I came out when I was 25 and met my partner at 27 . I struggled also being I was a construction worker. I'm now 59 and still with my partner 32 years now. I'm retired after 30 yrs of being in construction. Good luck on your journey. We both are masculine men. People can't understand how we are gay! Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha. Best of luck.
Congratulations on an excellent video Taylor. I am 76 years old and have been with my husband for 58 years. We got married in 2006 on the first day that it was legal in the UK. I wish you all the best for your future happiness. Be yourself is the best advice ever. Take care, Ian
I came out in 1981, AIDS was on the horizon. People were dying and we couldn’t even talked to anyone. Our grief, our pain and loss was stuffed and we lived in fear. Somehow, I felt I had to get right with it, I had to speak my truth. My Dad had already passed away so my worry was my family and friends. One friend of my mothers said the worst thing ever, : “You save your soul, I will save mine”. I left in shame. Then another friend , my mom’s best friend, told me she loved me and that my mom would love me regardless. It wasn’t easy, but it was courageous, just as you are! Be true to yourself, love yourself be kind Nd, forgiving and accepting but most of all honor your sexuality as a gift. You are helping many people. All the best! John
Kids can be so mean. I use to be called gay a lot by my peers and even my own family (brother). The times I have cried because of something I didn't even truly understand at the time still makes me anxious to this day. I'm glad I have never hurt myself because it. Because we have come so far as a community. Stay beautiful inside Taylor xo
chow tt - I cannot imagine spending time trolling Gay people on RUclips to spew ridiculous bullshit. chow Tt, you need a life. Preferably one which doesn’t include bigoted harassment of others.
What it says that may be for men, it doesn't matter about looks, they'll still hate you the same. It's known that good looking people can get further from other people that see them as favourable, but gay and you see some turn?
Recently I apologized to someone who used to be one of my closest friends because some of his friends had bothered him for having a gay friend, then I really regretted the position in which I had put him and also felt extremely bad for being gay and being the way I am. This video has opened my eyes in so many ways, now I realize how confused I was and that I do not have to regret for being myself, further, I do not have to apologize to anyone who is not smart enough to realize how valuable someone is regardless of the sexual orientation. I’m really glad you are inspiring people with your content and being an example of getting over hard situations to truly live a joyful life. I’m grateful to you, I definitely needed this video. Hugs from Colombia
If you could use a few more arguments, or if you have problems for religious/cultural reasons, this can help you: “On Human Suffering and the Concept of God” - the psychological origin of religious beliefs. neomodernistpoetry.blogspot.com/2018/11/on-human-suffering-and-concept-of-god.html or homoeroticpoems.blogspot.com/2018/06/on-human-suffering-and-concept-of-god.html About homosexuality: homoeroticpoems.blogspot.com/2014/04/to-community.html
Taylor, thank You for sharing your story and hurts, tears and triumph! I came out 16 days ago to my wife as a gay man. It took me 33 years to come out of the closed. I' a pastor in a german conservativ church and it was a hard way to pretend that I'm a staight guy and husband. Man like you encouraged me to take the steps an now I discover my true self an will live a honest and authentic life! I wish You all the best.
@@skurinskiI feel terrible for you, you have no empathy and cannot understand what it is like living in a society where gay people are persecuted, or despised. Even liberal advanced countries like Germany have homophobic people
Great Video Taylor. Love your comical self at the end. I am 60 ys young and I remember the best advice a Priest gave me many many years ago when I came out: "You are NOT going to hell because you are gay, but a life time of hell, that is totally up to you." At the time, I didn't quite know what he meant, but all these years later I do. Just because one comes out as Gay/Bi or whatever, it's important to remember you don't have to live an unhealthy, destructive lifestyle. So happy Taylor that you have learned that at such an early stage of your life. God bless you and Jeffry, and all the kids you will have one day! :)
I never write on you tube - ever. I had tears in my eyes when you were talking about your discussion with your mother. Thank you for sharing your experiences - good and bad. I may not know you and may never know you - but it's awesome to be able to hear the perspectives of such a fine young man. Thank you again for sharing with us.
When I came out to my parents, my dad always told me to proud of who I am and not ashamed as how other see me! That's probably one of the few pieces of advise that I remember from my parents.
I have being surrounded my entire life by so much homophobia that when he said that his mother said he was doing the right thing by living his truth I was literally shook for a second and then I remembered some people’s parents are actually supportive.
Yes it can be completely the opposite of what u think if u true to urself.Peoples can feel each other's pain so why not liberate 1 another.We all want to feel better n it's not like we gay people r Unstable mentally.U change the world's perspective.Own It!
7:14 Yes, definitely. I’m a masculine gay and when I was young the only gay guys I knew of (this was pre-Internet) were flamboyant femme guys. So I thought I couldn’t be gay. Took me til age 47 to realize I’m gay. So glad you’re being visible for other masculine gay guys to see that we’re not alone.
You probably won't see this because you posted this video a year ago, but I wanted to let you know that this really touched me. When you teared up while you were explaining how your mom reacted, my heart just broke for you. You made yourself so vulnerable. I just wanted to hug you and let you know how brave I think you are. You are young enough easily to be my son (my kids are 31 and 34). We must love our LGBT children, because the lack of parental love is something that sometimes can't be overcome, and that is heartbreaking. Keep living your life, be proud, and best wishes for your future.
Thank you for this Taylor. Your story inspired me so much. Just like you coming out is really tough in my case, i knew I was gay since I was a kid but I chose to hide in the closet for 30 plus years because I experience trauma from bullying. The worst thing is even at home I got bullied. Its hard because of that trauma I need to pretend I am straight. My work suffers. I jump from one job to another. Now, I am tired of hiding, I will gonna live my life and accept my truths. I dont care anymore what people are gonna say because it doesnt matter anymore. Lastly, I will find LOVE just like you and Jeff. Again, thank you for this. Congrats to both of you.
