MY COMING OUT STORY | Taylor Phillips
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Hello everyone! This was by far my most requested video, so I am happy (and nervous) that it's finally here. Thank you so much for listening to my story and being a part of this journey with me.
This was my personal experience and how I handled the situation and is, in no way, meant to be a mold for anyone to feel the need to follow.
I hope that by sharing my story and telling my experiences that I can inspire others to do the same or be that person I wish I had when I was coming out.
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Taylor
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I came out when I was 25 and met my partner at 27 . I struggled also being I was a construction worker. I'm now 59 and still with my partner 32 years now. I'm retired after 30 yrs of being in construction. Good luck on your journey. We both are masculine men. People can't understand how we are gay! Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha. Best of luck.
wow congrats
ah :"
William Armstrong the stereotype is that masculine men can’t be gay ...........weird
And if you were not masculine was that really such a problem?
Wow ur partner must be very happy
Congratulations on an excellent video Taylor. I am 76 years old and have been with my husband for 58 years.
We got married in 2006 on the first day that it was legal in the UK. I wish you all the best for your future happiness.
Be yourself is the best advice ever. Take care, Ian
I came out in 1981, AIDS was on the horizon. People were dying and we couldn’t even talked to anyone. Our grief, our pain and loss was stuffed and we lived in fear. Somehow, I felt I had to get right with it, I had to speak my truth. My Dad had already passed away so my worry was my family and friends. One friend of my mothers said the worst thing ever, : “You save your soul, I will save mine”. I left in shame. Then another friend , my mom’s best friend, told me she loved me and that my mom would love me regardless. It wasn’t easy, but it was courageous, just as you are! Be true to yourself, love yourself be kind Nd, forgiving and accepting but most of all honor your sexuality as a gift. You are helping many people. All the best! John
Kids can be so mean. I use to be called gay a lot by my peers and even my own family (brother). The times I have cried because of something I didn't even truly understand at the time still makes me anxious to this day. I'm glad I have never hurt myself because it. Because we have come so far as a community. Stay beautiful inside Taylor xo
Greg Louis stay strong Greg 👍
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chow tt - I cannot imagine spending time trolling Gay people on RUclips to spew ridiculous bullshit. chow Tt, you need a life. Preferably one which doesn’t include bigoted harassment of others.
Yeah, the biggest assholes in the universe are teen boys. No contest. They treat others, girls, each. Other like shit. Ugh.
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The world needs more wholesome content like this. Bravo
We Love this too!
The way the kids bullied you is seriously mean. Glad you become a strong and happy man.
Recently I apologized to someone who used to be one of my closest friends because some of his friends had bothered him for having a gay friend, then I really regretted the position in which I had put him and also felt extremely bad for being gay and being the way I am. This video has opened my eyes in so many ways, now I realize how confused I was and that I do not have to regret for being myself, further, I do not have to apologize to anyone who is not smart enough to realize how valuable someone is regardless of the sexual orientation. I’m really glad you are inspiring people with your content and being an example of getting over hard situations to truly live a joyful life. I’m grateful to you, I definitely needed this video. Hugs from Colombia
If you could use a few more arguments, or if you have problems for religious/cultural reasons, this can help you: “On Human Suffering and the Concept of God” - the psychological origin of religious beliefs.
neomodernistpoetry.blogspot.com/2018/11/on-human-suffering-and-concept-of-god.html
or homoeroticpoems.blogspot.com/2018/06/on-human-suffering-and-concept-of-god.html
About homosexuality: homoeroticpoems.blogspot.com/2014/04/to-community.html
"Hey, listen to me. You be yourself" Brought tears to my eyes. Love your mom! ❤️❤️
Coming out is hard. Also, this man is insanely, almost unbelievably hot.
Hes like a mix between Patrick Dempsey, Bradley Cooper and Sean O'pry
^Said what we are all thinking
What it says that may be for men, it doesn't matter about looks, they'll still hate you the same. It's known that good looking people can get further from other people that see them as favourable, but gay and you see some turn?
