a different language!
I remember agonizing for 3 years living with my bf. I finally went home & asked her to sit down and I finally sed that I was gay. Without skipping a beat she just sed let's go out for breakfast. Felt like Mt Everest was lifted off my shoulders! I love you Mom! Rest in peace ❤
I am happy for you. It is never easy to come out since we have to first come to terms with it ourselves. Keep being you and loving yourself.
I went through that period of anger too. Your story with your mom and the way you shared it was so … funny because I can only imagine how you felt in that moment and how relieved you must have been when she texted you the second time. Also, your ability to tell a story was so amazing, that I felt like you were sharing it with me. I hope your life is all it can be! Thanks for posting!
I heard him say out and house, and I instantly knew he’s from Canada. I guess I wasn’t paying attention to the background with the Canadian clock on the wall.
What about the poster in French? I had to check where London was in Canada. Obviously he wasn't referring to the U.K. His "uit" and "huis," known as Canadian raising, sound different than in other parts of Canada.
And the massive Alberta flag in the background lol
@@hori166 You do realize that Canada's second official language is French. There are many French Canadians :)
yes and his tee shirt - plus the provincial flag and the reference to London and Western (UWO) on the posters. But more importantly - he is working through one of the most important milestones for gay people: being out. Looks like there is a lot of love and support for him which is wonderful.
@@danielnogueira4585 Now I wonder where he is in Alberta. 😙
I loved your entire post, but the most gratifying part was right at the end, "know that there are many who will support you". I was outed at age 18 by a guy I had made an awkward pass at. At the time there were no gay newspapers or magazines, no support groups of any kind, no role models in TV, movies, sports, music, academia etc., and I was a sinner in the eyes of the church, considered a criminal by the justice system, and mentally ill by the medical profession. I was kicked out of college, and my wonderful parents, both of whom had advanced degrees in Psychology, were baffled, embarrassed, and ashamed and didn't want to talk about it. I felt COMPLETELY isolated. I survived all of that to have a successful life, acceptance by family and friends, and 2 long term relationships, one for 22 years and my current one for 9. Whenever I see a story like yours I get a huge sense of joy that today's youth can do exactly what you have done, and not have to go thru what people like us had to go thru when I was your age.. Value and enjoy what you have, I see really good things ahead for you in life, you're already popular, you're going to have a blast. Thanks for posting, you made my day.
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Wow, you have a very powerful story
Two important points:
1. In case of a stressful occurrence people - normal - may star to behave distinctively different usually they just back away from their usual behaviour and get less active and more distant. If anyone would ever observe such a change by a close person don’t become offended or resentful but be aware that something important has taken place and try to assist the person and give the person time to come out with that.
2. He said - as long as he had been closeted his self esteem has been limited and he has judged himself only by what other people have been thinking about him. After coming out he regained respect for himself and his self esteem has returned to its due place. It is true. If whoever judges himself by what other people say - be sure that that person wastes his life and means nothing. Is almost nothing. Never do it. Only temporarily if we need get back on track.
Overall - he is quite normal, not a haughty boy, quite sensitive and handsome. And full of energy. He is young still and he makes most of it now. Great. I would like to listen to his further stories !
So many parts of your story resonated with me. I too had a hard time accepting myself at first and tried to bury and tried to go as bi, but after a while, I couldn't ignore the fact that I'm a lesbian. I have been coming out to friends for almost 2 years now, but I didn't want to tell my family. But, like your mom, my mom knew and told my dad to get ready for it. She confronted me, and while the situation has been rocky for a while, they are finally starting to be more accepting. You are so brave for sharing your story online, thank you! ❤️
I watch Canadian “ coming out” videos just to hear them say “ out”. Lol
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OMG: My previous comment was his coming out story is interesting but that I'm mostly interested in his Canadian-ness....
Your comment reads differently from a Scottish point of view ;)
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And they also say "university" instead of "college"
“Hello Friends” .. JJ 😍
I am gay and didn't come out until I was 29 years old and AFTER being married to a woman for 7 years. I have been with my husband for 31 years now and wish you all the happiness that I have found in my life. God bless you my friend !
So glad to hear you mentioning the emotional aspect to this. It's not just who you want to sleep with. I was super shy in high school so I'd just go out with any girl who expressed interest (only a few did, lol) and I figured "okay, this seems to work so... I guess I'm Bi?" Then in college I met a guy I clicked with and we started dating and it was like WHAM! - THIS is what it feels like to be in love. THIS is what I've been looking for. It wasn't until then that I really knew I was gay. :)
Jacob I went to a very small high school years back. Did the same thing when I went to UBC. Don't be surprised when you go to a school reunion to find out you were not the only one. What brings a smile to my face is the girls that told me they liked dating me as I was different than the rest of the guys as I was not always trying cop a feel.
Im really happy for you.... total side note but you’re really cute 😅🤣❤️
He is! I agree.