Some days are worse than others, and today being a pretty crappy day, I really needed this. Thank you so much for opening up like this and sharing your experience with us. I never felt like I could relate to anyone else too, and hearing your story changed my mind. Thanks for showing me I am not alone. I don’t know if you will ever realize how much you are helping me. Thank you so much.
This is such an honest and heartfelt video with which so many people will be able to identify. There will be many a young gay who will see himself in this video. Videos like this are so important for that reason. It is so good that they can see a wholesome and good-looking man who is living a decent and happy life. Your mom's reaction was wonderful and uplifting to hear about. You are, also, right that one does not need anyone in one's life who is not supportive. This is such a good video that I am not just putting it on my "Coming Out As Gay" RUclips Playlist, but I am, also, moving it up to be one of the top ten on my list. Lastly, I would say that I hope that some of the people who were so hateful to you in college and who rejected you would see this video, have second thoughts and maybe treat the next person who comes out as gay to them in a better way.
When I came out to a couple of friends and did the same thing, I apologize... thank you for making me realize that I don't have to apologize for being who I am💙 love you
Taylor, your story is so inspiring. I had a similar story coming out to my family and friends. It was not easy, but after the first year or so, things start to get easier. Thank you for being transparent and being true to yourself. ❤️
Taylor, just found you and subbed. As a counselor for more years than you have been alive, I want to thank you for this. You are not only intelligent but also insightful; now only grown up but also mature; not only wise but also loving. Also a big shout-out to your mom. Thanks for this, bro...........love you, man............Ray
I can relate to your story so much. Thank you so much for sharing Taylor. You’re definitely my gay icon I look up to and I love you and Jeff together and am so exited for your guys’ lives together!
Sweetheart, I want to THANK YOU for your beautiful story and all the ups and downs you went through coming out. I have been out since the early 90s and in my day coming out was not what it is today. Today you kids are coming out so much younger and I think thats great! During your coming out process I really understood so well what you went through. Although my family figured it out before I came out, I came out to validate myself and that was it. My family was very accepting and now that I've been out over 30 years I am now mentoring several of our gay youth who are experiencing the same issues and as their gay "mama" I let these kids know that coming out should be on their timetable and no one elses....which reminds me sweetheart, those friends that stopped talking to you just because you are gay were not your friends to begin with. Remember that. I have friends that have known I'm gay for years and still support me to this day. NEVER let anyone treat you less than you are and NEVER let being gay define who you are as well....because you are so much more than that! I AM SO, SO PROUD OF YOU baby and now begins the BEST years of your life living it happy, joyous and free....always stay true to yourself and as Ellen says, be kind to one amother. I am so happy for you and the partner you have in your life...you are both too adorable I can't stand it and LOVE your videos! Looking forward to seeing many more. You take care boys and THANK YOU again for sharing your wonderful story with all of us...xoxoxxo Mama Steve 😊❤👌
Hi Taylor, thank you so much for sharing your story with us. I also came out in 2015 and dealt with similar hardships as well. I came out during my junior and senior years of high school. I remember when Gus Kensworthy came out and having that knowledge of someone else similar to me as well coming out of the closet also meant a great deal to me. I am so glad that your mother reacted so positively and lovingly to you. It breaks my heart to see sweet guys like you with broken hearts due to the betrayal of people you thought were your friends and having no one to talk to or relate to. I really admire your strength and perseverance through it all though and I am so happy to hear about the place you are at in life now. I’m in the middle of college at an LGBT accepting university in the South where I’m from (wait they do exist?! Lol) so I am glad we’re each at better points now in life where we can finally be ourselves around people. Enjoyed the video and I know you will help out a lot of others by having shared your story 💕😊
I loved hearing this story. I felt so many emotions through the whole thing and thought I would be okay until you got to the convo with your mom and I lost it. I’ve truly loved following you and seeing how successful you’ve become. I’m so happy for you and good luck in all your future endeavors!
Thank you for your amazing story. It IS your story and not unlike others but it is unique to you. Takes courage but you did it. I agree : don’t ever apologize for who you are . That’s just society trying to shame you into being something you are not. Be yourself and if former friends can’t accept you then they are excess baggage and it is their loss.🫶
Taylor, thanks for sharing your journey with us in such a genuine, open hearted way. All the less fortunate encounters you had have helped make you a stronger person today. It's amazing to see you in a happier place now. Wishing you and Jeff nothing but the best!
First of all, i want to say that your pronounciation is really great, like, English isnt my 1st languange but i can understand everyword you say clearly.. 2nd of all, youre very inspiring and brave to share this story with us.. i feel so sorry for you have to go through some loss of friends in the past year but I'm happy that you get over it bcs they didnt deserve a person as amazing a you are.. I'm so happy for your current life now, that you feel so free living as a gay man and youre enjoying your life to the fullest now.. i hope your relationship with jeff will be the happiest journey of your life and will end with a very happy ending.. Please keep doing what youre doing, please keep make videos for us your fans, and I can't wait for your next videos 😊 big hugs xx
To be honest, 5 years ago there were still people who reduced others to their sexuality, especially friends who you were always with, you have to distance yourself from people like that, they are small-minded and narrow-minded and that makes me incredibly sad to hear, because no one stands up and says I'm straight Love is love and has no gender, live what you love and be happy and you don't have to explain yourself, you are who you are and you are exactly the way you are because your sexuality does not make you human My daughter is bisexual Two of my grandchildren are lesbian and gay and great people Everyone can love whoever they want if they are okay with it 💖
No matter who you are, where you are, be yourself, follow your heart, do whatever you want, we don't need to apologize to anyone to be ourselves, we are not monster, and we are proud of ourselves because we are born this way. Thanks Taylor, you make me more brave to be myself.
Taylor I made that 1st comment before I watch this vid, I just can't believe that in 2015 ppl were acting like that !!! My God , When I came out in 1983 was bad enough, not accepted by my entire family, or had NO friends , PERIOD !, eventually as the years passed it did get better, but no where near how things are today., At least there is legal marriage, inheritace, insurance with husbands plan, ect, In my day, there was none of that, I was with a partner till his death in 1993, I could 'nt even go to the funeral, or had no say in anything legal, as his Parents barred me from everything., I left our home with only my personal belongings, no furniture, jewelry or property, It was awful, I hope you are happy, as you look like you are, God Bless friend.