Taylor, thank You for sharing your story and hurts, tears and triumph! I came out 16 days ago to my wife as a gay man. It took me 33 years to come out of the closed. I' a pastor in a german conservativ church and it was a hard way to pretend that I'm a staight guy and husband. Man like you encouraged me to take the steps an now I discover my true self an will live a honest and authentic life! I wish You all the best.
wow I feel terrible for your wife, 33 years of deceit
@@skurinskistupid comment. Don't judge others unless you've been there. 🤡
@@skurinskiI feel terrible for you, you have no empathy and cannot understand what it is like living in a society where gay people are persecuted, or despised.
Even liberal advanced countries like Germany have homophobic people
“Ok...that’s cool”. Hahaha what a remarkable mom!!!
I don’t know why but I started to cry watching this
“Coming out” is soul crushing. Utterly demeaning. The fear that you carry to where it feels “liberating” when you can finally be open and feel accepted is absolutely absurd. Everyone has a right to live their true, authentic self without having to live with fear of being “exposed” for LOVING someone. To the entire LGBTQ community, I apologize for the ignorance that continues to plague us as a people. I hope the day when “coming out” and fear to love is a thing of the past. Live YOUR best life!! I stand with you 😘
you my lady are what we call WOKE
Totally agree
Robert Ward please shut up. No one cares about your beliefs. You or your god have no right to make ones sexual orientation invalid.
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@@kristiangomes3273 So what happens when- his post is not here- This must be a deletion? Often those kinds of offensive accusations from a book of belief only, someone must delete it?
I never write on you tube - ever.
I had tears in my eyes when you were talking about your discussion with your mother. Thank you for sharing your experiences - good and bad. I may not know you and may never know you - but it's awesome to be able to hear the perspectives of such a fine young man. Thank you again for sharing with us.
When I came out to my parents, my dad always told me to proud of who I am and not ashamed as how other see me! That's probably one of the few pieces of advise that I remember from my parents.
I have being surrounded my entire life by so much homophobia that when he said that his mother said he was doing the right thing by living his truth I was literally shook for a second and then I remembered some people’s parents are actually supportive.
Yes it can be completely the opposite of what u think if u true to urself.Peoples can feel each other's pain so why not liberate 1 another.We all want to feel better n it's not like we gay people r Unstable mentally.U change the world's perspective.Own It!
Thank you Taylor for sharing your story🙌. That inspires me a lot to coming out and being my authentic self🤍
"Do whatever make you happy." This is true. Stay happy Taylor ❤
i'm gay Muslim thank you so much for this i needed to hear this
You probably won't see this because you posted this video a year ago, but I wanted to let you know that this really touched me. When you teared up while you were explaining how your mom reacted, my heart just broke for you. You made yourself so vulnerable. I just wanted to hug you and let you know how brave I think you are. You are young enough easily to be my son (my kids are 31 and 34). We must love our LGBT children, because the lack of parental love is something that sometimes can't be overcome, and that is heartbreaking. Keep living your life, be proud, and best wishes for your future.
I wish I had dad like u..... ❤️✨ Nevermind but OMG your kids are so lucky and I respect and stan u sir !!!! Thank u for being such an awesome parent
This hit hard! Thankyou for sharing and being a gay role model that is not so cliche, it means more men can be ok with being gay.
you have a great mom! Thank her again.
Taylor, you look gorgeous and sound great. May God bless, protect and keep you in His love for ever.
Being happy within yourself is priceless, glad your being true. Cheers to you mate
BEING GAY IS A BLESSING. YOUR STORY IS A BLESSING. LOVED AND SUB. MUCH LOVE*
Been gay is a blessing from Satan not from god
Some days are worse than others, and today being a pretty crappy day, I really needed this. Thank you so much for opening up like this and sharing your experience with us. I never felt like I could relate to anyone else too, and hearing your story changed my mind. Thanks for showing me I am not alone. I don’t know if you will ever realize how much you are helping me. Thank you so much.
really enjoyed watching this
yesss queeen!! ilu
and now you're out :)
I’m so happy for you!! Thanks for sharing your story
I can relate to your story so much. Thank you so much for sharing Taylor. You’re definitely my gay icon I look up to and I love you and Jeff together and am so exited for your guys’ lives together!