Yup hahaha
Yupp
I’m a lesbian but yes he’s handsome 😌
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Good for you Jacob, divorces are nasty thing. Was married for 22 yrs
Amazing story. So proud of your courage and vulnerability. You’re a smart mature young man. I was exactly like you but ended up getting married and had kids and came out at 40. I don’t have any regrets because of my three amazing kids but no debate. Being out and authentic is the only Way to go. Congrats!
I am 50 years old and I have never been able to live my life. My Father passed away not knowing me. My Mother is in denial but my sister knows. My life has been very sad. Be open and be free. Don't lose even an moment brother.
Damn, Jimmy! I hate reading your life has been very sad and I hate that you've not been able to live your own life. It's not too late. I'm going through a divorce right now. My husband and I were together for over 30 years and fought the world most of those years just to be able to live in peace. We finally blew the relationship up ourselves. But, as painful as it's been and even though I'm 57 years old, I'm optimistic I'll find love again. In the meantime I'm working on me and living the best life I can live. I've got a little farm that I love and want to share it and all it has to offer with that right guy. He's out there. I know he is. I've just got to find him.
Coming Out is never easy, so many Gay Men have lived your story, Thanks for sharing :-)
Trent Miller I’m 37 years old I am still in the closet. It is so hard to come out because my mom has heart problems and I don’t want to lose her. I really want to have relationship with man but I hope whoever he is, he would understand my situation.
WTF STUDIO INC. That is unfortunate, as your Mom is living her authentic life in her beliefs, you should be living your authentic self as an individual, nobody nobody should stop you from being you 😞
Trent Miller I agree. I hope one day everything will be ok. I wanna have a true and lasting relationship with a man.
@@Trent69Miller ,BRAVO! I hope he takes your advice!
John Kimber thanks babe ❤️ I’ll take note of that ❤️☺️
Jacob everything in your life only get better after you accept yourself. I'm 70 years old and I came out to my Parents when I was 17 years old. My Parents were very accepting in a day and age when it wasn't Socially Acceptable. I was a Jock of the 1st Order and no one ever even though that I was Gay. My Partner and I were together for over 40 year until his Death 7 years ago. He was my History Prof in College, I was 22 and he was 32. Life is Good and I wish you the best in the Years to come. Peace & Love Always. Jessiah
Its crazy how different things have become, idk if its just that im in an accepting part of the world (California) or if its just different times but its way different in my highschool, like usually all the “gay” people are the most popular in my whole district and usually they are the ones winning prom king and homecoming king and stuff like that. And its kinda been like that for my whole school experience, like every since 1st grade, and its crazy to me hearing how different things were or are in the world.
So happy for you. From my own experience, no gay guy regrets coming out of the closet.It's great to be free to be yourself.
I can't even imagine how overwhelming that could be you really are strong
Super handsome. Love this story. Stay strong friend. Sending all the Positivity and love your way!
I’m so proud of you! I’m incredibly sorry your were outed, but I’m happy to see you living your life as your authentic self ♥️
Moms 'always know', Dads are like... "Great, now I have to explain this to my friends!" Keep being you!
It is horrible that people think they have to lie about their sexuality but it is also horrible being a girl who is lied to by a boyfriend who is just using her to hide the truth
Hi, Jacob. Thanks for sharing your story. Two things I got touched by in your narration: 1) The Magic. That feeling of when you are with a person, and you really you want to be with them, rather than those you were told you were supposed to like and be with, that is pure magic! and it's so heartwarming that you listened to your own wish/desire/heart and followed it. Be only with the ones you feel that magic. 2) Resilience. Although being outed is not the best way to start living your true self (I think it is violent -either on purpose or by accident) it was a big opportunity for you. Going through the overwhelming times, and finding ways to cope with the adversity, and after all that, coming out of the whole thing as a new, brave and happy person is almost the living meaning of resilience. I am sorry if this comment is too long. Greetings from Mexico!
Thank you so much. You are brave and don't be afraid anymore.. Have a wonderful life. Born in '43 it was a nightmare to be gay: except for a small minority we got it from everyone and every institution of society. You never forget.
Just be you Jacob ❤️ you seem like a lovely man. Life is way too short for being unhappy 🙁 and afraid of what others think of you. I know this from harsh reality. Shine and be you. Thank you for sharing ❤❤❤
Jacob your story is so inspiring for so many guys including me, I wish I had someone like you when I was questioning my curiosity. You are a handsome dude with a strong personality I am sure you will succeed in anything you put your mind to it since you have passed this biggest hurdle. be happy and have great career dude much ❤️
Jacob. Coming out can be torture. I knew I was gay early in my life. When I was 19 years old I experimented with a girl. I knew it wasn’t for me. She was the only girl
I ever had sex with. Long story short ended up getting her pregnant. We got married. I spent 30 years with her. Ended in divorce. Finally came out and I’m the happiest I’ve ever been.
they are coming out in high school these days if not jr high.