When I was your age I wish I was as brave as you. However, it was a different time. I'm now 57 and have a wife and two children. I can't go back I can only go forward. You made a brave decision and when your my age you'll be a happier person because you were true to yourself... This was a excellent video for people on the other side to help come to grips with the reality they live with. It's so unbelievable how much I looked like you at your age. Stand proud of you. Never be second string to anyone... Thanks!!!
I love how you seem to be honest and open. I think that your vulnerabilities are your strengths, I feel that I can relate so much to you. Can't wait till Sunday 😘😘
I can totally relate to the thought that you didn't really feel like there was a gay role model you found representative. I'm happy to have discovered you and Gus Kenworthy. I'm sad you had to go through these moments with friends turning on you. Because you're adorable as you are. I'm sure you will be an inspiration for many young and older persons who need to hear that things do get better. Life can also be beautiful and fun. Let's make the most of it.
The great love between you and your mother is so touching. It moves me when you describe, dear friend Taylor. Love wins always. Your mom is so supportive. 🌈🌈🌈
I can relate to your situation with coming out with your friends and family. The friends I came out to at the age of 17 back in 1985 was risky. I decided to be honest with myself. I later realized that these people I came out to were never my friends. I came out to my Mom. I got the bible lecture from her. It took her years to accept me. My relationship with my family is somewhat strained. I too am living a happy life. I have a husband and two kids. That was a great video Taylor!
Serving up such realness! Great video Taylor! I’m a bit surprised you had so many friends that reacted so poorly to your coming out in 2015, but I’m so glad you told this story. Much love to you!
I can't believe people would ever not be your friend anymore because of your sexuality? Like wtf. Obviously they never cared about you and were using you.
Adam Rohan Not everyone turns on you but the dynamics definitely changes. When the rumours started going around, no one wanted to be around me because they didn’t want others to think they were gay. After a while people grew up a little but I still have anxiety from those times
Not sure they never cared about him, maybe they lived always in a small conservative town in the South. Some people can not imagine be around someone "different" I was really surprised that people were so conservative and short minded, but they are even now. Feel sorry for this guy, but he moved on and left his hometown, probably for ever. Fortunately his family was supportive.
I know this is an older video but just found your channel and going back and watching them all from the beginning. I had to comment on this. As a straight, Christian woman, I want to say that this is one of the most beautiful videos I have ever seen. No matter what our difference is that we have to struggle to accept within ourselves, it’s so freeing when you can just be you, when you can just breathe for the first time. I love what you said about becoming a more free version of yourself everyday. I think that’s what we should all be striving for. Much love and light to you on your journey and congratulations to you and Jeff (just saw your announcement on Instagram)!!!!!!!
This gives me so much support I'm 21 came out at 17 to my mom (there religious and Mexican saying it's a "phase") then came out to my whole family at 19 yrs old, which ended up getting told i was embarrassment, all this nasty things ended up being told leave or stay and act straight, instead of being loved this video gave me so much love even if I don't get that scene of family still warms my ❤️
Well done! Your video was touching and made me think of this quote from Maya Angelou I think it is a complimentary perspective of what you just described as your coming out journey. “I don't know if I continue, even today, always liking myself. But what I learned to do many years ago was to forgive myself. It is very important for every human being to forgive herself or himself because if you live, you will make mistakes- it is inevitable. But once you do and you see the mistake, then you forgive yourself and say, 'Well, if I'd known better I'd have done better,' that's all. So you say to people who you think you may have injured, 'I'm sorry,' and then you say to yourself, 'I'm sorry.' If we all hold on to the mistake, we can't see our own glory in the mirror because we have the mistake between our faces and the mirror; we can't see what we're capable of being. You can ask forgiveness of others, but in the end the real forgiveness is in one's own self. I think that young men and women are so caught by the way they see themselves. Now mind you. When a larger society sees them as unattractive, as threats, as too black or too white or too poor or too fat or too thin or too sexual or too asexual, that's rough. But you can overcome that. The real difficulty is to overcome how you think about yourself. If we don't have that we never grow, we never learn, and sure as hell we should never teach.” ― Maya Angelou
If you could use a few more arguments, or if you have problems for religious/cultural reasons, this can help you: “On Human Suffering and the Concept of God” - the psychological origin of religious beliefs. neomodernistpoetry.blogspot.com/2018/11/on-human-suffering-and-concept-of-god.html or homoeroticpoems.blogspot.com/2018/06/on-human-suffering-and-concept-of-god.html About homosexuality: homoeroticpoems.blogspot.com/2014/04/to-community.html
Absolutely beautifully done, Taylor. Your coming out story comes through so honest and emotionally relatable. Thank you for using your platform in such an uplifting and positive way.❤
I find so many similarities between your story and my own, and it’s for that reason that it’s important we share our stories at any level. A large part of learning who you are comes with a sense of feeling alone (at least for some people), and it’s being able to relate to others’ stories that we get a sense of belonging. So thank you for that :)
Taylor . I have seen and followed your life with Jeff and finally watched your coming out story. Your anxiety still shows in this vid but it makes it so heartwarming to see your "now" story with Jeff and how happy you are. You are a roll model of mature and balanced view of being gay.
You are a beautiful soul and a beautiful man. Your honesty about your journey actually has a healing effect on scarred children who have grown into scarred adults who still have no hope of really being happy. The healing is in the acceptance of even that.
Everything that happened to you happened to me too but in the 70 and 80s,, believe me, it was much more difficult back then.. today I am 60, I look back at all the unfair situations I had to go through with my family and friends who turned their backs at me, I can only say that it is a thousand times better to be alone and have a true life than to belong to any group where you have to pretend you are a different person. you seem to be a very mature boy, get on with your life and be happy,, you deserve to have a wonderful life because you are a wonderful person. God Bless you
Great video, mate. As a colombian 42 years old, coming out was terrible too... my mum stopped talking to me for a decade. I now live in Australia. It gets better for each generation. Thanks for posting your video, you are giving courage and validating others...