Thank you for this Taylor. Your story inspired me so much. Just like you coming out is really tough in my case, i knew I was gay since I was a kid but I chose to hide in the closet for 30 plus years because I experience trauma from bullying. The worst thing is even at home I got bullied. Its hard because of that trauma I need to pretend I am straight. My work suffers. I jump from one job to another. Now, I am tired of hiding, I will gonna live my life and accept my truths. I dont care anymore what people are gonna say because it doesnt matter anymore. Lastly, I will find LOVE just like you and Jeff. Again, thank you for this. Congrats to both of you.
I can't believe people would ever not be your friend anymore because of your sexuality? Like wtf. Obviously they never cared about you and were using you.
Maybe it's because they think they'll fall in love with them -_-
@@Timeless80 Best friend when very young, but clearly not a ``real`` friend.
Adam Rohan Not everyone turns on you but the dynamics definitely changes. When the rumours started going around, no one wanted to be around me because they didn’t want others to think they were gay. After a while people grew up a little but I still have anxiety from those times
Adam Rohan
People can be cruel, and they ofttimes will sever friendships over very trivial things. it's sad that it is this way, but it is.
Not sure they never cared about him, maybe they lived always in a small conservative town in the South. Some people can not imagine be around someone "different" I was really surprised that people were so conservative and short minded, but they are even now. Feel sorry for this guy, but he moved on and left his hometown, probably for ever. Fortunately his family was supportive.
Taylor, your story is so inspiring. I had a similar story coming out to my family and friends. It was not easy, but after the first year or so, things start to get easier. Thank you for being transparent and being true to yourself. ❤️
This is such an honest and heartfelt video with which so many people will be able to identify. There will be many a young gay who will see himself in this video. Videos like this are so important for that reason. It is so good that they can see a wholesome and good-looking man who is living a decent and happy life. Your mom's reaction was wonderful and uplifting to hear about. You are, also, right that one does not need anyone in one's life who is not supportive. This is such a good video that I am not just putting it on my "Coming Out As Gay" RUclips Playlist, but I am, also, moving it up to be one of the top ten on my list. Lastly, I would say that I hope that some of the people who were so hateful to you in college and who rejected you would see this video, have second thoughts and maybe treat the next person who comes out as gay to them in a better way.
Such a beautiful and personal story. Thanks for sharing your story and helping so many others that don’t feel represented!
I've watched this entire video now. I have one word-beautiful. Taylor, you're a wonderful person, God bless you.
When I came out to a couple of friends and did the same thing, I apologize... thank you for making me realize that I don't have to apologize for being who I am💙 love you
whenever I come out to my family I want them to have an awesome, sweet, loving reaction like your mom. I can tell she really loves you. I cried lol
Being in the closet I thank you for sharing your strength, hope and inspiration. Really needed to hear this. One love!
I'm started to cry when I see u tears up....just remember, u are wonderful person 💗💗💗
Omg!!! Just when i was getting hurt and pissed at your so called friends, your mom's words come in and melt my heart.
Great Video Taylor. Love your comical self at the end. I am 60 ys young and I remember the best advice a Priest gave me many many years ago when I came out: "You are NOT going to hell because you are gay, but a life time of hell, that is totally up to you." At the time, I didn't quite know what he meant, but all these years later I do. Just because one comes out as Gay/Bi or whatever, it's important to remember you don't have to live an unhealthy, destructive lifestyle. So happy Taylor that you have learned that at such an early stage of your life. God bless you and Jeffry, and all the kids you will have one day! :)
No matter who you are, where you are, be yourself, follow your heart, do whatever you want, we don't need to apologize to anyone to be ourselves, we are not monster, and we are proud of ourselves because we are born this way. Thanks Taylor, you make me more brave to be myself.
With friends like that you don’t need enemies!
Thank you for your courage and for giving such a good
example to the thousands out there who are struggling
with their homosexuality.
This was amazing! Anytime seeing someone cry, it shows how genuine the feeling is. Your mom is most definitely so proud of you!