I hope you always find the love, respect, and dignity you deserve. Always fight for these things. Be true to yourself, and the man that you love, and you will find the strength that you need. Also, follow your bliss.
Awesome; I've never heard a story so similar to mine, but with a 40 year difference.
Why is it still so hard? One would think things would be getting easier, what with society's growing awareness and acceptance of the gay lifestyle. Clearly, we still have a very long way to go.
I “came out” to myself in 1980. And by that, I mean I had a fling with an openly gay man, so there was no more denying it to myself or anyone else. I see that telling people is still as hard as ever. It’s really too bad, but I'm glad you’re happy with your decision. And BTW, coming out was probably the single best thing I ever did. I met so many great people who encouraged me to do things with my life that I might never have done otherwise.
I am very proud of you for coming out as you did I know that it must have been very hard for you but you have done it good for you as you see, I am not last years chicken by any means I came out when I was in high school by mistake but I have no regrets today what so ever it wasn't easy back then but I have made and I am very happily married to a wonder full man we have been together for 29 years now and I have no reason not to believe we live like this until the end, I also have every reason to believe that one day you will meet someone also and have a great life together I wish all the best and God Bless and keep you. ❤️❤️❤️
Jacob, I hope that you continued to have this bravery and comfort these past three years. Your attitude is/was contagious. Keep being positive and trusting of what you feel and know from within. Best wishes.
It is really interesting that so many young guys seem to skip the experimenting stage.
The most important person you have to come out to is yourself and sometimes this is most difficult step.
Jacob, Thanks for sharing your story of coming out. I am so glad for you to have come so far and especially to share with others. Very well said. Thanks again and best wishes going forward.
As a sick fellow we knew once said.....'do you know how fortunate you are" (?) to have been with a nice man for a lifetime , I had not thought of my life in such terms before. I have been fortunate to have met the right man who stands beside me , always, despite what life throws at us! And now, in the "riper years" I appreciate the sentiment behind this statement., I truly hope that all of my "kin" can find the peace and commitment that I have found by being "devoted" to my friend . Chris Australia. ....It's not easy !
In my country a super small town is "Pueblo Chico, Infierno Grande". In such small towns people are very conservative and old-fashioned. It must have been very difficult for you to express yourself truly.
Alejandro G damn you are so hot and fine to me.! !!
It's fantastic to be out. Yet, here we are 2020 and it is still fearful for us. But more young people standing up and saying, hey this is me, maybe some day it won't be a "thing". All the best to you!
No one's business but our own what our sexuality is, yet people make it their business. I hope your story will encourage others.
Ĵacob, congratulations on coming out, albeit not on your own terms. I'm retired and was married to a female. Similar background -- small town, ironically then went to university Queen's and then Western. Really had no understanding or knowledge of being gay and it truly wasn't accepted years ago. Later in life, felt like I was totally pulled towards coming out, had some months of mental torture and concerns, and then finally did come out, divorced, and later met Mr. Right. Best decision of my life. I hope everything works out for you. Remember being gay is just part of the whole complex individual that is you. Enjoy the feelings, emotions and exploring !!
Finally coming out is so liberating. It is horrible to live a life that is not your life. Nice coming out story.
High School is the worst for gay people,at least in some of them. Teenagers can be really mean and this was pretty scary at the time.I only came out with my closest friends at the first year of high school.Eventually i discovered university as the place with the majority of open-minded people and being able to be happy with.
M LIKING THE MOM "I'm out for a drive" TOO CUTE!!! LOL Its all self preservation and intention..........................
When I was at college, I told my close friend from high school that I thought I was gay. It wasn’t until years later that another high school friend told me that she had told everyone I knew.
andrewaway some ppl are just fake friends, sorry that happened
Jacob, live your life and don't follow others! You are good just the way you are! Because it doesn't matter what sexuality a person has! No one should care what others are doing in their bed! It's just a private thing! But it's good when you don't have to hide anymore! Stay as you are! You're a great man!
This guy is so cute, it’s insane.
Hi fromToronto. Got outed when i was 15, denied it my mom was a pastor and she believed me and now I'm in Toronto from Jamaica.
I consider myself a big fan of LGBTQ community for their braveery and motivational movements for everyone in the community's sake and the forthcoming.
Thanks for telling your story; and also for developing an early understanding of it’s not just about sex; claiming your authenticity is not an easy journey; take your own pace. Glad you’re finding being out positive. Hope you have a wonderful life.
Tough way to come out by being outed, but you handled it so well, CONGRATULATIONS !
Good that you're not wasting years trying to change something you didn't choose and that doesn't go away. The rational choice is to accept yourself as you are and live your life to the fullest. I hope you find someone to love and who will love you back in this life. You deserve it.