You were being true to yourself and it helps if your friends are supportive. But, you also learned the depth of your friends and regrettably you had associates, not true friends. But you also learned about humans and how we judge, employ guilt to make ourselves comfortable but forget tolerance. Coming out is a hugh learning moment and acknowledement of self. So its being true to you and i think you are a great person.
I am so happy that you are in a good place right now! You're very brave for going through all of that. Know that you are never alone in this no matter what's going in your life. We are all here for you.
I appreciate you taking the time to share your story. We all have different storylines of coming out and I appreciate every single person's personal experience! I am sorry that some people reacted in the way they did but every single person coming out helps change the world's perspective, slowly but surely! I completely relate to the coming out, not for the local gay community because there was none for me either so it felt a little lonely but it was comforting to know that people could now love me for the real me! Love you!❤️
I'm finding it difficult to put words to how your story impacted me, Taylor (and, this is the first time I've ever posted on a RUclips video). A lot of wisdom in what you're saying. Putting others' feelings before your own. The calls to friends and family with the setup that this person makes me happy, they're really great, etc. That's pretty much exactly how I did it. I wasn't surprised that many people said things like "it's about time you said it". For me, people around me just picked up on the subtle things, if they were good friends. To those who didn't respond well, which still hurts today. But, like you, surrounding yourself with people who encourage you to be the best person you can be - that's really what friendship is all about. My only regret is that I wasn't comfortable with myself until I was nearly 40! Lost a lot of time there. Making up for it at 50 now. In a great relationship going on 10 years. Wishing you the very best. More people need to see this particular video, Taylor. Good on you, mate!
so Im watching this video and my nephew asks what am I watching.. I tell him and he looks at me puzzled and says: theres nothing wrong with being gay though.. hes NINE
Hi Taylor, I saw your Christmas video..and that is my opinion. Jeff is a big plus in your life ,a very secure and a very confident individual who grew up in a very loving and supporting environment ( I am not sure about your family ), so that is what I think and I wish you the best!!!
You're amazing. It's so hard to open such a painful story especially when you're in the beginning of your RUclips channel, my story is really different than yours.. I came out when i was 14 and my family didn't really "liked" it.. but my friends were so supportive and happy for me. Anyway im so happy for you and the place you are now in your life💕 I literally just found you in my recommended list so now im subscribed and im excited to see more of your content❤️
Taylor, I thank You so much for sharing your story (with me). I'm a 54 year's old gay from Germany. I came out this January to my wife and the whole family. I'm now on my way to freedom and you and Jeff are such a great inspiration to me to face the shit that's happens. I wish you all the best. Love you 😍 for doing your videos. Please keep sharing them!
I'm sorry you had to go through what you went through and I'm so glad that when it came to who matters, your mom was the first to support you and let you know that the most important thing is to be who you are and do what makes you happy. No one should ever have to apologize to people for being themselves and I kind of resent your "friends" for making you feel that way. The good thing is it made you reprioritize and put yourself first. I'm so happy you are finally more comfortable and accepting of who you truly are and wish you never have to go through something like that again. Thank you for sharing your experience. I hope it helps someone else going through the same experience. Wishing you the best. May you and your loved ones always be healthy and happy ❤
I came out when I was 25 and met my partner at 27 . I struggled also being I was a construction worker. I'm now 59 and still with my partner 32 years now. I'm retired after 30 yrs of being in construction. Good luck on your journey. We both are masculine men. People can't understand how we are gay! Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha. Best of luck.
wow congrats
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William Armstrong the stereotype is that masculine men can’t be gay ...........weird
And if you were not masculine was that really such a problem?
Wow ur partner must be very happy
Congratulations on an excellent video Taylor. I am 76 years old and have been with my husband for 58 years.
We got married in 2006 on the first day that it was legal in the UK. I wish you all the best for your future happiness.
Be yourself is the best advice ever. Take care, Ian
I came out in 1981, AIDS was on the horizon. People were dying and we couldn’t even talked to anyone. Our grief, our pain and loss was stuffed and we lived in fear. Somehow, I felt I had to get right with it, I had to speak my truth. My Dad had already passed away so my worry was my family and friends. One friend of my mothers said the worst thing ever, : “You save your soul, I will save mine”. I left in shame. Then another friend , my mom’s best friend, told me she loved me and that my mom would love me regardless. It wasn’t easy, but it was courageous, just as you are! Be true to yourself, love yourself be kind Nd, forgiving and accepting but most of all honor your sexuality as a gift. You are helping many people. All the best! John
Kids can be so mean. I use to be called gay a lot by my peers and even my own family (brother). The times I have cried because of something I didn't even truly understand at the time still makes me anxious to this day. I'm glad I have never hurt myself because it. Because we have come so far as a community. Stay beautiful inside Taylor xo
Greg Louis stay strong Greg 👍
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chow tt - I cannot imagine spending time trolling Gay people on RUclips to spew ridiculous bullshit. chow Tt, you need a life. Preferably one which doesn’t include bigoted harassment of others.
Yeah, the biggest assholes in the universe are teen boys. No contest. They treat others, girls, each. Other like shit. Ugh.
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The world needs more wholesome content like this. Bravo
We Love this too!
Coming out is hard. Also, this man is insanely, almost unbelievably hot.
Hes like a mix between Patrick Dempsey, Bradley Cooper and Sean O'pry
^Said what we are all thinking
What it says that may be for men, it doesn't matter about looks, they'll still hate you the same. It's known that good looking people can get further from other people that see them as favourable, but gay and you see some turn?
"Hey, listen to me. You be yourself" Brought tears to my eyes. Love your mom! ❤️❤️
The way the kids bullied you is seriously mean. Glad you become a strong and happy man.