I came out to my parents last year, and I swear I’d never been that scared in my life. Of course it’s hard, there will be tears and there will always be people uncapable to understand what it’s like, but trust me, if anyone who hasn’t come out is reading this... it gets easier, then it gets OK, and then it feels like freedom 🙌🏻 Thank you Taylor for this amazing video, proud to be following you on your journey!
I loved hearing this story. I felt so many emotions through the whole thing and thought I would be okay until you got to the convo with your mom and I lost it. I’ve truly loved following you and seeing how successful you’ve become. I’m so happy for you and good luck in all your future endeavors!
Taylor, just found you and subbed. As a counselor for more years than you have been alive, I want to thank you for this. You are not only intelligent but also insightful; now only grown up but also mature; not only wise but also loving. Also a big shout-out to your mom. Thanks for this, bro...........love you, man............Ray
Hi Taylor, thank you so much for sharing your story with us. I also came out in 2015 and dealt with similar hardships as well. I came out during my junior and senior years of high school. I remember when Gus Kensworthy came out and having that knowledge of someone else similar to me as well coming out of the closet also meant a great deal to me. I am so glad that your mother reacted so positively and lovingly to you. It breaks my heart to see sweet guys like you with broken hearts due to the betrayal of people you thought were your friends and having no one to talk to or relate to. I really admire your strength and perseverance through it all though and I am so happy to hear about the place you are at in life now. I’m in the middle of college at an LGBT accepting university in the South where I’m from (wait they do exist?! Lol) so I am glad we’re each at better points now in life where we can finally be ourselves around people. Enjoyed the video and I know you will help out a lot of others by having shared your story 💕😊
Sweetheart, I want to THANK YOU for your beautiful story and all the ups and downs you went through coming out. I have been out since the early 90s and in my day coming out was not what it is today. Today you kids are coming out so much younger and I think thats great! During your coming out process I really understood so well what you went through. Although my family figured it out before I came out, I came out to validate myself and that was it. My family was very accepting and now that I've been out over 30 years I am now mentoring several of our gay youth who are experiencing the same issues and as their gay "mama" I let these kids know that coming out should be on their timetable and no one elses....which reminds me sweetheart, those friends that stopped talking to you just because you are gay were not your friends to begin with. Remember that. I have friends that have known I'm gay for years and still support me to this day. NEVER let anyone treat you less than you are and NEVER let being gay define who you are as well....because you are so much more than that! I AM SO, SO PROUD OF YOU baby and now begins the BEST years of your life living it happy, joyous and free....always stay true to yourself and as Ellen says, be kind to one amother. I am so happy for you and the partner you have in your life...you are both too adorable I can't stand it and LOVE your videos! Looking forward to seeing many more. You take care boys and THANK YOU again for sharing your wonderful story with all of us...xoxoxxo Mama Steve 😊❤👌
That was said from the heart, especially when you told your mother over the phone. Lovely and genuine!
Your life seems amazing now that you have the right people in it 😀
When I was your age I wish I was as brave as you. However, it was a different time. I'm now 57 and have a wife and two children. I can't go back I can only go forward. You made a brave decision and when your my age you'll be a happier person because you were true to yourself... This was a excellent video for people on the other side to help come to grips with the reality they live with. It's so unbelievable how much I looked like you at your age. Stand proud of you. Never be second string to anyone... Thanks!!!
Your mom is so sweet. It made me cry your mom being so sweet and kind to you...what a precious mom you have.... Love you and Jeff..love your videos.
I like you so much, Taylor. Hope you and Jeff have a happy ralationship forever.
Thank you for sharing your story! Even though my family knows about me it is still looked down upon. I hope it just gets better.
Same
First of all, i want to say that your pronounciation is really great, like, English isnt my 1st languange but i can understand everyword you say clearly..
2nd of all, youre very inspiring and brave to share this story with us.. i feel so sorry for you have to go through some loss of friends in the past year but I'm happy that you get over it bcs they didnt deserve a person as amazing a you are.. I'm so happy for your current life now, that you feel so free living as a gay man and youre enjoying your life to the fullest now.. i hope your relationship with jeff will be the happiest journey of your life and will end with a very happy ending..