Recently I apologized to someone who used to be one of my closest friends because some of his friends had bothered him for having a gay friend, then I really regretted the position in which I had put him and also felt extremely bad for being gay and being the way I am. This video has opened my eyes in so many ways, now I realize how confused I was and that I do not have to regret for being myself, further, I do not have to apologize to anyone who is not smart enough to realize how valuable someone is regardless of the sexual orientation. I’m really glad you are inspiring people with your content and being an example of getting over hard situations to truly live a joyful life. I’m grateful to you, I definitely needed this video. Hugs from Colombia
If you could use a few more arguments, or if you have problems for religious/cultural reasons, this can help you: “On Human Suffering and the Concept of God” - the psychological origin of religious beliefs.
neomodernistpoetry.blogspot.com/2018/11/on-human-suffering-and-concept-of-god.html
or homoeroticpoems.blogspot.com/2018/06/on-human-suffering-and-concept-of-god.html
About homosexuality: homoeroticpoems.blogspot.com/2014/04/to-community.html
Taylor, thank You for sharing your story and hurts, tears and triumph! I came out 16 days ago to my wife as a gay man. It took me 33 years to come out of the closed. I' a pastor in a german conservativ church and it was a hard way to pretend that I'm a staight guy and husband. Man like you encouraged me to take the steps an now I discover my true self an will live a honest and authentic life! I wish You all the best.
wow I feel terrible for your wife, 33 years of deceit
@@skurinskistupid comment. Don't judge others unless you've been there. 🤡
@@skurinskiI feel terrible for you, you have no empathy and cannot understand what it is like living in a society where gay people are persecuted, or despised.
Even liberal advanced countries like Germany have homophobic people
“Ok...that’s cool”. Hahaha what a remarkable mom!!!
Great Video Taylor. Love your comical self at the end. I am 60 ys young and I remember the best advice a Priest gave me many many years ago when I came out: "You are NOT going to hell because you are gay, but a life time of hell, that is totally up to you." At the time, I didn't quite know what he meant, but all these years later I do. Just because one comes out as Gay/Bi or whatever, it's important to remember you don't have to live an unhealthy, destructive lifestyle. So happy Taylor that you have learned that at such an early stage of your life. God bless you and Jeffry, and all the kids you will have one day! :)
I don’t know why but I started to cry watching this
I never write on you tube - ever.
I had tears in my eyes when you were talking about your discussion with your mother. Thank you for sharing your experiences - good and bad. I may not know you and may never know you - but it's awesome to be able to hear the perspectives of such a fine young man. Thank you again for sharing with us.
When I came out to my parents, my dad always told me to proud of who I am and not ashamed as how other see me! That's probably one of the few pieces of advise that I remember from my parents.
Being in the closet I thank you for sharing your strength, hope and inspiration. Really needed to hear this. One love!
Thank you Taylor for sharing your story🙌. That inspires me a lot to coming out and being my authentic self🤍
I have being surrounded my entire life by so much homophobia that when he said that his mother said he was doing the right thing by living his truth I was literally shook for a second and then I remembered some people’s parents are actually supportive.
Yes it can be completely the opposite of what u think if u true to urself.Peoples can feel each other's pain so why not liberate 1 another.We all want to feel better n it's not like we gay people r Unstable mentally.U change the world's perspective.Own It!
really enjoyed watching this
yesss queeen!! ilu
and now you're out :)
7:14 Yes, definitely. I’m a masculine gay and when I was young the only gay guys I knew of (this was pre-Internet) were flamboyant femme guys. So I thought I couldn’t be gay. Took me til age 47 to realize I’m gay. So glad you’re being visible for other masculine gay guys to see that we’re not alone.
you have a great mom! Thank her again.
i'm gay Muslim thank you so much for this i needed to hear this
"Do whatever make you happy." This is true. Stay happy Taylor ❤
You probably won't see this because you posted this video a year ago, but I wanted to let you know that this really touched me. When you teared up while you were explaining how your mom reacted, my heart just broke for you. You made yourself so vulnerable. I just wanted to hug you and let you know how brave I think you are. You are young enough easily to be my son (my kids are 31 and 34). We must love our LGBT children, because the lack of parental love is something that sometimes can't be overcome, and that is heartbreaking. Keep living your life, be proud, and best wishes for your future.
I wish I had dad like u..... ❤️✨ Nevermind but OMG your kids are so lucky and I respect and stan u sir !!!! Thank u for being such an awesome parent
Thank you for this Taylor. Your story inspired me so much. Just like you coming out is really tough in my case, i knew I was gay since I was a kid but I chose to hide in the closet for 30 plus years because I experience trauma from bullying. The worst thing is even at home I got bullied. Its hard because of that trauma I need to pretend I am straight. My work suffers. I jump from one job to another. Now, I am tired of hiding, I will gonna live my life and accept my truths. I dont care anymore what people are gonna say because it doesnt matter anymore. Lastly, I will find LOVE just like you and Jeff. Again, thank you for this. Congrats to both of you.
This hit hard! Thankyou for sharing and being a gay role model that is not so cliche, it means more men can be ok with being gay.
Taylor, you look gorgeous and sound great. May God bless, protect and keep you in His love for ever.
I’m so happy for you!! Thanks for sharing your story
Being happy within yourself is priceless, glad your being true. Cheers to you mate
Some days are worse than others, and today being a pretty crappy day, I really needed this. Thank you so much for opening up like this and sharing your experience with us. I never felt like I could relate to anyone else too, and hearing your story changed my mind. Thanks for showing me I am not alone. I don’t know if you will ever realize how much you are helping me. Thank you so much.
This is such an honest and heartfelt video with which so many people will be able to identify. There will be many a young gay who will see himself in this video. Videos like this are so important for that reason. It is so good that they can see a wholesome and good-looking man who is living a decent and happy life. Your mom's reaction was wonderful and uplifting to hear about. You are, also, right that one does not need anyone in one's life who is not supportive. This is such a good video that I am not just putting it on my "Coming Out As Gay" RUclips Playlist, but I am, also, moving it up to be one of the top ten on my list. Lastly, I would say that I hope that some of the people who were so hateful to you in college and who rejected you would see this video, have second thoughts and maybe treat the next person who comes out as gay to them in a better way.
Allot of similarities but for me, late 40's These type of videos help people as they do research when figuring themselves out
When I came out to a couple of friends and did the same thing, I apologize... thank you for making me realize that I don't have to apologize for being who I am💙 love you
I've watched this entire video now. I have one word-beautiful. Taylor, you're a wonderful person, God bless you.
Such a beautiful and personal story. Thanks for sharing your story and helping so many others that don’t feel represented!
BEING GAY IS A BLESSING. YOUR STORY IS A BLESSING. LOVED AND SUB. MUCH LOVE*
Been gay is a blessing from Satan not from god
Omg!!! Just when i was getting hurt and pissed at your so called friends, your mom's words come in and melt my heart.
Taylor, your story is so inspiring. I had a similar story coming out to my family and friends. It was not easy, but after the first year or so, things start to get easier. Thank you for being transparent and being true to yourself. ❤️
That was said from the heart, especially when you told your mother over the phone. Lovely and genuine!
Taylor, just found you and subbed. As a counselor for more years than you have been alive, I want to thank you for this. You are not only intelligent but also insightful; now only grown up but also mature; not only wise but also loving. Also a big shout-out to your mom. Thanks for this, bro...........love you, man............Ray
I can relate to your story so much. Thank you so much for sharing Taylor. You’re definitely my gay icon I look up to and I love you and Jeff together and am so exited for your guys’ lives together!
Sweetheart, I want to THANK YOU for your beautiful story and all the ups and downs you went through coming out. I have been out since the early 90s and in my day coming out was not what it is today. Today you kids are coming out so much younger and I think thats great! During your coming out process I really understood so well what you went through. Although my family figured it out before I came out, I came out to validate myself and that was it. My family was very accepting and now that I've been out over 30 years I am now mentoring several of our gay youth who are experiencing the same issues and as their gay "mama" I let these kids know that coming out should be on their timetable and no one elses....which reminds me sweetheart, those friends that stopped talking to you just because you are gay were not your friends to begin with. Remember that. I have friends that have known I'm gay for years and still support me to this day. NEVER let anyone treat you less than you are and NEVER let being gay define who you are as well....because you are so much more than that! I AM SO, SO PROUD OF YOU baby and now begins the BEST years of your life living it happy, joyous and free....always stay true to yourself and as Ellen says, be kind to one amother. I am so happy for you and the partner you have in your life...you are both too adorable I can't stand it and LOVE your videos! Looking forward to seeing many more. You take care boys and THANK YOU again for sharing your wonderful story with all of us...xoxoxxo Mama Steve 😊❤👌
This was amazing! Anytime seeing someone cry, it shows how genuine the feeling is. Your mom is most definitely so proud of you!
Hi Taylor, thank you so much for sharing your story with us. I also came out in 2015 and dealt with similar hardships as well. I came out during my junior and senior years of high school. I remember when Gus Kensworthy came out and having that knowledge of someone else similar to me as well coming out of the closet also meant a great deal to me. I am so glad that your mother reacted so positively and lovingly to you. It breaks my heart to see sweet guys like you with broken hearts due to the betrayal of people you thought were your friends and having no one to talk to or relate to. I really admire your strength and perseverance through it all though and I am so happy to hear about the place you are at in life now. I’m in the middle of college at an LGBT accepting university in the South where I’m from (wait they do exist?! Lol) so I am glad we’re each at better points now in life where we can finally be ourselves around people. Enjoyed the video and I know you will help out a lot of others by having shared your story 💕😊
Thank you for sharing your story! Even though my family knows about me it is still looked down upon. I hope it just gets better.
Same
My heart, you’re so so strong. And I’m so happy you’re happy!
Thank you for your courage and for giving such a good
example to the thousands out there who are struggling
with their homosexuality.
I loved hearing this story. I felt so many emotions through the whole thing and thought I would be okay until you got to the convo with your mom and I lost it. I’ve truly loved following you and seeing how successful you’ve become. I’m so happy for you and good luck in all your future endeavors!
Thank you for your amazing story. It IS your story and not unlike others but it is unique to you. Takes courage but you did it.
I agree : don’t ever apologize for who you are . That’s just society trying to shame you into being something you are not. Be yourself and if former friends can’t accept you then they are excess baggage and it is their loss.🫶
Taylor, thanks for sharing your journey with us in such a genuine, open hearted way. All the less fortunate encounters you had have helped make you a stronger person today. It's amazing to see you in a happier place now. Wishing you and Jeff nothing but the best!
First of all, i want to say that your pronounciation is really great, like, English isnt my 1st languange but i can understand everyword you say clearly..
2nd of all, youre very inspiring and brave to share this story with us.. i feel so sorry for you have to go through some loss of friends in the past year but I'm happy that you get over it bcs they didnt deserve a person as amazing a you are.. I'm so happy for your current life now, that you feel so free living as a gay man and youre enjoying your life to the fullest now.. i hope your relationship with jeff will be the happiest journey of your life and will end with a very happy ending..
Please keep doing what youre doing, please keep make videos for us your fans, and I can't wait for your next videos 😊 big hugs xx
To be honest, 5 years ago there were still people who reduced others to their sexuality, especially friends who you were always with, you have to distance yourself from people like that, they are small-minded and narrow-minded and that makes me incredibly sad to hear, because no one stands up and says I'm straight
Love is love and has no gender, live what you love and be happy and you don't have to explain yourself, you are who you are and you are exactly the way you are because your sexuality does not make you human
My daughter is bisexual
Two of my grandchildren are lesbian and gay and great people
Everyone can love whoever they want if they are okay with it 💖
whenever I come out to my family I want them to have an awesome, sweet, loving reaction like your mom. I can tell she really loves you. I cried lol
No matter who you are, where you are, be yourself, follow your heart, do whatever you want, we don't need to apologize to anyone to be ourselves, we are not monster, and we are proud of ourselves because we are born this way. Thanks Taylor, you make me more brave to be myself.