Please keep doing what youre doing, please keep make videos for us your fans, and I can't wait for your next videos 😊 big hugs xx
You're such an angel. Literally kindness radiates from you. I'm happy that you eventually found a 'home' and a group of friends that love you.
I so identify with your story. I wanted people to be there for me but I put others needs and emotions before my own and they still walked away.
I love how you seem to be honest and open. I think that your vulnerabilities are your strengths, I feel that I can relate so much to you. Can't wait till Sunday 😘😘
Taylor if people don't accept who you are they never will. I think your story is beautiful and that you have a beautiful heart. God Bless You!
The great love between you and your mother is so touching. It moves me when you describe, dear friend Taylor. Love wins always. Your mom is so supportive. 🌈🌈🌈
This gives me so much support I'm 21 came out at 17 to my mom (there religious and Mexican saying it's a "phase") then came out to my whole family at 19 yrs old, which ended up getting told i was embarrassment, all this nasty things ended up being told leave or stay and act straight, instead of being loved this video gave me so much love even if I don't get that scene of family still warms my ❤️
Still disowned even tho I use to buy them things thinking it would glue things back together 😟 but I'm happy for you man I appreciate you
Sorry to hear that man. That sucks. I hope you are in a better place now.
Taylor, thanks for sharing your journey with us in such a genuine, open hearted way. All the less fortunate encounters you had have helped make you a stronger person today. It's amazing to see you in a happier place now. Wishing you and Jeff nothing but the best!
Taylor You are one lucky brave solid human being. Showing us your life is really appreciated.
My heart, you’re so so strong. And I’m so happy you’re happy!
He is gorgeous, lucky Jeff! 😍
Awww you just broke my heart watching you get emotional I wish he would give you a huge hug ....take care
I can relate to your situation with coming out with your friends and family. The friends I came out to at the age of 17 back in 1985 was risky. I decided to be honest with myself. I later realized that these people I came out to were never my friends. I came out to my Mom. I got the bible lecture from her. It took her years to accept me. My relationship with my family is somewhat strained. I too am living a happy life. I have a husband and two kids. That was a great video Taylor!
I find so many similarities between your story and my own, and it’s for that reason that it’s important we share our stories at any level. A large part of learning who you are comes with a sense of feeling alone (at least for some people), and it’s being able to relate to others’ stories that we get a sense of belonging. So thank you for that :)
your parents raised a great kid
Touching stuff hun! Your past made you such a strong and beautiful man with such a big heart clearly
He's stunning and can probably whoop your butt
Wow, I can imagine how tough it has been for you. I always knew that I was gay, and I never tried to unconsciously convince myself that I wasn't (for example: dating girls). I always said to myself that I would come out when I dated a very special person for me. That's what I did. It has now been nearly a year since I came out, and I can't deny that there have been tough situations: my father, who is 70 years old, wasn't ready to hear that, he never imagined that I could be gay, he would not understand it, but he respected it. He told me that he needed time to assimilate it and I patiently waited until he was ready to meet my boyfriend. Now, I can bring my boyfriend home just like my brothers and sisters would.
Fortunately, all of my friends were really happy to hear that I was gay, in fact, many of them already thought that I could be gay, but none of them ever asked me anything, they all waited for me to take a step forward and come out. It's your decision, not others.
Absolutely beautifully done, Taylor. Your coming out story comes through so honest and emotionally relatable. Thank you for using your platform in such an uplifting and positive way.❤
so Im watching this video and my nephew asks what am I watching.. I tell him and he looks at me puzzled and says: theres nothing wrong with being gay though.. hes NINE
i just found your channel, all these normal lives i see is empowering. Thanks for sharing, taylor! from Indonesia
I am so happy that you are in a good place right now! You're very brave for going through all of that. Know that you are never alone in this no matter what's going in your life. We are all here for you.
Your a great person, beautiful soul and inspirational thank you for being who you are.
G'day from Sydney Australia 🇦🇺
Serving up such realness! Great video Taylor! I’m a bit surprised you had so many friends that reacted so poorly to your coming out in 2015, but I’m so glad you told this story. Much love to you!