I'm started to cry when I see u tears up....just remember, u are wonderful person 💗💗💗
You're such an angel. Literally kindness radiates from you. I'm happy that you eventually found a 'home' and a group of friends that love you.
Taylor if people don't accept who you are they never will. I think your story is beautiful and that you have a beautiful heart. God Bless You!
Taylor I made that 1st comment before I watch this vid, I just can't believe that in 2015 ppl were acting like that !!! My God , When I came out in 1983 was bad enough, not accepted by my entire family, or had NO friends , PERIOD !, eventually as the years passed it did get better, but no where near how things are today., At least there is legal marriage, inheritace, insurance with husbands plan, ect, In my day, there was none of that, I was with a partner till his death in 1993, I could 'nt even go to the funeral, or had no say in anything legal, as his Parents barred me from everything., I left our home with only my personal belongings, no furniture, jewelry or property, It was awful, I hope you are happy, as you look like you are, God Bless friend.
When I was your age I wish I was as brave as you. However, it was a different time. I'm now 57 and have a wife and two children. I can't go back I can only go forward. You made a brave decision and when your my age you'll be a happier person because you were true to yourself... This was a excellent video for people on the other side to help come to grips with the reality they live with. It's so unbelievable how much I looked like you at your age. Stand proud of you. Never be second string to anyone... Thanks!!!
Taylor You are one lucky brave solid human being. Showing us your life is really appreciated.
Your mom is so sweet. It made me cry your mom being so sweet and kind to you...what a precious mom you have.... Love you and Jeff..love your videos.
I love how you seem to be honest and open. I think that your vulnerabilities are your strengths, I feel that I can relate so much to you. Can't wait till Sunday 😘😘
I can totally relate to the thought that you didn't really feel like there was a gay role model you found representative. I'm happy to have discovered you and Gus Kenworthy. I'm sad you had to go through these moments with friends turning on you. Because you're adorable as you are. I'm sure you will be an inspiration for many young and older persons who need to hear that things do get better. Life can also be beautiful and fun. Let's make the most of it.
The great love between you and your mother is so touching. It moves me when you describe, dear friend Taylor. Love wins always. Your mom is so supportive. 🌈🌈🌈
With friends like that you don’t need enemies!
I can relate to your situation with coming out with your friends and family. The friends I came out to at the age of 17 back in 1985 was risky. I decided to be honest with myself. I later realized that these people I came out to were never my friends. I came out to my Mom. I got the bible lecture from her. It took her years to accept me. My relationship with my family is somewhat strained. I too am living a happy life. I have a husband and two kids. That was a great video Taylor!
Serving up such realness! Great video Taylor! I’m a bit surprised you had so many friends that reacted so poorly to your coming out in 2015, but I’m so glad you told this story. Much love to you!
I can't believe people would ever not be your friend anymore because of your sexuality? Like wtf. Obviously they never cared about you and were using you.
Maybe it's because they think they'll fall in love with them -_-
@@Timeless80 Best friend when very young, but clearly not a ``real`` friend.
Adam Rohan Not everyone turns on you but the dynamics definitely changes. When the rumours started going around, no one wanted to be around me because they didn’t want others to think they were gay. After a while people grew up a little but I still have anxiety from those times
Adam Rohan
People can be cruel, and they ofttimes will sever friendships over very trivial things. it's sad that it is this way, but it is.
Not sure they never cared about him, maybe they lived always in a small conservative town in the South. Some people can not imagine be around someone "different" I was really surprised that people were so conservative and short minded, but they are even now. Feel sorry for this guy, but he moved on and left his hometown, probably for ever. Fortunately his family was supportive.
He is gorgeous, lucky Jeff! 😍
Your a great person, beautiful soul and inspirational thank you for being who you are.
G'day from Sydney Australia 🇦🇺
I know this is an older video but just found your channel and going back and watching them all from the beginning. I had to comment on this. As a straight, Christian woman, I want to say that this is one of the most beautiful videos I have ever seen. No matter what our difference is that we have to struggle to accept within ourselves, it’s so freeing when you can just be you, when you can just breathe for the first time. I love what you said about becoming a more free version of yourself everyday. I think that’s what we should all be striving for.
Much love and light to you on your journey and congratulations to you and Jeff (just saw your announcement on Instagram)!!!!!!!
This gives me so much support I'm 21 came out at 17 to my mom (there religious and Mexican saying it's a "phase") then came out to my whole family at 19 yrs old, which ended up getting told i was embarrassment, all this nasty things ended up being told leave or stay and act straight, instead of being loved this video gave me so much love even if I don't get that scene of family still warms my ❤️
Still disowned even tho I use to buy them things thinking it would glue things back together 😟 but I'm happy for you man I appreciate you
Sorry to hear that man. That sucks. I hope you are in a better place now.
Touching stuff hun! Your past made you such a strong and beautiful man with such a big heart clearly
He's stunning and can probably whoop your butt
I so identify with your story. I wanted people to be there for me but I put others needs and emotions before my own and they still walked away.
Well done! Your video was touching and made me think of this quote from Maya Angelou I think it is a complimentary perspective of what you just described as your coming out journey. “I don't know if I continue, even today, always liking myself. But what I learned to do many years ago was to forgive myself. It is very important for every human being to forgive herself or himself because if you live, you will make mistakes- it is inevitable. But once you do and you see the mistake, then you forgive yourself and say, 'Well, if I'd known better I'd have done better,' that's all. So you say to people who you think you may have injured, 'I'm sorry,' and then you say to yourself, 'I'm sorry.' If we all hold on to the mistake, we can't see our own glory in the mirror because we have the mistake between our faces and the mirror; we can't see what we're capable of being. You can ask forgiveness of others, but in the end the real forgiveness is in one's own self. I think that young men and women are so caught by the way they see themselves. Now mind you. When a larger society sees them as unattractive, as threats, as too black or too white or too poor or too fat or too thin or too sexual or too asexual, that's rough. But you can overcome that. The real difficulty is to overcome how you think about yourself. If we don't have that we never grow, we never learn, and sure as hell we should never teach.”