You are now the role model for younger men going through what you had to but now they have a hero to look up to best wishes for a happy life 🌈🏳️🌈💜💪👍💙🇺🇸⭐️🧸
I just came out to my parents a while ago. The feeling is so liberating. No more fears anymore.
You are an incredible person. You can be the role model to lots of other young men. Thanks for putting this out. I enjoy following you. You're amazing!
Taylor . I have seen and followed your life with Jeff and finally watched your coming out story. Your anxiety still shows in this vid but it makes it so heartwarming to see your "now" story with Jeff and how happy you are. You are a roll model of mature and balanced view of being gay.
Great vid...especially liked story about your mom’s reaction and how that made you feel and your two main conclusions: don’t apologise for being who you are and do it your way in your own time. Well done!
That fact that you are happy makes me happy. This video will touch so many people in a positive way, and your mom is the best
Coming out is one of the biggest challenges the LGBTQIA+ 🏳️🌈 community faces and I understand how difficult it is to gather the courage to reveal yourself to even a single friend, parent, or family member. Coming out is no small feat, but the weight that lifts off your shoulders is unreal and worth fighting for.
I believe that there is no right or wrong way of coming out, and I understand every community, family, or religion has its own boundaries and perspectives. Coming out takes time. It takes self-awareness, courage, and a great deal of self-love.
I’m PROUD OF YOU for sharing your story and being so candid cause I can honestly say I Relate to you as well but at the end of the day; I’M PROUD TO BE GAY AND PROUD OF MY LGBTQ+🏳️🌈 brothers and sisters all over the world
You are a beautiful soul and a beautiful man. Your honesty about your journey actually has a healing effect on scarred children who have grown into scarred adults who still have no hope of really being happy. The healing is in the acceptance of even that.
An amazing video! You have a great mom and your advice about never apologizing for who you are is spot on! Thank you for sharing your story!
Thank you for being very genuine with your story, you are an amazing man!! My hat goes off to you and I feel incredibly honored to witness your story!! You have inspired me to be who I am! Please give Thanks to your Mother for truly loving you for who you are!!
I need to be confident and tell my family and this video increase the possibilities to do this in the next few months, THANK YOU AGAIN TAYLOR!
If you live at home, be sure you have a plan "just in case." Also, never come out at a holiday or special occasion (birthday, anniversary, wedding, etc.). This conversation requires its own special day, perhaps over dinner.
Watched half of it so far and you speak with such heart man
I had to pause when you talked a bit about your bullying. I got bullied for looking "gay", for my name, for my supposedly ugliness, for my weight and I wanted to kill myself. Differences are said to be beautiful but I never felt that. Thank you for telling your story and for help keeping that tiny voice in my mind that tells me I'm worth it and beautiful alive.
Use Taylor's response to those bully's voices you still might hear in your mind (like I sometimes do): 18:47
This video made me tear up. You are a true inspiration. Thank you for sharing your story with us! ❤️
Thank you Taylor, what a gift you are. You help me feel more deeply human and alive.
I'm so sorry for what you went through.
Thank you for sharing your story with us. You are a true inspiration for people all around the world. keep up the amazing content ❤️
Taylor, I loved your sincere story of your journey to finding yourself. It resonates with how most gay men struggle with growing up around their straight piers, classmates and coworkers. Its a scary and emotional process that we all dread facing. Im so happy to see you in a supportive community and in a beautiful, loving relationship now. Thanks for being brave enough to share it all with us! You're so beautiful, inside and out. 😎
omg i cried too!!! ur amazing taylor!!! thanks for being an inspo 💕
This video made me cry. Your story is an inspiration for many. I'm so proud of you Taylor!
THANK YOU FOR SHARING YOUR STORY WITH US
the smile at the end tho. Beautiful!
I thought I watch a movie when I was hearing his story ... I cried too when he told that he called his mom 🥺. U r a great man, u r a good man , u r a really lucky man ... so keep being yourself and longlasting with Jeff ✨✨
I Love you guys 💕💕