― Maya Angelou
I actually read this whole thing. That lady was something else
If you could use a few more arguments, or if you have problems for religious/cultural reasons, this can help you: “On Human Suffering and the Concept of God” - the psychological origin of religious beliefs.
neomodernistpoetry.blogspot.com/2018/11/on-human-suffering-and-concept-of-god.html
or homoeroticpoems.blogspot.com/2018/06/on-human-suffering-and-concept-of-god.html
About homosexuality: homoeroticpoems.blogspot.com/2014/04/to-community.html
Absolutely beautifully done, Taylor. Your coming out story comes through so honest and emotionally relatable. Thank you for using your platform in such an uplifting and positive way.❤
I find so many similarities between your story and my own, and it’s for that reason that it’s important we share our stories at any level. A large part of learning who you are comes with a sense of feeling alone (at least for some people), and it’s being able to relate to others’ stories that we get a sense of belonging. So thank you for that :)
Taylor . I have seen and followed your life with Jeff and finally watched your coming out story. Your anxiety still shows in this vid but it makes it so heartwarming to see your "now" story with Jeff and how happy you are. You are a roll model of mature and balanced view of being gay.
I'm so sorry for what you went through.
You are a beautiful soul and a beautiful man. Your honesty about your journey actually has a healing effect on scarred children who have grown into scarred adults who still have no hope of really being happy. The healing is in the acceptance of even that.
I like you so much, Taylor. Hope you and Jeff have a happy ralationship forever.
Everything that happened to you happened to me too but in the 70 and 80s,, believe me, it was much more difficult back then.. today I am 60, I look back at all the unfair situations I had to go through with my family and friends who turned their backs at me, I can only say that it is a thousand times better to be alone and have a true life than to belong to any group where you have to pretend you are a different person. you seem to be a very mature boy, get on with your life and be happy,, you deserve to have a wonderful life because you are a wonderful person. God Bless you
Great video, mate. As a colombian 42 years old, coming out was terrible too... my mum stopped talking to me for a decade. I now live in Australia. It gets better for each generation. Thanks for posting your video, you are giving courage and validating others...
omg i cried too!!! ur amazing taylor!!! thanks for being an inspo 💕
You were being true to yourself and it helps if your friends are supportive. But, you also learned the depth of your friends and regrettably you had associates, not true friends. But you also learned about humans and how we judge, employ guilt to make ourselves comfortable but forget tolerance. Coming out is a hugh learning moment and
acknowledement of self. So its being true to you and i think you are a great person.
That fact that you are happy makes me happy. This video will touch so many people in a positive way, and your mom is the best
I just came out to my parents a while ago. The feeling is so liberating. No more fears anymore.
Your life seems amazing now that you have the right people in it 😀
i just found your channel, all these normal lives i see is empowering. Thanks for sharing, taylor! from Indonesia
I am so happy that you are in a good place right now! You're very brave for going through all of that. Know that you are never alone in this no matter what's going in your life. We are all here for you.
Your experience of coming out breaks my heart. Nobody should have to go through such negativity. It's great that you are in such a great place now.
How moving, thank you Man
I appreciate you taking the time to share your story. We all have different storylines of coming out and I appreciate every single person's personal experience! I am sorry that some people reacted in the way they did but every single person coming out helps change the world's perspective, slowly but surely!
I completely relate to the coming out, not for the local gay community because there was none for me either so it felt a little lonely but it was comforting to know that people could now love me for the real me!
Love you!❤️
I'm finding it difficult to put words to how your story impacted me, Taylor (and, this is the first time I've ever posted on a RUclips video). A lot of wisdom in what you're saying. Putting others' feelings before your own. The calls to friends and family with the setup that this person makes me happy, they're really great, etc. That's pretty much exactly how I did it. I wasn't surprised that many people said things like "it's about time you said it". For me, people around me just picked up on the subtle things, if they were good friends. To those who didn't respond well, which still hurts today. But, like you, surrounding yourself with people who encourage you to be the best person you can be - that's really what friendship is all about. My only regret is that I wasn't comfortable with myself until I was nearly 40! Lost a lot of time there. Making up for it at 50 now. In a great relationship going on 10 years. Wishing you the very best. More people need to see this particular video, Taylor. Good on you, mate!
so Im watching this video and my nephew asks what am I watching.. I tell him and he looks at me puzzled and says: theres nothing wrong with being gay though.. hes NINE
Hi Taylor, I saw your Christmas video..and that is my opinion. Jeff is a big plus in your life ,a very secure and a very confident individual who grew up in a very loving and supporting environment ( I am not sure about your family ), so that is what I think and I wish you the best!!!
Your story is really really touching and made me cry and I watched till end. You really give me courage to face the fear
You're amazing. It's so hard to open such a painful story especially when you're in the beginning of your RUclips channel, my story is really different than yours.. I came out when i was 14 and my family didn't really "liked" it.. but my friends were so supportive and happy for me. Anyway im so happy for you and the place you are now in your life💕
I literally just found you in my recommended list so now im subscribed and im excited to see more of your content❤️
Taylor, I thank You so much for sharing your story (with me). I'm a 54 year's old gay from Germany. I came out this January to my wife and the whole family. I'm now on my way to freedom and you and Jeff are such a great inspiration to me to face the shit that's happens. I wish you all the best. Love you 😍 for doing your videos. Please keep sharing them!
I'm sorry you had to go through what you went through and I'm so glad that when it came to who matters, your mom was the first to support you and let you know that the most important thing is to be who you are and do what makes you happy. No one should ever have to apologize to people for being themselves and I kind of resent your "friends" for making you feel that way. The good thing is it made you reprioritize and put yourself first. I'm so happy you are finally more comfortable and accepting of who you truly are and wish you never have to go through something like that again. Thank you for sharing your experience. I hope it helps someone else going through the same experience. Wishing you the best. May you and your loved ones always be healthy and happy ❤